February 7, 2025 • 27 mins
In this inspiring episode of the Leap to Success podcast, host Mary Gaul chats with Melissa Deally, a passionate and innovative Integrative Mind Body Health Practitioner.
Melissa shares her personal and professional journey, exploring how she became "The Friendly Toxin Slayer" and her holistic approach to healing the physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual bodies. She dives deep into the importance of addressing the unconscious mind to create lasting change and shares why she trains others in these powerful modalities to amplify their impact.
Melissa also opens up about taking brave leaps of faith in her career and how one pivotal moment led her to adopt mind-body healing tools like NLP, timeline therapy, and hypnotherapy. Additionally, Melissa highlights her nonprofit work with Girls Matter, an initiative dedicated to empowering girls through education and breaking the cycle of poverty.
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Hello, hello, and welcome to the Leap toSuccess podcast where we get the privilege of
interviewing and learning more about our Leapfor Ladies community members.
And, this podcast, the Leap to Success podcast,is the conduit by which we share women's
stories of courage, bravery, and success.
Each week, we interview women entrepreneurs andleaders that have taken the leap in their lives
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and inspire our global listeners to be more,have more, and show up more so that you can
live a life filled with joy and happinessthrough believing in yourself.
So with that being said, I am excited for youguys all to get to hear from our guest today,
Melissa Dealey.
And met Melissa through the LEAP communityseveral years ago and have participated in some
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of her workshops and had her teach a workshopto my retreat last year.
I just love what you do and how passionate youare about helping people just live a better
life, a more fulfilled life.
And so tell us a little bit about yourself,Melissa, and what makes you so awesome.
Well, thank you so much, Mary.
It's wonderful to be here, and I love how youfinished that off saying helping people live a
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life of more love, peace, and joy, andbelieving in themselves.
Because that's what my journey has led me to,is that belief, the thoughts that we have, the
power that we have inside our mind in order tocreate the life we want, or that we're
inadvertently creating the life that we don'twant.
And for people that are stuck in that place, wecan shift that for you.
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And so I'm gonna start out with that reallyhopeful message and just to introduce myself a
little bit here, because I know we don't have alot of time.
I jokingly call myself the Friendly ToxinSlayer.
And the reason I do that is my official titleis an integrative mind body health
practitioner, which is quite a mouthful anddoesn't really mean anything.
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So, what is a Friendly Toxin Slayer?
I help people detox and heal their physicalbody, their emotional body, their mental body
and their spiritual body.
Because we have all of these bodies.
And in our, you know, traditional Westernmedical healthcare industry, we only look at
the physical body and we forget about the otherbodies.
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And yet how many people do you know that havehad some kind of health crisis address the
healing in the physical body, and then a yearor two later, they get symptoms and they have
another diagnosis?
And it's because when symptoms show up in thephysical body, they've already moved through
the other three bodies.
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And we start the healing in the physical bodyand then we have to clear it in the emotional
body, the mental body and the spiritual body inorder to get to total health.
Yeah.
And when we don't do that, the body shows up,you know, comes up with more symptoms a couple
years later going, hello, hello.
You didn't pay attention to all those stuffeddown negative emotions.
You need to address those to get to fullhealth.
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Right?
And so that's why I jokingly call myself theFriendly Toxin Slayer, because I take this
holistic approach to helping people on theirhealing journey.
And I love this work so much that I also nowtrain other practitioners, coaches, counselors
in these tools of the unconscious mind so thatthey too can help their clients get the results
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they're looking for.
It's not just about health in all aspects ofour life, business, relationship, etcetera,
etcetera.
To get those results with greater ease andgrace and speed.
Nice.
I love that.
I love that.
And I love that you're helping them get betterresults with ease and grace and speed.
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That's what we all want.
It doesn't mean it's going to happen instantly,it doesn't mean it's not going to take some
work.
But what I love about the NLP tools that youuse and the other things that you bring into
your practice is that it doesn't have to be asdifficult as people think it's going to be
sometimes.
We've got tools that can make it a little biteasier for us.
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It doesn't mean it's going to happeninstantaneously.
We still have to do the work.
We still have to show up.
But we can, with help of people like you, canbe an easier journey.
Right?
Absolutely.
And we like to say that we do make the mostamount of change with the least amount of work.
Right?
We do that using the unconscious mind, which isthe other 90% of our mind.
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And it's faster, much faster than the consciousmind.
And so we can make the change quickly.
And as we do that, we're building newneurology.
So I liken it to building a little bunny trail,right?
And
if that neurology never gets used again, thatchange isn't going to be lasting.
So to your point, it's easy and it's quick.
We still have to show up and we have to do thework.
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So, we create the bunny trail and then we giveyou the work so that you can turn that bunny
trail into a two lane road and then a four laneroad and a six lane road until it's an eight
lane highway.
And that's just the neural neurological pathwayyour brain just automatically goes to at that
point.
Right?
And it no longer goes the way that it used togo that was no longer serving you.
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And so I like to say that I'm the guide, theirunconscious mind is the coach.
And we do this work together.
It's not me doing anything to you.
It's not me doing anything for you.
It's you showing up and doing the work with myguidance.
Nice.
I love that.
I love that.
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So the podcast is called Leap to Success.
So tell our listeners about a time when youtook a leap in your business and whether that
turned out to be successful in the moment orsuccessful later because it took a different
turn, Or share just a time when you took a leapin your business.
There's been many.
And of course, the path is never a straightline.
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And so one time that really comes to mind iswhen I completed my integrative health
practitioner training and helping peopleunderstand the imbalances and deficiencies in
their body through functional medicine labtesting that they can run at home.
