January 30, 2024 • 31 mins
What is heart posture? How is it defined? Have you ever found yourself wondering about the state of your heart? Often times when we talk about matters of the heart, we speak on experiences of heartbreak, deceit, and betrayal. What if I told you that aligning your heart and actively listening for how things make your heart feel could mitigate some of the experiences that we face. In a perfect world nobody would ever experience such pain, but in the real world we can allow pain to be our greatest teacher. Come with me on the final episode of Season 1 to unpack matters of the heart, and why a healthy heart is so important to flow with the rhythm of life. I can't wait for you to join me, you don't want to miss this!
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Welcome back to Crown Culture,the podcast, if it's your first
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time joining us, thank you.
And welcome if you're returningshout out to y'all, you're my
tribe.
And I'm super, super excited tounpack more issues, more topics,
just, and to flow.
You know what I mean?
So welcome back.
I don't think we talk enoughabout matters of the heart.
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we talk about heartbreak, wetalk about love, but do we talk
about the in between?
Do we talk about the conditionof our heart?
Do we talk about the positioningof our heart?
Do we really unpack the mattersof the heart in the way that we
need to?
So today I'm really just here toexplore this with you I would
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really say in an intimate way,on an intimate level.
I just really want to betterunderstand my heart and maybe me
trying to better understand myheart can invoke that within you
and it can inspire you on yourjourney.
So before I begin any episode, Itry to.
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Remember, but if I don't, then Ido it at the end.
But, father God, thank you forthis day.
Thank you for everything thatyou have done for us.
Thank you for everything thatyou do for us.
God.
We ask that as we go throughoutour day, our evening and our
night, God, we just praying.
We ask that you cover us, youcover us.
You protect us, you shield us,and God, allow us to abundantly
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give back to you in the waysthat you need, in our
productivity, in the way that weexplore, and the way that we
treat others in the world.
So God, as we unpack heartposture, This evening, I pray
and ask that you just go beforeme and you word my mouth with
the words that you need thepeople to hear.
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So I welcome them.
We are excited.
Heart Posture Episode 8.
Here we are let's do this.
So, you know, I really, reallylove to begin my episodes
exploring like questions,questions that I'm always
constantly asking to myself.
Like, Episode 2, You're Only AsGood As Your Tribe.
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One of the beautiful guests thatI had on, spoke about heart
posture.
And that really, really, got methinking, you know?
I don't know, maybe it did thesame for you, but, I'm just in a
place where I'm like, what isheart posture?
Outside of being in love andself love and, all of these
things, like, how do they gointo the grand scheme of Matters
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of the heart, so what does itmean to have a healthy heart
posture?
What does that look like?
What does that feel like?
Am I driven?
I asked am I driven more by myheart?
Am I driven more by my mind?
Am I driven more by my Spirit mysoul, And I talked about in
peace of mind my first episodejust about how those three
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components Of your body, one aremajor, but two, how they are,
they independently exist, andthen how they intertwine in an
inter interdisciplinary fashion.
So it's like, what is theimportance of the posture of the
heart with God?
What does that look like?
You know what I mean?
Why does he care so much?
Why did he, incorporate mattersof the heart so much in
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scripture I guess a fairquestion is like what shapes our
heart, you know what I mean?
Like what does that feel like?
What does that look like?
it's easy to say Experiences,right the experiences that we
face every day I would say shapeour heart posture because it can
have the ability to have apositive effect on us or it can
have A negative effect on us,and It's like how do we operate?
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What is a pure heart?
like, how do we operate from aspace of purity?
And it's not pure in the sensethat I haven't done anything in
my life, right?
Like I've done wrong.
I feel like everybody has donewrong, done wrong by someone
been done wrong.
Like I feel like that applies toanyone, but really, really
understanding, it's importantunderstanding how that Shapes
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what we do and how theexperiences that we continue to
experience in the world, youknow So, we can dive in but
these are all the questions thatI just wonder I have Regarding
the heart and its posture.
Heart posture really It's anaspect That puts us in the best
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position to be successful in ourinvesting, in our giving, and it
really drives our generosity,our kindness, a lot derives from
the heart, and, The heart'sposture stems from a sense of
gratitude, for the gifts thatwe've been given by God, and our
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eagerness to, serve Him, right?
if you've ever heard theterminology a servant's heart,
if you've ever heard anythingabout a servant's heart, it
centers in God and it not onlycenters in God, but it's in
every aspect of what we do.
It determines how we love.
And that is, our love for self,our love for God also drives our
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servitude and our ability toserve and be in spaces and
places where you can remain trueto yourself because your heart
is healthy.
Your heart, Posture is uprightis beating healthily in your
body.
And so, I started asking likeWhat is a healthy heart?
It's in a sense purposefullyorienting your own Heart towards
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love if that makes sense, OnSunday, I attend the Life Church
in Maryland.
It is phenomenal.
Shout out to my people.
But Elder Shamika, spoke aboutfrom sifting to shifting.
And I think That can go intoyour experience from sifting,
it's like a cornmeal and yousift out the bad things and you
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take the good things, butthere's a process and I think
that that's what goes into yourheart's posture, how much time
you spend with you, how muchtime you spend taking inventory
or an audit of the things thatyou hold to be important, so in
order to get to some of That Iwould say let's first look at
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the position of your heart, thefirst principle of Generosity
within the kingdom begins withthe posture of the heart
obviously But when talking aboutthe heart it refers to both the
position and the condition, youknow Both are important to the
flow of the rhythm in which youlive your life in which you
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operate in which you get theflow.
