March 12, 2025 • 60 mins
Sarah Rose Heeley joins the Keep Hope Alive podcast to reveal the transformative power of understanding your menstrual cycle. This conversation uncovers why cycle awareness isn't just about periods—it's about reclaiming an ancient wisdom that has been systematically suppressed for centuries.
"As women, we are not meant to be the same all the time," Sarah explains, challenging the linear productivity model we've all been conditioned to follow. While society functions on a rigid 24-hour cycle, women naturally operate on a 28-29 day rhythm. This fundamental mismatch creates unnecessary suffering as women judge themselves for natural fluctuations in energy, mood, and capabilities.
The discussion takes a fascinating turn as Sarah reveals how menstrual cycles were once revered as a source of wisdom and intuition. Women in their "moon time" were considered to be at the height of their spiritual connection. This perspective stands in stark contrast to modern attitudes that have medicalized and pathologized natural menstrual symptoms. As Sarah points out, PMS isn't a syndrome—it's your body signaling what needs attention in your life.
Perhaps most compelling is how cycle awareness transforms relationships. By honoring her need for rest before her period, Sarah found herself becoming more present and patient with her family. "Practicing menstrual cycle awareness makes me a better mother," she shares, highlighting how self-care directly enhances our capacity to care for others.
The conversation also explores perimenopause, offering valuable insights about symptoms beyond hot flashes—including brain fog, anxiety, and unpredictable cycles. Sarah emphasizes that in perimenopause, the primary directive is rest, challenging women to practice discernment about where they direct their shifting energy.
Whether you're currently cycling, approaching perimenopause, or beyond menopause, this episode offers profound wisdom about reconnecting with your body's natural rhythms. By understanding the seasons of your cycle and honoring your changing needs, you can move through life with greater self-acceptance, energy, and joy.
Ready to transform your relationship with your cycle? Connect with Sarah on Instagram @sarahroseheeley to learn about her workshops and one-on-one coaching programs designed to help women embrace their natural rhythms for radical self-care.
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hello and welcome to Keep Hope Alive podcast.
Today I got Ms Sarah Rose Healyhere.
She's a cycle awareness mentorand a woman's empowerment coach
and we're going to be divinginto her story on everything she
does.
And she does restored naps andyou know me from past shows if
you watched them.
(00:23):
I was always on Ambien for fiveyears, so I have those stories.
But if you could teach me howto nap, that's great and welcome
to the show.
Thank you, oh, you're welcome.
So before we get started, I dohave a question for you.
Let's say we had a best friendand she was getting married and
(00:43):
we were going to the wedding andeverything.
We're walking into the ceremonypart and to the right we saw
something we had to sign to letthem know we were there.
What would we be signing?
The guest book.
Speaker 2 (00:57):
I actually did that at the wedding once, so now, I
know, see, there's so manydifferent things.
Speaker 1 (01:03):
I hear the picture frame, I hear Jenga pieces, some
people I had somebody actuallysay their life away, and I just
kind of giggle at that onebecause, no, we don't sign their
life away.
But, however, life on Record isone of our sponsors here at
Keep Hope Alive and what they doinstead of the guest book.
(01:25):
This is so cool.
They have a vintage rotaryphone for the guests to pick up
and right next to it they put aQR code.
In case the line's too long,your guests can use their mobile
device and scan that and leavea message on that phone.
But you go on the vintage phone, pick it up.
Congratulations, you guys.
(01:45):
We're so happy for you.
You guys are buried.
Long love, happiness and bestwishes.
Or maybe it's the groomsmansaying, hey, it's about time you
put a ring on her finger.
So all these messages I call itthe gift of voice gets collected
and they will either burn it ona 12-inch vinyl record and the
(02:06):
whole thing is customized about.
You know so-and-so's weddingand here's the messages.
Or they have a little.
I call it the boom box, butit's a speaker and you know,
just think about it.
So let's say it's almost attheir one year anniversary.
They can sit back, eat thatcake that they're supposed to
save and listen to all themessages and just reflect back
(02:29):
on that big special day.
So it's great.
It goes for any different events.
Yes, I'm going to say funerals.
I think that is a key onefunerals, anniversaries,
corporate events.
I used it for my son's footballteam when a kiddo got hurt and
broke his leg.
We had everybody call in andleave a message for him.
(02:50):
So it's used in so manydifferent ways.
Now you get the phone number.
I have to say number, becausethe phone is so cute You'll want
to keep it, but you have toreturn it.
You get it for one year.
Now, especially with weddings,I would say call back before
their one year anniversary andwish them a happy anniversary.
Their plans start at $99, whichis very, very good, and you get
(03:15):
that gift of voice.
I love it.
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All right, so the biggestquestion we have today.
Another one, I love throwingquestions who is Sarah Rose
Healy?
Speaker 2 (03:33):
Well, I always find those kinds of questions like so
awkward to you know, you'relike where do you start?
You know, um, but I think Ithink where I want to start and
like kind of where I want to gonow is, um, really, when I
started to feel this calling todo this cycle awareness work
(03:53):
because that's what really it isis a calling because I never
thought I would be speaking andwriting online about periods and
menstrual cycles.
It wasn't like I was like I'mgoing to go, this is what I'm
doing for my life's work.
But over the last 10 years, andreally in the last five, after
my daughter my daughter ended upgetting sick with Lyme disease
(04:16):
and she needed me to be herewith her all the time and so I
was home for really like twoyears for like straight, for
really like two years for likestraight, without really leaving
because she couldn't, sheneeded me there.
(04:43):
But it was a time of that 10years ago, I started to question
things.
In different groups that I wasin, I was like why is it that we
don't talk about menstrualcycle awareness?
Like why is it that we don'tlike it's not part of like all
these different things?
(05:04):
Like it just started to likecome into my awareness and it
baffled me and I, when I wouldask questions, um, I wouldn't
get any answers and it wasreally frustrating Cause I was
like it's like this doesn't evenexist, it's like we don't, it's
not part of who we are, eventhough it's this gigantic piece
(05:25):
of the puzzle and the ancientwisdom that is within us.
And I know I'm kind of like noteven saying anything about
myself, so maybe do I.
Should I wait and talk?
Speaker 1 (05:34):
about no, you're all good, I'm drawn in.
I love hearing this.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
Yeah, so.
So I actually tried to do thiswork about.
I think it was about five yearsago where I was trying to help
people heal their period pain,but that wasn't.
It wasn't like this passion forme in that space, because the
part that I really love workingwith women on is their self
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connection and selfunderstanding, because I I felt
like for myself when I wasmissing information about who I
was and how my body functionedand how I functioned.
I misunderstood myself and thenI judged myself constantly and
I had these expectations ofmyself to be a certain way, when
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what I say all the time is asnot.
As women, we are not meant to bethe same all the time, like we
are not meant to function in alinear way.
We are cyclical beings and theinteresting thing that I find
fascinating is that men cycledaily.
Their home run cycles go up anddown daily.
(06:45):
Women cycle, so they cycle in24 hours and we cycle in a 28,
29 day.
It's, you know, varies, foreveryone cycle, but we live.
We live in a society thatfunctions in a 24 hour cycle and
that that's the productivitycycle that we're conditioned and
(07:05):
like indoctrinated into andthat we've actually never even
questioned because it's justlike that's been our reality,
right?
Yeah, I'm sorry if you hearbanging, but I live in an old
house and the heat is banging.
Speaker 1 (07:19):
So I don't hear anything, but that's cool yeah.
Speaker 2 (07:23):
So that was really like when I started to get
really like lit up about thiswork and then I was introduced
to another layer of it.
Oh well, I actually healed myown cycle and my relationship to
it through just starting to payattention and starting to pay
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attention to like what I wasnaturally drawn to do, and it
like it wasn't a full conceptback then when I started it.
And now, looking back, I'm like, oh, that's what I was doing
and I know the why.
And so I remember a specificnight where it was like I think
(08:06):
I was probably just about tostart my period.
So it was like a few daysbefore.
When you know that like you getreally tired, you can feel more
cranky, Maybe you feel like youwant to withdraw.
And my daughter was going to doa tryout for a play and I just
was like it was like a longdrive with a lot of people and I
just I finally just like chosemyself and I was like ask my
(08:30):
husband if he would take her,not that he would always do that
, but I just it was I wasplanning on doing it, and so I
asked him to take her and I justlaid on the couch and did
nothing and like it was like notanything profound but it was,
when I look back, that was likemy turning point to claiming
what I actually needed to takecare of myself.
(08:51):
And and I've done this, likeit's grown over time to into
like a calling and the work thatI'm now doing in the world with
women, in the world with women,and that like it was this, that
was my restorative rest, wherethen I was able to be present
(09:14):
with my family later on in adeeper way because I paid
attention to what I needed andit made me a better mother, like
that's the other.
It's like this practicingmenstrual cycle awareness makes
me a better mother.
It makes me a better friendbecause I'm paying attention and
I'm I'm learning who I am on areally deep cellular, like
ancient, because there's thisancient blueprint within all of
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us that has been ignored andsuppressed and repressed and
vilified and shamed.
And you know, it's like now.
I'm like doing research on thehistory of our cycles and it's
like mind boggling and soupsetting to learn about it, but
it's important, it's importantwork.
Speaker 1 (09:58):
Well, I hear you definitely with cycles and
everything.
I'm glad we're having thisconversation.
I really don't care on my end,who knows this about me.
But here let me throw this atyou See, what you know,
everybody does have a blueprint,but the people who have
actually had a hysterectomy fullovaries out, full Now I don't
know if this is a hormonal thing, because everybody's like I
(10:20):
don't know if this is a hormonalthing because everybody's like
no, we don't know what's wrongwith you.
I went to a top specialist forgynecology and cancer and all he
said is my blood work is likecows, chickens and horses.
And I was like oh, did you winall these awards here?
And he's like yes, and I waslike you just called me a farm
(10:43):
animal, I'm out.
Here is what.
He was like yes, and I was likeyou just called me a farm
animal, I'm out.
Here is what it was happeningto me.
So I mean, it's been yearssince I had that procedure, and
when they do my blood work, Ihear congratulations, aren't you
excited?
And I'm like I'm what?
(11:04):
Well, you're pregnant?
I'm not.
I'm not pregnant.
It's happened a total of ninetimes now and nobody can figure
it out and I have no answers.
So, but I've been.
If I look back at it, I've beenpregnant for three years.
I think it was funny because mydoctor is like well, you just
got tested again and I did.
And the lady who I'll neverforget this, she's like don't
(11:27):
say anything.
And I was going to tell her.
I'm a hard stick, that's all Iwas going to tell her and I
stayed quiet.
She got it on the first try.
I'm very happy about that.
But she's like aren't youexcited?
And I go no, you think I'mpregnant, don't you?
She goes it's right here,you're pregnant, you're pregnant
.
And it's like Christmas time.
And I was like, no, I had ahysterectomy and ovaries out,
(11:50):
there's no baby.
She goes Mary, I go I'm notMary from the Bible.
Speaker 2 (12:05):
So I was like God did not put a child right inside of
me.
So, yeah, I kid around with mydaughter.
It was an immaculate conception.
Speaker 1 (12:07):
Yeah right, I was like when is this going to
happen?
Speaker 2 (12:11):
That is really disturbing, to be honest, that
that's what's happening to you.
I mean, in a way of just like,how is that the way that they're
?
Yeah, how is that possible?
But how are they bringing thatto you with that lack of
awareness, like well?
Speaker 1 (12:29):
here's the crazy thing, I can't say the hospital
of his eye.
