December 15, 2023 • 43 mins
Let's talk 2024! We have compiled a list of the most recognized sex days all nice and neat for you. So sit down with us and lets plan a kinky 2024
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casey (00:00):
well, welcome to one of the final episodes of come with
Casey of the year of the year.
I should probably add that in ofthe
kari (00:09):
year, not forever.
casey (00:11):
No we're going to keep this going for as long as you'll
have us, the audience will haveus, but we're closing out where
we're coming up nearing likemidway point of December.
We've had a lot of fun thisyear.
kari (00:27):
You know, it's actually been crazy to structure and
organize out the podcast the waythat we have.
We, we do have a solid routinenow at this point.
But I wouldn't say this cameeasily for us.
No, sometimes There was a lot oftrial and error with our show.
There was a lot that we had tofinger out together.
Yeah.
And, yeah.
We
casey (00:45):
fingered out a lot of stuff together.
Yeah.
We were just continuouslyFiguring things out.
And so, we, we've, we've done alot.
There's episodes that we've donethat have been completely
improvised.
Like absolutely.
kari (00:57):
So we do this like show notes that we'll share together
and we'll kind of like createthese concepts and we've done
that.
Or like you said, we'veliterally just sat down and
start talking and then kind offigured out what happened
casey (01:07):
as we went.
We have like a broad topic wewant to discuss, but we don't
really have a plan for it, whichI prefer it that way.
It allows us a lot more room.
Do we go on a lot more tangentsand change up subjects a lot
more?
A
kari (01:19):
little bit.
Yeah, we do.
A little bit.
But whenever we have such likethese like broad topics that
we're trying to like discusswithin like an episode, I
understand how we can kind oflike veer off a little bit.
Oh, for sure.
I, I will say our show noteshelp us.
Mm hmm.
But this whole like sitting downfucking recording, I love that
too.
But let's go ahead and get, no,no, no.
(01:39):
No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no,no.
No, actually go ahead.
Go ahead, baby.
casey (01:43):
What are you going to say?
Yeah, you're right, I'm going tosay it.
Go ahead.
As we, as we, this year, we'vehad a lot of good experiences
and we want to take a fewminutes to discuss some of the
people that we've been able tocollaborate with this year and
not only the things that we'vedone with them but what they
have coming up.
So first, actually yesterdayeven, so at the time that you're
hearing this, it'll be a fewdays after.
(02:04):
But yesterday we went out and wedid an outdoor shibari shoot.
Our first ever.
kari (02:10):
Very first for us.
It went really well.
We had fun.
It went really well.
So we live in, in North FortWorth and there's this park
that's close to our house.
And we walk throughout this parkoften and, and we had kind of
like found this like slightlysecluded area, but this tree in
this area
casey (02:31):
is like, it was straight up.
It's Tim Burton, Tim Burtonfilm.
It's
kari (02:33):
the coolest walking tree I have ever
casey (02:35):
seen.
So if you want to come out andtake some photos.
We
kari (02:38):
will let you know where to go, but like coolest fucking
tree.
So we knew that we wanted toshoot there.
But yeah, this was our firsttime taking what we do into an
outside environment and, andalso not only an outside
environment for us, but a.
environment for our photographerbecause she's never shot
casey (02:59):
there before.
No, not in that particularlocation.
She's done outdoor work.
She's done indoor work as well.
But this was, so as we mentionedbefore, Carla
kari (03:06):
Renee intimate, we're talking about Carla, Carla,
Renee
casey (03:10):
intimate.
She does insanely good boudoirphotographer and she does do a
decent amount of outdoor stuff.
This was one that she came metup with us like right around
dusk and we went out there and Ispent about 20 minutes getting a
harness on Carrie.
And putting a couple of lines onthe tree.
We didn't do full
kari (03:28):
suspension.
No, not for this.
We were a little limited withthis time.
I mean, as you'll, most of y'allunderstand this time of year,
like the sun sets early
casey (03:36):
and this was
kari (03:37):
also covered.
Yeah.
It's also cold.
So, I imagine we're going tohave some pretty kick ass shoots
later next year, whenever itwarms back up.
But for us having such a limb.
Location limited concept.
We just knew you were going totie me up I don't even think
that you had an idea on what tieyou were technically going to do
(03:58):
at that point It was just amatter of like let's get
outside.
Let's try something new andlet's have our You know very
talented photographer meet usthere and it it really it worked
casey (04:09):
out.
I know the test shots that we'veseen Yeah, they're gonna look
good.
We can't wait to release them toeverybody and carla is a fucking
magnificent photographer So ifyou get an opportunity check out
her stuff Carla Renee Intimates,where you get the opportunity to
book a session with her, withboudoir, or with whatever it is
that you want to do.
She takes limited clientele, soit's, it's, it's very, very
kari (04:31):
I think you just gotta like, pique her interest at this
point, you know?
Right.
Like, make what you want.
I'm super interesting.
And then she is fucking down.
Yeah.
Like picture.
casey (04:40):
Exactly.
Just pitch her on
kari (04:41):
your idea, but in all honesty, while we're talking
about her, we're going to go tothe next concept and, and, and
to do with her.
She also works lovers.
It's called lovers, right?
Irving Irving.
I mean,
casey (04:53):
they have a bunch of locations.
Well, I w I
kari (04:58):
would.
So I'm going to talk about her,but you know, we talk a lot
about, you know, going to a sexshop and being there with your
partner.
And I feel like sometimes peopleneed that, like comfort before
they even walk in.
So let's give you someone thatwe know that is very well
educated, super personable.
Again, this is Carla.
(05:18):
She works at Lovers in.
casey (05:25):
We just said
kari (05:25):
Irving.
Irving, whatever.
It's all the same to me.
If you're not for words, it'sall the same.
But she works out there and oneof the things I love about her,
if you end up following heronline, she'll post a lot about
new things that they have in theshop.
Yes.
She's, she's very informative asto the new toys that they have.
So if, if you and your partnerwant to go to a sex shop, but
you just still have that likelittle level of like
(05:47):
nervousness, go to someone thatwe then recommend.
This isn't just like some rando.
You can go in there, you can askfor Carla.
And, and again, like howpersonable she is with us.
I know she's going to be thatway with you because it's just
who she is as a person.
But I love going to sex shopwith you.
I mean, I feel like we findevery opportunity we
casey (06:06):
can.
That's because we have fun.
We go in, we speak at a, at adecent, you know, normal volume.
We're not even there whispering,pointing at stuff from across
the room.
I'll be across the, across theshop and be like, Carrie, check
out this vibrating butt plug.
Come here.
kari (06:21):
But I mean, and I love that we are like that, but not
everyone is.
So we say this to tell you,like, be comfortable, go with
your partner.
If you are, you know, nervousabout going to someone that you
don't want to ask questions to,we get that.
casey (06:34):
It's okay to be, it's okay to be open.
It's okay to, to talk about it.
Like you're in a place withprofessionals.
And they are more than happy toshow you different items and
take them out of the boxes It's
kari (06:45):
their job like sex shops are not like Crazy busy places.
So when someone comes in,they're like, please talk to us,
please, please let us help you.
And they've got
casey (06:55):
a lot to show.
They've got a lot, a lot, lot,lot to show.
So thank you, Carla, foreverything you've done for us
over this past year with ourvarious photo shoots and advice
on some great sex gadgets,because there's been a decent
number of it.
So that's pretty cool.
We also have our other friendswho are the just greatest
showman.
I don't know, I can't wait forthis.
(07:27):
For the last six to eight monthssomewhere right in there.
I think it started in august
kari (07:32):
Somewhere in there this show started in august.
They've been performers
casey (07:35):
for But they're they do the first friday of every single
month at the cicada in fortworth It's an amazing gothic
themed burlesque show If youhave not gotten to go to one go
all of their tables sell out allof their couches sell out Their
ga typically sells out at thispoint.
So it's a massively Yeah,popular thing to do.
And so what they're doing isthey're putting on a special
(07:56):
show for Christmas on December22nd, which is called Nightshade
before Christmas.
It's going to be a Tim Burtonthemed shot where we already
have our table secured.
I believe they just said thatthere's like one table left and
then there's owner owner's boxtickets left and there's GA
left, everything else is sold.
Out.
This is going to sell out fully.
(08:17):
It's going on at tulips and Fortworth on December 22nd.
So check that one out too.
And then they also have there'sJanuary show, January 5th is
going to be the first nightshadeburlesque of the year at the
cicada.
So make sure that you're at anyof those come and say hi to us
whenever you do and then youknow
kari (08:34):
Buy us a drink when you do.
casey (08:36):
Yeah, hang out with us.
Tell us tell us about your sexlife.
Ask us questions It's ourfavorite topic But there's
there's so much coming up inthis new year And if you follow
on our Instagram page, you'velikely seen already We need to
go ahead and get right into thisbecause we have so much to cover
today We have a lot where it maynot even get done with the the
whole thing In this episode, wehave to continue on, but what
(08:58):
we, we did is we pulled fromvarious sources across the
internet.
We looked at various days thatare considered like actual
Celebrated sexual days and onesthat are considered like a
sexual celebration day.
Yeah, and there's a lot of them.
Holy shit There's like 30 ofthem throughout.
We have
kari (09:13):
a lot and we we s a casey.
It's casey compiled an entirelist.
So that's what we're going to goover like it's it's december
We're going into January.
We're going into a new, a newyear.
This is the opportunity to doeverything that you missed out
on in the year before like youwant a new year's resolution
Here you go, like fulfill
casey (09:33):
this list be your intimate sexual sexy self
kari (09:36):
with your partner Exactly there's no reason why 2024
cannot be the sexual liberationyear for you and so again casey
sat down and and like sourcedout all these different lists of
themed days for the year.
Yeah, let's kick it off.
You said like what, fucking 30?
casey (09:54):
Yeah, there's something like 30 of them.
I even looked through and went,it looked like, I think it's
October that has the most,between October and July.
Those two months have the mostdays that we celebrate.
But we're gonna kick it off withJanuary.
So starting off with January13th, write all these down.
January 13th is Sex in theShower Day.
kari (10:12):
That one is so easy and so
casey (10:15):
rewarding.
I hear that like mixed.
I hear some people are like, No,sex in the shower sucks because
water gets everywhere and itspenetration isn't super easy.
Okay.
So don't do penetration.
Do something else.
Or also
kari (10:26):
take out of your, or yeah, or take out of your mind that
sex means coming.
Sex does not mean coming,intercourse does not mean
coming, you, you, you and yourpartner can take a shower
together, fool around a bit,like you just said, give each
other head in the shower.
We love doing that.
We love doing that.
I don't think I've conditionedmy own hair in like years.
(10:47):
That's like
casey (10:48):
our, that's our ongoing deal that we
kari (10:50):
have.
Yeah.
You condition my hair and I giveyou head every time guys, every
single time.
Yeah.
That's, I mean, that's, thisisn't head to come.
Yeah.
It's not.
It's just, I'm going, we have astool in the shower, I'm going
to sit on the shower, you'regoing to run a conditioner
through my hair, and as I sit,and my eyes are straight,
(11:10):
there's a dick.
Might as well.
Yeah.
casey (11:13):
Might, might as well.
Provide the pleasure.
Yeah.
Enjoy it.
You know,
kari (11:18):
and then like massage your girlfriends or partners or
whoever the hell's giving youhead.
