January 19, 2025 • 16 mins
50 Journal Prompts for Letting Go of Someone
Unlock the secrets to a transformative journey of letting go, guided by Lestallion's expertly crafted 50 journal prompts. Consider how the end of a relationship can be the beginning of profound self-discovery and growth. This episode promises to reshape your understanding of closure, turning it into an empowering internal process rather than an elusive external quest. Engage with the potential for personal evolution as you navigate through structured reflection, forgiving both others and yourself, and crafting new beginnings from lessons learned.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Letting go.
Speaker 2 (00:01):
Huh.
Speaker 1 (00:02):
It's tough, it can really leave you reeling.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
Yeah, feeling lost Like you're adrift.
Speaker 1 (00:07):
Exactly, and today we're diving into something that
might help us navigate thosechoppy waters.
We're looking at Lestallion's50 journal prompts for letting
go of someone.
Speaker 2 (00:17):
Journaling.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
Huh it's more than just you know, dear Diary.
This is about structuredreflection.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
Hmm, I can see that.
Yeah, diary, this is aboutstructured reflection.
I can see that right away.
Just the way it's organized.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
Yeah, Five categories reflecting on the relationship,
then processing emotions.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
Okay, makes sense.
You need to do both.
Speaker 1 (00:34):
And then there's finding closure building new
beginnings and self-discovery.
Speaker 2 (00:42):
So it's like, okay, you dealt with the past.
Now what Exactly?
A roadmap, and a smart one too,Psychologically.
It makes sense to tackle thosestages in order.
Speaker 1 (00:47):
Like, each category requires different tools,
different ways of thinking.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
Right, you can't just jump to new beginnings without
you know processing the hurtfirst.
Speaker 1 (00:55):
Okay, so let's get specific.
In that first category,reflecting on the relationship,
there's this prompt that reallygot me thinking Right about a
time you felt truly supported bythis person.
What did that moment teach you?
Speaker 2 (01:09):
Starting with the positive.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
It seemed counterintuitive to me at first,
like why focus on the good whenyou're trying to let go?
Speaker 2 (01:17):
But even in relationships that you know end
badly, there are probably goodmoments too.
Speaker 1 (01:22):
Right.
Speaker 2 (01:23):
And revisiting those can be valuable.
It helps you gain perspective.
It wasn't all bad.
Speaker 1 (01:28):
And you can see what you learned, what you gained,
even if, ultimately, it wasn'tmeant to last.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
Exactly.
Even a relationship that endscan teach you something about
yourself, about what you value.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
Okay.
So it's not about pretendingthe hurt didn't exist.
It's about acknowledging thecomplexity.
Right, speaking of complexity,there's this one from the
processing emotions section.
What does forgiveness mean toyou and how can you begin to
forgive them and yourself?
Whoa, that's a big one right,it's loaded forgiveness is
tricky it's often the hardestpart so how do these prompts
(02:00):
help us unpack that?
How do we even begin?
Speaker 2 (02:03):
well, they start by asking you to define forgiveness
for yourself.
Speaker 1 (02:06):
Not like some societal definition.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
Right.
What does it mean to you inthis situation?
Speaker 1 (02:11):
Make it personal.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
Exactly.
And then the prompts guide youto consider those baby steps
towards forgiveness.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
For them, a and D for ourselves.
Speaker 2 (02:19):
It's both.
It's powerful because sometimeswe're harder on ourselves.
Speaker 1 (02:23):
So true we hold on to guilt long after we've forgiven
the other person.
Speaker 2 (02:27):
And all that resentment, that anger, it takes
a toll.
Speaker 1 (02:31):
Yeah, I've heard it can even impact your physical
health.
Speaker 2 (02:34):
Right.
So letting go of that anger.
It's not just about them, it'sabout freeing yourself.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
So you can move on, so you can heal.
Okay, we've talked aboutreflecting, processing emotions.
What about closure?
Speaker 2 (02:48):
Ah, closure.
That's the holy grail, isn't it?
But the prompts, they frame itdifferently.
Speaker 1 (02:54):
Yeah, they're not about getting closure from the
other person.
It's more about finding itwithin yourself.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
Right, we get stuck thinking we need something from
them, an apology, an explanation.
Speaker 1 (03:02):
To validate what happened.
Speaker 2 (03:03):
But what if they never give it to you something
from them, an apology anexplanation To validate what
happened.
But what if they never give itto you?
You're still stuck.
Exactly, true closure comesfrom within, from accepting what
happened, making peace with it.
Speaker 1 (03:11):
Without needing their validation.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
Yes, and the prompts help you do that.
There's one that says imagineyou're saying goodbye for the
last time.
What are your final words tothis person?
Speaker 1 (03:22):
It's like a mental rehearsal for letting go.
Speaker 2 (03:24):
A way to express those unspoken feelings, to get
it all out, even if it's just onpaper.
Speaker 1 (03:29):
It's symbolic, you don't even have to say it to
them.
Speaker 2 (03:31):
Right.
It's about that internal shift,taking your power back and
choosing to move on.
Speaker 1 (03:36):
Okay.
So reflection, emotionalprocessing, finding closure.
That's a lot, but Lestallionkeeps going.
There are sections on buildingnew beginnings and
self-discovery.
Speaker 2 (03:47):
Because letting go isn't just about loss, it's
about what comes next.
Speaker 1 (03:50):
Exactly Like okay, you've dealt with the hard stuff
, Now what?
Speaker 2 (03:53):
What excites you?
What possibilities are openingup?
Speaker 1 (03:56):
And I love that there are prompts that address that
directly.
Like in the building newbeginning section, there's one
that asks reflect on what you'remost excited about as you begin
this new chapter of your life.