It was a really good one.
They're like we can't do this.
We got to send you to thisbigger hospital in Dallas.
They didn't even touch it.
I don't even think they wantedto.
You know, check it out honestly.
So I was in the hospital butthey found something more
(12:52):
concerning that they had to doan emergency surgery on.
So it kind of got overlookedand I'm still without answers.
But you know I'm not going toworry about it and leaving it in
God's hands, obviously.
But when we talked abouthormones and stuff, the
blueprint for me is confusingand I guess it's the way the
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blood flows.
But you follow that.
And then I remember, as youwere talking too, when I did
have my cycles.
I wish I had a betterunderstanding of how not to let
the seven days go by and bemiserable.
The only blueprint.
I was like what is going tomake me comfortable?
Do I have my adult?
(13:34):
Do I have my Aleve?
Do I have a heating pad to helpme?
And then it just got so bad.
You know how women get really,really bad periods.
Mine was unbelievable.
So that's why I just I went togo see the doctor and get the
hysterectomy, but it's just kindof like a float, because you
(13:56):
are so right on.
That is, how can you be thebetter person while you have to
go through this?
So I'm sorry, I just had totell you that.
Speaker 2 (14:05):
No, I mean, this is a very common story, I think,
because there's such, there'ssuch misinformation and lack of
information out there aboutwomen's hormones, women's cycles
, and women feel like that one.
Their only choice to get betteris to have a hysterectomy.
You know, and it's not a wrongchoice, it's, it is.
It's, I feel like it's aproduct of like, of not.
(14:28):
There's not a lot of researchthat's been done on women and
their cycles and their hormones,and doctors don't get a ton of
training on menopause,perimenopause and just like
cycle awareness, and so that'swhy we're seeing so much
sickness, you know, dis-ease inwomen connected to their cycles,
(14:50):
because we have this hugedisconnection between because it
is a spirit, it's a group of,or I'm trying to say there's a
(15:10):
company called Red School andthey teach all about this work
and that they have coined itwomen's original spiritual
practice, because everythingthat we need to know about what
needs to happen for us is inthat.
And even if, even like you, arestill a cyclical, being
connected to the moon cycles,that's not something I like.
(15:33):
I love that, but I'm not.
I don't pay tons of attentionto it Yet I haven't really dived
deep into it, but I feel like Ithink it's just so important
for us now to really learn aboutthis so that we understand
ourselves and so that we aregetting, like we don't give up,
(15:53):
like you deserve to have answersand have someone who's going to
be your advocate.
And there are women, there are.
There are, you know, women'swellness practitioners you're in
like the like naturopathicworld that are going to be able
to dive deeper and give you moreinformation and even do, like
(16:15):
hormone testing and all of thosethings that you'd be able to
get a lot more information aboutwhat's going on in your body,
because that, you know, lack ofinformation and an answer to me
is unacceptable, like it is, andmy friend just talked to me and
she goes.
Speaker 1 (16:34):
she went there and she wanted to get answers but
they had nothing for her.
Yeah, and.
Speaker 2 (16:41):
I've come up against that myself where, yeah, I'm
going to, like I'm going to mywhat were they the midwives have
?
It's like I'm really one of myother.
Like passions is like empoweredwellness and like really
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advocating for women, gettingthe answer.
Like not giving up and gettingthe answers and being advocated
for like self, like selfadvocating and and not going, oh
, it must be just me, right?
Instead, it's like no, thesystem is not designed to
support you.
We need to dig deeper than that.
(17:32):
Like you know, this is mysoapbox because I I get really
fired up about that.
Speaker 1 (17:38):
I was like what if we excuse me, guys, I'm still
getting over laryngitis.
What if we dug so deep andfound out like and if it's
spiritual awareness, what if wecould take away menopause?
That would?
Speaker 2 (17:52):
be so fun.
And the thing is is that PMS,you know, and menopause have
been, has been medicalized andmade to be like it's a syndrome,
right, Like PMS syndrome, and Itold myself I wasn't going to
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talk about this today, but butlike.
Speaker 1 (18:17):
No, I want you to not these are it's, it's.
Speaker 2 (18:19):
This isn't to minimize what's going on for
women, because it is real, likewhat you experience is real.
But calling it a syndrome andputting it in the DSM as like a
brain based disorder is like,like it's maddening for one
thing, but it takes away thefact that these are signals from
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your body giving youinformation about what is not
working, because your cycle hasactually been considered the
sixth vital sign, because itgives you all the information
Like something's not working,something's not right, and so
we're getting this information.
But it makes total sense.
(19:04):
Like it's not our fault.
It's not our fault because weweren't taught this.
No, like the information hasn'tbeen free flowing until you
know.
Now it's starting to be a lotmore you know out there, but you
have to do the research and itfeels hard, right.
It's like you're scratching thesurface of something that has
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been suppressed for millennia,like it changed it never.
Like women used to be when theywere on their period, when they
were in their, on their moontime.
They used to be revered incommunities.
It was a sacred thing whereyou're tuned into like your
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highest self, your intuition,like wisdom, and they were
revered and supported.
This is how it used to be, andI feel like it could be kind of
triggering to hear all thisstuff.
Speaker 1 (19:59):
You're like how did this happen?
I?
Speaker 2 (20:01):
don't know.
It's interesting and and and aswell.
I mean there's like specifictime when things started to
shift and it's kind of likegoing back to like the witch
hunts and all of that, whenwomen who are just powerful
medicine, women, healers, werebeing, you know, vilified for
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just being.
You know who.
We, you know you probablyinterview a lot of these women
now, right, um, but this is like, um, like there was all this.
It feels like all thisinformation that was put out
about how menstrual cycles wouldlike kill crops could make men
(20:47):
impotent, like I literally readsomething the other day that was
saying it could kill the bees.
Like this is the stuff that wedon't even know.
That's been like running underthe surface, why we're walking
around feeling like, okay, Idon't want anyone to know I'm
buying tampons, right, likebecause there's been it's just
been a underlying whateverclimate of shame and hiding and
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thinking this makes us whateverdirty, or all the things that
we've been, you know.
Think about all the things thatyou've been conditioned to
believe about your cycle, thatit makes you, you know you're
hormonal and you know, uh, butreally that's just your what
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happens?
like when you get closer to yourcycle, you just have less
tolerance for that.
Closer to your cycle, you justhave less tolerance for that
Like there's almost like this,you don't feel everything is
acutely, and then it gets closerto your cycle and all the stuff
that you were like this didn'tsit well with me comes back up.
And that's why, like, this iswhere I work with women is about
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looking at that stuff.
That's coming up and takingaction to make a change.
Right, instead of just beinglike I'm just being can I swear,
oh, you can.
Okay, I'm just being bitchy,right, it's like, no, you've
been dishonoring yourself for solong, not realizing that's what
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you're doing, right, because wedon't even know.
And it comes up like you're likepower potency, you're like no
more, and but that's beenvilified about us, but instead
it's really about yourdiscernment and your ability to
be like I'm not okay with thething that that person said and
(22:38):
I need to go like have aconversation with them.
And so what I found as Istarted doing that, as I started
paying attention to thosepotencies, my PMS symptoms
started to go away and I waslike, and again like I want to
re-term the PMS word, but forright now it's understood by
many people.
(22:58):
So that's why I'm using it, sothat I would get to the point
where I didn't even know I wasabout to get my period anymore,
because I no longer had all thatstuff.
Because if you look at itthrough Chinese medicine, they
talk about PMS being blocked qi,which is life force energy, and
so when you start to clear theblocks, you release the blocks
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in your life force energy andyou reduce your symptoms.
Speaker 1 (23:29):
Wow, I like that term .
Yeah, we're superheroes, yes,well, I think all women are
superheroes.
I mean, we've had to go throughall these cycles and it's a
learning experience too.
So but yeah, I remember gettingmean the first couple of days
and I didn't want to be mean,but that's just.
(23:51):
You know, with everythingfluctuating, it's like I felt
bad because I'd be like, justdon't talk to me, no, just let
me be, I need a couple of days,and I hated saying that.
And when my daughter finallygot older, she was, oh my gosh,
she was a clone of me.
So payback, like, get away, mom, okay, but you know, how is it
(24:19):
that women who have best friends, they can jump on the same
cycle?
Speaker 2 (24:24):
I mean that I feel like that's like the big mystery
, right, like.
But we pull the like.
I said to my daughter I'm likeyou pulled me into your orbit,
you know, because she pulled mein, and I mean, I think it's
just, it's.
I think it's what it's meant tohappen, like I don't, I don't
have an answer for that, but butwhat I did want to say is that
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you're meant, you're meant topull away.
Like there is this need toseparate.
That is like a biologicalancient blueprint within you,
and we're like fighting againstit.
So it's causing friction, butlike and we also don't live in a
society that really supportsyou know, it's all about
productivity versus rest, and soI just looked at the clock and
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it's 1111.
I love it, that's a good number.
Speaker 1 (25:14):
You're just like me.
That's a good.
That's a good number.
Speaker 2 (25:17):
But even just acknowledging, like sometimes
it's not even about takingaction, but it's like
acknowledging the fact that,like I am meant to pull away
right now, Like I'm meant to bealone, so where can I get, like,
where can I take time formyself in honoring that, even in
just a small like shift,because I think we tend to be
(25:41):
this like I have to do it allnow, right, and then it feels
overwhelming, but really it'slike it's an internal mental
shift and then a slow shift intohow can I do this in a
different way.
Speaker 1 (25:55):
Um, yeah, I, I had to make a joke.
It's a really bad joke, but I'mstarting to date again.
And I told this guy I only wantto date you for like three
years.
And he just started giggling.
Why I go?
Because menopause is going tohit.
And he goes oh, you're right.
It's like giving him the cardto go away.
(26:18):
But you know early signs.
I didn't know if it was andthat's where my doctor was like
no, she didn't really know.
But I remember I went on Amazonand bought one of those.
What is it?
It's like a neck fan.
And I was like, oh my gosh, andit's so funny because it really
cools you down.
(26:39):
And then that, compared to mylast job which is really funny I
had to dress up in a mascotoutfit.
Oh God, I didn't know there wasa fan inside it.
Nobody told me.
But I was outside dancing inthis costume and I got heat
stroke and it was not good and Iwas like, when we got the
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costume off, I was melting.
I was like, oh my gosh, Iwonder if menopause is like this
heat stroke thing.
Like I started to think aboutthat, like I'm trying to prepare
myself for the years coming up.
When am I going to go throughand how can I make it better,
because I'm such a planner andorganizer.
What am I going to go throughand how can I make it better,
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because I'm such a planner andorganizer.
Speaker 2 (27:26):
But drawing that pathway to knowing it's just, is
that something you teach people?
Yeah, I mean, you know, I'm Iam in perimenopause, I'm I'm 47.
And so I'm noticing andlearning all of this stuff now,
so I hopefully eventually willbe able to support women in a
greater way.
However, I am taking, um, uh,two women through my program
right now, so I hopefullyeventually will be able to
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support women in a greater way.
However, I am taking two womenthrough my program right now,
and one of them is is inperimenopause as well, so I'm
learning so much about how tosupport myself.
Speaker 1 (27:54):
I want to know really quick I'm like jumping in what
are the symptoms ofperimenopause.
Speaker 2 (27:59):
I mean there's so many symptoms of perimenopause.
I mean there's so many and alot of the ones that have popped
up for me, and there's like abunch of surprising ones.
So like, obviously, hot flashesare like what most people think
about, but there's like brainfog, which is enough, and mood
swings because your hormones,like.