And you heard me start thisepisode off with flow And I talk
a lot about Flowing you Can askme like how are you or whatever
and when I tell you I am freeflowing It's like I do go with
the tide But if something isagainst what I believe or
something goes against what Iknow in my heart to be true Then
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I'm not for someone elsedisturbing my flow, but I'll
disrupt the flow of others inthe event or in the desire to
save And I hope and I pray thatin putting myself first in that
way, I'm never harming anyone.
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And I'm doing it in a way thatGod is pleased and not in a way
that I'm self serving, you know?
Jesus makes it really clear inMatthew chapter 6 verse 21 that
wherever your treasure is,that's where your heart is.
And that treasure is normallydefined as something that is
precious and stored up often aresource of some sort, and
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that's what people strive forthe treasure.
If you knew your heart was atreasure and you treated your
heart like treasure.
What would that look like?
Would your world, would you sayokay, I'm actually, I'm doing
this, I'm making progress, I'mproud, or would you say hmm,
maybe I need to take a couple ofsteps back and I need to
evaluate where I am and figureout what steps I need to take in
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the right direction that's gonnabe most beneficial for me.
When your heart is jammed, whenyour heart is, It's clogged with
the wrong things, it reallyhinders and inhibits room for
the right things.
And I think I learned that earlyon, growing up, I always just
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knew I was very, I guess, I, I,I don't want to say I wore my
emotions on my sleeve, but myparents couldn't figure out like
why things affected me so much.
I'm such an empath.
Like I feel everything.
I can cry at seeing someonehomeless, it can break my heart.
I can feel for the next person.
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And I've always thought that itwas.
I always thought that it waslike the worst thing in the
world.
Instead of thinking it was mysuperpower, and my ability to
feel others gave me the abilityto evaluate and gain these
people skills, this emotionalintelligence.
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But that was because I letmyself feel.
And Letting yourself feel In asense, it really is an
invaluable tool.
I think when you experience somuch heartbreak in your life,
you're like, I'm not dealingwith this anymore.
I swear, I'm not dealing withthis person doing me wrong.
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I'm not dealing with thisperson.
He cheating, he doing this, orshe doing that.
just walking all over me,grinding up my heart.
It's like, my heart, like.
Because of my love for whom Iserve and who my heart belongs
to, it's restored.
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And it's always made better thenext time around.
It's always put back together.
When he saved me from what Ithought I wanted, what my heart
thought it wanted, it made me somuch better in a sense that not
only did it save me, it made megrateful.
And it also made me Smarter in alot of ways.
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A lot of my, savviness, it wasjust very different.
And so, you know, as humans, Twoof our most valuable resources,
I would say, in the modern erais time and money.
Time, specifically, becausethat's something that you just
can't get back.
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And money because it's currency,They're both currency really,
they really are and Your energystems from, it's your aura, it's
your heart, it's everything thatmakes up you as an individual
and based on Jesus statementabout treasure, just by taking a
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look at how you manage yourresources will tell you a great
deal about yourself.
Where you spend your money, whoyou hang out with, how you spend
your time, what your goals are.
That tells you, am I an egodriven person or am I A heart or
purpose driven person.
I think that that tells you alot about you in a general
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sense.
aNd I'm not saying to be egodriven is bad, but it's like, to
be ego driven, where is thatgoing to get you?
Because nothing can purelydevelop form.
From the ego, if youcontinuously build a cycle and
date the same types of women Whofeed your ego?
You're not going to ever haveanything purposeful That is
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rooted in love god anything likethat.
You're going to have somethingthat's rooted in lust.
That's something that's rootedin appearances, aesthetics.
It's going to be something thatis surface level and you say,
well, why can't I have both?
Or why can't I be this?
And you can care, you can havenice things, but if you make
that yourself as a person, thenI just feel like, I'm not even
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gonna say I feel like, because Iam removed and displaced from
this, but it's just how it'sreceived in the world is
completely different thansomeone who is rooted in genuine
authenticity.
You know, you can be humble,right?
Like, you can be humble hearted.
You can be lion hearted and themost humble individual in the
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room, doesn't it?
Like, you can't tell God who hecalls.
So, you know, that's whyjealousy, envy, those things are
rooted in an unhealthy heart.
You know what I mean?
When people are envious and theydo things You know, I hate you
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or I want to be you, you knowpeople walking around here They
killing people because they'reenvious of them Because somebody
had the courage to go out andget it or do it or whatever You
know or they had amisunderstanding that literally
was Just that misunderstandingand they're killing people their
are young men are killing eachother at alarming rates over You
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got something that I want andI'm gonna kill you for it or we
had Like I said misunderstandingabout something so small and
it's so small because you youknow If you woke up tomorrow, it
might have bothered you, butwould it be worth ending his
life and now yours?
Because now you sitting behindbars for 20 plus years.
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And now that person, you tooksomeone from this world without
permission.
None of us have permission.
So it's, That's why your hearthas to be healthy because what
we're seeing, you know, youngwomen getting taken, young women
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getting, Violated, young womengetting, and dare I say it,
pimped out in this era becausetheir heart is not healthy.
I don't mind a man doing thingsfor me, buying me nice things.
That's great.
I appreciate that.
