February 21, 2025 • 44 mins
Imagine living your dream life by the beach, filled with peace and unexpected opportunities. Eileen Head joins us once again on Keep Hope Alive to share her captivating journey of manifesting a serene life in Mazatlan, Mexico. Through her story, we explore the art of dreaming big and the power of maintaining a positive mindset. Whether it's relocating, career changes, or nurturing relationships, Eileen’s experiences inspire us to let go of rigid timelines and embrace the transformative power of a quieter life.
Manifestation is more than just wishful thinking; it's about taking action. We dive into the synergy between putting out positive energy and making proactive choices that lead to personal growth and fulfillment. Through engaging conversations and personal anecdotes, we highlight the significance of setting intentions, recognizing opportunities, and overcoming victim mentality. As relationships thrive on communication and mutual appreciation, we reflect on how nurturing these elements is vital for personal and relational growth.
In our journey towards self-awareness and spiritual growth, we touch on the importance of healing past emotional baggage and using tools like the Enneagram for self-improvement. With insights on maintaining boundaries and recognizing red flags in relationships, Eileen and I share how to raise your vibration and overcome past traumas. This episode is a guide to manifesting your dreams, understanding life's lessons, and embracing the adventures that come your way. Join our community at Keep Hope Alive, and let's embark on this inspiring journey together.
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hello and welcome to Keep Hope Alive podcast.
Today I have the lovely EileenHead here with us.
This is a second time around.
I'm so happy to have you back.
Yay, number two.
So we are on season 21 of KeepHope Alive and we have made it
over that hurdle of 200 episodeswithin a year and a half.
(00:24):
I'm so excited and I'm soexcited to be talking to you
again and catching up and seeinghow you're doing.
So, just like before you knowwhat, maybe I should redirect
this question a little bit moreand just come at you with it,
because I asked you this before,and just come at you with it
(00:45):
because I asked you this before.
So, before we get started, whatis that thing we have to?
Speaker 2 (00:58):
sign when we go to an event, especially a wedding to
let people know we're here.
Speaker 1 (01:00):
I don't know what you mean.
Okay, so if we were at awedding ceremony visiting our
friends?
Speaker 2 (01:05):
Oh, a guest book.
Speaker 1 (01:06):
Yes, you see, the first time around I made it too
easy, but you know what?
The second time I'm going to bea little bit.
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(01:29):
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Speaker 2 (02:07):
What a cool concept, right it is.
I think that's brilliant, thatwould be, and it's a fun factor
too, right.
Speaker 1 (02:14):
I like it.
Yeah, you can use it foranything.
And I keep thinking, okay,what's the next event and that
is going to be like a milestoneevent, and that is going to be
like a milestone and I believe.
Well, it's no, it will probablybe me turning 50 will be first,
and then my son turning 16.
But and then I think mydaughter will be in two years,
(02:36):
25.
So there's different things,just you know, depending on what
it is and the event we're goingto put together.
But tell me, how have you been?
Speaker 2 (02:49):
It's been a good year , well as you can see in the
background, this is my fourthyear in Mazatlan, mexico, living
in a condo right above thebeach, and that's one of the
things that I manifested yearsago, so I'm pretty excited.
That's one of the things I do.
Teach is manifesting yourdreams to live your best life.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
Exactly, exactly, and you know doing that and
accomplishing it.
Oh my gosh, there's so much joyyou can see in everything I
mean yeah, eventually when Ibecome in my 60s I have that all
marked out I do want to get toa beach.
I want to be where it's a lotwarmer.
Speaker 2 (03:34):
Well, you know, this was on a vision board of mine
and it was something that youknow I put on there years in the
future.
It took a number of years tillI semi-retired I'm still
coaching for it to just sort offall into my lap.
So you need to keep your dreams, you need to keep focused on
them and keep working them andnot set a timeline.
(03:58):
You know, this showed up soquickly for me.
It started with a friend of a.
I was playing pickleball and myfriends were going to Phoenix
from Calgary and I thought, gee,I'd like to go somewhere warm
or have a vacation, but I'msingle and I don't have a lot of
money.
And a friend of a friend calledme up and said I have a condo
(04:19):
in Puerto Morales, mexico.
I'll rent it to you for $100Canadian per person per week for
two weeks.
Who's ever heard of such a thing?
Right Manifesting, and beforethat I had manifested my house.
I manifested many, many thingssince I've learned the
techniques.
And so then another friendinvited me here to Mazatlan and
(04:40):
I liked it here and I made itwork.
I figured out, you know, torent out my house so I could
make it financially doable forme.
You know, I want people to knowthat if you're staying in the,
is this all there is?
There really can be more.
It needs you to work a mindshift.
(05:02):
It needs you to start learningmanifesting techniques and to
take action on what it is you'reyearning for, whether that's a
deeper connection in arelationship, attracting a
partner, a better career, a move, a job whatever that is, it's
possible.
Speaker 1 (05:20):
Yeah, All the above at once for me.
Yes, yeah, and that's reallythat is so true because you know
(05:49):
I will say manifest.
I move out of state but to becloser to family, and I listed
all the pros and cons and I waslike there was like maybe two
cons but there was like 12 pros.
I was just like, okay, and Ithink a lot of help from making
this decision is I visit EastTexas and a little bit north,
and the quieter it was, the morepeace I found in joy, in myself
(06:13):
and I was like time doesn'tfeel as fast because when I come
back to the city you got A, B,C, D, E, F, G to do, go, go, go
go.
And I feel like it's being on afootball field and having to run
down the field with the balljust back and forth, and it's
something that I don't wanna dofor me.
With the rest of my life, Iwant it to be nice and calm and
(06:36):
settle, and even with a careerpath, I want to stay somewhere.
I don't wanna have the feelingthat it's going to be high
turnover.
So it's just those littlethings I need to manifest on the
career right now and definitelytake a look at where I'm headed
and what would be my goal, andit would be to get my own house.
Speaker 2 (06:59):
So yeah, you know I teach manifesting at a workshop
I did.
A gal wanted her own house andafter the workshop she found her
ideal house and closed it intwo weeks.
Another gal that I teach.
I teach manifestingfundamentals.
I've got a program going onright now and it's a four-week
(07:20):
program and I teach people howto manifest and I did this
program before one of the galsthe testimonials on my website
it's it's pretty, a pretty deepweb testimonial like she was
depressed, thinking even oftaking her own life, and started
to work the manifestingprinciples and she found her
(07:45):
ideal house.
She moved out of the city, shefound a really lovely man and
she started her business ofdoing her art and she said she
just started putting theprinciples of the mindset,
statements, the shifting of themindset, managing her thoughts
and working the dream.
It's possible, it's more thanpossible, it's probable if you
(08:09):
work the steps right.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
Okay, I'm still coming to your class.
I got to finish one of myclasses.
I decided to start teachingmyself all the new AI props you
know for business.
So when I go into a new job Ican say, yes, I had the
schooling in this and I know howeach program works and let's go
at it.
(08:31):
You know so, but definitely Iwant to learn from you.
I really do so while you'redoing your program.
Speaker 2 (08:40):
You can still start manifesting statements right and
you can still put it out therefor the ideal job.
You don't need to define thejob, you just need to.
I call upon the universe tobring me a career and a job that
I will love doing, that I willbe passionate about and that I
(09:02):
will earn a really great livingdoing what I love doing.
You know we can craft somestatements specifically for you.
Yeah, start doing it now.
You know, see yourself in thatlife of having the job, of
having the career.
You've already started it.
You've made a decision to move.
Yeah, you know that that took adecision and a choice and the
(09:27):
opportunity came to you.
It's seeing the opportunity andworking on it, taking the
opportunity and when you openyourself up to letting go of
outcome and attempting tocontrol everything, put out
there what you're yearning for.
Proclaim your dreams.
What would my life look like?
And look, I'm down here.
(09:49):
This is my fourth year.
Mazatlan, mexico, living rightover a beach.
Did I think years ago that waspossible?
Not even, but it was on myvision board.
So my unconscious heard it andit was brought to me.
Speaker 1 (10:05):
I see that's beautiful, I love that.
So, yeah, my conscious, before Itook this last job, I still
wanted to move out to Oklahoma,but I never talked about it with
my son and as I was working atthis job, my son started to be
like telling me if I go tocollege, I wanted to be in
(10:29):
Oklahoma.
And I was like okay.
And he's like I want to playfor OU.
And I was like okay.