And then I would write them a wellness protocolthat they could follow.
Now, people could take that wellness protocoland follow it precisely and get amazing results
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and feel better than they'd ever felt and, youknow, get the results they were looking for and
the answers to all of the questions that theycouldn't get elsewhere.
And some people would have the best ofintentions of following that protocol and then
fall off.
And I was like, why?
How come?
Yeah.
Why do these people fall off and these peoplehave good success?
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And, of course, when the student is ready, theteacher will come.
And it was around that time that a naturopathicdoctor reached out to me on LinkedIn, actually,
and invited me to a coffee chat.
And I was honored that a naturopathic doctorwas saying that she liked my work and wanted to
chat.
And we met and she started talking to me aboutthe world's four most powerful mind body
healing modalities.
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So, of course, I'm intrigued.
Yeah.
She started talking to me about the unconsciousmind, which coincidentally, I'd also just
recently been reading about, you know, andthere's never coincidences.
Right?
Right.
I'm like, okay, she's talking about what I needto learn.
And that's when I had that really big as wellof, oh my goodness.
This is why some people are getting stuck.
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It's because of the unconscious programming.
Yeah.
And that's when she told me about her programsto teach NLP, timeline therapy, hypnotherapy,
etcetera.
And I took a leap of faith.
It was a big investment.
However, I took that leap of faith because Iknew that was the next step I needed to take my
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business down.
And when I became an integrative healthpractitioner, I thought this is it.
I'll have all of this learning.
I can build my business and then I'm done kindof thing.
Right?
Yeah.
And then I wasn't because these people weregetting stuck and I got into this because I
want to help people and I didn't like seeingpeople get stuck and feeling that I didn't have
the tools to help them.
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And so now I take this leap faith and I jumpinto the learning, these powerful mind body
healing modalities.
And oh my goodness, that was three years agonow.
And what a joyful ride it has been.
Nice.
I love I fell in love with those tools and I'dactually been introduced to them before without
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the cup of understanding the power of theunconscious mind.
The first time I didn't get it and now I got itand now I really understood it.
And then I went on to become a masterpractitioner because that's where we work with
values, which are our second deepestprogramming in our unconscious mind.
And values are attached to our beliefs, whichare attached to our behaviors.
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So if we want to work with someone's behavior,we don't need to go behavior by behavior.
We can just elicit their values and see whatvalue is missing.
You know, maybe they don't have that money as avalue on their business values.
And they're wondering why they're having a hardtime making money in their business.
Yeah.
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Well, let's move that value up into the topthree to five of your values because those are
the ones that get the most juice from theunconscious mind so that you can start making
money in your business.
Yeah.
Love it.
Because when you change that value, it changesthe behaviors.
It changes the beliefs, which change thebehaviors.
Yes.
So this is so powerful and such a huge shift inthe direction I thought I was going with my
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business.
Yeah.
And from there, again, I was like, I can't justdo this one to one with people.
It would take me forever to work with all thepeople that I want to work with and all benefit
from this.
And so that's when I decided to become atrainer.
Nice.
And I became a trainer of hypnotherapy first,and then I became a trainer of all four
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modalities and completed that at the end oftwenty twenty three.
Nice.
Congratulations.
Thank you.
And so throughout 2023, my now business partnerand I train, we ran four practitioner training
programs throughout the year, Krasner trainingprograms for hypnotherapy and really had
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wonderful feedback from our students.
She's my yin to her yang or however you want tosay it.
Yeah.
We work really well together and we both lovetraining.
It's our mission.
And the more people we can train in thesemodalities the more they can go out and work
with people and we have greater impact.
Good
and so my next leap because I never plan toopen another business.
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My next leap of faith was to form a companywith her amplify Impact Academy.
Wow.
And we have big goals with Amplify ImpactAcademy, and we launched that on October tenth
of twenty twenty four.
Nice.
You know, haven't looked back.
And it's been such a beautiful progression as Itake those leaps of faith and move my business
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forward and really step into my purpose.
Nice.
I love that.
I love that.
And taking leaps of faith, not just willynilly, but making sure they're aligned with
you.
This is something that's in alignment.
I loved what you said earlier, Melissa, aboutyou had heard some of the information about
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these tools before, but it didn't resonate withyou because it wasn't in the right context or
you weren't in the right place to hear it.
We have that happen to us as business owners alot.
And that may be something that's unconsciouslydriving us.
I think of taking the leap like you're standingat the edge of a cliff and you have to take the
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leap to the other side or take that first steplike in Indiana Jones when he has to cross the
chasm and he takes a step and the thingautomatically appears right in front of him,
that leap of faith that it's going to be fine,you're going to figure it out, but sometimes we
have to get pushed to the edge before we'lltake that step off the edge.
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And I'm sure you probably hear that from yourclients a lot too and that may show up in some
of the symptoms that they're dealing with.
How many times am I going to get diagnosed withthis?
Or how long am I going to be in pain?
Or have this symptom before I'm going to be atthe edge ready to take the leap?
Right, almost like it has to get bad enoughbefore we can then have the courage to take the
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leap as opposed to if we could actually take itsooner before it gets so bad, we could propel
ourselves forward much sooner as well.
Yes.
So what do you tell people who find themselveskind of at that precipice and they're like, I
have to make a change.
I know I need to.
I don't know if I can take the step off thiscliff and trust that something's going to be
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there or that this is the thing that's going towork for me because I've tried this and I've
tried that and I've tried this and nothingworks because I'm still here at the edge of
this cliff.
