March 5, 2025 • 44 mins
Dive into the complexities of motherhood with our guest Sally Bisbee, a life coach dedicated to helping mothers find balance and prioritize their well-being. This episode explores Sally's journey from a career in psychology to becoming a successful entrepreneur while managing a home and three children. We discuss the challenges and triumphs of motherhood, focusing on how to simplify life through effective systems and routines.
Sally shares valuable insights into the importance of self-care and the necessity of asking for help, emphasizing that taking time for oneself ultimately makes for better moms and partners. With practical tips on household management and a candid conversation about her craft business, this episode offers inspiration and actionable strategies for those navigating similar paths.
Whether you're a soon-to-be mom or a seasoned parent, join us for an enlightening discussion that reaffirms your identity beyond caregiving. Ready to reclaim your time and happiness? Tune in, engage, and take the first steps toward a balanced life today! And don't forget to check out Sally's resources, including free workshops designed to help mothers declutter their lives.
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Love & Light - Keep Hope Alive
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hello and welcome to Keep Hope Alive podcast.
We have another great show foryou today.
I got Sally Bisbee here with usand she's a certified life
coach and she has her own craftbusiness which we're going to be
diving into everything that shedoes.
Welcome, I'm so glad you're onour show.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
Thank you so much for having me.
Oh, yes, definitely.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
So right before we get started, I always ask the
people I interview this onequestion and I promise to make
it fun.
So let's say, you and I had abest friend who was getting
married and we're going into theceremony part and to the right
there is something for us tosign to let them know we were
(00:49):
there.
What would they, what would webe signing?
Speaker 2 (00:54):
Yes, I would say a big picture frame that has a
huge mat on it with an openingfor a picture from the wedding,
but just to be able to sign, togive them a keepsake to take
home and put on their wall andremember all the people that
were at their wedding, and justsuch a fun keepsake that they
could display someplace proudly.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
Yes, I've seen those too and I love them.
They're beautiful and I thinkas a photographer, I love that
idea.
So one of our biggest sponsorsat Keep Hope Alive is Life on
Record and what they do.
They take place of anythingthat you can use as like a guest
(01:36):
book or the frame or Jengapieces.
But what they have is a vintagerotary phone that your guests
can pick up on the phone andhere's my phone Just leave a
message.
You got five minutes, 10minutes, 30 minutes, but if it's
for a wedding, I suggest no,they make it pretty quick.
(01:57):
Right next to it they put out asign with a QR code and if your
guests didn't want to use thephone and leave a message like
either before or after, they canscan that code and leave the
message there as well.
So what they do is collect allthese messages Congratulations
on your big day.
Or maybe it's like a groom'sman just saying, hey, it's about
(02:19):
time you put a ring on thefinger.
I've been waiting and waitingand waiting on the finger.
You know I've been waiting andwaiting and waiting.
So they're collecting all theseyou know welcoming messages and
congratulations and they'lleither burn it on a 12 inch
vinyl record or they have thesekeepsake speakers.
I named them the little boombox.
(02:41):
They're really cute and they'repersonalized.
It's the cutest thing in theworld.
So definitely.
With that, their plans onlystart at $99 and you get the
phone number.
You've got to return the phone,but the phone number for one
year.
So if it was an event like awedding, I always say I would
(03:02):
have everybody call back beforethe year's up and say happy
anniversary to you.
But these can be used foranything graduations, big family
reunion events, corporateevents.
I know I used one for sports.
One of the kids broke the legand I had the players use the
(03:22):
number to call and say I hopeyou feel better.
So there's so many differentoptions to visit more on Life on
Record Go to wwwlifeonrecordcom.
All right, so let's get started.
(03:46):
I think you are the start ofseason 22.
So that's always a good number.
Season 22, number one.
I love it.
I love it, yes.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
So my question is who is Sally Bisbee?
Let me tell you a little bitabout myself.
I love that 22.
I actually my oldest daughteris going to be 22 in two weeks.
Um so happy birthday, thank you.
Thank you.
Crazy to think I've been a momfor 22 years.
So, um 23,.
Speaker 1 (04:17):
I get it.
Okay, yeah, it goes, it goes.
She made me a grandma this year.
Speaker 2 (04:22):
Oh, bless your heart, bless your heart, I tell mine.
Please don't do that, because Ialso have a nine and a
six-year-old, so okay.
Speaker 1 (04:29):
I got a 12-year-old.
You're just like me, okay, yeah, the gap.
Speaker 2 (04:34):
Oh bless your heart.
Well, young grandmas are fun.
That is my mom.
She was a young grandma I had,I had mine young and it was the
best thing ever.
So just you know, you gotenergy right For that grandbaby.
Speaker 1 (04:48):
Yes, I do, I love it.
Speaker 2 (04:50):
I love it.
So, yeah, so a little bit aboutme.
I married, have three kids,almost 22, nine and six.
I went to college forpsychology.
My whole life plan was tobecome a psychologist.
I love to help people.
That has been my life.
Mission is just to help people.
(05:12):
And while I was in schooldecided that it turned out I
couldn't actually listen topeople complain about their
problems for the rest of my lifeand so we took a little detour
from the psychology thing.
Uh, although that is likeweaved through every thing I've
done in my life and so, um, or,you know, I've done.
(05:35):
I've done all sorts ofdifferent things, career wise,
when I had my daughter, mysenior year of college, big
surprise, best thing ever tohappen to me, me, um, and I
think everything I have in mylife is because of the way it
happened and and I have afabulous life, so I love it.
Um, and so I nannied for sevenyears and took her with me,
(05:58):
which was great.
I went, worked in corporateAmerica for a few years in HR,
which was fine, fine, met somewonderful people, realized
corporate's like not my life.
And so about 10 years ago yeah,well, 10 years ago I started a
craft business, which is, oops,I forgot.
Oh cool, okay, where I'msitting is in my craft room
(06:20):
right now.
So 10 years ago I started acraft business, simply Selly
Creations.
I really specialize in customapparel, so making shirts,
anything that's got words on it.
I don't even have anythinglaying around me here, but I
make pretty much anything thatyou can put words on Cups, signs
(06:41):
, little makeup bags.
Speaker 1 (06:42):
That's what I'm looking for right now for Keep
Hope Alive.
I'm looking for somebody tomake the shirts.
Speaker 2 (06:50):
Yeah, I can do that and I ship all over and I run it
all through Facebook, word ofmouth and repeat customers.
It's just been a business thathas just grown and grown because
I make a good quality productfor an affordable price and, you
know, great service, all thatstuff, and it's a passion of
mine, it's my, like, happy place.
(07:12):
This is, you know, my craftroom area that I'm sitting in
and I just love being down hereand having that creative outlet.
And then nine years ago, whenour second was born, I quit my
corporate job and stayed home torun an in-home daycare.
So for the last eight and ahalf years I ran an in-home
daycare, which was an adventure,to say the least, but it
(07:35):
allowed me to be home with mytwo little kids while they were
little, and also my my oldest atthe time was in school, and so
I got to be here for her too,which, you know, having an older
one like they still need youjust as much, if not more, when
when they're that age andnavigating all that stuff.
Wait a minute, mine only wantsme for money, that's a lot of
(07:57):
what they need you for stillRight, so I don't know about
that.
So I don't know about that.
And so the plan always was thatwhen my youngest, when she went
(08:21):
to the kindergarten, that Ineeded to figure out what was
the next step in myentrepreneurial adventure, and
so about I don't know, a year ortwo ago, I came across this,
the concept of life coaching,and I was like, oh my goodness,
like that is like right in linewith psychology and what I want
to do.
But the premise of coaching isreally a forward focus thing.
(08:46):
It's really helping peoplecreate a life that they want to
live.
How do they look forward andcreate that life?
Where?
Being a psychologist is a lotof dealing with past trauma and
past issues and you have to dealwith that.
I think everyone needs to dealwith the past in order to move
forward.
But for me, I want the happypart of Like how do I work with
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people who are looking to likebetter their life and make make
their life better?
And so I was like that is whatI'm going to do.
And so over the past year ofyou know, I've joined a program
that you know is teaches coacheshow to become coaches and
become coaches and really justworked on stuff in my specialty
(09:28):
areas working with moms.
My passion is for moms.
I know, you know, having gonethrough the gamut of mom life
for 22 years and having collegeage kid and a kindergartner and
a third grader and just doing it, all the stresses of motherhood
and the mental load we take on,the constant like burnout we
feel, the never having enoughtime for ourselves, all those
(09:52):
things.
And so now I work one-on-onewith moms and really just help
them eliminate unnecessarystress from their life, create
systems and routines to maketheir life run more smoothly, so
that keeping up on things likelaundry, which is like the
number one thing I hear is likeI can't keep up on laundry.