So like every spring break,fall break, he is out with my
dad and their whole family andthey just adore my son and he
gets to try all these newexperiences and I think, bottom
line, that's what I've alwayswanted for him.
(10:51):
So let me take myself and himand our one dog now up to
Oklahoma and I want to give himthe best life, even though I'm
new grandma.
My daughter has made thedecision to move five hours away
from us, so it's just kind ofhard and I think it would be
(11:13):
best if she did visit.
She would come up to where wewere so a lot more people could
see her and the baby andeverything too.
Speaker 2 (11:21):
But you see what your son did.
He was manifesting I want toplay for Oklahoma.
You know he had his vision.
He's already got it planned.
He put it out there for that tocome about.
And look, his proclaiming.
That moved your thought processto where you now made the
(11:42):
choice to move.
Do you see how universal energyworks?
Yes, so many people stay stuckin.
Is this all there is?
And they stay in the victimperspective.
And energy is like a magnet.
What you think, what you feel,what you expect, is what you
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attract.
So if you believe this is allthere is.
This will be all there is Ifyou believe that there's
opportunities out there for you.
If you raise your vibrationallevel to do that, to attract it
to you, it comes to you.
It's a universal law.
(12:24):
The reason the secret did notwork is you know people made
these these.
You know these dreams of okay,I'm going to make a hundred
thousand dollars before the endof the year, not even having a
career where that was possible.
Now, you know, an opportunitymight have come to them.
But if there was malware in thebackground, if there was
(12:44):
disbelief that was actuallygoing to happen, they made the
statements and then they justsat back and waited for it to
happen.
That's not the way it happens.
You need to take action.
You need to work the dream, youneed to raise your vibration,
you need to let go of victimthinking and get rid of the
trauma and the crap from yourlife to raise yourself to
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gratitude, to joy, to happiness,to possibilities, to all sorts
of things.
And that's why my life isturned around.
You know people will say, oh,you're so lucky you lead such a
great life.
No, I was in a marriage for 35years, staying in the.
Is this all there is?
Should I stay or should I go Inthe fear, in the dysfunction
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between the two of us?
He was a great man.
He worked a lot, but we werenot emotionally connected and
that was so painful for me, tookme a long time, but when I
realized that I was living thelife of a victim, I started to
do self-development courses likeself-growth.
Taking the Enneagram personalitywas life-changing for me
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because it showed me all thegreat things about myself, the
foundation of my self-confidenceand the challenges that I had
with myself and with otherpeople and the obstacles and the
patterns that were sabotagingme.
So as I grew with that, Icreated a life that shifted.
We need to take action.
(14:17):
So many women come.
I see so many women, especially50 plus, who are low grade
depression.
Is this all there is, if myhusband will only do this and
they stay stuck and then when Icoach them and they shift and I
give them, you know scripting totalk to their partner and
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engage them and and appreciatethem, and I've seen
relationships absolutely turnaround, save marriages of 25
years that have broken up.
But it's all based on your owndecision to do your own
self-growth and to learn tomanifest and raise your
vibration.
Speaker 1 (14:59):
I agreed, agreed a hundred percent on that, and
that's wonderful that marriagesare being saved, because it is
about communication.
Don't shut down Even marriages,even dating again.
If you don't communicate witheach other like you did before
meeting each other, there is anissue and a problem.
(15:19):
So you can't walk into any newrelationship without that and
having that.
You know, it's just.
I always preach it is so, so,so important and I don't know
why so many people will justfail at that aspect and I kind
of like say is it the datingapps that are put out there?
(15:43):
The grass is greener on theother side.
Are they still looking for anew person to go on a date with?
Because that's what technologyhas offered to a lot of people?
Speaker 2 (15:55):
The dating apps are challenging for sure.
Here's what I've learned.
I coach singles as well, andit's really important not to
personalize Whatever happens.
That person is not ready foryou, that person does not see
you and value you.
So if they're not engaging withyou after a while next, like
(16:17):
there's look for the next personit's really important to manage
your own talk about vibrationalenergy.
Right, it's a vibe, it's, it'san attitude, it's a mood.
Even I could explain it thatway to um keep yourself upbeat,
to put yourself out there, toknow what it is you want.
I've learned so much about menum dating as well.
(16:39):
I I divorced in my mid-50s andwhat?
What I see is men are reallymore sensitive than we ever
imagined.
They're more unsure ofthemselves, insecure, and so a
lot of times it's not reallyabout us.
If we can let go of ourexpectations and let go of
(17:02):
outcome and just open our heartand get to know this person.
If it's one date, if it's morethan that, learn experience, go
on more dates, because everytime you go on a date, you learn
more about yourself in thosesituations and that's where you
can grow right.
Speaker 1 (17:22):
Yeah, yeah, that is definitely true.
I've learned a lot about me.
But it is so funny Some of thedates have.
I always go back to this one,because the way to get away from
me what he said, it was justdifferent.
He is like I've been thinkingabout it.
You're going to think I'm weird, but you remind me a lot of
(17:46):
Drew Barrymore and you even talklike her and I absolutely don't
like her.
Okay, let's manifest that one.
I was like I had to laugh atthat because I never heard such
thing and I don't think I looklike her or talk like her, but
she's a beautiful woman.
I have nothing against Drew,but obviously this guy did.
Speaker 2 (18:11):
Well, you know, when you learn the Enneagram
personalities, there's ninepersonalities and there's, you
know, there's the thinkers,there's the heart centered
people and there's theheart-centered people and
there's the instinct people.
And people who are unemotionalwill, you know, not be attracted
to an emotional person if theyhaven't opened up their own
(18:32):
emotions.
So him saying that to you, andI don't like her, he's a
shutdown gal, a guy for now, andthat's wonderful.
Thank you for letting me know.
We don't need to continue thisand I'm open to someone who
values what I have, knows thatI'm a warm-hearted person, that
I'm caring, that I'm loving,that I'm nurturing and that's
(18:55):
who I am.
So if that doesn't fit for you,thank you for telling me right
off the bat.
Yeah, perfect, you see how youcan release the energy of that
instead of beating yourself upwith, oh man, am I ever going to
find someone?
Or?
You know, I don't see why youdidn't fit with me.
It's not personal and you andwe do the same thing, right, if
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we haven't healed the baggagefrom our previous relationship.
You know, I had one guy said tome I'm tired of meeting women
who I'm supposed to fix everyrelationship with every man
they've had, including theirfather prior to this and I'm not
up for that challenge.
Yeah, I went.
(19:39):
That is a really good statement.
Like, ladies, do your ownhealing.
Like, be open to the next manand I see that so often with
women dating is boy, you bettertreat me right.
You better treat me like aqueen, you better, you better.
And are we really valuing himand treating him like a king?
(20:01):
Are we really appreciative ofthis man who is attempting to
connect with us?
Speaker 1 (20:10):
and I always say know yourself, love yourself, before
you go and give that to try todate again.
Um, because that's the lastthing is that you know, when I
go on my dates I kind of waitand see if they ask me version
going into the future.
(20:31):
I don't want to dwell on thepast, I want to look for what
could be good in my life in thefuture.
So that's how I kind of take itin my hands.
(20:53):
So if we can manifest that, youknow, if we're doing that work,
why would we bring up thenegatives Exactly?
Speaker 2 (21:04):
exactly.
That's a really good point.
You know, as we learn and growand release, we are different,
and that's a differentvibrational level.
Right, we are different goingforward, and that's we're
looking for compatibility.
That's what people don't alwaysunderstand.
They believe it's chemistry.
(21:24):
Chemistry is great, but evenchemistry will not be
sustainable if your life valuesand your lifestyle is not
compatible.
It's more of a struggle.
Could you make it work?
You probably could, with enougheffort from both of you, but
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you want someone who's going tofit in your life and with you.
Speaker 1 (21:50):
Exactly.
Yeah, I'm going to use me as atarget right now.
So for me, single mom, but myson is young and my daughter is
an adult, so she's on her own.
So when looking at it, it'slike I had to do my boundaries.
What am I looking for insomebody?
I want simple things.
(22:11):
Can the man throw a football,like you know?
Am I still going to play thedaddy version, the mom and dad
for my son?
You know the different things.
Will they have time to invest?
You know, and go to a game andbe supportive?
Will they be open-minded to newthings?
(22:33):
You know.
But, like I interviewedsomebody before, andreas, and it
was a couple days ago, and hehas a method, psychology or
something it's called psychology, but I like what he said
because it makes you see theother partners values and their
traits.