But as long as he knows thatlike, I'm someone who operates
from a space of gratitude.
I'm someone who just appreciatesyou texting me and letting me
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know that you want me to be apart of your day, your world,
your life, your livelihood.
You know, you're thinking of mesending me flowers every now and
again is just a thought or agesture or even just leaving me
a nice card or me waking up to anice text message, you know what
I'm saying?
Like, There are other thingsthat can suffice other than
taking me out to dinner, why younot taking me out and doing
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this, and why you not taking meand doing, and we not over here
like this person, and why wenot, you not icing me out after
three months, that's just crazy.
You know what I mean?
Like, and, and if that's yourMO, that's your MO.
That's great.
I, but at the end of the day IfI asked you Right, because we as
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women we come to the table andwe say well We evaluate what a
man brings to the table, but ifa man came to the table Men or
women actually this can beinterpreted Intertwined,
interchangeable.
If he or she came to the tableand says, What do you bring to
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the table?
And I think I've like referencedthis, but like, you get somebody
that gets to talking and sayingOh, I am the table.
I do this, this, and this.
I have my own house.
I have my own car.
I have my own this.
I have my own that.
And that's great.
That's great.
But, As a man, hearing that, youshould run in the other
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direction.
As a woman, hearing that, if youask someone, That and they the
response is you know, I got thisI do this I do that But they
can't tell you anything aboutthemselves.
They can't tell you that theyhave unique characteristics Like
they can't tell you that the wayI love is just different They
can't tell you the way that Inurture is different and I would
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hate and like me I'm notsomebody who likes to list
because I had this conversationwith one of my, good girlfriends
and you know, she's also comeoff my work bestie too.
That's my girl.
Shout out to Reagan.
Miss Reagan.
But yeah, we were having thisconversation about this and I
kind of was just like, for me.
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I'm not going to do a whole lotof listing out about what I'm
about.
Like I feel like you do see thematerial So you operate
accordingly?
however I feel as though when itcomes down to the things if you
ask me I could list them I couldlet you know that my man, you
know, my husband he will neverstarve You know, physically,
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spiritually, emotionally,mentally, as long as I'm his
partner, as long as he lets mein, as long as he allows me to
create, to be in that space, Iwill hands down, that's me as a
person.
I love, to no limit.
These are things that I wouldsay about myself, but I feel
like a lot of women nowadays,and they don't know or realize.
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What makes them them?
My heart's posture these thingsthat are intangible, but yet
we're so quick to rush to thetangible things You know, you
have a job you're supposed tohave a job You have a house that
you know You you're supposed tohave a house like you have a car
like I'm not saying you'resupposed to have a car but I'm
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just saying like I'm sayingthese are things, like, what do
you want to pat on the back for?
Those are self serving things.
How do you treat people?
I pay attention to a lot of,like, how, when I'm engaging,
interacting, how he treatspeople.
Does he have manners?
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You know, does he, act like hehas some sense?
You know what I mean?
Like I'm paying attention to allof this.
So I feel like as a woman, womenand men both have responsibility
to guard their heart is writtenin the Bible.
You know, Jesus said it, it waswritten in the Bible, Above all
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else, guard your heart foreverything you do flows from it.
Proverbs chapter 4, verse 23.
Because everything that you dostems from your heart.
That's why when you get yourheart broken, it literally feels
like the world stops.
That's why it feels like that.
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Because when we feel things fromthe heart, Now, to the folks, I
would say, actually I'm going totake a quick detour because God
just gave me this.
To the folks who struggle, Iwould say in the sense of, um,
you've blocked your own heart.
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You've created your own blockagebecause you said I don't want to
experience this anymore.
I don't want to feel painanymore.
This person that I love, youknow, my world is so different.
Those people I'm talking to you,you will love again.
You will laugh again.
You will get back to all of thethings that make you you.
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Even make you better thanbefore, you know?
So on this platform I'm alwayschallenging you to think
differently, to think aboutsomething maybe from a different
perspective or, I challenge youto take an audit on how you
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spend your time, how you spendyour money, how you spend these
valuable resources, right?
This means really taking an indepth look at you, what you make
time for.
I would say what you make timefor, where and how you spend
your money and your behavioralpatterns or habits.
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This will tell you a lot aboutyou.
It'll tell you a lot of what youbelieve or deem to be important,
and after you've done thataudit.
Of these resources, I want youto examine how you stewarded
your heart, right?
Have you taken a moment tolocate the source?
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where is God located in all thatyou do?
Is he first?
Is he an afterthought?
Does he have any place in whatyou do?
He ain't in your hair, he ain'tin your nails, I understand
hair, nails, feet, you know,eyebrows, you know, staying
right tight, I get it, I get it,gym memberships, I get it, all
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of that factor into your giftback to him.
the way that I challenge myselfto work out, I've been in this
great groove of working out andthe way that I've been
challenging myself and what I'vebeen telling myself is that
there is somebody who doesn'thave the activity of their
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limbs, any of them, one of them,doesn't matter, two, four, like
there there are someone outthere that does not have the
ability to do that.
So I'm not going to, takeadvantage of my ability to do
that, or take it for granted.
I would say that.
I wouldn't take that experiencefor granted.
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So I'm going to get my tail up,and I'm going to go work out.
Because he gave me this body, hegave me all my limbs and
everything like that.
Go work it out.
Even if it's just an hour.
You know, 30 minutes.
