September 6, 2023 • 22 mins
Ever been rejected and felt like the world was ending? I've been there! After a significant job rejection, I figured it was God's way of saying I was meant to go solo. Thus, spurned by rejection, my journey towards launching The Mindsight Academy started. Join me, Maureen Chiana, as I share my experience and the profound lesson that rejection is indeed a gift. Through emotional intelligence, scriptures, and neuro-leadership, we'll unlock the potential in our painful experiences and turn them into catalysts for growth.
Did you know that rejection triggers the same responses in our brains as physical pain? It's fascinating and terrifying, but it's not all bleak. The interplay of faith, science, and emotional growth opens up avenues for us to reframe our outlook. Citing scriptural narratives like Joseph's life, this episode explores his transformation from a rejected boy to a revered figure.
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Welcome, welcome, welcome.
You're tuning in to the Lead toExcel podcast, the hub where
science meets leadership andtransformation begins.
I'm your host, maureen Cheyanna, founder of the Mindsight
Academy, a trailblazer in theworld of neuro-leadership, I'm
(00:23):
an executive neuro-coach,leadership transformer and a
neuroscience enthusiast,dedicated to empowering leaders,
entrepreneurs and changemakerslike you.
Every week, we delve into theheart of neuroscience to
discover how you can unleashyour potential, master your
(00:44):
brain, manage emotions yours andothers alter behaviors and
exceed expectations.
We are here to help you notjust to survive, but thrive and
flourish in the fast-paced worldaround us.
We're about to kick off anotherhigh-impact episode today,
(01:06):
diving into a topic that ispowerful, intriguing and has the
potential to shift yourleadership journey.
So, my friends, it's time toput on your thinking caps, grab
your favorite beverage and getcomfortable.
It's time to elevate yourleadership, to excel and so hire
(01:27):
, let's dive right in.
Today, we delve into a topicthat's close to many of our
hearts Rejection.
Rather than wallow in the pain,I want to unpack why rejection
is, in fact, a gift.
We'll combine the powerfulelements of emotional
(01:48):
intelligence, scriptures andneuro-leadership to guide us.
So let's begin.
In 2007, after I closed mybusiness and my mom passed away
suddenly.
I was at such a low point in mylife One afternoon, as I was
(02:09):
sitting and feeling sorry formyself, I called a good friend.
No response.
I called again and her daughtercame to the phone and told me
that her mom said that shedoesn't want to speak to me,
that she's decided to cut awayfrom some friends, which I was
(02:30):
one of them.
I don't know if you've everfelt more alone At that point.
I felt all of these thingsrejected alone, unbelievable.
The emotions were just climbingon top of each other.
It was such a low point in mylife the one friend that I
(02:54):
thought would be there tosupport me had turned her back
on me.
For me, for you, it's yourparents regularly comparing you
to others, making you feelinadequate or not good enough.
Or maybe that was what happenedwhile you were growing up.
You might be the one putting inall the hours and effort at
(03:19):
work, only for your line managerto constantly pick faults in
everything you do.
You might be the one that doesthe right things at work and
even trains other people, butdenied that promotion yet again.
That happened to me as well.
(03:39):
Is it your spouse, or even aparent, that suddenly walked out
of your marriage or walked outof your life, or walked out of
your life as a child.
Rejection impacts on ourself-esteem, self-worth, and it
cuts deep in our heart becauseit makes you feel lonely.
(04:01):
In this podcast episode, I willshow you that rejection is
indeed a gift, because it's alla perception.
What rejection is still havingan impact on your life, your
career, your progress or evenyour purpose in life?
(04:24):
Is it fear of rejection, fearof failure, fear of taking risks
?
Let's start by looking at myfavourite topic Emotional
Intelligence.
Emotional Intelligence is ourability to recognize, understand
(04:44):
, manage and influence our ownand others' emotions.
It's about resilience andperspective.
Now, when you're faced withrejection, whether in a personal
life or professionally, it'syour emotional intelligence that
would determine how you respondto it.
