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REAL, RAW, RELATABLE

G'day, I'm Kat John, Authenticity Coach, Author and Keynote Speaker. Only real talk lives here - no highlight reels. Through sharing real guidance, raw truths and relatable stories, this podcast is here to help you navigate the ongoing dance between your real and true selves, one step at a time. New episodes are released fortnightly Monday's. Listen anywhere you get your podcasts, and please rate and review the podcast if you enjoy it.

Episodes

October 26, 2025 40 mins

Before I knew about perimenopause, Steve had never even heard the word either. Like a lot of men (and women), it just wasn’t on his radar until it started showing up in real time, through my body, emotions, and energy. And now, thankfully, medical professionals talking about it out loud. 

We talk about:

  • What this season has looked and felt like from his perspective
  • The changes he’s noticed in me and in our relationship
  • How we keep ...
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As I approach my 40th birthday, I wanted to take a moment to honour the decade that’s brought me here, my 30s. The years of building, pushing, proving, creating, and doing the deep work to come home to myself.

In the two weeks leading up to my birthday, I sat down with myself and wrote out some powerful reflection statements and journalled out the answers. A moment to say thank you for everything that’s shaped me, and to consciously...

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Steve and I talk about the season we’re in as his girls turn 16 and almost 19, a chapter we used to ache for when they were little and life was full-on. They're more independent, seeking their own adventures and opportunities, and the this time of life we never thought could come fast enough, is here. 

Back then, we dreamed about what freedom would look like. We talked about moving to Europe the minute they turned 18, chasing a...

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October 5, 2025 29 mins

How do you let go of the old way when it’s the very thing that built you? How do you trust a new rhythm when the old one got you here?

Today, I share ...

  • The 'doing' voice that tells me stay on it, stay in it, don’t you dare let go
  • The fears that if I slow down I’ll disappear, become invisible, waste my potential
  • The soul voice that whispers, there’s another way
  • What it feels like to be wedged between don’t-let-go and surr...
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After eight years together it’s easy for Steve and me to fall into the rhythm of everyday questions like what’s for dinner? how was your day? and forget to ask the kind of questions that keep curiosity and intimacy alive.

Recently, we’ve been using Esther Perel’s Where Should We Begin? cards as a way to speak more deeply about topics and explore conversations we wouldn’t usually tap into. In this episode, we pulled a card that asked...

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September 21, 2025 67 mins

I sit with Ashley Hayball-Heald, a previous client of mine, who is a widowed, brave woman, who let love in again after her husband died. She tells the story of how she navigated grief, kids, other people’s opinions, signs from her husband who died, and what it looks like to say yes again to love. 

Ashley is the founder of Team Hayball and Find Your HOPE. She coaches widows to find their hope again amidst tough times. She’s remarried...

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Steve and I talk about something we both know all too well: that awkward, subtle distance that can build up in a relationship when you’re not saying what you’re really feeling.

We recently found ourselves in a place of disconnection, nothing dramatic, no big argument, just a series of micro misunderstandings, missed cues, and moments where we assumed instead of asked. Steve played the, 'everything is fine' card. I kept goi...

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I share a deeply personal letter to my mum, a letter I’ve been slowly writing in my heart for years, and only now have the words, the softness, and the honesty to say out loud.

It’s about the part of me that believed I had to do more to be more.
That my worth was measured by my output, by my ambition, by how different I could be from the women before me. And how, in trying so hard not to be like my mum, I missed just how extrao...

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After witnessing a series of moments on my recent travels left me gutted.

People standing on coral. Ignoring signs that asked not to disturb nesting wildlife.
Disrespecting sacred sites with noise, ego, and entitlement.

This episode and letter is a call to all of us who travel to remember that we are guests. That we’re not entitled to the land, the wildlife, or the culture. That not everything needs to hold personal meaning for i...

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Steve and I lay it all out in this one, the little daily things or habits we find annoying or frustrating about each other.

