September 23, 2023 • 43 mins
Ready for a hilarious and insightful journey through the minefield that is dating? We've got you covered! This episode offers a refreshing and honest look at some of our most memorable (and cringe-worthy) dates. From the guy who couldn't resist asking if I was in the country legally to the one who thought it was a good idea to bring a friend along unannounced, we've got stories that will leave you laughing, nodding in agreement, or shaking your head in disbelief.
We're not just about the laughs, though. Through our stories, we tackle serious topics like red flags in dating, age gaps, and even the way someone speaks about their exes. One of us recalls an uncomfortable date with an older man who seemed more interested in flaunting his success than connecting on a meaningful level. Our stories highlight the importance of setting boundaries when dating and what we've learned about ourselves through these experiences. We even toss in a light-hearted debate about the implications of birth control and the hypothetical scenario of men getting pregnant.
Safety is an issue we feel strongly about, and we share our top tips for ensuring personal safety when dating. Whether it's having a trusted friend on standby or making sure you share your location, our advice could make your dating adventures more secure. We wrap up this episode with a reminder that amidst the laughter and the anecdotes, there are valuable lessons to be learned about setting boundaries and understanding ourselves better. Follow us on Instagram and Facebook for more candid conversations on life, love, and all things awkward.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
This is Latina's State of Mind, a podcast created
by Latinas for all audiences,where we can share our
experiences about love, life andeverything in between.
Speaker 2 (00:28):
Hello everyone.
Happy Saturday, hope we'rehaving a wonderful day today and
welcome to another Latina'sState of Mind episode.
Speaker 3 (00:40):
I'm sorry, you guys we have a little too much energy
today, but we have a really funtopic.
Speaker 2 (00:46):
We always like to switch it up.
Guess what this topic is about.
Bad dates Be ones that we'vebeen in, and if you ever
considered being a bad date orif you have been a bad date,
we're gonna look at ourselves aswell.
Self awareness.
Speaker 1 (01:10):
Okay, my question is have you guys had a bad date?
Yes, you go first Me.
Yeah, I want to know.
Speaker 2 (01:17):
Who would do that to you?
Speaker 3 (01:19):
Right, I feel like for the most part they've been
good.
I also have really bad memories, so I feel like if someone's
not in my life anymore, Iusually don't remember a lot of
those stuff.
Speaker 2 (01:31):
I don't know if it's.
If they were not memorable,then it's whatever.
Speaker 3 (01:35):
I don't know if it's my body telling me you don't
need to keep that in your head.
But I do remember going on adate with a guy and I think we
had been talking for a littlebit and we decided to meet up
and go to eat.
And we went to eat and we werehaving, I think, an okay time
just talking about stuff orwhatever.
(01:56):
And then he mentioned, or heasked me if I was legally in the
country.
Oh what Fuck that guy?
And I was like, yes, and hemade a comment and something
else and we kept talking andthen by the end of the day he
was like, well, it looks likeI'm gonna get my green papers
(02:17):
now or my green card.
And I was like, oh, that's, I'mout what.
It was so weird.
It was weird.
That is weird yeah it was icky,but I think that was the only
date I had with him.
I hope Good she's like I hope.
I'm pretty sure it was.
(02:38):
It was a big turn off, I meanit's okay to talk about it, but
not like that.
Speaker 2 (02:43):
Not when you're like pushing it away yeah, no, you
can mention it like oh, yeah, Ihave student visa or whatever,
this and that, but like don'tsay, oh, here's my green card.
Speaker 3 (02:55):
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
That's so weird?
Yeah, it was weird.
Speaker 3 (02:59):
I was like, oh well, I guess I got a dinner out of it
and you got no papers bro I'mout of fucking social media.
Yeah, I think that's the one Ican remember.
That was like oh.
Speaker 2 (03:13):
Super memorable.
Yeah, in a bad way.
No, what about you guys?
Speaker 1 (03:18):
Yes, I have a couple.
I think I have two that I canremember that were like icky.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
Yeah, okay, so the first one he showed up with his.
We were going to go bowling, wewent bowling, but he showed up
with his best friend, okay what.
He showed up with his bestfriend, or and or a friend, I'm
not sure.
I didn't say what.
Yeah, it was just me and Ithought it was just going to be
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him and I had no idea that thiswas going to happen.
I had no knowledge that someoneelse was coming.
Speaker 1 (03:55):
I thought it was so weird.
Speaker 2 (03:57):
So is that like it has really weird right.
Speaker 3 (03:59):
That's never happened to me.
Yes, okay.
Speaker 2 (04:01):
And so it was super awkward.
He's looking.
I'm sorry, jerome is like shock.
Speaker 1 (04:07):
He's shocked.
Speaker 2 (04:08):
He's shook it, shook it, shook it and, yeah, I don't
know what was going through thisguy's mind, but he showed up
with his, he showed up with hiswith a buddy Bestie with his
buddy, and so it was just me andthese two other guys and it was
extremely awkward and I didsomething terrible.
I didn't do like too terrible,but we got our shoes or whatever
(04:35):
, I can't remember Like we wereabout to start bowling, and so I
went to the bathroom and Icalled my friend and I was like
hey, are you having an issueright now?
Are you having anything?
Anything is going on in yourlife right now, or do you want
to make something up, please?
Speaker 1 (04:54):
Like right now, yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:56):
So she, quote unquote , got a flat tire and I was the
one that's going to help her andfix her Nice vehicle.
So that's what happened, youknow, I just I don't know where,
I just had to leave.
Speaker 1 (05:11):
I would have left too , and I would have not even
given him an explanation.
I don't just know I grabbed myshoes and left.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
I can't remember.
Oh, I remember now.
I went to the bathroom, Italked to my friend.
I went back to the lane and Iwas like, oh my gosh, my friend
is in trouble.
I have to go.
Your actress.
They didn't believe me I didn'tgive a fuck, though I was
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leaving, and so I went back tothe to get my shoes and I left
because I am a really goodfriend and I have to go help her
out.
Speaker 3 (05:49):
That's weird.
Was the friend nice?
It looked like a good hangar.
No.
Speaker 2 (05:54):
They.
First of all, they were bothawkward as fuck.
I understand him being awkwardbecause it was our first date.
Speaker 1 (05:59):
But why would you bring your friend?
Speaker 2 (06:02):
Well, yeah, I don't understand that.
Excuse me To the man in theroom shaking his head he doesn't
understand you.
Speaker 3 (06:09):
He doesn't understand that Would you ever?
I mean not to a date like that.
No, and unless you have like adouble date and you're talking
to somebody and you're meetingsomeone there, but with a group
that it's different.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
Yeah, but like what did he think I was going to do?
Kill him?
No, he was a fun little girl.
Is that where your mind went?
I don't know.
I'm just generally confused,like why would you bring a
friend to your first date?
Emotional support.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
Maybe he was an social, maybe an anxious person.
Speaker 3 (06:40):
Maybe he was anxiety.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
But he should have said something.
Yeah, exactly, he surprised mewith it.
Speaker 3 (06:45):
Yeah, maybe he would have.
He should have said like hey,let's bring a friend.
Speaker 1 (06:49):
Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 2 (06:53):
And I said no that type of date.
Bring your friend for emotionalsupport.
Speaker 1 (06:58):
Bring your emotional support friend to the date.
That's cute, no.
Speaker 2 (07:03):
I'm just kidding.
If they would have beencommunication about this, most
likely I would have been like,okay, that's fine, but this, I
had not heard of this at all.
And so that happened and, yeah,I left and I never spoke to him
again.
Yeah, I mean it's his fault fordoing that.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (07:24):
I had two really awkward dates.
So the first one I met this guyon one of the dating apps and
he was like oh, I love salsadancing and this and this and I
just love it.
And I was like, oh, cool, likeI love it too.
And we went to a place herethat does like salsa dancing and
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we went to go have a margaritafirst and I met like we were
down there and there was one ofmy co workers there and she's
really pretty, and we sat downand they served us our drinks
and for some reason I owed her adrink and so I was like I got
your drink and he was like mineand I was like no, hers.
(08:08):
And he was like but you shouldget mine too.
And I was like what, I don'tknow, you like that?
And I was like we're on ourfirst date, bro, like what are
you talking about?
And so like she didn't knowwhat was going on and she was
like maybe you should get ourdrinks and he was like ha, no.
And then I paid for her and Ifor our drinks.
(08:31):
And then, like after that hekept like having conversation
with her, like just kind offlirting with her, and I was
like this is just really awkward, should I be like?
And I could tell that she feltawkward and she was like I'm
gonna see you guys later.
And then we went up to the tothe second floor to dance and he
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spent me really fast anddropped me and then I was just
like okay.
And then he picked me up andhe's like, well, you're terrible
at this.
And I was like I think you'rethe terrible one because this
has never happened before.
And so he was like well, how doyou know that girl?
And like trying to get moreinformation about my friend, and
(09:14):
I was like I'm gonna go to thebathroom and I just left.
Speaker 2 (09:18):
Did you ever hear from them again?
No, yeah, no, but it was justawkward.
Speaker 1 (09:22):
He was like an older guy and I remember that I didn't
trust him very well because Iremember him being like oh, I
own this company and I own thisand I own that, and you know
like he was just like braggingabout how good, and I was like
if you own your own company, whywould you want me to pay for
your drink?
Speaker 2 (09:41):
With a low life.
Yeah, you know.
Speaker 1 (09:43):
So then I've obviously never talked to that
guy again.
And then I met another guy onanother app.
And he him and I got like hit itoff so well, like we would talk
all the time and I was likereally excited about him and he
was like it seemed like he wasreally excited about me.
He was like, would you go on adate with me?
(10:04):
And I was like, yeah, like thatwould be so much fun.
And I just remember like beingso excited because he was like a
really genuinely nice guy.
We had a great conversationthroughout the night.
It was it was really good.
And then we started talking forsome reason, about religion and
I told him that I had grown upMormon and he was like no, and I
(10:27):
was like what?
And he's like I can do that.
He said for those reasons, I'mout.
Yeah, like basically, and I waslike what?
And he had literally justbought me ice cream at
McDonald's and he's like I'mgonna go.
And he just like left me there.
Are you just sitting there withmy ice cream?
