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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Welcome to Ladies Kickin' Ass, the no BS podcast
for fierce, unstoppable women inthe service industry.
We're here to talk bold moves,big wins and real talk on what
it takes to build the life andthe business you love.
Let's get fired up, heybadasses.
Welcome back to the podcasttoday.
Today I'm a little bit fired upand so we're just going to dive
(00:23):
right into it.
I think a lot of us are playingway smaller than we have the
capability of playing at.
And what do I mean by that?
I mean that I know that youhave really big goals that you
want to achieve and kick-assthings that you want to do, and
(00:45):
you really want to be thatperson that is the generational
shift in your family and you'rewilling to put in what it takes
to do it.
But maybe you don't have thebest support system around you.
Maybe those five people thatthey say that you are a product
of when you spend the most timewith them needs a little
reevaluation.
Now, it doesn't always have tobe just the people around you.
(01:07):
It can be lots of differentthings, and that's what we're
going to dive into today on thepodcast.
This one's going to be a littlespunky.
This one's going to be superemotional and heartfelt because
I'm really evaluating in my lifewhat those five people books,
podcasts, things that I consumereally contribute to my growth
(01:31):
and me reaching the potentialthat I believe that I can be at.
Because I will tell you that Iknow that I have consciously
played a little bit smaller thanI know I am capable of doing
Now.
That can be from waiting 151episodes to bring an episode
like this to you.
(01:51):
That can be delaying getting upon the stage speaking, even
though I know that's what I wantto do and serve people with.
That can be choosing not towrite the book that I know can
help so many women because Idon't feel like I have the right
support around me.
But this is something that Ihave worked so hard on in the
(02:14):
last couple of years and I wantto share with you my experience
and what I've done and what I'mstill continuing to do to break
out of these patterns, becauseanybody that's listening to this
podcast is a pretty bold babe,somebody that really, really
wants to make and do greatthings in the world.
(02:35):
And sometimes we feel stuck andit's not a place of I'm not
doing anything, because most ofus let's face it are pretty high
achievers and we're alreadydoing more than most.
I don't want to say better thanmost, but we're doing more than
most.
And sometimes you can get stuckin a very comfortable position
(02:56):
there because from the outsideit looks like we're kicking ass.
We're doing great, butinternally we know that we could
be doing so much more and Idon't mean to say just more
tasks, but more real work withour time than maybe running to
Trader Joe's to pick up waterfor the office again.
(03:18):
You could actually have someoneon your team do that.
This is what I'm talking aboutgetting really specific with
where your zone of genius is andreally living in that and even
surprising yourself by how muchbetter you can get in those
areas.
I know that self-doubt creeps inon us and sometimes we think,
(03:38):
oh well, I'm a little full ofmyself if I feel like I can do
that, I want you to change theway that feels.
When you say that to yourself,that's a negative thing.
What you want to really leaninto is damn, I have some
serious self-confidence and Iwant to see what comes of that.
It is okay to want more foryourself Now.
(03:59):
I come from a family where myparents absolutely love to say,
hmm, must be nice, hmm must benice to have what they have, and
it was always the envy or justkind of snide remarks, and I
really have tried to embrace theopposite of that and really be
(04:21):
able to say it is nice what wehave and be proud of what we're
working for, instead of wishingfor something.
I've worked really hard andworked for the things that I
wanted to have in my life and Iknow that you can do the same,
and I think we can really allrally together in badass inner
circle to really help each otherto be able to grow to that new
(04:43):
level that we want to finish2025 at.
I know a lot of you have amazingvision boards for the year.
You graciously share those withme inside of Instagram.
I see them posted on Facebookand I love what everyone is
working to accomplish.
But what if we just leaned intoit a little bit more?
(05:03):
But what if we just leaned intoit a little bit more?
What if we really really gotgranular on the people that we
know support us the most and weis one of my number one
cheerleaders we're actuallypretty new friends within the
(05:26):
last couple of years, but itdoesn't matter what's going on
with work, things that I have inmy business or even personal
things that we've grown into.
She's always sending a rah, rahcheer to me.
