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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey there, hi, it's Jacqueline here.
Welcome back to another liverecording of Just Women Talking
Shit, where I am going to shootthe shit and smoke, because
that's just how we roll aroundhere.
So there's so much tea to catchup on y'all, oh my god.
So not too long ago, Iannounced my pivot, right, I
announced the pivot, and then Iwas just claiming I'm here to
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shake some shit up, right, andso I made that big announcement.
What was it like three, fourweeks ago?
I don't know, it wasn't thatlong ago.
And so much has changed.
Have you all noticed, have younoticed, a shift in my company?
I want to share what I haveshifted.
Nicole, can you hear me?
Can you leave me a comment?
Let me know that the mic ispicking everything up, please,
please, I'm gonna light my smoke, but everything shifted because
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I made just a few solidadjustments.
They were energetic adjustmentsand then very strategic
adjustments.
So if you're new here, that'sgood.
As long as we have sound, I'mgood.
And how cool that you'relistening to this from work.
I love that so much.
So what was I saying?
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Oh, fuck, hold on.
The adjustments that were madewere both energetic and really
just some psychologicaladjustments.
So if you have been around fora minute, then you already know
I am a woman of authenticity.
I'm not afraid to fail forwardand fall flat on my face, flat
on my ass, and I will evenfeature it so that you don't
feel alone in this crazy journeyof one being a human.
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Being a human is hard.
There's no set rule book, noguidebook, right.
We're all just fucking up andfiguring it out.
So if you've been here for aminute, you already know occurs
like a seller, right?
Not a seller, a sailor.
The southern in me is comingout and I just really don't.
I don't give a fuck, becauseI've finally entered this era of
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life where I truly am ready todo what I call get paid to exist
.
And getting paid to exist meansthat you are not hiding who the
fuck you are anymore, right?
You're not hiding who you are,what you want, what your desires
are, what your dreams are, whatyour goals are, the type of
partner you want, theexpectation of income that you
expect to have.
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Every month.
I now have an energeticbaseline of $10,000 cash months,
meaning that I an energeticbaseline of $10,000 cash months,
meaning that I have a minimumof $10,000 cash at the end of
each month, after expenses,after everything, right?
So as you grow, as they say,new levels, new devils, right?
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You start to realize that theshifts that you make, they're
not even big shifts.
That's the thing.
They're not even huge shifts,it's just like a series of
shifts over time that it had tohappen that way.
Do you know what I mean?
You had to go through that.
You had to block yourself inthat moment to learn that lesson
.
You had to lose that job, youhad to lose that partner, you
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had to fuck up and hurt thatperson.
Unfortunately, maybe it wasn'tintentional, but in life's grand
scheme of things, if you'reable to pull yourself back and
see things like a wide angle,right, not so close up and
intimate then you're able to seethat all of it makes sense.
Then you're able to see thatall of it makes sense.
And so what I realized inmaking so I've far exceeded
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$11,000 in cash, but just sothat I can put it in what I feel
like is just more digestible,and so we can keep up with the
common theme of just simplicity,right, I'm averaging about a
thousand dollars a day, and soin 11 days I brought in, with my
coaching company, $11,000 cash.
So sales were 13, somethingright, and so we got fees and we
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have all these other things,but I wanted at least $10,000
cash to hit my account and so in11 days we did $11,000 cash and
, to be honest, I've never seenoutside of, I would say, student
, student loans oh my hairStudent loans or some kind of
loan that you have to get for avehicle.
I've never gotten to play witha lot of money at once.
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Do you know what I mean?
Coming at me quickly, and so Iwas really scared I wasn't going
to be able to hold on to it.
But, fun fact, life prepared me.
The universe, god and source,and my angels, angels and
everybody.
They prepared me Because do youknow what I experienced right
before that?
Almost an entire year of drought, an entire year of figuring out
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how to nurture myself, how tolet go of things that were
actually bringing me money butnot bringing me joy.
I had to let go of a dependableincome.
I had to come out to my husbandand tell him I'm not perfect
and I'm really struggling.
And there's a reason that I amretracting and that I'm so
depressed, and it's because I'mnot aligned and I had to go
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through this whole journey.
This whole past year has beenthis journey of just radical
exception of who the fuck I amand what I want, and not feeling
guilty for that.
And it's been a year of drought, a year of doubt, but a year of
massive and radical acceptanceof nobody's going to get this
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for me except for me.
Right, and I pinpointed througha lot of meditation, a lot of
prayer, a lot of just sitting bymyself with myself out here,
and there's a reason I'm sittingout here for today's podcast
episode.
I want to just show you all realquick where I sit in gratitude
almost every single day of mylife to work, even when it's
cold.
I just recently invested in aheated blanket.
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This makes me happy.
I look forward to work when Iget to sit out and smoke my weed
I'm sorry, my cannabis andbecause that sounds, I don't
know, maybe that won't get me introuble.
I would just better quittalking now.
But I sit out here and Ipartake in my medicine We'll say
that my green medicine is whatI call it and I exist, sorry
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about that.
I exist as I am, as fucked up asI am, as chronically ill as I
am, and sorry about that.
I exist as I am, as fucked upas I am, as chronically ill as I
am, and I take the good days.
I don't take them for granted.
I take the good days and Ifucking run with them.
I'm going to be at the gym, I'mgoing to be out there spreading
joy, I'm going to be buyingpeople coffee, I'm going to be
opening doors, and so thebiggest shift I made after I
found out funny story too, bythe way.
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I'm going to tell you all thisin a minute but the funniest
thing happened whenever it comesto HD, where are my human
design buffs at?
Where are you?
Raise your hand, tell me whatyour HD is, what is your
authority?
Tell me all the things, and I'mgoing to come back and tell you
this story.
So, in this radical acceptanceof I'm fucking tired, I'm sick
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and tired of feeling bad, thatI'm sick and tired all the time,
I'm sick and tired of feelingsick and tired, yes, but why do
I beat myself up over that?
Why do I make that a bad thing?
And so I really started to leaninto my story, hopping on here
and sharing my story, sharingthe tears, sharing the wisdom,
sharing the fuck ups, sharingthe behind the scenes.
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So when I'm in flow, even if Idon't feel well physically,
mentally sometimes, I'm in flow,and so I really took a lot of
the pressure off of myself toquit having a schedule, such a
tough schedule, that I knew Icouldn't abide by.
I've retracted and I've pulledback from a lot of coaching
calls.
I've had to set a lot ofboundaries and it's really been
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tough because I'm afraid thatpeople will think it has
something to do with them andthat they're too much and that
they're just inadequate.
But it's not.
It's everything to do with me.
I'm figuring out that I don't dowell with a lot of what feels
like restricted structure.
So, for instance, I said youknow what I'm going to hop on
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today and I'm behind on mypodcast episodes.
I had to shift from, but youalways get it done.
Right, I had to shift from theguilt to, but you always get it
done.
Maybe it's not in the mosttimely manner, maybe you don't
always stick to the strictest ofschedules, but when you show up
, jacqueline, you really show up.
Have you noticed that?
And so I started to speak tomyself in a way that I wish
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someone would speak to me, andit's really come down to
nurturing that inner child andadmitting all that I want and
all that I'm worthy of.
And so, in having theseconversations with myself, it's
been a really huge shift,radical acceptance.
And so this is your permissionslip too.
If you want a life of wealth andyou don't want to have to work
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super fucking hard for it in thelong run, here's your
permission slip.
Will it take two or three,maybe five years of radical
commitment?
Absolutely.
Will you have to skip out ongoing out for drinks with your
friends when it sounds funAbso-fucking-lutely?
Will it be worth it in the end?
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Better bet your sweet tits itwill be, because while everybody
else is still grinding andhustling in their 40s 50s,
having mid-life crises, you'llbe so grounded in who the fuck
you are because you did, you putin the time.
You saw past the fun nights andyou thought fun nights sound fun
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.
Having some drinks sounds fun,I don't know.
I also think it'd be reallybomb to have a nice house and a
nice entertainment area, maybe areally nice back porch that
overlooks some water.
I also think that'd be prettyfucking cool so I can host those
events in a classy, legacy way,right?
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So it really comes down to theboundaries and sometimes like
that's really hard having thoseconversations and then also
allowing yourself to honor howyou respond to the boundaries
and how you have to take time toyourself to sometimes not
respond Right.
So the past I would say 30 days, because when I talked to one
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of my coaches I was on herpodcast on Friday, which I'll
let you guys know when it comesout.
But if you want to check herpodcast out, it's called
manifest.
Manifest mad money with YolandaBoyran and she's a.
She's a seven figure.
That's so cool to say she's aseven figure coach and she does
it.
I've copied a lot of what shedoes and it's working for me, as
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you see, but she does it in away that are so fully aligned
and that is so no bullshit andso magnetic that she gets paid
to exist Right, and that issomething that I just want to
share.
I want to continue to share allthe behind the scenes, all of
the tips and the tricks and theno gatekeeping Right, and it
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really did start with.
The biggest shift I made wasenergetically backing myself up
and protecting myself in a waythat it feels good to me.
I don't want to feel anxiousall the time about my business.
I already feel anxious with mymental illness, and my mental
illness thrives on the worry ofthings like having to hop on a
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call, knowing that I don't knowwhat the fuck I'm going to feel
like that day.
It's so hard too for me tocommit sometimes and I would say
95% of the time to an event sosimple, such as a Zoom call that
I know is going to last an houror two hours.
But it's different knowing thatmaybe I'm planning a retreat a
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year from now and I canenergetically prepare for that.
I don't know what that's about.
I'm figuring it out.
I'm not saying that it's pretty.
I'm not saying it's sexy.
I'm not saying that it's kind,even for the people that are on
the receiving end.
But I know that I have to keepmyself safe and I've got a lot
of life that I don't tell youall about Because it's not a.
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I don't want to appear as a bigleader.
There are some things I have tokeep private for my own sanity
and figure them out on my own,without any outside opinion or
reflection on their how theywould solve it, how they would
handle it.
I need to figure these thingsout on my own right, and so it
comes with a lot of energeticboundaries, and the thing that
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controls us most right now arethese phones.