And I was like what justhappened, like I was so confused
(10:49):
and like he was like no, Ican't.
And I he just like noexplanation.
Like he could have saidsomething like hey, there's
trauma in my life about Mormons,or I don't believe in that.
Or like something he just saidno, I can't.
And walked away.
Speaker 2 (11:03):
I was like oh, you said I grew up Mormon.
Speaker 1 (11:06):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:06):
I didn't say.
Speaker 1 (11:07):
I am Mormon.
Yeah, it was super awkward andI just remember being like.
I think it's because I'm fat.
I just like took it in adifferent direction.
And then I got home and I waslike Whoa, like that was so
weird.
And then I texted him and I waslike what happened?
And he never texted me back.
No, explanation.
Speaker 2 (11:28):
I mean I'm sorry if that guy went through.
I'm sure it's a relationshipwith relationship.
Speaker 1 (11:34):
I'm sure it's something traumatic and I felt
bad at one point but he shouldhave said something.
Yeah, it was super awkward.
Speaker 2 (11:41):
Because I feel like you could have bonded over, you
know.
Speaker 1 (11:44):
Our religious trauma.
Speaker 2 (11:46):
Yeah the faults that the religion has?
Speaker 3 (11:48):
Yeah, exactly, has that ever happened to you guys,
when you're on a date and theysay something and you're like oh
, this is my cutie, leave,uh-huh?
Speaker 1 (11:56):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (11:57):
What was it yeah?
Speaker 1 (11:58):
yeah yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:59):
The second, this other date that I went to, and
you know what this brings up apoint this date he was also an
older man and he'd never beenmarried and I knew that should
have been a red flag.
Because why does?
I'm sorry to say this, but like, why does no one want to?
Like I could understand, whydoes no one want you?
Maybe like a divorce, but likea 45 plus year old man, never
(12:26):
been married.
He was older than that, but I'mnot going to say he's actually
age.
Speaker 3 (12:31):
Is that your demographic?
Speaker 1 (12:33):
Her demographic is very wide.
Speaker 2 (12:35):
Yes, actually that's true, it's ever changing 22 to
50.
Speaker 1 (12:40):
No, I don't like him younger than me.
Really.
Speaker 2 (12:42):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (12:44):
Not that kind of person.
Speaker 2 (12:45):
No, no, you know what ?
Yeah, never change.
Well, maybe I should change itup.
Yeah, and that's a good point.
But yes, this guy older person,and you said he was 65?
No, I'm after that retirementmoney.
Speaker 3 (13:01):
I didn't see that A year for a one K.
Speaker 1 (13:06):
Show me the 401K and we're talk Hell yeah, but OK, so
first, first red flag.
Speaker 2 (13:14):
I got there it was a great bar actually and I wish I
could remember the name of it.
It was out in Denver.
But he ordered for me and I waslike, what Red flag?
Speaker 1 (13:24):
Nope, don't order for me.
Speaker 2 (13:27):
And so we were at a Martini place and I think this
is so tacky.
But he was like put all theolives that you can on the pick.
You know, usually it's supposedto have like three or like an
odd number, because supposedlylike even amount of olives is
bad luck, supposedly I'm notsure but he was like put as many
olives as you can on the pick.
(13:48):
And I was like no, I'm stucky.
Just let them prepare how it'ssupposed to be prepared.
That was another one First ofall ordering and then making
that comment.
I don't know.
To me it was like a red flag.
And then finally, I still stuckthrough it.
(14:11):
He was talking a lot, whatever,no big deal.
I was after the 401k.
I can you know, I'll say thatthat's fine.
I knew it.
We were walking around the cityand in one of those moments he
said I could just kidnap youright now.
And I was like what?
(14:32):
He's like, yeah, I could justtake you right now.
Speaker 1 (14:35):
Oh, let's just give you chills.
Exactly that's creepy.
Speaker 2 (14:38):
Imagine hearing it and then it was kind of late-ish
at night and it just like threwme off and I was like oh, this
is my cuticle.
You just said ready and no, no,but pepper spray.
I kept it together.
I kept it together so I couldget to my car safely.
Speaker 1 (14:55):
OK, I'm going to stop you there and say don't keep it
together.
If you ever feel threatened byany man or any person in general
, and you have that feeling whenyour body is telling you
something's not right, don't bepolite.
No, polite is not going to saveyour life.
Speaker 3 (15:14):
Just go.
Speaker 2 (15:15):
Yeah, because that's weird.
That was pretty weird.
So my reaction at the momentwas to keep it together, and
just until I could get to myvehicle and just leave.
But you're right, completelyright, don't keep it together,
just say something.
Yeah, walk away.
Speaker 3 (15:30):
Unless, I guess, you feel like you could be in danger
, then I understand that.
Assess the situation.
Speaker 2 (15:36):
But you're right.
Speaker 3 (15:37):
Don't be polite.
Speaker 2 (15:38):
Yeah, don't be polite , don't be polite.
But yes, I got to my vehicle.
He asked for a kiss and I waslike mm.
Speaker 3 (15:45):
That's creepy.
Speaker 2 (15:45):
Disgusting.
And you know what I gave him alittle peck, you did.
Yeah, unfortunately.
Speaker 3 (15:50):
I'm not touching you.
Speaker 2 (15:51):
Thank you, and that was it.
Speaker 3 (15:53):
I think I texted him Turn around and lift this walker
.
Speaker 2 (15:56):
Yeah, I got a walker.
It's a walker, it's a walker,it's a walker, it's a walker.
It's a walker it's a walker,it's a walker, it's a walker.
But you know what?
That's all right, I let him go.
Oh my gosh, I'm fine.
I'm fine, I know.
(16:18):
Yeah, he was.
I mean, he's pretty close, I'mjust kidding.
But yeah, that's what happened.
And I texted him, but it wasbasically like I'm never going
to see you again, sort of text.
Yeah, that's wild.
I know, my bad date story wenteverywhere.
(16:41):
I know it's great, oh gosh, andI'm sorry.
Speaker 1 (16:45):
You were going to say another one.
Another one was your date.
Oh no, my, I went to US If wehad something that we knew like.
Speaker 3 (16:52):
Oh yeah, like when you were on your date, you were
like uh no, this is not going towork.
Speaker 1 (16:55):
Okay, mine was.
I got set up on a blind datewith this guy and he showed up
in gym shorts Like dirty when,excuse me, where was the date we
were going to go to dinner toum?
Speaker 2 (17:08):
As soon as you said dinner, I'm like oh, Carrabbas,
or something like that.
Speaker 1 (17:11):
Italian place.
Speaker 2 (17:12):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (17:13):
But still, yeah, like full on gym shorts, like Like
gym shorts and like some raggedyass t-shirt.
I put on makeup for this date.
I put on perfume I picked outmy next, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3 (17:29):
Exactly Like you couldn't at least wear jeans?
Yeah, like a little effort isnice yeah.
Speaker 1 (17:35):
And your shirt smell like you didn't dry it all the
way and you just like put itaway.
It's like musty, yeah, so.
Speaker 2 (17:44):
I was like, sorry, she's very familiar with this.
Speaker 3 (17:51):
She almost threw up.
I know, I know.
Speaker 2 (17:54):
I'm stuck over here, no.
Speaker 3 (17:56):
No.
Speaker 2 (17:57):
I'm not used to that smell.
I'm just kidding, anyway, butyeah, so I'm not used to that
smell.
I'm just kidding, anyway, butyeah.
Speaker 1 (18:12):
So I did get free dinner out of it, okay.
And then I was like I'm tired,I'm going to go.
Bye, have a good night.
Speaker 3 (18:19):
Bye, you're ready for bed.
Speaker 1 (18:20):
No, I felt like I was disrespectful.
Maybe he was going to the gymafter.
Maybe I was going to the gymafter and I still dressed up.
Yes, exactly.
What a weirdo.
Oh man, how about you?
Speaker 3 (18:36):
I don't know.
I don't think I had a lot oflike only one date and then
nothing happened.
She was like I'm so perfectEveryone loves me so much.
Speaker 1 (18:45):
Everybody should love at the top of their game for me
.
Speaker 3 (18:49):
I'm wondering if I was the bad date for anyone but
I don't think so.
I do remember, though, one timeI went on a date with a girl
our first date and we met at abar and it was cool, and then we
were going back to the car.
We rode in those bikes wheresomeone's pulling the front door
and she kept trying to take apicture of us and I just didn't
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want to and I think we weregoing to hang out.
But she got mad at me because Isaid no, what?
Speaker 1 (19:17):
And she was like yeah , but that's weird to take a
picture with somebody on thefirst date.
Speaker 3 (19:21):
It was odd yeah.
Speaker 1 (19:22):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (19:23):
I did date her for a while.
She likes red flags.
Speaker 3 (19:29):
It was a bad experience, but yeah, I should
have known.
Like this is weird Red flags.
She got really upset.
She didn't want to hang outwith me afterwards and then she
reached out.
It was like I'm being stupid itwas weird, it was weird, that
is weird, I didn't want topicture you?
Speaker 2 (19:48):
I mean it's understandable.
Yeah, do you think you've everbeen a bad date?
Speaker 1 (19:52):
No, I don't think so I mean.
I guess I was to that guybecause I told him I was Mormon.
How dare you yeah.
Speaker 3 (19:59):
How dare you go?
To Mormon how dare you go tochurch?
Speaker 2 (20:05):
Yeah, no, because I've always dressed up.
I've always looked good, I'vealways tried.
Speaker 1 (20:14):
Yeah, I tried yeah.
Speaker 2 (20:15):
I've always tried, so no, I can't consider myself a
bad date, because I always try.
Speaker 3 (20:19):
I wonder if I ever was maybe too quiet.
But then now that I think aboutit I'm like maybe I wasn't
really interested.
Maybe, but I can see thathappening.
Speaker 2 (20:28):
A little bit of shyness is completely
understandable.
I mean, all right, I always tryto be extra friendly.
Speaker 1 (20:37):
Just to break that awkward silence.
Speaker 3 (20:40):
I hate that.
Speaker 1 (20:41):
So no, I'm not a bad date.
Speaker 2 (20:43):
No, I'm not a bad date either.