That's what's important, givingyour time to God, giving your
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time to the gifts that he givesyou.
Because if you spend time askingfor the gifts, you're praying
for them, but how are you goingto keep them once he gives them
to you?
Are you prepared?
You just gonna wing it.
That's not gonna fly if you wantthe best from him Then you
should be giving him your bestand there's no possible way you
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can give your complete Optimalbest if your heart is not
postured correctly healthily inyour heart You know so I want to
I do I will this does come witha warning because The results of
what you find in this audit.
I'm always constantly taking anaudit.
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I'm always constantly takinginventory of the things that
make me, me, at first I used todo it when I received major
defeats in my life.
And then I think as I grew in mymaturity, that's when I started
to really, really, do themConsistently, every few months
or, I go and I write.
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I write in my journal because Iwanted to see my progress.
I wanted to see if I hadachieved what I set out to do
the week before, the monthbefore so, I think you could
also be very much pleased withwhere you are.
You could be like, wow, I'm muchfurther than how far I've
gotten.
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And maybe you're not givingyourself enough credit, enough
grace for what you've done.
I just, I want you to see thatit will tell you a story.
I'm really big on storytelling.
That's why I love to have peoplecome and sit with me and talk
with me here.
Because I'm just really, reallybig on storytelling.
I think that there's so muchlearning that can be achieved
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through listening to justsomeone else's story.
You know, learning what not todo.
Learning what to do.
Learning, you could cut theline.
You know what I'm saying?
You could cut your time in halfjust by wisdom.
So beyond the numbers and theplaces and the behavior, it just
reveals something much deeperabout your heart.
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And it reveals its conditionmore specifically.
So you know, guard your heart,because everything you do flows
and I can't emphasize thatenough.
I know I've said it, but if yourheart can't flow, you can't flow
with life.
And I mean that in the realestway.
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You can't flow with life.
Something is going to trip youup, so if your heart is filled
with the joy and the love andthe hope and the peace of God,
you know, knowing that your joyis just not based in the
conditions of the world.
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But on the presence of God inyour heart, in your life, you
experience a fullness and a joy,right?
But then if it's filled withbitterness and unforgiveness,
fear of guilt, it will reflectin how you manage your
resources, specifically me, thecondition of your heart
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definitely determines thecondition of your giving both in
your time and your money.
iT begins with the posture ofthe heart and the posture
consists of position andcondition.
God desires for his children tobe as he is, generous to people,
to places, to things, it doesn'tmatter if you get it back, God
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will give you better.
So if you're having trouble withbeing generous, I really just
encourage you to prayerfullyexamine the position and
condition of your heart andallow God to heal and reposition
you as necessary.
But you can't be afraid or tryto dictate how he does in fact
reposition you.
You just got to surrender to theflow and let it come and let him
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do what he needs to be done.
So, you know, I think even justsome of the questions that we
posed about, what is theimportance of the posture of the
heart to God?
I'd venture to say it's tocommunicate non verbally with
God, or with the higher power,you know, how do we operate?
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From a pure heart and Matthewchapter 5 verse 8 says blessed
are the pure at heart for theywill see God Everything we do
everything we touch Everythingthat we are the rhythm of our
sound in fact really reallyreally determines how We fare in
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life, how we forge our own path,what that looks like, what that
feels like.
Does it feel honest?
Are you cheating?
Cheating in the sense of doinganything that's not upright and
honest.
Trying to snake someone over toget ahead.
Where is your heart rooted?
Are you rooted in a by any meansnecessary kind of person, or do
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you care about the people thatyou experience and come across?
It all flows together, as Imentioned earlier, but also in
my first episode, the mind hasto be well, the heart has to be
well, and your soul has to bewell.
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Your soul has to be pure, yourmind has to be pure, Your heart
has to be pure.
Your heart is big, big, living,pumping, breathing, and how you
nurture your heart reallydictates your ability to love,
your ability to experience love,
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your ability to nurture, nurture an environment,
nurture your home, nurture yourchildren, nurture your partner.
It's all important.
And if you can't clear yourheart space, if you can't make
room for God because it'scluttered and jammed with,
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things that maybe they just,they were meant for you to let
go, maybe it's time to heal.
And, we talked a lot abouttrauma and grief and a little
bit about healing in my lastepisode, but it really is
important to process thesereally major aspects of life
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that we come across daily.
The effects they have on us andhow they shape us, how they
shape our heart.
But the heart never forgets.
there are people, there areplaces that leave an imprint on
your heart, wherever you go,whatever you do, so enough of my
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rambling, I really just wantedto dive into the heart's
posture.
What is a healthy heart?
What is the condition of yourheart?
Because your heart shapes ourexperience.
It's our filter.
What we feel, that's what ourheart really, really, really,
really, really determines.
How we experience life.
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So, the heart is just that.
It's how we experience life.
And if you want to come from ajaded place, then you'll leave
your heart posture exactly howit is.
You won't take an inventory andyou will let it be just that or
we'll take inventory and you'lllook to forge a new path in a
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new direction that is God givenand driven.
I really, really hope that youenjoy this episode about the
heart.,, I guess I could havetalked a little bit more about
love, but I could talk to y'allabout love for days, weeks,
hours, months.
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I love love.
I think love is so beautiful.
Definitely having a healthyheart affects The beauty in what
you love and how you paint yourstrokes on the beautiful canvas,
masterpiece that we call life.