(22:54):
So when you ask this onequestion, I'm going to make
everybody watch it now.
It opens that door to know whatthey're like and in today's
world they talk about, like thequestions that are asked.
And my daughter threw me off.
She's like, before I went onthis date, what's his sign, mom?
And then he was like Scorpioand my daughter was just like
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you're an Aquarius.
No, no, it's not going to work.
Don't even try.
And I never understood it.
I was like, well, he's a person.
Of course I'm going to try.
You know, I don't know if Ifully believe in all that.
So you know, we had greatconversations on the phone.
I'm just not going to turn itover and say, hey, you're a
Scorpio.
And my daughter said, no, yeah,that's not going to pan out.
Speaker 2 (23:43):
Well, I don't know.
I believe that you can make anyrelationship work, no matter
what your astrology sign.
Yeah, what I know with theEnneagram the Enneagram
personality is a very advancedmodel over the other personality
ones.
It has a path of development tobecome your very best self.
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It has a spiritual side and itreally shows you how your
personality was formed as achild to get your needs met.
That's a survival technique andthen we form these patterns.
So for me, being a two supporterhelper, you know I was helping,
helping, helping and had theneed to be let me help and be an
(24:25):
intrusive helper and I didn'trealize why some people went
yeah, I don't need your help.
Like, why wouldn't you wanthelp, right?
So when I learned thosepatterns were sabotaging me and
I learned to grow beyond themand understand what that need
was and to fill that need inmyself.
That's why I love the ninepersonalities.
They're freakishly accurate andthey give us all this
information so we can andunderstand what that need was
and to fill that need in myself.
That's why I love the ninepersonalities.
They're freakishly accurate andthey give us all this
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information so we can work on it.
Oh, I just got triggered intothe theme of my personality
again.
Or I understand that I could betoo touchy, feely, or before I
was, I was more emotional than Iam now.
Not that I'm not emotional,more emotional than I am now,
not that I'm not emotional, butI manage my emotions more
effectively.
I'm emotional when I want to,but I don't put my emotions on
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other people.
And so when you learn to manageyourself, there's a real
powerfulness in that to knowyourself well, to know when
you're triggered and what'striggered you and how to get out
of you.
So there's definite patternsfor your personality to do that
and I'm really passionate aboutit.
It's the basis of my coaching.
Speaker 1 (25:29):
Yeah, and it makes me appreciate when somebody like
if you go on a date, they'reaware of themselves too and what
their triggers are.
But if they can share it, likeyou know, sometimes if you're on
a date and you hear right away,I don't think it's going to
work out between us.
Usually it's the conclusion oftwo people not talking to each
(25:51):
other again.
But why does it have to be that, if you were talking as friends
in the beginning?
So, for example, even thoughthat happened, I got to hear his
reasoning and he's like I lovethe communication between us as
friends and I stayed friends.
I didn't run at all and youknow I can sit there.
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Well, there's two fronts.
I have an ex.
I said why didn't it workbetween us?
And I got the real answer butit was a learning lesson for
both of us.
And then, with my friend, hewill sit there and say this are
the things why I think myrelationships are not working
out, and from there I'm helpinghim, he's helping me.
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So it's just kind of like thisgreat friendship that we have
that we can both learn from.
So it's funny when he's likewell, you're all over the place
and you change subjects like asquirrel.
And I go, you're calling me asquirrel?
I was like, but it's funny,because even though we're
friends, if we hang out, ifwe're going shopping or
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something, we'll see a littlestatue of a squirrel and I'm
like, hey, that's me, that's areminder you need to go buy that
.
But talking those things out, Ihear his side, he hears mine.
We try to put together whatwould be the best fit and how to
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go about meeting somebody new,knowing this about us, you know.
So, to sum it up, I will alwaysbe there to support him and the
decisions he makes, and I knowhe would do the same for me.
But that's what friendship is,and if a relationship doesn't
work, that's fine too.
Speaker 2 (27:44):
We can do statements like well, tell me more about
that.
I'm interested in understandingyour perspective of why you
think this won't work and yeahisn't that interesting.
Oh, that's, that's goodfeedback, or I never thought of
that, or um, do you think it'spossible, like when we have
these statements, it opens upconversations, right, it opens
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up dialogue, and then that'sconnection right.
Then you start to connect andcommunicate.
You know, if we start off withwell, this just is never going
to work, then it's not going to.
Sorry, I've got an alarm.
My mute didn't work on that,but you know it's every.
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And even though that happened,wasn't there a juiciness to the
conversation you had, to thelearning?
And that's why, when you meeteach person, learn as much as
you can about yourself and aboutother people's perspective and
thinking.
Speaker 1 (28:50):
Because those are really important things, you
know, especially when you'remeeting somebody new, don't rush
it to go.
Oh, it's going to be so niceand romantic and I can see
myself as a girlfriend, but notknow anything about that person.
Speaker 2 (29:08):
Exactly Good point.
Yes.
You know, yeah, we're lookingfor the forever in the first
five minutes, right yeah?
Speaker 1 (29:17):
That's where a lot of people go wrong and we lose it
from there.
Speaker 2 (29:21):
Yeah, and we might.
Yeah, we might put too muchpressure on our expectations, or
or whatever.
Speaker 1 (29:28):
Yeah.
So you know, the one thing Itold myself after this last
dating was like you're going togo and you're going to meet
somebody, but hold your breathbecause you want to see if they
will continue to have thesegreat conversations with you or
let them tell you what theythought.
Don't be the person who says,well, what do you think I need
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to know right now, is thissomething you want to move
forward?
Says, well, what you think Ineed to know right now, is this
something you want to moveforward?
I am just not ever going tolike ask those questions again
and just build a formation offriendship first and see where
it leads, because that's reallythe best way, I think in my
curiosity I'm actually going towrite that down for my singles
(30:16):
dating or coaching pages is, youknow, be curious.
Speaker 2 (30:21):
be curious about the life this person has had and why
they're reacting the way theyare and the connection you might
have, where the conversationmight go, what you might learn
you might have, where theconversation might go, what you
might learn.
Speaker 1 (30:39):
Yeah, and I'll be very honest and I can't believe
I'm not using names here, butlistening to the last date, he
mentioned some friends' namesand you know I am a good
listener, I was just taking itin.
But when things didn't work out, it's just kind of like, well,
you know what is going on withthis person.
He was just joking around aboutanother person too, and then
(31:02):
when I Googled it, it came upwith a full report Report, let's
just say report and I had thenames in it and I'm like, oh, my
goodness, are you kidding me?
So it opened my eyes.
We got to be so careful intoday's world and if somebody is
, you know I'm going to startlooking at it and out who I'm
(31:23):
going on a date with, honestly.
But if they're going to bejoking around, they think it's
funny and stuff.
Sometimes they're hiding stufffrom you.
So you know, go with your gutis what I'm learning.
The eyes open and listen.
Listen to what they're saying,because they may have a lot of
(31:44):
insecurities and we're justtaking it as a playful gesture
of maybe they're nervous, butthey're actually telling their
story to you and it's justgetting overbred because you
like this person or you know, oh, they're funny and it's, you
know.
But there's something deeperbehind it.
Speaker 2 (32:03):
Yeah, yeah, there often is when someone uses humor
, there generally is nervousnessor insecurity.
It's a learned behavior, right?
Speaker 1 (32:15):
Yeah, it really is Be compassionate.
Speaker 2 (32:19):
You know, you can say , oh, I think this person might
be nervous and that's whythey're using great humor like
this.
Speaker 1 (32:26):
Yeah, exactly, exactly.
The other thing is I understandsmoking.
Okay, people smoke, I get that.
But it doesn't take 30 minutesto smoke a cigarette and walk
away from somebody you're dating.
You know it's just payattention to that too, because
(32:47):
that becomes hurtful to somebodytoo.
Well, you know, I could havedone this in 30 minutes.
You know, maybe I'm better offjust leaving this date, so I
have my time back.
You know, you don't know whatthey're doing with their 30
minutes, but I can.
You know, just, I'm never goingto say I'm not going to.
(33:20):
You know, I'm not going to stoplooking for the right one, I'm
just going to be more cautiouslooking for the right one.
Speaker 2 (33:28):
So Well, I would really encourage you to watch
the fear, the lack of trust, um,because that's what you'll
bring to you.
You'll bring more of that soyou can learn the life lesson to
heal those things right yeah so.