Why I'm not married?
I have no fucking clue, yeah.
Speaker 1 (20:53):
No pressure.
Speaker 2 (20:54):
No pressure, no comment, yeah, none.
How about do you ever regret adate because the relationship
was bad?
Speaker 3 (21:07):
Yes, yes, that date that I talked about, that one,
that one for sure Gosh, I havethis one.
Speaker 2 (21:13):
I wish I would have never been on that date, because
then that man dragged me alongfor so long and to a point I got
, to a point that I was like Iwish I would have never met you.
I wish I would have never beenon that date, but that's just
that hurt me talking.
Speaker 1 (21:34):
For a really long time.
For a really really long time,I regretted the person I dated
before my husband.
Like I was like fuck that guy,I hate him, blah, blah, blah.
All those things right, Becausehe did drag me along, he played
with my feelings, he all thosethings.
But today I can say, eh, Ineeded that experience Because I
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was a different person beforehim and I think if I were to
come to my husband now theperson I was before this guy,
our relationship would have notworked out.
So I needed to go through thatweird hurt and weird growth to
be in a better place.
Speaker 2 (22:14):
Yeah, you know what it's a good way to look at it.
I understand that, because nowI'm grateful, because you're
right, I learned to kind ofadvocate for myself more.
Speaker 1 (22:25):
Yeah, exactly, then you learn your boundaries.
Speaker 2 (22:27):
Yes, that and you're like OK, if I am going to get,
at least now, I'm like, if I'mgoing to be in a relationship,
it's going to be full on or fulloff.
Exactly no halves, noin-betweens, and you're right,
shout out to that man.
Speaker 1 (22:42):
I mean still fuck you a little, but a lot no
definitely Fuck you a lot.
Yeah For true love, but thanks,but thanks, because I learned
more about myself oh man, youguys, where do you think it's a
bad date place to go to?
Speaker 3 (23:04):
Where would you be like a?
I don't want to go there forfirst date.
Speaker 1 (23:06):
I don't think there's such thing as a bad date place.
I think with the right personyou can have some.
The shittiest place can be areally good date.
Speaker 2 (23:17):
You know now, I used to be a dinner kind of girl,
like you have to take them outto dinner.
Now, more of a like coffee ordrink or like something small,
kind of like to see what kind ofindividual you are, yeah,
that's fine.
Because I don't want to spend awhole dinner and like have a
conversation with you, noteveryone invests too much time.
(23:40):
You know why I don't I thinkcoffee is a good idea.
Speaker 3 (23:44):
Exactly.
Speaker 2 (23:44):
Like I have a lot going on in my life.
I need to like kind of check itout first before.
Speaker 1 (23:50):
I get coffee or a drink and or a drink.
Speaker 2 (23:52):
Yeah, like a small bite sort of thing, but I don't
know, just to kind of gauge theother person.
So like a date before the datetype of thing, yeah, exactly
Because then you'll be I don'tknow, I think you'll maybe more
excited to go on the second date.
Yeah, because you're like.
Ok, now I'm spending more timewith this individual.
Speaker 1 (24:12):
And I actually like this person.
Speaker 3 (24:15):
Or if things go well, then you can extend the date.
That's true.
That hasn't happened yet.
Speaker 2 (24:22):
But, I was hoping, I was still hoping.
Speaker 1 (24:26):
Four hours long, right Wow.
Speaker 3 (24:29):
Oh, that's cute, that is really cute.
Speaker 2 (24:31):
You guys actually liked each other.
Speaker 1 (24:33):
Yeah, A lot, let's be honest.
But our first actual date wasover FaceTime because it was
during COVID.
So I remember he suggested itand I was like sir.
I'm not going to cyber sex withyou on our first date.
(24:53):
I love that.
Speaker 3 (24:54):
That's the first thing that you thought that was
the first thing I thought about.
Speaker 1 (24:58):
And then he was like no, netflix can do these share
screen movie thing and we canwatch a movie at the same time.
And I was like, ok, and Iremember being so nervous and I
was like, ok, wear a nice shirt,hide your body, make sure he
doesn't see all your flaws.
And then he was like, should Isend you some popcorn or
(25:22):
something?
And I was like, oh no, he'sgoing to know my address.
Speaker 3 (25:26):
No, it's.
Speaker 1 (25:26):
OK, I'll get my own ice cream.
So then I remember being sonervous and I had told everybody
that I was going to have acyber date.
Speaker 2 (25:37):
Cyber sex date.
Speaker 3 (25:38):
Yeah, cyber sex date.
Speaker 1 (25:40):
And then we watched a .
What movie was it?
Speaker 2 (25:43):
She was her favorite little joint for Netflix.
Speaker 1 (25:46):
For the Netflix oh are we Was it talking, stop
talking.
My mother-in-law assisted me.
Speaker 2 (25:55):
Oh, so sorry, no, just kidding Anyway she's
wearing lingerie For her cyberdate Cyber sex date.
Speaker 1 (26:07):
We watched a scary movie.
It was kind of lame and scaryall at the same time.
He's offended.
It was some texting movieremember, so I don't remember
what it's called.
Speaker 2 (26:18):
He's not going to say my name, you are not forgiven
for that.
Speaker 1 (26:23):
Yeah, sorry, clearly.
Speaker 2 (26:25):
Yeah, it's not a great movie.
Speaker 1 (26:27):
I'm sorry, but yeah.
Then we used to just hang outon FaceTime all the time.
I love that.
That's cute yeah.
Speaker 2 (26:35):
That reminded me of another bad day.
Speaker 1 (26:37):
OK, share yeah tell us.
Speaker 2 (26:39):
We went to the movies and I've never been on a date
to a movie like a third date toa movie.
Ok, Because he fell asleep.
Speaker 1 (26:50):
He was probably tired , he probably was, and I
understand that.
Speaker 2 (26:55):
Yeah, true, and that's fine, but I just looked
over and he was out.
He's out snoring out oh.
Did you just get up and leave?
What did I do?
I think I finished the movie.
I mean, I don't know.
I waited for him to wake up.
I pretended like I didn't see,Like oh my gosh the movie.
(27:18):
I was just looking sideways tosee if he was awake Try and push
him a little bit.
Speaker 1 (27:30):
I'm sorry, I was just putting my jacket on.
Speaker 2 (27:33):
And we did leave together, but I don't think I
ever spoke to him again.
Speaker 3 (27:38):
no, yeah, he's probably tired yeah.
Speaker 2 (27:42):
Oh, well, so funny.
So now the first date's.
Speaker 1 (27:47):
No movies, no movies.
Speaker 3 (27:48):
That's like a hard place for a first date, because
you can't really talk to them?
Speaker 1 (27:51):
Yeah, I get to.
That's just the name of them,Like that's a good.
Speaker 3 (27:54):
Second, third date date.
Speaker 1 (27:55):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (27:56):
I agree, but a first one that's interesting.
Ok, no movie dates.
Speaker 2 (28:00):
Yeah, no movie dates.
So, yeah, that's another baddate that I had.
It wasn't that bad, but still.
Speaker 1 (28:07):
No movies.
Speaker 3 (28:09):
No movies either.
Speaker 1 (28:11):
Interesting, interesting.
Speaker 2 (28:13):
I can't believe you haven't had any bad dates, I
mean the one that I told youguys about.
Speaker 3 (28:20):
That's the only one I know One I keep remembering.
Speaker 1 (28:23):
You guys keep mentioning stuff and then you
keep thinking about it.
Speaker 3 (28:26):
Yeah, I really can't remember.
I'm sure I have, but, like Isaid, my brain does not keep
that.
Speaker 2 (28:32):
Because it wasn't memorable enough, they weren't
as important.
It's not, it was traumatic.
Speaker 3 (28:37):
It's just not necessary in my life.
Speaker 1 (28:41):
Necessary information .
Speaker 2 (28:43):
Your brain was like we're not filing this yeah.
Speaker 3 (28:46):
Toss it Trash.
Speaker 2 (28:49):
Oh, she said trash.
If you've ever been on a datewith Nancy, guess what.
Speaker 3 (28:53):
No, please.
Speaker 2 (28:55):
No.
Speaker 3 (28:56):
The next, just give it to yourself.
Speaker 1 (28:59):
It's all good.
If you've ever been on a datewith Nancy, send us a message.
Speaker 2 (29:04):
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Speaker 1 (29:07):
Leave a comment.
That'd be cool.
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Speaker 2 (29:13):
Send us a DM.
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No names will be shared.
Speaker 1 (29:19):
We'll just experience it, we just want to know,
Because I mean we're just goingto know how great it was for you
.
Speaker 2 (29:25):
Thank you, I mean, ok , if that's what you think.
Anyways, gosh, what else I'mtrying to think of any other
date?
I've been not going to lie.
I've been on a lot of dates,but I can't remember them all.
Speaker 3 (29:44):
I didn't go on a lot of dates.
No, do you guys feel likefinding dates on apps is a good
option Sometimes?
Yeah, I don't think it'shorrible, or it wasn't when I
was using them.
Speaker 2 (29:55):
No See, when I was younger I had less, not
expectations, but I guessstandards I'm not coming for you
today, I promise I'd sound likeshe is.
Speaker 3 (30:14):
I know right.
Speaker 2 (30:15):
Yeah, I thought we were together in this, no, but I
didn't care much abouteducation or job or just overall
mental health and being a goodhuman being.
Speaker 3 (30:29):
Exactly.
Speaker 2 (30:30):
Being a decent human being.
I didn't care about that asmuch, but now I do.
So now I go on less dates.
Speaker 1 (30:38):
That makes sense.
Speaker 2 (30:39):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (30:42):
But when you guys were doing, when you go on dates
, is there a question that youmust ask?
Speaker 2 (30:49):
There's not a question question, but I do like
to know what you're for a 1K.
Well before that, I like toknow about your relationship
with your parents and or mom.
Speaker 1 (31:02):
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (31:03):
That's a good one.
I don't directly ask, but I'llbring it up somehow.
I'll bring up my family and belike oh, I like my parents, Do
you?
Because I think especially it'simportant to like your mom, or
at least well, actually let metake that back.
If you have a relationship withyour mom, have a good
(31:25):
relationship with your mom, yeah.
