February 19, 2025 • 38 mins
Get ready for an engaging journey with Geet, an inspiring author with an impressive portfolio of 16 published books. She shares her unique path to becoming a writer while juggling a role as an HR assistant. You'll discover the captivating story of how Geet turned the universe into her co-author, influenced by Steve Harvey's intriguing analogy of placing an order with the cosmos. Geet offers heartfelt reflections on her personal aspirations, relationship goals, and the curious coincidences tied to shared birthdays that seem to weave a magical thread through her life.
In a deeply personal and transformative conversation, Geet opens up about the healing power of writing as a tool for self-discovery and overcoming mental health challenges. With a narrative that includes triumphing over emotional and mental abuse with the help of therapy, she reveals how a connection with a fictional character ignited her passion for storytelling. Geet talks candidly about the courage it took to pen stories about her spiritual experiences and the satisfaction she finds in creating relatable characters. With insights into her writing process and the variety of romance tropes she explores, Geet's journey is a testament to the power of creative expression.
Venture into the vibrant world of Indian cultural events and the intricacies of modern dating with Geet as your guide. You'll hear amusing tales of Indian New Year's Eve parties, cultural quirks of time management, and even a humorous ant encounter. Geet also shares her professional challenges, like navigating friendships that intersect with work, and her experiences with a psychic that predicted both career and romantic futures. As she contemplates the impersonal nature of dating apps, Geet envisions creating a space for genuine connections through an event called Perfectly Paired. This episode promises a rich tapestry of personal stories, cultural insights, and professional wisdom that will leave you both entertained and inspired.
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hello and welcome to Keep Hope Alive.
Today I got G, and she is anauthor of 16 published books.
They are amazing.
I took a look at them, g, andthey look so entertaining.
I want to read each single oneof them.
So I'm so happy to have you onthis show and we're going to be
(00:25):
diving into her journey of howshe became a writer and what it
takes and that brain process ofgetting these books out there.
I want to know too.
So I'm going to hit you up withsome of those questions as well
.
But first, before we getstarted, I just wanted to ask
you a question, okay?
(00:45):
So I'm going to put it in theterms like this we have some
best friends.
They're getting married.
We decided, hey, let's go andsupport our friends.
And we're walking into theceremony and, to the right,
there is something for us tosign.
What are we needing to sign?
A guestbook, yes, perfect.
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(02:13):
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(02:35):
All right, let's get started.
So who is Geet?
Speaker 2 (02:44):
So, um, hi everyone.
My name is Geet and I am I saidit wrong Um and every.
Uh, I am an author of um 16published books and I am
currently an HR assistant and Ijust love it.
Because I don't love the peopleI work with, I will say that,
um, but I do love the fact thatmy hours are flexible.
(03:04):
So, you know, I'll be waking upat 10, 11 and just getting to
work whenever I want and I getto do HR.
So it's something that I wasable to.
Just, you know, took a lot oftime to get there, but I put it
out in the universe and it tooksome time, but hey, I got it now
.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
Hey, hey.
I love it because that's saying, when you do put stuff out into
the universe, it gives you thatextra pull and you go after it
and then boom, it's right inyour lap.
It feels like right.
Speaker 2 (03:35):
Yeah, it's like how Steve Harvey said like once you
like, you know you put somethingout, you know it's coming to
you, like as soon as you put itout, you know it's coming to you
, like as soon as you put it out, it's in the box and it's being
shipped to you Right Cause youplaced an order kind of with,
like the universe, with God,whoever you believe in, um, the
thing is, you just don't knowwhen that box is coming, but you
know it's coming cause youordered it.
Speaker 1 (03:57):
Exactly, exactly.
I like that.
I need to do that with myrelationship stats.
I'm going to set it in a boxand just wait and send it out to
the universe.
Hey, can you send it by 26?
Right, find me the rightsoulmate there.
Speaker 2 (04:16):
I know that feeling.
I'm 29, actually I'll be 30 inApril and I've never dated, so
it's like there's actuallysomething.
That's funny.
I just saw it on Instagram,like the reels, and that said
the devil couldn't get to me sohe made me miss out in romance
in my 20s, in college and in myteens.
Speaker 1 (04:35):
Well, you know what, maybe it's just.
My uncle got married later inlife, so he went down that route
and they're so happy.
They've been married for yearsand years.
I mean, I think maybe it's beenclose to 20 years now, so
there's something to be saidabout that.
I would tell my younger self towait too, and I got married too
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early and had kids right away.
And now my daughter I see her.
She is the same age.
I have a granddaughter now, butI'm hoping she can continue
that path.
I want her to go to school andget her career lined up so she
can raise that beautifulgranddaughter of mine and be
happy.
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But yeah, so when's yourbirthday in April?
Because I know April 28th thatnumber runs in my family like
for birthdays April 28th,January 28th.
Speaker 2 (05:35):
You know, that's crazy Cause for me it's the
fifth, right, but um, my cousin.
So in March of March 5th, 2023,she was born, and then February
5th.
So literally like what twoweeks ago my nephew was born and
then April 5th is me.
So it's February 5th, march 5th, april 5th.
Speaker 1 (05:56):
Oh wow, look at that, the fives.
I mean that's good, it's like auniverse calling card.
Speaker 2 (06:02):
The fives.
Yeah, it's 555.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
555, yep, I really I do look at those numbers because
you know, I'm always runninginto 11, 11 or 222 or 444 or 555
and I'm like, how many signsare you going to sign give me in
one day?
I was like, what does it allmean together?
Yeah, no, that happened to meand I'm like what does this mean
all mean together?
Speaker 2 (06:23):
Yeah, no, that happened to me and I'm like what
does this mean?
And actually, my my, so I'mjust going to switch topics, if
that's really done with you.
But I used to go to meditationclass because my friend she was
covering like my cost and she sowe do like a sharing circle,
and every time I was like youknow, it sucks because I'm
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jobless.
And I was jobless since, like,I took a temporary role in 2022.
And then I was like joblessuntil summer of 2024.
Which, like I used to actuallyjust say it every day, not every
day, but here and there I wouldbe like you know what?
And this is me last year, in2024.
I was like I'm going to get ajob this summer and I would just
say it.
I would just literally say itout loud I'm going to get a job
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this summer.
Speaker 1 (07:11):
July 8th, 2024, was my first day of work.
Oh wow, okay, perfect.
Speaker 2 (07:16):
She actually went to the meditation class with me.
So my friend, the CEO of thecompany, and she just took me on
as HR and she's like what doyou have background in?
I was like communication andeducation Because my master's
degree is in communicationstudies.
All my work is in education,because I live in such a smart
part of California that there'snothing here except for manual
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labor or working in a school andpeople with degrees usually end
up in the school.
Everybody else ends up in likemanual labor, right?
Speaker 1 (07:42):
Gotcha, gotcha, gotcha.
So california, like you said,like, what part are you in?
Speaker 2 (07:49):
I'm in central california, so closer to the um
agriculture parts, so near me islike stockton would be like an
hour away and then fresno wouldbe like another, depending on if
I'm Gotcha, gotcha, okay, yeah.
Speaker 1 (08:03):
So I've been to California twice.
I love it there.
I just think LA is veryexpensive and I don't like the
traffic, and paying $17 for atiny little hamburger at the
airport at McDonald's and adrink was ridiculous at
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mcdonald's and a drink wasridiculous.
Speaker 2 (08:30):
Oh yeah, no, we've been to la quite a few times
because of concerts, and then wewent once because, um, due to
my brother being a covidgraduate, we couldn't really
like take him or celebrate oranything.
So my sister and I decided thatwe're just going to pitch in
and take him to universalstudios for like two, three days
Nice.
Speaker 1 (08:44):
Nice See, and here in Texas they just announced
they're going to be building auniversal studios and I was like
wow, we finally got it.
I always thought it should beCalifornia, texas and Florida,
like just the bottom big Statesshould have something universal.
So to hear that it's coming, Iwas like yay.
