March 23, 2025 • 14 mins
50 Mother Wound Journal Prompts
Can a relationship with our mothers silently sculpt our self-worth and personal growth? In this episode, we unravel the intricate threads of the mother wound, exploring how our connections with our mothers can shape our identity and beliefs. With the guidance of 50 powerful journal prompts from Lestallion, we venture into the depths of our past to better understand the expectations and patterns that have influenced us. Our discussion is not a quest to lay blame but rather an opportunity to become aware of any negative core beliefs from childhood and question their validity. By doing so, we aspire to help you separate responsibility from guilt, setting the stage for healing and empowerment.
As we journey through the process of healing, we emphasize embracing self-love and resilience. We reflect on the potential wisdom our future selves might offer and the importance of self-kindness and acknowledging small victories. Trusting our intuition and embracing vulnerability are celebrated as strengths on this path, reminding us that personal growth is an ongoing process. By accepting our perfectly imperfect selves and drawing inspiration from the resilience within our community, we offer encouragement for everyone to continue exploring, healing, and believing in their inherent worthiness of love and happiness. Join us as we foster a supportive space for growth and transformation.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
All right, so are you ready to dive deep with me
today?
Speaker 2 (00:02):
Always.
Speaker 1 (00:02):
Because today we're going to be taking a look at 50
journal prompts and they'redesigned to help you understand
and heal from the mother wound.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (00:12):
We're looking at these prompts from a blog called
Lestallion, and when you hearmother wound, it can sound a
little intense, right, but stickwith us, because it's not about
blame.
It's more about recognizing howour relationships with our
mothers can have an impact on us.
Speaker 2 (00:28):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
Even the good parts, you know, can leave these little
emotional scars that can havean effect on our self-worth, our
relationships and even the waythat we approach personal growth
.
Speaker 2 (00:39):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (00:40):
So think of this deep dive as like a starting point.
Speaker 2 (00:42):
A jumping off point.
Speaker 1 (00:43):
Yeah, for reflection and not like a replacement for
therapy or anything like that.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (00:47):
You know, as we go through this, remember to be
kind to yourself.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (00:52):
It's all about understanding Exactly, Not
judgment.
Speaker 2 (00:54):
Yeah what's so fascinating about the mother
wound is that a lot of peoplehave trouble recognizing that it
exists.
We're often taught to see ourmothers as perfect, but the
reality is that everyrelationship, even the most
loving ones, has its issues, andthis blog doesn't shy away from
those, it really jumps right in.
Speaker 1 (01:13):
Okay, so you're saying the blog kind of gives us
a roadmap for exploring allthis?
Speaker 2 (01:15):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:16):
It's broken down into sections to help us navigate
this complex topic.
Speaker 2 (01:20):
Okay, so the first section is called Understanding
your Relationship With yourMother.
Speaker 1 (01:24):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (01:25):
And I was just reading through some of these
and I was struck by how theyencourage us to really examine
the dynamics.
Speaker 1 (01:33):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:33):
The expectations that were maybe unspoken and the
ways our mothers may haveinfluenced us in our sense of
self.
Speaker 1 (01:40):
It's true, and one prompt that really brings this
home is reflect on how yourrelationship with your mother
shaped your sense of self-worth.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
Oh, wow.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
It's such a powerful question because it gets us
thinking about how those earlyinteractions you know, both the
good and the bad may have shapedhow we see ourselves today.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
It's so true Like do you ever feel like what she said
or did still affects how youview yourself, even as an adult?
It's all about recognizingthose patterns, you know.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
So it's like our early experiences become this
lens that we see the worldthrough.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
Sometimes without even realizing it.
Exactly.
And there's another prompt thatasks us to think about what our
mothers expected of us.
Speaker 2 (02:21):
Right.
Speaker 1 (02:21):
If they were realistic expectations and how
they affected our sense ofidentity and independence.
Speaker 2 (02:27):
That's a really insightful one, because it gets
to the heart of how conditionallove can really affect how we
grow up.
You know, if we felt like wealways had to meet certain
expectations to earn ourmother's love or approval.
It can make us feel insecureand afraid of not being good
enough, and that can follow usour whole lives.
It can make us feel insecureand afraid of not being good
enough, and that can follow usour whole lives.
Speaker 1 (02:46):
It's true, it's like we're constantly trying to get
that validation, even if wedon't realize it Exactly.
It can come out in ourrelationships, our jobs, even
how we take care of ourselves.
Speaker 2 (02:55):
Absolutely, and that's why I think this first
section is so important.
It's like laying the groundworkto understand how those early
patterns might still beaffecting us today, right
Without that awareness, it'stough to move on and heal.
Speaker 1 (03:08):
So it's all about awareness.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (03:10):
It's like shining a light on things.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
Yeah, bringing those things into the light so we can
understand their impact Exactly.
And once we've started to dothat, we can move into the next
set of prompts, which is allabout exploring our emotions and
beliefs.
