Goodbye Cramps, Bloating & Mood Swings: How Cycle Syncing Can Transform Your Health with Womb Wellness Mentor Samantha Martinez

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hello friend.
Hey babe, how are you?
I'm doing good Good Latemorning, decided that our power
went out last night and itmessed with my sleep so bad, oh
shit.
Like the house went from reallynoisy because we sleep with an
AC and all this other stuff.

(00:21):
We haven't got like an actualstandalone AC in our room.
I like everything shut down, soquiet.
And I woke up because I was hotand it was silent and my
husband was still awake and Iwas like what is happening?
Like the power went out and Iwas like no, and so we were up,
up and down and then I got up atseven and the kids have to be

(00:43):
at school at eight.
It was like chaos all morninghey, where did what state?

Speaker 2 (00:48):
what state are y'all in again, florida, florida.
Oh yeah, you got the humidity.
Then never mind.
Oh, it's been so bad it hasbeen so bad.

Speaker 1 (00:57):
The last, like I don't know, like three weeks,
we've had like 75 humidity andit's just sticky.
So sticky.

Speaker 2 (01:09):
I don't like that, so I don't know.
I don't know why I didn'trealize you were in florida, but
I'm in mississippi, so we'resuper close I thought you were
in tennessee?
no, my sister is no my sister.
Maybe that's because my sisterlives over near tennessee, so
she's like towards chattanoogaand I visit there a lot.
But now I'm in mississippi andI'm like florida's.

(01:31):
I love florida, um, but no,that's why I was asking.
I was like because I know thetimes that I've been without
power in mississippi.
You can't sleep like,especially like, I mean if it's
a song like summer, even rightbefore fall or something,
because it it is so freakingsticky all the damn time.
So I'm sorry that that happened, but you didn't get to sleep.

Speaker 1 (01:55):
Yeah, like I think that the power ended up coming
back on within a reasonableamount of time, because it went
out at like one ish, from whatPhilip told me, and then I woke
up and everything was back on,so it couldn't have been too bad
.

Speaker 2 (02:13):
Couldn't have been too bad you're like, I still
can't sleep, I can't sleep.
I get it, though, so I'm reallyexcited to chat today.
Um, I honestly didn't even lookat our notes, because I already
know you.

Speaker 1 (02:28):
I didn't even know if we had notes, like I was.
I figured it like the way.
When I've listened to yourpodcast before, it's really just
like literally just peopletalking, like it's just shooting
the shit, like we're justchatting yeah.

Speaker 2 (02:42):
No, like I have that questionnaire in the beginning,
like whenever you book yoursession, or like this interview,
and so I'll go based on that,because typically the people
that want to be on the show Idon't know yet, but like I've
engaged with you for, I feellike quite a bit, a year and a
half, like we've been friendsnow for a year and a half.
Is that true?

(03:02):
What the hell?

Speaker 1 (03:03):
Yeah, yeah because it was last year.
It was last year that I wasworking for Luana and I was
friends with you.
We connected, like I want tosay, a few months before I left,
because I left for October thistime last year.
Yeah, actually, I remember.

Speaker 2 (03:21):
So when we were on the call, I was like so you're
starting to realize I'm like Ican be socially awkward.
I'm coming out and tellingpeople like I'm super awkward
and I like kind of just show upand fake it till I make it, type
thing.
But when I so when I met youespecially like there's just
this whole mindset of going intoa sales call and it being
intimidating, you know, and thenI just remember thinking god,

(03:43):
she's like so cool and she justknows her shit and she's like so
confident, and and then at theend you were like you're also
cool, and I usually don't dothis, but I'm gonna follow you,
and then we've just kind ofclicked and so it's so just so
funny, I, I only I.

Speaker 1 (04:02):
I think I only made like in the I don't even know
how many people I talked to Ithink I connected with you and
one other lady where I was likelisten, I can help Cause with
you.
It was like we just clickedwith the other lady.
She was like just fresh intothe fitness industry, yeah, and

(04:24):
she was doing like a lot of copypaste strategies and I was like
listen, honey, like I'm notfantastic, but like I can help
you a little bit, so like let'shave a conversation, but that's
it.
Like it was you and one otherperson in the hundred plus
people that I spoke to that'scrazy ridiculous.

Speaker 2 (04:44):
That is so crazy to me.
So, but it's all starting tomake sense now.
I told you I don't know if Itold you that I thought I was a
projector, but yeah, okay, so mybody graph, I guess, and I put
the information in the firsttime.
It registered it as I didn'tthink about military time
whatsoever.
Anyway, I recently I was goingto be on a podcast with a woman

(05:06):
and she is.
Her expertise is human design,but projectors, specifically, is
what she was looking for, sothat we could, like, ask a
question, and and it wound upbeing an episode, so I couldn't
remember where I did my bodygraph.
Um, spoiler alert people, youcan just go to my body graph
that's what it wound up being so.
She suggested this other websitewhenever I would like go into

(05:30):
book the, uh, the interview, andshe was like what, show me a
picture of your body graph, andif you don't have one, go to
this website.
So I was like, well, I can'tfucking remember which website I
did it on, and it wound upbeing it's god, a god thing, I
think, because I'm going throughso many transitions already,
like we've been talking aboutcycle syncing and and then my

(05:53):
mental health, and this wholetime I've been at like trying to
perform as a projector, waitingand like doing all these things
and and then so I don't thinkit was a coincidence that I
wound up having to do that againand coming across that mistake,
because to just like open myeyes so much to be a manifesting

(06:14):
generator, everything'sstarting to make sense.

Speaker 1 (06:17):
And then you said you're one, and so it makes
sense why we grab each otherwhen I did my human design too
and I started studying moreabout like manifesting generator
, it released so much guilt fromlike being multi, like
multi-focused, like.
Right now I have my insurancelicense that I'm studying for,

(06:42):
and then I also have cyclethinking, helping women with
their womb before childbirth,and like going through that
process.
Now I'm adding in doulaservices and helping women with
the womb during pregnancy andchildbirth, and I think what I'm
going to do is I'm also goingto open up a offering that will

(07:05):
help and support women not justin the, not just in trimester
four, which is the three monthsafter, but moving on into just
like their postpartum era, mombody and like going into the
womb and what that looks likeafter pregnancy and after being

(07:25):
done giving birth to children,because it changes so many
different things, likepostpartum depression, a lot of
things.
Something that's not talkedabout enough is postpartum
depression, regardless if you'reon medication or not, last
seven years in the body, shutthe fuck up, and so it's like

(07:46):
okay, you can get on zoloft,like fine.
But like the trauma of thepostpartum depression.
It's different than likecircumstantial depression or
chemical depression.
Postpartum depression is ahormone focused depression and
the hormones like when they droplike that, it takes seven years

(08:07):
to completely recover.
And that's wild Because, like Ihad really bad postpartum
depression with Delilah, whichis how I got on my psychosyncing
journey, and and she's onlyfour, so that would explain why
I still have such like all havedeep drop offs where I'm just
like I don't want to exist, Idon't want to move, like I don't

(08:29):
want to die, but like I don'twant to exist.

Speaker 2 (08:33):
Can we go back to that real quick, because I I'm
getting full body chills and Imay cry because let's do it.
But because I say this kind ofshit to my husband and it's
because it's an invisibleillness, it's like not taken
seriously, like I contemplatejust starting over because I
feel misunderstood.

(08:53):
But when you say that that'swhat I tell him is like I just
don't want to exist and itautomatically goes to.
Well, that's kind of sad, butyeah right and like I'm trying
to take the, the mother of hischild, away, and it's like I
just anyway, I feel like super,though super seen and heard
hearing somebody else say that,because it's like that's just

(09:15):
what it feels, like it's rightbecause it's also.

Speaker 1 (09:17):
It's not that I, it's not that I want to die like I.
I love life.
I don't want to die Like I lovelife.
I don't want to die, but I don'twant to exist Like everybody,
just go, like, can I just be insilence on the floor, nobody
touched me, nobody say anything,nobody need anything, yes,

(09:41):
everybody just go.
And and it's really hardbecause, like, I'm really
transparent with my kids aboutmental health.
Like my husband, it struggleswith depression and he's
autistic adhd.
I don't know what the fuck.
I know that I've been given anadhd diagnosis, but the more I

(10:03):
study ADHD in women andunderstand it on a hormonal
level, I don't think that I haveADHD.
I think that I'm on thespectrum and the symptoms can be
very, very similar, but likethe ADHD symptoms for women.
Cause I read oh, I don't haveit.
Um, the power of the FemaleBrain by Dr Amen, or Unleashing

(10:27):
the Power of the Female Brain byDr Amen is what it is when I
was studying that book there'slike seven different kinds of
ADHD and they all take differentkinds of medication.
Like, for some people, ritalinworks really well.
For other people, if you get onAdderall, that'll work really

(10:50):
well.
But then there's the people whoneed like Vyvanse, and Vyvanse
are very strong, but some ofthese are they suppress their
SSRIs and so they're going tosuppress the serotonin and make
it so that, like the ADHDactually gets worse, and because

(11:12):
ADHD and dopamine is typicallywhat it's associated with.
But ADHD also utilizesserotonin and oxytocin, which
are both hormone dependent.
And serotonin and oxytocin,which are both hormone dependent
, and serotonin, is progesteronedependent.
So if you're low inprogesterone and your hormones
are fucked up, then yourserotonin levels, your happy

(11:34):
hormones, are not going to work.
Wow, so it's, it's wild, and soI don't have an issue with like.
I don't have an issue with like.
I don't have an issuenecessarily with staying focused
or getting focused.
I have sensory problems andit's not like itchy tag on the
back of the shirt.
I can feel my skin, I like I Idon't like being touched.

