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January 1, 2026 15 mins

Hello friends, Happy New Year! 

As we turn the page on 2025, I wanted to speak about something honestly: last year was really hard. Not just busy or challenging, but emotionally heavy. For those of us who live with anxiety — and especially for our beautiful LGBTQ+ community — last year asked a lot of our nervous systems, our hearts, and our sense of safety in the world.

Today’s episode isn’t about rushing into an expected “new year, new you” energy or pretending that everything is "fine." It’s about slowing down, telling the truth about what the past year has taken from us, and honoring what we’ve survived and how we are going to step into 2026 with intention and clarity.

Together, we’ll reflect on the year behind us, release what no longer serves us, and step into a new season with care, compassion, and connection — not pressure or perfection.

If you’re tired, anxious, or unsure how to close out the year we just had, how to get back into your own body and actually create a powerful new year, you’re not alone. This one's for you.  Welcome to the conversation.

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(00:06):
Hello everyone, and welcome toseason three of the Just To You
podcast.
I'm Eric, Nicole, your host, andI'm so glad you decided to join
us today.
Whether this is your very firsttime joining in on the
conversation or you've beenlistening along since the
beginning, thank you for beinghere.
This podcast exists because ofyou.
Your stories, your courage andyour willingness to keep

(00:26):
choosing yourself even when it'snot easy.
The Just To You Podcast is asafe space for authentic,
unscripted conversations thatconnect us, inspire us, and
remind us of who we are at ourcore.
Together we're gonna exploreconfidence, voice, truth, and
what it means to step fully intowhat I call the just do you
sweet spot, that place where youare living honestly,

(00:47):
intentionally andunapologetically.
This new season is about growth,reflection.
Possibility in community.
I'll be sitting down withfriends, colleagues, community
leaders, and influencers who arewilling to share their journeys,
the wins, the challenges, andeverything in between.
We'll laugh.
We may shed a few tears, but inthe end, we're gonna continue to

(01:08):
remind one another that none ofus is walking this path alone.
So are you ready?
Great.
Let's do this.
Welcome to season three of theJust You Podcast.
Hello my friends and welcomeback to the podcast and happy
New Year.
It's January 1st, 2026, and I'mtruly honored that you're here
with me today.
Before we do anything else, Iwant to say something plainly

(01:30):
and honestly.
2025 was really hard.
And when I say hard, I don'tmean busy.
I don't mean inconvenient.
I mean emotionally heavy.
I mean exhausting in ways thatdidn't always have a language
for many of us, especially thoseof us who live with anxiety.
It wasn't just a challengingyear.
It was really loud.
It lived in our nervous system.

(01:52):
It was the kind of year whereeven on good days, there was
this constant low hum of worryin the background.
It was the kind of year whererest didn't feel restful.
Where sleep didn't alwaysrestore us, and where silence
didn't always feel peacefulbecause our minds were still
racing nonstop, and for so manyof us, simply making it through
the day sometimes felt like amajor accomplishment.

(02:15):
For those of us in the L-G-B-T-Qcommunity, that weight has been
even more complicated.
Anxiety this year hasn't livedonly inside our minds.
It's lived in our bodies.
It's lived daily in theheadlines.
It's lived in ongoingconversations about our safety,
our rights, and even ourhumanity.
It's lived in the constantawareness of when it feels safe

(02:37):
to speak, to show up, to bevisible, and when it doesn't,
it's lived in the quietcalculations we've had to make
every day often without evenrealizing it.
That kind of stress doesn't stayabstract.
It settles into our shoulders,our jaws, our breath, our sleep,
and over time, it can make, eventhe simplest things feel

(02:58):
exhausting.
So if you're coming into thisepisode feeling a little tired,
maybe a little guarded,emotionally spent or unsure how
to wrap up a year like this, Iwant you to know something.
You're exactly where you need tobe.
If you found yourself morewithdrawn this year, more
emotional, maybe a little bitmore irritable, more tired than
usual, listen, this wasn't youfailing.

(03:20):
This was your body doing itsbest to protect you in an
overwhelming world.
And if you're listening rightnow thinking, oh, Eric, this is
exactly how I felt.
I need you to hear this.
You're not imagining it, you'renot being dramatic, and you're
not alone.
One of the reasons I wanted tostart this new year together is
because I don't believe inrushing past what we've been

(03:40):
through.
I don't believe healing comesfrom pretending everything is
fine or slapping a resolution ontop of an unresolved exhaustion.
I believe healing starts when weactually tell the truth kindly,
compassionately, and withoutjudgment.
So today I want to invite you toslow down with me.
Wherever you are right now,whether you're driving, walking,

(04:04):
sitting quietly, or just needingto take a moment, I want you to
take a breath.
Listen, you don't have to fixanything today.
You don't have to have the wholeyear figured out already.
You don't even have to feelhopeful yet.
You just have to be here.
And if that idea of a new yearfeels heavy instead of exciting,
that's okay too.

