April 16, 2025 • 25 mins
What happens when life forces you to take a hard look at what really matters? Sometimes it takes an extreme situation to push you toward an authentic path.
After watching my daughter become the target of cruel bullying about her late father, I made the decision many parents dream of but few execute - pulling her from school to create a life on our own terms. Combined with my recent bipolar diagnosis, this wake-up call inspired the purchase of a camper and a journey to the beautiful Ozarks that would change our perspective on what life could be.
My coaching philosophy of "getting paid to exist" comes to life through stories from the road. It's not about passive income or trendy hustle culture - it's about aligning your income with activities you would do regardless of financial compensation. Throughout this raw conversation, I share how capturing authentic content for clients (like documenting a beautiful Reiki session between my client and my daughter) represents the antidote to the overly curated social media landscape we're drowning in.
The episode culminates with my exciting announcement: joining She Heals the World as their newest business coach, a globally recognized organization with 15 years in the coaching industry. This opportunity validates my unconventional approach and opens doors to help more women build businesses aligned with their authentic selves.
If you're tired of curated content and craving authenticity in your life and business, this episode offers both inspiration and practical insights. Share this episode with a friend who needs permission to create a life and business that feels aligned with their true self!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
hello all my beautiful people.
Jacqueline, here we're gonna doa smoke.
I mean, shoot this.
It's been a minute since I'vedone one of these.
I can't even say it.
Shoot the shit and smoke sesh,and I'll probably repurpose it
as a podcast episode because Ineed to put one of those out
tomorrow.
But hey, how the fuck are you?
(00:21):
So I just got back from let'ssee thursday, friday, saturday,
sunday, got back monday, so Iwas gone for five days, went to
the ozarks, took our camper Ibought also just recently, found
out that I'm most likelybipolar, so this large purchase.
I don't know where it makessense now, but back in january I
(00:44):
bought brand new 2025gulfstream 17 bh.
If you know anything aboutcampers, then all of that
matters.
So I bought it shortly after.
I decided I was taking mydaughter out of school and going
to homeschool her.
Because, let me tell yousomething, kids at school and
even teachers at school thesedays complete assholes.
(01:04):
I don't know what it's likewhere you're at, but they're
complete assholes and it feelslike where I'm at is like a
cookie cutter.
We all need to be the same, andshe's definitely not the same.
I'm not the same.
I was picked on a lot as a kidtoo, so it makes sense.
But the difference is thatshe's got a mom who is super
present and is able to see howher mental health was suffering
(01:27):
from it.
So in 2020, her dad passed awayand it was really fucking
suddenly.
So she was seven then and theywere best friends, absolute best
friends.
She was a daddy's girl, all thethings right.
So navigating this has beensuper.
It's been hard, it's beeninteresting, all those things
right.
But I drew the line whenevershe started telling me that kids
(01:49):
are making fun of her, makingjokes about her dad being dead,
calling her like a grave babyand all this weird shit.
So I can't remember the exactdate I took her out, but a lot
of people told me go to theschool, talk to the school
advocate.
What are they going to do?
They're not going to do shitBecause from my experience in
being in grade school because Iwas the weird kid, I was
(02:12):
definitely the quiet kid.
My family had a bad reputation,so I think people just figured
I was going to be the same, andit has been the driving force as
to why I have dove so deeplyinto things like neuroscience,
neuroplasticity, personaldevelopment, hypnosis,
(02:32):
spirituality, all those thingsright Because I didn't want to
be like everybody else.
I wanted to decide for myselfwho I got to be, and didn't know
I had mental illness at thetime.
But all of these things that Ipersonally went through as a
child, as a teenager, adolescentyears, I truly feel like
prepared me to be able toidentify when my daughter or
(02:54):
even my son or my step-sons werestruggling with that, and so it
was really a no-brainer for mewhenever it started getting to
where she was staying, superdepressed, not looking forward
to going to school anymore,stuff like that it was a no
brainer for me to just yank herout Right, and part of that was
like you know what?
I'm just going to make thisdecision.
Nobody's going to tell me whatto do, and I'm going to.
(03:15):
I'm going to raise my babiesthe way I always dreamt of
raising them, and that was beingable to, if need be, homeschool
and this shirt swallows me up Ijust realized how big it is but
be able to live life on myterms.
So part of that was probably abipolar episode where I just
said I got to have a camper andit all magically came together
(03:38):
to where I bought this camperand we just took our first trip.
So let me tell you about thistrip.
We went to the Ozarks.
I'll rewind a tad bit.
Why do we go to the Ozarks?
I have a client who lives inand around the Ozarks and I flew
to see her last summer and wedid some in-person work.
(03:59):
I filmed content, stuff likethat, and we smoked a bunch of
blunts and we got on their Iwould call it a small yacht I
don't know if we can call it ayacht, but nicer than anything
I've ever been on.
So we went on this boat and Ifell in love with the Ozarks,
absolutely fucking in love withthe Ozarks.
So it was a no brainer whenEmma said you should come and
(04:21):
you should bring your camper andbring your kids.
So I brought my two kids.
I say my two kids because mystep sons are not my bio babies,
I call mine bio babies andthey're my bonus babies, right,
so that?