So you'll see that if you textme, you'll see that if you try
to call me, if I make contact inyour phone, I share with
everybody my status.
I'm on do not disturb most ofthe time unless I know.
I have a client call that Icommitted to, that I've been
able to energetically preparefor, and a lot of it does have
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to do with and it sounds reallyfucking shitty.
If I'm not getting paidsometimes it's not reason enough
to hop on a call, because I'vegot so many demons of my own
that I'm flushing out behind thescenes.
I've got my debt that I'mfiguring out.
I've got my debt that I'mfiguring out.
I've got my health that I'mfiguring out.
So I literally budget my energyat this point and I think it's
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been a huge fucking shiftbecause I'm not available to
everybody anymore and I want youto take that away from this.
In your business, in your life,in your relationships, you are
not available to everybodybecause everybody will not put
that same amount of work intoyou.
Yes, I'm trying so hard toprotect my mental health and
being on these phones does nothelp me.
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It's so ironic because I'vebuilt something so beautiful
right here in this nook on thisphone Well, not this phone, this
is a new phone but with thisdevice that has allowed me to
find my identity, to build theconnections, yes, but I don't
want to be on it all the time.
I don't want to be on zoomcalls, just I don't, and I have
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to respect that and have tohonor that.
So a lot of working with melooks like voice messaging back
and forth.
It looks like, as soon as youhave an idea, send me a text,
send me a message.
It doesn't mean I'm respondingright away and if you get a
response out of me quickly, knowthat I'm available for that
right then, but that I mightdisappear in a few minutes
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because, well, we've got fivekids.
I've got a husband who worksfrom home who I can't ignore,
who needs my attention.
I've got my mom and her husbandwho have cancer, and a sister
with mental illness that I worryabout every fucking day of my
life.
I've got family in Hattiesburgdon't really know how they're
doing.
I've got cousins that are infoster care right now that I
live for and I just worry aboutthem all the time.
I worry about my mom's health,so I can't.
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There's a way that we're goingto build this, and so that is a
huge shift that I've made, isnon-negotiables in my energy
right.
Another huge shift that I madeand that I think that you can
also benefit from if you'rebuilding a coaching business, if
you're building a creatorbusiness.
Creator businesses could looklike you build courses, you have
a podcast, you are a UGCcreator or you have an online
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service provider business whereyou literally go out and serve.
Notice that all these thingsyou're giving.
You're giving yourself, you'regiving your time, you're giving
your energy, you're giving yourknowledge, your wisdom, your
life experience.
You are reiterating all of thelife lessons that you can't
really put a value on, and thenyou're packaging it and putting
a value on, and so you can'texceed that energetic value that
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you felt you deposited intothat bank.
If you're not getting more outof it, then you will eventually
experience burnout, and so moneyis just energy, and that's what
I teach all my clients ismoney's energy, and so if your
energy is not high, your incomewill not be high, and what I
mean by high energy is not we'rejumping around and we're happy
all the time.
It's energy.
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Being high is a sense ofalignment, it's a higher depth
of consciousness.
Right, you're, in a way, closerto God.
You're listening to themessages.
You're respecting your feelings, because your feelings are
feedback.
You're honoring the boundariesthat God has instilled in your
heart that make you uneasy.
You're not letting people walkall over you anymore.
You're not over exceeding yourenergy and putting yourself on
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the back burner anymore, andyou'll start to notice that
whenever you honor that, thingsstart to flow and you start to
find your people and all thethings and we've went through
this over and over again.
Your vibe attracts your track,but if we don't get grounded in
that now, you will not build thesix figure business that is
sustainable.
I'm not saying you won't builda six figure business.
I'm saying it won't besustainable.
You won't build a seven figurebusiness.
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I'm not there yet and I'm notsitting here trying to shit you
and tell you I'm there yet.
I'm telling you that I know howto make $1,000 at minimum a day
.
That's what I'm here to tellyou, and so if I'm going to live
another thousand days, you dothe math and that's what being
paid to exist means.
And so, in order to implementthis in your business, so that
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you can benefit from this veryquickly, get really solid in all
of that that I just told you.
And then we're going to talkabout the second thing, as I
relight, because y'all know Italk and then it goes out, and
so we've got a fun game going onright now, and I think it's
just going to be part of the funJacqueline vibe of just women
talking shit in our lives ingeneral.
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But we're going to play a gameand I want everyone to start
counting, because it's so funny,how many times this
motherfucker is going to go out.
And on the last live, I thinkwe counted eight, eight times.
Between the time that westarted the conversation to the
time I ended, I think I had torelay eight times, and so it's
kind of a fun game.
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Oh, how many times?
Anyway, taking bets, how manytimes is it going to be?
This is number two, and I justwant to say do not drink to this
game because you may get fuckedup.
Number two.
So number one wasnon-negotiables in my energy,
non-negotiables in my income.
I raised my prices tremendously, I was going to raise them and
quit thinking I was given, Ikept.
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I was spent myself on sale, andso many of you are doing this
too.
High ticket's the way to go andI kept.
I was spent myself on sale, andso many of you are doing this
too.
High ticket's the way to go andyou have low ticket offers that
lead them into that.
It's the way to go.
You can create an experiencearound anything.
You can create a high ticketexperience around anything.
I literally just came up withthe best business idea for my
brother and I'm going to helphim do it.
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I'm going to pitch it to himand he's not going to help him
do it.
I'm going to pitch it to himand he's not going to be able to
say no because I'm going toallow him an avenue to get paid
to exist by doing his marketingfor him.
So what I did was, outside ofthe non-negotiables, outside of
saying this is my new energeticminimum, this is my new cash
month minimum.
I raised my prices and I madeit super valuable to raise my
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prices.
So I was selling my things for$47 a pop energetic blueprints,
$47 a pop, doing extremelyextended payment plans for
Stripe that I may not get myfull invoice back for.
And so I was taking a lot ofrisks and I was operating from a
place of need, and so I finallyfigured out a way through some
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help, through some guidance,through some trial and error.
For anybody drinking I'm nottrying to get you drunk, so I'm
going to try to keep this lit,but I just said you know what,
fuck it.
And I packaged it in a way thatwas so irresistible.
And here's the thing, I didn'twait to test any of it.
I went out there and I justwent ahead and talked to people.
I already built relationshipswith People that I already knew
trusted me, some that I'd workedwith before, some I was working
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with at the moment, based onjust and here's the thing
scrappy situations.
I stopped thinking that I hadto have my product suite all
worked out, and everyconversation that I started with
serving I figured out where areyou in life right now, how have
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you been, how are the kids?
And I fucking made realconnections.
Lots of these people I alreadyhave connections with because I
show up in a way that peopleidentify with.
I'm real as fuck.
I'm not going to sit here andsugarcoat it, but I'm also not
going to be a dick.
I'm human right.
I know how to treat a person, Iknow how to read the room, and
so I took this skill set, thisgift of I'm good at building
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community.
I'm good at making people feelloved.
I'm good at people makingpeople feel seen, and I'm good
at doing that through the DMs.
I'm good at making people feelseen, and I'm good at doing that
through the DMs.
I'm good at doing that throughtext.
I'm good at doing that throughvoice messages, because I'm
introverted as fuck.
A lot of people don't know thatabout me.
I'm introverted as fuck.
Or on number three, if I canfind the lighter.
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So, with having all of theanxiety around phone calls, cold
DMs, sales calls, why not buildit the way you fucking want to
build it and do it in a way thatmakes you happy, in a way that
positions you as somebody theywant to be around?
And so I've learned to packagemy energy in a way that I can
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leverage it so that I'm notdrained, because I'm an empath.
Y'all, I'm an empath, I'm amanifesting generator.
3-5, which means I go, go, go,go up here Doesn't mean I can go
, go, go, go out here.
I get very tired very easily.
I've said it over and overagain and I've Sarah, ms Sarah.
She has helped me so much withadmitting to the chronic
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illnesses and finally justcoming out and saying, yeah,
it's not who I am, but it'sdefinitely part of my journey,
it's part of my story.
It's the whole fucking reason Istarted all of this.
It's the whole reason I wantedto work online.
It's the whole reason I startedworking online.
It's the whole reason I startedMLMs network marketing
companies because I knew Icannot work at a desk job like a
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normal fucking person.
With as much as I hurt everysingle day of my life mentally
and physically, I can't do it orI will wind up dead.
I will dig myself an earlygrave.
I will put my nail in my owncoffin.
Because I do not do well understress.
I do not do well faking it.
I do not do well with smalltalk, with conversations that
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are just in, in my frank opinion, and, speaking to the depths of
my soul, empty as fuck.
I'm not here for that.
That is a waste of my time.
I'm here to talk with you aboutwhat the fuck you want out of
this life, so that I can helpyou do that.
I have figured out.
I'm a visionary strategist, butI can't overexert myself, right
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?
And so how are you packagingyourself up to appear to be for
everyone when really what youshould be doing in your business
is going behind the scenes andtalking to those people that you
notice are rooting for you,that when you do put something
out, vote on the polls, askquestions, open your emails what
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about those people Everyone'sso worried about?
Vanity followers?
How fast can I grow my account?
I fucking did it.
I started this account asspiritual support system.
Spiritual support system wassomething that I thought that
everyone in the fucking worldneeded and they do and you do
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but you don't need it at everyphase of your life.
It takes a pivotal bone, cold,shaking, gut wrenching moment to
know that you need spiritualsupport system.
It is at a certain point inyour life where you have
surrendered and you've triedeverything and you are in
radical acceptance of who youare the good, the bad, the ugly
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before you're ready forspiritual support system.
So in my mind it was foreverybody.
And again I was trying to speakto everybody, trying to please
everybody, right?
And that wasn't fully alignedfor me.
You're not for everybody, sowhere are you packaging yourself
for everybody.
And so what I did, and what youcan do too, is get in the
conversations, girl, go have theDMs, slide into the DMs.
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What you'll find is thesepeople are waiting on you.
They're fucking waiting on youto notice them, to say, hey, I
see your content, I think you'reincredible, I feel like we
would be friends in real life,and what you'll find is that
they're watching and waiting forthe invitation to come into
your world.