So if you, you know, if you putout there that you know you're
looking for a partner, who'swho's looking for the same thing
(33:49):
you are, who's who's uh, reallyserious about dating, dating
and is looking for a partner andis open to you, start putting
the intentions out there whatyou're looking for in a partner.
Yeah, definitely, definitely,you know, if someone went out
for a smoke with me for 30minutes.
After about five minutes Iwould hey there, buddy, are you
(34:13):
coming back in or should we?
You know?
Should we, buddy, are youcoming back in or should we, you
know?
Should we call or should we saynice meeting you To let them
know that's not okay, like I'mnot going to sit there for 30
minutes and wait while you goout and have a smoke.
That's disrespectful.
Speaker 1 (34:30):
It's very disrespectful.
So, yeah, it really is.
But just knowing what I did gothrough, I was just like nope.
I already was feeling this isnot going to work and sometimes
we'll hear what we want to hear.
Oh, I really like you.
I do want to see you again, andyou hold on to that.
(34:53):
I call it like the fishingeffect.
I'm going to throw it out,you're going to bite my bait and
I'm going to see you again.
And you hold on to that.
I call it like the fishingeffect.
I'm going to throw it out.
You're going to bite my baitand I'm going to wheel you back
in for when it's convenient forme to see you, and that's
something.
No, I am cut in the line.
There is no coming back whenyou want to.
So you know you're either in itor you're out, and a lot of
(35:17):
people don't notice that.
You know you're either in it oryou're out, and a lot of people
don't notice that.
You know I'm one of thosepeople.
If you do like talking to me,check in on me Morning, late
afternoon.
You know how did work go.
That's it.
You know I don't need everyhour or anything like that.
If you're driving somewhere andit's bad weather, just send me
a text, let me know you got home, okay.
(35:38):
But if you don't hear fromanything from that, it's just
like it sets your mind wanderingand you never, never say what
did I do wrong?
Because that's a common thingthat we do.
We already see all the redflags, but we always question
what did I do to cause this?
Speaker 2 (35:57):
And that's what I said Don't personalize.
Keep on track, manifest yourdreams.
If you're saying, is this allthere is, well, what else could
there be?
And then start doing the workyou know, learn your Enneagram,
learn the manifesting principles.
If you go to my website,eileenheadcom, I offer a free
session.
(36:17):
I offer a free Enneagram test.
I have lots of tools to assistyou If you're willing to invest
your time and invest some ofyour resources to a better life.
I spent thousands of dollars onmy self-growth and it was worth
every penny to me.
(36:38):
I'm now living the life of mydreams and so you know, hop on a
, call a session and let me seeif I can give you some insights.
Sometimes it's just wordingthat you can use to re-engage
your partner or whatever it is.
Check out.
I've got lots of resources onmy website, myleneheadcom, and
(36:59):
I'd love to hear from you.
Speaker 1 (37:01):
Yay, and I suggest you a hundred percent.
You're always out there andyou're always active with your
company and you know, from thelast time we talked, just seeing
that progress, I was like wow,she's a force to be reckoned
with and she's really good atwhat she does.
So, yeah, definitely.
(37:22):
So I mean really quick, youknow, just talking about is
there any new future goals?
As we're coming into 25, goinginto 26 later on, have you set
new goals?
Speaker 2 (37:38):
Definitely I've set new goals.
You know I absolutely lovecoaching people.
If you read the testimonials onmy website, I can turn
situations around very quickly,and so my goals is to reach more
people, connect with morepeople and to take them out of
that.
Is this all there is to?
Wow?
(37:58):
I didn't realize there was somuch more out for me.
And the only shift is yourself.
When you shift that in yourself, that's where everything else
around you shifts, and for me,I'm I will continue wintering on
a beach.
Shifts, and for me, I willcontinue wintering on a beach.
(38:19):
This was my fourth year ofmanifesting this, and who knows
where this rest of this year isgoing to take me.
On my vision board and mymanifesting statement is more
travel, more excitement, morefun, more adventure, and that's
what I teach my clients to doMore fun, more adventure, more
lightness, more joy.
Speaker 1 (38:38):
That's wonderful, I'm glad to hear that.
And just really quick, so ourlisteners know.
Do you offer Zoom meetings forpeople?
Yes, of course.
Speaker 2 (38:49):
Well, I'm on a beach right now.
You know my condo is rightbeneath.
Speaker 1 (38:52):
It's not like you're going to fly out here to Texas.
Speaker 2 (39:02):
Well, no, I do coaching, um, and very
effectively.
I also do healing.
You know I'm a reiki master,I'm a hypnotherapist, so, um, I
do, um, healing the traumas andthe wounds that you have to help
you raise your vibration andmanifest see that's always's
always good and a lot of peoplecan take away from that.
Speaker 1 (39:19):
So I know I have friends that have asked for that
.
You know to move forward andmanifest and you know I am going
to be definitely sharing thispodcast and sending them your
way and everything.
Yeah, definitely.
I think we covered everything,didn't we?
We?
Speaker 2 (39:39):
did we manifest?
Live your best life?
Is this all there is yourEnneagram, personality, vision,
your dreams.
We got it, With singles married.
Speaker 1 (39:50):
I know I want to ask you one of the words
spirituality, and you know howabout that?
Has anybody really come andasked you about their
spirituality and how to manifestthat?
Speaker 2 (40:05):
Yeah, so spirituality I coach from teaching people
their life lessons.
If you are having a bigchallenge right now, a lot of us
want to resist the challenge,we want to push it away.
We want to.
I don't want to beuncomfortable, I don't want to
be here when we engage with it.
What is my life lesson?
What is it I'm resisting?
(40:25):
What can I learn from thissituation right now?
Because if we don't payattention to that, it comes
gently and each time it comes itgets stronger and harder.
These life lessons until wework our way through them.
What's the trigger from ourpast?
And so I help people healthrough that and give them a
(40:47):
spiritual concept.
Everything's in perfect timing,everything happens for a reason
.
What's the life life lessonthis is the basis of my coaching
as well is to teach people.
You know that we can engagewith whatever we believe in,
whether that's God, angels,guides, whatever that is.
(41:08):
So that's awesome.
Thank you for asking that.
That is the basis of my yeah, Iwanted to.
Speaker 1 (41:14):
I mean, it's so funny because I'm focused on that
part this year.
So I wanted to hear yourknowledge and get that strength
to help me as I go through myjourney of writing the book.
Speaker 2 (41:26):
So yeah, Yay.
Well, your book's going to comeout soon.
Well done.
Speaker 1 (41:32):
I have to say hopefully, but you know I really
, you know it's become easy andI think from last year, talking
to so many authors, it's likewell, you don't need to worry
about it because you're sendingit for somebody else to look
over it and they'll make whatcorrections.
So I feel like it's just my jobto get the words out on paper.
Speaker 2 (41:56):
And then I'm going to do it that way.
What's the?
Speaker 1 (41:57):
title of your book?
I don't know.
I have an idea.
It's written down.
Speaker 2 (42:02):
I don't know if it's available so then, just sit with
the energy of it and askwhatever you believe in whether
it's your spirits or guides orangels or God to to give you a
sign of what is the best titlefor you.
Speaker 1 (42:17):
Actually, God did give me the sign, because I'm in
worship choir and I sang thelyric and I go.
That's it.
That needs to be the title ofmy book.
Speaker 2 (42:29):
And there's a charge on it.
Speaker 1 (42:31):
Yeah yeah, there is a big, huge charge on it.
Yeah, yeah, there is a big,huge charge on it, and I was
just like okay, so I just needto find out where I can go and
find and make sure it'savailable to use.
So that's the only you know, Ineed, I need a little guidance.
Speaker 2 (42:48):
I've never so remember, remember.
You wrote, you feel you wrotethe book for you, but you also
wrote the book for other peoplewho are experiencing and have
experienced what you have.
So I'm going to ask you to letgo of expectation You've written
the book, this is part of yourhealing and release it with the
best intention that this isthere for anyone else who needs
(43:11):
to hear this message.
They'll find my book.
Speaker 1 (43:16):
Yeah, definitely, definitely, and I'm going to
just sneak peek.
It's about learning who you areas a person, and sometimes
outside influence can't help youwith the power within to fight
any negativity and how to bringlight into your life and be
(43:39):
stronger and hold on to that.
Speaker 2 (43:41):
So yeah, Well, thank you so much for having me on
again.
Speaker 1 (43:45):
Yes, I'm so happy to have you now.