Like it, it's just a greatexperience.
casey (11:25):
Work the conditioner in, you know, grab them by the back
of the hair.
Do
kari (11:28):
your own thing.
Shove it in.
Yeah.
So this is January 13th again.
So January 13th is a sex in theshower day.
I wonder where these actuallylike Who determines these in a
sense, I'm sure it's such acollective sense.
So the
casey (11:44):
vast majority of these kinds of things come through and
it becomes, you know, it wasposted one time on urban
dictionary or through some groupand then people went, Oh, that's
cool.
And so more and more peoplestarted posting about it and
doing something about it untilit becomes a staple.
And so these are, these are theones that we came up with that
we were like, all right, we're,these are where we saw them the
most.
This isn't from one source.
(12:05):
This is like, over all thesources, these are the ones that
continuously popped upconsistently.
So January 15th, actually, isFetish Day.
Fetish Day.
If you don't know what a fetishis, it typically revolves around
arousal from an inanimateobject, or from various body
parts.
Yeah.
It also differentiates from akink in the fact that fetishes
(12:27):
Typically, a person hasdifficulty, if they do have a
true fetish, they havedifficulty becoming aroused
without this particular thing.
So you can lean into that asmuch as you want to, but this is
a good day to examine your ownsexuality.
Be like, do I have any fetishes?
Is there something out therethat just beyond all else just
gets me going?
(12:48):
And if
kari (12:48):
you don't feel like you have one, maybe take this time
for you and your partner to sitdown and look some up.
Because I feel like some peopledon't fully understand like all
the vast options of what afetish can be.
It is not limited.
There are like unmeasurableamounts of fetishes.
(13:10):
And what we're trying to saywithin this day like you maybe
don't know that you have one.
Utilize this time to explore, tofigure out maybe I do have one.
Maybe my partner has one thatthey have never communicated
with before.
Utilize this time to open up theconversation to a fetish and
what that could mean to you andthen what that could mean to you
(13:31):
and your partner.
Yes,
casey (13:32):
absolutely.
And to add to that point,whenever it comes to something
like a fetish, a lot of peoplegrew up in a, in a world where
they were like.
Yeah.
Oh no.
Careful.
Watch out for fetishes.
That kind of stuff.
But no, the reality is, isgreat.
You've now discovered somethingthat arouses you sexually.
Awesome.
Can you incorporate that?
And is it harming yourself nonconsensually, then get the fuck
(13:55):
out of there.
But if you can find somethingthat you're like, wow, I really
enjoy this.
It arouses me.
I want to do it.
My partner's cool with it.
We're doing this consensually,then fucking enjoy it.
So take fetish day as a time toeither.
Engage in one of your favoritefetishes, or B, to explore some
new fetishes.
And talk
kari (14:14):
to your partner and try to figure out what their fetishes
are, too.
Exactly.
casey (14:18):
Yeah.
Great day.
Okay, so, let's head, we're now,there's only two in January.
Yeah, I was about to say,there's only
kari (14:23):
two in January.
And then there's
casey (14:25):
only one in February.
February.
And February is February 7th.
It's, this one is geared towardspeople that work from home.
Because it's work naked day.
Work naked day.
Work naked day.
Work naked
kari (14:36):
day.
I am a hairdresser.
Do you know how unpleasant thatwould be to work
casey (14:41):
naked?
Hair
kari (14:41):
splinters.
Color.
All kinds.
I mean, just, I stand in amirror all day.
Do you think I'd want to standin a mirror all day and look at
my naked body?
That would be so
casey (14:53):
unpleasant for me.
Now where people can benefitfrom work naked day if you are a
sex worker.
Or, you know, you're working in,in, yeah, you're working in a
strip club or you're working.
Yeah.
kari (15:06):
I'm literally thinking like an office job.
I work
casey (15:08):
at home.
Yeah.
That's what, were you notlistening?
What I said just then?
Probably not.
Yeah, I know.
I'm very aware.
You missed my point entirely.
So while this can be gearedtowards people that work from
home, also, if you are some formof a sex worker, this is your
time to celebrate too, becauseyou're already working naked.
So now you just get a chance tobe like, Hey, I'm just, yeah,
I'm diving into it a little bitfurther.
(15:29):
Yep.
Yep.
kari (15:29):
But also if say like you are someone like me, I'm a
hairdresser.
I can't work naked.
That does not mean that I can'tgo into the bathroom and send my
partner a naked selfie.
That's very true.
I'm at work.
And I'm naked.
There are ways to fulfill whatthe day is without it being so
literal.
No, we can't all work naked allday.
(15:52):
Casey, I'm pretty sure yourclients, your patients don't
want you to adjust
casey (15:56):
them naked.
I do not want to lose mylicense.
Thank you very much.
Like,
kari (15:59):
that could be really bad, but that doesn't mean that you
can't go into the bathroom andsend me a little naked selfie
casey (16:06):
for you.
Okay, okay.
So that's the only one inFebruary and now we move on to
March.
We're hitting March 3rd I can't
kari (16:12):
believe there's not one on my birthday in March.
I mean either.
I'm annoyed.
Wait, hon.
casey (16:16):
Oh, man There's just totally one not on your
birthday.
Oh Who would ever think to notput one on Carrie's birthday?
Rude
kari (16:26):
ass bastards.
Selfish.
casey (16:29):
Good lord.
March 3rd is threesome day.
Oh.
Go out and have a threesome.
Do it.
We recommend it.
You
kari (16:35):
know, and, yes.
casey (16:36):
You wanna spend some, wanna spend a couple minutes
talking about this?
kari (16:39):
Well, I mean, in a way I do.
Like, this is a time for y'allto plan something.
You're just getting out of thenew year.
What if your new year resolutionis to open up y'all's
relationship?
Cool.
You've had that time in January.
You talked about it in February.
If you know right now, you'relistening to this episode in
December.
And you know that you want tohave a threesome, you now have
(17:01):
three months to plan that shitout.
That's true.
casey (17:04):
You got three months.
Well, and you can think of itlike this.
Let's give it like a quickbreakdown.
So there's a few reasons why youwould want to have a threesome.
It creates a new sexualexperience for you.
It generates a ton of fun ifdone correctly.
It's a good way to exploresexuality.
It plays into sexual altruismand as well as allows you to
start looking at sexualcompromises on a deeper level.
(17:25):
So there's some really greatreasons to actually engage in a
threesome.
There's also, you know, somedecent ones not to.
If you're, if you're people thatare like, we've thought about
it, but so never have athreesome just to gain access to
a person.
So what I mean by that is saythat, say that there was a
Bisexual girl that wanted tosleep with you, but then she
(17:46):
compromised by adding me in.
So she's trying to get to you,but she's like, well, I guess
I'll also sleep with him too.
No, threesomes don't work welllike that.
Threesomes work well whenevereveryone is attracted to each
other on all
kari (17:57):
levels.
All parties are consensual andwanting.
casey (18:00):
Yes.
Another great reason not to haveone is intoxication.
Consent needs to be given.
Now, if y'all have alreadygotten together and you're all
consenting to it, wheneveryou're all sober and everything
like that, and you're like,we're going to go out tonight
with the intention of doing thisand you have a drink or two just
to loosen up a little bit,you've already consented in the
beginning, but it's best ifyou're able to.
(18:21):
You know, have complete controlof your cognitive faculties.
kari (18:24):
Yeah, don't just be out with your partner and then y'all
start talking to some girl anddecide that's gargantuan.
Yeah, or guy.
Honestly, that's just a badidea.
Yeah, anyone.
But that's just a bad idea.
Yes.
All the way around.
casey (18:35):
And then the other one, other big one not to have a
threesome is coercion.
Like, if, if I were to,Manipulate you into having one
because I wanted to sleep withsomebody and I coerce you into
doing it.
That's, that's dishonest on alllevels.
That's a violation of trust.
That's a violation of boundariesand a terrible way to go about
doing it.
If your partner is not into itand to the idea, even then it's
(18:56):
best that y'all compromise insome other way.
You'd like watch threesome pornor use a dildo
kari (19:01):
or you find yourself March 3rd and y'all are really
passionate about this.
And a threesome is just not iny'all's wheelhouse.
Watch a porn together.
Or sit or like watch a threesomeporn together or sit down and
like maybe fantasize together.
Yeah.
If I was to be in a threesome,this is what I would really want
to happen.
Just because we're going overthis list doesn't mean that Oh,
(19:23):
that's what you have to do.
Like just.
Utilize what the idea is or whatthe theme is for that day And
then how can you put it intoyour relationship and make it
work?
Absolute best cuz
casey (19:35):
days like that like like a threesome day if you're in a
couple that's like no This isnot something you want to do,
but you'd like to explore thefantasy of it Yeah, you can
literally be in bed together andjust talk about what would you
do if we were in this?
What would?
I do.
What would I want to see?
What would I want to experience?
Engage the senses and talk withyour partner while you're having
sex and that could itself can bea great experience.
kari (19:54):
And be really playful with it.
Don't try to get bogged down onlike what you think could happen
in a threesome.
If you are going into it as thislike fantasy concept and you're
just having a conversation withyour partner, leave the what ifs
out of it and really just playinto what you would want.
To then happen because again,this is just this is a playful
thing to do with your partnerAnd I know threesomes a lot of
(20:17):
people get really nervous inthat concept But I will tell you
it starts with the conversation.
Yes, just having theconversation with your partner
That could mean three years fromnow.
You finally have a threesome.
Who cares, but utilize thistime.
And maybe in March utilize thisday to really figure out what
your wants and needs could bearound the subject for sure.
casey (20:39):
See, I love it.
And we're going to have anotherupcoming episode that is like a
very deep dive into threesomeculture and how it works.
Yeah, we're going to move on fornow.
Cause we have so much to talkabout.
These next two are funny becausethese next two I don't want to
call them like vindictive, but Iwant to be.
A little bit.
How many men petitioned forthat?
(21:00):
How many?
A guy's response to valentine'sday, which I'm already like,
wait, valentine's day is aboutyou as a couple anyway,
kari (21:09):
if you celebrate it.
I hate when people are like, oh,valentine's day is just about
the woman and the romance.
No, it's not.
casey (21:15):
Yeah.
It's all about your partner.
It's all about this person orthat person.
No, it's supposed to be abouty'all.
It's yeah.
Anyways.
So there was a response thatcame to that called steak and
blow job day, where you'resupposed to eat a steak and get
a blow job, which I mean, I'mnot, I'm not opposed to that.
kari (21:29):
Steak and I love giving blowjobs, but that's just a
unique, you're the
casey (21:34):
person that'd be like, no, I'm expected to do it today.
No.
Oh, a hundred percent.
Like not happening.
No, you I'll
kari (21:38):
do it tomorrow.
You want me to do absolutely.
I will do it on the 13th and Iwill do it on the 15th, but
casey (21:45):
not that day.
And then next step, we have whatcame as a response to steak and
blowjob day, which is April14th.
And this is cake and cunnilingusday.
So eat some cake and go down ona vulva.
But
kari (21:59):
like, I don't know if that just annoys me.
I was going to say,
casey (22:02):
now you're into it.
Aren't you?
kari (22:03):
Well, no, no, I'm kind of even more annoyed because I'm
like, I would rather have steakthan cake any first of all.
