October 21, 2024 • 18 mins
This episode takes you on a journey through the unique advantages of farm life in shaping resilient and independent young adults, highlighting how structured responsibilities and expanding boundaries prepare them for complex situations. Listen to a heartwarming story about my daughter's mental and emotional fortitude, honed through farm life, as she tackles tough scenarios at work. As we face a growing mental health crisis, the episode underscores the long-term responsibility parents have in raising independent, well-adjusted children ready to embrace the world.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to Just Say hey, the podcast Podcast where
we talk about the things thatmatter to small farms, because
you know what?
We are a small farm.
The other day I was in a storeand I saw a young man with his
mom, normal son, mother.
This young man was and I callhim a young man, facial hair, 16
, 18 years old, something likethat.
(00:21):
Wasn't eavesdropping, but youcould hear the mom and the son
were having a conversation,don't know about what wasn't
really listening, seemed normal.
The young man obviously askedfor a candy bar right at the
checkout you know the POPdisplays where they have the
candy right at the checkout.
The mom said no, this young manproceeded to throw a fit, I
(00:46):
mean a hissy fit, much like youwould see a five, six-year-old
kid, do?
I mean it wouldn't be abnormalfor a young kid, four or five
years old, to throw a fit likethat.
I mean it wouldn't like it, butyou know what it would at least
be in the realm.
This young man, I mean didn'tquite get down on the floor and
start kicking his feet, but youknow, was certainly throwing a
(01:08):
fit, crying.
And I don't want to harp onthis young man because we don't
know his situation.
We don't know the emotional andthe things that he has dealt
with in his life, but after itwas all said and done and this
is coming to an end, I didn'tknow what to do.
So I sort of looked away andgave the mom and sons kind of
their privacy.
The mom bought him the candybar and they left and while,
(01:34):
like I said, I don't want toharp on this young man because I
don't know his situation, but Idon't know the mother and the
son's situation.
It might not even have beenmother, I don't know but it got
me to thinking about howimportant farming is to me, to
my family, and the single mostimportant crop that our farm
(01:56):
raises, and that's our children.
Let's get into it.
Welcome to Just Say hey, thepodcast where we talk about what
matters to small farms, whetherit's business, marketing,
agronomy, equipment, livestock,health.
If it matters to small farms,we'll probably talk about it
here, so let's get into it.
Like I was talking about before, this young man threw this fit
and the mom said no, he threwthe fit and then she bought him
(02:18):
the candy bar and I think shedid the absolute wrong thing.
Now, maybe in her situation itwas the easiest way you know as
a parent.
You pick your battles when youare a parent and you say
something to your child.
When you say something, it hasto mean something and it has to
(02:39):
mean something every time,something every time.
If it doesn't, then you can'treally blame the kid when they
don't understand what that means.
When you say no and my wifetells me I shouldn't use my dog
as an example but my dog, if youwatch this podcast on YouTube,
(03:01):
my dog sits on the couch herenext to me every, just about
every show.
But when I tell her a command,it has to be consistent every
single time.
It has to mean the same thing,with the same expectation.
And the reason for that issimple.
If it doesn't mean the samething every time to her, she
(03:32):
gets confused and then youdiscipline her for not doing.
You discipline a dog for notdoing that thing that you're
asking, and then they getfrustrated because they don't
understand that when you givethe command that it means the
same thing every time.
And we need to have consistencywith our kids.
I mean the goal of raising, andI kind of joke about it being
the most important crop, butwhen we're raising kids, if you
(03:55):
could start from a blank pageand say what do you want your
kids to be when they grow up andI'm not talking about Dr Lawyer
, you know Indian chief.
I'm talking about what do youwant them to be?
And my response would be I wantthem to be mentally and
physically tough.
I want them to be able to dealwith the world as challenges get
(04:16):
thrown at them and deal with itin a way that is kind,
compassionate, and also dealwith it in a way where they
don't lose their sense of whothey are and what they stand for
.
