February 17, 2024 • 44 mins
Have you ever pondered whether a grand gesture or a simple heartfelt memento truly captures the spirit of Valentine's Day? Join us as we unwrap the many shades of love and friendship that define this heartfelt holiday, celebrating not just the romance but the cherished bonds that connect us all. From the vibrant decorations that set our hearts aflutter to the cheesy, endearing movies that have become a fixture of the season, we're basking in the full spectrum of affection that February 14th brings.
As we swap tales of grand romantic gestures and the significance of effort and authenticity in showcasing love, you'll be reminded that the day of love isn't just about the grandeur of it all. Rather, it's about the thoughtfulness behind every act of kindness. Whether you're single, taken, or somewhere in between, we're here to celebrate that love isn't about the price tag. It's about connection, about the warmth of friendship, about noticing the little things that truly matter in our relationships.
Curl up with us as we share our favorite Valentine's Day movies—from the charm of Sandra Bullock's adventures in love to the escapades of on-screen couples that leave us in stitches. We'll explore how even the smallest gestures can carry profound meaning, and why paying attention to your partner's love language can make all the difference. So, whether you're spending this Valentine's Day with a special someone or honoring the love you have for yourself, tune in for an episode filled with warmth, laughter, and a sprinkle of wisdom from yours truly.
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Speaker 1 (00:06):
This is Latina's State of Mind, a podcast created
by Latinas for all audiences,where we can share our
experiences about love, life andeverything in between.
Speaker 2 (00:30):
Hello, hello, and welcome to another episode of
Latina's State of Mind, season 2.
Alright, so we're gonna betalking about an episode that's
really timely.
Something that some people loveand some people hate, depending
(00:52):
on their relationship statusmost of the time Overall, how
they're feeling.
I guess some people hate iteven if they are in a
relationship.
So we're talking aboutValentine's Day.
Speaker 1 (01:07):
Okay, do you guys fall in love?
Speaker 2 (01:08):
I hate or I love I love, I love, I love, I love it
too.
Yeah, dang it.
Speaker 3 (01:16):
One of us should be against it, just for fucks of it
.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
We're suckers.
What do you guys love about it?
Speaker 1 (01:26):
I love the colors.
I was thinking that too.
I love the hearts, the colors.
Speaker 3 (01:32):
The hearts, the colors, the decorations, the
sweets, the cheesy comments,movies.
I feel like I don't get toexperience that every single
year, but this time is the timeto express yourself in that way.
Speaker 2 (01:47):
Yeah, it's a really good excuse to show how much you
love someone.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
And I hate it when people are like, oh, you should
tell me, but you love them allthe time.
Yeah but it's not easy foreverybody to say it and
sometimes people need these daysto say the things they want to
say.
So I think I love that.
It's an opportunity to sharefeelings with others.
And also I like it because inSpanish it's the day of love and
(02:14):
friendship, so I grew uplooking at it as it's not only
just about love and being in arelationship, but it's like
being grateful for yourfriendship.
Speaker 2 (02:28):
That's how I grew up learning about it, yeah.
Speaker 3 (02:31):
Yeah, living through it, I guess.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
Yeah, I love it.
It was always about arelationship for me.
She's the whitest one of thegroup.
Speaker 3 (02:40):
So it makes sense.
Speaker 2 (02:42):
No, I'm just kidding.
No, you're right, I didn't eventhink about that.
It is love and friendship whichis super important.
Speaker 1 (02:49):
Did you ever hate it?
Speaker 2 (02:51):
I don't think I ever hated it.
I think when I was single andit was Valentine's Day, it was
kind of an excuse to get drunkand be like, oh fuck, this
holiday I'm single, you knowthat kind of vibe.
But I don't think I ever hatedit.
I think I've always been likelow key or romantic.
So I like love that Any excuseto like do something nice for
(03:12):
someone else.
Speaker 1 (03:14):
I didn't hate it, but I was so sappy about it when I
was single I was like I'm nevergonna find love.
Nobody's ever gonna love me.
Speaker 2 (03:25):
I used to call it Independence Day.
Yeah, because you'recelebrating your independence.
Anyways, go ahead.
Speaker 3 (03:36):
I mean that unwanted independence, or wanted, or
wanted.
Speaker 1 (03:40):
Some of them wanted it, I didn't.
I definitely didn't I was finewith it Actually.
Jerome was the first person toever give me flowers for
Valentine's Day.
Speaker 2 (03:51):
Oh, friend, I never gave you flowers.
Speaker 1 (03:53):
I remember you drove to old work for somebody else
and gave them flowers on theirbirthday, but I never got any.
Speaker 3 (04:01):
But not you, nope, and she did it in front of you,
in front of me.
Oh, wow, wow.
Who is that?
Somebody else.
Speaker 1 (04:06):
You know who she is.
Hi, I love you, boo-boo, wemiss you.
Speaker 3 (04:13):
I don't know who it is.
Who, oh, ok, I'm sorry, butlike obviously, you would have
done the same thing.
Speaker 1 (04:22):
She's a fucking kid.
Speaker 3 (04:23):
No, I would have brought both of you.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
Thank you, but it wasn't Sonia's birthday so I
couldn't do that, but she stillwould have bought me flowers.
Speaker 3 (04:30):
Yeah, for that it just would have been like a ever
so slightly smaller arrangement, she would have hated it Like
no, I would have not.
Speaker 2 (04:37):
No, she wouldn't have Lucky, she would have.
Speaker 3 (04:39):
Because I do that now with my parents.
You do.
Speaker 2 (04:43):
Yeah, oh my gosh, my mom.
This is so off topic, but shehates when we give my dad
presents.
Speaker 3 (04:49):
Because she's a jelly belly.
She doesn't hate it, but shegets jealous.
She gets jealous.
That's my mom too.
Speaker 2 (04:55):
Really, oh my god, I thought it was just my mom.
I was like mom, it's not, sowhenever I get something, it's
father's day too.
Speaker 1 (05:01):
Yeah, your mother's day went by just a few months
ago, calm down baby, it doesn'tmatter.
Speaker 3 (05:08):
So I understand.
So I would have brought you.
Speaker 1 (05:10):
Thank you, yeah, I appreciate that I can't believe
you still remember that.
Oh, I will never forget.
You have traumatized her.
Speaker 2 (05:17):
They were beautiful flowers.
Speaker 1 (05:18):
They were exactly.
I hope she likes them.
Hey, boo, she loved them.
Speaker 3 (05:22):
I think she needs to pay for your therapy.
Speaker 1 (05:25):
Anyways, we were talking about Valentine's Day,
anyways, no but Jerome was thefirst person to give me
Valentine's Day flowers and hesent them to work and I was so
lala.
Speaker 2 (05:37):
I was like, yeah, that's like a highlight, right.
Yeah, you sent me flowers towork.
Speaker 1 (05:42):
And oh my gosh, like everybody look at this.
I have a boyfriend and we werenot dating at the time Somebody
like me.
Speaker 3 (05:50):
Really the style contestant, though he was trying
to pull you.
Speaker 1 (05:54):
It worked, it worked, it worked.
You do it again.
Speaker 3 (05:57):
So, men, if you're listening, you're trying to, or
women, or women.
My bad.
Thank you.
Thank you for that perspective,Gotcha girl.
Speaker 2 (06:05):
That's why we're here .
That's why we're here, Men orwomen they thems all in between.
Speaker 3 (06:12):
If you want to pull your partner or your crush or
whatever, get them flowers.
Speaker 2 (06:16):
And send them to work .
I can't believe Send them towork.
Honestly, as a person who dateswomen too, I can't believe how
many women don't get flowers.
Don't get or give, no, don'tget them.
It's insane because I wouldalways give flowers, Except for
me Not like I dated a lot ofpeople.
Speaker 1 (06:33):
right Now, I know where I stand with you.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
No, no, I'm talking about romantic, romantic.
I don't care, I don't care.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
I'm more of a misad.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
You're more of a more of a misad.
I've never gotten flowers.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
Never Ever.
No, I'm just kidding.
You have for my birthday.
Speaker 2 (06:48):
I have.
Speaker 1 (06:48):
Yeah, I've given flowers to so many people.
You just didn't take them towork.
You didn't make a special tripfor me, OK.
Speaker 3 (06:55):
You know what I'm going to do I'm going to deliver
myself flowers.
Do it, do it, and I'm going tobe like oh anonymous, who did
this, I wonder?
There's sadly, no one's evergiven me flowers on those days
either.
Speaker 2 (07:10):
Do what I can't believe that.
I can't believe that.
Speaker 3 (07:13):
That's my heartbreaking.
Oh, that's fine.
Speaker 1 (07:17):
Maybe this year will be there, maybe.
Speaker 3 (07:21):
I was supposed to start working on finding a
relationship to start that, butwe're working on it.
Speaker 2 (07:26):
We're working on it as a team.
Speaker 1 (07:29):
As a team.
Speaker 3 (07:29):
It's going to be a team sport a team effort and
maybe that's what I need.
Speaker 1 (07:36):
Yes, I needed a.
Speaker 3 (07:37):
PR team.
Speaker 1 (07:39):
We got you girl, we got you, we got you.
Speaker 3 (07:42):
Anyways, I would love that for me to happen, and to
everyone else as well.
Speaker 1 (07:46):
It feels really nice.
Like honestly it does.
Speaker 3 (07:50):
I get a little bit of attention.
Speaker 1 (07:52):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (07:53):
And then you know someone's going to be jealous.
You know someone's going to bejealous and I personally enjoy
that.
Speaker 2 (08:00):
I would personally enjoy that you just sit there
and smile.
I just enjoy that.
I'm glad I met you.
You're flowers.
Speaker 3 (08:06):
And then you'd see someone give you a stank face
and you'd be like mm-hmm, yeah,they're mine.
Speaker 2 (08:14):
What about who got bigger flowers?
Because there?
Are some places where they'relike a bunch of girls get it,
but some of them are bigger,some of them are smaller.
Does that matter?
Does size matter when it comesto?
Speaker 3 (08:24):
flowers, flowers or flowers.
Speaker 1 (08:28):
Flowers and flowers.
I don't feel like size matters.
Speaker 3 (08:31):
I think yeah, I know, I don't think so the bigger the
better, obviously.
Speaker 1 (08:36):
They're hard to carry .
Speaker 3 (08:40):
Wait, are we still?
Speaker 1 (08:41):
talking about flowers .
Speaker 3 (08:42):
I have no time to carry about flowers.
Speaker 1 (08:45):
You guys are sick.
I would like to.
Speaker 3 (08:50):
Flowers.
I would like to, I would liketo carry flowers.
They're terrible.
Even if you give me a smallarrangement and a little mason
jar, what if you get?
Speaker 2 (08:58):
her so cute.
A rose, is that enough?
Speaker 1 (09:01):
That's fine.
Yeah, that is fine, that'stotally fine.
Speaker 2 (09:04):
I've never been a big fan, so I don't really care for
flowers.
Speaker 1 (09:07):
You don't like flowers.
Speaker 2 (09:08):
I love flowers.
I think they're beautiful, butI've never really cared for them
.
It's not something that's goingto wow me Make your day.
Speaker 3 (09:14):
What would make your day?
What would be your gift?
What would be your Valentine'sDay?
Speaker 1 (09:19):
What would somebody?
What has been one of the giftsfor Valentine's Day that a
person, a partner, got for youthat you're like?
Yes, this is my thing.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
I can't remember because I have really bad memory
, but I think Did they give youmoney?
No, I don't like money likethat.
Speaker 1 (09:34):
That's so not thoughtful.
Speaker 2 (09:36):
No, it's not.
I feel like doing something funthat we both enjoy would be
cool.
Little activity moment, uh-huh,yeah, more than a thing.
Speaker 1 (09:48):
OK, even like quality time.
Speaker 2 (09:50):
Yeah, or even like a card.
A card is really sweet.