I have a graph.
I should share it with youafter, but it's like it shows
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you like your, you know yourmenstruating years and then your
perimenopause years and it'slike, so like you wonder why
it's because you're getting, youknow your estrogen is dropping
and so and it's veryunpredictable and that's why it
can be so disconcerting.
And also because we haven't beeneducated on what it looks like
(28:44):
until usually we're in it, oreven then I've had talked to so
many women who are like myhusband thought I was going
crazy, like I didn't know whatthis was, and it's like to me
that like I want to help changethat, because I feel like when
you start practicing menstrualcycle awareness wherever you are
in your journey, like you canstart now, like it doesn't
matter Cause you can also I feellike you heal your past, you
(29:08):
know cycling self through thisawareness of like you kind of
have these like aha moments oflike oh, that's why like that
makes sense, but like increasedanxiety.
So that's one thing that I'venoticed a lot of like I never
used to be afraid to drive, likeI've driven all over the like
across the country, and like Ijust and now I have like anxiety
(29:29):
driving and I was like what isthis and that?
And so that was like cause itcan be like very um, uh, word
drops.
Dropping words is also another.
I have a couple of reallyamazing articles that explain
how perimenopause actually orlike menopause perimenopause
(29:54):
creates like a neurodivergencein your brain, because it's
literally your brain isliterally changing and rewiring
and you're becoming differentand so like that's the key is
that paying attention to what'sgoing on for you and then
working to to like supportyourself and there's like tons
(30:14):
of stuff out there now with likediet and then different things,
but really have to.
I think you have to do whatworks for you and know that like
you don't have to suffer, butit is very, it's a very
challenging time, and that ifyou want to go into the rest
piece, like in perimenopause,your number one, like one like
(30:47):
directive, is rest, because it'slike rest and rest more and
rest again and rest and thensaying no, like really
practicing discernment around,like what you're going to put
your energy in, because yourenergy is shifting and you don't
have the same amount of energy,and so I think part of what we
do is we fight against thisnatural shift and we want to be
(31:07):
able to keep going in the sameway that we've always been going
and we cannot, like it's justnot, like your body is not going
to allow you to, and when andagain, we live in a society that
expects us to blah, blah, blah,blah, and so I think that's a
lot of the reasons why I mean I,I believe in doing what works
(31:31):
for you and your life and howyou you know.
So I I don't have a judgmentabout, like you know, because
there's hormone replacementtherapy, there's natural hormone
replacement therapies thatpeople use so they can keep
going at that fast pace.
Speaker 1 (31:45):
Yeah, and I think for like the working women in
corporate America, like it'sgoing to be hard for them just
to say, oh, my change is coming.
So I had to change at work.
You know, the one thing Inoticed that I would do on my
lunch break I would take like apower nap for 20 minutes.
I would eat really fast, go inmy car, take a little power nap
(32:07):
and then go back to work becauseI felt like rest is really
important to me and right nowI'm unemployed.
Um, so I've been taking alittle more cat naps, but my
body, it feels like it's a catchup, a catch up, catch up moment
.
So that's important to keep theenergy going at the speed you
(32:30):
want it to still, but you haveto honor what needs to be done
to gain it.
It sounds like yeah.
Speaker 2 (32:36):
So yeah, and that's, I think, work that I would love
to support women and like whoare working in corporate America
to like how do you honor itwhile you're still doing like?
Because I think there's waysthat you can shift.
Part of it is knowing that youneed that and then trying to
(33:06):
find ways to incorporate,incorporate that into your life,
which is obviously easier saidthan done, but I feel like my
half of the battle is themindset shift into that it is.
Speaker 1 (33:14):
It is, and I know with my son like he's coming up
on breaks and stuff and on theweekend I think he noticed with
me like he likes to playPlayStation, the Madden football
stuff, and that's great becauseI know he's going to be on
there for an hour and I'm like,okay, you're using my big screen
TV, you sit up at the edge ofthe bed to play.
(33:37):
I'm taking my nap and I justput my AirPods in, listen and
I'm like dozed away.
But when I wake up, what do youwant to do?
Now?
I have like all this energy togive him my heart, my soul, and
he sees the difference too.
And so sometimes, as you know,I'm the same age as you, but for
(33:57):
me for me, not saying you Ifeel like I'm getting older,
because you start to notice atage 40 how fast the world is
turning and it's just going toblow by us, you know.
So you want to make use of thattime, but, like, because my
kids are 10 years apart and myson is so young, I already know
that I need to put myself in asituation of his direction.
(34:20):
He wants to go and playfootball, hopefully for OU, so
we're moving to Oklahoma and mydad is out there my mom, so you
know spending more time with thefamily and we have a church and
we have a school and he knowspeople already out there because
he spends a lot of time on theholidays out there.
So making this move is going toonly help, but finding that
(34:43):
direction and course is veryimportant in your life.
It seems like it's a timemanagement thing too, when
you're going through this Likeeverybody's thinking oh, I got
to do this, I have kids to raise, I got this and that, but when
are we taking the time forourselves?
And you're absolutely right, weshould.
We should know.
It's like football we need toplay, we've got to figure it out
(35:07):
.
If this happens, which way arewe going?
We can't run to the doctor allthe time because, you're right,
they don't know much about themenopause and stuff.
They'll probably be like take acold bath, you know we might
get that stuff.
They'll probably be like take acold bath, you know we might
get that.
But I think if people becamemore aware of what women go
(35:28):
through and these hormonalchanges were not going to be
thrown because, like I told you,that doctor that was a
specialist comparing me to afarm animal.
I mean, couldn't he just go tothe back and say hey, alexa, I
got this.
You know, come out with abetter answer than calling me a
farm animal.
Speaker 2 (35:48):
So yes, yeah, and I I love hearing you talk about
like you're centering rest infront of your kid and it's like
that's such a great modelingtool for like for them to see
you caring for yourself and howit re-energizes you like.
To me, that's that's where Istarted to heal my relationship
(36:10):
with rest, because I wanted tobe awake, alive and present with
my kid.
I have I have an only child andlike I want to be there and
witness everything.
And if I felt I found myselflike going through the motions
kind of feeling, because I waschronically exhausted and part
of it was like situationally inmy life, her, her sleep was out
(36:35):
of it was like reversed and so Iwas like staying up all night
with her because she was sickand and then I would sleep part
of the day and there's like theguilt piece, right that keeps
that we should be doingsomething else.
But I had to reframe that and Ithink I also had to change how
I because I wanted.
(36:57):
So I had this.
I'm going all over the place,this is my squirrel but I had
this conversation with myhusband and he was saying like
he hates sleep and he just likedoesn't care about it and
whatever.
And I was like I love it somuch.
But what I realized was that,like I said to him, I was like I
love sleep because it allows meto live my life and experience
(37:18):
it in a way where I feel goodand I'm alive and I'm awake and
I'm moving through it, and itnever like I've always needed it
.
But it's gotten even moreimportant for me during
perimenopause and these thestage because I literally can be
non-functioning if I do not getenough sleep and then I'm not
like my brain doesn't work well,I don't have clear thoughts,
(37:41):
like it's, like it increasesyour perimenopause symptoms and
so like part of why practicingmenstrual cycle awareness is so
important is that you can startto get an understanding of your
patterns and like your owncyclical way of being, if you
(38:03):
start to track, because you canlook back.
And I mean, sometimes I feellike these things happen.
An example, just so I can sharethem.
But yesterday was what was day17 for me and I looked back and
last day, 17, was like a roughday, like it was like low mood,
I couldn't get out of my brainfog, I was exhausted, I like
(38:25):
slept a full night but I couldnot like break through, and so I
rested a lot yesterday.
And now I wake up today and Iand I know now, like that I can
trust that I'm going to bedifferent tomorrow, that this
isn't going to last.
But before I would think I'mdoomed, like you know, like so
my self talk was be, would be,I'm never going to get better,
(38:49):
like this is how it's alwaysgonna be right, like when we're
in that it's easy to go downthat road.
But I knew, if I choose resttoday and I had something I had
to go to last night which Iwanted to be in a good headspace
for If I choose rest nowbecause I can, I work from home,
I work for myself it'sobviously harder and you have to
(39:09):
do different things that Iwould feel better today.
And even though I didn't evensleep last night really at all,
I feel like a different persontoday.
But I know it's because Ihonored what my body was asking
for.
So I made a note to my futureself that said next day, 17,
take the day off and do nothingand sleep if you have to,
(39:31):
because, because I know itserves me all month long and it
serves me.
And so this is what like we getto like we get to empower
ourselves around our cyclesversus.
Speaker 1 (39:44):
It's so funny because , as I'm looking for work, and
thank God, right now, I don'thave cycles, but could you
imagine, yeah, day 17.
I cannot work.
Speaker 2 (39:56):
No, I say you just call and sit.
Speaker 1 (40:00):
Oh my gosh, oh my gosh, you know, um, I know like
what overseas they let peoplethat work, sleep and stuff, and
that's probably really smart,because you're going to get more
energy out of that person ifthey can take a nap too.
Speaker 2 (40:15):
So I thought you said like.
So like Italy and Spainpractice siesta, so like the
businesses close between threeand five and everyone, like, has
lunch and then takes a nap orrest, and so I always say I was
born in the wrong countrybecause that works for me really
well.
And the other thing is, inSpain they just passed a law
(40:39):
where people get, I think it'sfive days paid menstrual leave.
Can you?
Speaker 1 (40:48):
imagine Okay America, where are you?
We're the same people Like someof those roles, yeah.
Speaker 2 (40:58):
Because women will be more productive if they're, you
know, if they're actuallyhonoring themselves during that
time, Like so this is like, yeah, that's the work that I just am
really lit up about, as you cansee.
Speaker 1 (41:15):
Yeah, well, no, it's called passion in what you do
and bringing awareness, and alot of people do need this.
I mean, I'm learning a lot fromyou today, but I'm going to put
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All right, let's get back tothis.
So I mean, we're going overwith your plan and everything
Like this is just amazing.
So people can gain theself-acceptance of what they
have to go through once theylearn everything.
And if you're a young listener,maybe you're 13 right now and
(43:49):
you're like ah, I'm trying tothink what age I got my period.
I think I was like 10 or 12.
Nobody will school prep to me.
That's a funny thing.
Mom didn't quite prep me thatwell, you know.
Um, so it is, and I heard myother friends weren't getting
prepped at all either, so it'dbe like we would go through.
(44:10):
Uh, mom, I'm bleeding.
Why is blood coming out of me?
Speaker 2 (44:14):
You know so we had to learn that To not know it is
scary, yeah, it is scary.
Speaker 1 (44:20):
So, but when you get it and then you learn about the
female body is going to changeon you.
That's a lot to take in at thatage because you're like, okay,
what's going to happen.
You know, of course and I'mjust saying I don't care your
breast they're going to develop.
You know all the differentchanges as you're going through
(44:40):
your cycle and period, whetherit's before, during and even
after.
So it's kind of like settingyour brain this is what's going
to happen when you're young.
You still have to go to school.
In your brain, this is what'sgoing to happen when you're
young.
You still have to go to school.
I remember sometimes it was hardto be in school because you're
(45:01):
raising your hand and whetherit's just going to pee or
actually being on the period.
So teachers sometimes wouldtell you no, and I would get up
from my desk.
I remember I had to do this afew times.
I go listen, I'm at my period,I need to change.
Okay, just go.
It's like the woman that we'retalking to as our teacher should
(45:21):
know this and it's happening tous and we're feeling, ah,
because what people don't like,especially men we're gushing and
it's not a good feeling.