Speaker 1 (03:24):
Ooh, this is where it gets juicy.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
This is where things get really interesting.
Speaker 1 (03:28):
I know I was just reading this.
Speaker 2 (03:29):
It's about digging a little deeper, you know,
uncovering those deeper layersof emotion and belief that could
be driving how we act and thepatterns we repeat.
Speaker 1 (03:39):
And that's where it gets hard right, it can be.
Challenging those deep-seatedbeliefs.
That's where it gets hard right, it can be.
Challenging those deep-seatedbeliefs.
Speaker 2 (03:42):
Yeah, One prompt that I think is really powerful in
this section is write about anynegative beliefs about yourself
that you might have developedbecause of your relationship
with your mother.
It's about figuring out thosecore beliefs, the stories we
tell ourselves that could beholding us back.
Speaker 1 (04:01):
How do we even begin to dismantle those beliefs?
Speaker 2 (04:05):
Well, the first step is realizing they might not even
be true.
Speaker 1 (04:09):
Right.
Speaker 2 (04:09):
They often come from our childhood experiences and
how we saw things back then, notfrom reality.
Once we can start to see themas stories we've made up, not
absolute truths, then we canquestion them and challenge
their power over us.
Speaker 1 (04:23):
So creating a little space.
Exactly, see them as separate.
Speaker 2 (04:26):
Separate from who we really are.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
Right, and then what?
Speaker 2 (04:29):
It's like when you step back from a painting and
you realize it's just oneinterpretation, not the whole
picture.
Speaker 1 (04:35):
I love that.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
And once you have that distance, you can ask
yourself is this belief helpingme?
Is it helping me create thelife I want?
Speaker 1 (04:43):
And if it's not?
Speaker 2 (04:44):
You can let it go.
Speaker 1 (04:45):
Wow, and that's where the work comes in, right.
Speaker 2 (04:47):
That's where the real work begins.
Speaker 1 (04:48):
It's not just about knowing, it's about taking
action.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
It's about shifting those beliefs, creating new ones
that are more empowering,exactly, and a big part of that
is having self-compassion.
Yes, another prompt asks us tothink about whether we blame
ourselves for problems with ourmoms.
Speaker 1 (05:05):
Well, that's a big one.
Speaker 2 (05:06):
This can be huge, especially if we grew up feeling
responsible for how our momfelt, but this prompt encourages
us to separate responsibilityfrom guilt in our relationship
with her.
Speaker 1 (05:16):
That's a really important difference.
Speaker 2 (05:18):
It is.
Speaker 1 (05:18):
We may have played a part in some things, but we
weren't responsible for herfeelings or her choices.
Speaker 2 (05:24):
Right.
Speaker 1 (05:24):
And realizing that can be so freeing.
Speaker 2 (05:27):
It can feel like a weight has been lifted.
Speaker 1 (05:29):
Right.
Speaker 2 (05:31):
And it creates space for forgiveness both for
ourselves and maybe even for ourmothers.
Speaker 1 (05:34):
This isn't about saying what happened was okay.
Speaker 2 (05:35):
No, it's about letting go of the pain so we can
move forward, choosing peaceover pain, freedom over being
stuck, you know it's not alwayseasy, especially when the wounds
are deep you're right, healingtakes time.
It's not a straight line, right, but these prompts are a
starting point, a guide for thisjourney of self-discovery and
transformation so we've talkedabout understanding our
(05:56):
relationship with our mothers,yes, and exploring the emotions
and beliefs that come from thoseexperiences.
Speaker 1 (06:02):
But where do we go from here?
How do we actually heal?
Speaker 2 (06:05):
That's a great question and that's where the
next set of prompts comes in.
Speaker 1 (06:08):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
They're all about moving towards healing,
embracing self-love and growth,and letting go and moving
forward.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
Okay, so these prompts actually bridge the gap
between knowing and doing.
Speaker 2 (06:20):
They do.
Speaker 1 (06:21):
Okay, everybody, let's dive into those.
Speaker 2 (06:23):
Sounds good to me.
So one of the things thatreally stands out to me in these
next sections is the focus onself-love as a foundation for
healing.
It's not just aboutunderstanding the mother wound,
you know.
Speaker 1 (06:34):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
It's about learning to love and accept ourselves,
even the parts we don't like.
Speaker 1 (06:39):
That's so important and I think for a lot of us our
sense of self-worth has beenaffected by our relationships
with our mom.
Speaker 2 (06:45):
Right.
Speaker 1 (06:46):
You know, we internalize those critical
voices, those messages thatwe're not good enough, and it
makes it so hard to loveourselves.
Speaker 2 (06:53):
It really does, and there's a prompt that gets right
to that.
Which one it says write abouthow you can embrace self-love as
a way to heal from the woundsof the past.
What does self-love look likefor you?
Speaker 1 (07:06):
I like that.
Speaker 2 (07:07):
It's about getting specific.
