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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey everyone, welcome
back Today.
We're going to be diving deepinto something a little bit
heavier this time.
You know something we all dealwith at some point Grief.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
It's a universal
experience, that's for sure.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
It really is, and it
can be well really tough to
navigate right.
Speaker 2 (00:16):
Absolutely.
Speaker 1 (00:17):
But we were wondering
if maybe, just maybe, something
as simple as grabbing anotebook and pen could help us
get through it.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
You know it might
sound surprising, but journaling
can actually be a reallypowerful tool, Like for real.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
It can help with
healing and processing after a
loss.
So we're diving into 50 griefjournaling prompts.
It's a blog post fromLestallioncom.
What makes this post stand outto you?
I mean, it was published prettyrecently, right.
Speaker 2 (00:43):
Yeah, just this past
May.
What makes this post stand outto you?
I mean, it was published prettyrecently, right?
Yeah, just this past May.
And it really resonated with mebecause it doesn't frame
journaling, as you know, a wayto just get over grief.
It's more about learning tomove through it.
Speaker 1 (00:53):
Okay, so walk me
through that a bit.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
It recognizes that
grief is well.
It's a process, you know, notjust a thing to check off a
to-do list.
Speaker 1 (01:01):
Right, because it's
so easy to put pressure on
yourself to move on when reallyit's about honoring what you're
going through the whole journey.
Speaker 2 (01:08):
Exactly, and one
thing I really appreciate is
that this post acknowledges thatgrief isn't limited to just,
you know, the death of a lovedone.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
That's a good point.
Speaker 2 (01:17):
We experience it with
all kinds of loss, right.
Speaker 1 (01:20):
Yeah, for sure.
Speaker 2 (01:21):
End of a relationship
, losing a job, even saying
goodbye to a pet those are allsignificant losses.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
Absolutely so true.
I mean, haven't we all beenthere in some way?
Speaker 2 (01:36):
This idea that
there's no one size fits all
approach to grief reallyresonates with me.
It's about finding what worksfor you, and that's where these
journaling prompts come in.
Speaker 1 (01:40):
Exactly.
It's like they're giving youthe tools, but you get to choose
your own path.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
Exactly Through the
wilderness of grief, so to speak
.
Love that analogy.
And one of the first stopsoften involves revisiting
memories, which I know mightsound counterintuitive at first.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
Yeah, like, why would
I want to do that?
Speaker 2 (01:56):
Right, won't it just
make me sadder?
You might think.
Speaker 1 (01:59):
Exactly.
Why dredge up painful reminderswhen you're already feeling
down?
Speaker 2 (02:04):
Well, here's the
thing Revisiting memories,
especially positive ones, canactually be therapeutic.
Speaker 1 (02:12):
Okay, now, that's
interesting.
Speaker 2 (02:13):
Because remember,
grief it's not just sadness,
it's a whole tapestry ofemotions.
Speaker 1 (02:18):
It's about the whole
experience.
Speaker 2 (02:19):
Exactly.
It's about honoring everythingyou've lost the joy, the
laughter, the love, All of it.
So we need the love, all of it.
Speaker 1 (02:25):
So we need to make
space for all of it, not just
the hard parts.
Speaker 2 (02:29):
Yes, 100%.
Speaker 1 (02:30):
That reminds me of
that first prompt.
Write about your favoritememory with the person you lost,
and to describe the day indetail, how did it make you feel
All that?
Speaker 2 (02:40):
Yes, and that's all
about tapping into those
positive emotions that often getovershadowed by grief.
When we revisit these goodtimes, we're not just dwelling
on the absence, we're activelyconnecting with the richness of
the relationship itself.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
Instead of just
feeling the pain of the loss,
you're reminded of the goodtimes.
Exactly the things that madethat person so special.
Speaker 2 (03:02):
Exactly, it's a way
to reframe our relationship with
the loss.
Yes, there's sadness, butthere's also gratitude for what
you shared.
Speaker 1 (03:08):
Yeah, I can see how
that shift in perspective could
really help, especially early onwhen it all feels so raw, Like
choosing to focus on the lighteven when surrounded by darkness
, you know.
Speaker 2 (03:21):
It's a powerful image
, but we also need to remember
that grief isn't always, youknow, looking back on happy
memories.
Of course not.
Sometimes it's about facingthose tough emotions head on,
which is where some of theseother prompts come in.
Speaker 1 (03:33):
This is where things
get really real right.
Grief isn't all you knowsunshine and roses.
Speaker 2 (03:37):
It's messy, it's
complicated.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
Yes, Sometimes it
just hurts.
Speaker 2 (03:40):
It absolutely can,
and that's okay.
It's okay for it to hurt.
Speaker 1 (03:44):
So how can journaling
help with those messy moments?
Speaker 2 (03:47):
Well, think of it
like this by writing those
feelings down, you're givingyourself permission to really
feel them, you know.
Speaker 1 (03:55):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
To acknowledge them
without judgment.
Speaker 1 (03:58):
So it's like, instead
of pushing those difficult
emotions away, they're actuallywhat Lean into them.
Exactly, and you know it'sfunny because it's often the
feelings we try to avoid themost the anger, the overwhelm
yeah, those are the tough onesthose are the ones that can
actually offer the most valuableinsights really, I've always
thought of them as, like the badones, the ones to just get rid
(04:21):
of it's natural to think that,right, but they hold important
information Like remember thatprompt number 12?
Speaker 2 (04:28):
Right about a moment
when you felt totally
overwhelmed by grief, justacknowledging those triggers
Huge.
Speaker 1 (04:35):
Okay.
So if you can pinpoint thosetriggers, maybe you can find
ways to cope with them, right?
