April 5, 2024 • 18 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Oh last almost Latina Proof and we're your hosts Tanny,
Stephi and Lily B.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
And this podcast is dedicated to our bilingual Latinas who
are resilient eleanas.
Speaker 1 (00:09):
And for the Latinos that resonate with the phrase zodia
ki idyah yah.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
Join us on this journey every week where we engage
in relatable conversations.
Speaker 1 (00:16):
Their uplifting stories and empowering insights from everything that is
Latina nap prooved.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
Welcome back.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
To the Latina Proof podcast where we explore cultural and
empowering topics for muhees emucho mucho mass.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
See, Claci and Tony. How are you doing today?
Speaker 1 (00:40):
I am doing great. I am happy and just feeling
super grateful. How are you same?
Speaker 2 (00:47):
Same feelings? You know, it's it's springtime. I don't know,
like the sun is out. I'm just loving life right now.
But I'm super excited for for this episode. You know,
today we're diving into the importance of building healthy relationships
and setting boundaries. And you know, before we get into this,
I do want to give a disclaimer that we're not
(01:08):
health professionals. This is all from our personal opinions, you know,
and our points of view. But you know, I hope
that this is helpful for anyone wanting to learn about this.
Speaker 1 (01:20):
Yes, yes, no, and thank you for that disclaimer. Definitely,
this podcast is meant to empower and take what you
feel it's beneficial, and don't take anything you don't find beneficial.
But we hope that you enjoy it. And you know,
just talking about how setting these boundaries and forming these
healthy relationships is really important because communication is crucial in
(01:45):
any relationship, and it's all about expressing yourself. Honestly, it's
about expressing yourself while also listening to the other person,
whether it's a partner, whether it's a friend, whether it's
a family member, or whether it's to an acquaintance or
a co worker, like it's always super important to also
(02:05):
listen to them. It's not just about you, but also
about caring about others.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
Yes, no, that's absolutely right, and sometimes that the listening
part can be a little you know, tough, but like
you said, active listening is key because it definitely shows
that you value and respect what the other person is saying.
You know, because everyone has like their their points of view,
they you know, how they see things. In your guys' relationships,
(02:32):
so it's definitely important to to have that open communication
and listen as well.
Speaker 1 (02:38):
Absolutely, And I think like in a relationship, it takes
two people, right, whether it's a friendship or partnership or
mental relationship. Like we mentioned, it takes two people. So
let's dive in. Let's dive in to our first which
is using I statements when expressing your feelings. And what
(03:01):
does this mean? This means this is super helpful to
have effective communication and relationships. Now by using ice statements,
this helps to avoid any blaming or accusing the other person.
For example, let me give you an example. Instead of
saying you always make me feel ignored, you can say
(03:21):
something like I feel ignored when we don't spend quality
time together. Now, Lily, I have a question for you,
like does this resonate with you? Is this something that
you have practiced in the past.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
Yeah, And I think that I've practiced this, like with
my own like romantic relationship, like with my boyfriends. I
tried to be you know, I tried to use eye
statements too, because I think that's the most like healthy
and you know, respectful way to do things. But for example, like,
but for example, if like he didn't text me back
(04:00):
for some reason, and instead of being like, well, you
you know, putting the lame on him, like you didn't
text me back, you know, I would say more like,
you know, I like when you text me, you know,
in a timely manner or something.
Speaker 1 (04:12):
You know, Okay, okay, yeah, no, no, that's great. I
think it's super helpful and useful to use those ice
statements because you know, you don't want to feel like
the other you're attacking the other person, because that's not
the case. And sometimes it's just a matter of like
rewording and rephrasing things.
Speaker 2 (04:31):
Well yeah, exactly, because you don't want to turn like
a fight into over nothing.
Speaker 3 (04:35):
Right.
Speaker 2 (04:36):
So it's how it's how you it's how you say things.
But another important aspect of communication is also being open
to feedback and criticism, which can be a little you know,
tough to listen to gig or you know, receive constructive criticism,
but it's important because it's how we learn and grow
(05:01):
in relationships.