Speaker 1 (07:08):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (07:09):
You know, identifying things we can actually do to
take care of ourselves.
Speaker 1 (07:13):
Both physically and emotionally.
Speaker 2 (07:15):
Exactly.
Speaker 1 (07:15):
So it's not just about feeling good about
ourselves, it's about takingcare of ourselves.
Speaker 2 (07:19):
Exactly.
Speaker 1 (07:17):
So it's not just about feeling good about
ourselves, it's about takingcare of ourselves.
Speaker 2 (07:18):
Yes, Taking concrete steps meeting our own needs.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
Making choices that honor our well-being.
Speaker 2 (07:25):
Exactly, and those choices will look different for
everyone.
Right, for some people it mightbe setting boundaries in
relationships.
Speaker 1 (07:32):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (07:32):
Or prioritizing time for themselves.
Speaker 1 (07:35):
Makes sense.
Speaker 2 (07:35):
Or doing things that bring them joy.
It's about finding what reallynourishes us, it Makes sense, or
doing things that bring themjoy.
Speaker 1 (07:41):
It's about finding what really nourishes us.
It's like we're puttingtogether our own self-care kit,
you know.
Exactly Filled with things thathelp us feel loved and
supported.
Speaker 2 (07:45):
And speaking of support, yes, these prompts also
encourage us to seek outhealthy connections Okay, with
friends, maybe a therapist or asupport group.
Speaker 1 (07:55):
So we don't have to go through it alone.
Speaker 2 (07:57):
Right.
Healing from the mother woundcan be lonely, but it doesn't
have to be.
Connecting with people whounderstand can be so validating
and empowering.
Speaker 1 (08:06):
It's like creating a safe space where we can be
ourselves and share ourexperiences.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
Exactly, and you know , another important aspect of
healing is forgiveness,forgiveness.
I know it's a tough one.
Speaker 1 (08:18):
It can be.
Speaker 2 (08:18):
Especially if we've been hurt by our mothers.
Speaker 1 (08:20):
Right.
Speaker 2 (08:21):
But forgiveness isn't about saying what happened was
okay, right.
It's about letting go of theanger and resentment we hold on
to.
Speaker 1 (08:28):
People get that confused all the time.
Speaker 2 (08:29):
They do.
It's not about condoning whathappened.
It's about choosing to let goof the pain To free ourselves.
Speaker 1 (08:37):
Exactly go of the pain to free ourselves.
Exactly.
Speaker 2 (08:41):
It can be so liberating it's like finally
releasing that burden we've beencarrying for so long, and it
allows us to create space fornew things.
You know possibilities newrelationships, a whole new way
of being these prompts reallyhelp us understand how to do
that they do, and one that Ifind particularly helpful which
one it asks us to think aboutwhat healing from the mother
wound actually means to us.
Speaker 1 (09:00):
Okay, what would a healed relationship with our
mother look like?
And I think it's important toremember that healing doesn't
always mean making up.
Speaker 2 (09:08):
Right.
Speaker 1 (09:08):
Sometimes it's about finding peace within ourselves,
no matter what the relationshipwith our mother is like.
Speaker 2 (09:14):
That's so true.
We may never have therelationship we want with our
moms, but we can still findhealing and wholeness on our own
.
Speaker 1 (09:24):
Absolutely, and sometimes that means creating
distance.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
Setting boundaries.
Speaker 1 (09:28):
Yes, to protect ourselves.
Speaker 2 (09:30):
So it's about defining what healing looks like
for us.
Speaker 1 (09:33):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (09:34):
And honoring that journey.
Speaker 1 (09:35):
On our own terms, and you know one of the most
beautiful things about healingfrom the mother wound.
Speaker 2 (09:40):
What's that?
Speaker 1 (09:41):
Is that it affects more than just us.
What?
Speaker 2 (09:43):
do you?
Speaker 1 (09:43):
mean, it impacts our relationships, our families,
even our communities.
Speaker 2 (09:46):
That's what makes us so powerful.
Speaker 1 (09:48):
It's like we're breaking a cycle, you know.
Speaker 2 (09:50):
Creating a more positive legacy.
Speaker 1 (09:52):
For ourselves and for future generations.
Speaker 2 (09:55):
And speaking of future generations.
These prompts also ask us tothink about how our future
relationships can be shaped byour healing, especially if we
become mothers ourselves.
Speaker 1 (10:06):
It's about breaking those unhealthy patterns and
creating healthier ways ofrelating.
Speaker 2 (10:09):
It's about becoming the mothers we wish we had had.
Speaker 1 (10:11):
Not just for our kids , but for ourselves too.
Speaker 2 (10:13):
Exactly.
It's about embodying thosequalities of love, acceptance
and emotional availability thatwe may have missed out on.
Speaker 1 (10:20):
That's a beautiful goal and it speaks to the power
of healing you know it does.
It's not just about fixingwhat's broken.
Speaker 2 (10:27):
Right.