And that's what I found is thatI was packaging myself in a way
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that was asking for permission,when really, deep down, is a
coach, if you really know yourshit and you own your shit and
you show up unapologetically andyou're like I'm here to lead a
million dollar movement, baby,the rest of them can go fuck
themselves while I laugh myselfto the bank and I help people on
such an intentional level thatchanges their lives.
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That's what my retreat does,that's what my podcast does,
that's what being around me does.
People will tell you when youget around me and if you are
blessed to be on a phone callwith me, it's a moment.
Well, I bond with you.
It's the soul connection, and Idon't give that away freely
anymore.
And so where are you givingyourself away freely and where
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can we step back and go wait?
Where have I been leaking myenergy and where have I been
building this in a way that Idon't want to build it, in a way
that's not sustainable, becausewhat happens is we overthink
the whole thing and we thinkabout the whole legacy and the
empire that we want to build,and the biggest thing we do is
we get caught in this oh fuck,this scroll of comparison.
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And it's so big in the coachingindustry, so big in the content
creation industry.
We compare our content.
Why isn't it getting saves?
Why isn't it getting likes andshares?
Come on y'all.
Does that really fucking matter?
No, what matters is is theconversation with that woman who
rolled out of bed this morningand wasn't sure how the fuck she
was going to make it throughthe day, and then you wrote her
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and she said I needed that.
Thank you, because she feltalone, because she, too is
looking for what you're lookingfor, and so the second thing I
did, and that you can do too, isto quit packaging yourself for
everyone.
Go have a conversation with thepeople that they need you, they
really do and they want to workwith you and they want to be in
your energy and you go findthem and you make it your
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conviction and your crusade tofind them, because the most
selfish thing you can do and mypost, was it?
Touched base on this today themost selfish thing you can do is
sit there and ignore the gifts.
Some of us have so many fuckinggifts and ignore them because
we, we were conditioned to thinkthat you're too much, you're
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too emotional.
I cannot tell you fucking manytimes I've heard that you're in
your head, sounds nice, but youneed a real job.
To dim your light in a worldthat is so dark is a true
disservice to humanity and togod, the creator in this
universe itself.
It really, and it took this pastyear of problems in my marriage
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, going through some of theroughest moments of having to
really stare at myself andfigure out why this wasn't
working, why I wasn't making themoney, why I wasn't making the
impact, having to come to termswith even though I didn't
realize it, energetically doingit for the wrong reasons.
I didn't realize that until Irealized that I hadn't accepted
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that I was trying to prove somepeople wrong.
I held on to this guilt, thissurvivor's guilt as well, of my
daughter's dad not being here,and then just my family.
I'm breaking generationalcurses.
Most of my family is dad notbeing here, and then just my
family.
I'm breaking generationalcurses.
Most of my family is below thepoverty line and lives off of
welfare and will forever liveoff of welfare and never
understand what it's like tohave this sense of freedom and
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that they can overcome theirodds and that they can have this
too.
And so it came down to thisconviction that having
conversations is where theconversions are at, but it's
also where change happens.
And so the shift that I made,and that you can make too, is to
go out there and have moreconversations, because, at the
end of the day, you're in yourfucking head about it.
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And, at the end of the day, ifyour heart is in the right place
and you're genuinely justtrying to make a connection with
somebody, get to know them, andif the opportunity presents
itself for you to be theirfriend or be their mentor, who
is just a few steps ahead ofthem, that can guide them, if
that opportunity, your feelingsbecause your feelings are
feedback, through nudges,because that's your intuition,
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and through coincidences andsigns that are clues that you're
on the right track.
If you could just trust thatand you could go into each
conversation with seeingyourself as this beautiful gift
from God.
Just imagine yourself takingthis gift to them and then
opening it and imagine theoutcome of if they work with you
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.
How can you have to presentyourself through these
conversations as the solution?
Because I just, why else wouldGod, why else would the universe
, why else would source?
Why would it keep popping up inyour reality?
Really, stop and think aboutthat.
Else with the universe, whyelse with source?
Why would it keep popping up inyour reality?
Really, stop and think aboutthat.
Why would a feeling on yourheart, something that you
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daydream about in your dreamdreams and that you think about
and you just keep getting thesesigns and these signals and all
these people and God winks?
Why, if it's not meant for you,if there's no lust behind it
and you really do have a good,pure heart and you are here to
help humanity, how selfish wouldthat be?
And I had to start seeingmyself as I'm a fucking gift.
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God works through me.
And so I started having theconversations and I only had to
sign oh, by the way, this moneythat I've made?
It was only a portion of it.
Oh, by the way, this money thatI've made, it was only a
portion of it.
I've set it up in a way that Iwill get more in the new year
that I've not even accounted for.
How cool is that?
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There's about another 5K that Ialready know.
I have come the new year and sowouldn't it be cool to feel so
appreciated in what you do, butalso see the impact through the
transformations your clients get, like they see for themselves.
My community will tell you.
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Some of them are on here rightnow.
It doesn't take very many.
You get somebody on your sideand you help them, and word of
mouth and your energy and youjust committing to the end
result, releasing the timeline,hopping on you know episodes,
whatever it is that you'retrying to build, hopping on and
just believing in it before youeven see the results.
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You will get results unless yougive up or you're not good at
it.
I'm just going to be real, okay, is it like American?
Like I'm going to be real, okay, is it like American?
Like I'm going to bullshit you.
I'm going to be the Simon whenit comes to like if good at this
, you can and you have the rightstrategy and you don't fucking
give up.
You will make money.
You.
You do things you love and itdoesn't have to feel like a
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strain or like look forward toit, but you have to that that
that thing I did.
You have to have thoseboundaries, and that's
boundaries with yourself too,babe, that's boundaries.
I said that today I was gonnaactually not work, I was gonna
take care of myself, becauseI've been going five solid days
this week and I'm starting toresent my work and I know that
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it's not the work, it's actuallyI'm resenting overexerting
myself and I'm resentingoverexerting myself and I'm
resenting how I feel right now.
So boundaries.
And then two, the conversations, with conviction and selling
yourself in a way that it'scustomizable.
So I've customized my energy,but the way that I sold to these
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people was just throughconversations, y'all, and I
crafted a custom package forthem.
That does not sound hard, doesit?
No, it's not hard.
And then the third thing I didwas let me think of what.
The third thing I did was oh,the payment plans.
I made it super accessible towork with me in a way that it
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was affordable, in a monthly waythat it wasn't going to stress
them out.
If, for some reason, it didn'twork which is it will work.
I don't allow myself to workwith people that I don't think
it will work.
Like I'm that person that'sgoing to take your money Fuck
that.
If I wanted to do that, I wouldjust be selling extremely
passive courses.
I wouldn't be selling highticket, I wouldn't be involved
with my community.
You know what I mean.
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Like there's air.
There's a lot of things thatyou got to work through to make
sure that it's gonna work foryou, right, but you also have to
make a super accessible likewhere that?
So there are so many peoplethat want to work with you, but
maybe they don't have the creditor the funds up front.
So, like, again, it goes backto being resourceful.
So that was the third thing.
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I got super fucking resourceful, right, and they are a lifetime
, but we got alarms going off.
So those were.
Those were the three majorshifts I made.
Uh, everything else is morelike.
If you think about content,strategy and stuff like that, my
content did shift.
If you want to learn about that, just comment a free course and
(33:08):
I'll send you the free courseon.
It's a three like very steps itwas.
It had a lot to do with this.
That is in the podcast episode.
But if you're listening to thepodcast episode on my website or
through wherever you get yourpodcasts just women talking shit
, audience members who arelistening.
I love you so fucking much,just going to say that.
But second, you can just checkthe show notes for the free
(33:32):
course.
But for anybody watching rightnow, which I just saw, we got
Moonshine Collective on here.
We got the Chronic Confessions.
I saw some beautiful othersouls on here.
We are approaching light.
Number four for anybody keepingcount, all y'all do is comment
or DM free course.
This free course is going totell you exactly how, or the
changes I made in three steps tomake $7,650 in 72 hours.
(33:56):
It was actually less than 72hours, but it felt weird to just
like pop a random number.
So three days is really what itwas three days and I was able
to took all that cash and soafter that it was $11,000 cash
in 11 days and so it's justgoing up.
I'm at $18,000 right now andit's only been three weeks and
so this course is so fuckinggood.
(34:18):
It is just and I want you tonotice.
Notice as well the simplicity ofhow I have this set up.
It's a Google doc that feedsyou into a loom video screen
recording, which I don't eventhink I show my face because I'm
a total fucking introvert.
I'm very choosy with my energy,right.
But also at the time I hadn'thad a whole, like I'd have a new
(34:40):
camera and I just got myself anew phone, all these things.
I was like no, we're just not.
We're not going to stress aboutthat.
And let that hold me back,because I don't look good in the
camera for what it is.
It's.
The lens is like busted.
I don't want people to have to.
It would be a distraction.
Do you know what I mean?
And so didn't let that hold meback.
And I put this thing togetherand I said, fuck it, we're going
to fuck up and fail forward andmake money while we do it.
(35:01):
We're going to learn while weearn.
And that's what I did is I puttogether a Google doc with a
quick 15 minute training videoand you could literally go and
replicate this in your own way.
Please do not steal myintellectual property by any
means.
I'll get that to you, babe.
You may actually have a DMalready, because I have systems
set up and I believe it's justsend it to you automatically.
(35:25):
Just let me know if it doesn't.
And I say that because I havenot tested it on a live stream
yet.
But I, I, oh God, what was Isaying?
I don't know.
It's just super simple.
It'll show you how to do all ofthat.
And again, I'm going to saythis before I hop off.
You can literally apply what Ido to anything.
Okay, I'm gonna tell you thequick story.
(35:46):
I only have 5% my battery andthe way this is plugged up.
I can't charge it because I'vegot an attachment for the
microphone.
What are we on?
Number six?
See, this is fun.
We're going to have some coffeereal quick, and then I'm going
to get back to my story beforewe hop off.
Also, if you live near aStarbucks and you'd like a free
Starbucks, let me know I'll sendyou one.
(36:06):
Sorry, starbucks, let me knowI'll send you one.