Speaker 3 (09:53):
Oh, that would be very cute.
Actually, that's not bad at all, that's really sweet.
Speaker 2 (09:56):
But I mean, I enjoy flowers.
You can keep giving them to me.
I've gotten flowers severalValentine's, but it's never
something that's been like.
Oh my gosh.
Speaker 3 (10:06):
You need this yeah.
Speaker 2 (10:08):
OK.
Speaker 1 (10:09):
I love flowers.
I'm good.
Yeah, flowers for my birthday,flowers for Valentine's I love
flowers.
Speaker 2 (10:14):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (10:15):
Especially when someone gets them for you.
Yeah, it's great.
It may not be unsee, but it'sfine.
Speaker 1 (10:20):
Right.
Speaker 2 (10:21):
For your birthday though.
Speaker 1 (10:23):
Yeah, I got you Not a special trip right now.
Speaker 2 (10:26):
Did I not come to see you, though, ever?
Speaker 3 (10:28):
No, she said move bitch, I'm here to see my boo,
yeah, basically.
Speaker 1 (10:35):
Not once.
That is not true.
I'm pretty sure I came to seeyou.
You have not.
You might not have a goodmemory, but I do.
I think I was there.
You said shut the fuck up, youwouldn't move.
I'm here to see someone else.
She found me crying in thecloset.
Speaker 2 (10:54):
I did.
Speaker 3 (10:55):
I did.
Speaker 1 (10:55):
I regretted it.
Speaker 3 (10:57):
That's what it was.
It was the broom closet.
Yeah, it was so dark.
I fucking hate you.
Speaker 1 (11:04):
It was so dark.
Baby girl, come back here.
Speaker 2 (11:06):
Baby girl.
You never call the baby girl.
Speaker 1 (11:10):
You're so bullshit.
In that moment you had to.
Yeah, I was so distraught andmy makeup was like running that
I had to be pulled out of there.
Baby girl, come here.
And then she went and took meand bought me some dinner.
Speaker 3 (11:25):
I did.
I bought her a steak dinner Toomuch.
Oh my gosh, just kidding.
Speaker 1 (11:33):
Why do you guys?
Speaker 3 (11:33):
think people hate Valentine's Day.
Speaker 1 (11:36):
I think it's a reminder that they're alone,
that you're single here, thatyou're single, You're single but
that doesn't mean, you're alone, I guess yeah, but like the
partner me and Ryan, I guess itdepends on how you're seeing
that time of your life.
Speaker 2 (11:49):
If you're single, right.
If you're actively being in astate of despair and pain, then
that reminder that other peoplehave somebody who loves them,
it's obviously hurtful.
Speaker 1 (12:01):
Yeah, that's true, I think when I was like 30, 30, 34
, that was single.
It's like, ok, I'll just figureout how to celebrate
Valentine's Day in a differentway, because I just really
believed that it was not goingto be for me.
So it was just like, OK, I'llparty with my friends that are
single.
Hell yeah, we did party.
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We did party.
Speaker 3 (12:23):
We did party pretty hard.
I mean, if you can do that doit.
Speaker 1 (12:25):
Yeah, Change your.
I think changing your way oflooking at that day, it's a good
skill.
Speaker 3 (12:34):
It's a holiday that has been very commercialized.
Yes, it does have some sort ofvillages background to it, but
it's a holiday that's been verycommercialized.
It would be like a day whereyou spend money.
Speaker 2 (12:47):
Like fucking capitalism, exactly.
Gosh.
Speaker 1 (12:53):
Capitalism has ruined Valentine's Day.
It's ruined everything.
Speaker 3 (13:00):
Sorry, you wanted to start this, didn't you?
Speaker 2 (13:05):
Sorry for anyone who's listening and just got
their ears destroyed by that.
You're welcome.
We apologize, I don't.
Speaker 3 (13:12):
Anyways it's become like a very commercialized
holiday.
So don't feel too bad.
It's being pushed down ourthroat, you know it's.
It can be a small gesture, itcan be a good small gesture, it
can be a huge gesture.
But like, be mindful, word ofthe week, word of the week Again
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, a game, a game, you got to sayit like that.
Anyways, it's being pushed downour throats, it's being like
commercialized, it's being, youknow, yeah it's all over.
Speaker 2 (13:45):
You know like anything that's being pushed
down your throat, obviously.
Speaker 3 (13:51):
And I think we should be aware I'm going to skip
right over that.
Speaker 1 (13:59):
And Valentine's Day.
Speaker 3 (14:01):
And Valentine's, a lot of these activities.
Take that, I'm like anyway,anyways, it's getting hot in
here.
Speaker 2 (14:12):
No, no, no but like can you open the window?
Speaker 3 (14:17):
Don't feel too bad about this going on in your life
right now yeah you're lonelythe rest of the year.
Oh gosh.
Speaker 1 (14:31):
I actually did see a meme.
It's like don't be sad thatnobody likes you on Valentine's
Day.
Nobody likes you any other dayof the year.
So sad.
Speaker 3 (14:42):
It's so sad.
So I think that's the mentalitysome individuals may take.
Speaker 2 (14:46):
I think it's a good thing to think about friendships
though, like if you don't havea partner, maybe you have
friendships.
Or if you have your parents, orif you have like grandparents
or wherever you have that youcan celebrate that relationship
with.
It's like a good opportunity todo that, I think.
Speaker 1 (14:59):
Yeah, I'm going to share how.
But when I was really singleand she knew like I was
struggling with it, she used tosend me little Valentine's
flower pictures on my phone andshe always wished me happy.
Valentine's.
Day she would make me specialdinners, and like she always
tried to treat me extra well sothat I didn't feel lonely, and
(15:20):
it was like yeah, very sweet,but yeah, did you guys get gifts
, valentine's gifts, from yourparents as children?
Speaker 3 (15:27):
Oh, parents, no, I did.
Speaker 2 (15:30):
I think that's super cute.
Speaker 3 (15:32):
My dad used to get me a gift, and my mom too.
Speaker 2 (15:34):
Oh, I love that.
Speaker 1 (15:34):
That's so sweet.
Speaker 3 (15:36):
Actually, maybe that's when I got flowers, but
anyways, so you have gottenflowers.
Speaker 2 (15:41):
Yes, actually, yeah, you have.
Speaker 3 (15:43):
I got this little dog that said I love you and I was
like ah, thank you, dad.
Speaker 1 (15:49):
Tell your dad and your mom that that's a good
tradition.
They need to continue, yeah youknow what?
Speaker 3 (15:54):
Maybe not with me, but with Giancarlo, yeah that's
cute, my nephew Mm hmm.
Speaker 1 (15:58):
I like that, I mean with you too, sure.
Speaker 2 (16:03):
How do you guys feel about asking someone to be your
Valentine?
Have you guys ever done that?
Speaker 3 (16:08):
No, I haven't, but I think I will someday.
Yeah, yeah, mm.
Hmm, how would you do it?
Will you be my Valentine?
Speaker 2 (16:15):
You would just say it like that Is that not enough
for you.
For me personally, no, butmaybe for the person you're with
.
Speaker 3 (16:22):
I'm just kidding.
No, I'm just kidding.
Do I have to like bringsomething with me?
Is that a good idea?
Like a lollipop, a lollipopwould be great.
Speaker 1 (16:32):
Am I?
I see why.
Ok, I get it.
What?
Where's she singing, yeah?
Speaker 3 (16:38):
Please.
I expect everything.
Speaker 1 (16:40):
I'm just like wait a minute, Like I have to put in
the effort I do.
Yes.
Speaker 3 (16:47):
Fuck, that's what I've been doing wrong this whole
time, mm hmm, oops, we'll workon it.
Speaker 1 (16:51):
We'll work on it.
Yeah, we'll work on it.
Team effort, team effort.
Speaker 3 (16:53):
Yes, yes, yes, ok, but yeah, I feel like I would.
I would ask someone to be myValentine.
Speaker 2 (17:01):
Yeah, yeah, think in a way to right now.
Speaker 1 (17:04):
Mm hmm, do it Me.
I never asked, but I guess Ishould ask my husband if he
wants to be my Valentine, right,mm hmm?
Speaker 2 (17:13):
Do it right now?
Speaker 1 (17:14):
I shouldn't assume.
No, I'm going to make itspecial.
Speaker 3 (17:16):
Oh, you're so cute.
Ok, start now, though.
No, oh, ok, she said no, shesaid no, and it's no Final.
But she's got a surprise readyfor you Tonight.
Speaker 1 (17:32):
Woo, ok, not tonight, babe.
I'm sorry I have to go shoppingfor your surprise.
It's a word I shared Real quick.
I'm going to look throughAmazon.
Speaker 3 (17:48):
Didn't he get a 3D printer?
Get him some filament.
Speaker 2 (17:52):
Oh there you go yeah yeah, he's like oh, what about
you Red?
Speaker 1 (17:57):
Oh yeah, that's a red and pink.
Speaker 3 (18:00):
Oh man, yeah.
What about you, Nancy?
Have you ever or will you ever?
Speaker 2 (18:05):
I have asked people to be my Valentine before.
Yes, love that.
Somebody just asked me.
Speaker 3 (18:11):
Love it even more.
Speaker 2 (18:12):
Mm, hmm, and I said yes.
Speaker 1 (18:14):
And it was super cute Very special.
Speaker 2 (18:16):
Yeah, it feels really nice.
Ok, even if you're in arelationship, I think I mean
it's a given right that's yourperson.
Speaker 3 (18:22):
I think, yeah, I think, especially if you're in a
relationship.
Speaker 2 (18:25):
It's really special to see them put the effort to
ask, but they're still thinkingabout you For a special day,
yeah.
Speaker 1 (18:32):
Love that yeah.
Speaker 2 (18:33):
So cute.
Speaker 3 (18:33):
Very cute.
Speaker 1 (18:34):
We are cheesy, we are , and hopeless, romantic Mm, hmm
, yeah.
Speaker 2 (18:40):
Me too.
Yeah, some of us are.
Some of us you aren't.
Speaker 1 (18:47):
You.
I think you're, I think you are.
Speaker 2 (18:52):
Yeah, I think you're slowly coming over to this side,
though.
Speaker 3 (18:55):
I think so.
Speaker 2 (18:55):
I'm like feeling you gave us hugs.
Now I do.
Speaker 3 (19:00):
How is that?
Yeah, that's weird.
It's great, but you know what Iwas like.
I've thought about this.
I'm not sure about this yet.
Get married on Valentine's Dayno.
Speaker 2 (19:10):
Why not?
How do you feel about that,sonia?
I think it's great, yeah.
Yeah, I don't know why wouldn'tyou do it, because I mean,
you're hoping that this is goingto last forever.
Speaker 1 (19:20):
But if it doesn't, valentine's Day will always
remind you.
Speaker 3 (19:23):
I don't think so.
That way, though, just move on.
I don't think so Just move on?
I don't think so.
Just forget the past.
Learn to move on.
Jeez, I get you saying no, butthat's a good perspective.
Like yes, it could be verymemorable in a good way and in
also a good way, but about,about proposals.
Speaker 2 (19:45):
I don't think so.
I think they have to be thereseparately For me.
Speaker 3 (19:48):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (19:49):
Yeah, I don't think.
Speaker 3 (19:49):
I would mind.
Speaker 2 (19:51):
I think, yeah, yeah, I guess it would be cute.
Speaker 1 (19:53):
I mean, I wouldn't say no, Obviously no do it
tomorrow, the 15th.
Speaker 3 (19:59):
I don't want it to be on a ballot.
How?
Speaker 1 (20:03):
dare you.
Oh, my gosh.
Speaker 3 (20:05):
I just hope that it doesn't feel like forced for
people to spend a lot of moneyon this day.
Speaker 1 (20:11):
You shouldn't have to spend a lot of money on this.
Speaker 2 (20:13):
Yeah, I think you can like even write something out
by a card, or even just write anote.