Building mentally andphysically tough children takes
(04:37):
work, and the only way youbecome tough is to endure things
that are tough Farm work,getting up every day to feed the
stock.
I mean, you deal with thesethings that are tough every day
and it builds.
Repetition, builds toughness.
You want to be strong.
You work out every day or youwork every day.
(05:00):
You know what you become.
You become strong because youdo it every day.
Being able to accept failureand have it not be the end.
What's the old quote?
I've said it on this podcast acouple of times, but success
isn't permanent and failureisn't final.
Being able to, in a healthy way, accept failure.
(05:23):
Being able to, in a healthy way, accept failure.
I've told the story before of mykids rodeoed when they were
little, I mean from the timethey were in grade school
through high school and even asadults a little bit.
We rodeoed with some families,the vast majority of families
that we rodeoed with.
I love them To this, familiesthat we rodeoed with.
(05:44):
I love them To this day.
I still believe I could beanywhere near them and if I
broke down or needed something,I could pick up the phone and
call any one of them and they'dbe there as soon as they could
and I would do the same for them.
There were a few parents that Ithink had the wrong approach to
(06:04):
life, but they had the rightapproach to rodeo, if that makes
any sense.
They wanted to win, and don'tget me wrong, I'm competitive, I
am really competitive.
I want to win, but the other.
(06:24):
But the thing we're teaching asparents in those situations in
sporting events is not only howto win with dignity and humility
, but how to lose, becausethere's always going to be
somebody who's better, faster,stronger.
How to lose with dignity andhave it not become a.
You know you shouldn't getangry and bitter.
You should be gracious to theperson who won and cheer for
(06:47):
them and then go back to thearena and start working harder
to beat them next time.
That's a healthy way to dealwith success and failure and we
have to learn that in life asadults, that in life as adults
and building those physicallytough, mentally tough, mentally
(07:08):
resilient kids, it's part offarming.
I mean, that's what you becomeif you work on a farm, if you
live this life, and I feel soblessed to be able to do it,
because I think it has allowedme to do it, because I think it
has allowed me, in a way that Iunderstand anyway, to raise my
(07:29):
kids and be proud of them.
You know, our goal is to youknow, at the end of the day, our
job as a parent is to raisechildren who don't need you.
I mean, you sort of workyourself out of a job and that's
the goal.
My daughter, 24 years old, gotherself through school, is a
(07:51):
nurse, has a bachelor's innursing.
She is a nurse at the hospital,has been for a couple of years
now.
She doesn't need me, doesn'tneed me.
She doesn't need me, doesn'tneed me.
Now I hope she still wants mein her life, and I think she
does.
I feel pretty confident aboutthat.
But she doesn't need me.
I could die right this minuteand she's in good shape.
(08:14):
I believe in my heart she isgoing to go on to a happy and
healthy life, proud of her andI'm proud of her for attaining
that mental and physical andemotional toughness.
I think that's you know.
My son is the same way.
My son's only 20.
But you know what?
He doesn't need me.
(08:34):
Young man has gone throughhardship.
He's in the Navy, went througha very physically, physically
tough program.
Didn't end up exactly the wayhe wanted, but he was tough
enough, mentally resilientenough to move on and be happy
(09:09):
and healthy and I'm proud of himfor that.
And I could die right thisminute and he's going to be fine
.
Would he be sad?
I think he would, but he'sgoing to be fine and he's going
to go on to have a happy andhealthy life because we prepared
him in such a way that he'ssolid and I'm proud of both my
(09:32):
kids for that.
If you think about this mental,physical and emotional toughness
and tough may be the wrong word, maybe resiliency, maybe
strength when you talk aboutthis it's like I kind of draw
the analogy of if you work hardto buy whatever it is you want,
(09:54):
you know you buy a car.
Well, you own that car.
That car is yours.