And the camper only sleeps, Ithink technically, one, two,
three, five I feel you could domore than that because I would
(04:43):
say this has been our littlestand I could sleep.
That's three.
And then, honestly, the bunksfor some of our two of his sons
are pretty small, so I feel likethey could sleep together if
they really wanted to.
Well, they wouldn't even haveto sleep on the bunk.
The table, the dinette, turnsinto a bed, which is pretty big
in my opinion.
So I feel like we could sleepeverybody.
(05:04):
But it was just like that's.
Pretty much all we're gonna bedoing is sleeping in there.
But also, this trip was more sofor me to get a reset mentally
and be able to connect with mykids.
I'm gonna take a couple moreposts of this and we're gonna be
done, because I told myself Iwas cutting back.
So we went, because I met herlast summer and we had such a
great time.
I was like I cannot wait tocome back.
(05:26):
And then we were on one of ourone-on-one calls here recently
Well, I guess about a month ago.
So Emma and I were on one ofour one-on-one calls because I'm
a business coach and I'm a damngood coach, but you can only do
so much through these videos,right?
So we had this idea Let me comeup.
I'll stay for close to a weekand it would be really beautiful
(05:48):
to be able to capture you inyour element and do a little bit
more than creating content,because I feel like when you are
creating content and it'scurated, let's just be real
you're planning it all out andyou don't get to just exist,
which is my whole brand'smission is to help people get
paid to exist.
(06:09):
Whole brand's mission is to helppeople get paid to exist and
with getting paid to exist, wetake things into consideration
like your mental health, yourtrauma, your overall vision for
a lifestyle.
All these things matter.
We play on your strengths,right?
There's just a lot that goesinto getting paid to exist,
because getting paid to existmeans that you're doing more
than working.
You're doing something that youlove.
You would be doing it anyway.
(06:29):
If money wasn't a thing, you'dbe doing it anyway.
If it is part of your life,that's getting paid to exist.
So it's not something where youdread it every day.
It's not something where youhate clocking in.
You have more good days thanbad when it comes to your brand.
That's getting paid to exist.
This comes in the form ofthings like for her, it's
(06:49):
turning their ranch a littlepart of the ranch turning it
into a healing center, and sothat would allow her to get paid
to exist, because she'd wake upevery day doing what she loves
getting to do Reiki with herhorse.
So that's what we're working onright now.
But I think it's reallyimportant to be able to capture
things through the lens of aperson who is watching you.
(07:13):
So that's what we did, and Idon't know if you saw the video
and if you're listening to this,because I already just decided
in my head this is going to be apodcast episode.
So get ready.
If you pop on here and ask meany questions, I'm going to
answer them live and it will bein the episode.
But I had this idea I want tojust film you while we're
hanging out, and most of thetime she didn't even know she
(07:40):
was being filmed.
But the most beautiful partthat you guys have seen so far
was the preview, or the sneakpeek that I created.
And if you're listening to thepodcast episode, go to my
Instagram at Jacqueline Cottonand you'll see it.
But I got to capture Emma do aReiki session and a deep
meditation with my daughter.
My daughter is 12 years old.
My daughter wanted to do this.
We had a full discussion.
(08:01):
We led up to it to make surethat it was something she wanted
to do and she felt she wouldbenefit from, and she made a
very adult decision to gothrough an energy healing
session and it was reallybeautiful.
I got to watch it as her mom,but I also got to film it and,
oh my gosh, so freaking cool.
(08:22):
But that's what we went upthere for me to create content,
capture, capture, content andfor some of my clients, I create
it for them too.
This is more of the done foryou side of my business coaching
.
So my company is called CottonCoaching and Content and I don't
talk about that enough.
That's what I do.
(08:42):
I coach, business coach, andwith that, frankly, comes a lot
of fucking life coaching too.
However, I love it and evenwhen I'm not up here talking
about it all the time, it's rarethat I just don't have any
clients.
I always have clients withinthe past couple of years,
whether it be content clients orcoaching clients, I always have
clients.
So I'm blessed to be able tosay that I have that.
(09:03):
But I want to talk more on thecoaching and the content side
too.
Everyone tends to think that Ihave really great content and
one of the things that makes mycontent so good and helps it
stand out and why I claim andhave had people call me like a
digital disruptor.
Even if I don't have a lot offollowers, I press a lot of
buttons but I also have helpedquite a few people through.
(09:27):
But I also have helped quite afew people through my content
because it is so unfiltered.
So that's what helps me standout.
But with my clients, I'm ableto get to know these people and
then help them develop theirbrand's voice, the brand's vibe,
and I got to do that.
I got to do that on this trip,got to pretty much experience
(09:49):
what my dream life would bebeing able to live there for a
few days in my camper, goingback and forth between the
camper and her house becauseshe's so kind and also I just
love hanging out with her and Ifell asleep on their couch a
couple times.
But I got to experience what itis that I'm working towards.
Being there is exactly what I'mworking towards.
I want acreage and I want to beable to, every day I wake up
(10:10):
without an alarm, just my bodybe so in tune with my farm that
I'm just up in the morning, riseand shine.
I want to be able to look outwhile I'm making a pot of coffee
or French.
I like French press Don't judgeme while I'm making my coffee
to be able to look out and justsee rolling hills and cattle,
(10:30):
and I want to be able to go outand feed my chickens every day,
and so I kind of like getting tospend that time there.
