Lessons in (Anxious) Attachment
Lessons in (Anxious) Attachment is the podcast for people who are still struggling with overthinking, anxious attachment patterns, or chasing unavailable partners...even though you understand the theory. With a lifetime of personal experience and over 15 years of professional experience, I (Carly Ann) am here to help you move beyond just knowing the logic of attachment and actually start applying it to create real change. You should know, my podcast isn’t about getting your ex back or making your partner fix your anxiety. Lessons in Attachment is about empowering you to become your own coach - using attachment theory, third-wave CBT techniques, and practical tools to transform your daily life. We dive deep into life-changing topics, so be sure to take care of yourself along the way. This is the podcast that helps you finally shift your attachment style and stop letting worry control your life Come and get to know me more on Instagram @carly.ann_ or head to www.carly-ann.co.uk for freebies and community!
Episodes
A motivational episode - consider it your personal pep talk to manage your inner critic and give you a confidence boost.
Carly Ann is here to help if you’ve got something coming up that’s making you nervous. Whether it’s a date, a job interview, a boundary to set, or a tough conversation, this episode will help settle your mind and lift your energy. It’s for those moments when your inner critic gets loud and tries to ...
For Low Self-Esteem
Do you ever feel like you’re not good enough no matter how hard you try? Do you second-guess your worth, wonder if you’re truly lovable, or compare yourself to everyone around you? If your confidence feels fragile and your inner critic is running the show, this episode is for you.
In this episode, Carly Ann shares 4 powerful, evidence-based ways to start healing low self-esteem, drawn from her own ex...
This self-esteem reset meditation is for you if you struggle with self-worth, overthinking, people-pleasing, or anxious attachment.
In just 6 minutes, you'll be guided through a calming, healing experience to:
Let go of self-doubt and critical inner talk
Reconnect with your inner strength and self-belief
Start feeling good enough as you are
Build confidence from within, not from ext...
Do you find yourself constantly preparing for the worst? Playing out disaster scenarios in your head? Comparing yourself to others and feeling like you’re always coming up short?
In today’s episode, we’re diving into a sneaky but powerful habit many of us don’t even realise we’re stuck in, the automatic pull toward the negative. Whether it’s fear, comparison, or imagining everything that could go wrong, this pattern is...
You know they’re not right for you. You know you deserve better. You know the anxious spiral is hurting you. So why does it still feel like your heart hasn’t caught up with your head?
In this episode, Carly Ann is diving into the frustrating phenomenon known as head-heart lag...That all-too-familiar space where your logic is crystal clear, but your emotions and behaviours aren’t playing ball.
If you’ve ever said, “I ge...
Struggling with anxious attachment? Always asking “Do you still love me?” or “Are you sure you’re not leaving?” even when you know the answer won’t help for long?
In this episode, Carly Ann unpacks why anxious attachers seek constant reassurance, how it keeps you stuck in a loop, and why your nervous system never quite feels safe.
If you're stuck overthinking, spiralling after silence, or chasing reassurance thro...
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Everything seems fine… but you still feel stuck or lost?
Or maybe you know you’ve fallen into that pattern again - the overthinking, obsessing, clinging, second-guessing, unsure how to get out.
This episode is for the anxious attachers who keep finding themselves here: things look okay on the outside, but inside it’s the same fog, the same fear, the same c...
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Struggling with feeling panicky or desperate when you think someone you love is pulling away? Do you find yourself turning into a version of yourself you barely recognise - anxious, overwhelmed, even irrational…whenever you fear abandonment or rejection? If you’re tired of the emotional rollercoaster with avoidants or feeling stuck in cycles of panic and overt...
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Struggling with relationship anxiety/anxious attachment? Feeling like you are struggling with self-worth and showing up as your true self?
Today, I am sharing 2 common patterns that actually keep you stuck in a cycle of insecurity, fear of rejection, and low self esteem.
If you’re ready to get out of the anxious cycle and build your self worth - this episode ma...
- EXAMPLE ANXIOUS CYCLE
- WATCH THE WORKSHOP
- JOIN STUCK TO SECURE
- DOCUMENT WITH TOOLS TO INTERRUPT THE CYCLE
If you know you're stuck in an anxious cycle, like overthinking, chasing, second-guessing, or feeling like you just can't relax in love, this episode is your lifeline.
In this free workshop, I’ll guide you through powerful and practical steps to break the cycle you're in right now. It doesn'...
If you have an anxious attachment style and you’re doing the work, trying to heal, build self-worth, and stop losing yourself in relationships, there’s a question you need to be asking.
In this episode, I bring that question to the table. It’s the kind of conversation most anxious attachers skip over, but without it, the healing can only go so far.
If you’re...
If you’re feeling like you’ve messed it all up… again, like you’re back at square one, stuck in the same old anxious attachment spiral than this episode is for you. Maybe you’ve texted when you said you wouldn’t. Maybe you’re beating yourself up for caring too much (again). Maybe your mind is screaming: “Why am I like this?!”
Before you disappear into shame...
Feeling triggered in love, dating, and relationships? Constantly worrying, acting out, and obsessing? This episode is for anyone with anxious attachment who finds themselves overreacting, spiralling, or shutting down. Learn the most common attachment triggers and even get some bonus tips on how to manage them.
Perfect for anyone healing anxious attachment, ...
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You've been working hard to heal your anxious and/or disorganised attachment and right now you just feel like nothing is working?
All the tools, the therapy, the journaling - none of it seems to be helping, and you're right back where you started? This episode is for you.
Whether you're feeling a heavy dip right now, stuck in a famil...
Anxious Attachment is often maintained by low self-worth..
If you’ve ever felt like you’re not good enough in love, dating, & relationships (especially when they pull away or act cold), this episode is 100% for you.
In this raw and honest moment, Carly Ann speaks straight from here heart to anyway that has anxious attachment, low self-worth, and knows the pain of being caught in a cycle you just want to break!
Liste...
Why do people ghost? If you have anxious attachment, being ghosted can feel devastating..like rejection, confusion, and obsession all rolled into one.
In this episode, Carly Ann is diving into the reasons that different people ghost.
If you have recently been ghosted, I hope this gives you some clarity around what is going on.
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If you've ever found yourself obsessing over a message or an ex, worrying they've lost interest, or feeling completely triggered by distance or mixed signals...this episode is for you. Whether you're in a situationship, dating an avoidant, or constantly battling your own anxious attachment style, you’ve probably heard the advice: just self-soothe. But what does that actually mean?
This episode is your go...
If you find yourself constantly worrying...Why haven’t they texted back? Did I say something wrong? Are they losing interest? this episode of Lessons in Attachment is for you.
When you have an anxious attachment style, waiting and overthinking can take over your whole day. In this episode,Carly Ann is sharing two powerful CBT-based tools to help you cope with uncertainty and worry!
You’ll hear real-life examples (inclu...
Have you been ghosted? Ghosting is one of the most painful and confusing ways to be left behind, but do ghosters actually feel anything?
In this episode, Carly Ann dive into a fascinating study by Freedman et al (2022) to uncover what’s really going on in the minds of ghosters. Do they feel guilty? Do they regret it? Or do they just move on without a second thought? Spoiler: It’s not as simple as you might think.
Other ...
Do you ever feel crazy? like your thoughts are spinning out of control over someone? That intense, obsessive longing where every little thing they do feels like a sign?
You might be experiencing limerence. It’s more than just a crush - it’s an all-consuming obsession that can feel like an addiction to this person. It feels crazy - but I assure you you're not
In this episode Carly Ann give 3 major signs of limerenc...
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