If you've got a loan for it,the minute you make that last
payment, that car is yours.
You can do with it.
You can choose to do with itwhat you want once you own it
Mental, physical, emotionaltoughness, spiritual toughness,
(10:15):
being able to handle things whenthey don't go your way, and
understand that you know yourfaith and your choice and
spirituality.
Your faith isn't going to letyou down just because life
didn't go your way.
You're part of a bigger plan,understanding that.
But when you work for mentaland physical and emotional and
spiritual toughness and strength, you own it, it's yours.
(10:39):
Nobody can take it away.
You might get beaten, but theycan't take that strength and
that courage away from you.
Again, when you work for it,you earn it, you own it.
That's an important process andit's not something that you
just say.
You don't get up in the morningand say, hey, okay, you're
tough.
No, it is a process that youlearn and you develop and you
(11:04):
have to go through the steps,you have to go through the work
of it, you have to work for it,you have to earn it before it's
yours.
And I believe that living on thefarm and going through the
hardships of farming becauseit's not always easy and going
through the hardships of farmingbecause it's not always easy I
(11:26):
mean you all see the pictures ofthe guy in the beautiful day
driving his tractor that'spretty easy.
You're sitting up there in thetractor, you're not, you know,
digging ditches.
But the hard work is all of theother stuff that you have to do
to get there, and so it's notalways easy.
Being a parent isn't easy butagain, single most important job
in my life has been being afather and a husband.
(11:49):
This life that we live on thefarm makes it, I think, easier
to be a good parent than if youdon't have these outlets current
, than if you don't have theseoutlets, these outlets that get
kids away from the video gamesand the addiction to social
media.
(12:09):
And that's what it is.
It's an addiction.
I think that the challenges andresponsibilities of doing that
are easier living this life welive on the farm than it is if
you are living in an apartmentbuilding in the inner city where
you don't have that control.
You don't have that ability tohave repetitious tasks.
(12:32):
You don't have that ability todo these things.
Because of that situation, anddon't blame people for it.
I'm just saying that in oursituation we live on a farm it's
hard work and that hard workbreeds these other traits that
we're looking for, some of thethings that I think are
important as you grow and asyou're parenting this balancing
(12:54):
the boundaries of being a childto this scary freedom of being
an adult and you do that as aparent.
In my opinion, you do that overtime by setting boundaries,
allowing children to grow towhere they are safe and
(13:15):
comfortable, and they start topush those boundaries and when
they do that, you make theboundary bigger, but you keep
them safe to where they alwaysfeel confident.
You push them to where they gettowards the boundaries and then
, as they grow and as theymature, whatever the trait that
you're trying to gain with thatspecific chore or task or
(13:38):
responsibility, then thatresponsibility gets bigger.
So when they get into the realworld, they haven't been
overprotected their entirechildhood and then all of a
sudden, they're adults on theirown and now everything is out
there and they don't know how tomake decisions that live up to
your moral standards, your youknow the code of ethics or a
code of the spiritual beliefsthat you have.
(14:00):
You've now set them free inthis world that they don't
understand, and I think that isdangerous for kids.
We have to, as parents, preparethem for living in the real
world.
When you talk about, you knowthose boundaries.
Those boundaries are there tokeep kids safe and keep them
(14:21):
protected, but not to from notprotecting them to the point
that they are excluded from theworld and they may choose, when
they get older, to separatethemselves from the world.
But unfortunately, we have tolive in this world and we have
to deal with people and we haveto conduct business and we have
to do these things with peoplethat we morally, ethically,
(14:44):
spiritually, whatever, may notalways agree 100% with, and we
still have to be able to dealwith this world.
And when you go from beingprotected in a bubble to now,
all of a sudden, you haveeverything bombarding you.
You don't understand how todeal with that and I think
that's why the boundaries wehave to change those boundaries
(15:07):
as they get older.
I'll kind of jump back and tella quick story.
