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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Welcome to Ladies
Kickin' Ass, the no BS podcast
for fierce, unstoppable women inthe service industry.
We're here to talk bold moves,big wins and real talk on what
it takes to build the life andthe business you love.
Let's get fired up.
Today, we're going to talkabout giving yourself a down
break, because, mamas, I knowthat y'all got kids that are
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coming home from school, and sowe're going to have a
conversation about being kind toyourself this summer.
I love to record this podcastevery single springtime when the
kids get out of school, because, although I've done it for
three years in a row now, peoplelove to share these podcasts,
because oftentimes, when thethought of getting out of school
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comes up, we often think oh mygosh, now what am I going to do
to entertain one child, twochild, seven children?
I know it can be very difficultand I know a lot of you are
working your asses off buildinga business and it feels like you
have to push pause in order todo both.
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So I would love to brainstormwith you today on some ideas
that you can do to be able to doboth of your business and be a
badass mom this summer withoutthe guilt.
It's possible to do this.
We just have to be superintentional, and that's what
we're going to chat about today.
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So, first and foremost, get acalendar together.
This is what I do every year.
It's the first of May coming uphere real quick when I'm
recording this and I gettogether a calendar and I know
exactly what we have planned forthe summer.
If we've got a vacation planned, if we're going somewhere, if
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there's big events going on atwork that are non-negotiable, I
have to be at and I put them onthe calendar.
So now we have set in stone onthe calendar exactly the big
things that are going on.
So maybe you've got a familyreunion this summer that you're
traveling to.
Maybe you know little Johnny'sgetting his braces off on this
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particular day.
Maybe your daughter hassomething coming up with high
school that she has to do duringthe summertime.
We put every big eventbirthdays, anniversaries,
celebrations on the calendar.
Okay, lay them all out in frontof you so you can see it.
Okay, we got the day we'regetting out of school.
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We got the day we're going backto school.
We've got it all documentedRight.
Then we're going to sit downand we're going to look at what
is going on inside of ourbusiness.
We're going to pick out themost important things that only
you can do.
Now I know some of you are atthat point where you're doing
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everything.
You're HR, you answer thephones, you're running the
office, you're doing everything.
You're the janitor.
I know I laugh because I'vebeen there.
I understand the struggles thatyou're in, but I would highly
encourage you write down thethings that only you can handle.
So let's say, you're stillhandling the financial part of
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your business, but someone elsecan answer the phones.
Somebody else can definitely bethe janitor.
Somebody else can definitelyrun pickup marketing flyers from
the printer.
Somebody can definitely doprobably half the tasks that
you're doing during the day.
Let's be real honest.
Let's figure out a way toeither put them on pause for a
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couple of months, delegate themto someone else.
It is okay to give someone alittle bit extra temporary
responsibility at your business,and lots of times.
If you have created a greatculture and you have a good
relationship with your team,they're more than happy to help
you do that.
They're more than happy to helpyou do that.
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Especially, I find that when Iexplain to them what my goals
are for the summer, they're veryapt to help me with those
things.
So definitely talk to your teamand if it's something that you
need to delegate, even part timefor a little while, it's
something that you want to do sothat you can keep that inner
peace and still show up the bestyou can in both places.
So in order to show up the bestyou can at work, you need to
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highly focus on the things thatyou need to do.
Only Put those on a specific dayon your calendar.
I know a lot of you are reallygreat at time blocking.
Let's say you're actually doingthe work of your company.
Well, let's block what thattime out is.
If you have to be there fromeight to four every day because
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that's what you have to do foryour job or for your company,
then let's put that on thecalendar.
Let's also sit down with ourkids after you've put those
things on because, let's behonest, we still got to pay the
bills during the summertime,usually more bills because the
kids are at home and thepantries open and sometimes
we're not home too, so it canget a little expensive.
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I get it.
I have five kids at my houseduring the summertime and it's
crazy.
A box of granola bars appearsone night and disappears by noon
the next day.
So I totally get it, and I'mvery much simplifying this for a
reason.
I want you to take it just forface value.
Don't attach the mama heartbehind it, and what I mean with
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that is don't tie emotion intothis.
There's shit we still got toget done, and so what we're
going to do is we're going tofigure out how much time it's
going to take us to get thosethings done so that we can show
up in a different capacity forour families this summer.
Okay, so now we've got that laidout on the calendar.
Now we're going to sit downwith the kids and we're going to
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ask them what they would liketo do this summer.
Is it important?
For I just had thisconversation with my kids.
I'm going to ask them what theywould like to do this summer.
Is it important, for I just hadthis conversation with my kids.
I'm going to jump back here aminute.
I just had this conversationwith my kids.
My son is going to be done withsixth grade.
He's 11.
And my daughter is 15.
And she's finishing hersophomore year.
So neither one of them candrive yet.
So I'm still the mom Uber allsummer long, right?
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So I had the conversation withthem Would you like it more if I
go to work early, early in themorning, because I have the
flexibility to do this, or wouldyou rather me be here in the
morning when you wake up?
And I work in the afternoons?
And, of course, due to the ageof my children, they were like
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no go in the morning becausethey want to be able to, you
know, sleep till 10 o'clock inthe morning or 11, and that's
okay, they're on summer vacation, they can do that.
So what my goal is after havingthis conversation with them is
that I am going to go to work at6 am, I'm gonna work till noon
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and my goal is to do that justfour days a week.
This year, during the summerbreak that we have Now in
Arizona, we have year-roundschool, so we really only have
like a seven and a half weekbreak, so this isn't such a big
deal as some of you that I knowhave three full months off.
I realize it can be a littlebit delicate and everybody's
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schedules are different, sothese are only suggestions to
try to make your life a littlebit easier.
Okay, so I am going to work sixto noon four days a week.