Speaker 1 (10:28):
It's about creating something new, something better,
something that can make adifference.
Speaker 2 (10:31):
And that brings us to the final section of PROMS,
which focuses on letting go andmoving forward.
Speaker 1 (10:37):
Okay, so this is where we put it all together.
Speaker 2 (10:39):
This is where the rubber meets the road.
Speaker 1 (10:41):
I'm ready, let's dive in.
Okay, so we're in this finalsection, now letting go and
moving forward.
It really feels like theculmination of everything we've
been talking about.
Speaker 2 (10:51):
I agree.
This is where we take all thoseinsights we've gained and start
making real changes.
It's about taking action.
Speaker 1 (10:57):
So there's this prompt that really jumped out at
me.
It asks what past wounds areyou ready to leave behind for
good?
Speaker 2 (11:04):
Oh wow, that's powerful.
Speaker 1 (11:10):
It really struck me like we're finally ready to
unpack all that baggage andchoose what we want to carry
with us.
Speaker 2 (11:13):
It highlights the fact that we have a choice.
Speaker 1 (11:15):
We do.
Speaker 2 (11:16):
We don't have to be defined by those wounds.
Speaker 1 (11:18):
Right.
Speaker 2 (11:18):
We can decide which ones we want to heal and let go
of.
Speaker 1 (11:22):
So it's not about pretending they didn't happen.
Speaker 2 (11:25):
No.
Speaker 1 (11:25):
It's about acknowledging them and then
making a conscious decision tomove on.
Speaker 2 (11:29):
To reclaim our power and make space for new things.
Speaker 1 (11:33):
Exactly.
And there's another prompt thatasks how can you keep moving
forward even if the past stillfeels heavy?
It's like acknowledging thathealing isn't always easy or
straightforward.
Speaker 2 (11:43):
It's not a straight line.
Speaker 1 (11:44):
No, you know there are going to be bumps along the
way.
Speaker 2 (11:47):
Setbacks times when those old wounds come up again.
Speaker 1 (11:49):
But we just have to keep going.
Speaker 2 (11:51):
Keep moving forward, even when it's hard.
Speaker 1 (11:53):
One step at a time.
Speaker 2 (11:55):
Exactly like we're building something new brick by
brick.
Speaker 1 (11:57):
Yeah, and sometimes we drop a brick.
That's okay, yeah but we, wejust pick it up and keep
building.
Speaker 2 (12:01):
Right, and these prompts offer some really
practical advice on how to dothat.
They talk about copingmechanisms and self-compassion
and getting support when we needit.
Speaker 1 (12:12):
Speaking of support, there's a prompt that asks who
are the people in your life whosupport your healing journey?
Speaker 2 (12:19):
Oh, that's a good one .
Speaker 1 (12:20):
Reminds us that we're not alone in this.
Speaker 2 (12:22):
We don't have to do it all by ourselves.
Speaker 1 (12:24):
Right.
There are people who care aboutus and want to see us heal.
They're there to listen, offera shoulder to cry on.
Speaker 2 (12:30):
Encourage us.
Speaker 1 (12:31):
It makes a world of difference having people like
that in our lives.
Speaker 2 (12:34):
It really does, and it's not just about receiving
support either.
What do you mean?
It's about giving it toconnecting with others who are
going through similar things.
Speaker 1 (12:43):
Yeah, we can offer each other empathy and
understanding.
Speaker 2 (12:47):
A sense of shared humanity.
Speaker 1 (12:48):
It's like we're creating this web of healing
together.
Speaker 2 (12:51):
That's beautiful.
It really speaks to the rippleeffect that healing has, you
know.
Speaker 1 (12:57):
What do you mean?
Speaker 2 (12:57):
When we heal ourselves, we heal those around
us.
Speaker 1 (13:00):
And it can even be passed down to future
generations.
Speaker 2 (13:03):
Breaking those cycles of pain.
Speaker 1 (13:05):
Creating more loving world.
Speaker 2 (13:06):
You know, as we've been talking about these prompts
, I keep thinking back to thatquestion you asked earlier.
Speaker 1 (13:11):
What was that?
Speaker 2 (13:11):
About imagining our future selves free from the
weight of the mother wound, andwhat advice they would give us.
Speaker 1 (13:18):
Oh yeah, what comes to mind for you?
Speaker 2 (13:20):
I think my future self would say be kind to
yourself.
I think my future self wouldsay be kind to yourself.
Healing takes time.
And celebrate every victory, nomatter how small, and never
give up on your dreams.
You are worthy of love andhappiness.
Speaker 1 (13:33):
That's beautiful and it resonates with me so much.
I think my future self wouldalso say trust your intuition,
Listen to that inner voice youhave and don't be afraid to ask
for help when you need it.
Speaker 2 (13:44):
Vulnerability is a strength.
Speaker 1 (13:45):
I love that, embracing all of ourselves, the
good and the bad, and knowingwe're perfectly imperfect.