(04:24):
For some of us, January doesn'teven feel like a fresh start.
It feels like pressure.
It feels like expectations.
We're not sure we can even meet.
So instead of asking you toreinvent yourself, I want to
offer something different.
I want to offer permission.
Permission to enter 2026 exactlywhere you are.

(04:44):
Even if it's tired.
It could be hopeful, guarded,curious, unsure.
You know what?
It's all welcome here again,it's why I wanted to spend time
with you today as we step intothis new year.
Not to tell you who to be orwhat to do, but to sit with you.
To reflect with you and toremind you that surviving a year
like that is already sayingsomething really powerful about

(05:07):
you.
This episode is not aboutforcing optimism or rushing into
a new year, new you attitude.
It's about reflecting, honestly,releasing gently, the
conversations, expectations,people, and beliefs that no
longer serve us.
It's about stepping into thisnext season of our life with
care and with intention.

(05:29):
When I look back on this year, Isee moments of joy.
I see moments of pureconnection, amazing
conversations on this podcastwith extraordinary people from
around the world.
That reminded me why communitymatters so deeply and why I'm so
honored to have you spend sometime with me.
Each week.
I actually see growth.
I see tremendous courage and Isee a real shift, but I also see

(05:53):
days where anxiety has showedup.
Really strong days when theworld felt unsafe, days when the
news cycle made it hard to evenbreathe.
Days when being visibly queerfelt heavier than usual.
Like we had to carry not onlyour own emotions, but the weight
of other people's opinions aboutour very existence.
This is something we've had todeal with for decades, but we do

(06:16):
it with a glimmer of hope thatone day we can just simply wake
up and be ourselves.
And if that resonates you.
I want to say this clearly, thatresponse makes sense.
Queer anxiety doesn't come fromnowhere.
It's a nervous system that'sresponding to a world that often
asks us to defend our right tosimply belong.

(06:37):
When you reflect on your year,don't just ask yourself, what
did I accomplish?
Ask yourself, what did this yearask of me?
What did I survive?
Where did I show up?
Even when it was hard?
What did I have to push throughor overcome?
If all you did this year wassimply survive, you know what?
That still counts and you shouldbe really proud of yourself.

(06:59):
I need you to give yourself ahug and some love'cause I'm
proud of you.
Really proud.
One of the biggest lessons thisyear taught me is that anxiety
is not a personal failure.
It's information.
It's your body paying attentionto the world around it.
It's there for a reason and it'san opportunity to connect with
someone and to share your lifebecause trust me, we're all

(07:21):
going through it as well.
We may just be waiting forsomeone else to make that first
move and open that conversation.
Change only happens within aconversation with someone not in
our own head.
Another lesson is that strengthdoesn't always look like pushing
through.
Sometimes it looks like slowingdown.
Sometimes it looks likecanceling plans.

(07:41):
Sometimes it looks like choosingrest over resilience.
Another lesson, and probably themost impactful is just how much
connection matters.
Anxiety grows in isolation, socommunity, even if it's
imperfect, helps regulate us.
A single text, a simple phonecall, a familiar voice, someone

(08:03):
who understands your queernesswithout explanation.
Listen, you don't have to bebrave every day to be worthy.
You don't owe anyone yourresilience.
You do, however, owe yourselfsome grace and acknowledgement.
So I invite you to take sometime today to do just that, and
I promise you, you're going tosee a shift.
Give yourself some grace andacknowledge yourself for the

(08:24):
things that you did this yearthat make you happy.
Before we step into a new yearor a new season, we need to
release some things, notaggressively.
Not dramatically.
Although I gotta be honest,there's times when I want to
throw things out the window ordrive over'em with my car, but I
do it with compassion.
Maybe you're ready to releasethe belief that you should have
handled things better, or maybeyou need to release the guilt

(08:48):
you feel for needing rest, orthe shame you're feeling simply
because of who you are.
It might even be the pressure toalways have to be okay.
I want you to take a breath withme, and then I want you to ask
yourself, what's the one thingyou're willing to set down, even
if it's just, for now, healingdoesn't come from forcing
ourselves forward.
It comes from giving ourselvespermission to soften.

(09:11):
Rest isn't quitting, it'schoosing yourself.
Letting go of something or evensomeone, no matter how difficult
that can be, is a pivotal momentin our path to authenticity.
Things, or people who no longerserve us or weigh us down need
to be released in order for usto find our true joy, our
happiness, and our authenticity.

(09:33):
If anxiety has been loud foryou, I want to offer a few
general ways to cope.
Listen, these aren't fixes,they're just options.
When anxiety spikes for me, Ineed to get grounded.
I get quiet, I get comfortable,and I name five things that I
can currently see in front ofme.
I name four things that I canactually feel inside of my body

(09:55):
right now, and I name threethings that I can hear.
This practice brings yourselfback into your own body, back
into the now, back into thepresent moment.
While you do this, just rememberto breathe.
If you do this consistently, Ipromise you, you will see a
shift.
If the news or social mediaheightened your anxiety this

(10:15):
past year, guess what?
It's okay to create boundaries.
It's okay to create thoseboundaries around the time you
spend scrolling.
Staying informed does notrequire you to stay flooded.
Protecting your peace is notdisengagement.
It's self preservation.
And if you can lean intocommunity, like I said, anxiety

(10:36):
will thrive in that isolationeach and every time.
So even a short check-in withsomeone who truly sees you can
remind your nervous system thatyou're not alone.
We are so disconnected thesedays, and I know for me,
connecting with a friend orloved one makes the world of
difference, and I promise it'lldo the same for you.
Sometimes coping looks reallysmall.

(10:56):
I hug the dog.
I take a walk on the beach.
I light a candle, I listen to afamiliar song or hear a familiar
voice.
Safety doesn't have to bedramatic.
It just has to be consistent.
As we look ahead, especially asL-G-B-T-Q, people having to
navigate this uncertain world, Iwant to offer a reframe.

(11:17):
This doesn't have to be a yearof fixing yourself or fixing the
world.
It can simply be a season forsupporting yourself.
Instead of asking, what do Ineed to change?
Try asking yourself, what do Ineed more of?
Do I need more rest?
Do I need to set moreboundaries?
Do I need to source more joy,more community, more connection,

(11:37):
more softness?
For me, this new season is goingto be about joy, community
authenticity.
This is not about perfection.
It's not about overwhelm.
It's just about alignment.
And if you can only commit rightnow to taking care of your own
nervous system, then trust methat's more than enough and we
will fully support you.

(11:59):
If this year felt heavy, I wantyou to hear this.
Clearly, you didn't fail, youadapted, you shifted, you pushed
through, you pivoted, and yousurvived.
You should be really proud ofyourself, and again, I want you
to give yourself some love.
And now it's my turn to give yousome love.
I love hearing from all of ourlisteners and would love to hear
from you.
I'd love to know what you'rewilling to release from this

(12:22):
past year.
What are you setting down?
And equally important, what kindof season are you hoping to
build or step into in 2026?
You don't have to have it allfigured out yet.
Naming it is enough.
Putting it out into the universeis enough, but you have to take
action and you have to speak itout loud.
So it's my commitment to bringyou a new season full of stories

(12:44):
that will move, touch andinspire you.
Stories of resilience, storiesof joy, and stories that remind
us that we are all each powerfulon our own, but as a community,
watch out.
We're a force to be reckonedwith and we are unstoppable.
As we close out this year, Iwant to do it honestly.

(13:04):
So let's honor the hard parts.
Let's really celebrate theresilience and let's walk into
this next season without anyunrealistic expectations.
We're going to reflect on whatwas we're going to release.
We no longer serves us, andwe're going to reclaim the parts
of ourselves that deserve care,safety, joy, and love.

(13:26):
Remember, you don't have toharden to survive.
You're allowed to soften.
You're allowed to rest, andyou're allowed to simply take up
space exactly as you are.
I'm so grateful to all of ourseason two guests for taking the
time to share their remarkablejourneys with us, and I'm
equally grateful to all of youare listeners for making the
time to tune in each week.

(13:48):
Our global Just Do You communityis growing at a rate I can't
wrap my head around and it'sbecause of you.
That said, I would love it ifyou would reach out and share
the podcast with people you careabout this year.
Let's make a commitment tospread these inspiring
conversations even further, andlet's create a world where
everyone can live their truth.

(14:09):
Celebrate being who they are ahundred percent
unapologetically.
I love you all so much, and Ithank you for allowing me to be
a part of your lives each andevery week.
I want to wish you a happy 2026.
I want you to go out and do you,but do it proudly and
confidently.
Until next time, see you soon.

(14:34):
All right, everyone.
Thank you again for joining uson today's episode.
I hope our conversationresonated with you like it did
me, and I cannot wait to sitdown with you all again next
week.
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you go out back into the worldtoday.
Remember to just do you.
Alright, talk next week.
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