So how do you kind of let people know or vetthem, Maybe it's not the right fit for them at
the moment because they're not ready to receivethe information or hear it the way they need
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to.
So how do you kind of work with people aroundthat?
You know, it's funny.
I was just working with a client this morningon this exact topic and we have what we call a
strategic thinking protocol.
Right?
How do we think through things strategically?
And so the first question to ask is, this getme closer to or further from my goal?
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Nice.
And if it's getting you closer to your goal,the next question isn't or the next thing to do
isn't come up with all the reasons why it isn'tgoing to work because that's typically the way
we go.
And instead say, how can I?
How can I make this work?
Yeah.
And we might have two or three differentthings, you know, depending on what it is.
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It's I have to to make this work, I might haveto, you know, move a few things in my calendar.
I might have to get time off work.
I might have to get the kids daycare lookedafter.
You know, these are some of the how can I's andwe look we come up with a few things, three or
four things of how can I?
And then the next thing to do go to is what isthe first action I can take right now?
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Nice.
Nice.
And you can put those in order.
The first, you know, you might not start withgetting the kids organized if you haven't got
the time off work.
You need the time off work first, right?
So that's the first action you're gonna take.
Once you get that done, okay, now I've got thetime off work.
Now I can get kids organized.
Right?
You work through it in order in order to allowthis to happen for yourself.
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Nice.
And it's just a really simple way to workthrough determining how you can make this
happen for you if this is something that youwant.
Yeah.
And if it's moving moving you towards yourgoal, wouldn't it be something you want?
So as an example, with the lady this morning,we run a magnified healing course as well, and
she really wants to do it.
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She's done some of our other courses and she'sa nurse and looking for new healing modalities
because she burned out in the hospital systemand doesn't want to do that anymore.
Yeah.
However, it was on a weekend where she wascelebrating her birthday with her husband and
they had plans to go skiing.
Okay.
And so we just asked the question.
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Is this going to move you further or closer toyour goal?
She's like, that's a no brainer.
Of course, magnified healing is gonna move mecloser to my goal.
Yeah.
So how can I?
Well, you know what?
I don't even know if we booked anything for ourski holiday.
Let me text my husband and see if he's bookedanything.
Well, look at that.
No.
He hasn't booked anything.
So now I can move to the next things.
Now my weekend just got clear, which I thoughtit was booked.
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Right.
Right.
And so me her first action was just asking herhusband, is it booked?
And so while we're on the call, she started tomake it all happen so that she can actually
attend this and it's her birthday.
So she's like, I actually get to do something Iwant to do on my birthday.
Yeah.
Nice.
It was a whole new perspective becauseinitially her response was, I wish I could, but
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I can't because I'm going skiing.
Yeah.
And that's so often the way we tend to go, wecome up with all the excuses.
Yes.
When you ask the question, is it moving youfurther towards your goal or further away from
your goal, it becomes very clear.
Yes.
Yes.
What you need to do.
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And then the rest is logistics.
You figure the rest out later.
Right.
Right.
When you're in alignment with your goal, thenyou know you're moving forward on the right
path.
Yes.
I love that.
I love the reframe of how can I, right?
Exactly.
Because that's empowering.
Like how can I instead of I can't, I can't, Ican't?
I gotta overcome all this stuff.
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How can I make it happen?
That's such a big reframe of your thoughtprocess, right?
Which is so powerful.
Exactly.
And so for me, when I first met with thatnaturopathic doctor, was, you know, is this
moving me further closer to my goal?
Well, of course, learning the tools of theunconscious mind is moving me towards my goal
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of being able to help every client.
Yeah.
Even if they have programming that's gonna makethem fall off, that's okay because now I'll
have the tools to help them through that.
Right.
Right.
So it was of course a no brainer that Icontinued down that path.
Yes, I love it.
I love it Melissa.
That is so great.
How do you I mean you've kind of answered thisin an indirect way, what calls you forward in
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doing the kind of hard things and the amazingthings that you get to do?
My why.
My why calls me forward every single day.
I have a big why and that why is actuallyembedded in my nonprofit girls matter.
And it's all about keeping girls in school andbreaking the poverty cycle.
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One girl, one family, one village at a time,stopping teenage marriages.
Because when we educate the other half, I.
E.
The girls, and they get into the workforce, weraise the GDP of countries.
Nice.
That's how we bring countries out of poverty.
And that is such a huge why.
And of course, I can't do it all on my own.
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And I have the nonprofit, I have a board ofdirectors and our business Amplify Impact
Academy.
We donate 10% of all of our revenues to thatcause.
Nice.
And we do other fundraising as well.
So in getting up every day and knowing that Ican positively impact the lives of those girls
and through positively impacting the lives ofpeople that I work with through our training
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programs, that keeps me going.
And just yesterday and the day before we taughta two day program that we just built from the
ground up in December and it was such a hit.
One of the ladies in that program had me intears when she talked about what she had just
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learned from a section that we were workingthrough.
And this was a woman who had a lot of trauma inchildhood and wasn't sure that she wanted to
have children herself and bring them into thismessed up world.
And when we did our training and we talk a lot,as I said at the very beginning about our
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thoughts and how our thoughts impact how wefeel, which impact how we behave.
And we have a choice as to what thoughts wetake in and ruminate on or the thoughts that we
let float on by like clouds in the sky.
And
we kind of jokingly say, don't have to, youknow, if you've poopy thoughts, crappy
thoughts, you don't have to bend down and pickthem up and smell them.
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Right?
You can let them go and go, no, I don't want Idon't want that thought.
It doesn't serve me.