Uh, be the opportunity to get ataste of it.
You know what I mean.
So it wasn't just all work.
Um, that's what I love aboutthe connections that I do form,
and I don't have a lot ofclients like this.
(10:51):
Clients are like we get alongand I love them and they love me
.
But then there are thoseclients at the deeper level.
It's like a spiritualconnection and this is one of
those connections.
My other connection is myfriend, katie, and she started
as a client and she's now one ofmy.
I would say these two are mybest friends, and so it was a
(11:12):
lot of fun.
If you've not yet been to theOzarks like Arkansas is
wonderful, so beautiful.
Missouri is wonderful.
Missouri is recreational forthose that like cannabis, so
there's that.
But it was just a wonderfultrip getting to like what it
would be like a day in that life, or, in our case, four, four or
five days in that life and whatwas really cool was so my
(11:36):
daughter did the reiki session,right, that's who you saw on the
table in that video.
If you haven't watched it yetand that's what I was trying to
tell y'all earlier is, if you'relistening to this episode, then
just go to jacqueline cotton onInstagram and you'll see
there's a video and thethumbnail is going to be of my
client, emma and her horse Flash.
I have arms, I swear they'rebeing hidden by the shirt, but
(11:56):
she's got her horse Flash andshe's walking him towards the
table, and so look for thatvideo, because that's the kind
of work that I do and I want todo more of it.
I want to do more of these likeweekends with me.
I'll leave the kids at home.
Okay, we can get a lot done,but you'll get to like one.
Oh, we got popped up Snapcrackle pop over here like Rice
(12:20):
Krispies, so I was popping myneck.
I always forget that I need totell people as well what I'm
doing, because I always usethese as the podcast episodes
too.
Now, I forgot what I was saying.
Oh, I just video.
Yeah, you need to watch it andI want to start doing more of
(12:40):
this.
That's where I was at the VIPcontent days or weekends.
Weekends would be for someone,or it would probably be like for
three days actually, because Ifeel the need to get to spend
some time with you, hang outwith you.
So about two days would be goodand capture what it is that you
do.
If you're working with animals,let me capture that.
(13:02):
If you are working with someclients in person, let me
capture that, because, like Iwas saying earlier, when you do
it yourself, it's very curated.
You know what I mean.
That's why I like doing theselives, because I fuck up, I say
shit that doesn't.
I don't even know what it meanshalf the time, but it's not
rehearsed.
Do you know what I mean?
(13:23):
So, like you go and you look ata carousel, that shit is
rehearsed.
And one I just did before thisme posing in the water.
I didn't stay in that water forvery long, was too cold, but it
looks like I'm out there havinga blast.
I was having a blast.
Actually, I was having a lot offun because I got to see my
kids in the white river.
How cool is that?
(13:44):
It's so beautiful there.
But but the water is so fuckingcold because it is coming
straight off the mountains andit is cold.
I've been there twice now andboth times it has been freezing,
it's like.
So I was having a good time,but what I'm saying is like the
curated.
It's a pose, unless it's acandid, which, if you look at
the end of that carousel of mein the water and the white river
(14:06):
, the end not rehearsed.
I was about to fall on my faceand I was laughing so hard.
It was that with my luck I'dfall, I'd trip over this little
pebble that pokes me in the footand down the river she goes.
So that part wasn't curated,but everything up to that point
is so curated.
I'm gonna do this and then right, so it's like I world right now
(14:28):
needs to hire somebody like meso that your content is not as
curated.
Um, and what's really cool islike all the filming that I did
for emma this weekend.
That is easily a year's worthof content and what I find is a
lot of people, especially newcoaches, who maybe don't have
the confidence, or if you're nottech savvy or you just don't
(14:48):
enjoy creating content, it wouldbe really beneficial to you to
hire somebody and spend.
You know what is a VIP contentday, weekend.
The days would be like you cometo me, but if you want me to
come for a weekend, I could cometo you.
So but the like I'd like totake that out of it, because
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when you're creating your owncontent as a coach, like I think
we need to see you coaching, Ithink people for her, she's a
Reiki healer.
Okay, we need to see her Reikihealing, you know, not front of
a screen and going whatever thefucking trend is of the week,
like less curation and moreexisting, and that's what I want
to capture.
So this trip though it was, so Ican't wait to go back.
(15:31):
We're talking about I'm alreadylike talking, I'm thinking of I
present this to my husband.
She's like you can come backonce a month, stay like a week a
month, and I'm like that's 12weeks out of the year, that's a
few months out of the year.
What hold on?
That's kind of like true for me.
I want a farm life, I want thefarmland and I want to be doing
something I love.
(15:52):
That's the whole pay to existvibe, right?
So do I want to do that?
Do I want to go a week out ofthe month to stay in Missouri
and live in my camper on thisbeautiful farm and create
content and help her start thishealing center.
Huh, so, like I'm out with alittle, a little land to show my
husband, hey, this is how it'sgoing to work.
I'm leaving for a month, I meanfor every month, to go live
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somewhere else and worksomewhere else.
Okay, I have more thing.
I have not told anybody.
But no, I'm not going to say Ihaven't told anybody.