My daughter was working in ahospital had a patient become
belligerent with her big guy.
She felt confident, she was byherself, no security in the
building, no other people around, it was just her and this
patient.
Because I believe, because wemy wife and I prepared her for
(15:33):
tough situations she was able tokeep her cool, not get rattled
Internally.
I'm sure she was a littleafraid, but she didn't show it.
She was able to keep her cool,able to go through the process,
get this guy calmed down, do it.
And that being able to do thatand keep your cool is a product
(15:56):
of all of the work and the stuffyou go through on the farm
every day the chores, thephysical, the emotional, the
mental toughness that you buildthrough that.
And I think that we as parentstake a step back when I look at
the stats from the young adultsmy daughter and son's age 18 to
(16:21):
24, sort of a number that theydo a lot of statistical, they do
a lot of studies, they do a lotof studies and they kind of
publish these statistics.
I looked the other day andnumber two cause of death among
18 to 24 year olds is suicide.
That's a huge, huge mentalhealth crisis.
The solution for that crisisstarted 18 to 24 years ago.
(16:44):
We, as parents, have thatresponsibility.
Again.
You are raising.
I tried to raise children whodidn't need me.
My job is to work myself out ofa job Again.
I want my kids in my life and Ithink they want to be in my
life.
They want to be part of whatI'm doing.
They want to be part of whatI'm doing.
(17:07):
They want to be part of thisfarm.
They want to be part ofeverything we do.
But they don't need me.
It's kind of sad to say I missthose days, but when they did
need me, I miss those days, butI also take a lot of comfort in
the fact that they don't need me.
I'm not important anymore.
Their life is important.
They have things they want toaccomplish and dreams they want
(17:30):
to accomplish.
They don't need me to do it.
Being a farm parent has itsblessings and curses, but don't
let the bad and the hard workthe bad and the hard work get
you down.
This is a journey that we areon together, that we when I say
(17:51):
we as a family one of thebiggest lessons that we taught
our kids, I believe, is that weare doing this.
This is not.
I'm doing this and I need youto go do this.
We are doing this together andI think by doing things together
and by showing that we are ateam, we end up with the kind of
(18:15):
people in our children that wewant to, that we like respect
and want to be around.
With that.
You have a wonderful day, goodluck and God bless.
Welcome to Just Say hey, the podcast Podcast where
we talk about the things thatmatter to small farms, because
you know what?
We are a small farm.
The other day I was in a storeand I saw a young man with his
mom, normal son, mother.
This young man was and I callhim a young man, facial hair, 16
, 18 years old, something likethat.
(00:21):
Wasn't eavesdropping, but youcould hear the mom and the son
were having a conversation,don't know about what wasn't
really listening, seemed normal.
The young man obviously askedfor a candy bar right at the
checkout you know the POPdisplays where they have the
candy right at the checkout.
The mom said no, this young manproceeded to throw a fit, I
(00:46):
mean a hissy fit, much like youwould see a five, six-year-old
kid, do?
I mean it wouldn't be abnormalfor a young kid, four or five
years old, to throw a fit likethat.
I mean it wouldn't like it, butyou know what it would at least
be in the realm.
This young man, I mean didn'tquite get down on the floor and
start kicking his feet, but youknow, was certainly throwing a
(01:08):
fit, crying.
And I don't want to harp onthis young man because we don't
know his situation.
We don't know the emotional andthe things that he has dealt
with in his life, but after itwas all said and done and this
is coming to an end, I didn'tknow what to do.
So I sort of looked away andgave the mom and sons kind of
their privacy.
The mom bought him the candybar and they left and while,
(01:34):
like I said, I don't want toharp on this young man because I
don't know his situation, but Idon't know the mother and the
son's situation.
It might not even have beenmother, I don't know but it got
me to thinking about howimportant farming is to me, to
my family, and the single mostimportant crop that our farm
(01:56):
raises, and that's our children.
Let's get into it.