(11:56):
That's that's one thing.
That it's a struggle for somepeople, cause I'm not a hugger.
It's a struggle for my husband,because his main love language
it's physical touch and I'm justlike I get like dinosaur arms

(12:20):
and I'm like don't touch me,don't touch me, don't touch me,
and so it's one of those things.
But with all of that, when youlook at the female body from a
postpartum side of things, it'snot as simple as oh, here's

(12:40):
Zoloft, your Zoloft.
It's not as simple as oh, hereis this medication that is going
to temporarily like get you tothat place where, like, your
hormones are starting toregulate because your body does
physically heal after two years.
So say you have a baby, youruterus is going to be healed,
your ovaries will go like, goback to normal, they'll go to

(13:03):
your postpartum ovaries and theregulation and things like that
that takes about two years.
That's why these women thathave like that you got those,
those duggers that have like theback-to-back-to-back-to-back
babies, like by the time she hitbaby 19, they said if you have
another child you're going todie like period and but they

(13:24):
never completely heal, like Ican only imagine what that woman
struggles with inside that headof hers, like I know giving it
to jesus and all of the things.
Like I relate, I understand,but that's a lot of hormones and
that's a lot of likedysregulation.
And so when we take thesethings into account, codes say,
say they give us a lot of likedysregulation.
And so when we take thesethings into account, say they

(13:47):
give us a lot for the first yearpostpartum, it's going to do
what it needs to do.
It's a great drug, it does whatit needs to do, it has a job.
But the problem is is thatpostpartum depression lasts for
seven years in the body and sowe go to wean off of it and and
we're like, oh, I'm still broken.

(14:07):
I thought this was supposed tofix me, but without the context
of postpartum depression lastingfor seven years, like we can't
be on Zoloft for seven years.
It's not good for the rest ofus, but without that knowledge,
there's no grace.
It's like we're expected tojust okay, you popped out a baby

(14:28):
.
Here's a pill for a littlewhile.
Oh, you're still not okay.
Maybe we need to look furtherinto this.
Maybe we need to go on a grippysock vacation.
Maybe we need to be doing allthese other things instead of
just hey, it takes time.
It's okay that it takes time.

(14:53):
You grew an entire life and andI feel like in in womb wellness
and womb care, that issomething that is just not
talked about enough Like thereis a support before getting
pregnant.
There's really a lack ofsupport while women are pregnant
.
But this postpartum era there'ssuch a lack of information and
women are just expected to justbe okay after growing an entire

(15:17):
human that literally will makeyour teeth fall out of your body
, it sucks the nutrients out ofyour body and you're expected to
just be okay I'm over herebecause I take zoloft, and then
you said something that, socertain things are starting to
click.

Speaker 2 (15:35):
I just think about the fact that my daughter was
born seven years after I mean,my daughter was born seven years
before my son was born, so Iwas.
It makes sense, though, too,because, like I was just getting
better, like yeah, I really was, and that's when I found my, my
current husband, and wound upgetting pregnant and whatnot.

(15:57):
And now he's three, he'll befour in February, and I feel
like, because I had the worst Idon't know if it was postpartum
or the baby blues or whatever,but um, and he's just a very,
very vibrant child too, and Iquestion, like, is he on the
spectrum sometimes?

(16:18):
Am I on the spectrum?
Um, and then you were talkingabout sensory stuff.
It's like I see so manysimilarities that you know it's
freaking me out.

Speaker 1 (16:27):
I can feel my skin.
Oh yeah, no, like literally.
I have this like rash that I'vebeen dealing with lately.
I think it's what I can find.
Everybody keeps telling me Ineed to go to a dermatologist,
but I know that they're going toput me on steroids to make the
rash just go away and I'm likeI'll just deal with the rash.
It's fine, but I found I thinkthat what it is is it's like a,

(16:53):
like a skin fungus, almost likea, an issue Cause it.
What it does is it.
I thought it was eczema, but itdoesn't have the dry patches
and it just gets itchy and itcreates these like little
circles on my back and then Ican't tan in those spots, so
like my whole back looks like Ihave that one skin condition
where it's like differentpigments of skin.
It's not the case and like I'musing there's the medicine and

(17:14):
head and shoulders.
Apparently, if you use it as abody wash, it'll make it go away
, and so I've been doing thatfor a couple of days.
I'm going to see if it works,but I can literally feel like it
doesn't itch.
A couple of days I'm going tosee if it works, but I can
literally feel like it doesn'titch, but I can like feel my
back and it's very annoying.

Speaker 2 (17:32):
Uh, so anyway, I'm just giggling, but not that, not
if I have a rash or anythingabout your skin, but it's just
that I cause I have moments likethat, like when I shower, I
cannot, I have to.
It's really weird.
I shower, I cannot, I have to.
It's really weird.
And it's my shower.
It's not like it's some publicshower, but like in my mind, the
way the water.
So once the water is no longerrunning, I can't stand and still

(17:55):
water.
So like I, literally sometimes,because I'm like so
overstimulated by the feeling ofwater underneath my feet, which
is weird.
I love the beach, I love thesand, but there's, I don't know,
the sensory, like my senses onmy feet cannot stand the feeling
of the shower with water that'snot running and like I will if

(18:17):
anybody ever had a camera in mybathroom.
I'm probably like ridiculous,well, and I'm like super
overstimulated, I've had a roughday or something like that.
I will leave the shower runningso that the water is still
running.
Yeah, my feet are okay and I'lljump out of the shower.

Speaker 1 (18:32):
I I understand this though, because, like, my
husband has made fun of me inthe past, nicely lovingly made
fun of me because in the showerI have to do things in a in a
specific order, like, if it doesnot go in that specific order
like, say, I ran out ofconditioner for some reason and

(18:52):
I didn't know I was out ofconditioner I can't use a
different conditioner, like it'snot going to work.
It's not the same.
I like I can't.
I have to wash my hair,condition my hair.
The same I like I can't I haveto wash my hair, condition my
hair, then wash my body.
And I can't be in the waterwhen I'm washing my body, like
it can't be touching me and solike, and then I have to do it

(19:16):
all, and then I have to get backin the water, rinse it all and
then step out of the water andshave and then get back in, and
it's this whole process.
And if one like I can't do,like hair wash days because I
can't take a shower and not washmy hair, and so it's, it's this
whole thing.
And when my husband and I firstgot married, he was like he was

(19:39):
washing his body before hewashed his hair and I was like
what are are you doing?
You're doing it wrong.
He was like what do you mean?
Like here, wash your body?
And I was like no, I can't.
I haven't washed my hair yet.
He's not used to it now after11 years.

(20:02):
But like it's just, like it hasto go in that order and like
it's just it's a mess, but Ican't take a shower if it
doesn't go in that order, soit's like the shower, is it?

Speaker 2 (20:13):
I'm uncomfortable oh my gosh, oh, so funny.
But yeah, the skin.
The skin is what set me off,because I can just be sitting
here and it's like almost like Ican feel like have you ever
heard so?
Like in science class, when youstart learning about like
parasites and stuff like that um, and then they start talking

(20:34):
about like how we have littlelike the bacteria and stuff.
Yeah, yeah, I feel like I canfeel this shit move on my skin,
like if I'm too still, I canfeel that whatever is helping me
, whatever bacteria or whateverlittle, it's like this little
tingly feeling.
Yeah, I can like feel it, but,and I've always thought that
I've always thought that I'mlike crazy.

Speaker 1 (20:58):
Oh no, not crazy, just probably a little autistic,
me and my best friend.
That's all we make.
We make jokes about how we're,just we're on the, we're a
little bit on the tism spectrum,like because her, her, her son
is severely autistic, and likewe make jokes all the time about
I mean, it's probably dark,it's probably insensitive to

(21:19):
other people, but like we're, wemake jokes how, if, like, okay,
if, if theo is his name, iftheo can function and he can
transition, you normies have noexcuse like you better get it
together right now, because wehave seven kids between the two
of us.
And so we're like, if you, ifhe can do it, you can do it.

(21:40):
He is the standard, the bar solow.
If he can do it, then you cando it.
And, who knows, I might screwup the kids one day, but they'll
survive, they'll be fine.

Speaker 2 (21:50):
I've decided that our kids are going to be fucked up
regardless.
It's just.
How are they going to be?
Every kid's gonna be fucked upin some way.
I beat myself up all the timelike am I doing this right?
Um, I just uh, it's just,they're gonna be fucked up
regardless.
Just yep, and not as fucked upas me.

Speaker 1 (22:07):
Hopefully I do the same thing, but like my, I'm
like I can deal with y'allhaving a little bit of
self-esteem issues.
I can deal with y'all sayingyou got your ass whooped a
little bit too hard.
That's fine if I can get y'allto 18 without any sexual trauma.
I've won the parent game Likethat is that is my goal is I.

