August 20, 2024 • 53 mins
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Ep #70 - Dive into Human Design with childfree Latina, actor, and coach Ydaiber Orozco, as we explore some burning questions like:
- What the heck is Human Design?
- Is Human Design based on science?
- Is Human Design a cult?
- Can I change my Human Design?
- What kind of tool is Human Design?
Whether you're a skeptic or a fan of personality frameworks like Myers-Briggs and the Enneagram, this will probably spark your curiosity. Plus, can your Human Design chart help you decide if you're childfree?
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About Ydaiber:
Ydaiber is a certified Emotion Code Practitioner, Human Design reader, Dharma Coach, working actor & voice over talent. In her one-on-one coaching or in her group program "The Fearless Creator" she empowers multi-passionate creatives and soul searchers conquer self doubt, align with their purpose and embrace their authentic selves free from comparison and hesitation. She is also the creator and host of the Rekindle Your Light podcast.
Find her on Instagram: @ydaiber and @rekindleyourlight
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Buen día, mi gente, and welcometo La Vida Más Chévere de
Childfree Latinas, the onlySpanglish podcast for childfree
Latinas y Latines, helping usliberate ourselves from the
toxic cultural brainwashing weall grew up with so that we can
design our best lives instead.
I'm your host andresident Childfree
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Latina, Paulette Erato.
Today we're talkingabout human design.
Yeah, this is going to be alittle bit of a woo episode.
And you might be asking, whyare we diving into this if the
point of the show is to breakaway from toxic cultural norms?
What's next, Paulette?
Witchcraft?
And then I'd say to you,well, yeah, we covered
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witchcraft last time in away on the last episode.
So check it out.
You probably also heardthe episode on burnout with
Karenna Soto and she mentionedhuman design, which got me
curious and curiosity is agreat way to learn new things.
Curiosity is also theantidote to boredom.
And as Walt Whitmansaid, to judgment.
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And that, judgment, is amassive toxic cultural norm.
So let's get curious.
What this episode is alsoan illustration of is how
sometimes the people we needare already in our community.
You just don't know it yet.
My guest today, YdaiberOrozco, and I met at a podcast
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conference when I introducedmyself as having a childfree
Latina podcast to a big roomof people I didn't know.
She mentioned she was alsochildfree, and then we chatted
about podcasting a little bit.
But I had no idea she wasinvolved in human design.
Fast forward a few monthsand I put out a message in
a podcaster's group thatI was looking for a Latina
who could talk human design.
And who answered the call?
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My new childfreeLatina friend, Ydaiber.
The moral of the story isthat sometimes the universe
puts people in our livesfor a reason, so never
underestimate who in yourcircle could become your go
to person on a new subject.
But let's back up, becauseduring the episode, I might
sound a little skeptical,and that's because I am.
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That's not a reflectionon Ydaiber who I adore.
In fact, you can hear me overon her podcast later this month
talking about my skepticism.
But this is both new tome and sounds really out
there for someone who'smore of a pragmatist.
But I'm also not arrogantenough to dismiss things
I don't understand.
Human design is a tool,just like a hammer.
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I would be silly not totake advantage of a tool
if it proves useful, right?
If I need to hammer some nails,I'm going to pull out my hammer.
So think of this as anenergy efficiency tool.
And Ydaiber willdescribe how that works.
What I've learned is thatI'm a projector like Obama,
which everyone I've talkedto mentions as the projector
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archetype, which is interesting.
And also, what does this mean?
We're about to find out.
Here's some background infoon Ydaiber, whose links
are all in the show notes.
Ydaiber is a certified emotioncode practitioner, human design
reader, Dharma coach, workingactor, and voiceover talent.
In her one on one coachingor in her group program, The
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Fearless Creator, she empowersmulti passionate creatives
and soul searchers to conquerself doubt, align with their
purpose, and embrace theirauthentic selves free from
comparison and hesitation.
She's also the creator and hostof Rekindle Your Light podcast.
Before we jump in, Ydaiber andI also talked about a certain
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billionaire and terrible persontrying to destroy democracy.
And I'm just now realizingthat describes a lot of people.
Well, you can take a guesswho that is and keep listening
for when I accidentallygive the name away later.
Then, check out mySubstack, which is where
that episode will drop.
Ydaiber, como estas?
Ay, muy bien, muy bien.
It's so good to see youbecause, I mean, we met
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several months ago, but itwas something about you that
it, it just attracted me tolike, oh, let's chat, I want
to, I want to get to know you.
And it seemed like weactually ended up having
a lot of things in common.
So I love how thesynchronicities work to
make this happen today.
Same, same, same.
Thank you for making yourselfavailable for this and
especially for this discussion.
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on human design.
So listeners of the show willknow that a few episodes back
we talked about burnout andhuman design played into that.
And I am completely new to this.
I thought it was just astrology.
So can you explain forus what is human design yeah.
And I understand there'sdifferent types and
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how does all that work?
Just give us thehigh level, 101.
Absolutely.
So human design is a tool,just like astrology, right,
that combines science, itactually has some science
in it, with spirituality,which is like my favorite
subject to talk about, right?
So it was something thatwas channeled by a man.
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He went by the name Ra Uru Hu.
He was in Ibiza and he had likethis mystical experience that
lasted like eight days wherehe was channeling all this
information and it combinedastrology, the Chinese I Ching,
the chakra system, Kabbalah,the neutrinos from universe.
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And basically what it saysis like, when you were born,
all of these trillions ofneutrinos were passing through
your body and give you a veryspecific imprint of who you are.
So you can look at humandesign as a roadmap, or I
like to call it a blueprint.
A lot of people call itthat because when you look
at it, it's almost likeif you were looking at
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the chart of your life.
It's like, it's really,it's really cool.
These filled with nuances.
It's not a one size fit all.
So I think that when you saythat there's different types
of human designs, it's not adifferent type of human design,
like the concept is the same foreveryone, but within your chart,
that's where all the specificthings about you come to light
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and you're like, Oh, there'sdifferent type of energies.
There's differenttype of authorities.
There's different typesof strategies, profiles.
So there's all of these things.
I mean, when I looked at mymap for the first time, I was
like, I have no idea what to dowith it, with this information.
And that's why you get someoneto read it for you, right?
I mean, you can go throughthe rabbit hole of doing all
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your investigation and sure,that can be very helpful.
But having somebody that kindof interpret not only the
separate aspects, but alsohow it flows all together,
it was so, so crucial for me.
It actually did change a lotof things in my life when I
understood that's why I dothings the way I do them.
So, uh, there's four orfive categorizations, right?
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What are they?
Yeah.
So that's what we willcall the energy types.
Okay.
So the energy types isbasically exactly what it
sounds like, is the way thatyou optimize your energy.
So we're going to divide itinto five categories and we're
going to start with the maincategory called generators.
Because the generators, and Iam a generator, we encompass
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70 percent of the population.
And it's exactlywhat it sounds like.
We generate the energy, weare the motor of the world.
We are the ones who arelike, 24/7 going on.
And we run the risk of burnoutvery easily because we're
constantly, especially if weare creating from a place of
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excitement and we're doingsomething that really light us
up, we can keep going for hours.
Like sometimes I find myselfdoing stuff at 10:00 PM and
my husband is like, whenare you gonna go to bed?
And I'm like, I'm just soexcited about this because
that's how I'm, I am meantto be functioning that way.
So we have to be veryintentional, about rest, and
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about noticing when somethingis no longer lighting us up.
So that will be the generators.
Within the category ofthe generators, there's
like the pure generators,and then there's the
manifesting generators.
So manifesting generatorscome from a combination of
the generators, and there's acategory called manifestors.
So they get a little bit ofboth, basically, and the way
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that they function also ishaving that consistent energy,
and that's why they're still putin the category of generators.
And then the manifestorsare those people who you
see that they seem somagnetic automatically.
These people that youfeel attracted to for no
reason other than, ooh.
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I want, I want to dowhat they're doing.
And you kind of follow them.
They're those naturalleaders who just have
this magnetism about them.
Then you have the projectors,which are like the visionaries.
Those are the Obamas of thisworld, where they can just
have this bird eye view ofeverything that is happening and
give you ways to do things morespecific and more efficient.
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They're very good at systems.
They're very good at lookingat problems from the outside
and come in and be like, Oh,no, let's do this better.
There's, there's waysto do this better.
Because if you think aboutit, we, the, the little ants,
the, the hard workers, right?
We're doing, doing, doing,doing, and the projectors come
in and they're like, Uh, let mezoom in and help you to figure
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this out more efficiently.
And then they're the reflectors.
When you look at any chart,you're going to notice that
there's some figures in there.
There's like trianglesand squares and some of
them have color and someof them don't have color.
It doesn't matterwhat color they are.
But if they are blank, that'swhat we call open centers.
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So this is when yourchakra system kind of
comes into place, right?
So when you see a chart thatis completely blanked, that
means that's a reflector.
That means that they don'thave any sustainable energy
in any of the centers.
And they're basicallyreflecting the energy from
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everyone else around them.
So being a reflector, Ithink it's only like a 1
percent of the population.
So very unique kind of people.
It's literally like 1percent of the population.
And at first reflectors canfeel very overwhelmed about
things because they are prettymuch reflecting whatever
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is put in front of them.
So they have a special extrawork to do around how to manage
their energy, how to managewhen they come into a room,
when they come into a partyand it's like all of these
stimulus happening around them.
So those are the people whohave to like really work on
their energy and be aware oflike, Oh, these are no emotions.
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I am not angry.
He's angry.
I don't have to be angry.
You know what I'm saying?
So it's a very, veryspecial group of people.
I mean, everybody is ofcourse, but we have our
own special sauce into whatwe bring into the world.
And when you understandit better and you maximize
that, you do start livinga more aligned life.
And that's what Ifound for myself.
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So, one of the things that I,that I learned about myself
is that my top chart, so mycrown, my third eye, my throat
are all connected and defined.
And that makes me sogood at communicating.
It makes me so good atspecifically communicating
what I'm talking about today.
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Things that seemto be complicated.
Things that seem like,ooh, too out there.
I'm actually really goodat breaking down concepts.
And I didn't know that, right?
I was always deemedtoo analytical.
Like you overthink thingsand we put it as a, as
a negative connotation.
Like you shouldn't think toomuch, you need to feel things.
And I'm like, yeah, I ammeant to feel things too.
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My sacral is, is also definedand everybody is supposed
to feel things and connectwith their heart more, right?
But when I accepted that I amsomeone who is critical, who
has a very strong point of view,who has a lot of ideas, and that
I am meant to be communicatingthem because it is very clear
in my design that I'm like,Oh, that makes so much sense.
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That makes so much sense.
I have so many questions,so many questions, but let's
start at the beginning.
Where is the bestplace to get a chart?
And then.
Secondary to that, howdo you read the chart?