Like you know, there's, there'sways.
Like, for me, I do one load oflaundry every day.
(10:14):
Is it fun?
No, there's nothing fun aboutit, but I do it so that I don't
spend all weekend doing laundry.
So just helping moms createsystems and routines to get life
running more smoothly and thenalso giving moms that permission
that they need to take care ofthemselves.
(10:34):
It took me a long time I willsay like probably 20-ish years
to be able to walk away from mykids without feeling guilty.
I mean, I literally have basedevery career move basically I've
done around my kids.
I was a nanny so I could bewith my daughter.
I ran a daycare so I could bewith all three of my kids.
I'm home with them, I'm like Ican leave them and go do my own
(10:57):
thing and be with my friendswithout feeling guilty and it's
it's a wonderful feeling.
And so I really just work withmoms now to remind them that you
know, as as cliche as all thosethings are, you know you can't
pour from an empty cup and allthis stuff, but it really is
important that us, as moms, takecare of ourselves and because
when we do that, we're a bettermom, we're a better wife, we're
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a better friend, all thosethings.
And so that is really my likearea of passion.
Um, I also this past September,because I thought two uh
businesses wasn't enough, Istarted a third business.
So I also own a home organizingbusiness helping essentially
(11:42):
the same people that I coach uh,overwhelmed moms really just
step in and help them organizetheir home, and so that has been
really fun.
That's.
I'm super type A I love toorganize.
Speaker 1 (11:54):
It's always been my thing.
Speaker 2 (11:56):
And I thought, why not, Like I got I got time, I
might as well, uh, add this in.
So now I am running threebusinesses, which is, you know,
a constant juggle, but it's,it's fun and I like it and I get
to help people in all differentcapacities and it's an
adventure like every day.
(12:17):
So that that is a little bitabout me.
Speaker 1 (12:21):
Oh, wow.
So do you still schedule yourme time with the three?
Speaker 2 (12:26):
jobs I do.
I'm really really good at it.
Um, you know, I always I kindof laugh sometimes and people
are like I don't, I don't haveany time.
I'm like, okay, let's talkabout it.
Yeah, I have three businesses,I have three kids, we have a
busy schedule.
Our kids are in sports.
My husband is a very avidoutdoorsman.
He something in my eye hefishes and hunts and plays poker
(12:51):
and he has a whole life outsideof me, which is actually why I
married him, because I'm a very,like independent person and I
was a single mom, for we metwhen my daughter was seven, you
know.
So for that first seven yearsit was just her and I.
And I'm like I'm used to havingthis whole old world without
somebody else in.
So I needed somebody that had alife outside of me, and so he's
(13:13):
gone a lot doing his thing,which I love and support.
But I it's very important to meto plan like at least one night
a week that I go out withgirlfriends.
That is like I'm superextroverted, that is like my
happy, like it's where Irecharge myself, where I
remember that like I'm Sally,like I'm, I'm not just a mom all
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the time, and that's.
That's another thing I reallywork with a lot with the moms I
work with is like being a mom isamazing and like for me and I
think a lot of moms would say,like it's the best job you're
ever going to have.
Of course, it's also thehardest, and I think so many of
us get so wrapped up in the factof thinking of being a mom as
like our whole identity, whenit's just a part of who we are,
(13:57):
and so remembering that we aremore than a mom and it's so
important to remember that insomeday, someday and I'm sure
you can attest to this with a 23year old that has a baby that
they don't always leave rightaway, but like, and I don't know
if she lives at home or not,but you know, okay, well, good,
that's awesome, but you knowsome someday they're going to be
out of the house, like they'restill going to need us.
(14:18):
But I want to think like I wantto remember who I am and what I
love to do when they're out ofthe house and, um, you know,
another thing I focus on withmoms too is that the marriage
aspect of really you know,something my husband and I focus
on is, you know, it's't everwant to be roommates Like we
need to make sure that ourmarriage is at the forefront,
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that we continue to have a goodmarriage and spend our time
together so that, when, godwilling, these kids leave our
(15:00):
house someday, that you know westill love and enjoy spending
our time together.
Speaker 1 (15:06):
Yeah, and that's so important.
It's important and people dolose tendency of that and
pushing them to the rightdirection.
I started a relationship coach,like doing courses, so I'm
going to see how that goes andeverything.
(15:27):
But definitely I love what youdo because I'm a single mom and
you know, would I love to findlove again?
Yes, but it is really hard intoday's world.
But I was working and I workall week and I want it one day
now, due to me.
You know, being single, I didhave to move in with my mom.
(15:50):
So this is leading to aquestion I love my mom but, oh
my gosh, I'm 47 with a curfew,and so my nickname was
Cinderella.
And I would go do karaoke andkaraoke was helping my soul and
giving me that like stressrelief.
I could go on through the day.
(16:11):
And then I learned when Isigned up for choir at church it
was even more powerful andbigger and I was like, oh, this
is giving me my me time.
You know, I love because it'sjust me and my son right now and
my dog.
So I traded one parent foranother parent.
Now I'm in Oklahoma but I'mtrying to start a whole new life
(16:44):
out here.
But having that me time is soimportant because it did give me
more energy to take care of myson had to hear it and maybe
it's just the older generation Iwould get scolded not to go and
have any fun that I am a parentnow and I should be home 24
seven and taking care of him.
And I was like I get that and Iunderstand that.
(17:04):
But I also feel that for my ownself-care that I need to have a
couple hours to myself one time, maybe even two times out of
the week, that I can regainfocus and move forward.
And so I want to tell any ofour listeners she's absolutely
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right, because maybe back in theday that's how it was, and they
learned from their parents.
It has to be done.
And like hearing, you shouldhave no life.
Maybe that's what my mom wentthrough, but is my decision?
Speaker 2 (17:42):
No, no, no, no, no, so yeah, and I think you know,
having been a single mom for along time, I think even more so
as a single mom, you know likeright now I get breaks because
it's so easy for me to be like,hey, I'm going to run to the not
that the grocery store, youknow, I'm going to run to the
mall and just go shop for anhour or two and my husband's
(18:02):
like, go, it's fine, it's,there's an, it's a no brainer,
they're his kids too, he stayshome with him, it's totally fine
.
So it's easy for me.
And that was like one of thebiggest changes when I met him
and we got married and all of asudden I was like, oh my gosh,
I'm going to run someplace withno kid with me.
And you know, and I think,married or not it is, it
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definitely is a generationalthing, it is and it's a societal
thing too, of that you know,assumption and stuff, that mom's
like you become a mom andthat's what you are.
You are a mom and your kidsneed to be your number one, and
all that stuff.
And you know I always laughbecause anybody that knows me
like knows my kids are my numberone, like I, again, I based my
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whole career choices being ananny, running a daycare I
always tell people like being adaycare lady was never my dream.
It wasn't.
But being home with my kids was, while also still earning an
income, because I am soindependent I was like I can't
not have an income, but I thinkthat you know, I think it is so
important for us to remember andand and having three kids.
(19:07):
My kids are girl, boy, girl andand so I really think for my
girls, but even for my son too,that someday when he's married,
and I want him for his wife, Ialways think I want to be the
example for my kids that theyknow that me taking time away
actually does, like you said, itmakes me a better mom, like I.
Last night I went to agirlfriend's house, just hung
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out, had dinner, helped her movesome stuff around that she
needed help with, and I camehome like I just feel like I'm a
little recharged, I'm refreshed.
I took time away from anybodycalling my name or needing me or
all that stuff.
It's all you know, good andgreat and being a mom.
You know I'll be the first tosay being a mom is amazing.
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I love it.
It is, you know I'll be thefirst to say being a mom is
amazing.
I love it.
It is.
You know, it was my life goal.
Like when I became a youngsingle mom, people like, how do
you do it?
I'm like you just do it Like I.
My daughter was amazing.
All I wanted in life was to bea mom, so it was.
It was no like sweat off myback.
It was amazing.
But I mean I always tell peoplelike life, life got more as I
had more kids um, three weredefinitely done, like our
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youngest is our last um.
And for me that's really likewhen things started to change,
where I just felt like I would.
I would wake up in the morningand just feel so overwhelmed
like how am I going to tacklethis day?
I already behind on stuff.
I, you know, I know I have toldpeople it was when my kids were
two, five and 17.
(20:32):
And you know, a toddlerpreschool he wasn't quite.
He's a October birthday, so atfive he wasn't in kindergarten
yet.
And then a teenager and I wasin the throes of like teenage
years, the throes of little kidyears.