It's almost like permission toembrace the future, To look
forward instead of back.
It's about reclaiming yourfuture, writing your own story,
(04:16):
choosing to create a life thattruly reflects who you are.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
And I think that ties into that last category
self-discovery, because when arelationship ends, it can be a
chance to reconnect withyourself on a deeper level.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
It really can.
It's like who am I now outsideof this relationship?
Speaker 2 (04:33):
And the prompts encourage that introspection.
There's one that says writeabout the parts of yourself
you're rediscovering or fallingin love with again.
Speaker 1 (04:42):
Like parts of yourself you may have lost sight
of.
Speaker 2 (04:45):
It happens Sometimes in a relationship we lose a bit
of ourselves.
Speaker 1 (04:48):
And letting go can be about finding those pieces
again.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
Like you're shedding a skin, emerging as a newer,
more authentic version ofyourself, and the prompts are
there to guide you through thatprocess.
Speaker 1 (04:59):
It's not just about the words either.
It's the way Lestallion framesit.
The whole tone, yeah, verysupportive.
It's not just about the wordseither.
It's the way Lestallion framesit.
Speaker 2 (05:04):
The whole tone yeah, very supportive, encouraging,
like a wise friend is walkingyou through it.
Speaker 1 (05:08):
And speaking of wise friends, I noticed the quotes
sprinkled throughout the prompts.
Speaker 2 (05:11):
Oh yeah, those are great Little nuggets of wisdom.
Speaker 1 (05:14):
Like, letting go is not about forgetting, but about
finding peace in the memoriesyou keep.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
Beautiful Right.
It's about reframing the past,not erasing it.
Speaker 1 (05:24):
Honoring it, but not letting it define you.
Speaker 2 (05:26):
Finding that sweet spot between the past and the
future.
Speaker 1 (05:29):
And I think that's what Lestallion does so well.
With these prompts, theyprovide a roadmap for navigating
this messy, confusing terrainof letting go.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
Breaking it down into manageable steps, each one
designed to help you gainclarity, process those feelings
and, ultimately move forward.
Speaker 1 (05:48):
Okay, so we've covered a lot in this first part
of our deep dive the structureof these prompts, the psychology
behind them and some specificexamples, but there's so much
more to explore.
Speaker 2 (05:59):
Oh yeah, we've only scratched the surface.
Speaker 1 (06:08):
So stay tuned, listener, as we delve even
deeper into Lestallion's 50journal prompts for letting go
of someone.
We'll be right back to explorehow to maximize these prompts,
how to go beyond the surface andreally unlock their power.
Speaker 2 (06:14):
You know it's not just about answering the prompt,
is it?
Speaker 1 (06:17):
No, it's not.
It's deeper than that.
Speaker 2 (06:18):
It's about sparking a conversation with yourself.
Speaker 1 (06:21):
Oh, I like that.
Like, each prompt is a startingpoint.
Speaker 2 (06:24):
Yeah, a seed, you plant it.
And then what?
Speaker 1 (06:26):
You nurture it.
You see what grows.
Speaker 2 (06:28):
Exactly, and that's where the real magic happens.
Speaker 1 (06:31):
So how can our listeners do that?
How do they maximize theseprompts?
Speaker 2 (06:34):
Well, one thing is to challenge those initial
reactions.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
Like, don't just take the prompt at face value.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
Right, dig deeper.
Let's say, a prompt asks abouta time you felt hurt.
Speaker 1 (06:44):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (06:44):
Don't just describe the event.
Ask why it hurt.
What need wasn't being met?
Speaker 1 (06:49):
Oh, interesting Like was it a need for validation
security connection.
Speaker 2 (06:54):
Exactly.
You start to see the biggerpicture, the underlying patterns
.
Speaker 1 (06:58):
It's about understanding yourself better,
your vulnerabilities.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
And you can apply that to any of the prompts.
Push yourself to go deeper,explore the why.
Speaker 1 (07:05):
It's like peeling back the layers of an onion.
Speaker 2 (07:07):
Ha ha.
I love that you get to theheart of the matter.
Speaker 1 (07:10):
And that's where the real growth happens.
Speaker 2 (07:11):
It's not just venting .
It's using those prompts as aspringboard for deeper
self-discovery.
Speaker 1 (07:16):
Okay, so digging deeper, got it.
What else?
Speaker 2 (07:18):
Don't be afraid to get creative with the writing
itself.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
Oh, how so.
Speaker 2 (07:23):
Well, instead of always writing paragraphs, try
poetry.
Speaker 1 (07:26):
Poetry Whoa, I'm no poet.
Speaker 2 (07:28):
It doesn't have to be perfect.
Just let the words flow, letyour emotions out.
Speaker 1 (07:33):
Hmm, I could see that being powerful, especially with
something as raw as letting go.
Speaker 2 (07:38):
Or try writing from a different point of view.
What do you mean?
Like write a letter to theperson you're trying to let go
of?
Speaker 1 (07:44):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (07:44):
But from the perspective of your future self,
the one who's already healed.
Speaker 1 (07:49):
Oh wow, that's interesting.
Like offering yourself theclosure you might not get from
them.
Speaker 2 (07:53):
Exactly, or you could flip it.
Speaker 1 (07:54):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (07:55):
Write a letter from their perspective.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
Like trying to imagine what they might say to
me now.
Speaker 2 (07:59):
It can be really insightful, help you understand
their actions, maybe evenforgive.
Speaker 1 (08:03):
Okay, I'm liking this .
It's all about using writing asa tool to explore, to heal.
Speaker 2 (08:11):
And remember.
It's a process, it takes time.
Speaker 1 (08:14):
You might need to revisit some prompts multiple
times.