,so I just wanted to get on hereand talk to y'all a little bit
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about the heart posture.
So, if you're on your way towork, have a great day.
If you're on your lunch breakI'm happy that you took it with
me.
And if you're on your way home,have a great evening.
And if this is a nightcap,goodnight.
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XOXO
Welcome back to Crown Culture,the podcast, if it's your first
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time joining us, thank you.
And welcome if you're returningshout out to y'all, you're my
tribe.
And I'm super, super excited tounpack more issues, more topics,
just, and to flow.
You know what I mean?
So welcome back.
I don't think we talk enoughabout matters of the heart.
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we talk about heartbreak, wetalk about love, but do we talk
about the in between?
Do we talk about the conditionof our heart?
Do we talk about the positioningof our heart?
Do we really unpack the mattersof the heart in the way that we
need to?
So today I'm really just here toexplore this with you I would
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really say in an intimate way,on an intimate level.
I just really want to betterunderstand my heart and maybe me
trying to better understand myheart can invoke that within you
and it can inspire you on yourjourney.
So before I begin any episode, Itry to.
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Remember, but if I don't, then Ido it at the end.
But, father God, thank you forthis day.
Thank you for everything thatyou have done for us.
Thank you for everything thatyou do for us.
God.
We ask that as we go throughoutour day, our evening and our
night, God, we just praying.
We ask that you cover us, youcover us.
You protect us, you shield us,and God, allow us to abundantly
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give back to you in the waysthat you need, in our
productivity, in the way that weexplore, and the way that we
treat others in the world.
So God, as we unpack heartposture, This evening, I pray
and ask that you just go beforeme and you word my mouth with
the words that you need thepeople to hear.
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So I welcome them.
We are excited.
Heart Posture Episode 8.
Here we are let's do this.
So, you know, I really, reallylove to begin my episodes
exploring like questions,questions that I'm always
constantly asking to myself.
Like, Episode 2, You're Only AsGood As Your Tribe.
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One of the beautiful guests thatI had on, spoke about heart
posture.
And that really, really, got methinking, you know?
I don't know, maybe it did thesame for you, but, I'm just in a
place where I'm like, what isheart posture?
Outside of being in love andself love and, all of these
things, like, how do they gointo the grand scheme of Matters
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of the heart, so what does itmean to have a healthy heart
posture?
What does that look like?
What does that feel like?
Am I driven?
I asked am I driven more by myheart?
Am I driven more by my mind?
Am I driven more by my Spirit mysoul, And I talked about in
peace of mind my first episodejust about how those three
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components Of your body, one aremajor, but two, how they are,
they independently exist, andthen how they intertwine in an
inter interdisciplinary fashion.
So it's like, what is theimportance of the posture of the
heart with God?
What does that look like?
You know what I mean?
Why does he care so much?
Why did he, incorporate mattersof the heart so much in
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scripture I guess a fairquestion is like what shapes our
heart, you know what I mean?
Like what does that feel like?
What does that look like?
it's easy to say Experiences,right the experiences that we
face every day I would say shapeour heart posture because it can
have the ability to have apositive effect on us or it can
have A negative effect on us,and It's like how do we operate?
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What is a pure heart?
like, how do we operate from aspace of purity?
And it's not pure in the sensethat I haven't done anything in
my life, right?
Like I've done wrong.
I feel like everybody has donewrong, done wrong by someone
been done wrong.
Like I feel like that applies toanyone, but really, really
understanding, it's importantunderstanding how that Shapes
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what we do and how theexperiences that we continue to
experience in the world, youknow So, we can dive in but
these are all the questions thatI just wonder I have Regarding
the heart and its posture.
Heart posture really It's anaspect That puts us in the best
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position to be successful in ourinvesting, in our giving, and it
really drives our generosity,our kindness, a lot derives from
the heart, and, The heart'sposture stems from a sense of
gratitude, for the gifts thatwe've been given by God, and our
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eagerness to, serve Him, right?
if you've ever heard theterminology a servant's heart,
if you've ever heard anythingabout a servant's heart, it
centers in God and it not onlycenters in God, but it's in
every aspect of what we do.
It determines how we love.
And that is, our love for self,our love for God also drives our
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servitude and our ability toserve and be in spaces and
places where you can remain trueto yourself because your heart
is healthy.
Your heart, Posture is uprightis beating healthily in your
body.
And so, I started asking likeWhat is a healthy heart?
It's in a sense purposefullyorienting your own Heart towards
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love if that makes sense, OnSunday, I attend the Life Church
in Maryland.
It is phenomenal.
Shout out to my people.
But Elder Shamika, spoke aboutfrom sifting to shifting.
And I think That can go intoyour experience from sifting,
it's like a cornmeal and yousift out the bad things and you
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take the good things, butthere's a process and I think
that that's what goes into yourheart's posture, how much time
you spend with you, how muchtime you spend taking inventory
or an audit of the things thatyou hold to be important, so in
order to get to some of That Iwould say let's first look at
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the position of your heart, thefirst principle of Generosity
within the kingdom begins withthe posture of the heart
obviously But when talking aboutthe heart it refers to both the
position and the condition, youknow Both are important to the
flow of the rhythm in which youlive your life in which you
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operate in which you get theflow.