I'm going to replace it with a more serve youknow, a more helpful, empowering thought.
Yeah.
And as we went through the day and a half, shecame back from lunch and said, over lunch, I
realized that I am now ready to get pregnant.
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And I want to get pregnant because I now knowthat I can bring children into the world that I
create for them.
Nice, nice.
Oh, give me goosebumps, Melissa.
That's amazing.
So
how can I not show up and do this work?
Right, right.
Yeah when you can have that kind of impact it'sjust so powerful.
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I love love love your nonprofit.
When you send out those information and thestories of the difference that it can make.
A simple way of the one that was so powerfulfor me was a recent one that you sent out about
the woman being able to sew clothes and helppeople have a dress and teaching her the
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skills.
Then she can help people dress better, haveuniforms for school.
It's just that ripple effect that can affect acommunity, a family first, a community, and
then eventually the country.
It's so powerful and we all have that abilityto some of us might be thinking, Oh I could
never do that.
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I can never have that impact.
But I encourage everybody to say, How can you?
How can Exactly.
And thank you.
And thank you for your generous donations.
I really appreciate the support.
My pleasure.
For anybody who has a big idea out there andthey're feeling like it's in their head and
haven't really talked to anybody about it andthey don't know how to get started, that was
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literally me for three years with wanting tostart Girls Matter and not knowing how to do
it.
Until I went to a conference where the speakersaid, we are all put on this earth to do three
things, never stop learning, be of service, andfind your passion.
And that you don't have to know how, you justhave to know your why.
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And this resonated so deeply with me.
And I literally thought, I know my why.
And I just have to start speaking it andtelling other people, and then the resources
will come and fall into place.
And I left that conference and I called theonly two people I know that have started a
nonprofit in British Columbia, Canada.
And I said, will you teach me how to start anonprofit?
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And they said, sure, what do you wanna do?
And I told them and they said, you know what?
We'll do it with you because we already havethe nonprofit for the preschool kids.
Nice.
Let's now do the nonprofit for the high schooland university kids and we'll support education
at both ends.
And you just need to start where we're alreadylocated.
So let's start in Uganda.
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Great.
They already had the staff on the ground.
We literally started it a month later.
And I've been sitting on it for three years.
Wow.
All you have to do is speak it.
Yeah.
Yeah.
I love that.
I love that.
And it has to be tied to your why as well.
Don't do it
because it feels
good or you think you need to do it or somebodytold you you should do it.
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It has to be really connected to your why.
But then love Melissa how you also just saidwho do I know?
That's the how can I reframe?
Instead of I don't know how to start anonprofit, that's too big, it'll never make an
impact, it's too much work.
We can always easily our brain takes us downthat here's why it won't work.
But that reframe is so powerful, the how can I?
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And then you're just like okay here's some Iknow people have done it.
So learn from their examples.
It's just such a powerful tool for us all to bereminded of that we already have within us.
Reframing it and then reaching out tocommunity.
That's the power of these communities that wehave is reaching out to people that have
already done something that you want to do.
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I find, at least in the Lead for Ladiescommunities and other communities I'm involved
with, most people, if you ask them sincerelyand you come to them with your purpose and your
why, they're going to help you.
It's pretty rare that somebody says, No, I'mnot going to help you do that thing that's
going to help the world be a better place.
Exactly.
And to add to that, we moved into Kenya andexpanded into Kenya probably four years ago
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because of Colleen Biggs.
Because she connected me to somebody that sheknew in Kenya who was running an organization
for women from the And I then startedsupporting the girls of those women.
And I'm still supporting that organization,even though the woman that Colleen introduced
me to tragically died a year ago of cancer.
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Her husband is now supporting and her oldestson.
So I'm working with them to continue supportingkeeping the girls of the Nairobi slums school.
And that's how we expanded from Uganda to Kenyawas literally because of the elite community.
Nice.
I love that.
I'm so excited to hear those kind of stories.
It's one of those things that's a ripple effectwe don't even realize that we know we're having
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always.
Because might just be we make an introductionand we don't ever know where that introduction
goes.
And it can be changing lives around the globe.
So that is just the power of community and I'mjust so happy that you're part of the LEAP
community and a member here.
Okay.
Is there anything else?
Yeah.
I do wanna share one thing, and it's abeautiful song that I encourage people to look
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go listen to.
It's called Start a Wave, and it's from theWorld of Color cast, and it's literally what
you just said.
Oh, And it's
talking about how it takes one drop and watchthat drop become a ripple and watch the ripple
become a wave.
And then it actually started with one drop, andwe can change the world.
Yes.
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So why don't you start a wave?
And each and every single one of us has thatwithin us.
When we think of it, it's just one drop.
I love it.
That gave me goosebumps again.
So lots of goosebumps in this podcastinterview, Melissa.
I love it.
Thank you for sharing that.
I'll go look up the song right as soon as weend the podcast so I can hear that.
Pop it in the show notes if you can once youget it.
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Yes, I will.
I'll put the link in the show notes for sure.
Speaking of show notes, so we will put all ofMelissa's contact information in the show
notes.
If you're listening to this or watching this onyour favorite podcast channel or method,
whatever they're called, you can go and findall of Melissa's contact information in the
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show notes.
And please, please, please do yourself a favorand take that leap and reach out to Melissa and
go to her website she's got amazing classes theself hypnosis day was really amazing I loved
taking that course with you and learned a lotand just take a leap check out what she has to
offer and who knows it could change your life.
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Start that little ripple effect.
So thanks again for being a Leap four Ladiescommunity member Melissa and thanks for being
on the podcast today.
Absolutely my pleasure.
