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šļø In this episode of Ladies Kickinā Ass, Tanya Wilson dives into the power of stepping into 2025 with bold intention and a focus on Intentional Wellness. She unpacks what it means to thrive holistically by prioritizing emotional health, building supportive relationships, and creating non-negotiables for financial success.
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Takeaways from the Episode
- Put Yourself Out There:
Amazing things happen when you take bold steps and put your goals into the world. - Check Your Commitment:
Your goals should be non-negotiable prioritiesāreflect on whether your actions align with your intentions. - Intentional Wellness is Holistic:
True wellness includes emotional, physical, and financial health. Focus on thriving in all areas. - The Body Keeps Score:
Stress affects your body, but positive thinking and mindfulness can shift your mindset. - Surround Yourself with Uplifting People:
Itās okay to outgrow relationships that no longer serve you. Love toxic people from a distance while focusing on building a supportive tribe. - Establish Financial Non-Negotiables:
Create habits and systems that support your financial health and long-term growth. - Community is Everything:
A strong, supportive community fuels personal and professional growth. Together, we thrive.
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Welcome to the Ladies Kickin' Ass Podcast, where we
help you ignite your innerbadass and create the service
business of your dreams.
I'm your host, tanya Wilson,and together we'll dive into
inspiring stories and expertcoaching to set your journey on
fire.
Hey there, badass ladies,welcome back to another episode
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of ladies kickin ass.
Today, we are going to starttalking about stepping into 2025
with some fierce fuckingintention, and I'm so passionate
about this because I'm tellingyou like when you put stuff out
there of what you want to do, itis amazing what starts
happening for you.
It's crazy, like the beginningof my year has already been nuts
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and it's just like the all thelittle, like I'm speechless,
like all the little things thatI keep thinking about, I keep
writing about, I keep journalingabout, I keep talking about to
y'all about through social media.
It all just keeps likereappearing and reappearing and
it's really just confirming thatwhen you open yourself up to
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perceiving really cool and bigthings that you want to do, the
universe just shows that shit toyou and it's fantastic.
So I want to talk to you aboutthat today.
This is not the year that weare going to play small.
It is 2025.
And to me, it's like one ofthose pivotal years that you're
like okay, 25, 2025.
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For me, I graduated high schoolin 2000.
So I'm thinking like 20 yearsago I was going to start my life
I say that in air quotes ifyou're not watching this on
video.
I was going to start my life 25years ago.
Is it where I thought it wouldbe?
Am I further?
Do I feel like I'd like toaccomplish more things?
Is there something that I'vebeen wanting to do for years
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that I've kind of been dippingmy toe in the water for and I
just can't seem to make acommitment to make it happen?
Because that's literally whatthe problem is.
If you've had something on yourto-do list or like that you
really like a goal board or avision board or whatever you
want to call it and you haven'tbeen able to do it, year after
year after year, you got tocheck your commitment for that,
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because it's obviously not ahigh priority or the shit would
have been done already.
I know, because I'm talking toa bunch of ladies to get shit
done.
If you really want to dosomething, you figure out a way
to get it done.
If it's not super important toyou, you tend to drag your feet
a little bit and I'm talking tomyself here, because I do this
all the time with stuff.
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All the time it has been myintention since I started this
podcast to launch a membership,to bring women together in the
service industry so that we canhave a really strong, awesome,
tight-knit community of womenthat we can lean on and use as
resources and accountabilitybuddies.
And every year I'm like I'mgonna do it, I'm gonna do it,
I'm gonna do it.
Well, this year damn it, we'regonna do it.
On January 20th we arelaunching Badass Inner Circle
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and I'm so excited about whatthat's going to mean.
But we'll come back to that ina minute, because what I want to
talk about is the focus I'vebeen putting out on social media
, and my focus word it's areally more of a phrase this
year is intentional wellness.
What is intentional wellness?
It's not just about health,it's not just about
relationships, it's not justabout emotions and it's not just
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about myself or my finances ormy kids or my family.
It really is figuring out on acircle, because the circle is an
infinite shape.
Right, it's continuouslyfeeding the other parts of it.
We're going to have super tightintention about what it looks
like to get healthy.
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And, ladies, I'm not talkingabout being stick, skinny and
feeling like a supermodel orI've got to have all of this you
know, shit done to make myselffeel good, like healthy, like I
could kick your ass healthy.
It's what I tell my daughterall the time, because I really
am trying to refrain from yes, Ineed to lose a little bit of
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weight and that is what my goalis this year, but I'm really
refraining from like I'm goingon a diet because I need to get
skinny, like I'm going to eathealthier so that I can do more
at a higher level and I want tolift weights because I want to
be buff and I want to look good.
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I don't want to be skinny, Idon't want to be a little skinny
mini thing.
I want to feel good aboutmyself.
I want to be able to show upthe way that I know that I can,
and I have not been doing thatfor myself at all.
I will put I'm going to the gymon my calendar and it'll last
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for like two weeks, and thensomething else more important
with my family or work.
Typically, work tends to blowthat off and I have to stop that
typically, work tends to blowthat off and I have to stop that
.
So I'm making a commitment toput that on my calendar and to
do that.
Like my workout goal is fourdays a week.
Some of you may be like, oh, weshould do that every day, or
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all that stuff.
I'm like, if I can do four daysa week, then I'm fucking
winning.
Okay, that's, that's my goal,four days a week.
But it's not just about going tothe gym, it's about being more
mindful that I'm not, you know,drinking a bottle of wine at
nighttime when I'm stressed out.
What are some other ways that Ican deal with things that are
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going on in my life besideshaving a glass of wine every
night?
I've been trying really hardand I've been doing really good
at not doing that and I feel somuch better.
Seriously, you feel so muchbetter.
Like I wake up, I feel so muchbetter.
I'm clearer brained, I'm allthis stuff.
And why do I tell you all thisstuff and be very vulnerable?
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Because, hopefully, in mywillingness to be vulnerable,
you can be vulnerable withyourself and look at the things
that you're like hey, you know,sometimes I like to eat a bunch
of ice cream at nighttime.
Sometimes I like to mindlesslysnack for hours after dinner.
That's not good either and,honestly, for me it's like
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sitting down and actuallygetting right with my nutrition
in the first place, because whatI do is I have a protein shake
in the morning and then Iliterally just go, go, go, go,
go like I think a lot of youwomen do and then we go home at
nighttime, cook dinner for ourfamilies and we're like we're
starving, and then you eat that.
But even if you're only justeating at dinnertime which I
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know a lot of you do, because Idid that for years your body
needs more fuel than just eatingdinner.
So how do we do that?