Speaker 2 (08:17):
As you grow, as you change, your understanding of
the situation will change too.
Speaker 1 (08:22):
Makes sense.
What felt true a month agomight feel different now.
Speaker 2 (08:26):
Exactly, and each time you revisit a prompt, you
might uncover new insights.
Speaker 1 (08:31):
It's like those optical illusions you see one
image, then suddenly it shifts.
Speaker 2 (08:35):
I love that.
It's about keeping your mindopen to new possibilities.
Speaker 1 (08:39):
To new ways of seeing yourself.
Speaker 2 (08:41):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (08:42):
And the situation.
Speaker 2 (08:43):
And sometimes those aha moments come when we least
expect them.
Speaker 1 (08:46):
Right, like when you're in the shower or out for
a run.
Speaker 2 (08:50):
It's about trusting the process, being patient with
yourself.
Speaker 1 (08:54):
And being open to surprises.
Speaker 2 (08:55):
Speaking of surprises , one thing that surprised me
was the emphasis on letting goof the narrative.
Speaker 1 (09:01):
The story we tell ourselves.
Speaker 2 (09:02):
Yes, we get so caught up in who was right, who was
wrong, what should have happened?
Speaker 1 (09:08):
And can be all-consuming.
Speaker 2 (09:09):
And it keeps us stuck , it prevents us from moving on.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
Those stories can be like prison bars.
Speaker 2 (09:14):
Trapping us in blame, resentment, regret.
Speaker 1 (09:17):
So how do we break free?
Speaker 2 (09:19):
Awareness.
Notice the stories you'retelling yourself.
What are the recurring themes?
Speaker 1 (09:25):
The underlying beliefs.
Speaker 2 (09:26):
Right.
Are they serving you or arethey holding you back?
Speaker 1 (09:30):
It's about questioning those stories,
challenging their validity.
Speaker 2 (09:34):
And journaling can help with that, give you a safe
space to examine them.
Speaker 1 (09:37):
To dismantle the ones that aren't helpful.
Speaker 2 (09:39):
And then start building new stories, more
empowering ones.
Speaker 1 (09:42):
Ones that reflect our growth, our resilience.
Speaker 2 (09:45):
Exactly, and another powerful technique is to shift
your focus.
Speaker 1 (09:49):
From what.
Speaker 2 (09:50):
From what you lost to what you gained, hmm.
Speaker 1 (09:54):
Interesting.
Tell me more.
Speaker 2 (09:56):
Instead of dwelling on what you miss, focus on the
lessons learned.
Speaker 1 (10:01):
What did you learn about yourself, about
relationships, about what youreally want?
Speaker 2 (10:06):
It's about finding the silver lining.
Speaker 1 (10:08):
Seeing the opportunity even in the midst of
pain.
Speaker 2 (10:11):
Because, even though the relationship ended, it
wasn't a waste of time.
Speaker 1 (10:15):
You grew, you learned .
You're better equipped now tocreate the future you want.
Speaker 2 (10:20):
And that's a powerful message for anyone going
through a breakup.
Speaker 1 (10:23):
It's so easy to get lost in the negative.
Speaker 2 (10:25):
But there's always something to be gained.
Speaker 1 (10:27):
And the sooner you can shift your focus to those
gains, the sooner you can heal.
Speaker 2 (10:31):
Exactly, and Lestallion's prompts can help
with that.
Speaker 1 (10:33):
They guide us to see the lessons, the growth.
Speaker 2 (10:35):
To reframe the experience in a more positive
light.
Speaker 1 (10:38):
It's like permission to let go of the old story and
start writing a new one.
Speaker 2 (10:41):
A story that reflects your strength, your resilience,
your wisdom.
Speaker 1 (10:46):
And sometimes the hardest part is letting go of
that future.
Speaker 2 (10:49):
The future you thought you had with that person
.
Speaker 1 (10:52):
Oh, that's so true.
It's like grieving a dream.
Speaker 2 (10:55):
Grieving the plans, the hopes you shared.
Speaker 1 (10:58):
It can be devastating .
How do we even begin to processthat?
Speaker 2 (11:01):
First allow yourself to grieve.
Don't push those feelings away.
Honor them.
Acknowledge the pain, thedisappointment, maybe even the
betrayal.
So it's okay to feel thosethings Because it's essential
and then start to reframe thebetrayal.
Speaker 1 (11:16):
So it's okay to feel those things Because it's
essential, and then start toreframe the experience Instead
of focusing on what's here now.
Speaker 2 (11:20):
Maybe you have more time for yourself, more freedom
to pursue your passions.
Speaker 1 (11:24):
Maybe you're clearer now about what you truly want in
a partner.
Speaker 2 (11:27):
Exactly, it's about choosing to see the opportunity.
Speaker 1 (11:30):
And sometimes visualization can help.
Speaker 2 (11:34):
Imagine yourself, five years from now, living a
life you love.
What does it look like?
Speaker 1 (11:37):
Who are you with?
What brings you joy?
Speaker 2 (11:39):
The more details you can add, the more real it will
feel.
Speaker 1 (11:42):
And the more likely you are to create it.
Speaker 2 (11:44):
It's about taking back control, choosing to create
a future that aligns with yourvalues.
Speaker 1 (11:49):
Not the ones you had envisioned with that other
person.
Speaker 2 (11:52):
Exactly and remember you can't control what happened
in the past.
Speaker 1 (11:57):
Or what the other person does.
Speaker 2 (11:58):
But you can control your own thoughts, your actions,
your choices.
Speaker 1 (12:02):
Focus on what you can do to create a future you love.
Speaker 2 (12:06):
That's empowering.
It reminds you that you're nota victim.
You're the author of your ownlife.
Speaker 1 (12:10):
And Lestallion's prompts can guide us on that
journey.