So when you want to change, youwant to change and you want to
do it quickly.
But there's times that you knoweither you have what they call
what a light period, or you havethe very heavy period, or maybe
(45:45):
it's just a mid in between.
But either way, the emotionsare the emotions, so never be
scared of it.
Learn from this show, becauseyou know what, Sarah, you,
you're teaching me a lot and I'mjust going to shut up now.
Speaker 2 (46:00):
Yeah, I mean, I mean, I think part of this work, too,
is all about, you know, healing.
Healing our experience, likeour early experience.
You know I help people walkthrough you know, remembering
your first period and writingabout it to heal, you know, to
(46:20):
look at that and heal it and andI'm I'm so grateful, like I
I've been talking to my daughterabout this stuff since she was
little and like just, it wasjust like a normal part of her
knowing.
So it wasn't anything, it wasno surprise.
And I think the more we'reaware, because you're right,
like our, our generation, ourmothers and then their mother, I
(46:43):
mean it was worse for them,right, because their mothers had
no information and that's thething.
It's a generational trauma thathas happened that needs to be
healed.
That, like you know, no onetalks like and I think, that's
why it's like we need to starttalking about it, you know, and,
(47:03):
and so it was like a non-thingfor her, for my daughter, and
like I'm not going to talk a lotabout it because I think she
would be mortified if I did.
But I think it's just they.
They are very different in herschool at least, about it, and
they provide products for them,like it's very much supported in
(47:26):
it.
And so I feel like that is areally important piece, that
it's not the like we bring ourbaggage with us of like all of
that stuff that wasn't, that washappening and that was real.
Like that's real for you andfor all of our experiences.
And I think the more that weeducate ourselves, even just
(47:46):
carrying the energy of like thisis a natural process, like
you're going to go through it,it's not bad.
Of like this is a naturalprocess, like you're going to go
through it, it's not bad, it'snot like a curse, it's not, you
know, terrible, it's just partof being a woman, it's part of
your natural process.
Like we.
This is literally a powerfulprocess.
I mean the fact that we are, wegive, we can give birth to new
(48:11):
life, like life.
This is all part of this powerthat women have held or have and
and that we have kind ofsuppressed.
Yeah, so, going back to that,but, um, I feel like there's
something else you said that Iwanted to comment on.
Speaker 1 (48:28):
I can't remember now so so I get brain fog all the
time, so I know.
Speaker 2 (48:33):
I'm going through changes.
Speaker 1 (48:34):
all the time.
I could be talking to myfriends and be like blah, blah,
blah and I'm like what did I say?
Like it's embarrassing to me.
And then sometimes for me,growing up with epilepsy, I'm
just like ah, and the one thingfor me I wish I had more
information on is because I haveepilepsy and if I don't sleep I
(48:56):
will have a seizure the nextday.
It doesn't matter if I take mymedicine or not.
The sleep was missing andthat's a price I have to pay.
And for some of my seizures itfeels like I'm dying.
I'm dying.
Are you taking me now?
Am I going Like that's real?
But I remember also, um, havingmy period while having a
(49:16):
seizure.
Oh, that was not fun.
That was not fun as a young oneUm so it feels good to talk
about this stuff even though theworld can listen.
Speaker 2 (49:27):
Yeah, I feel like that's so important.
This like it's just fascinatingto me how much is wrapped up in
it and all these like piecesand these trauma experiences
that have happened to us that wekind of just like don't process
because like where are yougoing to right?
(49:47):
I think it's so important forwomen to just even acknowledge
those experiences and how hardit was or how you know just how
you experienced it and what thatmeant to you and how it felt,
and all of that.
Speaker 1 (49:59):
I do got a funny story.
I can't believe it if I shareit.
You know what?
Screw it, sorry.
I said screw it guys.
You're going to have to listento this because it is all about
the period today, right, we'regoing there.
Listen to this, because it isall about the period today,
right?
When I was younger, I went on atrip with my friend, her mom,
(50:20):
sister.
We went to Galveston at thebeach, but of course me, I got
my cycle, so I was not going togo.
And my friend is like you'renot going to even try to put a
bathing suit on and I neededtampons.
So I was like, no, I will justsit here in the sand, blah, blah
, blah.
So she's out, she's having agood time, and she sees these
two cute boys I think we werelike 15, 16 at the time and
(50:44):
she's like please, water stopsblood, please go in the ocean.
Let's go buy you a bathing suit.
I want to talk to these guys.
And I go water stops blood, areyou sure?
And she's like yes, and so Ibought a bathing suit.
I was just like, just run, runto them and I did.
(51:07):
And she's like and it wasreally sad because the voice she
thought was cute was talking tome and I was like, oh, okay,
you know.
And I was like, okay, so waterstopped, you know, I don't feel
any issues and the good lookingguy goes I would love to take
you on a walk down the beach, Igo sure, let me go get my shorts
on.
They were white, oh, of course.
(51:30):
Yeah, they were red by the timeI got back.
He never noticed, everybody hasone of those stories you know, I
was like doesn't the water juststop it for good, you know?
And then, thinking about it, Iwas like I'm living in the ocean
that could cause a shark likeduh.
I was like what was I thinking?
(51:51):
Just to go out there.
But I just to this day I thinkabout that because I've seen
that stupid.
It's not a stupid movie, but itscares the crap out of me Open
Water.
I probably watched it 15 timesto scare myself.
Oh my gosh, I can't watch thatkind of stuff, yeah, and people
are like it's not really real.
And I was like of course itcould be really real, Like I
(52:12):
don't care what other people say, no in my life, I'd be in there
and I'd be eating just likethat you know, by a shark.
So but yeah, you just thedifferent things that everybody
has an embarrassing story andusually it comes when we're out
on a date hanging out withfriends or whatever it may be.
So there's so many terminology,things that can happen with
(52:34):
having your cycle and differenttiming.
Sometimes we don't get ourcycles.
You know that month and we'relike where did it go?
Why is it gone?
Why didn't it show up?
And then it throws our body fora loop.
I remember those times I waslike what's going on?
I want to be normal.
Speaker 2 (52:54):
Yeah, I definitely am in that phase where it goes 36
days, 46 days, 30 days, likeit's all over the place.
Speaker 1 (53:02):
but that that's to be expected Exactly, yeah, no, I
do have a question.
Speaker 2 (53:07):
Oh, go ahead Okay.
No no no, no, Go ahead.
Oh, I was going to say that'swhere, like paying attention and
tracking so you know where youare is really helpful.
Speaker 1 (53:16):
Yeah, yeah, that really is.
So I want to go into yourteachings and helping people.
Are you offering like coursesthat are on Zoom, or tell me
about that process?
Speaker 2 (53:36):
on zoom or tell me about that process.
So I have.
So I have a workshop that I do,um, I can do it online or I do
it in person, um, and it'scalled awaken your cycle wisdom
three strategies to relievestress and reclaim well-being,
and so that is like kind of likemy intro um workshop.
It's a two-hour live workshop,but again, I can do it online as
well, um, and that really justis like it introduces women to
(53:59):
this work and to ways that theycan start to incorporate this
into their life now, becausereally this work is, it's for
all women.
Like this, this work belongs tous like I am.
I am a, I call myself aconnector because I bring
information to people that tohelp them increase their own
(54:26):
self-awareness and increasetheir self-love and their
acceptance and all of that.
So this is like um, I take fromother people's work that has
really inspired and supported me.
So there's two books calledwild power and wise power, and
those books were reallytransformative as long with my
mentor, who one of my mentorswho helped me um, understand
(54:49):
like they're the seasons of ourcycles and so and that's a
really huge piece of the workthat I do.
But so I do that.
And then I also offer a 90 dayone to one program and that is
called the deeply connectedwoman and it's your 90 day
journey to embracing yournatural rhythms for radical self
(55:09):
care.
And that really is aboutholding yeah, holding a
container for women to tune intotheir cycle and track, track it
really intimately, with support, so that while stuff is coming
up, we can work through that.
They get, you know, six callsand it's really beautiful,
(55:30):
transformative work.
And it also works with um, likethe nervous system and helping
us really like be centered andgrounded in who we are, and with
tons of tools and informationand resources.
That is so cool.
Speaker 1 (55:44):
So would they go onto your website to book you, or
Would they go onto your websiteto book you or?
Speaker 2 (55:52):
So right now I don't have a website.
That is going to be in theworks soon.
I connect with people prettymuch on Instagram and it's Sarah
Rose Healy on Instagram.
They can DM me or they couldemail me.
We can give them my emailaddress.
Email me.
We can give them my emailaddress I also could give you.
(56:13):
I have a QR code for like for my30 minute discovery calls, if
people want my free discoverycall, so I can give you that as
well.
Just to you know we can.
We can get on a call and andlook at what's going on for you.
What you're struggling with themost because a lot of women
come on and they're strugglingwith they just don't know how to
like, they don't allowthemselves to.
(56:34):
What you're struggling with themost because a lot of women
come on and they're strugglingwith they just don't know how to
like, they don't allowthemselves to rest, or they're
struggling with overwhelm.
And we can talk, we can figureout what those things are and
and start to figure out a planthat is specific to you.
Speaker 1 (56:46):
Yeah, yeah, definitely.
Are you on Facebook at all?
Speaker 2 (56:51):
Because I know I yeah , yep, I'm on Facebook.
It's also Sarah Rose Healy onFacebook.
Speaker 1 (56:57):
Okay, good, good good , because the one thing with
Keep Hope Alive, we have thegroup page and now there's
another one called the VIP, soyou'll be able to sign up for
free, which is nice, so you canshare that QR code with the
people who are on the VIP listand everything.
So get that out there andspread it to the world and I'll
(57:17):
put it on our regular group aswell.
So, but, and then also I canadd it on the website at
wwwkeephelpalivepodcastcom,there is a storefront, but I can
share that QR code so they canscroll down.
I'll put a description there sothey can get that session from
you also.
(57:38):
Oh, awesome, yes.
Speaker 2 (57:40):
I would love that.
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (57:41):
Yay, I'm so excited.
Speaker 2 (57:43):
I have a free guide that I've created and it was
really something I created for,because I always am like I want
all the information that I wantto quickly reference in one spot
, and so it's.
It's a quick reference cycleguide and it's a key to
understanding the phases of yourcycle and it breaks it down, so
it's like what are the days,the seasons, like the strength
(58:07):
and weakness of it, and thingsyou can do to support yourself,
and it also has a graphic thatyou can put on your phone screen
.
So if you want a quickreference on your phone, I use
that all the time.
So that's a free, that's a freegift that I offer.
Speaker 1 (58:23):
Oh my, that is awesome.
Yes, and we're going to getthat on there too.
I'm just so excited.
I love all this because I thinkeverybody needs to know which
way they're going, especially me, because it's something I've
been thinking about.
But now you've got my braingoing a mile a minute going.
I better prep.
Not only that, if I'm datingagain, I better prep the guy
(58:48):
when I'm going to go through andsee if he really wants to be
around.
Speaker 2 (58:55):
It's an amazing time and you will just be in more of
your like, magic and potencyespecially coming into it with
awareness.
Speaker 1 (59:07):
Yeah, definitely, definitely.
I'm looking forward to it.
Then Bring it on 50s rightaround the corner.
That's right, exactly.
Well, I want to say, sarah,thank you so much for coming on
to the show and teaching us alot of stuff about our cycles
and just bringing us all thisawareness.
It's greatly.
And I love talking about thenext, because I was like, why am
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I sleeping so much?