So to assume that like cake andkind of language goes together,
it's just like steak in a blowjob.
Like now I'm offended.
Now I'm a little
casey (22:20):
offended.
Well, then let's leave these twobehind.
Let's leave them in the dust.
Carrie, how about that?
April 16th is national hornyday.
Are you a horny?
Yes.
I don't know how
kari (22:32):
I feel about that one.
Cause horny is not set to like,
casey (22:36):
you're going to wake up on the 16th and just
kari (22:40):
be like, someone did that.
Some, someone, somewhere I waslike, God dang it.
I find myself really horny onthe 16th of April.
I would
casey (22:48):
bet that you could probably take national horny day
and just use it as a day tomaybe engage in some teasing
behavior.
If you're with a partner or ifyou're single with like a friend
or an interest or a crush orwhatever you want to do But use
that day to kind of like juststep up your game a little bit
in the engagement arena, right?
April 24th is lingerie day.
(23:10):
I'm a huge supporter of thisone.
I want to see lingerie oneverybody
kari (23:14):
All everyone around walmart target.
Yeah, everyone It's nationallingerie
casey (23:19):
day guys.
So make sure you're wearing yourlingerie wear it on top of your
clothes if you need to
kari (23:23):
but I mean, how sexy would it be to like, for a, your
partner to go to work, puttinglingerie underneath and then
going in and like sending you a
casey (23:31):
picture, just the knowledge that you, that they're
wearing it throughout the daythat you're going to have you
kari (23:35):
aroused.
So would that be like a turn onfor you is just knowing that
like, I'm going to work andunderneath my work clothes is
this like really sexy lingerieoutfit that you would think
casey (23:44):
about?
Yeah.
Yeah.
Absolutely.
Yeah.
Especially if I'm receivinglike.
Notes and pictures and things.
Yeah.
You know, I can't not thinkabout it then.
That's true.
Then we have May, the entiremonth of May is masturbation.
May, I mean, I think every monthis masturbation month.
I don't think we should limit itto one month.
kari (24:00):
I, I don't, and, and just because it starts with m doesn't
mean that may should bemasturbation month, but hey,
casey (24:06):
hey, whatever works for, I mean, it could have been
March.
That would have been
kari (24:09):
better.
Why?
Because it's my birthday.
casey (24:13):
So we take the month of May to celebrate masturbation.
We already know how healthy of apractice it is.
I was just about to
kari (24:20):
say, like, that's something that actually should
be discussed.
Masturbation is very healthy ina relationship and outside a
relationship.
I, I, I hear it a lot in thesalon where someone would be
like, I don't want my partner tomasturbate.
And I'm like, Why?
Why?
It's a great form of self love.
Self love.
Self stress relief.
Stress relief.
Yeah.
I got five minutes.
(24:41):
Masturbation should not be,you're not in competition to
casey (24:46):
your partner.
I know, that idea that I'm theonly person that should provide
my partner with a physicalpleasure.
That is, that is, Insane.
That's out there to me.
It's an out there concept, anout there idea, and I think is
one that deserves to bediscussed in a way.
That could maybe shift aperson's perspective.
Yeah, and
kari (25:02):
figuring out why you might feel that way.
And I'll actually be verytransparent.
I felt that way in the verybeginning of our relationship.
Very, you know, 15 years ago Ifelt that way.
But we've grown and we'veevolved and it's so different
now.
But I understand there's thisweird sense of like jealousy in
a way that you're going to haveif your partner is like doing
(25:23):
something without you.
But Masturbation is such ahealthy thing.
So step aside from that,understand that it's healthy.
It's normal for you to touchyourself, for your partner to
touch themselves.
So go next.
Have fun.
Yeah, have fun.
Masturbation
casey (25:35):
May.
Next we have May 5th is make outday.
Make out
kari (25:40):
May.
casey (25:42):
Makeout day.
Yes.
On the the fifth make out.
May.
No, on the fifth.
The one
kari (25:45):
day.
One day.
Yeah.
Just the one day.
Masturbation make out May No.
Okay.
Yeah.
So make out day.
How often do you and yourpartner make out?
That would be my question to thelisteners.
Do
casey (25:55):
you make out or are y'all, are y'all just like peck
on the lips?
kari (25:59):
Because I feel like the longer you're in a relationship
with someone, the less you areto make out.
casey (26:04):
I don't know.
I don't know.
I mean, we make
kari (26:06):
out all the time.
I stand pretty, we, we do, wedo.
But even then I guarantee, Isuck your dick way more than we
make out.
casey (26:14):
Yeah, agreed.
We make out.
No, yeah, you're, you're right.
You're right.
Like
kari (26:18):
we don't.
Make out that much.
If we do make out, it has not,it has nothing to do with
intercourse or around sex.
A lot of times we'll just makeout to make out whenever we're
in a normal setting, like a lotof fun in the morning where I
come downstairs and, or we'llmake out for a little bit and
whatever, but like actual, like.
(26:40):
To set aside a time.
And this isn't make out justonce that day it understand May
5th.
We're going to try and make outas many times as we can.
casey (26:48):
I love that.
And that's coming up afterwardsis May 8th.
And this is one of my favoriteones.
It is.
Outdoor intercourse
kari (26:55):
day.
You fucking love anything sexualoutdoors.
Yeah.
Outside of our home.
You want all
casey (27:01):
of it.
Yeah.
Let's take some cleansing wipesand go on a hike and just
fucking go nuts behind a bush.
And we've done that a lot
kari (27:09):
actually.
We, we have done the hikingtrips and trails where I give
you head and then you've donethe ones where we have sex.
and.
We we've re we've like literallyrecorded cute little videos and
there's like this, likemountaintop behind, well, not
mountaintop, but we're in Texas,but
casey (27:23):
whatever, you know, well some people, trees behind us.
Some people would call a lake.
Or that.
kari (27:28):
Or that.
I think I was imagining, like,the area that we're at, we had
that kind of like cliff area,but I was like, yeah, it's
Texas.
But yeah, outdoors, it's a greatway to just enhance the, the day
to day of what your sexual
casey (27:42):
routine can be.
And that's also one of our mostspicy stories we have was the
time that we fucked outdoors atthe Dallas Arboretum.
That's my, it's my favoritestory.
Anytime that I have engaged inconversation with, with someone
and it's been like, Oh, what'ssomething that you and your
partner have done sexually?
That's been like out there beenlike, we had sex at the Dallas
Arboretum behind a waterfall.
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Like that, I mean, that kind ofbeats out a lot of what some
people would say.
And I looked really good thatday.
We both did.
We did.
But yes, use that day, May the8th, to go outdoors and fuck
somebody.
Just make sure it's consensual.
May 14th, online romance day.
I mean this could be online inmany ways, many shapes.
(28:24):
It might be a dating app thatyou find somebody to be romantic
with.
It might be, you know, with yourpartner through So, you know,
Instagram sending pictures backand forth or playing truth or
dare.
That's always one of a fun onethat I love doing.
kari (28:37):
We played truth or dare a lot when we are not together and
we're both working.
Yeah.
But I like, I like what you'resaying.
You know, maybe you are not in,in a poly relationship and you
are very monogamous.
Yes.
There are, are beautiful ways toincorporate online with.
with, like you said with yourpartner something to make it fun
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outside of the norm of what younormally do.
Again, all of these days aretrying to get you to step
outside of what you do everysingle day.
Let's see.
So the next one we are nowgetting into June.
June doesn't have that many butJune, I'm
casey (29:14):
sorry, four, it has four, it has the most so far.
kari (29:17):
Oh, you're right.
I'm sorry.
I looked at that.
I thought, I thought there wasonly two.
I thought there was only two.
That's so funny.
Anyways.
Yeah.
June, June 9th,
casey (29:25):
national sex day.
And that's pretty straightforward.
Go into that one.
It's like national sex day.
Everybody.
I would, I, the only curiosity Ihave is just how many people are
having sex.
Right then.
And if it's if it's a
kari (29:40):
lot i'ma set a reminder in my phone and i'll like june 8th
I want to pull people on june8th and then like you never
think
casey (29:45):
about that if you're having sex at night and be like
I wonder how many other peopleare having sex right now in the
world
kari (29:50):
about that so many times before honestly like in
casey (29:53):
this entire world How do you even
kari (29:55):
like i'll even break it down to like our block
sometimes, you know I'll be likehow many people are fucking if
our
casey (30:01):
neighbors are fucking right now.
Like I don't know
kari (30:04):
I kind of doubt it
casey (30:06):
That doesn't Older people are heavily sexually active.
kari (30:11):
Yeah, in group homes.
casey (30:13):
Yeah.
If I'm ever in a group home,it's gonna be Balls to the
walls.
Balls on the jello.
What's up next?
We got June 14th, nudity day.
Great
kari (30:27):
one.
I'm curious as to what day thatfalls on for next year.
June 14th?
2024?
Because like I'm limited tohonestly days that I work.
I only work three days a weeknow.
Thank fucking God.
But June 14th, nudity day.
It's a Friday.
Yes, but I watch it be a fuckingFriday.
I cannot partake in that.
casey (30:46):
Same day as Flag Day, just so you know.
Oh, Flag Day.
Got it.
Alright.
Of all the important holidays, Iwould rather celebrate Nudity
Day.
kari (30:56):
So, my question is well, I guess the other one was Work
Naked Day, and then this isNudity Day.
So how would you recommendsomeone Changing that up.
casey (31:07):
Well be nude Look at nudity
kari (31:11):
I was taking it literal Like you kind of had that spin
on it.
It's just nudity in general readthat
casey (31:22):
could be any read about nudity You know read some
erotica Read some erotica.
Yeah, listen to some nudity
kari (31:32):
I am so visual.
So you are fucking my mind rightnow by telling me to read
nudity.
I use my eyes for that, babe.
casey (31:40):
But yes, be naked on June 14th in some way, shape, or
form.
June, June, you ask
kari (31:45):
for that a lot.
And I never get it, so, well, Iwouldn't say never.
What, what?
Oh yeah?
casey (31:52):
Go ahead, share with the class.
No.
No.
June 21st, World Kama Sutra Day.
Oh.
I would consider this as justlike a sex position exploration
day.
Yeah.
Kama Sutra is great and all thatand it's been a popular book for
centuries.
However, There's other sourceswhere you can get great amazing
(32:13):
sex positions designed to engageyour pleasure.
They're all over the place andthere's some really good ones
out there.
I like
kari (32:18):
what you're saying, like just use this as a time to
explore a sexual position thatyou've always wanted to try and
you
casey (32:25):
just haven't.
And I mean, ask your partner andbe like, Hey, is there any sex
position that you've been like,I want to try this, but we,
we've always kind of talkedabout it, but we never actually
execute.
Each of you pick one to two andbe like, all right today, if,
and when we have sex, we'regoing to try these and we're
going to prioritize it and belike, all right, let's go, let's
do this.
So enjoy June 21st is world KamaSutra day.
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Next up is June 22nd.
Carrie, one of your favorites,probably it says, Oh yeah, no
penny day.
kari (32:55):
That's every day for me.
It is.
That is every fucking day forme.
I only wear panties to be sexy.
Where women wear, don't wearpanties to be sexy, I'm the
opposite.
Like, if I wear panties, Casey'slike, Oh my god.
That's hot.
That is so hot.
I know, right?
But, you know, so it's a littledifferent for me.
