Navigating Kinky, Non-Monogamous, and Lifestyle Relationships
What does it really take to build healthy, shame-free, and joy-filled relationships in kink, non-monogamy, and lifestyle spaces?
In this episode of Kink Your Way, I’m joined by Dr. Ashley—Sexologist, Relationship Coach, and proud member of the kink and swinging lifestyle communities. With nearly two decades of experience and a “no-nonsense, don’t f*** around” approach, Dr. Ashley helps individuals and couples break free from shame, guilt, and unhealthy control to create relationships rooted in authenticity and joy.
We explore what it really takes to navigate kinky and non-monogamous dynamics, how to deconstruct sex-negative narratives, and why communication and self-knowledge are at the heart of every healthy relationship. Dr. Ashley also shares how her own journey of sexual liberation, survivorship, and mental health advocacy informs her coaching practice.
If you’ve ever wondered how to move through stigma, set boundaries, and build thriving relationships in lifestyle communities, this conversation is for you.
Key Moments We Discussed
Dr. Ashley shares how her journey of sexual liberation, survivorship, and healing informs her coaching.
I reflect on my own journey within the kink lifestyle and how those experiences shape my coaching approach.
We talk about how it’s absolutely possible to have children and balance lifestyle relationships.
Dr. Ashley unpacks how shame and guilt often show up in kinky and non-monogamous relationships, holding people back from full self-expression.
She offers her best advice for newcomers to lifestyle dynamics—emphasizing communication, education, exploring proactively instead of reactively, clear boundaries, and pacing yourself.
I share my experiences with my introduction to kink, finding community, and exploring different roles.
We explore how power dynamics shift across all types of relationships.
Together, we discuss the unique challenges kinky and non-monogamous couples face compared to traditional monogamous ones, including jealousy, multiple desires, and agreements—while showing how communication is key.
We highlight the importance of realizing you don’t need to be everything for your partner.
Dr. Ashley outlines supportive tools for trauma survivors such as coaching, therapy, education, community, and self-awareness practices.
I share my own healing as a trauma survivor and how kink gave me empowerment through choice and control.
Dr. Ashley challenges the myth that kink or non-monogamy leads to unstable relationships, stressing that intentionality and honesty build success.
She speaks openly about living with Bipolar and ADHD, and how her transparency helps clients see that thriving relationships are possible.
We close with a discussion on how stigma, slut-shaming, and sex-negative narratives continue to impact lifestyle communities—and how breaking them down creates true freedom.
Episode Resources:
Dr. Ashley:
Website: https://www.relationshipandsexualhealthcoaching.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-ashley-81680b309/overlay/contact-info/
“Just The Tip” Blog https://www.relationshipandsexualhealthcoaching.com/blog
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