Journal For Breakups and Healing - Writing heals what time alone cannot fix after a breakup.

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Ever felt completely unmoored after a breakup? That sense of your emotional world imploding, leaving you adrift in confusion and pain? We've been there too. This deep dive explores a surprisingly powerful tool for navigating the storm: journaling.

Putting pen to paper during heartbreak isn't just about venting (though that's certainly part of it). We unpack how this practice creates a container for overwhelming feelings, helping you process emotions that might otherwise consume you. The physical act of writing transforms internal chaos into something tangible and manageable—what we call "containing the storm."

Journaling offers a private sanctuary for self-reflection, allowing you to explore relationship patterns without judgment, rebuild self-worth when it feels shattered, and gradually craft a vision for your future on your own terms. We share Mia's journey from raw emotional outpourings to structured reflection and eventually to planning her next chapter, illustrating how a quality journal becomes more than paper—it becomes a trusted companion through the darkness.

Whether you're in the shock phase, anger phase, grief phase, or beginning to glimpse acceptance, we offer practical journaling techniques tailored to each emotional stage. From simple daily check-ins to writing unsent letters, using prompts, practicing gratitude, and setting new intentions, these approaches help transform pain into genuine growth. The end of a relationship isn't the end of your story—it's the beginning of a chapter that might ultimately prove more authentically you.

How might consciously documenting your emotional journey through life's transitions give you invaluable insights for your future growth and shape your relationships in profound ways? Listen now and discover the healing power of your own words.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to the Deep Dive.
Today we're getting intosomething pretty universal
actually navigating theemotional roller coaster after a
breakup, that real mix of pain,confusion, maybe just feeling
lost.

Speaker 2 (00:13):
It's a really tough time.
You often feel completelyunmoored trying to figure out
this new reality right.

Speaker 1 (00:17):
Exactly.
And so, in this Deep Dive, wereally want to explore a well, a
pretty powerful way to workthrough those intense feelings,
find a bit of clarity amid thestorm and, you know, really
start that healing process.

Speaker 2 (00:31):
We're focusing on journaling.
It sounds simple maybe, but itoffers such profound benefits
for self-reflection, emotionalprocessing, especially when a
relationship ends.
Just getting those tangledthoughts and feelings down on
paper can be incredibly freeing.

Speaker 1 (00:44):
Yeah, it's like you give those swirling emotions a
physical place to exist, whichsomehow makes them feel I don't
know a bit more manageable.
We've been looking into thisand it's interesting how having
a dedicated space, a specificjournal, can really support that
.
We've seen resources mentioningLestallion journals, for
instance, known for their likereally nice paper and design,

(01:04):
making it feel like a properspace for this work.

Speaker 2 (01:07):
Yeah, and using a journal like a listallion, it's
interesting.
The physical quality actuallymatters.
I think the weight of the paper, that soft cover it sends a
signal, doesn't it, that this isa specific important space for
your thoughts, your healing.
It's not just, you know,grabbing any old notepad.

Speaker 1 (01:24):
Right, it elevates it makes it feel intentional, like
a ritual.
So today we'll unpack whyjournaling is so effective for
healing.
We'll look at how it helps withthose really common
post-breakup struggles.
We've even got a story Mia'sstory that illustrates the
impact beautifully.

Speaker 2 (01:39):
And we'll cover practical tips too, how to
actually do it effectively, plushow journaling aligns with the
different emotional phases yougo through and, ultimately, how
this whole process can turn paininto real personal growth.

Speaker 1 (01:51):
And we'll touch on why certain features, things you
might find in a journal, like alistalien, like the you know
the page count, that thick 120GSM paper, even numbered pages
and a table of contents whythose details can actually be
surprisingly helpful during thisspecific time.

Speaker 2 (02:07):
Absolutely.
It's about setting up apractice that aids reflection
and lets you well track yourjourney.
Those features aren't justaesthetics they offer genuine
practical advantages when you'resorting through complex stuff.

Speaker 1 (02:18):
Okay, let's really dig into this.
Then, why journaling?
Why is it such a powerful toolwhen you're trying to pick up
the pieces after a breakup?
Because, honestly, it can feellike your whole world just
imploded.