And I'm learning that it was torestore and get more energy and
it's normal, and I just got tomake my 12-year-old son really
understand that now Because he'sso young, mom's getting old.
Let me take a nap.
Speaker 2 (59:45):
Believe me, I get that too, but you just have to
claim it.
Speaker 1 (59:48):
Yeah, I'm going to claim it.
Nap time Claim it.
It's like a little baby whenthey're sleeping, they get nap
time too.
After we get older, we need naptime.
But guys, yes, yes, it isamazing.
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wwwkeephopealivepodcastcom.
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It's like a voicemail, it'sreally cool.
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I will send it over to her ifyou have any questions and we'll
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Love and light.
Hello and welcome to Keep Hope Alive podcast.
Today I got Ms Sarah Rose Healyhere.
She's a cycle awareness mentorand a woman's empowerment coach
and we're going to be divinginto her story on everything she
does.
And she does restored naps andyou know me from past shows if
you watched them.
(00:23):
I was always on Ambien for fiveyears, so I have those stories.
But if you could teach me howto nap, that's great and welcome
to the show.
Thank you, oh, you're welcome.
So before we get started, I dohave a question for you.
Let's say we had a best friendand she was getting married and
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we were going to the wedding andeverything.
We're walking into the ceremonypart and to the right we saw
something we had to sign to letthem know we were there.
What would we be signing?
The guest book.
Speaker 2 (00:57):
I actually did that at the wedding once, so now, I
know, see, there's so manydifferent things.
Speaker 1 (01:03):
I hear the picture frame, I hear Jenga pieces, some
people I had somebody actuallysay their life away, and I just
kind of giggle at that onebecause, no, we don't sign their
life away.
But, however, life on Record isone of our sponsors here at
Keep Hope Alive and what they doinstead of the guest book.
(01:25):
This is so cool.
They have a vintage rotaryphone for the guests to pick up
and right next to it they put aQR code.
In case the line's too long,your guests can use their mobile
device and scan that and leavea message on that phone.
But you go on the vintage phone, pick it up.
Congratulations, you guys.
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We're so happy for you.
You guys are buried.
Long love, happiness and bestwishes.
Or maybe it's the groomsmansaying, hey, it's about time you
put a ring on her finger.
So all these messages I call itthe gift of voice gets collected
and they will either burn it ona 12-inch vinyl record and the
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whole thing is customized about.
You know so-and-so's weddingand here's the messages.
Or they have a little.
I call it the boom box, butit's a speaker and you know,
just think about it.
So let's say it's almost attheir one year anniversary.
They can sit back, eat thatcake that they're supposed to
save and listen to all themessages and just reflect back
(02:29):
on that big special day.
So it's great.
It goes for any different events.
Yes, I'm going to say funerals.
I think that is a key onefunerals, anniversaries,
corporate events.
I used it for my son's footballteam when a kiddo got hurt and
broke his leg.
We had everybody call in andleave a message for him.
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So it's used in so manydifferent ways.
Now you get the phone number.
I have to say number, becausethe phone is so cute You'll want
to keep it, but you have toreturn it.
You get it for one year.
Now, especially with weddings,I would say call back before
their one year anniversary andwish them a happy anniversary.
Their plans start at $99, whichis very, very good, and you get
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that gift of voice.
I love it.
To find out more informationabout Life on Record, visit them
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All right, so the biggestquestion we have today.
Another one, I love throwingquestions who is Sarah Rose
Healy?
Speaker 2 (03:33):
Well, I always find those kinds of questions like so
awkward to you know, you'relike where do you start?
You know, um, but I think Ithink where I want to start and
like kind of where I want to gonow is, um, really, when I
started to feel this calling todo this cycle awareness work
(03:53):
because that's what really it isis a calling because I never
thought I would be speaking andwriting online about periods and
menstrual cycles.
It wasn't like I was like I'mgoing to go, this is what I'm
doing for my life's work.
But over the last 10 years, andreally in the last five, after
my daughter my daughter ended upgetting sick with Lyme disease
(04:16):
and she needed me to be herewith her all the time and so I
was home for really like twoyears for like straight, for
really like two years for likestraight, without really leaving
because she couldn't, sheneeded me there.
(04:43):
But it was a time of that 10years ago, I started to question
things.
In different groups that I wasin, I was like why is it that we
don't talk about menstrualcycle awareness?
Like why is it that we don'tlike it's not part of like all
these different things?
(05:04):
Like it just started to likecome into my awareness and it
baffled me and I, when I wouldask questions, um, I wouldn't
get any answers and it wasreally frustrating Cause I was
like it's like this doesn't evenexist, it's like we don't, it's
not part of who we are, eventhough it's this gigantic piece
(05:25):
of the puzzle and the ancientwisdom that is within us.
And I know I'm kind of like noteven saying anything about
myself, so maybe do I.
Should I wait and talk?
Speaker 1 (05:34):
about no, you're all good, I'm drawn in.
I love hearing this.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
Yeah, so.
So I actually tried to do thiswork about.
I think it was about five yearsago where I was trying to help
people heal their period pain,but that wasn't.
It wasn't like this passion forme in that space, because the
part that I really love workingwith women on is their self
(06:00):
connection and selfunderstanding, because I I felt
like for myself when I wasmissing information about who I
was and how my body functionedand how I functioned.
I misunderstood myself and thenI judged myself constantly and
I had these expectations ofmyself to be a certain way, when
(06:22):
what I say all the time is asnot.
As women, we are not meant to bethe same all the time, like we
are not meant to function in alinear way.
We are cyclical beings and theinteresting thing that I find
fascinating is that men cycledaily.
Their home run cycles go up anddown daily.
(06:45):
Women cycle, so they cycle in24 hours and we cycle in a 28,
29 day.
It's, you know, varies, foreveryone cycle, but we live.
We live in a society thatfunctions in a 24 hour cycle and
that that's the productivitycycle that we're conditioned and
(07:05):
like indoctrinated into andthat we've actually never even
questioned because it's justlike that's been our reality,
right?
Yeah, I'm sorry if you hearbanging, but I live in an old
house and the heat is banging.
Speaker 1 (07:19):
So I don't hear anything, but that's cool yeah.
Speaker 2 (07:23):
So that was really like when I started to get
really like lit up about thiswork and then I was introduced
to another layer of it.
Oh well, I actually healed myown cycle and my relationship to
it through just starting to payattention and starting to pay
(07:44):
attention to like what I wasnaturally drawn to do, and it
like it wasn't a full conceptback then when I started it.
And now, looking back, I'm like, oh, that's what I was doing
and I know the why.
And so I remember a specificnight where it was like I think
(08:06):
I was probably just about tostart my period.
So it was like a few daysbefore.
When you know that like you getreally tired, you can feel more
cranky, Maybe you feel like youwant to withdraw.
And my daughter was going to doa tryout for a play and I just
was like it was like a longdrive with a lot of people and I
just I finally just like chosemyself and I was like ask my
(08:30):
husband if he would take her,not that he would always do that
, but I just it was I wasplanning on doing it, and so I
asked him to take her and I justlaid on the couch and did
nothing and like it was like notanything profound but it was,
when I look back, that was likemy turning point to claiming
what I actually needed to takecare of myself.
(08:51):
And and I've done this, likeit's grown over time to into
like a calling and the work thatI'm now doing in the world with
women, in the world with women,and that like it was this, that
was my restorative rest, wherethen I was able to be present
(09:14):
with my family later on in adeeper way because I paid
attention to what I needed andit made me a better mother, like
that's the other.
It's like this practicingmenstrual cycle awareness makes
me a better mother.
It makes me a better friendbecause I'm paying attention and
I'm I'm learning who I am on areally deep cellular, like
ancient, because there's thisancient blueprint within all of
(09:37):
us that has been ignored andsuppressed and repressed and
vilified and shamed.
And you know, it's like now.
I'm like doing research on thehistory of our cycles and it's
like mind boggling and soupsetting to learn about it, but
it's important, it's importantwork.
Speaker 1 (09:58):
Well, I hear you definitely with cycles and
everything.
I'm glad we're having thisconversation.
I really don't care on my end,who knows this about me.
But here let me throw this atyou See, what you know,
everybody does have a blueprint,but the people who have
actually had a hysterectomy fullovaries out, full Now I don't
know if this is a hormonal thing, because everybody's like I
(10:20):
don't know if this is a hormonalthing because everybody's like
no, we don't know what's wrongwith you.
I went to a top specialist forgynecology and cancer and all he
said is my blood work is likecows, chickens and horses.
And I was like oh, did you winall these awards here?
And he's like yes, and I waslike you just called me a farm
(10:43):
animal, I'm out.
Here is what.
He was like yes, and I was likeyou just called me a farm
animal, I'm out.
Here is what it was happeningto me.
So I mean, it's been yearssince I had that procedure, and
when they do my blood work, Ihear congratulations, aren't you
excited?
And I'm like I'm what?
(11:04):
Well, you're pregnant?
I'm not.
I'm not pregnant.
It's happened a total of ninetimes now and nobody can figure
it out and I have no answers.
So, but I've been.
If I look back at it, I've beenpregnant for three years.
I think it was funny because mydoctor is like well, you just
got tested again and I did.
And the lady who I'll neverforget this, she's like don't
(11:27):
say anything.
And I was going to tell her.
I'm a hard stick, that's all Iwas going to tell her and I
stayed quiet.
She got it on the first try.
I'm very happy about that.
But she's like aren't youexcited?
And I go no, you think I'mpregnant, don't you?
She goes it's right here,you're pregnant, you're pregnant
.
And it's like Christmas time.
And I was like, no, I had ahysterectomy and ovaries out,
(11:50):
there's no baby.
She goes Mary, I go I'm notMary from the Bible.
Speaker 2 (12:05):
So I was like God did not put a child right inside of
me.
So, yeah, I kid around with mydaughter.
It was an immaculate conception.
Speaker 1 (12:07):
Yeah right, I was like when is this going to
happen?
Speaker 2 (12:11):
That is really disturbing, to be honest, that
that's what's happening to you.
I mean, in a way of just like,how is that the way that they're
?
Yeah, how is that possible?
But how are they bringing thatto you with that lack of
awareness, like well?
Speaker 1 (12:29):
here's the crazy thing, I can't say the hospital
of his eye.
It was a really good one.
They're like we can't do this.
We got to send you to thisbigger hospital in Dallas.
They didn't even touch it.
I don't even think they wantedto.
You know, check it out honestly.
So I was in the hospital butthey found something more
(12:52):
concerning that they had to doan emergency surgery on.
So it kind of got overlookedand I'm still without answers.
But you know I'm not going toworry about it and leaving it in
God's hands, obviously.
But when we talked abouthormones and stuff, the
blueprint for me is confusingand I guess it's the way the
(13:13):
blood flows.
But you follow that.
And then I remember, as youwere talking too, when I did
have my cycles.
I wish I had a betterunderstanding of how not to let
the seven days go by and bemiserable.
The only blueprint.
I was like what is going tomake me comfortable?
Do I have my adult?
(13:34):
Do I have my Aleve?
Do I have a heating pad to helpme?
And then it just got so bad.
You know how women get really,really bad periods.
Mine was unbelievable.
So that's why I just I went togo see the doctor and get the
hysterectomy, but it's just kindof like a float, because you
(13:56):
are so right on.
That is, how can you be thebetter person while you have to
go through this?
So I'm sorry, I just had totell you that.
Speaker 2 (14:05):
No, I mean, this is a very common story, I think,
because there's such, there'ssuch misinformation and lack of
information out there aboutwomen's hormones, women's cycles
, and women feel like that one.