Speaker 2 (12:13):
They provide the framework, the starting point.
Speaker 1 (12:15):
And then it's up to us to take the wheel.
Speaker 2 (12:17):
To drive towards that future.
Speaker 1 (12:19):
Okay, to wrap up this part of our deep dive, what are
some key takeaways?
Speaker 2 (12:23):
Well, letting go is a process.
It takes time, it's messy.
Speaker 1 (12:27):
Be patient with yourself.
Speaker 2 (12:28):
And remember you're not alone.
Many people go through this.
Speaker 1 (12:32):
Reach out for support if you need it.
Speaker 2 (12:34):
And, most importantly , remember that you are capable
of healing you are stronger thanyou think.
Speaker 1 (12:41):
You are worthy of love and happiness.
All right, we're back and readyto get creative.
Speaker 2 (12:44):
Ooh, creative.
Speaker 1 (12:46):
How so.
Speaker 2 (12:47):
We're talking about journaling, but not just the
usual way.
Speaker 1 (12:51):
Okay, I'm intrigued.
What are we thinking?
Speaker 2 (12:55):
Thinking outside the box, literally.
Speaker 1 (12:58):
Ah, all right, I'm with you.
So today it's all about gettingcreative with journaling.
Speaker 2 (13:05):
Love it.
Words are powerful, butsometimes you need more right.
Speaker 1 (13:09):
Exactly.
So what kind of creativetechniques can our listeners
experiment with?
Speaker 2 (13:13):
Well, one that's really powerful is incorporating
visuals.
Speaker 1 (13:16):
Visuals Like what.
Speaker 2 (13:18):
Doodles, sketches, even collages.
Speaker 1 (13:22):
Ooh, I like that.
So if a prompt asks about ahappy memory, you could sketch a
little picture of it.
Or if it's about future hopes,make a mini vision board right
there in your journal.
Speaker 2 (13:31):
Exactly, it's like art therapy meets journaling.
Speaker 1 (13:34):
Because sometimes words just aren't enough to
express everything.
Speaker 2 (13:37):
And it makes your journal more fun to look back on
too All those colors and images.
Speaker 1 (13:41):
Totally, and don't forget about different writing
styles.
Speaker 2 (13:44):
Ooh, yeah, like what.
Speaker 1 (13:45):
Instead of always writing paragraphs, try poetry.
Speaker 2 (13:48):
Poetry Hmm, I don't know if I'm a poet.
Speaker 1 (13:50):
It doesn't have to be perfect.
Just let the words flow, letyour heart speak.
Speaker 2 (13:54):
Raw and emotional right Like letting go.
Speaker 1 (13:56):
Exactly?
Or how about this Write from adifferent point of view?
Speaker 2 (14:00):
Wait whose point of view.
Speaker 1 (14:01):
Well, imagine writing a letter to the person you're
trying to let go of.
Speaker 2 (14:04):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (14:08):
But you're writing it from the perspective of your
future self.
Speaker 2 (14:11):
The one who's already found peace.
Whoa, that's powerful.
It's like giving yourself theclosure you might not get from
them.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
Exactly, or you could flip it.
Write a letter from theirperspective.
Speaker 2 (14:21):
Like trying to imagine what they would say to
me now, knowing what we bothknow.
Speaker 1 (14:26):
It could be really insightful, help you understand
their actions, maybe evenforgive, wow, so many
possibilities, maybe evenforgive.
Speaker 2 (14:31):
Wow, so many possibilities.
Speaker 1 (14:33):
It's all about using writing as a tool to explore, to
heal, to grow.
Speaker 2 (14:38):
Love that and you know, sometimes when we're stuck
, we need to move our bodies.
Speaker 1 (14:43):
Ooh interesting.
What do you mean?
Speaker 2 (14:45):
Well, if you're struggling with a prompt or a
feeling, get up and move.
Speaker 1 (14:48):
Like you, go for a walk.
Speaker 2 (14:49):
Yeah, or do some yoga Notice how your body feels as
you think about the prompt.
Speaker 1 (14:55):
It's about that mind-body connection right.
Speaker 2 (14:56):
Exactly.
Sometimes those aha momentscome when we're not even trying.
Speaker 1 (15:00):
Like when you're in the shower or out for a run.
Speaker 2 (15:02):
Totally.
It's about getting out of ourheads and into our bodies.
Speaker 1 (15:06):
And you mentioned rituals earlier.
Speaker 2 (15:08):
Yes, rituals can be powerful for letting go Because
they give it a physical form,exactly Like writing down
everything you want to releaseon a piece of paper and then
burning it.
Speaker 1 (15:19):
Wow, that's intense.
Speaker 2 (15:21):
Visualize those feelings turning to smoke,
disappearing.
Speaker 1 (15:24):
I like that, or you could gather objects that
represent the relationship.
Speaker 2 (15:28):
And release them into a river or bury them.
Speaker 1 (15:31):
A symbolic burial of the past.
Speaker 2 (15:32):
It's about actively engaging with the process, not
just thinking about it.
Speaker 1 (15:37):
And the beauty is, you can create your own rituals.
Speaker 2 (15:40):
Ones that feel meaningful to you.
Speaker 1 (15:42):
It's about finding what resonates with you on a
deeper level.
Speaker 2 (15:45):
And remember all these techniques.
They're just starting points.
It's up to you to make themyour own To experiment to play,
to discover what works for you,Because journaling should be
enjoyable, own To experiment toplay, to discover what works for
you, because journaling shouldbe enjoyable, empowering, too.
Speaker 1 (15:57):
It's your space To explore, to heal, to grow and,
ultimately, to rediscoveryourself.
Speaker 2 (16:01):
So true.
