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Your unhealed childhood wounds silently influence every decision you make today. That recurring pattern in your relationships? Those inexplicable emotional reactions? The career choices that somehow never feel quite right? They're all connected to your inner child.
In this deeply personal exploration, I reveal how our past traumas—whether seemingly minor or profoundly significant—create invisible barriers to discovering our true purpose and achieving authentic success. Through eight powerful healing techniques, I guide you on a journey to recognize, acknowledge, and ultimately transform these wounds into wisdom.
The healing path begins with recognition—creating space to identify those childhood experiences that hurt you most. I share my own vulnerability, explaining how family dynamics during my childhood created patterns that occasionally cause me to "snap" in ways that mirror behaviors I witnessed growing up. This pattern recognition becomes the foundation for understanding ourselves and breaking harmful cycles that limit our potential.
From writing letters to your inner child to practicing specialized meditation techniques that help you visualize trauma as waves you can ride without drowning, each strategy offers practical ways to process pain while remaining balanced. I explain how journaling from your childhood perspective creates a unique healing opportunity and why reconnecting with childhood joys—whether through games, creative activities, or favorite pastimes—reawakens authentic parts of yourself that trauma may have suppressed.
Healing isn't about erasing your past but integrating these experiences into your identity in a healthy way. When you heal foundational aspects of yourself, you create space for clarity about who you truly are and what you genuinely want from life. This alignment between your healed self and your goals forms the cornerstone of meaningful success—not just in achievements, but in creating a life where your past empowers rather than sabotages your present.
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Episode Transcript
What are, guys, the eight tips for healing your
inner child and why it is soimportant to heal your inner
child, to discover your purposeyou know, your goals and success
in life.
Hi guys, my name is Fabio fromJourney to Success, and welcome.
I assure you I'm not crazy.
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I know that a few episodes ago,we discussed how to rediscover
your childhood dreams.
Okay, but it's somethingdifferent.
This topic is a little bitdifferent.
So today we're gonna be focusedon how to heal your inner child
so that you can find yourselfagain and, consequently, reach
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your dreams, while the previousepisode was more about
rediscovering your childhooddreams.
Anyway, before to go forward,as always, please subscribe.
Okay, so I know this is theright direction to lead you guys
, to drive you, to guide youtowards your journey to success,
and let's get started right, asalways.
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So today I, for some reason, Idon't know how to pronounce
childhood, child, child,childhood dreams, finally,
anyway, let's start.
Let's start.
Okay, we all have a trauma, guys, and this trauma, believe it or
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not, influences our decisions,both directly and indirectly.
Okay, so, from my experience,some of your trauma can actually
help you move forward and makeyou stronger.
Help you move forward and makeyou stronger.
So it is somehow.
It can become somehow apositive thing, because it
becomes a part of who you are,and, for sure, this is
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absolutely a positive thing toconsider, okay.
However, even if most of thewounds have healed and have
contributed to your strength,there is always a chance that
they still bleed a little bitright.
So it's important toacknowledge this and ensure that
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we can heal as much as we can,and by embracing our experiences
and the lessons learned, we canbecome a better version of
ourselves.
So the solution here is not tohide the pain or the trauma, but
to understand how to deal withthe bleeding part, and to assist
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with that, we have eight tipsthat can surely help you through
the process.
So let's start.
The first tip is recognize yourinner child.
This is the first step tohealing your wounds.
So reflect on the experiencesthat have hurt you the most.
Okay, you need to remember them.
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So it's essential to open themetaphorical vase or closet
where you have stored all yourtrauma and identify which ones
you have not yet forgiven orhealed.
Bring to the table anyexperiences, any sad experience,
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traumasas or difficultsituations you have faced, and
approach this process in amethodic way rather than in an
irrational or extremelyemotional way.
I know this is hard, but youare protected and safe where you
are right now.
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Okay, so you can do that.
And, to help you with thisexercise, find also a relaxing
and a joyful place.
Okay, maybe near the sea or ina small rented house in the
mountains, I don't know.
So this was the first step.
The second step is pay attentionto the message from your inner
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child.
So when you finally open themetaphorical base, you literally
have your inner child startingto talk to you.
You know all the anger fromneeds you unfortunately never
met feeling of abandonment orrejection, insecurity,
vulnerability, guilt, shame andsight and so on.