That could be super special.
Like we were saying, just evenbuy it If you want to buy
something, like one rose.
You don't have to go like andspend money that you don't have.
Exactly Especially that try toimpress someone because that's
not the reality of you.
Speaker 3 (20:36):
You're showing something different, so they're
getting something that's notreally you and the other
individual shouldn't be, I guess, asking for too much, or but I
don't mean that in a way of likenot being able to ask for
things, but like they, if youknow this person, if you know
the other individual, like youshould know their limits in a
way and don't ask for too muchIf you know that they can't give
(20:58):
you a lot.
Speaker 1 (20:59):
but I mean I think in our first season we talked
about love languages and howimportant it was to love
languages.
And I think, like learning thepeople you hang around with
their love language will helpyou or give you like a little
bit of a heads up on, like giftsand stuff and, like you were
saying, if you can afford, likeflowers or shiny flowers to work
(21:22):
because it can be expensive.
Yeah, so like you can clean upthe house because some people
love acts of service you cancook a dinner.
You can.
What did you say?
Clean it right, I have no.
You can give, like, make, craft, something, like you know,
(21:44):
there's so many things that areso meaningful that you don't
have to spend too much money on.
Speaker 2 (21:48):
Yeah, so one day somebody wrote a song for me.
Speaker 1 (21:52):
Oh, and then I realized that it was a the
bookie song.
Oh, plagiarism.
Not only that, but like atleast for me.
Speaker 2 (22:03):
The book is like dude , it was so funny.
Speaker 3 (22:06):
Yeah, that's not my thing.
They literally told you.
They wrote that song for youyeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (22:12):
What song was it?
Speaker 2 (22:13):
I don't remember it anymore, it was just really
funny.
Speaker 3 (22:16):
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (22:17):
Yeah, for a guy.
Speaker 3 (22:22):
The average Valentine's Day gift giver
spends nearly $200 onValentine's Day gifts and
goodies for about 26 billionoverall 26 billion industry.
Yeah, you don't have to worryabout spending too much.
It's being taken care of byother individuals.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (22:41):
Just do nice things for each other.
Do you guys have?
Speaker 2 (22:44):
any expectations if you're in a relationship, or
would you care if you didn't getanything?
Speaker 3 (22:50):
Oh, I would definitely care.
Yeah, I would throw a fit, saysthe person that just said,
don't ask for too much.
Speaker 1 (23:00):
Know what the other individual has and doesn't have.
I would throw a fit.
Speaker 3 (23:07):
If you don't get anything, you wouldn't say
something like nothing, not evenif they didn't ask you to be
your Valentine's, Like I'mthinking from that perspective,
like if they just completelyignored it and it's just another
day, but you're with yourpartner.
Speaker 1 (23:22):
I think I would be heard and like a little bothered
and you would have no.
Speaker 2 (23:33):
But because I save my fit for other things.
But you never give me a thought.
Speaker 3 (23:37):
Anyway, I told you from the closet Exactly.
Speaker 1 (23:42):
That's a whole different story.
That was a birthday fit.
Birthdays are more importantthan Valentine's.
Speaker 2 (23:50):
That's what I'm saying and I got your flowers
for your birthday.
You're welcome.
Speaker 1 (23:53):
But you didn't take them to my work.
You're welcome Anyway no, Ithink I would be hurt.
So, yeah, I also think you haveto have like a good line of
communication, like you can'texpect your partner to be like
like know everything you want oryou need.
Like you know, are youexpecting?
(24:16):
Like are you guys going to makesomething out of this holiday?
Are you going to work togethertowards it?
Are we going to be the kind ofcouples that don't celebrate?
Like you have to communicateyour expectations and then if
you communicated yourexpectations and he's still, or
they still show up with nothing,then you address it.
Speaker 2 (24:34):
Then yeah, they can throw it.
Speaker 3 (24:38):
Thanks for the coaching that kind of reminds me
of.
That's actually a great pointto bring up because that reminds
me of I don't know if you guyssaw this video on that this lady
has never had their stockingfilled up from their husband and
she fills them up for herhusband and her children and I'm
like, okay, yeah, that feelsawful, but like you also never
(24:59):
told them to, there was nocommunication.
Speaker 2 (25:02):
I feel like if it's there and nobody's like
everybody's seeing it, but,nobody's taking care of it.
Speaker 3 (25:07):
That's a different story.
Speaker 2 (25:07):
That's kind of like a punch in the face.
Speaker 1 (25:11):
I feel like that's just being kind, like your wife
does all these things for youand your kids and you.
How have you not noticed thatshe, her stuff, is never like,
but there's nothing ever in hersLike?
How have you managed to spendall this time with her and not?
Speaker 3 (25:30):
notice that Right.
Like oh, she might need somehair ties.
Speaker 1 (25:33):
Let me put them even if that you know, or chocolate
would probably be happy withanything at this point Exactly
yeah.
Speaker 2 (25:39):
Anything's better than nothing.
Yeah, but that's a differentperspective.
Speaker 3 (25:43):
But I mean, if you spend that much time, yeah,
different holiday too, but Iwould step after the first year.
Speaker 1 (25:51):
I'd be like well where the couple that doesn't
give each other anything thentake everything down.
I'll give stuff to the kids.
Speaker 2 (26:00):
Return everything Amazon.
Here you go.
Speaker 1 (26:05):
Refuse the delivery of stuff.
I think it out of here.
Speaker 3 (26:10):
Yeah that While most people send out nice messages
for holiday, Victorian era folkssometimes use Valentine's to
turn down a suitor called avinegar Valentine.
Oh, I do like it, but I hopethat never happened.
Speaker 2 (26:29):
Have you ever said no to someone who asked you to be
their Valentine?
Speaker 1 (26:33):
No, I never really got asked to be anybody's
Valentine.
Oh no, I'm so sad.
Speaker 2 (26:41):
I mean my husband did ask me.
Speaker 1 (26:42):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (26:43):
Yeah, before him yeah .
Speaker 1 (26:45):
So I couldn't turn anyone down.
Speaker 2 (26:48):
Otherwise I would have have you guys seen the
videos where like there'sflowers or like the big teddy
bears in the trash can, wherethat's so sad.
Speaker 1 (26:58):
Probably like the guys who have been turned down.
I know I hate that.
Speaker 2 (27:02):
But also, you can't say yes just because no you
shouldn't.
Speaker 3 (27:07):
You.
Can I take the presents?
That's not your.
Speaker 1 (27:10):
Valentine.
Speaker 2 (27:11):
No, that's no.
That's why why he's alreadyspent the money.
Speaker 3 (27:18):
Don't go away.
I would even name the teddybear after you.
Speaker 1 (27:24):
She would have a collection of teddy bears and
this one is, and this and thisman.
Speaker 3 (27:37):
No, I'm just kidding, I would never do that, yeah.
But I totally understand liketurning them down If you're not
going to feel anything towardsthem.
Speaker 2 (27:44):
Yeah, I think it's sad.
But also, what else can you do?
Like, yeah, it's the fuckingsucks, but you're not going to
say yes just because you don'twant him to feel bad.
That's, I think that's worse.
Speaker 1 (27:52):
Yeah Cause, then you like have to break the news that
you only said yes because youdon't want to embarrass.
Speaker 2 (27:57):
Right teddy bear.
Speaker 1 (28:01):
It's because the teddy bear and the flowers were
like real muchones and I reallywanted them.
Whoa, and that changeseverything, but never mind.
Speaker 2 (28:12):
Wait a minute, do you ?
Speaker 3 (28:16):
guys have any Valentine's movies, isn't?
Speaker 2 (28:19):
there one called Valentine's Day.
Speaker 3 (28:20):
I wish I could tell you.
Speaker 2 (28:22):
Yeah, there is one With.
Speaker 1 (28:22):
Taylor.
Speaker 3 (28:23):
Swift.
Speaker 1 (28:23):
Taylor Lautner.
Bradley Cooper, bradley Cooper.
Speaker 2 (28:27):
You have a thing for me.
Speaker 3 (28:30):
No.
Speaker 2 (28:30):
Taylor.
Speaker 1 (28:31):
Swift in that movie.
But yeah, there is some moviecalled Valentine's Day.
Speaker 3 (28:34):
Okay, I wasn't sure if you guys knew of any, just so
I can watch.
Speaker 1 (28:40):
I just love all the rom-coms you do.
The Purposele is one of myfavorites.
Speaker 2 (28:45):
So funny.
Speaker 3 (28:45):
Is that with Sandra Bullock?
Speaker 2 (28:46):
Yeah, ryan Reynolds, I actually like that movie.
Speaker 1 (28:48):
Yeah, it's really funny.
Speaker 3 (28:50):
I watched it like twice.
Speaker 1 (28:51):
I love that movie.
Two weeks notice with SandraBullock in Hugh Grant.
Anything with Sandra Bullock.
Speaker 2 (28:56):
Hope floats.
She's so good.
I've never seen that one.
Speaker 3 (29:01):
What was it?
Speaker 1 (29:01):
called again.
Hope floats, hope floats WithSandra Bullock and Harry Styles.
Conrad Jinger.
Speaker 3 (29:08):
Yeah, I'm looking at that one.
Speaker 2 (29:11):
One of my favorite movies is Fifty First Date.
It's such a great movie.
Speaker 3 (29:15):
I've only watched part of it.
Speaker 2 (29:17):
The Wedding Singer.
It's so good.
Speaker 1 (29:20):
Ever After with Drew Barrymore.
Great, he's so cute.
He is very cute, do you wantmore?
No, I'm sorry, I'm sorry.
I think I have to sing a汽 tooI'm trying not to be a ok-.
Speaker 3 (29:32):
No, not everyone.
You're taking a look for thesong.
I love it.
Speaker 2 (29:37):
You're a ok-, stop Shinlink.
Speaker 1 (29:48):
I think we'll be vlogging again, again, soon, sir
, let's wrap this up.
Yes.
Speaker 2 (29:55):
Oh, thank you.
Speaker 1 (29:56):
Yeah, come over.
Speaker 3 (29:57):
Yes, I love you, love you so good.
Speaker 2 (30:00):
You might cry.
Has Gerard Bartlett?
Yes, yes.
And Hillary's swing, bro.
Speaker 1 (30:05):
Yes, she's good, and he is top Gerard in this movie,
Like he looks really good.
I mean not 300, the 300, gerard, like not that.
Speaker 3 (30:16):
But the next best thing.
My Gerard is Phantom of theOpera.
Gerard, oh, but Really.
Speaker 2 (30:21):
Hillary looks amazing in this movie.
Speaker 3 (30:23):
I bet she does.
I think she's good.
Speaker 1 (30:26):
Yeah, she's, yeah, my top Gerard is 300 Gerard.
Speaker 3 (30:30):
Minus.
Phantom of the Opera.
Her top, hillary swing I likeHillary's swing, minus Hillary's
swing.
Yes, we've heard her do itthree times the first 300 times
we get it.
Speaker 1 (30:49):
So she likes Hillary's swing.
Speaker 3 (30:51):
Got it and you and I have different versions of
Gerard, but we're that, we love.
Speaker 1 (30:54):
But you like PSI.
Love you, gerard OK.
I'll wash it.
Such a good movie.
Anyway, valentine's Day, yeah,watch all the sappy love movies.
They're great.
Speaker 2 (31:05):
Why not?
I always have a good ending.
Speaker 1 (31:07):
Yeah, I hope so, have you guys.
Oh, hitch is a good one withWill Smith.
Yeah, that's Eva Mendez, evaMendez.
Speaker 3 (31:15):
Oh, that one I watched a lifetime ago.
I can't even remember it, it'scute.
Speaker 2 (31:20):
It's like good Valentine's one.
Eva Mendez and Ryan GoslingGreat, love them, love them.
Speaker 3 (31:24):
Yes.
