January 12, 2024 • 47 mins
Happy 2024! We're getting right into things with a fresh update on all things CWKC, including some really exciting announcements.
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Kari (00:00):
all right.
Well, God damn it is 2024.
Casey (00:03):
We're going to the new year yelling.
Apparently
Kari (00:07):
it is 2024.
This is our first episode of theyear.
When
Casey (00:13):
did we start?
I don't know, a couple
Kari (00:15):
months.
No, fuck off.
When did we start?
Like, I know it's been a year atthis point.
It's been over.
Casey (00:19):
Our first episode was August of 2021.
Kari (00:23):
Oh, that seems so fucking long ago.
I am really proud of us,actually.
You should be.
That's a lot of episodes.
This is the longest we've keptanything going, actually.
I
Casey (00:35):
looked at the stats recently and I think that we've
had almost 10, 000 downloadssince starting.
Well, that's an accomplishment.
I mean, for as little as wemarket and as little as we're
Kari (00:46):
like, we really don't market
Casey (00:48):
well enough.
No, we're terrible at it.
We all
Kari (00:52):
have goals for 2024 and this happens to be one of ours.
And you're about to start
Casey (00:57):
seeing a lot more of us.
Kari (00:58):
Oh, for sure.
Not only
Casey (01:01):
I swear to God, if you're about to say a website, no, no,
no, no.
You've been teasing that for twoyears.
Kari (01:08):
It's been teased to us for this long.
Like we want a goddamn website,but no it's just.
This is the year of our liketransition.
We knew what we wanted to do.
We knew like the goals that wehad for ourselves, but let's
face it.
Like you're a chiropractor.
I'm a hairdresser.
We are a fucking family.
We have kids.
(01:28):
We have a lot of shit.
We are
Casey (01:30):
the Montagues and Capulets.
Kari (01:32):
Yeah, honestly.
And now we have this likestructure.
My schedule is changing behindthe chair.
You just got a new schedule.
This really allows for us topinpoint the exact days that
we're going to be working on ourstuff.
It was a
Casey (01:49):
very strategic decision of us to say Hey, here's how I'm
going to work.
Here's how you're going to work.
Anybody we've talked to.
So if you don't know this, Imean, a lot of you don't, but me
and Carrie, like I work two anda half days a week and she works
what three days a week.
Yeah.
Yeah.
We planned it that way on apurpose.
It gives us to where.
(02:10):
Whenever our kids are in school,we are with each other on
Mondays and
Kari (02:14):
Tuesdays.
We have, this is kind of how Ilike lay it out for people to
like, this is our new scheduleMonday at Sunday.
Let's start with Sunday.
We're all together.
Whole family, family day.
Right.
Monday, Tuesday, me and you,whether that be house.
Podcast, coaching, SHA schoolstuff, all of it, right?
And then Wednesday, you're off,have your own fucking day.
(02:37):
Thursday, I'm off.
I have my own fucking day.
And then Friday and Saturday, wework separately.
You have your chiropracticstuff, I have my hairdressing
stuff.
It really works out well.
And every person that I've toldour schedule to are vastly
envious.
They're like, what?
I'm like, yes.
But also they need to understandhow hard we have worked.
(02:59):
To get to this point in ourlives where we can have a career
that funds our income in ourhousehold.
We're dukes.
Yes, we are.
And then we have You don't evenknow what I meant by that.
Dukes, like dukes a hazard.
No.
No.
Casey (03:14):
No.
No, we talk about this often.
We talk about dinks, doubleincome, no kids.
We're Dukes, double income withkids.
Kari (03:23):
Fuck those kids.
Sorry, this is a really popularphrase for us.
Anyways, let's get started.
What really kickstarted a lot ofthis episode was it's the new
year.
Let's find this new change.
And we have a lot that we'regoing to dive into as far as
like relationships and notice ofthat.
But beforehand.
We just took a trip and it wasour first and only trip of 2023.
(03:47):
It was absolutely fuckingamazing.
If you do not follow us along onsocial media, then you have
absolutely no idea what we'retalking about, so we just went
on a trip.
If you follow us on socialmedia, you saw that we took our
very first trip for 2023 and itwas to where?
Casey (04:06):
Winter Park,
Kari (04:07):
Colorado Now I had never gone to the mountains before I
had never been in such altitudeI had never been in such cold.
Casey (04:14):
We had a lot of story.
There was a lot of advice foryou beforehand because oh, I
Know
Kari (04:19):
I love going to the mountains.
You've been going to mountainsince you were born like this is
just part of who you are YeahYou, yeah, I
Casey (04:28):
mean, and you, the closest you had come to seeing
mountains was in Las Vegas, the
Kari (04:34):
biggest hills I'd ever seen.
Yeah.
We just don't get a lot of thatin Texas.
If you are aware in Texas, we'reso huge that we technically have
every.
Like, terrain.
What do you call that?
Yeah, that you can have, right.
But we just don't have it likean abundance, like a mountain or
whatever.
We have some really tall peaks.
Casey (04:53):
We have the hill country with
Kari (04:55):
the hill country.
We got the forest.
We got the swamps.
We got woodlands.
We got planes.
We got fucking desert.
It's not really a beach, butit's kind of a beach, like we
have all of it.
It's
Casey (05:04):
a beach, technically.
It's technically a beach.
Kari (05:07):
It doesn't make it a good glorified lake.
It's not a
Casey (05:09):
good Really?
It's a glorified lake.
The Gulf of Mexico.
Is
Kari (05:12):
a glorified lake.
I cannot wait.
I'm sorry, if it's brown, it'snot a beach.
No.
If it's
Casey (05:17):
brown, it's not a beach.
I can't wait to put this online.
Kari (05:21):
And everyone's
Casey (05:22):
going to agree with me.
Literally the ocean is aglorified lake.
Where
Kari (05:26):
we are, not all oceans, our
Casey (05:30):
ocean.
You just called the Gulf ofMexico a glorified lake.
Yes,
Kari (05:33):
I did.
Yes, I did.
And they're honored to get that.
Description of it, coffeegrounds and water.
Anyway, so we went on this tripand it was our, and it was also
our first time taking the kidsto the mountains.
Yeah.
What did our daughter do?
She said, fuck this.
Fucking hated it the second shewalked out.
Casey (05:54):
Nope, too cold.
Signed.
So I've been, I've beensnowboarding most of my life,
carry over here.
The kids never even, so wesigned them up for a half day
lesson.
Get on the mountain.
You're going to get aninstructor.
Our daughter on the way to themountain was so sunken in her
chair and just staring at thewindow and like self reflection
(06:15):
about how poor of a decision shefelt it was that she was going
to be getting onto the mountainand snow.
And the
Kari (06:20):
thing is about our daughter is she doesn't do.
She doesn't want to do,
Casey (06:23):
you couldn't convince her
Kari (06:27):
never going to happen, but, and that was fine.
We, we didn't really know howthey were going to respond to
this environment.
I didn't know how I was going torespond.
And we had kind of gone into itearlier on saying like, if they
don't like it, we are notforcing it.
You don't like it.
You don't like it.
Move on to the next activity.
So Evelyn did miss out on all ofthe skiing.
(06:48):
We're not going to get intothat.
But she missed out on all of it.
That girl wanted to be in a hottub.
And that is where she foundherself later that day.
I think she spent like eighthours in a hot tub, which tracks
for her and her love for theheat.
But it was, it was a reallygreat opportunity because even
through us being there onvacation.
With our family, we still foundtime to have these check ins,
(07:11):
have these talks, talk about ourrelationship.
We had a, we had a big one, too.
We had a huge conversation aboutour relationship.
In the middle of a bar.
In the bar, in bed.
No, it was literally, it waslike, in the bar.
And then that night, I think Iwoke you up at 2 a.
m.
Because first of all, I couldn'tfucking breathe.
And I was having a panic attack.
So I woke you up, so hey, let'stalk about this again.
(07:32):
But, it, it was a great momentbecause we don't, We, we talk a
lot about like setting asidetime to talk with your partner,
but sometimes it is spontaneous.
And sometimes it is like, thisis what I need to talk about.
And well,
Casey (07:44):
so, sometimes what happens is it is a
Kari (07:49):
cat and I'm pretty sure that's Manson and I'm going to
take two seconds.
I
Casey (08:19):
can't wait to make a sound bite out of that.
If it carries, if it carriesinto the audio.
I'm totally putting that online.
I'm not even going to try toimitate whatever that is.
By the way.
(08:41):
Get your ass out of here! Orangecat! Orange cat! Was it Manson?
Kari (08:50):
No, I couldn't see who he was attacking, but it was the
orange cat.
Anyways, go ahead, go.
Casey (08:58):
I was going to make a point about Oh, oh, okay, okay,
okay.
We're back, we're back.
So if If if you find yourself onthese vacations or whatever it
is, and there's nothing to doand you're being, and you're
trying to figure out what youcan do, that's a good time to be
like, wait, if we have this timetogether, let's utilize time for
(09:18):
our relationship check in now.
Kari (09:20):
And when we say a relationship check in, this is
something where you set asidetime to sit down and just with
your partner about where youstand.
Maybe there was something thatthey did a week ago that really
upset you, but maybe it wasn'tthe time to bring it up.
Relationship check ins are superimportant.
And sometimes doing them insituations like a vacation,
(09:41):
because vacations just puts youin a different mindset in a
relationship, no matter what,you're in a different place.
You're in a different headspace.
You're outside of your norm.
Work schedule, kids, all ofthat.
It just can, it can kind of slowdown.
So if you and your partner workwell in an environment like
that, Hey, we're outside ournorm.
(10:01):
Let's talk, then do that.
Set aside time to where itdoesn't feel like you're getting
onto each other on vacation.
Think of it as like theopposite.
Casey (10:11):
Let's clarify that relationship check ins aren't
all about getting onto eachother.
No,
Kari (10:15):
absolutely not.
It could be, you went down on methis way a week ago, and that
was.
fucking amazing.
Celebrate the
Casey (10:22):
good.
Also find the things that you
Kari (10:24):
need to work on.
Yeah.
It's just a time to set aside tosay something that you've wanted
to say good, bad midline thatyou just haven't had the
opportunity opportunity to yet.
Yeah.
Yeah.
So, so we did slightly plug theburlesque show.
We always do.
It's the first Friday of everymonth.
We kind of talked about us.
You know, Taco Bell drunkennessafter.
(10:45):
However, we're going to offersome
Casey (10:47):
fucking great time.
And that shows
Kari (10:49):
you that show is so much fun.
And the thing is, is the peoplethat we want to take to these
shows are people that have neverexperienced something like this
before.
Yeah.
I love to take it.
Sometimes we take some of ourclosest friends and sometimes
we, we pick, you know, anacquaintance or maybe a close
new friend or something and say,Hey, this is something that I
(11:09):
know you've never experienced.
Join us, please.
Because I think that the morethat we spread out, like the
normalcy of burlesque, the lesspeople assume what it is instead
of having the opportunity toexperience what it is.
It
Casey (11:23):
gives them a great vision onto what.
In our opinion, true burlesqueis
Kari (11:28):
this is not, this
Casey (11:30):
is not commercialized burlesque.
A lot of times what you seefrom, I don't know, the movie
burlesque or from a lot of thesethings is these like, it's very
boxed into what the currentWesternized society we live in
views.
attractiveness and burlesque asa certain body type, a certain
(11:53):
makeup, certain feel.
This is true burlesque is notlimited to a fucking thing.
Be who you are.
Kari (12:01):
It's fucking comedic
Casey (12:04):
singing.
There's comedy.
There's drag Queens.