I'm working with my friend,nicole, who is a nutritional
coach that can help me be ableto dial in little things, and it
doesn't have to be all ornothing, even though I know a
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lot of us are like that.
It doesn't have to be all ornothing.
I mean for me, like it's justmaking sure that I stop and eat
breakfast, lunch and dinner.
Even Nicole was like eat foursmall meals a day and I'm like
okay, I'm trying to squeezeanother one in there, but if I
get these three, I'm winningthis week so intentional about
your health.
I think a lot of that, too, islearning how to get out of this
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fight or flight situation, whichties into my next thing about
emotional health.
We tend to use words over andover again to describe the way
that we feel on a consistentbasis, but the words that we
feed ourselves, we say out loudor we even say silently to
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ourselves in our brain, I reallyfeel like our body holds on to
those.
You know, there's a saying thatthe body keeps score and it
1000% does.
I was listening to a LewisHowes podcast yesterday and they
were talking about how therewas a doctor on there and he was
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talking about how he had beenworking with this woman for a
couple of years and they weretrying to get her diet right and
they got her on supplements andwhatever medications that she
needed and everything medicallyshould have been working to help
her, but it wasn't been workingto help her but it wasn't.
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And when he really dug deepwith her, she had a horrible
relationship with her spouse andit was one of those things
where she was in fight or flightall the time.
And when your body is so revvedup, compressed, revved up,
compressed, revved up,compressed.
You know you're running, you'rehiding, you're running, you're
hiding that messes with you, nomatter how much you're doing
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with your nutrition and yoursupplements and all these things
.
When we tell ourselves we'restressed, all the time our body
says you're stressed.
It holds on to it.
If we say, hey, this is achallenging time, where's the
opportunity?
Literally, just doing thatmakes a massive difference in
the way that your body reacts.
For me and I've been veryvulnerable in talking to you
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about this it's a financialsituation sometimes that you're
like I don't know where's itgoing to go.
Like situation sometimes thatyou're like I don't know where's
it going to go.
Like I've run this business.
I've run a business for 15years.
It always comes back around.
Even if you've got slow times,even if shit hits the fan and
you got to, you know, replace apump or do something like that,
it comes back around and it'sreally changing the mindset of
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like we're good, it's going tocome back, we're going to be
fine.
This is what we're going to doand remaining positive about it.
That positive thinking is somuch more beneficial to our
health internally than we evenknow.
I was listening to anotherpodcast and they were talking
about having negative thoughtsversus positive thoughts.
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And do you have more positivethoughts during the day or less
negative thoughts?
Which one is better for you?
And if you think about it,you're kind of like, well, it's
the same thing, but it's not,because if you're continuously
having negative thoughts andyou're trying to cover them with
positive thoughts, it's the oldadage lipstick on a pig
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situation how can we quiet thenegative thoughts?
Because that automaticallybreeds more positive thoughts.
But then you're not fightingthe negative to bring in the
positive.
And I was like that'sfascinating.
And they'd done all of thisresearch and studies on this
through a psychology study thatthey did.
And I was like that isfascinating because it is so
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true the less negative thoughtswe have, obviously you have a
more positive outlook and a morepositive life.
So one of my biggest goals thisyear with that emotional health
is destroying the negativethoughts.
And sometimes that can even bethe people around us.
If you're around people thatare constantly thinking negative
thoughts and sometimes that caneven be the people around us.
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If you're around people thatare constantly thinking negative
thoughts or saying negativethings or going to the negative
spot with everything, you haveto either call that out so that
they're aware of that or youhave to back off from those
people, because you cannot livea peaceful emotional life trying
to free yourself fromnegativity and still be around
those negative people andsometimes that's people in our
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family.
We have to have really honestconversations with them so that
they understand what the effectis of their behavior on us, and
then it's up to them to choose.
But you can't stress out howthey're going to react with that
.
We can't stress out about that.
I'll tell you, I am listening toMel Robbins' new book Let them.
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Holy shit.
Everybody needs to make thatone of their number one books
that they listen to as quick aspossible, or read if you like to
read.
I love to listen to audiobooksand I love to listen to Myle
Robbins.
Read any books.
I got her audiobook.
But what an incredible theorythe Let them Theory is.
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You cannot stop worrying aboutthe shit you can't control,
because that's some of the mostdamaging things to our emotional
health is, if you are like mewhich a lot of you are kind of
like get shit done, mamas, youwant to and you feel safe when
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you're in control of what'sgoing on around you.
And sometimes we mistakenlythink that we can control the
people around us as well.
That shit don't work very well,does it?
And oftentimes we're stressedout, thinking how can I change
this, how can I fix this, howcan I do this?
How can I make them see it thisway?
How can I do this?
And it's not even worth it.
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It's not worth it because youcan't do it.
And so Mel explains this theoryof like you have to let them.
If they want to be negative,you have to let them.
But then let me that's the mostimportant part of that.
Let me decide how I'm going toreact to this.
If they're consistently goingto be negative, let them.
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But let me be okay with thefact that I need to back off of
them for a little while, becauseI need them to understand
that's not okay.
If your kids want to go toschool without putting a coat on
I know we're all in that seasonright now because you know it's
going to fuck with my outfit,so I can't wear my coat today,
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let them.
And let me be okay with themdiscovering it's cold as balls
outside and they probably shouldhave put a coat on.
But you know what?
It's a lesson for them, andit's not anything for me to
stress about.
I'm not the one that's going tobe cold.
I have the hoodie on, let them.
I think if we really adopt thattheory, it will transform our
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emotional health, because a lotof us type a get shit done.
People want to be in control ofeverything and most of our
stresses is because we're nuts,and that is super, super
frustrating for us.
I'm just going to let them.
People often start seeing whattheir behavior is giving you if
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you allow it, and what I mean bythat is if somebody is
consistently being negative andyou let them.
But you, let me be okay, letyourself be okay with taking a
step back from them.
They'll notice that and thenit's up to them to change that
behavior so that they can spendmore time with you.
Because you set a boundary, nowthat I'm not dealing with the
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negative, I'm not taking thenegative shit anymore.
See how that works.
Try it, just try it.
I know that you can find a spotto try it.
If you've got teenagers, youcan probably try it today.
If you've got a spouse whereyou see this stuff happening, or
a business partner or somebodyat work, let them.
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The next focus and pillar ofintentional wellness that we're
going to talk about a lot thisyear is relationships, and this
feeds perfectly off of emotionalwellness, just like physical
fed off of emotional is.
Surround yourself with peoplethat lift you higher.
This last year I joined amastermind ultra.
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I'll put information in theshow notes about it.
If you're ready for like nextlevel, top level mentorship and
community group of get shit donepeople, this is your place,
this is your home.
It's so incredible.