(09:07):
But then they're talking aboutlike what the property is going
to be doing and stuff andraising prices and you know we
had a lot of people fromCalifornia actually moved to
Texas and headquartercorporations too, like Toyota
came and stuff.
So but California, I just justadore.
I love the beaches out there,the people are so nice, weather
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is so relaxing and beautiful.
Speaker 2 (09:33):
I just I adored it so I was like I want to say this
is, uh, yeah, christmas.
So like um, last last year onChristmas weekend, family from
New York came for like the firsttime that I actually met them,
because like I didn't know thatI had family in New York because
my grandma didn't speak to them, so it was like this whole
(09:57):
argument and stuff.
And then my dad's like you knowwhat, I'm just gonna call her
like one day he was just likeI'm just gonna do it and then,
like they talk to each other allthe time.
So she actually came and likeit's weird because like I'm like
I said, I'm almost 30.
My cousins are in their 20s andI'm like this is so weird, like
I'm meeting you guys for thefirst time because someone had
beef with someone else, you know.
Speaker 1 (10:15):
See, yeah, that makes it really hard.
And then you miss out all thoseyounger years of where you
could be hanging out and doingfamily events and stuff like
that.
So, but you know what things dohappen for a reason.
Maybe it was the timing, youknow.
So I mean, I'm just happy youdid get to meet them and
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everything so and you'relearning who they are.
Speaker 2 (10:39):
Yeah, I am definitely .
And like when they came um,they were sitting in the park
and like, so you know, peoplewill say, and I don't mind, like
people from uh east coast oranywhere will be like damn,
californians get so weak when ithits 60.
And I'm like over here likegoing, like warming myself up,
and they're just sitting in thesun and I'm just like, are you
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guys not cold?
And they're like we're from NewYork.
I'm like I don't care, it'scold.
Speaker 1 (11:04):
I know I guess their bodies.
The temperature gauge is okayand I have a friend and he lives
in Oklahoma, but he's like I'mmoving to Oregon and I'm just
like I think in my head that isway too cold.
Like I think in my head that isway too cold, like what are you
going to do?
I mean, it could be somewherein Oklahoma we get a little bit
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of snow and then it's like youknow, we're freezing.
We don't know how to handle it.
Our bodies don't.
You know so, but definitely NowI got to ask.
So growing up in California,you went through all the schools
and stuff.
What got you into writing?
Speaker 2 (11:46):
Actually, it wasn't my schooling or anything that
got me into writing.
The funny thing is I was bornand raised in California right,
like one county in my entirelife.
I was born like in the county'slike name.
I don't want to be like Pacificfor people life.
I was born like in the county'slike name.
I don't want to be like pacificfor people.
Um, but then it was it until2021 when my uncle came from
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India with his family and it wasjust like a bunch of
freeloading, a bunch ofemotional abuse like that.
I faced a mental abuse that Iwas a victim of and I was just
thinking about this last nighttoo, which is so funny, um,
because I, I don't know what,what it came to my mind, but I
was thinking about it and I waslike, oh, I remember like I had
to call the cops because and thecop was like, um, what the
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police officer was like?
Um, mental health and emotionalhealth like not health, mental
abuse and emotional abuse are sohard to prove, you know.
So he's like I can't really domuch about it and I was like
great, freaking great, andthat's kind of why I started
like therapy and stuff.
I know like I was in therapy in2020 because, like who wasn't
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right um?
Speaker 1 (12:55):
yeah, I think everybody seemed to be there.
Speaker 2 (12:59):
Right, I'm pretty sure there was just like
skyrocketed their rates.
But 2021 is when I got moreinto therapy and I took it more
seriously.
In 2020, I was like I'll seeyou in a month, you know like,
or like two months later,whatever.
But in 2021, I started takingit more seriously because my
mental health was so bad and Iworked because him and his
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family were staying here in my,like my house, right, and I was
like I don't want to be in myown house.
So I was working threepositions.
I was doing retail.
I was doing, um, summer school,uh, teacher's assistant and like
all this kind of stuff and itthat's um.
You know, my therapist would belike you need a journal, like
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just express how you feel, writeit down.
And I was like this is notworking.
And then I read this book, um,where the character was facing
depression and she was just sorelatable, like you know the way
she would just shut herself inin a room and not talk to
anybody, not want to associatewith anybody, because that's
kind of where I was, um, and Iwas like, wait a minute, that's
(14:09):
kind of when it clicked in like20, and then I think it was like
2022, I was like 21, going into22 or I do remember like
reading the series and then,like May 2022 was when I like
started writing, because Iliterally thought to myself I'm
like, if I can relate to acharacter, I can write a
character that other people canrelate to too, and that's how I
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started writing.
So wow, or anything, because Ijust go for social media
marketing yeah, yeah, that is socool.
Speaker 1 (14:42):
I mean not that you went through the trauma part of
it and stuff like that.
I know for me, like I juststarted this past week writing
my first book and I've alwayswanted to write about what had
happened to me in my lifetimeand I just was a little bit too
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scared to do it.
And as I started the podcastand interviewing people, I'm
having so much fun we alreadyhit 200 episodes.
I'm like you know what I needto get this part of my journey
out on a book and you know itwas a spiritual journey and it
was very scary.
So that's why I say I'm scaredto write it.
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I held onto it tight, but I havebeen waking up early in the
morning and taking an hour and ahalf to write a few like a
chapter, a chapter and a halfand just come to a stopping
point and breathe.
I was like I don't care howlong it takes to get done, at
least I'm doing it and I'mputting it out there because you
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know like the whole motto forKeep Up Alive is maybe
somebody's story can helpanother person.
So even talking to you, youknow getting started, maybe you
have that.
You know, push, too, for peopleto get started, and with you
know, when you said it cametogether, it just started to
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click, that you could use acharacter.
That is just amazing.
That is really important.
So, yeah, go ahead.
Speaker 2 (16:19):
I'm sorry, I don't think my um characters are like.
It's not like I write romancenovels, right.
I write like fictional romancewith like every trope that you
could have imagined.
There's a book for it.
There's second chance.
There's enemies to lovers,there's friends to lovers.
There's second chance romance,there's um arranged marriage,
like I mean, there's 16 books.
(16:40):
You're going to find a tropethat you like, right?
And then when I fell in lovewith writing and then going,
like circling back to themeditation class the friend that
I had who's now my boss she hadjust come back after her mom
passed away.
She had just come back tomeditation and I was at at that
time I had started editing.
(17:02):
So I edit novels too.
So if you ever need an editor,hit me up.
Okay, yeah, I do, actually, andI just I did editing for her.
And then I worked ondissertations, I've worked on
novels, I've worked on, and justyesterday actually, I did a
personal statement for someonewho's trying to get into nursing
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school.
I edited that.
So it's not just us.
If you need an editor, I got you.
Speaker 1 (17:30):
You see, that's good to know, because that's my only
motivation right now is I knowI'm going to find an editor and
they can make the changes thatneeds to.
And I look at the you knowscreen that I'm typing on.
It's like, okay, whenautocorrect comes I'll fix it.
But still, like I want to saywhat I want to say and not how
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it should be.
But I was like when the editorlooks over everything, they're
going to make those wisedecisions to make it sound good,
you know, and just learning howto do different things with the
chapters and stuff of what theyreally need to be named.
That is so important, so, butanyways, so okay, 16 books.
(18:17):
So like how, how soon are youturning over a book book?
Speaker 2 (18:22):
like you get done one and go straight for the other
um, I used to do that and then Iwas like you know what I need
to space it out, just becauseit's writing is a lot of um, you
know, you're paying for the uhlayout, you're paying for cover
designs, um, thankfully, like Ihave a friend that I met through
like k-pop um, and she actuallydid a lot of the covers for my
(18:44):
books, um, so I'm very gratefulbecause she actually doesn't
even like charge me because weare friends.
So I'm like I can still pay you,like I can still tell that it's
good, um, but it's so.
Now with my series this is thefirst series I'm writing the
entwined series and, um, it'sjust taking longer, because I've
realized like all my romanceused to be like clean romance
(19:07):
books, right, and nobody wouldbe interested, or I mean not,
not, nobody would be interested.