I I've not announced it onlineto anybody and I've only told a
few people that are like reallyclose to me.
So you guys are, I'm about todo it and I'm going to.
(16:34):
I'll make like an official day,but I wanted to tell you and I
wanted to wait until the inkdried, until I knew it was for
real, because my lizard brainwants to tell me oh, that's
crazy, you're not, that's a scam, that you're not worth it,
that's a jet Like they don't.
I don't know.
I just thought it was going tofall through Lizard brain, right
, but it didn't.
(16:54):
And I got presented with thecontract and I got offered the
position.
So I'm going to go ahead andtell y'all Are you ready?
My boobs are jiggling.
I didn't know that was going tohappen.
Okay, I have a coachingcollaboration with the one and
only she Heals the World.
(17:15):
So they have brought me on asone of their business coaches
and they are worldwide you canlook them up here on Instagram
Worldwide and I get to do what Ilove.
I get to work with women whoare actually doing this.
You know, people don't have toconvince they're ready, they'll
take on the world.
I get to be part of that andthere's the opportunity to
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become partner down the line.
So if you've not heard of sheHeals the World, go check them
out.
They're amazing.
They've been around for 15years.
That's a huge accomplishment inthe coaching industry to be
around for 15 years and globallyrecognized.
So I was, needless to say, whenI had my phone interview with
the founder and I'm still likein my head.
(18:00):
I'm like because the phone taglike they have kind of kind of
changed, like you know, andstill just in my mind I'm just
like me what?
But they picked me and I pickedthem and so I will be running
one of their masterminds andit's oh no, my cat got a lizard.
God, luca, fuck, he's like in agut in front of me.
(18:23):
No, stop, I can't act shit likethat.
Luca, stop, stop it.
Stop, leave him alone.
You are such an asshole.
He's not an asshole, he's beinga cat.
That's the way to end thisepisode.
I just got offered a hugecoaching position with she Heals
the World, and now I'm gonna gosave this lizard that's being
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attacked and ripped apart, whichis terrible, but thank you,
thank you for congratulating me.
I'll do an official post today,but, all in all great trip it
now has me in this headspace ofwe got to do more of this.
Jacqueline will come to you.
Okay, I'll, either you, or, ifyou got some land and you need
(19:05):
me to film there, I will bringmy camper and I will come and we
will film and we will do allthe things that you need to get
done so that your brand hascontent for an entire year, so
that you have your entirebusiness strategy for the year,
your content strategy, yourposting strategy strategy.
(19:31):
We'll get all your offerscreated.
We'll get all your strike linksset up.
We'll get you set up for buynow, pay later options so that
all your clients can pay youthrough Affirm, klarna, afterpay
, stuff like that.
It can help you get everythingdone an entire weekend.
That's what Emma kind of madethis weekend is like we got so
much done and two kids here.
Like we got so much done andyou and two kids here.
So it just goes to show thatwhen you are super focused and
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this poor lizard leave him alone, luca, all right, I'm gonna go
kick this ass, this cat's ass,this poor lizard oh my God, I
don't know if he should put itout of his misery or what.
So sad, but, yeah, sorry toepisode like this, this poor
lizard.
Though, thank you again.
I hope that you all listeningon Just Women Talking Shit.
(20:15):
Don't hate me for talking shitabout my cat, but I don't know.
It's like nature, but it justbothers me, and I hope that you
check out all the content thatwe're going to be putting out
here soon.
For Emma, um, you should gocheck her out.
Embodied by Emma is herInstagram account, and I tag her
in a lot of stuff on Instagramtoo, so you can find her there,
(20:38):
and I think that's it.
Don't forget to share episodeswith your friends.
We need this this to to morepeople.
I want to start bringing onsome really big names, which is
a show.
I do have a wait list of like ahundred people already waiting
to be on the show.
I'm sitting on probably 10recordings at a time.
I'm backlogged, all the things.
So it's getting there, butit'll only get bigger if you
(21:01):
start doing, you know, your part, which is share this episode.
Or I have like a really archiveof interviews with some great
experts and great, just great ingeneral great stories and
wonderful, like just depth,knowledge and wisdom.
I would say so, whenever youfind one of those episodes I
would just recommend when it,like it's helping you or
(21:23):
somebody comes to mind.
I think it's really importantthat we share it.
So some things I'm going to tryto do better on.
I'm going to for my interviews.
I'm going to start, I think,getting some questions together
beforehand.
I've really just been kind ofwinging it.
I've been listening to the MelRobbins podcast a lot lately and
she really inspires me to bemore organized.
(21:43):
You know she's a whole teambehind her, so obviously you
know there's a lot of that anddoing the research and stuff
behind her.
Uh, so obviously you knowthere's a lot of that and doing
the research and stuff.
But I think I need to make moretime for that so I can make the
show more pleasurable for allof you, and it would also
probably help with the editingprocess too.
So, oh, it's been great.
I'm about to go drop this camperoff my brothers and just see
(22:04):
what the day holds.
I've got an appointment here ina little bit I gotta to, but
outside of that I think it'sjust a let's ready to get back
in your zone, because I've gotpodcast interviews tomorrow.
I've got client calls, all thethings.
Um, if you're ever curiousabout working with me, I am
always accepting clients.
