February 12, 2025 • 19 mins
Episode 55: Wash Your Face: A Skincare Routine for Your Soul
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Hey Love! đź’–
In today’s episode, we’re talking about something simple yet deeply transformative: washing your face. No, this isn’t just about skincare—it’s a framework for processing your emotions and taking care of your soul when life feels overwhelming.
When a relationship ends or emotions run high, it’s tempting to spiral into self-doubt or avoidance. But what if I told you that the same steps we use to care for our skin can teach us how to nurture ourselves emotionally? This episode breaks down how the simple act of cleansing, correcting, hydrating, and protecting can guide you through difficult emotions and help you regain clarity, balance, and peace.
- How cleansing your skin mirrors the need to release emotional clutter.
- Why correcting isn’t about “fixing” yourself but about intentional growth.
- The importance of hydration—not just for your body, but for your spirit.
- How setting boundaries is the emotional equivalent of SPF: essential for protection.
By the end of this episode, you’ll have a self-care ritual that’s not just about glowing skin but about glowing from within.
Key Takeaways
- Learn how the steps of a skincare routine—cleanse, correct, hydrate, and protect—apply to emotional self-care.
- Understand why emotional cleansing is vital to clearing away unprocessed feelings and starting fresh.
- Discover how to replenish your energy and build resilience through intentional self-care.
- Gain tools to protect your progress with boundaries and emotional “SPF.”
Resources Mentioned
- Episode 54: What's in Your Bag? Unpacking the Language of Pain vs. JoyÂ
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Listen, baby.
Heartbreak isn't the end of theworld, but it is the start of
your world.
See, love isn't just about whatsomeone gives you or how many
times it feels like love hasfailed you.
Love is about what you uncoverwithin yourself.
I know it hurts, but you arenot broken.
(00:22):
You're rebuilding and, trust me, your glow up is just getting
started.
You are now tuning in to LoveFrequency, where love grows, so
let's go.
(00:42):
Welcome to Love Frequency, thepodcast that helps you transform
your pain into power.
I'm your host and favorite loveadvocate, nya, here to guide
you through the journey ofbreaking toxic patterns and
embracing your highest self.
On this podcast.
We believe that love is not theproblem, honey you are.
We believe that love is not theproblem, honey you are.
(01:03):
That's why, every Wednesday, weask the tough questions, dive
deep into the root of the issueand offer tools to help you get
out of your own way.
If you're loving what you hear,hit that subscribe button so
you never miss an episode.
And don't be shy.
Rate and review the podcast tohelp us spread the love and the
(01:25):
truth, because when you know yougrow, when heartache hits, it's
easy to start picking yourselfapart, questioning what you
could have done differently, butI'm going to need you to pause
for a moment, baby.
(01:51):
This isn't about what's wrongwith you.
It's about what's waiting foryou.
Heartbreak doesn't just close adoor.
It hands you a mirror, and Iget it.
Some of you are too scared toeven look, but here's the truth.
That reflection isn't there tocall you out, it's there to call
you in.
So before you spiral intowhat's wrong with me, let me
(02:12):
stop you right there.
Nothing is wrong with you.
What's waiting for you on theother side of that mirror is
everything you've been tooscared to see.
I'm talking about clearing awaythe emotional baggage you've
been too scared to see.
I'm talking about clearing awaythe emotional baggage you've
been dragging around.
Let me tell you about my firstbig breakup.
(02:33):
Her name was Toni and we metwhile I was at tech school in
Biloxi, mississippi.
It started out as friendshipand we would stay up all night
laughing and cracking jokes.
We had a lot in common and itreally set the tone for me to
feel safe connecting to somebodyI knew.
(02:55):
Her family loved them, she knewmine.
We had houses together, webuilt a really good financial
economy.
So when that relationship ended,it felt like my whole world had
shattered.
I had not only lost someone Ilove, but I lost a friend.
I couldn't eat, I couldn'tsleep, and I felt like it was
(03:19):
over, that I had nothing else tolive for.
So, instead of sitting with mypain and giving myself time to
heal, I did what so many of usdo I tore myself apart.
I beat myself up.
It was also the first time thatI was committed for an attempt
on my life.