There's drag Kings.
There's body positivity.
There's fucking.
Everything
Kari (12:10):
is literally everything.
And, and I have gone toburlesque shows my entire
fucking life.
I've been obsessed with it.
And this was the first burlesqueshow that we have attended and,
and obviously continue to that.
I'm like, Holy shit.
This is what burlesque isactually about.
It's the most true to
Casey (12:29):
burlesque show that we've ever seen.
Kari (12:30):
Correct.
And, and so we're, we're kind ofleading with that to say, reach
out to us.
If you have never been to aburlesque show.
This is now the opportunity.
Not only are you going to get tohang out with us.
But you're going to get the VIPexperience because when we go to
these shows, we don't fuckaround.
We're not in standing room.
We're not just in the backcorner.
(12:52):
Fuck that.
We are front row table for everysingle show.
And this is the first show thatwe are actually offering to the
public a chance to come and hangout with us and a chance to come
and visit what the show has tooffer.
You, you want to join, you wantto be one of the ones that we
pick email us.
I
Casey (13:11):
mean, fine.
You can DM us,
Kari (13:12):
DM
Casey (13:14):
us, say, Hey, do you guys have a couple of seats
available?
Me and my partner want to come,or I would love to come and
bring my friend, submit
Kari (13:22):
to us, tell us why to give us a reason why you want to be
the ones to sit with us at thistable and we will sift through
it and we will find the one thatwe feel is best suited, but this
is what's going to happen.
This next show, we have a tableof four, we have two seats
available.
Please come and join us.
If you want in.
And you want to hang out withus?
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Cause we're pretty fucking coolto hang out with.
Whoa, you go.
Absolutely.
I am.
That's what 2024 is for me.
Big O ego.
I'm just kidding.
All right.
So are you just kidding?
I'm always just kidding.
Fuck you.
Anyways.
So we have a game that you wantto play.
Please, please tell us this gamethat you have set up for us.
(14:05):
I love your my segues.
Yeah.
You said this was my show today.
Casey (14:11):
It is.
It's, it is today.
Oh, that is.
Not, I'm not going to have acommentary on your show today.
Absolutely.
I will.
So there's a page that we followonline called sex positive
memes.
If you want to find them, youcan go to sex positive dot
memes.
And this person, we don't reallyknow them.
Like we had a back and forthconversation.
(14:33):
But it was because we were soimpressed with this game that
they made that they were, theysaid, let's play a game.
They said, top or bottom.
And they gave.
A series of paired cartooncharacters.
And then I gave a series ofpaired cartoon characters.
And then you are to pick out ofthese two, which would be the
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top and which would be thebottom.
Now, a couple of quick rules onthis is that you can't, they
can't be a switch.
They can't be averse.
No, just exclusively top orbottom.
Out of these two, you mustselect the top.
Or the bottom.
And we want to go through a few,we want to go a few of these.
We're going to leave some outbecause we really want you to go
check out the post.
We do.
Yeah.
(15:13):
But we're going to pick a coupleof them to go through and we're
going to start this off.
Ready?
Yes.
Okay.
So we have Rick Sanchez fromRick and Morty and we have Lila
from Futurama.
Discuss
Kari (15:25):
Rick and Lila.
Yeah, fuck.
Those are two really dominatingpeople.
Casey (15:30):
I already know my answer.
Kari (15:32):
I'm, I'm sorry.
I'm just going to go with Rickas a Dom.
Why?
Because he's too cocky to besubmissive, at least like.
Like Leela in that sense, right?
I can see her like, he's veryintelligent.
He's very smart.
He has this big like presenceand, and she's going to get off
on the fact that everyone in theuniverse knows him.
(15:54):
And so she's going to likesubmit because I mean, she's a
strong character, but as onestrong character to another
strong character, we want tosubmit to someone that gives us
the like universe.
Right.
Whenever you're
Casey (16:08):
so busy.
Looking at people who aren't.
As strong as you are, it'sreally nice to have that
refreshing air of someone thatis can't handle
Kari (16:18):
you.
And in my opinion, no one ismore universal dominant than
fucking
Casey (16:23):
Rick Sanchez.
Yeah.
I like, I mean, I like youranswer.
So.
I'm going to nerd out on thisfor a second because I know, I
know these two shows and thesetwo characters insanely well.
Of course you do.
So we've seen Lila submissivebefore we had multiple
Kari (16:35):
times.
And that's what I'm saying.
I've already
Casey (16:37):
seen it.
We've seen her in relationship.
She was even, she'd slept withZach Branigan first of all.
And one of the first season one,not on top of that, she dated
the mayor's aide.
On top of that, she dated theguy that talked her into fixing
her Cyclops eye and getting twoeyes.
Do you
Kari (16:54):
see why I'm saying she's submissive?
Casey (16:58):
Submissive.
And Rick Sanchez, anytime anyonehas ever come after him,
including, I'm going to goincluding Unity.
Who is like the symbiote, likethe hive mind girl that he was
with, he has always had asafety.
He has always had some sort of,of like wall up every
Kari (17:16):
single time.
So are you saying you agree withme?
Yeah.
100%.
Casey (17:20):
Rick is a top in this one.
Layla's the
Kari (17:22):
bottom.
As much as I admire herstrength, she's the bottom in
this.
Casey (17:27):
Ready for the next one?
Yeah.
So we're going with a same sexcouple here.
Oh, okay.
We're going Homer Simpson andPeter Griffin.
Kari (17:36):
Oh, goddamn, that one's super hard.
They're both submissive.
Okay.
Okay.
I'm gonna go with Homer beingtop just because I feel like if
Homer was bottom, he would getlike lost in Griffin's Size.
That's your reasoning?
Yeah.
Yeah.
Homer is going to have to be topbecause if Griffin was top like
(17:59):
just like anatomy physical wise,it wouldn't work.
Casey (18:04):
That I'm going to judge you on that one.
I'm gonna judge because Idisagree entirely because I
Kari (18:11):
just imagine Griffin just being able to lay there.
All he does is just lay there.
So if you're so big that all youdo is lay there, you have to be
submissive.
You do?
Well, and then I also had thislike thought in my head of
whenever an episode.
Where, what was his wife's name?
The Lois Lois was like, they'redoing BDSM, right.
And she's putting on the bootsand she's having the strap.
And I see that.
(18:32):
And he's just wearing like themask where he has no sound or
no, whatever.
Right.
Casey (18:37):
I know it's funny because I know exactly what you're
talking about because he unzipsthe mouth and goes, love you.
I
Kari (18:46):
think that that puts into that submissive in my head, that
I've already seen him besubmissive.
Okay.
And so
Casey (18:52):
You're starting to sway me because I was going to
disagree in the beginning.
Kari (18:54):
Yeah.
But I'm like, I already see it.
And then again, I just imagineyou're big, you just lay there.
So just be submissive and justlay there and take it.
You know,
Casey (19:03):
what about the respect of, I'm just going to lay here
and tell you what to do.
Lay here.
I'm going to lay here while youdo, as I say, job of the hut.
Kari (19:12):
If I didn't write, if I didn't have the image of Lewis,
Lewis being dominant to him, I,I.
I would, could be swayed otherways, but because I've already
mentally seen him be submissive.
I can't unsee it.
So you're biased
Casey (19:28):
based upon one scene?
Yeah.
Yeah.
Okay.
I am.
So I, I, I haven't, I've been ofa difficulty here because it's
Homer.
I mean, he.
It's Homer Simpson.
Homer Simpson is not a doof.
He's not exactly.
He's not a dominant person.
His kids dominate him.
Kari (19:48):
He is not a dominant person.
Oh, he's very submissive.
But maybe that's the role.
Maybe that's the chance.
Just like Lila is so strong thatshe has to be submissive, maybe
this is Homer's chance to be
Casey (20:00):
dominant.
So just like we talk about inthe podcast, we're like, hey,
there's couples out there whereone person spends all their time
being dominant to the wholeworld.
Yeah.
And then they come home and allthey want is to be submissive.
Exactly.
Okay.
What if Homer's And I, I'm, I'mswayed.
I am.
Cause originally I was going tobe like, now Homer, he's
submissive to his kids, he'ssubmissive to everybody around
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him, he's always being told whatto do, and he's just
Kari (20:25):
like, go with the flow.
I had to fuck enough of it.
In the bedroom.
I'm going to say what happens,and we already know that Griffin
is just like, okay,
Casey (20:36):
we're moving on.
All right.
Oh, okay.
We have two more that we'regoing to do because I want
people to actually go look atthe post.
I know.
I don't want to like, youhaven't yet give sex positive
memes to follow, but this is agood one.
This is also a same sex couple.
And this is Bob from Bob'sBurgers and Shaggy from Scooby
Doo.
Oh, oh, oh,
Kari (20:56):
oh, Those are some, those are two very passive.
I'm gonna,
Casey (21:01):
I'm gonna go with Bob at the top.
I'm gonna go with Bob at thetop, Shaggy at the bottom.
Okay, why?
So, first of all, Bob owns hisown restaurant.
Okay.
He makes burgers, correct?
He's, he's a food deliver.
He has the burger of the day,whatever all that is.
I
Kari (21:15):
bet he has some kinky burger titles.
I
Casey (21:17):
bet he fucking does.
He does.
And then Shaggy's lover of food.
I just give me that burger,baby.
That's all he wants.
That's all he wants.
That's true.
And so Shaggy, Shaggy leads asimple life.
He rides in the back of the van.
He has the best friend that's adog.
They just, all they do is solvemysteries and eat food.
He doesn't ask for a lot.
He doesn't need a lot.
(21:38):
He doesn't require all of this.
Bob has a, has a nuclear family,right?
He's got the wife.
He's got the kids.
He's got the business.
He is on top.
Kari (21:47):
He's always having to be on the go.
He's always having to make
Casey (21:49):
decisions.
At the same time, Bob has to besubmissive to the people around
him.
Not just his wife a little bit,but the guy, Oh, it is Mr.
Fish odor that collects his rentand the rival rival, Jimmy Pesto
across the street that runs theItalian spot.
Kari (22:04):
So he's had enough is what you're saying.
The world has made him portraythis like character to keep his
business as his family afloat.
So what does he want to do?
He wants
Casey (22:14):
to dominate somebody and Shaggy is the perfect go with
the flow kind of
Kari (22:20):
guy, even if Shaggy tried to dominate me, I would laugh.
Right.
I would laugh.
You'd be
Casey (22:25):
like, pass the blunt and go at it.
Yeah.
Kari (22:27):
Come on, bro.
You know why we're here?
This is not why we're here.
I, I will a hundred percent beon board with this.
Whenever we had first talkedabout this earlier with that
one, I was like, I have nofucking clue.
I don't know.
That one, I'm, I'm stumped, butI, I agree with you
wholeheartedly because, and alsoShaggy could just never, it's
just not who he is.
There's no, like, I'm thisperson, but in the bedroom, I'm
(22:48):
going to be vastly different.
No, he's shown him.
Sure.
Casey (22:51):
Exactly.
He's going to get zoinked allnight.
Kari (22:54):
All night.
He's going to beg for zoinks allnight.
Casey (22:58):
We're doing one more of these and it's because I saved
the best for last.
Again, if you haven't given sexpositive means to follow.
So can
Kari (23:05):
you say it again?
Is it sex sex dot
Casey (23:07):
sex positive dot memes.
Okay.
Exactly.
Got it.
Yep.
Okay.
This is a hard one.
This is a difficult one.
Jack Skellington.
And Cruella DeVille.
What?
What?
Kari (23:24):
Dude,
Casey (23:25):
that's hard.