So go out there listeners andget creative with your
journaling.
Speaker 1 (16:06):
Honor your unique journey.
Trust the process, yeah, andsee where it takes you.
That's it for this deep diveinto letting go.
Speaker 2 (16:13):
Until next time.
Letting go.
Speaker 2 (00:01):
Huh.
Speaker 1 (00:02):
It's tough, it can really leave you reeling.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
Yeah, feeling lost Like you're adrift.
Speaker 1 (00:07):
Exactly, and today we're diving into something that
might help us navigate thosechoppy waters.
We're looking at Lestallion's50 journal prompts for letting
go of someone.
Speaker 2 (00:17):
Journaling.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
Huh it's more than just you know, dear Diary.
This is about structuredreflection.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
Hmm, I can see that.
Yeah, diary, this is aboutstructured reflection.
I can see that right away.
Just the way it's organized.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
Yeah, Five categories reflecting on the relationship,
then processing emotions.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
Okay, makes sense.
You need to do both.
Speaker 1 (00:34):
And then there's finding closure building new
beginnings and self-discovery.
Speaker 2 (00:42):
So it's like, okay, you dealt with the past.
Now what Exactly?
A roadmap, and a smart one too,Psychologically.
It makes sense to tackle thosestages in order.
Speaker 1 (00:47):
Like, each category requires different tools,
different ways of thinking.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
Right, you can't just jump to new beginnings without
you know processing the hurtfirst.
Speaker 1 (00:55):
Okay, so let's get specific.
In that first category,reflecting on the relationship,
there's this prompt that reallygot me thinking Right about a
time you felt truly supported bythis person.
What did that moment teach you?
Speaker 2 (01:09):
Starting with the positive.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
It seemed counterintuitive to me at first,
like why focus on the good whenyou're trying to let go?
Speaker 2 (01:17):
But even in relationships that you know end
badly, there are probably goodmoments too.
Speaker 1 (01:22):
Right.
Speaker 2 (01:23):
And revisiting those can be valuable.
It helps you gain perspective.
It wasn't all bad.
Speaker 1 (01:28):
And you can see what you learned, what you gained,
even if, ultimately, it wasn'tmeant to last.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
Exactly.
Even a relationship that endscan teach you something about
yourself, about what you value.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
Okay.
So it's not about pretendingthe hurt didn't exist.
It's about acknowledging thecomplexity.
Right, speaking of complexity,there's this one from the
processing emotions section.
What does forgiveness mean toyou and how can you begin to
forgive them and yourself?
Whoa, that's a big one right,it's loaded forgiveness is
tricky it's often the hardestpart so how do these prompts
(02:00):
help us unpack that?
How do we even begin?
Speaker 2 (02:03):
well, they start by asking you to define forgiveness
for yourself.
Speaker 1 (02:06):
Not like some societal definition.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
Right.
What does it mean to you inthis situation?
Speaker 1 (02:11):
Make it personal.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
Exactly.
And then the prompts guide youto consider those baby steps
towards forgiveness.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
For them, a and D for ourselves.
Speaker 2 (02:19):
It's both.
It's powerful because sometimeswe're harder on ourselves.
Speaker 1 (02:23):
So true we hold on to guilt long after we've forgiven
the other person.
Speaker 2 (02:27):
And all that resentment, that anger, it takes
a toll.
Speaker 1 (02:31):
Yeah, I've heard it can even impact your physical
health.
Speaker 2 (02:34):
Right.
So letting go of that anger.
It's not just about them, it'sabout freeing yourself.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
So you can move on, so you can heal.
Okay, we've talked aboutreflecting, processing emotions.
What about closure?
Speaker 2 (02:48):
Ah, closure.
That's the holy grail, isn't it?
But the prompts, they frame itdifferently.
Speaker 1 (02:54):
Yeah, they're not about getting closure from the
other person.
It's more about finding itwithin yourself.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
Right, we get stuck thinking we need something from
them, an apology, an explanation.
Speaker 1 (03:02):
To validate what happened.
Speaker 2 (03:03):
But what if they never give it to you something
from them, an apology anexplanation To validate what
happened.
But what if they never give itto you?
You're still stuck.
Exactly, true closure comesfrom within, from accepting what
happened, making peace with it.
Speaker 1 (03:11):
Without needing their validation.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
Yes, and the prompts help you do that.
There's one that says imagineyou're saying goodbye for the
last time.
What are your final words tothis person?
Speaker 1 (03:22):
It's like a mental rehearsal for letting go.
Speaker 2 (03:24):
A way to express those unspoken feelings, to get
it all out, even if it's just onpaper.
Speaker 1 (03:29):
It's symbolic, you don't even have to say it to
them.
Speaker 2 (03:31):
Right.
It's about that internal shift,taking your power back and
choosing to move on.
Speaker 1 (03:36):
Okay.
So reflection, emotionalprocessing, finding closure.
That's a lot, but Lestallionkeeps going.
There are sections on buildingnew beginnings and
self-discovery.
Speaker 2 (03:47):
Because letting go isn't just about loss, it's
about what comes next.
Speaker 1 (03:50):
Exactly Like okay, you've dealt with the hard stuff
, Now what?
Speaker 2 (03:53):
What excites you?
What possibilities are openingup?
Speaker 1 (03:56):
And I love that there are prompts that address that
directly.
Like in the building newbeginning section, there's one
that asks reflect on what you'remost excited about as you begin
this new chapter of your life.
It's almost like permission toembrace the future, To look
forward instead of back.
It's about reclaiming yourfuture, writing your own story,
(04:16):
choosing to create a life thattruly reflects who you are.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
And I think that ties into that last category
self-discovery, because when arelationship ends, it can be a
chance to reconnect withyourself on a deeper level.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
It really can.
