Journal For Fostering Relationships - Journaling as Relationships Therapy

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Could the simple act of putting pen to paper transform your most important relationships? We dive deep into the surprising power of journaling as a tool for building stronger, more meaningful connections with partners, family members, and friends.

Amid our hyper-digital lifestyles, there's something almost rebellious about the tangible practice of journaling – creating a physical space dedicated to understanding yourself and the people who matter most. We explore how writing by hand activates different neural pathways than typing, deepening your connection to your thoughts and feelings about relationships.

Through real-life examples like Mark, who transformed a difficult sibling relationship through journaling, we unpack how this practice builds crucial self-awareness. By identifying our patterns, triggers, and emotional responses on paper, we can approach conversations more intentionally and less reactively. This internal process of emotional regulation prepares us for healthier external interactions.

Journaling helps untangle common relationship challenges – communication breakdowns, trust issues, and unresolved feelings. We discuss how dedicated journals become archives of relationship experiences over time, preserving your story together. For couples, shared journaling creates an intentional space for emotional reconnection amid busy lives, allowing you to express appreciation, set goals together, and address misunderstandings thoughtfully before they escalate.

Strong relationships don't just happen – they require intentional effort and thoughtful reflection. Even a few minutes of journaling can make a meaningful difference. Which relationship in your life could benefit from more intentional nurturing through this simple yet profound practice? Start your journaling journey today and watch your connections deepen.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to the Deep Dive.
Today we're zeroing in onsomething really fundamental to
well a happy life, I think,which is the strength of our
relationships.
You know how deep ourconnections go.

Speaker 2 (00:14):
Absolutely essential stuff.

Speaker 1 (00:16):
It really is, and we've been looking at different
ways to nurture theseconnections, and today we're
focusing on journaling.

Speaker 2 (00:22):
Right Journaling, which might seem a bit old
school to some maybe, but it'ssurprisingly powerful.

Speaker 1 (00:28):
Exactly.
We're drawing on someinteresting sources, including
some insights around Lestallianjournals.
Many of you know them.
They specifically designedtheir notebooks with this idea
of well deepening relationshipsin mind.

Speaker 2 (00:41):
Yeah, they've really leaned into that, haven't they
Creating a tool specifically forthis purpose?

Speaker 1 (00:45):
They have.
So our mission today is reallyto explore how the simple act
putting pen to paper, especiallymaybe using a dedicated journal
like one from Lostallion, cangenuinely help you build
stronger, more meaningful bonds.

Speaker 2 (00:57):
And we should probably touch on the common
hurdles too right, the thingspeople struggle with.

Speaker 1 (01:02):
Oh, definitely, things like you know.

Speaker 2 (01:09):
communication breakdowns, trust issues that
creep in, maybe unresolvedfeelings that just hang around.
Yeah, the stuff that createsdistance, and how journaling
might offer a way through someof that.
Exactly.
It's quite compelling, isn't itIn this like super digital age
we live in.

Speaker 1 (01:19):
Right.

Speaker 2 (01:19):
Turning to something so well tangible, so personal,
like a journal, it feels almostcountercultural.

Speaker 1 (01:27):
Yeah, quite rebellion , I like that.

Speaker 2 (01:28):
And what's really interesting is how this you know
internal process just you andthe page can actually lead to
such big improvements in ourexternal relationships.

Speaker 1 (01:37):
It's fascinating, and when we talk about journaling
for relationships, it's reallyabout carving out that space, a
dedicated space, mentally andphysically too, to properly look
at our thoughts, our feelingsabout the people in our lives
and Lestallion, you know, withtheir focus on quality.

Speaker 2 (01:56):
They did that physical part.

Speaker 1 (01:57):
They really do.
Think about it having a journalthat feels good in your hands,
like those ones they do with thereally nice 120 GSM paper.

Speaker 2 (02:05):
Yeah, that thick smooth paper.
Yeah, and the soft cover Right.

Speaker 1 (02:09):
It kind of elevates the whole practice, doesn't it?
It signals, okay, this isimportant time, it becomes your
own private sanctuary forsorting through everything
Gratitude, tricky stuff, all ofit.

Speaker 2 (02:20):
That tangible quality .
It's so important.
Actually, writing by hand, nottyping it uses different parts
of your brain, doesn't it?
It can really deepen theconnection to what you're
thinking and feeling.

Speaker 1 (02:30):
That makes sense.

Speaker 2 (02:31):
And, like well Stallion obviously knows, a
well-made journal encourages youto actually use it regularly.
Consistency is key if you wantto see those long-term benefits
in your relationships.

Speaker 1 (02:41):
Right Sticking with it.

Speaker 2 (02:42):
And that regular journaling.
It's this amazing opportunityfor self-awareness which is like
the foundation for any healthyrelationship.
Really, by reflecting on how weinteract, you know, day to day,
we start seeing our ownpatterns, maybe our triggers, ah
yeah, what sets you off?
Exactly and knowing that letsyou approach things differently
next time, more intentionallyless reactive, which usually

(03:06):
means clearer conversations.

Speaker 1 (03:08):
It really does.
It's like understand your ownstuff first before trying to
navigate someone else's.
I actually saw this happen witha friend, mark.