Love them, I wish they didcarpets together Like what's
called red carpet Red carpetCleaning.
Speaker 1 (31:35):
No, but that too.
Maybe they do that at home.
Speaker 3 (31:37):
Yeah, we're not, they have kids, so I mean, they're
probably doing that.
Speaker 2 (31:41):
My family and I have a business with clean carpets.
Anyone's interested?
Speaker 3 (31:46):
If anyone's interested, If you have a
business that needs cleaning,hit us up at Lundina City Mine
Please do.
Speaker 1 (31:53):
It's going to be so funny if we get all requests for
your carpet cleaning.
Speaker 3 (31:57):
That'd be great, as long as you listen to it while
you're cleaning, right, perfect.
Speaker 1 (32:01):
Why not?
Sounds great, doesn't?
Speaker 3 (32:03):
matter.
Speaker 1 (32:04):
Great, hey, but we have another topic.
We have a segment that we areready to dive into.
Speaker 2 (32:15):
Did we even say a fan favorite?
Speaker 1 (32:20):
Oh, that's big.
I like it.
Ooh, please go to my intro.
Speaker 2 (32:26):
Diana Zelysheet.
Speaker 3 (32:29):
What Welcome back hoes.
Speaker 1 (32:34):
What are you mad about today, diana?
I'm not mad, well, justdisappointed Just disappointed.
Speaker 3 (32:41):
That's like the mature person in me.
I like it Es que quiero un ramobuchón.
Speaker 1 (32:47):
Don't we all though?
Yeah, I want.
Can somebody show Jerome what aramo buchón is, so that he can?
Speaker 2 (32:54):
Yes, I'll put it right now, while you give your
answer.
Thank you.
Speaker 3 (32:57):
OK, so a ramo buchón is an extravagant show of
appreciation with flowers,chocolates, in a very large
manner, and it may be seen.
Yep, he sees it now.
Can I see the picture too?
Speaker 2 (33:15):
They're just huge right, that's it, it's very.
Speaker 1 (33:19):
It's like the size of a girl, yeah, and you've
probably seen it on social mediawhen these girls are holding a
huge bouquet.
Speaker 3 (33:28):
Girls are huge, that's what you heard.
Speaker 1 (33:33):
These girls are.
Speaker 3 (33:34):
The girls are holding a huge bouquet of flowers, also
known as buchón because of itssize.
Speaker 1 (33:43):
It's extravagant, but in general the word buchón just
means somebody.
That's very extravagant, right.
Speaker 3 (33:50):
Yeah, it could be seen.
I'm thinking borderline tacky.
Speaker 1 (33:55):
Yeah, not borderline, like really tacky.
Speaker 3 (33:57):
Not there for me but almost, but like almost, not
there, though Not there.
Speaker 1 (34:05):
Almost.
Are you serious, like not thereNot?
There, oh my gosh, I'm shockedthat you both said that, but,
like almost, I think it's allthe way.
Speaker 3 (34:14):
No, but that's appreciated, but almost is
appreciated because like they'regoing the extra mile, it may
not be super cute.
Speaker 2 (34:25):
But they always are cute though.
But yes, that's true, they arealways cute, so it has to be
cute.
It has to be cute.
Speaker 3 (34:31):
So it's just a little bit more than you would expect.
And receiving that would beamazing.
And not only that, I want thecarne asada.
I want a buchón carne asada.
Speaker 1 (34:43):
Extra, just Everything.
Extra Extra carne, extravegetables, tortillas.
Speaker 3 (34:51):
I'm thinking guacamole, yeah, girl.
Speaker 2 (34:56):
Exactly Like a whole tub of guacamole and some carne
Okay.
Speaker 3 (35:02):
Okay, que me recojen en la camineta buschona.
Pick me up in your lifted truck, in your buschon truck.
Speaker 2 (35:11):
Escalator.
Do they still use this spinningwheel?
Is that what you're looking for?
Speaker 3 (35:19):
No, that's not buschon.
Speaker 1 (35:22):
That's more like gangsta.
Yeah, exactly, she needs thecamineta with the big lifts.
Speaker 3 (35:28):
Yo quiero la chiva, la chiva y el helero.
Speaker 2 (35:32):
To go to the chicle.
Speaker 3 (35:33):
La chiva y el helero Lifted buschona.
Speaker 1 (35:37):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (35:39):
Just for a bit though .
Speaker 2 (35:41):
So they're gonna return it no because he's a
buschon.
Speaker 1 (35:45):
He might have another car.
Speaker 3 (35:48):
Exactly, he's gonna have two vehicles or three.
What else?
Una serenata buschona, Ah conbanda o norteño, mi norteño, yo
sería norteño.
Speaker 1 (36:02):
I would like a norteño banda, una banda o
mariachi.
Speaker 2 (36:05):
Mi mariachi would do it too.
Mariachi can always do it, I'mgonna do it.
Somebody gave me a margaritaearlier.
Speaker 3 (36:14):
So blame me on them.
Speaker 2 (36:15):
Anyway mariachi, mariachi banda norteña.
Speaker 1 (36:18):
whatever you want, Lo que sea, mientras que sea
serenata.
Speaker 3 (36:21):
Whatever it is, as long as es esa serenata.
Speaker 1 (36:24):
De un trio De un trio , de donde they're kind of po-.
Speaker 3 (36:32):
You guys are terrible .
Es de música, wey De músicaamigas Los slávidos.
Speaker 1 (36:38):
no, I feel like trios are kind of boring.
Speaker 3 (36:41):
They sing whatever you want, don't they?
Speaker 1 (36:44):
They sing whatever you want.
No, I feel like the music theysing is usually sad.
Speaker 2 (36:49):
That's why I was asking, because I don't know if
that would be a good serenatavibe.
Speaker 3 (36:53):
I thought it was just more like they bring three
individuals, three differentinstruments and then they sing
whatever you want them to.
Speaker 1 (36:59):
I thought that was my perspective about the video.
Whatever you want them to do.
Titi me preguntó.
I didn't go to the chat, though.
Yes.
Speaker 3 (37:08):
I hope they don't sing that one.
No, but I have a say no mybushon date.
Speaker 2 (37:13):
Fuck, no, come, come, and I have a date please.
Speaker 3 (37:15):
Okay, hold on, hold on what would be the perfect
serenata song for your bushon.
Speaker 2 (37:21):
What would be?
Speaker 1 (37:24):
That's such a great question.
I'm thinking.
I'm thinking Amor.
Speaker 2 (37:28):
Confuso de Gerard.
Speaker 3 (37:29):
Ortiz, that used to be my jam when I was younger.
Speaker 2 (37:34):
Mine is still.
I can see it in you.
Si nos dejan dejos elconocimiento?
Speaker 1 (37:40):
I don't know, I have to think about it Something by.
Speaker 2 (37:44):
Vicente.
Speaker 1 (37:45):
Fernández, I'm thinking.
Speaker 2 (37:47):
I thought you were going to say Carine León.
How could I forget?
Speaker 3 (37:52):
Carine León I'm trying to redo his.
Like.
You know how it doesn't work, Ican't do it.
I just want to remind you ofhim so you can think of a good
song.
Primerasita I hate the lovesong.
Speaker 1 (38:10):
It's a love song.
Speaker 2 (38:11):
It has a sad ending.
Speaker 3 (38:13):
I don't like happy endings.
Of course she does.
Who gave him a drink?
Speaker 1 (38:19):
Jero is not allowed to give her drinks anymore.
You're blaming them right now.
This is who I am.
Speaker 2 (38:26):
This is who you really are Lesbian, you're right
.
Speaker 1 (38:32):
Lesbian You're so dumb, you're so dumb.
Speaker 3 (38:38):
Lesbian yeah, lesbian .
You're so stupid you are, oh mygosh.
But yes, that's what I want.
Speaker 1 (38:50):
Serenita Wichona.
Speaker 3 (38:52):
Serenita Wichona.
So this is basically like acall to action.
Speaker 2 (38:55):
Is what you're doing?
You're sitting there and sayingthis shit.
Speaker 3 (39:00):
You know what?
Why not?
Are we manifesting it?
We are manifesting that themanifestation for the month.
Speaker 1 (39:07):
I just have a lot of questions about your type and
the Bujuan thing Coming fromthat person.
Right, but it's okay, you haveenough friends that can help you
get there.
Speaker 3 (39:20):
And advice Can we just talk about her type for a
second, because I think that'simportant context, or there's a
request that is a good point,because my type is a complete
opposite, so I'm concerned aboutthis, just because Okay, but
like any individual could dothis for their partner.
Speaker 1 (39:40):
Right, we can help him out.
Speaker 3 (39:43):
Yeah, you can look up this I don't want to say trend,
but this lifestyle and kind oflearn from it and try to imitate
it.
Speaker 1 (39:52):
Right, so you don't have to be a specific ethnicity.
Speaker 3 (39:56):
To be able to be Bujuan.
You just got to know how tolearn.
You just need to learn to be aBujuan.
Speaker 1 (40:03):
Exactly Got it.
Speaker 3 (40:05):
I like skinny white guys.
Good luck with that.
Speaker 1 (40:09):
The complete opposite of an Hispanic.
Bujuan, bujuan, I'm dead.
I think that was my type.
I think that was my type.
Speaker 3 (40:19):
I think that was my type.
Speaker 1 (40:22):
I think that was my concern.
As we went through the list ofthe things she wanted, I was
like Okay, okay, You're like Iam not able to check bucket.
But I mean call to action,manifestation, all the things.
I'm glad you're putting it outthere.
Yeah, it can happen.
Speaker 2 (40:41):
It can happen, you never know.
Speaker 1 (40:43):
You never know.
You never know.
You just should know that ifyou do get a Bujuan to do all
those things for you, they mightask for some.
Some weird things sent backWhoa, I'm not saying just like
they seem pretty intense.
Speaker 3 (41:01):
They do.
I am willing to try anythingonce, okay, well now we know
what a great way to live life.
Speaker 2 (41:10):
I'll try anything once.
Hold on.
I wish I could live life likeyou.
I'm not.
I don't want to try anythingonce.
Speaker 3 (41:22):
I'll just try once.
Speaker 1 (41:23):
I'll try it twice.
Oh my gosh no.
Speaker 3 (41:30):
Okay, let's be mindful of the things that you
are requesting yeah, I won't dodrugs.
Right, there's things that Iwouldn't do.
Speaker 1 (41:43):
You have a limit.
There's limits, we got it.
Speaker 3 (41:50):
It's very high.
One drug.
Speaker 1 (41:53):
All the others, never , never, basically.
Speaker 3 (42:02):
But anyways, that is my request from the universe.
I like it.
Speaker 1 (42:09):
Thanks.
Let's go back to Valentine'sDay.
Let's go back.
Let's wheel it back in.
Let's go back.
Any advice for Valentine's Daythat you have.
Speaker 3 (42:26):
Try to enjoy it.
Speaker 2 (42:28):
Just make the best of it, even if you get yourself a
gift.
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (42:33):
Take yourself out.
How, though?
Speaker 1 (42:38):
No wait, you are laughing at this, but it's such
a good thing to learn to go todinner by yourself.
Speaker 3 (42:45):
I'm thinking way darker.
Speaker 2 (42:47):
Take yourself out.
Oh my gosh.
Speaker 3 (42:51):
No, that's not what I mean.
We're thinking dates and dinner.
Get yourself out on a date byyourself.
Get yourself some candy.
Get yourself some flowers.
Nancy is very dark.
But it's fine.
Speaker 1 (43:08):
We're here to rephrase her things.
Speaker 3 (43:09):
No give her more margaritas.
Speaker 1 (43:11):
We should just talk to our listeners and see if they
want an extra margarita or lessmargarita for Nancy.
Speaker 3 (43:17):
I think that's a good idea.
She's got one margarita rightnow.
We should do two.
Speaker 1 (43:23):
Next time, let's ask our listeners what do you think
I?
