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Speaker 1 (00:00):
All right.
So today we're diving intosomething a little bit heavier
than usual but just as important, and that is grief.
We're going to be exploring ablog post from Lestallion called
50 Grief Journaling Prompts byClara Penrose, Interesting.
It was published very recently,on October 5th 2024.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (00:22):
So it's fresh and
ready for us to unpack.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
I'm excited to see
what kind of prompts they came
up with.
50 seems like a lot to process.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
Yeah, that's a lot.
Don't worry, we're not going togo through all 50 one by one.
Okay, think of this deep diveas like exploring how these
prompts might act as differentpaths you can take as you're
journeying through grief.
Speaker 2 (00:42):
I like that Paths,
not a single road.
Speaker 1 (00:45):
Right.
Speaker 2 (00:45):
Because, as Penrose
points out in the blog post,
everyone's journey is going tobe different.
Speaker 1 (00:49):
Exactly, and that's
where these prompts come in,
offering different entry points.
So the post starts by talkingabout the power of journaling,
itself Right, especially forthose dealing with grief.
Penrose describes it as thisgentle way to process everything
, a space where all the messy,complicated emotions are welcome
.
Speaker 2 (01:07):
I like that.
Speaker 1 (01:08):
What are your
thoughts on that?
Speaker 2 (01:09):
You know it's
fascinating how putting pen to
paper can actually help us makesense of things that feel
chaotic inside.
Speaker 1 (01:18):
Right.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
When we're grieving,
it's easy to get swept away by
powerful feelings.
Speaker 1 (01:22):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
But the act of
writing can almost help us
separate ourselves from thoseemotions a bit.
Speaker 1 (01:28):
That makes a lot of
sense.
Speaker 2 (01:29):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:29):
It's like taking all
those jumble, thoughts and
feelings inside your head andputting them down on paper.
Exactly when you can finallyget a good look at them.
Speaker 2 (01:38):
It gives those
feelings a form you know, and
even if you've never kept thejournal.
Before don't discount the powerof this tool before Don't
discount the power of this tool.
Sometimes, when those waves ofgrief feel overwhelming, having
this outlet can be like having alifeline.
Speaker 1 (01:53):
I love that analogy a
lifeline.
Speaker 2 (01:54):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:55):
Now, what I found
particularly interesting is that
the prompts go beyond justsadness, which we often think of
as the defining emotion ofgrief.
Speaker 2 (02:03):
Right.
Speaker 1 (02:03):
There are prompts
about anger, yeah, guilt, and
even prompts that encouragefinding moments of peace within
grief.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
Absolutely.
It speaks to the complexity ofgrief, doesn't it?
It's not just one feeling.
Speaker 1 (02:16):
Right.
Speaker 2 (02:16):
It's this whole
spectrum of emotions.
Speaker 1 (02:18):
It is Like one prompt
asks how do you handle feelings
of guilt after a loss?
Speaker 2 (02:23):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:24):
That's not something
we always talk about openly.
Another one asks think about atime you felt a sense of peace
in the midst of your grief.
Wow, that prompt reallyacknowledges that even within
the darkness of grief there canbe glimmers of light.
Speaker 2 (02:38):
I think that's so
important to validate those
different facets of grief.
Yeah, I remember, after mygrandmother passed away, I coped
by baking.
Speaker 1 (02:46):
Oh, wow.
Speaker 2 (02:47):
It sounds odd, I know
, but her apple pie was
legendary yeah.
And the act of making itbrought me this strange sense of
peace and connection to her.
Speaker 1 (02:55):
That's beautiful.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:57):
It just goes to show
how grief can manifest in ways
we don't always expect.
Speaker 2 (03:00):
Exactly, and that
leads us to another interesting
section of the blog post.
Okay Penrose talks about theimportance of honoring memories,
of finding ways to carry thosewe've lost forward with us.
Speaker 1 (03:12):
Yes, there's one
prompt in particular that really
struck me.
Speaker 2 (03:16):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (03:17):
It says what did your
loved one love most about life?
Reflect on their passions,hobbies or the things that
brought them joy, and how youcan incorporate these into your
life.
It's not about getting stuck inthe past.
It's about finding ways to keeptheir spirit alive in the
present.
Speaker 2 (03:33):
It's about
recognizing that the people
we've lost are woven into thefabric of who we are.
Their passions, their joy,those things become part of our
story too, so yeah.
Speaker 1 (03:45):
It makes me wonder if
you, dear listener, were to
pick one memory to focus ontoday, what would it be?
What memory brings you the mostcomfort or truly captures the
essence of the person you'velost?
Speaker 2 (03:57):
That's a powerful
question.
Speaker 1 (03:58):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (03:59):
And it leads us to
another important concept that
Penrose highlights the idea thathealing doesn't mean forgetting
.