After I got out, I chose to justavoid it, avoid the reasons why
(03:42):
I ended up in that situation,avoid the reasons why I thought
the end was the only way.
So then, what do we do?
Well, I jumped into anotherrelationship, convinced that
someone new could fix what Ifelt could fix the broken inside
of me.
But this new relationship, itwasn't about love or connection,
it was about distraction.
(04:04):
I didn't realize it at the time, y'all, but I was carrying
let's recap on the last episodethe emotional baggage of my
breakup with Tony into this newchapter.
The arguments, the insecurities, the fear of being left, it all
followed me because I hadn'ttaken the time to process it.
It all followed me because Ihadn't taken the time to process
it.
This wasn't just a one-timething, y'all.
(04:26):
I became a serial monogamous.
Each time a relationship ended,I would rush into another one,
desperate to prove to myselfthat I was lovable.
But each time it didn't work,the patterns emerged like my
tendency to lose myself and mypartners, or my constant need
for reassurance.
But I never stopped to askmyself why.
(04:47):
Instead, I told myself I'll dobetter next time.
Or oh, I know I'm not the onlyone.
This time will be the last time.
I kept hoping that a new personor a new dynamic would solve
the problem that I wasn'twilling to face within myself.
Does it sound familiar?
One of the turning points camewhen I found myself in yet
(05:09):
another breakup, sitting alonein my apartment on my knees,
crying over a woman who hadproven to me many times that I
didn't matter.
I was exhausted, not justphysically but emotionally.
I felt like I was running onempty.
My love frequency was at levelzero, chasing relationships that
could never truly fill me up.
(05:30):
And that's when I realized thatthe common denominator in all
these experience honey was whoMe?
I wasn't addressing the rootcause of my pain.
I was putting band-aids onwounds that needed deep care.
I want you to think for a second.
What's one pattern you'venoticed in your own
relationships that you might becarrying from the past?
(05:53):
Just take a moment, write itdown.
Don't write it down, hold it inyour mind.
But this awareness, this is thefirst step toward breaking the
cycle.
But how right we say all thesewords, we make it sound real
good.
But how Well it starts withsomething simple, something
almost symbolic washing yourdamn face.
(06:20):
Washing your face isn't justabout skincare.
It's a metaphor for how we cancare for ourselves emotionally.
Let me explain.
When we feel overwhelmed byrelationships, life or
unprocessed emotions, it's easyto get stuck.
The weight of everything leavesus paralyzed.
(06:41):
It's easy to get stuck.
The weight of everything leavesus paralyzed.
But just like a good skincareroutine restores the skin, an
intentional emotional careroutine can restore your spirit.
Step one letting go of some ofthat emotional clutter.
See, cleansing is the firststep in any skincare routine.
Why it removes dirt, oil,impurities.
Well, emotional cleansing isjust as important.
(07:04):
It's about releasing what nolonger serves you love.
Think about when you've had arough day and your emotions feel
heavy.
Maybe you've cried, felt angryor held on to a hurt for too
long.
Cleansing is your permission tofeel it all For me after a
(07:25):
tough breakup, I found that,sitting with myself, I do this
exercise that my therapist gaveme called sitting with your
emotions.
I'm going to share it in anupcoming episode because I think
it's so profound.
But it really allows you to notjust sit and feel, which I know
some of us are afraid to do,but it helps you call out what
you're feeling and walk throughhow those feelings make you feel
(07:50):
, and then it ends with anexercise on releasing it.
Sometimes that's all it takes.
You don't have to go throughthe details of what happened,
because physically, when we skipcleansing, dirt and oil
accumulate and clog our pores.
Emotionally, it's the samething.
If you don't cleanse youremotional state, the unresolved
(08:13):
shit can just build up, makingit harder for new experiences
and connections to be able topenetrate and seep in.
Picture it like this If youremotions are clogged, you won't
be able to let in the good shitwhen it's time for new
beginnings.
Now, cleansing alone isn'tenough.
See, once you've cleared outthe old, you need to take a good
(08:35):
look at what's still there.
Well, this is where correctioncomes in.
Now, correction is the secondstep in your emotional skincare
routine, and we use this toaddress the root cause.
In skincare, correction involvestargeting those stubborn spots
(09:00):
Emotionally.
It's about recognizing patternsand addressing the root cause
of your behavior or yourfeelings.