And you heard me start thisepisode off with flow And I talk
a lot about Flowing you Can askme like how are you or whatever
and when I tell you I am freeflowing It's like I do go with
the tide But if something isagainst what I believe or
something goes against what Iknow in my heart to be true Then
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I'm not for someone elsedisturbing my flow, but I'll
disrupt the flow of others inthe event or in the desire to
save And I hope and I pray thatin putting myself first in that
way, I'm never harming anyone.
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And I'm doing it in a way thatGod is pleased and not in a way
that I'm self serving, you know?
Jesus makes it really clear inMatthew chapter 6 verse 21 that
wherever your treasure is,that's where your heart is.
And that treasure is normallydefined as something that is
precious and stored up often aresource of some sort, and
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that's what people strive forthe treasure.
If you knew your heart was atreasure and you treated your
heart like treasure.
What would that look like?
Would your world, would you sayokay, I'm actually, I'm doing
this, I'm making progress, I'mproud, or would you say hmm,
maybe I need to take a couple ofsteps back and I need to
evaluate where I am and figureout what steps I need to take in
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the right direction that's gonnabe most beneficial for me.
When your heart is jammed, whenyour heart is, It's clogged with
the wrong things, it reallyhinders and inhibits room for
the right things.
And I think I learned that earlyon, growing up, I always just
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knew I was very, I guess, I, I,I don't want to say I wore my
emotions on my sleeve, but myparents couldn't figure out like
why things affected me so much.
I'm such an empath.
Like I feel everything.
I can cry at seeing someonehomeless, it can break my heart.
I can feel for the next person.
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And I've always thought that itwas.
I always thought that it waslike the worst thing in the
world.
Instead of thinking it was mysuperpower, and my ability to
feel others gave me the abilityto evaluate and gain these
people skills, this emotionalintelligence.
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But that was because I letmyself feel.
And Letting yourself feel In asense, it really is an
invaluable tool.
I think when you experience somuch heartbreak in your life,
you're like, I'm not dealingwith this anymore.
I swear, I'm not dealing withthis person doing me wrong.
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I'm not dealing with thisperson.
He cheating, he doing this, orshe doing that.
just walking all over me,grinding up my heart.
It's like, my heart, like.
Because of my love for whom Iserve and who my heart belongs
to, it's restored.
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And it's always made better thenext time around.
It's always put back together.
When he saved me from what Ithought I wanted, what my heart
thought it wanted, it made me somuch better in a sense that not
only did it save me, it made megrateful.
And it also made me Smarter in alot of ways.
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A lot of my, savviness, it wasjust very different.
And so, you know, as humans, Twoof our most valuable resources,
I would say, in the modern erais time and money.
Time, specifically, becausethat's something that you just
can't get back.
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And money because it's currency,They're both currency really,
they really are and Your energystems from, it's your aura, it's
your heart, it's everything thatmakes up you as an individual
and based on Jesus statementabout treasure, just by taking a
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look at how you manage yourresources will tell you a great
deal about yourself.
Where you spend your money, whoyou hang out with, how you spend
your time, what your goals are.
That tells you, am I an egodriven person or am I A heart or
purpose driven person.
I think that that tells you alot about you in a general
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sense.
aNd I'm not saying to be egodriven is bad, but it's like, to
be ego driven, where is thatgoing to get you?
Because nothing can purelydevelop form.
From the ego, if youcontinuously build a cycle and
date the same types of women Whofeed your ego?
You're not going to ever haveanything purposeful That is
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rooted in love god anything likethat.
You're going to have somethingthat's rooted in lust.
That's something that's rootedin appearances, aesthetics.
It's going to be something thatis surface level and you say,
well, why can't I have both?
Or why can't I be this?
And you can care, you can havenice things, but if you make
that yourself as a person, thenI just feel like, I'm not even
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gonna say I feel like, because Iam removed and displaced from
this, but it's just how it'sreceived in the world is
completely different thansomeone who is rooted in genuine
authenticity.
You know, you can be humble,right?
Like, you can be humble hearted.
You can be lion hearted and themost humble individual in the
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room, doesn't it?
Like, you can't tell God who hecalls.
So, you know, that's whyjealousy, envy, those things are
rooted in an unhealthy heart.
You know what I mean?
When people are envious and theydo things You know, I hate you
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or I want to be you, you knowpeople walking around here They
killing people because they'reenvious of them Because somebody
had the courage to go out andget it or do it or whatever You
know or they had amisunderstanding that literally
was Just that misunderstandingand they're killing people their
are young men are killing eachother at alarming rates over You
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got something that I want andI'm gonna kill you for it or we
had Like I said misunderstandingabout something so small and
it's so small because you youknow If you woke up tomorrow, it
might have bothered you, butwould it be worth ending his
life and now yours?
Because now you sitting behindbars for 20 plus years.
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And now that person, you tooksomeone from this world without
permission.
None of us have permission.
So it's, That's why your hearthas to be healthy because what
we're seeing, you know, youngwomen getting taken, young women
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getting, Violated, young womengetting, and dare I say it,
pimped out in this era becausetheir heart is not healthy.
I don't mind a man doing thingsfor me, buying me nice things.
That's great.
I appreciate that.
But as long as he knows thatlike, I'm someone who operates
from a space of gratitude.
I'm someone who just appreciatesyou texting me and letting me
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know that you want me to be apart of your day, your world,
your life, your livelihood.
You know, you're thinking of mesending me flowers every now and
again is just a thought or agesture or even just leaving me
a nice card or me waking up to anice text message, you know what
I'm saying?