If you want to kind of check itout and do a little bit with
that, the Growth Day communityis absolutely stellar.
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So Ultra is the highest levelof membership with Growth Day,
and the people I have met insideof this group have literally
changed my life and my outlookon life.
I thought that I had some goodfriends that I could talk to
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about business and life andmotherhood and all the things
you need to talk about.
But when you are surroundingyourself with people that you
can do business and life withand they're strivers and they're
doing all the stuff thateverybody else thinks they're
fucking crazy for doing too, itjust changes.
I have a group, a text messagegroup, that I can literally
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celebrate anything with, andthey celebrate with me.
They never have that thought ortheory of like must be nice, or
they're just bragging, or whothe hell does she think she is
Never, never, ever.
Last night, when I was leavingmy yard at my septic company,
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the sun was kind of setting andit was a really pretty picture.
The picture didn't even capturehow pretty it was, but I was
pulling out and all three of mypump trucks were sitting there
and I snapped a picture of itand I was like the pumping game
is level enough.
There's three of my babies andthis year's going to be amazing.
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You know like I'm so proud tosee that there's a third pump
truck sitting out there andeverybody celebrated that.
Most people would be likethat's so dumb.
It's a third pump truck sittingout there and everybody
celebrated that.
Most people would be likethat's so dumb.
It's a pump truck.
You know like why would you beexcited about that?
These people celebrate thisstuff and this is what we're
trying to create inside ofBadass Inner Circle.
Badass Inner Circle is going tobe that group where you can
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come and you get celebrated.
This is the place where youcome and if you made your first
$10,000 a month, we're going tocelebrate you.
If you had your first $1,000 aday, we're going to celebrate
you.
If you hit your first million,we're going to celebrate you.
Or if you hit your first $2million a year, we're going to
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celebrate you.
Or if you hit your first $2million a year, we're going to
celebrate you.
To get 10 reviews this month,fuck yeah, we're going to
celebrate you.
You need the people that willcelebrate you.
Never ask questions, never feelintimidated, because in this
group, what people celebrate andwhat people will share shows
the rest of us what's possible,what's out there for us.
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We don't look at that asintimidating.
We look at that as it'sinspiring.
We all need to be part of agroup like that.
So I would love all of you thatsee that vision for your life
to be in this badass innercircle group with us, because
it's going to be stellar.
Like I'm so excited about this.
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I'm pouring my heart and soulinto this and if you know me on
a personal level, when I do that, it's above and beyond.
It's going to be so awesome.
But another good point about therelationship part of that is
that if you have toxicconnections, it's okay to
outgrow people Just because youwere friends in elementary and
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junior high school or highschool or college or 10 years
ago or five years ago doesn'tmean that you're still
connecting now, and if it does,I highly.
You know there are thosefriends like I've my friend
Shanna.
She has been my friend since Ican remember.
I have pictures of us togetherbefore we went to kindergarten
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and I love her to pieces andwe're so.
We're like, we talk Not a lot.
It's usually like Facebookposts or something like this.
And then I have a friend,nicole, and we get together once
a week and we go do a marketingtraining and we're learning
together and we're buildingbusinesses together.
And we get together once a weekand we go do a marketing
training and we're learningtogether and we're building
businesses together and we'reboth moms and we have lots of
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great conversations and she'sthe support that I need in this
phase of my life.
Right now Shanna is still one ofmy very dear friends but
honestly I don't even know whereShanna works at my very dear
friends, but honestly I don'teven know where Shanna works at
because that's not relevant tothe way that our friendship is.
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So it's okay to have additionalfriends and still have older
friends, but be okay with thefact that the relationship will
change and evolve.
Be okay with that.
I love Shanna to pieces and ifshe called me today and said she
needed me, I would be there forher.
But we support each other at adifferent level today than we
did when we were in elementaryschool or fresh out of high
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school.
See the difference.
And it's okay to do that.
And it's okay to do that withyour family too.
If your family questionseverything that you're doing, if
your family feels like thatanchor around your ankles back
off a little bit, it's okay.
We can love people from afar.
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I love when Tony Robbins saysthat you can love them from afar
.
Sometimes it makes us love themmore or it makes us get a
different viewpoint of maybe whythey're acting like that.
Inside of the Let Me Theory book, mel talks about how her mom
didn't want her to marrysomebody from the East Coast
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because she was afraid she wouldmove to the East Coast and stay
there and raise her family.
And that's what she did.
But her mom's in Michigan andher mom obviously wanted her to
live in Michigan.
It's okay for us to have thatopinion.
It's okay for your family towant to protect you from not
being crazy and starting thatbusiness, not being a female in
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a man's world, as they say.
I'm using that loosely inquotation marks.
Do it anyways.
It's okay for them to havetheir opinions because they have
a different lens than you do,and it's okay if they never see
your life through your lens.
It's okay they shouldn't.
They're not.
You Be okay with their opinions, but if they're hostile or if
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they're toxic or if they'rehurting you, you have to love
them from afar.
That goes into my last pillarthat I'm super striving for this
year, and it's financial health.
My business does well.
I do well personally, but whatI want to do is get extremely
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clear on what my goals and whatmy money habits are, and that
first three months of this yearis really watching those and
trying to establish new ones.
This doesn't mean I do nothingand I throw all my money at my
debt or whatever it is I'mtrying to do with my money and
that's the only thing I do,because you know what that does.
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That gives you financialburnout and then you quit, and
you quit because you don't seeanything happen.
You don't see anything move.
My big thing is getting accountsset up to take more tax
advantages of being a smallbusiness owner, because there
are several different kinds ofretirement accounts that you can
set up that can help you withthat.
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My friend, tess, is really goodat this stuff.
I will put a link to her stuffbecause she's actually starting
a financial coaching programthat she's teaching early
investors how to get in and dothis.
That would be a great option.
If you miss that and being ableto get into that course, follow
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Tess because you get so muchinformation.
She also has a great podcastthat you also need to listen to.
And these are the things thatyou can do to learn more, and I
think that's one of my biggestthings is like I just need to
learn more about everything thatis going to give me great
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financial help.
I don't want to have financialstress in 2025.
So how do I fix that?
How do I get to a point whereI'm okay with making money?
It's not always that you don'thave money.
It's when you start making it.
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Sometimes for those of us thatgrew up really poor, like I did,
it kind of makes you feel likeyou're not worthy to have it.
And when you do feel like that,you'll find a way to get rid of
it.
You'll start by giving it allto your employees.
You'll start by just blowing iton stupid shit.
You'll make sure that you're ata comfort level in your bank
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account.
My challenge to myself thisyear is to raise the fucking
limit on what is comfortable forme.
And I don't just raise it alittle bit.
