Keeping Them Safe
Creating and implementing a new paradigm for educating adults how to protect children from predators and stop child sexual abuse before it happens.
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This episode provides some easy to follow guidelines for a "safe" and magical trip to visit Santa. There are tips for parents, guardians, and grandparents about how to ensure the visit is as magical as it can be and tips for Santa to ensure that there is no worry for the parents who bring their children.
This episode reminds us of the responsibilities of being an adult sponsor for an event for a group of young people. We consider what to think about before you go and how to approach the whole event in a way that ensures both safety and fun for all concerned.
In this episode we talk again about the mission of Keeping Them Safe and being an Alert Adult as the responsibility of each and every adult - if we want it to work. Listen and consider what it takes from you to become an Alert Adult and how you can ensure that happens by joining our effort.
This episode shares the story of a good and longtime friend of Sharon's who was molested by her father beginning when she was 10. Sharon shares Janet's story to raise awareness of the long-term consequences of taking no action and to reinforce the message of Keeping Them Safe. Learning how to be an Alert Adult is why Janet is willing to share her life with you.
Many times, we are challenged by what to do or say when something gives rise to a concern. We don't want people to think we are accusing them of doing something wrong or being a predator. However, we need to speak up because there is that concern that is to be addressed to ensure a safe environment. This episode talks about ways we can take the action to raise the concern, deal with our own conversations that oft...
The focus of Keeping Them Safe is on educating all adults about the ways we can create safe environments and prevent any child from being sexually molested. for over 50 years the professional community has used a particular approach that focused on educating children about prevention and adults about preventing it again. In addition, the professional community has had an eye on the most vulnerable and how to empower t...
This episode takes a look at what advance preparations and considerations can make events safer and more fun if they get your attention. We outline the specific vulnerabilities that are present when sponsoring, chaperoning, or traveling with children and young people that are not your own and the standards of behavior that you, as the adult, can and must bring to the situation to ensure a great experience for all invo...
This episode considers why it is important for all of us to take some responsibility for creating safe environments for our children and ourselves. It looks at how the professional community has responded to a mandate from the 1993 US Advisory Board on Child Abuse and Neglect and what's missing in their efforts. We also look at our Keeping Them Safe is a response to the mandate and why its' important for all...
Programs for children are designed to empower them to resist the overtures of a predator. They teach children to say "No!", run away and tell somebody when another scares them or makes them uncomfortable. This episode considers that the opportunity of programs for children could and possibly should be expanded to teach them how to establish and enforce personal boundaries in a world that expects them to be &...
This episode includes a Rachel Stanton, LCSW, who works with this particularly vulnerable population who talks with Sharon about what it means to these kids when we do our job as parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, and responsible adults to ensure a safe environment. If you are interested in contacting Rachel directly, please use this link: https://emdrintensivesboston.com/.
In this episode we look at what it is to be an "expert" and examine whether predators are "experts" in seducing our children. We also look at what it takes to become experts at identifying the risky behaviors that threaten the safety of our children and particularly look at the risks from other children.
As a society we are prone to "label" everything and everyone. Just think about the forms you fill out that ask you to check a box to say whether you are "married," "single," "widowed," or "divorced." Whichever box you mark labels you as a certain thing and you are then related to as that. This episode shares some ideas about the impact of labels on both those who have ...
We are learning about the behaviors that are common elements in the grooming process as we become Alert Adults. In this episode, we start to consider how the predator actually uses those behaviors to negotiate the steps it takes to go from meeting a child for the first time to accomplishing their goal of sexual abuse. We look at how the behaviors appear and how they forward each of the steps toward the predators goal.
This episode offers ideas for expanding the simple concept of most programs that educate children about prevention. The typical program teaches a version of "Say No, Get Away and Tell Somebody." As our goal is prevention by creating safe environments, in this episode we look at how to expand that conversation in a way that empowers our children to establish and enforce personal boundaries, not just stop pred...
In this episode we discuss some research that looked at those child molesters who are already working in the organizations that our children are part of. Who are they and how do we find them and eliminate the risk to our children? What, if anything, makes them distinct from the predators in our families and the volunteers in our organizations?
This episode considers why "good" parents, grandparents, and guardians need to make the effort to find out more about predators and how they operate. Why do we need to practice to learn and why do we need to be on watch all the time?
This episode explores the challenges faced by schools dealing with active shooter protocols while committing to create safe environments that thwart sexual predators. The challenges are identified and possible solutions offered that give parents and teachers a pathway to finding solutions that do both - or at least don't significantly compromise either.
This episode speaks about the core tenets of the programs of KEEPING THEM SAFE. We talk about what matters in the development of programs and why and what the program is intended to communicate and provoke.
In this episode we look at some suggestions based on the United Nations Convention on the Rights of Children to help school and organization staff and volunteers work with parents to establish the safest possible environment for children during the school year. The principles cited by the UN can help focus the efforts of concerned adults and guide the development of policies, procedures, and practices that work.
In this episode we discover some very clear, very specific ways that these potentially risky behaviors show up in reality. We see, from the mouths of predators, how they use the activities that we view as simple and normal to develop trust with children, parents, and communities.
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