Thank you for having me, Mary.
Thanks.
Hi.
Hello, hello, and welcome to the Leap toSuccess podcast where we get the privilege of
interviewing and learning more about our Leapfor Ladies community members.
And, this podcast, the Leap to Success podcast,is the conduit by which we share women's
stories of courage, bravery, and success.
Each week, we interview women entrepreneurs andleaders that have taken the leap in their lives
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and inspire our global listeners to be more,have more, and show up more so that you can
live a life filled with joy and happinessthrough believing in yourself.
So with that being said, I am excited for youguys all to get to hear from our guest today,
Melissa Dealey.
And met Melissa through the LEAP communityseveral years ago and have participated in some
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of her workshops and had her teach a workshopto my retreat last year.
I just love what you do and how passionate youare about helping people just live a better
life, a more fulfilled life.
And so tell us a little bit about yourself,Melissa, and what makes you so awesome.
Well, thank you so much, Mary.
It's wonderful to be here, and I love how youfinished that off saying helping people live a
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life of more love, peace, and joy, andbelieving in themselves.
Because that's what my journey has led me to,is that belief, the thoughts that we have, the
power that we have inside our mind in order tocreate the life we want, or that we're
inadvertently creating the life that we don'twant.
And for people that are stuck in that place, wecan shift that for you.
(01:39):
And so I'm gonna start out with that reallyhopeful message and just to introduce myself a
little bit here, because I know we don't have alot of time.
I jokingly call myself the Friendly ToxinSlayer.
And the reason I do that is my official titleis an integrative mind body health
practitioner, which is quite a mouthful anddoesn't really mean anything.
(02:00):
So, what is a Friendly Toxin Slayer?
I help people detox and heal their physicalbody, their emotional body, their mental body
and their spiritual body.
Because we have all of these bodies.
And in our, you know, traditional Westernmedical healthcare industry, we only look at
the physical body and we forget about the otherbodies.
(02:24):
And yet how many people do you know that havehad some kind of health crisis address the
healing in the physical body, and then a yearor two later, they get symptoms and they have
another diagnosis?
And it's because when symptoms show up in thephysical body, they've already moved through
the other three bodies.
(02:44):
And we start the healing in the physical bodyand then we have to clear it in the emotional
body, the mental body and the spiritual body inorder to get to total health.
Yeah.
And when we don't do that, the body shows up,you know, comes up with more symptoms a couple
years later going, hello, hello.
You didn't pay attention to all those stuffeddown negative emotions.
You need to address those to get to fullhealth.
(03:06):
Right?
And so that's why I jokingly call myself theFriendly Toxin Slayer, because I take this
holistic approach to helping people on theirhealing journey.
And I love this work so much that I also nowtrain other practitioners, coaches, counselors
in these tools of the unconscious mind so thatthey too can help their clients get the results
(03:30):
they're looking for.
It's not just about health in all aspects ofour life, business, relationship, etcetera,
etcetera.
To get those results with greater ease andgrace and speed.
Nice.
I love that.
I love that.
And I love that you're helping them get betterresults with ease and grace and speed.
(03:53):
That's what we all want.
It doesn't mean it's going to happen instantly,it doesn't mean it's not going to take some
work.
But what I love about the NLP tools that youuse and the other things that you bring into
your practice is that it doesn't have to be asdifficult as people think it's going to be
sometimes.
We've got tools that can make it a little biteasier for us.
(04:14):
It doesn't mean it's going to happeninstantaneously.
We still have to do the work.
We still have to show up.
But we can, with help of people like you, canbe an easier journey.
Right?
Absolutely.
And we like to say that we do make the mostamount of change with the least amount of work.
Right?
We do that using the unconscious mind, which isthe other 90% of our mind.
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And it's faster, much faster than the consciousmind.
And so we can make the change quickly.
And as we do that, we're building newneurology.
So I liken it to building a little bunny trail,right?
And
if that neurology never gets used again, thatchange isn't going to be lasting.
So to your point, it's easy and it's quick.
We still have to show up and we have to do thework.
(05:02):
So, we create the bunny trail and then we giveyou the work so that you can turn that bunny
trail into a two lane road and then a four laneroad and a six lane road until it's an eight
lane highway.
And that's just the neural neurological pathwayyour brain just automatically goes to at that
point.
Right?
And it no longer goes the way that it used togo that was no longer serving you.
(05:22):
And so I like to say that I'm the guide, theirunconscious mind is the coach.
And we do this work together.
It's not me doing anything to you.
It's not me doing anything for you.
It's you showing up and doing the work with myguidance.
Nice.
I love that.
I love that.
(05:43):
So the podcast is called Leap to Success.
So tell our listeners about a time when youtook a leap in your business and whether that
turned out to be successful in the moment orsuccessful later because it took a different
turn, Or share just a time when you took a leapin your business.
There's been many.
And of course, the path is never a straightline.
(06:06):
And so one time that really comes to mind iswhen I completed my integrative health
practitioner training and helping peopleunderstand the imbalances and deficiencies in
their body through functional medicine labtesting that they can run at home.
And then I would write them a wellness protocolthat they could follow.
Now, people could take that wellness protocoland follow it precisely and get amazing results
(06:32):
and feel better than they'd ever felt and, youknow, get the results they were looking for and
the answers to all of the questions that theycouldn't get elsewhere.
And some people would have the best ofintentions of following that protocol and then
fall off.
And I was like, why?
How come?
Yeah.
Why do these people fall off and these peoplehave good success?
(06:55):
And, of course, when the student is ready, theteacher will come.