Sorry about the call.
I didn't expect that.
That will for sure get editedout of the phone, but comment
Starbucks and I'll send you someStarbucks, because I love
Starbucks and I want to share itwith everybody.
Please excuse us, while we havenot a technical difficulty.
I really hope I haven't bustedany of y'all's ears out with
this microphone.
You need more Starbucks.
I got you One second.
(36:28):
Alright, queen of authenticityis back.
I really encourage you all tobe authentic as fuck, too.
It sells.
No, we're not back.
Okay, we're back.
What I was saying I'm going toput this out for a minute was
that the free course informationthat I give you.
(36:50):
I'm not dying.
I hope we've got a reallybadass retreat in sedona, but I
have to make it too.
Let me live until then, justuntil checkout.
Okay, I live until then.
This is wild, y'all.
I?
I didn't expect that to happen.
Sorry about that anyway.
Okay, so what I was saying wasthis course oops, are you afraid
of heights?
Go back up this course thatI've created.
(37:12):
I really want to implement itand, like I'm implemented, I'm
doing a case study with my bestfriend and I'm going to show you
all how anybody can do thisthrough with any niche like,
like, moonshine Collective.
I know that you don't have anactual tangible product yet.
Ok, what most people should bedoing is, in order to get paid,
(37:32):
to exist, still be gathering,gathering and stuff.
You know they'll be buildingtowards something.
So the free course that youwill get to check out.
It's a 15 minute video to walkyou through everything.
It's just kind of like whatit's like to work with me and my
program that is coming out.
It's an evergreen program,launches January 15th and you
(37:54):
get lifetime access to it.
It's pretty much coaching withme for the rest of your life and
anything that is marketingcontent getting paid to exist.
So I'll you'll always be in theloop of new marketing trends,
what's doing well and access tolike all the ongoing live
streams that I do twice a week.
So this spring course is apreview to that.
(38:15):
But what I want to share withyou, as I'm hopping off and I
say that a lot y'all notice I'mhopping off and it's like 45.
This is called a SouthernGoodbye.
If you're not familiar with ityet, get used to it, because
it's a thing you should see usat holidays turns into two hours
and then your mama will callyou on the way home to tell you
(38:35):
what what should I tell you?
It's?
It's, get used to it.
That's all I'm saying.
Get used to it.
But it's just a preview intothat.
And so the thing I wanted toshare with y'all is I was
talking to my husband earlierand I told him I've been looking
out at our backyard which islooking kind of janky.
You, at this point we have nothad the money.
We have been living in creditcard debt.
We're about to pay off one ofour credit cards that's what I'm
(38:57):
working towards and that one'sgot fucking just $16,000 on it
alone.
And then I'm getting like I'vecaught up in my business stuff,
all these things that I'm doingand you know, help people that I
love behind the scenes sendgifts, it's the holiday giving
season, right, and all thesethings.
But I was.
I was talking to him.
I was like now, once we getcaught up on some things, I know
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and I've noticed that sinceI've started making money, he
doesn't object to anything.
I say Now that he's seen thephysical evidence, like in bank
account, his stress levels aredown, just everything is
shifting Everything.
So it's a testament that moneydoes make life a lot easier.
Right and so, because that'swhat I figured out and I think I
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was feeding into way earlier onin this episode was that I
figured out that I was lettingmoney control my happiness.
If it wasn't in the account, ifmy account was red, I let that
dictate my external happiness,and a lot of us do that within
our businesses, within ourcompanies, within our lives,
within our relationships.
If we don't see the depositswhether that be financial
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deposits, whether that be energydeposits, love deposits, health
deposits, fitness deposits,like immediate we tend to give
up.
But's the thing is is have tobelieve it before you see it.
This whole I'll believe it whenI see it is the exact reason
you're not seeing it, and Ialways use this as an example,
(40:21):
and we're going to get back tomy story about the whole
business thing, because I got tobe quick.
It's about to.
I don't want it to end, butthink.
The example that always comes tomind for me is you think about
great movement leaders likeMartin Luther King, jr, gandhi
Throw some out there for mey'all and just think about the
(40:42):
trials, the tribulations.
I mean the fucking lack ofrespect and the degradation.
People were inhumane to themand they didn't fucking give up
on their dream.
They did not give up on thecrusade, the mission, because
when you have a vision and whenyou finally accept that, you
know what.
Some of us might be chosen,some of us are natural born
(41:05):
leaders.
It's okay.
It's okay to take pride in thatand to fulfill that prophecy in
this lifetime, because I betyou were a worker.
Be back in back way when and Imean sure I was a prostitute at
least three times in my pastlives as a weird-ass dream job.
But what I'm saying is is thatin this lifetime yes, exactly
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like it's it's to want to lead amovement to fulfill your
prophecy.
All right.
So the free course?
I was talking to my husband andI was looking around Like it's
to want to lead a movement andto fulfill your prophecy.
All right.
So the free course.
I was talking to my husband andI was looking around.
I was like I'm ready to.
When it dries out out here,because it's been raining a lot,
when it dries out, I'm going totake a garbage bag and we're
going to get rid of all thisshit and the kids are going to
(41:45):
freak out, but we're going toreplace it with new, good
quality stuff.
And I told her.
I said, mother Teresa, yes,ma'am, but where would we be
without these great people?
I'm not saying you're the nextJesus.
I'm not saying you have to besacrilegious.
I'm not saying you have to be adick to get there.
I'm saying that some of us aremeant to change the world and it
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is our responsibility to dothat.
Okay, but I was thinking aboutit.
I was like I want to.
In doing this, I want to utilizesomeone that is really good at
what they do, that needs thingslike them through, like monetary
right, because that gives usconfidence when we do something
and we get paid for it.
It gives you.
And so that's why a lot ofbusiness owners are very, very
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and pivot, re-pivot, do allthese things because they're not
truly owning their zones ofgenius and then charging well
what they're worth for it, right.
And when we do raise our pricesand do things like that and we
don't see immediate feedbackthrough people saying you know
what I'm, work with you orinvoice me me, or then you tend
to give up.
But, like I was thinking, like Iknow what I want to do, I want
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my brother to build the boys aminiature house in our backyard,
big for them, but little onlike adults, right, I want my
brother.
How, how beautiful of anexperience is that going to be?
I said, and I want, cause Iknow he's going to do it and he
will do it.
He would do it for free if Iasked him to, but there's no
fucking way.
I want him to see what he iscapable of and what people will
(43:19):
pay him for, and I want to payhim a lot of money I want to pay
him like $5,000.
And I want to record the process.
I want him to do the blueprintswith my children and I want to
document that, because one it'sgoing to be something.
First off, he's my brother andthis is just beautiful fucking
memories, right.
The second, my kids can lookback on that.
(43:40):
Third, they're part of thatprocess and that, right, there
is going to be the mostmemorable part that they take
with them being part of that,and then the memories they build
while building it, but thememories they build inside of it
.
To be part of that and then tobe able to go back and look at
that.
And that's when it hit me.
I can literally take anypassion, I can take any skillset
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and I can turn it into highticket.
So that is a high ticketservice for my brother, right?
Do you see how we can get paidto exist?
You just got to get in front ofthe right people that want your
stuff.
So I wanted to share that withyou because I feel like a lot of
people aren't sure Can Ibenefit from your services?
Absolutely you can, if you'vegot drive determination.
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You are a skill set that I canteach you to market in demand
and you own that shit and you'reactually good at it and you get
results.
Absolutely, you can get paid toexist.
I can teach you to have money.
You can have one stream ofincome that's bringing you
$10,000.
Another stream that's bringingyou 20.
Babe, you are limitless,limitless, so fun.
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I love what I do so much and myclient, sarah, has helped me
with that.
I'm just realizing like whatgenius I am and what you know to
it is the fact that I'm achronic illness baby and I've
had so much time to think thatI've not, I've not known what I
want to be when I grow up, andso I've tried a million jobs
that have been around peoplethat I don't know how they got
(45:10):
there.
But actually now I do becausethey're just committed and
stayed there long enough and, Iguess, had some good ideas and
didn't give up, whereas I optedout because I can't stay in an
environment for very long andput up with bullshit and
nonsense and sign my life awayat the hope of maybe one day
I'll get to travel I mean,babies know like no.
(45:31):
We don't want to wait someday.
We want to feel like normalpeople.
We want to do this shit now.
I love you all so much.
I wish that all these commentswould stay.
I don't think they do, though.
All right, thank you so muchfor listening to me.
I think you're all amazing.
If you need me, if you want tochat, my inbox is open.
I'm so here for you.
(45:52):
I'm so here for your success.
I think you're fucking amazingand I cannot wait to help you
get paid, to exist Whatevercapacity feels good for you.
Sometimes we do have to pivotAbsolutely.
I'm so grateful for all thepivots because they led right
back to where I was supposed tobe.
It all led back to my zone ofgenius.
(46:12):
I had to try it all out.
You've got to try it all outbefore you figure out what's for
you Fell forward.
Don't be afraid to fuck it up.
Y'all, in fact, fuck it upfaster.
Can I get a comment?
I'm going to fuck it up faster.
That should be like your newmotto let's fuck it up faster
(46:34):
because that's the quickest wayto succeed.
If you've enjoyed this episode.
Please take a moment to go toApple podcast and leave a quick
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She, she's crazy, she's fun.
She's exactly what we need inthe industry right now, because
I really do believe that I am.
(46:55):
I think that we need a womanlike me and I'm ready to fully
fucking own that.
Okay, I'm playing small.
Y'all tired of playing small.
I'm ready to go out with a bangand I am so excited to see who
all I get to take with me, whoall trust themselves enough to
let me lead them, enough to bepart of this crusade, because
(47:17):
all of you who who tag along, Ijust know it's going to be a
wild ride and that it is goingto be the best memories made.
We're going to havedocumentation of it.
Not everybody can say that Ilove you so much.
I'll see y'all later.
Bye.
Hey there, hi, it's Jacqueline here.
Welcome back to another liverecording of Just Women Talking
Shit, where I am going to shootthe shit and smoke, because
that's just how we roll aroundhere.
So there's so much tea to catchup on y'all, oh my god.