Speaker 2 (43:27):
might start singing.
Speaker 3 (43:29):
Which one are you going to sing?
Speaker 1 (43:45):
Oh man.
Anyway, enjoy your Valentine'sDay and be happy.
You, yes, enjoy yourself, enjoyyour time and have a good night
and have a good night.
Speaker 3 (43:59):
Good day or good day, treat yourself.
We love you.
Bye See, ya, take yourself out.
Speaker 2 (44:09):
Thank you for listening to Latina State of
Mind, produced by us, yourawesome host, diana Senia and
Nancy.
Special shout out to Jerome,our editor.
Don't forget to follow us onInstagram at LSOM underscore
podcast and on Facebook atLatina State of Mind.
Hasta la próxima.
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Speaker 2 (00:30):
Hello, hello, and welcome to another episode of
Latina's State of Mind, season 2.
Alright, so we're gonna betalking about an episode that's
really timely.
Something that some people loveand some people hate, depending
(00:52):
on their relationship statusmost of the time Overall, how
they're feeling.
I guess some people hate iteven if they are in a
relationship.
So we're talking aboutValentine's Day.
Speaker 1 (01:07):
Okay, do you guys fall in love?
Speaker 2 (01:08):
I hate or I love I love, I love, I love, I love it
too.
Yeah, dang it.
Speaker 3 (01:16):
One of us should be against it, just for fucks of it
.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
We're suckers.
What do you guys love about it?
Speaker 1 (01:26):
I love the colors.
I was thinking that too.
I love the hearts, the colors.
Speaker 3 (01:32):
The hearts, the colors, the decorations, the
sweets, the cheesy comments,movies.
I feel like I don't get toexperience that every single
year, but this time is the timeto express yourself in that way.
Speaker 2 (01:47):
Yeah, it's a really good excuse to show how much you
love someone.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
And I hate it when people are like, oh, you should
tell me, but you love them allthe time.
Yeah but it's not easy foreverybody to say it and
sometimes people need these daysto say the things they want to
say.
So I think I love that.
It's an opportunity to sharefeelings with others.
And also I like it because inSpanish it's the day of love and
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friendship, so I grew uplooking at it as it's not only
just about love and being in arelationship, but it's like
being grateful for yourfriendship.
Speaker 2 (02:28):
That's how I grew up learning about it, yeah.
Speaker 3 (02:31):
Yeah, living through it, I guess.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
Yeah, I love it.
It was always about arelationship for me.
She's the whitest one of thegroup.
Speaker 3 (02:40):
So it makes sense.
Speaker 2 (02:42):
No, I'm just kidding.
No, you're right, I didn't eventhink about that.
It is love and friendship whichis super important.
Speaker 1 (02:49):
Did you ever hate it?
Speaker 2 (02:51):
I don't think I ever hated it.
I think when I was single andit was Valentine's Day, it was
kind of an excuse to get drunkand be like, oh fuck, this
holiday I'm single, you knowthat kind of vibe.
But I don't think I ever hatedit.
I think I've always been likelow key or romantic.
So I like love that Any excuseto like do something nice for
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someone else.
Speaker 1 (03:14):
I didn't hate it, but I was so sappy about it when I
was single I was like I'm nevergonna find love.
Nobody's ever gonna love me.
Speaker 2 (03:25):
I used to call it Independence Day.
Yeah, because you'recelebrating your independence.
Anyways, go ahead.
Speaker 3 (03:36):
I mean that unwanted independence, or wanted, or
wanted.
Speaker 1 (03:40):
Some of them wanted it, I didn't.
I definitely didn't I was finewith it Actually.
Jerome was the first person toever give me flowers for
Valentine's Day.
Speaker 2 (03:51):
Oh, friend, I never gave you flowers.
Speaker 1 (03:53):
I remember you drove to old work for somebody else
and gave them flowers on theirbirthday, but I never got any.
Speaker 3 (04:01):
But not you, nope, and she did it in front of you,
in front of me.
Oh, wow, wow.
Who is that?
Somebody else.
Speaker 1 (04:06):
You know who she is.
Hi, I love you, boo-boo, wemiss you.
Speaker 3 (04:13):
I don't know who it is.
Who, oh, ok, I'm sorry, butlike obviously, you would have
done the same thing.
Speaker 1 (04:22):
She's a fucking kid.
Speaker 3 (04:23):
No, I would have brought both of you.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
Thank you, but it wasn't Sonia's birthday so I
couldn't do that, but she stillwould have bought me flowers.
Speaker 3 (04:30):
Yeah, for that it just would have been like a ever
so slightly smaller arrangement, she would have hated it Like
no, I would have not.
Speaker 2 (04:37):
No, she wouldn't have Lucky, she would have.
Speaker 3 (04:39):
Because I do that now with my parents.
You do.
Speaker 2 (04:43):
Yeah, oh my gosh, my mom.
This is so off topic, but shehates when we give my dad
presents.
Speaker 3 (04:49):
Because she's a jelly belly.
She doesn't hate it, but shegets jealous.
She gets jealous.
That's my mom too.
Speaker 2 (04:55):
Really, oh my god, I thought it was just my mom.
I was like mom, it's not, sowhenever I get something, it's
father's day too.
Speaker 1 (05:01):
Yeah, your mother's day went by just a few months
ago, calm down baby, it doesn'tmatter.
Speaker 3 (05:08):
So I understand.
So I would have brought you.
Speaker 1 (05:10):
Thank you, yeah, I appreciate that I can't believe
you still remember that.
Oh, I will never forget.
You have traumatized her.
Speaker 2 (05:17):
They were beautiful flowers.
Speaker 1 (05:18):
They were exactly.
I hope she likes them.
Hey, boo, she loved them.
Speaker 3 (05:22):
I think she needs to pay for your therapy.
Speaker 1 (05:25):
Anyways, we were talking about Valentine's Day,
anyways, no but Jerome was thefirst person to give me
Valentine's Day flowers and hesent them to work and I was so
lala.
Speaker 2 (05:37):
I was like, yeah, that's like a highlight, right.
Yeah, you sent me flowers towork.
Speaker 1 (05:42):
And oh my gosh, like everybody look at this.
I have a boyfriend and we werenot dating at the time Somebody
like me.
Speaker 3 (05:50):
Really the style contestant, though he was trying
to pull you.
Speaker 1 (05:54):
It worked, it worked, it worked.
You do it again.
Speaker 3 (05:57):
So, men, if you're listening, you're trying to, or
women, or women.
My bad.
Thank you.
Thank you for that perspective,Gotcha girl.
Speaker 2 (06:05):
That's why we're here .
That's why we're here, Men orwomen they thems all in between.
Speaker 3 (06:12):
If you want to pull your partner or your crush or
whatever, get them flowers.
Speaker 2 (06:16):
And send them to work .
I can't believe Send them towork.
Honestly, as a person who dateswomen too, I can't believe how
many women don't get flowers.
Don't get or give, no, don'tget them.
It's insane because I wouldalways give flowers, Except for
me Not like I dated a lot ofpeople.
Speaker 1 (06:33):
right Now, I know where I stand with you.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
No, no, I'm talking about romantic, romantic.
I don't care, I don't care.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
I'm more of a misad.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
You're more of a more of a misad.
I've never gotten flowers.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
Never Ever.
No, I'm just kidding.
You have for my birthday.
Speaker 2 (06:48):
I have.
Speaker 1 (06:48):
Yeah, I've given flowers to so many people.
You just didn't take them towork.
You didn't make a special tripfor me, OK.
Speaker 3 (06:55):
You know what I'm going to do I'm going to deliver
myself flowers.
Do it, do it, and I'm going tobe like oh anonymous, who did
this, I wonder?
There's sadly, no one's evergiven me flowers on those days
either.
Speaker 2 (07:10):
Do what I can't believe that.
I can't believe that.
Speaker 3 (07:13):
That's my heartbreaking.
Oh, that's fine.
Speaker 1 (07:17):
Maybe this year will be there, maybe.
Speaker 3 (07:21):
I was supposed to start working on finding a
relationship to start that, butwe're working on it.
Speaker 2 (07:26):
We're working on it as a team.
Speaker 1 (07:29):
As a team.
Speaker 3 (07:29):
It's going to be a team sport a team effort and
maybe that's what I need.
Speaker 1 (07:36):
Yes, I needed a.
Speaker 3 (07:37):
PR team.
Speaker 1 (07:39):
We got you girl, we got you, we got you.
Speaker 3 (07:42):
Anyways, I would love that for me to happen, and to
everyone else as well.
Speaker 1 (07:46):
It feels really nice.
Like honestly it does.
Speaker 3 (07:50):
I get a little bit of attention.
Speaker 1 (07:52):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (07:53):
And then you know someone's going to be jealous.
You know someone's going to bejealous and I personally enjoy
that.
Speaker 2 (08:00):
I would personally enjoy that you just sit there
and smile.
I just enjoy that.
I'm glad I met you.
You're flowers.
Speaker 3 (08:06):
And then you'd see someone give you a stank face
and you'd be like mm-hmm, yeah,they're mine.
Speaker 2 (08:14):
What about who got bigger flowers?
Because there?
Are some places where they'relike a bunch of girls get it,
but some of them are bigger,some of them are smaller.
Does that matter?
Does size matter when it comesto?
Speaker 3 (08:24):
flowers, flowers or flowers.
Speaker 1 (08:28):
Flowers and flowers.
I don't feel like size matters.
Speaker 3 (08:31):
I think yeah, I know, I don't think so the bigger the
better, obviously.
Speaker 1 (08:36):
They're hard to carry .
Speaker 3 (08:40):
Wait, are we still?
Speaker 1 (08:41):
talking about flowers .
Speaker 3 (08:42):
I have no time to carry about flowers.
Speaker 1 (08:45):
You guys are sick.
I would like to.
Speaker 3 (08:50):
Flowers.
I would like to, I would liketo carry flowers.
They're terrible.
Even if you give me a smallarrangement and a little mason
jar, what if you get?
Speaker 2 (08:58):
her so cute.
A rose, is that enough?
Speaker 1 (09:01):
That's fine.
Yeah, that is fine, that'stotally fine.
Speaker 2 (09:04):
I've never been a big fan, so I don't really care for
flowers.
Speaker 1 (09:07):
You don't like flowers.
Speaker 2 (09:08):
I love flowers.
I think they're beautiful, butI've never really cared for them
.
It's not something that's goingto wow me Make your day.
Speaker 3 (09:14):
What would make your day?
What would be your gift?
What would be your Valentine'sDay?
Speaker 1 (09:19):
What would somebody?
What has been one of the giftsfor Valentine's Day that a
person, a partner, got for youthat you're like?
Yes, this is my thing.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
I can't remember because I have really bad memory
, but I think Did they give youmoney?
No, I don't like money likethat.
Speaker 1 (09:34):
That's so not thoughtful.
Speaker 2 (09:36):
No, it's not.
I feel like doing something funthat we both enjoy would be
cool.
Little activity moment, uh-huh,yeah, more than a thing.
Speaker 1 (09:48):
OK, even like quality time.
Speaker 2 (09:50):
Yeah, or even like a card.
A card is really sweet.
Speaker 3 (09:53):
Oh, that would be very cute.
Actually, that's not bad at all, that's really sweet.
Speaker 2 (09:56):
But I mean, I enjoy flowers.
You can keep giving them to me.
I've gotten flowers severalValentine's, but it's never
something that's been like.
Oh my gosh.
Speaker 3 (10:06):
You need this yeah.
Speaker 2 (10:08):
OK.
Speaker 1 (10:09):
I love flowers.
I'm good.
Yeah, flowers for my birthday,flowers for Valentine's I love
flowers.
Speaker 2 (10:14):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (10:15):
Especially when someone gets them for you.
Yeah, it's great.
It may not be unsee, but it'sfine.
Speaker 1 (10:20):
Right.