I am a no panties wearer, buthey.
(33:17):
And you know what?
That is common as shit.
I, for, when I was younger and,and growing, I've never worn
panties.
Let's be real, never have Iever, it's never been a thing
for me.
I don't wear underwear.
But, and when I was younger,that was like, absurd.
Yeah.
Unheard of.
We were like, what?
Why?
And so now, as I'm like, gettingolder and all it is way more
(33:37):
common.
There's a lot of women thatdon't wear panties.
casey (33:39):
There are.
There's a lot of men that don'twear underwear.
I wouldn't
kari (33:43):
recommend it.
Does it ring the same
casey (33:45):
though?
I don't know.
Cause I mean, I'm in jeans mostof the time.
Yeah.
I would figure that would kindof hurt.
The feeling of my dick againstdenim.
Yeah.
Sagging?
That's not bad.
That's not bad.
My shit's up and close.
It's more of like dick againstdenim.
Yeah.
Is the
kari (33:58):
problem that you're gonna run into.
Have you ever like rubbedyourself raw with like denim and
like.
Raw?
Yeah, like the tip of your dick.
Like just rubbed on your pantsso much
casey (34:05):
that it hurt.
I mean, yeah, in some way, shapeor form.
Yes.
kari (34:09):
Yeah.
So my, my vulva doesn't do that.
casey (34:12):
And then the good, the good thing is if you're wearing
like boxer briefs or something,you get an erection, then it
kind of contains it.
It doesn't push hard up againstyour, your jeans.
It's just kind of, it's inthere, but if you're not wearing
underwear and then it's pushingagainst your jeans, it can get
painful
kari (34:27):
when you're super wet.
Where you just nail trail downyour leg.
So that's not fun.
It's a good reason
casey (34:33):
to wear underwear.
I guess that's not fun So next Ilove that Next up is july the
6th and we have kissing day notmakeout day not make out.
This is kissing day So kiss allyour friends
kari (34:45):
Everybody just kiss them.
Everyone gets a kiss Yeah No, Ithink it'd be kind of cute to
see like that day how manykisses you and your partner can
get in Yeah in a day I don't,
casey (34:56):
I don't know how many of my male friends I could kiss
that day.
I bet there'd be a couple thatwould be like, yeah, sure.
But most of them would be like,they'd
kari (35:04):
be like, no.
I can probably kiss every singleperson.
Period.
Every single person.
Regardless of gender.
Work.
Client.
Doesn't matter.
casey (35:17):
Grocery store.
Homeless person down the street.
I mean, there's a lot of them.
There's a lot of them in thearea you work.
So yeah, kiss somebody on July6th, kissing day.
July 21st, handjob day.
Give a handjob.
Give a handjob to yourself, givea handjob to your book partner.
Give a handjob to your bestfriend.
(35:38):
Just because you care.
Lay down.
kari (35:41):
Start up world's biggest circle jerk that day.
Everyone,
casey (35:46):
everyone hand to the person on your left.
Exactly.
kari (35:49):
Or right, wait.
Technically you could do both.
You could have a hand on theleft and on the
casey (35:54):
right.
You're getting me into a wholedamn rant about how many people.
You've never seen that?
No.
How many people could you jerkoff?
And like, how many, okay, sothere's, if you ever, if you've
never seen the show, SiliconValley, this this put them on
the map for season one and itwas in the season one finale and
they were at a tight bind andthey made the notion that they
were like, if I have to go intothe audience and jerk off every
(36:17):
member of the audience andthey're like, well, I don't mean
you only have 10 minutes.
How many people could you jerkoff in 10 minutes?
So they started coming up withlike equations.
To be like, oh wait, how wouldyou line them up?
Would it be, you know, next toeach other?
Then it was talking aboutputting them tip to tip so you
could just make one continuousjerk off motion between the
dicks.
And then they were like talkingabout having to take girth into,
(36:38):
into account.
So widening or shortening upyour hand.
And then you could just switchout dicks mid jerk.
So it could just be a continuousIt was one of the most amazing
Like five minute rants on a TVshow I've ever seen.
It was absolutely hilarious.
So be sure to give a handjob onJuly 21st.
Now, ooh, a great day, July24th.
(37:00):
BDSM.
There's
kari (37:02):
so much you could do with that day.
That needs to be a BDSM month.
Just saying.
Now we only have a day.
So, this is your opportunity.
Kind of the same as we saidbefore with like the fetish
concept.
You don't have to go into thisknowing what you would want to
do on BDSM day, but you coulduse it as a time to like
research what it is that youwant to do or what it is that
(37:24):
you want to be done to you.
Yeah.
casey (37:26):
So let's, let's do a quick reminder for anybody
that's like, I never rememberwhat BDSM stands for.
Always remember that BDSM isgoing to stand for bondage,
discipline, dominant submission.
And then sadism masochism.
So yes, each, I mean, you'regoing to run into multiple
letter usage there, but that'swhat BDSM really stands for.
So anything that falls intothere, we have a lot of fun on
(37:48):
the bondage side.
We have a lot of fun on thedominant submission side and a
little, a little bit on the sadosadism masochism side.
A little bit.
Like we enjoy some good, yeah,we enjoy some good impact play
and we've been expanding outthat a little bit.
So anyway, that is a, what datewas that?
kari (38:04):
That was July
casey (38:05):
24th, July 24th.
And then probably one of thebest days of the year, July
31st.
Do you want to read that one,Carrie?
kari (38:12):
Yes, I do.
It is a national orgasm
casey (38:16):
day.
How many orgasms do you thinkcould occur in one day for the
population?
The population of earth at thispoint is like 7 billion or
something.
kari (38:23):
Yeah.
Oh, I'm going to talk about withme.
casey (38:26):
No, no, we could, we could, we could at least do
double digits.
At least I'm saying that's why Isaid at least.
I don't
kari (38:33):
know.
I mean, yeah, you're right.
I, it's not the fact of like myinability to come.
I just think that she would belike, please stop.
Please stop.
No more.
casey (38:43):
I can hit a solid four or five before I'm like, I can't,
can't take this.
Yeah.
Like, do you know what is
kari (38:48):
the most that you've come in one day?
casey (38:50):
Five, five times.
Was it
kari (38:52):
me?
Yeah.
Yes.
Well, I don't fucking know.
You know, I'm curious myself.
No,
casey (38:56):
that's a fair question.
It might not be.
Right?
Yeah.
Yeah.
I think five times.
That was us.
Five.
Yeah, I would imagine probablyon vacation or something.
kari (39:06):
I've probably come like 20 times in a day and
casey (39:08):
was not me.
No, I'm joking.
Yes, it was.
kari (39:11):
I promise you it was.
No one made me come until you
casey (39:14):
so have an
kari (39:15):
orgasm on National Orgasm Day.
And also understand that thatcould be you giving yourself an
orgasm.
That could be like.
casey (39:24):
It could be a combination of both.
kari (39:25):
Or you could fucking masturbate in front of each
other and try to orgasm at thesame
casey (39:28):
time.
I do certainly feel like mutualmasturbation is a vastly
underrated act.
Like, come on, jerk off in frontof your partner.
kari (39:36):
Masturbate in front of them.
But I don't even think thatthat's something that you and I
have done, technically.
No, we have.
Like, we've played, but not toclimax.
To climax?
Yeah, I mean,
casey (39:43):
To climax.
Like, start to finishindividually just in front of
the other person.
Yeah.
No, I don't think that we'veparticipated in that.
Because sooner or later we'relike, mmm, I'm coming in.
kari (39:50):
Yeah.
We get a little too antsy.
We like, we want each other atthat point, but like on like
average, how long would it takeyou to come by, by
casey (39:58):
myself?
Solo?
Yeah.
Anywhere between a couple ofminutes to, you know, 10 minutes
or so.
It depends.
It depends on the day.
It depends on my mood.
It depends on there's so manyvariables, variables behind
that.
Am I watching porn or not?
Am
kari (40:11):
I watching something?
Yeah.
casey (40:13):
It's just something that I got to run into the, like, I
have no time, but I'm, Yeah, Ihave a spare five minutes, and
I'm horny right now So I'm justgonna relieve myself so I could
actually be productive Yeah, andI
kari (40:23):
feel like that's probably the bigger difference is because
I could make myself come in 20seconds if I needed to That's
casey (40:28):
a skill That's a skill.
You probably have peoplelistening right now that it's
like what what the fuck?
Yeah, like really all the ownersthat are listening to us being
like no it takes me like 10 20minutes No, so I don't do it
very often because I got likeit's got to be a whole mood The
candles and
kari (40:44):
nope, I don't know.
Nope, real quick real real quickThat's what I was wondering cuz
I'm like I'd like I would cometen times in comparison to your
one If we were like masturbatingin front of each other, are you
casey (40:55):
asking us to compete right now?
You really
kari (40:57):
kind of want to let's have a competition at this point want
to see how many times can I cometo your one?
time coming in front of eachother Are we allowed to laugh
though?
Cause you know, Oh, for sure.
No, I, I'm going to you knowthat
casey (41:08):
I feel a little bit.
I feel that playful sex is thebest sex.
kari (41:12):
So we are going to go ahead and pull this into a two
parter.
casey (41:20):
You think we should draw this out?
Cause we have a lot more to talkabout, but some of the days that
are coming up are going to belike larger discussions and a
kari (41:28):
good way.
And I feel like we're, we're inJuly.
We ended in July.
And then also we want to lety'all know if you want this list
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Also the next thing that we'regoing to be doing in January,
that's going to be a little bitdifferent from this year is you
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I guarantee you this list isgoing to be one of the things
(41:50):
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So if you would like to be apart of our email listing at any
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We have a lot more that we'rereally trying to focus in within
this next year and a lot thatwe're really fucking excited
about.
We have some events coming up.
(42:11):
We have some
casey (42:12):
traveling coming up.
We haven't talked too much aboutthe
kari (42:15):
events we have planned.
We have things coming up that wehave planned and the best way
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casey (42:23):
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So if you want to, you could, Imean, you want to, I know you
want to, but you, you need toget signed up for the, the 12
days of Christmas or 12 holidaysthat we have which starts
tomorrow.
Yeah.
kari (42:39):
As I say, if you're hearing this, then you've
already missed a day.
casey (42:43):
Yeah.
I've already missed at least oneday.
You're on like day four at thispoint.
So go get signed up.
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Really?
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We promise
kari (43:01):
you, we have so much fucking cool shit coming.
I can't freaking wait.
Ooh, it's
casey (43:04):
exclusive too.
I know you're
kari (43:06):
gonna feel like it only to the email list people,
truthfully.
Yeah.
It could be part of somethingreal special.
Well, because we can't bombardourselves in the beginning, so
we're keeping this to our emaillisting at first.
Mm-Hmm.
And then it will open up to thecivilians after, but it's not
opening up to that stuff yet.
It's only going to be our email
casey (43:21):
list.
Email list gets exclusiveaccess, like Mm-Hmm.
like first come, first serve toour events and things like that
before we open up to the public.
Correct.
Yep.
So anyway.
We're going to pick up nexttime.
So for another episode of comeon Casey, I'm Dr.
Casey Sanders and I'm
kari (43:34):
Carrie Sanders.
well, welcome to one of the final episodes of come with
Casey of the year of the year.