And it was around that time that a naturopathicdoctor reached out to me on LinkedIn, actually,
and invited me to a coffee chat.
And I was honored that a naturopathic doctorwas saying that she liked my work and wanted to
chat.
And we met and she started talking to me aboutthe world's four most powerful mind body
healing modalities.
(07:16):
So, of course, I'm intrigued.
Yeah.
She started talking to me about the unconsciousmind, which coincidentally, I'd also just
recently been reading about, you know, andthere's never coincidences.
Right?
Right.
I'm like, okay, she's talking about what I needto learn.
And that's when I had that really big as wellof, oh my goodness.
This is why some people are getting stuck.
(07:38):
It's because of the unconscious programming.
Yeah.
And that's when she told me about her programsto teach NLP, timeline therapy, hypnotherapy,
etcetera.
And I took a leap of faith.
It was a big investment.
However, I took that leap of faith because Iknew that was the next step I needed to take my
(07:59):
business down.
And when I became an integrative healthpractitioner, I thought this is it.
I'll have all of this learning.
I can build my business and then I'm done kindof thing.
Right?
Yeah.
And then I wasn't because these people weregetting stuck and I got into this because I
want to help people and I didn't like seeingpeople get stuck and feeling that I didn't have
the tools to help them.
(08:20):
And so now I take this leap faith and I jumpinto the learning, these powerful mind body
healing modalities.
And oh my goodness, that was three years agonow.
And what a joyful ride it has been.
Nice.
I love I fell in love with those tools and I'dactually been introduced to them before without
(08:41):
the cup of understanding the power of theunconscious mind.
The first time I didn't get it and now I got itand now I really understood it.
And then I went on to become a masterpractitioner because that's where we work with
values, which are our second deepestprogramming in our unconscious mind.
And values are attached to our beliefs, whichare attached to our behaviors.
(09:04):
So if we want to work with someone's behavior,we don't need to go behavior by behavior.
We can just elicit their values and see whatvalue is missing.
You know, maybe they don't have that money as avalue on their business values.
And they're wondering why they're having a hardtime making money in their business.
Yeah.
(09:25):
Well, let's move that value up into the topthree to five of your values because those are
the ones that get the most juice from theunconscious mind so that you can start making
money in your business.
Yeah.
Love it.
Because when you change that value, it changesthe behaviors.
It changes the beliefs, which change thebehaviors.
Yes.
So this is so powerful and such a huge shift inthe direction I thought I was going with my
(09:51):
business.
Yeah.
And from there, again, I was like, I can't justdo this one to one with people.
It would take me forever to work with all thepeople that I want to work with and all benefit
from this.
And so that's when I decided to become atrainer.
Nice.
And I became a trainer of hypnotherapy first,and then I became a trainer of all four
(10:12):
modalities and completed that at the end oftwenty twenty three.
Nice.
Congratulations.
Thank you.
And so throughout 2023, my now business partnerand I train, we ran four practitioner training
programs throughout the year, Krasner trainingprograms for hypnotherapy and really had
(10:33):
wonderful feedback from our students.
She's my yin to her yang or however you want tosay it.
Yeah.
We work really well together and we both lovetraining.
It's our mission.
And the more people we can train in thesemodalities the more they can go out and work
with people and we have greater impact.
Good
and so my next leap because I never plan toopen another business.
(10:55):
My next leap of faith was to form a companywith her amplify Impact Academy.
Wow.
And we have big goals with Amplify ImpactAcademy, and we launched that on October tenth
of twenty twenty four.
Nice.
You know, haven't looked back.
And it's been such a beautiful progression as Itake those leaps of faith and move my business
(11:23):
forward and really step into my purpose.
Nice.
I love that.
I love that.
And taking leaps of faith, not just willynilly, but making sure they're aligned with
you.
This is something that's in alignment.
I loved what you said earlier, Melissa, aboutyou had heard some of the information about
(11:44):
these tools before, but it didn't resonate withyou because it wasn't in the right context or
you weren't in the right place to hear it.
We have that happen to us as business owners alot.
And that may be something that's unconsciouslydriving us.
I think of taking the leap like you're standingat the edge of a cliff and you have to take the
(12:04):
leap to the other side or take that first steplike in Indiana Jones when he has to cross the
chasm and he takes a step and the thingautomatically appears right in front of him,
that leap of faith that it's going to be fine,you're going to figure it out, but sometimes we
have to get pushed to the edge before we'lltake that step off the edge.
(12:25):
And I'm sure you probably hear that from yourclients a lot too and that may show up in some
of the symptoms that they're dealing with.
How many times am I going to get diagnosed withthis?
Or how long am I going to be in pain?
Or have this symptom before I'm going to be atthe edge ready to take the leap?
Right, almost like it has to get bad enoughbefore we can then have the courage to take the
(12:47):
leap as opposed to if we could actually take itsooner before it gets so bad, we could propel
ourselves forward much sooner as well.
Yes.
So what do you tell people who find themselveskind of at that precipice and they're like, I
have to make a change.
I know I need to.
I don't know if I can take the step off thiscliff and trust that something's going to be
(13:09):
there or that this is the thing that's going towork for me because I've tried this and I've
tried that and I've tried this and nothingworks because I'm still here at the edge of
this cliff.
So how do you kind of let people know or vetthem, Maybe it's not the right fit for them at
the moment because they're not ready to receivethe information or hear it the way they need
(13:30):
to.
So how do you kind of work with people aroundthat?
You know, it's funny.
I was just working with a client this morningon this exact topic and we have what we call a
strategic thinking protocol.
Right?
How do we think through things strategically?