Speaker 2 (04:39):
Yes, and that's where
prompt 16 comes in Describe a
time when you felt anger relatedto your loss.
See, we often suppress anger,but the truth is it's a totally
normal part of grieving.
Speaker 1 (04:51):
Bottling it up
probably just makes things worse
.
Speaker 2 (04:54):
Exactly so.
This prompt gives youpermission to you know, feel it,
understand where it's comingfrom.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
So by naming those
emotions, even the negative ones
, you can start to like, takeaway their power.
Speaker 2 (05:06):
Exactly.
You're saying okay, anger, Isee you, but you don't control
me.
Speaker 1 (05:10):
Shining a light on
the darkness.
Speaker 2 (05:11):
I love that.
Speaker 1 (05:12):
But how do we move
from just surviving grief to, I
don't know like finding strength, finding growth?
Is that even possible whenyou're in so much pain?
Speaker 2 (05:23):
That's a great
question, and it's something
this blog post really gets right.
It's not about erasing the pain.
It's about realizing that evenwhile we're hurting, we can
still be resilient.
Speaker 1 (05:33):
Okay, and you think
journaling can help us tap into
that?
Speaker 2 (05:35):
I do yes, these
prompts can help us see it.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
How so?
Give me an example.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
Well, it's about
recognizing those moments, you
know, when you realize, wow, Imade it through another day.
Speaker 1 (05:44):
Even when it felt
impossible.
Speaker 2 (05:45):
Exactly Celebrating
those little victories, there's
this one prompt.
It asks write about a time yousurprised yourself with your own
strength, right about a timeyou surprised yourself with your
own strength.
I like that.
It's so easy to get caught upin the day-to-day you know and
forget about those times when wereally had to, like, dig deep,
when we're stronger than wethought.
What about you?
Have you ever experienced that?
Speaker 1 (06:06):
Oh, absolutely.
When my grandmother passed away, I was like completely
heartbroken, but I still.
Somehow I pulled it together towrite and deliver her eulogy.
Wow, Looking back, I have noidea how I did it, but in that
moment something just like tookover.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
And you tapped into
that inner strength that we all
have.
I bet that experience reallychanged you, huh.
Speaker 1 (06:28):
It really did.
Honestly, it made me realizeI'm a lot stronger than I
thought.
Speaker 2 (06:31):
That's what grief can
do.
It can well break us open alittle, it's true, but it can
also reveal these strengths wenever knew we had.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
Like that other
prompt from Lestallion's blog,
the one that says reflect on apersonal strength you've
discovered through your grief.
How has it helped you cope?
Speaker 2 (06:50):
Oh, that's a good one
.
It's all about finding thosesilver linings.
Speaker 1 (06:54):
Right, finding the
ways this experience, even
though it's been so hard, hasactually helped you grow.
Speaker 2 (06:59):
Yeah, finding the
growth.
Speaker 1 (07:01):
There's that one line
from the post that really stuck
with me.
It says strength is not theabsence of pain, but the ability
to move forward despite it,carrying the love and memories
with you.
Speaker 2 (07:12):
That's beautiful.
Speaker 1 (07:16):
It's not about
pretending it doesn't hurt.
It's about recognizing.
Speaker 2 (07:17):
recognizing like hey,
I'm still here, You're still
standing and moving forward,which is amazing.
But that idea of, you know,honoring the love, the memories,
that's where these last fewprompts come in.
It's about keeping the memoryalive, you know.
Speaker 1 (07:33):
It's interesting you
say that because grief memory
alive.
You know it's interesting yousay that because grief it can
feel.
So I don't know big andabstract Definitely.
Speaker 2 (07:43):
And these prompts
they feel more concrete,
something you can actually do.
I think so.
Yeah, Like there's one aboutfinding ways to keep their
memory alive, little actions youcan take, or even ritual.
Speaker 1 (07:50):
Okay, like what kind
of things?
Speaker 2 (07:52):
Anything really
cooking their favorite meal,
visiting a place they loved,even just lighting a candle for
them.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
Just those little
reminders.
Speaker 2 (07:59):
Exactly those little
touchstones to keep their spirit
close.
It doesn't have to be a grandgesture.
Speaker 1 (08:04):
Even small things can
be powerful, yeah.
Speaker 2 (08:06):
So powerful this has
been amazing really.
Speaker 1 (08:09):
Who knew journaling
could lead to such a deep
conversation?
Speaker 2 (08:12):
It's amazing what we
can discover when we just give
ourselves the space to you know,explore these emotions.
Speaker 1 (08:19):
Totally.
It's like this blog post saidjournaling can be a path to
healing and growth.
Speaker 2 (08:23):
It's true.
Speaker 1 (08:27):
So, as we wrap up, I
just I feel hopeful Because,
yeah, grief is a part of life.
It's going to happen.
Speaker 2 (08:31):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (08:31):
But it doesn't have
to be something we just get
through.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
Right.
Speaker 1 (08:34):
It can be an
opportunity for growth, for real
transformation.
Speaker 2 (08:37):
Absolutely, and
remember your grief.
Journey is unique.
What works for someone elsemight not work for you, and
that's okay.
The important thing is tolisten to yourself.
Speaker 1 (08:47):
Be open to what feels
right.
Speaker 2 (08:48):
Exactly.
Speaker 1 (08:49):
It makes you think
you know how grief can lead to
these positive changes.
Speaker 2 (08:53):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (08:53):
So to everyone
listening, what's one small way
you can honor your own griefjourney.
What positive change can youembrace?
Speaker 2 (09:00):
It doesn't have to be
huge.
Start small.
Even a small step in the rightdirection can make a world of
difference.
Speaker 1 (09:08):
And on that note,
that's our deep dive for today.
Thanks for joining us.
Speaker 2 (09:11):
Thank you.