The fucking Pumpkin King ofHalloween Town.
I don't know, man.
Versus a Dalmatian murderingfashionista.
Kari (23:34):
Fuck, that one's really hard because she's so, erratic.
She's psychotic.
She's a sociopath.
She's a sociopath.
Exactly.
So like, can a sociopath besubmissive?
I don't know.
That one's hard, but there's noway Jack is a fucking bottom.
Casey (23:52):
I don't know.
I mean, Jack might be a
Kari (23:54):
bottom.
I can't.
I don't care how skinny he is.
It's not
Casey (23:58):
about you.
That is the second time you madeit about size.
I'm going to get that shit outof your head.
Kari (24:07):
I'm sorry.
I'm going to go with the factthat Koala is.
Is the the submissive one.
Casey (24:13):
Why?
I need to know why, how, how,and why would Jack be like, I'm
going to put up with I'm justgoing to put her in her place
and she's going to say, okay.
Cause he's a
Kari (24:23):
pumpkin king.
Yeah.
What are you, you are a broadthat wants dogs.
I'm the pumpkin king.
I have died.
I control, I own, I like, thisis my domain.
I was Santa Claus.
Bitch.
I don't know.
I know.
I think that kind of falls tothe, like the Lila thing that we
(24:44):
were saying, like, but have youseen her?
She's dominant.
She's dominant.
Maybe that's, maybe that's theopportunity she gets to lay down
on a blanket full made ofDalmatians.
And, and is that what
Casey (24:57):
he's going to deliver to her?
Maybe.
Kari (24:59):
To assert his dominance?
I mean, he's, he's the deathKing.
He's a pumpkin King.
All the Dalmatians that die, hejust cuts their skin off, their
fur off before they're, they'redead.
Right.
You know, she, no one.
I'm
Casey (25:12):
sorry.
What scenario are you coming upwith right now?
Kari (25:15):
That maybe that was his gift to her.
Like, listen, bitch, you'recrazy.
And you want to kill Dalmatians.
I'm not going to do that, butwith, they're already dead.
I'm going to skin them.
I'm going to make you a blanketand you're going to lay on this
blanket of Dalmatians that youso desire.
And then you are now going to besubmissive to me because I gave
you the ultimate gift of aDalmatian blanket.
(25:36):
So then
Casey (25:37):
you would say that she would willingly submit to
someone who gave her what shewants.
Yes.
Yes.
Kari (25:43):
A lot about
Casey (25:43):
you
Kari (25:43):
where I don't know where I would never want a domination
blanket.
Let's be clear.
Casey (25:52):
Talking about the
Kari (25:55):
But yeah, I think that, and I know earlier, I mean, you
might've said this off air andI'm sorry for but you said no
switch, right?
Like, yeah.
So yeah,
Casey (26:03):
rules of this that we're not talking as much as we want
to be like, Ooh, this one wouldtotally be a switch.
This one would totally be averse.
Yeah, no, we're not doing that.
We're choosing a one strict topone,
Kari (26:12):
strict bottom.
So then if I can't say thatshe's a switch, I will say that
she would be submissive tosomeone finally giving her what
she's always wanted.
And I feel like he's the man todo it.
But also in my head, Jack is notsubmissive.
You little dominant ass, longlegged bitch.
(26:33):
You stole Christmas.
He has a dog.
You were not submissive.
He wanted something so bad, hewent into another realm and
stole it.
He's a
Casey (26:44):
dog person.
Kari (26:47):
Oh, that's a good one.
He's a dog person.
He is.
Casey (26:50):
He is a dog person.
Are dog people
Kari (26:51):
submissive?
Yes.
Anyone can be submissive.
Casey (26:54):
It doesn't matter.
This is such a fucking blanket
Kari (26:56):
statement.
I don't know.
Are elephant people submissive?
Like, I don't know.
That doesn't matter.
Casey (27:01):
I mean, you could have a cat.
Kari (27:04):
No one.
Cats are not submissive.
So cat owners are notsubmissive.
It even makes more sense.
I love your logic.
It even makes more sense.
But dogs are submissive.
He's a dog person.
No, but, but she wants.
Dog secretly.
She wants to kill dogs.
She loves them so much.
She wants to wear them.
She wants their skin.
She loves them so much.
She wants them close to home.
(27:25):
No.
Casey (27:26):
Close to her.
So little about them, she'swilling to kill a hundred of
them to get a coat.
One
Kari (27:32):
coat.
I mean, it's probably a reallynice coat.
People kill like rare foxes forcoats.
So Dalmatian, I can breed you anew one in a week.
Casey (27:43):
Are you saying that 101 Dalmatians should have been
about a more rare animal?
I
Kari (27:50):
think that maybe, or let's flip it and just say how easy it
was for her to make the coach.
You know, is
Casey (27:55):
she a bad person?
Why did she have to go over thatone family with those 100
Dalmatians?
She couldn't get a hundredDalmatians.
I mean, it's just easier thatway.
She could have posted, at thetime, she could have posted a
flyer on the street, 10 bucksfor your Dalmatian.
Bring it here.
She could have gotten a coat.
She didn't need to go over afterthe puppies.
I feel like we're
Kari (28:12):
sidetracking.
It's like an anomaly.
Puppies.
Why not weigh into the fullgrown?
You have more fur that way.
Casey (28:19):
Is the same.
I mean, would you rather eat,you know, cow or
Kari (28:22):
veal?
I've never had veal.
So I don't know.
Casey, have you had veal?
Oh, yes.
Delicious.
I've never had veal.
So I don't know.
I don't know.
All right, So what is youranswer?
I've so aggressively given myresponse.
Oh
Casey (28:36):
yeah.
You went onto it.
You know, that's funny enoughbecause I agree with you, I just
like to push your buttons.
No, I, I don't think that Jackis, I think that he's too, too
strategic.
I think that he is too much,like loves the control of
things.
I think, I think that he wouldoutsmart Cruella in some way,
shape or form easily.
(28:56):
I think that he would just talkher into it.
He knows what he wants.
I think
Kari (28:59):
him and Sally would get down on some fucking Cruella.
Casey (29:02):
Oh, there.
Okay.
Now we're talking.
I think fantasy threesomes.
Kari (29:07):
Absolutely.
Let's put those characters
Casey (29:08):
together.
Jack and Sally rock
Kari (29:10):
Cruella's world.
Exactly.
And she dies from it and thenjoins them.
And
Casey (29:15):
here she is.
She's
Kari (29:17):
already skinny enough.
She looks like Skeletor.
So it's I'm just fit right in.
Casey (29:22):
That's the third body comment.
we're going to put in like bodyphysique comments made by Carrie
and have a
Kari (29:28):
counter.
I will get canceled so fast.
I'm already afraid to have apodcast enough as it is of
getting canceled because of mymouth.
Let's not point them out.
But but yeah, so head over totheir page.
They honestly, they post a lotof cool stuff.
This was just the first one thatwe were like, Hey, let's turn
this into like a little segmentin our
Casey (29:50):
show.
And they do a good job.
They're almost, I mean, they're,they're just shy of 10, 000 of
followers from hitting a hundredK.
They do, they do posts on openrelationship apps.
They do memes all the fuckingtime.
And they have, the good news is,is that this is a hundred
percent original content meansthey make that claim, right?
(30:10):
Yeah.
So you have a lot of pages thatjust share shit from other
people.
This page claims 100 percentoriginal content and I love
anything you find there is stuffthat they're that they're doing
themselves And they've got somereally fucking good stuff.
Like I mean everything fromrings all the way through to
like Spongebob and BDSM stuffand Hellraiser and Rick and
(30:32):
Morty and every actor actressand performance.
Kari (30:35):
Yeah, so go give them a good show Yeah, go give them a
follow see kind of what we'reseeing but we had kind of
slightly discussed.
That's really what today'sepisode is going to be about.
And if you follow like 30minutes, I know that's fine.
We're fucking funny.
They're enjoying it.
If you had followed ourInstagram page, the CW Casey
official we made a post theother day that said new year,
(30:58):
new screw.
Yeah.
Would you like to kind of likedive into that and
Casey (31:02):
what that means?
Well, my favorite thing aboutnew year, new screw is yeah,
absolutely.
Kari (31:06):
Well, because anytime that we're finding ourselves in the
new year, I'm, I'm sorry, Idon't give a fuck how many
people are like, Oh, that's solame doing a new year's
resolution.
Who gives a fuck?
It, it is January.
It is a new month.
It's a new year.
It's a new time.
It's a new opportunity to bebetter, choose better.
Be wiser, do somethingdifferent.
(31:27):
Why the fuck not to kickstartedin January?
So
Casey (31:30):
with New Year's resolutions the reality of a New
Year's resolution to me is thatit's very popular now to be like
stupid.
We're
Kari (31:39):
going to go against the grain.
All of a sudden it's cool to sayit's dumb.
But well, then be the coolperson that says it's dumb and
doesn't accomplish anything.
No,
Casey (31:48):
the reality of it is, is that I, instead of choosing to
move away from it, I like tolean into it because you have
this large group ofaccountability people who are
all posting about theirdecisions that they're making
with starting anew.
The, the fact is, is that this,this Is to us in at least the
(32:09):
United States as the reset.
This is the start of somethingnew.
This is day one.
This is one, one, one, do yourthing, do your thing.
This is the time to do it.
This is the time to make thedecision.
And you have a bunch of peoplearound you.
So to say that it's stupid toeven try something new, come on.
Kari (32:27):
I don't know.
I had my client asked me theother day, she was like, Oh, do
you have a new year'sresolution?
Or, you know, are you even doingthat thing?
I'm like, Of course I'm doingthat.
Like, why wouldn't I, but Ididn't realize that it, like you
were saying, it kind of had thislike negative, people had this
like negative mindset to
Casey (32:44):
it.
like the last 10 years or somaybe being like New Year's
resolutions are stupid.
If you want to start somethingnew, the best day is today.
Yeah.
Kari (32:53):
I, and again, if whatever, but what we're saying is that
like January gives you.
An amazing opportunity to justbe different.
And what we want to talk aboutis again slightly in what we
discussed discussed earlier islike maybe having a relationship
check in, maybe setting newgoals for y'all's relationship,
maybe setting new goals for yourfamily.
(33:14):
We sit down every year and wetalk like, all right, kids,
we're going to try it.
We're going to do thisdifferent.
We're going to focus on this andI see no fucking harm in it to
sit down with your partner andsay, What can you and I do
better?
What was something last yearthat you really felt like you
missed out on?
You know, for you, maybe it wasblowjob Sundays.
(33:35):
Maybe I didn't give you enoughblowjob Sundays last year.
Not enough blowjobs, not enoughblowjobs.
But maybe that is a discussion.
And I don't think that you needto take this too extreme or too
little.
It is how you feel about yourrelationship and things that you
would like to see.
Different.
Yeah.
And so we just, we reallyencourage that.
(33:58):
Casey and I have focused on.
Yeah.
This year we're focusing on us.
Yeah.
We're not
Casey (34:05):
being open.
Yeah.
So that was one that was gonnabe like, we want to talk about
it.
Like, let's talk about it alittle bit.
We have made the decision toshift our focus from being like
monogamish and like opening upto new sexual experiences to
focusing on us as a couple withjust the two
Kari (34:22):
of us.
Well, and one of the biggerthings that's changing for us is
Casey actually gifted me withsomething.
This Christmas.
I am now enrolled in sexualhealth alliance, which is the
program.
Oh, plug the fuck
Casey (34:36):
out of them.
Cause they do amazing work.
Kari (34:37):
Which is the program that Casey has been in now for about
a, maybe a little over a yearand a half a year.