Because you said somethingvery interesting that you can
do the research and all that.
And as you were talking, I,I was thinking about how when
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I get x rays done, somebodyis responsible for reading
that and then telling mydoctor who, who's the person
I'm going to for all thiswisdom and, and tell me what's
wrong with me, what they say.
So while the doctor is a verywell educated individual,
they still rely on someone tointerpret results for them.
So can you giveus how to do that?
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Yeah.
So I would say if you're supercurious, because I think anybody
who hears human design for thefirst time are going to be like,
uh, I need to know who am I?
Like, I think thatwas my reaction.
And then you can literallyGoogle human design free chart.
And there's several, uh, portalswhere you can get it for free.
It's not a scam.
You can just get it for free.
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I would recommend, I like,I think it's pronounced
Jovian, J O V I A N.
That's where I havegetting my, my charts from.
I like them.
You get a PDF that you can thenshare with somebody else, right?
Uh, I love sometimes havingmy husband's and my PDF
next to each other and kindof noticing sometimes how
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things are interconnected.
And I'm like, Oh, thatmakes a little sense.
So that's where youcan get your chart.
And then my suggestionwould be to find someone
who can interpret it.
So there's people like I ampersonally certified to read
the basics of your chart.
I don’t go super superdeep, because like I said,
there’s so many intricacies.
But I think it can also besuper overwhelming for a person
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on the first date to justtalk about all these things.
If you just wanna learnabout energy type, uh huh.
Your strategy andyour authority.
In any basic reading, thosethree things should be offered.
And then it's going to bedependent on the reader if they
give you a little bit more.
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So like I do a little bitmore, like I love to go
over the centers becausefor me, understanding if
your root is defined or notdefined, how that can help
you with everything else, Ithink it's very important.
So I love going over thecenters and I also go over
like some if there's anythingthat, that highlights
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your chart, like there's.
a certain channel, channel iswhen like gates connect, and
again I'm talking about all thisintricate language that maybe
makes no sense for you, butit's kind of like the lines that
you see that start connectingthe centers and they're
colored, then I will highlightthose channels as well.
But at least, at the very, veryleast, you want your energy
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type, authority, strategy, andmaybe even the profile, because
the profile is like the littlenumber that you will see like at
the top of your chart, that iskind of like the character that
you came to play in this life.
If there was going to belike an archetype, that's,
that's a good genericinformation to have as well.
But the first threeones are like the
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things you need to know.
And it's based on yourbirth date and time, right?
And location.
And location.
Right.
So just like anastrological chart.
Mm hmm.
Um, okay.
So I'm lookingmine up right now.
I know I'm a projector, but Idon't know those other things.
Okay.
Oh, here it is.
So strategy.
Wait for the invitation.
Not self themed bitterness.
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Inner authority, emotional solarplexus, profile's a two, four.
Okay.
Okay.
Yeah.
So there's a lot, there'sa lot there, right?
So the first thing that youwant to know about is repeat
for me, your authority.
It's your strategy.
Oh, my strategy is waitfor the invitation.
Right.
So when it comes to thestrategy, that's going to
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be the way that you makedecisions in life, right?
And it's going to guide youon how you're supposed to
be also interacting withthe rest of the world.
So remember how I say thatprojectors are these people
who have this vision thing.
Yeah.
I'm like Obama, which islike the coolest thing.
Exactly.
And you're there to kindof like guide people to
get better results and dothings more efficiently.
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And you're probably one ofthose people who find yourself
constantly biting yourtongue because you can see
it, you can see how to makethings better, but you have
to wait for the invitation.
That's what it means.
So basically, if you wereto see the way that I'm
running my podcast, you willbe like, Ydaiber, you could
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be doing this so much easierand so much better if you did
this, this, this, and that.
But if you tell me that withoutme asking, most likely I'm going
to get offended or defensive.
This explains so much.
And that's why I'm sayingas long as you know your
energy type, your strategyand your authority, you
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will be doing life better.
That's why I'm like, thoseare the main three things
you need to master, becauseit's so hard to master them.
So when I mean waiting foran invitation, it doesn't
mean that you're going tobe getting a card in the
mail saying, I invite youto please come and da da da.
No, it's just like noticingwhen an opening happens, right?
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If instead of you offering meadvice without being invited, I
would say, I've been strugglingwith getting new followers.
My current followers are reallygood and very loyal at listening
at my podcast, but I don'tknow what I'm doing wrong.
And you would be like, Okay,do you want me to share my
experience and do you wantme to tell you about how I
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was able to grow my podcast?
And I'll be like, yes.
So that's what you want.
And the person can say,because I've done this, right?
People have come to me to say,knowing that they're going to
sell something to me, well, Iknow how you can do this better.
And I'm like, I'm sure.
But I want to figure itout myself, then that's it.
Then that's your indicationthat back off, you're, this
is not your person to educateor to help out, right?
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But this is like aconstant interaction.
This is a ping pong game thatyou're playing all day long.
So I think that the momentthat you start putting yourself
a little more out there andrealize that I interacting
with people and waiting forthis invitation constantly.
I'm not talking aboutinvitation to the party.
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I'm talking aboutinvitations to, to chime in,
invitations to participate.
And I think that's somethingthat is very important about
projectors is understandingthat this does not mean that
you have to live a passive life.
Cause I think that's wherethe misunderstanding and the
misinterpretation comes in.
It's not about you sittingback and relaxing and waiting.
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You still are gonna engage inthe things that make you happy.
That bring you joy.
And as you do them, thenpeople will come and ask
you, how do you do that?
Oh, how did you start a podcast?
That's how, that's how it works.
It does not mean you'renot going to do anything
until somebody comes toyou and tell you to do it.
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It's just like, no, you'regoing to be creating and doing
the things that excite you.
And that will createthe invitations that are
meant to come for you.
So that's kind of like in anutshell, what means a projector
that has a strategy of waitingfor the invitation, which is
all the projectors in, in life.
And then you have anauthority of, you say it
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was an emotional authority.
Solar plexus.
Solar plexus.
So you're going to besuper, super, super
connected with your emotion.
And it's like, you have tolearn how to ride that wave
of your emotions, right?
And know to share thingsfrom a place of neutrality
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and not respond when you areupset on when you're, which
is, I think it's a normal, Iguess it's a, it's a, it's a
good indicator for everyone.
Right?
Like in general, it's like,we need to learn how to
navigate our emotions betterin general, and the awareness
of the emotions will helpyou to utilize your energy
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and your strategy better.
Because you're going to feelthings very, very deeply.
So even though you're feelingthings very deeply, you still
have to wait for the invitation.
So always resort backto your strategy.
And to your energy type.
Also something to notice aboutyour energy type is that you
do not have sustainable energy.
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You're not meant to begoing on and on and on.
That's not, you're notmeant to function like that.
You're meant to be functioningin a way that you go show up
and take breaks and you takebreaks as your body tells you.
Like you really have to bevery aware of your body.
I will have to look at therest of your chart to see like
what is, how you are supposedto recharge and how you're
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supposed to make space for thethings that, that will allow
that restore process to happen.
But in general, you gottalearn how to listen to
your body, especially whenthe emotions are high.
That's like a good indicationfor you to retreat.
Retreat, take breaks.
This world was not definedfor projectors, right?
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Projectors are likethe newest energy type.
It was not, out of thefive ones it was not a
type that was the original,projectors were not the OG.
The projectors came later inlife because at first when
we were in the cave, right?
We were all fightingfor survival.
So we didn't need visionaries.
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We just needed to survive.
So when that type was addedto the human design, it's the
newer type and it has thatenergy of like innovation.
But with that innovation alsocomes burnout, so you have
to be super cautious aboutmanaging your energy because you
function in a generator world.
You're in a world thatis telling you you
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need to be on 24/7.
And your body, yourdesign is telling you, no,
that does not feel good.
So, those are the main thingsthat you need to take, that
you need to take conscious of.
And then you told methat you are two, four,
is that what you say?
Two, four.
Two, four.
On your conscious side,that makes you a hermit,
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which is the number two.
And I know sometimes thenames sound a little like, oh,
that doesn't sound very good.
And then the numberfour is the opportunist.
So there is kind of like atension between the two and the
four because sometimes you don'tknow if you want to be alone.
Or you want to besurrounded by people.
So on your, on yourconscious side, right?
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It's like you are aware ofneeding that time to retreat, of
feeling totally comfortable onyour own skin and by yourself.
You don't need these people.
But at the same time, on yourother side, you're designed,
you're like, I love networking.
I love to connect people.
I love community.
It's like somethingthat is really, really,
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really important to you.
So it's just a matter of knowinghow to balance the both of
them and be aware that it is anintricate part of your design.
And then when we look atyour channels and gates, then
we can look specifically atwhat are the gifts and what
are the things that you aremeant to be doing in life,
purpose, and things like that,that uniquely special to you.
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So, these are kind of likethe generic rules for anybody
who is a projector with anemotional authority, who
has a wait for invitationstrategy, and a 2 4 profile.
It's still, it's a big picture.
Like, I would still have to lookat all the other intricacies
to tell you even more aboutyourself, but that gives you
a good, a good starting point.
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So much of that resonated, andI didn't know, to be, to be very
clear to the audience, I did notknow and some of it was not, I
had to like, think about whetheror not that really applied.
So I'm sure that there's in thenuance, like you were talking
about, there's, there's abit more of the story there.
But what you said aboutbeing a hermit, I was
like, absolutely not.
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My, my very first reactioninternally was like,
no, that is not true.
And then I thought aboutit and was like, well, it
kind of is post lockdown.
I became a littlebit more agoraphobic.
Maybe germaphobic is the properterm because I was always the
type that had to wash my handscoming home and now that's just
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kind of gone into overdrive.
But I have noticed of latebeing married to an introvert
whose chart I can't get, bythe way, because he doesn't
know what time he was born at.
But, being married to anintrovert, I felt like he
has, um, rubbed off on me inthe lockdown, post lockdown,
because I was always the onethat wanted to go out and see
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our friends and, and, and hostand, and do all these things,
and he's like, I'm good.
And so, there was alwaysa little bit of that.
But the older I get, and somaybe this is more a function
of age that was acceleratedbecause of being locked down
for so long, is that I nowprotect that energy a lot
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more, and I don't necessarilywant to be out all the time.
I've come to a point wherethings on my calendar used
to excite me, and now it'salmost like things are a
chore, and I hate that.
I really don't likefeeling that way.
But maybe if I look at itthrough this lens instead, it
explains a little bit more andI can stop feeling bad about it.
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Right.
Because I also don'tthink I'm alone in that.
I think a lot of us, you know,so many people joke about how
they just want their planscanceled by someone else.
And I'm here to tell you,you can cancel your plans.
It's okay.
So back to what you werefirst talking about before
we started talking aboutmy chart, and thank you for
all of that information.
