#21: The Parenting Shift from Coach to Advisor: How to Communicate with Your Adult Child to Build a Lifelong Friendship

Want a better relationship with your adult child? Start by changing the way you communicate.

In this episode of LAUNCH, I talk with Toby Slough and his daughter Bailey Garner about the crucial transition every parent needs to make; going from Coach to Advisor. Chock full of eye-opening insights, practical tips, and real talk, I'm sure you'll find this conversation both helpful and heartfelt. (You might want to grab a tissue.)

Here's the problem we’re addressing today; if you're still trying to communicate with your adult child the same way you did when they were younger—and your relationship is not developing into a respectful and meaningful friendship—it’s about time you change your approach and your mindset. 

In this powerful conversation, we share our parenting wisdom of what it looks like to shift from being the COACH your child has relied on to the ADVISOR they want to turn to. We talk about the importance of knowing when to step back, how to communicate without controlling, and why this shift is essential to strengthening your relationship as they grow into adulthood.  

When you change how you communicate, you open the door to a lifelong friendship with your adult child. Are you ready?

About my Guests:

Toby Slough is a pastor, author, and mental health advocate with over 35 years of ministry experience. After personally battling anxiety and panic disorder, Toby felt called to create spaces of emotional healing and is now the Legacy Pastor of Cross Timbers Church in Texas. Toby and his wife Mika are also the founders of BeAGoby.com, a faith-based platform dedicated to providing tools to local churches and resources to families, with a focus on helping parents and adult children to live emotionally healthier lives.

Their daughter, Bailey Garner, is the Director of Key Relationships at Goby Ministries, where she works closely with churches, schools, and families—coordinating events, building meaningful partnerships, and helping the family to share their message. 

Before we jump in, just a quick heads-up; I apologize in advance for the sound quality on my end—something went a little sideways in the recording process and I sound a bit wonkey. But don’t worry—this conversation is very insightful, and so worth listening to. 

It's also available on YouTube! 

If you prefer to watch this interview, here it is on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MOpPhumWt8I

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