So not too long ago, Iannounced my pivot, right, I
announced the pivot, and then Iwas just claiming I'm here to
(00:24):
shake some shit up, right, andso I made that big announcement.
What was it like three, fourweeks ago?
I don't know, it wasn't thatlong ago.
And so much has changed.
Have you all noticed, have younoticed, a shift in my company?
I want to share what I haveshifted.
Nicole, can you hear me?
Can you leave me a comment?
Let me know that the mic ispicking everything up, please,
please, I'm gonna light my smoke, but everything shifted because
(00:48):
I made just a few solidadjustments.
They were energetic adjustmentsand then very strategic
adjustments.
So if you're new here, that'sgood.
As long as we have sound, I'mgood.
And how cool that you'relistening to this from work.
I love that so much.
So what was I saying?
(01:13):
Oh, fuck, hold on.
The adjustments that were madewere both energetic and really
just some psychologicaladjustments.
So if you have been around fora minute, then you already know
I am a woman of authenticity.
I'm not afraid to fail forwardand fall flat on my face, flat
on my ass, and I will evenfeature it so that you don't
feel alone in this crazy journeyof one being a human.
(01:37):
Being a human is hard.
There's no set rule book, noguidebook, right.
We're all just fucking up andfiguring it out.
So if you've been here for aminute, you already know occurs
like a seller, right?
Not a seller, a sailor.
The southern in me is comingout and I just really don't.
I don't give a fuck, becauseI've finally entered this era of
(02:00):
life where I truly am ready todo what I call get paid to exist
.
And getting paid to exist meansthat you are not hiding who the
fuck you are anymore, right?
You're not hiding who you are,what you want, what your desires
are, what your dreams are, whatyour goals are, the type of
partner you want, theexpectation of income that you
expect to have.
(02:20):
Every month.
I now have an energeticbaseline of $10,000 cash months,
meaning that I an energeticbaseline of $10,000 cash months,
meaning that I have a minimumof $10,000 cash at the end of
each month, after expenses,after everything, right?
So as you grow, as they say,new levels, new devils, right?
(02:42):
You start to realize that theshifts that you make, they're
not even big shifts.
That's the thing.
They're not even huge shifts,it's just like a series of
shifts over time that it had tohappen that way.
Do you know what I mean?
You had to go through that.
You had to block yourself inthat moment to learn that lesson
.
You had to lose that job, youhad to lose that partner, you
(03:05):
had to fuck up and hurt thatperson.
Unfortunately, maybe it wasn'tintentional, but in life's grand
scheme of things, if you'reable to pull yourself back and
see things like a wide angle,right, not so close up and
intimate then you're able to seethat all of it makes sense.
Then you're able to see thatall of it makes sense.
And so what I realized inmaking so I've far exceeded
(03:29):
$11,000 in cash, but just sothat I can put it in what I feel
like is just more digestible,and so we can keep up with the
common theme of just simplicity,right, I'm averaging about a
thousand dollars a day, and soin 11 days I brought in, with my
coaching company, $11,000 cash.
So sales were 13, somethingright, and so we got fees and we
(03:51):
have all these other things,but I wanted at least $10,000
cash to hit my account and so in11 days we did $11,000 cash and
, to be honest, I've never seenoutside of, I would say, student
, student loans oh my hairStudent loans or some kind of
loan that you have to get for avehicle.
I've never gotten to play witha lot of money at once.
(04:12):
Do you know what I mean?
Coming at me quickly, and so Iwas really scared I wasn't going
to be able to hold on to it.
But, fun fact, life prepared me.
The universe, god and source,and my angels, angels and
everybody.
They prepared me Because do youknow what I experienced right
before that?
Almost an entire year of drought, an entire year of figuring out
(04:33):
how to nurture myself, how tolet go of things that were
actually bringing me money butnot bringing me joy.
I had to let go of a dependableincome.
I had to come out to my husbandand tell him I'm not perfect
and I'm really struggling.
And there's a reason that I amretracting and that I'm so
depressed, and it's because I'mnot aligned and I had to go
(04:54):
through this whole journey.
This whole past year has beenthis journey of just radical
exception of who the fuck I amand what I want, and not feeling
guilty for that.
And it's been a year of drought, a year of doubt, but a year of
massive and radical acceptanceof nobody's going to get this
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for me except for me.
Right, and I pinpointed througha lot of meditation, a lot of
prayer, a lot of just sitting bymyself with myself out here,
and there's a reason I'm sittingout here for today's podcast
episode.
I want to just show you all realquick where I sit in gratitude
almost every single day of mylife to work, even when it's
cold.
I just recently invested in aheated blanket.
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This makes me happy.
I look forward to work when Iget to sit out and smoke my weed
I'm sorry, my cannabis andbecause that sounds, I don't
know, maybe that won't get me introuble.
I would just better quittalking now.
But I sit out here and Ipartake in my medicine We'll say
that my green medicine is whatI call it and I exist, sorry
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about that.
I exist as I am, as fucked up asI am, as chronically ill as I
am, and sorry about that.
I exist as I am, as fucked upas I am, as chronically ill as I
am, and I take the good days.
I don't take them for granted.
I take the good days and Ifucking run with them.
I'm going to be at the gym, I'mgoing to be out there spreading
joy, I'm going to be buyingpeople coffee, I'm going to be
opening doors, and so thebiggest shift I made after I
found out funny story too, bythe way.
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I'm going to tell you all thisin a minute but the funniest
thing happened whenever it comesto HD, where are my human
design buffs at?
Where are you?
Raise your hand, tell me whatyour HD is, what is your
authority?
Tell me all the things, and I'mgoing to come back and tell you
this story.
So, in this radical acceptanceof I'm fucking tired, I'm sick
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and tired of feeling bad, thatI'm sick and tired all the time,
I'm sick and tired of feelingsick and tired, yes, but why do
I beat myself up over that?
Why do I make that a bad thing?
And so I really started to leaninto my story, hopping on here
and sharing my story, sharingthe tears, sharing the wisdom,
sharing the fuck ups, sharingthe behind the scenes.
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So when I'm in flow, even if Idon't feel well physically,
mentally sometimes, I'm in flow,and so I really took a lot of
the pressure off of myself toquit having a schedule, such a
tough schedule, that I knew Icouldn't abide by.
I've retracted and I've pulledback from a lot of coaching
calls.
I've had to set a lot ofboundaries and it's really been
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tough because I'm afraid thatpeople will think it has
something to do with them andthat they're too much and that
they're just inadequate.
But it's not.
It's everything to do with me.
I'm figuring out that I don't dowell with a lot of what feels
like restricted structure.
So, for instance, I said youknow what I'm going to hop on
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today and I'm behind on mypodcast episodes.
I had to shift from, but youalways get it done.
Right, I had to shift from theguilt to, but you always get it
done.
Maybe it's not in the mosttimely manner, maybe you don't
always stick to the strictest ofschedules, but when you show up
, jacqueline, you really show up.
Have you noticed that?
And so I started to speak tomyself in a way that I wish
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someone would speak to me, andit's really come down to
nurturing that inner child andadmitting all that I want and
all that I'm worthy of.
And so, in having theseconversations with myself, it's
been a really huge shift,radical acceptance.
And so this is your permissionslip too.
If you want a life of wealth andyou don't want to have to work
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super fucking hard for it in thelong run, here's your
permission slip.
Will it take two or three,maybe five years of radical
commitment?
Absolutely.
Will you have to skip out ongoing out for drinks with your
friends when it sounds funAbso-fucking-lutely?
Will it be worth it in the end?
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Better bet your sweet tits itwill be, because while everybody
else is still grinding andhustling in their 40s 50s,
having mid-life crises, you'llbe so grounded in who the fuck
you are because you did, you putin the time.
You saw past the fun nights andyou thought fun nights sound fun
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.
Having some drinks sounds fun,I don't know.
I also think it'd be reallybomb to have a nice house and a
nice entertainment area, maybe areally nice back porch that
overlooks some water.
I also think that'd be prettyfucking cool so I can host those
events in a classy, legacy way,right?
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So it really comes down to theboundaries and sometimes like
that's really hard having thoseconversations and then also
allowing yourself to honor howyou respond to the boundaries
and how you have to take time toyourself to sometimes not
respond Right.
So the past I would say 30 days, because when I talked to one
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of my coaches I was on herpodcast on Friday, which I'll
let you guys know when it comesout.
But if you want to check herpodcast out, it's called
manifest.
Manifest mad money with YolandaBoyran and she's a.
She's a seven figure.
That's so cool to say she's aseven figure coach and she does
it.
I've copied a lot of what shedoes and it's working for me, as
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you see, but she does it in away that are so fully aligned
and that is so no bullshit andso magnetic that she gets paid
to exist Right, and that issomething that I just want to
share.
I want to continue to share allthe behind the scenes, all of
the tips and the tricks and theno gatekeeping Right, and it
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really did start with.
The biggest shift I made wasenergetically backing myself up
and protecting myself in a waythat it feels good to me.
I don't want to feel anxiousall the time about my business.
I already feel anxious with mymental illness, and my mental
illness thrives on the worry ofthings like having to hop on a
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call, knowing that I don't knowwhat the fuck I'm going to feel
like that day.
It's so hard too for me tocommit sometimes and I would say
95% of the time to an event sosimple, such as a Zoom call that
I know is going to last an houror two hours.
But it's different knowing thatmaybe I'm planning a retreat a
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year from now and I canenergetically prepare for that.
I don't know what that's about.
I'm figuring it out.
I'm not saying that it's pretty.
I'm not saying it's sexy.
I'm not saying that it's kind,even for the people that are on
the receiving end.
But I know that I have to keepmyself safe and I've got a lot
of life that I don't tell youall about Because it's not a.
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I don't want to appear as a bigleader.
There are some things I have tokeep private for my own sanity
and figure them out on my own,without any outside opinion or
reflection on their how theywould solve it, how they would
handle it.
I need to figure these thingsout on my own right, and so it
comes with a lot of energeticboundaries, and the thing that
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controls us most right now arethese phones.
So you'll see that if you textme, you'll see that if you try
to call me, if I make contact inyour phone, I share with
everybody my status.