It sounds like reflectors,which you said are the smallest
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part of the population, alsocan be thought of as empaths.
And yet empathy I feellike is very lacking.
In our society overall,but everyone claims
they are an empath, so.
Well, also, empathy, it'slocated, if you were to look at
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the chart itself, and not as awhole chart, but just a portion
of the chart, if we were backto that solar plexus energy.
Mm hmm.
When people have that centeropen, a lot of empaths find
that that relates a lot to them.
Because what happens is whena center is open, again,
you're going to be activatedby the people around you.
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So sometimes you're going tofeel the emotions even deeper
than the person that has them.
And that happens to me.
So my, my solar plexus is open.
My husband's is defined.
So what happens is thatI noticed that when he's
in a bad mood, I get ina bad mood immediately
and it's not my energy.
It's not me.
I'm like, I'm, I wasfine until he was moody.
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And then I'm like, I haveto be very aware of it.
I'm like, Ooh, no, no,this is not my energy.
This is not.
So that's what I guess youwould call true empaths, right?
I think everybody claims itbecause now we're talking
about being compassionate.
And I'm, I guess that ifyou, if you don't have
compassion, there's, there'ssome serious human design
analysis to do there.
But you know, I think also it'sone of those terms that now
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is being thrown at so much,like, yeah, and authenticity
and all these words thatnow it's just like, okay,
what do they really mean?
Right.
So, but if we were to look atit from the human design lens,
then we will be looking at yoursolar plexus and it does not
mean that because you have itdefined, you don't have empathy.
It does not mean that.
It just means that by design,physiologically, the real
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empaths are the ones withthe center open because we're
literally feeling the thing.
But again, that doesnot mean that the other
people are not empaths.
And I think you're right.
It is one of those termsthat's thrown about.
It's very trendy to be anempath in certain circles.
So a lot of people may wantto claim it and who knows if
they actually are affectedby other people's emotions
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or they just want to be.
And what you were sayingabout your husband and
taking on his, his emotions.
I grew up like that.
I always, always, I stillto this day feel, grew
up walking on eggshellsaround my father's temper.
And I would very flexiblytry to change what I was
doing to ensure his wrathwouldn't come my way.
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And he was always yelling atus to be quiet, especially
when we were little, littlekids because kids are loud.
Ask me why I don't have any.
But you know what this has meantas an adult is that when I am
experiencing a lot of loudnessin my environment, like when my
house was under construction, itwas a very anxiety riddled time.
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And I finally pinpointed it downto this part of my childhood
and, and, and yet knowingthat wasn't enough to fix it.
You know, it's, it's a process.
And so I had to come up withways to compensate around
that, learn tools to manage it.
And it's still to this day,I am not in 100 percent
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control of my body's reactionto noise, especially sudden
noise and prolonged noise.
So interesting.
I have the same issue.
Yeah.
And I did not grow up in anenvironment like that for
me, actually, just like youwere mentioning about what
the pandemic did to you interms of like all of these
concerns about germs, forme, noise became a thing.
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And it actually, it's,it's being a part of some
investigation and researchersabout potentially long
COVID effects related tosound because I have become
extremely sensitive to sound.
Like anything that isvery loud will trigger me.
It can actuallywill get me angry.
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I just get very reactivearound loud sound.
It's like, it's almostlike my brain, I get
like immediate brain fog.
It's a really weird responsethat I've been having.
So I don't know if it's trulyrelated to COVID or related to
the times of COVID, but it'ssomething that has definitely
come up in the last few years.
So I totallyempathize with that.
But also what I wanted tosay was that in human design,
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there's a term that we usethat is called conditioning.
And conditioning is the thingsthat you were conditioned
to do throughout yourentire life that might not
necessarily be your design.
So when something doesn'tresonate, it doesn't mean
that your design is off.
It's like, that's where youhave to really sit and wait
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and listen to where thisis coming from because many
times the resistance, right,that resistance that you
felt right away when I sayHermit and you're like, no,
it's like, wait a minute.
If I were to live life on myterms, how would I behave?
Not what is expected of me,not what I've been told to do,
not what I have been modeledin my past by my parents or
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by my, my caretakers, buthow would I actually function
if none of those thingswere put in the way for me?
And maybe you will understandand notice that your
natural response will beway more aligned to your
design than when you think.
Because again, we think andanalyze a lot of these things.
So a lot of these responses,sometimes we just have to
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truly sit with them andfeel them and see and notice
how it feels in our bodies.
Some generators are emotionalauthority and some are
sacral, like in my case,I'm sacral authority.
So sound, actually, it's avery important response for us
because we use sound to connectto the sacral by responding to
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things that are coming our way.
For example, Paulette postson Facebook that she's looking
for someone who knows humandesign and she's a Latina.
My body immediatelyis a hell yes, right?
Like, Ooh, I wantto do this, right?
Maybe a different personwouldn't have caused the
same reaction for me.
And it would have beenlike, Hmm, should I?
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And then that now it'sgoing through my mind.
Now I'm analyzing it,which is not the way
I'm supposed to respond.
So again, that's how yourhuman design is going
to help you the most.
It's noticing how you aremeant supposed to be responding
to things, respondingto the stimulus of life.
And then applying yourauthority and your energy
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type towards those things.
So I know it sounds super,super complicated, but I
promise you the more that youjust get really clear about
your energy, your strategy,your authority, things will
be easier and you will startdeconditioning the things
that you grew up with or thatyou believe were true to you.
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Ooh, we're going to comeback to that because I have
a whole episode on it, butgoing back to what you were
saying about deconditioning.
So one of the questionsthat came up when I was
researching this was, canyou change your human design?
But it's, it's based on yourbirth time, so I'm guessing
the answer is no, right?
Your chart's notgoing to change.
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The way that you interactwith life and with the
things that come to you,it's what can change.
So yeah, if you grew withsomebody who was always
telling you, shut up.
Shut up.
You don't have nothingimportant to share with me.
And in your design, your throatis defined and everything is
pointing out to this need ofyou to speak and to share.
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You definitely want toreprogram that in you, right?
You can see that onyour channels and
gates of human design.
If you have your throatdefined and you're meant to
be talking and you're meant tobe speaking your truth, what
is it that you are supposedto be speaking about, right?
So going back to my design,as an example, it's like,
Oh, my head is defined.
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My, all of the top ofmy chart is defined.
So it's about concepts.
It's about point of views.
It's about all this.
So when I understoodthat, it gave me almost
permission to be like, Oh,I don't have to silence
myself about this anymore.
I don't know if you know thisabout me, but I had been so
self conscious of my accent forthe last 20 years of my life.
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I have a speech coach that Isee every other week because
I am so insecure about howI sound that, I mean, I'm
not as bad as I used to be.
But for years I would notgive myself permission to
speak up because I knew thatpeople were going to make
fun of me or that people weregoing to criticize the way I
spoke or so forth and so on.
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And literally yesterday, Igot a message from somebody
telling me, Oh my God, youraccent has improved so much.
Like I am impressed ofall the work you've done.
And I'm like, Ohmy God, you know.
But if I listen to what I wastold, right, for the first,
especially the first 10years living in this country
where I was told, what?
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I don't understandwhat you're saying.
Your accent is too strong.
Or an acting teacher toldme, you need to move to Miami
and do telenovelas becausenobody's going to understand
what you do in English.
Like I was told this.
So all of thesethings accumulated.
So when somebody said to me,you should do a podcast, I
said, are you kidding me?
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No! Sure.
That's like hitting onyour biggest insecurity.
But then that'swhat happens, right?
When you discover your biggestshadows and you shine light
in them, and you're like,I'm not scared anymore.
You can say whateveryou want to say.
I'm still going to speak.
Good for you.
Then these things happen.
This magic happens.
So that's the gift thathuman design has given me.
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Huh.
Yeah.
And again, it's just a tool.
Like you said at the verybeginning, it's just a tool.
It's not the only tool, right?
Absolutely.
Like a hammer is not thecorrect tool for many
construction projects.
And a hammer is a tool thatyou don't use in cooking.
So, it would not beappropriate in all situations.
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Or, or use it as anexcuse, right, because
that's the other thing.
That's, even when you weretalking about empaths,
sometimes, well, I'm justan empath, and they use that
as an excuse to really notown their responsibility
in the story, right?
So, same thingwith human design.
It's funny because sometimesmy husband will say, well,
my design, I say, no, no, no,no, no, this has nothing to
do with your design right now.
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It's not an excuse.
You are still a humanbeing that makes choices.
And I think that's animportant point, not to
belittle your husband at all.
We are human andwe, we make choices.
And I think you, you mentioneda lot of things that are
just toxic behaviors in oursociety that we've normalized.
And this podcast is all aboutexamining those so that we
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really recognize what's toxicand what isn't and what's
helpful and what isn't.
This is fascinating.
I've always been fascinatedwith things like plain
Astrology, Vedic Astrology,and then some people started
talking about human design.
I was like, more?
More?
My mother, my mother workswith the chakras, so I'm,
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I have a little bit offamiliarity with that.
Great.
But it's all fascinating.
It's all really cool howit, there's, there's, there
was a question that came upis, is human design a cult?
And I think that it gets abad rap because again, it's
just a tool, but people whoare really invested in the
tool, people who are reallyinto hammers, really want to
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sell you on hammers and howhammers are the best thing ever.
Right?
So we need to make sure thatas humans making our own
decisions, we recognize that.
Discernment, right?
For everything that we do,it's all about discernment
at the end of the day, right?
And my first human designreading happened in 2018 and the
person who did the reading, Imean, I think she was very new.
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I was brand new to it,and I was just like,
this does not resonate,this does not resonate.
And then, it was not untilI kept digging deeper and
understanding my designthat I was like, oh, wait,
wait, no, it does resonate.
I was just like, defensiveabout it because it's not,
human design it's not justlike, Oh, these are your
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gifts and you're fabulous.
No, it shows you your shadowside too, which is very
important for us to be awareof it so that we know what
are the things that we needto decondition or the things
that we need to work on.
But yeah, it is not the onlytool and it's definitely
not the only tool I use.
I constantly addtools to my tool bag.
So in a nurture versus naturescenario, you're saying that
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even though you grew up beingone way, looking through the
lens of human design, youmight discover that you've
been conditioned in certainways, like I am reactive to
noise, and I can deconditionmyself from that because that's
not necessarily in my chart.
We don't know because wehaven't done a very thorough
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reading of my chart.
But if it isn't, then that's notsomething I need to hang on to.
And so coming back to what youwere saying, I did an episode
on how sometimes the storieswe tell about ourselves are so
easy and ingrained, and eventhough they may not be true
anymore, we still say them andwe still cling to them because
it's easy, it's safe, and again,it's so deeply ingrained that
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it feels like it's part of youridentity, and it's hard to give
up pieces of your identity asyou change and as you grow.
