How to Stop Chasing Security and Start Living with Intent: Lessons for Anyone Feeling Stuck or Misaligned in Life

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In this episode of Lesley's Lessons, we dive deep into the concept of 'chasing security' and how it often leads us away from true self-alignment. Join Lesley as she shares her own story of job struggles, unexpected pivots, and lessons learned from union roles that offered a false sense of security. This episode is for anyone feeling stuck—whether in their career, relationships, or personal journey—and is searching for a way to break free from cycles of fear and stagnation.

Lesley unpacks the importance of intentional actions, self-alignment, and the courage to say, 'I choose me.' Discover why the pursuit of superficial stability can lead to frustration and dissatisfaction, and learn practical insights to create a life of fulfillment by aligning with what genuinely resonates. If you’re ready to stop going in circles, release fears, and become proactive about your happiness, this episode offers the motivation and clarity you need to start living in alignment with your true values and desires.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:03):
So this podcast is dedicated to anyone who is a
working entrepreneur or someonewho just feels stuck.
You feel stuck to yoursituation and fear has just led
you in circles, and I just wantto tell you you don't have to

(00:24):
chase security, speaking formyself, as of late, a job that I
really wanted fell through andI already gave notice to my
other union job and then I gotin a bind.
So I quickly pivoted and got ajob that I don't like room
attendant and my first day Iremembered why I shouldn't go

(00:47):
after things I'm not alignedwith, and this inspired this
podcast.
Working in a union hotelsometimes it comes with a
different, it's a differentworld from non-union jobs and it
can build a false sense ofsecurity, and I'm sure many

(01:08):
people can relate, even if theydon't work in a union position.
There's something in your lifethat has created a sense of
security for you for a long time.
You know, deep down, somethingis missing and you're at a
breaking point.
You know, deep down, somethingis missing and you're at a
breaking point, and if that isyou, we're going to get into my

(01:28):
lesson learned about stopchasing security, and hopefully
this can help you align yourselfwith something you truly
deserve and what you want.
There's just something aboutthe stagnation, the limited, the
limited of it all.
You're not shattering any glassceilings in these roles and you

(01:57):
have to be able to hold on toyour vision for yourself.
Stop chasing security andcreate it, and you do so by it.
Could be something as simple asoh, I'll work at that job
because I like the location.
Now you eliminated driving or,you know, traveling.

(02:19):
Far because you pick somethingthat works for you, that's
alignment.
Far because you pick somethingthat works for you, that's
alignment.
Oh, let me date this person.
They have a lot of money,they're established, they look
good, they come from a goodfamily yeah, that's good.

(02:41):
But are you aligned?
Does this person want the samethings that you want?
Are they lusting for you or dothey love you?
Do they care about you?
Do you have a, an establishedfriendship relationship?
Do they want to know you?
Do they see you?
Do they value you?
You have to ask the toughquestions because guess what

(03:04):
they're not going to tell you.
I mean, they'll tell yousomething.
You know everyone wants to dosomething to get what they want,
but is it true?
And then maybe you don't wantto know?
Just keep the peace Now.
Stop chasing security.

(03:25):
Even when you're dormant, it'sjust as bad, because you're not
aligning yourself with somethingthat you really want or deserve
.
You're kind of just letting theuniverse say whatever will be
will be.
And you need to be proactive.
You will never yield the sameresults as someone who is

(03:51):
intentional with their time,intentional with their actions
by just saying whatever will bewill be.
There has to be actions on yourpart.
There has to be intentions.
Every day.
You must wake up and beproactive about your day.

(04:11):
You must direct the flow, yourenergy, your thoughts in the
direction of what you want tohappen.
Otherwise, it's like dead space.
You're leaving yourselfenergetically vulnerable for

(04:33):
anything to attack you or totake a hold of you, because you
did not set up the scene.
You just allowed anything tojust walk in and do what it
wants, and you don't want to dothat to yourself, right?

(04:53):
I know this might sound alittle harsh.
I know it might sound like whoa.
What are you talking about?
I just want to be happy.
I just want to have stability.
There's nothing wrong with thatAbsolutely not.
But it's the way, it's themethod of making that happen.

(05:14):
That's ending you back whereyou started and I don't want
that for you.
Chasing security will neverbring you security.
It brings you doubt, it bringsyou instability and it keeps you

(05:34):
out of alignment, becauseyou're doing it out of fear, out
of deprivation and sometimesdesperation, and anything done
with that, done in that way,will never yield results from a

(05:55):
confident standpoint.
When you are confident, youattract.
You are a magnet.
You are not the person goingafter everything and seeing what
will gravitate towards you.
What will you know?
Pay attention to you and chooseyou?

(06:16):
You will never feel that way.
Attention to you and choose you?
You will never feel that way.
Instead, you will attractopportunities, you will attract
friendship, you will attractlove.
You will attract the life thatyou want because you are
intentional in creating it.
Chasing security does not exist.

(06:38):
You're just chasing fear in abeautiful package.
It makes sense, it looksharmless, but it's very damaging
.
It's damaging to yourself-esteem, it could be
damaging to your life.
It could be, you know, damagingto your career aspirations

(07:02):
because you're going in circles.
Yes, you can be grateful, youcould be thankful for an
opportunity, regardless if it'sa good one or not, but that does
not mean that you are aligned,nor does it mean you are meant

(07:23):
to be there, but if you staythere, that's on you, not them.
Learn to stick and move.
Learn to adapt.
Learn to say I choose me rightaway instead of dwelling and
contemplating and thinking aboutit.

(07:44):
Learn to act right away andlearn to let go of what no
longer serves you and is overwith.
There is no rule book that saysyou have to keep thinking about
something that happened overand over and over again.
It will never help you progressin life, and it's when you

(08:10):
think that you've arrived thatyou know you still have yet to
begin, because life is everevolving.
There's always something tolearn.
It doesn't matter how stableyou are or how controlled you
think you have life.
There is always something tolearn, but not everyone thinks

(08:34):
so.
To learn, but not everyonethinks so, and then those are
the ones who learn the hard way,and then, if they don't learn,
they think that life is jinxingthem.
Maybe someone put a curse ordid something Sometimes, who
knows?
But guess what?
You believe in yourself and youthink positive and stay prayed

(08:55):
up.
No one can touch you.
You don't have to wish for yourmoment.
If you create your moment, ifyou decide, I'm elevating and
promoting myself right now.
I have a plan, I haveintentions and I will execute
that plan.
But if you're just going to say, well, you know, I don't have

(09:23):
this, I don't have that, I don'tknow how I can do it, so I'm
going to do this over there tocreate that, or maybe do this
over there and do that, and it'slike you're just going to be
loopy, confused, frustrated,angry, resentful, sad, depressed
, sound familiar.

(09:46):
Just take a step back andprocess.
Give yourself grace and realizethat you are already there.
You are already there.
You just have to give yourselfpermission to see that.
Open the blinds, open the door,get some fresh air.

(10:11):
Your foundation to where youwant to be, your home, your
heart, is already there.
You don't have to go from hometo home place to place this and
that to get what's alreadyinside of you.

(10:32):
Trust that it is there, tap intune in.
Let this day be the last daythat you stop chasing something

(10:54):
that you already have on theinside, because you do.
All you have to do is claim it.
Leslie's Lessons.