But if you show kind of likehate, I'm not into that.
You can be indifferent, but Idon't think you should be
hateful.
So that's one of the things.
And then I'll ask about yourretirement plans.
Speaker 3 (31:41):
I dated someone who called her mama a bitch, and I
dated them for a while.
Damn it, nancy.
I should have known, you shouldhave known I was so young
though.
Speaker 2 (31:51):
OK, yeah, exactly.
Yeah, you learned that with age.
That's what happened to me aswell.
Speaker 1 (31:56):
I want to know how these people talk about their
exes.
Speaker 2 (32:00):
Ew, that's a red flag to me.
No, because OK, sure, yeah,sure.
Speaker 1 (32:04):
Here's the thing when somebody talks shit about an ex
and they're like, oh, thisperson was crazy, this person is
blah, blah, blah.
That's telling you only theirside of their story but when
somebody's like oh yeah, Ididn't work out, like they have
nothing to say, Like they grewthey, whatever happened,
happened.
But when a man or when anybodytrashes another person, that
(32:28):
tells you a lot about theircharacter and who they are and
how they're going to talk aboutyou.
That's a good point actually.
Speaker 3 (32:34):
And.
Speaker 1 (32:34):
I obviously don't want to hear it on the first
date, but I learned to payattention to that Cues.
That's important yeah.
Speaker 2 (32:41):
No, See the reason I don't like to hear anything
about exes.
It's important.
Neither trash or like, for Iguess I don't know, Like never
during that relationship.
Speaker 3 (32:55):
No yeah, I.
Speaker 2 (33:00):
Really, I I don't know if it's jealousy, I'm not
sure, but I just I'm notinterested in you thinking about
that other individual at all.
Speaker 1 (33:09):
I think for me it's move on.
It's a lot of like yourexperiences.
It's a lot of your experiencesand how you dealt with those
people, because then you, I feellike you learn a lot about
People and how they deal withothers.
Like I dated men.
They're like, oh, she was crazyand this and this, and blah,
(33:31):
blah, blah and my ex this.
And then, once we were done,they were talking the same kind
of shit about me and I wasn'tthe crazy one.
They were the crazy ones.
Yeah, and that's your side ofthe story, exactly.
But my husband was marriedbefore me and now once has he
(33:52):
ever said anything bad about hisex-wife, like not once has he
Called her a bad name, likedidn't work out, and like he
doesn't need to go into detailsand he's respectful to her
because they were together forhowever long, and you know, like
I think that's important.
Speaker 3 (34:08):
Yeah, I don't.
I mean, I don't care if theyhave an opinion.
I think, yeah, I've.
They're trashing every one oftheir exes and it's a sign that,
yeah, they're the problem.
But yeah, it's weird.
I want to know everything.
Hmm and I hate it.
Speaker 2 (34:21):
And it hurts me, but like you, like it at the same
time.
Speaker 3 (34:24):
I hate it, but I want to know more.
Speaker 1 (34:27):
But I'm the cello.
Sign this groove, I'm.
Speaker 3 (34:38):
Another level unlocked.
Speaker 2 (34:40):
Yeah, I don't want to hear it.
I do understand yourperspective of getting to know
them and how they think aboutthe other person, but I don't.
Speaker 1 (34:49):
I mean, I don't want to hear details either.
I don't, I don't like, I don'tlike anybody.
You dated before me.
She's like wait, I'm not no.
Speaker 2 (35:09):
Opposite sides.
You're like, yes, I want toknow everything and I'm over
here, like no, I'm in the middle.
Speaker 1 (35:14):
Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 3 (35:17):
No, no yeah.
Speaker 1 (35:18):
Yeah, what are we up to next, nancy?
Speaker 3 (35:36):
I think that's it.
Yeah, I think we're done.
Have a good night.
Yeah, I totally hate it.
What?
Speaker 2 (35:42):
prefer to be called an asshole in a butt cheek.
Oh my gosh, we're gonna switchit up just a Tunze bit.
(36:05):
Who in this room has takenbirth?
I just have a problem with it.
No, I'm sorry, I don't have aproblem with both control,
please take your birth control.
Exactly, I am pro birth control.
(36:26):
Learn about it.
Speaker 3 (36:28):
La, la, la, whatever.
Speaker 2 (36:29):
I just have an issue whenever that there's no, at
least as of now there's not awhole lot of options for women,
you know, there's only certainoptions for women and there are
even less options for men.
Yeah, and I think this shouldfall in the responsibility of
the man, at least, at least fromnow on.
(36:51):
I have you guys seen I've takenthe pill form have you guys
seen the sheet that comes withthe side effects?
The side effects exactly?
It's a poster.
Yep, it's like literally a bookis the size of a poster and
it's tiny, tiny, tiny hand, nothandwriting, but typed letters.
(37:13):
It's a little bit of a fun, yeah, whatever.
Anyways, I'm just we have to gothrough so much.
Yeah, the birth control haschanged my body and I'm still
trying to recover from it.
I've been off of it for quite abit and the first few months it
(37:34):
was it was very difficult.
It was very difficult.
Control sucks.
Yeah, exactly, can men pleaselive a little bit of this, and
you know what would happen,though it pissed me off.
It would be legal.
First of all, abortion would belegal If men could get pregnant
.
If men could get pregnant,there would be so many options
for birth control and theywouldn't affect their hormones
(37:57):
as much as they do now.
That's pissed me off.
Speaker 3 (38:01):
I'm mad.
It's crazy because as a woman,you can get pregnant and then
you can't get pregnant again fornine months, whereas a man can
get someone pregnant.
Every single day, multipletimes a day, multiple times a
day If they can yeah, but itmakes no sense, like, why isn't
that what we're trying?
Speaker 2 (38:18):
to stop Exactly.
Why are we not paying attentionto that?
Speaker 1 (38:20):
You know what makes me really mad I'm enjoying this
range when there's like a couplethat are like together and have
a life, and then the womangives birth and the man refuses
to get their vasectomy.
Like, excuse me, sir, she justgave birth to your children, she
just took birth control, shebreastfed them, she pushed them
(38:42):
out of her body and you cannotget a little nip on your body to
help your wife out so that shedoesn't have to deal with the
stupid side effects of birthcontrol Selfish?
Speaker 2 (38:55):
Extremely.
We need to take down thepatriarch I held on to that
microphone.
Real well, bring it down.
I'm just kidding.
We just need to share a littlebit more, but anyways, I'm mad
about that, no.
Speaker 1 (39:14):
And honestly the way.
So I was first put on birthcontrol.
Because of something calledPCOS that I have, my periods
were like months long sometimes.
Speaker 2 (39:27):
It's like a irregular hormone thing.
I don't know about it.
Speaker 1 (39:32):
Yeah, it's a weird thing, but I was put on them
when I was a teenager.
I remember being likesomething's not right, like I
was suicidal, like my hormoneswere out of control, like I just
remember being in a weird darkplace and I didn't understand
why, and like I've always beenlike a pretty happy, go lucky
(39:53):
kid, like I was.
I'd never felt like that beforeand once I got off of it I was
like, oh, I was back to mynormal self.
And then I recently had alittle surgery and I was put on
birth control before it and Ijust remember just being
miserable and feeling terribleand like birth control sucks.
(40:17):
No matter what form of it, itsucks.
Speaker 2 (40:20):
Like all of it.
I had the next one on and I gotdepression.
It's the same thing.
I was always.
You know I wasn't the happiestkid, but I wasn't a depressive
kid either, and I got depressionafter that and it was a very
dark place.
Speaker 1 (40:39):
And you gained so much weight.
That, too, like we all gainedso much weight with birth
control.
Speaker 2 (40:45):
And I mean, at least I didn't have a kid.
Speaker 3 (40:49):
But it's not even 100%.
Exactly, that's the thing.
Speaker 2 (40:52):
It's like a 99, if even a 99,.
Speaker 3 (40:55):
I'm not even sure what it?
Speaker 2 (40:56):
is, but it's not even a sure thing, and at least I
didn't have a child.
But damn did I suffer so yeah.
Speaker 1 (41:03):
What do we do?
I don't know, make man do it.
Speaker 3 (41:06):
Yeah, it makes, no sense it really does Like
biologically because of howthings work.
Yes, it makes no sense.
Speaker 2 (41:13):
Going back to your point, a woman can get pregnant
once a year, get retake and,like you said, a man can have
multiple.
It makes no sense.
Who do we call?
I wanna say Obama, Michellewhere are you?
Speaker 3 (41:30):
Michelle.
Speaker 1 (41:31):
Michelle Obama.
Speaker 2 (41:32):
We miss you.
Can you be our president next?
Thank you, she wouldn't.
Speaker 1 (41:37):
No, no.
Can you believe that she's toogood for that?
She is too good for that.
Speaker 2 (41:42):
Anyways, that's my daily shift for today.
Speaker 1 (41:44):
I like your daily shift.
Speaker 2 (41:45):
Stupid men.
Speaker 1 (41:46):
Hahaha.
Anyways, thank you.
Any closing thoughts on our baddates?
Speaker 2 (41:57):
Look at the red flags .
Look at the red flags.
Yeah, they'll be there right infront, right at the beginning.
Speaker 1 (42:02):
Don't be polite.
If you don't want to be in thedate, you can go, yeah.
Speaker 3 (42:09):
You're welcome for being part of your experience,
you're welcome.
Speaker 2 (42:16):
She said you're welcome for being a great date
to you, but if you want a greatdate to her, yeah, lose,
yourself Hahaha.
Speaker 1 (42:28):
And go on lots of dates and have a lot of fun.
Yeah, yeah, yeah yeah.
Speaker 2 (42:32):
Don't take it too seriously, but be safe.
Speaker 3 (42:34):
Yeah, please be safe Share your location with a
friend or a family member.
Speaker 1 (42:38):
I have made Diana share her location with me.
Speaker 2 (42:41):
Oh good, and now after that I also shared to make
sure, like profile pictures andstuff like that yeah, she
always sends me if she's goingon a date.
Speaker 1 (42:47):
She always sends me a picture and a name.
Speaker 2 (42:50):
Someone will go down if something happens to me.
Speaker 1 (42:52):
Hell yeah, I'll make sure of that.