I made it raise a lot because Iwant to be super uncomfortable.
I want it to make me feeluncomfortable and I want to look
at it every day and I want todeal with it every day because
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it's going to become morecomfortable with time.
And then, once I'm comfortableat this level, I'm going to make
it really uncomfortable atanother level and I would
challenge you to do the samething.
And I know, as business owners,oftentimes people will look at
you like mmm nice new car, mmmnice new house or whatever it is
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that you've got.
Going on Goes back to thattheory again.
Let them and let me be proud ofwhat I've worked so fucking
hard for Let me not for twoseconds feel like I owe them an
explanation of anything, becauseyou don't, you don't.
Let me be okay with what theysay, because they're going to
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say something.
Everybody's always going tohave an opinion.
Let them.
I think.
To really get going on this, youjust have to start with your
non-negotiables.
You have to identify the thingsyou're going to prioritize, no
matter what, like what is yourmorning routine?
What's your workout time goingto be?
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What are you going to do forfamily dinner so that you're
meal prepping, so you're notjust wanting to go get a pizza
because it's late and youhaven't planned shit for dinner,
or the chicken's frozen?
That's my biggest, my biggestvice.
All the time I am going to setnon-negotiables.
There will never be a dip belowthis dollar amount in any of my
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checking accounts ever, or mysavings accounts Ever.
It's a non-negotiable for me.
It's a non-negotiable for me tosit around and be around
negativity.
This year.
I won't do it, and I won't sayit, just not doing it.
The important thing that youneed to do with this, though, is
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that you need to reflecthonestly, at a minimum on a
weekly level, how you felt thatweek by setting those
non-negotiables and holdingtight to them.
And for an extra littlechallenge, I do this nightly.
You know that I talk about onthe podcast, about journaling,
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every single night, like, evenif it's just a few sentences
that I type into an app that Itrack.
The Growth Day app is reallyawesome.
It has a journal on it, justgoing in there and closing out
my day.
It's really like bookends.
I open my day doing that and Iclose my day doing that.
How do I feel today?
I love in the Growth Day appbecause you can do life scores
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and you can do daily life scores.
How did I feel about theseeight things today?
And it's really cool to watchyour trends over time, because
you're like, I really did thislast year, especially just the
month of December.
I really did that diligently inscoring my days, diligently in
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scoring my days and at the endof it is really what built this
intentional wellness fourpillars because those are the
four things that I'm strugglingwith the most.
So I know those are the fourthings that I need to move
forward into this next year.
See how that works.
It's really cool.
And then you have to stop andcelebrate your small wins.
You have to celebrate andthat's where being in Badass
Inner Circle is going to giveyou that community.
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For you to be able to do that.
Make it a goal to post everyday.
What was the best thing thathappened to you today in that
group?
I guarantee you someone willrespond.
That's someone being me,because I want people to
celebrate with and I want tocelebrate other striving women
that are out there trying to dotheir best every single day.
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2025 is your year to thrive.
We're not surviving anymore,babe.
We are fucking thriving thisyear with intentionality.
Imagine what your life couldlook like if you decided that
you were going to show up everysingle day.
Be super intentional aboutwhat's going on in your day.
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Make and keep the promises thatyou make to yourself.
First and foremost, before youkeep promises to anybody else,
keep them to yourself.
If you say you're going to dosomething, do it.
That's going to buildunshakable confidence that will
get you to the goals that youwant to do this year.
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I want to challenge you to geton the journey with this
community and join Badass InnerCircle.
I have a link at the top of theshow notes and at the bottom of
the show notes.
In case you missed it, I mightput one in the middle of the
show notes.
Get on the wait list.
This opens on January 20th,starting on Sunday.
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You'll be getting lots ofinformation about it.
We are going to have a foundingmember special.
That is going to be incredible.
That will be honored the entirelifetime.
You decide to stay withmembership in the community and
it is a hell of a deal, so youwill get so much more value out
of that than you can imagine.
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It's just life changes when youare with a group of winners.
Life changes when you surroundyourself with incredible women
that want to lift you up, nottear you down.
There needs to be more groupslike this.
Okay, we need to stop pointingout that she fucked something up
and we need to pick her up andpretend like it never happened,
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and we need to pick her up andpretend like it never happened.
This year is the year that wechange what it looks like for
women to support women, and Iwant you to do this with me.
I can't do it by myself.
I need a tribe of women aroundme that can help me with this
movement, because I am soincredibly passionate about it.
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So incredibly passionate.
We're going to share strategiesabout building our business.
We're going to share strategiesabout keeping our head straight
at home as moms and trying tofigure out how to do all this
stuff and not burn out, andwe're going to celebrate each
other, and sometimes, if youjust need to bitch about
something that's going wrong,we're going to help you find a
solution for it.
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What we're going to do is we'regoing to be there to hold each
other up.
So what is, madass Inner Circle?
We are going to be meetingmonthly via a Zoom call that we
will be one, learning from asubject matter expert.
I've got some incredible womenlined up for you to give you
small little master classes onhow to do different things
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inside of your business, how todo different things inside of
your mindset, how to dodifferent things with your
emotional well-being, yourphysical well-being, your
nutrition, all kinds of things.
It's a very well-roundedprogram that will help you win
at life and at business, and so,if this is something that
you're looking forward to, loveto have you join us.
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We're going to assignaccountability partners, so
every month, you'll havesomebody that I highly suggest
that you meet up with.
Once a week, you can set upsomething for 15 minutes or have
just a group chat that you havewith someone.
You're going to get to knowthem.
You're going to get to knowtheir business.
You're going to get to know whothey are and what they struggle
with and what they're winningat and how they can help you
with your business and how youcan help them.
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Accountability Buddies is whatforged the relationships that I
have now from another mastermindgroup, and I want to be able to
duplicate that for you becauseit's been so impactful in my
life.
I'm going to bring youincredible vendors that can help
you run your business.
We're going to do so many coolthings.
There's going to be lots of fun, free stuff, lots of cool swag,
lots of cool things coming up,and then we'll just tailor the
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community to how people want it.
If I tell you that I have allthis shit figured out before I
even know what women are goingto be in this group, I would be
lying to you.
This is going to be somethingthat we forge together.
This is going to be somethingthat we hold space for each
other together.
So as the needs of the grouparise, then we will address
those and we'll implement thattoo.
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This year is the year that wethrive, not survive.
This is the year that we're notrunning around with our hair on
fire.
This is the year that weseriously get really intentional
about the wellness of ourphysical being, our emotional
state, our relationships, ourfinancial wellness.
And if you want to add anotherone in there, honey, be my guest
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.
I want you to head to the linkin the show notes.
I want you to head to the linkin the show notes.