Remember, guys, wherever youfind your podcast, you'll be
able to find Keep Hope Alive.
You can visit us atwwwkeephopelivepodcastcom.
To the right, we have a newfeature to leave a message.
So if you have any questionsfor us, leave us a question.
We'll be happy to answer itback.
But until next time, love andlight.
(44:07):
You guys have a great week andthank you so much for coming on
again.
Speaker 2 (44:12):
Thank you for having me.
Speaker 1 (44:14):
You're welcome.
Bye-bye.
Hello and welcome to Keep Hope Alive podcast.
Today I have the lovely EileenHead here with us.
This is a second time around.
I'm so happy to have you back.
Yay, number two.
So we are on season 21 of KeepHope Alive and we have made it
over that hurdle of 200 episodeswithin a year and a half.
(00:24):
I'm so excited and I'm soexcited to be talking to you
again and catching up and seeinghow you're doing.
So, just like before you knowwhat, maybe I should redirect
this question a little bit moreand just come at you with it,
because I asked you this before,and just come at you with it
(00:45):
because I asked you this before.
So, before we get started, whatis that thing we have to?
Speaker 2 (00:58):
sign when we go to an event, especially a wedding to
let people know we're here.
Speaker 1 (01:00):
I don't know what you mean.
Okay, so if we were at awedding ceremony visiting our
friends?
Speaker 2 (01:05):
Oh, a guest book.
Speaker 1 (01:06):
Yes, you see, the first time around I made it too
easy, but you know what?
The second time I'm going to bea little bit.
Let's kind of get the trickingin there.
So one of our sponsors here isLife on Record, and what they do
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(01:52):
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All right, that's really cool.
Speaker 2 (02:07):
What a cool concept, right it is.
I think that's brilliant, thatwould be, and it's a fun factor
too, right.
Speaker 1 (02:14):
I like it.
Yeah, you can use it foranything.
And I keep thinking, okay,what's the next event and that
is going to be like a milestoneevent, and that is going to be
like a milestone and I believe.
Well, it's no, it will probablybe me turning 50 will be first,
and then my son turning 16.
But and then I think mydaughter will be in two years,
(02:36):
25.
So there's different things,just you know, depending on what
it is and the event we're goingto put together.
But tell me, how have you been?
Speaker 2 (02:49):
It's been a good year , well as you can see in the
background, this is my fourthyear in Mazatlan, mexico, living
in a condo right above thebeach, and that's one of the
things that I manifested yearsago, so I'm pretty excited.
That's one of the things I do.
Teach is manifesting yourdreams to live your best life.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
Exactly, exactly, and you know doing that and
accomplishing it.
Oh my gosh, there's so much joyyou can see in everything I
mean yeah, eventually when Ibecome in my 60s I have that all
marked out I do want to get toa beach.
I want to be where it's a lotwarmer.
Speaker 2 (03:34):
Well, you know, this was on a vision board of mine
and it was something that youknow I put on there years in the
future.
It took a number of years tillI semi-retired I'm still
coaching for it to just sort offall into my lap.
So you need to keep your dreams, you need to keep focused on
them and keep working them andnot set a timeline.
(03:58):
You know, this showed up soquickly for me.
It started with a friend of a.
I was playing pickleball and myfriends were going to Phoenix
from Calgary and I thought, gee,I'd like to go somewhere warm
or have a vacation, but I'msingle and I don't have a lot of
money.
And a friend of a friend calledme up and said I have a condo
(04:19):
in Puerto Morales, mexico.
I'll rent it to you for $100Canadian per person per week for
two weeks.
Who's ever heard of such a thing?
Right Manifesting, and beforethat I had manifested my house.
I manifested many, many thingssince I've learned the
techniques.
And so then another friendinvited me here to Mazatlan and
(04:40):
I liked it here and I made itwork.
I figured out, you know, torent out my house so I could
make it financially doable forme.
You know, I want people to knowthat if you're staying in the,
is this all there is?
There really can be more.
It needs you to work a mindshift.
(05:02):
It needs you to start learningmanifesting techniques and to
take action on what it is you'reyearning for, whether that's a
deeper connection in arelationship, attracting a
partner, a better career, a move, a job whatever that is, it's
possible.
Speaker 1 (05:20):
Yeah, All the above at once for me.
Yes, yeah, and that's reallythat is so true because you know
(05:49):
I will say manifest.
I move out of state but to becloser to family, and I listed
all the pros and cons and I waslike there was like maybe two
cons but there was like 12 pros.
I was just like, okay, and Ithink a lot of help from making
this decision is I visit EastTexas and a little bit north,
and the quieter it was, the morepeace I found in joy, in myself
(06:13):
and I was like time doesn'tfeel as fast because when I come
back to the city you got A, B,C, D, E, F, G to do, go, go, go
go.
And I feel like it's being on afootball field and having to run
down the field with the balljust back and forth, and it's
something that I don't wanna dofor me.
With the rest of my life, Iwant it to be nice and calm and
(06:36):
settle, and even with a careerpath, I want to stay somewhere.
I don't wanna have the feelingthat it's going to be high
turnover.
So it's just those littlethings I need to manifest on the
career right now and definitelytake a look at where I'm headed
and what would be my goal, andit would be to get my own house.
Speaker 2 (06:59):
So yeah, you know I teach manifesting at a workshop
I did.
A gal wanted her own house andafter the workshop she found her
ideal house and closed it intwo weeks.
Another gal that I teach.
I teach manifestingfundamentals.
I've got a program going onright now and it's a four-week
(07:20):
program and I teach people howto manifest and I did this
program before one of the galsthe testimonials on my website
it's it's pretty, a pretty deepweb testimonial like she was
depressed, thinking even oftaking her own life, and started
to work the manifestingprinciples and she found her
(07:45):
ideal house.
She moved out of the city, shefound a really lovely man and
she started her business ofdoing her art and she said she
just started putting theprinciples of the mindset,
statements, the shifting of themindset, managing her thoughts
and working the dream.
It's possible, it's more thanpossible, it's probable if you
(08:09):
work the steps right.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
Okay, I'm still coming to your class.
I got to finish one of myclasses.
I decided to start teachingmyself all the new AI props you
know for business.
So when I go into a new job Ican say, yes, I had the
schooling in this and I know howeach program works and let's go
at it.
(08:31):
You know so, but definitely Iwant to learn from you.
I really do so while you'redoing your program.
Speaker 2 (08:40):
You can still start manifesting statements right and
you can still put it out therefor the ideal job.
You don't need to define thejob, you just need to.
I call upon the universe tobring me a career and a job that
I will love doing, that I willbe passionate about and that I
(09:02):
will earn a really great livingdoing what I love doing.
You know we can craft somestatements specifically for you.
Yeah, start doing it now.
You know, see yourself in thatlife of having the job, of
having the career.
You've already started it.
You've made a decision to move.
Yeah, you know that that took adecision and a choice and the
(09:27):
opportunity came to you.
It's seeing the opportunity andworking on it, taking the
opportunity and when you openyourself up to letting go of
outcome and attempting tocontrol everything, put out
there what you're yearning for.
Proclaim your dreams.
What would my life look like?
And look, I'm down here.
(09:49):
This is my fourth year.
Mazatlan, mexico, living rightover a beach.
Did I think years ago that waspossible?
Not even, but it was on myvision board.
So my unconscious heard it andit was brought to me.
Speaker 1 (10:05):
I see that's beautiful, I love that.
So, yeah, my conscious, before Itook this last job, I still
wanted to move out to Oklahoma,but I never talked about it with
my son and as I was working atthis job, my son started to be
like telling me if I go tocollege, I wanted to be in
(10:29):
Oklahoma.
And I was like okay.
And he's like I want to playfor OU.
And I was like okay.
So like every spring break,fall break, he is out with my
dad and their whole family andthey just adore my son and he
gets to try all these newexperiences and I think, bottom
line, that's what I've alwayswanted for him.
(10:51):
So let me take myself and himand our one dog now up to
Oklahoma and I want to give himthe best life, even though I'm
new grandma.
My daughter has made thedecision to move five hours away
from us, so it's just kind ofhard and I think it would be
(11:13):
best if she did visit.
She would come up to where wewere so a lot more people could
see her and the baby andeverything too.
Speaker 2 (11:21):
But you see what your son did.
He was manifesting I want toplay for Oklahoma.
You know he had his vision.
He's already got it planned.
He put it out there for that tocome about.
And look, his proclaiming.