(05:05):
Now, proverbs 4.23 says Aboveall else, guard your heart, for
everything you do flows from it.
This scripture reminds us ofthe importance of protecting our
emotional well-being.
You see, our brain viewsrejection as a threat to our
(05:27):
survival.
Rejection activates the samepathways in our brain as
physical pain.
That's why it hurts so badly.
But here's the beauty of it.
Just as our muscles growstronger when challenged, our
brain, when faced with rejection, has the capacity to develop,
(05:51):
resilience, adapt and overcome.
Romans 5.3-4 tells us we alsoglory in our sufferings, because
we know that suffering producesperseverance, character and
character hope.
So how do we transformrejection into a gift?
(06:17):
I told you the story of how Iexperienced rejection at a very
low point in my life.
These two scriptures that I'mgoing to read to you were the
ones that I held on to, and itreally changed my perspective.
Psalm 139.13-14 says For youcreated my inmost being.
(06:40):
You need me to gather mymother's womb.
I praise you because I'mfearfully and wonderfully made.
Your works are wonderful.
That was the part that reallymade me stop seeing myself as a
victim or as a rejected one,because you know what.
(07:01):
It was a human being likemyself that had turned her back
on me.
But there's one person that Iknew I was very precious to, and
that's God, and that completelychanged my perspective, because
this scripture shows that Godintricately designed and values
(07:23):
each of us, and for me that wasvery personal.
Isaiah 43.4 says Because youare precious in my eyes and
honored, and I love you, I amprecious in God's eyes.
So, yes, somebody might feelthat they don't care about me.
That's absolutely fine, becausethe most important person to me
(07:47):
, my father.
God Almighty treasures me.
So for you it might mean aparent has turned their back, a
spouse has turned their back.
I told you that I'd gone throughthe experience of working so
hard at work, training peopleunder me.
I went on maternity leave andyou know what my line manager
(08:10):
did.
He restructured my job,re-advertised it and gave it to
the person that I had trained Afellow white man.
I felt so rejected at thatpoint, but I used that situation
to propel me to re-evaluatewhat I wanted to do, and that
(08:35):
was the point.
I decided to open my ownbusiness.
I left the company.
I went back after maternityleave, did my three months and
left.
And leaving and setting up thebusiness is what has gotten me
to where I am today Doing what Ilove so much, really being able
to impact so many other people.
(08:57):
So it was painful at the time,but it was truly a gift.
The same thing with that friendthat rejected me.
It became a gift for me becausenow I don't put my hope in
human beings.
My hope is truly in God, whowill never fail me, and that has
(09:21):
saved me so much heartache, somuch problems, because I'm more
in control of friendships.
I've learned how to manage myexpectations of people.
Another thing that truly helpsis accept and allow yourself to
feel.
It's natural to feel pain whenrejected.
(09:42):
Emotional validation is reallycritical to us as human beings.
Throughout our daily lives, weexperience so many different
emotions, from joy to sorrow,excitement to disappointment.
These emotions are reallyintegral to our human experience
.
In the Garden of God's Seminy,jesus demonstrated vulnerability
(10:07):
by expressing his dread for theimpending crucifixion.
My soul is overwhelmed withsorrow to the point of death, is
what he said in Matthews 26 38.
This really highlights thatfeeling deeply, even to the
point of anguish, isn't a signof weakness.
(10:28):
It's a testament to the depthof human experience and it's
okay to feel pain.
The important thing is don'tstay there, don't wallow in that
pain.
Get up, re-evaluate thesituation and examine your own
interpretation of that situation.
So when facing emotional pain,rather than suppress or deny it,
(10:53):
it's important to acknowledgeand validate your feelings.
The healing process trulybegins with acceptance.
However, it's crucial, like Isaid, to ensure that your
feelings become a catalyst foryour growth and not a pitfall of
despair.
Another great point is reflectand learn.
(11:16):
Ask yourself what can thisrejection teach me?
Is there something I need towork on?
Or perhaps is this aredirection towards something
better, a path more aligned withmy purpose?
Because every experience,especially the painful ones,
(11:38):
offers a lesson.