I want you to have a group ofwomen around you that are going
to want to support you, becauseif you're doing big things this
year, you can't do it alone.
You need a community around you.
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This is the year that we crushit, but we crush it together, as
always.
Keep being unapologetically youand keep kicking ass,
girlfriend.
Thanks for being part of theLadies Kickin' Ass community.
Cheers to all you badass womenout there.
Keep rocking your power,igniting your fire and making
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Now go kick some serious asslady.
Welcome to the Ladies Kickin' Ass Podcast, where we
help you ignite your innerbadass and create the service
business of your dreams.
I'm your host, tanya Wilson,and together we'll dive into
inspiring stories and expertcoaching to set your journey on
fire.
Hey there, badass ladies,welcome back to another episode
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of ladies kickin ass.
Today, we are going to starttalking about stepping into 2025
with some fierce fuckingintention, and I'm so passionate
about this because I'm tellingyou like when you put stuff out
there of what you want to do, itis amazing what starts
happening for you.
It's crazy, like the beginningof my year has already been nuts
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and it's just like the all thelittle, like I'm speechless,
like all the little things thatI keep thinking about, I keep
writing about, I keep journalingabout, I keep talking about to
y'all about through social media.
It all just keeps likereappearing and reappearing and
it's really just confirming thatwhen you open yourself up to
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perceiving really cool and bigthings that you want to do, the
universe just shows that shit toyou and it's fantastic.
So I want to talk to you aboutthat today.
This is not the year that weare going to play small.
It is 2025.
And to me, it's like one ofthose pivotal years that you're
like okay, 25, 2025.
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For me, I graduated high schoolin 2000.
So I'm thinking like 20 yearsago I was going to start my life
I say that in air quotes ifyou're not watching this on
video.
I was going to start my life 25years ago.
Is it where I thought it wouldbe?
Am I further?
Do I feel like I'd like toaccomplish more things?
Is there something that I'vebeen wanting to do for years
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that I've kind of been dippingmy toe in the water for and I
just can't seem to make acommitment to make it happen?
Because that's literally whatthe problem is.
If you've had something on yourto-do list or like that you
really like a goal board or avision board or whatever you
want to call it and you haven'tbeen able to do it, year after
year after year, you got tocheck your commitment for that,
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because it's obviously not ahigh priority or the shit would
have been done already.
I know, because I'm talking toa bunch of ladies to get shit
done.
If you really want to dosomething, you figure out a way
to get it done.
If it's not super important toyou, you tend to drag your feet
a little bit and I'm talking tomyself here, because I do this
all the time with stuff.
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All the time it has been myintention since I started this
podcast to launch a membership,to bring women together in the
service industry so that we canhave a really strong, awesome,
tight-knit community of womenthat we can lean on and use as
resources and accountabilitybuddies.
And every year I'm like I'mgonna do it, I'm gonna do it,
I'm gonna do it.
Well, this year damn it, we'regonna do it.
On January 20th we arelaunching Badass Inner Circle
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and I'm so excited about whatthat's going to mean.
But we'll come back to that ina minute, because what I want to
talk about is the focus I'vebeen putting out on social media
, and my focus word it's areally more of a phrase this
year is intentional wellness.
What is intentional wellness?
It's not just about health,it's not just about
relationships, it's not justabout emotions and it's not just
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about myself or my finances ormy kids or my family.
It really is figuring out on acircle, because the circle is an
infinite shape.
Right, it's continuouslyfeeding the other parts of it.
We're going to have super tightintention about what it looks
like to get healthy.
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And, ladies, I'm not talkingabout being stick, skinny and
feeling like a supermodel orI've got to have all of this you
know, shit done to make myselffeel good, like healthy, like I
could kick your ass healthy.
It's what I tell my daughterall the time, because I really
am trying to refrain from yes, Ineed to lose a little bit of
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weight and that is what my goalis this year, but I'm really
refraining from like I'm goingon a diet because I need to get
skinny, like I'm going to eathealthier so that I can do more
at a higher level and I want tolift weights because I want to
be buff and I want to look good.
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I don't want to be skinny, Idon't want to be a little skinny
mini thing.
I want to feel good aboutmyself.
I want to be able to show upthe way that I know that I can,
and I have not been doing thatfor myself at all.
I will put I'm going to the gymon my calendar and it'll last
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for like two weeks, and thensomething else more important
with my family or work.
Typically, work tends to blowthat off and I have to stop that
typically, work tends to blowthat off and I have to stop that
.
So I'm making a commitment toput that on my calendar and to
do that.
Like my workout goal is fourdays a week.
Some of you may be like, oh, weshould do that every day, or
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all that stuff.
I'm like, if I can do four daysa week, then I'm fucking
winning.
Okay, that's, that's my goal,four days a week.
But it's not just about going tothe gym, it's about being more
mindful that I'm not, you know,drinking a bottle of wine at
nighttime when I'm stressed out.
What are some other ways that Ican deal with things that are
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going on in my life besideshaving a glass of wine every
night?
I've been trying really hardand I've been doing really good
at not doing that and I feel somuch better.
Seriously, you feel so muchbetter.
Like I wake up, I feel so muchbetter.
I'm clearer brained, I'm allthis stuff.
And why do I tell you all thisstuff and be very vulnerable?
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Because, hopefully, in mywillingness to be vulnerable,
you can be vulnerable withyourself and look at the things
that you're like hey, you know,sometimes I like to eat a bunch
of ice cream at nighttime.
Sometimes I like to mindlesslysnack for hours after dinner.
That's not good either and,honestly, for me it's like
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sitting down and actuallygetting right with my nutrition
in the first place, because whatI do is I have a protein shake
in the morning and then Iliterally just go, go, go, go,
go like I think a lot of youwomen do and then we go home at
nighttime, cook dinner for ourfamilies and we're like we're
starving, and then you eat that.
But even if you're only justeating at dinnertime which I
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know a lot of you do, because Idid that for years your body
needs more fuel than just eatingdinner.
So how do we do that?
I'm working with my friend,nicole, who is a nutritional
coach that can help me be ableto dial in little things, and it
doesn't have to be all ornothing, even though I know a
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lot of us are like that.
It doesn't have to be all ornothing.
I mean for me, like it's justmaking sure that I stop and eat
breakfast, lunch and dinner.
Even Nicole was like eat foursmall meals a day and I'm like
okay, I'm trying to squeezeanother one in there, but if I
get these three, I'm winningthis week so intentional about
your health.
I think a lot of that, too, islearning how to get out of this
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fight or flight situation, whichties into my next thing about
emotional health.
We tend to use words over andover again to describe the way
that we feel on a consistentbasis, but the words that we
feed ourselves, we say out loudor we even say silently to
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ourselves in our brain, I reallyfeel like our body holds on to
those.