That moved your thought processto where you now made the
(11:42):
choice to move.
Do you see how universal energyworks?
Yes, so many people stay stuckin.
Is this all there is?
And they stay in the victimperspective.
And energy is like a magnet.
What you think, what you feel,what you expect, is what you
(12:03):
attract.
So if you believe this is allthere is.
This will be all there is Ifyou believe that there's
opportunities out there for you.
If you raise your vibrationallevel to do that, to attract it
to you, it comes to you.
It's a universal law.
(12:24):
The reason the secret did notwork is you know people made
these these.
You know these dreams of okay,I'm going to make a hundred
thousand dollars before the endof the year, not even having a
career where that was possible.
Now, you know, an opportunitymight have come to them.
But if there was malware in thebackground, if there was
(12:44):
disbelief that was actuallygoing to happen, they made the
statements and then they justsat back and waited for it to
happen.
That's not the way it happens.
You need to take action.
You need to work the dream, youneed to raise your vibration,
you need to let go of victimthinking and get rid of the
trauma and the crap from yourlife to raise yourself to
(13:09):
gratitude, to joy, to happiness,to possibilities, to all sorts
of things.
And that's why my life isturned around.
You know people will say, oh,you're so lucky you lead such a
great life.
No, I was in a marriage for 35years, staying in the.
Is this all there is?
Should I stay or should I go Inthe fear, in the dysfunction
(13:32):
between the two of us?
He was a great man.
He worked a lot, but we werenot emotionally connected and
that was so painful for me, tookme a long time, but when I
realized that I was living thelife of a victim, I started to
do self-development courses likeself-growth.
Taking the Enneagram personalitywas life-changing for me
(13:55):
because it showed me all thegreat things about myself, the
foundation of my self-confidenceand the challenges that I had
with myself and with otherpeople and the obstacles and the
patterns that were sabotagingme.
So as I grew with that, Icreated a life that shifted.
We need to take action.
(14:17):
So many women come.
I see so many women, especially50 plus, who are low grade
depression.
Is this all there is, if myhusband will only do this and
they stay stuck and then when Icoach them and they shift and I
give them, you know scripting totalk to their partner and
(14:39):
engage them and and appreciatethem, and I've seen
relationships absolutely turnaround, save marriages of 25
years that have broken up.
But it's all based on your owndecision to do your own
self-growth and to learn tomanifest and raise your
vibration.
Speaker 1 (14:59):
I agreed, agreed a hundred percent on that, and
that's wonderful that marriagesare being saved, because it is
about communication.
Don't shut down Even marriages,even dating again.
If you don't communicate witheach other like you did before
meeting each other, there is anissue and a problem.
(15:19):
So you can't walk into any newrelationship without that and
having that.
You know, it's just.
I always preach it is so, so,so important and I don't know
why so many people will justfail at that aspect and I kind
of like say is it the datingapps that are put out there?
(15:43):
The grass is greener on theother side.
Are they still looking for anew person to go on a date with?
Because that's what technologyhas offered to a lot of people?
Speaker 2 (15:55):
The dating apps are challenging for sure.
Here's what I've learned.
I coach singles as well, andit's really important not to
personalize Whatever happens.
That person is not ready foryou, that person does not see
you and value you.
So if they're not engaging withyou after a while next, like
(16:17):
there's look for the next personit's really important to manage
your own talk about vibrationalenergy.
Right, it's a vibe, it's, it'san attitude, it's a mood.
Even I could explain it thatway to um keep yourself upbeat,
to put yourself out there, toknow what it is you want.
I've learned so much about menum dating as well.
(16:39):
I I divorced in my mid-50s andwhat?
What I see is men are reallymore sensitive than we ever
imagined.
They're more unsure ofthemselves, insecure, and so a
lot of times it's not reallyabout us.
If we can let go of ourexpectations and let go of
(17:02):
outcome and just open our heartand get to know this person.
If it's one date, if it's morethan that, learn experience, go
on more dates, because everytime you go on a date, you learn
more about yourself in thosesituations and that's where you
can grow right.
Speaker 1 (17:22):
Yeah, yeah, that is definitely true.
I've learned a lot about me.
But it is so funny Some of thedates have.
I always go back to this one,because the way to get away from
me what he said, it was justdifferent.
He is like I've been thinkingabout it.
You're going to think I'm weird, but you remind me a lot of
(17:46):
Drew Barrymore and you even talklike her and I absolutely don't
like her.
Okay, let's manifest that one.
I was like I had to laugh atthat because I never heard such
thing and I don't think I looklike her or talk like her, but
she's a beautiful woman.
I have nothing against Drew,but obviously this guy did.
Speaker 2 (18:11):
Well, you know, when you learn the Enneagram
personalities, there's ninepersonalities and there's, you
know, there's the thinkers,there's the heart centered
people and there's theheart-centered people and
there's the instinct people.
And people who are unemotionalwill, you know, not be attracted
to an emotional person if theyhaven't opened up their own
(18:32):
emotions.
So him saying that to you, andI don't like her, he's a
shutdown gal, a guy for now, andthat's wonderful.
Thank you for letting me know.
We don't need to continue thisand I'm open to someone who
values what I have, knows thatI'm a warm-hearted person, that
I'm caring, that I'm loving,that I'm nurturing and that's
(18:55):
who I am.
So if that doesn't fit for you,thank you for telling me right
off the bat.
Yeah, perfect, you see how youcan release the energy of that
instead of beating yourself upwith, oh man, am I ever going to
find someone?
Or?
You know, I don't see why youdidn't fit with me.
It's not personal and you andwe do the same thing, right, if
(19:19):
we haven't healed the baggagefrom our previous relationship.
You know, I had one guy said tome I'm tired of meeting women
who I'm supposed to fix everyrelationship with every man
they've had, including theirfather prior to this and I'm not
up for that challenge.
Yeah, I went.
(19:39):
That is a really good statement.
Like, ladies, do your ownhealing.
Like, be open to the next manand I see that so often with
women dating is boy, you bettertreat me right.
You better treat me like aqueen, you better, you better.
And are we really valuing himand treating him like a king?
(20:01):
Are we really appreciative ofthis man who is attempting to
connect with us?
Speaker 1 (20:10):
and I always say know yourself, love yourself, before
you go and give that to try todate again.
Um, because that's the lastthing is that you know, when I
go on my dates I kind of waitand see if they ask me version
going into the future.
(20:31):
I don't want to dwell on thepast, I want to look for what
could be good in my life in thefuture.
So that's how I kind of take itin my hands.
(20:53):
So if we can manifest that, youknow, if we're doing that work,
why would we bring up thenegatives Exactly?
Speaker 2 (21:04):
exactly.
That's a really good point.
You know, as we learn and growand release, we are different,
and that's a differentvibrational level.
Right, we are different goingforward, and that's we're
looking for compatibility.
That's what people don't alwaysunderstand.
They believe it's chemistry.
(21:24):
Chemistry is great, but evenchemistry will not be
sustainable if your life valuesand your lifestyle is not
compatible.
It's more of a struggle.
Could you make it work?
You probably could, with enougheffort from both of you, but
(21:45):
you want someone who's going tofit in your life and with you.
Speaker 1 (21:50):
Exactly.
Yeah, I'm going to use me as atarget right now.
So for me, single mom, but myson is young and my daughter is
an adult, so she's on her own.
So when looking at it, it'slike I had to do my boundaries.
What am I looking for insomebody?
I want simple things.
(22:11):
Can the man throw a football,like you know?
Am I still going to play thedaddy version, the mom and dad
for my son?
You know the different things.
Will they have time to invest?
You know, and go to a game andbe supportive?
Will they be open-minded to newthings?
(22:33):
You know.
But, like I interviewedsomebody before, andreas, and it
was a couple days ago, and hehas a method, psychology or
something it's called psychology, but I like what he said
because it makes you see theother partners values and their
traits.
(22:54):
So when you ask this onequestion, I'm going to make
everybody watch it now.
It opens that door to know whatthey're like and in today's
world they talk about, like thequestions that are asked.
And my daughter threw me off.
She's like, before I went onthis date, what's his sign, mom?
And then he was like Scorpioand my daughter was just like
(23:18):
you're an Aquarius.
No, no, it's not going to work.
Don't even try.
And I never understood it.
I was like, well, he's a person.
Of course I'm going to try.
You know, I don't know if Ifully believe in all that.
So you know, we had greatconversations on the phone.
I'm just not going to turn itover and say, hey, you're a
Scorpio.