Um, that came out wrong but,like, a lot more people would be
interested in smutty books, youknow, with like book talk
taking over and everything likethat.
So I've written everythingbefore entwined series was just
clean romance, right, it's like.
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And then now, like I said, I'vebeen single my entire life and
stuff.
So I'm just like, how do I evenwrite a smutty chapter?
So that took me research, which, as an author, I don't know if
you know this, but I learnedthat buying books for me is a
tax write-off because I'm usingresearch.
I'm using it as research, ohokay.
Speaker 1 (19:48):
See, I did not know that, I did not know, like my
research, I have to use a littlebit of AI to give me that push
and just look at certain wordsto pull in and do some of you
know, because there's a lot ofdifferent vocabulary for my book
that I have to use and I'm justlike I'm a perfectionist, so
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it's going to take me forever towrite this book, but that's
what I do.
And then I delete what AI hassaid because I turned the word I
was looking for into what I wasexperiencing, if that made any
sense at all.
But then as a photographer, Iwas already planning in my, in
(20:31):
my head, on just one day, go outand get the pictures that I
need of the places I was at, youknow, and just kind of go from
there, because everything it wasjust this whirlwind and I think
the visuals are very importantoh yeah, I actually have a
Pinterest board for my booksbecause all my main characters
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are Punjabi, because I'm Punjabi, and there's a lack of
representation in literature forPunjabi main characters.
Speaker 2 (21:02):
So I actually have a Pinterest board so that'll like
show you kind of like the outfitthat they were wearing, or like
the henna or the wedding sceneand everything like that.
Speaker 1 (21:10):
Nice, I need to find it yeah because I'm I'm a
certified wedding planner.
I would love to see thedifferent styles and pictures of
it.
I've done different culture,weddings and everything.
Um and events.
And I got to say, um, what wasit?
It was an indian Year's Eveparty, like maybe seven or eight
(21:35):
years ago.
But what is it?
The dance?
Bali or something.
They could dance.
They could dance.
I remember that was the firstevent out of 20 years that I've
done that.
I felt like I had no feet and Iwanted to call the ambulance to
come and get me.
I was like I could not keep upthat day and I was like I'm not
(21:56):
getting old, god.
They were just a lot of energy.
Speaker 2 (22:00):
Oh yeah.
No, our parties go into like 12in the morning almost, oh yeah.
Speaker 1 (22:05):
Or a little bit over.
Speaker 2 (22:06):
Yeah, and I'm just like, and the thing is like
they'll put a time on the cardand this is, this is so funny,
because I had a birthday partylast year and, um, everybody
knew that if I wrote one on thecard, nobody showed up at one,
except for my two white friends.
And I'm just like getting mymakeup done, still right.
And I'm, and the doorbell ringsand I'm like telling my sister,
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I'm like go check who it is.
And she goes, opens the door.
She's like, okay, I'll be rightback.
She's just getting ready, right.
She comes upstairs.
She's like dude, your whitefriends are here.
And I was like, of course,we're always on time girl.
Speaker 1 (22:41):
Show up on time to an Indian Well?
I mean, there was another one Idid and the time was um.
It was like around threeo'clock, I think.
The dj and I were waiting.
Nobody showed up on time.
Nobody did.
It was like an hour later.
I was like whoa did they notget the invitation?
Speaker 2 (23:01):
no, no, because I think the reason we do it is we
try to give the makeup artistthe bride or like the person
whose party it is, and then thenwe also give them, like the DJ
and everybody, their time to setup.
Like, hey, this is kind of likesaying, like 3 pm, okay, so the
DJ is going to be there at 3 pm, he's going to start setting up
.
That means you come there.
Speaker 1 (23:21):
So as an event planner, I now see where you're
coming at.
So when you book the DJ, youtell them three, they're going
gonna be there at two to set upanyways.
But that is very sweet and Ilove that fact.
Speaker 2 (23:37):
I just never knew, yeah you don't want kids running
all over the place and, youknow, like messing with this and
messing with that, especiallywhen the dgs are testing their
mics or when they're testing thedance.
Like I don't know if they putthe dance floor, if somebody
else does like the flooring,because here you know, like some
parties will have like theirlike last name on the like dance
floor and stuff.
Oh yes, children running aroundand everything.
So it's kind of like, hey, thisis their time.
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We're gonna show up an hour toan hour and a half after that
that is so cool to know.
Speaker 1 (24:06):
Okay, good, I learned something new today.
That is really interesting.
I did not know that.
I know I did a home party alsoand I remember all these shoes
at the front door.
I mean, it was just covered.
I took a picture of that.
I was like you know what?
I got the shoes so.
(24:27):
But it was the one of the firstevents.
No, I did a wedding also whereI had to have no shoes on and it
was very interesting.
I liked it.
But I remember the home party Idid.
I accidentally stepped in antsin their backyard so it was like
, yeah, I was like let's getthem off my feet really quick.
Speaker 2 (24:52):
I mean, we don't wear shoes inside the house just
because, like it'll attract allthe dirt and stuff like that too
.
But then for places of worship,I'm pretty sure it was like in
a temple or something.
It was a temple.
Yes, we don't wear shoes insidethe temple at all.
Speaker 1 (25:07):
Yes, they had a like a little locker area and I just
sat there and I took off my umboots at the time and just put
them up and everything and I waslike it's the first wedding I'm
doing in my socks Some peoplethat are like more religious
Cause, um, I'm like a six, likeI sick, but I'm more spiritual.
Speaker 2 (25:27):
Um, but some people that are like very devoted, they
take their socks off too.
Speaker 1 (25:33):
Oh, okay, Well, I hope there was no offense.
Speaker 2 (25:37):
I was still wearing my socks, oh no, no no, no, Okay
, I mean, there's some peoplelike us like I would never take
my socks off, but like if you'remore devoted, I think they will
be like, oh, you're wearingyour socks and you're not like
sitting on the floor to eat andthis and that, and I'm just like
, cause the temples in India?
This was actually a cultureshock kind of thing for me when
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I went to India in 2009.
So in California, the templeswe have have tables for you to
sit and eat right, Cause theyprovide free food breakfast and
lunch on Sunday, Sunday service.
You get free breakfast for yourlunch and they have like tables
for everybody to sit and eat.
I went to India.
I was like where the hell arethe tables?
None of these tables.
Speaker 1 (26:21):
I didn't expect that to come out of you.
I love it.
I love it.
Hashtag what the hell.
I love it.
Speaker 2 (26:31):
My sister, like when we went to India um, we went for
five weeks too in the summerand it was like record-breaking
heat and stuff too, and mysister and I and my brother were
like, dude, when do we go backto America?
Like, come on, let's go yeah,definitely definitely.
Speaker 1 (26:48):
I.
It's so different, like youknow, even in the States.
I grew up in New Jersey and Ihave family in Virginia too, but
I remember taking those trips.
It's great when you got there,it's memories, but you're like I
want to hurry up and get homethe books that you wrote about
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and their relationships andeverything.
Now here's a personal question.
Like as you're writing about itin detail and stuff, have you
ever once thought like no, maybeI should try dating and see
what it's about?
Speaker 2 (27:27):
Yeah, definitely.
Like I was on dating appsrecently and I just don't see
anybody on like dating apps andstuff.
And I don't believe in likepsychics and stuff too.
But here's what's wild in.
So my boss I call her my bossnow because she was a friend but
she like ended up backstabbingme when I said, hey, you know, I
(27:49):
have a master's degree and Ijust kind like I'm like the
least paid person, like thatdoesn't make sense, because
people without a bachelor's aregetting paid $30 an hour.
And I'm sitting here at like mystart was like 18.
And their start is like 32, youknow, and I'm like.
And then we had like this fightand this argument.
She cut my hours and all thisstuff.
So I just call her my boss andnot my friend anymore.
(28:15):
But so I was mad, I was pissedand I had this like psychic on
Etsy and I was like you knowwhat I'm pissed and I have some
money.