(22:29):
If I can get y'all to 18 with nochildhood sexual trauma, I've
won in my mind Like you can hateme all the live long day.
I will love you regardless.
I do my best.
I try to control my temper.
I try.
I've been working on my yellingbut like I have rules in my

(22:52):
house when it comes to my kidsand like and it's caused
problems in my family beforeBecause like you can't take just
one kid, you have to take two.
Like you're never allowed tohave just one child alone
sleepovers.
I don't care who you are,you're, you have to mama, daddy.
I well, I don't got a daddy,but mom, like even my mom, she

(23:14):
was like, well, they needone-on-one time.
I was like, no, they don't,they don't need one-on-one time,
you can take two.
I love you, but you can taketwo because accountability, like
it is a lot less likely you'regoing to fuck with one of my
kids or a lot with both my kidsthere than it is for one.
And so it's like.
I remember one time when my kidswere really really little,

(23:37):
really little.
They were like I think they werelike four or five.
Uh, we were in Alaska visitingand my mom's neighbor at the
time had like a garden in hisbackyard and Elijah, my nine
year old he's nine now, he's theolder of the boys he wanted to
go over in the garden and my momwas asking and I was like

(23:57):
either you go with him or he'sgot to take two.
She was like well, you don'ttrust him.
And I was like I had nothing todo with trust.
He could be the greatest guy inthe world.
I don't care, you either taketwo or you get none, because I'm
not going to allow somebody tobe alone with my kids, period,

(24:18):
and they're always even with me.
Getting back into church.
One of the like the church, oneof the standards that I had for
the church, is you better havea wicked high security system
and an accountability process,because I you got me fucked up
if somebody's going to be alonewith my kids, and especially
with my oldest being in youthgroup, like no you know, say no

(24:46):
more.

Speaker 2 (24:46):
I grew up in church.
Interesting that we're talkingabout this, though, because um
don't say all either, but my, mymom's brother, who's my uncle.
He just passed away and so thathis funeral's this weekend.
It is, uh, it at the.
It's at the church I grew up inwhich I have a lot, a lot of

(25:09):
trauma there, so it's going tobe very interesting.
And my husband was like justdon't, you don't have to go.
And I was like this is morelike I didn't go see his body
because I just it soundsterrible.
I have nothing for this man,yeah.
I know what you mean, yeah, Ijust, I, I unforgivable things,

(25:36):
so but I want, but I know likemy mom needs me, so I'll be
there for that, but it's goingto be interesting.
It's going to be interestingbecause I'm deaf.
I feel like you probably alreadyknow this, but I'm like, ah, I
don't want to put life on myself, but I'm the, I'm the, I'm the
black sheep sort of, and so it'sgoing to be interesting because
I feel like, for my experience,people tend to talk a lot and

(25:56):
I'm going to walk in and it'sjust going to be interesting to
see how I respond, how theyrespond, because we haven't seen
each other in such a long timeand I've grown so much and I
also yeah, I hear a lot of thetime through the grapevine like
I've lost two of my friends tojust.
I don't even know why they don'ttalk to me anymore no idea why.

(26:20):
None, they've just dropped offthe face of the planet.
Um, but then, like one friend,whenever I had it was last last
summer I had a deal worked outwith a girl to where I would pay
for her rent and she would comehelp me with my kids.
So she was like a summer nannyand when she started, so the
girl was the cousin of my best,one of my best friends, who have

(26:42):
just like dropped off the faceof the planet.
And after we spent I don't knowa few days together and she
started seeing me and how I amand like what I'm like as a
person and what I stand for andhow I live my life in a peaceful
manner and I'm very, I keep tomyself and whatnot.
I just remember her going, she,she looked at like that cock to

(27:05):
the cock to the side, kind oflook like thinking about, and I
was just like what?
And she goes, I just don't seeit.
And I was like, well, don't yousee?
And she said I just so, and soI won't say her name.
So and so when she found out Iwas coming to work for you,
called me and advised me againstit and told me how she was

(27:25):
worried about me and how she wasgoing to be worried if I was
employed by you and that you areinto devil worshiping and God
knows what else.
And she just was bashing,bashing and I was just like man.
This is the person that I usedto rent a house from her.
She's seen me go through thedarkest shit.

(27:45):
We have had heart to heartswhile she's getting drunk and
I'm getting drunk in theswimming pool Like so.
Anyway, it's just going to beinteresting because I know it's
going to be interesting, forsure.
Yeah, she won't be there, butit's just it.
It makes me think about how howfar I've come in the church
Really.
It makes me think about how farI've come and the church really

(28:06):
.
I don't want to blame churchand I'm not going to blame
church people.
It's not church in general,it's the people inside of it
that really set the standard.
But I was really hurt and reallytraumatized and it has to do

(28:26):
with the whole like I thinkthat's.
I mean, I had sexual trauma upbefore that, like at a very
young age.
But, um, I don't know if theysee it this way, but I came
small short story, since we'retalking about sex and whatnot,
uh, and the trauma and churchand everything.
But my last memory of thischurch is the pastor's son and
the past, not son, the pastor's,um, grandson and I.

(28:47):
We had like this.
It was that new love.
You know, we grew up aroundeach other and as soon as I
started getting tips, he startedpaying attention, didn't want
anything to do with me and Icame from the bad stock like,
where our family is known for alot of addiction, abuse, stuff

(29:07):
like that.
So anyway, but I lost myvirginity to him and I told my
mom in complete confidence,because I was always raised
because she has a bunch of kidsand not by all the same men, so
she always wanted me to learnlike to be respectful and that's
it's like she didn't want me towind up, knocked up super early
, yeah.
So I told her because I was inlove, I mean I was in love, I

(29:31):
was in deep love and I gavemyself to that boy and then it
was, I swear within.
I mean it was like the nextSunday we had a guest preacher
he never preaches and he sat, Imean he stood up there and and
he I just felt so condemned forbeing in love and losing my

(29:53):
virginity.
The whole fucking church knew,the whole church knew.
And you know, at church onSundays, especially like
Southern Baptist, pentecostalI'm trying to think of some, I
don't know other, all the veryconservative people, yeah, yeah,
you know we go at the end ofthe sermon and we pray at the

(30:15):
pews up front and everybody,yeah, and it's like the more the
merrier thing, right, yeah.
Nobody fucking got up that day.

Speaker 1 (30:23):
I knew it was for me and that's how I remember it,
and maybe they don't remember itthat way, but it was just like
really fucking traumatizing tohave your virginity blasted to
the public I, oh yeah, my, wetalked about this before, like
now granted, it wasn't to thepublic, but it sure felt public
with my story, with like losingmy virginity and my dad going

(30:44):
through my journal like dude, no, like, literally we went.
He picked me up, I remember,because he was driving my car,
my car my grandma gave me.
I was 14, my grandma gave methis pink car.
I was so excited it was pink.
I was so excited.
From when I turned 16, theyrallied the fuck out of this car
and broke it.
I was so angry.

(31:04):
Um, but I remember my dad lit inlike little North pole, like
this town is, it's itty bitty,like it's tiny.
And I was walking home fromschool.
My dad pulls up next to me.
My stepdad was like get in thecar.
And then he told me he wentthrough my journal.
And then he was like give medirections to your boyfriend's
house.
So we drove to my boyfriend'shouse because my boyfriend at

(31:27):
the time was not in school.
He was.
He was a degenerate, like not agood kid, still is not a good
kid, still an addict.
Well, he's an adult now, he'sin his thirties, but like still,
and his dad or his grandpa wasa part of the hell of angels and

(31:52):
so, which doesn't hold much intiny little alaska but like in
whatever.
And so he drove me up there andhe goes and he like bangs on
the door and my boyfriend comesoutside and his grandpa comes
outside and my dad's likeyelling at this boy and his
grandpa's like you're on yourown, and goes inside and left
this little 14 year old boy todeal with my like six foot

(32:15):
tatted muscle stepdad and hefreaked out on him and then and
then drove me home.
I was grounded, I wasembarrassed and like, shortly
after that we broke up and nowwas it for my own good, yeah,
but like I haven't journaledsince, like I still don't, like

(32:39):
I don't, I don't like it, Idon't want to.
Yeah, and so I just don't, Idon't like it, I don't want to.
Yeah, and so I just don't, andlike things like that.
When people, when you areembarrassed, like you're put to
shame, shame that's over oversuch a sensitive decision that,
like you felt, like you put alot of thought into, like I love

(33:04):
this boy, like I thought heloved me, like I wanted to give
it to him, I chose that and thenyou embarrassed me and made me
question my decision.
Like it was my body to do withwhat I wanted to, and and so,
and.
Then you chose shame.
Like of all of the paths youcould have chosen, you chose

(33:24):
shame.
Now I think about it on the flipside of this.
Like they were, at that time,my mom would have been 29.
And this man would have been mystepdad, would have been 34.
I am 31 years old and I thinkabout it and I'm like I have

(33:48):
done a lot of self-development,I've done a lot of reading, so
like I have a little bit moreunder my belt.
But like to think about being aparent to a 14 year old at 29
years old, like you don't knowjack diddly squat about life at
29 years old, like even thoughyou had been, like you've been
doing life for a little while,like now at 31, I'm like I still

(34:12):
don't know shit.
Like everything I know ain'tshit.
I call my mom on the regular.
I'm like mom, I'm so sorry, Ijust didn't know.
Like I thought you were sosmart, but you're, we're really
stupid and and we laugh about itbecause she was like yeah, yeah
, I really didn't know what Ididn't know and I'm like yeah,

(34:35):
yeah, I think I.