You heard that your yep, notthem, not what they didn't do Us
.
For example, after one of mybreakups, I realized that I
often struggle with boundariesin a big way, and even more than
just struggling with boundaries, I struggle with reinforcing
(09:20):
the boundaries I've set andbecause of that, I kept letting
people walk all over me, whichled to my emotional exhaustion.
See, correction isn't aboutgetting everything perfect or
fixing it overnight.
It's about awareness.
It's about the understanding ofwhy you do what you do so you
can start making little changes.
You do what you do so you canstart making little changes.
(09:45):
For me, therapy was like theserum I needed to target my
emotional blemishes.
It was slow, it even took me awhile to find a therapist that I
vibed with, but the changes Istarted to feel almost instantly
was real.
This has given me space toreally explore the deeper layers
of my pain.
Just like corrective treatmentsand skincare, this step takes
time, but, trust me, the workyou do now will create lasting
(10:09):
change.
So once you started to correct,now it's time to nourish and
replenish.
It's like hydrating your skinafter all the hard work, which
is step three hydration pouringback into yourself.
Hydration, see, is all aboutrestoring balance.
When you hydrate your skin, youbring back moisture, giving it
(10:33):
life, and balance your skin.
You bring back moisture, givingit life and balance.
Emotionally, hydration is aboutpouring back love into yourself
, because after cleansing andcorrecting, it's vital to
restore your energy.
It takes a lot out of you, soof course, it's important to
pour back into you.
For me, this means doing thingsthat have sparked my joy, like
(10:56):
coming back to my damn podcast.
How you doing, how have youbeen?
It's been a while I've missedyou all.
Hydration isn't just physical.
It's about ensuring you'reemotionally filled up and not
running on empty.
Think about it like this whenyou don't hydrate, your skin
feels what Dry, tight, dull.
If you neglect your emotionalhydration, then you're going to
(11:20):
feel emotionally drained anddisconnected from yourself.
Take the time to nourishyourself with the things that
restore your spirit.
Your emotional glow up willthank you for it.
You need it.
It's time.
And the last step Now, afterhydration, comes protection.
(11:40):
These are setting thoseboundaries for your wellbeing.
In skincare, we protect ourskin with products like
moisturizer and sunscreen toshield it Emotionally.
Protection is about settinghealthy boundaries and
prioritizing yourself and yourwell-being.
This is where I had to learn tosay no no to things, no to
(12:03):
people, because it drained me,and instead say yes to things
that nourished me.
I learned to protect my energyby creating space for myself.
Boundaries are your emotionalSPF.
Without them, you're wide opento the negative energy around
you, and I want to be clear.
We've talked about boundariesbefore.
(12:25):
These shouldn't be walls thatyou build against other people
or walls that you create throughyour pain.
Setting boundaries with peoplein my life, for example, I
realized that my mental andemotional health improved
drastically.
Saying no wasn't selfish.
It was an act of self-love.
(12:46):
So the boundary of saying nowasn't against people that I'm
connecting with.
The boundary was I do not liketo put myself in situations that
are emotionally draining.
So no, just like that.
Say it with me.
No Feels good, don't it?
As you cleanse, correct,hydrate and protect, you're not
(13:11):
just healing, you're glowing.
And the best part, this glowcomes from within Every step in
this routine.
Just like skincare builds onthe last, creating a foundation
for emotional growth andstrength, the more you take care
of yourself, the more you shinefrom the inside out.
(13:33):
And here's the thing the glowis already inside of you love.
It's always been there.
After a breakup, the hurt canleave us questioning ourselves,
wondering if we're broken or ifwe need to change based on what
somebody else has said or whatsomebody else has done.
(13:55):
It's easy to get caught in thetrap of trying to fix ourselves
because we feel like we're notenough.
This is often influenced bysomebody else's rejection or
criticisms, or simply theirabsence.
But here's the truth you werenever broken.
You are not broken.
The hurt is not a sign that youneed to fix yourself, but
(14:18):
rather an invitation toreconnect with who you are, who
you've always been.
Honey, rebuilding youremotional foundation isn't about
changing to meet someone else'sstandard.
It's about rediscovering yourworth, strength and resilience,
which may have been buried underlayers of past pain and
(14:41):
external influence.