I was like I don't have a minutefor myself and that was like
really it was about four yearsago, when all this started that
I thought, okay, I'm going to gothrough my own journey of like,
(20:54):
figuring out how to eliminateany unnecessary stress in my
life.
I'm like, what do I do to like?
What am I bringing on that Idon't need?
I got rid of all unnecessarystress.
I realized this is anotherthing most moms are not good at
doing is asking for help.
Asking for help is okay.
Asking for help is a sign ofstrength and not weakness.
(21:15):
And you know there's so manylike cliche things, but I think
we all know it and sometimesmoms just need the permission to
hear.
My husband is wonderful and veryinvolved and I'm lucky because
I know that unfortunately, notall husbands are like that but
he is very, very willing to help.
But he's a dude Like I have toactually like, tell him my needs
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and tell him like okay, like weyou know, once in a while we
sit and have a talk.
So we had a talk a couple ofyears ago and I was, like here's
the deal.
Like, these are our kids, thisis our family, we we need to
like, split things up a littlebetter.
This is our family, we need tolike, split things up a little
(22:07):
better.
He's like okay, what can I takeover?
What can I do?
So, like I don't put awaylaundry anymore, I do all the
laundry.
He puts away all the laundry.
I don't do dishes anymore, hehandles all that.
There's just things that like Iit on and we feel like we need
to.
And you know, I was lucky enoughto be raised by a mom that had
her life outside of us kids, butshe was a stay-at-home mom and
my dad ran a very successful,busy business, so he was gone a
lot.
So my mom did everything.
And so you kind of like youknow, do what you know.
And I was like, wait while I'mhome.
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I'm not a stay at home mom.
Like I work a full-time job andI've had two jobs.
You know I've ran my, mydaycare and my craft business
simultaneously for the past nineyears.
Now I have three companies.
You're like, no, just cause myhusband's gone at work all day
Doesn't mean he shouldn't haveto come home and help and he's
willing.
Why do I not ask?
So learning to ask for help?
Um, and then you know, even asa single mom, just it's
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sometimes you have to justignore the comments that people
say and you have to know likewhat, what is right for me, what
, what feels right, going tokaraoke, going and singing in
your church choir where thatlike fills your cup is amazing,
and those things I think youknow are setting a good example
for both your kids and you knowyou get to come back and show up
(23:20):
as a better mom, which they seetoo, which is such a good thing
.
Speaker 1 (23:25):
Yeah, yeah, and it's weird, as a single mom and
getting out there and trying todate and stuff.
It's so funny because what Ikeep behind me I can't believe
I'm sharing this is like well,this person helped me grocery
shop and bring in the groceriesand I can put it up.
It's those little thingsbecause as we get older I have
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back aches.
I got this, but it's just.
You know, I'm looking for a bestfriend to enjoy life with, but
I have the mindset my kids aregetting older and, just like you
said, when my last one's out, Istill want to have it afloat,
you know, be happy, enjoy life,plan more trips, you know, but
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always be there on the side.
So, and then it's like what ifI don't meet anybody?
It's still focusing on my kids.
You know, what can I do to helpthem achieve their potential
and their goals?
You know, my son wants to be apro football player.
Okay, so he goes.
I'm going to have a mansion ona beach and a high rise.
(24:31):
And I go high rise and he goesI love the sound of rain.
I'm only going to stay therewhen it rains.
And I was like, do I get tolive in the mansion?
And he's like yes, and I waslike I can take care of the kids
.
Speaker 2 (24:44):
I'm fine hanging out with you for the rest of my life
, then.
Speaker 1 (24:47):
I love it.
You for the rest of my life,then I love it.
I love that he has his goalsalready planned, because it
gives me something more to doand oversee in my life too.
Like, what can he do?
Because he already said thatwhen he retires he wants to be a
children's pastor.
And so I was like, and hisgreat, he got diagnosed as a
(25:11):
genius and I was like, okay,well, that's new to me, but it's
like my grades are 98, 99, 100.
I was like, what's the lowestone you ever got?
He goes.
I got it 86.
And I go well, shame on you,why'd you get it 86?
He goes because of you.
And I was like, what did I do?
(25:32):
And he goes well, you rememberthat time, the career day, and
you taught me to do a podcast.
I go yeah, well, you hadhomework to do.
After that, I go.
I did.
Yeah, you had to fill out thequestionnaire, but no, you
waited and waited and waited, soI got an 86.
I was like, shame on me.
Speaker 2 (25:58):
Oh, I love it, I love it yeah, definitely.
Yes, but yeah, I mean yes, yourjourney has.
Speaker 1 (26:06):
that's amazing, like everything.
So like I want to also talkabout your craft business,
because you said you make shirts.
Do you make anything else?
Speaker 2 (26:17):
Yeah, I make.
I mean really like anything youcan put words on.
It's crazy, like literally um Imake cups, I make like flower
sack towels, I make signs, Imake.
I'm trying to think, like whatis around my craft room, um can
koozies, uh, little like canvasmakeup bags, canvas tote bags,
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um water bottles.
I just, you know, like aroundhere we have a lot of um sports
teams, so like each spring I putthe name on the back of a whole
bunch of baseball jerseys, uh,we just had.
I just had hockey season wrap upso I did a whole bunch of like
end of year hockey gifts forhockey teams, um, but I love, I
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love being able to like withsmall businesses, like your
podcast.
I love being able to put smallbusiness logos on shirts,
because I get that question alot.
People are like, well, what ifI just want one shirt?
I, I'm like great, I'm like,well, what if I want a hundred?
I'm like great, like I, youknow, I can do one shirt, I can
do a hundred, I could do, youknow, 10, everything I make is
custom made.
So I, you know, message backand forth with the customer on
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on what they want and we createa design that they want.
They okay it and I make it andit's just fun.
It's so like I still, 10 yearsinto this, I still like I'll
make something and I'll hold itup and I'll be like it's amazing
.
Like you know, it's still likemakes me happy that that is
something I can make and and uh,it's been fun, like within our
you know where my kids are atschool and stuff.
(27:45):
I now I'm meeting new parentsas my little kids are starting
elementary school and stuff, andI will meet people that I've
never met before.
Yeah, tell them what I do andI'm like I ordered a shirt from
you once.
I was like, oh my goodness, andit's so fun.
You know, I do it, do it allthrough, we do it all through,
you know, messenger and thenmost local people just pick it
(28:06):
up from my front step and so orI ship it.
So I don't like ever actuallysee the people that I make it
for.
So I get to meet people thatI've made stuff for, which is so
fun.
Speaker 1 (28:15):
Yeah, like so as a podcaster.
They always recommendpodcasters to have merchandise
line, and so I found a companyto do it, but it was becoming a
time investment thing and justto keep it up.
So I gave up on that, eventhough I signed up, I created a
(28:38):
few things.
I was like no, I want to findsomebody who can say I got this
and this, we could put it onsale, but I'm going to help you
sell it, you know, like, takeover that aspect.
So I don't know if there's anyother podcasters that feel that
way, but for me, yeah, becauseI'm constantly keeping up with
(29:00):
blog posts and social mediapostings and what more to get
subscribers.
That it's become a timemanagement and to take care.
You know, I'm looking for fulltime work, I'm getting up two to
three hours earlier andapplying to jobs and I'm just
it's how we have to guide theschedule of what we can do.
I was like I wish I had a clone, but I don't.
(29:25):
Yeah, definitely.
So those are like a few things.
So I definitely want to talk toyou about that and everything.
I'm going to do a short littlecommercial for one of our other
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(32:03):
I'm sorry I keep taking theselittle drinks in my show because
of my throat.
I had a sore throat for twoweeks and I'm like I'm trying oh
, it's the season so, butdefinitely so whether it's life
coaching, now you do it on zoomalso right To help others, and
(32:27):
is there different?
Like also write to help others,and is there?
Speaker 2 (32:33):
different, like I'm going to say courses or lessons.
What do you offer through that?
Yeah, right now I, um, I can Ihave a signature program.
It's a six week program where Ioffer six one-on-one sessions,
called mom life simplified, itis really just a six week
program that I walk moms throughand get to just walk alongside
moms and really, just, you know,I always tell people sometimes
it's us as moms, we're in chargeof everything for the most part
(32:57):
, most moms, I know maybethere's some, but most moms, you
know, we just we handle it all,and so it's sometimes you just
need somebody to come in andwalk alongside you and say it's
okay and you don't need to dothat, or what.
What can we eliminate?
What can we?
You know, what can you changein your life to make life more
stressful, more stressful, lessstressful, more stress-free?
(33:18):
You know when, when I startedthis whole journey of life
coaching, I'm like I just I justwant to be like a happiness
coach.
I just want to help peoplefigure out how do they find
they're happy, like amongst youknow, I think when you become a
mom, you're like, okay, it'sgoing to be great.