Speaker 2 (13:50):
It's about the journey, not the destination.
There will be ups and downs,but the important thing is to
keep moving forward with loveand compassion.
Speaker 1 (13:57):
Beautifully said.
It's been such a pleasureexploring these prompts with you
and with our listeners Meexploring these prompts with you
and with our listeners Me tooand it's inspiring to see the
wisdom and resilience in ourcommunity.
Speaker 2 (14:06):
Remember you are not alone on this journey.
Keep exploring, keep healing,keep believing in the power of
self-love.
Speaker 1 (14:13):
And until next time, keep diving deep.
All right, so are you ready to dive deep with me
today?
Speaker 2 (00:02):
Always.
Speaker 1 (00:02):
Because today we're going to be taking a look at 50
journal prompts and they'redesigned to help you understand
and heal from the mother wound.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (00:12):
We're looking at these prompts from a blog called
Lestallion, and when you hearmother wound, it can sound a
little intense, right, but stickwith us, because it's not about
blame.
It's more about recognizing howour relationships with our
mothers can have an impact on us.
Speaker 2 (00:28):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
Even the good parts, you know, can leave these little
emotional scars that can havean effect on our self-worth, our
relationships and even the waythat we approach personal growth
.
Speaker 2 (00:39):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (00:40):
So think of this deep dive as like a starting point.
Speaker 2 (00:42):
A jumping off point.
Speaker 1 (00:43):
Yeah, for reflection and not like a replacement for
therapy or anything like that.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (00:47):
You know, as we go through this, remember to be
kind to yourself.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (00:52):
It's all about understanding Exactly, Not
judgment.
Speaker 2 (00:54):
Yeah what's so fascinating about the mother
wound is that a lot of peoplehave trouble recognizing that it
exists.
We're often taught to see ourmothers as perfect, but the
reality is that everyrelationship, even the most
loving ones, has its issues, andthis blog doesn't shy away from
those, it really jumps right in.
Speaker 1 (01:13):
Okay, so you're saying the blog kind of gives us
a roadmap for exploring allthis?
Speaker 2 (01:15):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:16):
It's broken down into sections to help us navigate
this complex topic.
Speaker 2 (01:20):
Okay, so the first section is called Understanding
your Relationship With yourMother.
Speaker 1 (01:24):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (01:25):
And I was just reading through some of these
and I was struck by how theyencourage us to really examine
the dynamics.
Speaker 1 (01:33):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:33):
The expectations that were maybe unspoken and the
ways our mothers may haveinfluenced us in our sense of
self.
Speaker 1 (01:40):
It's true, and one prompt that really brings this
home is reflect on how yourrelationship with your mother
shaped your sense of self-worth.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
Oh, wow.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
It's such a powerful question because it gets us
thinking about how those earlyinteractions you know, both the
good and the bad may have shapedhow we see ourselves today.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
It's so true Like do you ever feel like what she said
or did still affects how youview yourself, even as an adult?
It's all about recognizingthose patterns, you know.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
So it's like our early experiences become this
lens that we see the worldthrough.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
Sometimes without even realizing it.
Exactly.
And there's another prompt thatasks us to think about what our
mothers expected of us.
Speaker 2 (02:21):
Right.
Speaker 1 (02:21):
If they were realistic expectations and how
they affected our sense ofidentity and independence.
Speaker 2 (02:27):
That's a really insightful one, because it gets
to the heart of how conditionallove can really affect how we
grow up.
You know, if we felt like wealways had to meet certain
expectations to earn ourmother's love or approval.
It can make us feel insecureand afraid of not being good
enough, and that can follow usour whole lives.
It can make us feel insecureand afraid of not being good
enough, and that can follow usour whole lives.
Speaker 1 (02:46):
It's true, it's like we're constantly trying to get
that validation, even if wedon't realize it Exactly.
It can come out in ourrelationships, our jobs, even
how we take care of ourselves.
Speaker 2 (02:55):
Absolutely, and that's why I think this first
section is so important.
It's like laying the groundworkto understand how those early
patterns might still beaffecting us today, right
Without that awareness, it'stough to move on and heal.
Speaker 1 (03:08):
So it's all about awareness.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (03:10):
It's like shining a light on things.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
Yeah, bringing those things into the light so we can
understand their impact Exactly.
And once we've started to dothat, we can move into the next
set of prompts, which is allabout exploring our emotions and
beliefs.
Speaker 1 (03:24):
Ooh, this is where it gets juicy.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
This is where things get really interesting.
Speaker 1 (03:28):
I know I was just reading this.
Speaker 2 (03:29):
It's about digging a little deeper, you know,
uncovering those deeper layersof emotion and belief that could
be driving how we act and thepatterns we repeat.
Speaker 1 (03:39):
And that's where it gets hard right, it can be.
Challenging those deep-seatedbeliefs.
That's where it gets hard right, it can be.
Challenging those deep-seatedbeliefs.