Speaker 2 (42:54):
But yes, have that supportive, friend.
Yes, hahaha.
Speaker 1 (42:58):
And have fun Hahaha.
Most importantly, and thank youfor listening.
Speaker 2 (43:02):
Thank you, love you, love you.
Speaker 3 (43:05):
Hahaha.
Speaker 1 (43:07):
I think Nancy had it for you, this whole episode.
I know.
Speaker 3 (43:11):
Thank you for listening to Latina State of
Mind produced by us, yourawesome hosts, diana Senia and
Nancy.
Special shout out to Jerome,our editor.
Don't forget to follow us onInstagram at LSOM underscore
podcast and on Facebook atLatina State of Mind.
Hasta la próxima.
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experiences about love, life andeverything in between.
Speaker 2 (00:28):
Hello everyone.
Happy Saturday, hope we'rehaving a wonderful day today and
welcome to another Latina'sState of Mind episode.
Speaker 3 (00:40):
I'm sorry, you guys we have a little too much energy
today, but we have a really funtopic.
Speaker 2 (00:46):
We always like to switch it up.
Guess what this topic is about.
Bad dates Be ones that we'vebeen in, and if you ever
considered being a bad date orif you have been a bad date,
we're gonna look at ourselves aswell.
Self awareness.
Speaker 1 (01:10):
Okay, my question is have you guys had a bad date?
Yes, you go first Me.
Yeah, I want to know.
Speaker 2 (01:17):
Who would do that to you?
Speaker 3 (01:19):
Right, I feel like for the most part they've been
good.
I also have really bad memories, so I feel like if someone's
not in my life anymore, Iusually don't remember a lot of
those stuff.
Speaker 2 (01:31):
I don't know if it's.
If they were not memorable,then it's whatever.
Speaker 3 (01:35):
I don't know if it's my body telling me you don't
need to keep that in your head.
But I do remember going on adate with a guy and I think we
had been talking for a littlebit and we decided to meet up
and go to eat.
And we went to eat and we werehaving, I think, an okay time
just talking about stuff orwhatever.
(01:56):
And then he mentioned, or heasked me if I was legally in the
country.
Oh what Fuck that guy?
And I was like, yes, and hemade a comment and something
else and we kept talking andthen by the end of the day he
was like, well, it looks likeI'm gonna get my green papers
(02:17):
now or my green card.
And I was like, oh, that's, I'mout what.
It was so weird.
It was weird.
That is weird yeah it was icky,but I think that was the only
date I had with him.
I hope Good she's like I hope.
I'm pretty sure it was.
(02:38):
It was a big turn off, I meanit's okay to talk about it, but
not like that.
Speaker 2 (02:43):
Not when you're like pushing it away yeah, no, you
can mention it like oh, yeah, Ihave student visa or whatever,
this and that, but like don'tsay, oh, here's my green card.
Speaker 3 (02:55):
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
That's so weird?
Yeah, it was weird.
Speaker 3 (02:59):
I was like, oh well, I guess I got a dinner out of it
and you got no papers bro I'mout of fucking social media.
Yeah, I think that's the one Ican remember.
That was like oh.
Speaker 2 (03:13):
Super memorable.
Yeah, in a bad way.
No, what about you guys?
Speaker 1 (03:18):
Yes, I have a couple.
I think I have two that I canremember that were like icky.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
Yeah, okay, so the first one he showed up with his.
We were going to go bowling, wewent bowling, but he showed up
with his best friend, okay what.
He showed up with his bestfriend, or and or a friend, I'm
not sure.
I didn't say what.
Yeah, it was just me and Ithought it was just going to be
(03:47):
him and I had no idea that thiswas going to happen.
I had no knowledge that someoneelse was coming.
Speaker 1 (03:55):
I thought it was so weird.
Speaker 2 (03:57):
So is that like it has really weird right.
Speaker 3 (03:59):
That's never happened to me.
Yes, okay.
Speaker 2 (04:01):
And so it was super awkward.
He's looking.
I'm sorry, jerome is like shock.
Speaker 1 (04:07):
He's shocked.
Speaker 2 (04:08):
He's shook it, shook it, shook it and, yeah, I don't
know what was going through thisguy's mind, but he showed up
with his, he showed up with hiswith a buddy Bestie with his
buddy, and so it was just me andthese two other guys and it was
extremely awkward and I didsomething terrible.
I didn't do like too terrible,but we got our shoes or whatever
(04:35):
, I can't remember Like we wereabout to start bowling, and so I
went to the bathroom and Icalled my friend and I was like
hey, are you having an issueright now?
Are you having anything?
Anything is going on in yourlife right now, or do you want
to make something up, please?
Speaker 1 (04:54):
Like right now, yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:56):
So she, quote unquote , got a flat tire and I was the
one that's going to help her andfix her Nice vehicle.
So that's what happened, youknow, I just I don't know where,
I just had to leave.
Speaker 1 (05:11):
I would have left too , and I would have not even
given him an explanation.
I don't just know I grabbed myshoes and left.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
I can't remember.
Oh, I remember now.
I went to the bathroom, Italked to my friend.
I went back to the lane and Iwas like, oh my gosh, my friend
is in trouble.
I have to go.
Your actress.
They didn't believe me I didn'tgive a fuck, though I was
(05:40):
leaving, and so I went back tothe to get my shoes and I left
because I am a really goodfriend and I have to go help her
out.
Speaker 3 (05:49):
That's weird.
Was the friend nice?
It looked like a good hangar.
No.
Speaker 2 (05:54):
They.
First of all, they were bothawkward as fuck.
I understand him being awkwardbecause it was our first date.
Speaker 1 (05:59):
But why would you bring your friend?
Speaker 2 (06:02):
Well, yeah, I don't understand that.
Excuse me To the man in theroom shaking his head he doesn't
understand you.
Speaker 3 (06:09):
He doesn't understand that Would you ever?
I mean not to a date like that.
No, and unless you have like adouble date and you're talking
to somebody and you're meetingsomeone there, but with a group
that it's different.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
Yeah, but like what did he think I was going to do?
Kill him?
No, he was a fun little girl.
Is that where your mind went?
I don't know.
I'm just generally confused,like why would you bring a
friend to your first date?
Emotional support.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
Maybe he was an social, maybe an anxious person.
Speaker 3 (06:40):
Maybe he was anxiety.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
But he should have said something.
Yeah, exactly, he surprised mewith it.
Speaker 3 (06:45):
Yeah, maybe he would have.
He should have said like hey,let's bring a friend.
Speaker 1 (06:49):
Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 2 (06:53):
And I said no that type of date.
Bring your friend for emotionalsupport.
Speaker 1 (06:58):
Bring your emotional support friend to the date.
That's cute, no.
Speaker 2 (07:03):
I'm just kidding.
If they would have beencommunication about this, most
likely I would have been like,okay, that's fine, but this, I
had not heard of this at all.
And so that happened and, yeah,I left and I never spoke to him
again.
Yeah, I mean it's his fault fordoing that.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (07:24):
I had two really awkward dates.
So the first one I met this guyon one of the dating apps and
he was like oh, I love salsadancing and this and this and I
just love it.
And I was like, oh, cool, likeI love it too.
And we went to a place herethat does like salsa dancing and
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we went to go have a margaritafirst and I met like we were
down there and there was one ofmy co workers there and she's
really pretty, and we sat downand they served us our drinks
and for some reason I owed her adrink and so I was like I got
your drink and he was like mineand I was like no, hers.
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And he was like but you shouldget mine too.
And I was like what, I don'tknow, you like that?
And I was like we're on ourfirst date, bro, like what are
you talking about?
And so like she didn't knowwhat was going on and she was
like maybe you should get ourdrinks and he was like ha, no.
And then I paid for her and Ifor our drinks.
(08:31):
And then, like after that hekept like having conversation
with her, like just kind offlirting with her, and I was
like this is just really awkward, should I be like?
And I could tell that she feltawkward and she was like I'm
gonna see you guys later.
And then we went up to the tothe second floor to dance and he
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spent me really fast anddropped me and then I was just
like okay.
And then he picked me up andhe's like, well, you're terrible
at this.
And I was like I think you'rethe terrible one because this
has never happened before.
And so he was like well, how doyou know that girl?
And like trying to get moreinformation about my friend, and
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I was like I'm gonna go to thebathroom and I just left.
Speaker 2 (09:18):
Did you ever hear from them again?
No, yeah, no, but it was justawkward.
Speaker 1 (09:22):
He was like an older guy and I remember that I didn't
trust him very well because Iremember him being like oh, I
own this company and I own thisand I own that, and you know
like he was just like braggingabout how good, and I was like
if you own your own company, whywould you want me to pay for
your drink?
Speaker 2 (09:41):
With a low life.
Yeah, you know.
Speaker 1 (09:43):
So then I've obviously never talked to that
guy again.
And then I met another guy onanother app.
And he him and I got like hit itoff so well, like we would talk
all the time and I was likereally excited about him and he
was like it seemed like he wasreally excited about me.
He was like, would you go on adate with me?
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And I was like, yeah, like thatwould be so much fun.
And I just remember like beingso excited because he was like a
really genuinely nice guy.
We had a great conversationthroughout the night.
It was it was really good.
And then we started talking forsome reason, about religion and
I told him that I had grown upMormon and he was like no, and I
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was like what?
And he's like I can do that.
He said for those reasons, I'mout.
Yeah, like basically, and I waslike what?
And he had literally justbought me ice cream at
McDonald's and he's like I'mgonna go.
And he just like left me there.
Are you just sitting there withmy ice cream?
And I was like what justhappened, like I was so confused
(10:49):
and like he was like no, Ican't.
And I he just like noexplanation.
Like he could have saidsomething like hey, there's
trauma in my life about Mormons,or I don't believe in that.
Or like something he just saidno, I can't.
And walked away.
Speaker 2 (11:03):
I was like oh, you said I grew up Mormon.
Speaker 1 (11:06):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:06):
I didn't say.
Speaker 1 (11:07):
I am Mormon.
Yeah, it was super awkward andI just remember being like.
I think it's because I'm fat.
I just like took it in adifferent direction.
And then I got home and I waslike Whoa, like that was so
weird.