It's like who am I now outsideof this relationship?
Speaker 2 (04:33):
And the prompts encourage that introspection.
There's one that says writeabout the parts of yourself
you're rediscovering or fallingin love with again.
Speaker 1 (04:42):
Like parts of yourself you may have lost sight
of.
Speaker 2 (04:45):
It happens Sometimes in a relationship we lose a bit
of ourselves.
Speaker 1 (04:48):
And letting go can be about finding those pieces
again.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
Like you're shedding a skin, emerging as a newer,
more authentic version ofyourself, and the prompts are
there to guide you through thatprocess.
Speaker 1 (04:59):
It's not just about the words either.
It's the way Lestallion framesit.
The whole tone, yeah, verysupportive.
It's not just about the wordseither.
It's the way Lestallion framesit.
Speaker 2 (05:04):
The whole tone yeah, very supportive, encouraging,
like a wise friend is walkingyou through it.
Speaker 1 (05:08):
And speaking of wise friends, I noticed the quotes
sprinkled throughout the prompts.
Speaker 2 (05:11):
Oh yeah, those are great Little nuggets of wisdom.
Speaker 1 (05:14):
Like, letting go is not about forgetting, but about
finding peace in the memoriesyou keep.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
Beautiful Right.
It's about reframing the past,not erasing it.
Speaker 1 (05:24):
Honoring it, but not letting it define you.
Speaker 2 (05:26):
Finding that sweet spot between the past and the
future.
Speaker 1 (05:29):
And I think that's what Lestallion does so well.
With these prompts, theyprovide a roadmap for navigating
this messy, confusing terrainof letting go.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
Breaking it down into manageable steps, each one
designed to help you gainclarity, process those feelings
and, ultimately move forward.
Speaker 1 (05:48):
Okay, so we've covered a lot in this first part
of our deep dive the structureof these prompts, the psychology
behind them and some specificexamples, but there's so much
more to explore.
Speaker 2 (05:59):
Oh yeah, we've only scratched the surface.
Speaker 1 (06:08):
So stay tuned, listener, as we delve even
deeper into Lestallion's 50journal prompts for letting go
of someone.
We'll be right back to explorehow to maximize these prompts,
how to go beyond the surface andreally unlock their power.
Speaker 2 (06:14):
You know it's not just about answering the prompt,
is it?
Speaker 1 (06:17):
No, it's not.
It's deeper than that.
Speaker 2 (06:18):
It's about sparking a conversation with yourself.
Speaker 1 (06:21):
Oh, I like that.
Like, each prompt is a startingpoint.
Speaker 2 (06:24):
Yeah, a seed, you plant it.
And then what?
Speaker 1 (06:26):
You nurture it.
You see what grows.
Speaker 2 (06:28):
Exactly, and that's where the real magic happens.
Speaker 1 (06:31):
So how can our listeners do that?
How do they maximize theseprompts?
Speaker 2 (06:34):
Well, one thing is to challenge those initial
reactions.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
Like, don't just take the prompt at face value.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
Right, dig deeper.
Let's say, a prompt asks abouta time you felt hurt.
Speaker 1 (06:44):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (06:44):
Don't just describe the event.
Ask why it hurt.
What need wasn't being met?
Speaker 1 (06:49):
Oh, interesting Like was it a need for validation
security connection.
Speaker 2 (06:54):
Exactly.
You start to see the biggerpicture, the underlying patterns
.
Speaker 1 (06:58):
It's about understanding yourself better,
your vulnerabilities.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
And you can apply that to any of the prompts.
Push yourself to go deeper,explore the why.
Speaker 1 (07:05):
It's like peeling back the layers of an onion.
Speaker 2 (07:07):
Ha ha.
I love that you get to theheart of the matter.
Speaker 1 (07:10):
And that's where the real growth happens.
Speaker 2 (07:11):
It's not just venting .
It's using those prompts as aspringboard for deeper
self-discovery.
Speaker 1 (07:16):
Okay, so digging deeper, got it.
What else?
Speaker 2 (07:18):
Don't be afraid to get creative with the writing
itself.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
Oh, how so.
Speaker 2 (07:23):
Well, instead of always writing paragraphs, try
poetry.
Speaker 1 (07:26):
Poetry Whoa, I'm no poet.
Speaker 2 (07:28):
It doesn't have to be perfect.
Just let the words flow, letyour emotions out.
Speaker 1 (07:33):
Hmm, I could see that being powerful, especially with
something as raw as letting go.
Speaker 2 (07:38):
Or try writing from a different point of view.
What do you mean?
Like write a letter to theperson you're trying to let go
of?
Speaker 1 (07:44):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (07:44):
But from the perspective of your future self,
the one who's already healed.
Speaker 1 (07:49):
Oh wow, that's interesting.
Like offering yourself theclosure you might not get from
them.
Speaker 2 (07:53):
Exactly, or you could flip it.
Speaker 1 (07:54):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (07:55):
Write a letter from their perspective.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
Like trying to imagine what they might say to
me now.
Speaker 2 (07:59):
It can be really insightful, help you understand
their actions, maybe evenforgive.
Speaker 1 (08:03):
Okay, I'm liking this .
It's all about using writing asa tool to explore, to heal.
Speaker 2 (08:11):
And remember.
It's a process, it takes time.
Speaker 1 (08:14):
You might need to revisit some prompts multiple
times.
Speaker 2 (08:17):
As you grow, as you change, your understanding of
the situation will change too.
Speaker 1 (08:22):
Makes sense.
What felt true a month agomight feel different now.
Speaker 2 (08:26):
Exactly, and each time you revisit a prompt, you
might uncover new insights.