Speaker 2 (02:30):
That's a good way to put it.
Think of it like an emotionalearthquake.
Journaling is your way toassess the damage, see the
cracks and start planning therebuild.
It lets you take all thatinternal chaos and put it
somewhere external.
By writing, you start tounderstand the pain better,
validate your own experiencewhich is huge when you're
doubting everything and get aclearer view on what happened

(02:52):
and how you really feel it'slike containing the storm.

Speaker 1 (02:55):
Containing the storm.
I like that.
It's giving your feelings avoice, maybe even you know,
unexpected relief.
Getting it out of your headfeels lighter, doesn't it Like
emptying a cup that's just toofull?

Speaker 2 (03:14):
Exactly.
It stops those feelings fromjust festering inside.
And beyond that, there's theself-reflection piece, which is
just invaluable.
Journaling gives you thatprivate space to look at the
relationship, not necessarily toblame, but to understand the
dynamics, maybe spot somepatterns.
That kind of insight is oftenwhat helps you make different
choices down the line, learningthe lessons without getting
stuck, you know.

Speaker 1 (03:35):
That makes total sense Building wisdom without
letting the experience defineyou, and I can see how that
process understanding yourselfbetter would directly help
rebuild self-worth.
Because breakups wow they canreally knock your confidence,
leave you feeling not goodenough.

Speaker 2 (03:48):
Oh, absolutely.
And journaling is where you canactively fight back against
that.
You dedicate space to remindyourself of your strengths, your
good qualities, the growthyou've already achieved inside
the relationship and out.
It shifts the focus from lossto what's still there and what
you can build.
But it's not just looking back.
Journaling is also reallypowerful for looking forward.

(04:10):
Once that initial intensityeases a bit, having a place to
articulate new dreams, new goals, personal growth, future
relationships, career stuff, itcan be incredibly empowering.
It's taking that first steptowards a new horizon.

Speaker 1 (04:23):
Actively sketching out what's next and thinking
about those features likenumbered pages and a table of
contents which you find injournals like Listallion.
That suddenly seems reallyuseful for this.
You can literally track yourjourney, Go back to those early,
maybe really painful entriesand see how far you've actually
come.
It's tangible proof of yourresilience.

Speaker 2 (04:41):
Yeah, being able to revisit and see your own
evolution, that's incrediblymotivating.
It's concrete evidence that youcan heal.
You're growing.
You see the shifts in yourthinking, your emotions over
time Very encouraging.

Speaker 1 (04:53):
So we see the general power, but let's talk specifics
, those really common hurdlespeople face after a breakup,
like feeling stuck in the past,just replaying memories good or
bad, or that awful naggingself-doubt and, of course, the
loneliness, that huge void, andmaybe even just trying not to
feel anything, suppressing itall.

Speaker 2 (05:12):
Yes, all very real, very common responses, and
journaling offers ways to tackleeach one for feeling stuck in
the past.
Well, writing down thoserecurring memories, actually
exploring them on the page, canstrangely create distance.
It gives them a defined placeoutside your immediate thoughts,
lessening their grip on yourpresent moment.

Speaker 1 (05:31):
That's interesting.
Not burying the past, butprocessing it so you can
actually live now.
Okay, what about the self-doubt?
How does writing help fightthat feeling of not being good
enough?

Speaker 2 (05:40):
That's where you actively journal about your
strengths, your wins, things youlike about yourself, things
you're proud of.
It's a conscious effort tocounter the negative narrative
and, tied to that, gratitudejournaling can be surprisingly
powerful.
Even when things feel bleak.
Noting down small positives,good friends, a cozy evening,

(06:00):
even just a decent cup of coffee.
It gently shifts your focusaway from just the loss.

Speaker 1 (06:06):
Consciously shifting focus.
I get that and I imagine, asyou start seeing those positives
acknowledging your strengths,it builds a bit of hope, which
probably helps with theloneliness, that feeling of
emptiness.

Speaker 2 (06:16):
Exactly.
And then creating a vision foryour future in the journal,
outlining goals, things you wantto try, the person you want to
become.
That actively rebuildsconfidence and drive.
It redirects your energytowards creating a life you
value on your own terms and youknow when you're doing all this,
navigating these trickythoughts features like those
dashed lines in some journals,like the Lestallians.

(06:36):
They offer just enoughstructure without being rigid,
room for focus but also for justletting the emotions flow.

