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Melissa (00:03):
In today's episode, I
want to share why celebrating is
critical to your wellnessroutine, what is worth
celebrating, how and why youneed to add this into your daily
routine.
Let's get started and bask inthe joy of celebration.
Welcome to the Lemon BalmCoaching Podcast, your cozy
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corner of the world where we'llsip on life's lessons and
squeeze the most out of everymoment.
I'm Melissa, your coach,cheerleader and maybe even a
little bit like that mom whoalways has a warm hug and the
best advice waiting for you, momwho always has a warm hug and
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the best advice waiting for you.
If you're a woman over 40,feeling like life's left you a
little lost, aimless ordownright stuck, you're in the
right place.
This is where your joy, yourfreedom and your purpose come
back into focus, and yourpurpose come back into focus.
Together.
We'll laugh, learn andrediscover what makes you come
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alive.
Because it's not too late.
This is your time, so grab acup of something warm, settle in
and let's start creating thenext most beautiful chapter of
your life together.
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Do you remember when Sly and theFamily Stone sang?
Celebrate, celebrate.
Dance to the music.
Or Kool and the Gang gang,celebrate good times, come on.
Or how about rare earth.
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I just want to celebrateanother day of life.
Or one of my favorites, chakaKhan, tell me something good,
right, celebrate, observe,commemorate, honor, recognize,
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remember with ceremonies andfestivities.
What's the big deal Like?
Why do we celebrate?
What's the big deal Like?
Why do we celebrate?
What's the point?
Celebrating is actuallycritical to shifting and growing
and changing your thoughts andbeliefs.
According to Bible Gateway onthe internet, the word remember
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shows up in the Bible over 8,500times.
Over 8,500 times.
That's a lot, and there's areason.
It's because we forget.
We forget what we had forbreakfast.
I have no idea.
We forget appointments guilty.
We forget birthdays, doubleguilty.
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But it's important to remember.
It's important to engage ourminds and be thoughtful.
I even have a hard timeremembering how old I am most
days, much less how old my kidsand my grandkids are.
I always feel a little bitguilty when somebody says, oh,
how old are your grandkids?
And I'm like, uh, like I don'tknow 14, 15, somewhere in there
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is my oldest.
I don't know.
Maybe you remember birthdays,but I'd be willing to bet
there's other things that youforget.
Maybe just today you forgot whyyou walked into a different
room.
How often does that happen?
We forget.
It's easy to forget, but it's achallenge to remember, and I
think that's why it's repeatedover and over and over in the
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scriptures Remember, just likeMufasa said remember right.
Our brains are designed to fileinformation away into the
subconscious when it no longerneeds that information in the
forefront of your mind.
Think about all the things thatyou can do now without thinking
about them.
Just really seriously, thinkabout it for a second.
You can brush your things thatyou can do now without thinking
about them.
Just really seriously, thinkabout it for a second.
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You can brush your teeth, youcan eat food, you can walk, you
can hold your bladder Well,mostly I mean like you get to
this stage and there's a fewlittle sneeze leaks but you can
drive a car, you can walk, youcan chew gum.
You can do a lot of things thatyou don't have to think about
anymore.
You don't have to focus onthose things anymore because you
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don't need to think about them.
I always half joke that I writethings down so I don't have to
remember them, but it's actuallytrue.
I am a voracious note takerbecause I want to be able to go
back and refer to my notes,though I think I have a pretty
awesome mind.
I can't remember everythingperfectly.
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Your conscious brain uses only1% of your intelligence.
Your conscious mind this is allit does.
The conscious part of your mindreceives input, analyzes that
input and makes decisions.
That's the conscious part ofyour brain 1%.
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The other 99% is yoursubconscious at work, keeping
things working, storing memories.
Your subconscious archiveseverything you've ever done,
everything you've everexperienced, everything you've
ever felt or thought.
It knows everything that youneed.
Have you ever seen the Pixarmovie Inside Out?
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The movie shows what goes oninside the main character's head
.
It shows how the memories arestored and recalled in a really
cool way, and I'm not sure howPixar does it, but they take
extremely complex issues and laythem out in a way that a child
can understand.
There's even a recurring themewhere Riley recalls a chewing
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gum commercial at the mostinopportune times.
I'm pretty sure you canprobably relate.
So kiss a little longer, stayclose a little longer, hold
tight a little longer, longerwith big red.
Sing along with me ready.
That big red freshness lastsright through it.
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Your fresh breath goes on andon while you chew it.
Say goodbye a little longer,make it last a little longer,
give your breath long lastingfreshness with big red.
I think I changed keys a coupletimes in there, but that that
theme went hard right, and thosememories are hidden deep within
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your subconscious mind, butthey're not in the forefront of
your mind because you don't needthem to survive.
Nothing is ever really lost tous as long as we can remember it
.
Lucy Maud Montgomery said thatNothing is ever really lost to
us as long as we can remember it.
Lucy Maud Montgomery said thatNothing is ever really lost to
us as long as we can remember it.
So what are we supposed toremember, though?
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Is it just important eventslike anniversaries, holidays,
promotions?
Obviously not.
Since you've got those oldcommercials, thoughts, ideas and
more rolling in around in yourbrain, it's obvious that we're
meant to remember more than justthe important things.
Yes, it's important tocommemorate the big things, but
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it's also important to rememberand to celebrate and honor the
little things too.
