Join Bill and Marty as they explore the human tendency to seek approval. In this episode, they share personal stories and client experiences to uncover the roots of approval-seeking behavior, discussing its implications and how it can hinder living a fully empowered life. Backed by insights from Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy and the teachings of Byron Katie, they provide tools and strategies for addressing and overcoming these deep-seated needs.
Chapters:
00:00 Introduction to the Hosts
02:10 Exploring the Topic of Seeking Approval
02:35 Personal Experiences with Approval Seeking
04:46 Byron Katie's Approach to Approval Seeking
10:38 The Internal Family Systems Model
11:28 Approval Seeking in Daily Life
18:54 The Roots of Approval Seeking
24:37 Nice Guys and Validation Seeking
25:09 Road to Recovery from Approval Seeking
26:35 Client Examples and Personal Experiences
29:58 The Secret Identity and Overcompensation
35:29 Strategies for Self-Approval
43:27 Spontaneous Unburdening and Healing
45:52 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
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Links and References:
• Internal Family Systems - https://ifs-institute.com/
• Bill Tierney Coaching - https://www.billtierneycoaching.com/
• Listening is the Key', Dr. Kettelhut’s website - https://www.listeningisthekey.com/
• Marty’s new book, ‘Leadership as Relation’ - https://amzn.to/3KKkCZO
• Marty’s earlier book, ‘Listen… Till You Disappear’ - https://amzn.to/3XmoiZd
• Parts Work Practice - Free IFS Practice Group Sessions - www.partsworkpractice.com
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