And so the first question to ask is, this getme closer to or further from my goal?
(13:56):
Nice.
And if it's getting you closer to your goal,the next question isn't or the next thing to do
isn't come up with all the reasons why it isn'tgoing to work because that's typically the way
we go.
And instead say, how can I?
How can I make this work?
Yeah.
And we might have two or three differentthings, you know, depending on what it is.
(14:19):
It's I have to to make this work, I might haveto, you know, move a few things in my calendar.
I might have to get time off work.
I might have to get the kids daycare lookedafter.
You know, these are some of the how can I's andwe look we come up with a few things, three or
four things of how can I?
And then the next thing to do go to is what isthe first action I can take right now?
(14:43):
Nice.
Nice.
And you can put those in order.
The first, you know, you might not start withgetting the kids organized if you haven't got
the time off work.
You need the time off work first, right?
So that's the first action you're gonna take.
Once you get that done, okay, now I've got thetime off work.
Now I can get kids organized.
Right?
You work through it in order in order to allowthis to happen for yourself.
(15:08):
Nice.
And it's just a really simple way to workthrough determining how you can make this
happen for you if this is something that youwant.
Yeah.
And if it's moving moving you towards yourgoal, wouldn't it be something you want?
So as an example, with the lady this morning,we run a magnified healing course as well, and
she really wants to do it.
(15:29):
She's done some of our other courses and she'sa nurse and looking for new healing modalities
because she burned out in the hospital systemand doesn't want to do that anymore.
Yeah.
However, it was on a weekend where she wascelebrating her birthday with her husband and
they had plans to go skiing.
Okay.
And so we just asked the question.
(15:50):
Is this going to move you further or closer toyour goal?
She's like, that's a no brainer.
Of course, magnified healing is gonna move mecloser to my goal.
Yeah.
So how can I?
Well, you know what?
I don't even know if we booked anything for ourski holiday.
Let me text my husband and see if he's bookedanything.
Well, look at that.
No.
He hasn't booked anything.
So now I can move to the next things.
Now my weekend just got clear, which I thoughtit was booked.
(16:12):
Right.
Right.
And so me her first action was just asking herhusband, is it booked?
And so while we're on the call, she started tomake it all happen so that she can actually
attend this and it's her birthday.
So she's like, I actually get to do something Iwant to do on my birthday.
Yeah.
Nice.
It was a whole new perspective becauseinitially her response was, I wish I could, but
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I can't because I'm going skiing.
Yeah.
And that's so often the way we tend to go, wecome up with all the excuses.
Yes.
When you ask the question, is it moving youfurther towards your goal or further away from
your goal, it becomes very clear.
Yes.
Yes.
What you need to do.
(16:55):
And then the rest is logistics.
You figure the rest out later.
Right.
Right.
When you're in alignment with your goal, thenyou know you're moving forward on the right
path.
Yes.
I love that.
I love the reframe of how can I, right?
Exactly.
Because that's empowering.
Like how can I instead of I can't, I can't, Ican't?
I gotta overcome all this stuff.
(17:15):
How can I make it happen?
That's such a big reframe of your thoughtprocess, right?
Which is so powerful.
Exactly.
And so for me, when I first met with thatnaturopathic doctor, was, you know, is this
moving me further closer to my goal?
Well, of course, learning the tools of theunconscious mind is moving me towards my goal
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of being able to help every client.
Yeah.
Even if they have programming that's gonna makethem fall off, that's okay because now I'll
have the tools to help them through that.
Right.
Right.
So it was of course a no brainer that Icontinued down that path.
Yes, I love it.
I love it Melissa.
That is so great.
How do you I mean you've kind of answered thisin an indirect way, what calls you forward in
(18:02):
doing the kind of hard things and the amazingthings that you get to do?
My why.
My why calls me forward every single day.
I have a big why and that why is actuallyembedded in my nonprofit girls matter.
And it's all about keeping girls in school andbreaking the poverty cycle.
(18:23):
One girl, one family, one village at a time,stopping teenage marriages.
Because when we educate the other half, I.
E.
The girls, and they get into the workforce, weraise the GDP of countries.
Nice.
That's how we bring countries out of poverty.
And that is such a huge why.
And of course, I can't do it all on my own.
(18:44):
And I have the nonprofit, I have a board ofdirectors and our business Amplify Impact
Academy.
We donate 10% of all of our revenues to thatcause.
Nice.
And we do other fundraising as well.
So in getting up every day and knowing that Ican positively impact the lives of those girls
and through positively impacting the lives ofpeople that I work with through our training
(19:07):
programs, that keeps me going.
And just yesterday and the day before we taughta two day program that we just built from the
ground up in December and it was such a hit.
One of the ladies in that program had me intears when she talked about what she had just
(19:29):
learned from a section that we were workingthrough.
And this was a woman who had a lot of trauma inchildhood and wasn't sure that she wanted to
have children herself and bring them into thismessed up world.
And when we did our training and we talk a lot,as I said at the very beginning about our
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thoughts and how our thoughts impact how wefeel, which impact how we behave.
And we have a choice as to what thoughts wetake in and ruminate on or the thoughts that we
let float on by like clouds in the sky.
And
we kind of jokingly say, don't have to, youknow, if you've poopy thoughts, crappy
thoughts, you don't have to bend down and pickthem up and smell them.
(20:11):
Right?
You can let them go and go, no, I don't want Idon't want that thought.
It doesn't serve me.
I'm going to replace it with a more serve youknow, a more helpful, empowering thought.
Yeah.
And as we went through the day and a half, shecame back from lunch and said, over lunch, I
realized that I am now ready to get pregnant.