I'm not always acceptingone-on-one clients, but I'm
(22:25):
always accepting clients.
I have, you know, my likepackage which is back and forth,
um, text, voice messages,screen recording, stuff like
that, and, um, that's alwaysopen for enrollment until until
the program comes out, whichI'll keep y'all posted on.
It's not done yet.
So I love y'all.
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I'll see you later If you, ifyou need to go smoke, get your
little smoke.
But overall, have a beautifulday on purpose and if you get
the chance to go see Arkansas,missouri, any part of the Ozarks
, do it.
It is so fucking beautiful.
hello all my beautiful people.
Jacqueline, here we're gonna doa smoke.
I mean, shoot this.
It's been a minute since I'vedone one of these.
I can't even say it.
Shoot the shit and smoke sesh,and I'll probably repurpose it
as a podcast episode because Ineed to put one of those out
tomorrow.
But hey, how the fuck are you?
(00:21):
So I just got back from let'ssee thursday, friday, saturday,
sunday, got back monday, so Iwas gone for five days, went to
the ozarks, took our camper Ibought also just recently, found
out that I'm most likelybipolar, so this large purchase.
I don't know where it makessense now, but back in january I
(00:44):
bought brand new 2025gulfstream 17 bh.
If you know anything aboutcampers, then all of that
matters.
So I bought it shortly after.
I decided I was taking mydaughter out of school and going
to homeschool her.
Because, let me tell yousomething, kids at school and
even teachers at school thesedays complete assholes.
(01:04):
I don't know what it's likewhere you're at, but they're
complete assholes and it feelslike where I'm at is like a
cookie cutter.
We all need to be the same, andshe's definitely not the same.
I'm not the same.
I was picked on a lot as a kidtoo, so it makes sense.
But the difference is thatshe's got a mom who is super
present and is able to see howher mental health was suffering
(01:27):
from it.
So in 2020, her dad passed awayand it was really fucking
suddenly.
So she was seven then and theywere best friends, absolute best
friends.
She was a daddy's girl, all thethings right.
So navigating this has beensuper.
It's been hard, it's beeninteresting, all those things
right.
But I drew the line whenevershe started telling me that kids
(01:49):
are making fun of her, makingjokes about her dad being dead,
calling her like a grave babyand all this weird shit.
So I can't remember the exactdate I took her out, but a lot
of people told me go to theschool, talk to the school
advocate.
What are they going to do?
They're not going to do shitBecause from my experience in
being in grade school because Iwas the weird kid, I was
(02:12):
definitely the quiet kid.
My family had a bad reputation,so I think people just figured
I was going to be the same, andit has been the driving force as
to why I have dove so deeplyinto things like neuroscience,
neuroplasticity, personaldevelopment, hypnosis,
(02:32):
spirituality, all those thingsright Because I didn't want to
be like everybody else.
I wanted to decide for myselfwho I got to be, and didn't know
I had mental illness at thetime.
But all of these things that Ipersonally went through as a
child, as a teenager, adolescentyears, I truly feel like
prepared me to be able toidentify when my daughter or
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even my son or my step-sons werestruggling with that, and so it
was really a no-brainer for mewhenever it started getting to
where she was staying, superdepressed, not looking forward
to going to school anymore,stuff like that it was a no
brainer for me to just yank herout Right, and part of that was
like you know what?
I'm just going to make thisdecision.
Nobody's going to tell me whatto do, and I'm going to.
(03:15):
I'm going to raise my babiesthe way I always dreamt of
raising them, and that was beingable to, if need be, homeschool
and this shirt swallows me up Ijust realized how big it is but
be able to live life on myterms.
So part of that was probably abipolar episode where I just
said I got to have a camper andit all magically came together
(03:38):
to where I bought this camperand we just took our first trip.
So let me tell you about thistrip.
We went to the Ozarks.
I'll rewind a tad bit.
Why do we go to the Ozarks?
I have a client who lives inand around the Ozarks and I flew
to see her last summer and wedid some in-person work.
(03:59):
I filmed content, stuff likethat, and we smoked a bunch of
blunts and we got on their Iwould call it a small yacht I
don't know if we can call it ayacht, but nicer than anything
I've ever been on.
So we went on this boat and Ifell in love with the Ozarks,
absolutely fucking in love withthe Ozarks.
So it was a no brainer whenEmma said you should come and
(04:21):
you should bring your camper andbring your kids.
So I brought my two kids.
I say my two kids because mystep sons are not my bio babies,
I call mine bio babies andthey're my bonus babies, right,
so that?
And the camper only sleeps, Ithink technically, one, two,
three, five I feel you could domore than that because I would
(04:43):
say this has been our littlestand I could sleep.
That's three.
And then, honestly, the bunksfor some of our two of his sons
are pretty small, so I feel likethey could sleep together if
they really wanted to.
Well, they wouldn't even haveto sleep on the bunk.
The table, the dinette, turnsinto a bed, which is pretty big
in my opinion.
So I feel like we could sleepeverybody.
(05:04):
But it was just like that's.
Pretty much all we're gonna bedoing is sleeping in there.
But also, this trip was more sofor me to get a reset mentally
and be able to connect with mykids.
I'm gonna take a couple moreposts of this and we're gonna be
done, because I told myself Iwas cutting back.