Their only choice to get betteris to have a hysterectomy.
You know, and it's not a wrongchoice, it's, it is.
It's, I feel like it's aproduct of like, of not.
(14:28):
There's not a lot of researchthat's been done on women and
their cycles and their hormones,and doctors don't get a ton of
training on menopause,perimenopause and just like
cycle awareness, and so that'swhy we're seeing so much
sickness, you know, dis-ease inwomen connected to their cycles,
(14:50):
because we have this hugedisconnection between because it
is a spirit, it's a group of,or I'm trying to say there's a
(15:10):
company called Red School andthey teach all about this work
and that they have coined itwomen's original spiritual
practice, because everythingthat we need to know about what
needs to happen for us is inthat.
And even if, even like you, arestill a cyclical, being
connected to the moon cycles,that's not something I like.
(15:33):
I love that, but I'm not.
I don't pay tons of attentionto it Yet I haven't really dived
deep into it, but I feel like Ithink it's just so important
for us now to really learn aboutthis so that we understand
ourselves and so that we aregetting, like we don't give up,
(15:53):
like you deserve to have answersand have someone who's going to
be your advocate.
And there are women, there are.
There are, you know, women'swellness practitioners you're in
like the like naturopathicworld that are going to be able
to dive deeper and give you moreinformation and even do, like
(16:15):
hormone testing and all of thosethings that you'd be able to
get a lot more information aboutwhat's going on in your body,
because that, you know, lack ofinformation and an answer to me
is unacceptable, like it is, andmy friend just talked to me and
she goes.
Speaker 1 (16:34):
she went there and she wanted to get answers but
they had nothing for her.
Yeah, and.
Speaker 2 (16:41):
I've come up against that myself where, yeah, I'm
going to, like I'm going to mywhat were they the midwives have
?
It's like I'm really one of myother.
Like passions is like empoweredwellness and like really
(17:11):
advocating for women, gettingthe answer.
Like not giving up and gettingthe answers and being advocated
for like self, like selfadvocating and and not going, oh
, it must be just me, right?
Instead, it's like no, thesystem is not designed to
support you.
We need to dig deeper than that.
(17:32):
Like you know, this is mysoapbox because I I get really
fired up about that.
Speaker 1 (17:38):
I was like what if we excuse me, guys, I'm still
getting over laryngitis.
What if we dug so deep andfound out like and if it's
spiritual awareness, what if wecould take away menopause?
That would?
Speaker 2 (17:52):
be so fun.
And the thing is is that PMS,you know, and menopause have
been, has been medicalized andmade to be like it's a syndrome,
right, Like PMS syndrome, and Itold myself I wasn't going to
(18:14):
talk about this today, but butlike.
Speaker 1 (18:17):
No, I want you to not these are it's, it's.
Speaker 2 (18:19):
This isn't to minimize what's going on for
women, because it is real, likewhat you experience is real.
But calling it a syndrome andputting it in the DSM as like a
brain based disorder is like,like it's maddening for one
thing, but it takes away thefact that these are signals from
(18:43):
your body giving youinformation about what is not
working, because your cycle hasactually been considered the
sixth vital sign, because itgives you all the information
Like something's not working,something's not right, and so
we're getting this information.
But it makes total sense.
(19:04):
Like it's not our fault.
It's not our fault because weweren't taught this.
No, like the information hasn'tbeen free flowing until you
know.
Now it's starting to be a lotmore you know out there, but you
have to do the research and itfeels hard, right.
It's like you're scratching thesurface of something that has
(19:25):
been suppressed for millennia,like it changed it never.
Like women used to be when theywere on their period, when they
were in their, on their moontime.
They used to be revered incommunities.
It was a sacred thing whereyou're tuned into like your
(19:46):
highest self, your intuition,like wisdom, and they were
revered and supported.
This is how it used to be, andI feel like it could be kind of
triggering to hear all thisstuff.
Speaker 1 (19:59):
You're like how did this happen?
I?
Speaker 2 (20:01):
don't know.
It's interesting and and and aswell.
I mean there's like specifictime when things started to
shift and it's kind of likegoing back to like the witch
hunts and all of that, whenwomen who are just powerful
medicine, women, healers, werebeing, you know, vilified for
(20:25):
just being.
You know who.
We, you know you probablyinterview a lot of these women
now, right, um, but this is like, um, like there was all this.
It feels like all thisinformation that was put out
about how menstrual cycles wouldlike kill crops could make men
(20:47):
impotent, like I literally readsomething the other day that was
saying it could kill the bees.
Like this is the stuff that wedon't even know.
That's been like running underthe surface, why we're walking
around feeling like, okay, Idon't want anyone to know I'm
buying tampons, right, likebecause there's been it's just
been a underlying whateverclimate of shame and hiding and
(21:13):
thinking this makes us whateverdirty, or all the things that
we've been, you know.
Think about all the things thatyou've been conditioned to
believe about your cycle, thatit makes you, you know you're
hormonal and you know, uh, butreally that's just your what
(21:36):
happens?
like when you get closer to yourcycle, you just have less
tolerance for that.
Closer to your cycle, you justhave less tolerance for that
Like there's almost like this,you don't feel everything is
acutely, and then it gets closerto your cycle and all the stuff
that you were like this didn'tsit well with me comes back up.
And that's why, like, this iswhere I work with women is about
(21:57):
looking at that stuff.
That's coming up and takingaction to make a change.
Right, instead of just beinglike I'm just being can I swear,
oh, you can.
Okay, I'm just being bitchy,right, it's like, no, you've
been dishonoring yourself for solong, not realizing that's what
(22:18):
you're doing, right, because wedon't even know.
And it comes up like you're likepower potency, you're like no
more, and but that's beenvilified about us, but instead
it's really about yourdiscernment and your ability to
be like I'm not okay with thething that that person said and
(22:38):
I need to go like have aconversation with them.
And so what I found as Istarted doing that, as I started
paying attention to thosepotencies, my PMS symptoms
started to go away and I waslike, and again like I want to
re-term the PMS word, but forright now it's understood by
many people.
(22:58):
So that's why I'm using it, sothat I would get to the point
where I didn't even know I wasabout to get my period anymore,
because I no longer had all thatstuff.
Because if you look at itthrough Chinese medicine, they
talk about PMS being blocked qi,which is life force energy, and
so when you start to clear theblocks, you release the blocks
(23:25):
in your life force energy andyou reduce your symptoms.
Speaker 1 (23:29):
Wow, I like that term .
Yeah, we're superheroes, yes,well, I think all women are
superheroes.
I mean, we've had to go throughall these cycles and it's a
learning experience too.
So but yeah, I remember gettingmean the first couple of days
and I didn't want to be mean,but that's just.
(23:51):
You know, with everythingfluctuating, it's like I felt
bad because I'd be like, justdon't talk to me, no, just let
me be, I need a couple of days,and I hated saying that.
And when my daughter finallygot older, she was, oh my gosh,
she was a clone of me.
So payback, like, get away, mom, okay, but you know, how is it
(24:19):
that women who have best friends, they can jump on the same
cycle?
Speaker 2 (24:24):
I mean that I feel like that's like the big mystery
, right, like.
But we pull the like.
I said to my daughter I'm likeyou pulled me into your orbit,
you know, because she pulled mein, and I mean, I think it's
just, it's.
I think it's what it's meant tohappen, like I don't, I don't
have an answer for that, but butwhat I did want to say is that
(24:46):
you're meant, you're meant topull away.
Like there is this need toseparate.
That is like a biologicalancient blueprint within you,
and we're like fighting againstit.
So it's causing friction, butlike and we also don't live in a
society that really supportsyou know, it's all about
productivity versus rest, and soI just looked at the clock and
(25:10):
it's 1111.
I love it, that's a good number.
Speaker 1 (25:14):
You're just like me.
That's a good.
That's a good number.
Speaker 2 (25:17):
But even just acknowledging, like sometimes
it's not even about takingaction, but it's like
acknowledging the fact that,like I am meant to pull away
right now, Like I'm meant to bealone, so where can I get, like,
where can I take time formyself in honoring that, even in
just a small like shift,because I think we tend to be
(25:41):
this like I have to do it allnow, right, and then it feels
overwhelming, but really it'slike it's an internal mental
shift and then a slow shift intohow can I do this in a
different way.
Speaker 1 (25:55):
Um, yeah, I, I had to make a joke.
It's a really bad joke, but I'mstarting to date again.
And I told this guy I only wantto date you for like three
years.
And he just started giggling.
Why I go?
Because menopause is going tohit.
And he goes oh, you're right.
It's like giving him the cardto go away.
(26:18):
But you know early signs.
I didn't know if it was andthat's where my doctor was like
no, she didn't really know.
But I remember I went on Amazonand bought one of those.
What is it?
It's like a neck fan.
And I was like, oh my gosh, andit's so funny because it really
cools you down.
(26:39):
And then that, compared to mylast job which is really funny I
had to dress up in a mascotoutfit.
Oh God, I didn't know there wasa fan inside it.
Nobody told me.
But I was outside dancing inthis costume and I got heat
stroke and it was not good and Iwas like, when we got the
(27:03):
costume off, I was melting.
I was like, oh my gosh, Iwonder if menopause is like this
heat stroke thing.
Like I started to think aboutthat, like I'm trying to prepare
myself for the years coming up.
When am I going to go throughand how can I make it better,
because I'm such a planner andorganizer.
What am I going to go throughand how can I make it better,
(27:23):
because I'm such a planner andorganizer.
Speaker 2 (27:26):
But drawing that pathway to knowing it's just, is
that something you teach people?
Yeah, I mean, you know, I'm Iam in perimenopause, I'm I'm 47.
And so I'm noticing andlearning all of this stuff now,
so I hopefully eventually willbe able to support women in a
greater way.
However, I am taking, um, uh,two women through my program
right now, so I hopefullyeventually will be able to
(27:47):
support women in a greater way.
However, I am taking two womenthrough my program right now,
and one of them is is inperimenopause as well, so I'm
learning so much about how tosupport myself.
Speaker 1 (27:54):
I want to know really quick I'm like jumping in what
are the symptoms ofperimenopause.
Speaker 2 (27:59):
I mean there's so many symptoms of perimenopause.
I mean there's so many and alot of the ones that have popped
up for me, and there's like abunch of surprising ones.
So like, obviously, hot flashesare like what most people think
about, but there's like brainfog, which is enough, and mood
swings because your hormones,like.
I have a graph.
I should share it with youafter, but it's like it shows
(28:22):
you like your, you know yourmenstruating years and then your
perimenopause years and it'slike, so like you wonder why
it's because you're getting, youknow your estrogen is dropping
and so and it's veryunpredictable and that's why it
can be so disconcerting.
And also because we haven't beeneducated on what it looks like
(28:44):
until usually we're in it, oreven then I've had talked to so
many women who are like myhusband thought I was going
crazy, like I didn't know whatthis was, and it's like to me
that like I want to help changethat, because I feel like when
you start practicing menstrualcycle awareness wherever you are
in your journey, like you canstart now, like it doesn't
matter Cause you can also I feellike you heal your past, you
(29:08):
know cycling self through thisawareness of like you kind of
have these like aha moments oflike oh, that's why like that
makes sense, but like increasedanxiety.
So that's one thing that I'venoticed a lot of like I never
used to be afraid to drive, likeI've driven all over the like
across the country, and like Ijust and now I have like anxiety
(29:29):
driving and I was like what isthis and that?
And so that was like cause itcan be like very um, uh, word
drops.