Speaker 1 (05:04):
No, absolutely, And you know, another thing just to add
to that is to add clarification in any point so
that you avoid any misunderstandings. And you know, I want
to ensure that you know, it's being clear that we
should understand, try to understand, I would say, others perspectives,
(05:27):
because at least for me personally, I don't like either
parties being left out with a bad taste, you know,
because I believe it's all about peace, love and respect,
but also understanding that some people may need time to
process to clarify things. But in my case, for example,
I like to clear things out like right away. And
(05:49):
I know Lily you're the same way too, where you're like, no, like,
let's let's talk right now, Let's clear it out right now.
But not everyone is like that. Some people need time
and space and that's also respectable.
Speaker 2 (06:02):
Yeah, no, totally. Everyone like has their own way of
feeling and going through things, and like one thousand percent
agree with you. Like I know, for example, when we've had,
you know, to have tough conversations, we've always talked things
out right away and you know, respectfully, because that's how
it should be. But no, I'm the type of person
(06:22):
too that, like, if something's going on, like I just
kind of want to hash it out. I don't like
to like leave things just out there.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
No, definitely, that's always good and we would love to
hear like, what do you guys, how do you guys
like to handle like situations and talk things out. Do
you need a little bit more time to process? Are
you like no, you know what? Right now that it's
a hot topic, let's just talk about it. We'd love
to know, so definitely, dm us, dm us if you're
listening to this podcast episode, and it'd be great to
(06:55):
chat and get your point of view as well.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
And now let's move on to our next tip, which
is setting boundaries and asserting oneself because yeah, let's talk
more about boundaries because they are essential for healthy relationships
because they define what is acceptable and what is not.
Speaker 1 (07:17):
Yes, And you know, it's also important to identify your needs,
right and your values, And I think that's the first
step in really sending setting boundaries. You have to understand
who you are, know your limits, and communicate them clearly
to the person that you're in a relationship with, right,
So making sure that you know that, and I know
(07:38):
sometimes it isn't easy. Specifically for example, when we are
setting boundaries with and I'm gonna say it with our
Latino family, with our Latino vamiies, and you know what,
it can be seen as you don't want to partake
in a certain event, or it can even come across
as offensive, so that can be challenging. But I do
(08:01):
think it's important to explain where this boundary is coming
from so the person receiving it can have an easier
way to digest it and understand that, hey, this is
not coming from a bad place, but this is more
coming from like prioritizing, you know, my feelings or mental state,
(08:23):
which is I think it's totally okay to do that
as long as you're not hurting the other person.
Speaker 2 (08:30):
Yes, no, for sure. And I know we're talking about
boundaries and how but like let's talk about how to
really how you set boundaries right, And I think that
in setting boundaries, assertiveness is key here, you know, using
assertive communication techniques to express your boundaries without you know,
(08:52):
feeling guilty or you know, being apologetic about it. And
I know you mentioned like Latino families and I'm gonna
I'm gonna say it, I'm.
Speaker 3 (09:06):
Gonna get yeah, because this is something like sending boundaries
with family is it can be difficult, especially when you've
always just like I said, yes to everything, always even
when you haven't wanted to, because you feel guilty, and
you're made to feel guilty.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
But for example, like I remember there was this one
like family party my mom wanted me to go to,
but I had been like just overally overwhelmed with work
and like the last thing I wanted to do was
like go to like a party because I had just
been like so tired and so I like kind of
had to tell her, like, hey, you know, I just can't,
(09:49):
like mentally like go And it was a tough conversation
to have, but you know you have to when you're
not feeling it. It's like good for your mental health
to to just say no and set that boundary.
Speaker 1 (10:04):
Yes, no. And it's good that you mentioned that because
I feel like sometimes we do get kind of pressured
right well, not now, not anymore, because I think we're
both pretty good at like setting boundaries, but sometimes you
do get that pressure of like you need to go here,
you need to do this. But I think, sure, it's
definitely good to get out and do things, but as
(10:25):
long as you feel comfortable with it, and that that's
where knowing your limits is really important, like truly understanding
what your likes and dislikes are and communicating that effectively.