So we went, because I met herlast summer and we had such a
great time.
I was like I cannot wait tocome back.
(05:26):
And then we were on one of ourone-on-one calls here recently
Well, I guess about a month ago.
So Emma and I were on one ofour one-on-one calls because I'm
a business coach and I'm a damngood coach, but you can only do
so much through these videos,right?
So we had this idea Let me comeup.
I'll stay for close to a weekand it would be really beautiful
(05:48):
to be able to capture you inyour element and do a little bit
more than creating content,because I feel like when you are
creating content and it'scurated, let's just be real
you're planning it all out andyou don't get to just exist,
which is my whole brand'smission is to help people get
paid to exist.
(06:09):
Whole brand's mission is to helppeople get paid to exist and
with getting paid to exist, wetake things into consideration
like your mental health, yourtrauma, your overall vision for
a lifestyle.
All these things matter.
We play on your strengths,right?
There's just a lot that goesinto getting paid to exist,
because getting paid to existmeans that you're doing more
than working.
You're doing something that youlove.
You would be doing it anyway.
(06:29):
If money wasn't a thing, you'dbe doing it anyway.
If it is part of your life,that's getting paid to exist.
So it's not something where youdread it every day.
It's not something where youhate clocking in.
You have more good days thanbad when it comes to your brand.
That's getting paid to exist.
This comes in the form ofthings like for her, it's
(06:49):
turning their ranch a littlepart of the ranch turning it
into a healing center, and sothat would allow her to get paid
to exist, because she'd wake upevery day doing what she loves
getting to do Reiki with herhorse.
So that's what we're working onright now.
But I think it's reallyimportant to be able to capture
things through the lens of aperson who is watching you.
(07:13):
So that's what we did, and Idon't know if you saw the video
and if you're listening to this,because I already just decided
in my head this is going to be apodcast episode.
So get ready.
If you pop on here and ask meany questions, I'm going to
answer them live and it will bein the episode.
But I had this idea I want tojust film you while we're
hanging out, and most of thetime she didn't even know she
(07:40):
was being filmed.
But the most beautiful partthat you guys have seen so far
was the preview, or the sneakpeek that I created.
And if you're listening to thepodcast episode, go to my
Instagram at Jacqueline Cottonand you'll see it.
But I got to capture Emma do aReiki session and a deep
meditation with my daughter.
My daughter is 12 years old.
My daughter wanted to do this.
We had a full discussion.
(08:01):
We led up to it to make surethat it was something she wanted
to do and she felt she wouldbenefit from, and she made a
very adult decision to gothrough an energy healing
session and it was reallybeautiful.
I got to watch it as her mom,but I also got to film it and,
oh my gosh, so freaking cool.
(08:22):
But that's what we went upthere for me to create content,
capture, capture, content andfor some of my clients, I create
it for them too.
This is more of the done foryou side of my business coaching
.
So my company is called CottonCoaching and Content and I don't
talk about that enough.
That's what I do.
(08:42):
I coach, business coach, andwith that, frankly, comes a lot
of fucking life coaching too.
However, I love it and evenwhen I'm not up here talking
about it all the time, it's rarethat I just don't have any
clients.
I always have clients withinthe past couple of years,
whether it be content clients orcoaching clients, I always have
clients.
So I'm blessed to be able tosay that I have that.
(09:03):
But I want to talk more on thecoaching and the content side
too.
Everyone tends to think that Ihave really great content and
one of the things that makes mycontent so good and helps it
stand out and why I claim andhave had people call me like a
digital disruptor.
Even if I don't have a lot offollowers, I press a lot of
buttons but I also have helpedquite a few people through.
(09:27):
But I also have helped quite afew people through my content
because it is so unfiltered.
So that's what helps me standout.
But with my clients, I'm ableto get to know these people and
then help them develop theirbrand's voice, the brand's vibe,
and I got to do that.
I got to do that on this trip,got to pretty much experience
(09:49):
what my dream life would bebeing able to live there for a
few days in my camper, goingback and forth between the
camper and her house becauseshe's so kind and also I just
love hanging out with her and Ifell asleep on their couch a
couple times.
But I got to experience what itis that I'm working towards.
Being there is exactly what I'mworking towards.
I want acreage and I want to beable to, every day I wake up
(10:10):
without an alarm, just my bodybe so in tune with my farm that
I'm just up in the morning, riseand shine.
I want to be able to look outwhile I'm making a pot of coffee
or French.
I like French press Don't judgeme while I'm making my coffee
to be able to look out and justsee rolling hills and cattle,
(10:30):
and I want to be able to go outand feed my chickens every day,
and so I kind of like getting tospend that time there.
Uh, be the opportunity to get ataste of it.
You know what I mean.
So it wasn't just all work.
Um, that's what I love aboutthe connections that I do form,
and I don't have a lot ofclients like this.
(10:51):
Clients are like we get alongand I love them and they love me
.
But then there are thoseclients at the deeper level.
It's like a spiritualconnection and this is one of
those connections.
My other connection is myfriend, katie, and she started
as a client and she's now one ofmy.
I would say these two are mybest friends, and so it was a
(11:12):
lot of fun.
If you've not yet been to theOzarks like Arkansas is
wonderful, so beautiful.