I had a speaking engagementtoday with the Titan 100
community and she reached out tome first thing this morning.
You're going to kill this witha beautiful voice memo.
(05:49):
It is people like that that youwant to surround yourself with.
In my ultra group throughgrowth day.
There are amazing, amazingindividuals in our little
mastermind group that we havethat we continuously cheer each
other on and support eachother's business and personal
ventures.
It's so cool to have friendswith growth mindsets, but I know
(06:13):
, on the opposite of that too,you may have family members or
people really close to you thatchallenge you when you want to
soar.
Not that this is meant to be amean thing, but there are
definitely anchors in your lifeand those anchors don't
necessarily want bad things foryou and they don't want to not
(06:36):
see you succeed at your goals,but they're scared.
They want to keep you safe andso they challenge those big,
audacious goals that you havebecause they want you to stay
you.
It is more comfortable for them, in the place in life that
they're at for you to stay theperson that they love and adore
(06:59):
so much, because as we grow andas we change, our relationships
have to change.
You know, it's the old adage oflike when a alcoholic or an
addict gets clean, they can'thave the same friend group, and
I know that sounds extreme, butit really is the same kind of
(07:22):
theology here, because it's alla mindset.
The mindset of the alcohol andthe partying is very much the
same as let's just chill allweekend instead of actually work
towards our goals.
Now, I'm not saying that thereisn't room to relax and that
there isn't room for thesepeople in your life, but what we
(07:43):
really need to do is make surethat we're filtering how much
time we spend with the ones thatare cheering us on and
encouraging us to do big,awesome things, and really
limiting some of the time thatwe're spending with these people
that want us to remain the same, so that it stays comfortable
(08:03):
for them.
I want to read a couple oflittle things here of notes that
I made for you to kind of checkyourself in thinking am I
really soaring Like, do I havethe ability to soar?
Do I have the circle around meto soar, or am I kind of
anchored?
Because I definitely know, aswomen, I do this myself
(08:25):
Oftentimes.
We're really good at beingpeople pleasers.
We're really good at also justmaking exceptions for people's
behavior that really shouldn'tbe accepted.
So I really want you to thinkabout this when I read these and
think where do I fall into more, and it doesn't have to be all,
but which one sounds more likemy circle of influence right now
(08:48):
?
These are some signs thatyou're anchored.
Your conversations stay verysurface level.
If you start going deep into aconversation, you can just see
that person check out.
Your success is downplayed orit's rarely celebrated.
If you surround yourself withpeople that have a hard time
(09:11):
celebrating any success that youhave and are often intimidated
by it, that's a sign of beinganchored.
Another sign of being anchoredis that the risks that you want
to take to grow and improve inyour life, or maybe invest in
business opportunities, aretreated like you are being
(09:34):
reckless, and they oftentimeswill verbalize that to you.
Now I know they're trying tokeep you safe, but that isn't
going to be a place where youcan grow and where you can soar
Now.
On the contrary, here are somesigns that you may be soaring,
growth is normalized and it'scelebrated.
(09:55):
People actually start noticinglike, wow, you handled that
really well.
Or wow, I've noticed you knowyou carry yourself with a new
level of confidence.
It's really awesome.
Maybe you have people that giveyou compliments, like you seem
to be glowing, or you have areally great vibe right now.
Those are really greatindicators that you're
(10:18):
surrounding yourself with peoplethat are helping you soar.
Big moves are celebrated.
And I want to throw a littleextra one in there Even little
moves are celebrated.
Did you almost make that salesgoal, like just barely off?
You know what?
We're still going to give you ahigh five and celebrate you.
If you crush that sales goal,we're really going to celebrate
(10:39):
you Like we're going out.
What?
We're still gonna give you ahigh five and celebrate you.
If you crush that sales goal,we're really gonna celebrate you
like we're going out and we'regonna celebrate.
And those people are notintimidated by your successes.
They don't want to minimizeyour success to make themselves
feel better.
They're actually reallyauthentically proud of you for
kicking ass.