But it's necessary.
So the example I always useis that I hate fish, which
is categorically untrue.
I love sushi.
I love all kinds ofpreparations of fish.
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What I really do notlike is baked salmon.
And again, this is a childhoodthing because salmon must
have been really cheap whenwe were young in the 80s
because we ate it a lot andit always had pin bones in it.
It's probably why it was cheap.
And so I was alwaysscared to eat it.
And we had other types of fishlike bacalao, which is the best
fish preparation in the world.
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Fried fritters.
Yes.
So the salmon was notprepared that way.
It was only prepared one way.
And I just, I hated it.
And to this day I can still feelthose emotions locked in my body
around a baked piece of salmonand I can't let go of that.
So it comes out as I hate fish,which is a categorical lie.
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It is an absolute not truestatement and yet it's so
deeply ingrained in there andit's part of the identity.
And letting go of that is hard.
I constantly have tocorrect myself in my own
mind to say, I don't likecertain types of fish.
I do like salmon.
I like salmon in sushi.
I like salmon on my bagel.
I love that type of fish.
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I don't like this onevery specific way that one
type of fish is prepared.
And that's okay.
It's okay to be an adultand not like certain foods.
I just have to change thatpathway that that specific
line travels through my brainso that there's some speed
bumps in there to knock it offcourse, because it's not true.
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So I'm buildingthat up in my mind.
And coming back tohuman design, I've self
conditioned, haven't I?
Yeah.
And that happens with thingsas basic as food and happens
with bigger, bigger, biggerlies that we tell ourselves.
And this is a lifetime process.
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This is not something, theyeven call it the human design
experiment for a reason, right?
This is not like, here, here'syour chart, you're done.
Check.
It does not work like that.
This is a constant processwhere we just have to be aware
of like, well, if I'm meantto be functioning in this
way, and I've been told myentire life that I should be
working 12 hour days becausethat's how I get my value.
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That's how I get my love.
That's how I get my approval.
Then something needsto change, right?
So it's like, how do youget that out of your body?
And that's something that Iconstantly, constantly have
to be working on, becausemy approval as a child came
from being a good student.
It came from beinga people pleaser.
It came from saying yes toeveryone and not, didn't
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matter what I did for myselfas long as I showed everyone
that I love them and that Iwould do anything for them.
So that's something that I amworking in reprogramming now.
Because it's like we'reall worthy of love without
having to prove ourselves,without having to do
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everything for everybody else.
So I don't have to do a thing.
And I still deserve love.
So this is like beyondhuman design now, right?
This is just something thatwe have to just continue to
find the right tools to dothis reprogramming, right?
And people use therapy orEMDR or tapping or writing.
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So there are tools for us todo that kind of work and not
every tool is going to workfor everybody, but yeah, that's
something that human design canhelp you at least to understand
how you are supposed to beprocessing that, but it won't
give you necessarily the answer.
Like knowing it doesn'tmean that he will fix it.
It's just the awareness of it.
But awareness is key.
It's like G.
I.
Joe used to say, knowingis half the battle, right?
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Yeah.
I love how I can tie it backto my childhood yet again.
So let's switch gears entirelyaway from human design.
Or you can tell me ifhuman design helped
inform this choice.
You are also childfree.
Do you think human design, isthat imprinted in the chart?
I just got goosebumps.
I didn't know until recentlythat my channel of mating, and
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my husband's channel of mating,it's not defined in the chart.
So no, it did not inform thedecision whatsoever, but it
was so interesting to realizethat, well, maybe we're not
meant to have kids anyway.
So we're nevermeant to have kids.
So I found this super,super interesting.
And yeah, the choice was a veryclear choice for me growing up.
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It has always beena very clear choice.
It was not even like a question.
It was more like, Oh, we'renot having kids, right?
We're not having kids.
You know what I mean?
It was, it was almost avery natural transition
into our relationship.
And even the decision to havedogs, I get to express a lot
of my maternal instincts,if you will, that way.
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I mother in many different ways.
I mother as a coach, Itake my job very seriously
and I do want my clientsto feel held and to feel
heard and to feel empowered.
I think that those are somequalities that moms have and
that's how I get to expressmine, you know, and I'm not
comparing one thing to the otherby any means, not to disrespect
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what mothers do, I wouldn'tbe here if I didn't have one.
But yeah, it wasnever a desire for me.
It was never a desire.
And I think that thosefeelings, if you will, I
have been able to place themin the things that I do.
I mother all the differenttons of projects that I have,
constantly I'm creating.
I get to create.
That's what I birth.
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I birth ideas constantly.
I love that line.
It is a line another one ofmy guests, Talia Molé, has
also said she helps birthcreative ideas, which is almost
exactly what you just said.
I think I should connectthe two of you because it
would be a beautiful synergy.
And I'm at a loss for wordsto describe to you what
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all of that made me feel.
Because for me it was alsothe idea of me having a
child seemed as foreign asbeing abducted by an alien.
Like, not to belittleor minimize what it
takes to have children.
I'm not trying to say that.
It feels like it doesn't makeany sense for me to be a mom.
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And yet, I am constantlycreating, right?
And, and that's, that isthe first part of mothering.
Then there's the raising.
Right?
The raising of parenthood, notjust motherhood, but parenthood.
It is the raising of thisconcept, whether that is a
human being or an idea orart or whatever, and then
watching it grow and becomesomething new, whether or
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not you have control of that.
And that can be abeautiful journey and it
can be a painful journey.
It is.
Both of those are intertwined.
It will be both.
And, I love not being aparent because it gives me
more freedom to be an aunt.
I'm, I'm a titi, they saytia in Venezuela or titi?
Yeah, yeah, tia.
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And that role is not oneI take for granted because
it's so important to me.
Do you have niblings,nieces and nephews?
So here's the thing.
I lost both of my siblings.
Oh, I'm so sorry.
So, biologically.
Thank you.
Thank you foracknowledging that.
I have a half brother who hastwo adult son and a daughter,
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but I'm not close to them.
We, we didn't grow up together.
But on my husband's side, hissister had two beautiful girls
and I am very involved in theirlife as much as I can, because
they live in a different state.
But that's how I alsoget to be the cool tia.
The cool tia that is anartist that lives in LA.
They love that, you know?
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So, so it's, I love it.
I take my rolevery seriously too.
Yeah, and that's not to saythat you can't also be that
tia and have that tia energyto other people who you're
not biologically related to.
One of my other guests, herbest friend's daughter is her
niece, and it's, it's, blood isnot always thicker than water.
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The bonds that we make withpeople are what matter.
And there are other youngerpeople in my sphere of influence
who also come to me for that tiaenergy, that titi energy, and
I'm glad to be able to give it.
And that's, I'm veryhappy in that space.
And I'm very happy to be ableto provide that for people.
And right now, when we'rerecording this is Pride Month.
(48:03):
Yeah.
And what breaks my heartconstantly is parents who
don't accept their children.
Why did you have them?
Yeah, quite honestly, likethis is something I will
get on a soapbox about.
So I'm watching my social mediasand people talking about coming
out and being disowned and Ijust want to give them all hugs.
I just want to be your Tia thatcan give you a warm hug and
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tell you that you are loved.
And you deserve loveand you don't have to
do anything to earn it.
I'm so sorry thatthat's happening to you.
So those are the thoughtsthat go around my
head as a non-parent.
Watching otherpeople fuck it up.
Yeah.
Well, you know, first I have avery big influence from my tias.
My own tias aresecond mothers to me.
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You know, I have one tia on mymom's side who is, I mean, she's
the one that I go to when Ihave any questions about life.
She's a very spiritual womanand she also lost her son
and also in a car accident.
So it's a very weird connectionthat we all have in my family.
So I'm super,super close to her.
And then my aunt on my dad'sside, it's also the one that
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I talk to, especially when itcomes to like, Ay, me duele
esto, it's like, I have apain here, what's going on?
And she's like, Oh, mihijita, don't worry.
Like, so I have a really,really close relationship
with both of my tias.
And then when you talk aboutpride, I am very proud to
be one of the biggest alliesof the LGBTQ plus community.
In my podcast this month,every person that I'm
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bringing in, it's part ofthe community because I want
to amplify their voices.
And I think it's that too,what you're describing is that,
the energy that I just want tolike, I just want to support
you so badly because I want youto know how much you're loved
and how fabulous you are andhow creative you get to be.
And yeah, it's, it's a big.
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It's a big part of my missiontoo, to uplift these voices
and it is in my human design.
It is in my humandesign, there is a gate.
Let me see if I have it here,it's the gate 23, yeah, it's
the gate 23 and I have itin like, in my purpose line,
it's the, it's the line ofCommunication and voicing.
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I'm here to communicateradical ideas.
So again, when I see thosethings, you're like, yeah,
that makes total sense.
It's right there.
It's in the design.
Bringing it back andkeeping us on track.
I love it.
I love it when I interviewother podcasters and they're
just able to do that.
Great job.
Thank you so much forall of this information.
And, and sharing all ofthis so freely with us today
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because like you said, this iscomplicated and it doesn't solve
the problem, but it does giveus a new lens to look at things.
And I'm still, I'm,I'm so fascinated.
I go down these rabbit holeswith this stuff, and I'm just
like, what else can I glean fromthis to just be a better person?
Like I'm always on apersonal development journey.
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It's one of my favorite things.
Yes.
And that's a beautifuljourney to be in
because we never end it.
It's ongoing.
It's ongoing.
We learn.
We learn.
And I think that's one ofthe things also that I'm
super passionate about.
It's like, well, whatelse can I learn?
And even with human design,there are things, again,
there's so many layers.
It goes deep.
It goes really,really, really deep.
So you could get into rabbithole for months and still
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just get the surface of it.
That's so cool.
Thank you again, Ydaiber.
Where can we find you?
You can find me on myInstagram at Ydaiber.
So as long as you type itcorrectly, very easy to find me.
And then my website is www.
rekindlyourlight.
com.
That is the name of my business,the name of the podcast, the
name of everything that I do.
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If you have questions aboutgetting a reading or some people
like to have the one on oneinteraction where I'm able to
go through the chart with you.
Some people might have a twoon their profile and just don't
want to talk to anybody, justwant to kind of, want I get the
information, but don't want totalk to me, they can also get
an option to just get the PDFthat is personalized to them
(52:03):
with, again, all the basics.
It's about an 11 pagedocument that I create for
the person so they can goto it at their own pace.
Yeah.
So when it comes tohuman design, that's it.
And then I do coaching as well.
So you're able to findall the details there and
just, ask me questions.
Yeah.
I love to connect withlisteners and, and see
what resonated, what theywant to learn about more.
(52:24):
And yeah, you can reachout in, in social media.
So very easy.
Thank you so much.
Before we end this, don'tforget to check out the
Substack newsletter to hearour discussion on Elon Musk.