Welcome to Just Say hey, thepodcast where we talk about what
matters to small farms, whetherit's business, marketing,
agronomy, equipment, livestock,health.
If it matters to small farms,we'll probably talk about it
here, so let's get into it.
Like I was talking about before, this young man threw this fit
and the mom said no, he threwthe fit and then she bought him
(02:18):
the candy bar and I think shedid the absolute wrong thing.
Now, maybe in her situation itwas the easiest way you know as
a parent.
You pick your battles when youare a parent and you say
something to your child.
When you say something, it hasto mean something and it has to
(02:39):
mean something every time,something every time.
If it doesn't, then you can'treally blame the kid when they
don't understand what that means.
When you say no and my wifetells me I shouldn't use my dog
as an example but my dog, if youwatch this podcast on YouTube,
(03:01):
my dog sits on the couch herenext to me every, just about
every show.
But when I tell her a command,it has to be consistent every
single time.
It has to mean the same thing,with the same expectation.
And the reason for that issimple.
If it doesn't mean the samething every time to her, she
(03:32):
gets confused and then youdiscipline her for not doing.
You discipline a dog for notdoing that thing that you're
asking, and then they getfrustrated because they don't
understand that when you givethe command that it means the
same thing every time.
And we need to have consistencywith our kids.
I mean the goal of raising, andI kind of joke about it being
the most important crop, butwhen we're raising kids, if you
(03:55):
could start from a blank pageand say what do you want your
kids to be when they grow up andI'm not talking about Dr Lawyer
, you know Indian chief.
I'm talking about what do youwant them to be?
And my response would be I wantthem to be mentally and
physically tough.
I want them to be able to dealwith the world as challenges get
(04:16):
thrown at them and deal with itin a way that is kind,
compassionate, and also dealwith it in a way where they
don't lose their sense of whothey are and what they stand for
.
Building mentally andphysically tough children takes
(04:37):
work, and the only way youbecome tough is to endure things
that are tough Farm work,getting up every day to feed the
stock.
I mean, you deal with thesethings that are tough every day
and it builds.
Repetition, builds toughness.
You want to be strong.
You work out every day or youwork every day.
(05:00):
You know what you become.
You become strong because youdo it every day.
Being able to accept failureand have it not be the end.
What's the old quote?
I've said it on this podcast acouple of times, but success
isn't permanent and failureisn't final.
Being able to, in a healthy way, accept failure.
(05:23):
Being able to, in a healthy way, accept failure.
I've told the story before of mykids rodeoed when they were
little, I mean from the timethey were in grade school
through high school and even asadults a little bit.
We rodeoed with some families,the vast majority of families
that we rodeoed with.
I love them To this, familiesthat we rodeoed with.
(05:44):
I love them To this day.
I still believe I could beanywhere near them and if I
broke down or needed something,I could pick up the phone and
call any one of them and they'dbe there as soon as they could
and I would do the same for them.
There were a few parents that Ithink had the wrong approach to
(06:04):
life, but they had the rightapproach to rodeo, if that makes
any sense.
They wanted to win, and don'tget me wrong, I'm competitive, I
am really competitive.
I want to win, but the other.
(06:24):
But the thing we're teaching asparents in those situations in
sporting events is not only howto win with dignity and humility
, but how to lose, becausethere's always going to be
somebody who's better, faster,stronger.
How to lose with dignity andhave it not become a.
You know you shouldn't getangry and bitter.
You should be gracious to theperson who won and cheer for
(06:47):
them and then go back to thearena and start working harder
to beat them next time.
That's a healthy way to dealwith success and failure and we
have to learn that in life asadults, that in life as adults
and building those physicallytough, mentally tough, mentally
(07:08):
resilient kids, it's part offarming.
I mean, that's what you becomeif you work on a farm, if you
live this life, and I feel soblessed to be able to do it,
because I think it has allowedme to do it, because I think it
has allowed me, in a way that Iunderstand anyway, to raise my
(07:29):
kids and be proud of them.