And the last one is challengesare seen as part of the climb
(11:02):
and they want to join in withyou.
A lot of times you can cometogether with a big goal that
you have and find others thathave that same goal.
With a big goal that you haveand find others that have that
same goal, and when you havethat and you're pushing each
other, the growth happenstogether.
And it's really amazing whenyou can see that happen inside
(11:23):
of friendships and relationships.
I really want to emphasize thatwhen we say we're good, well,
it's good enough, I guess it'sokay.
I mean it's better than what Ihad before.
I mean it's a little bit.
We got to stop that shit.
(11:44):
We got to cut all that out andwe really need to sit alone in
some silence and we really needto journal on the things that we
truly want in our lives.
I know I shared with you in afew episodes back on how I had a
massive breakthrough when Iwent to Growth Day in Austin and
what that grew.
What that opened up for me wasthat I don't need to continue to
(12:09):
keep trying to get the nextachievement.
I've been doing that my entirelife and every time I get one I
still feel hollow and I reallyneeded to work into that.
But it was mentioned during theconference that when
achievement isn't what is givingyou fulfillment is giving you
(12:36):
fulfillment.
You really need to step backand reassess whether you are
aligning your life to thoseachievements or if you're
aligning your life to valuesthat mean something to you.
Now, achievement isn'teverything in life, and I'm not
using this platform today orthis conversation to say that
you only have achievements inyour professional life, because
there are a lot of achievementsthat we want to have with good
(12:59):
circles of influence around usinside of our personal lives.
I shared in a podcast how I'mchoosing peace this year.
Whatever can bring me morepeace whether that's hiring more
people at my business, which Idid.
I hired an executive successpartner, trishel.
She's amazing.
We'll have her on the podcast,but she is truly the executor at
(13:22):
my business.
I really realized that a hugepart of what I was struggling
with and really kind of beatingmyself up over is that I had
really damn good ideas toexecute inside of my business
and I just didn't have the timeto do it.
So I hired somebody to takethose visions that I have and
bring them to fruition, and ohmy gosh, she's amazing at that.
(13:43):
But where can we do that in ourpersonal lives, too?
Where can we ask for help?
Where can we hire so we can buyback some of our time, which is
an incredible book, if youhaven't picked that up yet.
We need to be super seriousabout what we want in our life,
and this doesn't mean that youeliminate fun.
(14:04):
This means that you reallytruly get in alignment with the
top five goals that mean themost to you as a person
Happiness, peace, being withpeople that cheer you on, being
with encouraging people.
I will tell you, the hardestthing I've ever done in my
entire life was making thedecision to step back from the
(14:28):
family I grew up with.
It wasn't for lack of trying,but I realized more than ever,
especially after I became amother, that just because
they're family doesn't mean theyneed to be involved in my
day-to-day life if they're notproviding positive value to the
things I want to achieve andbeing supportive to both me and
(14:51):
my kids.
It was a choice that I made atthat point to break a
generational cycle of pure chaos.
That's not a simple thing to doand I understand that this is
kind of a heavier podcast, butit's really something that we
need to do to work internallydeep within at the beginning
(15:12):
part of this year so that wedon't get to the end of the year
and realize that we've beenanchored the whole year when we
could have just made a fewdifferent choices to really be
soaring by the end of 2025.
So I really want to challengeyou this week Sit down with a
(15:34):
journal, get outside in natureand really think.
Are you able to soar with thegroup that you're with, or do
you feel stuck, and who do youneed in your life one way or the
other to communicate more withor less with?
Who are these people that youneed to have in your life If you
(15:58):
are looking for an incrediblegroup of people that you can
grow with, of course, we haveBadass Inner Circle open and we
welcome you with open arms.
Here you will find women thatare never petty with each other,
that are only there to cheereach other on, that are never
petty with each other, that areonly there to cheer each other
on and really provide honestfeedback on anything you have
going on, personally orprofessionally.
(16:19):
We really want to have thattribe of exactly what I'm
talking about today, where weare really seeing a flock of
women soar, not just one.
This is something that we dotogether as a group.
This is something that wereally together as a group.