Speaker 1 (06:42):
Yeah, that balance sounds key, especially when you
feel emotionally all over theplace.
Now to make this reallyconcrete, let's talk about Mia's
story.

Speaker 2 (06:51):
It's fictitious but I found it really captured how
this can play out.
Mia's experience is sorelatable Long-term relationship
over five years ends and she'sjust adrift.
That feeling of your wholeroutine being gone, the
self-doubt kicking in and thatparticular kind of grief that
hits hardest when things arequiet, like at night, Very real.

Speaker 1 (07:12):
Totally and she starts journaling using a
Lestallion notebook as her sortof safe space and initially
those pages were just raw Anger,confusion.
What went wrong?
Missing the shared life, justpouring it all out.

Speaker 2 (07:26):
But then she started using prompts, which acted like
little guideposts, right,helping her explore things more
deliberately.
Questions like what are threelessons I learned from this
relationship that encouragesreflection, or what are five
things I love about myself,directly countering the
self-doubt.
And even something simple likehow can I practice self-care
today that became vital fornurturing herself things started

(07:59):
to shift.

Speaker 1 (07:59):
She began setting new goals, prioritizing self-care,
reconnecting with her friends,remembering her support system.
And there is this element ofself-forgiveness too, starting
to see that breakups, whileawful, are sometimes just part
of life.

Speaker 2 (08:08):
That acceptance piece is huge in healing and for me
the story highlights how theLestallion Journal became more
than just paper.
It was a companion.
She mentioned the soft cover,feeling comforting, using the
back pocket for little keepsakes, not to dwell but to
acknowledge the past and see howfar she'd moved on.

Speaker 1 (08:25):
Yeah, it really evolved, didn't it, from just an
emotional outlet to a guide forhealing, growth and eventually
looking towards new beginnings.
It shows how a journal canbecome this tangible record of
your resilience.

Speaker 2 (08:36):
It really does.
A powerful example of how thatintentional reflection in a
supportive space leads to realgrowth.

Speaker 1 (08:44):
Okay, so for anyone listening maybe going through
this right now, thinking aboutjournaling, how do you actually
do it effectively?
Because that blank page canfeel pretty daunting sometimes.

Speaker 2 (08:54):
That's a fair point.
Structure can help.
A good first step is a simpledaily check-in Just five, ten
minutes.
Write down how you feel today,without judging it Angry, sad,
hopeful, numb, confused,whatever it is.
Just noticing those patterns isthe start of self-awareness.
It's that daily touch point.

Speaker 1 (09:15):
Building that awareness, like taking an
emotional snapshot each day andthen, like with Mia, using
prompts, can really help ifyou're stuck.
Those examples, lessons learned, self-care, appreciating
yourself great starting pointsto dig a bit deeper.

Speaker 2 (09:28):
Definitely.
And another technique that canbe really powerful is writing
letters.
You never sent One to your ex.
Get all the feelings out, thegood, the bad, the ugly, without
any filter or consequence, andthen write one to your future
self.
Offer yourself someencouragement, some hope.
It's surprisingly comfortinglike talking to the version of
you that's already through theworst of it.

Speaker 1 (09:45):
Oh, I like that idea, a message of hope from your
future self.
What about shifting focusoutwards a bit?

Speaker 2 (09:52):
That's where gratitude journaling is
fantastic Even amidst the pain,consciously listing small
positives of friends' kindness,enjoying a song, a moment of
peace.
It gently pulls your focus fromwhat's lost to what you still
have.
It builds resilience andfinally setting new goals and
using affirmations, nailing downwhat you want next career,

(10:14):
hobbies, personal growth andpairing that with positive
statements like I'm worthy oflove or each day I get stronger.
That rebuilds purpose andbelief.
And you know, having thingslike comfortably spaced lines,
like an Alistallion, helps heretoo.
Structure for the focus stuff,but still room to just write
freely when you need to.

Speaker 1 (10:30):
Provide support without being too restrictive.
Okay, we know healing isn'tstraight line Good days, bad
days.
Are there typical emotionalphases people go through and how
does journaling?

