50 Sexual Journal Prompts for Personal Growth and Stronger Relationships

50 Sexual Journal Prompts

Can self-discovery through sexual journaling transform your life? Find out as we uncover the profound impact of this often-overlooked practice on personal growth and relationships. This episode ventures into the world of sexual journaling, far beyond the surface-level notion of documenting intimate experiences. We investigate the 50 Sexual Journal Prompts by Lestallion, designed to help you explore your deepest desires, confront ingrained beliefs about sexuality, and ultimately gain a better understanding of your own needs and desires.

Join us as we tackle the more challenging aspects of sexual journaling, from unearthing unshared desires to overcoming fears of judgment and rejection. Discover how creating a safe space for curiosity can liberate you, allowing for emotional intimacy and a stronger connection with your partner. Through personal reflections and thought-provoking prompts, we explore how our earliest sexual education shapes our views and the importance of emotional intimacy in achieving true fulfillment in relationships. Don’t miss this chance to enrich your understanding of sexuality and elevate your intimate connections.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Okay, so today let's dive into something that I think
a lot of people are curiousabout, but maybe don't talk
about a lot, and that is sexualjournaling.

Speaker 2 (00:09):
Okay.

Speaker 1 (00:09):
And I think you know people hear that and they think,
oh, like a diary of mysexcapades or something like
that, Right, but it's really notabout that at all.
It's more about self-discoveryand understanding your own
desires, and maybe even likeadding a new dimension to your
relationships.

Speaker 2 (00:25):
It's interesting you frame it that way, because I
think journaling in general isoften seen as a tool for
personal growth, right?

Speaker 1 (00:31):
Right.

Speaker 2 (00:32):
But we very rarely apply that to our sexuality,
even though it's such a corepart of who we are.

Speaker 1 (00:37):
Absolutely, and that's what's so cool about the
source material that we'relooking at today.
It's 50 Sexual Journal Promptsby a company called Lestallion.

Speaker 2 (00:44):
Okay, and I just have to point out, they also sell
journals?

Speaker 1 (00:49):
Of course they do, so you know, got to get that plug
in Exactly, but um.
But the prompts themselves areactually really intriguing
because they're designed to getyou thinking about your
sexuality in ways you might nothave before.

Speaker 2 (00:58):
Well, and it makes sense, because it's the same way
a therapist will use a promptto sort of unlock a deeper
emotion or memory or somethingwith a client.
And so applying that to yourown sexuality through the act of
writing can be really revealing.

Speaker 1 (01:13):
Yeah, and they break it down into all these different
categories and the one that Ithought was really interesting
to start with is personalreflections, which is kind of
looking back at how ourexperiences have shaped our
views on sex and intimacy andthings like that.
Ok, and there's one prompt inhere that asks about your
earliest memory of learningabout sex.

Speaker 2 (01:33):
Oh.

Speaker 1 (01:33):
Which I think is such a fascinating question, because
it's a big one.
It is a big one and, you know,for a lot of us, those early
messages, whether they came fromour parents or our peers, or
even, you know, the media, canreally have a lasting impact on
how we view sex andrelationships.

Speaker 2 (01:50):
Absolutely and to be able to kind of go back and
unpack that and think about youknow, do those things still hold
true for me as an adult?

Speaker 1 (01:57):
Right.

Speaker 2 (01:58):
Yeah, how have I evolved, or not?

Speaker 1 (01:59):
Right.
It's like questioning thoseingrained beliefs.

Speaker 2 (02:02):
Right.

Speaker 1 (02:02):
Figuring out are these actually mine or is this
just something I've absorbedalong the way?
Okay, but here's where it getsreally interesting for me.
The exploring desires categoryOkay, I mean, who doesn't love a
little self-discovery in that?

Speaker 2 (02:14):
department.
This is where, I think, a lotof people find the most
resistance, but also possiblythe most liberation.
One of the prompts that it asksis to write about a sexual
desire that you've never sharedwith anyone, and then think
about what holds you back fromexpressing it.

Speaker 1 (02:30):
Ooh, that's good, right, yeah, and I think that
really gets to the heart of whywe're so hesitant to even
explore certain desires,sometimes even in the privacy of
our own minds.

Speaker 2 (02:41):
Absolutely, and I think it often boils down to
fear fear of judgment, fear ofrejection, sure, maybe even fear
of the desire itself.

Speaker 1 (02:51):
Right.

Speaker 2 (02:51):
But journaling can provide that safe space to at
least acknowledge those desireswithout the pressure of having
to act on them or share themwith anybody else.
With anybody else.

Speaker 1 (03:00):
It's like giving yourself permission to just be
curious and explore and figureout what makes you tick, without
all the weight of you knowexpectations or relationship,
dynamics or anything else.