Yeah.
So if y'all are unaware of ourlike big goal here is we want to
do couples counseling.
We're wanting.
Casey is going to be like thecounseling aspect of I'm going
to be the coach.
(34:58):
Now, the big difference betweencoaching and counseling one is a
counselor is there to reallybreak down like the emotions,
the past, the trauma, thesituations that y'all find
yourselves in.
And let's really break that downto the core of what the problem
is.
While me coaching is going tobe.
(35:18):
Okay, you had a session with myhusband, y'all got to talk in
depth and now I'm your coach.
I'm here to tell you, I want youto explore this sexually.
I want you to set up thesedates.
I want you to fill out this formand y'all figure these things
out about one another.
My job is to.
Coach you into being a bettercouple and Casey's job is going
(35:39):
to be counseling you intofiguring out how to become that
better couple vertical versushorizontal.
Yes.
And this has been the biggestgoal that we have ever had.
But
Casey (35:49):
there's a reason behind it.
And I want to speak on that fora second because whenever we
started our page and we werelooking at, I mean, let's face
it, there's.
Pages upon pages upon pages ofpeople that are offering advice
on sex and sexuality on what doyou do if you have low libido
and what are you doing afterthis?
And let us coach you.
(36:10):
And one of the things we noticedabout a lot of people is that
they're coaching or teachingfrom personal experience.
And while we have the last 14years, Of personal experience to
us.
That's not enough.
It's not enough for us to justbe like, here's what we went
through because we only knowwhat we know, right?
If we know what we know, wedon't know what we don't know.
So if we're trying to givepeople advice based upon our
(36:34):
personal experience, we're doingthem a
Kari (36:36):
disservice without having the full scope of understanding.
Casey (36:40):
So what we therefore needed to do.
Was expand our academia to makesure that we're giving advice
based upon evidence basedpractices that are thoroughly
researched that are veryaccepted by the academic
community and just as effectiveways to help
Kari (36:55):
people.
Yeah, and just so far from whatour normal experience is.
So not only are we going to beable to give you this, like.
What we've experienced 14 yearstogether, but the information
that others have brought to us,that is something that we could
never possibly experiencedbecause it wasn't our
Casey (37:13):
story.
Research upon research, researchupon diving in, and this is the
program that we've crafted basedupon this is, is.
I mean, I, I hate, I actually, Ilove to be the person that's
like, no, this is, this is whatI wish I would have had, but
this is what I wish I would havehad.
There's too many times wherewe've heard people giving
(37:35):
advice.
Where we've been like, well,maybe that'll work for us.
Why did it, why does it workfor, for everybody else?
Well, it didn't work foreverybody else.
It worked for us.
I'm like, okay, so you're givingme an instance in which
something worked for you andthen you're turning around and
telling people that that's whatthey should also do because it
worked for you.
So we're just,
Kari (37:55):
yeah, exactly.
And, and that's one thing that Ilove about going through SHA or
Shaw or sexual health allianceis again, Casey's really going
to be focusing on like thecounseling portion where I,
where I get the opportunity tofocus more on like the coaching
aspect and
Casey (38:12):
present and you are
Kari (38:12):
the future.
Yes.
And because we are focusing somuch on our studies and our
goals.
We were taking a step back fromexploring.
We're not going to be open.
We're utilizing this time tojust focus in on one another.
Yeah,
Casey (38:30):
we strongly feel that if you're going to open up a
relationship in any way, thenyou need to be able to make time
for those other people.
And I think that's a big part ofit.
And you don't want to be like,Hey, I'm sacrificing my time
with this other person.
Because I have all this otherstuff on my plate, you know,
we've talked to people who havebeen like, I have four
relationships and that's howmuch they can handle.
And that's what, they're good atthat.
(38:51):
That's, that's all well andgood.
And there's other people thathave two relationships or one
relationship and that's all theycan handle based upon what's on
their
Kari (38:59):
plate.
And see, for me, I have fourrelationships.
I have you, I have my family, Ihave my job, and now I have SHA.
Exactly.
I have my four relationships.
I'm not going to stress myselfout about.
Trying to put in energy andtime.
And that's honestly, and I thinkyou said it, that would be me
doing a disservice to then tothat person.
(39:20):
So this year, that is not whatwe're working on.
It doesn't mean that we don'twant to have involvement in
interaction.
The people that we've metthrough this, like open society
is fucking amazing.
And these are the
Casey (39:33):
friends that we want.
We said this, we said this theother day to each other.
Yeah.
And it was that I have nevermet.
Consent and driven, boundarydriven people than I have within
like lifestyle.
And it's so interesting to mebecause it gets misconstrued all
the time where people are like,Oh, you're open.
That means you want to fuckeverything that walks.
(39:53):
No, not even a little bit.
It means that you are open tothe capacity of exploring
various relationship styles.
And so to meet these people whoare so respectful of boundaries
and consent and all that is areally cool thing.
Kari (40:07):
And that is something that we want to continue to work on
is, is forming theserelationships.
But yeah, in a sense, I feellike we need to just go out
there and say, Hey, this is whatwe're focusing on this year.
This is what we're going to bedoing.
Not much is, not much ischanging aside from like, we're
just focusing on ourselves andour lives this year.
But that was part of ourrelationship check in and that
(40:29):
was in part of why we want to dothis episode is it's important
to sit down and talk to yourpartner about the year, what you
want, what you don't want, yourexpectations, your desires.
This is the time of year to dothose things.
I'm going to scream
Casey (40:44):
it.
I'm going to scream it.
If you do it with your career,why the fuck are you not doing
it with your relationship?
Yes.
You make goals for your careerall day long.
KPIs.
You set various metrics tomeasure your growth in your
professional capacity.
Why the fuck are you not doingit in your personal
(41:07):
relationship?
Kari (41:09):
I mean, that was even us getting into this before I
thought that I, I've been aplanner.
I love fucking planners.
January 1st, give me a goddamnplanner.
And like, I've been so driven bythat.
But looking back at some of myold ones, not one really said
what I wanted for me and you, itmight've been for the kids and
(41:31):
what we need to do for them, butit was so rare that it was me
and you.
And I don't think it was untilprobably this past year that we
sat down and we did have thisconversation in January.
And one of our big things wassetting up a date night.
You have to understand howimportant it is to have a date
night with your partner.
Casey (41:49):
You know, I honestly, I think a lot of people do
understand the importance.
But do
Kari (41:53):
they understand like setting aside the time?
Casey (41:59):
This is what, this is one of the things that's been on my
mind a lot lately because Ithink that people understand the
importance but don't have themotivation to make it important.
I think because so many peoplebecome so comfortable and
complacent in their relationshipthat they are not good at
stepping outside of that comfortzone.
And they go, well, no, myrelationship's good.
They become comfortable withbeing like, oh, I have a,
(42:21):
whether it be a wife or a longterm partner with kids and
everything else, they becomemore secure.
They don't think it's goinganywhere.
They have this high risk withtheir professional life of being
like, well, if I'm a businessowner or an entrepreneur that
could go away tomorrow and theythink, well, I have a family
that's not going anywhere.
So why do I have like, eventhough they do it consciously or
(42:42):
subconsciously, why should Ihave to focus on that so much?
And they kind of lose sight oftheir priorities because they're
just trying to make that dollaror they're just trying to
further their career becauseit's right in front of them
versus something that they feelcomfortable in.
So we want to encourage you tostep outside your comfort zone
this year and really start tofocus on like, how can you
(43:04):
improve your personalrelationships?
I
Kari (43:07):
mean, yeah, if you're going to, like you said, you
have physical goals.
We all have physical goals.
We all have work goals.
You need to have relationshipand family goals and you need to
be able to maybe sit down and domonthly Check ins do quarterly
check ins, whatever, but
Casey (43:24):
I feel like everyone's check ins are gonna be
different.
Yeah, so
Kari (43:27):
we do daily
Casey (43:29):
We well we have we have certain aspects that we check in
daily certain aspects.
We check in monthly Yeah incertain aspects we check in on a
big annual.
We do love the big annual oneYeah, the big annual one is more
of like What's going to happenthis year?
Yeah.
What are we going to look likefor the next year?
So to be someone that, that justlike assumes that your 2023 is
(43:49):
going to be the same as your2024 in your relationship.
I get rid of that thinking.
Yeah.
Change it.
I
Kari (43:53):
fucking God.
My 2023 is not the same as 2024.
There's nothing wrong with 20.
Relative
Casey (43:59):
to my personal relationship.
But I want it to be different.
I want your career to lookdifferent.
And people are like, I'm goingto fucking.
I hate this term 10 X my shiton, on my next year.
Why are you not trying to dothat with your relationship?
Kari (44:15):
And I think that's the biggest point is again, like
there's so many times that youhear maybe dry January and
things that like pop upthroughout the year, or I'm
going to start working outtoday, but so much of it.
And to me almost feel selfish.
Yeah, this is what I need.
This is what I need.
This is what I'm doing.
This is me instead.
What are me and my partnerdoing?
(44:37):
What can we do together?
Your partner can
Casey (44:39):
also drive those individual goals, too.
Kari (44:41):
Absolutely! And to sit there and be able to communicate
that with your partner, like,that's what they're there for in
so many ways, but that is inpart.
And if you have someone thatloves you and, and wants I mean,
I, I love you deeply.
I want to help you witheverything that you're doing.
I can't imagine that there's apartner out there that doesn't
(45:02):
feel the same.
So like sharing those goals withone another, helping each other
to be accountable, and that canbe towards maybe your business
goals and your physical goals,but sharing those with your
partner and allowing them intothat space, it's super
Casey (45:17):
important.
And listen, if you're somebodythat does attempt to share.
With your partner about thesegoals and it's met with
rejection or judgment, or itcauses detriment.
That's where it's time to reachout to us.
Kari (45:30):
Yeah, exactly.
I was about to say, like,that's, that's the time you need
outside help and there's nothingwrong with outsourcing help.
Do it like we, we, we justsigned up for counseling.
Yeah.
There's nothing wrong
Casey (45:43):
with it.
We literally just did it.
We do therapy.
All the time.
Well, not
Kari (45:48):
all the time, but we've been in the past and, and that
was one of our personal goalstogether for this year is to get
in counseling together.
We are not fucking perfect.
Not only am I going intocounseling because I want the
help, the slight bit of is liketaking notes to see how they do
it, but, but it's important.
There is no part of me that doesnot want to get closer to you.
(46:13):
I don't care how long we've beentogether.
There's no part of me thatdoesn't want to feel emotionally
more connected in a way that wemight need a third party to come
in and help us out with thesethings.
There's always layers.
Always.
You're big old onion.
I'm the ogre and you're theonion.
I'm a fucking
Casey (46:31):
parfait.
Kari (46:33):
And no one said they
Casey (46:34):
don't like parfait.
Your Eddie Murphy impression iskind of funny.
This is not selling him at all.
What else do you have on theagendas for today?
Dude, no, honestly, that was it.
Kari (46:46):
We literally wrote the last thing and I'm over here
looking at our timer and I'mlike, God damn, we've gone over.
But I guess this is what happenswhen we haven't had a show in a
Casey (46:54):
bit.
Welcome to 2024.
We're very excited.
Expect the greatest out of CWKCbecause we expect the greatest
out of you.
Kari (47:01):
And you're going to get a lot more with both of us being
in this fucking HSA program.
Now, at this point, you're goingto get a lot more SHA, SSA, SSA,
SSA,
Casey (47:10):
baby.
Oh Lord.
Anyway, for for our firstepisode CW Casey, I am Dr.