I should probably add that in ofthe
kari (00:09):
year, not forever.
casey (00:11):
No we're going to keep this going for as long as you'll
have us, the audience will haveus, but we're closing out where
we're coming up nearing likemidway point of December.
We've had a lot of fun thisyear.
kari (00:27):
You know, it's actually been crazy to structure and
organize out the podcast the waythat we have.
We, we do have a solid routinenow at this point.
But I wouldn't say this cameeasily for us.
No, sometimes There was a lot oftrial and error with our show.
There was a lot that we had tofinger out together.
Yeah.
And, yeah.
We
casey (00:45):
fingered out a lot of stuff together.
Yeah.
We were just continuouslyFiguring things out.
And so, we, we've, we've done alot.
There's episodes that we've donethat have been completely
improvised.
Like absolutely.
kari (00:57):
So we do this like show notes that we'll share together
and we'll kind of like createthese concepts and we've done
that.
Or like you said, we'veliterally just sat down and
start talking and then kind offigured out what happened
casey (01:07):
as we went.
We have like a broad topic wewant to discuss, but we don't
really have a plan for it, whichI prefer it that way.
It allows us a lot more room.
Do we go on a lot more tangentsand change up subjects a lot
more?
A
kari (01:19):
little bit.
Yeah, we do.
A little bit.
But whenever we have such likethese like broad topics that
we're trying to like discusswithin like an episode, I
understand how we can kind oflike veer off a little bit.
Oh, for sure.
I, I will say our show noteshelp us.
Mm hmm.
But this whole like sitting downfucking recording, I love that
too.
But let's go ahead and get, no,no, no.
(01:39):
No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no,no.
No, actually go ahead.
Go ahead, baby.
casey (01:43):
What are you going to say?
Yeah, you're right, I'm going tosay it.
Go ahead.
As we, as we, this year, we'vehad a lot of good experiences
and we want to take a fewminutes to discuss some of the
people that we've been able tocollaborate with this year and
not only the things that we'vedone with them but what they
have coming up.
So first, actually yesterdayeven, so at the time that you're
hearing this, it'll be a fewdays after.
(02:04):
But yesterday we went out and wedid an outdoor shibari shoot.
Our first ever.
kari (02:10):
Very first for us.
It went really well.
We had fun.
It went really well.
So we live in, in North FortWorth and there's this park
that's close to our house.
And we walk throughout this parkoften and, and we had kind of
like found this like slightlysecluded area, but this tree in
this area
casey (02:31):
is like, it was straight up.
It's Tim Burton, Tim Burtonfilm.
It's
kari (02:33):
the coolest walking tree I have ever
casey (02:35):
seen.
So if you want to come out andtake some photos.
We
kari (02:38):
will let you know where to go, but like coolest fucking
tree.
So we knew that we wanted toshoot there.
But yeah, this was our firsttime taking what we do into an
outside environment and, andalso not only an outside
environment for us, but a.
environment for our photographerbecause she's never shot
casey (02:59):
there before.
No, not in that particularlocation.
She's done outdoor work.
She's done indoor work as well.
But this was, so as we mentionedbefore, Carla
kari (03:06):
Renee intimate, we're talking about Carla, Carla,
Renee
casey (03:10):
intimate.
She does insanely good boudoirphotographer and she does do a
decent amount of outdoor stuff.
This was one that she came metup with us like right around
dusk and we went out there and Ispent about 20 minutes getting a
harness on Carrie.
And putting a couple of lines onthe tree.
We didn't do full
kari (03:28):
suspension.
No, not for this.
We were a little limited withthis time.
I mean, as you'll, most of y'allunderstand this time of year,
like the sun sets early
casey (03:36):
and this was
kari (03:37):
also covered.
Yeah.
It's also cold.
So, I imagine we're going tohave some pretty kick ass shoots
later next year, whenever itwarms back up.
But for us having such a limb.
Location limited concept.
We just knew you were going totie me up I don't even think
that you had an idea on what tieyou were technically going to do
(03:58):
at that point It was just amatter of like let's get
outside.
Let's try something new andlet's have our You know very
talented photographer meet usthere and it it really it worked
casey (04:09):
out.
I know the test shots that we'veseen Yeah, they're gonna look
good.
We can't wait to release them toeverybody and carla is a fucking
magnificent photographer So ifyou get an opportunity check out
her stuff Carla Renee Intimates,where you get the opportunity to
book a session with her, withboudoir, or with whatever it is
that you want to do.
She takes limited clientele, soit's, it's, it's very, very
kari (04:31):
I think you just gotta like, pique her interest at this
point, you know?
Right.
Like, make what you want.
I'm super interesting.
And then she is fucking down.
Yeah.
Like picture.
casey (04:40):
Exactly.
Just pitch her on
kari (04:41):
your idea, but in all honesty, while we're talking
about her, we're going to go tothe next concept and, and, and
to do with her.
She also works lovers.
It's called lovers, right?
Irving Irving.
I mean,
casey (04:53):
they have a bunch of locations.
Well, I w I
kari (04:58):
would.
So I'm going to talk about her,but you know, we talk a lot
about, you know, going to a sexshop and being there with your
partner.
And I feel like sometimes peopleneed that, like comfort before
they even walk in.
So let's give you someone thatwe know that is very well
educated, super personable.
Again, this is Carla.
(05:18):
She works at Lovers in.
casey (05:25):
We just said
kari (05:25):
Irving.
Irving, whatever.
It's all the same to me.
If you're not for words, it'sall the same.
But she works out there and oneof the things I love about her,
if you end up following heronline, she'll post a lot about
new things that they have in theshop.
Yes.
She's, she's very informative asto the new toys that they have.
So if, if you and your partnerwant to go to a sex shop, but
you just still have that likelittle level of like
(05:47):
nervousness, go to someone thatwe then recommend.
This isn't just like some rando.
You can go in there, you can askfor Carla.
And, and again, like howpersonable she is with us.
I know she's going to be thatway with you because it's just
who she is as a person.
But I love going to sex shopwith you.
I mean, I feel like we findevery opportunity we
casey (06:06):
can.
That's because we have fun.
We go in, we speak at a, at adecent, you know, normal volume.
We're not even there whispering,pointing at stuff from across
the room.
I'll be across the, across theshop and be like, Carrie, check
out this vibrating butt plug.
Come here.
kari (06:21):
But I mean, and I love that we are like that, but not
everyone is.
So we say this to tell you,like, be comfortable, go with
your partner.
If you are, you know, nervousabout going to someone that you
don't want to ask questions to,we get that.
casey (06:34):
It's okay to be, it's okay to be open.
It's okay to, to talk about it.
Like you're in a place withprofessionals.
And they are more than happy toshow you different items and
take them out of the boxes It's
kari (06:45):
their job like sex shops are not like Crazy busy places.
So when someone comes in,they're like, please talk to us,
please, please let us help you.
And they've got
casey (06:55):
a lot to show.
They've got a lot, a lot, lot,lot to show.
So thank you, Carla, foreverything you've done for us
over this past year with ourvarious photo shoots and advice
on some great sex gadgets,because there's been a decent
number of it.
So that's pretty cool.
We also have our other friendswho are the just greatest
showman.
I don't know, I can't wait forthis.
(07:27):
For the last six to eight monthssomewhere right in there.
I think it started in august
kari (07:32):
Somewhere in there this show started in august.
They've been performers
casey (07:35):
for But they're they do the first friday of every single
month at the cicada in fortworth It's an amazing gothic
themed burlesque show If youhave not gotten to go to one go
all of their tables sell out allof their couches sell out Their
ga typically sells out at thispoint.
So it's a massively Yeah,popular thing to do.
And so what they're doing isthey're putting on a special
(07:56):
show for Christmas on December22nd, which is called Nightshade
before Christmas.
It's going to be a Tim Burtonthemed shot where we already
have our table secured.
I believe they just said thatthere's like one table left and
then there's owner owner's boxtickets left and there's GA
left, everything else is sold.
Out.
This is going to sell out fully.
(08:17):
It's going on at tulips and Fortworth on December 22nd.
So check that one out too.
And then they also have there'sJanuary show, January 5th is
going to be the first nightshadeburlesque of the year at the
cicada.
So make sure that you're at anyof those come and say hi to us
whenever you do and then youknow
kari (08:34):
Buy us a drink when you do.
casey (08:36):
Yeah, hang out with us.
Tell us tell us about your sexlife.
Ask us questions It's ourfavorite topic But there's
there's so much coming up inthis new year And if you follow
on our Instagram page, you'velikely seen already We need to
go ahead and get right into thisbecause we have so much to cover
today We have a lot where it maynot even get done with the the
whole thing In this episode, wehave to continue on, but what
(08:58):
we, we did is we pulled fromvarious sources across the
internet.
We looked at various days thatare considered like actual
Celebrated sexual days and onesthat are considered like a
sexual celebration day.
Yeah, and there's a lot of them.
Holy shit There's like 30 ofthem throughout.
We have
kari (09:13):
a lot and we we s a casey.
It's casey compiled an entirelist.
So that's what we're going to goover like it's it's december
We're going into January.
We're going into a new, a newyear.
This is the opportunity to doeverything that you missed out
on in the year before like youwant a new year's resolution
Here you go, like fulfill
casey (09:33):
this list be your intimate sexual sexy self
kari (09:36):
with your partner Exactly there's no reason why 2024
cannot be the sexual liberationyear for you and so again casey
sat down and and like sourcedout all these different lists of
themed days for the year.
Yeah, let's kick it off.
You said like what, fucking 30?
casey (09:54):
Yeah, there's something like 30 of them.
I even looked through and went,it looked like, I think it's
October that has the most,between October and July.
Those two months have the mostdays that we celebrate.
But we're gonna kick it off withJanuary.
So starting off with January13th, write all these down.
January 13th is Sex in theShower Day.
kari (10:12):
That one is so easy and so
casey (10:15):
rewarding.
I hear that like mixed.
I hear some people are like, No,sex in the shower sucks because
water gets everywhere and itspenetration isn't super easy.
Okay.
So don't do penetration.
Do something else.
Or also
kari (10:26):
take out of your, or yeah, or take out of your mind that
sex means coming.
Sex does not mean coming,intercourse does not mean
coming, you, you, you and yourpartner can take a shower
together, fool around a bit,like you just said, give each
other head in the shower.
We love doing that.
We love doing that.
I don't think I've conditionedmy own hair in like years.
(10:47):
That's like
casey (10:48):
our, that's our ongoing deal that we
kari (10:50):
have.
Yeah.
You condition my hair and I giveyou head every time guys, every
single time.
Yeah.
That's, I mean, that's, thisisn't head to come.
Yeah.
It's not.
It's just, I'm going, we have astool in the shower, I'm going
to sit on the shower, you'regoing to run a conditioner
through my hair, and as I sit,and my eyes are straight,
(11:10):
there's a dick.
Might as well.
Yeah.
casey (11:13):
Might, might as well.
Provide the pleasure.
Yeah.
Enjoy it.
You know,
kari (11:18):
and then like massage your girlfriends or partners or
whoever the hell's giving youhead.
Like it, it's just a greatexperience.
casey (11:25):
Work the conditioner in, you know, grab them by the back
of the hair.
Do
kari (11:28):
your own thing.
Shove it in.
Yeah.
So this is January 13th again.
So January 13th is a sex in theshower day.