You know there's going to besleepless nights, you know
you're going to have sick kids,you know a lot of that stuff,
(33:38):
but you don't, I don't think yourealize until you're in it,
like just the mental load ofmotherhood, the drain, the
constant, like feeling ofburnout, all those things.
And so just really helping moms, just you know, I always tell
people I think of me like a momlife accountability partner.
I get to come next to you, talkthrough things, work out things
(33:59):
.
At the end of each session weset a goal for you know, my
clients to work on until we meetthe next time and then I get to
check in and say how's thatgoing?
You know how's that going, youknow how are how's that going,
eliminating that or trying thisnew you know system in your
house to try to get your houseto stay clean, or you know just
those things.
And so it's really just fun towalk alongside moms and just
(34:22):
help them, really just simplifyand ease some of that stress
that we we feel throughout life.
Speaker 1 (34:27):
So yeah, definitely, I definitely need that too.
Yeah, like I learned, if, um, Iturn on Michael Buble or Frank
Sinatra when I have to put uplaundry, and that way I can
breathe through it and it's justme, I go, okay, maybe two to
three songs I'm singing, youknow, with Alexa, and then she's
(34:50):
like, okay, this is great, Ihope she doesn't go off.
That happened one time One ofmy podcasts.
I said her name, I waslistening.
Yes, so, but definitely, likeall that is good that you offer
those different courses andtheir one-on-one sessions.
(35:11):
So if they did want to sign up,is it a website and a form on
there that they fill out?
Speaker 2 (35:20):
Yep, yep.
So my website is simplysallycocom and that has all
three of my businesses.
On there you can findinformation about my programs.
I host a free workshop everyoneso just hosted it yesterday, so
I'm not sure, probably in acouple weeks again.
But that one's called declareyour life, where I just help
moms figure out ways todeclutter their life, both
(35:42):
physically and mentally, andjust get rid of stuff that's
unnecessary.
So there's signups for those.
Um, I have some free resources,a couple.
I have one called five lifechanging hacks to get your
weekend back.
So just some simple things thatI do during the week so that I
don't spend my whole weekenddoing laundry or picking up the
house.
(36:03):
I also have one called 10 minuteclean routine, which has like a
printable checklist that showswhat you can do in the morning
and at night to just keep up onyour housework with ease, so
that it doesn't consume yourwhole day and your whole life.
So those are on there as well.
So good stuff to check out.
Speaker 1 (36:23):
Yeah, definitely so, and I know hiring housekeepers
actually help out too.
You know, I'm guilty of it.
When I was living over therewith my mom, when I was working
and trying to make time formyself, but doing the laundry, I
always did it on the weekend.
It felt like go to church andjust do laundry and do my food
(36:45):
shopping and do this beforeMonday starting again, and it
was getting to the point, likeman, I wish I could actually do
this on a Wednesday or Thursdayand be ready for the weekend.
You know, and I look back atthat, okay, it's time management
.
We got to nip it in the bud,you know, and even with the
podcast, like when I'mscheduling it, I have to go.
(37:06):
Okay, I need me time, because Igot to call A, b, c, d, e.
And it's funny because when youmove, it's like, oh, you need
your birth certificate.
And I was like, well, what didI do with that?
I have all my kids' birthcertificates, but where is mine?
And I'm like, oh, I'm going tohave to go and find it in New
Jersey and get it sent andeverything.
So I call it roadblocks and wehave to learn to work around and
(37:30):
tackle that, get it done, makeprogress so we can feel like we
accomplished something, to makethe day successful, and those
are really important.
So with that, yes, we'll haveall this information also online
.
With that, yes, we'll have allthis information also online.
With the craft, they havevisuals that come to your
(37:54):
website and see different things.
Speaker 2 (37:58):
I was going to ask do you make those like earrings?
I do not make these.
Actually, one of my bestfriends makes these.
Her thing is called Artifactsby Jessica.
She's on Instagram.
I think that is actually herwebsite.
Name, too, is Artifacts byJessica.
Go check her out.
They're super affordable andthey're so cute.
I literally own about 20 pairs.
All I wear are my teardropearrings because they're so
(38:19):
stinking cute.
I probably could make them, butshe owns a business to make
some, and so I'm like I'll justkeep buying from you and
supporting your business, andso'm like I'll just keep buying
from you and supporting yourbusiness, and so you know, super
fun.
Speaker 1 (38:38):
You see like.
As football mom, I want cutethings that will have my son's
number and do this colors, butwith that glitter, glam and then
getting the earrings with thenumber on it for footballs and
stuff.
I was definitely, yeah,something I always look for
footballs and stuff.
Speaker 2 (38:50):
I was definitely, yeah, something I always look
for.
Yeah, I can.
I make a lot, a lot of sportsmom shirts, which is fun too to
be able to do different thingslike that.
So, um, with that being said,my website is newer.
I do not have my craft stuff upon there yet.
I have a page for it, but I donot have it up on there, um, so
if you want to see my stuff I'vemade, go check out my Facebook
page, which is simply SallyCreations.
(39:12):
If you click on the photos inthere, there's albums, albums
upon albums of shirts and cupsand signs, and I try to put them
all in there so people can kindof scroll through and see so
and then that is just literally.
You can message me on Facebookand, like I said, everything I
do is custom, so I just workwith people and figure out what
(39:33):
they want to make.
Speaker 1 (39:35):
So that is amazing.
So my last question what areyour goals for into this year 25
, going into 26?
Speaker 2 (39:45):
Yes, you know, just to keep growing and maneuvering
this whole three business thing.
And so, you know, the coachingand the home organizing are new,
those really just started inSeptember and so just working on
doing those things I'm doing alot of, you know, local
networking and getting out andmeeting people and doing things
(40:09):
like this, being guests onpodcasts, just to just to spread
you know who I am and what I doand to help more people.
Um, my hope is to startcreating some um digital courses
so people can take those kindof on their own time.
You know, obviously I know likemy ideal client is busy moms
and finding time for stuff ishard and so just making courses
(40:33):
to help moms.
You know, a lot, of, a lot of myfocus will be on that whole
decluttering your life, likereally the home organizing and
the coaching kind of go hand inhand of figuring out ways like
how do we clear the clutter, notnot just physical, which we
know a lot of us have thatphysical clutter in our life
that we need to clear and thatweighs us down, but really just
that mental clutter, too, thatthat weighs us down.
(40:55):
So, doing, doing a lot of thatand, uh, you know, just with and
working on my website, I'll getthose crafts on there one of
these days, but you need aphotographer to take pictures.
Speaker 1 (41:08):
Actually, you probably use the pictures on
your Facebook and send it overto that.
So yeah, I totally get it.
So, you know it is a time thingand I want my listeners to know
you're still saying you don'thave time.
You do.
(41:29):
I'm proof of that.
You know.
I always said I don't have timeto write the book I want to
write.
Well, I told myself I'm goingto write my book and take a
course in AI technology and getthem both done.
And that is exactly what I did.
I'm so proud of myself, youknow.
But I had that the book.
(41:51):
I wanted to do it for fiveyears.
But it's just, you have to havethe will and be able to say,
okay, I'm going to get this done.
And you know, sometimes, as abusy mom, we have to maneuver.
When are the kids sleeping?
When is it quiet?
Can I wake up two hours and mymotivation was coffee and quiet.
Speaker 2 (42:16):
It was like let's take it in.
Speaker 1 (42:19):
Yeah, definitely.
Speaker 2 (42:20):
I'm a late night person, not the early morning.
My husband goes to bed waybefore me.
Years ago he'd be like why doyou stay up so late?
I'm like this is the only timeit's quiet and nobody needs me.
I'm like this is my like onetime a day where I can just be
quiet and be in my be in my ownthoughts, where no one needs me,
and this is where I refresh.
So I think it is it's importantto figure out.
(42:42):
You know, maybe waking up earlyis your thing and that
sometimes you have to do that inthis season of life to get up
before the kids and get yourtime in.
But you got to, you got to findit where where you can and find
those little pockets to to getit in Yep, we're going to find
those pockets.
Speaker 1 (43:00):
Wow, thank you.
Like you, are so educational onthis.
I love talking to you andlearning about what you.
You do love talking to you andlearning about what you do, and
I think what I'm going to do isI'm going to look at your
Facebook page and get a couplesamples of the stuff you've done
and float it to our new VIPpage on Facebook so people can
(43:21):
take a look at that as well.
So, yeah, definitely.
So, guys, wherever you findyour podcast, you'll be able to
find Keep Hope Alive.
You can visit us atwwwkeephopelivepodcastcom.
You can also leave us a message.