Casey Sanders and I'm justCarrie.
Have a nice day.
all right.
Well, God damn it is 2024.
Casey (00:03):
We're going to the new year yelling.
Apparently
Kari (00:07):
it is 2024.
This is our first episode of theyear.
When
Casey (00:13):
did we start?
I don't know, a couple
Kari (00:15):
months.
No, fuck off.
When did we start?
Like, I know it's been a year atthis point.
It's been over.
Casey (00:19):
Our first episode was August of 2021.
Kari (00:23):
Oh, that seems so fucking long ago.
I am really proud of us,actually.
You should be.
That's a lot of episodes.
This is the longest we've keptanything going, actually.
I
Casey (00:35):
looked at the stats recently and I think that we've
had almost 10, 000 downloadssince starting.
Well, that's an accomplishment.
I mean, for as little as wemarket and as little as we're
Kari (00:46):
like, we really don't market
Casey (00:48):
well enough.
No, we're terrible at it.
We all
Kari (00:52):
have goals for 2024 and this happens to be one of ours.
And you're about to start
Casey (00:57):
seeing a lot more of us.
Kari (00:58):
Oh, for sure.
Not only
Casey (01:01):
I swear to God, if you're about to say a website, no, no,
no, no.
You've been teasing that for twoyears.
Kari (01:08):
It's been teased to us for this long.
Like we want a goddamn website,but no it's just.
This is the year of our liketransition.
We knew what we wanted to do.
We knew like the goals that wehad for ourselves, but let's
face it.
Like you're a chiropractor.
I'm a hairdresser.
We are a fucking family.
We have kids.
(01:28):
We have a lot of shit.
We are
Casey (01:30):
the Montagues and Capulets.
Kari (01:32):
Yeah, honestly.
And now we have this likestructure.
My schedule is changing behindthe chair.
You just got a new schedule.
This really allows for us topinpoint the exact days that
we're going to be working on ourstuff.
It was a
Casey (01:49):
very strategic decision of us to say Hey, here's how I'm
going to work.
Here's how you're going to work.
Anybody we've talked to.
So if you don't know this, Imean, a lot of you don't, but me
and Carrie, like I work two anda half days a week and she works
what three days a week.
Yeah.
Yeah.
We planned it that way on apurpose.
It gives us to where.
(02:10):
Whenever our kids are in school,we are with each other on
Mondays and
Kari (02:14):
Tuesdays.
We have, this is kind of how Ilike lay it out for people to
like, this is our new scheduleMonday at Sunday.
Let's start with Sunday.
We're all together.
Whole family, family day.
Right.
Monday, Tuesday, me and you,whether that be house.
Podcast, coaching, SHA schoolstuff, all of it, right?
And then Wednesday, you're off,have your own fucking day.
(02:37):
Thursday, I'm off.
I have my own fucking day.
And then Friday and Saturday, wework separately.
You have your chiropracticstuff, I have my hairdressing
stuff.
It really works out well.
And every person that I've toldour schedule to are vastly
envious.
They're like, what?
I'm like, yes.
But also they need to understandhow hard we have worked.
(02:59):
To get to this point in ourlives where we can have a career
that funds our income in ourhousehold.
We're dukes.
Yes, we are.
And then we have You don't evenknow what I meant by that.
Dukes, like dukes a hazard.
No.
No.
Casey (03:14):
No.
No, we talk about this often.
We talk about dinks, doubleincome, no kids.
We're Dukes, double income withkids.
Kari (03:23):
Fuck those kids.
Sorry, this is a really popularphrase for us.
Anyways, let's get started.
What really kickstarted a lot ofthis episode was it's the new
year.
Let's find this new change.
And we have a lot that we'regoing to dive into as far as
like relationships and notice ofthat.
But beforehand.
We just took a trip and it wasour first and only trip of 2023.
(03:47):
It was absolutely fuckingamazing.
If you do not follow us along onsocial media, then you have
absolutely no idea what we'retalking about, so we just went
on a trip.
If you follow us on socialmedia, you saw that we took our
very first trip for 2023 and itwas to where?
Casey (04:06):
Winter Park,
Kari (04:07):
Colorado Now I had never gone to the mountains before I
had never been in such altitudeI had never been in such cold.
Casey (04:14):
We had a lot of story.
There was a lot of advice foryou beforehand because oh, I
Know
Kari (04:19):
I love going to the mountains.
You've been going to mountainsince you were born like this is
just part of who you are YeahYou, yeah, I
Casey (04:28):
mean, and you, the closest you had come to seeing
mountains was in Las Vegas, the
Kari (04:34):
biggest hills I'd ever seen.
Yeah.
We just don't get a lot of thatin Texas.
If you are aware in Texas, we'reso huge that we technically have
every.
Like, terrain.
What do you call that?
Yeah, that you can have, right.
But we just don't have it likean abundance, like a mountain or
whatever.
We have some really tall peaks.
Casey (04:53):
We have the hill country with
Kari (04:55):
the hill country.
We got the forest.
We got the swamps.
We got woodlands.
We got planes.
We got fucking desert.
It's not really a beach, butit's kind of a beach, like we
have all of it.
It's
Casey (05:04):
a beach, technically.
It's technically a beach.
Kari (05:07):
It doesn't make it a good glorified lake.
It's not a
Casey (05:09):
good Really?
It's a glorified lake.
The Gulf of Mexico.
Is
Kari (05:12):
a glorified lake.
I cannot wait.
I'm sorry, if it's brown, it'snot a beach.
No.
If it's
Casey (05:17):
brown, it's not a beach.
I can't wait to put this online.
Kari (05:21):
And everyone's
Casey (05:22):
going to agree with me.
Literally the ocean is aglorified lake.
Where
Kari (05:26):
we are, not all oceans, our
Casey (05:30):
ocean.
You just called the Gulf ofMexico a glorified lake.
Yes,
Kari (05:33):
I did.
Yes, I did.
And they're honored to get that.
Description of it, coffeegrounds and water.
Anyway, so we went on this tripand it was our, and it was also
our first time taking the kidsto the mountains.
Yeah.
What did our daughter do?
She said, fuck this.
Fucking hated it the second shewalked out.
Casey (05:54):
Nope, too cold.
Signed.
So I've been, I've beensnowboarding most of my life,
carry over here.
The kids never even, so wesigned them up for a half day
lesson.
Get on the mountain.
You're going to get aninstructor.
Our daughter on the way to themountain was so sunken in her
chair and just staring at thewindow and like self reflection
(06:15):
about how poor of a decision shefelt it was that she was going
to be getting onto the mountainand snow.
And the
Kari (06:20):
thing is about our daughter is she doesn't do.
She doesn't want to do,
Casey (06:23):
you couldn't convince her
Kari (06:27):
never going to happen, but, and that was fine.
We, we didn't really know howthey were going to respond to
this environment.
I didn't know how I was going torespond.
And we had kind of gone into itearlier on saying like, if they
don't like it, we are notforcing it.
You don't like it.
You don't like it.
Move on to the next activity.
So Evelyn did miss out on all ofthe skiing.
(06:48):
We're not going to get intothat.
But she missed out on all of it.
That girl wanted to be in a hottub.
And that is where she foundherself later that day.
I think she spent like eighthours in a hot tub, which tracks
for her and her love for theheat.
But it was, it was a reallygreat opportunity because even
through us being there onvacation.
With our family, we still foundtime to have these check ins,
(07:11):
have these talks, talk about ourrelationship.
We had a, we had a big one, too.
We had a huge conversation aboutour relationship.
In the middle of a bar.
In the bar, in bed.
No, it was literally, it waslike, in the bar.
And then that night, I think Iwoke you up at 2 a.
m.
Because first of all, I couldn'tfucking breathe.
And I was having a panic attack.
So I woke you up, so hey, let'stalk about this again.
(07:32):
But, it, it was a great momentbecause we don't, We, we talk a
lot about like setting asidetime to talk with your partner,
but sometimes it is spontaneous.
And sometimes it is like, thisis what I need to talk about.
And well,
Casey (07:44):
so, sometimes what happens is it is a
Kari (07:49):
cat and I'm pretty sure that's Manson and I'm going to
take two seconds.
I
Casey (08:19):
can't wait to make a sound bite out of that.
If it carries, if it carriesinto the audio.
I'm totally putting that online.
I'm not even going to try toimitate whatever that is.
By the way.
(08:41):
Get your ass out of here! Orangecat! Orange cat! Was it Manson?
Kari (08:50):
No, I couldn't see who he was attacking, but it was the
orange cat.
Anyways, go ahead, go.
Casey (08:58):
I was going to make a point about Oh, oh, okay, okay,
okay.
We're back, we're back.
So if If if you find yourself onthese vacations or whatever it
is, and there's nothing to doand you're being, and you're
trying to figure out what youcan do, that's a good time to be
like, wait, if we have this timetogether, let's utilize time for
(09:18):
our relationship check in now.
Kari (09:20):
And when we say a relationship check in, this is
something where you set asidetime to sit down and just with
your partner about where youstand.
Maybe there was something thatthey did a week ago that really
upset you, but maybe it wasn'tthe time to bring it up.
Relationship check ins are superimportant.
And sometimes doing them insituations like a vacation,
(09:41):
because vacations just puts youin a different mindset in a
relationship, no matter what,you're in a different place.
You're in a different headspace.
You're outside of your norm.
Work schedule, kids, all ofthat.
It just can, it can kind of slowdown.
So if you and your partner workwell in an environment like
that, Hey, we're outside ournorm.
(10:01):
Let's talk, then do that.
Set aside time to where itdoesn't feel like you're getting
onto each other on vacation.
Think of it as like theopposite.
Casey (10:11):
Let's clarify that relationship check ins aren't
all about getting onto eachother.
No,
Kari (10:15):
absolutely not.
It could be, you went down on methis way a week ago, and that
was.
fucking amazing.
Celebrate the
Casey (10:22):
good.
Also find the things that you
Kari (10:24):
need to work on.
Yeah.
It's just a time to set aside tosay something that you've wanted
to say good, bad midline thatyou just haven't had the
opportunity opportunity to yet.
Yeah.
Yeah.
So, so we did slightly plug theburlesque show.
We always do.
It's the first Friday of everymonth.
We kind of talked about us.
You know, Taco Bell drunkennessafter.
(10:45):
However, we're going to offersome
Casey (10:47):
fucking great time.
And that shows
Kari (10:49):
you that show is so much fun.
And the thing is, is the peoplethat we want to take to these
shows are people that have neverexperienced something like this
before.
Yeah.
I love to take it.
Sometimes we take some of ourclosest friends and sometimes
we, we pick, you know, anacquaintance or maybe a close
new friend or something and say,Hey, this is something that I
(11:09):
know you've never experienced.
Join us, please.
Because I think that the morethat we spread out, like the
normalcy of burlesque, the lesspeople assume what it is instead
of having the opportunity toexperience what it is.
It
Casey (11:23):
gives them a great vision onto what.
In our opinion, true burlesqueis
Kari (11:28):
this is not, this
Casey (11:30):
is not commercialized burlesque.
A lot of times what you seefrom, I don't know, the movie
burlesque or from a lot of thesethings is these like, it's very
boxed into what the currentWesternized society we live in
views.
attractiveness and burlesque asa certain body type, a certain
(11:53):
makeup, certain feel.
This is true burlesque is notlimited to a fucking thing.
Be who you are.
Kari (12:01):
It's fucking comedic
Casey (12:04):
singing.
There's comedy.
There's drag Queens.
There's drag Kings.
There's body positivity.
There's fucking.
Everything
Kari (12:10):
is literally everything.
