Episode 55: Seeking Approval

Join Bill and Marty as they explore the human tendency to seek approval. In this episode, they share personal stories and client experiences to uncover the roots of approval-seeking behavior, discussing its implications and how it can hinder living a fully empowered life. Backed by insights from Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy and the teachings of Byron Katie, they provide tools and strategies for addressing and overcoming these deep-seated needs.

Chapters:

00:00 Introduction to the Hosts

02:10 Exploring the Topic of Seeking Approval

02:35 Personal Experiences with Approval Seeking

04:46 Byron Katie's Approach to Approval Seeking

10:38 The Internal Family Systems Model

11:28 Approval Seeking in Daily Life

18:54 The Roots of Approval Seeking

24:37 Nice Guys and Validation Seeking

25:09 Road to Recovery from Approval Seeking

26:35 Client Examples and Personal Experiences

29:58 The Secret Identity and Overcompensation

35:29 Strategies for Self-Approval

43:27 Spontaneous Unburdening and Healing

45:52 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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Links and References:

• Internal Family Systems - https://ifs-institute.com/

• Bill Tierney Coaching - https://www.billtierneycoaching.com/

• Listening is the Key', Dr. Kettelhut’s website - https://www.listeningisthekey.com/

• Marty’s new book, ‘Leadership as Relation’ - https://amzn.to/3KKkCZO

• Marty’s earlier book, ‘Listen… Till You Disappear’ - https://amzn.to/3XmoiZd

• Parts Work Practice - Free IFS Practice Group Sessions - www.partsworkpractice.com

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