Speaker 1 (08:31):
It's like those optical illusions you see one
image, then suddenly it shifts.
Speaker 2 (08:35):
I love that.
It's about keeping your mindopen to new possibilities.
Speaker 1 (08:39):
To new ways of seeing yourself.
Speaker 2 (08:41):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (08:42):
And the situation.
Speaker 2 (08:43):
And sometimes those aha moments come when we least
expect them.
Speaker 1 (08:46):
Right, like when you're in the shower or out for
a run.
Speaker 2 (08:50):
It's about trusting the process, being patient with
yourself.
Speaker 1 (08:54):
And being open to surprises.
Speaker 2 (08:55):
Speaking of surprises , one thing that surprised me
was the emphasis on letting goof the narrative.
Speaker 1 (09:01):
The story we tell ourselves.
Speaker 2 (09:02):
Yes, we get so caught up in who was right, who was
wrong, what should have happened?
Speaker 1 (09:08):
And can be all-consuming.
Speaker 2 (09:09):
And it keeps us stuck , it prevents us from moving on.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
Those stories can be like prison bars.
Speaker 2 (09:14):
Trapping us in blame, resentment, regret.
Speaker 1 (09:17):
So how do we break free?
Speaker 2 (09:19):
Awareness.
Notice the stories you'retelling yourself.
What are the recurring themes?
Speaker 1 (09:25):
The underlying beliefs.
Speaker 2 (09:26):
Right.
Are they serving you or arethey holding you back?
Speaker 1 (09:30):
It's about questioning those stories,
challenging their validity.
Speaker 2 (09:34):
And journaling can help with that, give you a safe
space to examine them.
Speaker 1 (09:37):
To dismantle the ones that aren't helpful.
Speaker 2 (09:39):
And then start building new stories, more
empowering ones.
Speaker 1 (09:42):
Ones that reflect our growth, our resilience.
Speaker 2 (09:45):
Exactly, and another powerful technique is to shift
your focus.
Speaker 1 (09:49):
From what.
Speaker 2 (09:50):
From what you lost to what you gained, hmm.
Speaker 1 (09:54):
Interesting.
Tell me more.
Speaker 2 (09:56):
Instead of dwelling on what you miss, focus on the
lessons learned.
Speaker 1 (10:01):
What did you learn about yourself, about
relationships, about what youreally want?
Speaker 2 (10:06):
It's about finding the silver lining.
Speaker 1 (10:08):
Seeing the opportunity even in the midst of
pain.
Speaker 2 (10:11):
Because, even though the relationship ended, it
wasn't a waste of time.
Speaker 1 (10:15):
You grew, you learned .
You're better equipped now tocreate the future you want.
Speaker 2 (10:20):
And that's a powerful message for anyone going
through a breakup.
Speaker 1 (10:23):
It's so easy to get lost in the negative.
Speaker 2 (10:25):
But there's always something to be gained.
Speaker 1 (10:27):
And the sooner you can shift your focus to those
gains, the sooner you can heal.
Speaker 2 (10:31):
Exactly, and Lestallion's prompts can help
with that.
Speaker 1 (10:33):
They guide us to see the lessons, the growth.
Speaker 2 (10:35):
To reframe the experience in a more positive
light.
Speaker 1 (10:38):
It's like permission to let go of the old story and
start writing a new one.
Speaker 2 (10:41):
A story that reflects your strength, your resilience,
your wisdom.
Speaker 1 (10:46):
And sometimes the hardest part is letting go of
that future.
Speaker 2 (10:49):
The future you thought you had with that person
.
Speaker 1 (10:52):
Oh, that's so true.
It's like grieving a dream.
Speaker 2 (10:55):
Grieving the plans, the hopes you shared.
Speaker 1 (10:58):
It can be devastating .
How do we even begin to processthat?
Speaker 2 (11:01):
First allow yourself to grieve.
Don't push those feelings away.
Honor them.
Acknowledge the pain, thedisappointment, maybe even the
betrayal.
So it's okay to feel thosethings Because it's essential
and then start to reframe thebetrayal.
Speaker 1 (11:16):
So it's okay to feel those things Because it's
essential, and then start toreframe the experience Instead
of focusing on what's here now.
Speaker 2 (11:20):
Maybe you have more time for yourself, more freedom
to pursue your passions.
Speaker 1 (11:24):
Maybe you're clearer now about what you truly want in
a partner.
Speaker 2 (11:27):
Exactly, it's about choosing to see the opportunity.
Speaker 1 (11:30):
And sometimes visualization can help.
Speaker 2 (11:34):
Imagine yourself, five years from now, living a
life you love.
What does it look like?
Speaker 1 (11:37):
Who are you with?
What brings you joy?
Speaker 2 (11:39):
The more details you can add, the more real it will
feel.
Speaker 1 (11:42):
And the more likely you are to create it.
Speaker 2 (11:44):
It's about taking back control, choosing to create
a future that aligns with yourvalues.
Speaker 1 (11:49):
Not the ones you had envisioned with that other
person.
Speaker 2 (11:52):
Exactly and remember you can't control what happened
in the past.
Speaker 1 (11:57):
Or what the other person does.
Speaker 2 (11:58):
But you can control your own thoughts, your actions,
your choices.
Speaker 1 (12:02):
Focus on what you can do to create a future you love.
Speaker 2 (12:06):
That's empowering.
It reminds you that you're nota victim.
You're the author of your ownlife.
Speaker 1 (12:10):
And Lestallion's prompts can guide us on that
journey.
Speaker 2 (12:13):
They provide the framework, the starting point.
Speaker 1 (12:15):
And then it's up to us to take the wheel.
Speaker 2 (12:17):
To drive towards that future.