And, and I have gone toburlesque shows my entire
fucking life.
I've been obsessed with it.
And this was the first burlesqueshow that we have attended and,
and obviously continue to that.
I'm like, Holy shit.
This is what burlesque isactually about.
It's the most true to
Casey (12:29):
burlesque show that we've ever seen.
Kari (12:30):
Correct.
And, and so we're, we're kind ofleading with that to say, reach
out to us.
If you have never been to aburlesque show.
This is now the opportunity.
Not only are you going to get tohang out with us.
But you're going to get the VIPexperience because when we go to
these shows, we don't fuckaround.
We're not in standing room.
We're not just in the backcorner.
(12:52):
Fuck that.
We are front row table for everysingle show.
And this is the first show thatwe are actually offering to the
public a chance to come and hangout with us and a chance to come
and visit what the show has tooffer.
You, you want to join, you wantto be one of the ones that we
pick email us.
I
Casey (13:11):
mean, fine.
You can DM us,
Kari (13:12):
DM
Casey (13:14):
us, say, Hey, do you guys have a couple of seats
available?
Me and my partner want to come,or I would love to come and
bring my friend, submit
Kari (13:22):
to us, tell us why to give us a reason why you want to be
the ones to sit with us at thistable and we will sift through
it and we will find the one thatwe feel is best suited, but this
is what's going to happen.
This next show, we have a tableof four, we have two seats
available.
Please come and join us.
If you want in.
And you want to hang out withus?
(13:43):
Cause we're pretty fucking coolto hang out with.
Whoa, you go.
Absolutely.
I am.
That's what 2024 is for me.
Big O ego.
I'm just kidding.
All right.
So are you just kidding?
I'm always just kidding.
Fuck you.
Anyways.
So we have a game that you wantto play.
Please, please tell us this gamethat you have set up for us.
(14:05):
I love your my segues.
Yeah.
You said this was my show today.
Casey (14:11):
It is.
It's, it is today.
Oh, that is.
Not, I'm not going to have acommentary on your show today.
Absolutely.
I will.
So there's a page that we followonline called sex positive
memes.
If you want to find them, youcan go to sex positive dot
memes.
And this person, we don't reallyknow them.
Like we had a back and forthconversation.
(14:33):
But it was because we were soimpressed with this game that
they made that they were, theysaid, let's play a game.
They said, top or bottom.
And they gave.
A series of paired cartooncharacters.
And then I gave a series ofpaired cartoon characters.
And then you are to pick out ofthese two, which would be the
(14:53):
top and which would be thebottom.
Now, a couple of quick rules onthis is that you can't, they
can't be a switch.
They can't be averse.
No, just exclusively top orbottom.
Out of these two, you mustselect the top.
Or the bottom.
And we want to go through a few,we want to go a few of these.
We're going to leave some outbecause we really want you to go
check out the post.
We do.
Yeah.
(15:13):
But we're going to pick a coupleof them to go through and we're
going to start this off.
Ready?
Yes.
Okay.
So we have Rick Sanchez fromRick and Morty and we have Lila
from Futurama.
Discuss
Kari (15:25):
Rick and Lila.
Yeah, fuck.
Those are two really dominatingpeople.
Casey (15:30):
I already know my answer.
Kari (15:32):
I'm, I'm sorry.
I'm just going to go with Rickas a Dom.
Why?
Because he's too cocky to besubmissive, at least like.
Like Leela in that sense, right?
I can see her like, he's veryintelligent.
He's very smart.
He has this big like presenceand, and she's going to get off
on the fact that everyone in theuniverse knows him.
(15:54):
And so she's going to likesubmit because I mean, she's a
strong character, but as onestrong character to another
strong character, we want tosubmit to someone that gives us
the like universe.
Right.
Whenever you're
Casey (16:08):
so busy.
Looking at people who aren't.
As strong as you are, it'sreally nice to have that
refreshing air of someone thatis can't handle
Kari (16:18):
you.
And in my opinion, no one ismore universal dominant than
fucking
Casey (16:23):
Rick Sanchez.
Yeah.
I like, I mean, I like youranswer.
So.
I'm going to nerd out on thisfor a second because I know, I
know these two shows and thesetwo characters insanely well.
Of course you do.
So we've seen Lila submissivebefore we had multiple
Kari (16:35):
times.
And that's what I'm saying.
I've already
Casey (16:37):
seen it.
We've seen her in relationship.
She was even, she'd slept withZach Branigan first of all.
And one of the first season one,not on top of that, she dated
the mayor's aide.
On top of that, she dated theguy that talked her into fixing
her Cyclops eye and getting twoeyes.
Do you
Kari (16:54):
see why I'm saying she's submissive?
Casey (16:58):
Submissive.
And Rick Sanchez, anytime anyonehas ever come after him,
including, I'm going to goincluding Unity.
Who is like the symbiote, likethe hive mind girl that he was
with, he has always had asafety.
He has always had some sort of,of like wall up every
Kari (17:16):
single time.
So are you saying you agree withme?
Yeah.
100%.
Casey (17:20):
Rick is a top in this one.
Layla's the
Kari (17:22):
bottom.
As much as I admire herstrength, she's the bottom in
this.
Casey (17:27):
Ready for the next one?
Yeah.
So we're going with a same sexcouple here.
Oh, okay.
We're going Homer Simpson andPeter Griffin.
Kari (17:36):
Oh, goddamn, that one's super hard.
They're both submissive.
Okay.
Okay.
I'm gonna go with Homer beingtop just because I feel like if
Homer was bottom, he would getlike lost in Griffin's Size.
That's your reasoning?
Yeah.
Yeah.
Homer is going to have to be topbecause if Griffin was top like
(17:59):
just like anatomy physical wise,it wouldn't work.
Casey (18:04):
That I'm going to judge you on that one.
I'm gonna judge because Idisagree entirely because I
Kari (18:11):
just imagine Griffin just being able to lay there.
All he does is just lay there.
So if you're so big that all youdo is lay there, you have to be
submissive.
You do?
Well, and then I also had thislike thought in my head of
whenever an episode.
Where, what was his wife's name?
The Lois Lois was like, they'redoing BDSM, right.
And she's putting on the bootsand she's having the strap.
And I see that.
(18:32):
And he's just wearing like themask where he has no sound or
no, whatever.
Right.
Casey (18:37):
I know it's funny because I know exactly what you're
talking about because he unzipsthe mouth and goes, love you.
I
Kari (18:46):
think that that puts into that submissive in my head, that
I've already seen him besubmissive.
Okay.
And so
Casey (18:52):
You're starting to sway me because I was going to
disagree in the beginning.
Kari (18:54):
Yeah.
But I'm like, I already see it.
And then again, I just imagineyou're big, you just lay there.
So just be submissive and justlay there and take it.
You know,
Casey (19:03):
what about the respect of, I'm just going to lay here
and tell you what to do.
Lay here.
I'm going to lay here while youdo, as I say, job of the hut.
Kari (19:12):
If I didn't write, if I didn't have the image of Lewis,
Lewis being dominant to him, I,I.
I would, could be swayed otherways, but because I've already
mentally seen him be submissive.
I can't unsee it.
So you're biased
Casey (19:28):
based upon one scene?
Yeah.
Yeah.
Okay.
I am.
So I, I, I haven't, I've been ofa difficulty here because it's
Homer.
I mean, he.
It's Homer Simpson.
Homer Simpson is not a doof.
He's not exactly.
He's not a dominant person.
His kids dominate him.
Kari (19:48):
He is not a dominant person.
Oh, he's very submissive.
But maybe that's the role.
Maybe that's the chance.
Just like Lila is so strong thatshe has to be submissive, maybe
this is Homer's chance to be
Casey (20:00):
dominant.
So just like we talk about inthe podcast, we're like, hey,
there's couples out there whereone person spends all their time
being dominant to the wholeworld.
Yeah.
And then they come home and allthey want is to be submissive.
Exactly.
Okay.
What if Homer's And I, I'm, I'mswayed.
I am.
Cause originally I was going tobe like, now Homer, he's
submissive to his kids, he'ssubmissive to everybody around
(20:22):
him, he's always being told whatto do, and he's just
Kari (20:25):
like, go with the flow.
I had to fuck enough of it.
In the bedroom.
I'm going to say what happens,and we already know that Griffin
is just like, okay,
Casey (20:36):
we're moving on.
All right.
Oh, okay.
We have two more that we'regoing to do because I want
people to actually go look atthe post.
I know.
I don't want to like, youhaven't yet give sex positive
memes to follow, but this is agood one.
This is also a same sex couple.
And this is Bob from Bob'sBurgers and Shaggy from Scooby
Doo.
Oh, oh, oh,
Kari (20:56):
oh, Those are some, those are two very passive.
I'm gonna,
Casey (21:01):
I'm gonna go with Bob at the top.
I'm gonna go with Bob at thetop, Shaggy at the bottom.
Okay, why?
So, first of all, Bob owns hisown restaurant.
Okay.
He makes burgers, correct?
He's, he's a food deliver.
He has the burger of the day,whatever all that is.
I
Kari (21:15):
bet he has some kinky burger titles.
I
Casey (21:17):
bet he fucking does.
He does.
And then Shaggy's lover of food.
I just give me that burger,baby.
That's all he wants.
That's all he wants.
That's true.
And so Shaggy, Shaggy leads asimple life.
He rides in the back of the van.
He has the best friend that's adog.
They just, all they do is solvemysteries and eat food.
He doesn't ask for a lot.
He doesn't need a lot.
(21:38):
He doesn't require all of this.
Bob has a, has a nuclear family,right?
He's got the wife.
He's got the kids.
He's got the business.
He is on top.
Kari (21:47):
He's always having to be on the go.
He's always having to make
Casey (21:49):
decisions.
At the same time, Bob has to besubmissive to the people around
him.
Not just his wife a little bit,but the guy, Oh, it is Mr.
Fish odor that collects his rentand the rival rival, Jimmy Pesto
across the street that runs theItalian spot.
Kari (22:04):
So he's had enough is what you're saying.
The world has made him portraythis like character to keep his
business as his family afloat.
So what does he want to do?
He wants
Casey (22:14):
to dominate somebody and Shaggy is the perfect go with
the flow kind of
Kari (22:20):
guy, even if Shaggy tried to dominate me, I would laugh.
Right.
I would laugh.
You'd be
Casey (22:25):
like, pass the blunt and go at it.
Yeah.
Kari (22:27):
Come on, bro.
You know why we're here?
This is not why we're here.
I, I will a hundred percent beon board with this.
Whenever we had first talkedabout this earlier with that
one, I was like, I have nofucking clue.
I don't know.
That one, I'm, I'm stumped, butI, I agree with you
wholeheartedly because, and alsoShaggy could just never, it's
just not who he is.
There's no, like, I'm thisperson, but in the bedroom, I'm
(22:48):
going to be vastly different.
No, he's shown him.
Sure.
Casey (22:51):
Exactly.
He's going to get zoinked allnight.
Kari (22:54):
All night.
He's going to beg for zoinks allnight.
Casey (22:58):
We're doing one more of these and it's because I saved
the best for last.
Again, if you haven't given sexpositive means to follow.
So can
Kari (23:05):
you say it again?
Is it sex sex dot
Casey (23:07):
sex positive dot memes.
Okay.
Exactly.
Got it.
Yep.
Okay.
This is a hard one.
This is a difficult one.
Jack Skellington.
And Cruella DeVille.
What?
What?
Kari (23:24):
Dude,
Casey (23:25):
that's hard.
The fucking Pumpkin King ofHalloween Town.
I don't know, man.