You know so it's essential toreflect on feeling of
abandonment or rejection,insecurity, vulnerability, guilt
, shame and so on.
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You know so it's essential toreflect on all your experiences
and also it's important to tracethese events in a way to help
you to understand that youractions may sometimes arise from
past traumas.
I'm going to make an examplefrom my side.
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I have a good relationship withmy family, but I won't lie to
you, it was sometimes hard inour home when I was a child,
there was a lot of frustrationrelated to work, related to life
in general money which oftencreate tension as well and, as a
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result, that frustrationoccasionally affected my family
and they redirected thatfrustration towards me and, of
course, this situation has hadan impact on my life.
Generally, I'm a calm person.
I'm calm and I consider myselfa kind person who never wants to
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fight, and I know life is notas long as people think and if I
have to choose between my peaceand anger or conflict, I will
absolutely choose peace, guys,okay.
However, when I find myself ina situation where someone truly
disappoints me or makes me feelextremely angry, I can snap.
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I can really snap, and Irecognized this pattern from my
family during my childhood okay,pattern from my family during
my childhood okay.
So pay attention to whathappened in the past is
essential, because this is theonly way to truly understand and
recognize certain behaviorsthat can be spiritually and
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emotionally harmful to yourselfand those around you.
Okay, Remember that.
Number three write a letter.
Exactly, you know you havespread all your traumas out on
the table.
You reflected on them.
Now it's time to write a letter.
Start with something like howdo you feel today?
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So it is a letter to your innerchild.
So how do you feel today?
Let's talk about your past andsee how I can help.
I know this person hurt you.
I know this situation broke youand I want to comfort you.
You are with me now in a safespace, so don't be afraid.
Let's explore together what tolearn.
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You know something like that.
So this part is very importantbecause it allows you to connect
with your inner self, yourinner child.
All right, so make sure to calmand protect that part of you,
while also explaining how youcan learn from your past traumas
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.
Number four meditation can bevery helpful.
So meditation can be veryhelpful.
If the wounds are too open andthe trauma is still present in a
significant way, meditation canbe a great solution.
There is a beautiful meditationthat you can practice for about
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10 minutes.
There is a beautiful meditationthat you can practice for about
10 minutes, and I wasn'tsomeone who typically used
meditation with headphones ormusic, but now I understand it
helps me get into the flowfaster, so you can do as well,
if you like it or not.
It's up to your preference, ofcourse.
And for this meditation, if youlike it, you can use apps like
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brainfm or check out youtube orspotify.
You know, focusing on musicwith a frequency range between
432 and 528 hertz.
The technique is this one.
So, first step sit quietly,find, of course, a calm position
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and close your eyes, all right,and breathe naturally.
Number second visualize thewaves of the ocean as your
strangles.
So see the waves as all yourchallenges, emotions and traumas
, you know, rising under you.
But instead of being swallowedby it, you're still on top of
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the sea, all right.
Number three ride the wave.
So when the wave rises, youfeel the energy of those
struggles lifting you becauseyou start to think about it.
You start to think about pasttraumas, past emotions, and when
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this energy tries to lift youup, it's going to show, of
course, all the impactfulemotions from when you were a
child, when something happenedto you.
But here is the thing Insteadof resisting, you have to stay
balanced, you have to stay calm,you have to breathe steadily,
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you have to make sure that thewave goes down, and then, in
fact, we have.
The number four is the gentledrop.
So, as the wave falls, imagineyourself gently calming down and
returning to a state of calmand safety.
And each time the wave goesdown, shows that no strangle
lasts forever.
Okay, and number five.
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So the fifth point is, ofcourse, the repetition.
So continue with each wave.
Sometimes, these waves, they goup.
You think about it, you thinkabout the problem, but then you
have to stay calm, you have toimagine to, you know, to
literally put down these waves.
And that's how it is the lifein the end of the story Problems
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come and go, but you remain therider, never the storm itself.
Number five so this is thefifth tip.
So let's go back to our topic,to our topic to heal your inner
child.
So number five back in time andjournal as your inner child.
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This is a wonderful, interestingexercise, because usually
journaling focuses on reflectingon the present or the future,
right.
However, in this case, you needto go back in time.
It's like you go back in timeand write from the perspective
of the same age you were whenthe trauma happened.