Instead of ruminating on thepain, ask yourself some critical
questions to gain insight fromthis situation.
Assess that situationobjectively.
Perhaps there are areas thatyou need to improve, and maybe
this rejection is a divinedetail leading to a more
(12:00):
fulfilling destination for you.
Either way, reflection pavesthe way for personal growth.
Ladies and listeners, I'mpassing today's discussion to
bring you an excitingannouncement that I believe many
of you have been waiting for.
You know, proverbs 31 26 saysshe speaks with wisdom and
(12:23):
faithful instruction is on hertongue.
And in this spirit, I'm proudto announce a brand new
membership program tailoredspecifically for women of faith.
This program isn't just anymembership.
It's a harmonious blend ofscripture and science.
It's founded on the belief thatGod has given us both his word
(12:49):
and the wonders of science toequip us, empower us and guide
us through life's manychallenges.
What can you expect from thismembership?
Deep scriptural insights.
So we're going to dive intopurposeful studies that connect
scripture to everyday life,ensuring that you're navigating
(13:11):
your journey anchored in God'sWord.
Scientific empowerment sessionswhere we're going to harness
the power of science,understanding how it beautifully
complements our faith, helpingus overcome challenges with both
spiritual and practicalknowledge.
Community support You're goingto be able to join a tribe of
(13:35):
like-minded women who are thereto uplift, support and inspire
you every step of the way.
Guided prayer, meditationrooted in scriptures these
sessions are designed to renewyour mind and keep you aligned
with God's plan for your life.
And then exclusive workshopsand retreats where you're going
(13:59):
to be able to learn from expertsabout integrating faith with
various aspects of life, fromhealth to relationships, to
personal development.
The retreats will be exclusiveto members of this program.
So remember, god has a uniqueplan for each of us.
Jeremiah 29i level says for Iknow the plans I have for you,
(14:23):
declares the Lord.
Plans to prosper you and not toharm you.
Plans to give you hope and afuture.
By imagining the wisdom ofscripture with the revelations
of science, we aim to help youdescend that plan, working with
grace, strength and wisdom.
So, ladies, if this resonateswith you, if you feel that
pulling your heart to join acommunity where faith meets
(14:46):
knowledge, then I urge you totake action today.
Don't let this moment slip away.
Visit our website atthemindsiteacademycom and click
on the membership tab or, forthose of you who love a quick
link, check out the episodedescription right now for a
direct path to join and, as aspecial introduction, the first
(15:11):
hundred members will receive anexclusive welcome kit bringing
with resources to jumpstart yourjourney with us.
So don't wait.
Dive into a transformativeexperience where scripture and
science come together for yourempowerment.
Embrace the plan God has foryou.
Click join and let's join ittogether.
(15:32):
And now back to our podcastRefrain with emotional
intelligence.
Boosting your emotionalintelligence means understanding
your emotions.
Instead of viewing rejection asa failure or a reflection of
your own self-worth, view it asfeedback.
(15:55):
It's an opportunity to grow,adjust and evolve.
When it's a parent that youfeel has rejected you by walking
away, remember the person ofobviously has issues that made
him walk away, but it's nothingto do with you.
So they are the ones with theproblem, not you, because the
(16:17):
amount of people that have seenas adults whose self-worth has
been impacted by a parentwalking out is so high, or women
whose spouse have walked awayand their self-worth has been
affected so much.
No, the fact is that they arethe ones with the problem.
(16:40):
Don't allow it impact on whoyou are.
Your identity is wrapped aroundsomebody else and this is where
emotional intelligence reallygives us the skills to interpret
and manage our emotionsconstructively.
Reframing is a technique wherewe change our perspective on a
(17:03):
situation which can alter ouremotional response to it,
because when you change yourthoughts, the emotions attached
to the thoughts change.
So the emotions attached to anegative thought of oh, I've
been rejected is different fromthe emotion of I love who I am.
(17:23):
They might have walked away,but you know what I'm
comfortable and happy with who Iam and you know what.
They've gone away.