Speaker 2 (34:38):
It's like to put yourself, like to flip the
script, and I try to think aboutit like because I have a
daughter.
She's 11, she's about to,she'll be 12 in february and
jennifer's gonna be 12 injanuary what in january?
January, when uh 24th 20 getout.
It's weird it's weird, we'reconnected in weird ways yes, um,

(35:02):
I have to tell you about howcamp my son.
Well, his first name isactually Philip.
I didn't know, your husband'sname is Philip, but, um, anyway,
I'm getting off.
I'm getting off subject.
What were we talking?

Speaker 1 (35:14):
about, uh, your daughter's turning 12 in
February oh yeah, anyway I'mflipping the script.

Speaker 2 (35:20):
yeah, yeah, flipping the scroll, but I just I'm in a.
I'm in a spot now where she'sgrowing and she lost her dad in
2020, like over the pandemic,yeah, and so we're both.
It's.
It's a really interesting phaseright now.
I'm trying to learn, I'm tryingto put myself back in her like
her shoes, being at that age,and there are just so many

(35:42):
moments where I feel myself, um,it's, I'll be honest, it's
mostly I feel very like it'sexpected of me to instill shame
in a sense.
Yeah, like that's thediscipline, like we're supposed
to discipline them and so.
But what I'm finding is, isthat so like it's really

(36:05):
difficult?
Um her having a stepdad?
They don't connect, they're notemotionally connected, they do
not get along, uh, and thenthat's hard, it's really hard.
Um, it's a private conversationwe should chat.
Yeah, I actually actually needsome advice, if I'm being honest
.
Um, but so we're going through,like she's going through, all

(36:26):
these changes to begin with, andthen I'm I'm 35.
I'm just now really discoveringwho I am.
I feel like we're kind of, in asense, growing up together but
to find, to find the, thebalance and like I don't know,
it's just hard.
It's hard because she's socurious and I know she wants to.
She's already like wanting tofall in love and all these

(36:48):
things because her dad died, soshe's trying to replace the man
that meant everything to her youknow, and I'm just sitting here
like feeling like I, as much asI'm trying to break the
generational curses, could I berepeating them by?
Not, I don't.

Speaker 1 (37:07):
uh, maybe you know what I'm trying to say yeah, I
know what you're saying because,like I'm, I I'm not struggling
so much with genevieve in thelike, trying to find love
outside, but I am.
I'm going through this processwith her right now.
Where she's on she, she's onrestriction, like I've taken all
of her devices away because shewas getting on them in the

(37:33):
evenings when she's not supposedto be and staying up late and
then, like, not waking up ontime and going through this
process, process.
But one of the things that Itell her and I use this phrase
with all my kids all the time,because it was something my mom
never said to me is like this ismy first time being a parent to
an 11 year old and this is myfirst time being 31.

(37:54):
So I know about as much as youknow about being 11.
And being a parent to an 11 yearold.
Yeah, because, like, I don'tknow what the fuck I'm doing,
I'm just doing the best I can.
I'm reading a lot and I say I'msorry a lot.
Like one of the things that mymom did not do was say I'm sorry

(38:17):
and I remember her giving meadvice early on about not
apologizing to my kids and youhave to stand firm, and I'm like
no, no, no, I don't, Iapologize, like I I.
I noticed patterns in myselfwhen I'm cold, shouldering my
kids when they pissed me off,and I will go back and be like,

(38:39):
hey, I'm sinning against you,like this is wrong.
I'm the parent.
I'm not supposed to behave likethis.
I'm doing the best I can.

Speaker 2 (38:49):
Oh man, you've given me so many chills because I'll
tell you in a minute man keepgoing, but like I had to explain
to her.

Speaker 1 (39:00):
I'm like you know, okay, you're 11.
I had to explain to her.
I'm like you know, okay, you're11, and you're talking about
like all these ideas of likethings you want to do and all
this stuff, but like that takestrust and trust starts now you
want things when you're 16,you're talking about being able
to drive and like being excited,but like, if you're breaking

(39:23):
your trusted 11, that that's thefoundation.
That's where we got to start.
Like we start this relationshipnow.
If you want to be able to havethat, I like something.
I've told something.
My mom said to me a lot when Iwas a kid and as I became an
adult.
It's like teenagers suck.
Like she told me that all thetime Teenagers are the hardest

(39:45):
part, they're the worst partabout being a parent.
And and from the time mydaughter was born, when I was 19
years old, I've been excitedfor her to be a teenager.
I'm so excited for my boys tobe teenagers.
It for my boys to be teenagersLike boys are the goofiest, like

(40:07):
I love 14 to like 19 becausethey're just so silly, they're
so goofy and explorative andlike just just so much fun.
And and I've told my kids, fromI don't even know when that
like I am so excited for youguys to be teenagers and I'm so
excited for the rest of our lifetogether, like I get to spend
the rest of my life with thesetiny little humans that I

(40:30):
created, and I'm so excited I'mjust getting through this other
area Because, like toddlers andthe child and all of the this is
hard for for me because this isnot my favorite spot.
It's never been my favorite spot.
I've always done really, reallywell with teenagers and young

(40:51):
adults, and and so I told her.
I was like you know, if youdon't want the teenagers to suck
, I don't want the teenagers tosuck, you don't want them to
suck and I don't want them tosuck.
We've got to work together tomake this not shitty, and that
means we have to talk.
That means, as the parent, Ihave to set rules and boundaries

(41:11):
, your jobs, to respect them.
And you can ask me why, but inthat breath of why you better be
doing what you're told, becauseI'm not going to tell you to do
something that's going to hurtyou or it's going to cause you
shame.
Do something that's going tohurt you or it's going to cause
you shame or that's going toembarrass you, but as a family
unit, like there is a peckingorder, we can be buddies, but
there is a pecking order.

(41:32):
You still got to do what you'retold and you still got to
follow the fucking rules.

Speaker 2 (41:36):
Period.
Oh for sure, just talking aboutthe girls makes me think about
so I have on my calendar overthere.
Uh, I've asked my daughter Ihave like a huge calendar from
my husband's work or whateverand I've asked her to start like
putting a red dot when shestarts her period and when then

(41:57):
when she ends it, so she can getinto that routine, because I
still, like I'm just nowstarting to keep up with mine,
unless I was trying to getpregnant.
I still have to keep up withthat shit, and I didn't even
know cycle syncing was a thinguntil I started seeing your
content, but it's so funny Ihave to show you.
I'll take a picture of it laterand I'll send it to you.
So I asked her to and as I lookover and I don't have my

(42:20):
glasses on, that shows you howbig it is I told her to put like
a little dot like a period, anactual period.
She went and put like this huge, so funny.
I thought it was great.
But I feel like that's a goodsegue before we wrap it up in a
little bit to talk about likewhat it is that what you're

(42:41):
doing.
I know you're multi-passionateand I love that you do all of it
, but I want to talk about likethe, the cycle, syncing, um,
maybe like a little introductionto it, because I don't know a
whole lot and I'm learning.
The more health conscious I amand especially, the more in sync
I am with my body, mind andspirit, I'm seeing the

(43:03):
importance of it and it's justlike I have so many questions
and I know everybody listeningis going to have a lot of
questions, but the more I sitand think about it, the more I
want to learn because I don'tknow.
It goes back to the church andit goes back to like learning
about our periods and when Istarted my period and all that.
Like I remember starting my myperiod.
I remember the day I started it.

(43:24):
I remember being fuckinghumiliated because, again, I
told my mom and she just runsaround the house with her random
boyfriend she's like I don'twant whoever it was, I actually
think it wound up being mystepdad, but I think they were
dating at that point.
So, anyway, still boyfriend,and I just remember like being
so embarrassed, but I don'tremember having like
conversations outside of okay,so you're gonna get your period

(43:47):
and that makes you a woman.
And now you can have babies andpeople may call you a bitch.
When you get that time of themonth, I was taught how to wrap
a pad up and how to dispose ofthem.
But as soon as I started havingany pain and I had excruciating
, excruciating pain when I, asalmost as soon as I started
having any pain and I hadexcruciating, excruciating pain
when I, almost as soon as Istarted my period, to the point

(44:08):
that I would be out of schoolfor days and I told you in the
comments on one of your videosthey were prescribing Lortab.
I mean if anybody doesn't knowwhat that is, just equate it to
any other like it's a painkillerand I was a high dose
painkiller yeah.
And I was 13.
Nobody wanted to like actuallyask any questions.

(44:29):
They were just like you're inpain, you're a woman now, um.
So here you go, and honestly, Ithink I started my period at 12
.
So that was pretty fuckingearly to be taking pain medicine
.