This is something that wereally want to be that person
for you.
If you don't have that in yourown inner circle and if an
(16:42):
online community isn't your jam,no sweat whatsoever, but
definitely get out and be ableto focus on making those friends
that you can do life andbusiness with.
I did not focus on this foryears because I was busy
building a business and I wasbusy being a mom and I just
decided that I didn't have timefor friends.
(17:03):
That was a huge mistake and Iwish I would have started
earlier.
But I am glad that I did start,because I have an incredible
group of women that I do lifeand business with and it has
literally fed my soul in waysthat I didn't even know I was
hungry in.
So definitely suggest that foryou.
(17:26):
But what I'd love for you to dois set one big goal, a big, bold
goal to reach out to somebodythat you would love to either
collaborate with or you wouldlove to learn from, or you would
love to have mentor you in yourbusiness, or maybe even hire a
coach, or if therapy is what youfeel like you need in your life
(17:50):
right now.
Definitely go that direction,but try to figure out a way
where you can detach yourselffrom something that is anchoring
you and enabling you to chaseafter those big, big dreams.
I would love it if you couldshare with this person what that
big goal is that you want toaccomplish in 2025.
(18:12):
And ask them for their support.
Many times we tell people ourgoals and then we never ask for
what we need help with, and manytimes I know for me, the
biggest thing I need help withis accountability, especially if
you're a business owner,because really we don't have a
lot of that.
So be sure to tell this personwhat your big goal is and then
(18:32):
tell them how they can supportyou, because if they are your
friends that are gonna rallyaround you, they'll want to do
anything they can to support youand realize that just one small
shift whether that's mindset orjust moving your feet in a
forward direction, is all youneed to do to start shifting
(18:53):
from being anchored to soaringlike the badass I know you are.
That's a wrap, ladies.
Now go out there, own the hellout of your dreams and keep
kicking ass.
Want to keep this fire going?
Connect with us on social.
All the links are in the shownotes and if you're ready for a
sisterhood that levels up lifeand business, be sure to check
out Badass Inner Circle.
(19:14):
Stay bold, stay fierce and beunapologetically you.
I'll catch you on the nextepisode.
Let's do this.
Welcome to Ladies Kickin' Ass, the no BS podcast
for fierce, unstoppable women inthe service industry.
We're here to talk bold moves,big wins and real talk on what
it takes to build the life andthe business you love.
Let's get fired up, heybadasses.
Welcome back to the podcasttoday.
Today I'm a little bit fired upand so we're just going to dive
(00:23):
right into it.
I think a lot of us are playingway smaller than we have the
capability of playing at.
And what do I mean by that?
I mean that I know that youhave really big goals that you
want to achieve and kick-assthings that you want to do, and
(00:45):
you really want to be thatperson that is the generational
shift in your family and you'rewilling to put in what it takes
to do it.
But maybe you don't have thebest support system around you.
Maybe those five people thatthey say that you are a product
of when you spend the most timewith them needs a little
reevaluation.
Now, it doesn't always have tobe just the people around you.
(01:07):
It can be lots of differentthings, and that's what we're
going to dive into today on thepodcast.
This one's going to be a littlespunky.
This one's going to be superemotional and heartfelt because
I'm really evaluating in my lifewhat those five people books,
podcasts, things that I consumereally contribute to my growth
(01:31):
and me reaching the potentialthat I believe that I can be at.
Because I will tell you that Iknow that I have consciously
played a little bit smaller thanI know I am capable of doing
Now.
That can be from waiting 151episodes to bring an episode
like this to you.
(01:51):
That can be delaying getting upon the stage speaking, even
though I know that's what I wantto do and serve people with.
That can be choosing not towrite the book that I know can
help so many women because Idon't feel like I have the right
support around me.
But this is something that Ihave worked so hard on in the
(02:14):
last couple of years and I wantto share with you my experience
and what I've done and what I'mstill continuing to do to break
out of these patterns, becauseanybody that's listening to this
podcast is a pretty bold babe,somebody that really, really
wants to make and do greatthings in the world.