So I'm like hey, is thiscompany going to go out of
business?
And she said, not necessarily.
She literally told me thatthey're going to have a lot of
financial problems.
Now this happened in December.
Come January, january, we'regetting emails and emails about
hey, you know, I'm losing money,you guys need to do this.
(28:37):
I'm losing money, you guys needto do this.
And I'm like holy shit.
The psychic told me this yeah,you know.
And so now I do believe thatI'm gonna meet my husband this
year, because that's what shehad said too because now I see I
want her number, like she islike on it.
And yesterday I had a meetingwith my, with my boss too,
(28:58):
because we're doing likeauditing stuff, because it's
like tech season, we got toaudit a lot of stuff now and um,
and then our payroll is oneperson and our HR is two people
me and my HR manager, that's how, like, we're started right.
And she said that, um, she saidmilestones can go out of
business, like, oh, I said thecompany uh-oh, do we?
Speaker 1 (29:21):
I don't edit.
Do you want to start over?
No, no, that's okay that's okay.
Speaker 2 (29:25):
No, um, you know what ?
It's fine, they don't careenough about me to check this,
um, but, um, she said that, yeah.
So she said like oh, you know,like the way this is going, I'm
gonna have to pay out of pocketlike this much, our company's
gonna go out of business and I'msitting here when she's saying
that I'm like, just like youtold me this like, yeah, yeah,
(29:47):
yeah.
Speaker 1 (29:47):
So I know the people I've talked to that were mediums
.
They have been accurate on meand I'm just like, am I easy
read?
But whether it was work orrelationships, I've actually
listened and we've had somepeople on the show here that
(30:10):
also do different kind ofreadings on the show here that
also do different kind ofreadings, and I always it was I
can never say it right, I loveher to death, but she did a
reading for me and it startedout like I was going to be in a
room with one window buteventually, through time, I'm
going to end up in a castle.
(30:30):
So I'm like in my head well,I'm still in the room with the
one window.
When do I go to the castleBecause I'm ready.
Speaker 2 (30:40):
Yeah.
So I do believe, like that'swhy I started the dating apps
and stuff, but I'm like it's notworking and I was pissed.
But then I keep remembering shesaid the second half of 2025.
And I'm like but I want to datesomeone in my 20s, before April
5.
So I can say I dated in my 20sand you know, I just keep
thinking, I'm like you know what, maybe she's, she's right,
(31:02):
Maybe I will not meet my husbanduntil because I'm dating to
marry.
So I say I'm going to meet myhusband, I don't, I'm going to
meet my boyfriend, I'm going tomeet my.
I straight up say I will meetmy husband, I'm going to meet my
boyfriend, I'm going to meet my.
I straight up say I will meetmy husband because obviously, if
I'm dating to marry, the guythat I'm dating will be my
husband, right?
Speaker 1 (31:17):
Eventually, like depending on yeah, yeah, but you
never know Like I mean, it'sdifferent and different.
You know I got to say cultures,Um, but for me, like my past
two dates, they were justridiculous.
Ghosting is a thing you know,excuses the talking sickness,
(31:39):
the talking sickness is so new.
Yeah, so it's just the datingworld with the apps have changed
so much and I wish they wouldjust be a little bit more down
to point.
Much, and I wish they wouldjust be a little bit more down
to point.
I know I wanted to start agroup called Perfectly Paired,
where you it's like speed datingwithout the speed part Like you
(32:01):
will have a little bit longerto develop that match and see if
it would really work, and thengo to the next person and just
make it like a maybe three-hourevent, four-hour event or
something, food included, butit's, you know, those little
things would help people so much.
Now you got swipe right, swipeleft.
Give them a star, buy them arose.
(32:23):
I don't want any of that, youknow.
And then people you knowthey'll go on the dates and
still even play on their phoneand see who the next person
they're going to go date andit's just wrong and everything.
Speaker 2 (32:37):
I think that's what a lot of people do is like
they'll skip someone and they'llbe like, oh, I just want to see
who's next, you know, orthey're talking to multiple
people at the same time, which Idon't know.
It's probably just the way thatI'm raised.
Speaker 1 (32:59):
I will probably talk to one person see if there's a
vibe and then be like, hey,there's not a vibe, and then
move on to the next personinstead of that feels like, in a
sense, it's not.
I know it's not cheating, but itfeels like cheating to me.
Yeah, and it is.
It's a sense of cheating.
I'm gonna call it what it is itis a sense of cheating.
So, yeah, like one of this isreally I'll share it with you
because I went on a date and Ithought it was a really good
date.
It was promising, it left on apositive note, but it was the
(33:22):
next day I got a text saying Idon't think it's going to work
out.
And I was like well, can youtell me why?
And he wrote back well, you,you're gonna think I'm stupid,
but he goes.
Speaker 2 (33:35):
You look and sound like drew berrymore and I
absolutely do not like her Ithought that was the weirdest
excuse they do come up with thefunniest things, because I'm in
like groups of like um browngirls dating and like um are
(33:56):
like are we talking to the sameguy?
Groups and stuff like that,right?
And one of them will just belike oh, you know, I have one of
them.
It was so funny because sheposted it.
She was laughing.
I thought like she would beupset or something.
He's like I didn't like yourlipstick, shit you didn't.
I was like okay, cool.
Like if you know so much aboutlipstick, then why don't you go
to Ulta with her next time?
Speaker 1 (34:19):
How do they know that , like really, really.
I mean they're feminine right,yeah, you got to pay attention
to detail too.
Like on a date, are theyleaving all the time because
they're a smoker, but are theyon the phone all the time too,
is what I'm going to startlooking at, because you know I
think it's not a good thing ifthat's the case on a date.
(34:42):
You know it makes somebodywonder and like why, why aren't
you paying attention to me?
Like this is supposed to be adate, not play with your phone
day, so, but it's different.
So writing about the love inthe books that you have written,
so, like was it automaticallythey're falling in love or was
(35:08):
it through the different thingsthat you know, that growing up
for you, that you've seen andheard?
Speaker 2 (35:15):
it's different for each book, just so it's not like
you know, there's the marriageof convenience, there's the
arranged marriage, there's umbooks that I've written, because
my um, where I went to highschool, actually she has my
books.
And like one day I kind of justwent and I and I was like, oh my
gosh, she has like my books ondisplay and I was like you know
(35:36):
what I need to write somethingfor, like the high school
seniors, because I was like I'mthe eldest, right, so I got to
go to like prom and sober gradand everything before, like my
sister and like my brother andeverybody, and I wanted.
So my friend, uh, at that timewe were friends for 10 years
before she decided to act up, um, but she, um, she didn't do a
(35:58):
lot of things in high school andshe regretted it when we were
in college and I told myself mysenior year that I'm not missing
anything.
I was at senior sunrise, seniorsunset, prom, everything right.
I went to the homecoming game.
I didn't go to the homecomingbasketball game because I think
I was sick at that time, but Iwent to the homecoming game.
I didn't go to the homecomingbasketball game because I think
I was sick at that time, but Iwent to the homecoming football
game and like everything, so Iwrote Finding Home for the high
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school seniors.
Speaker 1 (36:21):
Oh, wow, okay.
Well, that was nice, but it'sfor them.
Yeah, you see, when you get togo out and explore and then see
your work, it will trigger allthose thoughts.
You know, I really need to do alittle bit more.
And it gives you that pushagain, which is always nice.
So, yeah, definitely I can seewhy you're writing more and
(36:41):
everything Now with your books.
I guess you are they at Barnes,noble and Amazon.
Speaker 2 (36:49):
So Barnes Noble will not carry anything that's on
Amazon that's published onAmazon.
Barnes &bles will not carryanything that's on Amazon that's
published on Amazon.
Barnes and Nobles will notcarry it.
And I did get a.
I do have a meeting on 145,just so you know.
Yeah, and but I was actuallysurprised to find out because
and then, but I guess it makessense because she said that
(37:09):
there are competition and I waslike, okay, that makes a lot of
sense.