And then I texted him and I waslike what happened?
And he never texted me back.
No, explanation.
Speaker 2 (11:28):
I mean I'm sorry if that guy went through.
I'm sure it's a relationshipwith relationship.
Speaker 1 (11:34):
I'm sure it's something traumatic and I felt
bad at one point but he shouldhave said something.
Yeah, it was super awkward.
Speaker 2 (11:41):
Because I feel like you could have bonded over, you
know.
Speaker 1 (11:44):
Our religious trauma.
Speaker 2 (11:46):
Yeah the faults that the religion has?
Speaker 3 (11:48):
Yeah, exactly, has that ever happened to you guys,
when you're on a date and theysay something and you're like oh
, this is my cutie, leave,uh-huh?
Speaker 1 (11:56):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (11:57):
What was it yeah?
Speaker 1 (11:58):
yeah yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:59):
The second, this other date that I went to, and
you know what this brings up apoint this date he was also an
older man and he'd never beenmarried and I knew that should
have been a red flag.
Because why does?
I'm sorry to say this, but like, why does no one want to?
Like I could understand, whydoes no one want you?
Maybe like a divorce, but likea 45 plus year old man, never
(12:26):
been married.
He was older than that, but I'mnot going to say he's actually
age.
Speaker 3 (12:31):
Is that your demographic?
Speaker 1 (12:33):
Her demographic is very wide.
Speaker 2 (12:35):
Yes, actually that's true, it's ever changing 22 to
50.
Speaker 1 (12:40):
No, I don't like him younger than me.
Really.
Speaker 2 (12:42):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (12:44):
Not that kind of person.
Speaker 2 (12:45):
No, no, you know what ?
Yeah, never change.
Well, maybe I should change itup.
Yeah, and that's a good point.
But yes, this guy older person,and you said he was 65?
No, I'm after that retirementmoney.
Speaker 3 (13:01):
I didn't see that A year for a one K.
Speaker 1 (13:06):
Show me the 401K and we're talk Hell yeah, but OK, so
first, first red flag.
Speaker 2 (13:14):
I got there it was a great bar actually and I wish I
could remember the name of it.
It was out in Denver.
But he ordered for me and I waslike, what Red flag?
Speaker 1 (13:24):
Nope, don't order for me.
Speaker 2 (13:27):
And so we were at a Martini place and I think this
is so tacky.
But he was like put all theolives that you can on the pick.
You know, usually it's supposedto have like three or like an
odd number, because supposedlylike even amount of olives is
bad luck, supposedly I'm notsure but he was like put as many
olives as you can on the pick.
(13:48):
And I was like no, I'm stucky.
Just let them prepare how it'ssupposed to be prepared.
That was another one First ofall ordering and then making
that comment.
I don't know.
To me it was like a red flag.
And then finally, I still stuckthrough it.
(14:11):
He was talking a lot, whatever,no big deal.
I was after the 401k.
I can you know, I'll say thatthat's fine.
I knew it.
We were walking around the cityand in one of those moments he
said I could just kidnap youright now.
And I was like what?
(14:32):
He's like, yeah, I could justtake you right now.
Speaker 1 (14:35):
Oh, let's just give you chills.
Exactly that's creepy.
Speaker 2 (14:38):
Imagine hearing it and then it was kind of late-ish
at night and it just like threwme off and I was like oh, this
is my cuticle.
You just said ready and no, no,but pepper spray.
I kept it together.
I kept it together so I couldget to my car safely.
Speaker 1 (14:55):
OK, I'm going to stop you there and say don't keep it
together.
If you ever feel threatened byany man or any person in general
, and you have that feeling whenyour body is telling you
something's not right, don't bepolite.
No, polite is not going to saveyour life.
Speaker 3 (15:14):
Just go.
Speaker 2 (15:15):
Yeah, because that's weird.
That was pretty weird.
So my reaction at the momentwas to keep it together, and
just until I could get to myvehicle and just leave.
But you're right, completelyright, don't keep it together,
just say something.
Yeah, walk away.
Speaker 3 (15:30):
Unless, I guess, you feel like you could be in danger
, then I understand that.
Assess the situation.
Speaker 2 (15:36):
But you're right.
Speaker 3 (15:37):
Don't be polite.
Speaker 2 (15:38):
Yeah, don't be polite , don't be polite.
But yes, I got to my vehicle.
He asked for a kiss and I waslike mm.
Speaker 3 (15:45):
That's creepy.
Speaker 2 (15:45):
Disgusting.
And you know what I gave him alittle peck, you did.
Yeah, unfortunately.
Speaker 3 (15:50):
I'm not touching you.
Speaker 2 (15:51):
Thank you, and that was it.
Speaker 3 (15:53):
I think I texted him Turn around and lift this walker
.
Speaker 2 (15:56):
Yeah, I got a walker.
It's a walker, it's a walker,it's a walker, it's a walker.
It's a walker it's a walker,it's a walker, it's a walker.
But you know what?
That's all right, I let him go.
Oh my gosh, I'm fine.
I'm fine, I know.
(16:18):
Yeah, he was.
I mean, he's pretty close, I'mjust kidding.
But yeah, that's what happened.
And I texted him, but it wasbasically like I'm never going
to see you again, sort of text.
Yeah, that's wild.
I know, my bad date story wenteverywhere.
(16:41):
I know it's great, oh gosh, andI'm sorry.
Speaker 1 (16:45):
You were going to say another one.
Another one was your date.
Oh no, my, I went to US If wehad something that we knew like.
Speaker 3 (16:52):
Oh yeah, like when you were on your date, you were
like uh no, this is not going towork.
Speaker 1 (16:55):
Okay, mine was.
I got set up on a blind datewith this guy and he showed up
in gym shorts Like dirty when,excuse me, where was the date we
were going to go to dinner toum?
Speaker 2 (17:08):
As soon as you said dinner, I'm like oh, Carrabbas,
or something like that.
Speaker 1 (17:11):
Italian place.
Speaker 2 (17:12):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (17:13):
But still, yeah, like full on gym shorts, like Like
gym shorts and like some raggedyass t-shirt.
I put on makeup for this date.
I put on perfume I picked outmy next, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3 (17:29):
Exactly Like you couldn't at least wear jeans?
Yeah, like a little effort isnice yeah.
Speaker 1 (17:35):
And your shirt smell like you didn't dry it all the
way and you just like put itaway.
It's like musty, yeah, so.
Speaker 2 (17:44):
I was like, sorry, she's very familiar with this.
Speaker 3 (17:51):
She almost threw up.
I know, I know.
Speaker 2 (17:54):
I'm stuck over here, no.
Speaker 3 (17:56):
No.
Speaker 2 (17:57):
I'm not used to that smell.
I'm just kidding, anyway, butyeah, so I'm not used to that
smell.
I'm just kidding, anyway, butyeah.
Speaker 1 (18:12):
So I did get free dinner out of it, okay.
And then I was like I'm tired,I'm going to go.
Bye, have a good night.
Speaker 3 (18:19):
Bye, you're ready for bed.
Speaker 1 (18:20):
No, I felt like I was disrespectful.
Maybe he was going to the gymafter.
Maybe I was going to the gymafter and I still dressed up.
Yes, exactly.
What a weirdo.
Oh man, how about you?
Speaker 3 (18:36):
I don't know.
I don't think I had a lot oflike only one date and then
nothing happened.
She was like I'm so perfectEveryone loves me so much.
Speaker 1 (18:45):
Everybody should love at the top of their game for me
.
Speaker 3 (18:49):
I'm wondering if I was the bad date for anyone but
I don't think so.
I do remember, though, one timeI went on a date with a girl
our first date and we met at abar and it was cool, and then we
were going back to the car.
We rode in those bikes wheresomeone's pulling the front door
and she kept trying to take apicture of us and I just didn't
(19:11):
want to and I think we weregoing to hang out.
But she got mad at me because Isaid no, what?
Speaker 1 (19:17):
And she was like yeah , but that's weird to take a
picture with somebody on thefirst date.
Speaker 3 (19:21):
It was odd yeah.
Speaker 1 (19:22):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (19:23):
I did date her for a while.
She likes red flags.
Speaker 3 (19:29):
It was a bad experience, but yeah, I should
have known.
Like this is weird Red flags.
She got really upset.
She didn't want to hang outwith me afterwards and then she
reached out.
It was like I'm being stupid itwas weird, it was weird, that
is weird, I didn't want topicture you?
Speaker 2 (19:48):
I mean it's understandable.
Yeah, do you think you've everbeen a bad date?
Speaker 1 (19:52):
No, I don't think so I mean.
I guess I was to that guybecause I told him I was Mormon.
How dare you yeah.
Speaker 3 (19:59):
How dare you go?
To Mormon how dare you go tochurch?
Speaker 2 (20:05):
Yeah, no, because I've always dressed up.
I've always looked good, I'vealways tried.
Speaker 1 (20:14):
Yeah, I tried yeah.
Speaker 2 (20:15):
I've always tried, so no, I can't consider myself a
bad date, because I always try.
Speaker 3 (20:19):
I wonder if I ever was maybe too quiet.
But then now that I think aboutit I'm like maybe I wasn't
really interested.
Maybe, but I can see thathappening.
Speaker 2 (20:28):
A little bit of shyness is completely
understandable.
I mean, all right, I always tryto be extra friendly.
Speaker 1 (20:37):
Just to break that awkward silence.
Speaker 3 (20:40):
I hate that.
Speaker 1 (20:41):
So no, I'm not a bad date.
Speaker 2 (20:43):
No, I'm not a bad date either.
Why I'm not married?
I have no fucking clue, yeah.
Speaker 1 (20:53):
No pressure.
Speaker 2 (20:54):
No pressure, no comment, yeah, none.
How about do you ever regret adate because the relationship
was bad?
Speaker 3 (21:07):
Yes, yes, that date that I talked about, that one,
that one for sure Gosh, I havethis one.
Speaker 2 (21:13):
I wish I would have never been on that date, because
then that man dragged me alongfor so long and to a point I got
, to a point that I was like Iwish I would have never met you.
I wish I would have never beenon that date, but that's just
that hurt me talking.
Speaker 1 (21:34):
For a really long time.