The real glow up begins when youlearn to love yourself through
the hurt, rather than waitingfor someone else's approval or
validation.
Think of washing your face, awash in your face.
Think of washing your face notjust as a physical ritual, but
(15:01):
as a symbolic act of cleansingyour emotional slate One step at
a time, one day at a time, eachtime you nurture yourself,
whether with a moment ofcompassion, small acts of
kindness, you're working to healfrom the inside out, and that's
what matters.
That emotional glow up isn'tsomething someone can give you
(15:21):
or take away, because it'salready inside, waiting to be
uncovered.
Rebuilding means embracinggrace and self-compassion, not
expecting perfection or seekingexternal validation.
Hear me well.
Rebuilding means embracinggrace and self-compassion, not
(15:43):
expecting perfection from otherpeople, not seeking validation
from the outside world.
It's a consistent journey, onethat reminds you that the love
you need to heal and grow hasalways been inside of you,
waiting to shine brighter eachday.
Dear love, when people say sitwith yourself, what they really
(16:10):
mean is simply this Start bywashing your face, baby.
The steps are simple butprofoundly transformative when
applied to your emotions.
Begin with the cleanse.
Allow yourself to feel deeply,to cry, release and to clear
away what no longer serves you.
(16:30):
Only when you make space fornew beginnings can healing truly
begin.
Next move to correction.
Take an honest look at yourselfand your patterns without
judgment.
Just be a curious observer.
This isn't about fixing what'swrong, but about understanding
(16:53):
where you can grow and rebuildstronger.
Then prioritize hydration,replenish your energy and your
spirit by pouring back intoyourself.
Engage in activities thatnourish your soul, and remember
that consistency is key here tomaintaining balance.
And finally, don't forget toprotect.
(17:17):
You've done all this hard work.
Safeguard your progress bysetting boundaries that honor
your growth.
Surround yourself with peopleand environments that support
your emotional well-being, andlet go of what threatens to
drain you.
When you follow these steps,you're not just healing.
You're creating space to thrive, honey.
(17:38):
You're embracing the glow thatcomes from within, one that
reflects the work you've done tonurture yourself so that this
glow up.
Huh, it ain't about perfection.
It's about consistency, graceand honoring your own journey.
And remember you're not alonein this process.
(18:00):
You're supported, seen andcapable of stepping into your
next season with strength andlove.
Let's continue to grow.
(18:21):
Thank you for spending time withme today.
Love Next week.
We're talking about whathappens when you do all this
good, good work and you'reglowing as shit, and someone
comes into your life, but notwith open arms, but with open
wounds.
Are they looking for love or atherapist?
Trust me, you don't want tomiss this one, and if this
(18:47):
episode has fed your spirit andit helped increase your love
frequency, hit that subscribebutton so we can keep growing
together.
Don't forget to share this withsomeone who might need a little
reminder to look in the mirrorand start their own glow up,
because here at Love Frequency,we believe when you know, you
grow.
I love you.
Listen, baby.
Heartbreak isn't the end of theworld, but it is the start of
your world.
See, love isn't just about whatsomeone gives you or how many
times it feels like love hasfailed you.
Love is about what you uncoverwithin yourself.
I know it hurts, but you arenot broken.
(00:22):
You're rebuilding and, trust me, your glow up is just getting
started.
You are now tuning in to LoveFrequency, where love grows, so
let's go.
(00:42):
Welcome to Love Frequency, thepodcast that helps you transform
your pain into power.
I'm your host and favorite loveadvocate, nya, here to guide
you through the journey ofbreaking toxic patterns and
embracing your highest self.
On this podcast.
We believe that love is not theproblem, honey you are.
We believe that love is not theproblem, honey you are.
(01:03):
That's why, every Wednesday, weask the tough questions, dive
deep into the root of the issueand offer tools to help you get
out of your own way.
If you're loving what you hear,hit that subscribe button so
you never miss an episode.
And don't be shy.
Rate and review the podcast tohelp us spread the love and the
(01:25):
truth, because when you know yougrow, when heartache hits, it's
easy to start picking yourselfapart, questioning what you
could have done differently, butI'm going to need you to pause
for a moment, baby.
(01:51):
This isn't about what's wrongwith you.