Speaker 2 (03:42):
Yeah, One prompt that I think is really powerful in
this section is write about anynegative beliefs about yourself
that you might have developedbecause of your relationship
with your mother.
It's about figuring out thosecore beliefs, the stories we
tell ourselves that could beholding us back.
Speaker 1 (04:01):
How do we even begin to dismantle those beliefs?
Speaker 2 (04:05):
Well, the first step is realizing they might not even
be true.
Speaker 1 (04:09):
Right.
Speaker 2 (04:09):
They often come from our childhood experiences and
how we saw things back then, notfrom reality.
Once we can start to see themas stories we've made up, not
absolute truths, then we canquestion them and challenge
their power over us.
Speaker 1 (04:23):
So creating a little space.
Exactly, see them as separate.
Speaker 2 (04:26):
Separate from who we really are.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
Right, and then what?
Speaker 2 (04:29):
It's like when you step back from a painting and
you realize it's just oneinterpretation, not the whole
picture.
Speaker 1 (04:35):
I love that.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
And once you have that distance, you can ask
yourself is this belief helpingme?
Is it helping me create thelife I want?
Speaker 1 (04:43):
And if it's not?
Speaker 2 (04:44):
You can let it go.
Speaker 1 (04:45):
Wow, and that's where the work comes in, right.
Speaker 2 (04:47):
That's where the real work begins.
Speaker 1 (04:48):
It's not just about knowing, it's about taking
action.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
It's about shifting those beliefs, creating new ones
that are more empowering,exactly, and a big part of that
is having self-compassion.
Yes, another prompt asks us tothink about whether we blame
ourselves for problems with ourmoms.
Speaker 1 (05:05):
Well, that's a big one.
Speaker 2 (05:06):
This can be huge, especially if we grew up feeling
responsible for how our momfelt, but this prompt encourages
us to separate responsibilityfrom guilt in our relationship
with her.
Speaker 1 (05:16):
That's a really important difference.
Speaker 2 (05:18):
It is.
Speaker 1 (05:18):
We may have played a part in some things, but we
weren't responsible for herfeelings or her choices.
Speaker 2 (05:24):
Right.
Speaker 1 (05:24):
And realizing that can be so freeing.
Speaker 2 (05:27):
It can feel like a weight has been lifted.
Speaker 1 (05:29):
Right.
Speaker 2 (05:31):
And it creates space for forgiveness both for
ourselves and maybe even for ourmothers.
Speaker 1 (05:34):
This isn't about saying what happened was okay.
Speaker 2 (05:35):
No, it's about letting go of the pain so we can
move forward, choosing peaceover pain, freedom over being
stuck, you know it's not alwayseasy, especially when the wounds
are deep you're right, healingtakes time.
It's not a straight line, right, but these prompts are a
starting point, a guide for thisjourney of self-discovery and
transformation so we've talkedabout understanding our
(05:56):
relationship with our mothers,yes, and exploring the emotions
and beliefs that come from thoseexperiences.
Speaker 1 (06:02):
But where do we go from here?
How do we actually heal?
Speaker 2 (06:05):
That's a great question and that's where the
next set of prompts comes in.
Speaker 1 (06:08):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
They're all about moving towards healing,
embracing self-love and growth,and letting go and moving
forward.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
Okay, so these prompts actually bridge the gap
between knowing and doing.
Speaker 2 (06:20):
They do.
Speaker 1 (06:21):
Okay, everybody, let's dive into those.
Speaker 2 (06:23):
Sounds good to me.
So one of the things thatreally stands out to me in these
next sections is the focus onself-love as a foundation for
healing.
It's not just aboutunderstanding the mother wound,
you know.
Speaker 1 (06:34):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
It's about learning to love and accept ourselves,
even the parts we don't like.
Speaker 1 (06:39):
That's so important and I think for a lot of us our
sense of self-worth has beenaffected by our relationships
with our mom.
Speaker 2 (06:45):
Right.
Speaker 1 (06:46):
You know, we internalize those critical
voices, those messages thatwe're not good enough, and it
makes it so hard to loveourselves.
Speaker 2 (06:53):
It really does, and there's a prompt that gets right
to that.
Which one it says write abouthow you can embrace self-love as
a way to heal from the woundsof the past.
What does self-love look likefor you?
Speaker 1 (07:06):
I like that.
Speaker 2 (07:07):
It's about getting specific.
Speaker 1 (07:08):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (07:09):
You know, identifying things we can actually do to
take care of ourselves.
Speaker 1 (07:13):
Both physically and emotionally.
Speaker 2 (07:15):
Exactly.
Speaker 1 (07:15):
So it's not just about feeling good about
ourselves, it's about takingcare of ourselves.
Speaker 2 (07:19):
Exactly.
Speaker 1 (07:17):
So it's not just about feeling good about
ourselves, it's about takingcare of ourselves.
Speaker 2 (07:18):
Yes, Taking concrete steps meeting our own needs.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
Making choices that honor our well-being.