For a really really long time,I regretted the person I dated
before my husband.
Like I was like fuck that guy,I hate him, blah, blah, blah.
All those things right, Becausehe did drag me along, he played
with my feelings, he all thosethings.
But today I can say, eh, Ineeded that experience Because I
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was a different person beforehim and I think if I were to
come to my husband now theperson I was before this guy,
our relationship would have notworked out.
So I needed to go through thatweird hurt and weird growth to
be in a better place.
Speaker 2 (22:14):
Yeah, you know what it's a good way to look at it.
I understand that, because nowI'm grateful, because you're
right, I learned to kind ofadvocate for myself more.
Speaker 1 (22:25):
Yeah, exactly, then you learn your boundaries.
Speaker 2 (22:27):
Yes, that and you're like OK, if I am going to get,
at least now, I'm like, if I'mgoing to be in a relationship,
it's going to be full on or fulloff.
Exactly no halves, noin-betweens, and you're right,
shout out to that man.
Speaker 1 (22:42):
I mean still fuck you a little, but a lot no
definitely Fuck you a lot.
Yeah For true love, but thanks,but thanks, because I learned
more about myself oh man, youguys, where do you think it's a
bad date place to go to?
Speaker 3 (23:04):
Where would you be like a?
I don't want to go there forfirst date.
Speaker 1 (23:06):
I don't think there's such thing as a bad date place.
I think with the right personyou can have some.
The shittiest place can be areally good date.
Speaker 2 (23:17):
You know now, I used to be a dinner kind of girl,
like you have to take them outto dinner.
Now, more of a like coffee ordrink or like something small,
kind of like to see what kind ofindividual you are, yeah,
that's fine.
Because I don't want to spend awhole dinner and like have a
conversation with you, noteveryone invests too much time.
(23:40):
You know why I don't I thinkcoffee is a good idea.
Speaker 3 (23:44):
Exactly.
Speaker 2 (23:44):
Like I have a lot going on in my life.
I need to like kind of check itout first before.
Speaker 1 (23:50):
I get coffee or a drink and or a drink.
Speaker 2 (23:52):
Yeah, like a small bite sort of thing, but I don't
know, just to kind of gauge theother person.
So like a date before the datetype of thing, yeah, exactly
Because then you'll be I don'tknow, I think you'll maybe more
excited to go on the second date.
Yeah, because you're like.
Ok, now I'm spending more timewith this individual.
Speaker 1 (24:12):
And I actually like this person.
Speaker 3 (24:15):
Or if things go well, then you can extend the date.
That's true.
That hasn't happened yet.
Speaker 2 (24:22):
But, I was hoping, I was still hoping.
Speaker 1 (24:26):
Four hours long, right Wow.
Speaker 3 (24:29):
Oh, that's cute, that is really cute.
Speaker 2 (24:31):
You guys actually liked each other.
Speaker 1 (24:33):
Yeah, A lot, let's be honest.
But our first actual date wasover FaceTime because it was
during COVID.
So I remember he suggested itand I was like sir.
I'm not going to cyber sex withyou on our first date.
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I love that.
Speaker 3 (24:54):
That's the first thing that you thought that was
the first thing I thought about.
Speaker 1 (24:58):
And then he was like no, netflix can do these share
screen movie thing and we canwatch a movie at the same time.
And I was like, ok, and Iremember being so nervous and I
was like, ok, wear a nice shirt,hide your body, make sure he
doesn't see all your flaws.
And then he was like, should Isend you some popcorn or
(25:22):
something?
And I was like, oh no, he'sgoing to know my address.
Speaker 3 (25:26):
No, it's.
Speaker 1 (25:26):
OK, I'll get my own ice cream.
So then I remember being sonervous and I had told everybody
that I was going to have acyber date.
Speaker 2 (25:37):
Cyber sex date.
Speaker 3 (25:38):
Yeah, cyber sex date.
Speaker 1 (25:40):
And then we watched a .
What movie was it?
Speaker 2 (25:43):
She was her favorite little joint for Netflix.
Speaker 1 (25:46):
For the Netflix oh are we Was it talking, stop
talking.
My mother-in-law assisted me.
Speaker 2 (25:55):
Oh, so sorry, no, just kidding Anyway she's
wearing lingerie For her cyberdate Cyber sex date.
Speaker 1 (26:07):
We watched a scary movie.
It was kind of lame and scaryall at the same time.
He's offended.
It was some texting movieremember, so I don't remember
what it's called.
Speaker 2 (26:18):
He's not going to say my name, you are not forgiven
for that.
Speaker 1 (26:23):
Yeah, sorry, clearly.
Speaker 2 (26:25):
Yeah, it's not a great movie.
Speaker 1 (26:27):
I'm sorry, but yeah.
Then we used to just hang outon FaceTime all the time.
I love that.
That's cute yeah.
Speaker 2 (26:35):
That reminded me of another bad day.
Speaker 1 (26:37):
OK, share yeah tell us.
Speaker 2 (26:39):
We went to the movies and I've never been on a date
to a movie like a third date toa movie.
Ok, Because he fell asleep.
Speaker 1 (26:50):
He was probably tired , he probably was, and I
understand that.
Speaker 2 (26:55):
Yeah, true, and that's fine, but I just looked
over and he was out.
He's out snoring out oh.
Did you just get up and leave?
What did I do?
I think I finished the movie.
I mean, I don't know.
I waited for him to wake up.
I pretended like I didn't see,Like oh my gosh the movie.
(27:18):
I was just looking sideways tosee if he was awake Try and push
him a little bit.
Speaker 1 (27:30):
I'm sorry, I was just putting my jacket on.
Speaker 2 (27:33):
And we did leave together, but I don't think I
ever spoke to him again.
Speaker 3 (27:38):
no, yeah, he's probably tired yeah.
Speaker 2 (27:42):
Oh, well, so funny.
So now the first date's.
Speaker 1 (27:47):
No movies, no movies.
Speaker 3 (27:48):
That's like a hard place for a first date, because
you can't really talk to them?
Speaker 1 (27:51):
Yeah, I get to.
That's just the name of them,Like that's a good.
Speaker 3 (27:54):
Second, third date date.
Speaker 1 (27:55):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (27:56):
I agree, but a first one that's interesting.
Ok, no movie dates.
Speaker 2 (28:00):
Yeah, no movie dates.
So, yeah, that's another baddate that I had.
It wasn't that bad, but still.
Speaker 1 (28:07):
No movies.
Speaker 3 (28:09):
No movies either.
Speaker 1 (28:11):
Interesting, interesting.
Speaker 2 (28:13):
I can't believe you haven't had any bad dates, I
mean the one that I told youguys about.
Speaker 3 (28:20):
That's the only one I know One I keep remembering.
Speaker 1 (28:23):
You guys keep mentioning stuff and then you
keep thinking about it.
Speaker 3 (28:26):
Yeah, I really can't remember.
I'm sure I have, but, like Isaid, my brain does not keep
that.
Speaker 2 (28:32):
Because it wasn't memorable enough, they weren't
as important.
It's not, it was traumatic.
Speaker 3 (28:37):
It's just not necessary in my life.
Speaker 1 (28:41):
Necessary information .
Speaker 2 (28:43):
Your brain was like we're not filing this yeah.
Speaker 3 (28:46):
Toss it Trash.
Speaker 2 (28:49):
Oh, she said trash.
If you've ever been on a datewith Nancy, guess what.
Speaker 3 (28:53):
No, please.
Speaker 2 (28:55):
No.
Speaker 3 (28:56):
The next, just give it to yourself.
Speaker 1 (28:59):
It's all good.
If you've ever been on a datewith Nancy, send us a message.
Speaker 2 (29:04):
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Speaker 1 (29:07):
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That'd be cool.
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Send us a DM.
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Speaker 1 (29:19):
We'll just experience it, we just want to know,
Because I mean we're just goingto know how great it was for you
.
Speaker 2 (29:25):
Thank you, I mean, ok , if that's what you think.
Anyways, gosh, what else I'mtrying to think of any other
date?
I've been not going to lie.
I've been on a lot of dates,but I can't remember them all.
Speaker 3 (29:44):
I didn't go on a lot of dates.
No, do you guys feel likefinding dates on apps is a good
option Sometimes?
Yeah, I don't think it'shorrible, or it wasn't when I
was using them.
Speaker 2 (29:55):
No See, when I was younger I had less, not
expectations, but I guessstandards I'm not coming for you
today, I promise I'd sound likeshe is.
Speaker 3 (30:14):
I know right.
Speaker 2 (30:15):
Yeah, I thought we were together in this, no, but I
didn't care much abouteducation or job or just overall
mental health and being a goodhuman being.
Speaker 3 (30:29):
Exactly.
Speaker 2 (30:30):
Being a decent human being.
I didn't care about that asmuch, but now I do.
So now I go on less dates.
Speaker 1 (30:38):
That makes sense.
Speaker 2 (30:39):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (30:42):
But when you guys were doing, when you go on dates
, is there a question that youmust ask?
Speaker 2 (30:49):
There's not a question question, but I do like
to know what you're for a 1K.
Well before that, I like toknow about your relationship
with your parents and or mom.
Speaker 1 (31:02):
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (31:03):
That's a good one.
I don't directly ask, but I'llbring it up somehow.
I'll bring up my family and belike oh, I like my parents, Do
you?
Because I think especially it'simportant to like your mom, or
at least well, actually let metake that back.
If you have a relationship withyour mom, have a good
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relationship with your mom, yeah.
But if you show kind of likehate, I'm not into that.
You can be indifferent, but Idon't think you should be
hateful.
So that's one of the things.
And then I'll ask about yourretirement plans.
Speaker 3 (31:41):
I dated someone who called her mama a bitch, and I
dated them for a while.
Damn it, nancy.
I should have known, you shouldhave known I was so young
though.
Speaker 2 (31:51):
OK, yeah, exactly.
Yeah, you learned that with age.
That's what happened to me aswell.
Speaker 1 (31:56):
I want to know how these people talk about their
exes.
Speaker 2 (32:00):
Ew, that's a red flag to me.
No, because OK, sure, yeah,sure.