To the upper right on thewebsite, it says leave message.
So if you have any questionsfor Sally, you can leave her a
(43:43):
message.
See, my nose is all nasal and Ipromise to get that over to her
, definitely.
So if you would like to becomea guest or even have a request
of a topic that you would liketo hear, we would love to hear
from you.
But other than that, once again, thank you and until our next
(44:05):
show.
Love and light guys.
Bye-bye.
Hello and welcome to Keep Hope Alive podcast.
We have another great show foryou today.
I got Sally Bisbee here with usand she's a certified life
coach and she has her own craftbusiness which we're going to be
diving into everything that shedoes.
Welcome, I'm so glad you're onour show.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
Thank you so much for having me.
Oh, yes, definitely.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
So right before we get started, I always ask the
people I interview this onequestion and I promise to make
it fun.
So let's say, you and I had abest friend who was getting
married and we're going into theceremony part and to the right
there is something for us tosign to let them know we were
(00:49):
there.
What would they, what would webe signing?
Speaker 2 (00:54):
Yes, I would say a big picture frame that has a
huge mat on it with an openingfor a picture from the wedding,
but just to be able to sign, togive them a keepsake to take
home and put on their wall andremember all the people that
were at their wedding, and justsuch a fun keepsake that they
could display someplace proudly.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
Yes, I've seen those too and I love them.
They're beautiful and I thinkas a photographer, I love that
idea.
So one of our biggest sponsorsat Keep Hope Alive is Life on
Record and what they do.
They take place of anythingthat you can use as like a guest
(01:36):
book or the frame or Jengapieces.
But what they have is a vintagerotary phone that your guests
can pick up on the phone andhere's my phone Just leave a
message.
You got five minutes, 10minutes, 30 minutes, but if it's
for a wedding, I suggest no,they make it pretty quick.
(01:57):
Right next to it they put out asign with a QR code and if your
guests didn't want to use thephone and leave a message like
either before or after, they canscan that code and leave the
message there as well.
So what they do is collect allthese messages Congratulations
on your big day.
Or maybe it's like a groom'sman just saying, hey, it's about
(02:19):
time you put a ring on thefinger.
I've been waiting and waitingand waiting on the finger.
You know I've been waiting andwaiting and waiting.
So they're collecting all theseyou know welcoming messages and
congratulations and they'lleither burn it on a 12 inch
vinyl record or they have thesekeepsake speakers.
I named them the little boombox.
(02:41):
They're really cute and they'repersonalized.
It's the cutest thing in theworld.
So definitely.
With that, their plans onlystart at $99 and you get the
phone number.
You've got to return the phone,but the phone number for one
year.
So if it was an event like awedding, I always say I would
(03:02):
have everybody call back beforethe year's up and say happy
anniversary to you.
But these can be used foranything graduations, big family
reunion events, corporateevents.
I know I used one for sports.
One of the kids broke the legand I had the players use the
(03:22):
number to call and say I hopeyou feel better.
So there's so many differentoptions to visit more on Life on
Record Go to wwwlifeonrecordcom.
All right, so let's get started.
(03:46):
I think you are the start ofseason 22.
So that's always a good number.
Season 22, number one.
I love it.
I love it, yes.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
So my question is who is Sally Bisbee?
Let me tell you a little bitabout myself.
I love that 22.
I actually my oldest daughteris going to be 22 in two weeks.
Um so happy birthday, thank you.
Thank you.
Crazy to think I've been a momfor 22 years.
So, um 23,.
Speaker 1 (04:17):
I get it.
Okay, yeah, it goes, it goes.
She made me a grandma this year.
Speaker 2 (04:22):
Oh, bless your heart, bless your heart, I tell mine.
Please don't do that, because Ialso have a nine and a
six-year-old, so okay.
Speaker 1 (04:29):
I got a 12-year-old.
You're just like me, okay, yeah, the gap.
Speaker 2 (04:34):
Oh bless your heart.
Well, young grandmas are fun.
That is my mom.
She was a young grandma I had,I had mine young and it was the
best thing ever.
So just you know, you gotenergy right For that grandbaby.
Speaker 1 (04:48):
Yes, I do, I love it.
Speaker 2 (04:50):
I love it.
So, yeah, so a little bit aboutme.
I married, have three kids,almost 22, nine and six.
I went to college forpsychology.
My whole life plan was tobecome a psychologist.
I love to help people.
That has been my life.
Mission is just to help people.
(05:12):
And while I was in schooldecided that it turned out I
couldn't actually listen topeople complain about their
problems for the rest of my lifeand so we took a little detour
from the psychology thing.
Uh, although that is likeweaved through every thing I've
done in my life and so, um, or,you know, I've done.
(05:35):
I've done all sorts ofdifferent things, career wise,
when I had my daughter, mysenior year of college, big
surprise, best thing ever tohappen to me, me, um, and I
think everything I have in mylife is because of the way it
happened and and I have afabulous life, so I love it.
Um, and so I nannied for sevenyears and took her with me,
(05:58):
which was great.
I went, worked in corporateAmerica for a few years in HR,
which was fine, fine, met somewonderful people, realized
corporate's like not my life.
And so about 10 years ago yeah,well, 10 years ago I started a
craft business, which is, oops,I forgot.
Oh cool, okay, where I'msitting is in my craft room
(06:20):
right now.
So 10 years ago I started acraft business, simply Selly
Creations.
I really specialize in customapparel, so making shirts,
anything that's got words on it.
I don't even have anythinglaying around me here, but I
make pretty much anything thatyou can put words on Cups, signs
(06:41):
, little makeup bags.
Speaker 1 (06:42):
That's what I'm looking for right now for Keep
Hope Alive.
I'm looking for somebody tomake the shirts.
Speaker 2 (06:50):
Yeah, I can do that and I ship all over and I run it
all through Facebook, word ofmouth and repeat customers.
It's just been a business thathas just grown and grown because
I make a good quality productfor an affordable price and, you
know, great service, all thatstuff, and it's a passion of
mine, it's my, like, happy place.
(07:12):
This is, you know, my craftroom area that I'm sitting in
and I just love being down hereand having that creative outlet.
And then nine years ago, whenour second was born, I quit my
corporate job and stayed home torun an in-home daycare.
So for the last eight and ahalf years I ran an in-home
daycare, which was an adventure,to say the least, but it
(07:35):
allowed me to be home with mytwo little kids while they were
little, and also my my oldest atthe time was in school, and so
I got to be here for her too,which, you know, having an older
one like they still need youjust as much, if not more, when
when they're that age andnavigating all that stuff.
Wait a minute, mine only wantsme for money, that's a lot of
(07:57):
what they need you for stillRight, so I don't know about
that.
So I don't know about that.
And so the plan always was thatwhen my youngest, when she went
(08:21):
to the kindergarten, that Ineeded to figure out what was
the next step in myentrepreneurial adventure, and
so about I don't know, a year ortwo ago, I came across this,
the concept of life coaching,and I was like, oh my goodness,
like that is like right in linewith psychology and what I want
to do.
But the premise of coaching isreally a forward focus thing.
(08:46):
It's really helping peoplecreate a life that they want to
live.
How do they look forward andcreate that life?
Where?
Being a psychologist is a lotof dealing with past trauma and
past issues and you have to dealwith that.
I think everyone needs to dealwith the past in order to move
forward.
But for me, I want the happypart of Like how do I work with
(09:08):
people who are looking to likebetter their life and make make
their life better?
And so I was like that is whatI'm going to do.
And so over the past year ofyou know, I've joined a program
that you know is teaches coacheshow to become coaches and
become coaches and really justworked on stuff in my specialty
(09:28):
areas working with moms.
My passion is for moms.
I know, you know, having gonethrough the gamut of mom life
for 22 years and having collegeage kid and a kindergartner and
a third grader and just doing it, all the stresses of motherhood
and the mental load we take on,the constant like burnout we
feel, the never having enoughtime for ourselves, all those
(09:52):
things.
And so now I work one-on-onewith moms and really just help
them eliminate unnecessarystress from their life, create
systems and routines to maketheir life run more smoothly, so
that keeping up on things likelaundry, which is like the
number one thing I hear is likeI can't keep up on laundry.
Like you know, there's, there'sways.
Like, for me, I do one load oflaundry every day.
(10:14):
Is it fun?
No, there's nothing fun aboutit, but I do it so that I don't
spend all weekend doing laundry.
So just helping moms createsystems and routines to get life
running more smoothly and thenalso giving moms that permission
that they need to take care ofthemselves.
(10:34):
It took me a long time I willsay like probably 20-ish years
to be able to walk away from mykids without feeling guilty.
I mean, I literally have basedevery career move basically I've
done around my kids.