Speaker 2 (10:21):
For your birthday though.
Speaker 1 (10:23):
Yeah, I got you Not a special trip right now.
Speaker 2 (10:26):
Did I not come to see you, though, ever?
Speaker 3 (10:28):
No, she said move bitch, I'm here to see my boo,
yeah, basically.
Speaker 1 (10:35):
Not once.
That is not true.
I'm pretty sure I came to seeyou.
You have not.
You might not have a goodmemory, but I do.
I think I was there.
You said shut the fuck up, youwouldn't move.
I'm here to see someone else.
She found me crying in thecloset.
Speaker 2 (10:54):
I did.
Speaker 3 (10:55):
I did.
Speaker 1 (10:55):
I regretted it.
Speaker 3 (10:57):
That's what it was.
It was the broom closet.
Yeah, it was so dark.
I fucking hate you.
Speaker 1 (11:04):
It was so dark.
Baby girl, come back here.
Speaker 2 (11:06):
Baby girl.
You never call the baby girl.
Speaker 1 (11:10):
You're so bullshit.
In that moment you had to.
Yeah, I was so distraught andmy makeup was like running that
I had to be pulled out of there.
Baby girl, come here.
And then she went and took meand bought me some dinner.
Speaker 3 (11:25):
I did.
I bought her a steak dinner Toomuch.
Oh my gosh, just kidding.
Speaker 1 (11:33):
Why do you guys?
Speaker 3 (11:33):
think people hate Valentine's Day.
Speaker 1 (11:36):
I think it's a reminder that they're alone,
that you're single here, thatyou're single, You're single but
that doesn't mean, you're alone, I guess yeah, but like the
partner me and Ryan, I guess itdepends on how you're seeing
that time of your life.
Speaker 2 (11:49):
If you're single, right.
If you're actively being in astate of despair and pain, then
that reminder that other peoplehave somebody who loves them,
it's obviously hurtful.
Speaker 1 (12:01):
Yeah, that's true, I think when I was like 30, 30, 34
, that was single.
It's like, ok, I'll just figureout how to celebrate
Valentine's Day in a differentway, because I just really
believed that it was not goingto be for me.
So it was just like, OK, I'llparty with my friends that are
single.
Hell yeah, we did party.
(12:22):
We did party.
Speaker 3 (12:23):
We did party pretty hard.
I mean, if you can do that doit.
Speaker 1 (12:25):
Yeah, Change your.
I think changing your way oflooking at that day, it's a good
skill.
Speaker 3 (12:34):
It's a holiday that has been very commercialized.
Yes, it does have some sort ofvillages background to it, but
it's a holiday that's been verycommercialized.
It would be like a day whereyou spend money.
Speaker 2 (12:47):
Like fucking capitalism, exactly.
Gosh.
Speaker 1 (12:53):
Capitalism has ruined Valentine's Day.
It's ruined everything.
Speaker 3 (13:00):
Sorry, you wanted to start this, didn't you?
Speaker 2 (13:05):
Sorry for anyone who's listening and just got
their ears destroyed by that.
You're welcome.
We apologize, I don't.
Speaker 3 (13:12):
Anyways it's become like a very commercialized
holiday.
So don't feel too bad.
It's being pushed down ourthroat, you know it's.
It can be a small gesture, itcan be a good small gesture, it
can be a huge gesture.
But like, be mindful, word ofthe week, word of the week Again
(13:32):
, a game, a game, you got to sayit like that.
Anyways, it's being pushed downour throats, it's being like
commercialized, it's being, youknow, yeah it's all over.
Speaker 2 (13:45):
You know like anything that's being pushed
down your throat, obviously.
Speaker 3 (13:51):
And I think we should be aware I'm going to skip
right over that.
Speaker 1 (13:59):
And Valentine's Day.
Speaker 3 (14:01):
And Valentine's, a lot of these activities.
Take that, I'm like anyway,anyways, it's getting hot in
here.
Speaker 2 (14:12):
No, no, no but like can you open the window?
Speaker 3 (14:17):
Don't feel too bad about this going on in your life
right now yeah you're lonelythe rest of the year.
Oh gosh.
Speaker 1 (14:31):
I actually did see a meme.
It's like don't be sad thatnobody likes you on Valentine's
Day.
Nobody likes you any other dayof the year.
So sad.
Speaker 3 (14:42):
It's so sad.
So I think that's the mentalitysome individuals may take.
Speaker 2 (14:46):
I think it's a good thing to think about friendships
though, like if you don't havea partner, maybe you have
friendships.
Or if you have your parents, orif you have like grandparents
or wherever you have that youcan celebrate that relationship
with.
It's like a good opportunity todo that, I think.
Speaker 1 (14:59):
Yeah, I'm going to share how.
But when I was really singleand she knew like I was
struggling with it, she used tosend me little Valentine's
flower pictures on my phone andshe always wished me happy.
Valentine's.
Day she would make me specialdinners, and like she always
tried to treat me extra well sothat I didn't feel lonely, and
(15:20):
it was like yeah, very sweet,but yeah, did you guys get gifts
, valentine's gifts, from yourparents as children?
Speaker 3 (15:27):
Oh, parents, no, I did.
Speaker 2 (15:30):
I think that's super cute.
Speaker 3 (15:32):
My dad used to get me a gift, and my mom too.
Speaker 2 (15:34):
Oh, I love that.
Speaker 1 (15:34):
That's so sweet.
Speaker 3 (15:36):
Actually, maybe that's when I got flowers, but
anyways, so you have gottenflowers.
Speaker 2 (15:41):
Yes, actually, yeah, you have.
Speaker 3 (15:43):
I got this little dog that said I love you and I was
like ah, thank you, dad.
Speaker 1 (15:49):
Tell your dad and your mom that that's a good
tradition.
They need to continue, yeah youknow what?
Speaker 3 (15:54):
Maybe not with me, but with Giancarlo, yeah that's
cute, my nephew Mm hmm.
Speaker 1 (15:58):
I like that, I mean with you too, sure.
Speaker 2 (16:03):
How do you guys feel about asking someone to be your
Valentine?
Have you guys ever done that?
Speaker 3 (16:08):
No, I haven't, but I think I will someday.
Yeah, yeah, mm.
Hmm, how would you do it?
Will you be my Valentine?
Speaker 2 (16:15):
You would just say it like that Is that not enough
for you.
For me personally, no, butmaybe for the person you're with
.
Speaker 3 (16:22):
I'm just kidding.
No, I'm just kidding.
Do I have to like bringsomething with me?
Is that a good idea?
Like a lollipop, a lollipopwould be great.
Speaker 1 (16:32):
Am I?
I see why.
Ok, I get it.
What?
Where's she singing, yeah?
Speaker 3 (16:38):
Please.
I expect everything.
Speaker 1 (16:40):
I'm just like wait a minute, Like I have to put in
the effort I do.
Yes.
Speaker 3 (16:47):
Fuck, that's what I've been doing wrong this whole
time, mm hmm, oops, we'll workon it.
Speaker 1 (16:51):
We'll work on it.
Yeah, we'll work on it.
Team effort, team effort.
Speaker 3 (16:53):
Yes, yes, yes, ok, but yeah, I feel like I would.
I would ask someone to be myValentine.
Speaker 2 (17:01):
Yeah, yeah, think in a way to right now.
Speaker 1 (17:04):
Mm hmm, do it Me.
I never asked, but I guess Ishould ask my husband if he
wants to be my Valentine, right,mm hmm?
Speaker 2 (17:13):
Do it right now?
Speaker 1 (17:14):
I shouldn't assume.
No, I'm going to make itspecial.
Speaker 3 (17:16):
Oh, you're so cute.
Ok, start now, though.
No, oh, ok, she said no, shesaid no, and it's no Final.
But she's got a surprise readyfor you Tonight.
Speaker 1 (17:32):
Woo, ok, not tonight, babe.
I'm sorry I have to go shoppingfor your surprise.
It's a word I shared Real quick.
I'm going to look throughAmazon.
Speaker 3 (17:48):
Didn't he get a 3D printer?
Get him some filament.
Speaker 2 (17:52):
Oh there you go yeah yeah, he's like oh, what about
you Red?
Speaker 1 (17:57):
Oh yeah, that's a red and pink.
Speaker 3 (18:00):
Oh man, yeah.
What about you, Nancy?
Have you ever or will you ever?
Speaker 2 (18:05):
I have asked people to be my Valentine before.
Yes, love that.
Somebody just asked me.
Speaker 3 (18:11):
Love it even more.
Speaker 2 (18:12):
Mm, hmm, and I said yes.
Speaker 1 (18:14):
And it was super cute Very special.
Speaker 2 (18:16):
Yeah, it feels really nice.
Ok, even if you're in arelationship, I think I mean
it's a given right that's yourperson.
Speaker 3 (18:22):
I think, yeah, I think, especially if you're in a
relationship.
Speaker 2 (18:25):
It's really special to see them put the effort to
ask, but they're still thinkingabout you For a special day,
yeah.
Speaker 1 (18:32):
Love that yeah.
Speaker 2 (18:33):
So cute.
Speaker 3 (18:33):
Very cute.
Speaker 1 (18:34):
We are cheesy, we are , and hopeless, romantic Mm, hmm
, yeah.
Speaker 2 (18:40):
Me too.
Yeah, some of us are.
Some of us you aren't.
Speaker 1 (18:47):
You.
I think you're, I think you are.
Speaker 2 (18:52):
Yeah, I think you're slowly coming over to this side,
though.
Speaker 3 (18:55):
I think so.
Speaker 2 (18:55):
I'm like feeling you gave us hugs.
Now I do.
Speaker 3 (19:00):
How is that?
Yeah, that's weird.
It's great, but you know what Iwas like.
I've thought about this.
I'm not sure about this yet.
Get married on Valentine's Dayno.
Speaker 2 (19:10):
Why not?
How do you feel about that,sonia?
I think it's great, yeah.
Yeah, I don't know why wouldn'tyou do it, because I mean,
you're hoping that this is goingto last forever.
Speaker 1 (19:20):
But if it doesn't, valentine's Day will always
remind you.
Speaker 3 (19:23):
I don't think so.
That way, though, just move on.
I don't think so Just move on?
I don't think so.
Just forget the past.
Learn to move on.
Jeez, I get you saying no, butthat's a good perspective.
Like yes, it could be verymemorable in a good way and in
also a good way, but about,about proposals.
Speaker 2 (19:45):
I don't think so.
I think they have to be thereseparately For me.
Speaker 3 (19:48):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (19:49):
Yeah, I don't think.
Speaker 3 (19:49):
I would mind.
Speaker 2 (19:51):
I think, yeah, yeah, I guess it would be cute.
Speaker 1 (19:53):
I mean, I wouldn't say no, Obviously no do it
tomorrow, the 15th.
Speaker 3 (19:59):
I don't want it to be on a ballot.
How?
Speaker 1 (20:03):
dare you.
Oh, my gosh.
Speaker 3 (20:05):
I just hope that it doesn't feel like forced for
people to spend a lot of moneyon this day.
Speaker 1 (20:11):
You shouldn't have to spend a lot of money on this.
Speaker 2 (20:13):
Yeah, I think you can like even write something out
by a card, or even just write anote.
That could be super special.
Like we were saying, just evenbuy it If you want to buy
something, like one rose.
You don't have to go like andspend money that you don't have.
Exactly Especially that try toimpress someone because that's
not the reality of you.
Speaker 3 (20:36):
You're showing something different, so they're
getting something that's notreally you and the other
individual shouldn't be, I guess, asking for too much, or but I
don't mean that in a way of likenot being able to ask for
things, but like they, if youknow this person, if you know
the other individual, like youshould know their limits in a
way and don't ask for too muchIf you know that they can't give
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you a lot.
Speaker 1 (20:59):
but I mean I think in our first season we talked
about love languages and howimportant it was to love
languages.