Dropping words is also another.
I have a couple of reallyamazing articles that explain
how perimenopause actually orlike menopause perimenopause
(29:54):
creates like a neurodivergencein your brain, because it's
literally your brain isliterally changing and rewiring
and you're becoming differentand so like that's the key is
that paying attention to what'sgoing on for you and then
working to to like supportyourself and there's like tons
(30:14):
of stuff out there now with likediet and then different things,
but really have to.
I think you have to do whatworks for you and know that like
you don't have to suffer, butit is very, it's a very
challenging time, and that ifyou want to go into the rest
piece, like in perimenopause,your number one, like one like
(30:47):
directive, is rest, because it'slike rest and rest more and
rest again and rest and thensaying no, like really
practicing discernment around,like what you're going to put
your energy in, because yourenergy is shifting and you don't
have the same amount of energy,and so I think part of what we
do is we fight against thisnatural shift and we want to be
(31:07):
able to keep going in the sameway that we've always been going
and we cannot, like it's justnot, like your body is not going
to allow you to, and when andagain, we live in a society that
expects us to blah, blah, blah,blah, and so I think that's a
lot of the reasons why I mean I,I believe in doing what works
(31:31):
for you and your life and howyou you know.
So I I don't have a judgmentabout, like you know, because
there's hormone replacementtherapy, there's natural hormone
replacement therapies thatpeople use so they can keep
going at that fast pace.
Speaker 1 (31:45):
Yeah, and I think for like the working women in
corporate America, like it'sgoing to be hard for them just
to say, oh, my change is coming.
So I had to change at work.
You know, the one thing Inoticed that I would do on my
lunch break I would take like apower nap for 20 minutes.
I would eat really fast, go inmy car, take a little power nap
(32:07):
and then go back to work becauseI felt like rest is really
important to me and right nowI'm unemployed.
Um, so I've been taking alittle more cat naps, but my
body, it feels like it's a catchup, a catch up, catch up moment
.
So that's important to keep theenergy going at the speed you
(32:30):
want it to still, but you haveto honor what needs to be done
to gain it.
It sounds like yeah.
Speaker 2 (32:36):
So yeah, and that's, I think, work that I would love
to support women and like whoare working in corporate America
to like how do you honor itwhile you're still doing like?
Because I think there's waysthat you can shift.
Part of it is knowing that youneed that and then trying to
(33:06):
find ways to incorporate,incorporate that into your life,
which is obviously easier saidthan done, but I feel like my
half of the battle is themindset shift into that it is.
Speaker 1 (33:14):
It is, and I know with my son like he's coming up
on breaks and stuff and on theweekend I think he noticed with
me like he likes to playPlayStation, the Madden football
stuff, and that's great becauseI know he's going to be on
there for an hour and I'm like,okay, you're using my big screen
TV, you sit up at the edge ofthe bed to play.
(33:37):
I'm taking my nap and I justput my AirPods in, listen and
I'm like dozed away.
But when I wake up, what do youwant to do?
Now?
I have like all this energy togive him my heart, my soul, and
he sees the difference too.
And so sometimes, as you know,I'm the same age as you, but for
(33:57):
me for me, not saying you Ifeel like I'm getting older,
because you start to notice atage 40 how fast the world is
turning and it's just going toblow by us, you know.
So you want to make use of thattime, but, like, because my
kids are 10 years apart and myson is so young, I already know
that I need to put myself in asituation of his direction.
(34:20):
He wants to go and playfootball, hopefully for OU, so
we're moving to Oklahoma and mydad is out there my mom, so you
know spending more time with thefamily and we have a church and
we have a school and he knowspeople already out there because
he spends a lot of time on theholidays out there.
So making this move is going toonly help, but finding that
(34:43):
direction and course is veryimportant in your life.
It seems like it's a timemanagement thing too, when
you're going through this Likeeverybody's thinking oh, I got
to do this, I have kids to raise, I got this and that, but when
are we taking the time forourselves?
And you're absolutely right, weshould.
We should know.
It's like football we need toplay, we've got to figure it out
(35:07):
.
If this happens, which way arewe going?
We can't run to the doctor allthe time because, you're right,
they don't know much about themenopause and stuff.
They'll probably be like take acold bath, you know we might
get that stuff.
They'll probably be like take acold bath, you know we might
get that.
But I think if people becamemore aware of what women go
(35:28):
through and these hormonalchanges were not going to be
thrown because, like I told you,that doctor that was a
specialist comparing me to afarm animal.
I mean, couldn't he just go tothe back and say hey, alexa, I
got this.
You know, come out with abetter answer than calling me a
farm animal.
Speaker 2 (35:48):
So yes, yeah, and I I love hearing you talk about
like you're centering rest infront of your kid and it's like
that's such a great modelingtool for like for them to see
you caring for yourself and howit re-energizes you like.
To me, that's that's where Istarted to heal my relationship
(36:10):
with rest, because I wanted tobe awake, alive and present with
my kid.
I have I have an only child andlike I want to be there and
witness everything.
And if I felt I found myselflike going through the motions
kind of feeling, because I waschronically exhausted and part
of it was like situationally inmy life, her, her sleep was out
(36:35):
of it was like reversed and so Iwas like staying up all night
with her because she was sickand and then I would sleep part
of the day and there's like theguilt piece, right that keeps
that we should be doingsomething else.
But I had to reframe that and Ithink I also had to change how
I because I wanted.
(36:57):
So I had this.
I'm going all over the place,this is my squirrel but I had
this conversation with myhusband and he was saying like
he hates sleep and he just likedoesn't care about it and
whatever.
And I was like I love it somuch.
But what I realized was that,like I said to him, I was like I
love sleep because it allows meto live my life and experience
(37:18):
it in a way where I feel goodand I'm alive and I'm awake and
I'm moving through it, and itnever like I've always needed it
.
But it's gotten even moreimportant for me during
perimenopause and these thestage because I literally can be
non-functioning if I do not getenough sleep and then I'm not
like my brain doesn't work well,I don't have clear thoughts,
(37:41):
like it's, like it increasesyour perimenopause symptoms and
so like part of why practicingmenstrual cycle awareness is so
important is that you can startto get an understanding of your
patterns and like your owncyclical way of being, if you
(38:03):
start to track, because you canlook back.
And I mean, sometimes I feellike these things happen.
An example, just so I can sharethem.
But yesterday was what was day17 for me and I looked back and
last day, 17, was like a roughday, like it was like low mood,
I couldn't get out of my brainfog, I was exhausted, I like
(38:25):
slept a full night but I couldnot like break through, and so I
rested a lot yesterday.
And now I wake up today and Iand I know now, like that I can
trust that I'm going to bedifferent tomorrow, that this
isn't going to last.
But before I would think I'mdoomed, like you know, like so
my self talk was be, would be,I'm never going to get better,
(38:49):
like this is how it's alwaysgonna be right, like when we're
in that it's easy to go downthat road.
But I knew, if I choose resttoday and I had something I had
to go to last night which Iwanted to be in a good headspace
for If I choose rest nowbecause I can, I work from home,
I work for myself it'sobviously harder and you have to
(39:09):
do different things that Iwould feel better today.
And even though I didn't evensleep last night really at all,
I feel like a different persontoday.
But I know it's because Ihonored what my body was asking
for.
So I made a note to my futureself that said next day, 17,
take the day off and do nothingand sleep if you have to,
(39:31):
because, because I know itserves me all month long and it
serves me.
And so this is what like we getto like we get to empower
ourselves around our cyclesversus.
Speaker 1 (39:44):
It's so funny because , as I'm looking for work, and
thank God, right now, I don'thave cycles, but could you
imagine, yeah, day 17.
I cannot work.
Speaker 2 (39:56):
No, I say you just call and sit.
Speaker 1 (40:00):
Oh my gosh, oh my gosh, you know, um, I know like
what overseas they let peoplethat work, sleep and stuff, and
that's probably really smart,because you're going to get more
energy out of that person ifthey can take a nap too.
Speaker 2 (40:15):
So I thought you said like.
So like Italy and Spainpractice siesta, so like the
businesses close between threeand five and everyone, like, has
lunch and then takes a nap orrest, and so I always say I was
born in the wrong countrybecause that works for me really
well.
And the other thing is, inSpain they just passed a law
(40:39):
where people get, I think it'sfive days paid menstrual leave.
Can you?
Speaker 1 (40:48):
imagine Okay America, where are you?
We're the same people Like someof those roles, yeah.
Speaker 2 (40:58):
Because women will be more productive if they're, you
know, if they're actuallyhonoring themselves during that
time, Like so this is like, yeah, that's the work that I just am
really lit up about, as you cansee.
Speaker 1 (41:15):
Yeah, well, no, it's called passion in what you do
and bringing awareness, and alot of people do need this.
I mean, I'm learning a lot fromyou today, but I'm going to put
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All right, let's get back tothis.
So I mean, we're going overwith your plan and everything
Like this is just amazing.
So people can gain theself-acceptance of what they
have to go through once theylearn everything.
And if you're a young listener,maybe you're 13 right now and
(43:49):
you're like ah, I'm trying tothink what age I got my period.
I think I was like 10 or 12.
Nobody will school prep to me.
That's a funny thing.
Mom didn't quite prep me thatwell, you know.
Um, so it is, and I heard myother friends weren't getting
prepped at all either, so it'dbe like we would go through.
(44:10):
Uh, mom, I'm bleeding.
Why is blood coming out of me?
Speaker 2 (44:14):
You know so we had to learn that To not know it is
scary, yeah, it is scary.
Speaker 1 (44:20):
So, but when you get it and then you learn about the
female body is going to changeon you.
That's a lot to take in at thatage because you're like, okay,
what's going to happen.
You know, of course and I'mjust saying I don't care your
breast they're going to develop.
You know all the differentchanges as you're going through
(44:40):
your cycle and period, whetherit's before, during and even
after.
So it's kind of like settingyour brain this is what's going
to happen when you're young.
You still have to go to school.
In your brain, this is what'sgoing to happen when you're
young.
You still have to go to school.
I remember sometimes it was hardto be in school because you're
(45:01):
raising your hand and whetherit's just going to pee or
actually being on the period.
So teachers sometimes wouldtell you no, and I would get up
from my desk.
I remember I had to do this afew times.
I go listen, I'm at my period,I need to change.
Okay, just go.
It's like the woman that we'retalking to as our teacher should
(45:21):
know this and it's happening tous and we're feeling, ah,
because what people don't like,especially men we're gushing and
it's not a good feeling.
So when you want to change, youwant to change and you want to
do it quickly.
But there's times that you knoweither you have what they call
what a light period, or you havethe very heavy period, or maybe
(45:45):
it's just a mid in between.
But either way, the emotionsare the emotions, so never be
scared of it.
Learn from this show, becauseyou know what, Sarah, you,
you're teaching me a lot and I'mjust going to shut up now.
Speaker 2 (46:00):
Yeah, I mean, I mean, I think part of this work, too,
is all about, you know, healing.
Healing our experience, likeour early experience.
You know I help people walkthrough you know, remembering
your first period and writingabout it to heal, you know, to
(46:20):
look at that and heal it and andI'm I'm so grateful, like I
I've been talking to my daughterabout this stuff since she was
little and like just, it wasjust like a normal part of her
knowing.
So it wasn't anything, it wasno surprise.
And I think the more we'reaware, because you're right,
like our, our generation, ourmothers and then their mother, I
(46:43):
mean it was worse for them,right, because their mothers had
no information and that's thething.
It's a generational trauma thathas happened that needs to be
healed.