And my daughter said, no, yeah,that's not going to pan out.
Speaker 2 (23:43):
Well, I don't know.
I believe that you can make anyrelationship work, no matter
what your astrology sign.
Yeah, what I know with theEnneagram the Enneagram
personality is a very advancedmodel over the other personality
ones.
It has a path of development tobecome your very best self.
(24:04):
It has a spiritual side and itreally shows you how your
personality was formed as achild to get your needs met.
That's a survival technique andthen we form these patterns.
So for me, being a two supporterhelper, you know I was helping,
helping, helping and had theneed to be let me help and be an
(24:25):
intrusive helper and I didn'trealize why some people went
yeah, I don't need your help.
Like, why wouldn't you wanthelp, right?
So when I learned thosepatterns were sabotaging me and
I learned to grow beyond themand understand what that need
was and to fill that need inmyself.
That's why I love the ninepersonalities.
They're freakishly accurate andthey give us all this
information so we can andunderstand what that need was
and to fill that need in myself.
That's why I love the ninepersonalities.
They're freakishly accurate andthey give us all this
(24:47):
information so we can work on it.
Oh, I just got triggered intothe theme of my personality
again.
Or I understand that I could betoo touchy, feely, or before I
was, I was more emotional than Iam now.
Not that I'm not emotional,more emotional than I am now,
not that I'm not emotional, butI manage my emotions more
effectively.
I'm emotional when I want to,but I don't put my emotions on
(25:09):
other people.
And so when you learn to manageyourself, there's a real
powerfulness in that to knowyourself well, to know when
you're triggered and what'striggered you and how to get out
of you.
So there's definite patternsfor your personality to do that
and I'm really passionate aboutit.
It's the basis of my coaching.
Speaker 1 (25:29):
Yeah, and it makes me appreciate when somebody like
if you go on a date, they'reaware of themselves too and what
their triggers are.
But if they can share it, likeyou know, sometimes if you're on
a date and you hear right away,I don't think it's going to
work out between us.
Usually it's the conclusion oftwo people not talking to each
(25:51):
other again.
But why does it have to be that, if you were talking as friends
in the beginning?
So, for example, even thoughthat happened, I got to hear his
reasoning and he's like I lovethe communication between us as
friends and I stayed friends.
I didn't run at all and youknow I can sit there.
(26:14):
Well, there's two fronts.
I have an ex.
I said why didn't it workbetween us?
And I got the real answer butit was a learning lesson for
both of us.
And then, with my friend, hewill sit there and say this are
the things why I think myrelationships are not working
out, and from there I'm helpinghim, he's helping me.
(26:40):
So it's just kind of like thisgreat friendship that we have
that we can both learn from.
So it's funny when he's likewell, you're all over the place
and you change subjects like asquirrel.
And I go, you're calling me asquirrel?
I was like, but it's funny,because even though we're
friends, if we hang out, ifwe're going shopping or
(27:01):
something, we'll see a littlestatue of a squirrel and I'm
like, hey, that's me, that's areminder you need to go buy that
.
But talking those things out, Ihear his side, he hears mine.
We try to put together whatwould be the best fit and how to
(27:21):
go about meeting somebody new,knowing this about us, you know.
So, to sum it up, I will alwaysbe there to support him and the
decisions he makes, and I knowhe would do the same for me.
But that's what friendship is,and if a relationship doesn't
work, that's fine too.
Speaker 2 (27:44):
We can do statements like well, tell me more about
that.
I'm interested in understandingyour perspective of why you
think this won't work and yeahisn't that interesting.
Oh, that's, that's goodfeedback, or I never thought of
that, or um, do you think it'spossible, like when we have
these statements, it opens upconversations, right, it opens
(28:08):
up dialogue, and then that'sconnection right.
Then you start to connect andcommunicate.
You know, if we start off withwell, this just is never going
to work, then it's not going to.
Sorry, I've got an alarm.
My mute didn't work on that,but you know it's every.
(28:30):
And even though that happened,wasn't there a juiciness to the
conversation you had, to thelearning?
And that's why, when you meeteach person, learn as much as
you can about yourself and aboutother people's perspective and
thinking.
Speaker 1 (28:50):
Because those are really important things, you
know, especially when you'remeeting somebody new, don't rush
it to go.
Oh, it's going to be so niceand romantic and I can see
myself as a girlfriend, but notknow anything about that person.
Speaker 2 (29:08):
Exactly Good point.
Yes.
You know, yeah, we're lookingfor the forever in the first
five minutes, right yeah?
Speaker 1 (29:17):
That's where a lot of people go wrong and we lose it
from there.
Speaker 2 (29:21):
Yeah, and we might.
Yeah, we might put too muchpressure on our expectations, or
or whatever.
Speaker 1 (29:28):
Yeah.
So you know, the one thing Itold myself after this last
dating was like you're going togo and you're going to meet
somebody, but hold your breathbecause you want to see if they
will continue to have thesegreat conversations with you or
let them tell you what theythought.
Don't be the person who says,well, what do you think I need
(29:51):
to know right now, is thissomething you want to move
forward?
Says, well, what you think Ineed to know right now, is this
something you want to moveforward?
I am just not ever going tolike ask those questions again
and just build a formation offriendship first and see where
it leads, because that's reallythe best way, I think in my
curiosity I'm actually going towrite that down for my singles
(30:16):
dating or coaching pages is, youknow, be curious.
Speaker 2 (30:21):
be curious about the life this person has had and why
they're reacting the way theyare and the connection you might
have, where the conversationmight go, what you might learn
you might have, where theconversation might go, what you
might learn.
Speaker 1 (30:39):
Yeah, and I'll be very honest and I can't believe
I'm not using names here, butlistening to the last date, he
mentioned some friends' namesand you know I am a good
listener, I was just taking itin.
But when things didn't work out, it's just kind of like, well,
you know what is going on withthis person.
He was just joking around aboutanother person too, and then
(31:02):
when I Googled it, it came upwith a full report Report, let's
just say report and I had thenames in it and I'm like, oh, my
goodness, are you kidding me?
So it opened my eyes.
We got to be so careful intoday's world and if somebody is
, you know I'm going to startlooking at it and out who I'm
(31:23):
going on a date with, honestly.
But if they're going to bejoking around, they think it's
funny and stuff.
Sometimes they're hiding stufffrom you.
So you know, go with your gutis what I'm learning.
The eyes open and listen.
Listen to what they're saying,because they may have a lot of
(31:44):
insecurities and we're justtaking it as a playful gesture
of maybe they're nervous, butthey're actually telling their
story to you and it's justgetting overbred because you
like this person or you know, oh, they're funny and it's, you
know.
But there's something deeperbehind it.
Speaker 2 (32:03):
Yeah, yeah, there often is when someone uses humor
, there generally is nervousnessor insecurity.
It's a learned behavior, right?
Speaker 1 (32:15):
Yeah, it really is Be compassionate.
Speaker 2 (32:19):
You know, you can say , oh, I think this person might
be nervous and that's whythey're using great humor like
this.
Speaker 1 (32:26):
Yeah, exactly, exactly.
The other thing is I understandsmoking.
Okay, people smoke, I get that.
But it doesn't take 30 minutesto smoke a cigarette and walk
away from somebody you're dating.
You know it's just payattention to that too, because
(32:47):
that becomes hurtful to somebodytoo.
Well, you know, I could havedone this in 30 minutes.
You know, maybe I'm better offjust leaving this date, so I
have my time back.
You know, you don't know whatthey're doing with their 30
minutes, but I can.
You know, just, I'm never goingto say I'm not going to.
(33:20):
You know, I'm not going to stoplooking for the right one, I'm
just going to be more cautiouslooking for the right one.
Speaker 2 (33:28):
So Well, I would really encourage you to watch
the fear, the lack of trust, um,because that's what you'll
bring to you.
You'll bring more of that soyou can learn the life lesson to
heal those things right yeah so.
So if you, you know, if you putout there that you know you're
looking for a partner, who'swho's looking for the same thing
(33:49):
you are, who's who's uh, reallyserious about dating, dating
and is looking for a partner andis open to you, start putting
the intentions out there whatyou're looking for in a partner.
Yeah, definitely, definitely,you know, if someone went out
for a smoke with me for 30minutes.
After about five minutes Iwould hey there, buddy, are you
(34:13):
coming back in or should we?
You know?
Should we, buddy, are youcoming back in or should we, you
know?