You know, our goal is to youknow, at the end of the day, our
job as a parent is to raisechildren who don't need you.
I mean, you sort of workyourself out of a job and that's
the goal.
My daughter, 24 years old, gotherself through school, is a
(07:51):
nurse, has a bachelor's innursing.
She is a nurse at the hospital,has been for a couple of years
now.
She doesn't need me, doesn'tneed me.
She doesn't need me, doesn'tneed me.
Now I hope she still wants mein her life, and I think she
does.
I feel pretty confident aboutthat.
But she doesn't need me.
I could die right this minuteand she's in good shape.
(08:14):
I believe in my heart she isgoing to go on to a happy and
healthy life, proud of her andI'm proud of her for attaining
that mental and physical andemotional toughness.
I think that's you know.
My son is the same way.
My son's only 20.
But you know what?
He doesn't need me.
(08:34):
Young man has gone throughhardship.
He's in the Navy, went througha very physically, physically
tough program.
Didn't end up exactly the wayhe wanted, but he was tough
enough, mentally resilientenough to move on and be happy
(09:09):
and healthy and I'm proud of himfor that.
And I could die right thisminute and he's going to be fine
.
Would he be sad?
I think he would, but he'sgoing to be fine and he's going
to go on to have a happy andhealthy life because we prepared
him in such a way that he'ssolid and I'm proud of both my
(09:32):
kids for that.
If you think about this mental,physical and emotional toughness
and tough may be the wrong word, maybe resiliency, maybe
strength when you talk aboutthis it's like I kind of draw
the analogy of if you work hardto buy whatever it is you want,
(09:54):
you know you buy a car.
Well, you own that car.
That car is yours.
If you've got a loan for it,the minute you make that last
payment, that car is yours.
You can do with it.
You can choose to do with itwhat you want once you own it
Mental, physical, emotionaltoughness, spiritual toughness,
(10:15):
being able to handle things whenthey don't go your way, and
understand that you know yourfaith and your choice and
spirituality.
Your faith isn't going to letyou down just because life
didn't go your way.
You're part of a bigger plan,understanding that.
But when you work for mentaland physical and emotional and
spiritual toughness and strength, you own it, it's yours.
(10:39):
Nobody can take it away.
You might get beaten, but theycan't take that strength and
that courage away from you.
Again, when you work for it,you earn it, you own it.
That's an important process andit's not something that you
just say.
You don't get up in the morningand say, hey, okay, you're
tough.
No, it is a process that youlearn and you develop and you
(11:04):
have to go through the steps,you have to go through the work
of it, you have to work for it,you have to earn it before it's
yours.
And I believe that living on thefarm and going through the
hardships of farming becauseit's not always easy and going
through the hardships of farmingbecause it's not always easy I
(11:26):
mean you all see the pictures ofthe guy in the beautiful day
driving his tractor that'spretty easy.
You're sitting up there in thetractor, you're not, you know,
digging ditches.
But the hard work is all of theother stuff that you have to do
to get there, and so it's notalways easy.
Being a parent isn't easy butagain, single most important job
in my life has been being afather and a husband.
(11:49):
This life that we live on thefarm makes it, I think, easier
to be a good parent than if youdon't have these outlets current
, than if you don't have theseoutlets, these outlets that get
kids away from the video gamesand the addiction to social
media.
(12:09):
And that's what it is.
It's an addiction.
I think that the challenges andresponsibilities of doing that
are easier living this life welive on the farm than it is if
you are living in an apartmentbuilding in the inner city where
you don't have that control.
You don't have that ability tohave repetitious tasks.
(12:32):
You don't have that ability todo these things.
Because of that situation, anddon't blame people for it.