Versus a Dalmatian murderingfashionista.
Kari (23:34):
Fuck, that one's really hard because she's so, erratic.
She's psychotic.
She's a sociopath.
She's a sociopath.
Exactly.
So like, can a sociopath besubmissive?
I don't know.
That one's hard, but there's noway Jack is a fucking bottom.
Casey (23:52):
I don't know.
I mean, Jack might be a
Kari (23:54):
bottom.
I can't.
I don't care how skinny he is.
It's not
Casey (23:58):
about you.
That is the second time you madeit about size.
I'm going to get that shit outof your head.
Kari (24:07):
I'm sorry.
I'm going to go with the factthat Koala is.
Is the the submissive one.
Casey (24:13):
Why?
I need to know why, how, how,and why would Jack be like, I'm
going to put up with I'm justgoing to put her in her place
and she's going to say, okay.
Cause he's a
Kari (24:23):
pumpkin king.
Yeah.
What are you, you are a broadthat wants dogs.
I'm the pumpkin king.
I have died.
I control, I own, I like, thisis my domain.
I was Santa Claus.
Bitch.
I don't know.
I know.
I think that kind of falls tothe, like the Lila thing that we
(24:44):
were saying, like, but have youseen her?
She's dominant.
She's dominant.
Maybe that's, maybe that's theopportunity she gets to lay down
on a blanket full made ofDalmatians.
And, and is that what
Casey (24:57):
he's going to deliver to her?
Maybe.
Kari (24:59):
To assert his dominance?
I mean, he's, he's the deathKing.
He's a pumpkin King.
All the Dalmatians that die, hejust cuts their skin off, their
fur off before they're, they'redead.
Right.
You know, she, no one.
I'm
Casey (25:12):
sorry.
What scenario are you coming upwith right now?
Kari (25:15):
That maybe that was his gift to her.
Like, listen, bitch, you'recrazy.
And you want to kill Dalmatians.
I'm not going to do that, butwith, they're already dead.
I'm going to skin them.
I'm going to make you a blanketand you're going to lay on this
blanket of Dalmatians that youso desire.
And then you are now going to besubmissive to me because I gave
you the ultimate gift of aDalmatian blanket.
(25:36):
So then
Casey (25:37):
you would say that she would willingly submit to
someone who gave her what shewants.
Yes.
Yes.
Kari (25:43):
A lot about
Casey (25:43):
you
Kari (25:43):
where I don't know where I would never want a domination
blanket.
Let's be clear.
Casey (25:52):
Talking about the
Kari (25:55):
But yeah, I think that, and I know earlier, I mean, you
might've said this off air andI'm sorry for but you said no
switch, right?
Like, yeah.
So yeah,
Casey (26:03):
rules of this that we're not talking as much as we want
to be like, Ooh, this one wouldtotally be a switch.
This one would totally be averse.
Yeah, no, we're not doing that.
We're choosing a one strict topone,
Kari (26:12):
strict bottom.
So then if I can't say thatshe's a switch, I will say that
she would be submissive tosomeone finally giving her what
she's always wanted.
And I feel like he's the man todo it.
But also in my head, Jack is notsubmissive.
You little dominant ass, longlegged bitch.
(26:33):
You stole Christmas.
He has a dog.
You were not submissive.
He wanted something so bad, hewent into another realm and
stole it.
He's a
Casey (26:44):
dog person.
Kari (26:47):
Oh, that's a good one.
He's a dog person.
He is.
Casey (26:50):
He is a dog person.
Are dog people
Kari (26:51):
submissive?
Yes.
Anyone can be submissive.
Casey (26:54):
It doesn't matter.
This is such a fucking blanket
Kari (26:56):
statement.
I don't know.
Are elephant people submissive?
Like, I don't know.
That doesn't matter.
Casey (27:01):
I mean, you could have a cat.
Kari (27:04):
No one.
Cats are not submissive.
So cat owners are notsubmissive.
It even makes more sense.
I love your logic.
It even makes more sense.
But dogs are submissive.
He's a dog person.
No, but, but she wants.
Dog secretly.
She wants to kill dogs.
She loves them so much.
She wants to wear them.
She wants their skin.
She loves them so much.
She wants them close to home.
(27:25):
No.
Casey (27:26):
Close to her.
So little about them, she'swilling to kill a hundred of
them to get a coat.
One
Kari (27:32):
coat.
I mean, it's probably a reallynice coat.
People kill like rare foxes forcoats.
So Dalmatian, I can breed you anew one in a week.
Casey (27:43):
Are you saying that 101 Dalmatians should have been
about a more rare animal?
I
Kari (27:50):
think that maybe, or let's flip it and just say how easy it
was for her to make the coach.
You know, is
Casey (27:55):
she a bad person?
Why did she have to go over thatone family with those 100
Dalmatians?
She couldn't get a hundredDalmatians.
I mean, it's just easier thatway.
She could have posted, at thetime, she could have posted a
flyer on the street, 10 bucksfor your Dalmatian.
Bring it here.
She could have gotten a coat.
She didn't need to go over afterthe puppies.
I feel like we're
Kari (28:12):
sidetracking.
It's like an anomaly.
Puppies.
Why not weigh into the fullgrown?
You have more fur that way.
Casey (28:19):
Is the same.
I mean, would you rather eat,you know, cow or
Kari (28:22):
veal?
I've never had veal.
So I don't know.
Casey, have you had veal?
Oh, yes.
Delicious.
I've never had veal.
So I don't know.
I don't know.
All right, So what is youranswer?
I've so aggressively given myresponse.
Oh
Casey (28:36):
yeah.
You went onto it.
You know, that's funny enoughbecause I agree with you, I just
like to push your buttons.
No, I, I don't think that Jackis, I think that he's too, too
strategic.
I think that he is too much,like loves the control of
things.
I think, I think that he wouldoutsmart Cruella in some way,
shape or form easily.
(28:56):
I think that he would just talkher into it.
He knows what he wants.
I think
Kari (28:59):
him and Sally would get down on some fucking Cruella.
Casey (29:02):
Oh, there.
Okay.
Now we're talking.
I think fantasy threesomes.
Kari (29:07):
Absolutely.
Let's put those characters
Casey (29:08):
together.
Jack and Sally rock
Kari (29:10):
Cruella's world.
Exactly.
And she dies from it and thenjoins them.
And
Casey (29:15):
here she is.
She's
Kari (29:17):
already skinny enough.
She looks like Skeletor.
So it's I'm just fit right in.
Casey (29:22):
That's the third body comment.
we're going to put in like bodyphysique comments made by Carrie
and have a
Kari (29:28):
counter.
I will get canceled so fast.
I'm already afraid to have apodcast enough as it is of
getting canceled because of mymouth.
Let's not point them out.
But but yeah, so head over totheir page.
They honestly, they post a lotof cool stuff.
This was just the first one thatwe were like, Hey, let's turn
this into like a little segmentin our
Casey (29:50):
show.
And they do a good job.
They're almost, I mean, they're,they're just shy of 10, 000 of
followers from hitting a hundredK.
They do, they do posts on openrelationship apps.
They do memes all the fuckingtime.
And they have, the good news is,is that this is a hundred
percent original content meansthey make that claim, right?
(30:10):
Yeah.
So you have a lot of pages thatjust share shit from other
people.
This page claims 100 percentoriginal content and I love
anything you find there is stuffthat they're that they're doing
themselves And they've got somereally fucking good stuff.
Like I mean everything fromrings all the way through to
like Spongebob and BDSM stuffand Hellraiser and Rick and
(30:32):
Morty and every actor actressand performance.
Kari (30:35):
Yeah, so go give them a good show Yeah, go give them a
follow see kind of what we'reseeing but we had kind of
slightly discussed.
That's really what today'sepisode is going to be about.
And if you follow like 30minutes, I know that's fine.
We're fucking funny.
They're enjoying it.
If you had followed ourInstagram page, the CW Casey
official we made a post theother day that said new year,
(30:58):
new screw.
Yeah.
Would you like to kind of likedive into that and
Casey (31:02):
what that means?
Well, my favorite thing aboutnew year, new screw is yeah,
absolutely.
Kari (31:06):
Well, because anytime that we're finding ourselves in the
new year, I'm, I'm sorry, Idon't give a fuck how many
people are like, Oh, that's solame doing a new year's
resolution.
Who gives a fuck?
It, it is January.
It is a new month.
It's a new year.
It's a new time.
It's a new opportunity to bebetter, choose better.
Be wiser, do somethingdifferent.
(31:27):
Why the fuck not to kickstartedin January?
So
Casey (31:30):
with New Year's resolutions the reality of a New
Year's resolution to me is thatit's very popular now to be like
stupid.
We're
Kari (31:39):
going to go against the grain.
All of a sudden it's cool to sayit's dumb.
But well, then be the coolperson that says it's dumb and
doesn't accomplish anything.
No,
Casey (31:48):
the reality of it is, is that I, instead of choosing to
move away from it, I like tolean into it because you have
this large group ofaccountability people who are
all posting about theirdecisions that they're making
with starting anew.
The, the fact is, is that this,this Is to us in at least the
(32:09):
United States as the reset.
This is the start of somethingnew.
This is day one.
This is one, one, one, do yourthing, do your thing.
This is the time to do it.
This is the time to make thedecision.
And you have a bunch of peoplearound you.
So to say that it's stupid toeven try something new, come on.
Kari (32:27):
I don't know.
I had my client asked me theother day, she was like, Oh, do
you have a new year'sresolution?
Or, you know, are you even doingthat thing?
I'm like, Of course I'm doingthat.
Like, why wouldn't I, but Ididn't realize that it, like you
were saying, it kind of had thislike negative, people had this
like negative mindset to
Casey (32:44):
it.
like the last 10 years or somaybe being like New Year's
resolutions are stupid.
If you want to start somethingnew, the best day is today.
Yeah.
Kari (32:53):
I, and again, if whatever, but what we're saying is that
like January gives you.
An amazing opportunity to justbe different.
And what we want to talk aboutis again slightly in what we
discussed discussed earlier islike maybe having a relationship
check in, maybe setting newgoals for y'all's relationship,
maybe setting new goals for yourfamily.
(33:14):
We sit down every year and wetalk like, all right, kids,
we're going to try it.
We're going to do thisdifferent.
We're going to focus on this andI see no fucking harm in it to
sit down with your partner andsay, What can you and I do
better?
What was something last yearthat you really felt like you
missed out on?
You know, for you, maybe it wasblowjob Sundays.
(33:35):
Maybe I didn't give you enoughblowjob Sundays last year.
Not enough blowjobs, not enoughblowjobs.
But maybe that is a discussion.
And I don't think that you needto take this too extreme or too
little.
It is how you feel about yourrelationship and things that you
would like to see.
Different.
Yeah.
And so we just, we reallyencourage that.
(33:58):
Casey and I have focused on.
Yeah.
This year we're focusing on us.
Yeah.
We're not
Casey (34:05):
being open.
Yeah.
So that was one that was gonnabe like, we want to talk about
it.
Like, let's talk about it alittle bit.
We have made the decision toshift our focus from being like
monogamish and like opening upto new sexual experiences to
focusing on us as a couple withjust the two
Kari (34:22):
of us.
Well, and one of the biggerthings that's changing for us is
Casey actually gifted me withsomething.
This Christmas.
I am now enrolled in sexualhealth alliance, which is the
program.
Oh, plug the fuck
Casey (34:36):
out of them.
Cause they do amazing work.
Kari (34:37):
Which is the program that Casey has been in now for about
a, maybe a little over a yearand a half a year.
Yeah.