That, like you know, no onetalks like and I think, that's
why it's like we need to starttalking about it, you know, and,
(47:03):
and so it was like a non-thingfor her, for my daughter, and
like I'm not going to talk a lotabout it because I think she
would be mortified if I did.
But I think it's just they.
They are very different in herschool at least, about it, and
they provide products for them,like it's very much supported in
(47:26):
it.
And so I feel like that is areally important piece, that
it's not the like we bring ourbaggage with us of like all of
that stuff that wasn't, that washappening and that was real.
Like that's real for you andfor all of our experiences.
And I think the more that weeducate ourselves, even just
(47:46):
carrying the energy of like thisis a natural process, like
you're going to go through it,it's not bad.
Of like this is a naturalprocess, like you're going to go
through it, it's not bad, it'snot like a curse, it's not, you
know, terrible, it's just partof being a woman, it's part of
your natural process.
Like we.
This is literally a powerfulprocess.
I mean the fact that we are, wegive, we can give birth to new
(48:11):
life, like life.
This is all part of this powerthat women have held or have and
and that we have kind ofsuppressed.
Yeah, so, going back to that,but, um, I feel like there's
something else you said that Iwanted to comment on.
Speaker 1 (48:28):
I can't remember now so so I get brain fog all the
time, so I know.
Speaker 2 (48:33):
I'm going through changes.
Speaker 1 (48:34):
all the time.
I could be talking to myfriends and be like blah, blah,
blah and I'm like what did I say?
Like it's embarrassing to me.
And then sometimes for me,growing up with epilepsy, I'm
just like ah, and the one thingfor me I wish I had more
information on is because I haveepilepsy and if I don't sleep I
(48:56):
will have a seizure the nextday.
It doesn't matter if I take mymedicine or not.
The sleep was missing andthat's a price I have to pay.
And for some of my seizures itfeels like I'm dying.
I'm dying.
Are you taking me now?
Am I going Like that's real?
But I remember also, um, havingmy period while having a
(49:16):
seizure.
Oh, that was not fun.
That was not fun as a young oneUm so it feels good to talk
about this stuff even though theworld can listen.
Speaker 2 (49:27):
Yeah, I feel like that's so important.
This like it's just fascinatingto me how much is wrapped up in
it and all these like piecesand these trauma experiences
that have happened to us that wekind of just like don't process
because like where are yougoing to right?
(49:47):
I think it's so important forwomen to just even acknowledge
those experiences and how hardit was or how you know just how
you experienced it and what thatmeant to you and how it felt,
and all of that.
Speaker 1 (49:59):
I do got a funny story.
I can't believe it if I shareit.
You know what?
Screw it, sorry.
I said screw it guys.
You're going to have to listento this because it is all about
the period today, right, we'regoing there.
Listen to this, because it isall about the period today,
right?
When I was younger, I went on atrip with my friend, her mom,
(50:20):
sister.
We went to Galveston at thebeach, but of course me, I got
my cycle, so I was not going togo.
And my friend is like you'renot going to even try to put a
bathing suit on and I neededtampons.
So I was like, no, I will justsit here in the sand, blah, blah
, blah.
So she's out, she's having agood time, and she sees these
two cute boys I think we werelike 15, 16 at the time and
(50:44):
she's like please, water stopsblood, please go in the ocean.
Let's go buy you a bathing suit.
I want to talk to these guys.
And I go water stops blood, areyou sure?
And she's like yes, and so Ibought a bathing suit.
I was just like, just run, runto them and I did.
(51:07):
And she's like and it wasreally sad because the voice she
thought was cute was talking tome and I was like, oh, okay,
you know.
And I was like, okay, so waterstopped, you know, I don't feel
any issues and the good lookingguy goes I would love to take
you on a walk down the beach, Igo sure, let me go get my shorts
on.
They were white, oh, of course.
(51:30):
Yeah, they were red by the timeI got back.
He never noticed, everybody hasone of those stories you know, I
was like doesn't the water juststop it for good, you know?
And then, thinking about it, Iwas like I'm living in the ocean
that could cause a shark likeduh.
I was like what was I thinking?
(51:51):
Just to go out there.
But I just to this day I thinkabout that because I've seen
that stupid.
It's not a stupid movie, but itscares the crap out of me Open
Water.
I probably watched it 15 timesto scare myself.
Oh my gosh, I can't watch thatkind of stuff, yeah, and people
are like it's not really real.
And I was like of course itcould be really real, Like I
(52:12):
don't care what other people say, no in my life, I'd be in there
and I'd be eating just likethat you know, by a shark.
So but yeah, you just thedifferent things that everybody
has an embarrassing story andusually it comes when we're out
on a date hanging out withfriends or whatever it may be.
So there's so many terminology,things that can happen with
(52:34):
having your cycle and differenttiming.
Sometimes we don't get ourcycles.
You know that month and we'relike where did it go?
Why is it gone?
Why didn't it show up?
And then it throws our body fora loop.
I remember those times I waslike what's going on?
I want to be normal.
Speaker 2 (52:54):
Yeah, I definitely am in that phase where it goes 36
days, 46 days, 30 days, likeit's all over the place.
Speaker 1 (53:02):
but that that's to be expected Exactly, yeah, no, I
do have a question.
Speaker 2 (53:07):
Oh, go ahead Okay.
No no no, no, Go ahead.
Oh, I was going to say that'swhere, like paying attention and
tracking so you know where youare is really helpful.
Speaker 1 (53:16):
Yeah, yeah, that really is.
So I want to go into yourteachings and helping people.
Are you offering like coursesthat are on Zoom, or tell me
about that process?
Speaker 2 (53:36):
on zoom or tell me about that process.
So I have.
So I have a workshop that I do,um, I can do it online or I do
it in person, um, and it'scalled awaken your cycle wisdom
three strategies to relievestress and reclaim well-being,
and so that is like kind of likemy intro um workshop.
It's a two-hour live workshop,but again, I can do it online as
well, um, and that really justis like it introduces women to
(53:59):
this work and to ways that theycan start to incorporate this
into their life now, becausereally this work is, it's for
all women.
Like this, this work belongs tous like I am.
I am a, I call myself aconnector because I bring
information to people that tohelp them increase their own
(54:26):
self-awareness and increasetheir self-love and their
acceptance and all of that.
So this is like um, I take fromother people's work that has
really inspired and supported me.
So there's two books calledwild power and wise power, and
those books were reallytransformative as long with my
mentor, who one of my mentorswho helped me um, understand
(54:49):
like they're the seasons of ourcycles and so and that's a
really huge piece of the workthat I do.
But so I do that.
And then I also offer a 90 dayone to one program and that is
called the deeply connectedwoman and it's your 90 day
journey to embracing yournatural rhythms for radical self
(55:09):
care.
And that really is aboutholding yeah, holding a
container for women to tune intotheir cycle and track, track it
really intimately, with support, so that while stuff is coming
up, we can work through that.
They get, you know, six callsand it's really beautiful,
(55:30):
transformative work.
And it also works with um, likethe nervous system and helping
us really like be centered andgrounded in who we are, and with
tons of tools and informationand resources.
That is so cool.
Speaker 1 (55:44):
So would they go onto your website to book you, or
Would they go onto your websiteto book you or?
Speaker 2 (55:52):
So right now I don't have a website.
That is going to be in theworks soon.
I connect with people prettymuch on Instagram and it's Sarah
Rose Healy on Instagram.
They can DM me or they couldemail me.
We can give them my emailaddress.
Email me.
We can give them my emailaddress I also could give you.
(56:13):
I have a QR code for like for my30 minute discovery calls, if
people want my free discoverycall, so I can give you that as
well.
Just to you know we can.
We can get on a call and andlook at what's going on for you.
What you're struggling with themost because a lot of women
come on and they're strugglingwith they just don't know how to
like, they don't allowthemselves to.
(56:34):
What you're struggling with themost because a lot of women
come on and they're strugglingwith they just don't know how to
like, they don't allowthemselves to rest, or they're
struggling with overwhelm.
And we can talk, we can figureout what those things are and
and start to figure out a planthat is specific to you.
Speaker 1 (56:46):
Yeah, yeah, definitely.
Are you on Facebook at all?
Speaker 2 (56:51):
Because I know I yeah , yep, I'm on Facebook.
It's also Sarah Rose Healy onFacebook.
Speaker 1 (56:57):
Okay, good, good good , because the one thing with
Keep Hope Alive, we have thegroup page and now there's
another one called the VIP, soyou'll be able to sign up for
free, which is nice, so you canshare that QR code with the
people who are on the VIP listand everything.
So get that out there andspread it to the world and I'll
(57:17):
put it on our regular group aswell.
So, but, and then also I canadd it on the website at
wwwkeephelpalivepodcastcom,there is a storefront, but I can
share that QR code so they canscroll down.
I'll put a description there sothey can get that session from
you also.
(57:38):
Oh, awesome, yes.
Speaker 2 (57:40):
I would love that.
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (57:41):
Yay, I'm so excited.
Speaker 2 (57:43):
I have a free guide that I've created and it was
really something I created for,because I always am like I want
all the information that I wantto quickly reference in one spot
, and so it's.
It's a quick reference cycleguide and it's a key to
understanding the phases of yourcycle and it breaks it down, so
it's like what are the days,the seasons, like the strength
(58:07):
and weakness of it, and thingsyou can do to support yourself,
and it also has a graphic thatyou can put on your phone screen
.
So if you want a quickreference on your phone, I use
that all the time.
So that's a free, that's a freegift that I offer.
Speaker 1 (58:23):
Oh my, that is awesome.
Yes, and we're going to getthat on there too.
I'm just so excited.
I love all this because I thinkeverybody needs to know which
way they're going, especially me, because it's something I've
been thinking about.
But now you've got my braingoing a mile a minute going.
I better prep.
Not only that, if I'm datingagain, I better prep the guy
(58:48):
when I'm going to go through andsee if he really wants to be
around.
Speaker 2 (58:55):
It's an amazing time and you will just be in more of
your like, magic and potencyespecially coming into it with
awareness.
Speaker 1 (59:07):
Yeah, definitely, definitely.
I'm looking forward to it.
Then Bring it on 50s rightaround the corner.
That's right, exactly.
Well, I want to say, sarah,thank you so much for coming on
to the show and teaching us alot of stuff about our cycles
and just bringing us all thisawareness.
It's greatly.
And I love talking about thenext, because I was like, why am
(59:28):
I sleeping so much?
And I'm learning that it was torestore and get more energy and
it's normal, and I just got tomake my 12-year-old son really
understand that now Because he'sso young, mom's getting old.
Let me take a nap.
Speaker 2 (59:45):
Believe me, I get that too, but you just have to
claim it.
Speaker 1 (59:48):
Yeah, I'm going to claim it.
Nap time Claim it.
It's like a little baby whenthey're sleeping, they get nap
time too.
After we get older, we need naptime.
But guys, yes, yes, it isamazing.
So, guys, like I said, you canvisit our website at
wwwkeephopealivepodcastcom.
(01:00:09):
Now, what's really fun on thewebsite, there is a leave a
message.
It's like a voicemail, it'sreally cool.
So you can leave Sarah amessage.
I will send it over to her ifyou have any questions and we'll
get that answered for you.
If you would like to become aguest on the show, there's a
guest intake form on the websiteas well.
We'd love to hear from you.
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But other than that, until ournext show.
Thank you for listening andwherever you find your podcast,
you will be able to find KeepHope Alive.
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So thank you once again, untilour next show.
Love and light.
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