Like, There are other thingsthat can suffice other than
taking me out to dinner, why younot taking me out and doing
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this, and why you not taking meand doing, and we not over here
like this person, and why wenot, you not icing me out after
three months, that's just crazy.
You know what I mean?
Like, and, and if that's yourMO, that's your MO.
That's great.
I, but at the end of the day IfI asked you Right, because we as
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women we come to the table andwe say well We evaluate what a
man brings to the table, but ifa man came to the table Men or
women actually this can beinterpreted Intertwined,
interchangeable.
If he or she came to the tableand says, What do you bring to
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the table?
And I think I've like referencedthis, but like, you get somebody
that gets to talking and sayingOh, I am the table.
I do this, this, and this.
I have my own house.
I have my own car.
I have my own this.
I have my own that.
And that's great.
That's great.
But, As a man, hearing that, youshould run in the other
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direction.
As a woman, hearing that, if youask someone, That and they the
response is you know, I got thisI do this I do that But they
can't tell you anything aboutthemselves.
They can't tell you that theyhave unique characteristics Like
they can't tell you that the wayI love is just different They
can't tell you the way that Inurture is different and I would
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hate and like me I'm notsomebody who likes to list
because I had this conversationwith one of my, good girlfriends
and you know, she's also comeoff my work bestie too.
That's my girl.
Shout out to Reagan.
Miss Reagan.
But yeah, we were having thisconversation about this and I
kind of was just like, for me.
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I'm not going to do a whole lotof listing out about what I'm
about.
Like I feel like you do see thematerial So you operate
accordingly?
however I feel as though when itcomes down to the things if you
ask me I could list them I couldlet you know that my man, you
know, my husband he will neverstarve You know, physically,
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spiritually, emotionally,mentally, as long as I'm his
partner, as long as he lets mein, as long as he allows me to
create, to be in that space, Iwill hands down, that's me as a
person.
I love, to no limit.
These are things that I wouldsay about myself, but I feel
like a lot of women nowadays,and they don't know or realize.
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What makes them them?
My heart's posture these thingsthat are intangible, but yet
we're so quick to rush to thetangible things You know, you
have a job you're supposed tohave a job You have a house that
you know You you're supposed tohave a house like you have a car
like I'm not saying you'resupposed to have a car but I'm
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just saying like I'm sayingthese are things, like, what do
you want to pat on the back for?
Those are self serving things.
How do you treat people?
I pay attention to a lot of,like, how, when I'm engaging,
interacting, how he treatspeople.
Does he have manners?
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You know, does he, act like hehas some sense?
You know what I mean?
Like I'm paying attention to allof this.
So I feel like as a woman, womenand men both have responsibility
to guard their heart is writtenin the Bible.
You know, Jesus said it, it waswritten in the Bible, Above all
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else, guard your heart foreverything you do flows from it.
Proverbs chapter 4, verse 23.
Because everything that you dostems from your heart.
That's why when you get yourheart broken, it literally feels
like the world stops.
That's why it feels like that.
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Because when we feel things fromthe heart, Now, to the folks, I
would say, actually I'm going totake a quick detour because God
just gave me this.
To the folks who struggle, Iwould say in the sense of, um,
you've blocked your own heart.
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You've created your own blockagebecause you said I don't want to
experience this anymore.
I don't want to feel painanymore.
This person that I love, youknow, my world is so different.
Those people I'm talking to you,you will love again.
You will laugh again.
You will get back to all of thethings that make you you.
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Even make you better thanbefore, you know?
So on this platform I'm alwayschallenging you to think
differently, to think aboutsomething maybe from a different
perspective or, I challenge youto take an audit on how you
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spend your time, how you spendyour money, how you spend these
valuable resources, right?
This means really taking an indepth look at you, what you make
time for.
I would say what you make timefor, where and how you spend
your money and your behavioralpatterns or habits.
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This will tell you a lot aboutyou.
It'll tell you a lot of what youbelieve or deem to be important,
and after you've done thataudit.
Of these resources, I want youto examine how you stewarded
your heart, right?
Have you taken a moment tolocate the source?
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where is God located in all thatyou do?
Is he first?
Is he an afterthought?
Does he have any place in whatyou do?
He ain't in your hair, he ain'tin your nails, I understand
hair, nails, feet, you know,eyebrows, you know, staying
right tight, I get it, I get it,gym memberships, I get it, all
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of that factor into your giftback to him.
the way that I challenge myselfto work out, I've been in this
great groove of working out andthe way that I've been
challenging myself and what I'vebeen telling myself is that
there is somebody who doesn'thave the activity of their
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limbs, any of them, one of them,doesn't matter, two, four, like
there there are someone outthere that does not have the
ability to do that.
So I'm not going to, takeadvantage of my ability to do
that, or take it for granted.
I would say that.
I wouldn't take that experiencefor granted.
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So I'm going to get my tail up,and I'm going to go work out.
Because he gave me this body, hegave me all my limbs and
everything like that.
Go work it out.
Even if it's just an hour.
You know, 30 minutes.
That's what's important, givingyour time to God, giving your
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time to the gifts that he givesyou.
Because if you spend time askingfor the gifts, you're praying
for them, but how are you goingto keep them once he gives them
to you?
Are you prepared?
You just gonna wing it.