So, is something that Ipublished using IngramSparks, so
they said I could have a booksigning, but it would only be
for that book because I didn'tuse Amazon to publish it.
Speaker 1 (37:23):
I will tell you.
Well, I'm going to add all yourlinks for everybody to find and
everything, and I want to saythank you.
I didn't realize time wasflying so fast, but yeah,
definitely, well, definitely,I'll get everything.
Speaker 2 (37:42):
Wherever you guys can find podcasts, you'll be able
to find Keep Hope Alive podcast,and I want to say thank you for
coming on and I'm just soexcited that this one will just
come out like today.
It's like, hey, you don't haveto wait.
February 19th.
We recorded, and February 19th.
Speaker 1 (37:55):
It's out.
It's out today.
All right, guys, until nexttime, love and light.
Have a great week.
Bye.
Hello and welcome to Keep Hope Alive.
Today I got G, and she is anauthor of 16 published books.
They are amazing.
I took a look at them, g, andthey look so entertaining.
I want to read each single oneof them.
So I'm so happy to have you onthis show and we're going to be
(00:25):
diving into her journey of howshe became a writer and what it
takes and that brain process ofgetting these books out there.
I want to know too.
So I'm going to hit you up withsome of those questions as well
.
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All right, let's get started.
So who is Geet?
Speaker 2 (02:44):
So, um, hi everyone.
My name is Geet and I am I saidit wrong Um and every.
Uh, I am an author of um 16published books and I am
currently an HR assistant and Ijust love it.
Because I don't love the peopleI work with, I will say that,
um, but I do love the fact thatmy hours are flexible.
(03:04):
So, you know, I'll be waking upat 10, 11 and just getting to
work whenever I want and I getto do HR.
So it's something that I wasable to.
Just, you know, took a lot oftime to get there, but I put it
out in the universe and it tooksome time, but hey, I got it now
.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
Hey, hey.
I love it because that's saying, when you do put stuff out into
the universe, it gives you thatextra pull and you go after it
and then boom, it's right inyour lap.
It feels like right.
Speaker 2 (03:35):
Yeah, it's like how Steve Harvey said like once you
like, you know you put somethingout, you know it's coming to
you, like as soon as you put itout, you know it's coming to you
, like as soon as you put it out, it's in the box and it's being
shipped to you Right Cause youplaced an order kind of with,
like the universe, with God,whoever you believe in, um, the
thing is, you just don't knowwhen that box is coming, but you
know it's coming cause youordered it.
Speaker 1 (03:57):
Exactly, exactly.
I like that.
I need to do that with myrelationship stats.
I'm going to set it in a boxand just wait and send it out to
the universe.
Hey, can you send it by 26?
Right, find me the rightsoulmate there.
Speaker 2 (04:16):
I know that feeling.
I'm 29, actually I'll be 30 inApril and I've never dated, so
it's like there's actuallysomething.
That's funny.
I just saw it on Instagram,like the reels, and that said
the devil couldn't get to me sohe made me miss out in romance
in my 20s, in college and in myteens.
Speaker 1 (04:35):
Well, you know what, maybe it's just.
My uncle got married later inlife, so he went down that route
and they're so happy.
They've been married for yearsand years.
I mean, I think maybe it's beenclose to 20 years now, so
there's something to be saidabout that.
I would tell my younger self towait too, and I got married too
(05:00):
early and had kids right away.
And now my daughter I see her.
She is the same age.
I have a granddaughter now, butI'm hoping she can continue
that path.
I want her to go to school andget her career lined up so she
can raise that beautifulgranddaughter of mine and be
happy.
(05:20):
But yeah, so when's yourbirthday in April?
Because I know April 28th thatnumber runs in my family like
for birthdays April 28th,January 28th.
Speaker 2 (05:35):
You know, that's crazy Cause for me it's the
fifth, right, but um, my cousin.
So in March of March 5th, 2023,she was born, and then February
5th.
So literally like what twoweeks ago my nephew was born and
then April 5th is me.
So it's February 5th, march 5th, april 5th.
Speaker 1 (05:56):
Oh wow, look at that, the fives.
I mean that's good, it's like auniverse calling card.
Speaker 2 (06:02):
The fives.
Yeah, it's 555.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
555, yep, I really I do look at those numbers because
you know, I'm always runninginto 11, 11 or 222 or 444 or 555
and I'm like, how many signsare you going to sign give me in
one day?
I was like, what does it allmean together?
Yeah, no, that happened to meand I'm like what does this mean
all mean together?
Speaker 2 (06:23):
Yeah, no, that happened to me and I'm like what
does this mean?
And actually, my my, so I'mjust going to switch topics, if
that's really done with you.
But I used to go to meditationclass because my friend she was
covering like my cost and she sowe do like a sharing circle,
and every time I was like youknow, it sucks because I'm
(06:45):
jobless.
And I was jobless since, like,I took a temporary role in 2022.
And then I was like joblessuntil summer of 2024.
Which, like I used to actuallyjust say it every day, not every
day, but here and there I wouldbe like you know what?
And this is me last year, in2024.
I was like I'm going to get ajob this summer and I would just
say it.
I would just literally say itout loud I'm going to get a job
(07:07):
this summer.
Speaker 1 (07:11):
July 8th, 2024, was my first day of work.
Oh wow, okay, perfect.
Speaker 2 (07:16):
She actually went to the meditation class with me.
So my friend, the CEO of thecompany, and she just took me on
as HR and she's like what doyou have background in?
I was like communication andeducation Because my master's
degree is in communicationstudies.
All my work is in education,because I live in such a smart
part of California that there'snothing here except for manual
(07:36):
labor or working in a school andpeople with degrees usually end
up in the school.
Everybody else ends up in likemanual labor, right?
Speaker 1 (07:42):
Gotcha, gotcha, gotcha.
So california, like you said,like, what part are you in?
Speaker 2 (07:49):
I'm in central california, so closer to the um
agriculture parts, so near me islike stockton would be like an
hour away and then fresno wouldbe like another, depending on if
I'm Gotcha, gotcha, okay, yeah.
Speaker 1 (08:03):
So I've been to California twice.
I love it there.
I just think LA is veryexpensive and I don't like the
traffic, and paying $17 for atiny little hamburger at the
airport at McDonald's and adrink was ridiculous at
(08:29):
mcdonald's and a drink wasridiculous.
Speaker 2 (08:30):
Oh yeah, no, we've been to la quite a few times
because of concerts, and then wewent once because, um, due to
my brother being a covidgraduate, we couldn't really
like take him or celebrate oranything.
So my sister and I decided thatwe're just going to pitch in
and take him to universalstudios for like two, three days
Nice.
Speaker 1 (08:44):
Nice See, and here in Texas they just announced
they're going to be building auniversal studios and I was like
wow, we finally got it.
I always thought it should beCalifornia, texas and Florida,
like just the bottom big Statesshould have something universal.
So to hear that it's coming, Iwas like yay.
(09:07):
But then they're talking aboutlike what the property is going
to be doing and stuff andraising prices and you know we
had a lot of people fromCalifornia actually moved to
Texas and headquartercorporations too, like Toyota
came and stuff.
So but California, I just justadore.
I love the beaches out there,the people are so nice, weather
(09:31):
is so relaxing and beautiful.
Speaker 2 (09:33):
I just I adored it so I was like I want to say this
is, uh, yeah, christmas.
So like um, last last year onChristmas weekend, family from
New York came for like the firsttime that I actually met them,
because like I didn't know thatI had family in New York because
my grandma didn't speak to them, so it was like this whole
(09:57):
argument and stuff.
And then my dad's like you knowwhat, I'm just gonna call her
like one day he was just likeI'm just gonna do it and then,
like they talk to each other allthe time.
So she actually came and likeit's weird because like I'm like
I said, I'm almost 30.
My cousins are in their 20s andI'm like this is so weird, like
I'm meeting you guys for thefirst time because someone had
beef with someone else, you know.
Speaker 1 (10:15):
See, yeah, that makes it really hard.
And then you miss out all thoseyounger years of where you
could be hanging out and doingfamily events and stuff like
that.