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Well, now, you know,see you on Substack.
The link is in the show notes.
Well, all I want to say isthat it's called a blueprint
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because you are unique.
Nobody is designed thesame exact way as you are.
So utilize whatever you wantto call it, your design, your
astrological sign, whateveryou want to make you aware and
realize how special you are.
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Latina, Paulette Erato.
Today we're talkingabout human design.
Yeah, this is going to be alittle bit of a woo episode.
And you might be asking, whyare we diving into this if the
point of the show is to breakaway from toxic cultural norms?
What's next, Paulette?
Witchcraft?
And then I'd say to you,well, yeah, we covered
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witchcraft last time in away on the last episode.
So check it out.
You probably also heardthe episode on burnout with
Karenna Soto and she mentionedhuman design, which got me
curious and curiosity is agreat way to learn new things.
Curiosity is also theantidote to boredom.
And as Walt Whitmansaid, to judgment.
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And that, judgment, is amassive toxic cultural norm.
So let's get curious.
What this episode is alsoan illustration of is how
sometimes the people we needare already in our community.
You just don't know it yet.
My guest today, YdaiberOrozco, and I met at a podcast
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conference when I introducedmyself as having a childfree
Latina podcast to a big roomof people I didn't know.
She mentioned she was alsochildfree, and then we chatted
about podcasting a little bit.
But I had no idea she wasinvolved in human design.
Fast forward a few monthsand I put out a message in
a podcaster's group thatI was looking for a Latina
who could talk human design.
And who answered the call?
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My new childfreeLatina friend, Ydaiber.
The moral of the story isthat sometimes the universe
puts people in our livesfor a reason, so never
underestimate who in yourcircle could become your go
to person on a new subject.
But let's back up, becauseduring the episode, I might
sound a little skeptical,and that's because I am.
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That's not a reflectionon Ydaiber who I adore.
In fact, you can hear me overon her podcast later this month
talking about my skepticism.
But this is both new tome and sounds really out
there for someone who'smore of a pragmatist.
But I'm also not arrogantenough to dismiss things
I don't understand.
Human design is a tool,just like a hammer.
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I would be silly not totake advantage of a tool
if it proves useful, right?
If I need to hammer some nails,I'm going to pull out my hammer.
So think of this as anenergy efficiency tool.
And Ydaiber willdescribe how that works.
What I've learned is thatI'm a projector like Obama,
which everyone I've talkedto mentions as the projector
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archetype, which is interesting.
And also, what does this mean?
We're about to find out.
Here's some background infoon Ydaiber, whose links
are all in the show notes.
Ydaiber is a certified emotioncode practitioner, human design
reader, Dharma coach, workingactor, and voiceover talent.
In her one on one coachingor in her group program, The
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Fearless Creator, she empowersmulti passionate creatives
and soul searchers to conquerself doubt, align with their
purpose, and embrace theirauthentic selves free from
comparison and hesitation.
She's also the creator and hostof Rekindle Your Light podcast.
Before we jump in, Ydaiber andI also talked about a certain
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billionaire and terrible persontrying to destroy democracy.
And I'm just now realizingthat describes a lot of people.
Well, you can take a guesswho that is and keep listening
for when I accidentallygive the name away later.
Then, check out mySubstack, which is where
that episode will drop.
Ydaiber, como estas?
Ay, muy bien, muy bien.
It's so good to see youbecause, I mean, we met
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several months ago, but itwas something about you that
it, it just attracted me tolike, oh, let's chat, I want
to, I want to get to know you.
And it seemed like weactually ended up having
a lot of things in common.
So I love how thesynchronicities work to
make this happen today.
Same, same, same.
Thank you for making yourselfavailable for this and
especially for this discussion.
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on human design.
So listeners of the show willknow that a few episodes back
we talked about burnout andhuman design played into that.
And I am completely new to this.
I thought it was just astrology.
So can you explain forus what is human design yeah.
And I understand there'sdifferent types and
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how does all that work?
Just give us thehigh level, 101.
Absolutely.
So human design is a tool,just like astrology, right,
that combines science, itactually has some science
in it, with spirituality,which is like my favorite
subject to talk about, right?
So it was something thatwas channeled by a man.
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He went by the name Ra Uru Hu.
He was in Ibiza and he had likethis mystical experience that
lasted like eight days wherehe was channeling all this
information and it combinedastrology, the Chinese I Ching,
the chakra system, Kabbalah,the neutrinos from universe.
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And basically what it saysis like, when you were born,
all of these trillions ofneutrinos were passing through
your body and give you a veryspecific imprint of who you are.
So you can look at humandesign as a roadmap, or I
like to call it a blueprint.
A lot of people call itthat because when you look
at it, it's almost likeif you were looking at
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the chart of your life.
It's like, it's really,it's really cool.
These filled with nuances.
It's not a one size fit all.
So I think that when you saythat there's different types
of human designs, it's not adifferent type of human design,
like the concept is the same foreveryone, but within your chart,
that's where all the specificthings about you come to light
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and you're like, Oh, there'sdifferent type of energies.
There's differenttype of authorities.
There's different typesof strategies, profiles.
So there's all of these things.
I mean, when I looked at mymap for the first time, I was
like, I have no idea what to dowith it, with this information.
And that's why you get someoneto read it for you, right?
I mean, you can go throughthe rabbit hole of doing all
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your investigation and sure,that can be very helpful.
But having somebody that kindof interpret not only the
separate aspects, but alsohow it flows all together,
it was so, so crucial for me.
It actually did change a lotof things in my life when I
understood that's why I dothings the way I do them.
So, uh, there's four orfive categorizations, right?
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What are they?
Yeah.
So that's what we willcall the energy types.
Okay.
So the energy types isbasically exactly what it
sounds like, is the way thatyou optimize your energy.
So we're going to divide itinto five categories and we're
going to start with the maincategory called generators.
Because the generators, and Iam a generator, we encompass
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70 percent of the population.
And it's exactlywhat it sounds like.
We generate the energy, weare the motor of the world.
We are the ones who arelike, 24/7 going on.
And we run the risk of burnoutvery easily because we're
constantly, especially if weare creating from a place of
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excitement and we're doingsomething that really light us
up, we can keep going for hours.
Like sometimes I find myselfdoing stuff at 10:00 PM and
my husband is like, whenare you gonna go to bed?
And I'm like, I'm just soexcited about this because
that's how I'm, I am meantto be functioning that way.
So we have to be veryintentional, about rest, and
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about noticing when somethingis no longer lighting us up.
So that will be the generators.
Within the category ofthe generators, there's
like the pure generators,and then there's the
manifesting generators.
So manifesting generatorscome from a combination of
the generators, and there's acategory called manifestors.
So they get a little bit ofboth, basically, and the way
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that they function also ishaving that consistent energy,
and that's why they're still putin the category of generators.
And then the manifestorsare those people who you
see that they seem somagnetic automatically.
These people that youfeel attracted to for no
reason other than, ooh.
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I want, I want to dowhat they're doing.
And you kind of follow them.
They're those naturalleaders who just have
this magnetism about them.
Then you have the projectors,which are like the visionaries.
Those are the Obamas of thisworld, where they can just
have this bird eye view ofeverything that is happening and
give you ways to do things morespecific and more efficient.
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They're very good at systems.
They're very good at lookingat problems from the outside
and come in and be like, Oh,no, let's do this better.
There's, there's waysto do this better.
Because if you think aboutit, we, the, the little ants,
the, the hard workers, right?
We're doing, doing, doing,doing, and the projectors come
in and they're like, Uh, let mezoom in and help you to figure
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this out more efficiently.
And then they're the reflectors.
When you look at any chart,you're going to notice that
there's some figures in there.
There's like trianglesand squares and some of
them have color and someof them don't have color.
It doesn't matterwhat color they are.
But if they are blank, that'swhat we call open centers.
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So this is when yourchakra system kind of
comes into place, right?
So when you see a chart thatis completely blanked, that
means that's a reflector.
That means that they don'thave any sustainable energy
in any of the centers.
And they're basicallyreflecting the energy from
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everyone else around them.
So being a reflector, Ithink it's only like a 1
percent of the population.
So very unique kind of people.
It's literally like 1percent of the population.
And at first reflectors canfeel very overwhelmed about
things because they are prettymuch reflecting whatever
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is put in front of them.
So they have a special extrawork to do around how to manage
their energy, how to managewhen they come into a room,
when they come into a partyand it's like all of these
stimulus happening around them.
So those are the people whohave to like really work on
their energy and be aware oflike, Oh, these are no emotions.
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I am not angry.
He's angry.
I don't have to be angry.
You know what I'm saying?
So it's a very, veryspecial group of people.
I mean, everybody is ofcourse, but we have our
own special sauce into whatwe bring into the world.
And when you understandit better and you maximize
that, you do start livinga more aligned life.
And that's what Ifound for myself.
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So, one of the things that I,that I learned about myself
is that my top chart, so mycrown, my third eye, my throat
are all connected and defined.
And that makes me sogood at communicating.
It makes me so good atspecifically communicating
what I'm talking about today.
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Things that seemto be complicated.
Things that seem like,ooh, too out there.
I'm actually really goodat breaking down concepts.
And I didn't know that, right?
I was always deemedtoo analytical.
Like you overthink thingsand we put it as a, as
a negative connotation.
Like you shouldn't think toomuch, you need to feel things.
And I'm like, yeah, I ammeant to feel things too.
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My sacral is, is also definedand everybody is supposed
to feel things and connectwith their heart more, right?
But when I accepted that I amsomeone who is critical, who
has a very strong point of view,who has a lot of ideas, and that
I am meant to be communicatingthem because it is very clear
in my design that I'm like,Oh, that makes so much sense.
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That makes so much sense.
I have so many questions,so many questions, but let's
start at the beginning.
Where is the bestplace to get a chart?
And then.
Secondary to that, howdo you read the chart?
Because you said somethingvery interesting that you can
do the research and all that.
And as you were talking, I,I was thinking about how when
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I get x rays done, somebodyis responsible for reading
that and then telling mydoctor who, who's the person
I'm going to for all thiswisdom and, and tell me what's
wrong with me, what they say.
So while the doctor is a verywell educated individual,
they still rely on someone tointerpret results for them.
So can you giveus how to do that?
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Yeah.
So I would say if you're supercurious, because I think anybody
who hears human design for thefirst time are going to be like,
uh, I need to know who am I?
Like, I think thatwas my reaction.
And then you can literallyGoogle human design free chart.
And there's several, uh, portalswhere you can get it for free.
It's not a scam.
You can just get it for free.
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I would recommend, I like,I think it's pronounced
Jovian, J O V I A N.
That's where I havegetting my, my charts from.
I like them.
You get a PDF that you can thenshare with somebody else, right?
Uh, I love sometimes havingmy husband's and my PDF
next to each other and kindof noticing sometimes how
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things are interconnected.