Speaker 2 (10:39):
Yet while everyone's path is different, there are
often phases we can recognize.
First up is often shock anddenial.
The reality hasn't fully hit.
You might feel numb, maybedisbelieving.
A journaling tip here isactually just to write down the
facts.
What happened when?
Grounding yourself in thereality, even if it's painful,

(11:00):
is a step towards acceptance.

Speaker 1 (11:01):
Okay, just stating the facts to anchor yourself.
What tends to come after thatinitial shock wears off.

Speaker 2 (11:07):
Often anger and resentment surface.
Anger at the ex, yourself, thesituation.
Your journal is the perfectsafe place for this.
Vent it all out on the page, nojudgment, no fallout.
Writing it down is so muchhealthier than letting it spill
out elsewhere.
Right, it's a private releasevalve.

Speaker 1 (11:21):
Private release valve .
Yeah, that makes sense.
And after the anger starts tocool.

Speaker 2 (11:25):
That's often when grief and loneliness really kick
in.
This can be the toughest phaseDeep sadness, missing them,
grieving the shared life.
It's totally normal.
A helpful journaling practicehere Start a self-care list,
things that offer comfort,however small Cozy, socks, hot
tea, a funny movie list.
It's about actively findingways to nurture yourself through
the sadness.

Speaker 1 (11:44):
Actively taking care of yourself when you feel that
low and then hopefullyeventually we move towards
acceptance and growth.

Speaker 2 (11:51):
This is where a new normal starts to emerge.
You begin to imagine a futureon your own terms, Feel hopeful
again.
Journaling here shifts towardsthose future goals.
We talked about new hobbies,relationship ideals,
self-improvement plans.
The journal becomes more of aroadmap forward and this is
where a feature like a built-intable of contents, like
LaStallion often has, isbrilliant.

(12:12):
You can easily flip back, seeentries from the anger phase,
the grief phase, and seetangible proof of how far you've
come.
It gives real perspective onyour progress.

Speaker 1 (12:22):
Wow, yeah, being able to track that whole emotional
arc visually must be incrediblyvalidating.
So, finally, let's talk aboutthe bigger picture, turning this
pain into actual personalgrowth, because breakups, as
hard as they are, really can bethese major turning points for
self-discovery.
How does journaling help makethat happen?

Speaker 2 (12:39):
It provides that essential space for reflection
that fuels the growth.
Looking back with the clarityjournaling offers lets you spot
unhealthy patterns maybe youcouldn't see before.
It helps you understand yourown needs much better, what you
really want in a partner in yourlife.
Processing emotions privatelymeans you build inner resilience
, You're not solely reliant onothers and as you heal, the

(13:02):
journal becomes a playground forexploring new interests,
rediscovering who you areoutside of that relationship.
It's fundamentally aboutbuilding a deeper, kinder
relationship with yourself.
Documenting the journey bringsclarity, builds resilience and
really fuels your motivation forwhatever comes next.
And honestly, the physicalexperience matters too.
Writing on those smooth, thickpages like the wood-free ivory

(13:25):
ones in a list stallion, itmakes the journal feel like a
trusted companion in thisprocess.

Speaker 1 (13:29):
It really drives home that the end of a relationship
isn't the end of your story.
It's the start of a new chapter, maybe one that's even more you
.

Speaker 2 (13:36):
Precisely, and a journal, especially one that
feels good to use, becomes atangible symbol of that ongoing
story, that journey forward.

Speaker 1 (13:43):
So, as we wrap up this deep dive, it's clear that
getting through a breakup istough, no doubt, but it's also
fertile ground for growth.
And a journal, maybe, a reallynice one, like a listallion.
It's way more than just paperit's a sanctuary, a tool for
clarity, a launchpad for what'snext.

Speaker 2 (14:01):
It gives you that crucial private space, doesn't
it, To process things at yourown speed, set new intentions,
rebuild your confidence piece bypiece and just honor your own
healing journey, whatever thatlooks like.

Speaker 1 (14:13):
Absolutely, those pages hold the past, sure, but
they also hold the future, yourdreams, your strength, your
story is still being written,and a journal is such a powerful
way to help make it a story ofresilience and growth.

Speaker 2 (14:24):
Which leads to a final thought for you listening,
how might consciouslydocumenting your emotional
journey, not just after breakups, but maybe through other big
life changes too, how might thatgive you invaluable insights
for your future growth and maybeeven shape your future
relationships in really profoundways?