(02:35):
And sometimes we feel stuck andit's not a place of I'm not
doing anything, because most ofus let's face it are pretty high
achievers and we're alreadydoing more than most.
I don't want to say better thanmost, but we're doing more than
most.
And sometimes you can get stuckin a very comfortable position
(02:56):
there because from the outsideit looks like we're kicking ass.
We're doing great, butinternally we know that we could
be doing so much more and Idon't mean to say just more
tasks, but more real work withour time than maybe running to
Trader Joe's to pick up waterfor the office again.
(03:18):
You could actually have someoneon your team do that.
This is what I'm talking aboutgetting really specific with
where your zone of genius is andreally living in that and even
surprising yourself by how muchbetter you can get in those
areas.
I know that self-doubt creeps inon us and sometimes we think,
(03:38):
oh well, I'm a little full ofmyself if I feel like I can do
that, I want you to change theway that feels.
When you say that to yourself,that's a negative thing.
What you want to really leaninto is damn, I have some
serious self-confidence and Iwant to see what comes of that.
It is okay to want more foryourself Now.
(03:59):
I come from a family where myparents absolutely love to say,
hmm, must be nice, hmm must benice to have what they have, and
it was always the envy or justkind of snide remarks, and I
really have tried to embrace theopposite of that and really be
(04:21):
able to say it is nice what wehave and be proud of what we're
working for, instead of wishingfor something.
I've worked really hard andworked for the things that I
wanted to have in my life and Iknow that you can do the same,
and I think we can really allrally together in badass inner
circle to really help each otherto be able to grow to that new
(04:43):
level that we want to finish2025 at.
I know a lot of you have amazingvision boards for the year.
You graciously share those withme inside of Instagram.
I see them posted on Facebookand I love what everyone is
working to accomplish.
But what if we just leaned intoit a little bit more?
(05:03):
But what if we just leaned intoit a little bit more?
What if we really really gotgranular on the people that we
know support us the most and weis one of my number one
cheerleaders we're actuallypretty new friends within the
(05:26):
last couple of years, but itdoesn't matter what's going on
with work, things that I have inmy business or even personal
things that we've grown into.
She's always sending a rah, rahcheer to me.
I had a speaking engagementtoday with the Titan 100
community and she reached out tome first thing this morning.
You're going to kill this witha beautiful voice memo.
(05:49):
It is people like that that youwant to surround yourself with.
In my ultra group throughgrowth day.
There are amazing, amazingindividuals in our little
mastermind group that we havethat we continuously cheer each
other on and support eachother's business and personal
ventures.
It's so cool to have friendswith growth mindsets, but I know
(06:13):
, on the opposite of that too,you may have family members or
people really close to you thatchallenge you when you want to
soar.
Not that this is meant to be amean thing, but there are
definitely anchors in your lifeand those anchors don't
necessarily want bad things foryou and they don't want to not
(06:36):
see you succeed at your goals,but they're scared.
They want to keep you safe andso they challenge those big,
audacious goals that you havebecause they want you to stay
you.
It is more comfortable for them, in the place in life that
they're at for you to stay theperson that they love and adore
(06:59):
so much, because as we grow andas we change, our relationships
have to change.
You know, it's the old adage oflike when a alcoholic or an
addict gets clean, they can'thave the same friend group, and
I know that sounds extreme, butit really is the same kind of
(07:22):
theology here, because it's alla mindset.
The mindset of the alcohol andthe partying is very much the
same as let's just chill allweekend instead of actually work
towards our goals.
Now, I'm not saying that thereisn't room to relax and that
there isn't room for thesepeople in your life, but what we
(07:43):
really need to do is make surethat we're filtering how much
time we spend with the ones thatare cheering us on and
encouraging us to do big,awesome things, and really
limiting some of the time thatwe're spending with these people
that want us to remain the same, so that it stays comfortable
(08:03):
for them.
I want to read a couple oflittle things here of notes that
I made for you to kind of checkyourself in thinking am I
really soaring Like, do I havethe ability to soar?
Do I have the circle around meto soar, or am I kind of
anchored?