I need to now look at my life.
What do I need to do?
Where do I need to go?
Just like what happened to mewith that job.
It made me re-evaluate andrethink what can I do with my
life now and I changed course.
(17:44):
Truly, like I said, was a giftor the friend that walked away.
That's fine.
I don't even need a friend likethat in my life and it really
helped me over the years withfriendships and expectations.
Joseph in the Bible we all knowthe story of Joseph after being
sold into slavery by hisbrothers and later rising to
(18:07):
power in Egypt, reframed his ownpainful past by saying in
Genesis 50-20, you intended toharm me, but God intended it for
good.
This shift in perspectivereflects high emotional
intelligence.
He could have been bitter, hecould have been planning how he
(18:28):
would take revenge, but hedidn't.
And the honest truth is he wasfree there, the ones that
probably kept feeling guilty.
So rejection can be reframedfrom a mark of inadequacy to
constructive feedback.
So, instead of internalizingthe rejection, view it as an
(18:49):
external pointer to guide yourpersonal or professional
development.
Meditation is another powerfultool that helps with rejection.
Scripture provides timelesswisdom and solace For me.
Meditating on Scripture enabledme to internalize these truths
(19:13):
and being an anchor for me intimes of turmoil.
Jeremiah 29-11 says I know theplans I have for you.
Declares the Lord Plans forwelfare and not for evil, to
give you a future and a hope.
This verse is a potent reminderthat, despite current
(19:33):
circumstances, there's a divineplan ensuring my welfare.
So, honestly, no matter whatsituation it is, as I go back to
this promise, it re-energizesme and gives me ability to get
up and go after falling.
(19:54):
So incorporating Scripturemeditation into your daily
routine will enable you to embeddivine truth into your heart,
equipping you to combat feelingsof worklessness or despair with
reminders of your divine worthand destiny.
So remember that rejectionisn't the end, it's merely a
(20:16):
turn in the road.
It's an invitation to grow, toevolve, to come closer to your
true self, your divine purpose.
So the next time rejectionknocks on your door, greet it
with grace, wisdom and theunderstanding that it is indeed
a gift.
(20:36):
Thank you once again forjoining me and I hope this has
brought comfort and insight intoyour life.
May we all continue to grow inwisdom, emotional intelligence
and understanding.
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(21:00):
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Welcome, welcome, welcome.
You're tuning in to the Lead toExcel podcast, the hub where
science meets leadership andtransformation begins.
I'm your host, maureen Cheyanna, founder of the Mindsight
Academy, a trailblazer in theworld of neuro-leadership, I'm
(00:23):
an executive neuro-coach,leadership transformer and a
neuroscience enthusiast,dedicated to empowering leaders,
entrepreneurs and changemakerslike you.
Every week, we delve into theheart of neuroscience to
discover how you can unleashyour potential, master your
(00:44):
brain, manage emotions yours andothers alter behaviors and
exceed expectations.
We are here to help you notjust to survive, but thrive and
flourish in the fast-paced worldaround us.
We're about to kick off anotherhigh-impact episode today,
(01:06):
diving into a topic that ispowerful, intriguing and has the
potential to shift yourleadership journey.
So, my friends, it's time toput on your thinking caps, grab
your favorite beverage and getcomfortable.
It's time to elevate yourleadership, to excel and so hire
(01:27):
, let's dive right in.
Today, we delve into a topicthat's close to many of our
hearts Rejection.
Rather than wallow in the pain,I want to unpack why rejection
is, in fact, a gift.
We'll combine the powerfulelements of emotional
(01:48):
intelligence, scriptures andneuro-leadership to guide us.
So let's begin.
In 2007, after I closed mybusiness and my mom passed away
suddenly.
I was at such a low point in mylife One afternoon, as I was
(02:09):
sitting and feeling sorry formyself, I called a good friend.
No response.
I called again and her daughtercame to the phone and told me
that her mom said that shedoesn't want to speak to me,
that she's decided to cut awayfrom some friends, which I was
(02:30):
one of them.