I'm not going to go into theoffice at all on Fridays and
then I have my entire afternoonsto focus on passion projects I
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want to do if I'm at the houseand the kids are busy doing
something else, or I can work onspending more time with my kids
and doing fun activities withthem.
So I did try to break it up tothe point where we could
actually spend more timetogether.
I know a lot of kids end upsitting at home by themselves
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all summer and my big goal is totry to deter that as much as
possible.
So these are just ideas, butit's very important to include
your kids or your spouse in theconversation so everyone is on
the same page.
Something that we do that mykids really like a lot, is that
we have what's the plan fortomorrow conversation every
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single night before we all go tobed.
What's on the schedule fortomorrow?
What are you doing at schooltomorrow, cash?
What are you doing at schooltomorrow, aisley?
This is what mom's game plan isfor tomorrow.
They know what is on myschedule.
They know today it's afterschool time.
I have somebody picking them upfrom school.
I'm at the studio recording apodcast, but they know where I'm
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at and when we have that openconversation then there's no
confusion as to when's mom goingto come home.
Now, if you're an entrepreneur,I know sometimes that we can
tend to put our family on theback burner, meaning they're
always going to be there.
It's okay if I take anothermeeting, if I take another call,
it's okay if I stay and workwith Susie for an extra hour
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because my kids are at home,they're not going nowhere and
it's fine.
I would really challenge you tostick to your schedule as much
as you can.
Now.
I know she hits the fansometimes.
We have to be flexible, but ifyou can do that, we're really
building confidence and trustwith the kids, knowing that they
are just as important on theschedule as anything else is at
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work.
In addition to all of this,before you put that calendar
away, you must put on thatcalendar time for you.
I know this can be a tricky one, and this is the one that we
brush off more than any otherthing on our calendar Because we
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say, oh, we can do it later, soI have time to sit down and
journal and really think aboutthis project that I want to put
out, except Tim really needs myhelp right now, so I'll just do
it after I put the kids to bed.
So you're sacrificing sleep toget a project done because you
opted to do something else.
And when we continue to keepbreaking those dates or those
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appointments that we have withourselves, we start to lose
trust in the fact that we'regoing to get things done.
And what we're trying to do allthe time is build that trust.
When I say I'm showing up formyself, I'm showing up for
myself.
If you put some alone time onyour calendar.
I don't care if it's going fora walk, getting a massage, going
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to get your nails done or goingto a movie by yourself oh,
that's lovely, just do it.
Make sure that you followthrough with that, because you
are your most importantinvestment.
I know it's really hard tothink about that and I know it
is very weird that I say thatafter I just put that on the
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last thing on the calendar.
But it's also a thing that wecan kind of manipulate around
other hard scheduled items.
I know that we run servicebusinesses and it drives me
crazy when I hear podcasts thatsay you first, like you go to
the gym and you do this and youdo this and you do this and then
you go to work and I'm like myphones are ringing off the hook
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in Arizona by 630 am becausepeople are having a septic
emergency and I can't wait till9 am to go to work.
So we have to kind of do adelicate dance, but we can't
forget about ourselves.
It's really important that wedon't forget about ourselves.
Also, on top of the calendar,make sure you are checking in
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with yourself.
This is something that I lovethe Growth Day app about and
I'll be sure to put that in theshow notes is there's a
beautiful way of being able tokind of prioritize yourself
through the day so you can getin.
You get a little personaldevelopment in the morning, you
get a video on something coolthat you can work on with your
mindset.
You can give yourself threethings you wanna work on that
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day and you can actually sitdown and journal about how you
felt the day before and whatenergy you wanna bring in to
this new day you're about tostart.
Journaling is something that Iwould love.
If you could figure out a wayto give yourself even 10 minutes
in the morning to write yourintentions for the day, you will
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see a massive difference.
Sometimes we literally live bythe reminders that pop up on our
phones with the stuff thatwe've buried in our calendars,
and oftentimes it's not even themost important things we need
to be working on.
So spend that time to be ableto discover that, because the
last thing I want you toexperience, mama, during
summertime is the burnout.
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You feel like you're doing toomuch, and I know this sounds
like a lot, but when it isscheduled, then it's prioritized
and it's all written down.
It leaves no room for things toget crazy and chaotic.
If you're able to stick to theschedule as much as possible,
with some flexibility, becausewe all know how life works.
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But something that we reallywant to do is just prioritize
those tasks.
If it's something with yourbusiness that really can last
tell the fall time to start, orif there's not someone you can
delegate it to, definitely putit in the parking lot.
You know, the parking lot isthis amazing place where all of
my killer ideas live, andsomeday I'm going to go there
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and I'm going to pull out a newone and then I work on that, and
if it's not something that'sthe focus of what I'd like to
achieve at that point in time.
Sometimes I have to put it backin the parking lot.
Summertime is that time to takesome of the projects off your
plate, because if you have onechild, or multiple children,
it's a whole nother level ofdedication to the kids.
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Now I know some of you might bethinking well, what about their
dad?
Where is he in this situation?
If you have a father presentwith the children, definitely
incorporate him in that andshare the responsibilities, if
that's possible.
I don't have that, so I talkabout this as if I am the one in
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charge of putting all thisstuff together, because that's
what I do.
But I also want to come at thatangle, because I know a lot of
you are single mothers and youstruggle with the same things
too.
So let's be kind to each other,and if you feel like you are in
a place where you're like, ohmy God, this summer is totally
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kicking my ass and I'm justgetting down on myself and I
feel like I'm falling apart,that's what the Badass Inner
Circle community is all aboutReach out, get involved, and
we'd love for you to be able tohave the best summer season
you've ever had with your kids.
That's a wrap.
Ladies, now go out there, ownthe hell out of your dreams and
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