Should we call or should we saynice meeting you To let them
know that's not okay, like I'mnot going to sit there for 30
minutes and wait while you goout and have a smoke.
That's disrespectful.
Speaker 1 (34:30):
It's very disrespectful.
So, yeah, it really is.
But just knowing what I did gothrough, I was just like nope.
I already was feeling this isnot going to work and sometimes
we'll hear what we want to hear.
Oh, I really like you.
I do want to see you again, andyou hold on to that.
(34:53):
I call it like the fishingeffect.
I'm going to throw it out,you're going to bite my bait and
I'm going to see you again.
And you hold on to that.
I call it like the fishingeffect.
I'm going to throw it out.
You're going to bite my baitand I'm going to wheel you back
in for when it's convenient forme to see you, and that's
something.
No, I am cut in the line.
There is no coming back whenyou want to.
So you know you're either in itor you're out, and a lot of
(35:17):
people don't notice that.
You know you're either in it oryou're out, and a lot of people
don't notice that.
You know I'm one of thosepeople.
If you do like talking to me,check in on me Morning, late
afternoon.
You know how did work go.
That's it.
You know I don't need everyhour or anything like that.
If you're driving somewhere andit's bad weather, just send me
a text, let me know you got home, okay.
(35:38):
But if you don't hear fromanything from that, it's just
like it sets your mind wanderingand you never, never say what
did I do wrong?
Because that's a common thingthat we do.
We already see all the redflags, but we always question
what did I do to cause this?
Speaker 2 (35:57):
And that's what I said Don't personalize.
Keep on track, manifest yourdreams.
If you're saying, is this allthere is, well, what else could
there be?
And then start doing the workyou know, learn your Enneagram,
learn the manifesting principles.
If you go to my website,eileenheadcom, I offer a free
session.
(36:17):
I offer a free Enneagram test.
I have lots of tools to assistyou If you're willing to invest
your time and invest some ofyour resources to a better life.
I spent thousands of dollars onmy self-growth and it was worth
every penny to me.
(36:38):
I'm now living the life of mydreams and so you know, hop on a
, call a session and let me seeif I can give you some insights.
Sometimes it's just wordingthat you can use to re-engage
your partner or whatever it is.
Check out.
I've got lots of resources onmy website, myleneheadcom, and
(36:59):
I'd love to hear from you.
Speaker 1 (37:01):
Yay, and I suggest you a hundred percent.
You're always out there andyou're always active with your
company and you know, from thelast time we talked, just seeing
that progress, I was like wow,she's a force to be reckoned
with and she's really good atwhat she does.
So, yeah, definitely.
(37:22):
So I mean really quick, youknow, just talking about is
there any new future goals?
As we're coming into 25, goinginto 26 later on, have you set
new goals?
Speaker 2 (37:38):
Definitely I've set new goals.
You know I absolutely lovecoaching people.
If you read the testimonials onmy website, I can turn
situations around very quickly,and so my goals is to reach more
people, connect with morepeople and to take them out of
that.
Is this all there is to?
Wow?
(37:58):
I didn't realize there was somuch more out for me.
And the only shift is yourself.
When you shift that in yourself, that's where everything else
around you shifts, and for me,I'm I will continue wintering on
a beach.
Shifts, and for me, I willcontinue wintering on a beach.
(38:19):
This was my fourth year ofmanifesting this, and who knows
where this rest of this year isgoing to take me.
On my vision board and mymanifesting statement is more
travel, more excitement, morefun, more adventure, and that's
what I teach my clients to doMore fun, more adventure, more
lightness, more joy.
Speaker 1 (38:38):
That's wonderful, I'm glad to hear that.
And just really quick, so ourlisteners know.
Do you offer Zoom meetings forpeople?
Yes, of course.
Speaker 2 (38:49):
Well, I'm on a beach right now.
You know my condo is rightbeneath.
Speaker 1 (38:52):
It's not like you're going to fly out here to Texas.
Speaker 2 (39:02):
Well, no, I do coaching, um, and very
effectively.
I also do healing.
You know I'm a reiki master,I'm a hypnotherapist, so, um, I
do, um, healing the traumas andthe wounds that you have to help
you raise your vibration andmanifest see that's always's
always good and a lot of peoplecan take away from that.
Speaker 1 (39:19):
So I know I have friends that have asked for that
.
You know to move forward andmanifest and you know I am going
to be definitely sharing thispodcast and sending them your
way and everything.
Yeah, definitely.
I think we covered everything,didn't we?
We?
Speaker 2 (39:39):
did we manifest?
Live your best life?
Is this all there is yourEnneagram, personality, vision,
your dreams.
We got it, With singles married.
Speaker 1 (39:50):
I know I want to ask you one of the words
spirituality, and you know howabout that?
Has anybody really come andasked you about their
spirituality and how to manifestthat?
Speaker 2 (40:05):
Yeah, so spirituality I coach from teaching people
their life lessons.
If you are having a bigchallenge right now, a lot of us
want to resist the challenge,we want to push it away.
We want to.
I don't want to beuncomfortable, I don't want to
be here when we engage with it.
What is my life lesson?
What is it I'm resisting?
(40:25):
What can I learn from thissituation right now?
Because if we don't payattention to that, it comes
gently and each time it comes itgets stronger and harder.
These life lessons until wework our way through them.
What's the trigger from ourpast?
And so I help people healthrough that and give them a
(40:47):
spiritual concept.
Everything's in perfect timing,everything happens for a reason
.
What's the life life lessonthis is the basis of my coaching
as well is to teach people.
You know that we can engagewith whatever we believe in,
whether that's God, angels,guides, whatever that is.
(41:08):
So that's awesome.
Thank you for asking that.
That is the basis of my yeah, Iwanted to.
Speaker 1 (41:14):
I mean, it's so funny because I'm focused on that
part this year.
So I wanted to hear yourknowledge and get that strength
to help me as I go through myjourney of writing the book.
Speaker 2 (41:26):
So yeah, Yay.
Well, your book's going to comeout soon.
Well done.
Speaker 1 (41:32):
I have to say hopefully, but you know I really
, you know it's become easy andI think from last year, talking
to so many authors, it's likewell, you don't need to worry
about it because you're sendingit for somebody else to look
over it and they'll make whatcorrections.
So I feel like it's just my jobto get the words out on paper.
Speaker 2 (41:56):
And then I'm going to do it that way.
What's the?
Speaker 1 (41:57):
title of your book?
I don't know.
I have an idea.
It's written down.
Speaker 2 (42:02):
I don't know if it's available so then, just sit with
the energy of it and askwhatever you believe in whether
it's your spirits or guides orangels or God to to give you a
sign of what is the best titlefor you.
Speaker 1 (42:17):
Actually, God did give me the sign, because I'm in
worship choir and I sang thelyric and I go.
That's it.
That needs to be the title ofmy book.
Speaker 2 (42:29):
And there's a charge on it.
Speaker 1 (42:31):
Yeah yeah, there is a big, huge charge on it.
Yeah, yeah, there is a big,huge charge on it, and I was
just like okay, so I just needto find out where I can go and
find and make sure it'savailable to use.
So that's the only you know, Ineed, I need a little guidance.
Speaker 2 (42:48):
I've never so remember, remember.
You wrote, you feel you wrotethe book for you, but you also
wrote the book for other peoplewho are experiencing and have
experienced what you have.
So I'm going to ask you to letgo of expectation You've written
the book, this is part of yourhealing and release it with the
best intention that this isthere for anyone else who needs
(43:11):
to hear this message.
They'll find my book.
Speaker 1 (43:16):
Yeah, definitely, definitely, and I'm going to
just sneak peek.
It's about learning who you areas a person, and sometimes
outside influence can't help youwith the power within to fight
any negativity and how to bringlight into your life and be
(43:39):
stronger and hold on to that.
Speaker 2 (43:41):
So yeah, Well, thank you so much for having me on
again.
Speaker 1 (43:45):
Yes, I'm so happy to have you now.
Remember, guys, wherever youfind your podcast, you'll be
able to find Keep Hope Alive.
You can visit us atwwwkeephopelivepodcastcom.
To the right, we have a newfeature to leave a message.
So if you have any questionsfor us, leave us a question.
We'll be happy to answer itback.
But until next time, love andlight.
(44:07):
You guys have a great week andthank you so much for coming on
again.
Speaker 2 (44:12):
Thank you for having me.
Speaker 1 (44:14):
You're welcome.
Bye-bye.
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