Speaker 2 (03:11):
And sometimes even just acknowledging it, is enough
to kind of lessen its powerover us.

Speaker 1 (03:15):
Oh, interesting.

Speaker 2 (03:16):
It's like okay, I see you, I hear you.

Speaker 1 (03:18):
Right.

Speaker 2 (03:19):
But I'm not defined by you.

Speaker 1 (03:21):
I like that.
Okay, I'm hooked.
What's next in our little deepdive here?
All right?

Speaker 2 (03:25):
well, since we're talking about relationships,
let's go to the category thatdeals with that, which is
relationships and intimacy, andone prompt that I found really
interesting was to think aboutthe importance of emotional
intimacy in your sexualrelationships and how you
actually cultivate that.

Speaker 1 (03:41):
Oh, that's huge.
I feel like so often we focuson the physical aspects of
intimacy, but that emotionalconnection is really what
creates that true closeness andfulfillment, don't you think?

Speaker 2 (03:53):
A hundred percent and there's a lot of research
actually that supports thatcouples who prioritize emotional
intimacy have higher levels ofrelationship satisfaction and
sexual satisfaction, because itreally is about feeling seen and
heard and understood on adeeper level.

Speaker 1 (04:11):
Totally and journaling about that, about how
we experience that, how wecultivate it.
I feel like that could be soeye opening.

Speaker 2 (04:18):
Yeah, it's like taking inventory of your own
needs and desires, but withinthe context of your relationship
, and then you can sort ofidentify are there areas where
maybe I'm craving moreconnection or where I'm
potentially holding back?

Speaker 1 (04:30):
and then hopefully it can kind of open up some
interesting conversations withyour partner as well absolutely.

Speaker 2 (04:34):
In fact, some couples will even journal together.
Wow as a way to enhancecommunication and kind of
explore their desires moreopenly that's really cool.
But even if you don't feelcomfortable sharing your journal
entries, just the act ofreflecting on these prompts can
have a ripple effect on yourrelationships.

Speaker 1 (04:52):
Interesting.
It's almost like you're sayingthat even if it's just one
person in the relationship who'sdoing this work, it can still
have this ripple effect outwardsand improve the whole dynamic
Okay.
So we've talked about thosepersonal reflections and kind of
exploring our desires.
But the next category is calledself-awareness and growth, which

(05:12):
you know a little self-helpy,but just stick with me because I
think this section has a lot ofreally interesting prompts in
it too.
Likewise, well, one that Ithought was really interesting
is it asks you to reflect onyour own personal sexual values
and how those values guide yourdecisions and your behaviors and
your relationships.
It's like having that innercompass right.

(05:33):
But sometimes, like life throwsyou curve balls and you don't
necessarily make the choicesthat are in alignment with those
values.

Speaker 2 (05:40):
Right, or you're not even really conscious of it.
Right you know you're just kindof like going through the
motions.

Speaker 1 (05:44):
Exactly.

Speaker 2 (05:45):
And so it's almost like this is a way to kind of
check in with yourself and belike am I living in alignment?

Speaker 1 (05:51):
Am I accountability?
Yeah, exactly, okay, I'm readyfor the last category.
What do we got?

Speaker 2 (05:56):
Okay, so we've talked about reflecting on the past.

Speaker 1 (05:59):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (05:59):
We've talked about kind of unearthing, some of
those desires, navigatingrelationships, checking in with
your values.
Now it's time to, kind of like,step into your power and the
final category is embracing yoursexuality.

Speaker 1 (06:16):
Ooh, I like that.

Speaker 2 (06:18):
Yeah, that sounds good Owning it, celebrating it,
feeling good about it.

Speaker 1 (06:22):
So the prompt that really spoke to me in this
category was it asks you towrite about a time when you felt
really liberated in expressingyour sexual identity and kind of
what factors contributed tothat feeling.

Speaker 2 (06:35):
It's about identifying, like what are the
ingredients that make us feelempowered?

Speaker 1 (06:40):
Yes.

Speaker 2 (06:41):
And then, how can we bring more of that into our
lives intentionally, whetherthat's through self-love,
whether that's throughcommunication, whether that's
through self-love, whetherthat's through communication,
whether that's through, like,exploring different types of
intimacy?
It's really about takingownership over your pleasure and
your expression.

Speaker 1 (06:57):
I love that.
Okay, so we've covered a lot ofground here.
We've talked about, you know,uncovering those hidden desires,
building stronger relationships, embracing our sexuality, but
like, how do we actually makethis a regular practice?
You know, it's one thing tolisten to this and be like, oh
yeah, that sounds great, butlike making time for it,
actually sitting down with yourjournal and like sticking with
it.