I don't know if you've everfelt more alone At that point.
I felt all of these thingsrejected alone, unbelievable.
The emotions were just climbingon top of each other.
It was such a low point in mylife the one friend that I
(02:54):
thought would be there tosupport me had turned her back
on me.
For me, for you, it's yourparents regularly comparing you
to others, making you feelinadequate or not good enough.
Or maybe that was what happenedwhile you were growing up.
You might be the one putting inall the hours and effort at
(03:19):
work, only for your line managerto constantly pick faults in
everything you do.
You might be the one that doesthe right things at work and
even trains other people, butdenied that promotion yet again.
That happened to me as well.
(03:39):
Is it your spouse, or even aparent, that suddenly walked out
of your marriage or walked outof your life, or walked out of
your life as a child.
Rejection impacts on ourself-esteem, self-worth, and it
cuts deep in our heart becauseit makes you feel lonely.
(04:01):
In this podcast episode, I willshow you that rejection is
indeed a gift, because it's alla perception.
What rejection is still havingan impact on your life, your
career, your progress or evenyour purpose in life?
(04:24):
Is it fear of rejection, fearof failure, fear of taking risks
?
Let's start by looking at myfavourite topic Emotional
Intelligence.
Emotional Intelligence is ourability to recognize, understand
(04:44):
, manage and influence our ownand others' emotions.
It's about resilience andperspective.
Now, when you're faced withrejection, whether in a personal
life or professionally, it'syour emotional intelligence that
would determine how you respondto it.
(05:05):
Now, proverbs 4.23 says Aboveall else, guard your heart, for
everything you do flows from it.
This scripture reminds us ofthe importance of protecting our
emotional well-being.
You see, our brain viewsrejection as a threat to our
(05:27):
survival.
Rejection activates the samepathways in our brain as
physical pain.
That's why it hurts so badly.
But here's the beauty of it.
Just as our muscles growstronger when challenged, our
brain, when faced with rejection, has the capacity to develop,
(05:51):
resilience, adapt and overcome.
Romans 5.3-4 tells us we alsoglory in our sufferings, because
we know that suffering producesperseverance, character and
character hope.
So how do we transformrejection into a gift?
(06:17):
I told you the story of how Iexperienced rejection at a very
low point in my life.
These two scriptures that I'mgoing to read to you were the
ones that I held on to, and itreally changed my perspective.
Psalm 139.13-14 says For youcreated my inmost being.
(06:40):
You need me to gather mymother's womb.
I praise you because I'mfearfully and wonderfully made.
Your works are wonderful.
That was the part that reallymade me stop seeing myself as a
victim or as a rejected one,because you know what.
(07:01):
It was a human being likemyself that had turned her back
on me.
But there's one person that Iknew I was very precious to, and
that's God, and that completelychanged my perspective, because
this scripture shows that Godintricately designed and values
(07:23):
each of us, and for me that wasvery personal.
Isaiah 43.4 says Because youare precious in my eyes and
honored, and I love you, I amprecious in God's eyes.
So, yes, somebody might feelthat they don't care about me.
That's absolutely fine, becausethe most important person to me
(07:47):
, my father.
God Almighty treasures me.
So for you it might mean aparent has turned their back, a
spouse has turned their back.
I told you that I'd gone throughthe experience of working so
hard at work, training peopleunder me.
I went on maternity leave andyou know what my line manager
(08:10):
did.
He restructured my job,re-advertised it and gave it to
the person that I had trained Afellow white man.
I felt so rejected at thatpoint, but I used that situation
to propel me to re-evaluatewhat I wanted to do, and that
(08:35):
was the point.
I decided to open my ownbusiness.
I left the company.
I went back after maternityleave, did my three months and
left.
And leaving and setting up thebusiness is what has gotten me
to where I am today Doing what Ilove so much, really being able
to impact so many other people.
(08:57):
So it was painful at the time,but it was truly a gift.
The same thing with that friendthat rejected me.
It became a gift for me becausenow I don't put my hope in
human beings.