You know, there's a saying thatthe body keeps score and it
1000% does.
I was listening to a LewisHowes podcast yesterday and they
were talking about how therewas a doctor on there and he was
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talking about how he had beenworking with this woman for a
couple of years and they weretrying to get her diet right and
they got her on supplements andwhatever medications that she
needed and everything medicallyshould have been working to help
her, but it wasn't been workingto help her but it wasn't.
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And when he really dug deepwith her, she had a horrible
relationship with her spouse andit was one of those things
where she was in fight or flightall the time.
And when your body is so revvedup, compressed, revved up,
compressed, revved up,compressed.
You know you're running, you'rehiding, you're running, you're
hiding that messes with you, nomatter how much you're doing
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with your nutrition and yoursupplements and all these things
.
When we tell ourselves we'restressed, all the time our body
says you're stressed.
It holds on to it.
If we say, hey, this is achallenging time, where's the
opportunity?
Literally, just doing thatmakes a massive difference in
the way that your body reacts.
For me and I've been veryvulnerable in talking to you
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about this it's a financialsituation sometimes that you're
like I don't know where's itgoing to go.
Like situation sometimes thatyou're like I don't know where's
it going to go.
Like I've run this business.
I've run a business for 15years.
It always comes back around.
Even if you've got slow times,even if shit hits the fan and
you got to, you know, replace apump or do something like that,
it comes back around and it'sreally changing the mindset of
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like we're good, it's going tocome back, we're going to be
fine.
This is what we're going to doand remaining positive about it.
That positive thinking is somuch more beneficial to our
health internally than we evenknow.
I was listening to anotherpodcast and they were talking
about having negative thoughtsversus positive thoughts.
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And do you have more positivethoughts during the day or less
negative thoughts?
Which one is better for you?
And if you think about it,you're kind of like, well, it's
the same thing, but it's not,because if you're continuously
having negative thoughts andyou're trying to cover them with
positive thoughts, it's the oldadage lipstick on a pig
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situation how can we quiet thenegative thoughts?
Because that automaticallybreeds more positive thoughts.
But then you're not fightingthe negative to bring in the
positive.
And I was like that'sfascinating.
And they'd done all of thisresearch and studies on this
through a psychology study thatthey did.
And I was like that isfascinating because it is so
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true the less negative thoughtswe have, obviously you have a
more positive outlook and a morepositive life.
So one of my biggest goals thisyear with that emotional health
is destroying the negativethoughts.
And sometimes that can even bethe people around us.
If you're around people thatare constantly thinking negative
thoughts and sometimes that caneven be the people around us.
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If you're around people thatare constantly thinking negative
thoughts or saying negativethings or going to the negative
spot with everything, you haveto either call that out so that
they're aware of that or youhave to back off from those
people, because you cannot livea peaceful emotional life trying
to free yourself fromnegativity and still be around
those negative people andsometimes that's people in our
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family.
We have to have really honestconversations with them so that
they understand what the effectis of their behavior on us, and
then it's up to them to choose.
But you can't stress out howthey're going to react with that
.
We can't stress out about that.
I'll tell you, I am listening toMel Robbins' new book Let them.
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Holy shit.
Everybody needs to make thatone of their number one books
that they listen to as quick aspossible, or read if you like to
read.
I love to listen to audiobooksand I love to listen to Myle
Robbins.
Read any books.
I got her audiobook.
But what an incredible theorythe Let them Theory is.
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You cannot stop worrying aboutthe shit you can't control,
because that's some of the mostdamaging things to our emotional
health is, if you are like mewhich a lot of you are kind of
like get shit done, mamas, youwant to and you feel safe when
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you're in control of what'sgoing on around you.
And sometimes we mistakenlythink that we can control the
people around us as well.
That shit don't work very well,does it?
And oftentimes we're stressedout, thinking how can I change
this, how can I fix this, howcan I do this?
How can I make them see it thisway?
How can I do this?
And it's not even worth it.
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It's not worth it because youcan't do it.
And so Mel explains this theoryof like you have to let them.
If they want to be negative,you have to let them.
But then let me that's the mostimportant part of that.
Let me decide how I'm going toreact to this.
If they're consistently goingto be negative, let them.
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But let me be okay with thefact that I need to back off of
them for a little while, becauseI need them to understand
that's not okay.
If your kids want to go toschool without putting a coat on
I know we're all in that seasonright now because you know it's
going to fuck with my outfit,so I can't wear my coat today,
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let them.
And let me be okay with themdiscovering it's cold as balls
outside and they probably shouldhave put a coat on.
But you know what?
It's a lesson for them, andit's not anything for me to
stress about.
I'm not the one that's going tobe cold.
I have the hoodie on, let them.
I think if we really adopt thattheory, it will transform our
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emotional health, because a lotof us type a get shit done.
People want to be in control ofeverything and most of our
stresses is because we're nuts,and that is super, super
frustrating for us.
I'm just going to let them.
People often start seeing whattheir behavior is giving you if
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you allow it, and what I mean bythat is if somebody is
consistently being negative andyou let them.
But you, let me be okay, letyourself be okay with taking a
step back from them.
They'll notice that and thenit's up to them to change that
behavior so that they can spendmore time with you.
Because you set a boundary, nowthat I'm not dealing with the
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negative, I'm not taking thenegative shit anymore.
See how that works.
Try it, just try it.
I know that you can find a spotto try it.
If you've got teenagers, youcan probably try it today.
If you've got a spouse whereyou see this stuff happening, or
a business partner or somebodyat work, let them.
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The next focus and pillar ofintentional wellness that we're
going to talk about a lot thisyear is relationships, and this
feeds perfectly off of emotionalwellness, just like physical
fed off of emotional is.
Surround yourself with peoplethat lift you higher.
This last year I joined amastermind ultra.
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I'll put information in theshow notes about it.
If you're ready for like nextlevel, top level mentorship and
community group of get shit donepeople, this is your place,
this is your home.
It's so incredible.
If you want to kind of check itout and do a little bit with
that, the Growth Day communityis absolutely stellar.
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So Ultra is the highest levelof membership with Growth Day,
and the people I have met insideof this group have literally
changed my life and my outlookon life.
I thought that I had some goodfriends that I could talk to
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about business and life andmotherhood and all the things
you need to talk about.
But when you are surroundingyourself with people that you
can do business and life withand they're strivers and they're
doing all the stuff thateverybody else thinks they're
fucking crazy for doing too, itjust changes.
I have a group, a text messagegroup, that I can literally
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celebrate anything with, andthey celebrate with me.
They never have that thought ortheory of like must be nice, or
they're just bragging, or whothe hell does she think she is
Never, never, ever.