I'm on do not disturb most ofthe time unless I know.
I have a client call that Icommitted to, that I've been
able to energetically preparefor, and a lot of it does have
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to do with and it sounds reallyfucking shitty.
If I'm not getting paidsometimes it's not reason enough
to hop on a call, because I'vegot so many demons of my own
that I'm flushing out behind thescenes.
I've got my debt that I'mfiguring out.
I've got my debt that I'mfiguring out.
I've got my health that I'mfiguring out.
So I literally budget my energyat this point and I think it's
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been a huge fucking shiftbecause I'm not available to
everybody anymore and I want youto take that away from this.
In your business, in your life,in your relationships, you are
not available to everybodybecause everybody will not put
that same amount of work intoyou.
Yes, I'm trying so hard toprotect my mental health and
being on these phones does nothelp me.
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It's so ironic because I'vebuilt something so beautiful
right here in this nook on thisphone Well, not this phone, this
is a new phone but with thisdevice that has allowed me to
find my identity, to build theconnections, yes, but I don't
want to be on it all the time.
I don't want to be on zoomcalls, just I don't, and I have
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to respect that and have tohonor that.
So a lot of working with melooks like voice messaging back
and forth.
It looks like, as soon as youhave an idea, send me a text,
send me a message.
It doesn't mean I'm respondingright away and if you get a
response out of me quickly, knowthat I'm available for that
right then, but that I mightdisappear in a few minutes
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because, well, we've got fivekids.
I've got a husband who worksfrom home who I can't ignore,
who needs my attention.
I've got my mom and her husbandwho have cancer, and a sister
with mental illness that I worryabout every fucking day of my
life.
I've got family in Hattiesburgdon't really know how they're
doing.
I've got cousins that are infoster care right now that I
live for and I just worry aboutthem all the time.
I worry about my mom's health,so I can't.
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There's a way that we're goingto build this, and so that is a
huge shift that I've made, isnon-negotiables in my energy
right.
Another huge shift that I madeand that I think that you can
also benefit from if you'rebuilding a coaching business, if
you're building a creatorbusiness.
Creator businesses could looklike you build courses, you have
a podcast, you are a UGCcreator or you have an online
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service provider business whereyou literally go out and serve.
Notice that all these thingsyou're giving.
You're giving yourself, you'regiving your time, you're giving
your energy, you're giving yourknowledge, your wisdom, your
life experience.
You are reiterating all of thelife lessons that you can't
really put a value on, and thenyou're packaging it and putting
a value on, and so you can'texceed that energetic value that
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you felt you deposited intothat bank.
If you're not getting more outof it, then you will eventually
experience burnout, and so moneyis just energy, and that's what
I teach all my clients ismoney's energy, and so if your
energy is not high, your incomewill not be high, and what I
mean by high energy is not we'rejumping around and we're happy
all the time.
It's energy.
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Being high is a sense ofalignment, it's a higher depth
of consciousness.
Right, you're, in a way, closerto God.
You're listening to themessages.
You're respecting your feelings, because your feelings are
feedback.
You're honoring the boundariesthat God has instilled in your
heart that make you uneasy.
You're not letting people walkall over you anymore.
You're not over exceeding yourenergy and putting yourself on
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the back burner anymore, andyou'll start to notice that
whenever you honor that, thingsstart to flow and you start to
find your people and all thethings and we've went through
this over and over again.
Your vibe attracts your track,but if we don't get grounded in
that now, you will not build thesix figure business that is
sustainable.
I'm not saying you won't builda six figure business.
I'm saying it won't besustainable.
You won't build a seven figurebusiness.
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I'm not there yet and I'm notsitting here trying to shit you
and tell you I'm there yet.
I'm telling you that I know howto make $1,000 at minimum a day
.
That's what I'm here to tellyou, and so if I'm going to live
another thousand days, you dothe math and that's what being
paid to exist means.
And so, in order to implementthis in your business, so that
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you can benefit from this veryquickly, get really solid in all
of that that I just told you.
And then we're going to talkabout the second thing, as I
relight, because y'all know Italk and then it goes out, and
so we've got a fun game going onright now, and I think it's
just going to be part of the funJacqueline vibe of just women
talking shit in our lives ingeneral.
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But we're going to play a gameand I want everyone to start
counting, because it's so funny,how many times this
motherfucker is going to go out.
And on the last live, I thinkwe counted eight, eight times.
Between the time that westarted the conversation to the
time I ended, I think I had torelay eight times, and so it's
kind of a fun game.
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Oh, how many times?
Anyway, taking bets, how manytimes is it going to be?
This is number two, and I justwant to say do not drink to this
game because you may get fuckedup.
Number two.
So number one wasnon-negotiables in my energy,
non-negotiables in my income.
I raised my prices tremendously, I was going to raise them and
quit thinking I was given, Ikept.
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I was spent myself on sale, andso many of you are doing this
too.
High ticket's the way to go andI kept.
I was spent myself on sale, andso many of you are doing this
too.
High ticket's the way to go andyou have low ticket offers that
lead them into that.
It's the way to go.
You can create an experiencearound anything.
You can create a high ticketexperience around anything.
I literally just came up withthe best business idea for my
brother and I'm going to helphim do it.
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I'm going to pitch it to himand he's not going to help him
do it.
I'm going to pitch it to himand he's not going to be able to
say no because I'm going toallow him an avenue to get paid
to exist by doing his marketingfor him.
So what I did was, outside ofthe non-negotiables, outside of
saying this is my new energeticminimum, this is my new cash
month minimum.
I raised my prices and I madeit super valuable to raise my
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prices.
So I was selling my things for$47 a pop energetic blueprints,
$47 a pop, doing extremelyextended payment plans for
Stripe that I may not get myfull invoice back for.
And so I was taking a lot ofrisks and I was operating from a
place of need, and so I finallyfigured out a way through some
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help, through some guidance,through some trial and error.
For anybody drinking I'm nottrying to get you drunk, so I'm
going to try to keep this lit,but I just said you know what,
fuck it.
And I packaged it in a way thatwas so irresistible.
And here's the thing, I didn'twait to test any of it.
I went out there and I justwent ahead and talked to people.
I already built relationshipswith People that I already knew
trusted me, some that I'd workedwith before, some I was working
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with at the moment, based onjust and here's the thing
scrappy situations.
I stopped thinking that I hadto have my product suite all
worked out, and everyconversation that I started with
serving I figured out where areyou in life right now, how have
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you been, how are the kids?
And I fucking made realconnections.
Lots of these people I alreadyhave connections with because I
show up in a way that peopleidentify with.
I'm real as fuck.
I'm not going to sit here andsugarcoat it, but I'm also not
going to be a dick.
I'm human right.
I know how to treat a person, Iknow how to read the room, and
so I took this skill set, thisgift of I'm good at building
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community.
I'm good at making people feelloved.
I'm good at people makingpeople feel seen, and I'm good
at doing that through the DMs.
I'm good at making people feelseen, and I'm good at doing that
through the DMs.
I'm good at doing that throughtext.
I'm good at doing that throughvoice messages, because I'm
introverted as fuck.
A lot of people don't know thatabout me.
I'm introverted as fuck.
Or on number three, if I canfind the lighter.
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So, with having all of theanxiety around phone calls, cold
DMs, sales calls, why not buildit the way you fucking want to
build it and do it in a way thatmakes you happy, in a way that
positions you as somebody theywant to be around?
And so I've learned to packagemy energy in a way that I can
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leverage it so that I'm notdrained, because I'm an empath.
Y'all, I'm an empath, I'm amanifesting generator.
3-5, which means I go, go, go,go up here Doesn't mean I can go
, go, go, go out here.
I get very tired very easily.
I've said it over and overagain and I've Sarah, ms Sarah.
She has helped me so much withadmitting to the chronic
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illnesses and finally justcoming out and saying, yeah,
it's not who I am, but it'sdefinitely part of my journey,
it's part of my story.
It's the whole fucking reason Istarted all of this.
It's the whole reason I wantedto work online.
It's the whole reason I startedworking online.
It's the whole reason I startedMLMs network marketing
companies because I knew Icannot work at a desk job like a
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normal fucking person.
With as much as I hurt everysingle day of my life mentally
and physically, I can't do it orI will wind up dead.
I will dig myself an earlygrave.
I will put my nail in my owncoffin.
Because I do not do well understress.
I do not do well faking it.
I do not do well with smalltalk, with conversations that
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are just in, in my frank opinion, and, speaking to the depths of
my soul, empty as fuck.
I'm not here for that.
That is a waste of my time.
I'm here to talk with you aboutwhat the fuck you want out of
this life, so that I can helpyou do that.
I have figured out.
I'm a visionary strategist, butI can't overexert myself, right
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?
And so how are you packagingyourself up to appear to be for
everyone when really what youshould be doing in your business
is going behind the scenes andtalking to those people that you
notice are rooting for you,that when you do put something
out, vote on the polls, askquestions, open your emails what
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about those people Everyone'sso worried about?
Vanity followers?
How fast can I grow my account?
I fucking did it.
I started this account asspiritual support system.
Spiritual support system wassomething that I thought that
everyone in the fucking worldneeded and they do and you do
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but you don't need it at everyphase of your life.
It takes a pivotal bone, cold,shaking, gut wrenching moment to
know that you need spiritualsupport system.
It is at a certain point inyour life where you have
surrendered and you've triedeverything and you are in
radical acceptance of who youare the good, the bad, the ugly
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before you're ready forspiritual support system.
So in my mind it was foreverybody.
And again I was trying to speakto everybody, trying to please
everybody, right?
And that wasn't fully alignedfor me.
You're not for everybody, sowhere are you packaging yourself
for everybody.
And so what I did, and what youcan do too, is get in the
conversations, girl, go have theDMs, slide into the DMs.
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What you'll find is thesepeople are waiting on you.
They're fucking waiting on youto notice them, to say, hey, I
see your content, I think you'reincredible, I feel like we
would be friends in real life,and what you'll find is that
they're watching and waiting forthe invitation to come into
your world.