Speaker 2 (07:25):
Exactly, and those choices will look different for
everyone.
Right, for some people it mightbe setting boundaries in
relationships.
Speaker 1 (07:32):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (07:32):
Or prioritizing time for themselves.
Speaker 1 (07:35):
Makes sense.
Speaker 2 (07:35):
Or doing things that bring them joy.
It's about finding what reallynourishes us, it Makes sense, or
doing things that bring themjoy.
Speaker 1 (07:41):
It's about finding what really nourishes us.
It's like we're puttingtogether our own self-care kit,
you know.
Exactly Filled with things thathelp us feel loved and
supported.
Speaker 2 (07:45):
And speaking of support, yes, these prompts also
encourage us to seek outhealthy connections Okay, with
friends, maybe a therapist or asupport group.
Speaker 1 (07:55):
So we don't have to go through it alone.
Speaker 2 (07:57):
Right.
Healing from the mother woundcan be lonely, but it doesn't
have to be.
Connecting with people whounderstand can be so validating
and empowering.
Speaker 1 (08:06):
It's like creating a safe space where we can be
ourselves and share ourexperiences.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
Exactly, and you know , another important aspect of
healing is forgiveness,forgiveness.
I know it's a tough one.
Speaker 1 (08:18):
It can be.
Speaker 2 (08:18):
Especially if we've been hurt by our mothers.
Speaker 1 (08:20):
Right.
Speaker 2 (08:21):
But forgiveness isn't about saying what happened was
okay, right.
It's about letting go of theanger and resentment we hold on
to.
Speaker 1 (08:28):
People get that confused all the time.
Speaker 2 (08:29):
They do.
It's not about condoning whathappened.
It's about choosing to let goof the pain To free ourselves.
Speaker 1 (08:37):
Exactly go of the pain to free ourselves.
Exactly.
Speaker 2 (08:41):
It can be so liberating it's like finally
releasing that burden we've beencarrying for so long, and it
allows us to create space fornew things.
You know possibilities newrelationships, a whole new way
of being these prompts reallyhelp us understand how to do
that they do, and one that Ifind particularly helpful which
one it asks us to think aboutwhat healing from the mother
wound actually means to us.
Speaker 1 (09:00):
Okay, what would a healed relationship with our
mother look like?
And I think it's important toremember that healing doesn't
always mean making up.
Speaker 2 (09:08):
Right.
Speaker 1 (09:08):
Sometimes it's about finding peace within ourselves,
no matter what the relationshipwith our mother is like.
Speaker 2 (09:14):
That's so true.
We may never have therelationship we want with our
moms, but we can still findhealing and wholeness on our own
.
Speaker 1 (09:24):
Absolutely, and sometimes that means creating
distance.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
Setting boundaries.
Speaker 1 (09:28):
Yes, to protect ourselves.
Speaker 2 (09:30):
So it's about defining what healing looks like
for us.
Speaker 1 (09:33):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (09:34):
And honoring that journey.
Speaker 1 (09:35):
On our own terms, and you know one of the most
beautiful things about healingfrom the mother wound.
Speaker 2 (09:40):
What's that?
Speaker 1 (09:41):
Is that it affects more than just us.
What?
Speaker 2 (09:43):
do you?
Speaker 1 (09:43):
mean, it impacts our relationships, our families,
even our communities.
Speaker 2 (09:46):
That's what makes us so powerful.
Speaker 1 (09:48):
It's like we're breaking a cycle, you know.
Speaker 2 (09:50):
Creating a more positive legacy.
Speaker 1 (09:52):
For ourselves and for future generations.
Speaker 2 (09:55):
And speaking of future generations.
These prompts also ask us tothink about how our future
relationships can be shaped byour healing, especially if we
become mothers ourselves.
Speaker 1 (10:06):
It's about breaking those unhealthy patterns and
creating healthier ways ofrelating.
Speaker 2 (10:09):
It's about becoming the mothers we wish we had had.
Speaker 1 (10:11):
Not just for our kids , but for ourselves too.
Speaker 2 (10:13):
Exactly.
It's about embodying thosequalities of love, acceptance
and emotional availability thatwe may have missed out on.
Speaker 1 (10:20):
That's a beautiful goal and it speaks to the power
of healing you know it does.
It's not just about fixingwhat's broken.
Speaker 2 (10:27):
Right.
Speaker 1 (10:28):
It's about creating something new, something better,
something that can make adifference.
Speaker 2 (10:31):
And that brings us to the final section of PROMS,
which focuses on letting go andmoving forward.
Speaker 1 (10:37):
Okay, so this is where we put it all together.
Speaker 2 (10:39):
This is where the rubber meets the road.
Speaker 1 (10:41):
I'm ready, let's dive in.
Okay, so we're in this finalsection, now letting go and
moving forward.
It really feels like theculmination of everything we've
been talking about.
Speaker 2 (10:51):
I agree.