Speaker 1 (12:19):
Okay, to wrap up this part of our deep dive, what are
some key takeaways?
Speaker 2 (12:23):
Well, letting go is a process.
It takes time, it's messy.
Speaker 1 (12:27):
Be patient with yourself.
Speaker 2 (12:28):
And remember you're not alone.
Many people go through this.
Speaker 1 (12:32):
Reach out for support if you need it.
Speaker 2 (12:34):
And, most importantly , remember that you are capable
of healing you are stronger thanyou think.
Speaker 1 (12:41):
You are worthy of love and happiness.
All right, we're back and readyto get creative.
Speaker 2 (12:44):
Ooh, creative.
Speaker 1 (12:46):
How so.
Speaker 2 (12:47):
We're talking about journaling, but not just the
usual way.
Speaker 1 (12:51):
Okay, I'm intrigued.
What are we thinking?
Speaker 2 (12:55):
Thinking outside the box, literally.
Speaker 1 (12:58):
Ah, all right, I'm with you.
So today it's all about gettingcreative with journaling.
Speaker 2 (13:05):
Love it.
Words are powerful, butsometimes you need more right.
Speaker 1 (13:09):
Exactly.
So what kind of creativetechniques can our listeners
experiment with?
Speaker 2 (13:13):
Well, one that's really powerful is incorporating
visuals.
Speaker 1 (13:16):
Visuals Like what.
Speaker 2 (13:18):
Doodles, sketches, even collages.
Speaker 1 (13:22):
Ooh, I like that.
So if a prompt asks about ahappy memory, you could sketch a
little picture of it.
Or if it's about future hopes,make a mini vision board right
there in your journal.
Speaker 2 (13:31):
Exactly, it's like art therapy meets journaling.
Speaker 1 (13:34):
Because sometimes words just aren't enough to
express everything.
Speaker 2 (13:37):
And it makes your journal more fun to look back on
too All those colors and images.
Speaker 1 (13:41):
Totally, and don't forget about different writing
styles.
Speaker 2 (13:44):
Ooh, yeah, like what.
Speaker 1 (13:45):
Instead of always writing paragraphs, try poetry.
Speaker 2 (13:48):
Poetry Hmm, I don't know if I'm a poet.
Speaker 1 (13:50):
It doesn't have to be perfect.
Just let the words flow, letyour heart speak.
Speaker 2 (13:54):
Raw and emotional right Like letting go.
Speaker 1 (13:56):
Exactly?
Or how about this Write from adifferent point of view?
Speaker 2 (14:00):
Wait whose point of view.
Speaker 1 (14:01):
Well, imagine writing a letter to the person you're
trying to let go of.
Speaker 2 (14:04):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (14:08):
But you're writing it from the perspective of your
future self.
Speaker 2 (14:11):
The one who's already found peace.
Whoa, that's powerful.
It's like giving yourself theclosure you might not get from
them.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
Exactly, or you could flip it.
Write a letter from theirperspective.
Speaker 2 (14:21):
Like trying to imagine what they would say to
me now, knowing what we bothknow.
Speaker 1 (14:26):
It could be really insightful, help you understand
their actions, maybe evenforgive, wow, so many
possibilities, maybe evenforgive.
Speaker 2 (14:31):
Wow, so many possibilities.
Speaker 1 (14:33):
It's all about using writing as a tool to explore, to
heal, to grow.
Speaker 2 (14:38):
Love that and you know, sometimes when we're stuck
, we need to move our bodies.
Speaker 1 (14:43):
Ooh interesting.
What do you mean?
Speaker 2 (14:45):
Well, if you're struggling with a prompt or a
feeling, get up and move.
Speaker 1 (14:48):
Like you, go for a walk.
Speaker 2 (14:49):
Yeah, or do some yoga Notice how your body feels as
you think about the prompt.
Speaker 1 (14:55):
It's about that mind-body connection right.
Speaker 2 (14:56):
Exactly.
Sometimes those aha momentscome when we're not even trying.
Speaker 1 (15:00):
Like when you're in the shower or out for a run.
Speaker 2 (15:02):
Totally.
It's about getting out of ourheads and into our bodies.
Speaker 1 (15:06):
And you mentioned rituals earlier.
Speaker 2 (15:08):
Yes, rituals can be powerful for letting go Because
they give it a physical form,exactly Like writing down
everything you want to releaseon a piece of paper and then
burning it.
Speaker 1 (15:19):
Wow, that's intense.
Speaker 2 (15:21):
Visualize those feelings turning to smoke,
disappearing.
Speaker 1 (15:24):
I like that, or you could gather objects that
represent the relationship.
Speaker 2 (15:28):
And release them into a river or bury them.
Speaker 1 (15:31):
A symbolic burial of the past.
Speaker 2 (15:32):
It's about actively engaging with the process, not
just thinking about it.
Speaker 1 (15:37):
And the beauty is, you can create your own rituals.
Speaker 2 (15:40):
Ones that feel meaningful to you.
Speaker 1 (15:42):
It's about finding what resonates with you on a
deeper level.
Speaker 2 (15:45):
And remember all these techniques.
They're just starting points.
It's up to you to make themyour own To experiment to play,
to discover what works for you,Because journaling should be
enjoyable, own To experiment toplay, to discover what works for
you, because journaling shouldbe enjoyable, empowering, too.
Speaker 1 (15:57):
It's your space To explore, to heal, to grow and,
ultimately, to rediscoveryourself.
Speaker 2 (16:01):
So true.
So go out there listeners andget creative with your
journaling.
Speaker 1 (16:06):
Honor your unique journey.
Trust the process, yeah, andsee where it takes you.
That's it for this deep diveinto letting go.
Speaker 2 (16:13):
Until next time.
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