Missouri is wonderful.
Missouri is recreational forthose that like cannabis, so
there's that.
But it was just a wonderfultrip getting to like what it
would be like a day in that life, or, in our case, four, four or
five days in that life and whatwas really cool was so my
(11:36):
daughter did the reiki session,right, that's who you saw on the
table in that video.
If you haven't watched it yetand that's what I was trying to
tell y'all earlier is, if you'relistening to this episode, then
just go to jacqueline cotton onInstagram and you'll see
there's a video and thethumbnail is going to be of my
client, emma and her horse Flash.
I have arms, I swear they'rebeing hidden by the shirt, but
(11:56):
she's got her horse Flash andshe's walking him towards the
table, and so look for thatvideo, because that's the kind
of work that I do and I want todo more of it.
I want to do more of these likeweekends with me.
I'll leave the kids at home.
Okay, we can get a lot done,but you'll get to like one.
Oh, we got popped up Snapcrackle pop over here like Rice
(12:20):
Krispies, so I was popping myneck.
I always forget that I need totell people as well what I'm
doing, because I always usethese as the podcast episodes
too.
Now, I forgot what I was saying.
Oh, I just video.
Yeah, you need to watch it andI want to start doing more of
(12:40):
this.
That's where I was at the VIPcontent days or weekends.
Weekends would be for someone,or it would probably be like for
three days actually, because Ifeel the need to get to spend
some time with you, hang outwith you.
So about two days would be goodand capture what it is that you
do.
If you're working with animals,let me capture that.
(13:02):
If you are working with someclients in person, let me
capture that, because, like Iwas saying earlier, when you do
it yourself, it's very curated.
You know what I mean.
That's why I like doing theselives, because I fuck up, I say
shit that doesn't.
I don't even know what it meanshalf the time, but it's not
rehearsed.
Do you know what I mean?
(13:23):
So, like you go and you look ata carousel, that shit is
rehearsed.
And one I just did before thisme posing in the water.
I didn't stay in that water forvery long, was too cold, but it
looks like I'm out there havinga blast.
I was having a blast.
Actually, I was having a lot offun because I got to see my
kids in the white river.
How cool is that?
(13:44):
It's so beautiful there.
But but the water is so fuckingcold because it is coming
straight off the mountains andit is cold.
I've been there twice now andboth times it has been freezing,
it's like.
So I was having a good time,but what I'm saying is like the
curated.
It's a pose, unless it's acandid, which, if you look at
the end of that carousel of mein the water and the white river
(14:06):
, the end not rehearsed.
I was about to fall on my faceand I was laughing so hard.
It was that with my luck I'dfall, I'd trip over this little
pebble that pokes me in the footand down the river she goes.
So that part wasn't curated,but everything up to that point
is so curated.
I'm gonna do this and then right, so it's like I world right now
(14:28):
needs to hire somebody like meso that your content is not as
curated.
Um, and what's really cool islike all the filming that I did
for emma this weekend.
That is easily a year's worthof content and what I find is a
lot of people, especially newcoaches, who maybe don't have
the confidence, or if you're nottech savvy or you just don't
(14:48):
enjoy creating content, it wouldbe really beneficial to you to
hire somebody and spend.
You know what is a VIP contentday, weekend.
The days would be like you cometo me, but if you want me to
come for a weekend, I could cometo you.
So but the like I'd like totake that out of it, because
(15:09):
when you're creating your owncontent as a coach, like I think
we need to see you coaching, Ithink people for her, she's a
Reiki healer.
Okay, we need to see her Reikihealing, you know, not front of
a screen and going whatever thefucking trend is of the week,
like less curation and moreexisting, and that's what I want
to capture.
So this trip though it was, so Ican't wait to go back.
(15:31):
We're talking about I'm alreadylike talking, I'm thinking of I
present this to my husband.
She's like you can come backonce a month, stay like a week a
month, and I'm like that's 12weeks out of the year, that's a
few months out of the year.
What hold on?
That's kind of like true for me.
I want a farm life, I want thefarmland and I want to be doing
something I love.
(15:52):
That's the whole pay to existvibe, right?
So do I want to do that?
Do I want to go a week out ofthe month to stay in Missouri
and live in my camper on thisbeautiful farm and create
content and help her start thishealing center.
Huh, so, like I'm out with alittle, a little land to show my
husband, hey, this is how it'sgoing to work.
I'm leaving for a month, I meanfor every month, to go live
(16:13):
somewhere else and worksomewhere else.
Okay, I have more thing.
I have not told anybody.
But no, I'm not going to say Ihaven't told anybody.
I I've not announced it onlineto anybody and I've only told a
few people that are like reallyclose to me.
So you guys are, I'm about todo it and I'm going to.
(16:34):
I'll make like an official day,but I wanted to tell you and I
wanted to wait until the inkdried, until I knew it was for
real, because my lizard brainwants to tell me oh, that's
crazy, you're not, that's a scam, that you're not worth it,
that's a jet Like they don't.
I don't know.
I just thought it was going tofall through Lizard brain, right
, but it didn't.
(16:54):
And I got presented with thecontract and I got offered the
position.
So I'm going to go ahead andtell y'all Are you ready?