My hope is truly in God, whowill never fail me, and that has
(09:21):
saved me so much heartache, somuch problems, because I'm more
in control of friendships.
I've learned how to manage myexpectations of people.
Another thing that truly helpsis accept and allow yourself to
feel.
It's natural to feel pain whenrejected.
(09:42):
Emotional validation is reallycritical to us as human beings.
Throughout our daily lives, weexperience so many different
emotions, from joy to sorrow,excitement to disappointment.
These emotions are reallyintegral to our human experience
.
In the Garden of God's Seminy,jesus demonstrated vulnerability
(10:07):
by expressing his dread for theimpending crucifixion.
My soul is overwhelmed withsorrow to the point of death, is
what he said in Matthews 26 38.
This really highlights thatfeeling deeply, even to the
point of anguish, isn't a signof weakness.
(10:28):
It's a testament to the depthof human experience and it's
okay to feel pain.
The important thing is don'tstay there, don't wallow in that
pain.
Get up, re-evaluate thesituation and examine your own
interpretation of that situation.
So when facing emotional pain,rather than suppress or deny it,
(10:53):
it's important to acknowledgeand validate your feelings.
The healing process trulybegins with acceptance.
However, it's crucial, like Isaid, to ensure that your
feelings become a catalyst foryour growth and not a pitfall of
despair.
Another great point is reflectand learn.
(11:16):
Ask yourself what can thisrejection teach me?
Is there something I need towork on?
Or perhaps is this aredirection towards something
better, a path more aligned withmy purpose?
Because every experience,especially the painful ones,
(11:38):
offers a lesson.
Instead of ruminating on thepain, ask yourself some critical
questions to gain insight fromthis situation.
Assess that situationobjectively.
Perhaps there are areas thatyou need to improve, and maybe
this rejection is a divinedetail leading to a more
(12:00):
fulfilling destination for you.
Either way, reflection pavesthe way for personal growth.
Ladies and listeners, I'mpassing today's discussion to
bring you an excitingannouncement that I believe many
of you have been waiting for.
You know, proverbs 31 26 saysshe speaks with wisdom and
(12:23):
faithful instruction is on hertongue.
And in this spirit, I'm proudto announce a brand new
membership program tailoredspecifically for women of faith.
This program isn't just anymembership.
It's a harmonious blend ofscripture and science.
It's founded on the belief thatGod has given us both his word
(12:49):
and the wonders of science toequip us, empower us and guide
us through life's manychallenges.
What can you expect from thismembership?
Deep scriptural insights.
So we're going to dive intopurposeful studies that connect
scripture to everyday life,ensuring that you're navigating
(13:11):
your journey anchored in God'sWord.
Scientific empowerment sessionswhere we're going to harness
the power of science,understanding how it beautifully
complements our faith, helpingus overcome challenges with both
spiritual and practicalknowledge.
Community support You're goingto be able to join a tribe of
(13:35):
like-minded women who are thereto uplift, support and inspire
you every step of the way.
Guided prayer, meditationrooted in scriptures these
sessions are designed to renewyour mind and keep you aligned
with God's plan for your life.
And then exclusive workshopsand retreats where you're going
(13:59):
to be able to learn from expertsabout integrating faith with
various aspects of life, fromhealth to relationships, to
personal development.
The retreats will be exclusiveto members of this program.
So remember, god has a uniqueplan for each of us.
Jeremiah 29i level says for Iknow the plans I have for you,
(14:23):
declares the Lord.
Plans to prosper you and not toharm you.
Plans to give you hope and afuture.
By imagining the wisdom ofscripture with the revelations
of science, we aim to help youdescend that plan, working with
grace, strength and wisdom.
So, ladies, if this resonateswith you, if you feel that
pulling your heart to join acommunity where faith meets
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knowledge, then I urge you totake action today.
Don't let this moment slip away.
Visit our website atthemindsiteacademycom and click
on the membership tab or, forthose of you who love a quick
link, check out the episodedescription right now for a
direct path to join and, as aspecial introduction, the first
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hundred members will receive anexclusive welcome kit bringing
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So don't wait.