And one thing I do want to point out is
to remember that respecting others' boundaries is just as important
as setting your own, because and let me say it again,
(10:49):
it's important for you to respect other people's boundaries as well.
And you can't get like but heard about it or
offended because we're all different and we all have different expectations,
we all have different emotions, we all have different perspectives
and limits, right, so it's truly understanding, like, Okay, you
(11:10):
know what, that's their boundary. I'll be respectful of it
because I also know, you know, sometimes friends can get upset,
like if you don't attend a certain event or do something,
they might get upset or offended instead of being like,
you know what, like I understand, you know. And that's
one thing about our friendship that I feel like we
always see it from an understanding angle, you know, And
(11:33):
I think that's super important, where it's like we don't
get mad or upset about something. We just try to
figure out another way that, you know, because everything has
a solution. I think everything has a solution. So I
appreciate you for that, and I appreciate our friendship that
every time, you know, there's always something that you can
(11:55):
figure out with a person.
Speaker 2 (11:58):
Oh yeah, no, for sure. But it goes back to
like having an open and honest communication, right. It's it's
like everything we're talking about really like comes to play
and in maintaining like a healthy relationship.
Speaker 1 (12:12):
Absolutely, And you know, I think it's just just be
mindful of others. Yes, prioritize your emotions and feelings, communicate that,
but also be mindful of others, and when when needed,
sometimes it's okay to also prioritize theirs, you know, in
a healthy way.
Speaker 2 (12:28):
So yeah, and we're now that we're talking about this,
I have to share with you that I had to
practice this on my by my on myself because my
sister just told me that she was gonna be leaving
for my birthday. She's gonna go like with her and
her friends are like going somewhere, but she's like leaving
(12:49):
on the day of my birthday. And at first I
was kind of like salty, like, but it's my birthday
and you're my sister, Like how we're going to leave,
But then you know, we just laughed at I you know,
I'm gonna be bombed for sure, but also like I
respect and like I want her and her friends to
have a good time with whatever they're doing.
Speaker 1 (13:11):
No exactly, and then that's where the part of understanding
comes from, because I don't know, you know why you
know your sister's going or for the day of your birthday,
But it maybe made sense for her from her time perspective,
from her calendar, maybe her friends that was the time
they could get off, you know, and it just coincided
with your birthday. So it's also being understanding of that
(13:33):
maybe she hasn't seen her friends in a long time.
So I think that's totally okay as long as you're
able to talk it out and see her perspective. There's
a reason I doubt that she would say that, you know,
so I think always look at it from that angle.
Speaker 2 (13:49):
Yes, yes, And now we're going to share some more
tips of setting boundaries. So bear with me because we
have a few here. Okay, so we we we've written
some some examples out and one of them is to
be consistent in enforcing your boundaries because this values. This
(14:12):
shows that you value and respect yourself. So, like we said,
just like really being assertive and you know, enforcing you
know what what you stand for and what you're comfortable with.
Another tip would be to practice self care to recharge
and maintain your emotional wellbeing, you know, because all of
(14:33):
this strengthens your ability to assert boundaries. And the last
one is, you know, seeking support from trusted friends or
a therapist, you know, if you're struggling to set or
maintain a boundary. I know that tany like, I like
always call you if i'm you know, having a tough
(14:53):
time with you know, whoever coworker or another friend or
family member or something. I know that you're a friend
that I always seek out and you know, talk things through.
Speaker 1 (15:04):
Yes, no, and thank you for that, you know. I
think it's really important to be able to have those
conversations with trusted friends, you know. With with Lily, we
we what we do is like Okay, this is like
friend time, or like this is business time, this is
letting not approved time, Like I think, uh yeah, I
(15:24):
don't know, but that just works for us when we're
like in that mindset, we're like, Okay, this is what
we're gonna do, or like parities, but it could be
different for somebody else, you know, but definitely having that
support and you'll probably hear me say this in every
episode is the importance of therapy. Uh, even on your
best moments, you know, having those check ins with your therapists.