Speaker 1 (04:05):
I think that's a
really important distinction to
make.
Speaker 2 (04:08):
It is, and this is
where the prompts about
self-care and resilience come inOkay.
There's one that reads what'sone small step you can take
towards healing today?
Speaker 1 (04:17):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (04:24):
Write about how this
step might help you feel a bit
lighter or more at peace.
It really emphasizes takingthings slowly, one day at a time
.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
Especially because,
when you're in the depths of
grief, even getting out of bedcan feel impossible.
Oh yeah, it's those small actsof self-kindness that can make a
huge difference.
Speaker 2 (04:39):
Absolutely.
Maybe it's taking a walk,listening to your favorite music
or simply allowing yourself tocry.
Whatever it is, even smallgestures can contribute to the
healing process.
Speaker 1 (04:50):
Right and speaking of
moving forward.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
OK.
Speaker 1 (04:52):
There's a whole
section in the post dedicated to
this.
Speaker 2 (04:55):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (04:55):
But it's framed in a
very specific way.
Speaker 2 (04:57):
OK.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
It's not about moving
on and leaving the past behind.
Speaker 2 (05:01):
Right.
Speaker 1 (05:01):
It's about carrying
those we've lost with us.
Speaker 2 (05:04):
It reminds me of a
tapestry.
Speaker 1 (05:06):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (05:06):
Each thread, even the
dark ones, contributes to the
overall beauty of the finishedpiece.
Yeah, our experiences, our joysand sorrows are all threads in
the tapestry of our lives.
Speaker 1 (05:19):
I would love that
analogy.
Yeah, it so perfectly captureshow our past shapes who we are.
Speaker 2 (05:24):
Mm-hmm.
Speaker 1 (05:25):
There's one prompt
that I think really captures
this sentiment.
It says how do you want tocarry your loved one's memory
with you as you move forward inlife?
It acknowledges that movingforward doesn't mean forgetting.
It's about finding ways tohonor their memory while still
embracing the future.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
And that future, that
new chapter doesn't erase the
previous chapters.
Speaker 1 (05:48):
Right.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
Our experiences of
love and loss become part of who
we are.
Speaker 1 (05:51):
Yeah.
Shaping our perspectives andinfluencing our choices.
It's like we're not starting anew book.
Yeah, just a new chapter andall the previous chapters are
still there informing thenarrative.
Speaker 2 (06:00):
I like that a lot.
Yeah, it's about finding thosethreads of connection and
weaving them into their presentright, which reminds me of
something you touched on earlier, the idea that healing isn't
linear.
Yeah, it's not about gettingover it, right, but learning to
live with the loss.
Speaker 1 (06:16):
Yes, yeah, that
really resonated with me too.
Speaker 2 (06:18):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (06:18):
There's this pressure
sometimes.
Speaker 2 (06:20):
Right.
Speaker 1 (06:21):
Especially in our
fast paced culture, to just move
on quickly.
Speaker 2 (06:25):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (06:26):
But grief doesn't
have a timeline, does it?
Speaker 2 (06:28):
Not at all, and these
prompts gently remind us of
that.
They're not a to-do list tocheck off, right, but
invitations to slow down,reflect and really tune into our
own unique process.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
And I think that's
something that Penrose does
really well on this blog postyeah, encouraging a gentle
approach to grief.
Speaker 2 (06:47):
Absolutely.
She also talks about newbeginnings in a way that I found
really insightful.
Speaker 1 (06:51):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (06:52):
It's not about
replacing what's been lost, but
acknowledging that life does goon, even though it might look
and feel different.
Speaker 1 (07:00):
Right.
It's not about erasing the past, but incorporating it into the
present and future.
Speaker 2 (07:04):
Exactly.
And those new experiences,those new beginnings, they often
carry echoes of the past, ofthose we've loved and lost.
Speaker 1 (07:13):
So it's less about
starting a brand new book.
Speaker 2 (07:15):
Right.
Speaker 1 (07:15):
And more about
starting a new chapter.
Yeah, with all the previouschapters still informing the
story.
Speaker 2 (07:20):
What a beautiful way
to put it.
And all of this brings us backto the idea of journaling as a
safe space to explore all thosecomplex emotions, those memories
and even those hopes for thefuture.
Speaker 1 (07:33):
It's a reminder that,
while grief can feel incredibly
isolating, we're not alone inthis experience.
Speaker 2 (07:40):
Right.
Speaker 1 (07:41):
And having a tool
like journaling can make a big
difference.
Speaker 2 (07:44):
Absolutely, you know,
even if someone never actually
puts pen to paper.
Speaker 1 (07:48):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (07:48):
Even just reading
through these prompts can spark
some deep reflection.
Speaker 1 (07:53):
Right.
The questions themselves arepowerful, regardless of whether
you write down your answers.
Before we wrap up, I'd love tohear from you, dear listener.