Speaker 1 (44:41):
Oh, yes, and I also started mine when I was 12.
So and I remember like verysimilar, like nobody told me
anything about, I mean forcontext, like it wasn't until I
was 26.
After I had my fourth child,that I even knew what
progesterone was, which, forthose listening, is the hormone

(45:03):
that's necessary to hold apregnancy, like we utilize it
throughout every cycle.
But, thinking about that, likeI had four children, I had just
popped out my fourth child andthat's when I learned what
progesterone did and what it waslike.
Nobody ever told me and but I'mgonna, I'll go over kind of

(45:24):
what cycle syncing is and likejust the generalities of like
what our body is as women aredoing, and my favorite part
about it is how it's tied to themoon and the cycle with the
moon, so that that's like themoon is is my baby, it's my
favorite planet, like it is oneof the coolest things to me.
I have three different moontattoos because it's just it's

(45:46):
my favorite.
So, as a woman, we actuallyhave a 28 day cycle and it's the
same as the moon.
The moon is also on a 28 daycycle where it, you know, it
becomes a full moon all the wayto a new moon and it just
continues that cycle over andover.
So the first day of our cycleis what is over and over.
So the first day of our cycleis what is actually our period,
so the first day of our actualperiod, which ranges from three

(46:11):
days to seven days on the longend.
If it's any less or any more,you're outside of the norm, and
but the average cycle length isfour to five days for most women
, with your heaviest bleedingbeing on the first day and then
like barely spotting on day five.
So you go through days onethrough seven.

(46:31):
This also begins what we callour follicular phase.
So we have four phases, but I'mgoing to kind of express them
in two main phases and then I'lltalk about each individual
phase week by week as we go.
So we have our menstrual phase,which is also the beginning of
our follicular phase.

(46:52):
So think full moon mine startson the new moon.
A lot of women's will start onthe full moon and then, once
your period ends, you go intothe second phase which, in terms
of like content, things that Ipost, is where most people will
call the follicular phase.
This is day 7 to 14, and inthis are all of our hormones are

(47:16):
starting to go back up, andmostly in this area is our
testosterone will start to rise,and this is a very happy time.
This is what most women willequate to being like the one
good week that they get out of amonth If your hormones are any
kind of fucked up.
You're only going to get onereally, really good week where

(47:39):
you feel like you have completeaccess to your brain and you
feel like you're in feminineflow because you're the most
creative in this era.
Like when I teach cycle syncing, I usually work with business
owners and typically I will havethem batch create their content
in this week because they haveno problem getting in front of

(47:59):
the camera.
Their skin is looking great,they're not breaking out, it's
plump, it's.
Your hair looks great Like.
Your mood overall is justfantastic in the follicular
phase, and so we got that.
Then we move into ovulation.
So ovulation is where the spicyside comes out.
This is where our body is like,please put a baby inside of me,

(48:20):
and is like you, like your managain, and you're like you're
wanting to get it on all thetime.
And this is typically if I havesome really, really like, if I
have, or my clients have, likespicy content not meaning like
only fans, I mean like acontroversial opinion that takes

(48:43):
a lot of confidence to put out.
I will have them film it inthis five day frame because it's
really, really easy.
This is where your confidenceis the highest.
It's because of testosterone,like.
This is the part of the monthwhere women actually have
testosterone in their system andit actually matters and is
useful.
It's also the window of timewhere you can like I said it a

(49:11):
minute ago, but this is the mainwindow of time where you can
get pregnant.
So if you're doing like naturalfamily planning, the day before
, so it's a five day window.
So day before that five daywindow and the day after that
five day window is a fertileperiod, because sperm can live
in your body for up to threedays.
So you have to be very mindfulof this era of time.

(49:32):
I do.
I utilize Google Calendar and Iwill actually do all day events
in my calendar for each phaseof my cycle so that I can plan
things accordingly.
Once that's over, we move intoour luteal phase.
The first half of our lutealphase.
It's a two week frame.
So this takes you frombasically day 18, day 19 of your

(49:56):
cycle, all the way through day28.
And this first half of theluteal phase we're still feeling
okay.
But our hormones start to dipand what happens is we get a
rise in progesterone here,because if we did have sex and
we were we got trying to getpregnant.

(50:17):
Progesterone is where thisrises and that, like I said
earlier, is a necessary hormoneto keep a baby in utero, like in
order to be able to make it sothat our body does not shed the
lining of our uterus and throw atemper tantrum.
But progesterone is also asleepy hormone and so this is
why we start to feel more inward.

(50:39):
It's what we can call like ourinner fall.
So if you think about fall, westart.
We want to go to hibernate, wewant cozy, we want slow.
That's what our luteal phase is.
That first week, theprogesterone is starting to rise
.
The second half of your lutealphase, that's where PMS usually
starts to kick in.
And for anybody listening, PMSis common, but it's not normal.

(51:05):
It is not something that needsto be normalized, it is not a
normal experience.
You can have a cycle as a womanwithout having PMS, without
having Shark Week, without beinga complete bitch to everybody
around you.
That is a very clear sign ofhormone imbalance.
And if you are struggling withsevere mood swings, severe

(51:27):
depression, severe anxiety,cramping early on, extreme
exhaustion, meaning like you're,I'm not talking sleeping nine
hours, I'm talking sleeping like12 hours hours, I'm talking
sleeping like 12 hours andmeetings like extra bits of

(51:48):
caffeine.
So when we get into this era andit's okay to take things a
little bit slower this is whereour brain physically moves from
the creative right hand side ofour brain into the left hand
side of the brain where we'revery logical, and so it's a lot
easier for us to make likeanalytical decisions or to be
like working more in thatlogical side.

(52:09):
It's a little bit harder for usto tap into our emotions.
Our libido drops because we'remore in the masculine side of
our actual cycle, and so I liketo make it with my business
owners.
I try to get them to pull back.
We're going to look at numbers.
We're going to maybe do somemore low energy but high impact

(52:32):
tasks, opponent, where theworld's going to tell us that,
oh, you're just a woman, youneed to just keep going, going,
going.
As a female, our bodies areactually telling us, like every
single month.
This week is a week for you tobe slow and intentional and care

(52:53):
for your body as you need to.
Then, once we get to the end ofthat, we're back at day.
One day, one of our cycleperiod starts.
Your period should notcompletely make you immobile.
It should not be insanelypainful, like, yes, you might
need a little bit more sleep.
Typically, I recommend, whenyou're on your period, like 10

(53:16):
hours of sleep because you arelosing a lot of blood.
Then there's also like foodcomponents and lots of other
things that I can dive into, butlike overall cycle overview.
That is what that is.

Speaker 2 (53:27):
Dude, so much I feel like I just sat through a
masterclass.

Speaker 1 (53:32):
Yeah, yeah, it is a lot.
I have a masterclass on my fanstore that breaks this down with
more specific and it's a freemaster master class, but like it
really breaks down like exactlywhat each hormone is doing, why
it's doing it, um, and givessome more description, but
that's like a very chaoticoverview of, like, what we're

(53:55):
doing, one through 28.

Speaker 2 (53:58):
I'm here for the chaos, the, the progesterone
thing, like it makes sense, butI still now I have to go do a
lot of research on progesterone.
Uh, so, if you feel so, whatare some indicators of low
progesterone?
You know, you mentioned, youmentioned it um okay.

Speaker 1 (54:18):
So low progesterone is really gonna?
It's gonna give you those clearindications of pms.
So if you think lowprogesterone is really going to,
it's going to give you thoseclear indications of PMS.
So if you think lowprogesterone, think severe PMS
and painful periods.
So when our progesterone issitting at a normal level, like
where it's supposed to be, it'snot bottomed out, because
typically, with low progesterone, you're going to have high, bad

(54:39):
estrogen, you're going to beestrogen dominant and when
you're estrogen dominant, itcauses a lot of cramping.
It causes because I mean, yougotta think about like estrogen
is an emotional roller coaster,like that.
That's just what estrogen is.
Progesterone is the queen bee,so she rules over everything.

(55:00):
She rules over your dopamine,she rules over your oxytocin,
your serotonin, um, she alsowill make it so that, like it,
when she is regulated, she willkeep all of our estrogens where
they're supposed to, because wehave we have three different
kinds of estrogens and the good,the bad and then the um I can't

(55:24):
remember what it's called theone that we have to have in
order to not go into menopause.
Um, but when she is regulatedand happy, we're going to have
low PMS symptoms where ourtransitions in our phases, like
from our ovulation into ourluteal, will be relatively calm,

(55:48):
instead of feeling anxious andangry and overwhelmed.
We're going to feel more ofthat transition of fall where
it's just the cool breeze andit's chill and it's like cozy,
we just want to, we want to nest, similar to like when we're

(56:08):
pregnant, like towards the endof a pregnancy, where we go into
this nesting phase where wewant to like tidy the house and
sit under a blanket and watch acozy movie and move slower and
react slower, and kind of likewhen we're high, like the idea
of like when we're high, likethe idea of like when we're
smoking weed, like you want thatchill, and but when she's too

(56:31):
low and we have estrogen, I meanI think about.
I think about inside out, tohave you seen that yet, okay,
and I'm going to give a littlebit of a spoiler here in inside
out, to one of the emotions thatcomes out for Riley is anxiety,
and anxiety and estrogen arevery codependent on each other

(56:55):
and it creates a lot of theselike racing thoughts, this lack
of control, um, and that's justin the mental side of things.
Uh, and she, they just don'tplay well together.
And and then on the physicalside of things, like you're
gonna feel that weight in yourchest of like just irritation

(57:17):
and irritability and you'regonna feel, um, you might start
feeling cramping early, beforeyour period even starts.
You're going to have like wetalk a lot about cravings during
PMS, where it's like we wantall the chocolate and the sweets
.
That's normal to want thechocolate because of the fact
that the oxytocin, the releasethat it comes with eating good

(57:42):
quality cacao, not likeHershey's chocolate bars, but if
you're eating like an 85% cacaobar with maybe some peanut
butter, like that's reallyreally good for your hormones
and like feeding into that.
But it's really the feelinglethargic, the cramping, the

(58:03):
irritability, that weight onyour chest and anxiety.
Like those are a lot ofsymptoms and like anxiety, like
really bad anxiety or a lot ofsymptoms of your progesterone
being really low.