(15:45):
I think it's super healthy and just finding the right
fit for you. So definitely encourage, encourage that. Now something
that uh, and then we'll we'll close, we'll we'll close
the episode by also say it's important to recognize and
address unhealthy relationship dynamics. Okay, And this is important because
(16:07):
sometimes we oversee it. We oversee it, and we fail
to recognize the signs of having these unhealthy dynamics, such
as lack of respect, manipulation, verbal abuse. Sometimes we become
so immune to these behaviors. But it doesn't mean that
they are correct. It does not mean that this is
(16:28):
right or that you deserve this. It's okay to end
things with whoever is not respecting you, because that's not
that's not good, that's not good overall.
Speaker 2 (16:40):
Yeah, no, totally. And this could be anyone, right, it
could be if it could pertain to a friend, a
family member, a coworker, you know, whoever. It's good to
end things with people who aren't respecting you. And if
you notice these signs, you have to you should have
(17:00):
an open conversation with this person and address your concerns
and you know, be willing to also seek outside help.
Speaker 1 (17:08):
Yes, no, definitely it's important to seek outside help because
there's some things that friends simply cannot help you with,
you know, so definitely there are professionals out there that
can help navigate any type of relationship. Really, and remember
it's okay to prioritize your well being and walk away
from toxic relationships.
Speaker 2 (17:32):
Yes, no, definitely no, And I just want to say
that with this like super grateful for our friendship, super
grateful for like our business that we run everything that
we do. I'm super grateful and just want to continue
to lead with gratefulness and have really enjoyed doing this podcast.
Speaker 1 (17:56):
Yes, thank you likewise, and that's what it's about, and
we'll do our best to spread positive messages to the
audience that is listening to latinaproof podcasts. So thank you.
Speaker 2 (18:09):
E So that's a wrap for today's episode of Latina
Proof podcast. Thank you for joining us, and please continue
to tune in because we have so so much more
to share with you. And yeah, we'll close this and
just remember to prioritize healthy relationships and boundaries in your life,
Oh last almost Latina Proof and we're your hosts Tanny,
Stephi and Lily B.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
And this podcast is dedicated to our bilingual Latinas who
are resilient eleanas.
Speaker 1 (00:09):
And for the Latinos that resonate with the phrase zodia
ki idyah yah.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
Join us on this journey every week where we engage
in relatable conversations.
Speaker 1 (00:16):
Their uplifting stories and empowering insights from everything that is
Latina nap prooved.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
Welcome back.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
To the Latina Proof podcast where we explore cultural and
empowering topics for muhees emucho mucho mass.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
See, Claci and Tony. How are you doing today?
Speaker 1 (00:40):
I am doing great. I am happy and just feeling
super grateful. How are you same?
Speaker 2 (00:47):
Same feelings? You know, it's it's springtime. I don't know,
like the sun is out. I'm just loving life right now.
But I'm super excited for for this episode. You know,
today we're diving into the importance of building healthy relationships
and setting boundaries. And you know, before we get into this,
I do want to give a disclaimer that we're not
(01:08):
health professionals. This is all from our personal opinions, you know,
and our points of view. But you know, I hope
that this is helpful for anyone wanting to learn about this.
Speaker 1 (01:20):
Yes, yes, no, and thank you for that disclaimer. Definitely,
this podcast is meant to empower and take what you
feel it's beneficial, and don't take anything you don't find beneficial.
But we hope that you enjoy it. And you know,
just talking about how setting these boundaries and forming these
healthy relationships is really important because communication is crucial in
(01:45):
any relationship, and it's all about expressing yourself. Honestly, it's
about expressing yourself while also listening to the other person,
whether it's a partner, whether it's a friend, whether it's
a family member, or whether it's to an acquaintance or
a co worker, like it's always super important to also
(02:05):
listen to them. It's not just about you, but also
about caring about others.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
Yes, no, that's absolutely right, and sometimes that the listening
part can be a little you know, tough, but like
you said, active listening is key because it definitely shows
that you value and respect what the other person is saying.