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For example, you might writeJohn was mocked me today and all
the children laugh at me.
I don't know what to do.
Fortunately, I'm here in thekitchen with mom waiting for the
pancakes.
This makes me feel safe.
But what can I learn from whathappened today with John?
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Something like that.
Of course, it is an example.
And the point is, as youreflect, consider what you could
learn from this experience.
Right From this past experience, you can finally investigate
what exactly happened andexplore how to move forward from
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this point, learning a valuablelesson, of course, and the
exercise is very, veryfascinating because it allows us
to reflect on our past from apresent perspective, while also
incorporating the maturity andknowledge we have gained over
the years.
Okay, so it's very, verypowerful.
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Number six bring back the joysof childhood.
We previously discussed this inthe episode title Rediscovering
your Childhood Dreams.
It was two or three episodesago.
To heal, it's essential to findjoy in the things that once
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made you happy, guys.
For example personal example Iused to enjoy toys and now I'm
considering exploring a newpassion.
Like Lego, I used to play videogames on PlayStation 1.
And now I'm a proper videogamer.
I loved Dragon Ball when I wasa child.
Back then I didn't even realizeit was an anime, you know.
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Now all the people know aboutanime from Netflix and anyway,
now I watch some anime and havestarted reading manga because I
know that makes me happy.
Unfortunately, my free time hasbecome increasingly limited
these days with my podcast work,sub-stack, social media.
You know, preparing a productfor my project, I barely finish
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an anime these days, even if I'mwilling to take more rest in
the future, of course.
But the point is, it's importantto heal from your past and
present strangles, includingthose you are currently facing.
All right, and one way is byrevisiting your past joys.
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So don't feel ashamed to lookback at what brought you
happiness, no matter your age,guys, remember that taking time
to reconnect with past joy,whether as a hobby or to bring a
smile to your life, is alwaysbeneficial and can help in your
healing.
Okay, number seven leave thedoor open.
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So the bigger the trauma, thelonger it takes to heal.
Sometimes it doesn't matter howlong the healing will take.
It may even take a lifetime.
You know.
The truth is that trauma andpast experiences that have hurt
you, of course, can also serveas inspiration, lessons,
guidance for your present andfor your future, for your
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journey to success.
They are part of yourself, guys, whether you believe it or not.
All right, so please don't rushto close the door on them, as
they contribute to your identityand personal growth.
Okay, remember the learningopportunities that arise from
your trauma are very, verypowerful.
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Number eight consulting anexpert.
You may have various healingmethods right now, okay.
Okay, but if your trauma is not, let's say, a gentle ghost, but
feels more like a demon, deeplyyou know, rooted in your mind
and your soul, impacting yourlife in a negative way, then
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it's essential to seek help froman expert, not just any general
therapist guys.
It's crucial to find aqualified professional who
specializes in the specific typeof trauma you are experiencing.
Okay, do careful research toensure you find the right fit
for your needs and you're goingto be great.
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And, of course, this step iscrucial, okay, so find the right
guy for you.
So, before we finish thisepisode, let's wrap everything
up carefully.
Healing your inner child is nota superficial process.
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Okay.
It's profound, it's important,it's deep and it's one of the
most crucial steps you can takeif you truly want to discover
your purpose, align with yourgoals and achieve genuine
success in your life.
Okay, because the truth is thatif you carry wounds without
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addressing them, those woundswill silently influence your
choices.
The truth is that if you carrywounds without addressing them,
those wounds will silentlyinfluence your choices, your
relationships and the way yousee yourself.
But when you begin to heal, youcreate space for freedom, for
clarity and self-trust.
Okay, now let's review theeight steps, the eight tips, one
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more time, breaking them downso you can remember and apply
them to your own life.
Okay, number one recognize yourinner child.
This is where the journeystarts.
All right, so you cannot healsomething you refuse to
acknowledge first of all.
So you have to go back in time,revisiting your past and
noticing the experiences thatshaped you.
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Maybe it was neglect, mayberejection, maybe feeling
invisible, I don't know.
Whatever, take time to identifythose memories and accept that
your younger self still livesinside you.
All right.
Right, healing starts withunderstanding.
Remember that.
Number two pay attention to themessages.
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Once you open the door, yourinner child, you know he, she
speaks to you.
All right, they speak to you.
It may manifest as anger,sadness, shame or even recurring
patterns in your reaction tostress today.