Speaker 2 (58:15):
Interesting because I mean, I all those, I feel all
those things, and then whatreally stuck out to me was the
weight on the chest Finley, mydaughter, his we, we both talk
about this and um to the pointthat that we question, you know,
maybe maybe this family isn'tblending as well as we thought

(58:36):
it would, and maybe we are.
We need, to like focus on ourmental health.
I don't know yet, but there isthis overwhelming, and she has
painful periods already too.
I mean not as nearly painful asmine, but like there's this.
The way you described it wasthat weight.
Yeah, it's like right here inthe center, yeah, right at your

(58:58):
sternum, it won't fucking goaway, yeah, and we always equate
it to just anxiety and both ofus are just on this and it's so
sad and it makes me want to likebe stronger and figure out what
to do.
Like what's the next step forfor me or for us, based on
mental health and our overallwellness, like longevity and and
that feeling of not wanting toexist, like I feel that and she

(59:21):
already feels that and thatreally freaking hurts my heart,
that she's genetically gettingthe things that my mom and her
mom like they've all passed downto us through genetics.
So I'm trying to figure thesethings out.
And, anyway, what do we do?
What if you have lowprogesterone and like all these
things are resonating Like isthat something that we can?

(59:42):
How do we get that back in ourbodies?
Is it a supplement?
Like?
What do we do?
So it's food.

Speaker 1 (59:49):
Seriously.
So a lot of it, a lot of myjourney, was food.
That's where I made a lot ofadjustments.
So I like my.
My weak point right now is myenergy drinks.
Like I I am, they are mycomfort animal.
I love my energy drinks, but Ipay for them.

(01:00:09):
Like I, there is a cost thatcomes with my energy drinks.
Um, when you are practicingcycle syncing, a lot of it boils
down to the food that you'reeating and what you're choosing
to consume.
So, like when I first havesomebody come into my realm and
within, so that, um, that, um,that uh, beta group that I had,

(01:00:33):
that I did in August.
I had a lady come in andtalking about how she was having
really bad PMS.
She was having awful cramps andthe first thing I, the first
part of my intake, is what areyou eating like, what is your,
what are your regulars?
How, how much dairy, how muchcaffeine, how much gluten, how
much are you sleeping and howmuch water?

(01:00:54):
So with her it was she washaving boba tea like all the
time.
So it was very high dairyintake.
She had very high gluten intake.
I had her cut those two thingsout and her PMS and her periods
gone, barely existent like nomore PMS symptoms, no more
cramping at all.

Speaker 2 (01:01:14):
Please tell me you're are you?
Saying that I I love, likecheese.

Speaker 1 (01:01:19):
So much, it's more.
So what I do is I have peoplecut it out for a cycle, just
like, okay, let's just one cyclefrom period to the end, like
day one, all the way to the end.
Cut out the things that couldbe causing inflammation and
let's add in a couple of thingsinstead.

(01:01:41):
So like, for her it was bobatea.
I was like, okay, cut that outor get dairy free.
Like, just get dairy free.
And for, like, caffeine I'vehad people if your daughter
drinks any caffeine, thenhonestly, if she's having really
painful periods, have her stop,because caffeine is will make
the uterus contract and it makesit worse.

(01:02:02):
Okay, so like, typically, Iwon't drink it during my period
because it'll just make me havecramps even if I'm doing fine my
period, because it'll just makeme have cramps even if I'm
doing fine.
And then adding in a lot ofcruciferous vegetables are
really good.
So broccoli, brussels sprouts,anything within that realm.
For you, I would add in asupplement called DIM D-I-M it's

(01:02:28):
dimethylene is what it's called, and it's a concentrated
version of a um, a component ofbroccoli, and it makes it really
.
It's easier for us who are ofage, who have had, like our, our
period for an extended periodof time.
That's I took, and it took myperiods when, after I had

(01:02:49):
Delilah, from seven days, I wasimmobile on the couch.
After I had Delilah, it was sobad and I started taking DIM.
You take it three weeks, um,every day.
You're not bleeding as when youtake it and then you just don't
take it when you're on yourperiod and it helps raise your
progesterone and lower your badestrogen.

(01:03:12):
It works great for yourdaughter, since she's so young.
It would just be whole foods,so I would just focus on, like
the cruciferous vegetables.
Sweet potatoes are really reallygood.
Um, when it comes to regulatingyour periods, you want to focus
on high protein, high complexcarbs and then healthy fats like

(01:03:33):
avocado oil and olive oil,coconut oil, and then making
sure that those are all in there.
But sweet potatoes are a reallyreally good one, especially in
your luteal phase.
If you break up your phasesinto the, into the seasons, it
makes it a lot easier to figureout what to eat, because your

(01:03:53):
luteal phase is your inner fall,so it's literally all the fall
vegetables like they.
That's what your body is goingto tell you.
It needs progesterone, risesand falls on fats and complex
carbs, like it needs complexcarbs and fats in order to
function and isn't that likewhat most women are always try

(01:04:14):
to cut out?

Speaker 2 (01:04:15):
is the carbs, too, like carbs?
And fat, yeah, carbs and fat,and those are my favorite yeah,
and so it's like even thismorning.

Speaker 1 (01:04:25):
So my period is getting over.
So right now I'm focusing oniron, because I just lost a
bunch of iron through my period.
So I'm at eating a lot of redmeat and I'm eating a lot of
things with fiber in it, and sothis morning I had ground beef,
zucchini, bell peppers,mushrooms and just rolled it up
into a tortilla.
That's what I had for breakfastand and some toast.

(01:04:49):
I had toast and peanut butterand then seed cycling is another
one that you can do.
Um, that's really easy,especially if she likes to snack
like if she's a snacker forsure then, um, so during the
first two weeks of your cycleyou do flax seed and pumpkin
seeds and then, once she's atovulation, you switch it to

(01:05:11):
sesame seeds and sunflower seedsand those.
They help each side of thespectrum of your hormones and
and so it works really well, andso that's what I start.
That's how I got on my cycle.
Syncing journey was through seedcycling and I used to make like
little protein balls.
So I would get like naturalpeanut butter and I would put

(01:05:35):
all of the things in there withsome like raisins and whatever,
and just roll them up.
Or you can make granola barsand then the same thing, and I
would just meal prep them sothat I could eat them.
And then Brazil nuts areanother one.
They're kind of hard to find,but you can order them on Amazon
.
Eating two Brazil nuts on anempty stomach every day helps

(01:05:56):
regulate the hormones and yournervous system.
It's the, if I remembercorrectly, it's the potassium
and something else in Brazilnuts are, and the healthy fats
are really really good for yourhormones.
Interesting.

Speaker 2 (01:06:10):
Yeah, I feel like we can have 10 episodes are and the
healthy fats are really reallygood for your hormones
interesting like yeah, I feellike we can have 10 episodes I,
I can literally like cyclesyncing.

Speaker 1 (01:06:17):
I need to sit down and actually make that, um, the
guide to painless periods thatwe were talking about, because,
and like I was talking with afriend the other day too.
She was like aren't, aren't youworking on a cookbook?
And I'm like I mean kind ofkind of working on a cookbook,
like I'm gathering recipes forit, because, like it's something
that's needed, like it.

(01:06:39):
It's not that it's like itsounds complicated as I'm
explaining it, but once you geta grip on the basics of like
each phase, track your cycle,use an app.
My favorite app is, um, I'llsend you a.
I think I we might have talkedabout lively lively because it

(01:07:01):
is speaking of which I need toend my period, um, but uh, it
does a really good at making thesuggestions of like what to eat
and what your hormones aredoing and gives you this like
visual guide on how to followthrough and, lord willing, I
will get a partnership with them.

(01:07:22):
I'm working on it, but workingon pitching them anyways, and,
uh, I love it.
And so I think that, like every, every woman should track her
cycle.
Every woman should be trying tocut out processed foods as much
as you can, because it's justnot the sugar, the processed

(01:07:43):
sugar, like there's nothingwrong with sugar as a whole.
Like get organic sugar, thoughdon Don't get bleached sugar.
Like processed sugar does fuckwith our hormones.
Organic cane sugar there'snothing wrong with it.
And trying to get away from thewhat I call the stoner snacky
foods so your Doritos and yourchips and your your donut holes

(01:08:09):
and like all of these thingsthat are.
They're really really yummy,they're really really tasty and
they're great for like a comfortfood and our snacks, but
they're not so great for thebrain and they're not so great
for the hormones.
Typically, what tastes reallyreally good isn't going to be
really really good for the brain.
But they're okay in small doses.

(01:08:31):
But the problem that we have iswe get to our luteal phase
right before our period issupposed to start and we gorge
on them because that's what wewant, we want snacks and because
we're more hungry.
In that phase, like our body ismetabolizing things really
really fast and we're reallyhungry.
But the problem is is that whenwe gorge on all of these

(01:08:52):
processed foods, our bodydoesn't have what it needs to be
able to properly shed itslining and it makes it really,
really painful to start a newphase, and so we have to keep
these things in mind as we'regetting ready to start our
period.
And that's why tracking it andkeeping it like, that's why I
keep it in my Google calendar,because then if I, for instance,

(01:09:16):
if I'm scheduling somethingtowards the end of the month and
I see that that's my lutealphase, I already know that I'm
going to want to be a hermit.
I already know I'm looking atthat.
I am not going to want to goout, I am not going to want to
hang out with a bunch of people,I am not going to want to be
doing a bunch of things.
So I can be mindful of myschedule.

(01:09:38):
I can be mindful of like, okay,I can handle probably a
singular social outing on likeany given day on in my luteal
phase.
It's not going to be going likeI went to bush gardens, I went
to a theme park on my period.
I slept for like 12 hours thatnight because I was so exhausted

(01:10:00):
, because it took so much moreout of me.
I was out in the sun, it washumid, I was around a bunch of
people.
You absorb all of that energy,like it was exhausting and and
so like, uh, but it was lastminute, I wasn't in my calendar,
it wasn't planned.
I literally had 30 minutes toget everybody ready to go and we

(01:10:24):
just went.
But I paid the price for itlike I was like, okay, I will
pay the price for doing thisbecause the kids had fun.
But ultimately, like I paid theprice for it, like I was like,
okay, I will pay the price fordoing this because the kids had
fun.
But ultimately, like I was theone who had to deal with the
consequences.
And so when we're mindful ofwhat's going on and we know,
then we can actually, you know,play things a little bit

(01:10:44):
differently.
We can if we know that we'regoing to be in our more creative
brain.
So it's like, you know, in ourperiod and then moving into our
follicular phase, like, okay, Iknow that I'm going to have more
energy, I know that I'm goingto want to do these things.
But, like for your daughter,like it would affect if she has
a big test coming on.

(01:11:06):
Like, say, she has a big testin her luteal phase.
She's going to have to studydifferently.
And she's going to have tostudy differently, she's going
to have to sleep differently,she's going to need to eat
differently.
Her focus is going to be allover the place, whether she has
ADHD or not.
It's going to be hard for herto focus and retain information
and recall information, becauseit's just not the way that the

(01:11:27):
brain is.
It's not wired to work that wayfor women, and so it's just
different.

Speaker 2 (01:11:34):
Yeah, and I don't ever you don't ever stop and
think about brain health beingtied to womb health, by any
means.
But it's all starting to makesense.
So it's all starting to makesense.

Speaker 1 (01:11:45):
They're all very, very woven together and like,
and that's why this work thatI'm doing is so important.
And if only I could figure outhow to like, take these
conversations, because I havemultiple podcasts out that are
like this, where it's like I'msitting here and I'm just
talking and talking, talking,and put it into freaking content
for my own Instagram.

(01:12:05):
That's where I struggle.

Speaker 2 (01:12:09):
You should just have your own podcast and then you
should record those videos andthen you should use something
like opus clip and then you justtake the link from zoom or
wherever you recorded it it'susually a zoom works really well
and then you pop it in thereand it makes you a bunch of
videos and then you can schedulethem from there.
That's what I do with mine.
I take these videos, Irepurpose them as content it

(01:12:34):
public.
I have everything set up sothat it's building the podcast,
um trajectory, the downloads, uh, and then I have lots of
content too.
So we're gonna have to talk.
I think we have some ways thatwe can help each other.

Speaker 1 (01:12:51):
I think so too, because this is you're sitting
on a gold mine.
It's my favorite thing, yeah,like it's literally my favorite.
I think it's the coolest thingever.
It is.
And we're just so special, likeour our infradian rhythm.
So women have two.
Men have a singular rhythm.

(01:13:13):
The world is designed off thecircadian rhythm, which only
applies to men, like, yes, wehave as women, we have a
circadian rhythm as well, but wealso have our infradian rhythm,
which is this cyclical rhythmthat I've been talking about
this entire time, is called yourinfradian rhythm and it changes
week by week.

(01:13:33):
It makes it make absolutely nosense for us to live our way,
our lives the same way as men.
It doesn't make any sense atall because we have two rhythms
and and it's just the coolestbit of information that, like,
nobody talks about, nobody hasbeen taught and it's not talked

(01:13:56):
about enough on how it impactsevery area of our life, from
puberty to just being an adultwoman, to pregnancy, to
post-pregnancy, intoperimenopause and menopause.
Like these things are notdiscussed, they're not studied

(01:14:19):
enough.

Speaker 2 (01:14:20):
they're not, but I think it's because, like, just
think about when we were kids,like when Finley, when she has
like she'll, if she doesn't knowher periods, coming on, because
it's the very beginning, know,it's like all over the place,
it's not regular yet.
But I just I get so worriedabout people being mean about
this because I remember, like mycousin, we were in the same

(01:14:42):
grade being in school and shestarted her period and it got on
her shorts.
So I think that we're justconditioned as society.
So I think that we're justconditioned as society.

(01:15:03):
It's so interesting that themost natural things we don't
talk about, but then is it's anatural thing to do,
masturbation, um the peer youknow the cycle.

Speaker 1 (01:15:15):
Like it's gross, it's taboo, it's like I mean even I,
since going to back to church,I've talked like people ask me
what I do for work and I'm like,how do you say?
Well, what do do you think?
Like I.
So it depends on who I'mtalking to.
For the most part, I explainedto people that I I am a womb

(01:15:38):
wellness mentor.
Like I teach women how to havepainless periods and how to have
a cycle that they enjoy,because it is possible to have a
period that you don't notice isthere, that does not impact
your life.
I have experienced that onnumerous occasions.

(01:16:00):
I can always tell my friendscall me the period psychic,
because if we have, if we haveplans and and I did this back in
August, me and my best friend,we had plans to go to the beach
and we talk all the time.
We live two hours apart, wetalk all the time and I knew

(01:16:20):
throughout that month she waseating less than 1,000 calories
a day.
She had anywhere from two tofour Red Bulls a day.
She was barely sleeping.
She was extremely stressed, bothfinancially and emotionally,
and I called her, I think twodays before we were supposed to

(01:16:41):
go, because our periods aresynced up.
We spend that much timetogether that our periods are in
sync and I was like, listen,babe, our period is supposed to
start this day.
And I was like, listen, babe,our period is supposed to start
this day and you have had this.
This kind of month we need tocancel, like where we will go to
the beach a different day.
I've had an okay month, but youhave not.

(01:17:02):
And lo and behold, her periodstarted the day we were supposed
to go and she was in herbedroom puking because her
cramps were so bad.

Speaker 2 (01:17:15):
I didn't mean to laugh that hard and interrupt
you, but like the period, butit's like that's the thing is.

Speaker 1 (01:17:22):
You can tell me how your month has gone, tell me how
your diet was, tell me how muchcaffeine you had, how much.
How were you on your water?
How was your movement.
I will tell you whether or notyour period is going to suck and
if you shouldn't planaccordingly because, like I knew
that through the month ofSeptember I was booked and busy

(01:17:42):
every single day.
I knew my period was going tosuck.
I knew day one of my period,which was the day Helene hit,
which was the day Helene hit,which was ridiculous.
But day one of my period I hadthose dull, achy cramps that you
can like feel in your ovaries.
It wasn't like a that, wasn'tlike a knife stabbing.

(01:18:04):
It was dull and I was so tiredand I was like this is my fault.
I did this to myself.
I knew it was coming, but I didit to myself and, okay, it was
the price I paid.
But I know that, like I know,okay, I need to take these two.
I need to take the first twodays off.
I already know that this isgoing to happen, like I just

(01:18:28):
know because I've studied it soextensively.
Yeah, at this point they'relike I can tell you.
I can tell you if you're goingto have a bad month.
I can tell you if you're goingto feel more anxious, based off
of how you're sleeping and howyour body is working and the
things you're experiencingthroughout the month, how much

(01:18:50):
pleasure you've receivedthroughout the month.
I mean even the amount of timeslike if you tell me that you,
for instance, have only gottenoff like twice throughout the
entire month, I'm going to tellyou right now you're going to
have anxiety the week before andprobably the first three days
of your period.
All right, because fullpermission slip.

Speaker 2 (01:19:09):
I'm gonna go full permission slip.