Dive into a transformativeexperience where scripture and
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Embrace the plan God has foryou.
Click join and let's join ittogether.
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And now back to our podcastRefrain with emotional
intelligence.
Boosting your emotionalintelligence means understanding
your emotions.
Instead of viewing rejection asa failure or a reflection of
your own self-worth, view it asfeedback.
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It's an opportunity to grow,adjust and evolve.
When it's a parent that youfeel has rejected you by walking
away, remember the person ofobviously has issues that made
him walk away, but it's nothingto do with you.
So they are the ones with theproblem, not you, because the
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amount of people that have seenas adults whose self-worth has
been impacted by a parentwalking out is so high, or women
whose spouse have walked awayand their self-worth has been
affected so much.
No, the fact is that they arethe ones with the problem.
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Don't allow it impact on whoyou are.
Your identity is wrapped aroundsomebody else and this is where
emotional intelligence reallygives us the skills to interpret
and manage our emotionsconstructively.
Reframing is a technique wherewe change our perspective on a
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situation which can alter ouremotional response to it,
because when you change yourthoughts, the emotions attached
to the thoughts change.
So the emotions attached to anegative thought of oh, I've
been rejected is different fromthe emotion of I love who I am.
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They might have walked away,but you know what I'm
comfortable and happy with who Iam and you know what.
They've gone away.
I need to now look at my life.
What do I need to do?
Where do I need to go?
Just like what happened to mewith that job.
It made me re-evaluate andrethink what can I do with my
life now and I changed course.
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Truly, like I said, was a giftor the friend that walked away.
That's fine.
I don't even need a friend likethat in my life and it really
helped me over the years withfriendships and expectations.
Joseph in the Bible we all knowthe story of Joseph after being
sold into slavery by hisbrothers and later rising to
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power in Egypt, reframed his ownpainful past by saying in
Genesis 50-20, you intended toharm me, but God intended it for
good.
This shift in perspectivereflects high emotional
intelligence.
He could have been bitter, hecould have been planning how he
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would take revenge, but hedidn't.
And the honest truth is he wasfree there, the ones that
probably kept feeling guilty.
So rejection can be reframedfrom a mark of inadequacy to
constructive feedback.
So, instead of internalizingthe rejection, view it as an
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external pointer to guide yourpersonal or professional
development.
Meditation is another powerfultool that helps with rejection.
Scripture provides timelesswisdom and solace For me.
Meditating on Scripture enabledme to internalize these truths
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and being an anchor for me intimes of turmoil.
Jeremiah 29-11 says I know theplans I have for you.
Declares the Lord Plans forwelfare and not for evil, to
give you a future and a hope.
This verse is a potent reminderthat, despite current
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circumstances, there's a divineplan ensuring my welfare.
So, honestly, no matter whatsituation it is, as I go back to
this promise, it re-energizesme and gives me ability to get
up and go after falling.
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So incorporating Scripturemeditation into your daily
routine will enable you to embeddivine truth into your heart,
equipping you to combat feelingsof worklessness or despair with
reminders of your divine worthand destiny.
So remember that rejectionisn't the end, it's merely a
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turn in the road.
It's an invitation to grow, toevolve, to come closer to your
true self, your divine purpose.
So the next time rejectionknocks on your door, greet it
with grace, wisdom and theunderstanding that it is indeed
a gift.
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Thank you once again forjoining me and I hope this has
brought comfort and insight intoyour life.
May we all continue to grow inwisdom, emotional intelligence
and understanding.
We've gotten to the end ofanother enlightening episode of
Lead to Excel podcast.
Thank you for spending yourvaluable time with us today,
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diving deep into the intriguingworld of neuroscience and
leadership.
Remember, the journey topersonal and professional
excellence is not a sprint, it'sa marathon, and every step, no
matter how small, brings youcloser to your goals.
If you found value in ourconversation today and its
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packed insights or evenquestions, I invite you to share
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Join our community on theMindsight Academy it's called
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Until next time, this isMorinchiana, reminding you to
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