So, but you know what things dohappen for a reason.
Maybe it was the timing, youknow.
So I mean, I'm just happy youdid get to meet them and
(10:36):
everything so and you'relearning who they are.
Speaker 2 (10:39):
Yeah, I am definitely .
And like when they came um,they were sitting in the park
and like, so you know, peoplewill say, and I don't mind, like
people from uh east coast oranywhere will be like damn,
californians get so weak when ithits 60.
And I'm like over here likegoing, like warming myself up,
and they're just sitting in thesun and I'm just like, are you
(11:00):
guys not cold?
And they're like we're from NewYork.
I'm like I don't care, it'scold.
Speaker 1 (11:04):
I know I guess their bodies.
The temperature gauge is okayand I have a friend and he lives
in Oklahoma, but he's like I'mmoving to Oregon and I'm just
like I think in my head that isway too cold.
Like I think in my head that isway too cold, like what are you
going to do?
I mean, it could be somewherein Oklahoma we get a little bit
(11:26):
of snow and then it's like youknow, we're freezing.
We don't know how to handle it.
Our bodies don't.
You know so, but definitely NowI got to ask.
So growing up in California,you went through all the schools
and stuff.
What got you into writing?
Speaker 2 (11:46):
Actually, it wasn't my schooling or anything that
got me into writing.
The funny thing is I was bornand raised in California right,
like one county in my entirelife.
I was born like in the county'slike name.
I don't want to be like Pacificfor people life.
I was born like in the county'slike name.
I don't want to be like pacificfor people.
Um, but then it was it until2021 when my uncle came from
(12:07):
India with his family and it wasjust like a bunch of
freeloading, a bunch ofemotional abuse like that.
I faced a mental abuse that Iwas a victim of and I was just
thinking about this last nighttoo, which is so funny, um,
because I, I don't know what,what it came to my mind, but I
was thinking about it and I waslike, oh, I remember like I had
to call the cops because and thecop was like, um, what the
(12:31):
police officer was like?
Um, mental health and emotionalhealth like not health, mental
abuse and emotional abuse are sohard to prove, you know.
So he's like I can't really domuch about it and I was like
great, freaking great, andthat's kind of why I started
like therapy and stuff.
I know like I was in therapy in2020 because, like who wasn't
(12:54):
right um?
Speaker 1 (12:55):
yeah, I think everybody seemed to be there.
Speaker 2 (12:59):
Right, I'm pretty sure there was just like
skyrocketed their rates.
But 2021 is when I got moreinto therapy and I took it more
seriously.
In 2020, I was like I'll seeyou in a month, you know like,
or like two months later,whatever.
But in 2021, I started takingit more seriously because my
mental health was so bad and Iworked because him and his
(13:23):
family were staying here in my,like my house, right, and I was
like I don't want to be in myown house.
So I was working threepositions.
I was doing retail.
I was doing, um, summer school,uh, teacher's assistant and like
all this kind of stuff and itthat's um.
You know, my therapist would belike you need a journal, like
(13:46):
just express how you feel, writeit down.
And I was like this is notworking.
And then I read this book, um,where the character was facing
depression and she was just sorelatable, like you know the way
she would just shut herself inin a room and not talk to
anybody, not want to associatewith anybody, because that's
kind of where I was, um, and Iwas like, wait a minute, that's
(14:09):
kind of when it clicked in like20, and then I think it was like
2022, I was like 21, going into22 or I do remember like
reading the series and then,like May 2022 was when I like
started writing, because Iliterally thought to myself I'm
like, if I can relate to acharacter, I can write a
character that other people canrelate to too, and that's how I
(14:31):
started writing.
So wow, or anything, because Ijust go for social media
marketing yeah, yeah, that is socool.
Speaker 1 (14:42):
I mean not that you went through the trauma part of
it and stuff like that.
I know for me, like I juststarted this past week writing
my first book and I've alwayswanted to write about what had
happened to me in my lifetimeand I just was a little bit too
(15:05):
scared to do it.
And as I started the podcastand interviewing people, I'm
having so much fun we alreadyhit 200 episodes.
I'm like you know what I needto get this part of my journey
out on a book and you know itwas a spiritual journey and it
was very scary.
So that's why I say I'm scaredto write it.
(15:27):
I held onto it tight, but I havebeen waking up early in the
morning and taking an hour and ahalf to write a few like a
chapter, a chapter and a halfand just come to a stopping
point and breathe.
I was like I don't care howlong it takes to get done, at
least I'm doing it and I'mputting it out there because you
(15:48):
know like the whole motto forKeep Up Alive is maybe
somebody's story can helpanother person.
So even talking to you, youknow getting started, maybe you
have that.
You know, push, too, for peopleto get started, and with you
know, when you said it cametogether, it just started to
(16:09):
click, that you could use acharacter.
That is just amazing.
That is really important.
So, yeah, go ahead.
Speaker 2 (16:19):
I'm sorry, I don't think my um characters are like.
It's not like I write romancenovels, right.
I write like fictional romancewith like every trope that you
could have imagined.
There's a book for it.
There's second chance.
There's enemies to lovers,there's friends to lovers.
There's second chance romance,there's um arranged marriage,
like I mean, there's 16 books.
(16:40):
You're going to find a tropethat you like, right?
And then when I fell in lovewith writing and then going,
like circling back to themeditation class the friend that
I had who's now my boss she hadjust come back after her mom
passed away.
She had just come back tomeditation and I was at at that
time I had started editing.
(17:02):
So I edit novels too.
So if you ever need an editor,hit me up.
Okay, yeah, I do, actually, andI just I did editing for her.
And then I worked ondissertations, I've worked on
novels, I've worked on, and justyesterday actually, I did a
personal statement for someonewho's trying to get into nursing
(17:24):
school.
I edited that.
So it's not just us.
If you need an editor, I got you.
Speaker 1 (17:30):
You see, that's good to know, because that's my only
motivation right now is I knowI'm going to find an editor and
they can make the changes thatneeds to.
And I look at the you knowscreen that I'm typing on.
It's like, okay, whenautocorrect comes I'll fix it.
But still, like I want to saywhat I want to say and not how
(17:52):
it should be.
But I was like when the editorlooks over everything, they're
going to make those wisedecisions to make it sound good,
you know, and just learning howto do different things with the
chapters and stuff of what theyreally need to be named.
That is so important, so, butanyways, so okay, 16 books.
(18:17):
So like how, how soon are youturning over a book book?
Speaker 2 (18:22):
like you get done one and go straight for the other
um, I used to do that and then Iwas like you know what I need
to space it out, just becauseit's writing is a lot of um, you
know, you're paying for the uhlayout, you're paying for cover
designs, um, thankfully, like Ihave a friend that I met through
like k-pop um, and she actuallydid a lot of the covers for my
(18:44):
books, um, so I'm very gratefulbecause she actually doesn't
even like charge me because weare friends.
So I'm like I can still pay you,like I can still tell that it's
good, um, but it's so.
Now with my series this is thefirst series I'm writing the
entwined series and, um, it'sjust taking longer, because I've
realized like all my romanceused to be like clean romance
(19:07):
books, right, and nobody wouldbe interested, or I mean not,
not, nobody would be interested.
Um, that came out wrong but,like, a lot more people would be
interested in smutty books, youknow, with like book talk
taking over and everything likethat.
So I've written everythingbefore entwined series was just
clean romance, right, it's like.
(19:27):
And then now, like I said, I'vebeen single my entire life and
stuff.
So I'm just like, how do I evenwrite a smutty chapter?
So that took me research, which, as an author, I don't know if
you know this, but I learnedthat buying books for me is a
tax write-off because I'm usingresearch.
I'm using it as research, ohokay.
Speaker 1 (19:48):
See, I did not know that, I did not know, like my
research, I have to use a littlebit of AI to give me that push
and just look at certain wordsto pull in and do some of you
know, because there's a lot ofdifferent vocabulary for my book
that I have to use and I'm justlike I'm a perfectionist, so
(20:11):
it's going to take me forever towrite this book, but that's
what I do.