Last night, when I was leavingmy yard at my septic company,
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the sun was kind of setting andit was a really pretty picture.
The picture didn't even capturehow pretty it was, but I was
pulling out and all three of mypump trucks were sitting there
and I snapped a picture of itand I was like the pumping game
is level enough.
There's three of my babies andthis year's going to be amazing.
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You know like I'm so proud tosee that there's a third pump
truck sitting out there andeverybody celebrated that.
Most people would be likethat's so dumb.
It's a third pump truck sittingout there and everybody
celebrated that.
Most people would be likethat's so dumb.
It's a pump truck.
You know like why would you beexcited about that?
These people celebrate thisstuff and this is what we're
trying to create inside ofBadass Inner Circle.
Badass Inner Circle is going tobe that group where you can
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come and you get celebrated.
This is the place where youcome and if you made your first
$10,000 a month, we're going tocelebrate you.
If you had your first $1,000 aday, we're going to celebrate
you.
If you hit your first million,we're going to celebrate you.
Or if you hit your first $2million a year, we're going to
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celebrate you.
Or if you hit your first $2million a year, we're going to
celebrate you.
To get 10 reviews this month,fuck yeah, we're going to
celebrate you.
You need the people that willcelebrate you.
Never ask questions, never feelintimidated, because in this
group, what people celebrate andwhat people will share shows
the rest of us what's possible,what's out there for us.
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We don't look at that asintimidating.
We look at that as it'sinspiring.
We all need to be part of agroup like that.
So I would love all of you thatsee that vision for your life
to be in this badass innercircle group with us, because
it's going to be stellar.
Like I'm so excited about this.
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I'm pouring my heart and soulinto this and if you know me on
a personal level, when I do that, it's above and beyond.
It's going to be so awesome.
But another good point about therelationship part of that is
that if you have toxicconnections, it's okay to
outgrow people Just because youwere friends in elementary and
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junior high school or highschool or college or 10 years
ago or five years ago doesn'tmean that you're still
connecting now, and if it does,I highly.
You know there are thosefriends like I've my friend
Shanna.
She has been my friend since Ican remember.
I have pictures of us togetherbefore we went to kindergarten
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and I love her to pieces andwe're so.
We're like, we talk Not a lot.
It's usually like Facebookposts or something like this.
And then I have a friend,nicole, and we get together once
a week and we go do a marketingtraining and we're learning
together and we're buildingbusinesses together.
And we get together once a weekand we go do a marketing
training and we're learningtogether and we're building
businesses together and we'reboth moms and we have lots of
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great conversations and she'sthe support that I need in this
phase of my life.
Right now Shanna is still one ofmy very dear friends but
honestly I don't even know whereShanna works at my very dear
friends, but honestly I don'teven know where Shanna works at
because that's not relevant tothe way that our friendship is.
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So it's okay to have additionalfriends and still have older
friends, but be okay with thefact that the relationship will
change and evolve.
Be okay with that.
I love Shanna to pieces and ifshe called me today and said she
needed me, I would be there forher.
But we support each other at adifferent level today than we
did when we were in elementaryschool or fresh out of high
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school.
See the difference.
And it's okay to do that.
And it's okay to do that withyour family too.
If your family questionseverything that you're doing, if
your family feels like thatanchor around your ankles back
off a little bit, it's okay.
We can love people from afar.
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I love when Tony Robbins saysthat you can love them from afar
.
Sometimes it makes us love themmore or it makes us get a
different viewpoint of maybe whythey're acting like that.
Inside of the Let Me Theory book, mel talks about how her mom
didn't want her to marrysomebody from the East Coast
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because she was afraid she wouldmove to the East Coast and stay
there and raise her family.
And that's what she did.
But her mom's in Michigan andher mom obviously wanted her to
live in Michigan.
It's okay for us to have thatopinion.
It's okay for your family towant to protect you from not
being crazy and starting thatbusiness, not being a female in
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a man's world, as they say.
I'm using that loosely inquotation marks.
Do it anyways.
It's okay for them to havetheir opinions because they have
a different lens than you do,and it's okay if they never see
your life through your lens.
It's okay they shouldn't.
They're not.
You Be okay with their opinions, but if they're hostile or if
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they're toxic or if they'rehurting you, you have to love
them from afar.
That goes into my last pillarthat I'm super striving for this
year, and it's financial health.
My business does well.
I do well personally, but whatI want to do is get extremely
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clear on what my goals and whatmy money habits are, and that
first three months of this yearis really watching those and
trying to establish new ones.
This doesn't mean I do nothingand I throw all my money at my
debt or whatever it is I'mtrying to do with my money and
that's the only thing I do,because you know what that does.
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That gives you financialburnout and then you quit, and
you quit because you don't seeanything happen.
You don't see anything move.
My big thing is getting accountsset up to take more tax
advantages of being a smallbusiness owner, because there
are several different kinds ofretirement accounts that you can
set up that can help you withthat.
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My friend, tess, is really goodat this stuff.
I will put a link to her stuffbecause she's actually starting
a financial coaching programthat she's teaching early
investors how to get in and dothis.
That would be a great option.
If you miss that and being ableto get into that course, follow
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Tess because you get so muchinformation.
She also has a great podcastthat you also need to listen to.
And these are the things thatyou can do to learn more, and I
think that's one of my biggestthings is like I just need to
learn more about everything thatis going to give me great
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financial help.
I don't want to have financialstress in 2025.
So how do I fix that?
How do I get to a point whereI'm okay with making money?
It's not always that you don'thave money.
It's when you start making it.
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Sometimes for those of us thatgrew up really poor, like I did,
it kind of makes you feel likeyou're not worthy to have it.
And when you do feel like that,you'll find a way to get rid of
it.
You'll start by giving it allto your employees.
You'll start by just blowing iton stupid shit.
You'll make sure that you're ata comfort level in your bank
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account.
My challenge to myself thisyear is to raise the fucking
limit on what is comfortable forme.
And I don't just raise it alittle bit.
I made it raise a lot because Iwant to be super uncomfortable.
I want it to make me feeluncomfortable and I want to look
at it every day and I want todeal with it every day because
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it's going to become morecomfortable with time.
And then, once I'm comfortableat this level, I'm going to make
it really uncomfortable atanother level and I would
challenge you to do the samething.
And I know, as business owners,oftentimes people will look at
you like mmm nice new car, mmmnice new house or whatever it is
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that you've got.
Going on Goes back to thattheory again.
Let them and let me be proud ofwhat I've worked so fucking
hard for Let me not for twoseconds feel like I owe them an
explanation of anything, becauseyou don't, you don't.