There's a very real mind, bodyand spirit reason to celebrate.
When you celebrate, your brainreleases happy, feel-good
chemicals like dopamine,oxytocin and serotonin.
Celebration speaks directly tothe limbic system of your brain,
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confirming the happy and joyfulemotional experience.
When you take time to celebrateeven the tiniest achievements.
It tells your brain thatpositive, feel-good, joyful
emotions are good and tolerable.
Celebrating can do more thanjust improve your mood.
It can also boost yourmotivation and even enhance your
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relationships.
It's a powerful tool for youroverall well-being.
Your heart was designed for joy, love and other positive
emotions and when your heartdoesn't get those, it's going to
seek out the tiniest spark ofthose emotions.
It's going to become desperateto feel good, it's going to
become desperate to feel joy andit's going to become desperate
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for happiness.
Celebrating activates the rewardsystem in your limbic brain.
When the reward system isactivated, it reinforces the
behaviors that are associatedwith those positive emotions.
Think about potty training achild.
You get the most success whenyou reward the positive behavior
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that you're looking for andcelebrating when it happens.
I remember potty training mykids and every time they used
the potty we would celebrate, wewould do a little dance, we
would have a good time, so thattheir brains would start to
recognize oh, going potty in thepotty means goodness, means
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happiness, means joy.
The reward center in the limbicbrain is activated when you
celebrate and it reinforcesthose positive behaviors with
positive emotions.
Now the reward center can alsobe affected by drugs like
alcohol, cocaine, nicotine andmore.
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These substances also releasedopamine and dopamine is that
chemical that gives you thatfeeling of a warm hug.
One of my favorite authors, drGabor Mate, wrote about
addiction in his book In theRealm of Hungry Ghosts.
Through his years of workingwith skid row addicts, he found
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a common theme.
When he asked them, what is itlike when you take that first
hit, many of his patientsreplied it's like a warm hug.
So those drugs release dopamine, giving you that warm hug
feeling.
So if you do not stop tocelebrate, to notice, to
recognize or honor the littlethings, your limbic brain starts
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to suffer and then it starts tolook anywhere that it can to
find joy and happiness.
So choosing celebration eachday keeps that part of your
brain continuing to seek thereward of that positive
experience.
The Indian philosopher Oshostates that life should not only
be lived, it should becelebrated.
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Another reason celebration isimportant is because of your
reticular activating system.
Have you ever heard of thatbefore?
The RAS is a network of neuronsin the brainstem and is a
filter between the brain and thesenses that allows only the
most important information toget through.
It's a sensory gate.
It plays a key role infiltering incoming sensory
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information.
It helps to prioritize what'simportant and suppresses what
isn't.
Anything repetitive will bemoved to a lower priority.
So repetitive things likebrushing teeth, walking, things
like that they're a lowerpriority and that allows the
important things to take frontand center.
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So the RAS is really criticalpart of your brain.
Think about where you are rightnow and I want you to start to
focus on your environment.
What sounds do you notice thatwere blocked out before you
started focusing on sounds?
What colors do you see?
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Clearly now that you're lookingfor colors?
What shapes, what smells, whattastes?
What do you feel?
Do you feel cold?
Do you feel hot?
Do you feel clammy?
All those sensations, sightsand sounds were there before,
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but they were a low priorityuntil you told your brain to
start paying attention.
That's your RAS at work, yourreticular activating system.
You can actually train your RASfor what you want it to focus
on.
That's the funny thing aboutour brains the thoughts we think
on repeat create our experiencein this life.
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If you're a negative Nancy or aDebbie Downer, then negativity
is what will rule your life.
Your RAS will make sure of it.
However, if you can shift yourthoughts to positive ones, you
begin to train your RAS to lookfor positivity around you and
your life experience will beginto shift to look for positivity
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around you and your lifeexperience will begin to shift
to look for positivity.
So when we talk aboutcelebration, joy is the word and
the feeling that comes to mindand infuses my body with energy.
So I have a gift for you tohelp you start to feel joy in
less than 20 minutes each day.
Do you have 20 minutes to beginshifting your RAS to seek joy
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instead of negativity?
There are simple and freepractices you can do to begin to
focus your limbic brain on joy.
Just visit the link in the shownotes and download your five
tips to feel joy in under 20minutes, as soon as this episode
is finished.
When you train your RAS to lookfor the good around you, when
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you celebrate even the tiniestof achievements, when dopamine,
serotonin and oxytocin becomeassociated with the positive,
the good, the happy and thejoyful celebrations in life, you
begin to create positive energywithin and all around you.
Imagine a world where everyonearound you was celebrating
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themselves and others.
Just think about the highvibrational energy that would
begin to rule.
How incredible would that be.
Remember.
I have a gift for you to startretraining your RAS to seek out
positivity and joy.
Just visit the link in the shownotes to download your copy of
five simple tips to feel joy inunder 20 minutes.
Remember your thoughts, createyour experience of life.
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Are you ready for joy?
Download the five tips to feeljoy in the show notes today.
Thanks so much for spending alittle time with me today on the
Lemon Balm Coaching Podcast.
I hope you're walking away withsomething that sparks joy, hope
or a fresh perspective for yourjourney.
If you loved today's episode,let's keep the conversation
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Remember, honey, just beyourself.
The world needs what only youhave to offer.
Take care and I'll see you inthe next episode.