It's about what's waiting foryou.
Heartbreak doesn't just close adoor.
It hands you a mirror, and Iget it.
Some of you are too scared toeven look, but here's the truth.
That reflection isn't there tocall you out, it's there to call
you in.
So before you spiral intowhat's wrong with me, let me
(02:12):
stop you right there.
Nothing is wrong with you.
What's waiting for you on theother side of that mirror is
everything you've been tooscared to see.
I'm talking about clearing awaythe emotional baggage you've
been too scared to see.
I'm talking about clearing awaythe emotional baggage you've
been dragging around.
Let me tell you about my firstbig breakup.
(02:33):
Her name was Toni and we metwhile I was at tech school in
Biloxi, mississippi.
It started out as friendshipand we would stay up all night
laughing and cracking jokes.
We had a lot in common and itreally set the tone for me to
feel safe connecting to somebodyI knew.
(02:55):
Her family loved them, she knewmine.
We had houses together, webuilt a really good financial
economy.
So when that relationship ended,it felt like my whole world had
shattered.
I had not only lost someone Ilove, but I lost a friend.
I couldn't eat, I couldn'tsleep, and I felt like it was
(03:19):
over, that I had nothing else tolive for.
So, instead of sitting with mypain and giving myself time to
heal, I did what so many of usdo I tore myself apart.
I beat myself up.
It was also the first time thatI was committed for an attempt
on my life.
After I got out, I chose to justavoid it, avoid the reasons why
(03:42):
I ended up in that situation,avoid the reasons why I thought
the end was the only way.
So then, what do we do?
Well, I jumped into anotherrelationship, convinced that
someone new could fix what Ifelt could fix the broken inside
of me.
But this new relationship, itwasn't about love or connection,
it was about distraction.
(04:04):
I didn't realize it at the time, y'all, but I was carrying
let's recap on the last episodethe emotional baggage of my
breakup with Tony into this newchapter.
The arguments, the insecurities, the fear of being left, it all
followed me because I hadn'ttaken the time to process it.
It all followed me because Ihadn't taken the time to process
it.
This wasn't just a one-timething, y'all.
(04:26):
I became a serial monogamous.
Each time a relationship ended,I would rush into another one,
desperate to prove to myselfthat I was lovable.
But each time it didn't work,the patterns emerged like my
tendency to lose myself and mypartners, or my constant need
for reassurance.
But I never stopped to askmyself why.
(04:47):
Instead, I told myself I'll dobetter next time.
Or oh, I know I'm not the onlyone.
This time will be the last time.
I kept hoping that a new personor a new dynamic would solve
the problem that I wasn'twilling to face within myself.
Does it sound familiar?
One of the turning points camewhen I found myself in yet
(05:09):
another breakup, sitting alonein my apartment on my knees,
crying over a woman who hadproven to me many times that I
didn't matter.
I was exhausted, not justphysically but emotionally.
I felt like I was running onempty.
My love frequency was at levelzero, chasing relationships that
could never truly fill me up.
(05:30):
And that's when I realized thatthe common denominator in all
these experience honey was whoMe?
I wasn't addressing the rootcause of my pain.
I was putting band-aids onwounds that needed deep care.
I want you to think for a second.
What's one pattern you'venoticed in your own
relationships that you might becarrying from the past?
(05:53):
Just take a moment, write itdown.
Don't write it down, hold it inyour mind.
But this awareness, this is thefirst step toward breaking the
cycle.
But how right we say all thesewords, we make it sound real
good.
But how Well it starts withsomething simple, something
almost symbolic washing yourdamn face.
(06:20):
Washing your face isn't justabout skincare.
It's a metaphor for how we cancare for ourselves emotionally.
Let me explain.
When we feel overwhelmed byrelationships, life or
unprocessed emotions, it's easyto get stuck.
The weight of everything leavesus paralyzed.
(06:41):
It's easy to get stuck.
The weight of everything leavesus paralyzed.
But just like a good skincareroutine restores the skin, an
intentional emotional careroutine can restore your spirit.
Step one letting go of some ofthat emotional clutter.
See, cleansing is the firststep in any skincare routine.
Why it removes dirt, oil,impurities.
Well, emotional cleansing isjust as important.