And that's what I found is thatI was packaging myself in a way
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that was asking for permission,when really, deep down, is a
coach, if you really know yourshit and you own your shit and
you show up unapologetically andyou're like I'm here to lead a
million dollar movement, baby,the rest of them can go fuck
themselves while I laugh myselfto the bank and I help people on
such an intentional level thatchanges their lives.
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That's what my retreat does,that's what my podcast does,
that's what being around me does.
People will tell you when youget around me and if you are
blessed to be on a phone callwith me, it's a moment.
Well, I bond with you.
It's the soul connection, and Idon't give that away freely
anymore.
And so where are you givingyourself away freely and where
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can we step back and go wait?
Where have I been leaking myenergy and where have I been
building this in a way that Idon't want to build it, in a way
that's not sustainable, becausewhat happens is we overthink
the whole thing and we thinkabout the whole legacy and the
empire that we want to build,and the biggest thing we do is
we get caught in this oh fuck,this scroll of comparison.
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And it's so big in the coachingindustry, so big in the content
creation industry.
We compare our content.
Why isn't it getting saves?
Why isn't it getting likes andshares?
Come on y'all.
Does that really fucking matter?
No, what matters is is theconversation with that woman who
rolled out of bed this morningand wasn't sure how the fuck she
was going to make it throughthe day, and then you wrote her
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and she said I needed that.
Thank you, because she feltalone, because she, too is
looking for what you're lookingfor, and so the second thing I
did, and that you can do too, isto quit packaging yourself for
everyone.
Go have a conversation with thepeople that they need you, they
really do and they want to workwith you and they want to be in
your energy and you go findthem and you make it your
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conviction and your crusade tofind them, because the most
selfish thing you can do and mypost, was it?
Touched base on this today themost selfish thing you can do is
sit there and ignore the gifts.
Some of us have so many fuckinggifts and ignore them because
we, we were conditioned to thinkthat you're too much, you're
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too emotional.
I cannot tell you fucking manytimes I've heard that you're in
your head, sounds nice, but youneed a real job.
To dim your light in a worldthat is so dark is a true
disservice to humanity and togod, the creator in this
universe itself.
It really, and it took this pastyear of problems in my marriage
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, going through some of theroughest moments of having to
really stare at myself andfigure out why this wasn't
working, why I wasn't making themoney, why I wasn't making the
impact, having to come to termswith even though I didn't
realize it, energetically doingit for the wrong reasons.
I didn't realize that until Irealized that I hadn't accepted
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that I was trying to prove somepeople wrong.
I held on to this guilt, thissurvivor's guilt as well, of my
daughter's dad not being here,and then just my family.
I'm breaking generationalcurses.
Most of my family is dad notbeing here, and then just my
family.
I'm breaking generationalcurses.
Most of my family is below thepoverty line and lives off of
welfare and will forever liveoff of welfare and never
understand what it's like tohave this sense of freedom and
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that they can overcome theirodds and that they can have this
too.
And so it came down to thisconviction that having
conversations is where theconversions are at, but it's
also where change happens.
And so the shift that I made,and that you can make too, is to
go out there and have moreconversations, because, at the
end of the day, you're in yourfucking head about it.
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And, at the end of the day, ifyour heart is in the right place
and you're genuinely justtrying to make a connection with
somebody, get to know them, andif the opportunity presents
itself for you to be theirfriend or be their mentor, who
is just a few steps ahead ofthem, that can guide them, if
that opportunity, your feelingsbecause your feelings are
feedback, through nudges,because that's your intuition,
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and through coincidences andsigns that are clues that you're
on the right track.
If you could just trust thatand you could go into each
conversation with seeingyourself as this beautiful gift
from God.
Just imagine yourself takingthis gift to them and then
opening it and imagine theoutcome of if they work with you
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.
How can you have to presentyourself through these
conversations as the solution?
Because I just, why else wouldGod, why else would the universe
, why else would source?
Why would it keep popping up inyour reality?
Really, stop and think aboutthat.
Else with the universe, whyelse with source?
Why would it keep popping up inyour reality?
Really, stop and think aboutthat.
Why would a feeling on yourheart, something that you
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daydream about in your dreamdreams and that you think about
and you just keep getting thesesigns and these signals and all
these people and God winks?
Why, if it's not meant for you,if there's no lust behind it
and you really do have a good,pure heart and you are here to
help humanity, how selfish wouldthat be?
And I had to start seeingmyself as I'm a fucking gift.
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God works through me.
And so I started having theconversations and I only had to
sign oh, by the way, this moneythat I've made?
It was only a portion of it.
Oh, by the way, this money thatI've made, it was only a
portion of it.
I've set it up in a way that Iwill get more in the new year
that I've not even accounted for.
How cool is that?
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There's about another 5K that Ialready know.
I have come the new year and sowouldn't it be cool to feel so
appreciated in what you do, butalso see the impact through the
transformations your clients get, like they see for themselves.
My community will tell you.
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Some of them are on here rightnow.
It doesn't take very many.
You get somebody on your sideand you help them, and word of
mouth and your energy and youjust committing to the end
result, releasing the timeline,hopping on you know episodes,
whatever it is that you'retrying to build, hopping on and
just believing in it before youeven see the results.
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You will get results unless yougive up or you're not good at
it.
I'm just going to be real, okay, is it like American?
Like I'm going to be real, okay, is it like American?
Like I'm going to bullshit you.
I'm going to be the Simon whenit comes to like if good at this
, you can and you have the rightstrategy and you don't fucking
give up.
You will make money.
You.
You do things you love and itdoesn't have to feel like a
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strain or like look forward toit, but you have to that that
that thing I did.
You have to have thoseboundaries, and that's
boundaries with yourself too,babe, that's boundaries.
I said that today I was gonnaactually not work, I was gonna
take care of myself, becauseI've been going five solid days
this week and I'm starting toresent my work and I know that
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it's not the work, it's actuallyI'm resenting overexerting
myself and I'm resentingoverexerting myself and I'm
resenting how I feel right now.
So boundaries.
And then two, the conversations, with conviction and selling
yourself in a way that it'scustomizable.
So I've customized my energy,but the way that I sold to these
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people was just throughconversations, y'all, and I
crafted a custom package forthem.
That does not sound hard, doesit?
No, it's not hard.
And then the third thing I didwas let me think of what.
The third thing I did was oh,the payment plans.
I made it super accessible towork with me in a way that it
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was affordable, in a monthly waythat it wasn't going to stress
them out.
If, for some reason, it didn'twork which is it will work.
I don't allow myself to workwith people that I don't think
it will work.
Like I'm that person that'sgoing to take your money Fuck
that.
If I wanted to do that, I wouldjust be selling extremely
passive courses.
I wouldn't be selling highticket, I wouldn't be involved
with my community.
You know what I mean.
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Like there's air.
There's a lot of things thatyou got to work through to make
sure that it's gonna work foryou, right, but you also have to
make a super accessible likewhere that?
So there are so many peoplethat want to work with you, but
maybe they don't have the creditor the funds up front.
So, like, again, it goes backto being resourceful.
So that was the third thing.
(32:48):
I got super fucking resourceful, right, and they are a lifetime
, but we got alarms going off.
So those were.
Those were the three majorshifts I made.
Uh, everything else is morelike.
If you think about content,strategy and stuff like that, my
content did shift.
If you want to learn about that, just comment a free course and
(33:08):
I'll send you the free courseon.
It's a three like very steps itwas.
It had a lot to do with this.
That is in the podcast episode.
But if you're listening to thepodcast episode on my website or
through wherever you get yourpodcasts just women talking shit
, audience members who arelistening.
I love you so fucking much,just going to say that.
But second, you can just checkthe show notes for the free
(33:32):
course.
But for anybody watching rightnow, which I just saw, we got
Moonshine Collective on here.
We got the Chronic Confessions.
I saw some beautiful othersouls on here.
We are approaching light.
Number four for anybody keepingcount, all y'all do is comment
or DM free course.
This free course is going totell you exactly how, or the
changes I made in three steps tomake $7,650 in 72 hours.
(33:56):
It was actually less than 72hours, but it felt weird to just
like pop a random number.
So three days is really what itwas three days and I was able
to took all that cash and soafter that it was $11,000 cash
in 11 days and so it's justgoing up.
I'm at $18,000 right now andit's only been three weeks and
so this course is so fuckinggood.
(34:18):
It is just and I want you tonotice.
Notice as well the simplicity ofhow I have this set up.
It's a Google doc that feedsyou into a loom video screen
recording, which I don't eventhink I show my face because I'm
a total fucking introvert.
I'm very choosy with my energy,right.
But also at the time I hadn'thad a whole, like I'd have a new
(34:40):
camera and I just got myself anew phone, all these things.
I was like no, we're just not.
We're not going to stress aboutthat.
And let that hold me back,because I don't look good in the
camera for what it is.
It's.
The lens is like busted.
I don't want people to have to.
It would be a distraction.
Do you know what I mean?
And so didn't let that hold meback.
And I put this thing togetherand I said, fuck it, we're going
to fuck up and fail forward andmake money while we do it.
(35:01):
We're going to learn while weearn.
And that's what I did is I puttogether a Google doc with a
quick 15 minute training videoand you could literally go and
replicate this in your own way.
Please do not steal myintellectual property by any
means.
I'll get that to you, babe.
You may actually have a DMalready, because I have systems
set up and I believe it's justsend it to you automatically.
(35:25):
Just let me know if it doesn't.
And I say that because I havenot tested it on a live stream
yet.
But I, I, oh God, what was Isaying?
I don't know.
It's just super simple.
It'll show you how to do all ofthat.
And again, I'm going to saythis before I hop off.
You can literally apply what Ido to anything.
Okay, I'm gonna tell you thequick story.
(35:46):
I only have 5% my battery andthe way this is plugged up.
I can't charge it because I'vegot an attachment for the
microphone.
What are we on?
Number six?
See, this is fun.
We're going to have some coffeereal quick, and then I'm going
to get back to my story beforewe hop off.
Also, if you live near aStarbucks and you'd like a free
Starbucks, let me know I'll sendyou one.
(36:06):
Sorry, starbucks, let me knowI'll send you one.
Sorry about the call.