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And I want to get pregnant because I now knowthat I can bring children into the world that I
create for them.
Nice, nice.
Oh, give me goosebumps, Melissa.
That's amazing.
So
how can I not show up and do this work?
Right, right.
Yeah when you can have that kind of impact it'sjust so powerful.
(20:58):
I love love love your nonprofit.
When you send out those information and thestories of the difference that it can make.
A simple way of the one that was so powerfulfor me was a recent one that you sent out about
the woman being able to sew clothes and helppeople have a dress and teaching her the
(21:21):
skills.
Then she can help people dress better, haveuniforms for school.
It's just that ripple effect that can affect acommunity, a family first, a community, and
then eventually the country.
It's so powerful and we all have that abilityto some of us might be thinking, Oh I could
never do that.
(21:41):
I can never have that impact.
But I encourage everybody to say, How can you?
How can Exactly.
And thank you.
And thank you for your generous donations.
I really appreciate the support.
My pleasure.
For anybody who has a big idea out there andthey're feeling like it's in their head and
haven't really talked to anybody about it andthey don't know how to get started, that was
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literally me for three years with wanting tostart Girls Matter and not knowing how to do
it.
Until I went to a conference where the speakersaid, we are all put on this earth to do three
things, never stop learning, be of service, andfind your passion.
And that you don't have to know how, you justhave to know your why.
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And this resonated so deeply with me.
And I literally thought, I know my why.
And I just have to start speaking it andtelling other people, and then the resources
will come and fall into place.
And I left that conference and I called theonly two people I know that have started a
nonprofit in British Columbia, Canada.
And I said, will you teach me how to start anonprofit?
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And they said, sure, what do you wanna do?
And I told them and they said, you know what?
We'll do it with you because we already havethe nonprofit for the preschool kids.
Nice.
Let's now do the nonprofit for the high schooland university kids and we'll support education
at both ends.
And you just need to start where we're alreadylocated.
So let's start in Uganda.
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Great.
They already had the staff on the ground.
We literally started it a month later.
And I've been sitting on it for three years.
Wow.
All you have to do is speak it.
Yeah.
Yeah.
I love that.
I love that.
And it has to be tied to your why as well.
Don't do it
because it feels
good or you think you need to do it or somebodytold you you should do it.
(23:32):
It has to be really connected to your why.
But then love Melissa how you also just saidwho do I know?
That's the how can I reframe?
Instead of I don't know how to start anonprofit, that's too big, it'll never make an
impact, it's too much work.
We can always easily our brain takes us downthat here's why it won't work.
But that reframe is so powerful, the how can I?
(23:57):
And then you're just like okay here's some Iknow people have done it.
So learn from their examples.
It's just such a powerful tool for us all to bereminded of that we already have within us.
Reframing it and then reaching out tocommunity.
That's the power of these communities that wehave is reaching out to people that have
already done something that you want to do.
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I find, at least in the Lead for Ladiescommunities and other communities I'm involved
with, most people, if you ask them sincerelyand you come to them with your purpose and your
why, they're going to help you.
It's pretty rare that somebody says, No, I'mnot going to help you do that thing that's
going to help the world be a better place.
Exactly.
And to add to that, we moved into Kenya andexpanded into Kenya probably four years ago
(24:44):
because of Colleen Biggs.
Because she connected me to somebody that sheknew in Kenya who was running an organization
for women from the And I then startedsupporting the girls of those women.
And I'm still supporting that organization,even though the woman that Colleen introduced
me to tragically died a year ago of cancer.
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Her husband is now supporting and her oldestson.
So I'm working with them to continue supportingkeeping the girls of the Nairobi slums school.
And that's how we expanded from Uganda to Kenyawas literally because of the elite community.
Nice.
I love that.
I'm so excited to hear those kind of stories.
It's one of those things that's a ripple effectwe don't even realize that we know we're having
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always.
Because might just be we make an introductionand we don't ever know where that introduction
goes.
And it can be changing lives around the globe.
So that is just the power of community and I'mjust so happy that you're part of the LEAP
community and a member here.
Okay.
Is there anything else?
Yeah.
I do wanna share one thing, and it's abeautiful song that I encourage people to look
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go listen to.
It's called Start a Wave, and it's from theWorld of Color cast, and it's literally what
you just said.
Oh, And it's
talking about how it takes one drop and watchthat drop become a ripple and watch the ripple
become a wave.
And then it actually started with one drop, andwe can change the world.
Yes.
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So why don't you start a wave?
And each and every single one of us has thatwithin us.
When we think of it, it's just one drop.
I love it.
That gave me goosebumps again.
So lots of goosebumps in this podcastinterview, Melissa.
I love it.
Thank you for sharing that.
I'll go look up the song right as soon as weend the podcast so I can hear that.
Pop it in the show notes if you can once youget it.
(26:32):
Yes, I will.
I'll put the link in the show notes for sure.
Speaking of show notes, so we will put all ofMelissa's contact information in the show
notes.
If you're listening to this or watching this onyour favorite podcast channel or method,
whatever they're called, you can go and findall of Melissa's contact information in the
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show notes.
And please, please, please do yourself a favorand take that leap and reach out to Melissa and
go to her website she's got amazing classes theself hypnosis day was really amazing I loved
taking that course with you and learned a lotand just take a leap check out what she has to
offer and who knows it could change your life.
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Start that little ripple effect.
So thanks again for being a Leap four Ladiescommunity member Melissa and thanks for being
on the podcast today.
Absolutely my pleasure.
Thank you for having me, Mary.
Thanks.
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