You know, because everyone has like their their points of view,
they you know, how they see things. In your guys' relationships,
(02:32):
so it's definitely important to to have that open communication
and listen as well.
Speaker 1 (02:38):
Absolutely, And I think like in a relationship, it takes
two people, right, whether it's a friendship or partnership or
mental relationship. Like we mentioned, it takes two people. So
let's dive in. Let's dive in to our first which
is using I statements when expressing your feelings. And what
(03:01):
does this mean? This means this is super helpful to
have effective communication and relationships. Now by using ice statements,
this helps to avoid any blaming or accusing the other person.
For example, let me give you an example. Instead of
saying you always make me feel ignored, you can say
(03:21):
something like I feel ignored when we don't spend quality
time together. Now, Lily, I have a question for you,
like does this resonate with you? Is this something that
you have practiced in the past.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
Yeah, And I think that I've practiced this, like with
my own like romantic relationship, like with my boyfriends. I
tried to be you know, I tried to use eye
statements too, because I think that's the most like healthy
and you know, respectful way to do things. But for example, like,
but for example, if like he didn't text me back
(04:00):
for some reason, and instead of being like, well, you
you know, putting the lame on him, like you didn't
text me back, you know, I would say more like,
you know, I like when you text me, you know,
in a timely manner or something.
Speaker 1 (04:12):
You know, Okay, okay, yeah, no, no, that's great. I
think it's super helpful and useful to use those ice
statements because you know, you don't want to feel like
the other you're attacking the other person, because that's not
the case. And sometimes it's just a matter of like
rewording and rephrasing things.
Speaker 2 (04:31):
Well yeah, exactly, because you don't want to turn like
a fight into over nothing.
Speaker 3 (04:35):
Right.
Speaker 2 (04:36):
So it's how it's how you it's how you say things.
But another important aspect of communication is also being open
to feedback and criticism, which can be a little you know,
tough to listen to gig or you know, receive constructive criticism,
but it's important because it's how we learn and grow
(05:01):
in relationships.
Speaker 1 (05:04):
No, absolutely, And you know, another thing just to add
to that is to add clarification in any point so
that you avoid any misunderstandings. And you know, I want
to ensure that you know, it's being clear that we
should understand, try to understand, I would say, others perspectives,
(05:27):
because at least for me personally, I don't like either
parties being left out with a bad taste, you know,
because I believe it's all about peace, love and respect,
but also understanding that some people may need time to
process to clarify things. But in my case, for example,
I like to clear things out like right away. And
(05:49):
I know Lily you're the same way too, where you're like, no, like,
let's let's talk right now, Let's clear it out right now.
But not everyone is like that. Some people need time
and space and that's also respectable.
Speaker 2 (06:02):
Yeah, no, totally. Everyone like has their own way of
feeling and going through things, and like one thousand percent
agree with you. Like I know, for example, when we've had,
you know, to have tough conversations, we've always talked things
out right away and you know, respectfully, because that's how
it should be. But no, I'm the type of person
(06:22):
too that, like, if something's going on, like I just
kind of want to hash it out. I don't like
to like leave things just out there.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
No, definitely, that's always good and we would love to
hear like, what do you guys, how do you guys
like to handle like situations and talk things out. Do
you need a little bit more time to process? Are
you like no, you know what? Right now that it's
a hot topic, let's just talk about it. We'd love
to know, so definitely, dm us, dm us if you're
listening to this podcast episode, and it'd be great to
(06:55):
chat and get your point of view as well.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
And now let's move on to our next tip, which
is setting boundaries and asserting oneself because yeah, let's talk
more about boundaries because they are essential for healthy relationships
because they define what is acceptable and what is not.