I wonder where these actuallylike Who determines these in a
sense, I'm sure it's such acollective sense.
So the
casey (11:44):
vast majority of these kinds of things come through and
it becomes, you know, it wasposted one time on urban
dictionary or through some groupand then people went, Oh, that's
cool.
And so more and more peoplestarted posting about it and
doing something about it untilit becomes a staple.
And so these are, these are theones that we came up with that
we were like, all right, we're,these are where we saw them the
most.
This isn't from one source.
(12:05):
This is like, over all thesources, these are the ones that
continuously popped upconsistently.
So January 15th, actually, isFetish Day.
Fetish Day.
If you don't know what a fetishis, it typically revolves around
arousal from an inanimateobject, or from various body
parts.
Yeah.
It also differentiates from akink in the fact that fetishes
(12:27):
Typically, a person hasdifficulty, if they do have a
true fetish, they havedifficulty becoming aroused
without this particular thing.
So you can lean into that asmuch as you want to, but this is
a good day to examine your ownsexuality.
Be like, do I have any fetishes?
Is there something out therethat just beyond all else just
gets me going?
(12:48):
And if
kari (12:48):
you don't feel like you have one, maybe take this time
for you and your partner to sitdown and look some up.
Because I feel like some peopledon't fully understand like all
the vast options of what afetish can be.
It is not limited.
There are like unmeasurableamounts of fetishes.
(13:10):
And what we're trying to saywithin this day like you maybe
don't know that you have one.
Utilize this time to explore, tofigure out maybe I do have one.
Maybe my partner has one thatthey have never communicated
with before.
Utilize this time to open up theconversation to a fetish and
what that could mean to you andthen what that could mean to you
(13:31):
and your partner.
Yes,
casey (13:32):
absolutely.
And to add to that point,whenever it comes to something
like a fetish, a lot of peoplegrew up in a, in a world where
they were like.
Yeah.
Oh no.
Careful.
Watch out for fetishes.
That kind of stuff.
But no, the reality is, isgreat.
You've now discovered somethingthat arouses you sexually.
Awesome.
Can you incorporate that?
And is it harming yourself nonconsensually, then get the fuck
(13:55):
out of there.
But if you can find somethingthat you're like, wow, I really
enjoy this.
It arouses me.
I want to do it.
My partner's cool with it.
We're doing this consensually,then fucking enjoy it.
So take fetish day as a time toeither.
Engage in one of your favoritefetishes, or B, to explore some
new fetishes.
And talk
kari (14:14):
to your partner and try to figure out what their fetishes
are, too.
Exactly.
casey (14:18):
Yeah.
Great day.
Okay, so, let's head, we're now,there's only two in January.
Yeah, I was about to say,there's only
kari (14:23):
two in January.
And then there's
casey (14:25):
only one in February.
February.
And February is February 7th.
It's, this one is geared towardspeople that work from home.
Because it's work naked day.
Work naked day.
Work naked day.
Work naked
kari (14:36):
day.
I am a hairdresser.
Do you know how unpleasant thatwould be to work
casey (14:41):
naked?
Hair
kari (14:41):
splinters.
Color.
All kinds.
I mean, just, I stand in amirror all day.
Do you think I'd want to standin a mirror all day and look at
my naked body?
That would be so
casey (14:53):
unpleasant for me.
Now where people can benefitfrom work naked day if you are a
sex worker.
Or, you know, you're working in,in, yeah, you're working in a
strip club or you're working.
Yeah.
kari (15:06):
I'm literally thinking like an office job.
I work
casey (15:08):
at home.
Yeah.
That's what, were you notlistening?
What I said just then?
Probably not.
Yeah, I know.
I'm very aware.
You missed my point entirely.
So while this can be gearedtowards people that work from
home, also, if you are some formof a sex worker, this is your
time to celebrate too, becauseyou're already working naked.
So now you just get a chance tobe like, Hey, I'm just, yeah,
I'm diving into it a little bitfurther.
(15:29):
Yep.
Yep.
kari (15:29):
But also if say like you are someone like me, I'm a
hairdresser.
I can't work naked.
That does not mean that I can'tgo into the bathroom and send my
partner a naked selfie.
That's very true.
I'm at work.
And I'm naked.
There are ways to fulfill whatthe day is without it being so
literal.
No, we can't all work naked allday.
(15:52):
Casey, I'm pretty sure yourclients, your patients don't
want you to adjust
casey (15:56):
them naked.
I do not want to lose mylicense.
Thank you very much.
Like,
kari (15:59):
that could be really bad, but that doesn't mean that you
can't go into the bathroom andsend me a little naked selfie
casey (16:06):
for you.
Okay, okay.
So that's the only one inFebruary and now we move on to
March.
We're hitting March 3rd I can't
kari (16:12):
believe there's not one on my birthday in March.
I mean either.
I'm annoyed.
Wait, hon.
casey (16:16):
Oh, man There's just totally one not on your
birthday.
Oh Who would ever think to notput one on Carrie's birthday?
Rude
kari (16:26):
ass bastards.
Selfish.
casey (16:29):
Good lord.
March 3rd is threesome day.
Oh.
Go out and have a threesome.
Do it.
We recommend it.
You
kari (16:35):
know, and, yes.
casey (16:36):
You wanna spend some, wanna spend a couple minutes
talking about this?
kari (16:39):
Well, I mean, in a way I do.
Like, this is a time for y'allto plan something.
You're just getting out of thenew year.
What if your new year resolutionis to open up y'all's
relationship?
Cool.
You've had that time in January.
You talked about it in February.
If you know right now, you'relistening to this episode in
December.
And you know that you want tohave a threesome, you now have
(17:01):
three months to plan that shitout.
That's true.
casey (17:04):
You got three months.
Well, and you can think of itlike this.
Let's give it like a quickbreakdown.
So there's a few reasons why youwould want to have a threesome.
It creates a new sexualexperience for you.
It generates a ton of fun ifdone correctly.
It's a good way to exploresexuality.
It plays into sexual altruismand as well as allows you to
start looking at sexualcompromises on a deeper level.
(17:25):
So there's some really greatreasons to actually engage in a
threesome.
There's also, you know, somedecent ones not to.
If you're, if you're people thatare like, we've thought about
it, but so never have athreesome just to gain access to
a person.
So what I mean by that is saythat, say that there was a
Bisexual girl that wanted tosleep with you, but then she
(17:46):
compromised by adding me in.
So she's trying to get to you,but she's like, well, I guess
I'll also sleep with him too.
No, threesomes don't work welllike that.
Threesomes work well whenevereveryone is attracted to each
other on all
kari (17:57):
levels.
All parties are consensual andwanting.
casey (18:00):
Yes.
Another great reason not to haveone is intoxication.
Consent needs to be given.
Now, if y'all have alreadygotten together and you're all
consenting to it, wheneveryou're all sober and everything
like that, and you're like,we're going to go out tonight
with the intention of doing thisand you have a drink or two just
to loosen up a little bit,you've already consented in the
beginning, but it's best ifyou're able to.
(18:21):
You know, have complete controlof your cognitive faculties.
kari (18:24):
Yeah, don't just be out with your partner and then y'all
start talking to some girl anddecide that's gargantuan.
Yeah, or guy.
Honestly, that's just a badidea.
Yeah, anyone.
But that's just a bad idea.
Yes.
All the way around.
casey (18:35):
And then the other one, other big one not to have a
threesome is coercion.
Like, if, if I were to,Manipulate you into having one
because I wanted to sleep withsomebody and I coerce you into
doing it.
That's, that's dishonest on alllevels.
That's a violation of trust.
That's a violation of boundariesand a terrible way to go about
doing it.
If your partner is not into itand to the idea, even then it's
(18:56):
best that y'all compromise insome other way.
You'd like watch threesome pornor use a dildo
kari (19:01):
or you find yourself March 3rd and y'all are really
passionate about this.
And a threesome is just not iny'all's wheelhouse.
Watch a porn together.
Or sit or like watch a threesomeporn together or sit down and
like maybe fantasize together.
Yeah.
If I was to be in a threesome,this is what I would really want
to happen.
Just because we're going overthis list doesn't mean that Oh,
(19:23):
that's what you have to do.
Like just.
Utilize what the idea is or whatthe theme is for that day And
then how can you put it intoyour relationship and make it
work?
Absolute best cuz
casey (19:35):
days like that like like a threesome day if you're in a
couple that's like no This isnot something you want to do,
but you'd like to explore thefantasy of it Yeah, you can
literally be in bed together andjust talk about what would you
do if we were in this?
What would?
I do.
What would I want to see?
What would I want to experience?
Engage the senses and talk withyour partner while you're having
sex and that could itself can bea great experience.
kari (19:54):
And be really playful with it.
Don't try to get bogged down onlike what you think could happen
in a threesome.
If you are going into it as thislike fantasy concept and you're
just having a conversation withyour partner, leave the what ifs
out of it and really just playinto what you would want.
To then happen because again,this is just this is a playful
thing to do with your partnerAnd I know threesomes a lot of
(20:17):
people get really nervous inthat concept But I will tell you
it starts with the conversation.
Yes, just having theconversation with your partner
That could mean three years fromnow.
You finally have a threesome.
Who cares, but utilize thistime.
And maybe in March utilize thisday to really figure out what
your wants and needs could bearound the subject for sure.
casey (20:39):
See, I love it.
And we're going to have anotherupcoming episode that is like a
very deep dive into threesomeculture and how it works.
Yeah, we're going to move on fornow.
Cause we have so much to talkabout.
These next two are funny becausethese next two I don't want to
call them like vindictive, but Iwant to be.
A little bit.
How many men petitioned forthat?
(21:00):
How many?
A guy's response to valentine'sday, which I'm already like,
wait, valentine's day is aboutyou as a couple anyway,
kari (21:09):
if you celebrate it.
I hate when people are like, oh,valentine's day is just about
the woman and the romance.
No, it's not.
casey (21:15):
Yeah.
It's all about your partner.
It's all about this person orthat person.
No, it's supposed to be abouty'all.
It's yeah.
Anyways.
So there was a response thatcame to that called steak and
blow job day, where you'resupposed to eat a steak and get
a blow job, which I mean, I'mnot, I'm not opposed to that.
kari (21:29):
Steak and I love giving blowjobs, but that's just a
unique, you're the
casey (21:34):
person that'd be like, no, I'm expected to do it today.
No.
Oh, a hundred percent.
Like not happening.
No, you I'll
kari (21:38):
do it tomorrow.
You want me to do absolutely.
I will do it on the 13th and Iwill do it on the 15th, but
casey (21:45):
not that day.
And then next step, we have whatcame as a response to steak and
blowjob day, which is April14th.
And this is cake and cunnilingusday.
So eat some cake and go down ona vulva.
But
kari (21:59):
like, I don't know if that just annoys me.
I was going to say,
casey (22:02):
now you're into it.
Aren't you?
kari (22:03):
Well, no, no, I'm kind of even more annoyed because I'm
like, I would rather have steakthan cake any first of all.
So to assume that like cake andkind of language goes together,
it's just like steak in a blowjob.
Like now I'm offended.
Now I'm a little
casey (22:20):
offended.
Well, then let's leave these twobehind.
Let's leave them in the dust.
Carrie, how about that?
April 16th is national hornyday.
Are you a horny?
Yes.