Because I definitely know, aswomen, I do this myself
(08:25):
Oftentimes.
We're really good at beingpeople pleasers.
We're really good at also justmaking exceptions for people's
behavior that really shouldn'tbe accepted.
So I really want you to thinkabout this when I read these and
think where do I fall into more, and it doesn't have to be all,
but which one sounds more likemy circle of influence right now
(08:48):
?
These are some signs thatyou're anchored.
Your conversations stay verysurface level.
If you start going deep into aconversation, you can just see
that person check out.
Your success is downplayed orit's rarely celebrated.
If you surround yourself withpeople that have a hard time
(09:11):
celebrating any success that youhave and are often intimidated
by it, that's a sign of beinganchored.
Another sign of being anchoredis that the risks that you want
to take to grow and improve inyour life, or maybe invest in
business opportunities, aretreated like you are being
(09:34):
reckless, and they oftentimeswill verbalize that to you.
Now I know they're trying tokeep you safe, but that isn't
going to be a place where youcan grow and where you can soar
Now.
On the contrary, here are somesigns that you may be soaring,
growth is normalized and it'scelebrated.
(09:55):
People actually start noticinglike, wow, you handled that
really well.
Or wow, I've noticed you knowyou carry yourself with a new
level of confidence.
It's really awesome.
Maybe you have people that giveyou compliments, like you seem
to be glowing, or you have areally great vibe right now.
Those are really greatindicators that you're
(10:18):
surrounding yourself with peoplethat are helping you soar.
Big moves are celebrated.
And I want to throw a littleextra one in there Even little
moves are celebrated.
Did you almost make that salesgoal, like just barely off?
You know what?
We're still going to give you ahigh five and celebrate you.
If you crush that sales goal,we're really going to celebrate
(10:39):
you Like we're going out.
What?
We're still gonna give you ahigh five and celebrate you.
If you crush that sales goal,we're really gonna celebrate you
like we're going out and we'regonna celebrate.
And those people are notintimidated by your successes.
They don't want to minimizeyour success to make themselves
feel better.
They're actually reallyauthentically proud of you for
kicking ass.
And the last one is challengesare seen as part of the climb
(11:02):
and they want to join in withyou.
A lot of times you can cometogether with a big goal that
you have and find others thathave that same goal.
With a big goal that you haveand find others that have that
same goal, and when you havethat and you're pushing each
other, the growth happenstogether.
And it's really amazing whenyou can see that happen inside
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of friendships and relationships.
I really want to emphasize thatwhen we say we're good, well,
it's good enough, I guess it'sokay.
I mean it's better than what Ihad before.
I mean it's a little bit.
We got to stop that shit.
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We got to cut all that out andwe really need to sit alone in
some silence and we really needto journal on the things that we
truly want in our lives.
I know I shared with you in afew episodes back on how I had a
massive breakthrough when Iwent to Growth Day in Austin and
what that grew.
What that opened up for me wasthat I don't need to continue to
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keep trying to get the nextachievement.
I've been doing that my entirelife and every time I get one I
still feel hollow and I reallyneeded to work into that.
But it was mentioned during theconference that when
achievement isn't what is givingyou fulfillment is giving you
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fulfillment.
You really need to step backand reassess whether you are
aligning your life to thoseachievements or if you're
aligning your life to valuesthat mean something to you.
Now, achievement isn'teverything in life, and I'm not
using this platform today orthis conversation to say that
you only have achievements inyour professional life, because
there are a lot of achievementsthat we want to have with good
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circles of influence around usinside of our personal lives.
I shared in a podcast how I'mchoosing peace this year.
Whatever can bring me morepeace whether that's hiring more
people at my business, which Idid.
I hired an executive successpartner, trishel.
She's amazing.
We'll have her on the podcast,but she is truly the executor at
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my business.
I really realized that a hugepart of what I was struggling
with and really kind of beatingmyself up over is that I had
really damn good ideas toexecute inside of my business
and I just didn't have the timeto do it.
So I hired somebody to takethose visions that I have and
bring them to fruition, and ohmy gosh, she's amazing at that.
