Stop Asking for Romance - Do This Instead

Does your partner feel more like a roommate than a lover lately? You’re definitely not alone—and you’re not wrong for wanting more. In this Language of Love Session, I help Shauna, who’s been with her partner for three years. She misses the early days—the surprise love notes, spontaneous date nights, the simple act of hand-holding. Now? It feels like they’re stuck in a routine, more like roommates navigating a to-do list than lovers sharing a life. She’s tried dropping hints, even having honest conversations, but nothing seems to shift. Her question: How do I ask for more romance without making him feel like he’s failing? Together, we dig into why passion so often fades in long-term relationships—and how to revive that spark with intention, not pressure. You’ll learn: Why the “infatuation phase” ends—and what comes next in a healthy love story The sex-romance stalemate: what it is and how it silently sabotages connection How to give your partner a roadmap to romance (without it feeling like a chore) Why men and women often feel loved in very different ways—and how to bridge the gap How emotional and physical intimacy feed each other in a lasting relationship What role sexual availability plays in inspiring affection—and how to talk about it The subtle ways your own behavior might be discouraging romance (and how to shift it) When to seek couples therapy—and why it’s not just for marriages in crisis Plus, I share a simple, powerful communication strategy that invites your partner into deeper connection—without shame, blame, or ultimatums. If you feel stuck in a routine that no longer feels like love, this episode is your invitation to begin again. Have a question about your own love life? Email me at [e-mail] to be featured in a future episode—or even join me live on the show. Looking for tools to deepen your connection and reignite your passion? Head over to my website for expert-backed resources designed to help you heal, grow, and thrive in your relationships. Explore my 7 Days to Better Sex program and take my free quiz to discover what you truly want in love. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices