August 28, 2024 • 42 mins
What if your past challenges, instead of defining you, became the fuel for your leadership journey? How can you transform setbacks into stepping stones toward a brighter future? Your past doesn't have to dictate your future. Discover how to break free from limiting beliefs and unleash your true leadership potential.
In this episode of the Leading with Power & Purpose Podcast, Sabine chats with Sabrina Victoria. She is a seasoned entrepreneur, TEDx speaker and the visionary behind Her Nation, a thriving community designed for women entrepreneurs in the online business realm. Known for her knack for turning chaos into masterpieces, Sabrina's journey is one of resilience and empowerment.
Listen in as they explore Sabrina's journey from a place of feeling powerless to becoming a beacon of strength and inspiration for countless women. You will also learn how to transform challenging situations in life and business into opportunities to serve others and reach your full potential.
Key Takeaways:
- How to draw from your inner strength and resilience in spite of external circumstances or past stories to reach your full leadership potential.
- How past challenges can serve as stepping stones to personal growth and future leadership.
- Why sharing our stories, even the difficult parts, can inspire and uplift others on their own journeys.
- The importance of intentionally cultivating an internal environment of power to positively impact those around you, regardless of past experiences.
What You Will Learn in This Episode:
- (03:24) Sabrina's entrepreneurial journey and the catalysts for her pivots.
- (07:30) Sabrina's personal story of overcoming abuse and reclaiming her power.
- (10:40) Definition of power, authority, and influence today.
- (19:59) The importance of courage and confidence in stepping into your power.
- (28:40) Practical tips for creating an atmosphere of power within yourself.
- (32:49) The significance of continuous learning and self-awareness.
- (37:57) Book recommendations for personal and professional development.
Connect with Sabrina:
- Website: sabrinavictoria.com
- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sabrinavtv
- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sabrinavictoria/
- Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hernation.life
Book Recommendations:
- Influence by Robert B. Cialdini
- The Slight Edge by Jeff Olson
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HOST INFO:
Sabine Gedeon is a dynamic force in the world of leadership and personal development. As the Founder of Transformed Leadership Institute and CEO of Gedeon Enterprises, Sabine leverages nearly 20 years of experience to guide clients in both startups and Fortune 500 companies. Her unique approach combines human-centered principles with tech-enabled solutions, delivering customized programs for leaders at all levels to tackle crucial leadership and talent development challenges.
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(00:00):
Are you tired of playing smalland ready to step confidently
into your greatness and shareyour unique brilliance with the
world?
Well, you're in the right place.
I'm your host, Sabine Gideon,and I've dedicated nearly two
decades empowering individualsand leaders as they confidently
navigate the twists and turns oflife and career transitions.
If you're seeking direction,connection, or just a little
(00:22):
push to play bigger, considerthis podcast, your VIP path to a
community that genuinelyunderstands your journey.
Join me every week for candidconversations and practical
guidance designed to help younavigate the challenges of life
and business, foster a growthmindset and cultivate meaningful
connections.
It's time to embrace yourinherent power, define your
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unique purpose and prosper inevery aspect of your life.
Let's get started.
Sabine (00:55):
Hello and welcome to another episode I'm your host,
Sabine Gideon, and I'm excitedto be bringing you another
female powerhouse to discusswomen and power and really
breaking down the stigmas,breaking down the myths around
what it means to be a powerfulwoman.
And today I have a powerfulwoman with me and you'll, you'll
(01:15):
know a little bit more why Ithink she's powerful.
Sabrina Victoria is the CEO ofher nation and the host of her
talk show.
Sabrina records daily.
She speaks with women on a dailybasis who are making an impact.
We're creating change in theirparticular spheres of influence.
She has been in theentrepreneurial space for quite
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some time.
Additionally, she has anamazing.
Story of how she came into herown personal power.
So I absolutely had to have heron the show.
So with that, I will stoptalking and have you introduce
yourself, Sabrina, tell us alittle bit about you, your
background and really your, yourjourney.
Um, professionally we'll startthere and then we'll get into,
(02:00):
uh, your actual power journey.
Sabrina (02:03):
Yeah, a hundred percent.
Thank you so much for having me.
I love that our names are sosimilar.
Um, which is funny because nowevery time I see Sabine, I never
realized it's everywhere.
Yeah, there's things are justnamed Sabine.
And now I know because you toldme the whole background of it.
So every time I see it, I'mlike, um, but anyways, thank you
(02:25):
so much for having me.
Yeah.
So my professional journey, whathas led me.
So first of all, I run acommunity called her nation.
It's an all female communitybased on health, wealth and
leadership.
Women who are stepping intotheir power, women who are
leaving the story.
Behind right and creating reallyrecognizing that their story
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does not determine their futureand that they can pivot and they
can refocus and they can riseabove and yeah, it's it's all
based on female entrepreneursreally just making a name for
themselves and letting theirvoice be heard.
Sabine (03:04):
Yeah, I love that.
I love that.
It's an amazing community and avery, very supportive community.
So tell us, tell us about yourentrepreneurial journey because
I know you, you've been in theentrepreneurial space.
You've done different things inthe entrepreneurial space.
So what have been some of thecatalysts for your pivots, um,
and career milestones?
Sabrina (03:24):
Yeah, a hundred percent.
Um, my entrepreneurial journeyhas been fabulous.
I truly believe that I was bornan entrepreneur.
I, my brain just works that way.
It's crazy.
I was just having thisconversation with somebody the
other day, as far as.
The pivots that happen in, in a,in the journey of
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entrepreneurship.
And if you're the type of personthat needs to have everything
perfect all the time, thenentrepreneurship is not the best
boat to get into.
Not that you can't, uh, but notthe best boat because you do,
you have to constantly be goingin a few different directions,
(04:07):
uh, all at once in order toreally start to churn,
especially in the beginning.
Some momentum into creatingsomething great for yourself.
But yeah, when I first startedgirl, I mean, I was doing
everything.
I was running a offer upflipping business.
I was rummaging through people'scraft cans and dumpsters,
(04:29):
flipping, um, merchandise onoffer up out of my garage.
I was making two to 4, 000 amonth.
Doing that while running mybusiness.
I was also renting out twobedrooms in my house on Airbnb.
Um, just tons of stuff.
I got into coaching about 10years ago.
I started out in health andwellness and it, you know, when
(04:50):
I started, which I feel likeit's very same dialogue, you
know, they tell you, 10, 000 aclient.
And I'm like, We're all themoney at, there's no money.
What are you even talking about?
And so, but I had this dream, Ihad this vision.
I'm like, I am going to makethis fricking work.
(05:13):
There are people making businessin this industry.
So I did everything andanything, I didn't keep cleaning
houses, walking dogs, picking updog poop.
I didn't care in order to makesure that I could put in the
hours that I needed to put in tomake my business successful.
And, you know, four pivotslater, here I am and running a
(05:35):
beautiful community.
Sabine (05:37):
I love it.
So, um, I'm going to share withthe audience what, what really
drew me to you.
So, uh, I think it was earlierthis year or maybe last year.
Um, I was searching for otherfemale podcasters on guess where
LinkedIn, um, and I stumbledupon, uh, Sabrina.
And of course I loved the name,um, for many different reasons.
(05:57):
I wish.
I used to wish that my name wasSabrina when I was younger.
Um, so nonetheless, I stumbledupon it and one day I'm doing
the scroll.
And, uh, I caught a video, ashort, a short video from
Sabrina where she was on apodcast and she was sharing
about her journey.
And one of the things that hasstuck with me and again, this
was like last year, earlier thisyear was something that she
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mentioned with based on therelationship that she was, that
she was in at the time, she usedto always get told that the
person with the money has themost power.
And I, you know, sometimes youhear something and it just like.
I don't know it sticks you likea knife in your heart and that
did and I listened to a littlebit more about her story and I
(06:41):
was just like, wow, what amazingwhat an amazing testament of
what it is to be fed a story.
For so long and believe it, andthen making the decision not to
believe that story again, andnot only just find your power,
but then turn around and helpuse that power or to influence
other women to tap into theirown power.
(07:03):
So I won't, I won't ruin it, butif you would just share a little
bit about your journey intoreally uncovering what power was
and is for you today.
Sabrina (07:14):
Oh girl.
So, so much of a journey, somuch of a journey to get here.
And I love that my story canimpact others.
You know, if there's anythingthat I wanted from all of the
tears, all of the dark nights,all of the suicidal thoughts,
(07:37):
there was always this like lightin my gut where I'm like, This
is happening for a reason, and Idon't want my story, my grief,
my party to be for nothing.
You know, there were so manynights of like just wanting to
(07:58):
end it, and I would always thinkto myself, when I make it.
I don't know how, I don't knowwhat it's going to look like.
I don't know when, but when Imake it, I want, I don't want it
to be for nothing.
Like, I don't want to just besmall.
I don't want to just be average.
(08:19):
Like I want my story to impactothers and, and I tell my story,
I tell my story of abuse.
I tell my story of, you know,being told that I was.
It's dumb and unknowledgeableand uneducated and a single mom
and nobody would love me and wasconstantly told that, um, I
(08:40):
didn't have any money and Iwould never make any money and
never have anything for myself.
And whenever I would get alittle mouthy, my partner would
say, whoever makes all the moneymakes all the rules.
Do you have any money or the onethat you heard, whoever has all
the money has all the power.
(09:00):
Do you have any money?
And when somebody is tauntingyou like that, it's maddening,
like you want to come out ofyour skin.
You want to like get violent.
It's maddening.
What happened is.
Hearing this for over a decade,just taunting, just like
(09:22):
stabbing a little bit, I thoughtto myself one day, he's not
saying he makes all the money orhe has all the money.
He's saying whoever, whoever hasall the money has all the power.
(09:43):
So does that mean that if I havemoney, I have power and I have
him to thank for that becausethat's what led me on my journey
of how do I make money?
Opening up a secret bankaccount, starting three online
secret businesses, collecting50, 000 secretly over the course
(10:07):
of a few years so I could runaway and I could escape.
And what I found is that, yes.
Having money creates power.
And a lot of times we're told,especially as females, Ooh, be
careful, careful with thatmoney.
Money is evil, but it's onlyevil.
(10:29):
If you're an evil person, heused it in an evil way.
I would never use it in thesame.
Sabine (10:40):
Yeah.
Oh my gosh.
Thank you so much for sharingthat.
And so, um, as you define powernow, and I, I heard you say, you
know, um, money helps to createpower, um, being removed from
that, that state in, in so manyyears, how do you define power
today?
(11:00):
Hmm.
Sabrina (11:03):
I use power by, by shedding light on other people's
voices.
So I take a lot of time creatinga powerful atmosphere for myself
so that I can then take thatenergy.
I can take that vibration and Ican push it on to other people
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so that they can feed off ofthat power.
I truly believe that I was puton this planet to empower
others.
So I do that by example, I dothat by leading and I do that by
showcasing and spotlightingother individuals to say, Hey,
(11:50):
watch me and come with me.
Sabine (11:53):
Would you say now power for you is internally or
externally sourced?
Sabrina (12:00):
Oh, internally girl.
Yes.
Internally recently, probablyover the last maybe five to
seven years.
Have I really honed in on it?
Right.
When we're on our journey, youknow, we're like, yes, internal
power.
But then in the back of ourmind, we're like, but yes, a
(12:20):
hundred percent, I stand in mypower and I so encourage other
individuals to.
To be on their own journey tofind their own.
Right.
But until then, watch.
Sabine (12:36):
Yeah, and that's the point for those who are
listening who are on theirjourney to tapping into that
internal power that brings forththe confidence that brings forth
the ability to influence andimpact and empower and all the
things that We naturally want todo in the world.
Um, so along those lines, youknow, as I was doing the
(12:56):
research around power, you know,I looked up synonyms and there
are like all these othersynonyms that we also associate
with power or we we've givenmeaning to, um, and so the other
two words that I'd love to hearhow you define and how they show
up for you are authority andinfluence.
Sabrina (13:16):
Authority and influence.
Scar all authority.
You know, this is interestingbecause we say this a lot,
especially in this realm.
You know, I even say this to myladies, I say, stand, you know,
stand in your power and you arean authority in such and such.
(13:41):
What does that mean?
What does that mean to be in anauthority in a certain arena?
First of all, I don't think thatI feel as if one of the biggest
conundrums.
That humans face is feeling asif you need to know all of the
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things.
And I think sometimes we're likeswimming around and we're trying
to know all the things.
And then it's so exhausting thatwe're just like, I'm not going
to know any of the things.
Where's the remote control,having the ability to be able to
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dive deep into something thatyou are passionate about.
and know all of the things andstand in an authority of that
subject helps humankind.
It helps humankind.
It's like that saying that says,um, what is the thing where it
(14:45):
says a master of none?
What is
Sabine (14:49):
that?
Um, Jack, Jack of all trades,master
Sabrina (14:54):
of none.
Yeah.
So when you allow yourself to bea master, this is when you can
grab a community that wants tolearn from you, wants to feed
off of you.
One of the things that I.
Remember myself, and this goesalong with influence too, is I
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always joke that I was saved bywhite old men.
I was not saved by women.
The reason I was saved by whiteold men is because when I would
type in inspirational stories,motivational stories, Google put
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as an authority or as aninfluence.
White old men, Jim Rohn, TonyRobbins, Joe Osteen, Wayne Dyer.
These are the men that told methat I was worthy.
That told me that I could doanything I wanted.
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That told me that nothing wasimpossible.
That's actually Les Brown, whois not white.
Ha ha ha ha ha! But one of myfaves! But because these men
decided to stand in their power,Become an authority in a sect
and influence repetitively.
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They've saved tens of thousands,if not millions of people, me
included, nobody decides to stepinto power.
If nobody decides to be anauthority, to be an influence in
whatever niche, it hurts all ofus.
(16:46):
It hurts all of us.
And this is my vision for womenis we need more women to stand
in that same power to recognizethe importance of being a true
authority in a sect to rise asan influencer so much that the
(17:08):
trend on Twitter that Googlerecognizes you puts you in
place.
For somebody else to find you sothat you can save them.
The only reason I am where I amright now, mentally,
emotionally, financially, andphysically, is because somebody
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decided I am going to be anauthority.
And I am going to influence theworld.
And because of them, I am whereI am now and I have everything
to pay it forward.
Sabine (17:51):
Thank you.
Thank you for sharing that.
I, you know, as you were talkingabout the, um, the people who
influenced you, I, I wasthinking to myself, you're
right.
I mean, mine, weren't all whitemales, but they were all men,
um, for sure, uh, between TDJakes, Dr.
Miles Monroe, um, uh, who else,uh, Dr.
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Wayne Dwyer, Dyer, he's, uh,he's one as well.
Um, and for me, those threereally helped me tap into.
Identity, right?
It started with who am I andhelping to support me and
answering that question, or atleast going within myself to
uncover what that question is.
I will say there are two women,um, in my journey that I, I can
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attribute it to would be MiriamWilliam, Williamson, uh, with
the, our deepest fear poem.
Um, that poem just speaks To mysoul.
Every time I read it, it's likethe first time.
And, um, Marissa peer, who is ahypnotherapist out in the UK,
where her work is really around,um, this building the self worth
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and this understanding that I amenough.
So for those who, you know,struggle with that I'm not
worthy or I'm not lovable orwhatever, you know, whatever the
messaging the deep messaging islike she's been impactful but
you're absolutely right there'sso much more opportunity for us
to leverage our voice, toleverage our experiences, to
show or to create a lit pathwayfor those who are coming behind
(19:18):
us.
Um, and so thank you for takingyour Your journey.
Uh, and, and we are so similarin so many different ways
because that, that same internalcalling, if you will, it's
almost relentless that it's justlike, no, no, no, no, no, no.
You're not here just to liveand, and work your nine to five.
And, and not that I'm sayingnine to five is wrong, but
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you're not just meant to like,do all the things that society
tells you to do that.
Your journey is not just foryou.
Um, it is a journey.
It is a story.
It is breadcrumbs that are meantto be shared, uh, for those who
are coming behind you.
So thank you for sharing that.
Did you have, did you haveanother thought?
Sabrina (19:59):
I did write down, um, as far as while you were
speaking, I was thinking abouthow do we get more women.
And I think the key isconfidence mixed with
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courageous.
Courage.
A lot of times people thinkcourage and confidence are the
same thing, but courage I use asan action.
So like, you have to docourageous things.
You have to do things that scareyou.
You have to do things that arefearful.
A lot of times we like to likesit back and we like to like
cozy up with a blanket.
(20:41):
And that's not what is going tocreate the confidence you need
in order to step into anauthority or step in as an
authority or as an influencer.
You have to do scary things.
One of the things that I talkabout is Whenever I get to a
place in my life where I lookaround and I'm comfortable, it's
a bad place to be, you neverwant to stay.
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That's just what we always,we're always waiting for.
We're always like, I just wantmy life to just calm down and
just like be normal for asecond.
Yeah.
And if you stay in that spot fortoo long, our life doesn't go
like this.
It's not a thing.
If you stay like this for toolong, it goes.
(21:26):
So the fear, the courageousthings that you do are what
creates the momentum of goingup, evolving into something
different.
So I'm always looking around,I'm always like, have I been
comfortable for a call?
How many days?
How many weeks?
How many months have I beencomfortable?
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And if I'm noticing that it'stime for me to find new
problems, it's time for me tosign up for something.
It's time for me to do that onething that I've been putting off
because I'm too scared or I'mtoo nervous.
Because these are the thingsthat create the evolution of man
and of women of woman to be ableto elevate themselves.
(22:11):
Yeah.
Yeah.
Everyone's watching girl.
Everyone is watching.
Sabine (22:17):
It's, it's interesting.
I, you know, the, the couragepiece that I remember when I
wanted to step out intoentrepreneurship, uh, that's
what I started praying for.
Like I literally started prayingfor courage for weeks on end.
To make that leap.
And when I feel the inkling thatit's time to like move into
another space, I immediatelystart to ask for that courage
because to your point, fearshows up and fear has 101
(22:40):
excuses as to why you should notmove forward.
Um, I'm curious because, youknow, there's, there's so much,
especially in the space thatwe're in and even in society
where, you know, it's almostlike the ultimate goal is to.
Stability, whether that'sfinancial stability, relational
stability, whatever it is,right?
Like we're in our subconsciousmind is designed for that,
right?
It's designed to keep us safeand comfortable.
(23:01):
And so we think that when we getto whatever level of stability
or when we get to stability,that that means that, okay, this
is where I'm meant to be.
And so I'm curious, what aresome of the triggers for you?
Where you can, where you areable to challenge yourself and
go within and observe and say,okay, wait a minute.
Uh, I've been here too long.
It's time for a change.
(23:22):
Like what, what happensexternally or within for you to
recognize that?
Sabrina (23:27):
I'm literally always looking.
I think that's just innate inme.
Like I, one of the things that Iactually just talked about this
in our mastermind last week, Ido this in my relationships and
my business, personal andbusiness.
Um, I'm always looking for newproblems.
So if it's been a second, amonth, two months, and I find
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myself in my head or externallytalking about a problem
repeated, repeat, it could beanything.
It could be like, I don't evenknow, like the toilet being
cleaned or something like thatcould be small or it could be
something big within one of the,um, examples I gave was hiring a
VA.
So when I was running mybusiness.
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I remember having conversationswith my mastermind in the
beginning.
I'm like, I'm not going to beable to grow anymore unless I
relinquish some of my controland hire a VA.
And we actually down downloaded,I actually got very emotional on
the call.
We figured out that the reason Ididn't want to hire a VA was
because of control.
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And because of the identity Ihave, I had put on myself as far
as I am woman, hear me roar.
I can do all of the things I'vedone it all by myself.
Therefore, I will continue to doit all by myself.
My identity is that like I camefrom the ashes.
And here I am as a Phoenix bymyself, everything was by
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myself.
I did it by myself.
I started on a mattress all bymyself.
I got here all by myself, butyou can only do so much all by
yourself.
And if I wanted to expand, if Iwanted to grow, if I wanted to
reach millions of women, whichis my goal, I needed to
relinquish some of that control.
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So I had to work on my identityof.
What type of woman who has anidentity of all by herself?
There's a cap.
There's so many, so many hoursin a day.
There's a cap.
So I had to open my world up,and that's a new problem, right?
(25:36):
So my first problem was, there'stoo much to do and I have no
time and I'm not going to beable to grow.
This is all I can do.
And we're just going to stayhere.
I hired a VA.
That's a problem.
I have to teach this womanthings.
She's going to forget things.
She's not going to do things.
I'm going to have to remind herof things.
Now I have three VAs.
(25:57):
These are new problems that Inow have.
So what I was joking about is wecomplain about our problems.
We're like, nah, problems, dirtytoilet.
We have a toilet.
There are people that don't havetoilets.
Right?
VAs.
Oh, my VA.
I had to fire one of them theother day, which actually did
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happen.
I had to hire another one acouple months ago and it was
this whole thing.
Oh, I feel bad.
I don't know what to do.
And I have to train somebodyelse.
Girl, I have three VAs.
That's fricking awesome.
So this is what we need tocontinuously be looking at in
everywhere in our life.
Where are the new problems?
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Where are the new things thatare helping our world evolve so
that when other people arelooking at us, they're not like,
Oh, look at how awesome Sabrinais.
She has her own little businessand she's doing it all by
herself.
And it's so cute.
And Oh, isn't she so powerful?
What's the next step?
So that that same woman can seeme two years later and be like,
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Oh shit, she owned her ownbusiness.
She was doing fabulous.
But now she has an office.
Now she has a bougie car.
Now she's having women speak.
Now she's got employees.
So that she then silently hassomebody to model after.
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And this is for all of us.
This is for motherhood.
This isn't just softwareproduction.
This is motherhood.
This is career.
This is advancing.
This is finances.
This is relationships.
People are watching.
You go from single to developinga healthy relationship, to
getting engaged, to gettingmarried, to having children, to
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being on a journey of health andwellness mentally so that your
children are brought upbeautifully.
People are watching.
Sabine (27:52):
Yeah, you're absolutely right.
And so, uh, earlier you saidyou, um, you are intentional
about creating an atmosphere ofpower, um, within yourself or
for yourself so that you canpour that into other people.
And I, I think that that's animportant piece because we both
agree that power is sourcedinternally and we can only, we
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can only pour out what we havewithin us.
And it does take work, right?
You don't wake up one day oflike, Oh my gosh, I'm So
powerful.
I have all this powerful insideof me and then go for days and
weeks and, and are still atfull.
Right?
So I'm curious, what are some ofthe practices that you've put in
place for yourself personally sothat you can remain grounded and
(28:35):
so that you can continue tocreate your own atmosphere of
power?
I
Sabrina (28:40):
absolutely love this question.
And the reason I love thisquestion is because, and no
offense to you or whatever youteach, I feel as if there is
this million dollar morningmentality all over the right.
There's books, there's podcasts,there's coaches.
(29:04):
So you have to have a routinesomewhere.
I don't know what it is.
Right.
And we're all searching for thisthing.
Do I need to meditate?
Do I need to journal?
Do I need to do yoga?
Am I supposed to run?
You know, eating, there's vegan,there's all these things.
We're like, Oh, we justimplement this one thing then.
I'll be making six figures, thenI'll have the perfect
relationship, then I'll bemaking millions, whatever it is.
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And we're, we're fed all thisinformation.
And I think the holdup is, a lotof times we don't do the thing
because we think to ourself, ifI pick up journaling, then this
means I have to journal for therest of my life.
Because if I don't journal forthe rest of my life, therefore I
am a failure.
And see, that's where they getyou.
(29:46):
And this is why so many peoplestay complacent.
'cause they're like, Ooh,Sabrina says, meditate every
single morning.
I don't, but right every singlemorning, I don't know if I can
do that every single morning.
Therefore, I will not meditate.
Therefore, I will never getbetter.
I will never caress.
I will never evolve.
Right?
So what I talk about is do thething that is calling you at the
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moment and go all in on thething until it no longer serves
you and then switch.
Our life is so long.
You can journal for two weeks.
And big things can happen foryou.
(30:31):
Huge downloads can happen foryou and you could never journal
again for the rest of your life.
That's the thing.
You can meditate for six yearsstraight every single day and
get huge downloads on how to dolife better and differently and
(30:51):
then decide to never meditateagain.
Or you cannot meditate for twoyears and then start again.
You can do whatever you want todo.
Society puts us in these boxes.
Where we have to, like, do thethings, like, you start a book,
finish the book.
No, you can start a book, decideit doesn't resonate with you,
(31:14):
and then never pick that book upagain.
And then you can start a newbook.
You can also open a book, flipto the middle of the book, and
just read random.
You can also just read throughthe table of contents, decide
you just want to read.
Chapter 16 and then just readchapter 16 and never pick the
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book up again.
Like these are things that wecan do in our life.
And what I encourage people todo is try the things.
Go all in on the thing.
And then switch.
Hit it.
That's okay.
Sabine (31:49):
Yeah, I, I, I see where you're going with that and thank
you for, for offering that, um,that perspective because you're
absolutely right.
There's no one right answer foreverybody, right?
It's about what you feel.
I do think though that there isThere is a requirement of some
level of intentionality in termsof feeding you, whatever that
(32:11):
looks like, whether that isjournaling, meditating, walking,
exercising, whatever it is thatthere is because we're so dim,
like multi dimensional, right?
It's the physical, it's themental, it's the emotional, that
all parts of us need to be fed.
On a regular basis or it willstarve and then it'll start, uh,
showing up in different aspectsof our lives.
(32:33):
So And for the audiencelistening, you know, I
completely agree with, uh, withSabrina that, you know, you find
the thing that works for you,but understand that every aspect
of your being needs to be caredfor.
It needs to be nurtured, needsto be taken care of.
Sabrina (32:49):
Absolutely.
And to your point, as far asbeing an authority, the very
first subject is self awarenessof yourself.
So first, before you become anauthority in any other arena,
you have to become an authorityof your own self, your own self
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awareness of what that is foryou.
You can only answer to you.
So what is that for you at themoment?
And then like Sabine was saying,don't allow yourself to go so
long after that.
Without anything you then haveto be self aware enough and that
then to flip into something elseand it can go from physical to
(33:30):
mental that you can go fromrunning every single day, which
is mental and physical tomeditating.
That's okay.
You know, yeah,
Sabine (33:40):
That's what also breeds that being in a comfortable
place getting into a routineright when we come so fixed on.
This is what I'm going to dothis is what I'm going to choose
to do and when the season.
for that thing has shifted andwe have not, then we become
complacent.
And we don't even recognizethat, that it is potentially
impacting other places in ourlives.
(34:01):
Um, so thank you for that.
You know, for those of you whoare listening, I hope, you know,
this conversation has really,um, supported you in doing some
introspection, uh, because asSabrina says, you know, we
can't, we can't have authority.
We can't have power.
We can't lead.
We can't influence anyone else.
If we cannot first do thatwithin ourselves, or I should
say we can't do it effectively,uh, and, and create the outcomes
(34:25):
that we want.
Otherwise we will be leading.
We will be having power orexercising power over people.
From a space from someone else'smodel from someone else's being.
Um, and so, you know, it's, it'stremendously important that as
you've been listening to thisseries, that I hope that you
have really been internalizingthis and that you go back and
(34:46):
you listen to the conversations,because based on life
experiences, everyone bringssomething different to the
table.
But the beauty is that thesewomen have done the work to
identify what these things meanto them, how they show up.
And a year from now, if I talkto them, it may look different,
right?
Because they will have evolved.
So the beauty of this is to dothe work.
(35:07):
This is, this is the work.
This is the work of leading.
This is the work of, uh, beingimpactful and being confident.
It's not the showing up day today.
That's important.
Don't get me wrong, but that isthe, that is the output if you
will, the real work happenswithin.
Um, so thank you so much,Sabrina, for, for sharing your
wisdom.
(35:27):
Um, I do want to, uh, move intoour blitz session here so that
we can, um, we can hear from youon three questions.
We're going to allocate abouttwo minutes for these.
So first one up knowing what,you know, now, if you could go
back to a younger version ofyourself and give her a piece of
key advice, what might that be?
Sabrina (35:49):
I'm going to say, always be learning.
You're being taught right now.
So if I, so yeah, if I were togo back, I would say, you're
learning something right now.
What are you learning?
That was one of the things I didwith my ex when I finally
started to move into my abusiveex.
He was with him for over adecade.
Um, when I started to move intohealing.
(36:14):
Instead of our, our, the ragethat would happen and I'd cower
down and I cry and I do this oldvictim thing, I started to kind
of step into it.
I still had to play the role.
So I would play the roleexternally, but like internally
I was like, what is he teachingme right now?
(36:34):
And if you can start to take onyour challenges like that, like
now when a challenge hits me,cause I'm cute, we're all human,
right?
There's always things.
Instead of falling into like,Oh, I'm like, what am I
learning?
This is big.
This is going to help me in thefuture.
This is happening to me so thatI can be better equipped for
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something even bigger in myfuture.
So I take it on almostconstantly as a student.
I am constantly a student of mypresent life.
Sabine (37:10):
That's what I would tell her.
I love that.
And looking ahead, I know youhave big goals of supporting,
helping, empowering, advancing amillion women, uh, in your
lifetime, if not more, uh,you're looking at your life, you
know, 50, 60, 70, however manyyears from now, and you're
looking back at the impact thatyou've made.
(37:31):
What do you want the narrativeto be?
Sabrina (37:33):
Your story, my story, anyone's story can impact
millions.
That's what it would be.
It wouldn't be about me.
It would be a legacy of proofthat anybody's story.
(37:54):
Can impact millions.
Sabine (37:57):
I love that.
Okay.
And then lastly, because I knowyou're such a learner, I believe
that leaders are readers.
And so I'm curious, has therebeen a book or a couple of books
that have been impactful for youon your journey?
Yeah.
One
Sabrina (38:13):
of the most impactful, which I recommend everyone to
read is, um, influence.
Which is an old, old book, um,all about how people influence
each other.
And then the other one is slightedge just recently read that one
(38:34):
by Joe Jim Olson maybe.
And this is the little tiny ittybitty things like the thing that
I'm talking about as far asconstantly looking for problems
that isn't in there, but it'sthis like.
You're constantly doing just alittle bit more.
You're pushing yourself just alittle bit more and those little
(38:58):
itty bitty one inch pushes.
It moves you eons further inyour evolution as a person,
mental and emotionally.
Okay.
Sabine (39:09):
Awesome.
So I will include the, uh, twobooks that you recommended
influence and slight edge.
I will include those in the shownotes.
Um, so before we let you go, youknow, for those who are
listening, who are like, oh mygosh, I want to be connected
with this lady.
Where does she hang out?
Where does she live?
How can I connect with her?
Sabrina (39:28):
Yeah.
So my main website issabrinavictoria.
com.
You can find all my social mediaon there.
Where do I hang out the most?
I hang out the most on Facebook.
And LinkedIn.
Sabine (39:42):
Sabrina Victoria.
Yes.
And we will definitely includethose links.
And do you want to share alittle bit about your, your
mastermind?
I know you talked high levelabout, uh, who you, who you have
in the mastermind, but for thosewho are thinking to themselves,
I might want to check it out.
Sabrina (39:57):
Yeah.
We specialize in the threethings that all female
businesses, business owners needthat don't necessarily have, and
that's community.
Right.
When you leave your corporatejob, you're used to that
community.
You're used to the people aroundyou.
You go to lunch with people andyou can have little side
conversations and little jokes.
And you have this community thatyou're in.
And then you become anentrepreneur and you're like,
(40:18):
where's all the people.
So community is key.
We need that, especially aswomen.
Number two is education.
There are things that you don'tknow about being an entrepreneur
when you're in a room with otherentrepreneurs.
You can ask, right?
You can feed off of each other.
You can leverage each other'smental resources as far as this
(40:40):
is a new problem that I have.
Is this normal education?
And then number three is thenetwork.
You have to have a megaphone.
You have to be able to tellpeople about your business, and
we provide the networking forthat so that you can meet other
people that can then help youexpand and grow your business,
whether it's being a megaphone,talking, or helping you actually
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Physically with your business orjust mentally, right?
Teaching you something that youmay not have previously known.
I
Sabine (41:08):
love that.
And we will definitely includethe link to, uh, the mastermind
in the show notes as well.
With that.
Sabrina, thank you so much forbeing on here.
Thank you for yourvulnerability.
Thank you for For sharing andreally opening up this space for
us to examine myself included reexamine our thoughts, our
(41:28):
beliefs around what it means tobe powerful.
And not only that, but really,how do we leverage that power?
To support others and to advancewomen in all stages and all
phases of society.
So I sincerely appreciate youbeing on the show and sharing
your wisdom.
Thank you.
I
Sabrina (41:47):
appreciate you.
Sabine (41:48):
All right.
Awesome.
With that, we will be back nextweek with another female
powerhouse.
Thank you so much for being onthis week.
Take care.
Hope you enjoyed this week'sepisode.
If you found today'sconversation helpful or got a
piece of insight that you planto implement in your life, I'd
love to hear from you.
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I also invite you to share thisepisode with anyone in your
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Who you think might benefit fromtoday's conversation.
Lastly, as always, any links,any resources, or any upcoming
training is included in the shownotes.
So be sure to check that beforeyou leave today.
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Sabine (00:55):
Hello and welcome to another episode I'm your host,
Sabine Gideon, and I'm excitedto be bringing you another
female powerhouse to discusswomen and power and really
breaking down the stigmas,breaking down the myths around
what it means to be a powerfulwoman.
And today I have a powerfulwoman with me and you'll, you'll
(01:15):
know a little bit more why Ithink she's powerful.
Sabrina Victoria is the CEO ofher nation and the host of her
talk show.
Sabrina records daily.
She speaks with women on a dailybasis who are making an impact.
We're creating change in theirparticular spheres of influence.
She has been in theentrepreneurial space for quite
(01:38):
some time.
Additionally, she has anamazing.
Story of how she came into herown personal power.
So I absolutely had to have heron the show.
So with that, I will stoptalking and have you introduce
yourself, Sabrina, tell us alittle bit about you, your
background and really your, yourjourney.
Um, professionally we'll startthere and then we'll get into,
(02:00):
uh, your actual power journey.
Sabrina (02:03):
Yeah, a hundred percent.
Thank you so much for having me.
I love that our names are sosimilar.
Um, which is funny because nowevery time I see Sabine, I never
realized it's everywhere.
Yeah, there's things are justnamed Sabine.
And now I know because you toldme the whole background of it.
So every time I see it, I'mlike, um, but anyways, thank you
(02:25):
so much for having me.
Yeah.
So my professional journey, whathas led me.
So first of all, I run acommunity called her nation.
It's an all female communitybased on health, wealth and
leadership.
Women who are stepping intotheir power, women who are
leaving the story.
Behind right and creating reallyrecognizing that their story
(02:49):
does not determine their futureand that they can pivot and they
can refocus and they can riseabove and yeah, it's it's all
based on female entrepreneursreally just making a name for
themselves and letting theirvoice be heard.
Sabine (03:04):
Yeah, I love that.
I love that.
It's an amazing community and avery, very supportive community.
So tell us, tell us about yourentrepreneurial journey because
I know you, you've been in theentrepreneurial space.
You've done different things inthe entrepreneurial space.
So what have been some of thecatalysts for your pivots, um,
and career milestones?
Sabrina (03:24):
Yeah, a hundred percent.
Um, my entrepreneurial journeyhas been fabulous.
I truly believe that I was bornan entrepreneur.
I, my brain just works that way.
It's crazy.
I was just having thisconversation with somebody the
other day, as far as.
The pivots that happen in, in a,in the journey of
(03:47):
entrepreneurship.
And if you're the type of personthat needs to have everything
perfect all the time, thenentrepreneurship is not the best
boat to get into.
Not that you can't, uh, but notthe best boat because you do,
you have to constantly be goingin a few different directions,
(04:07):
uh, all at once in order toreally start to churn,
especially in the beginning.
Some momentum into creatingsomething great for yourself.
But yeah, when I first startedgirl, I mean, I was doing
everything.
I was running a offer upflipping business.
I was rummaging through people'scraft cans and dumpsters,
(04:29):
flipping, um, merchandise onoffer up out of my garage.
I was making two to 4, 000 amonth.
Doing that while running mybusiness.
I was also renting out twobedrooms in my house on Airbnb.
Um, just tons of stuff.
I got into coaching about 10years ago.
I started out in health andwellness and it, you know, when
(04:50):
I started, which I feel likeit's very same dialogue, you
know, they tell you, 10, 000 aclient.
And I'm like, We're all themoney at, there's no money.
What are you even talking about?
And so, but I had this dream, Ihad this vision.
I'm like, I am going to makethis fricking work.
(05:13):
There are people making businessin this industry.
So I did everything andanything, I didn't keep cleaning
houses, walking dogs, picking updog poop.
I didn't care in order to makesure that I could put in the
hours that I needed to put in tomake my business successful.
And, you know, four pivotslater, here I am and running a
(05:35):
beautiful community.
Sabine (05:37):
I love it.
So, um, I'm going to share withthe audience what, what really
drew me to you.
So, uh, I think it was earlierthis year or maybe last year.
Um, I was searching for otherfemale podcasters on guess where
LinkedIn, um, and I stumbledupon, uh, Sabrina.
And of course I loved the name,um, for many different reasons.
(05:57):
I wish.
I used to wish that my name wasSabrina when I was younger.
Um, so nonetheless, I stumbledupon it and one day I'm doing
the scroll.
And, uh, I caught a video, ashort, a short video from
Sabrina where she was on apodcast and she was sharing
about her journey.
And one of the things that hasstuck with me and again, this
was like last year, earlier thisyear was something that she
(06:20):
mentioned with based on therelationship that she was, that
she was in at the time, she usedto always get told that the
person with the money has themost power.
And I, you know, sometimes youhear something and it just like.
I don't know it sticks you likea knife in your heart and that
did and I listened to a littlebit more about her story and I
(06:41):
was just like, wow, what amazingwhat an amazing testament of
what it is to be fed a story.
For so long and believe it, andthen making the decision not to
believe that story again, andnot only just find your power,
but then turn around and helpuse that power or to influence
other women to tap into theirown power.
(07:03):
So I won't, I won't ruin it, butif you would just share a little
bit about your journey intoreally uncovering what power was
and is for you today.
Sabrina (07:14):
Oh girl.
So, so much of a journey, somuch of a journey to get here.
And I love that my story canimpact others.
You know, if there's anythingthat I wanted from all of the
tears, all of the dark nights,all of the suicidal thoughts,
(07:37):
there was always this like lightin my gut where I'm like, This
is happening for a reason, and Idon't want my story, my grief,
my party to be for nothing.
You know, there were so manynights of like just wanting to
(07:58):
end it, and I would always thinkto myself, when I make it.
I don't know how, I don't knowwhat it's going to look like.
I don't know when, but when Imake it, I want, I don't want it
to be for nothing.
Like, I don't want to just besmall.
I don't want to just be average.
(08:19):
Like I want my story to impactothers and, and I tell my story,
I tell my story of abuse.
I tell my story of, you know,being told that I was.
It's dumb and unknowledgeableand uneducated and a single mom
and nobody would love me and wasconstantly told that, um, I
(08:40):
didn't have any money and Iwould never make any money and
never have anything for myself.
And whenever I would get alittle mouthy, my partner would
say, whoever makes all the moneymakes all the rules.
Do you have any money or the onethat you heard, whoever has all
the money has all the power.
(09:00):
Do you have any money?
And when somebody is tauntingyou like that, it's maddening,
like you want to come out ofyour skin.
You want to like get violent.
It's maddening.
What happened is.
Hearing this for over a decade,just taunting, just like
(09:22):
stabbing a little bit, I thoughtto myself one day, he's not
saying he makes all the money orhe has all the money.
He's saying whoever, whoever hasall the money has all the power.
(09:43):
So does that mean that if I havemoney, I have power and I have
him to thank for that becausethat's what led me on my journey
of how do I make money?
Opening up a secret bankaccount, starting three online
secret businesses, collecting50, 000 secretly over the course
(10:07):
of a few years so I could runaway and I could escape.