That's not gonna fly if you wantthe best from him Then you
should be giving him your bestand there's no possible way you
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can give your complete Optimalbest if your heart is not
postured correctly healthily inyour heart You know so I want to
I do I will this does come witha warning because The results of
what you find in this audit.
I'm always constantly taking anaudit.
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I'm always constantly takinginventory of the things that
make me, me, at first I used todo it when I received major
defeats in my life.
And then I think as I grew in mymaturity, that's when I started
to really, really, do themConsistently, every few months
or, I go and I write.
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I write in my journal because Iwanted to see my progress.
I wanted to see if I hadachieved what I set out to do
the week before, the monthbefore so, I think you could
also be very much pleased withwhere you are.
You could be like, wow, I'm muchfurther than how far I've
gotten.
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And maybe you're not givingyourself enough credit, enough
grace for what you've done.
I just, I want you to see thatit will tell you a story.
I'm really big on storytelling.
That's why I love to have peoplecome and sit with me and talk
with me here.
Because I'm just really, reallybig on storytelling.
I think that there's so muchlearning that can be achieved
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through listening to justsomeone else's story.
You know, learning what not todo.
Learning what to do.
Learning, you could cut theline.
You know what I'm saying?
You could cut your time in halfjust by wisdom.
So beyond the numbers and theplaces and the behavior, it just
reveals something much deeperabout your heart.
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And it reveals its conditionmore specifically.
So you know, guard your heart,because everything you do flows
and I can't emphasize thatenough.
I know I've said it, but if yourheart can't flow, you can't flow
with life.
And I mean that in the realestway.
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You can't flow with life.
Something is going to trip youup, so if your heart is filled
with the joy and the love andthe hope and the peace of God,
you know, knowing that your joyis just not based in the
conditions of the world.
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But on the presence of God inyour heart, in your life, you
experience a fullness and a joy,right?
But then if it's filled withbitterness and unforgiveness,
fear of guilt, it will reflectin how you manage your
resources, specifically me, thecondition of your heart
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definitely determines thecondition of your giving both in
your time and your money.
iT begins with the posture ofthe heart and the posture
consists of position andcondition.
God desires for his children tobe as he is, generous to people,
to places, to things, it doesn'tmatter if you get it back, God
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will give you better.
So if you're having trouble withbeing generous, I really just
encourage you to prayerfullyexamine the position and
condition of your heart andallow God to heal and reposition
you as necessary.
But you can't be afraid or tryto dictate how he does in fact
reposition you.
You just got to surrender to theflow and let it come and let him
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do what he needs to be done.
So, you know, I think even justsome of the questions that we
posed about, what is theimportance of the posture of the
heart to God?
I'd venture to say it's tocommunicate non verbally with
God, or with the higher power,you know, how do we operate?
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From a pure heart and Matthewchapter 5 verse 8 says blessed
are the pure at heart for theywill see God Everything we do
everything we touch Everythingthat we are the rhythm of our
sound in fact really reallyreally determines how We fare in
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life, how we forge our own path,what that looks like, what that
feels like.
Does it feel honest?
Are you cheating?
Cheating in the sense of doinganything that's not upright and
honest.
Trying to snake someone over toget ahead.
Where is your heart rooted?
Are you rooted in a by any meansnecessary kind of person, or do
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you care about the people thatyou experience and come across?
It all flows together, as Imentioned earlier, but also in
my first episode, the mind hasto be well, the heart has to be
well, and your soul has to bewell.
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Your soul has to be pure, yourmind has to be pure, Your heart
has to be pure.
Your heart is big, big, living,pumping, breathing, and how you
nurture your heart reallydictates your ability to love,
your ability to experience love,
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your ability to nurture, nurture an environment,
nurture your home, nurture yourchildren, nurture your partner.
It's all important.
And if you can't clear yourheart space, if you can't make
room for God because it'scluttered and jammed with,
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things that maybe they just,they were meant for you to let
go, maybe it's time to heal.
And, we talked a lot abouttrauma and grief and a little
bit about healing in my lastepisode, but it really is
important to process thesereally major aspects of life
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that we come across daily.
The effects they have on us andhow they shape us, how they
shape our heart.
But the heart never forgets.
there are people, there areplaces that leave an imprint on
your heart, wherever you go,whatever you do, so enough of my
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rambling, I really just wantedto dive into the heart's
posture.
What is a healthy heart?
What is the condition of yourheart?
Because your heart shapes ourexperience.
It's our filter.
What we feel, that's what ourheart really, really, really,
really, really determines.
How we experience life.
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So, the heart is just that.
It's how we experience life.
And if you want to come from ajaded place, then you'll leave
your heart posture exactly howit is.
You won't take an inventory andyou will let it be just that or
we'll take inventory and you'lllook to forge a new path in a
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new direction that is God givenand driven.
I really, really hope that youenjoy this episode about the
heart.,, I guess I could havetalked a little bit more about
love, but I could talk to y'allabout love for days, weeks,
hours, months.
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I love love.
I think love is so beautiful.
Definitely having a healthyheart affects The beauty in what
you love and how you paint yourstrokes on the beautiful canvas,
masterpiece that we call life.
,so I just wanted to get on hereand talk to y'all a little bit
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about the heart posture.
So, if you're on your way towork, have a great day.
If you're on your lunch breakI'm happy that you took it with
me.
And if you're on your way home,have a great evening.
And if this is a nightcap,goodnight.
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XOXO
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