Speaker 2 (07:14):
It's about turning intention into action.

Speaker 1 (07:16):
Okay.

Speaker 2 (07:16):
And, just like with any new habit, consistency is
key, right?
So finding a time and a placewhere you can really relax and
be honest with yourself.

Speaker 1 (07:25):
So create that little ritual Exactly, maybe light
some candles, put on some musicAlthough knowing my music taste,
that might get a little weird.

Speaker 2 (07:33):
Whatever sets the mood.
Okay, the important thing is tofind what works for you and
just stick with it.
And even if it's just for likefive minutes a day, you know
those small, consistent effortswill lead to some really
profound insights over time.
And just remember, there's noright or wrong way to do it.

Speaker 1 (07:51):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (07:51):
Some people like to free write, some people really
like using tromps like the onesthat we've discussed.
The key is to kind of find whatfeels the most natural and the
most authentic to you.

Speaker 1 (08:01):
Don't be afraid to experiment.

Speaker 2 (08:03):
Yes.

Speaker 1 (08:03):
You know, maybe you start with one prompt and you
end up writing pages.
Maybe you're doodling in themargins, maybe you need to like
get up, go for a walk, come backto it.
Totally, it's your journey.

Speaker 2 (08:13):
It's all about giving yourself permission to explore
in whatever way feels good andyou know, as you're journaling,
pay attention to any resistancethat comes up.

Speaker 1 (08:24):
Oh, interesting.

Speaker 2 (08:25):
If there are certain prompts that make you feel
uncomfortable or curious or evena little bit defensive, like
lean into that.

Speaker 1 (08:32):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (08:32):
Because those are the areas where you probably have
the most to learn about yourself.

Speaker 1 (08:35):
It's like those awkward silences in therapy are
like ooh, something's about tocome out.

Speaker 2 (08:39):
Yeah, exactly, and just remember self-compassion is
key Throughout this wholeprocess.
Be kind to yourself, be patientand just celebrate every step
that you're taking towardsunderstanding this really
beautiful and complex part ofwho you are.

Speaker 1 (08:55):
So well said.
You know it's funny, as we'vebeen talking about this, I've
been thinking about, like, allthe internal benefits.

Speaker 2 (09:00):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (09:01):
You know the self-discovery and the emotional
intimacy.

Speaker 2 (09:04):
Right.

Speaker 1 (09:04):
But it's making me think that there's this whole
other external component as well.

Speaker 2 (09:09):
Oh, absolutely.

Speaker 1 (09:09):
Where, when we become more comfortable exploring our
own sexuality, it naturally kindof like spills over into how we
talk about it with others.

Speaker 2 (09:18):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (09:18):
And I feel like that's where it can get really
interesting.

Speaker 2 (09:20):
Totally, and I think it starts with being mindful of
the language that we use.
Okay, you know how often do weresort to like euphemisms or
slang when we're talking aboutsex?

Speaker 1 (09:30):
All the time.

Speaker 2 (09:30):
It's almost like we're afraid to just use the
actual words.

Speaker 1 (09:32):
Yeah, it's true.
It's like they have too muchpower or something.

Speaker 2 (09:36):
Yeah, yeah, and I think by embracing more direct
and honest language, ok, we kindof like normalize the
conversation, we take away itspower to shock or embarrass, and
that in turn, can create morespace for open and vulnerable
communication.

Speaker 1 (09:53):
It's like we're reclaiming the language around
it.

Speaker 2 (09:55):
Exactly.

Speaker 1 (09:56):
And making it our own instead of letting it be
dictated by these like societalnorms and taboos and things.

Speaker 2 (10:02):
A hundred percent, and I think as we become more
comfortable with those words, webecome more comfortable with
ourselves.
That's a good point.
It's like a process ofself-acceptance that just like
radiates outward.

Speaker 1 (10:13):
This has been so interesting.
I feel like we've just likescratched the surface of what
sexual journaling can be.
But if there's one thing thatyou would want our listeners to
take away from this wholeconversation, what would it be?

Speaker 2 (10:23):
If you're even remotely curious about sexual
journaling, just give it a try.

Speaker 1 (10:27):
OK.

Speaker 2 (10:27):
You have nothing to lose and a whole lot of
self-discovery to gain.
Just find what feels good, bekind to yourself and remember
that your journey is uniquelyyours.

Speaker 1 (10:40):
So well said.
Well, that about wraps it upfor us today.

Speaker 2 (10:41):
Thanks for having me.

Speaker 1 (10:42):
Thank you, this was awesome and to all of our
listeners out there, thanks fortuning in to this deep dive.

Speaker 2 (10:48):
Until next time.