So if y'all are unaware of ourlike big goal here is we want to
do couples counseling.
We're wanting.
Casey is going to be like thecounseling aspect of I'm going
to be the coach.
(34:58):
Now, the big difference betweencoaching and counseling one is a
counselor is there to reallybreak down like the emotions,
the past, the trauma, thesituations that y'all find
yourselves in.
And let's really break that downto the core of what the problem
is.
While me coaching is going tobe.
(35:18):
Okay, you had a session with myhusband, y'all got to talk in
depth and now I'm your coach.
I'm here to tell you, I want youto explore this sexually.
I want you to set up thesedates.
I want you to fill out this formand y'all figure these things
out about one another.
My job is to.
Coach you into being a bettercouple and Casey's job is going
(35:39):
to be counseling you intofiguring out how to become that
better couple vertical versushorizontal.
Yes.
And this has been the biggestgoal that we have ever had.
But
Casey (35:49):
there's a reason behind it.
And I want to speak on that fora second because whenever we
started our page and we werelooking at, I mean, let's face
it, there's.
Pages upon pages upon pages ofpeople that are offering advice
on sex and sexuality on what doyou do if you have low libido
and what are you doing afterthis?
And let us coach you.
(36:10):
And one of the things we noticedabout a lot of people is that
they're coaching or teachingfrom personal experience.
And while we have the last 14years, Of personal experience to
us.
That's not enough.
It's not enough for us to justbe like, here's what we went
through because we only knowwhat we know, right?
If we know what we know, wedon't know what we don't know.
So if we're trying to givepeople advice based upon our
(36:34):
personal experience, we're doingthem a
Kari (36:36):
disservice without having the full scope of understanding.
Casey (36:40):
So what we therefore needed to do.
Was expand our academia to makesure that we're giving advice
based upon evidence basedpractices that are thoroughly
researched that are veryaccepted by the academic
community and just as effectiveways to help
Kari (36:55):
people.
Yeah, and just so far from whatour normal experience is.
So not only are we going to beable to give you this, like.
What we've experienced 14 yearstogether, but the information
that others have brought to us,that is something that we could
never possibly experiencedbecause it wasn't our
Casey (37:13):
story.
Research upon research, researchupon diving in, and this is the
program that we've crafted basedupon this is, is.
I mean, I, I hate, I actually, Ilove to be the person that's
like, no, this is, this is whatI wish I would have had, but
this is what I wish I would havehad.
There's too many times wherewe've heard people giving
(37:35):
advice.
Where we've been like, well,maybe that'll work for us.
Why did it, why does it workfor, for everybody else?
Well, it didn't work foreverybody else.
It worked for us.
I'm like, okay, so you're givingme an instance in which
something worked for you andthen you're turning around and
telling people that that's whatthey should also do because it
worked for you.
So we're just,
Kari (37:55):
yeah, exactly.
And, and that's one thing that Ilove about going through SHA or
Shaw or sexual health allianceis again, Casey's really going
to be focusing on like thecounseling portion where I,
where I get the opportunity tofocus more on like the coaching
aspect and
Casey (38:12):
present and you are
Kari (38:12):
the future.
Yes.
And because we are focusing somuch on our studies and our
goals.
We were taking a step back fromexploring.
We're not going to be open.
We're utilizing this time tojust focus in on one another.
Yeah,
Casey (38:30):
we strongly feel that if you're going to open up a
relationship in any way, thenyou need to be able to make time
for those other people.
And I think that's a big part ofit.
And you don't want to be like,Hey, I'm sacrificing my time
with this other person.
Because I have all this otherstuff on my plate, you know,
we've talked to people who havebeen like, I have four
relationships and that's howmuch they can handle.
And that's what, they're good atthat.
(38:51):
That's, that's all well andgood.
And there's other people thathave two relationships or one
relationship and that's all theycan handle based upon what's on
their
Kari (38:59):
plate.
And see, for me, I have fourrelationships.
I have you, I have my family, Ihave my job, and now I have SHA.
Exactly.
I have my four relationships.
I'm not going to stress myselfout about.
Trying to put in energy andtime.
And that's honestly, and I thinkyou said it, that would be me
doing a disservice to then tothat person.
(39:20):
So this year, that is not whatwe're working on.
It doesn't mean that we don'twant to have involvement in
interaction.
The people that we've metthrough this, like open society
is fucking amazing.
And these are the
Casey (39:33):
friends that we want.
We said this, we said this theother day to each other.
Yeah.
And it was that I have nevermet.
Consent and driven, boundarydriven people than I have within
like lifestyle.
And it's so interesting to mebecause it gets misconstrued all
the time where people are like,Oh, you're open.
That means you want to fuckeverything that walks.
(39:53):
No, not even a little bit.
It means that you are open tothe capacity of exploring
various relationship styles.
And so to meet these people whoare so respectful of boundaries
and consent and all that is areally cool thing.
Kari (40:07):
And that is something that we want to continue to work on
is, is forming theserelationships.
But yeah, in a sense, I feellike we need to just go out
there and say, Hey, this is whatwe're focusing on this year.
This is what we're going to bedoing.
Not much is, not much ischanging aside from like, we're
just focusing on ourselves andour lives this year.
But that was part of ourrelationship check in and that
(40:29):
was in part of why we want to dothis episode is it's important
to sit down and talk to yourpartner about the year, what you
want, what you don't want, yourexpectations, your desires.
This is the time of year to dothose things.
I'm going to scream
Casey (40:44):
it.
I'm going to scream it.
If you do it with your career,why the fuck are you not doing
it with your relationship?
Yes.
You make goals for your careerall day long.
KPIs.
You set various metrics tomeasure your growth in your
professional capacity.
Why the fuck are you not doingit in your personal
(41:07):
relationship?
Kari (41:09):
I mean, that was even us getting into this before I
thought that I, I've been aplanner.
I love fucking planners.
January 1st, give me a goddamnplanner.
And like, I've been so driven bythat.
But looking back at some of myold ones, not one really said
what I wanted for me and you, itmight've been for the kids and
(41:31):
what we need to do for them, butit was so rare that it was me
and you.
And I don't think it was untilprobably this past year that we
sat down and we did have thisconversation in January.
And one of our big things wassetting up a date night.
You have to understand howimportant it is to have a date
night with your partner.
Casey (41:49):
You know, I honestly, I think a lot of people do
understand the importance.
But do
Kari (41:53):
they understand like setting aside the time?
Casey (41:59):
This is what, this is one of the things that's been on my
mind a lot lately because Ithink that people understand the
importance but don't have themotivation to make it important.
I think because so many peoplebecome so comfortable and
complacent in their relationshipthat they are not good at
stepping outside of that comfortzone.
And they go, well, no, myrelationship's good.
They become comfortable withbeing like, oh, I have a,
(42:21):
whether it be a wife or a longterm partner with kids and
everything else, they becomemore secure.
They don't think it's goinganywhere.
They have this high risk withtheir professional life of being
like, well, if I'm a businessowner or an entrepreneur that
could go away tomorrow and theythink, well, I have a family
that's not going anywhere.
So why do I have like, eventhough they do it consciously or
(42:42):
subconsciously, why should Ihave to focus on that so much?
And they kind of lose sight oftheir priorities because they're
just trying to make that dollaror they're just trying to
further their career becauseit's right in front of them
versus something that they feelcomfortable in.
So we want to encourage you tostep outside your comfort zone
this year and really start tofocus on like, how can you
(43:04):
improve your personalrelationships?
I
Kari (43:07):
mean, yeah, if you're going to, like you said, you
have physical goals.
We all have physical goals.
We all have work goals.
You need to have relationshipand family goals and you need to
be able to maybe sit down and domonthly Check ins do quarterly
check ins, whatever, but
Casey (43:24):
I feel like everyone's check ins are gonna be
different.
Yeah, so
Kari (43:27):
we do daily
Casey (43:29):
We well we have we have certain aspects that we check in
daily certain aspects.
We check in monthly Yeah incertain aspects we check in on a
big annual.
We do love the big annual oneYeah, the big annual one is more
of like What's going to happenthis year?
Yeah.
What are we going to look likefor the next year?
So to be someone that, that justlike assumes that your 2023 is
(43:49):
going to be the same as your2024 in your relationship.
I get rid of that thinking.
Yeah.
Change it.
I
Kari (43:53):
fucking God.
My 2023 is not the same as 2024.
There's nothing wrong with 20.
Relative
Casey (43:59):
to my personal relationship.
But I want it to be different.
I want your career to lookdifferent.
And people are like, I'm goingto fucking.
I hate this term 10 X my shiton, on my next year.
Why are you not trying to dothat with your relationship?
Kari (44:15):
And I think that's the biggest point is again, like
there's so many times that youhear maybe dry January and
things that like pop upthroughout the year, or I'm
going to start working outtoday, but so much of it.
And to me almost feel selfish.
Yeah, this is what I need.
This is what I need.
This is what I'm doing.
This is me instead.
What are me and my partnerdoing?
(44:37):
What can we do together?
Your partner can
Casey (44:39):
also drive those individual goals, too.
Kari (44:41):
Absolutely! And to sit there and be able to communicate
that with your partner, like,that's what they're there for in
so many ways, but that is inpart.
And if you have someone thatloves you and, and wants I mean,
I, I love you deeply.
I want to help you witheverything that you're doing.
I can't imagine that there's apartner out there that doesn't
(45:02):
feel the same.
So like sharing those goals withone another, helping each other
to be accountable, and that canbe towards maybe your business
goals and your physical goals,but sharing those with your
partner and allowing them intothat space, it's super
Casey (45:17):
important.
And listen, if you're somebodythat does attempt to share.
With your partner about thesegoals and it's met with
rejection or judgment, or itcauses detriment.
That's where it's time to reachout to us.
Kari (45:30):
Yeah, exactly.
I was about to say, like,that's, that's the time you need
outside help and there's nothingwrong with outsourcing help.
Do it like we, we, we justsigned up for counseling.
Yeah.
There's nothing wrong
Casey (45:43):
with it.
We literally just did it.
We do therapy.
All the time.
Well, not
Kari (45:48):
all the time, but we've been in the past and, and that
was one of our personal goalstogether for this year is to get
in counseling together.
We are not fucking perfect.
Not only am I going intocounseling because I want the
help, the slight bit of is liketaking notes to see how they do
it, but, but it's important.
There is no part of me that doesnot want to get closer to you.
(46:13):
I don't care how long we've beentogether.
There's no part of me thatdoesn't want to feel emotionally
more connected in a way that wemight need a third party to come
in and help us out with thesethings.
There's always layers.
Always.
You're big old onion.
I'm the ogre and you're theonion.
I'm a fucking
Casey (46:31):
parfait.
Kari (46:33):
And no one said they
Casey (46:34):
don't like parfait.
Your Eddie Murphy impression iskind of funny.
This is not selling him at all.
What else do you have on theagendas for today?
Dude, no, honestly, that was it.
Kari (46:46):
We literally wrote the last thing and I'm over here
looking at our timer and I'mlike, God damn, we've gone over.
But I guess this is what happenswhen we haven't had a show in a
Casey (46:54):
bit.
Welcome to 2024.
We're very excited.
Expect the greatest out of CWKCbecause we expect the greatest
out of you.
Kari (47:01):
And you're going to get a lot more with both of us being
in this fucking HSA program.
Now, at this point, you're goingto get a lot more SHA, SSA, SSA,
SSA,
Casey (47:10):
baby.
Oh Lord.
Anyway, for for our firstepisode CW Casey, I am Dr.
Casey Sanders and I'm justCarrie.
Have a nice day.
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