And I think, like learning thepeople you hang around with
their love language will helpyou or give you like a little
bit of a heads up on, like giftsand stuff and, like you were
saying, if you can afford, likeflowers or shiny flowers to work
(21:22):
because it can be expensive.
Yeah, so like you can clean upthe house because some people
love acts of service you cancook a dinner.
You can.
What did you say?
Clean it right, I have no.
You can give, like, make, craft, something, like you know,
(21:44):
there's so many things that areso meaningful that you don't
have to spend too much money on.
Speaker 2 (21:48):
Yeah, so one day somebody wrote a song for me.
Speaker 1 (21:52):
Oh, and then I realized that it was a the
bookie song.
Oh, plagiarism.
Not only that, but like atleast for me.
Speaker 2 (22:03):
The book is like dude , it was so funny.
Speaker 3 (22:06):
Yeah, that's not my thing.
They literally told you.
They wrote that song for youyeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (22:12):
What song was it?
Speaker 2 (22:13):
I don't remember it anymore, it was just really
funny.
Speaker 3 (22:16):
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (22:17):
Yeah, for a guy.
Speaker 3 (22:22):
The average Valentine's Day gift giver
spends nearly $200 onValentine's Day gifts and
goodies for about 26 billionoverall 26 billion industry.
Yeah, you don't have to worryabout spending too much.
It's being taken care of byother individuals.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (22:41):
Just do nice things for each other.
Do you guys have?
Speaker 2 (22:44):
any expectations if you're in a relationship, or
would you care if you didn't getanything?
Speaker 3 (22:50):
Oh, I would definitely care.
Yeah, I would throw a fit, saysthe person that just said,
don't ask for too much.
Speaker 1 (23:00):
Know what the other individual has and doesn't have.
I would throw a fit.
Speaker 3 (23:07):
If you don't get anything, you wouldn't say
something like nothing, not evenif they didn't ask you to be
your Valentine's, Like I'mthinking from that perspective,
like if they just completelyignored it and it's just another
day, but you're with yourpartner.
Speaker 1 (23:22):
I think I would be heard and like a little bothered
and you would have no.
Speaker 2 (23:33):
But because I save my fit for other things.
But you never give me a thought.
Speaker 3 (23:37):
Anyway, I told you from the closet Exactly.
Speaker 1 (23:42):
That's a whole different story.
That was a birthday fit.
Birthdays are more importantthan Valentine's.
Speaker 2 (23:50):
That's what I'm saying and I got your flowers
for your birthday.
You're welcome.
Speaker 1 (23:53):
But you didn't take them to my work.
You're welcome Anyway no, Ithink I would be hurt.
So, yeah, I also think you haveto have like a good line of
communication, like you can'texpect your partner to be like
like know everything you want oryou need.
Like you know, are youexpecting?
(24:16):
Like are you guys going to makesomething out of this holiday?
Are you going to work togethertowards it?
Are we going to be the kind ofcouples that don't celebrate?
Like you have to communicateyour expectations and then if
you communicated yourexpectations and he's still, or
they still show up with nothing,then you address it.
Speaker 2 (24:34):
Then yeah, they can throw it.
Speaker 3 (24:38):
Thanks for the coaching that kind of reminds me
of.
That's actually a great pointto bring up because that reminds
me of I don't know if you guyssaw this video on that this lady
has never had their stockingfilled up from their husband and
she fills them up for herhusband and her children and I'm
like, okay, yeah, that feelsawful, but like you also never
(24:59):
told them to, there was nocommunication.
Speaker 2 (25:02):
I feel like if it's there and nobody's like
everybody's seeing it, but,nobody's taking care of it.
Speaker 3 (25:07):
That's a different story.
Speaker 2 (25:07):
That's kind of like a punch in the face.
Speaker 1 (25:11):
I feel like that's just being kind, like your wife
does all these things for youand your kids and you.
How have you not noticed thatshe, her stuff, is never like,
but there's nothing ever in hersLike?
How have you managed to spendall this time with her and not?
Speaker 3 (25:30):
notice that Right.
Like oh, she might need somehair ties.
Speaker 1 (25:33):
Let me put them even if that you know, or chocolate
would probably be happy withanything at this point Exactly
yeah.
Speaker 2 (25:39):
Anything's better than nothing.
Yeah, but that's a differentperspective.
Speaker 3 (25:43):
But I mean, if you spend that much time, yeah,
different holiday too, but Iwould step after the first year.
Speaker 1 (25:51):
I'd be like well where the couple that doesn't
give each other anything thentake everything down.
I'll give stuff to the kids.
Speaker 2 (26:00):
Return everything Amazon.
Here you go.
Speaker 1 (26:05):
Refuse the delivery of stuff.
I think it out of here.
Speaker 3 (26:10):
Yeah that While most people send out nice messages
for holiday, Victorian era folkssometimes use Valentine's to
turn down a suitor called avinegar Valentine.
Oh, I do like it, but I hopethat never happened.
Speaker 2 (26:29):
Have you ever said no to someone who asked you to be
their Valentine?
Speaker 1 (26:33):
No, I never really got asked to be anybody's
Valentine.
Oh no, I'm so sad.
Speaker 2 (26:41):
I mean my husband did ask me.
Speaker 1 (26:42):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (26:43):
Yeah, before him yeah .
Speaker 1 (26:45):
So I couldn't turn anyone down.
Speaker 2 (26:48):
Otherwise I would have have you guys seen the
videos where like there'sflowers or like the big teddy
bears in the trash can, wherethat's so sad.
Speaker 1 (26:58):
Probably like the guys who have been turned down.
I know I hate that.
Speaker 2 (27:02):
But also, you can't say yes just because no you
shouldn't.
Speaker 3 (27:07):
You.
Can I take the presents?
That's not your.
Speaker 1 (27:10):
Valentine.
Speaker 2 (27:11):
No, that's no.
That's why why he's alreadyspent the money.
Speaker 3 (27:18):
Don't go away.
I would even name the teddybear after you.
Speaker 1 (27:24):
She would have a collection of teddy bears and
this one is, and this and thisman.
Speaker 3 (27:37):
No, I'm just kidding, I would never do that, yeah.
But I totally understand liketurning them down If you're not
going to feel anything towardsthem.
Speaker 2 (27:44):
Yeah, I think it's sad.
But also, what else can you do?
Like, yeah, it's the fuckingsucks, but you're not going to
say yes just because you don'twant him to feel bad.
That's, I think that's worse.
Speaker 1 (27:52):
Yeah Cause, then you like have to break the news that
you only said yes because youdon't want to embarrass.
Speaker 2 (27:57):
Right teddy bear.
Speaker 1 (28:01):
It's because the teddy bear and the flowers were
like real muchones and I reallywanted them.
Whoa, and that changeseverything, but never mind.
Speaker 2 (28:12):
Wait a minute, do you ?
Speaker 3 (28:16):
guys have any Valentine's movies, isn't?
Speaker 2 (28:19):
there one called Valentine's Day.
Speaker 3 (28:20):
I wish I could tell you.
Speaker 2 (28:22):
Yeah, there is one With.
Speaker 1 (28:22):
Taylor.
Speaker 3 (28:23):
Swift.
Speaker 1 (28:23):
Taylor Lautner.
Bradley Cooper, bradley Cooper.
Speaker 2 (28:27):
You have a thing for me.
Speaker 3 (28:30):
No.
Speaker 2 (28:30):
Taylor.
Speaker 1 (28:31):
Swift in that movie.
But yeah, there is some moviecalled Valentine's Day.
Speaker 3 (28:34):
Okay, I wasn't sure if you guys knew of any, just so
I can watch.
Speaker 1 (28:40):
I just love all the rom-coms you do.
The Purposele is one of myfavorites.
Speaker 2 (28:45):
So funny.
Speaker 3 (28:45):
Is that with Sandra Bullock?
Speaker 2 (28:46):
Yeah, ryan Reynolds, I actually like that movie.
Speaker 1 (28:48):
Yeah, it's really funny.
Speaker 3 (28:50):
I watched it like twice.
Speaker 1 (28:51):
I love that movie.
Two weeks notice with SandraBullock in Hugh Grant.
Anything with Sandra Bullock.
Speaker 2 (28:56):
Hope floats.
She's so good.
I've never seen that one.
Speaker 3 (29:01):
What was it?
Speaker 1 (29:01):
called again.
Hope floats, hope floats WithSandra Bullock and Harry Styles.
Conrad Jinger.
Speaker 3 (29:08):
Yeah, I'm looking at that one.
Speaker 2 (29:11):
One of my favorite movies is Fifty First Date.
It's such a great movie.
Speaker 3 (29:15):
I've only watched part of it.
Speaker 2 (29:17):
The Wedding Singer.
It's so good.
Speaker 1 (29:20):
Ever After with Drew Barrymore.
Great, he's so cute.
He is very cute, do you wantmore?
No, I'm sorry, I'm sorry.
I think I have to sing a汽 tooI'm trying not to be a ok-.
Speaker 3 (29:32):
No, not everyone.
You're taking a look for thesong.
I love it.
Speaker 2 (29:37):
You're a ok-, stop Shinlink.
Speaker 1 (29:48):
I think we'll be vlogging again, again, soon, sir
, let's wrap this up.
Yes.
Speaker 2 (29:55):
Oh, thank you.
Speaker 1 (29:56):
Yeah, come over.
Speaker 3 (29:57):
Yes, I love you, love you so good.
Speaker 2 (30:00):
You might cry.
Has Gerard Bartlett?
Yes, yes.
And Hillary's swing, bro.
Speaker 1 (30:05):
Yes, she's good, and he is top Gerard in this movie,
Like he looks really good.
I mean not 300, the 300, gerard, like not that.
Speaker 3 (30:16):
But the next best thing.
My Gerard is Phantom of theOpera.
Gerard, oh, but Really.
Speaker 2 (30:21):
Hillary looks amazing in this movie.
Speaker 3 (30:23):
I bet she does.
I think she's good.
Speaker 1 (30:26):
Yeah, she's, yeah, my top Gerard is 300 Gerard.
Speaker 3 (30:30):
Minus.
Phantom of the Opera.
Her top, hillary swing I likeHillary's swing, minus Hillary's
swing.
Yes, we've heard her do itthree times the first 300 times
we get it.
Speaker 1 (30:49):
So she likes Hillary's swing.
Speaker 3 (30:51):
Got it and you and I have different versions of
Gerard, but we're that, we love.
Speaker 1 (30:54):
But you like PSI.
Love you, gerard OK.
I'll wash it.
Such a good movie.
Anyway, valentine's Day, yeah,watch all the sappy love movies.
They're great.
Speaker 2 (31:05):
Why not?
I always have a good ending.
Speaker 1 (31:07):
Yeah, I hope so, have you guys.
Oh, hitch is a good one withWill Smith.
Yeah, that's Eva Mendez, evaMendez.
Speaker 3 (31:15):
Oh, that one I watched a lifetime ago.
I can't even remember it, it'scute.
Speaker 2 (31:20):
It's like good Valentine's one.
Eva Mendez and Ryan GoslingGreat, love them, love them.
Speaker 3 (31:24):
Yes.
Love them, I wish they didcarpets together Like what's
called red carpet Red carpetCleaning.
Speaker 1 (31:35):
No, but that too.
Maybe they do that at home.
Speaker 3 (31:37):
Yeah, we're not, they have kids, so I mean, they're
probably doing that.
Speaker 2 (31:41):
My family and I have a business with clean carpets.
Anyone's interested?
Speaker 3 (31:46):
If anyone's interested, If you have a
business that needs cleaning,hit us up at Lundina City Mine
Please do.
Speaker 1 (31:53):
It's going to be so funny if we get all requests for
your carpet cleaning.
Speaker 3 (31:57):
That'd be great, as long as you listen to it while
you're cleaning, right, perfect.
Speaker 1 (32:01):
Why not?
Sounds great, doesn't?