And I'm like, Oh, thatmakes a little sense.
So that's where youcan get your chart.
And then my suggestionwould be to find someone
who can interpret it.
So there's people like I ampersonally certified to read
the basics of your chart.
I don’t go super superdeep, because like I said,
there’s so many intricacies.
But I think it can also besuper overwhelming for a person
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on the first date to justtalk about all these things.
If you just wanna learnabout energy type, uh huh.
Your strategy andyour authority.
In any basic reading, thosethree things should be offered.
And then it's going to bedependent on the reader if they
give you a little bit more.
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So like I do a little bitmore, like I love to go
over the centers becausefor me, understanding if
your root is defined or notdefined, how that can help
you with everything else, Ithink it's very important.
So I love going over thecenters and I also go over
like some if there's anythingthat, that highlights
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your chart, like there's.
a certain channel, channel iswhen like gates connect, and
again I'm talking about all thisintricate language that maybe
makes no sense for you, butit's kind of like the lines that
you see that start connectingthe centers and they're
colored, then I will highlightthose channels as well.
But at least, at the very, veryleast, you want your energy
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type, authority, strategy, andmaybe even the profile, because
the profile is like the littlenumber that you will see like at
the top of your chart, that iskind of like the character that
you came to play in this life.
If there was going to belike an archetype, that's,
that's a good genericinformation to have as well.
But the first threeones are like the
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things you need to know.
And it's based on yourbirth date and time, right?
And location.
And location.
Right.
So just like anastrological chart.
Mm hmm.
Um, okay.
So I'm lookingmine up right now.
I know I'm a projector, but Idon't know those other things.
Okay.
Oh, here it is.
So strategy.
Wait for the invitation.
Not self themed bitterness.
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Inner authority, emotional solarplexus, profile's a two, four.
Okay.
Okay.
Yeah.
So there's a lot, there'sa lot there, right?
So the first thing that youwant to know about is repeat
for me, your authority.
It's your strategy.
Oh, my strategy is waitfor the invitation.
Right.
So when it comes to thestrategy, that's going to
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be the way that you makedecisions in life, right?
And it's going to guide youon how you're supposed to
be also interacting withthe rest of the world.
So remember how I say thatprojectors are these people
who have this vision thing.
Yeah.
I'm like Obama, which islike the coolest thing.
Exactly.
And you're there to kindof like guide people to
get better results and dothings more efficiently.
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And you're probably one ofthose people who find yourself
constantly biting yourtongue because you can see
it, you can see how to makethings better, but you have
to wait for the invitation.
That's what it means.
So basically, if you wereto see the way that I'm
running my podcast, you willbe like, Ydaiber, you could
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be doing this so much easierand so much better if you did
this, this, this, and that.
But if you tell me that withoutme asking, most likely I'm going
to get offended or defensive.
This explains so much.
And that's why I'm sayingas long as you know your
energy type, your strategyand your authority, you
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will be doing life better.
That's why I'm like, thoseare the main three things
you need to master, becauseit's so hard to master them.
So when I mean waiting foran invitation, it doesn't
mean that you're going tobe getting a card in the
mail saying, I invite youto please come and da da da.
No, it's just like noticingwhen an opening happens, right?
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If instead of you offering meadvice without being invited, I
would say, I've been strugglingwith getting new followers.
My current followers are reallygood and very loyal at listening
at my podcast, but I don'tknow what I'm doing wrong.
And you would be like, Okay,do you want me to share my
experience and do you wantme to tell you about how I
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was able to grow my podcast?
And I'll be like, yes.
So that's what you want.
And the person can say,because I've done this, right?
People have come to me to say,knowing that they're going to
sell something to me, well, Iknow how you can do this better.
And I'm like, I'm sure.
But I want to figure itout myself, then that's it.
Then that's your indicationthat back off, you're, this
is not your person to educateor to help out, right?
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But this is like aconstant interaction.
This is a ping pong game thatyou're playing all day long.
So I think that the momentthat you start putting yourself
a little more out there andrealize that I interacting
with people and waiting forthis invitation constantly.
I'm not talking aboutinvitation to the party.
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I'm talking aboutinvitations to, to chime in,
invitations to participate.
And I think that's somethingthat is very important about
projectors is understandingthat this does not mean that
you have to live a passive life.
Cause I think that's wherethe misunderstanding and the
misinterpretation comes in.
It's not about you sittingback and relaxing and waiting.
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You still are gonna engage inthe things that make you happy.
That bring you joy.
And as you do them, thenpeople will come and ask
you, how do you do that?
Oh, how did you start a podcast?
That's how, that's how it works.
It does not mean you'renot going to do anything
until somebody comes toyou and tell you to do it.
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It's just like, no, you'regoing to be creating and doing
the things that excite you.
And that will createthe invitations that are
meant to come for you.
So that's kind of like in anutshell, what means a projector
that has a strategy of waitingfor the invitation, which is
all the projectors in, in life.
And then you have anauthority of, you say it
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was an emotional authority.
Solar plexus.
Solar plexus.
So you're going to besuper, super, super
connected with your emotion.
And it's like, you have tolearn how to ride that wave
of your emotions, right?
And know to share thingsfrom a place of neutrality
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and not respond when you areupset on when you're, which
is, I think it's a normal, Iguess it's a, it's a, it's a
good indicator for everyone.
Right?
Like in general, it's like,we need to learn how to
navigate our emotions betterin general, and the awareness
of the emotions will helpyou to utilize your energy
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and your strategy better.
Because you're going to feelthings very, very deeply.
So even though you're feelingthings very deeply, you still
have to wait for the invitation.
So always resort backto your strategy.
And to your energy type.
Also something to notice aboutyour energy type is that you
do not have sustainable energy.
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You're not meant to begoing on and on and on.
That's not, you're notmeant to function like that.
You're meant to be functioningin a way that you go show up
and take breaks and you takebreaks as your body tells you.
Like you really have to bevery aware of your body.
I will have to look at therest of your chart to see like
what is, how you are supposedto recharge and how you're
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supposed to make space for thethings that, that will allow
that restore process to happen.
But in general, you gottalearn how to listen to
your body, especially whenthe emotions are high.
That's like a good indicationfor you to retreat.
Retreat, take breaks.
This world was not definedfor projectors, right?
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Projectors are likethe newest energy type.
It was not, out of thefive ones it was not a
type that was the original,projectors were not the OG.
The projectors came later inlife because at first when
we were in the cave, right?
We were all fightingfor survival.
So we didn't need visionaries.
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We just needed to survive.
So when that type was addedto the human design, it's the
newer type and it has thatenergy of like innovation.
But with that innovation alsocomes burnout, so you have
to be super cautious aboutmanaging your energy because you
function in a generator world.
You're in a world thatis telling you you
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need to be on 24/7.
And your body, yourdesign is telling you, no,
that does not feel good.
So, those are the main thingsthat you need to take, that
you need to take conscious of.
And then you told methat you are two, four,
is that what you say?
Two, four.
Two, four.
On your conscious side,that makes you a hermit,
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which is the number two.
And I know sometimes thenames sound a little like, oh,
that doesn't sound very good.
And then the numberfour is the opportunist.
So there is kind of like atension between the two and the
four because sometimes you don'tknow if you want to be alone.
Or you want to besurrounded by people.
So on your, on yourconscious side, right?
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It's like you are aware ofneeding that time to retreat, of
feeling totally comfortable onyour own skin and by yourself.
You don't need these people.
But at the same time, on yourother side, you're designed,
you're like, I love networking.
I love to connect people.
I love community.
It's like somethingthat is really, really,
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really important to you.
So it's just a matter of knowinghow to balance the both of
them and be aware that it is anintricate part of your design.
And then when we look atyour channels and gates, then
we can look specifically atwhat are the gifts and what
are the things that you aremeant to be doing in life,
purpose, and things like that,that uniquely special to you.
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So, these are kind of likethe generic rules for anybody
who is a projector with anemotional authority, who
has a wait for invitationstrategy, and a 2 4 profile.
It's still, it's a big picture.
Like, I would still have to lookat all the other intricacies
to tell you even more aboutyourself, but that gives you
a good, a good starting point.
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So much of that resonated, andI didn't know, to be, to be very
clear to the audience, I did notknow and some of it was not, I
had to like, think about whetheror not that really applied.
So I'm sure that there's in thenuance, like you were talking
about, there's, there's abit more of the story there.
But what you said aboutbeing a hermit, I was
like, absolutely not.
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My, my very first reactioninternally was like,
no, that is not true.
And then I thought aboutit and was like, well, it
kind of is post lockdown.
I became a littlebit more agoraphobic.
Maybe germaphobic is the properterm because I was always the
type that had to wash my handscoming home and now that's just
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kind of gone into overdrive.
But I have noticed of latebeing married to an introvert
whose chart I can't get, bythe way, because he doesn't
know what time he was born at.
But, being married to anintrovert, I felt like he
has, um, rubbed off on me inthe lockdown, post lockdown,
because I was always the onethat wanted to go out and see
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our friends and, and, and hostand, and do all these things,
and he's like, I'm good.
And so, there was alwaysa little bit of that.
But the older I get, and somaybe this is more a function
of age that was acceleratedbecause of being locked down
for so long, is that I nowprotect that energy a lot
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more, and I don't necessarilywant to be out all the time.
I've come to a point wherethings on my calendar used
to excite me, and now it'salmost like things are a
chore, and I hate that.
I really don't likefeeling that way.
But maybe if I look at itthrough this lens instead, it
explains a little bit more andI can stop feeling bad about it.
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Right.
Because I also don'tthink I'm alone in that.
I think a lot of us, you know,so many people joke about how
they just want their planscanceled by someone else.
And I'm here to tell you,you can cancel your plans.
It's okay.
So back to what you werefirst talking about before
we started talking aboutmy chart, and thank you for
all of that information.
It sounds like reflectors,which you said are the smallest
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part of the population, alsocan be thought of as empaths.
And yet empathy I feellike is very lacking.
In our society overall,but everyone claims
they are an empath, so.
Well, also, empathy, it'slocated, if you were to look at
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the chart itself, and not as awhole chart, but just a portion
of the chart, if we were backto that solar plexus energy.
Mm hmm.
When people have that centeropen, a lot of empaths find
that that relates a lot to them.
Because what happens is whena center is open, again,
you're going to be activatedby the people around you.
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So sometimes you're going tofeel the emotions even deeper
than the person that has them.
And that happens to me.
So my, my solar plexus is open.
My husband's is defined.
So what happens is thatI noticed that when he's
in a bad mood, I get ina bad mood immediately
and it's not my energy.
It's not me.
I'm like, I'm, I wasfine until he was moody.
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And then I'm like, I haveto be very aware of it.
I'm like, Ooh, no, no,this is not my energy.
This is not.