And what I found is that, yes.
Having money creates power.
And a lot of times we're told,especially as females, Ooh, be
careful, careful with thatmoney.
Money is evil, but it's onlyevil.
(10:29):
If you're an evil person, heused it in an evil way.
I would never use it in thesame.
Sabine (10:40):
Yeah.
Oh my gosh.
Thank you so much for sharingthat.
And so, um, as you define powernow, and I, I heard you say, you
know, um, money helps to createpower, um, being removed from
that, that state in, in so manyyears, how do you define power
today?
(11:00):
Hmm.
Sabrina (11:03):
I use power by, by shedding light on other people's
voices.
So I take a lot of time creatinga powerful atmosphere for myself
so that I can then take thatenergy.
I can take that vibration and Ican push it on to other people
(11:28):
so that they can feed off ofthat power.
I truly believe that I was puton this planet to empower
others.
So I do that by example, I dothat by leading and I do that by
showcasing and spotlightingother individuals to say, Hey,
(11:50):
watch me and come with me.
Sabine (11:53):
Would you say now power for you is internally or
externally sourced?
Sabrina (12:00):
Oh, internally girl.
Yes.
Internally recently, probablyover the last maybe five to
seven years.
Have I really honed in on it?
Right.
When we're on our journey, youknow, we're like, yes, internal
power.
But then in the back of ourmind, we're like, but yes, a
(12:20):
hundred percent, I stand in mypower and I so encourage other
individuals to.
To be on their own journey tofind their own.
Right.
But until then, watch.
Sabine (12:36):
Yeah, and that's the point for those who are
listening who are on theirjourney to tapping into that
internal power that brings forththe confidence that brings forth
the ability to influence andimpact and empower and all the
things that We naturally want todo in the world.
Um, so along those lines, youknow, as I was doing the
(12:56):
research around power, you know,I looked up synonyms and there
are like all these othersynonyms that we also associate
with power or we we've givenmeaning to, um, and so the other
two words that I'd love to hearhow you define and how they show
up for you are authority andinfluence.
Sabrina (13:16):
Authority and influence.
Scar all authority.
You know, this is interestingbecause we say this a lot,
especially in this realm.
You know, I even say this to myladies, I say, stand, you know,
stand in your power and you arean authority in such and such.
(13:41):
What does that mean?
What does that mean to be in anauthority in a certain arena?
First of all, I don't think thatI feel as if one of the biggest
conundrums.
That humans face is feeling asif you need to know all of the
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things.
And I think sometimes we're likeswimming around and we're trying
to know all the things.
And then it's so exhausting thatwe're just like, I'm not going
to know any of the things.
Where's the remote control,having the ability to be able to
(14:23):
dive deep into something thatyou are passionate about.
and know all of the things andstand in an authority of that
subject helps humankind.
It helps humankind.
It's like that saying that says,um, what is the thing where it
(14:45):
says a master of none?
What is
Sabine (14:49):
that?
Um, Jack, Jack of all trades,master
Sabrina (14:54):
of none.
Yeah.
So when you allow yourself to bea master, this is when you can
grab a community that wants tolearn from you, wants to feed
off of you.
One of the things that I.
Remember myself, and this goesalong with influence too, is I
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always joke that I was saved bywhite old men.
I was not saved by women.
The reason I was saved by whiteold men is because when I would
type in inspirational stories,motivational stories, Google put
(15:38):
as an authority or as aninfluence.
White old men, Jim Rohn, TonyRobbins, Joe Osteen, Wayne Dyer.
These are the men that told methat I was worthy.
That told me that I could doanything I wanted.
(15:59):
That told me that nothing wasimpossible.
That's actually Les Brown, whois not white.
Ha ha ha ha ha! But one of myfaves! But because these men
decided to stand in their power,Become an authority in a sect
and influence repetitively.
(16:22):
They've saved tens of thousands,if not millions of people, me
included, nobody decides to stepinto power.
If nobody decides to be anauthority, to be an influence in
whatever niche, it hurts all ofus.
(16:46):
It hurts all of us.
And this is my vision for womenis we need more women to stand
in that same power to recognizethe importance of being a true
authority in a sect to rise asan influencer so much that the
(17:08):
trend on Twitter that Googlerecognizes you puts you in
place.
For somebody else to find you sothat you can save them.
The only reason I am where I amright now, mentally,
emotionally, financially, andphysically, is because somebody
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decided I am going to be anauthority.
And I am going to influence theworld.
And because of them, I am whereI am now and I have everything
to pay it forward.
Sabine (17:51):
Thank you.
Thank you for sharing that.
I, you know, as you were talkingabout the, um, the people who
influenced you, I, I wasthinking to myself, you're
right.
I mean, mine, weren't all whitemales, but they were all men,
um, for sure, uh, between TDJakes, Dr.
Miles Monroe, um, uh, who else,uh, Dr.
(18:12):
Wayne Dwyer, Dyer, he's, uh,he's one as well.
Um, and for me, those threereally helped me tap into.
Identity, right?
It started with who am I andhelping to support me and
answering that question, or atleast going within myself to
uncover what that question is.
I will say there are two women,um, in my journey that I, I can
(18:34):
attribute it to would be MiriamWilliam, Williamson, uh, with
the, our deepest fear poem.
Um, that poem just speaks To mysoul.
Every time I read it, it's likethe first time.
And, um, Marissa peer, who is ahypnotherapist out in the UK,
where her work is really around,um, this building the self worth
(18:54):
and this understanding that I amenough.
So for those who, you know,struggle with that I'm not
worthy or I'm not lovable orwhatever, you know, whatever the
messaging the deep messaging islike she's been impactful but
you're absolutely right there'sso much more opportunity for us
to leverage our voice, toleverage our experiences, to
show or to create a lit pathwayfor those who are coming behind
(19:18):
us.
Um, and so thank you for takingyour Your journey.
Uh, and, and we are so similarin so many different ways
because that, that same internalcalling, if you will, it's
almost relentless that it's justlike, no, no, no, no, no, no.
You're not here just to liveand, and work your nine to five.
And, and not that I'm sayingnine to five is wrong, but
(19:40):
you're not just meant to like,do all the things that society
tells you to do that.
Your journey is not just foryou.
Um, it is a journey.
It is a story.
It is breadcrumbs that are meantto be shared, uh, for those who
are coming behind you.
So thank you for sharing that.
Did you have, did you haveanother thought?
Sabrina (19:59):
I did write down, um, as far as while you were
speaking, I was thinking abouthow do we get more women.
And I think the key isconfidence mixed with
(20:20):
courageous.
Courage.
A lot of times people thinkcourage and confidence are the
same thing, but courage I use asan action.
So like, you have to docourageous things.
You have to do things that scareyou.
You have to do things that arefearful.
A lot of times we like to likesit back and we like to like
cozy up with a blanket.
(20:41):
And that's not what is going tocreate the confidence you need
in order to step into anauthority or step in as an
authority or as an influencer.
You have to do scary things.
One of the things that I talkabout is Whenever I get to a
place in my life where I lookaround and I'm comfortable, it's
a bad place to be, you neverwant to stay.
(21:04):
That's just what we always,we're always waiting for.
We're always like, I just wantmy life to just calm down and
just like be normal for asecond.
Yeah.
And if you stay in that spot fortoo long, our life doesn't go
like this.
It's not a thing.
If you stay like this for toolong, it goes.
(21:26):
So the fear, the courageousthings that you do are what
creates the momentum of goingup, evolving into something
different.
So I'm always looking around,I'm always like, have I been
comfortable for a call?
How many days?
How many weeks?
How many months have I beencomfortable?
(21:47):
And if I'm noticing that it'stime for me to find new
problems, it's time for me tosign up for something.
It's time for me to do that onething that I've been putting off
because I'm too scared or I'mtoo nervous.
Because these are the thingsthat create the evolution of man
and of women of woman to be ableto elevate themselves.
(22:11):
Yeah.
Yeah.
Everyone's watching girl.
Everyone is watching.
Sabine (22:17):
It's, it's interesting.
I, you know, the, the couragepiece that I remember when I
wanted to step out intoentrepreneurship, uh, that's
what I started praying for.