This is where we take all thoseinsights we've gained and start
making real changes.
It's about taking action.
Speaker 1 (10:57):
So there's this prompt that really jumped out at
me.
It asks what past wounds areyou ready to leave behind for
good?
Speaker 2 (11:04):
Oh wow, that's powerful.
Speaker 1 (11:10):
It really struck me like we're finally ready to
unpack all that baggage andchoose what we want to carry
with us.
Speaker 2 (11:13):
It highlights the fact that we have a choice.
Speaker 1 (11:15):
We do.
Speaker 2 (11:16):
We don't have to be defined by those wounds.
Speaker 1 (11:18):
Right.
Speaker 2 (11:18):
We can decide which ones we want to heal and let go
of.
Speaker 1 (11:22):
So it's not about pretending they didn't happen.
Speaker 2 (11:25):
No.
Speaker 1 (11:25):
It's about acknowledging them and then
making a conscious decision tomove on.
Speaker 2 (11:29):
To reclaim our power and make space for new things.
Speaker 1 (11:33):
Exactly.
And there's another prompt thatasks how can you keep moving
forward even if the past stillfeels heavy?
It's like acknowledging thathealing isn't always easy or
straightforward.
Speaker 2 (11:43):
It's not a straight line.
Speaker 1 (11:44):
No, you know there are going to be bumps along the
way.
Speaker 2 (11:47):
Setbacks times when those old wounds come up again.
Speaker 1 (11:49):
But we just have to keep going.
Speaker 2 (11:51):
Keep moving forward, even when it's hard.
Speaker 1 (11:53):
One step at a time.
Speaker 2 (11:55):
Exactly like we're building something new brick by
brick.
Speaker 1 (11:57):
Yeah, and sometimes we drop a brick.
That's okay, yeah but we, wejust pick it up and keep
building.
Speaker 2 (12:01):
Right, and these prompts offer some really
practical advice on how to dothat.
They talk about copingmechanisms and self-compassion
and getting support when we needit.
Speaker 1 (12:12):
Speaking of support, there's a prompt that asks who
are the people in your life whosupport your healing journey?
Speaker 2 (12:19):
Oh, that's a good one .
Speaker 1 (12:20):
Reminds us that we're not alone in this.
Speaker 2 (12:22):
We don't have to do it all by ourselves.
Speaker 1 (12:24):
Right.
There are people who care aboutus and want to see us heal.
They're there to listen, offera shoulder to cry on.
Speaker 2 (12:30):
Encourage us.
Speaker 1 (12:31):
It makes a world of difference having people like
that in our lives.
Speaker 2 (12:34):
It really does, and it's not just about receiving
support either.
What do you mean?
It's about giving it toconnecting with others who are
going through similar things.
Speaker 1 (12:43):
Yeah, we can offer each other empathy and
understanding.
Speaker 2 (12:47):
A sense of shared humanity.
Speaker 1 (12:48):
It's like we're creating this web of healing
together.
Speaker 2 (12:51):
That's beautiful.
It really speaks to the rippleeffect that healing has, you
know.
Speaker 1 (12:57):
What do you mean?
Speaker 2 (12:57):
When we heal ourselves, we heal those around
us.
Speaker 1 (13:00):
And it can even be passed down to future
generations.
Speaker 2 (13:03):
Breaking those cycles of pain.
Speaker 1 (13:05):
Creating more loving world.
Speaker 2 (13:06):
You know, as we've been talking about these prompts
, I keep thinking back to thatquestion you asked earlier.
Speaker 1 (13:11):
What was that?
Speaker 2 (13:11):
About imagining our future selves free from the
weight of the mother wound, andwhat advice they would give us.
Speaker 1 (13:18):
Oh yeah, what comes to mind for you?
Speaker 2 (13:20):
I think my future self would say be kind to
yourself.
I think my future self wouldsay be kind to yourself.
Healing takes time.
And celebrate every victory, nomatter how small, and never
give up on your dreams.
You are worthy of love andhappiness.
Speaker 1 (13:33):
That's beautiful and it resonates with me so much.
I think my future self wouldalso say trust your intuition,
Listen to that inner voice youhave and don't be afraid to ask
for help when you need it.
Speaker 2 (13:44):
Vulnerability is a strength.
Speaker 1 (13:45):
I love that, embracing all of ourselves, the
good and the bad, and knowingwe're perfectly imperfect.
Speaker 2 (13:50):
It's about the journey, not the destination.
There will be ups and downs,but the important thing is to
keep moving forward with loveand compassion.
Speaker 1 (13:57):
Beautifully said.
It's been such a pleasureexploring these prompts with you
and with our listeners Meexploring these prompts with you
and with our listeners Me tooand it's inspiring to see the
wisdom and resilience in ourcommunity.
Speaker 2 (14:06):
Remember you are not alone on this journey.
Keep exploring, keep healing,keep believing in the power of
self-love.
Speaker 1 (14:13):
And until next time, keep diving deep.
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