I was a nanny so I could bewith my daughter.
I ran a daycare so I could bewith all three of my kids.
I'm home with them, I'm like Ican leave them and go do my own
(10:57):
thing and be with my friendswithout feeling guilty and it's
it's a wonderful feeling.
And so I really just work withmoms now to remind them that you
know, as as cliche as all thosethings are, you know you can't
pour from an empty cup and allthis stuff, but it really is
important that us, as moms, takecare of ourselves and because
when we do that, we're a bettermom, we're a better wife, we're
(11:19):
a better friend, all thosethings.
And so that is really my likearea of passion.
Um, I also this past September,because I thought two uh
businesses wasn't enough, Istarted a third business.
So I also own a home organizingbusiness helping essentially
(11:42):
the same people that I coach uh,overwhelmed moms really just
step in and help them organizetheir home, and so that has been
really fun.
That's.
I'm super type A I love toorganize.
Speaker 1 (11:54):
It's always been my thing.
Speaker 2 (11:56):
And I thought, why not, Like I got I got time, I
might as well, uh, add this in.
So now I am running threebusinesses, which is, you know,
a constant juggle, but it's,it's fun and I like it and I get
to help people in all differentcapacities and it's an
adventure like every day.
(12:17):
So that that is a little bitabout me.
Speaker 1 (12:21):
Oh, wow.
So do you still schedule yourme time with the three?
Speaker 2 (12:26):
jobs I do.
I'm really really good at it.
Um, you know, I always I kindof laugh sometimes and people
are like I don't, I don't haveany time.
I'm like, okay, let's talkabout it.
Yeah, I have three businesses,I have three kids, we have a
busy schedule.
Our kids are in sports.
My husband is a very avidoutdoorsman.
He something in my eye hefishes and hunts and plays poker
(12:51):
and he has a whole life outsideof me, which is actually why I
married him, because I'm a very,like independent person and I
was a single mom, for we metwhen my daughter was seven, you
know.
So for that first seven yearsit was just her and I.
And I'm like I'm used to havingthis whole old world without
somebody else in.
So I needed somebody that had alife outside of me, and so he's
(13:13):
gone a lot doing his thing,which I love and support.
But I it's very important to meto plan like at least one night
a week that I go out withgirlfriends.
That is like I'm superextroverted, that is like my
happy, like it's where Irecharge myself, where I
remember that like I'm Sally,like I'm, I'm not just a mom all
(13:34):
the time, and that's.
That's another thing I reallywork with a lot with the moms I
work with is like being a mom isamazing and like for me and I
think a lot of moms would say,like it's the best job you're
ever going to have.
Of course, it's also thehardest, and I think so many of
us get so wrapped up in the factof thinking of being a mom as
like our whole identity, whenit's just a part of who we are,
(13:57):
and so remembering that we aremore than a mom and it's so
important to remember that insomeday, someday and I'm sure
you can attest to this with a 23year old that has a baby that
they don't always leave rightaway, but like, and I don't know
if she lives at home or not,but you know, okay, well, good,
that's awesome, but you knowsome someday they're going to be
out of the house, like they'restill going to need us.
(14:18):
But I want to think like I wantto remember who I am and what I
love to do when they're out ofthe house and, um, you know,
another thing I focus on withmoms too is that the marriage
aspect of really you know,something my husband and I focus
on is, you know, it's't everwant to be roommates Like we
need to make sure that ourmarriage is at the forefront,
(14:39):
that we continue to have a goodmarriage and spend our time
together so that, when, godwilling, these kids leave our
(15:00):
house someday, that you know westill love and enjoy spending
our time together.
Speaker 1 (15:06):
Yeah, and that's so important.
It's important and people dolose tendency of that and
pushing them to the rightdirection.
I started a relationship coach,like doing courses, so I'm
going to see how that goes andeverything.
(15:27):
But definitely I love what youdo because I'm a single mom and
you know, would I love to findlove again?
Yes, but it is really hard intoday's world.
But I was working and I workall week and I want it one day
now, due to me.
You know, being single, I didhave to move in with my mom.
(15:50):
So this is leading to aquestion I love my mom but, oh
my gosh, I'm 47 with a curfew,and so my nickname was
Cinderella.
And I would go do karaoke andkaraoke was helping my soul and
giving me that like stressrelief.
I could go on through the day.
(16:11):
And then I learned when Isigned up for choir at church it
was even more powerful andbigger and I was like, oh, this
is giving me my me time.
You know, I love because it'sjust me and my son right now and
my dog.
So I traded one parent foranother parent.
Now I'm in Oklahoma but I'mtrying to start a whole new life
(16:44):
out here.
But having that me time is soimportant because it did give me
more energy to take care of myson had to hear it and maybe
it's just the older generation Iwould get scolded not to go and
have any fun that I am a parentnow and I should be home 24
seven and taking care of him.
And I was like I get that and Iunderstand that.
(17:04):
But I also feel that for my ownself-care that I need to have a
couple hours to myself one time, maybe even two times out of
the week, that I can regainfocus and move forward.
And so I want to tell any ofour listeners she's absolutely
(17:25):
right, because maybe back in theday that's how it was, and they
learned from their parents.
It has to be done.
And like hearing, you shouldhave no life.
Maybe that's what my mom wentthrough, but is my decision?
Speaker 2 (17:42):
No, no, no, no, no, so yeah, and I think you know,
having been a single mom for along time, I think even more so
as a single mom, you know likeright now I get breaks because
it's so easy for me to be like,hey, I'm going to run to the not
that the grocery store, youknow, I'm going to run to the
mall and just go shop for anhour or two and my husband's
(18:02):
like, go, it's fine, it's,there's an, it's a no brainer,
they're his kids too, he stayshome with him, it's totally fine
.
So it's easy for me.
And that was like one of thebiggest changes when I met him
and we got married and all of asudden I was like, oh my gosh,
I'm going to run someplace withno kid with me.
And you know, and I think,married or not it is, it
(18:23):
definitely is a generationalthing, it is and it's a societal
thing too, of that you know,assumption and stuff, that mom's
like you become a mom andthat's what you are.
You are a mom and your kidsneed to be your number one, and
all that stuff.
And you know I always laughbecause anybody that knows me
like knows my kids are my numberone, like I, again, I based my
(18:46):
whole career choices being ananny, running a daycare I
always tell people like being adaycare lady was never my dream.
It wasn't.
But being home with my kids was, while also still earning an
income, because I am soindependent I was like I can't
not have an income, but I thinkthat you know, I think it is so
important for us to remember andand and having three kids.
(19:07):
My kids are girl, boy, girl andand so I really think for my
girls, but even for my son too,that someday when he's married,
and I want him for his wife, Ialways think I want to be the
example for my kids that theyknow that me taking time away
actually does, like you said, itmakes me a better mom, like I.
Last night I went to agirlfriend's house, just hung
(19:28):
out, had dinner, helped her movesome stuff around that she
needed help with, and I camehome like I just feel like I'm a
little recharged, I'm refreshed.
I took time away from anybodycalling my name or needing me or
all that stuff.
It's all you know, good andgreat and being a mom.
You know I'll be the first tosay being a mom is amazing.
(19:49):
I love it.
It is, you know I'll be thefirst to say being a mom is
amazing.
I love it.
It is.
You know, it was my life goal.
Like when I became a youngsingle mom, people like, how do
you do it?
I'm like you just do it Like I.
My daughter was amazing.
All I wanted in life was to bea mom, so it was.
It was no like sweat off myback.
It was amazing.
But I mean I always tell peoplelike life, life got more as I
had more kids um, three weredefinitely done, like our
(20:11):
youngest is our last um.
And for me that's really likewhen things started to change,
where I just felt like I would.
I would wake up in the morningand just feel so overwhelmed
like how am I going to tacklethis day?
I already behind on stuff.
I, you know, I know I have toldpeople it was when my kids were
two, five and 17.
(20:32):
And you know, a toddlerpreschool he wasn't quite.
He's a October birthday, so atfive he wasn't in kindergarten
yet.
And then a teenager and I wasin the throes of like teenage
years, the throes of little kidyears.
I was like I don't have a minutefor myself and that was like
really it was about four yearsago, when all this started that
I thought, okay, I'm going to gothrough my own journey of like,
(20:54):
figuring out how to eliminateany unnecessary stress in my
life.
I'm like, what do I do to like?
What am I bringing on that Idon't need?
I got rid of all unnecessarystress.
I realized this is anotherthing most moms are not good at
doing is asking for help.
Asking for help is okay.
Asking for help is a sign ofstrength and not weakness.
(21:15):
And you know there's so manylike cliche things, but I think
we all know it and sometimesmoms just need the permission to
hear.