Like I literally started prayingfor courage for weeks on end.
To make that leap.
And when I feel the inkling thatit's time to like move into
another space, I immediatelystart to ask for that courage
because to your point, fearshows up and fear has 101
(22:40):
excuses as to why you should notmove forward.
Um, I'm curious because, youknow, there's, there's so much,
especially in the space thatwe're in and even in society
where, you know, it's almostlike the ultimate goal is to.
Stability, whether that'sfinancial stability, relational
stability, whatever it is,right?
Like we're in our subconsciousmind is designed for that,
right?
It's designed to keep us safeand comfortable.
(23:01):
And so we think that when we getto whatever level of stability
or when we get to stability,that that means that, okay, this
is where I'm meant to be.
And so I'm curious, what aresome of the triggers for you?
Where you can, where you areable to challenge yourself and
go within and observe and say,okay, wait a minute.
Uh, I've been here too long.
It's time for a change.
(23:22):
Like what, what happensexternally or within for you to
recognize that?
Sabrina (23:27):
I'm literally always looking.
I think that's just innate inme.
Like I, one of the things that Iactually just talked about this
in our mastermind last week, Ido this in my relationships and
my business, personal andbusiness.
Um, I'm always looking for newproblems.
So if it's been a second, amonth, two months, and I find
(23:52):
myself in my head or externallytalking about a problem
repeated, repeat, it could beanything.
It could be like, I don't evenknow, like the toilet being
cleaned or something like thatcould be small or it could be
something big within one of the,um, examples I gave was hiring a
VA.
So when I was running mybusiness.
(24:13):
I remember having conversationswith my mastermind in the
beginning.
I'm like, I'm not going to beable to grow anymore unless I
relinquish some of my controland hire a VA.
And we actually down downloaded,I actually got very emotional on
the call.
We figured out that the reason Ididn't want to hire a VA was
because of control.
(24:33):
And because of the identity Ihave, I had put on myself as far
as I am woman, hear me roar.
I can do all of the things I'vedone it all by myself.
Therefore, I will continue to doit all by myself.
My identity is that like I camefrom the ashes.
And here I am as a Phoenix bymyself, everything was by
(24:56):
myself.
I did it by myself.
I started on a mattress all bymyself.
I got here all by myself, butyou can only do so much all by
yourself.
And if I wanted to expand, if Iwanted to grow, if I wanted to
reach millions of women, whichis my goal, I needed to
relinquish some of that control.
(25:16):
So I had to work on my identityof.
What type of woman who has anidentity of all by herself?
There's a cap.
There's so many, so many hoursin a day.
There's a cap.
So I had to open my world up,and that's a new problem, right?
(25:36):
So my first problem was, there'stoo much to do and I have no
time and I'm not going to beable to grow.
This is all I can do.
And we're just going to stayhere.
I hired a VA.
That's a problem.
I have to teach this womanthings.
She's going to forget things.
She's not going to do things.
I'm going to have to remind herof things.
Now I have three VAs.
(25:57):
These are new problems that Inow have.
So what I was joking about is wecomplain about our problems.
We're like, nah, problems, dirtytoilet.
We have a toilet.
There are people that don't havetoilets.
Right?
VAs.
Oh, my VA.
I had to fire one of them theother day, which actually did
(26:18):
happen.
I had to hire another one acouple months ago and it was
this whole thing.
Oh, I feel bad.
I don't know what to do.
And I have to train somebodyelse.
Girl, I have three VAs.
That's fricking awesome.
So this is what we need tocontinuously be looking at in
everywhere in our life.
Where are the new problems?
(26:39):
Where are the new things thatare helping our world evolve so
that when other people arelooking at us, they're not like,
Oh, look at how awesome Sabrinais.
She has her own little businessand she's doing it all by
herself.
And it's so cute.
And Oh, isn't she so powerful?
What's the next step?
So that that same woman can seeme two years later and be like,
(27:00):
Oh shit, she owned her ownbusiness.
She was doing fabulous.
But now she has an office.
Now she has a bougie car.
Now she's having women speak.
Now she's got employees.
So that she then silently hassomebody to model after.
(27:20):
And this is for all of us.
This is for motherhood.
This isn't just softwareproduction.
This is motherhood.
This is career.
This is advancing.
This is finances.
This is relationships.
People are watching.
You go from single to developinga healthy relationship, to
getting engaged, to gettingmarried, to having children, to
(27:43):
being on a journey of health andwellness mentally so that your
children are brought upbeautifully.
People are watching.
Sabine (27:52):
Yeah, you're absolutely right.
And so, uh, earlier you saidyou, um, you are intentional
about creating an atmosphere ofpower, um, within yourself or
for yourself so that you canpour that into other people.
And I, I think that that's animportant piece because we both
agree that power is sourcedinternally and we can only, we
(28:13):
can only pour out what we havewithin us.
And it does take work, right?
You don't wake up one day oflike, Oh my gosh, I'm So
powerful.
I have all this powerful insideof me and then go for days and
weeks and, and are still atfull.
Right?
So I'm curious, what are some ofthe practices that you've put in
place for yourself personally sothat you can remain grounded and
(28:35):
so that you can continue tocreate your own atmosphere of
power?
I
Sabrina (28:40):
absolutely love this question.
And the reason I love thisquestion is because, and no
offense to you or whatever youteach, I feel as if there is
this million dollar morningmentality all over the right.
There's books, there's podcasts,there's coaches.
(29:04):
So you have to have a routinesomewhere.
I don't know what it is.
Right.
And we're all searching for thisthing.
Do I need to meditate?
Do I need to journal?
Do I need to do yoga?
Am I supposed to run?
You know, eating, there's vegan,there's all these things.
We're like, Oh, we justimplement this one thing then.
I'll be making six figures, thenI'll have the perfect
relationship, then I'll bemaking millions, whatever it is.
(29:26):
And we're, we're fed all thisinformation.
And I think the holdup is, a lotof times we don't do the thing
because we think to ourself, ifI pick up journaling, then this
means I have to journal for therest of my life.
Because if I don't journal forthe rest of my life, therefore I
am a failure.
And see, that's where they getyou.
(29:46):
And this is why so many peoplestay complacent.
'cause they're like, Ooh,Sabrina says, meditate every
single morning.
I don't, but right every singlemorning, I don't know if I can
do that every single morning.
Therefore, I will not meditate.
Therefore, I will never getbetter.
I will never caress.
I will never evolve.
Right?
So what I talk about is do thething that is calling you at the
(30:10):
moment and go all in on thething until it no longer serves
you and then switch.
Our life is so long.
You can journal for two weeks.
And big things can happen foryou.
(30:31):
Huge downloads can happen foryou and you could never journal
again for the rest of your life.
That's the thing.
You can meditate for six yearsstraight every single day and
get huge downloads on how to dolife better and differently and
(30:51):
then decide to never meditateagain.
Or you cannot meditate for twoyears and then start again.
You can do whatever you want todo.
Society puts us in these boxes.
Where we have to, like, do thethings, like, you start a book,
finish the book.
No, you can start a book, decideit doesn't resonate with you,
(31:14):
and then never pick that book upagain.
And then you can start a newbook.
You can also open a book, flipto the middle of the book, and
just read random.
You can also just read throughthe table of contents, decide
you just want to read.
Chapter 16 and then just readchapter 16 and never pick the
(31:34):
book up again.
Like these are things that wecan do in our life.
And what I encourage people todo is try the things.
Go all in on the thing.
And then switch.
Hit it.
That's okay.
Sabine (31:49):
Yeah, I, I, I see where you're going with that and thank
you for, for offering that, um,that perspective because you're
absolutely right.
There's no one right answer foreverybody, right?
It's about what you feel.
I do think though that there isThere is a requirement of some
level of intentionality in termsof feeding you, whatever that
(32:11):
looks like, whether that isjournaling, meditating, walking,
exercising, whatever it is thatthere is because we're so dim,
like multi dimensional, right?
It's the physical, it's themental, it's the emotional, that
all parts of us need to be fed.
On a regular basis or it willstarve and then it'll start, uh,
showing up in different aspectsof our lives.