My boobs are jiggling.
I didn't know that was going tohappen.
Okay, I have a coachingcollaboration with the one and
only she Heals the World.
(17:15):
So they have brought me on asone of their business coaches
and they are worldwide you canlook them up here on Instagram
Worldwide and I get to do what Ilove.
I get to work with women whoare actually doing this.
You know, people don't have toconvince they're ready, they'll
take on the world.
I get to be part of that andthere's the opportunity to
(17:37):
become partner down the line.
So if you've not heard of sheHeals the World, go check them
out.
They're amazing.
They've been around for 15years.
That's a huge accomplishment inthe coaching industry to be
around for 15 years and globallyrecognized.
So I was, needless to say, whenI had my phone interview with
the founder and I'm still likein my head.
(18:00):
I'm like because the phone taglike they have kind of kind of
changed, like you know, andstill just in my mind I'm just
like me what?
But they picked me and I pickedthem and so I will be running
one of their masterminds andit's oh no, my cat got a lizard.
God, luca, fuck, he's like in agut in front of me.
(18:23):
No, stop, I can't act shit likethat.
Luca, stop, stop it.
Stop, leave him alone.
You are such an asshole.
He's not an asshole, he's beinga cat.
That's the way to end thisepisode.
I just got offered a hugecoaching position with she Heals
the World, and now I'm gonna gosave this lizard that's being
(18:45):
attacked and ripped apart, whichis terrible, but thank you,
thank you for congratulating me.
I'll do an official post today,but, all in all great trip it
now has me in this headspace ofwe got to do more of this.
Jacqueline will come to you.
Okay, I'll, either you, or, ifyou got some land and you need
(19:05):
me to film there, I will bringmy camper and I will come and we
will film and we will do allthe things that you need to get
done so that your brand hascontent for an entire year, so
that you have your entirebusiness strategy for the year,
your content strategy, yourposting strategy strategy.
(19:31):
We'll get all your offerscreated.
We'll get all your strike linksset up.
We'll get you set up for buynow, pay later options so that
all your clients can pay youthrough Affirm, klarna, afterpay
, stuff like that.
It can help you get everythingdone an entire weekend.
That's what Emma kind of madethis weekend is like we got so
much done and two kids here.
Like we got so much done andyou and two kids here.
So it just goes to show thatwhen you are super focused and
(19:54):
this poor lizard leave him alone, luca, all right, I'm gonna go
kick this ass, this cat's ass,this poor lizard oh my God, I
don't know if he should put itout of his misery or what.
So sad, but, yeah, sorry toepisode like this, this poor
lizard.
Though, thank you again.
I hope that you all listeningon Just Women Talking Shit.
(20:15):
Don't hate me for talking shitabout my cat, but I don't know.
It's like nature, but it justbothers me, and I hope that you
check out all the content thatwe're going to be putting out
here soon.
For Emma, um, you should gocheck her out.
Embodied by Emma is herInstagram account, and I tag her
in a lot of stuff on Instagramtoo, so you can find her there,
(20:38):
and I think that's it.
Don't forget to share episodeswith your friends.
We need this this to to morepeople.
I want to start bringing onsome really big names, which is
a show.
I do have a wait list of like ahundred people already waiting
to be on the show.
I'm sitting on probably 10recordings at a time.
I'm backlogged, all the things.
So it's getting there, butit'll only get bigger if you
(21:01):
start doing, you know, your part, which is share this episode.
Or I have like a really archiveof interviews with some great
experts and great, just great ingeneral great stories and
wonderful, like just depth,knowledge and wisdom.
I would say so, whenever youfind one of those episodes I
would just recommend when it,like it's helping you or
(21:23):
somebody comes to mind.
I think it's really importantthat we share it.
So some things I'm going to tryto do better on.
I'm going to for my interviews.
I'm going to start, I think,getting some questions together
beforehand.
I've really just been kind ofwinging it.
I've been listening to the MelRobbins podcast a lot lately and
she really inspires me to bemore organized.
(21:43):
You know she's a whole teambehind her, so obviously you
know there's a lot of that anddoing the research and stuff
behind her.
Uh, so obviously you knowthere's a lot of that and doing
the research and stuff.
But I think I need to make moretime for that so I can make the
show more pleasurable for allof you, and it would also
probably help with the editingprocess too.
So, oh, it's been great.
I'm about to go drop this camperoff my brothers and just see
(22:04):
what the day holds.
I've got an appointment here ina little bit I gotta to, but
outside of that I think it'sjust a let's ready to get back
in your zone, because I've gotpodcast interviews tomorrow.
I've got client calls, all thethings.
Um, if you're ever curiousabout working with me, I am
always accepting clients.
I'm not always acceptingone-on-one clients, but I'm
(22:25):
always accepting clients.
I have, you know, my likepackage which is back and forth,
um, text, voice messages,screen recording, stuff like
that, and, um, that's alwaysopen for enrollment until until
the program comes out, whichI'll keep y'all posted on.
It's not done yet.
So I love y'all.
(22:45):
I'll see you later If you, ifyou need to go smoke, get your
little smoke.
But overall, have a beautifulday on purpose and if you get
the chance to go see Arkansas,missouri, any part of the Ozarks
, do it.
It is so fucking beautiful.
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