And then I delete what AI hassaid because I turned the word I
was looking for into what I wasexperiencing, if that made any
sense at all.
But then as a photographer, Iwas already planning in my, in
(20:31):
my head, on just one day, go outand get the pictures that I
need of the places I was at, youknow, and just kind of go from
there, because everything it wasjust this whirlwind and I think
the visuals are very importantoh yeah, I actually have a
Pinterest board for my booksbecause all my main characters
(20:54):
are Punjabi, because I'm Punjabi, and there's a lack of
representation in literature forPunjabi main characters.
Speaker 2 (21:02):
So I actually have a Pinterest board so that'll like
show you kind of like the outfitthat they were wearing, or like
the henna or the wedding sceneand everything like that.
Speaker 1 (21:10):
Nice, I need to find it yeah because I'm I'm a
certified wedding planner.
I would love to see thedifferent styles and pictures of
it.
I've done different culture,weddings and everything.
Um and events.
And I got to say, um, what wasit?
It was an indian Year's Eveparty, like maybe seven or eight
(21:35):
years ago.
But what is it?
The dance?
Bali or something.
They could dance.
They could dance.
I remember that was the firstevent out of 20 years that I've
done that.
I felt like I had no feet and Iwanted to call the ambulance to
come and get me.
I was like I could not keep upthat day and I was like I'm not
(21:56):
getting old, god.
They were just a lot of energy.
Speaker 2 (22:00):
Oh yeah.
No, our parties go into like 12in the morning almost, oh yeah.
Speaker 1 (22:05):
Or a little bit over.
Speaker 2 (22:06):
Yeah, and I'm just like, and the thing is like
they'll put a time on the cardand this is, this is so funny,
because I had a birthday partylast year and, um, everybody
knew that if I wrote one on thecard, nobody showed up at one,
except for my two white friends.
And I'm just like getting mymakeup done, still right.
And I'm, and the doorbell ringsand I'm like telling my sister,
(22:28):
I'm like go check who it is.
And she goes, opens the door.
She's like, okay, I'll be rightback.
She's just getting ready, right.
She comes upstairs.
She's like dude, your whitefriends are here.
And I was like, of course,we're always on time girl.
Speaker 1 (22:41):
Show up on time to an Indian Well?
I mean, there was another one Idid and the time was um.
It was like around threeo'clock, I think.
The dj and I were waiting.
Nobody showed up on time.
Nobody did.
It was like an hour later.
I was like whoa did they notget the invitation?
Speaker 2 (23:01):
no, no, because I think the reason we do it is we
try to give the makeup artistthe bride or like the person
whose party it is, and then thenwe also give them, like the DJ
and everybody, their time to setup.
Like, hey, this is kind of likesaying, like 3 pm, okay, so the
DJ is going to be there at 3 pm, he's going to start setting up
.
That means you come there.
Speaker 1 (23:21):
So as an event planner, I now see where you're
coming at.
So when you book the DJ, youtell them three, they're going
gonna be there at two to set upanyways.
But that is very sweet and Ilove that fact.
Speaker 2 (23:37):
I just never knew, yeah you don't want kids running
all over the place and, youknow, like messing with this and
messing with that, especiallywhen the dgs are testing their
mics or when they're testing thedance.
Like I don't know if they putthe dance floor, if somebody
else does like the flooring,because here you know, like some
parties will have like theirlike last name on the like dance
floor and stuff.
Oh yes, children running aroundand everything.
So it's kind of like, hey, thisis their time.
(24:01):
We're gonna show up an hour toan hour and a half after that
that is so cool to know.
Speaker 1 (24:06):
Okay, good, I learned something new today.
That is really interesting.
I did not know that.
I know I did a home party alsoand I remember all these shoes
at the front door.
I mean, it was just covered.
I took a picture of that.
I was like you know what?
I got the shoes so.
(24:27):
But it was the one of the firstevents.
No, I did a wedding also whereI had to have no shoes on and it
was very interesting.
I liked it.
But I remember the home party Idid.
I accidentally stepped in antsin their backyard so it was like
, yeah, I was like let's getthem off my feet really quick.
Speaker 2 (24:52):
I mean, we don't wear shoes inside the house just
because, like it'll attract allthe dirt and stuff like that too
.
But then for places of worship,I'm pretty sure it was like in
a temple or something.
It was a temple.
Yes, we don't wear shoes insidethe temple at all.
Speaker 1 (25:07):
Yes, they had a like a little locker area and I just
sat there and I took off my umboots at the time and just put
them up and everything and I waslike it's the first wedding I'm
doing in my socks Some peoplethat are like more religious
Cause, um, I'm like a six, likeI sick, but I'm more spiritual.
Speaker 2 (25:27):
Um, but some people that are like very devoted, they
take their socks off too.
Speaker 1 (25:33):
Oh, okay, Well, I hope there was no offense.
Speaker 2 (25:37):
I was still wearing my socks, oh no, no no, no, Okay
, I mean, there's some peoplelike us like I would never take
my socks off, but like if you'remore devoted, I think they will
be like, oh, you're wearingyour socks and you're not like
sitting on the floor to eat andthis and that, and I'm just like
, cause the temples in India?
This was actually a cultureshock kind of thing for me when
(25:58):
I went to India in 2009.
So in California, the templeswe have have tables for you to
sit and eat right, Cause theyprovide free food breakfast and
lunch on Sunday, Sunday service.
You get free breakfast for yourlunch and they have like tables
for everybody to sit and eat.
I went to India.
I was like where the hell arethe tables?
None of these tables.
Speaker 1 (26:21):
I didn't expect that to come out of you.
I love it.
I love it.
Hashtag what the hell.
I love it.
Speaker 2 (26:31):
My sister, like when we went to India um, we went for
five weeks too in the summerand it was like record-breaking
heat and stuff too, and mysister and I and my brother were
like, dude, when do we go backto America?
Like, come on, let's go yeah,definitely definitely.
Speaker 1 (26:48):
I.
It's so different, like youknow, even in the States.
I grew up in New Jersey and Ihave family in Virginia too, but
I remember taking those trips.
It's great when you got there,it's memories, but you're like I
want to hurry up and get homethe books that you wrote about
(27:11):
and their relationships andeverything.
Now here's a personal question.
Like as you're writing about itin detail and stuff, have you
ever once thought like no, maybeI should try dating and see
what it's about?
Speaker 2 (27:27):
Yeah, definitely.
Like I was on dating appsrecently and I just don't see
anybody on like dating apps andstuff.
And I don't believe in likepsychics and stuff too.
But here's what's wild in.
So my boss I call her my bossnow because she was a friend but
she like ended up backstabbingme when I said, hey, you know, I
(27:49):
have a master's degree and Ijust kind like I'm like the
least paid person, like thatdoesn't make sense, because
people without a bachelor's aregetting paid $30 an hour.
And I'm sitting here at like mystart was like 18.
And their start is like 32, youknow, and I'm like.
And then we had like this fightand this argument.
She cut my hours and all thisstuff.
So I just call her my boss andnot my friend anymore.
(28:15):
But so I was mad, I was pissedand I had this like psychic on
Etsy and I was like you knowwhat I'm pissed and I have some
money.
So I'm like hey, is thiscompany going to go out of
business?
And she said, not necessarily.
She literally told me thatthey're going to have a lot of
financial problems.
Now this happened in December.
Come January, january, we'regetting emails and emails about
hey, you know, I'm losing money,you guys need to do this.
(28:37):
I'm losing money, you guys needto do this.
And I'm like holy shit.
The psychic told me this yeah,you know.
And so now I do believe thatI'm gonna meet my husband this
year, because that's what shehad said too because now I see I
want her number, like she islike on it.
And yesterday I had a meetingwith my, with my boss too,
(28:58):
because we're doing likeauditing stuff, because it's
like tech season, we got toaudit a lot of stuff now and um,
and then our payroll is oneperson and our HR is two people
me and my HR manager, that's how, like, we're started right.