(07:04):
It's about releasing what nolonger serves you love.
Think about when you've had arough day and your emotions feel
heavy.
Maybe you've cried, felt angryor held on to a hurt for too
long.
Cleansing is your permission tofeel it all For me after a
(07:25):
tough breakup, I found that,sitting with myself, I do this
exercise that my therapist gaveme called sitting with your
emotions.
I'm going to share it in anupcoming episode because I think
it's so profound.
But it really allows you to notjust sit and feel, which I know
some of us are afraid to do,but it helps you call out what
you're feeling and walk throughhow those feelings make you feel
(07:50):
, and then it ends with anexercise on releasing it.
Sometimes that's all it takes.
You don't have to go throughthe details of what happened,
because physically, when we skipcleansing, dirt and oil
accumulate and clog our pores.
Emotionally, it's the samething.
If you don't cleanse youremotional state, the unresolved
(08:13):
shit can just build up, makingit harder for new experiences
and connections to be able topenetrate and seep in.
Picture it like this If youremotions are clogged, you won't
be able to let in the good shitwhen it's time for new
beginnings.
Now, cleansing alone isn'tenough.
See, once you've cleared outthe old, you need to take a good
(08:35):
look at what's still there.
Well, this is where correctioncomes in.
Now, correction is the secondstep in your emotional skincare
routine, and we use this toaddress the root cause.
In skincare, correction involvestargeting those stubborn spots
(09:00):
Emotionally.
It's about recognizing patternsand addressing the root cause
of your behavior or yourfeelings.
You heard that your yep, notthem, not what they didn't do Us
.
For example, after one of mybreakups, I realized that I
often struggle with boundariesin a big way, and even more than
just struggling with boundaries, I struggle with reinforcing
(09:20):
the boundaries I've set andbecause of that, I kept letting
people walk all over me, whichled to my emotional exhaustion.
See, correction isn't aboutgetting everything perfect or
fixing it overnight.
It's about awareness.
It's about the understanding ofwhy you do what you do so you
can start making little changes.
You do what you do so you canstart making little changes.
(09:45):
For me, therapy was like theserum I needed to target my
emotional blemishes.
It was slow, it even took me awhile to find a therapist that I
vibed with, but the changes Istarted to feel almost instantly
was real.
This has given me space toreally explore the deeper layers
of my pain.
Just like corrective treatmentsand skincare, this step takes
time, but, trust me, the workyou do now will create lasting
(10:09):
change.
So once you started to correct,now it's time to nourish and
replenish.
It's like hydrating your skinafter all the hard work, which
is step three hydration pouringback into yourself.
Hydration, see, is all aboutrestoring balance.
When you hydrate your skin, youbring back moisture, giving it
(10:33):
life, and balance your skin.
You bring back moisture, givingit life and balance.
Emotionally, hydration is aboutpouring back love into yourself
, because after cleansing andcorrecting, it's vital to
restore your energy.
It takes a lot out of you, soof course, it's important to
pour back into you.
For me, this means doing thingsthat have sparked my joy, like
(10:56):
coming back to my damn podcast.
How you doing, how have youbeen?
It's been a while I've missedyou all.
Hydration isn't just physical.
It's about ensuring you'reemotionally filled up and not
running on empty.
Think about it like this whenyou don't hydrate, your skin
feels what Dry, tight, dull.
If you neglect your emotionalhydration, then you're going to
(11:20):
feel emotionally drained anddisconnected from yourself.
Take the time to nourishyourself with the things that
restore your spirit.
Your emotional glow up willthank you for it.
You need it.
It's time.
And the last step Now, afterhydration, comes protection.
(11:40):
These are setting thoseboundaries for your wellbeing.
In skincare, we protect ourskin with products like
moisturizer and sunscreen toshield it Emotionally.
Protection is about settinghealthy boundaries and
prioritizing yourself and yourwell-being.
This is where I had to learn tosay no no to things, no to
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people, because it drained me,and instead say yes to things
that nourished me.
I learned to protect my energyby creating space for myself.
Boundaries are your emotionalSPF.
Without them, you're wide opento the negative energy around
you, and I want to be clear.
We've talked about boundariesbefore.
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These shouldn't be walls thatyou build against other people
or walls that you create throughyour pain.