So ask yourself why do Ioverreact in certain situations,
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for example, why do I shut downin others?
These are signals, guys, so youhave to understand them.
They're not random, okay.
They are patterns from yourpast, from something that
happened in your past.
So they are the voice of yourinner child asking to be heard
and understood.
Number three write a letter.
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Writing is powerful because itcreates a bridge between your
adult self and your inner child.
So when you write, youacknowledge the pain but also
bring comfort.
You have to say things like Iknow you were hurt, I know you
felt alone, but I'm here now.
I'm here with you and you'resafe.
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You know something like that.
Writing allows you to begin aconversation, showing compassion
to the parts of yourself thatwere missed.
Number four practice meditation.
Meditation helps you regulateyour emotions when the memories
feels overwhelming.
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Okay, the wave meditation isliterally one of my favorites
one and we talk about.
It is a great tool.
So you, you visualize yourstrangles as waves while you
stay steady and balanced on top.
Okay, and this teaches yourmind and body that you are not
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your trauma.
You are the observer, you aresafe and you can stay present
even when emotions feel heavy.
Number five again journal asyour younger self.
This is different from writinga letter.
Instead of writing to yourinner child, you write as your
inner child.
So imagine you're back at theage when the would happen.
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Okay, write down what happened,how you felt, what you needed
and what you wish someone hadtold you.
So this exercise enables you toreconnect with raw emotions,
you know, with the wisdom younow possess and giving you, of
course, the closer and theunderstanding.
Number six bring back childhoodjoys.
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Healing, guys, is not all aboutpain, it's also about joy.
So think back to what made youlight up as a child maybe
drawing, maybe playing outside,building Legos, you know,
watching cartoons, readingcomics.
When you bring those joys backinto your adult life, you
reconnect with parts of yourselfthat are pure and authentic and
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this joy heals because itreminds you that you are more
than your trauma.
Right, you also carry light.
You carry creativity andplayfulness inside you.
Number seven leave the door open.
Healing is not instant.
It is a lifelong process.
Some wounds close quickly,other takes years and some way
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always stay with you in some way.
That's okay.
The point is not to erase thepast, but to learn from it.
Your trauma is part of youridentity, part of your story,
part of who you are andsometimes even a part of your
strength.
So keep the door open.
Let's healing grow at its ownspeed, okay, so don't rush it.
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Number eight consult an expert.
Finally, if your trauma feelstoo heavy, too dark or too
overwhelming, you don't have tocarry it alone A qualified
therapist, coach, consultant,you know can help you process
your experiences in a safe andstructured way.
This is not weakness, it'swisdom, because getting help
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means you are serious abouthealing and about becoming, of
course, the best version ofyourself.
Now, why is all of thisimportant?
What is the reason fordedicating time to this task?
Because when you heal yourinner child, you stop living in
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reaction to the past, you stopletting pain control your
present and your future, so youstart making decisions based on
clarity instead of fear, so youbegin to understand your purpose
.
All right, you align with yourtrue goals, finally, and that
alignment is the foundation ofreal success.
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So success is not just aboutmoney, status or achievements.
It is about wellness.
It's about building a lifewhere your past does not
sabotage your present.
It is about becoming the personwho has the strength, the peace
and the clarity to walk towardsyour dream, of course in a
confident way.
So healing your inner child,guys, is not the end of the
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journey.
It is the beginning, becauseonce you take these steps, you
are no longer trapped by oldwounds.
All right, you are free.
You are free to write a newstory, a story of purpose,
growth and, of course, a storyof success.
Now I want to hear from you howdo you connect with your inner
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child?
What is one small step you takeor want to take to bring
healing and joy back into yourlife?
Send me a message, share yourstory.
Connect with me on subzack.
I would truly love to hear howyou are walking this journey and
if today's episode resonatedwith you, make sure to subscribe
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so you never miss what's comingnext.
And, even more important, sharethis episode with someone who
might need a gentle reminderthat healing is possible and
that their past does not definetheir future.
Okay, thank you so much forbeing here and joining to
success.
Remember, healing your innerchild is not just about looking
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back.
It's about moving forward withstrength, purpose and clarity.
All right.
Together, we're building notonly success guides, but
wellness.
I hope you remember that.
I'll see you in the nextepisode.
Cheers.
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