Speaker 2 (08:01):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (08:02):
Which prompt from
today's deep dive has stuck with
you the most?
Speaker 2 (08:06):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (08:07):
What resonated with
your own experience of grief.
Right or maybe even surprisedyou.
Speaker 2 (08:11):
I think reflecting on
that question can be really
insightful.
The prompt that speaks to youthe loudest might just offer a
clue about where you are on yourown journey.
Speaker 1 (08:22):
It might even
highlight a specific area you
need to explore further, anemotion that needs a little more
attention or understanding.
Speaker 2 (08:31):
Exactly.
And remember, there's no rightor wrong answer here.
Right.
What matters is what feels mosthelpful and meaningful to you.
Speaker 1 (08:38):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (08:39):
Because ultimately,
this deep dive isn't about
finding one size fits allsolution.
Speaker 1 (08:43):
Right.
Speaker 2 (08:44):
But about recognizing
the power of individual
experience.
Speaker 1 (08:47):
And that's the beauty
of these prompts, right, yeah,
they offer a starting point.
Speaker 2 (08:51):
Right.
Speaker 1 (08:51):
A gentle nudge to
explore your own unique
landscape of loss.
They're not meant to beprescriptive.
Speaker 2 (08:57):
Right.
Speaker 1 (08:58):
But to inspire and
support you on your journey.
Speaker 2 (09:00):
And that journey, as
we've discussed, is unique to
each individual.
There's no set timeline, noright or wrong way to grieve.
Speaker 1 (09:10):
You can pick and
choose the prompts that resonate
.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (09:13):
Modify them to fit
your needs.
Speaker 2 (09:14):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (09:15):
Or even use them as
inspiration to come up with your
own prompts.
What matters is that you find away to express your grief,
honor your memories and,ultimately, chart your own
course toward healing.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
And remember, you
don't have to do this alone.
There are support groups,therapists, online communities
and so many resources availableto help you navigate this
challenging experience.
Speaker 1 (09:38):
It's a reminder that
even in the midst of loss,
connection and community canoffer a powerful source of
strength and support.
Speaker 2 (09:46):
Absolutely.
Speaker 1 (09:47):
So if you're feeling
lost or overwhelmed, please
reach out.
Speaker 2 (09:50):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (09:50):
There are people who
care and want to help.
Speaker 2 (09:53):
And as we wrap up
this deep dive into grief and
journaling, I want to leave youwith one final thought.
Speaker 1 (09:58):
Right.
Speaker 2 (09:58):
Even if you never
write in a journal, simply
reflecting on these questions,allowing them to stir something
within you, can be a powerfulstep towards understanding and
navigating your grief.
Speaker 1 (10:10):
Beautifully put and
to our listeners.
Thank you for joining us onthis journey of exploration.
We hope you found it insightful, helpful.
Speaker 2 (10:20):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (10:20):
And maybe even a
little bit hopeful.
Speaker 2 (10:22):
Until next time, take
care of yourselves and each
other, and maybe even a littlebit hopeful.
Speaker 1 (10:26):
Until next time, take
care of yourselves and each
other.
It's amazing how a simple listof prompts can spark such a you
know, dope conversation, isn'tit?
Speaker 2 (10:31):
It is, and that
speaks to the heart of what
Penrose is trying to do withthis blog post.
Speaker 1 (10:36):
You know she's
offering a toolkit, not a
prescription, and that toolkitthose 50 prompts can be
incredibly powerful for anyonenavigating grief, whether you're
a seasoned journaler or juststarting out.
Speaker 2 (10:49):
Exactly.
You can pick and choose theprompts that resonate with you,
adapt them or even use them as aspringboard to create your own.
There's no one right way to usethem.
Speaker 1 (10:59):
What matters most is
finding a way to express your
grief, to honor those memoriesand to chart your own unique
course towards healing.
Speaker 2 (11:07):
Because grief is a
journey, not a destination,
right, and it's a journey we allhave to take in our own time,
in our own way.
Speaker 1 (11:14):
So, as we wrap up
this deep dive into the world of
grief journaling, we want toleave you with this final
thought Okay, which prompt fromtoday stuck with you the most?
What resonated with yourexperience, your journey?
Speaker 2 (11:27):
Hold on to that
prompt.
Let it sit with you.
Speaker 1 (11:29):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:29):
Explore the insights
and emotions it brings up, maybe
even jot down a few thoughts,whether in a journal or on a
scrap of paper.
Speaker 1 (11:36):
Because, even if you
never fill an entire journal,
the act of engaging with theseprompts, of allowing them to
spark reflection, can be apowerful step towards
understanding and navigatingyour grief.
Speaker 2 (11:47):
Beautifully said and
remember, dear listener, you are
not alone on this journey.
Speaker 1 (11:52):
Until next time, take
care.