So that's what I guess youwould call true empaths, right?
I think everybody claims itbecause now we're talking
about being compassionate.
And I'm, I guess that ifyou, if you don't have
compassion, there's, there'ssome serious human design
analysis to do there.
But you know, I think also it'sone of those terms that now
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is being thrown at so much,like, yeah, and authenticity
and all these words thatnow it's just like, okay,
what do they really mean?
Right.
So, but if we were to look atit from the human design lens,
then we will be looking at yoursolar plexus and it does not
mean that because you have itdefined, you don't have empathy.
It does not mean that.
It just means that by design,physiologically, the real
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empaths are the ones withthe center open because we're
literally feeling the thing.
But again, that doesnot mean that the other
people are not empaths.
And I think you're right.
It is one of those termsthat's thrown about.
It's very trendy to be anempath in certain circles.
So a lot of people may wantto claim it and who knows if
they actually are affectedby other people's emotions
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or they just want to be.
And what you were sayingabout your husband and
taking on his, his emotions.
I grew up like that.
I always, always, I stillto this day feel, grew
up walking on eggshellsaround my father's temper.
And I would very flexiblytry to change what I was
doing to ensure his wrathwouldn't come my way.
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And he was always yelling atus to be quiet, especially
when we were little, littlekids because kids are loud.
Ask me why I don't have any.
But you know what this has meantas an adult is that when I am
experiencing a lot of loudnessin my environment, like when my
house was under construction, itwas a very anxiety riddled time.
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And I finally pinpointed it downto this part of my childhood
and, and, and yet knowingthat wasn't enough to fix it.
You know, it's, it's a process.
And so I had to come up withways to compensate around
that, learn tools to manage it.
And it's still to this day,I am not in 100 percent
(29:20):
control of my body's reactionto noise, especially sudden
noise and prolonged noise.
So interesting.
I have the same issue.
Yeah.
And I did not grow up in anenvironment like that for
me, actually, just like youwere mentioning about what
the pandemic did to you interms of like all of these
concerns about germs, forme, noise became a thing.
(29:42):
And it actually, it's,it's being a part of some
investigation and researchersabout potentially long
COVID effects related tosound because I have become
extremely sensitive to sound.
Like anything that isvery loud will trigger me.
It can actuallywill get me angry.
(30:03):
I just get very reactivearound loud sound.
It's like, it's almostlike my brain, I get
like immediate brain fog.
It's a really weird responsethat I've been having.
So I don't know if it's trulyrelated to COVID or related to
the times of COVID, but it'ssomething that has definitely
come up in the last few years.
So I totallyempathize with that.
But also what I wanted tosay was that in human design,
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there's a term that we usethat is called conditioning.
And conditioning is the thingsthat you were conditioned
to do throughout yourentire life that might not
necessarily be your design.
So when something doesn'tresonate, it doesn't mean
that your design is off.
It's like, that's where youhave to really sit and wait
(30:47):
and listen to where thisis coming from because many
times the resistance, right,that resistance that you
felt right away when I sayHermit and you're like, no,
it's like, wait a minute.
If I were to live life on myterms, how would I behave?
Not what is expected of me,not what I've been told to do,
not what I have been modeledin my past by my parents or
(31:09):
by my, my caretakers, buthow would I actually function
if none of those thingswere put in the way for me?
And maybe you will understandand notice that your
natural response will beway more aligned to your
design than when you think.
Because again, we think andanalyze a lot of these things.
So a lot of these responses,sometimes we just have to
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truly sit with them andfeel them and see and notice
how it feels in our bodies.
Some generators are emotionalauthority and some are
sacral, like in my case,I'm sacral authority.
So sound, actually, it's avery important response for us
because we use sound to connectto the sacral by responding to
(31:53):
things that are coming our way.
For example, Paulette postson Facebook that she's looking
for someone who knows humandesign and she's a Latina.
My body immediatelyis a hell yes, right?
Like, Ooh, I wantto do this, right?
Maybe a different personwouldn't have caused the
same reaction for me.
And it would have beenlike, Hmm, should I?
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And then that now it'sgoing through my mind.
Now I'm analyzing it,which is not the way
I'm supposed to respond.
So again, that's how yourhuman design is going
to help you the most.
It's noticing how you aremeant supposed to be responding
to things, respondingto the stimulus of life.
And then applying yourauthority and your energy
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type towards those things.
So I know it sounds super,super complicated, but I
promise you the more that youjust get really clear about
your energy, your strategy,your authority, things will
be easier and you will startdeconditioning the things
that you grew up with or thatyou believe were true to you.
(32:56):
Ooh, we're going to comeback to that because I have
a whole episode on it, butgoing back to what you were
saying about deconditioning.
So one of the questionsthat came up when I was
researching this was, canyou change your human design?
But it's, it's based on yourbirth time, so I'm guessing
the answer is no, right?
Your chart's notgoing to change.
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The way that you interactwith life and with the
things that come to you,it's what can change.
So yeah, if you grew withsomebody who was always
telling you, shut up.
Shut up.
You don't have nothingimportant to share with me.
And in your design, your throatis defined and everything is
pointing out to this need ofyou to speak and to share.
(33:39):
You definitely want toreprogram that in you, right?
You can see that onyour channels and
gates of human design.
If you have your throatdefined and you're meant to
be talking and you're meant tobe speaking your truth, what
is it that you are supposedto be speaking about, right?
So going back to my design,as an example, it's like,
Oh, my head is defined.
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My, all of the top ofmy chart is defined.
So it's about concepts.
It's about point of views.
It's about all this.
So when I understoodthat, it gave me almost
permission to be like, Oh,I don't have to silence
myself about this anymore.
I don't know if you know thisabout me, but I had been so
self conscious of my accent forthe last 20 years of my life.
(34:22):
I have a speech coach that Isee every other week because
I am so insecure about howI sound that, I mean, I'm
not as bad as I used to be.
But for years I would notgive myself permission to
speak up because I knew thatpeople were going to make
fun of me or that people weregoing to criticize the way I
spoke or so forth and so on.
(34:43):
And literally yesterday, Igot a message from somebody
telling me, Oh my God, youraccent has improved so much.
Like I am impressed ofall the work you've done.
And I'm like, Ohmy God, you know.
But if I listen to what I wastold, right, for the first,
especially the first 10years living in this country
where I was told, what?
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I don't understandwhat you're saying.
Your accent is too strong.
Or an acting teacher toldme, you need to move to Miami
and do telenovelas becausenobody's going to understand
what you do in English.
Like I was told this.
So all of thesethings accumulated.
So when somebody said to me,you should do a podcast, I
said, are you kidding me?
(35:23):
No! Sure.
That's like hitting onyour biggest insecurity.
But then that'swhat happens, right?
When you discover your biggestshadows and you shine light
in them, and you're like,I'm not scared anymore.
You can say whateveryou want to say.
I'm still going to speak.
Good for you.
Then these things happen.
This magic happens.
So that's the gift thathuman design has given me.
(35:44):
Huh.
Yeah.
And again, it's just a tool.
Like you said at the verybeginning, it's just a tool.
It's not the only tool, right?
Absolutely.
Like a hammer is not thecorrect tool for many
construction projects.
And a hammer is a tool thatyou don't use in cooking.
So, it would not beappropriate in all situations.
(36:04):
Or, or use it as anexcuse, right, because
that's the other thing.
That's, even when you weretalking about empaths,
sometimes, well, I'm justan empath, and they use that
as an excuse to really notown their responsibility
in the story, right?
So, same thingwith human design.
It's funny because sometimesmy husband will say, well,
my design, I say, no, no, no,no, no, this has nothing to
do with your design right now.
(36:24):
It's not an excuse.
You are still a humanbeing that makes choices.
And I think that's animportant point, not to
belittle your husband at all.
We are human andwe, we make choices.
And I think you, you mentioneda lot of things that are
just toxic behaviors in oursociety that we've normalized.
And this podcast is all aboutexamining those so that we
(36:45):
really recognize what's toxicand what isn't and what's
helpful and what isn't.
This is fascinating.
I've always been fascinatedwith things like plain
Astrology, Vedic Astrology,and then some people started
talking about human design.
I was like, more?
More?
My mother, my mother workswith the chakras, so I'm,
(37:06):
I have a little bit offamiliarity with that.
Great.
But it's all fascinating.
It's all really cool howit, there's, there's, there
was a question that came upis, is human design a cult?
And I think that it gets abad rap because again, it's
just a tool, but people whoare really invested in the
tool, people who are reallyinto hammers, really want to
(37:29):
sell you on hammers and howhammers are the best thing ever.
Right?
So we need to make sure thatas humans making our own
decisions, we recognize that.
Discernment, right?
For everything that we do,it's all about discernment
at the end of the day, right?
And my first human designreading happened in 2018 and the
person who did the reading, Imean, I think she was very new.
(37:50):
I was brand new to it,and I was just like,
this does not resonate,this does not resonate.
And then, it was not untilI kept digging deeper and
understanding my designthat I was like, oh, wait,
wait, no, it does resonate.
I was just like, defensiveabout it because it's not,
human design it's not justlike, Oh, these are your
(38:10):
gifts and you're fabulous.
No, it shows you your shadowside too, which is very
important for us to be awareof it so that we know what
are the things that we needto decondition or the things
that we need to work on.
But yeah, it is not the onlytool and it's definitely
not the only tool I use.
I constantly addtools to my tool bag.
So in a nurture versus naturescenario, you're saying that
(38:33):
even though you grew up beingone way, looking through the
lens of human design, youmight discover that you've
been conditioned in certainways, like I am reactive to
noise, and I can deconditionmyself from that because that's
not necessarily in my chart.
We don't know because wehaven't done a very thorough
(38:53):
reading of my chart.
But if it isn't, then that's notsomething I need to hang on to.
And so coming back to what youwere saying, I did an episode
on how sometimes the storieswe tell about ourselves are so
easy and ingrained, and eventhough they may not be true
anymore, we still say them andwe still cling to them because
it's easy, it's safe, and again,it's so deeply ingrained that
(39:16):
it feels like it's part of youridentity, and it's hard to give
up pieces of your identity asyou change and as you grow.
But it's necessary.
So the example I always useis that I hate fish, which
is categorically untrue.
I love sushi.
I love all kinds ofpreparations of fish.
(39:36):
What I really do notlike is baked salmon.
And again, this is a childhoodthing because salmon must
have been really cheap whenwe were young in the 80s
because we ate it a lot andit always had pin bones in it.
It's probably why it was cheap.
And so I was alwaysscared to eat it.
And we had other types of fishlike bacalao, which is the best
fish preparation in the world.
(39:57):
Fried fritters.
Yes.
So the salmon was notprepared that way.
It was only prepared one way.
And I just, I hated it.
And to this day I can still feelthose emotions locked in my body
around a baked piece of salmonand I can't let go of that.