My husband is wonderful and veryinvolved and I'm lucky because
I know that unfortunately, notall husbands are like that but
he is very, very willing to help.
But he's a dude Like I have toactually like, tell him my needs
(21:37):
and tell him like okay, like weyou know, once in a while we
sit and have a talk.
So we had a talk a couple ofyears ago and I was, like here's
the deal.
Like, these are our kids, thisis our family, we we need to
like, split things up a littlebetter.
This is our family, we need tolike, split things up a little
(22:07):
better.
He's like okay, what can I takeover?
What can I do?
So, like I don't put awaylaundry anymore, I do all the
laundry.
He puts away all the laundry.
I don't do dishes anymore, hehandles all that.
There's just things that like Iit on and we feel like we need
to.
And you know, I was lucky enoughto be raised by a mom that had
her life outside of us kids, butshe was a stay-at-home mom and
my dad ran a very successful,busy business, so he was gone a
lot.
So my mom did everything.
And so you kind of like youknow, do what you know.
And I was like, wait while I'mhome.
(22:33):
I'm not a stay at home mom.
Like I work a full-time job andI've had two jobs.
You know I've ran my, mydaycare and my craft business
simultaneously for the past nineyears.
Now I have three companies.
You're like, no, just cause myhusband's gone at work all day
Doesn't mean he shouldn't haveto come home and help and he's
willing.
Why do I not ask?
So learning to ask for help?
Um, and then you know, even asa single mom, just it's
(22:58):
sometimes you have to justignore the comments that people
say and you have to know likewhat, what is right for me, what
, what feels right, going tokaraoke, going and singing in
your church choir where thatlike fills your cup is amazing,
and those things I think youknow are setting a good example
for both your kids and you knowyou get to come back and show up
(23:20):
as a better mom, which they seetoo, which is such a good thing
.
Speaker 1 (23:25):
Yeah, yeah, and it's weird, as a single mom and
getting out there and trying todate and stuff.
It's so funny because what Ikeep behind me I can't believe
I'm sharing this is like well,this person helped me grocery
shop and bring in the groceriesand I can put it up.
It's those little thingsbecause as we get older I have
(23:48):
back aches.
I got this, but it's just.
You know, I'm looking for a bestfriend to enjoy life with, but
I have the mindset my kids aregetting older and, just like you
said, when my last one's out, Istill want to have it afloat,
you know, be happy, enjoy life,plan more trips, you know, but
(24:10):
always be there on the side.
So, and then it's like what ifI don't meet anybody?
It's still focusing on my kids.
You know, what can I do to helpthem achieve their potential
and their goals?
You know, my son wants to be apro football player.
Okay, so he goes.
I'm going to have a mansion ona beach and a high rise.
(24:31):
And I go high rise and he goesI love the sound of rain.
I'm only going to stay therewhen it rains.
And I was like, do I get tolive in the mansion?
And he's like yes, and I waslike I can take care of the kids
.
Speaker 2 (24:44):
I'm fine hanging out with you for the rest of my life
, then.
Speaker 1 (24:47):
I love it.
You for the rest of my life,then I love it.
I love that he has his goalsalready planned, because it
gives me something more to doand oversee in my life too.
Like, what can he do?
Because he already said thatwhen he retires he wants to be a
children's pastor.
And so I was like, and hisgreat, he got diagnosed as a
(25:11):
genius and I was like, okay,well, that's new to me, but it's
like my grades are 98, 99, 100.
I was like, what's the lowestone you ever got?
He goes.
I got it 86.
And I go well, shame on you,why'd you get it 86?
He goes because of you.
And I was like, what did I do?
(25:32):
And he goes well, you rememberthat time, the career day, and
you taught me to do a podcast.
I go yeah, well, you hadhomework to do.
After that, I go.
I did.
Yeah, you had to fill out thequestionnaire, but no, you
waited and waited and waited, soI got an 86.
I was like, shame on me.
Speaker 2 (25:58):
Oh, I love it, I love it yeah, definitely.
Yes, but yeah, I mean yes, yourjourney has.
Speaker 1 (26:06):
that's amazing, like everything.
So like I want to also talkabout your craft business,
because you said you make shirts.
Do you make anything else?
Speaker 2 (26:17):
Yeah, I make.
I mean really like anything youcan put words on.
It's crazy, like literally um Imake cups, I make like flower
sack towels, I make signs, Imake.
I'm trying to think, like whatis around my craft room, um can
koozies, uh, little like canvasmakeup bags, canvas tote bags,
(26:39):
um water bottles.
I just, you know, like aroundhere we have a lot of um sports
teams, so like each spring I putthe name on the back of a whole
bunch of baseball jerseys, uh,we just had.
I just had hockey season wrap upso I did a whole bunch of like
end of year hockey gifts forhockey teams, um, but I love, I
(26:59):
love being able to like withsmall businesses, like your
podcast.
I love being able to put smallbusiness logos on shirts,
because I get that question alot.
People are like, well, what ifI just want one shirt?
I, I'm like great, I'm like,well, what if I want a hundred?
I'm like great, like I, youknow, I can do one shirt, I can
do a hundred, I could do, youknow, 10, everything I make is
custom made.
So I, you know, message backand forth with the customer on
(27:23):
on what they want and we createa design that they want.
They okay it and I make it andit's just fun.
It's so like I still, 10 yearsinto this, I still like I'll
make something and I'll hold itup and I'll be like it's amazing
.
Like you know, it's still likemakes me happy that that is
something I can make and and uh,it's been fun, like within our
you know where my kids are atschool and stuff.
(27:45):
I now I'm meeting new parentsas my little kids are starting
elementary school and stuff, andI will meet people that I've
never met before.
Yeah, tell them what I do andI'm like I ordered a shirt from
you once.
I was like, oh my goodness, andit's so fun.
You know, I do it, do it allthrough, we do it all through,
you know, messenger and thenmost local people just pick it
(28:06):
up from my front step and so orI ship it.
So I don't like ever actuallysee the people that I make it
for.
So I get to meet people thatI've made stuff for, which is so
fun.
Speaker 1 (28:15):
Yeah, like so as a podcaster.
They always recommendpodcasters to have merchandise
line, and so I found a companyto do it, but it was becoming a
time investment thing and justto keep it up.
So I gave up on that, eventhough I signed up, I created a
(28:38):
few things.
I was like no, I want to findsomebody who can say I got this
and this, we could put it onsale, but I'm going to help you
sell it, you know, like, takeover that aspect.
So I don't know if there's anyother podcasters that feel that
way, but for me, yeah, becauseI'm constantly keeping up with
(29:00):
blog posts and social mediapostings and what more to get
subscribers.
That it's become a timemanagement and to take care.
You know, I'm looking for fulltime work, I'm getting up two to
three hours earlier andapplying to jobs and I'm just
it's how we have to guide theschedule of what we can do.
I was like I wish I had a clone, but I don't.
(29:25):
Yeah, definitely.
So those are like a few things.
So I definitely want to talk toyou about that and everything.
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(32:03):
I'm sorry I keep taking theselittle drinks in my show because
of my throat.
I had a sore throat for twoweeks and I'm like I'm trying oh
, it's the season so, butdefinitely so whether it's life
coaching, now you do it on zoomalso right To help others, and
(32:27):
is there different?
Like also write to help others,and is there?
Speaker 2 (32:33):
different, like I'm going to say courses or lessons.
What do you offer through that?
Yeah, right now I, um, I can Ihave a signature program.
It's a six week program where Ioffer six one-on-one sessions,
called mom life simplified, itis really just a six week
program that I walk moms throughand get to just walk alongside
moms and really, just, you know,I always tell people sometimes
it's us as moms, we're in chargeof everything for the most part
(32:57):
, most moms, I know maybethere's some, but most moms, you
know, we just we handle it all,and so it's sometimes you just
need somebody to come in andwalk alongside you and say it's
okay and you don't need to dothat, or what.
What can we eliminate?
What can we?
You know, what can you changein your life to make life more
stressful, more stressful, lessstressful, more stress-free?
(33:18):
You know when, when I startedthis whole journey of life
coaching, I'm like I just I justwant to be like a happiness
coach.
I just want to help peoplefigure out how do they find
they're happy, like amongst youknow, I think when you become a
mom, you're like, okay, it'sgoing to be great.
You know there's going to besleepless nights, you know
you're going to have sick kids,you know a lot of that stuff,
(33:38):
but you don't, I don't think yourealize until you're in it,
like just the mental load ofmotherhood, the drain, the
constant, like feeling ofburnout, all those things.
And so just really helping moms, just you know, I always tell
people I think of me like a momlife accountability partner.