And she said that, um, she saidmilestones can go out of
business, like, oh, I said thecompany uh-oh, do we?
Speaker 1 (29:21):
I don't edit.
Do you want to start over?
No, no, that's okay that's okay.
Speaker 2 (29:25):
No, um, you know what ?
It's fine, they don't careenough about me to check this,
um, but, um, she said that, yeah.
So she said like oh, you know,like the way this is going, I'm
gonna have to pay out of pocketlike this much, our company's
gonna go out of business and I'msitting here when she's saying
that I'm like, just like youtold me this like, yeah, yeah,
(29:47):
yeah.
Speaker 1 (29:47):
So I know the people I've talked to that were mediums
.
They have been accurate on meand I'm just like, am I easy
read?
But whether it was work orrelationships, I've actually
listened and we've had somepeople on the show here that
(30:10):
also do different kind ofreadings on the show here that
also do different kind ofreadings, and I always it was I
can never say it right, I loveher to death, but she did a
reading for me and it startedout like I was going to be in a
room with one window buteventually, through time, I'm
going to end up in a castle.
(30:30):
So I'm like in my head well,I'm still in the room with the
one window.
When do I go to the castleBecause I'm ready.
Speaker 2 (30:40):
Yeah.
So I do believe, like that'swhy I started the dating apps
and stuff, but I'm like it's notworking and I was pissed.
But then I keep remembering shesaid the second half of 2025.
And I'm like but I want to datesomeone in my 20s, before April
5.
So I can say I dated in my 20sand you know, I just keep
thinking, I'm like you know what, maybe she's, she's right,
(31:02):
Maybe I will not meet my husbanduntil because I'm dating to
marry.
So I say I'm going to meet myhusband, I don't, I'm going to
meet my boyfriend, I'm going tomeet my.
I straight up say I will meetmy husband, I'm going to meet my
boyfriend, I'm going to meet my.
I straight up say I will meetmy husband because obviously, if
I'm dating to marry, the guythat I'm dating will be my
husband, right?
Speaker 1 (31:17):
Eventually, like depending on yeah, yeah, but you
never know Like I mean, it'sdifferent and different.
You know I got to say cultures,Um, but for me, like my past
two dates, they were justridiculous.
Ghosting is a thing you know,excuses the talking sickness,
(31:39):
the talking sickness is so new.
Yeah, so it's just the datingworld with the apps have changed
so much and I wish they wouldjust be a little bit more down
to point.
Much, and I wish they wouldjust be a little bit more down
to point.
I know I wanted to start agroup called Perfectly Paired,
where you it's like speed datingwithout the speed part Like you
(32:01):
will have a little bit longerto develop that match and see if
it would really work, and thengo to the next person and just
make it like a maybe three-hourevent, four-hour event or
something, food included, butit's, you know, those little
things would help people so much.
Now you got swipe right, swipeleft.
Give them a star, buy them arose.
(32:23):
I don't want any of that, youknow.
And then people you knowthey'll go on the dates and
still even play on their phoneand see who the next person
they're going to go date andit's just wrong and everything.
Speaker 2 (32:37):
I think that's what a lot of people do is like
they'll skip someone and they'llbe like, oh, I just want to see
who's next, you know, orthey're talking to multiple
people at the same time, which Idon't know.
It's probably just the way thatI'm raised.
Speaker 1 (32:59):
I will probably talk to one person see if there's a
vibe and then be like, hey,there's not a vibe, and then
move on to the next personinstead of that feels like, in a
sense, it's not.
I know it's not cheating, but itfeels like cheating to me.
Yeah, and it is.
It's a sense of cheating.
I'm gonna call it what it is itis a sense of cheating.
So, yeah, like one of this isreally I'll share it with you
because I went on a date and Ithought it was a really good
date.
It was promising, it left on apositive note, but it was the
(33:22):
next day I got a text saying Idon't think it's going to work
out.
And I was like well, can youtell me why?
And he wrote back well, you,you're gonna think I'm stupid,
but he goes.
Speaker 2 (33:35):
You look and sound like drew berrymore and I
absolutely do not like her Ithought that was the weirdest
excuse they do come up with thefunniest things, because I'm in
like groups of like um browngirls dating and like um are
(33:56):
like are we talking to the sameguy?
Groups and stuff like that,right?
And one of them will just belike oh, you know, I have one of
them.
It was so funny because sheposted it.
She was laughing.
I thought like she would beupset or something.
He's like I didn't like yourlipstick, shit you didn't.
I was like okay, cool.
Like if you know so much aboutlipstick, then why don't you go
to Ulta with her next time?
Speaker 1 (34:19):
How do they know that , like really, really.
I mean they're feminine right,yeah, you got to pay attention
to detail too.
Like on a date, are theyleaving all the time because
they're a smoker, but are theyon the phone all the time too,
is what I'm going to startlooking at, because you know I
think it's not a good thing ifthat's the case on a date.
(34:42):
You know it makes somebodywonder and like why, why aren't
you paying attention to me?
Like this is supposed to be adate, not play with your phone
day, so, but it's different.
So writing about the love inthe books that you have written,
so, like was it automaticallythey're falling in love or was
(35:08):
it through the different thingsthat you know, that growing up
for you, that you've seen andheard?
Speaker 2 (35:15):
it's different for each book, just so it's not like
you know, there's the marriageof convenience, there's the
arranged marriage, there's umbooks that I've written, because
my um, where I went to highschool, actually she has my
books.
And like one day I kind of justwent and I and I was like, oh my
gosh, she has like my books ondisplay and I was like you know
(35:36):
what I need to write somethingfor, like the high school
seniors, because I was like I'mthe eldest, right, so I got to
go to like prom and sober gradand everything before, like my
sister and like my brother andeverybody, and I wanted.
So my friend, uh, at that timewe were friends for 10 years
before she decided to act up, um, but she, um, she didn't do a
(35:58):
lot of things in high school andshe regretted it when we were
in college and I told myself mysenior year that I'm not missing
anything.
I was at senior sunrise, seniorsunset, prom, everything right.
I went to the homecoming game.
I didn't go to the homecomingbasketball game because I think
I was sick at that time, but Iwent to the homecoming game.
I didn't go to the homecomingbasketball game because I think
I was sick at that time, but Iwent to the homecoming football
game and like everything, so Iwrote Finding Home for the high
(36:19):
school seniors.
Speaker 1 (36:21):
Oh, wow, okay.
Well, that was nice, but it'sfor them.
Yeah, you see, when you get togo out and explore and then see
your work, it will trigger allthose thoughts.
You know, I really need to do alittle bit more.
And it gives you that pushagain, which is always nice.
So, yeah, definitely I can seewhy you're writing more and
(36:41):
everything Now with your books.
I guess you are they at Barnes,noble and Amazon.
Speaker 2 (36:49):
So Barnes Noble will not carry anything that's on
Amazon that's published onAmazon.
Barnes &bles will not carryanything that's on Amazon that's
published on Amazon.
Barnes and Nobles will notcarry it.
And I did get a.
I do have a meeting on 145,just so you know.
Yeah, and but I was actuallysurprised to find out because
and then, but I guess it makessense because she said that
(37:09):
there are competition and I waslike, okay, that makes a lot of
sense.
So, is something that Ipublished using IngramSparks, so
they said I could have a booksigning, but it would only be
for that book because I didn'tuse Amazon to publish it.
Speaker 1 (37:23):
I will tell you.
Well, I'm going to add all yourlinks for everybody to find and
everything, and I want to saythank you.
I didn't realize time wasflying so fast, but yeah,
definitely, well, definitely,I'll get everything.
Speaker 2 (37:42):
Wherever you guys can find podcasts, you'll be able
to find Keep Hope Alive podcast,and I want to say thank you for
coming on and I'm just soexcited that this one will just
come out like today.
It's like, hey, you don't haveto wait.
February 19th.
We recorded, and February 19th.
Speaker 1 (37:55):
It's out.
It's out today.
All right, guys, until nexttime, love and light.
Have a great week.
Bye.
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