Speaker 1 (07:17):
Yes, And you know, it's also important to identify your needs,
right and your values, And I think that's the first
step in really sending setting boundaries. You have to understand
who you are, know your limits, and communicate them clearly
to the person that you're in a relationship with, right,
So making sure that you know that, and I know
(07:38):
sometimes it isn't easy. Specifically for example, when we are
setting boundaries with and I'm gonna say it with our
Latino family, with our Latino vamiies, and you know what,
it can be seen as you don't want to partake
in a certain event, or it can even come across
as offensive, so that can be challenging. But I do
(08:01):
think it's important to explain where this boundary is coming
from so the person receiving it can have an easier
way to digest it and understand that, hey, this is
not coming from a bad place, but this is more
coming from like prioritizing, you know, my feelings or mental state,
(08:23):
which is I think it's totally okay to do that
as long as you're not hurting the other person.
Speaker 2 (08:30):
Yes, no, for sure. And I know we're talking about
boundaries and how but like let's talk about how to
really how you set boundaries right, And I think that
in setting boundaries, assertiveness is key here, you know, using
assertive communication techniques to express your boundaries without you know,
(08:52):
feeling guilty or you know, being apologetic about it. And
I know you mentioned like Latino families and I'm gonna
I'm gonna say it, I'm.
Speaker 3 (09:06):
Gonna get yeah, because this is something like sending boundaries
with family is it can be difficult, especially when you've
always just like I said, yes to everything, always even
when you haven't wanted to, because you feel guilty, and
you're made to feel guilty.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
But for example, like I remember there was this one
like family party my mom wanted me to go to,
but I had been like just overally overwhelmed with work
and like the last thing I wanted to do was
like go to like a party because I had just
been like so tired and so I like kind of
had to tell her, like, hey, you know, I just can't,
(09:49):
like mentally like go And it was a tough conversation
to have, but you know you have to when you're
not feeling it. It's like good for your mental health
to to just say no and set that boundary.
Speaker 1 (10:04):
Yes, no. And it's good that you mentioned that because
I feel like sometimes we do get kind of pressured
right well, not now, not anymore, because I think we're
both pretty good at like setting boundaries, but sometimes you
do get that pressure of like you need to go here,
you need to do this. But I think, sure, it's
definitely good to get out and do things, but as
(10:25):
long as you feel comfortable with it, and that that's
where knowing your limits is really important, like truly understanding
what your likes and dislikes are and communicating that effectively.
And one thing I do want to point out is
to remember that respecting others' boundaries is just as important
as setting your own, because and let me say it again,
(10:49):
it's important for you to respect other people's boundaries as well.
And you can't get like but heard about it or
offended because we're all different and we all have different expectations,
we all have different emotions, we all have different perspectives
and limits, right, so it's truly understanding, like, Okay, you
(11:10):
know what, that's their boundary. I'll be respectful of it
because I also know, you know, sometimes friends can get upset,
like if you don't attend a certain event or do something,
they might get upset or offended instead of being like,
you know what, like I understand, you know. And that's
one thing about our friendship that I feel like we
always see it from an understanding angle, you know, And
(11:33):
I think that's super important, where it's like we don't
get mad or upset about something. We just try to
figure out another way that, you know, because everything has
a solution. I think everything has a solution. So I
appreciate you for that, and I appreciate our friendship that
every time, you know, there's always something that you can
(11:55):
figure out with a person.
Speaker 2 (11:58):
Oh yeah, no, for sure. But it goes back to
like having an open and honest communication, right. It's it's
like everything we're talking about really like comes to play
and in maintaining like a healthy relationship.
Speaker 1 (12:12):
Absolutely, And you know, I think it's just just be
mindful of others. Yes, prioritize your emotions and feelings, communicate that,
but also be mindful of others, and when when needed,
sometimes it's okay to also prioritize theirs, you know, in
a healthy way.
Speaker 2 (12:28):
So yeah, and we're now that we're talking about this,
I have to share with you that I had to
practice this on my by my on myself because my
sister just told me that she was gonna be leaving
for my birthday. She's gonna go like with her and
her friends are like going somewhere, but she's like leaving
(12:49):
on the day of my birthday. And at first I
was kind of like salty, like, but it's my birthday
and you're my sister, Like how we're going to leave,
But then you know, we just laughed at I you know,
I'm gonna be bombed for sure, but also like I
respect and like I want her and her friends to
have a good time with whatever they're doing.