I'm just saying that in oursituation we live on a farm it's
hard work and that hard workbreeds these other traits that
we're looking for, some of thethings that I think are
important as you grow and asyou're parenting this balancing
(12:54):
the boundaries of being a childto this scary freedom of being
an adult and you do that as aparent.
In my opinion, you do that overtime by setting boundaries,
allowing children to grow towhere they are safe and
(13:15):
comfortable, and they start topush those boundaries and when
they do that, you make theboundary bigger, but you keep
them safe to where they alwaysfeel confident.
You push them to where they gettowards the boundaries and then
, as they grow and as theymature, whatever the trait that
you're trying to gain with thatspecific chore or task or
(13:38):
responsibility, then thatresponsibility gets bigger.
So when they get into the realworld, they haven't been
overprotected their entirechildhood and then all of a
sudden, they're adults on theirown and now everything is out
there and they don't know how tomake decisions that live up to
your moral standards, your youknow the code of ethics or a
code of the spiritual beliefsthat you have.
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You've now set them free inthis world that they don't
understand, and I think that isdangerous for kids.
We have to, as parents, preparethem for living in the real
world.
When you talk about, you knowthose boundaries.
Those boundaries are there tokeep kids safe and keep them
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protected, but not to from notprotecting them to the point
that they are excluded from theworld and they may choose, when
they get older, to separatethemselves from the world.
But unfortunately, we have tolive in this world and we have
to deal with people and we haveto conduct business and we have
to do these things with peoplethat we morally, ethically,
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spiritually, whatever, may notalways agree 100% with, and we
still have to be able to dealwith this world.
And when you go from beingprotected in a bubble to now,
all of a sudden, you haveeverything bombarding you.
You don't understand how todeal with that and I think
that's why the boundaries wehave to change those boundaries
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as they get older.
I'll kind of jump back and tella quick story.
My daughter was working in ahospital had a patient become
belligerent with her big guy.
She felt confident, she was byherself, no security in the
building, no other people around, it was just her and this
patient.
Because I believe, because wemy wife and I prepared her for
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tough situations she was able tokeep her cool, not get rattled
Internally.
I'm sure she was a littleafraid, but she didn't show it.
She was able to keep her cool,able to go through the process,
get this guy calmed down, do it.
And that being able to do thatand keep your cool is a product
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of all of the work and the stuffyou go through on the farm
every day the chores, thephysical, the emotional, the
mental toughness that you buildthrough that.
And I think that we as parentstake a step back when I look at
the stats from the young adultsmy daughter and son's age 18 to
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24, sort of a number that theydo a lot of statistical, they do
a lot of studies, they do a lotof studies and they kind of
publish these statistics.
I looked the other day andnumber two cause of death among
18 to 24 year olds is suicide.
That's a huge, huge mentalhealth crisis.
The solution for that crisisstarted 18 to 24 years ago.
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We, as parents, have thatresponsibility.
Again.
You are raising.
I tried to raise children whodidn't need me.
My job is to work myself out ofa job Again.
I want my kids in my life and Ithink they want to be in my
life.
They want to be part of whatI'm doing.
They want to be part of whatI'm doing.
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They want to be part of thisfarm.
They want to be part ofeverything we do.
But they don't need me.
It's kind of sad to say I missthose days, but when they did
need me, I miss those days, butI also take a lot of comfort in
the fact that they don't need me.
I'm not important anymore.
Their life is important.
They have things they want toaccomplish and dreams they want
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to accomplish.
They don't need me to do it.
Being a farm parent has itsblessings and curses, but don't
let the bad and the hard workthe bad and the hard work get
you down.
This is a journey that we areon together, that we when I say
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we as a family one of thebiggest lessons that we taught
our kids, I believe, is that weare doing this.
This is not.
I'm doing this and I need youto go do this.
We are doing this together andI think by doing things together
and by showing that we are ateam, we end up with the kind of
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people in our children that wewant to, that we like respect
and want to be around.
With that.
You have a wonderful day, goodluck and God bless.
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