Setting boundaries with peoplein my life, for example, I
realized that my mental andemotional health improved
drastically.
Saying no wasn't selfish.
It was an act of self-love.
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So the boundary of saying nowasn't against people that I'm
connecting with.
The boundary was I do not liketo put myself in situations that
are emotionally draining.
So no, just like that.
Say it with me.
No Feels good, don't it?
As you cleanse, correct,hydrate and protect, you're not
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just healing, you're glowing.
And the best part, this glowcomes from within Every step in
this routine.
Just like skincare builds onthe last, creating a foundation
for emotional growth andstrength, the more you take care
of yourself, the more you shinefrom the inside out.
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And here's the thing the glowis already inside of you love.
It's always been there.
After a breakup, the hurt canleave us questioning ourselves,
wondering if we're broken or ifwe need to change based on what
somebody else has said or whatsomebody else has done.
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It's easy to get caught in thetrap of trying to fix ourselves
because we feel like we're notenough.
This is often influenced bysomebody else's rejection or
criticisms, or simply theirabsence.
But here's the truth you werenever broken.
You are not broken.
The hurt is not a sign that youneed to fix yourself, but
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rather an invitation toreconnect with who you are, who
you've always been.
Honey, rebuilding youremotional foundation isn't about
changing to meet someone else'sstandard.
It's about rediscovering yourworth, strength and resilience,
which may have been buried underlayers of past pain and
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external influence.
The real glow up begins when youlearn to love yourself through
the hurt, rather than waitingfor someone else's approval or
validation.
Think of washing your face, awash in your face.
Think of washing your face notjust as a physical ritual, but
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as a symbolic act of cleansingyour emotional slate One step at
a time, one day at a time, eachtime you nurture yourself,
whether with a moment ofcompassion, small acts of
kindness, you're working to healfrom the inside out, and that's
what matters.
That emotional glow up isn'tsomething someone can give you
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or take away, because it'salready inside, waiting to be
uncovered.
Rebuilding means embracinggrace and self-compassion, not
expecting perfection or seekingexternal validation.
Hear me well.
Rebuilding means embracinggrace and self-compassion, not
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expecting perfection from otherpeople, not seeking validation
from the outside world.
It's a consistent journey, onethat reminds you that the love
you need to heal and grow hasalways been inside of you,
waiting to shine brighter eachday.
Dear love, when people say sitwith yourself, what they really
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mean is simply this Start bywashing your face, baby.
The steps are simple butprofoundly transformative when
applied to your emotions.
Begin with the cleanse.
Allow yourself to feel deeply,to cry, release and to clear
away what no longer serves you.
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Only when you make space fornew beginnings can healing truly
begin.
Next move to correction.
Take an honest look at yourselfand your patterns without
judgment.
Just be a curious observer.
This isn't about fixing what'swrong, but about understanding
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where you can grow and rebuildstronger.
Then prioritize hydration,replenish your energy and your
spirit by pouring back intoyourself.
Engage in activities thatnourish your soul, and remember
that consistency is key here tomaintaining balance.
And finally, don't forget toprotect.
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You've done all this hard work.
Safeguard your progress bysetting boundaries that honor
your growth.
Surround yourself with peopleand environments that support
your emotional well-being, andlet go of what threatens to
drain you.
When you follow these steps,you're not just healing.
You're creating space to thrive, honey.
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You're embracing the glow thatcomes from within, one that
reflects the work you've done tonurture yourself so that this
glow up.
Huh, it ain't about perfection.
It's about consistency, graceand honoring your own journey.
And remember you're not alonein this process.
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You're supported, seen andcapable of stepping into your
next season with strength andlove.
Let's continue to grow.
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Thank you for spending time withme today.
Love Next week.
We're talking about whathappens when you do all this
good, good work and you'reglowing as shit, and someone
comes into your life, but notwith open arms, but with open
wounds.
Are they looking for love or atherapist?
Trust me, you don't want tomiss this one, and if this
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episode has fed your spirit andit helped increase your love
frequency, hit that subscribebutton so we can keep growing
together.
Don't forget to share this withsomeone who might need a little
reminder to look in the mirrorand start their own glow up,
because here at Love Frequency,we believe when you know, you
grow.
I love you.
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