This week in the Lounge, we had Willow stop by to talk with us. Willow is the type of person that gives meaning to the phrase "good things come in small packages." He brings such a warm and fun energy with him and he certainly brought it in this conversation. The three of us share a love of medical play and all things sharps-related. Don't worry if you don't know what that means. You'll find out in this episode. Parker and Willow talk about the headspace for pet play and what draws them to that type of play. Willow shares how being trans has influenced his life in kink. We talk all about edge play including hook suspensions, balancing safety with the need to learn and practice more extreme types of play, managing kink and vanillas lives, and so much more. Willow also shares a fun memory he had with our puppy pre-COVID.
Willow is a natural teacher and an engaging, inventive player with many years of experience in a wide variety of kinks. As a sadomasochistic switch, his classes are designed to speak to both the top and the bottom of a scene, (since without one or the other, you are left with his self suspension class!) Willow enjoys breath play, rope, pony play, needles, knives, and thuddy things and is now turning his years of experience on both sides of the reins into comprehensive classes on sadistic rope, venipuncture, and more! Kink is a core part of who he is and what he does, followed closely by ethical sluttery and a love of learning. Willow runs relaxed, hands-on classes, and is passionate about getting students engaged with the subject at hand. Along with his free pandemic classes on rope bondage, he offers private lessons where he can tailor the content to your interests, skill level, and really dig into the subject at hand.
Key topics:
● How to find the kink community even if you live in the backwoods of Kentucky
● Medical play: what is it and what can it look like?
● The risks and joys of hook suspensions
● Exploring the world of pony play
● Sex and dating as a trans man
● Coming out and family support
Resources:
● Willow on Fetlife: https://fetlife.com/users/582959
● Follow Willow on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/willowinrope
● Fetlife
● Rochester Erotic Arts Festival
● The Brief History of Human Suspension
● Safe Choking 101
● Trans Ally Tips
● Miss Mackenzee’s Sharps Intensive (Class is virtual):
https://black-thorn.org/events/2020-10-17-out-for-blood-a-sharps-play-intensive
Calls to action:
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● Follow us on Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/kiclounge
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● Miss Mackenzee Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/MissMackenzee
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● Parker Leigh Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/MissParkerLeigh
● Parker Leigh Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/miss.parker.leigh
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