Speaker 1 (13:11):
No exactly, and then that's where the part of understanding
comes from, because I don't know, you know why you
know your sister's going or for the day of your birthday,
But it maybe made sense for her from her time perspective,
from her calendar, maybe her friends that was the time
they could get off, you know, and it just coincided
with your birthday. So it's also being understanding of that
(13:33):
maybe she hasn't seen her friends in a long time.
So I think that's totally okay as long as you're
able to talk it out and see her perspective. There's
a reason I doubt that she would say that, you know,
so I think always look at it from that angle.
Speaker 2 (13:49):
Yes, yes, And now we're going to share some more
tips of setting boundaries. So bear with me because we
have a few here. Okay, so we we we've written
some some examples out and one of them is to
be consistent in enforcing your boundaries because this values. This
(14:12):
shows that you value and respect yourself. So, like we said,
just like really being assertive and you know, enforcing you
know what what you stand for and what you're comfortable with.
Another tip would be to practice self care to recharge
and maintain your emotional wellbeing, you know, because all of
(14:33):
this strengthens your ability to assert boundaries. And the last
one is, you know, seeking support from trusted friends or
a therapist, you know, if you're struggling to set or
maintain a boundary. I know that tany like, I like
always call you if i'm you know, having a tough
(14:53):
time with you know, whoever coworker or another friend or
family member or something. I know that you're a friend
that I always seek out and you know, talk things through.
Speaker 1 (15:04):
Yes, no, and thank you for that, you know. I
think it's really important to be able to have those
conversations with trusted friends, you know. With with Lily, we
we what we do is like Okay, this is like
friend time, or like this is business time, this is
letting not approved time, Like I think, uh yeah, I
(15:24):
don't know, but that just works for us when we're
like in that mindset, we're like, Okay, this is what
we're gonna do, or like parities, but it could be
different for somebody else, you know, but definitely having that
support and you'll probably hear me say this in every
episode is the importance of therapy. Uh, even on your
best moments, you know, having those check ins with your therapists.
(15:45):
I think it's super healthy and just finding the right
fit for you. So definitely encourage, encourage that. Now something
that uh, and then we'll we'll close, we'll we'll close
the episode by also say it's important to recognize and
address unhealthy relationship dynamics. Okay, And this is important because
(16:07):
sometimes we oversee it. We oversee it, and we fail
to recognize the signs of having these unhealthy dynamics, such
as lack of respect, manipulation, verbal abuse. Sometimes we become
so immune to these behaviors. But it doesn't mean that
they are correct. It does not mean that this is
(16:28):
right or that you deserve this. It's okay to end
things with whoever is not respecting you, because that's not
that's not good, that's not good overall.
Speaker 2 (16:40):
Yeah, no, totally. And this could be anyone, right, it
could be if it could pertain to a friend, a
family member, a coworker, you know, whoever. It's good to
end things with people who aren't respecting you. And if
you notice these signs, you have to you should have
(17:00):
an open conversation with this person and address your concerns
and you know, be willing to also seek outside help.
Speaker 1 (17:08):
Yes, no, definitely it's important to seek outside help because
there's some things that friends simply cannot help you with,
you know, so definitely there are professionals out there that
can help navigate any type of relationship. Really, and remember
it's okay to prioritize your well being and walk away
from toxic relationships.
Speaker 2 (17:32):
Yes, no, definitely no, And I just want to say
that with this like super grateful for our friendship, super
grateful for like our business that we run everything that
we do. I'm super grateful and just want to continue
to lead with gratefulness and have really enjoyed doing this podcast.
Speaker 1 (17:56):
Yes, thank you likewise, and that's what it's about, and
we'll do our best to spread positive messages to the
audience that is listening to latinaproof podcasts. So thank you.
Speaker 2 (18:09):
E So that's a wrap for today's episode of Latina
Proof podcast. Thank you for joining us, and please continue
to tune in because we have so so much more
to share with you. And yeah, we'll close this and
just remember to prioritize healthy relationships and boundaries in your life,
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