I get to come next to you, talkthrough things, work out things
(33:59):
.
At the end of each session weset a goal for you know, my
clients to work on until we meetthe next time and then I get to
check in and say how's thatgoing?
You know how's that going, youknow how are how's that going,
eliminating that or trying thisnew you know system in your
house to try to get your houseto stay clean, or you know just
those things.
And so it's really just fun towalk alongside moms and just
(34:22):
help them, really just simplifyand ease some of that stress
that we we feel throughout life.
Speaker 1 (34:27):
So yeah, definitely, I definitely need that too.
Yeah, like I learned, if, um, Iturn on Michael Buble or Frank
Sinatra when I have to put uplaundry, and that way I can
breathe through it and it's justme, I go, okay, maybe two to
three songs I'm singing, youknow, with Alexa, and then she's
(34:50):
like, okay, this is great, Ihope she doesn't go off.
That happened one time One ofmy podcasts.
I said her name, I waslistening.
Yes, so, but definitely, likeall that is good that you offer
those different courses andtheir one-on-one sessions.
(35:11):
So if they did want to sign up,is it a website and a form on
there that they fill out?
Speaker 2 (35:20):
Yep, yep.
So my website is simplysallycocom and that has all
three of my businesses.
On there you can findinformation about my programs.
I host a free workshop everyoneso just hosted it yesterday, so
I'm not sure, probably in acouple weeks again.
But that one's called declareyour life, where I just help
moms figure out ways todeclutter their life, both
(35:42):
physically and mentally, andjust get rid of stuff that's
unnecessary.
So there's signups for those.
Um, I have some free resources,a couple.
I have one called five lifechanging hacks to get your
weekend back.
So just some simple things thatI do during the week so that I
don't spend my whole weekenddoing laundry or picking up the
house.
(36:03):
I also have one called 10 minuteclean routine, which has like a
printable checklist that showswhat you can do in the morning
and at night to just keep up onyour housework with ease, so
that it doesn't consume yourwhole day and your whole life.
So those are on there as well.
So good stuff to check out.
Speaker 1 (36:23):
Yeah, definitely so, and I know hiring housekeepers
actually help out too.
You know, I'm guilty of it.
When I was living over therewith my mom, when I was working
and trying to make time formyself, but doing the laundry, I
always did it on the weekend.
It felt like go to church andjust do laundry and do my food
(36:45):
shopping and do this beforeMonday starting again, and it
was getting to the point, likeman, I wish I could actually do
this on a Wednesday or Thursdayand be ready for the weekend.
You know, and I look back atthat, okay, it's time management
.
We got to nip it in the bud,you know, and even with the
podcast, like when I'mscheduling it, I have to go.
(37:06):
Okay, I need me time, because Igot to call A, b, c, d, e.
And it's funny because when youmove, it's like, oh, you need
your birth certificate.
And I was like, well, what didI do with that?
I have all my kids' birthcertificates, but where is mine?
And I'm like, oh, I'm going tohave to go and find it in New
Jersey and get it sent andeverything.
So I call it roadblocks and wehave to learn to work around and
(37:30):
tackle that, get it done, makeprogress so we can feel like we
accomplished something, to makethe day successful, and those
are really important.
So with that, yes, we'll haveall this information also online
.
With that, yes, we'll have allthis information also online.
With the craft, they havevisuals that come to your
(37:54):
website and see different things.
Speaker 2 (37:58):
I was going to ask do you make those like earrings?
I do not make these.
Actually, one of my bestfriends makes these.
Her thing is called Artifactsby Jessica.
She's on Instagram.
I think that is actually herwebsite.
Name, too, is Artifacts byJessica.
Go check her out.
They're super affordable andthey're so cute.
I literally own about 20 pairs.
All I wear are my teardropearrings because they're so
(38:19):
stinking cute.
I probably could make them, butshe owns a business to make
some, and so I'm like I'll justkeep buying from you and
supporting your business, andso'm like I'll just keep buying
from you and supporting yourbusiness, and so you know, super
fun.
Speaker 1 (38:38):
You see like.
As football mom, I want cutethings that will have my son's
number and do this colors, butwith that glitter, glam and then
getting the earrings with thenumber on it for footballs and
stuff.
I was definitely, yeah,something I always look for
footballs and stuff.
Speaker 2 (38:50):
I was definitely, yeah, something I always look
for.
Yeah, I can.
I make a lot, a lot of sportsmom shirts, which is fun too to
be able to do different thingslike that.
So, um, with that being said,my website is newer.
I do not have my craft stuff upon there yet.
I have a page for it, but I donot have it up on there, um, so
if you want to see my stuff I'vemade, go check out my Facebook
page, which is simply SallyCreations.
(39:12):
If you click on the photos inthere, there's albums, albums
upon albums of shirts and cupsand signs, and I try to put them
all in there so people can kindof scroll through and see so
and then that is just literally.
You can message me on Facebookand, like I said, everything I
do is custom, so I just workwith people and figure out what
(39:33):
they want to make.
Speaker 1 (39:35):
So that is amazing.
So my last question what areyour goals for into this year 25
, going into 26?
Speaker 2 (39:45):
Yes, you know, just to keep growing and maneuvering
this whole three business thing.
And so, you know, the coachingand the home organizing are new,
those really just started inSeptember and so just working on
doing those things I'm doing alot of, you know, local
networking and getting out andmeeting people and doing things
(40:09):
like this, being guests onpodcasts, just to just to spread
you know who I am and what I doand to help more people.
Um, my hope is to startcreating some um digital courses
so people can take those kindof on their own time.
You know, obviously I know likemy ideal client is busy moms
and finding time for stuff ishard and so just making courses
(40:33):
to help moms.
You know, a lot, of, a lot of myfocus will be on that whole
decluttering your life, likereally the home organizing and
the coaching kind of go hand inhand of figuring out ways like
how do we clear the clutter, notnot just physical, which we
know a lot of us have thatphysical clutter in our life
that we need to clear and thatweighs us down, but really just
that mental clutter, too, thatthat weighs us down.
(40:55):
So, doing, doing a lot of thatand, uh, you know, just with and
working on my website, I'll getthose crafts on there one of
these days, but you need aphotographer to take pictures.
Speaker 1 (41:08):
Actually, you probably use the pictures on
your Facebook and send it overto that.
So yeah, I totally get it.
So, you know it is a time thingand I want my listeners to know
you're still saying you don'thave time.
You do.
(41:29):
I'm proof of that.
You know.
I always said I don't have timeto write the book I want to
write.
Well, I told myself I'm goingto write my book and take a
course in AI technology and getthem both done.
And that is exactly what I did.
I'm so proud of myself, youknow.
But I had that the book.
(41:51):
I wanted to do it for fiveyears.
But it's just, you have to havethe will and be able to say,
okay, I'm going to get this done.
And you know, sometimes, as abusy mom, we have to maneuver.
When are the kids sleeping?
When is it quiet?
Can I wake up two hours and mymotivation was coffee and quiet.
Speaker 2 (42:16):
It was like let's take it in.
Speaker 1 (42:19):
Yeah, definitely.
Speaker 2 (42:20):
I'm a late night person, not the early morning.
My husband goes to bed waybefore me.
Years ago he'd be like why doyou stay up so late?
I'm like this is the only timeit's quiet and nobody needs me.
I'm like this is my like onetime a day where I can just be
quiet and be in my be in my ownthoughts, where no one needs me,
and this is where I refresh.
So I think it is it's importantto figure out.
(42:42):
You know, maybe waking up earlyis your thing and that
sometimes you have to do that inthis season of life to get up
before the kids and get yourtime in.
But you got to, you got to findit where where you can and find
those little pockets to to getit in Yep, we're going to find
those pockets.
Speaker 1 (43:00):
Wow, thank you.
Like you, are so educational onthis.
I love talking to you andlearning about what you.
You do love talking to you andlearning about what you do, and
I think what I'm going to do isI'm going to look at your
Facebook page and get a couplesamples of the stuff you've done
and float it to our new VIPpage on Facebook so people can
(43:21):
take a look at that as well.
So, yeah, definitely.
So, guys, wherever you findyour podcast, you'll be able to
find Keep Hope Alive.
You can visit us atwwwkeephopelivepodcastcom.
You can also leave us a message.
To the upper right on thewebsite, it says leave message.
So if you have any questionsfor Sally, you can leave her a
(43:43):
message.
See, my nose is all nasal and Ipromise to get that over to her
, definitely.
So if you would like to becomea guest or even have a request
of a topic that you would liketo hear, we would love to hear
from you.
But other than that, once again, thank you and until our next
(44:05):
show.
Love and light guys.
Bye-bye.
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