(32:33):
So And for the audiencelistening, you know, I
completely agree with, uh, withSabrina that, you know, you find
the thing that works for you,but understand that every aspect
of your being needs to be caredfor.
It needs to be nurtured, needsto be taken care of.
Sabrina (32:49):
Absolutely.
And to your point, as far asbeing an authority, the very
first subject is self awarenessof yourself.
So first, before you become anauthority in any other arena,
you have to become an authorityof your own self, your own self
(33:09):
awareness of what that is foryou.
You can only answer to you.
So what is that for you at themoment?
And then like Sabine was saying,don't allow yourself to go so
long after that.
Without anything you then haveto be self aware enough and that
then to flip into something elseand it can go from physical to
(33:30):
mental that you can go fromrunning every single day, which
is mental and physical tomeditating.
That's okay.
You know, yeah,
Sabine (33:40):
That's what also breeds that being in a comfortable
place getting into a routineright when we come so fixed on.
This is what I'm going to dothis is what I'm going to choose
to do and when the season.
for that thing has shifted andwe have not, then we become
complacent.
And we don't even recognizethat, that it is potentially
impacting other places in ourlives.
(34:01):
Um, so thank you for that.
You know, for those of you whoare listening, I hope, you know,
this conversation has really,um, supported you in doing some
introspection, uh, because asSabrina says, you know, we
can't, we can't have authority.
We can't have power.
We can't lead.
We can't influence anyone else.
If we cannot first do thatwithin ourselves, or I should
say we can't do it effectively,uh, and, and create the outcomes
(34:25):
that we want.
Otherwise we will be leading.
We will be having power orexercising power over people.
From a space from someone else'smodel from someone else's being.
Um, and so, you know, it's, it'stremendously important that as
you've been listening to thisseries, that I hope that you
have really been internalizingthis and that you go back and
(34:46):
you listen to the conversations,because based on life
experiences, everyone bringssomething different to the
table.
But the beauty is that thesewomen have done the work to
identify what these things meanto them, how they show up.
And a year from now, if I talkto them, it may look different,
right?
Because they will have evolved.
So the beauty of this is to dothe work.
(35:07):
This is, this is the work.
This is the work of leading.
This is the work of, uh, beingimpactful and being confident.
It's not the showing up day today.
That's important.
Don't get me wrong, but that isthe, that is the output if you
will, the real work happenswithin.
Um, so thank you so much,Sabrina, for, for sharing your
wisdom.
(35:27):
Um, I do want to, uh, move intoour blitz session here so that
we can, um, we can hear from youon three questions.
We're going to allocate abouttwo minutes for these.
So first one up knowing what,you know, now, if you could go
back to a younger version ofyourself and give her a piece of
key advice, what might that be?
Sabrina (35:49):
I'm going to say, always be learning.
You're being taught right now.
So if I, so yeah, if I were togo back, I would say, you're
learning something right now.
What are you learning?
That was one of the things I didwith my ex when I finally
started to move into my abusiveex.
He was with him for over adecade.
Um, when I started to move intohealing.
(36:14):
Instead of our, our, the ragethat would happen and I'd cower
down and I cry and I do this oldvictim thing, I started to kind
of step into it.
I still had to play the role.
So I would play the roleexternally, but like internally
I was like, what is he teachingme right now?
(36:34):
And if you can start to take onyour challenges like that, like
now when a challenge hits me,cause I'm cute, we're all human,
right?
There's always things.
Instead of falling into like,Oh, I'm like, what am I
learning?
This is big.
This is going to help me in thefuture.
This is happening to me so thatI can be better equipped for
(36:56):
something even bigger in myfuture.
So I take it on almostconstantly as a student.
I am constantly a student of mypresent life.
Sabine (37:10):
That's what I would tell her.
I love that.
And looking ahead, I know youhave big goals of supporting,
helping, empowering, advancing amillion women, uh, in your
lifetime, if not more, uh,you're looking at your life, you
know, 50, 60, 70, however manyyears from now, and you're
looking back at the impact thatyou've made.
(37:31):
What do you want the narrativeto be?
Sabrina (37:33):
Your story, my story, anyone's story can impact
millions.
That's what it would be.
It wouldn't be about me.
It would be a legacy of proofthat anybody's story.
(37:54):
Can impact millions.
Sabine (37:57):
I love that.
Okay.
And then lastly, because I knowyou're such a learner, I believe
that leaders are readers.
And so I'm curious, has therebeen a book or a couple of books
that have been impactful for youon your journey?
Yeah.
One
Sabrina (38:13):
of the most impactful, which I recommend everyone to
read is, um, influence.
Which is an old, old book, um,all about how people influence
each other.
And then the other one is slightedge just recently read that one
(38:34):
by Joe Jim Olson maybe.
And this is the little tiny ittybitty things like the thing that
I'm talking about as far asconstantly looking for problems
that isn't in there, but it'sthis like.
You're constantly doing just alittle bit more.
You're pushing yourself just alittle bit more and those little
(38:58):
itty bitty one inch pushes.
It moves you eons further inyour evolution as a person,
mental and emotionally.
Okay.
Sabine (39:09):
Awesome.
So I will include the, uh, twobooks that you recommended
influence and slight edge.
I will include those in the shownotes.
Um, so before we let you go, youknow, for those who are
listening, who are like, oh mygosh, I want to be connected
with this lady.
Where does she hang out?
Where does she live?
How can I connect with her?
Sabrina (39:28):
Yeah.
So my main website issabrinavictoria.
com.
You can find all my social mediaon there.
Where do I hang out the most?
I hang out the most on Facebook.
And LinkedIn.
Sabine (39:42):
Sabrina Victoria.
Yes.
And we will definitely includethose links.
And do you want to share alittle bit about your, your
mastermind?
I know you talked high levelabout, uh, who you, who you have
in the mastermind, but for thosewho are thinking to themselves,
I might want to check it out.
Sabrina (39:57):
Yeah.
We specialize in the threethings that all female
businesses, business owners needthat don't necessarily have, and
that's community.
Right.
When you leave your corporatejob, you're used to that
community.
You're used to the people aroundyou.
You go to lunch with people andyou can have little side
conversations and little jokes.
And you have this community thatyou're in.
And then you become anentrepreneur and you're like,
(40:18):
where's all the people.
So community is key.
We need that, especially aswomen.
Number two is education.
There are things that you don'tknow about being an entrepreneur
when you're in a room with otherentrepreneurs.
You can ask, right?
You can feed off of each other.
You can leverage each other'smental resources as far as this
(40:40):
is a new problem that I have.
Is this normal education?
And then number three is thenetwork.
You have to have a megaphone.
You have to be able to tellpeople about your business, and
we provide the networking forthat so that you can meet other
people that can then help youexpand and grow your business,
whether it's being a megaphone,talking, or helping you actually
(41:02):
Physically with your business orjust mentally, right?
Teaching you something that youmay not have previously known.
I
Sabine (41:08):
love that.
And we will definitely includethe link to, uh, the mastermind
in the show notes as well.
With that.
Sabrina, thank you so much forbeing on here.
Thank you for yourvulnerability.
Thank you for For sharing andreally opening up this space for
us to examine myself included reexamine our thoughts, our
(41:28):
beliefs around what it means tobe powerful.
And not only that, but really,how do we leverage that power?
To support others and to advancewomen in all stages and all
phases of society.
So I sincerely appreciate youbeing on the show and sharing
your wisdom.
Thank you.
I
Sabrina (41:47):
appreciate you.
Sabine (41:48):
All right.
Awesome.
With that, we will be back nextweek with another female
powerhouse.
Thank you so much for being onthis week.
Take care.
Hope you enjoyed this week'sepisode.
If you found today'sconversation helpful or got a
piece of insight that you planto implement in your life, I'd
love to hear from you.
Connect with me on LinkedIn atSabine Gideon and send me a
(42:10):
message, or feel free to leave areview on either Apple or
Spotify.
I also invite you to share thisepisode with anyone in your
network, another powerhouse,possibly.
Who you think might benefit fromtoday's conversation.
Lastly, as always, any links,any resources, or any upcoming
training is included in the shownotes.
So be sure to check that beforeyou leave today.
(42:32):
Until we chat again, have ablessed and powerful week.
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