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But where can we do that in ourpersonal lives, too?
Where can we ask for help?
Where can we hire so we can buyback some of our time, which is
an incredible book, if youhaven't picked that up yet.
We need to be super seriousabout what we want in our life,
and this doesn't mean that youeliminate fun.
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This means that you reallytruly get in alignment with the
top five goals that mean themost to you as a person
Happiness, peace, being withpeople that cheer you on, being
with encouraging people.
I will tell you, the hardestthing I've ever done in my
entire life was making thedecision to step back from the
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family I grew up with.
It wasn't for lack of trying,but I realized more than ever,
especially after I became amother, that just because
they're family doesn't mean theyneed to be involved in my
day-to-day life if they're notproviding positive value to the
things I want to achieve andbeing supportive to both me and
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my kids.
It was a choice that I made atthat point to break a
generational cycle of pure chaos.
That's not a simple thing to doand I understand that this is
kind of a heavier podcast, butit's really something that we
need to do to work internallydeep within at the beginning
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part of this year so that wedon't get to the end of the year
and realize that we've beenanchored the whole year when we
could have just made a fewdifferent choices to really be
soaring by the end of 2025.
So I really want to challengeyou this week Sit down with a
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journal, get outside in natureand really think.
Are you able to soar with thegroup that you're with, or do
you feel stuck, and who do youneed in your life one way or the
other to communicate more withor less with?
Who are these people that youneed to have in your life If you
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are looking for an incrediblegroup of people that you can
grow with, of course, we haveBadass Inner Circle open and we
welcome you with open arms.
Here you will find women thatare never petty with each other,
that are only there to cheereach other on, that are never
petty with each other, that areonly there to cheer each other
on and really provide honestfeedback on anything you have
going on, personally orprofessionally.
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We really want to have thattribe of exactly what I'm
talking about today, where weare really seeing a flock of
women soar, not just one.
This is something that we dotogether as a group.
This is something that wereally together as a group.
This is something that wereally want to be that person
for you.
If you don't have that in yourown inner circle and if an
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online community isn't your jam,no sweat whatsoever, but
definitely get out and be ableto focus on making those friends
that you can do life andbusiness with.
I did not focus on this foryears because I was busy
building a business and I wasbusy being a mom and I just
decided that I didn't have timefor friends.
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That was a huge mistake and Iwish I would have started
earlier.
But I am glad that I did start,because I have an incredible
group of women that I do lifeand business with and it has
literally fed my soul in waysthat I didn't even know I was
hungry in.
So definitely suggest that foryou.
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But what I'd love for you to dois set one big goal, a big, bold
goal to reach out to somebodythat you would love to either
collaborate with or you wouldlove to learn from, or you would
love to have mentor you in yourbusiness, or maybe even hire a
coach, or if therapy is what youfeel like you need in your life
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right now.
Definitely go that direction,but try to figure out a way
where you can detach yourselffrom something that is anchoring
you and enabling you to chaseafter those big, big dreams.
I would love it if you couldshare with this person what that
big goal is that you want toaccomplish in 2025.
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And ask them for their support.
Many times we tell people ourgoals and then we never ask for
what we need help with, and manytimes I know for me, the
biggest thing I need help withis accountability, especially if
you're a business owner,because really we don't have a
lot of that.
So be sure to tell this personwhat your big goal is and then
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tell them how they can supportyou, because if they are your
friends that are gonna rallyaround you, they'll want to do
anything they can to support youand realize that just one small
shift whether that's mindset orjust moving your feet in a
forward direction, is all youneed to do to start shifting
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from being anchored to soaringlike the badass I know you are.
That's a wrap, ladies.
Now go out there, own the hellout of your dreams and keep
kicking ass.
Want to keep this fire going?
Connect with us on social.
All the links are in the shownotes and if you're ready for a
sisterhood that levels up lifeand business, be sure to check
out Badass Inner Circle.
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Stay bold, stay fierce and beunapologetically you.
I'll catch you on the nextepisode.
Let's do this.
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