So it comes out as I hate fish,which is a categorical lie.
(40:19):
It is an absolute not truestatement and yet it's so
deeply ingrained in there andit's part of the identity.
And letting go of that is hard.
I constantly have tocorrect myself in my own
mind to say, I don't likecertain types of fish.
I do like salmon.
I like salmon in sushi.
I like salmon on my bagel.
I love that type of fish.
(40:41):
I don't like this onevery specific way that one
type of fish is prepared.
And that's okay.
It's okay to be an adultand not like certain foods.
I just have to change thatpathway that that specific
line travels through my brainso that there's some speed
bumps in there to knock it offcourse, because it's not true.
(41:03):
So I'm buildingthat up in my mind.
And coming back tohuman design, I've self
conditioned, haven't I?
Yeah.
And that happens with thingsas basic as food and happens
with bigger, bigger, biggerlies that we tell ourselves.
And this is a lifetime process.
(41:24):
This is not something, theyeven call it the human design
experiment for a reason, right?
This is not like, here, here'syour chart, you're done.
Check.
It does not work like that.
This is a constant processwhere we just have to be aware
of like, well, if I'm meantto be functioning in this
way, and I've been told myentire life that I should be
working 12 hour days becausethat's how I get my value.
(41:46):
That's how I get my love.
That's how I get my approval.
Then something needsto change, right?
So it's like, how do youget that out of your body?
And that's something that Iconstantly, constantly have
to be working on, becausemy approval as a child came
from being a good student.
It came from beinga people pleaser.
It came from saying yes toeveryone and not, didn't
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matter what I did for myselfas long as I showed everyone
that I love them and that Iwould do anything for them.
So that's something that I amworking in reprogramming now.
Because it's like we'reall worthy of love without
having to prove ourselves,without having to do
(42:28):
everything for everybody else.
So I don't have to do a thing.
And I still deserve love.
So this is like beyondhuman design now, right?
This is just something thatwe have to just continue to
find the right tools to dothis reprogramming, right?
And people use therapy orEMDR or tapping or writing.
(42:53):
So there are tools for us todo that kind of work and not
every tool is going to workfor everybody, but yeah, that's
something that human design canhelp you at least to understand
how you are supposed to beprocessing that, but it won't
give you necessarily the answer.
Like knowing it doesn'tmean that he will fix it.
It's just the awareness of it.
But awareness is key.
It's like G.
I.
Joe used to say, knowingis half the battle, right?
(43:16):
Yeah.
I love how I can tie it backto my childhood yet again.
So let's switch gears entirelyaway from human design.
Or you can tell me ifhuman design helped
inform this choice.
You are also childfree.
Do you think human design, isthat imprinted in the chart?
I just got goosebumps.
I didn't know until recentlythat my channel of mating, and
(43:43):
my husband's channel of mating,it's not defined in the chart.
So no, it did not inform thedecision whatsoever, but it
was so interesting to realizethat, well, maybe we're not
meant to have kids anyway.
So we're nevermeant to have kids.
So I found this super,super interesting.
And yeah, the choice was a veryclear choice for me growing up.
(44:04):
It has always beena very clear choice.
It was not even like a question.
It was more like, Oh, we'renot having kids, right?
We're not having kids.
You know what I mean?
It was, it was almost avery natural transition
into our relationship.
And even the decision to havedogs, I get to express a lot
of my maternal instincts,if you will, that way.
(44:24):
I mother in many different ways.
I mother as a coach, Itake my job very seriously
and I do want my clientsto feel held and to feel
heard and to feel empowered.
I think that those are somequalities that moms have and
that's how I get to expressmine, you know, and I'm not
comparing one thing to the otherby any means, not to disrespect
(44:47):
what mothers do, I wouldn'tbe here if I didn't have one.
But yeah, it wasnever a desire for me.
It was never a desire.
And I think that thosefeelings, if you will, I
have been able to place themin the things that I do.
I mother all the differenttons of projects that I have,
constantly I'm creating.
I get to create.
That's what I birth.
(45:08):
I birth ideas constantly.
I love that line.
It is a line another one ofmy guests, Talia Molé, has
also said she helps birthcreative ideas, which is almost
exactly what you just said.
I think I should connectthe two of you because it
would be a beautiful synergy.
And I'm at a loss for wordsto describe to you what
(45:30):
all of that made me feel.
Because for me it was alsothe idea of me having a
child seemed as foreign asbeing abducted by an alien.
Like, not to belittleor minimize what it
takes to have children.
I'm not trying to say that.
It feels like it doesn't makeany sense for me to be a mom.
(45:52):
And yet, I am constantlycreating, right?
And, and that's, that isthe first part of mothering.
Then there's the raising.
Right?
The raising of parenthood, notjust motherhood, but parenthood.
It is the raising of thisconcept, whether that is a
human being or an idea orart or whatever, and then
watching it grow and becomesomething new, whether or
(46:15):
not you have control of that.
And that can be abeautiful journey and it
can be a painful journey.
It is.
Both of those are intertwined.
It will be both.
And, I love not being aparent because it gives me
more freedom to be an aunt.
I'm, I'm a titi, they saytia in Venezuela or titi?
Yeah, yeah, tia.
(46:36):
And that role is not oneI take for granted because
it's so important to me.
Do you have niblings,nieces and nephews?
So here's the thing.
I lost both of my siblings.
Oh, I'm so sorry.
So, biologically.
Thank you.
Thank you foracknowledging that.
I have a half brother who hastwo adult son and a daughter,
(46:59):
but I'm not close to them.
We, we didn't grow up together.
But on my husband's side, hissister had two beautiful girls
and I am very involved in theirlife as much as I can, because
they live in a different state.
But that's how I alsoget to be the cool tia.
The cool tia that is anartist that lives in LA.
They love that, you know?
(47:19):
So, so it's, I love it.
I take my rolevery seriously too.
Yeah, and that's not to saythat you can't also be that
tia and have that tia energyto other people who you're
not biologically related to.
One of my other guests, herbest friend's daughter is her
niece, and it's, it's, blood isnot always thicker than water.
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The bonds that we make withpeople are what matter.
And there are other youngerpeople in my sphere of influence
who also come to me for that tiaenergy, that titi energy, and
I'm glad to be able to give it.
And that's, I'm veryhappy in that space.
And I'm very happy to be ableto provide that for people.
And right now, when we'rerecording this is Pride Month.
(48:03):
Yeah.
And what breaks my heartconstantly is parents who
don't accept their children.
Why did you have them?
Yeah, quite honestly, likethis is something I will
get on a soapbox about.
So I'm watching my social mediasand people talking about coming
out and being disowned and Ijust want to give them all hugs.
I just want to be your Tia thatcan give you a warm hug and
(48:25):
tell you that you are loved.
And you deserve loveand you don't have to
do anything to earn it.
I'm so sorry thatthat's happening to you.
So those are the thoughtsthat go around my
head as a non-parent.
Watching otherpeople fuck it up.
Yeah.
Well, you know, first I have avery big influence from my tias.
My own tias aresecond mothers to me.
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You know, I have one tia on mymom's side who is, I mean, she's
the one that I go to when Ihave any questions about life.
She's a very spiritual womanand she also lost her son
and also in a car accident.
So it's a very weird connectionthat we all have in my family.
So I'm super,super close to her.
And then my aunt on my dad'sside, it's also the one that
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I talk to, especially when itcomes to like, Ay, me duele
esto, it's like, I have apain here, what's going on?
And she's like, Oh, mihijita, don't worry.
Like, so I have a really,really close relationship
with both of my tias.
And then when you talk aboutpride, I am very proud to
be one of the biggest alliesof the LGBTQ plus community.
In my podcast this month,every person that I'm
(49:31):
bringing in, it's part ofthe community because I want
to amplify their voices.
And I think it's that too,what you're describing is that,
the energy that I just want tolike, I just want to support
you so badly because I want youto know how much you're loved
and how fabulous you are andhow creative you get to be.
And yeah, it's, it's a big.
(49:52):
It's a big part of my missiontoo, to uplift these voices
and it is in my human design.
It is in my humandesign, there is a gate.
Let me see if I have it here,it's the gate 23, yeah, it's
the gate 23 and I have itin like, in my purpose line,
it's the, it's the line ofCommunication and voicing.
(50:13):
I'm here to communicateradical ideas.
So again, when I see thosethings, you're like, yeah,
that makes total sense.
It's right there.
It's in the design.
Bringing it back andkeeping us on track.
I love it.
I love it when I interviewother podcasters and they're
just able to do that.
Great job.
Thank you so much forall of this information.
And, and sharing all ofthis so freely with us today
(50:36):
because like you said, this iscomplicated and it doesn't solve
the problem, but it does giveus a new lens to look at things.
And I'm still, I'm,I'm so fascinated.
I go down these rabbit holeswith this stuff, and I'm just
like, what else can I glean fromthis to just be a better person?
Like I'm always on apersonal development journey.
(50:56):
It's one of my favorite things.
Yes.
And that's a beautifuljourney to be in
because we never end it.
It's ongoing.
It's ongoing.
We learn.
We learn.
And I think that's one ofthe things also that I'm
super passionate about.
It's like, well, whatelse can I learn?
And even with human design,there are things, again,
there's so many layers.
It goes deep.
It goes really,really, really deep.
So you could get into rabbithole for months and still
(51:20):
just get the surface of it.
That's so cool.
Thank you again, Ydaiber.
Where can we find you?
You can find me on myInstagram at Ydaiber.
So as long as you type itcorrectly, very easy to find me.
And then my website is www.
rekindlyourlight.
com.
That is the name of my business,the name of the podcast, the
name of everything that I do.
(51:40):
If you have questions aboutgetting a reading or some people
like to have the one on oneinteraction where I'm able to
go through the chart with you.
Some people might have a twoon their profile and just don't
want to talk to anybody, justwant to kind of, want I get the
information, but don't want totalk to me, they can also get
an option to just get the PDFthat is personalized to them
(52:03):
with, again, all the basics.
It's about an 11 pagedocument that I create for
the person so they can goto it at their own pace.
Yeah.
So when it comes tohuman design, that's it.
And then I do coaching as well.
So you're able to findall the details there and
just, ask me questions.
Yeah.
I love to connect withlisteners and, and see
what resonated, what theywant to learn about more.
(52:24):
And yeah, you can reachout in, in social media.
So very easy.
Thank you so much.
Before we end this, don'tforget to check out the
Substack newsletter to hearour discussion on Elon Musk.
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Well, now, you know,see you on Substack.
The link is in the show notes.
Well, all I want to say isthat it's called a blueprint
(52:46):
because you are unique.
Nobody is designed thesame exact way as you are.
So utilize whatever you wantto call it, your design, your
astrological sign, whateveryou want to make you aware and
realize how special you are.
(53:07):
There's only one you.
And that's the burrito.
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