Speaker 1 (32:04):
Here's the thing when somebody talks shit about an ex
and they're like, oh, thisperson was crazy, this person is
blah, blah, blah.
That's telling you only theirside of their story but when
somebody's like oh yeah, Ididn't work out, like they have
nothing to say, Like they grewthey, whatever happened,
happened.
But when a man or when anybodytrashes another person, that
(32:28):
tells you a lot about theircharacter and who they are and
how they're going to talk aboutyou.
That's a good point actually.
Speaker 3 (32:34):
And.
Speaker 1 (32:34):
I obviously don't want to hear it on the first
date, but I learned to payattention to that Cues.
That's important yeah.
Speaker 2 (32:41):
No, See the reason I don't like to hear anything
about exes.
It's important.
Neither trash or like, for Iguess I don't know, Like never
during that relationship.
Speaker 3 (32:55):
No yeah, I.
Speaker 2 (33:00):
Really, I I don't know if it's jealousy, I'm not
sure, but I just I'm notinterested in you thinking about
that other individual at all.
Speaker 1 (33:09):
I think for me it's move on.
It's a lot of like yourexperiences.
It's a lot of your experiencesand how you dealt with those
people, because then you, I feellike you learn a lot about
People and how they deal withothers.
Like I dated men.
They're like, oh, she was crazyand this and this, and blah,
(33:31):
blah, blah and my ex this.
And then, once we were done,they were talking the same kind
of shit about me and I wasn'tthe crazy one.
They were the crazy ones.
Yeah, and that's your side ofthe story, exactly.
But my husband was marriedbefore me and now once has he
(33:52):
ever said anything bad about hisex-wife, like not once has he
Called her a bad name, likedidn't work out, and like he
doesn't need to go into detailsand he's respectful to her
because they were together forhowever long, and you know, like
I think that's important.
Speaker 3 (34:08):
Yeah, I don't.
I mean, I don't care if theyhave an opinion.
I think, yeah, I've.
They're trashing every one oftheir exes and it's a sign that,
yeah, they're the problem.
But yeah, it's weird.
I want to know everything.
Hmm and I hate it.
Speaker 2 (34:21):
And it hurts me, but like you, like it at the same
time.
Speaker 3 (34:24):
I hate it, but I want to know more.
Speaker 1 (34:27):
But I'm the cello.
Sign this groove, I'm.
Speaker 3 (34:38):
Another level unlocked.
Speaker 2 (34:40):
Yeah, I don't want to hear it.
I do understand yourperspective of getting to know
them and how they think aboutthe other person, but I don't.
Speaker 1 (34:49):
I mean, I don't want to hear details either.
I don't, I don't like, I don'tlike anybody.
You dated before me.
She's like wait, I'm not no.
Speaker 2 (35:09):
Opposite sides.
You're like, yes, I want toknow everything and I'm over
here, like no, I'm in the middle.
Speaker 1 (35:14):
Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 3 (35:17):
No, no yeah.
Speaker 1 (35:18):
Yeah, what are we up to next, nancy?
Speaker 3 (35:36):
I think that's it.
Yeah, I think we're done.
Have a good night.
Yeah, I totally hate it.
What?
Speaker 2 (35:42):
prefer to be called an asshole in a butt cheek.
Oh my gosh, we're gonna switchit up just a Tunze bit.
(36:05):
Who in this room has takenbirth?
I just have a problem with it.
No, I'm sorry, I don't have aproblem with both control,
please take your birth control.
Exactly, I am pro birth control.
(36:26):
Learn about it.
Speaker 3 (36:28):
La, la, la, whatever.
Speaker 2 (36:29):
I just have an issue whenever that there's no, at
least as of now there's not awhole lot of options for women,
you know, there's only certainoptions for women and there are
even less options for men.
Yeah, and I think this shouldfall in the responsibility of
the man, at least, at least fromnow on.
(36:51):
I have you guys seen I've takenthe pill form have you guys
seen the sheet that comes withthe side effects?
The side effects exactly?
It's a poster.
Yep, it's like literally a bookis the size of a poster and
it's tiny, tiny, tiny hand, nothandwriting, but typed letters.
(37:13):
It's a little bit of a fun, yeah, whatever.
Anyways, I'm just we have to gothrough so much.
Yeah, the birth control haschanged my body and I'm still
trying to recover from it.
I've been off of it for quite abit and the first few months it
(37:34):
was it was very difficult.
It was very difficult.
Control sucks.
Yeah, exactly, can men pleaselive a little bit of this, and
you know what would happen,though it pissed me off.
It would be legal.
First of all, abortion would belegal If men could get pregnant
.
If men could get pregnant,there would be so many options
for birth control and theywouldn't affect their hormones
(37:57):
as much as they do now.
That's pissed me off.
Speaker 3 (38:01):
I'm mad.
It's crazy because as a woman,you can get pregnant and then
you can't get pregnant again fornine months, whereas a man can
get someone pregnant.
Every single day, multipletimes a day, multiple times a
day If they can yeah, but itmakes no sense, like, why isn't
that what we're trying?
Speaker 2 (38:18):
to stop Exactly.
Why are we not paying attentionto that?
Speaker 1 (38:20):
You know what makes me really mad I'm enjoying this
range when there's like a couplethat are like together and have
a life, and then the womangives birth and the man refuses
to get their vasectomy.
Like, excuse me, sir, she justgave birth to your children, she
just took birth control, shebreastfed them, she pushed them
(38:42):
out of her body and you cannotget a little nip on your body to
help your wife out so that shedoesn't have to deal with the
stupid side effects of birthcontrol Selfish?
Speaker 2 (38:55):
Extremely.
We need to take down thepatriarch I held on to that
microphone.
Real well, bring it down.
I'm just kidding.
We just need to share a littlebit more, but anyways, I'm mad
about that, no.
Speaker 1 (39:14):
And honestly the way.
So I was first put on birthcontrol.
Because of something calledPCOS that I have, my periods
were like months long sometimes.
Speaker 2 (39:27):
It's like a irregular hormone thing.
I don't know about it.
Speaker 1 (39:32):
Yeah, it's a weird thing, but I was put on them
when I was a teenager.
I remember being likesomething's not right, like I
was suicidal, like my hormoneswere out of control, like I just
remember being in a weird darkplace and I didn't understand
why, and like I've always beenlike a pretty happy, go lucky
(39:53):
kid, like I was.
I'd never felt like that beforeand once I got off of it I was
like, oh, I was back to mynormal self.
And then I recently had alittle surgery and I was put on
birth control before it and Ijust remember just being
miserable and feeling terribleand like birth control sucks.
(40:17):
No matter what form of it, itsucks.
Speaker 2 (40:20):
Like all of it.
I had the next one on and I gotdepression.
It's the same thing.
I was always.
You know I wasn't the happiestkid, but I wasn't a depressive
kid either, and I got depressionafter that and it was a very
dark place.
Speaker 1 (40:39):
And you gained so much weight.
That, too, like we all gainedso much weight with birth
control.
Speaker 2 (40:45):
And I mean, at least I didn't have a kid.
Speaker 3 (40:49):
But it's not even 100%.
Exactly, that's the thing.
Speaker 2 (40:52):
It's like a 99, if even a 99,.
Speaker 3 (40:55):
I'm not even sure what it?
Speaker 2 (40:56):
is, but it's not even a sure thing, and at least I
didn't have a child.
But damn did I suffer so yeah.
Speaker 1 (41:03):
What do we do?
I don't know, make man do it.
Speaker 3 (41:06):
Yeah, it makes, no sense it really does Like
biologically because of howthings work.
Yes, it makes no sense.
Speaker 2 (41:13):
Going back to your point, a woman can get pregnant
once a year, get retake and,like you said, a man can have
multiple.
It makes no sense.
Who do we call?
I wanna say Obama, Michellewhere are you?
Speaker 3 (41:30):
Michelle.
Speaker 1 (41:31):
Michelle Obama.
Speaker 2 (41:32):
We miss you.
Can you be our president next?
Thank you, she wouldn't.
Speaker 1 (41:37):
No, no.
Can you believe that she's toogood for that?
She is too good for that.
Speaker 2 (41:42):
Anyways, that's my daily shift for today.
Speaker 1 (41:44):
I like your daily shift.
Speaker 2 (41:45):
Stupid men.
Speaker 1 (41:46):
Hahaha.
Anyways, thank you.
Any closing thoughts on our baddates?
Speaker 2 (41:57):
Look at the red flags .
Look at the red flags.
Yeah, they'll be there right infront, right at the beginning.
Speaker 1 (42:02):
Don't be polite.
If you don't want to be in thedate, you can go, yeah.
Speaker 3 (42:09):
You're welcome for being part of your experience,
you're welcome.
Speaker 2 (42:16):
She said you're welcome for being a great date
to you, but if you want a greatdate to her, yeah, lose,
yourself Hahaha.
Speaker 1 (42:28):
And go on lots of dates and have a lot of fun.
Yeah, yeah, yeah yeah.
Speaker 2 (42:32):
Don't take it too seriously, but be safe.
Speaker 3 (42:34):
Yeah, please be safe Share your location with a
friend or a family member.
Speaker 1 (42:38):
I have made Diana share her location with me.
Speaker 2 (42:41):
Oh good, and now after that I also shared to make
sure, like profile pictures andstuff like that yeah, she
always sends me if she's goingon a date.
Speaker 1 (42:47):
She always sends me a picture and a name.
Speaker 2 (42:50):
Someone will go down if something happens to me.
Speaker 1 (42:52):
Hell yeah, I'll make sure of that.
Speaker 2 (42:54):
But yes, have that supportive, friend.
Yes, hahaha.
Speaker 1 (42:58):
And have fun Hahaha.
Most importantly, and thank youfor listening.
Speaker 2 (43:02):
Thank you, love you, love you.
Speaker 3 (43:05):
Hahaha.
Speaker 1 (43:07):
I think Nancy had it for you, this whole episode.
I know.
Speaker 3 (43:11):
Thank you for listening to Latina State of
Mind produced by us, yourawesome hosts, diana Senia and
Nancy.
Special shout out to Jerome,our editor.
Don't forget to follow us onInstagram at LSOM underscore
podcast and on Facebook atLatina State of Mind.
Hasta la próxima.
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