I don't know how
kari (22:32):
I feel about that one.
Cause horny is not set to like,
casey (22:36):
you're going to wake up on the 16th and just
kari (22:40):
be like, someone did that.
Some, someone, somewhere I waslike, God dang it.
I find myself really horny onthe 16th of April.
I would
casey (22:48):
bet that you could probably take national horny day
and just use it as a day tomaybe engage in some teasing
behavior.
If you're with a partner or ifyou're single with like a friend
or an interest or a crush orwhatever you want to do But use
that day to kind of like juststep up your game a little bit
in the engagement arena, right?
April 24th is lingerie day.
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I'm a huge supporter of thisone.
I want to see lingerie oneverybody
kari (23:14):
All everyone around walmart target.
Yeah, everyone It's nationallingerie
casey (23:19):
day guys.
So make sure you're wearing yourlingerie wear it on top of your
clothes if you need to
kari (23:23):
but I mean, how sexy would it be to like, for a, your
partner to go to work, puttinglingerie underneath and then
going in and like sending you a
casey (23:31):
picture, just the knowledge that you, that they're
wearing it throughout the daythat you're going to have you
kari (23:35):
aroused.
So would that be like a turn onfor you is just knowing that
like, I'm going to work andunderneath my work clothes is
this like really sexy lingerieoutfit that you would think
casey (23:44):
about?
Yeah.
Yeah.
Absolutely.
Yeah.
Especially if I'm receivinglike.
Notes and pictures and things.
Yeah.
You know, I can't not thinkabout it then.
That's true.
Then we have May, the entiremonth of May is masturbation.
May, I mean, I think every monthis masturbation month.
I don't think we should limit itto one month.
kari (24:00):
I, I don't, and, and just because it starts with m doesn't
mean that may should bemasturbation month, but hey,
casey (24:06):
hey, whatever works for, I mean, it could have been
March.
That would have been
kari (24:09):
better.
Why?
Because it's my birthday.
casey (24:13):
So we take the month of May to celebrate masturbation.
We already know how healthy of apractice it is.
I was just about to
kari (24:20):
say, like, that's something that actually should
be discussed.
Masturbation is very healthy ina relationship and outside a
relationship.
I, I, I hear it a lot in thesalon where someone would be
like, I don't want my partner tomasturbate.
And I'm like, Why?
Why?
It's a great form of self love.
Self love.
Self stress relief.
Stress relief.
Yeah.
I got five minutes.
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Masturbation should not be,you're not in competition to
casey (24:46):
your partner.
I know, that idea that I'm theonly person that should provide
my partner with a physicalpleasure.
That is, that is, Insane.
That's out there to me.
It's an out there concept, anout there idea, and I think is
one that deserves to bediscussed in a way.
That could maybe shift aperson's perspective.
Yeah, and
kari (25:02):
figuring out why you might feel that way.
And I'll actually be verytransparent.
I felt that way in the verybeginning of our relationship.
Very, you know, 15 years ago Ifelt that way.
But we've grown and we'veevolved and it's so different
now.
But I understand there's thisweird sense of like jealousy in
a way that you're going to haveif your partner is like doing
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something without you.
But Masturbation is such ahealthy thing.
So step aside from that,understand that it's healthy.
It's normal for you to touchyourself, for your partner to
touch themselves.
So go next.
Have fun.
Yeah, have fun.
Masturbation
casey (25:35):
May.
Next we have May 5th is make outday.
Make out
kari (25:40):
May.
casey (25:42):
Makeout day.
Yes.
On the the fifth make out.
May.
No, on the fifth.
The one
kari (25:45):
day.
One day.
Yeah.
Just the one day.
Masturbation make out May No.
Okay.
Yeah.
So make out day.
How often do you and yourpartner make out?
That would be my question to thelisteners.
Do
casey (25:55):
you make out or are y'all, are y'all just like peck
on the lips?
kari (25:59):
Because I feel like the longer you're in a relationship
with someone, the less you areto make out.
casey (26:04):
I don't know.
I don't know.
I mean, we make
kari (26:06):
out all the time.
I stand pretty, we, we do, wedo.
But even then I guarantee, Isuck your dick way more than we
make out.
casey (26:14):
Yeah, agreed.
We make out.
No, yeah, you're, you're right.
You're right.
Like
kari (26:18):
we don't.
Make out that much.
If we do make out, it has not,it has nothing to do with
intercourse or around sex.
A lot of times we'll just makeout to make out whenever we're
in a normal setting, like a lotof fun in the morning where I
come downstairs and, or we'llmake out for a little bit and
whatever, but like actual, like.
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To set aside a time.
And this isn't make out justonce that day it understand May
5th.
We're going to try and make outas many times as we can.
casey (26:48):
I love that.
And that's coming up afterwardsis May 8th.
And this is one of my favoriteones.
It is.
Outdoor intercourse
kari (26:55):
day.
You fucking love anything sexualoutdoors.
Yeah.
Outside of our home.
You want all
casey (27:01):
of it.
Yeah.
Let's take some cleansing wipesand go on a hike and just
fucking go nuts behind a bush.
And we've done that a lot
kari (27:09):
actually.
We, we have done the hikingtrips and trails where I give
you head and then you've donethe ones where we have sex.
and.
We we've re we've like literallyrecorded cute little videos and
there's like this, likemountaintop behind, well, not
mountaintop, but we're in Texas,but
casey (27:23):
whatever, you know, well some people, trees behind us.
Some people would call a lake.
Or that.
kari (27:28):
Or that.
I think I was imagining, like,the area that we're at, we had
that kind of like cliff area,but I was like, yeah, it's
Texas.
But yeah, outdoors, it's a greatway to just enhance the, the day
to day of what your sexual
casey (27:42):
routine can be.
And that's also one of our mostspicy stories we have was the
time that we fucked outdoors atthe Dallas Arboretum.
That's my, it's my favoritestory.
Anytime that I have engaged inconversation with, with someone
and it's been like, Oh, what'ssomething that you and your
partner have done sexually?
That's been like out there beenlike, we had sex at the Dallas
Arboretum behind a waterfall.
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Like that, I mean, that kind ofbeats out a lot of what some
people would say.
And I looked really good thatday.
We both did.
We did.
But yes, use that day, May the8th, to go outdoors and fuck
somebody.
Just make sure it's consensual.
May 14th, online romance day.
I mean this could be online inmany ways, many shapes.
(28:24):
It might be a dating app thatyou find somebody to be romantic
with.
It might be, you know, with yourpartner through So, you know,
Instagram sending pictures backand forth or playing truth or
dare.
That's always one of a fun onethat I love doing.
kari (28:37):
We played truth or dare a lot when we are not together and
we're both working.
Yeah.
But I like, I like what you'resaying.
You know, maybe you are not in,in a poly relationship and you
are very monogamous.
Yes.
There are, are beautiful ways toincorporate online with.
with, like you said with yourpartner something to make it fun
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outside of the norm of what younormally do.
Again, all of these days aretrying to get you to step
outside of what you do everysingle day.
Let's see.
So the next one we are nowgetting into June.
June doesn't have that many butJune, I'm
casey (29:14):
sorry, four, it has four, it has the most so far.
kari (29:17):
Oh, you're right.
I'm sorry.
I looked at that.
I thought, I thought there wasonly two.
I thought there was only two.
That's so funny.
Anyways.
Yeah.
June, June 9th,
casey (29:25):
national sex day.
And that's pretty straightforward.
Go into that one.
It's like national sex day.
Everybody.
I would, I, the only curiosity Ihave is just how many people are
having sex.
Right then.
And if it's if it's a
kari (29:40):
lot i'ma set a reminder in my phone and i'll like june 8th
I want to pull people on june8th and then like you never
think
casey (29:45):
about that if you're having sex at night and be like
I wonder how many other peopleare having sex right now in the
world
kari (29:50):
about that so many times before honestly like in
casey (29:53):
this entire world How do you even
kari (29:55):
like i'll even break it down to like our block
sometimes, you know I'll be likehow many people are fucking if
our
casey (30:01):
neighbors are fucking right now.
Like I don't know
kari (30:04):
I kind of doubt it
casey (30:06):
That doesn't Older people are heavily sexually active.
kari (30:11):
Yeah, in group homes.
casey (30:13):
Yeah.
If I'm ever in a group home,it's gonna be Balls to the
walls.
Balls on the jello.
What's up next?
We got June 14th, nudity day.
Great
kari (30:27):
one.
I'm curious as to what day thatfalls on for next year.
June 14th?
2024?
Because like I'm limited tohonestly days that I work.
I only work three days a weeknow.
Thank fucking God.
But June 14th, nudity day.
It's a Friday.
Yes, but I watch it be a fuckingFriday.
I cannot partake in that.
casey (30:46):
Same day as Flag Day, just so you know.
Oh, Flag Day.
Got it.
Alright.
Of all the important holidays, Iwould rather celebrate Nudity
Day.
kari (30:56):
So, my question is well, I guess the other one was Work
Naked Day, and then this isNudity Day.
So how would you recommendsomeone Changing that up.
casey (31:07):
Well be nude Look at nudity
kari (31:11):
I was taking it literal Like you kind of had that spin
on it.
It's just nudity in general readthat
casey (31:22):
could be any read about nudity You know read some
erotica Read some erotica.
Yeah, listen to some nudity
kari (31:32):
I am so visual.
So you are fucking my mind rightnow by telling me to read
nudity.
I use my eyes for that, babe.
casey (31:40):
But yes, be naked on June 14th in some way, shape, or
form.
June, June, you ask
kari (31:45):
for that a lot.
And I never get it, so, well, Iwouldn't say never.
What, what?
Oh yeah?
casey (31:52):
Go ahead, share with the class.
No.
No.
June 21st, World Kama Sutra Day.
Oh.
I would consider this as justlike a sex position exploration
day.
Yeah.
Kama Sutra is great and all thatand it's been a popular book for
centuries.
However, There's other sourceswhere you can get great amazing
(32:13):
sex positions designed to engageyour pleasure.
They're all over the place andthere's some really good ones
out there.
I like
kari (32:18):
what you're saying, like just use this as a time to
explore a sexual position thatyou've always wanted to try and
you
casey (32:25):
just haven't.
And I mean, ask your partner andbe like, Hey, is there any sex
position that you've been like,I want to try this, but we,
we've always kind of talkedabout it, but we never actually
execute.
Each of you pick one to two andbe like, all right today, if,
and when we have sex, we'regoing to try these and we're
going to prioritize it and belike, all right, let's go, let's
do this.
So enjoy June 21st is world KamaSutra day.
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Next up is June 22nd.
Carrie, one of your favorites,probably it says, Oh yeah, no
penny day.
kari (32:55):
That's every day for me.
It is.
That is every fucking day forme.
I only wear panties to be sexy.
Where women wear, don't wearpanties to be sexy, I'm the
opposite.
Like, if I wear panties, Casey'slike, Oh my god.
That's hot.
That is so hot.
I know, right?
But, you know, so it's a littledifferent for me.
I am a no panties wearer, buthey.
(33:17):
And you know what?
That is common as shit.
I, for, when I was younger and,and growing, I've never worn
panties.
Let's be real, never have Iever, it's never been a thing
for me.
I don't wear underwear.
But, and when I was younger,that was like, absurd.
Yeah.
Unheard of.
We were like, what?