Speaker 1 (01:19:11):
Flick the vein we're gonna, because it's all these
that's all the things like it's.
Instead of taking an ibuprofen,go get yourself off, like
promise it'll do way better, waybetter, and it's just the way
it works.
Like I, I love what I.
I'm passionate about what I do.

(01:19:32):
What I do still makes menreally uncomfortable because
they don't understand it, like Imean, when the men at church
asked me what I do, I can seetheir skin start to crawl.
They're like they don't.
It's not that they hate it,it's just that they're
uncomfortable because they don'tknow.

Speaker 2 (01:19:47):
They don't know what to say like, oh okay, like fine,
cool.

Speaker 1 (01:19:53):
And like my boys and my husband, like they know, I am
raising some men who are goingto be.
They're going to baby the fuckout of the women that they marry
because, like I, I teach them.
Like this is how you behavethis.
Like I'm on my period this iswhat we do.
This is how you behave this.
Like I'm on my period this iswhat we do.
This is how we behave.
This is how we treat women.

(01:20:13):
Like this is how it works.
My husband babies the fuck outof me when I'm on my period,
especially if I'm having a hardtime.
Like I will be very transparent.
Like, hey, I did too much thismonth.
Like I need a couple of days.
Like don't, just don't at all,don't do anything.
And and it's just like it's amatter of training the people

(01:20:37):
that are around you andcontinuing to grow this circle,
like the circle of understanding, where women know what's going
on in their body.
Like everybody can know what Iknow, everybody should know what
I know.
And and the more that you knowabout it, the more it's not
about having PMS and using it asan excuse to not do anything.

(01:21:02):
How about get rid of the PMSmake it non-existent.
Just because something's commonDoesn't make it normal.
Just because painful periods arecommon does not mean that they
are normal or should benormalized, but they are, and
PMS has been normalized to apoint where it's like oh, if you
don't want to experience that,here's birth control, this will

(01:21:25):
make it so.
You don't have it at all.
Fun fact, birth control keepsyou in your luteal phase, that
phase where I was talking aboutwanting to eat a bunch and
wanting, and where you're reallygrumpy and you're really slow
and you're really groggy andyou're fully in your logical
brain, which is why, a lot oftimes, when people get off, when
women get off birth control,they no longer like the partner

(01:21:48):
that they started dating whenthey were on birth control,
because they're not in the sameframe of mind.

Speaker 2 (01:21:54):
Oh, my God, wait, yeah, I don't even know what
else to say.
We got to wrap it up becausethere's so much, there's so much
good stuff.
They don't even like theirpartner anymore.
But that makes sense.
It makes so much sense andwe're going to.
I guess we'll end it on this.
But you, mentioning birthcontrol, like yeah, we're gonna
have to do another episode, Ithink, because I mean, that's

(01:22:17):
what was pushed on me, don't getknocked up.
So I was on birth control at 15depo, shot at that, which they
wound up the devil shot made mesuicidal, I think there's a oh
God?
Anyway, yeah, there's, but itwas that was normal.
That was normal.
Get on birth control, take painmedicine.

(01:22:40):
I just my mom at the time wasstruggling with addiction.
So it's like here you go.
She would take them.
I know you would tell me tojust give them to her instead.
It was like you just saidsomething.

Speaker 1 (01:22:51):
Big farmer not friends, huh, I mean.
Well, I said me and big farmerare not friends.
We'll have to.
I'm actually doing next monday.
I'm doing an instagram livetalking about my boundaries
within the medical industry, soI'll be talking more about my
story with being um misdiagnosedwith bipolar two and how I

(01:23:11):
ended up completely likenegating pharmaceuticals as a
whole.
They have their place.
I will accept antibiotics if Ineed them, but you got me fucked
up if you're going to put me onanything else.

Speaker 2 (01:23:23):
Yeah, so, but it all makes sense.
And so many of us girls, women,girls, before we could become
women, that's, that's what.
That's what's pushed on usbirth control and I'll never
forget the, the same woman thatgoes around telling people I'm a
devil worshiper.
I remember her.
She's like the way that you getrid of your cramps is you take

(01:23:46):
it was like ibuprofen andTylenol, and then she told me to
like stick a weight on mystomach or something, and it was
just like all these things andand I'm just like that's just
like a lot of medicine are wesupposed to take them both at
the same time?
I was just like really confused.
I didn't do it, but it justdidn't even sound right and it's
just like there's so muchmisinformation out there and

(01:24:09):
it's just like a problemband-aid.

Speaker 1 (01:24:11):
The problem I run into is when I, when I talk
about these things, is I have to.
I have to be really carefulbecause I'm not a doctor like.
This is my lived experience andthis is what I've read from
doctors.
Like I've consulted doctors andI've talked to them, i've've
read their books.
I understand I'm spreading theinformation further, like this

(01:24:34):
book in the flow by Elisa Vitti.
Fantastic book taught me every,not everything.
This got me started on my cyclesyncing journey because this is
a doctor who healed her body ofPCOS with food and continues to
spread her mission.
Fantastic book, one of myfavorites.

(01:24:56):
I give it to everybody I knowand I keep it so that everybody
can read it.
Everybody should read it.
It's available on Spotify if youhave the premium membership and
it is also audiobook on Audibleas well, so it is a fantastic
book.
Um, you can listen to it on.
She talks really really well.

(01:25:16):
She speaks very well, so youcan listen to it on like 1.5
1.75 and be able to clearlyarticulate everything that she
says.

Speaker 2 (01:25:25):
Um, but it's, it's a fantastic book I love that you
added that because, as a againjust now finding out, I'm a
manifesting generator, but I'mone of those people that I'm
like I need the informationfaster than you're willing to
give it to me, so I listen toeverything on like 1.5 or two
times speed.

Speaker 1 (01:25:43):
Yeah, I listen to it on two X speed too.
I'm listening to a book rightnow called Pussy.
It's going to be veryinteresting.
It's been very interesting sofar.
I'm only on the first chapter.
I've heard of this areclamation.
It's a reclamation, it's.
It's a little.
She's a little bit more on thewoo-woo side, more on the, than
than I am, but there's still alot in this book that is it's

(01:26:05):
very focused on like pleasureand really reclaiming the term
pussy and it not being anegative connotation.
Um, so far it's really reallygood.
It's just I'm getting throughher story right now and it's
it's very goddess focused andI'm still learning about that
and trying to like I love theterm, I love the empowerment,

(01:26:29):
but it it's also I don't knowthe way she's doing.
It's a little bit funky and sowe're getting a little funky,
and so I'm just I'm gettingthrough that part, trying to
understand where she's comingfrom well, I hope so many of our
church, our church friends, arelistening.

Speaker 2 (01:26:46):
We just said pussy.

Speaker 1 (01:26:49):
Yeah, I mean as a womb mentor.
Like you know, there is atavern that you have to go
through to get to it.

Speaker 2 (01:27:02):
So I mean, we've literally all been there.
Like, why are we not?
Yeah, okay, this has been sogood, so good, so good, so good,
so much fun.
I adore you.
You know so good, so good, somuch fun.
I adore you.
You know that.
Thank you so much for being onhere.
Um, where can everybody findyou?
How can they work with you?
You know the spiel.

Speaker 1 (01:27:21):
tell them all the things so my handle is on
instagram and tiktok is atsamanthamartinezco.
Right now I am takingone-on-one clients as well as
continuing to enroll for DivineCycle Mastery, where it's a
group-based program, you guyscan work with me on learning

(01:27:42):
cycle, syncing how to implementthe basic habits into your life,
around your physical, mentaland spiritual health, and that
will continue to move forward.
And then there's also my emaillist.
And, last but not least, is myfree networking event, alpha
Society, where you can come inyou can learn from various

(01:28:06):
different experts in variousdifferent fields.
The purpose is you know whatthey meant by get in the room,
but for free and for everybody,where I bring in industry
experts to teach you ondifferent subjects, from
business to spirituality, tojust branding in general.
And yeah, that those are allthe various different ways you

(01:28:30):
can work with me.
The links are all in my bio, ummy instagram.

Speaker 2 (01:28:33):
That's until she writes a book, because till I
write a book, till she writes abook or does something better.
All right, you're amazing.
Thank you so much.
I love you and now I'm going tonow that in florida what part
of florida, not?
Well, maybe you want to.
Oh, I'm in central Florida.
I'll tell you exactly where I'mat in my that way Cause I feel

(01:28:55):
like no, I don't feel like Iwant to see you.
We should get together.
I didn't realize we were thatclose together.
Mississippi and Florida are soclose and that's like when I go,
if I'm going to the beach, Ichoose Florida.
Everybody else goes to Alabama.
I don't know why, but I loveAlabama but I prefer Florida.
It just feels I don't know morelike the beach to me.

Speaker 1 (01:29:17):
I love Florida.
I'm originally from Alaska andFlorida feels more like home
than Alaska ever did, so I willbe here.

Speaker 2 (01:29:29):
We're going to have to talk privately about this
Alaska thing.
I don't know why.
I didn't know that either.
Like anyway, I thought I knewso much about you and I don't.
Okay, all right, babe, have agreat rest of the day.

Speaker 1 (01:29:40):
It's my turn for the gym now, bye, bye.

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