Speaker 3 (32:03):
matter.
Speaker 1 (32:04):
Great, hey, but we have another topic.
We have a segment that we areready to dive into.
Speaker 2 (32:15):
Did we even say a fan favorite?
Speaker 1 (32:20):
Oh, that's big.
I like it.
Ooh, please go to my intro.
Speaker 2 (32:26):
Diana Zelysheet.
Speaker 3 (32:29):
What Welcome back hoes.
Speaker 1 (32:34):
What are you mad about today, diana?
I'm not mad, well, justdisappointed Just disappointed.
Speaker 3 (32:41):
That's like the mature person in me.
I like it Es que quiero un ramobuchón.
Speaker 1 (32:47):
Don't we all though?
Yeah, I want.
Can somebody show Jerome what aramo buchón is, so that he can?
Speaker 2 (32:54):
Yes, I'll put it right now, while you give your
answer.
Thank you.
Speaker 3 (32:57):
OK, so a ramo buchón is an extravagant show of
appreciation with flowers,chocolates, in a very large
manner, and it may be seen.
Yep, he sees it now.
Can I see the picture too?
Speaker 2 (33:15):
They're just huge right, that's it, it's very.
Speaker 1 (33:19):
It's like the size of a girl, yeah, and you've
probably seen it on social mediawhen these girls are holding a
huge bouquet.
Speaker 3 (33:28):
Girls are huge, that's what you heard.
Speaker 1 (33:33):
These girls are.
Speaker 3 (33:34):
The girls are holding a huge bouquet of flowers, also
known as buchón because of itssize.
Speaker 1 (33:43):
It's extravagant, but in general the word buchón just
means somebody.
That's very extravagant, right.
Speaker 3 (33:50):
Yeah, it could be seen.
I'm thinking borderline tacky.
Speaker 1 (33:55):
Yeah, not borderline, like really tacky.
Speaker 3 (33:57):
Not there for me but almost, but like almost, not
there, though Not there.
Speaker 1 (34:05):
Almost.
Are you serious, like not thereNot?
There, oh my gosh, I'm shockedthat you both said that, but,
like almost, I think it's allthe way.
Speaker 3 (34:14):
No, but that's appreciated, but almost is
appreciated because like they'regoing the extra mile, it may
not be super cute.
Speaker 2 (34:25):
But they always are cute though.
But yes, that's true, they arealways cute, so it has to be
cute.
It has to be cute.
Speaker 3 (34:31):
So it's just a little bit more than you would expect.
And receiving that would beamazing.
And not only that, I want thecarne asada.
I want a buchón carne asada.
Speaker 1 (34:43):
Extra, just Everything.
Extra Extra carne, extravegetables, tortillas.
Speaker 3 (34:51):
I'm thinking guacamole, yeah, girl.
Speaker 2 (34:56):
Exactly Like a whole tub of guacamole and some carne
Okay.
Speaker 3 (35:02):
Okay, que me recojen en la camineta buschona.
Pick me up in your lifted truck, in your buschon truck.
Speaker 2 (35:11):
Escalator.
Do they still use this spinningwheel?
Is that what you're looking for?
Speaker 3 (35:19):
No, that's not buschon.
Speaker 1 (35:22):
That's more like gangsta.
Yeah, exactly, she needs thecamineta with the big lifts.
Speaker 3 (35:28):
Yo quiero la chiva, la chiva y el helero.
Speaker 2 (35:32):
To go to the chicle.
Speaker 3 (35:33):
La chiva y el helero Lifted buschona.
Speaker 1 (35:37):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (35:39):
Just for a bit though .
Speaker 2 (35:41):
So they're gonna return it no because he's a
buschon.
Speaker 1 (35:45):
He might have another car.
Speaker 3 (35:48):
Exactly, he's gonna have two vehicles or three.
What else?
Una serenata buschona, Ah conbanda o norteño, mi norteño, yo
sería norteño.
Speaker 1 (36:02):
I would like a norteño banda, una banda o
mariachi.
Speaker 2 (36:05):
Mi mariachi would do it too.
Mariachi can always do it, I'mgonna do it.
Somebody gave me a margaritaearlier.
Speaker 3 (36:14):
So blame me on them.
Speaker 2 (36:15):
Anyway mariachi, mariachi banda norteña.
Speaker 1 (36:18):
whatever you want, Lo que sea, mientras que sea
serenata.
Speaker 3 (36:21):
Whatever it is, as long as es esa serenata.
Speaker 1 (36:24):
De un trio De un trio , de donde they're kind of po-.
Speaker 3 (36:32):
You guys are terrible .
Es de música, wey De músicaamigas Los slávidos.
Speaker 1 (36:38):
no, I feel like trios are kind of boring.
Speaker 3 (36:41):
They sing whatever you want, don't they?
Speaker 1 (36:44):
They sing whatever you want.
No, I feel like the music theysing is usually sad.
Speaker 2 (36:49):
That's why I was asking, because I don't know if
that would be a good serenatavibe.
Speaker 3 (36:53):
I thought it was just more like they bring three
individuals, three differentinstruments and then they sing
whatever you want them to.
Speaker 1 (36:59):
I thought that was my perspective about the video.
Whatever you want them to do.
Titi me preguntó.
I didn't go to the chat, though.
Yes.
Speaker 3 (37:08):
I hope they don't sing that one.
No, but I have a say no mybushon date.
Speaker 2 (37:13):
Fuck, no, come, come, and I have a date please.
Speaker 3 (37:15):
Okay, hold on, hold on what would be the perfect
serenata song for your bushon.
Speaker 2 (37:21):
What would be?
Speaker 1 (37:24):
That's such a great question.
I'm thinking.
I'm thinking Amor.
Speaker 2 (37:28):
Confuso de Gerard.
Speaker 3 (37:29):
Ortiz, that used to be my jam when I was younger.
Speaker 2 (37:34):
Mine is still.
I can see it in you.
Si nos dejan dejos elconocimiento?
Speaker 1 (37:40):
I don't know, I have to think about it Something by.
Speaker 2 (37:44):
Vicente.
Speaker 1 (37:45):
Fernández, I'm thinking.
Speaker 2 (37:47):
I thought you were going to say Carine León.
How could I forget?
Speaker 3 (37:52):
Carine León I'm trying to redo his.
Like.
You know how it doesn't work, Ican't do it.
I just want to remind you ofhim so you can think of a good
song.
Primerasita I hate the lovesong.
Speaker 1 (38:10):
It's a love song.
Speaker 2 (38:11):
It has a sad ending.
Speaker 3 (38:13):
I don't like happy endings.
Of course she does.
Who gave him a drink?
Speaker 1 (38:19):
Jero is not allowed to give her drinks anymore.
You're blaming them right now.
This is who I am.
Speaker 2 (38:26):
This is who you really are Lesbian, you're right
.
Speaker 1 (38:32):
Lesbian You're so dumb, you're so dumb.
Speaker 3 (38:38):
Lesbian yeah, lesbian .
You're so stupid you are, oh mygosh.
But yes, that's what I want.
Speaker 1 (38:50):
Serenita Wichona.
Speaker 3 (38:52):
Serenita Wichona.
So this is basically like acall to action.
Speaker 2 (38:55):
Is what you're doing?
You're sitting there and sayingthis shit.
Speaker 3 (39:00):
You know what?
Why not?
Are we manifesting it?
We are manifesting that themanifestation for the month.
Speaker 1 (39:07):
I just have a lot of questions about your type and
the Bujuan thing Coming fromthat person.
Right, but it's okay, you haveenough friends that can help you
get there.
Speaker 3 (39:20):
And advice Can we just talk about her type for a
second, because I think that'simportant context, or there's a
request that is a good point,because my type is a complete
opposite, so I'm concerned aboutthis, just because Okay, but
like any individual could dothis for their partner.
Speaker 1 (39:40):
Right, we can help him out.
Speaker 3 (39:43):
Yeah, you can look up this I don't want to say trend,
but this lifestyle and kind oflearn from it and try to imitate
it.
Speaker 1 (39:52):
Right, so you don't have to be a specific ethnicity.
Speaker 3 (39:56):
To be able to be Bujuan.
You just got to know how tolearn.
You just need to learn to be aBujuan.
Speaker 1 (40:03):
Exactly Got it.
Speaker 3 (40:05):
I like skinny white guys.
Good luck with that.
Speaker 1 (40:09):
The complete opposite of an Hispanic.
Bujuan, bujuan, I'm dead.
I think that was my type.
I think that was my type.
Speaker 3 (40:19):
I think that was my type.
Speaker 1 (40:22):
I think that was my concern.
As we went through the list ofthe things she wanted, I was
like Okay, okay, You're like Iam not able to check bucket.
But I mean call to action,manifestation, all the things.
I'm glad you're putting it outthere.
Yeah, it can happen.
Speaker 2 (40:41):
It can happen, you never know.
Speaker 1 (40:43):
You never know.
You never know.
You just should know that ifyou do get a Bujuan to do all
those things for you, they mightask for some.
Some weird things sent backWhoa, I'm not saying just like
they seem pretty intense.
Speaker 3 (41:01):
They do.
I am willing to try anythingonce, okay, well now we know
what a great way to live life.
Speaker 2 (41:10):
I'll try anything once.
Hold on.
I wish I could live life likeyou.
I'm not.
I don't want to try anythingonce.
Speaker 3 (41:22):
I'll just try once.
Speaker 1 (41:23):
I'll try it twice.
Oh my gosh no.
Speaker 3 (41:30):
Okay, let's be mindful of the things that you
are requesting yeah, I won't dodrugs.
Right, there's things that Iwouldn't do.
Speaker 1 (41:43):
You have a limit.
There's limits, we got it.
Speaker 3 (41:50):
It's very high.
One drug.
Speaker 1 (41:53):
All the others, never , never, basically.
Speaker 3 (42:02):
But anyways, that is my request from the universe.
I like it.
Speaker 1 (42:09):
Thanks.
Let's go back to Valentine'sDay.
Let's go back.
Let's wheel it back in.
Let's go back.
Any advice for Valentine's Daythat you have.
Speaker 3 (42:26):
Try to enjoy it.
Speaker 2 (42:28):
Just make the best of it, even if you get yourself a
gift.
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (42:33):
Take yourself out.
How, though?
Speaker 1 (42:38):
No wait, you are laughing at this, but it's such
a good thing to learn to go todinner by yourself.
Speaker 3 (42:45):
I'm thinking way darker.
Speaker 2 (42:47):
Take yourself out.
Oh my gosh.
Speaker 3 (42:51):
No, that's not what I mean.
We're thinking dates and dinner.
Get yourself out on a date byyourself.
Get yourself some candy.
Get yourself some flowers.
Nancy is very dark.
But it's fine.
Speaker 1 (43:08):
We're here to rephrase her things.
Speaker 3 (43:09):
No give her more margaritas.
Speaker 1 (43:11):
We should just talk to our listeners and see if they
want an extra margarita or lessmargarita for Nancy.
Speaker 3 (43:17):
I think that's a good idea.
She's got one margarita rightnow.
We should do two.
Speaker 1 (43:23):
Next time, let's ask our listeners what do you think
I?
Speaker 2 (43:27):
might start singing.
Speaker 3 (43:29):
Which one are you going to sing?
Speaker 1 (43:45):
Oh man.
Anyway, enjoy your Valentine'sDay and be happy.
You, yes, enjoy yourself, enjoyyour time and have a good night
and have a good night.
Speaker 3 (43:59):
Good day or good day, treat yourself.
We love you.
Bye See, ya, take yourself out.
Speaker 2 (44:09):
Thank you for listening to Latina State of
Mind, produced by us, yourawesome host, diana Senia and
Nancy.
Special shout out to Jerome,our editor.
Don't forget to follow us onInstagram at LSOM underscore
podcast and on Facebook atLatina State of Mind.
Hasta la próxima.
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