Why?
And so now, as I'm like, gettingolder and all it is way more
(33:37):
common.
There's a lot of women thatdon't wear panties.
casey (33:39):
There are.
There's a lot of men that don'twear underwear.
I wouldn't
kari (33:43):
recommend it.
Does it ring the same
casey (33:45):
though?
I don't know.
Cause I mean, I'm in jeans mostof the time.
Yeah.
I would figure that would kindof hurt.
The feeling of my dick againstdenim.
Yeah.
Sagging?
That's not bad.
That's not bad.
My shit's up and close.
It's more of like dick againstdenim.
Yeah.
Is the
kari (33:58):
problem that you're gonna run into.
Have you ever like rubbedyourself raw with like denim and
like.
Raw?
Yeah, like the tip of your dick.
Like just rubbed on your pantsso much
casey (34:05):
that it hurt.
I mean, yeah, in some way, shapeor form.
Yes.
kari (34:09):
Yeah.
So my, my vulva doesn't do that.
casey (34:12):
And then the good, the good thing is if you're wearing
like boxer briefs or something,you get an erection, then it
kind of contains it.
It doesn't push hard up againstyour, your jeans.
It's just kind of, it's inthere, but if you're not wearing
underwear and then it's pushingagainst your jeans, it can get
painful
kari (34:27):
when you're super wet.
Where you just nail trail downyour leg.
So that's not fun.
It's a good reason
casey (34:33):
to wear underwear.
I guess that's not fun So next Ilove that Next up is july the
6th and we have kissing day notmakeout day not make out.
This is kissing day So kiss allyour friends
kari (34:45):
Everybody just kiss them.
Everyone gets a kiss Yeah No, Ithink it'd be kind of cute to
see like that day how manykisses you and your partner can
get in Yeah in a day I don't,
casey (34:56):
I don't know how many of my male friends I could kiss
that day.
I bet there'd be a couple thatwould be like, yeah, sure.
But most of them would be like,they'd
kari (35:04):
be like, no.
I can probably kiss every singleperson.
Period.
Every single person.
Regardless of gender.
Work.
Client.
Doesn't matter.
casey (35:17):
Grocery store.
Homeless person down the street.
I mean, there's a lot of them.
There's a lot of them in thearea you work.
So yeah, kiss somebody on July6th, kissing day.
July 21st, handjob day.
Give a handjob.
Give a handjob to yourself, givea handjob to your book partner.
Give a handjob to your bestfriend.
(35:38):
Just because you care.
Lay down.
kari (35:41):
Start up world's biggest circle jerk that day.
Everyone,
casey (35:46):
everyone hand to the person on your left.
Exactly.
kari (35:49):
Or right, wait.
Technically you could do both.
You could have a hand on theleft and on the
casey (35:54):
right.
You're getting me into a wholedamn rant about how many people.
You've never seen that?
No.
How many people could you jerkoff?
And like, how many, okay, sothere's, if you ever, if you've
never seen the show, SiliconValley, this this put them on
the map for season one and itwas in the season one finale and
they were at a tight bind andthey made the notion that they
were like, if I have to go intothe audience and jerk off every
(36:17):
member of the audience andthey're like, well, I don't mean
you only have 10 minutes.
How many people could you jerkoff in 10 minutes?
So they started coming up withlike equations.
To be like, oh wait, how wouldyou line them up?
Would it be, you know, next toeach other?
Then it was talking aboutputting them tip to tip so you
could just make one continuousjerk off motion between the
dicks.
And then they were like talkingabout having to take girth into,
(36:38):
into account.
So widening or shortening upyour hand.
And then you could just switchout dicks mid jerk.
So it could just be a continuousIt was one of the most amazing
Like five minute rants on a TVshow I've ever seen.
It was absolutely hilarious.
So be sure to give a handjob onJuly 21st.
Now, ooh, a great day, July24th.
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BDSM.
There's
kari (37:02):
so much you could do with that day.
That needs to be a BDSM month.
Just saying.
Now we only have a day.
So, this is your opportunity.
Kind of the same as we saidbefore with like the fetish
concept.
You don't have to go into thisknowing what you would want to
do on BDSM day, but you coulduse it as a time to like
research what it is that youwant to do or what it is that
(37:24):
you want to be done to you.
Yeah.
casey (37:26):
So let's, let's do a quick reminder for anybody
that's like, I never rememberwhat BDSM stands for.
Always remember that BDSM isgoing to stand for bondage,
discipline, dominant submission.
And then sadism masochism.
So yes, each, I mean, you'regoing to run into multiple
letter usage there, but that'swhat BDSM really stands for.
So anything that falls intothere, we have a lot of fun on
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the bondage side.
We have a lot of fun on thedominant submission side and a
little, a little bit on the sadosadism masochism side.
A little bit.
Like we enjoy some good, yeah,we enjoy some good impact play
and we've been expanding outthat a little bit.
So anyway, that is a, what datewas that?
kari (38:04):
That was July
casey (38:05):
24th, July 24th.
And then probably one of thebest days of the year, July
31st.
Do you want to read that one,Carrie?
kari (38:12):
Yes, I do.
It is a national orgasm
casey (38:16):
day.
How many orgasms do you thinkcould occur in one day for the
population?
The population of earth at thispoint is like 7 billion or
something.
kari (38:23):
Yeah.
Oh, I'm going to talk about withme.
casey (38:26):
No, no, we could, we could, we could at least do
double digits.
At least I'm saying that's why Isaid at least.
I don't
kari (38:33):
know.
I mean, yeah, you're right.
I, it's not the fact of like myinability to come.
I just think that she would belike, please stop.
Please stop.
No more.
casey (38:43):
I can hit a solid four or five before I'm like, I can't,
can't take this.
Yeah.
Like, do you know what is
kari (38:48):
the most that you've come in one day?
casey (38:50):
Five, five times.
Was it
kari (38:52):
me?
Yeah.
Yes.
Well, I don't fucking know.
You know, I'm curious myself.
No,
casey (38:56):
that's a fair question.
It might not be.
Right?
Yeah.
Yeah.
I think five times.
That was us.
Five.
Yeah, I would imagine probablyon vacation or something.
kari (39:06):
I've probably come like 20 times in a day and
casey (39:08):
was not me.
No, I'm joking.
Yes, it was.
kari (39:11):
I promise you it was.
No one made me come until you
casey (39:14):
so have an
kari (39:15):
orgasm on National Orgasm Day.
And also understand that thatcould be you giving yourself an
orgasm.
That could be like.
casey (39:24):
It could be a combination of both.
kari (39:25):
Or you could fucking masturbate in front of each
other and try to orgasm at thesame
casey (39:28):
time.
I do certainly feel like mutualmasturbation is a vastly
underrated act.
Like, come on, jerk off in frontof your partner.
kari (39:36):
Masturbate in front of them.
But I don't even think thatthat's something that you and I
have done, technically.
No, we have.
Like, we've played, but not toclimax.
To climax?
Yeah, I mean,
casey (39:43):
To climax.
Like, start to finishindividually just in front of
the other person.
Yeah.
No, I don't think that we'veparticipated in that.
Because sooner or later we'relike, mmm, I'm coming in.
kari (39:50):
Yeah.
We get a little too antsy.
We like, we want each other atthat point, but like on like
average, how long would it takeyou to come by, by
casey (39:58):
myself?
Solo?
Yeah.
Anywhere between a couple ofminutes to, you know, 10 minutes
or so.
It depends.
It depends on the day.
It depends on my mood.
It depends on there's so manyvariables, variables behind
that.
Am I watching porn or not?
Am
kari (40:11):
I watching something?
Yeah.
casey (40:13):
It's just something that I got to run into the, like, I
have no time, but I'm, Yeah, Ihave a spare five minutes, and
I'm horny right now So I'm justgonna relieve myself so I could
actually be productive Yeah, andI
kari (40:23):
feel like that's probably the bigger difference is because
I could make myself come in 20seconds if I needed to That's
casey (40:28):
a skill That's a skill.
You probably have peoplelistening right now that it's
like what what the fuck?
Yeah, like really all the ownersthat are listening to us being
like no it takes me like 10 20minutes No, so I don't do it
very often because I got likeit's got to be a whole mood The
candles and
kari (40:44):
nope, I don't know.
Nope, real quick real real quickThat's what I was wondering cuz
I'm like I'd like I would cometen times in comparison to your
one If we were like masturbatingin front of each other, are you
casey (40:55):
asking us to compete right now?
You really
kari (40:57):
kind of want to let's have a competition at this point want
to see how many times can I cometo your one?
time coming in front of eachother Are we allowed to laugh
though?
Cause you know, Oh, for sure.
No, I, I'm going to you knowthat
casey (41:08):
I feel a little bit.
I feel that playful sex is thebest sex.
kari (41:12):
So we are going to go ahead and pull this into a two
parter.
casey (41:20):
You think we should draw this out?
Cause we have a lot more to talkabout, but some of the days that
are coming up are going to belike larger discussions and a
kari (41:28):
good way.
And I feel like we're, we're inJuly.
We ended in July.
And then also we want to lety'all know if you want this list
just shoot us a message and wecan send you this list.
Also the next thing that we'regoing to be doing in January,
that's going to be a little bitdifferent from this year is you
can get on a email list for usand we're going to be sending
stuff out.
I guarantee you this list isgoing to be one of the things
(41:50):
that we send out.
So if you would like to be apart of our email listing at any
point at any time, send us youremail address and we'll get you
added in.
We have a lot more that we'rereally trying to focus in within
this next year and a lot thatwe're really fucking excited
about.
We have some events coming up.
(42:11):
We have some
casey (42:12):
traveling coming up.
We haven't talked too much aboutthe
kari (42:15):
events we have planned.
We have things coming up that wehave planned and the best way
for you to to know about it isto also be in our email listing.
Get in
casey (42:23):
the fucking loop.
So head over to our Instagrampage, click on our link tree.
And you can get added in on thatway.
So if you want to, you could, Imean, you want to, I know you
want to, but you, you need toget signed up for the, the 12
days of Christmas or 12 holidaysthat we have which starts
tomorrow.
Yeah.
kari (42:39):
As I say, if you're hearing this, then you've
already missed a day.
casey (42:43):
Yeah.
I've already missed at least oneday.
You're on like day four at thispoint.
So go get signed up.
You can do it.
Really?
Well, you'll just start off fromwhatever day that you're on,
you'll miss out on those firstfew days.
So get in on that and then italso will opt you in for all of
our future newsletter events.
We promise
kari (43:01):
you, we have so much fucking cool shit coming.
I can't freaking wait.
Ooh, it's
casey (43:04):
exclusive too.
I know you're
kari (43:06):
gonna feel like it only to the email list people,
truthfully.
Yeah.
It could be part of somethingreal special.
Well, because we can't bombardourselves in the beginning, so
we're keeping this to our emaillisting at first.
Mm-Hmm.
And then it will open up to thecivilians after, but it's not
opening up to that stuff yet.
It's only going to be our email
casey (43:21):
list.
Email list gets exclusiveaccess, like Mm-Hmm.
like first come, first serve toour events and things like that
before we open up to the public.
Correct.
Yep.
So anyway.
We're going to pick up nexttime.
So for another episode of comeon Casey, I'm Dr.
Casey Sanders and I'm
kari (43:34):
Carrie Sanders.
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