It’s funny, it’s honest, and it’s the kind of real-life stuff that happens in every relationship but rarely gets talked about out loud. From petty habits to personality quirks, we share them openly with plenty of laughs in this one.

We all know that loving someone doesn’t mean they don’t drive you up the wall so...

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I share a letter I wrote to the part of me that still believes I have to prove my worth to matter.

The part that panics when I slow down. That thinks I’m losing my edge if I’m not pushing. That tells me if I’m not doing, I must be failing.

This letter is from my truth to my ego. From the grounded part of me that knows there’s another way. A slower, more intentional way of living that isn’t fuelled by fear, but by presence. Substance....

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Steve and I share about the reality of step-parenting and family dynamics, especially what happens when a step-parent enters a home that already has its rhythm, its ways, its rules.

Even when you try so hard not to disrupt the dynamic, the truth is, it changes. Because it has to. There's no way around it. 

We talk about:

  • How the dynamic shifts when a new adult comes into the mix
  • Why it’s so bloody hard even when your intention...
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In this episode, I take you back to a question that unraveled a lot for me: What is enough? Especially when it comes to money.

A few years ago, I was chasing the magic million. I thought hitting that number would mean I’d made it as a coach. As if that was the only metric that mattered.

Then I stopped and I asked what’s actually enough for me?

That question cracked something wide open. I started looking at my money differently. I got ...

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In this episode, Steve and I talk about something we’ve both played into in our relationship - repelling energy. That vibe you give off when you're fixated on what’s wrong with the other person, when you're simmering in judgment, frustration, or unmet and unvoiced expectations. And how that energy pushes away the very thing you actually want to feel with them: connection, closeness, understanding, safety.

This one’s for yo...

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This episode is not wrapped in a bow.

It’s not a how-to. It’s not love and light. It’s not advice.

It’s a letter I wrote to myself from the middle of the hormonal hurricane that is perimenopause. From the rage that comes out of nowhere. The anxiety that doesn’t make sense. The noise in my head that feels relentless. The days where I don’t feel like myself and wonder if I ever will again.

I’m sharing this because I know I’m not the onl...

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Steve and I talk about a recent experience where I was  activated by something in the media. A majorly messed up story that stirred old wounds and brought up big emotion.

It wasn’t easy. I felt tender, raw, and flat. And it would’ve been so easy for Steve to pull away or take it personally but instead he stayed close, even when it wasn’t comfortable. He loved me through it by holding space for me to be exactly where I was.

We speak o...

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There’s a version of me I’m laying to rest - the one who chased significance, importance, and recognition because deep down, she didn’t feel like she was enough without it.

She worked hard to prove she mattered. She strived for impact, for relevance, for acknowledgment. And sure, she did some incredible things… but it often came from a place of needing to feel like someone, instead of already knowing that she is.

In this episode, I s...

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In this episode, we share a really personal part of our recent family trip — visiting Auschwitz, and what that experience meant for Steve and his healing journey. This wasn’t just a tourist stop for us. It was something Steve felt deeply called to do — to stand there, to feel it, to face a piece of his history, bloodline, and to keep doing the work of processing and healing.

I talk about what it looked like to support him through th...

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It’s easy to look at someone’s life online and think, “Damn, they’ve got it all sorted.” The polished posts, the reels, the programs, the podcast—it can look like there’s a whole team behind it all.

In this episode, I’m sharing what it actually looks like behind the scenes of my business. I’ve got one team member—my assistant—and the rest? I do myself. I record this podcast from home. I edit it. I upload it. I use AI tools to help w...

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In this episode, Steve and I open up about what it really means to be on the same team as parents—especially in the moments where we don’t fully agree, tempers are flaring, or it would be easier to throw each other under the bus because it's easier. 

We talk about:

  • What “same team” actually means to us in real, practical terms
  • How we handle disagreements behind the scenes so we can show up united in front of the girls
  • Why we b...
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