I didn't expect that.
That will for sure get editedout of the phone, but comment
Starbucks and I'll send you someStarbucks, because I love
Starbucks and I want to share itwith everybody.
Please excuse us, while we havenot a technical difficulty.
I really hope I haven't bustedany of y'all's ears out with
this microphone.
You need more Starbucks.
I got you One second.
(36:28):
Alright, queen of authenticityis back.
I really encourage you all tobe authentic as fuck, too.
It sells.
No, we're not back.
Okay, we're back.
What I was saying I'm going toput this out for a minute was
that the free course informationthat I give you.
(36:50):
I'm not dying.
I hope we've got a reallybadass retreat in sedona, but I
have to make it too.
Let me live until then, justuntil checkout.
Okay, I live until then.
This is wild, y'all.
I?
I didn't expect that to happen.
Sorry about that anyway.
Okay, so what I was saying wasthis course oops, are you afraid
of heights?
Go back up this course thatI've created.
(37:12):
I really want to implement itand, like I'm implemented, I'm
doing a case study with my bestfriend and I'm going to show you
all how anybody can do thisthrough with any niche like,
like, moonshine Collective.
I know that you don't have anactual tangible product yet.
Ok, what most people should bedoing is, in order to get paid,
(37:32):
to exist, still be gathering,gathering and stuff.
You know they'll be buildingtowards something.
So the free course that youwill get to check out.
It's a 15 minute video to walkyou through everything.
It's just kind of like whatit's like to work with me and my
program that is coming out.
It's an evergreen program,launches January 15th and you
(37:54):
get lifetime access to it.
It's pretty much coaching withme for the rest of your life and
anything that is marketingcontent getting paid to exist.
So I'll you'll always be in theloop of new marketing trends,
what's doing well and access tolike all the ongoing live
streams that I do twice a week.
So this spring course is apreview to that.
(38:15):
But what I want to share withyou, as I'm hopping off and I
say that a lot y'all notice I'mhopping off and it's like 45.
This is called a SouthernGoodbye.
If you're not familiar with ityet, get used to it, because
it's a thing you should see usat holidays turns into two hours
and then your mama will callyou on the way home to tell you
(38:35):
what what should I tell you?
It's?
It's, get used to it.
That's all I'm saying.
Get used to it.
But it's just a preview intothat.
And so the thing I wanted toshare with y'all is I was
talking to my husband earlierand I told him I've been looking
out at our backyard which islooking kind of janky.
You, at this point we have nothad the money.
We have been living in creditcard debt.
We're about to pay off one ofour credit cards that's what I'm
(38:57):
working towards and that one'sgot fucking just $16,000 on it
alone.
And then I'm getting like I'vecaught up in my business stuff,
all these things that I'm doingand you know, help people that I
love behind the scenes sendgifts, it's the holiday giving
season, right, and all thesethings.
But I was.
I was talking to him.
I was like now, once we getcaught up on some things, I know
(39:17):
and I've noticed that sinceI've started making money, he
doesn't object to anything.
I say Now that he's seen thephysical evidence, like in bank
account, his stress levels aredown, just everything is
shifting Everything.
So it's a testament that moneydoes make life a lot easier.
Right and so, because that'swhat I figured out and I think I
(39:38):
was feeding into way earlier onin this episode was that I
figured out that I was lettingmoney control my happiness.
If it wasn't in the account, ifmy account was red, I let that
dictate my external happiness,and a lot of us do that within
our businesses, within ourcompanies, within our lives,
within our relationships.
If we don't see the depositswhether that be financial
(40:00):
deposits, whether that be energydeposits, love deposits, health
deposits, fitness deposits,like immediate we tend to give
up.
But's the thing is is have tobelieve it before you see it.
This whole I'll believe it whenI see it is the exact reason
you're not seeing it, and Ialways use this as an example,
(40:21):
and we're going to get back tomy story about the whole
business thing, because I got tobe quick.
It's about to.
I don't want it to end, butthink.
The example that always comes tomind for me is you think about
great movement leaders likeMartin Luther King, jr, gandhi
Throw some out there for mey'all and just think about the
(40:42):
trials, the tribulations.
I mean the fucking lack ofrespect and the degradation.
People were inhumane to themand they didn't fucking give up
on their dream.
They did not give up on thecrusade, the mission, because
when you have a vision and whenyou finally accept that, you
know what.
Some of us might be chosen,some of us are natural born
(41:05):
leaders.
It's okay.
It's okay to take pride in thatand to fulfill that prophecy in
this lifetime, because I betyou were a worker.
Be back in back way when and Imean sure I was a prostitute at
least three times in my pastlives as a weird-ass dream job.
But what I'm saying is is thatin this lifetime yes, exactly
(41:25):
like it's it's to want to lead amovement to fulfill your
prophecy.
All right.
So the free course?
I was talking to my husband andI was looking around Like it's
to want to lead a movement andto fulfill your prophecy.
All right.
So the free course.
I was talking to my husband andI was looking around.
I was like I'm ready to.
When it dries out out here,because it's been raining a lot,
when it dries out, I'm going totake a garbage bag and we're
going to get rid of all thisshit and the kids are going to
(41:45):
freak out, but we're going toreplace it with new, good
quality stuff.
And I told her.
I said, mother Teresa, yes,ma'am, but where would we be
without these great people?
I'm not saying you're the nextJesus.
I'm not saying you have to besacrilegious.
I'm not saying you have to be adick to get there.
I'm saying that some of us aremeant to change the world and it
(42:12):
is our responsibility to dothat.
Okay, but I was thinking aboutit.
I was like I want to.
In doing this, I want to utilizesomeone that is really good at
what they do, that needs thingslike them through, like monetary
right, because that gives usconfidence when we do something
and we get paid for it.
It gives you.
And so that's why a lot ofbusiness owners are very, very
(42:34):
and pivot, re-pivot, do allthese things because they're not
truly owning their zones ofgenius and then charging well
what they're worth for it, right.
And when we do raise our pricesand do things like that and we
don't see immediate feedbackthrough people saying you know
what I'm, work with you orinvoice me me, or then you tend
to give up.
But, like I was thinking, like Iknow what I want to do, I want
(42:55):
my brother to build the boys aminiature house in our backyard,
big for them, but little onlike adults, right, I want my
brother.
How, how beautiful of anexperience is that going to be?
I said, and I want, cause Iknow he's going to do it and he
will do it.
He would do it for free if Iasked him to, but there's no
fucking way.
I want him to see what he iscapable of and what people will
(43:19):
pay him for, and I want to payhim a lot of money I want to pay
him like $5,000.
And I want to record the process.
I want him to do the blueprintswith my children and I want to
document that, because one it'sgoing to be something.
First off, he's my brother andthis is just beautiful fucking
memories, right.
The second, my kids can lookback on that.
(43:40):
Third, they're part of thatprocess and that, right, there
is going to be the mostmemorable part that they take
with them being part of that,and then the memories they build
while building it, but thememories they build inside of it
.
To be part of that and then tobe able to go back and look at
that.
And that's when it hit me.
I can literally take anypassion, I can take any skillset
(44:03):
and I can turn it into highticket.
So that is a high ticketservice for my brother, right?
Do you see how we can get paidto exist?
You just got to get in front ofthe right people that want your
stuff.
So I wanted to share that withyou because I feel like a lot of
people aren't sure Can Ibenefit from your services?
Absolutely you can, if you'vegot drive determination.
(44:26):
You are a skill set that I canteach you to market in demand
and you own that shit and you'reactually good at it and you get
results.
Absolutely, you can get paid toexist.
I can teach you to have money.
You can have one stream ofincome that's bringing you
$10,000.
Another stream that's bringingyou 20.
Babe, you are limitless,limitless, so fun.
(44:50):
I love what I do so much and myclient, sarah, has helped me
with that.
I'm just realizing like whatgenius I am and what you know to
it is the fact that I'm achronic illness baby and I've
had so much time to think thatI've not, I've not known what I
want to be when I grow up, andso I've tried a million jobs
that have been around peoplethat I don't know how they got
(45:10):
there.
But actually now I do becausethey're just committed and
stayed there long enough and, Iguess, had some good ideas and
didn't give up, whereas I optedout because I can't stay in an
environment for very long andput up with bullshit and
nonsense and sign my life awayat the hope of maybe one day
I'll get to travel I mean,babies know like no.
(45:31):
We don't want to wait someday.
We want to feel like normalpeople.
We want to do this shit now.
I love you all so much.
I wish that all these commentswould stay.
I don't think they do, though.
All right, thank you so muchfor listening to me.
I think you're all amazing.
If you need me, if you want tochat, my inbox is open.
I'm so here for you.
(45:52):
I'm so here for your success.
I think you're fucking amazingand I cannot wait to help you
get paid, to exist Whatevercapacity feels good for you.
Sometimes we do have to pivotAbsolutely.
I'm so grateful for all thepivots because they led right
back to where I was supposed tobe.
It all led back to my zone ofgenius.
(46:12):
I had to try it all out.
You've got to try it all outbefore you figure out what's for
you Fell forward.
Don't be afraid to fuck it up.
Y'all, in fact, fuck it upfaster.
Can I get a comment?
I'm going to fuck it up faster.
That should be like your newmotto let's fuck it up faster
(46:34):
because that's the quickest wayto succeed.
If you've enjoyed this episode.
Please take a moment to go toApple podcast and leave a quick
review.
If you've enjoyed this episodein particular, take a screenshot
if you're listening to it live,share the video and your
stories and tell people golisten to this bitch.
She, she's crazy, she's fun.
She's exactly what we need inthe industry right now, because
I really do believe that I am.
(46:55):
I think that we need a womanlike me and I'm ready to fully
fucking own that.
Okay, I'm playing small.
Y'all tired of playing small.
I'm ready to go out with a bangand I am so excited to see who
all I get to take with me, whoall trust themselves enough to
let me lead them, enough to bepart of this crusade, because
(47:17):
all of you who who tag along, Ijust know it's going to be a
wild ride and that it is goingto be the best memories made.
We're going to havedocumentation of it.
Not everybody can say that Ilove you so much.
I'll see y'all later.
Bye.
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