Let me be okay with what theysay, because they're going to
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say something.
Everybody's always going tohave an opinion.
Let them.
I think.
To really get going on this, youjust have to start with your
non-negotiables.
You have to identify the thingsyou're going to prioritize, no
matter what, like what is yourmorning routine?
What's your workout time goingto be?
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What are you going to do forfamily dinner so that you're
meal prepping, so you're notjust wanting to go get a pizza
because it's late and youhaven't planned shit for dinner,
or the chicken's frozen?
That's my biggest, my biggestvice.
All the time I am going to setnon-negotiables.
There will never be a dip belowthis dollar amount in any of my
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checking accounts ever, or mysavings accounts Ever.
It's a non-negotiable for me.
It's a non-negotiable for me tosit around and be around
negativity.
This year.
I won't do it, and I won't sayit, just not doing it.
The important thing that youneed to do with this, though, is
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that you need to reflecthonestly, at a minimum on a
weekly level, how you felt thatweek by setting those
non-negotiables and holdingtight to them.
And for an extra littlechallenge, I do this nightly.
You know that I talk about onthe podcast, about journaling,
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every single night, like, evenif it's just a few sentences
that I type into an app that Itrack.
The Growth Day app is reallyawesome.
It has a journal on it, justgoing in there and closing out
my day.
It's really like bookends.
I open my day doing that and Iclose my day doing that.
How do I feel today?
I love in the Growth Day appbecause you can do life scores
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and you can do daily life scores.
How did I feel about theseeight things today?
And it's really cool to watchyour trends over time, because
you're like, I really did thislast year, especially just the
month of December.
I really did that diligently inscoring my days, diligently in
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scoring my days and at the endof it is really what built this
intentional wellness fourpillars because those are the
four things that I'm strugglingwith the most.
So I know those are the fourthings that I need to move
forward into this next year.
See how that works.
It's really cool.
And then you have to stop andcelebrate your small wins.
You have to celebrate andthat's where being in Badass
Inner Circle is going to giveyou that community.
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For you to be able to do that.
Make it a goal to post everyday.
What was the best thing thathappened to you today in that
group?
I guarantee you someone willrespond.
That's someone being me,because I want people to
celebrate with and I want tocelebrate other striving women
that are out there trying to dotheir best every single day.
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2025 is your year to thrive.
We're not surviving anymore,babe.
We are fucking thriving thisyear with intentionality.
Imagine what your life couldlook like if you decided that
you were going to show up everysingle day.
Be super intentional aboutwhat's going on in your day.
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Make and keep the promises thatyou make to yourself.
First and foremost, before youkeep promises to anybody else,
keep them to yourself.
If you say you're going to dosomething, do it.
That's going to buildunshakable confidence that will
get you to the goals that youwant to do this year.
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I want to challenge you to geton the journey with this
community and join Badass InnerCircle.
I have a link at the top of theshow notes and at the bottom of
the show notes.
In case you missed it, I mightput one in the middle of the
show notes.
Get on the wait list.
This opens on January 20th,starting on Sunday.
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You'll be getting lots ofinformation about it.
We are going to have a foundingmember special.
That is going to be incredible.
That will be honored the entirelifetime.
You decide to stay withmembership in the community and
it is a hell of a deal, so youwill get so much more value out
of that than you can imagine.
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It's just life changes when youare with a group of winners.
Life changes when you surroundyourself with incredible women
that want to lift you up, nottear you down.
There needs to be more groupslike this.
Okay, we need to stop pointingout that she fucked something up
and we need to pick her up andpretend like it never happened,
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and we need to pick her up andpretend like it never happened.
This year is the year that wechange what it looks like for
women to support women, and Iwant you to do this with me.
I can't do it by myself.
I need a tribe of women aroundme that can help me with this
movement, because I am soincredibly passionate about it.
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So incredibly passionate.
We're going to share strategiesabout building our business.
We're going to share strategiesabout keeping our head straight
at home as moms and trying tofigure out how to do all this
stuff and not burn out, andwe're going to celebrate each
other, and sometimes, if youjust need to bitch about
something that's going wrong,we're going to help you find a
solution for it.
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What we're going to do is we'regoing to be there to hold each
other up.
So what is, madass Inner Circle?
We are going to be meetingmonthly via a Zoom call that we
will be one, learning from asubject matter expert.
I've got some incredible womenlined up for you to give you
small little master classes onhow to do different things
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inside of your business, how todo different things inside of
your mindset, how to dodifferent things with your
emotional well-being, yourphysical well-being, your
nutrition, all kinds of things.
It's a very well-roundedprogram that will help you win
at life and at business, and so,if this is something that
you're looking forward to, loveto have you join us.
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We're going to assignaccountability partners, so
every month, you'll havesomebody that I highly suggest
that you meet up with.
Once a week, you can set upsomething for 15 minutes or have
just a group chat that you havewith someone.
You're going to get to knowthem.
You're going to get to knowtheir business.
You're going to get to know whothey are and what they struggle
with and what they're winningat and how they can help you
with your business and how youcan help them.
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Accountability Buddies is whatforged the relationships that I
have now from another mastermindgroup, and I want to be able to
duplicate that for you becauseit's been so impactful in my
life.
I'm going to bring youincredible vendors that can help
you run your business.
We're going to do so many coolthings.
There's going to be lots of fun, free stuff, lots of cool swag,
lots of cool things coming up,and then we'll just tailor the
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community to how people want it.
If I tell you that I have allthis shit figured out before I
even know what women are goingto be in this group, I would be
lying to you.
This is going to be somethingthat we forge together.
This is going to be somethingthat we hold space for each
other together.
So as the needs of the grouparise, then we will address
those and we'll implement thattoo.
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This year is the year that wethrive, not survive.
This is the year that we're notrunning around with our hair on
fire.
This is the year that weseriously get really intentional
about the wellness of ourphysical being, our emotional
state, our relationships, ourfinancial wellness.
And if you want to add anotherone in there, honey, be my guest
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.
I want you to head to the linkin the show notes.
I want you to head to the linkin the show notes.
I want you to have a group ofwomen around you that are going
to want to support you, becauseif you're doing big things this
year, you can't do it alone.
You need a community around you.
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This is the year that we crushit, but we crush it together, as
always.
Keep being unapologetically youand keep kicking ass,
girlfriend.
Thanks for being part of theLadies Kickin' Ass community.
Cheers to all you badass womenout there.
Keep rocking your power,igniting your fire and making
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waves in the service industry.
If you loved today's episode,please do me a quick favor
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Hit that subscribe button tostay tuned for more kick-ass
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And don't forget a five-starreview is the ultimate high five
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Thank you for being part of ourtribe.
Now go kick some serious asslady.
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