Speaker 2 (03:16):
Oh yeah.

Speaker 1 (03:17):
Yeah, he used to get so frustrated with his sister
Constant misunderstanding hestarted using a journal it
wasn't a Lestallion back then,just a regular notebook to write
down how he felt after theytalked, trying to figure out why
certain things she said, justlike push his buttons.

Speaker 2 (03:35):
OK, so processing afterwards.

Speaker 1 (03:37):
Exactly.

Speaker 2 (03:37):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (03:38):
And he told me just writing it down helped him see
his own part in it.
Like his defensiveness itwasn't about blaming her, but
understanding his reaction.
That's huge it was, and thatself-awareness let him talk to
her way more calmly, moreunderstandingly and honestly.
It made a massive difference totheir relationship.

Speaker 2 (03:55):
That's a brilliant example of how journaling works
for like emotional regulation.
There's research on this.
Putting feelings into wordshelps manage them.

Speaker 1 (04:03):
Right.

Speaker 2 (04:03):
And journaling gives you that safe space to do it.
You figure out your ownemotional weather before you
step out into the conversationwith your partner or whoever
yeah, emotional weather, I likethat so when you think about
those common friction pointsdifficulty saying what you need,
maybe trust issues from pasthurts, or just you know old

(04:24):
stuff that hasn't been resolvedyour baggage right.
Journaling gives you a way tounpack all that complexity.
Just writing down thefrustrations, the joys too, even
what you hope for in therelationship, it can bring so
much clarity.

Speaker 1 (04:38):
Absolutely.
It's like untangling a knot.

Speaker 2 (04:40):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (04:43):
Laying all the threads out so you can actually
see them, and I think even asimple feature like the lined
pages you find in, say, aLestallion journal, helps with.
That gives you a bit ofstructure, a framework for those
thoughts as they spill out acontainer for it all exactly a
dedicated container and thatcontainer becomes this uh sort
of archive of your relationshipexperiences over time.

Speaker 2 (05:02):
My grandmother actually she kept a journal her
whole marriage oh, wow yeah, itwasn't like specifically about
relationship problems, butreading it after my grandfather
passed it gave us thisincredible picture of their life
together the everyday bits, thechallenges they got through,
the small moments she treasured.

Speaker 1 (05:20):
That's beautiful.

Speaker 2 (05:20):
It became this amazing record of their history.
You know the strength of theirbond.

Speaker 1 (05:26):
That really shows how journaling can help build and
sort of preserve the story of arelationship, and that's so
vital for emotional intimacy,isn't it?
Intimacy needs that openness,that trust, sharing
vulnerabilities.

Speaker 2 (05:40):
Definitely.
But saying those deep thingsout loud it can feel really
risky sometimes.

Speaker 1 (05:45):
For sure.

Speaker 2 (05:45):
So journaling is like a safe first step.
You can get those feelings outhonestly, just for yourself at
first, on the page.

Speaker 1 (05:52):
Yeah, testing the waters with yourself first.

Speaker 2 (05:54):
Precisely, and using relationship prompts can be
really good here.
You know specific questions toget you thinking.

Speaker 1 (06:00):
Like what sort of things?

Speaker 2 (06:01):
Oh, like what's something small my partner did
recently that made me feelreally appreciated, or maybe
where could I listen better inour conversations?

Speaker 1 (06:09):
Ah, okay, focused reflection.

Speaker 2 (06:11):
Exactly.
They're not just surface levelthings.
They push you towardsunderstanding yourself and the
dynamic better, and justreflecting regularly on daily
interactions in your journal, itcan start to show you patterns.

Speaker 1 (06:23):
Good and bad, I guess .

Speaker 2 (06:24):
Both Things you might totally miss.
Otherwise.
You start seeing your owncontribution more clearly the
good stuff you bring, but alsothe areas where maybe you need
to grow a bit.

Speaker 1 (06:35):
And that's where having a journal that feels, you
know, substantial and invitinghelps.
Again, like the Lestallion oneswith that thicker paper.

Speaker 2 (06:43):
Right, no bleed through.

Speaker 1 (06:44):
Yeah, knowing you've got plenty of space.
What is it like?
211 pages and the paper canhandle it.
It encourages you to really digdeep, be more honest.

Speaker 2 (06:55):
You don't feel like you have to hold back?

Speaker 1 (06:56):
Exactly.
I remember going through arough patch with a close friend.
Once I started journaling justabout our interactions, really
trying to see her side and alsomy reactions, and writing it all
out, sometimes pages and pages.
It helped me spot my own blindspots in the friendship.
It gave me the well, the gutsreally to have a properly open
conversation with her.

Speaker 2 (07:16):
And did it help Massively.

Speaker 1 (07:18):
It actually brought us way closer in the end.

Speaker 2 (07:20):
See, identifying your own role.
That's just so crucial, andjournaling is such a good tool
for building that self-awareness.
Okay, so let's think aboutcouples specifically.

Speaker 1 (07:29):
Right.

Speaker 2 (07:30):
Life gets busy, right Work, kids, chores.
Sometimes those reallymeaningful one on one chats just
fall by the wayside.

Speaker 1 (07:39):
Totally happens.
You're just managing logisticshalf the time.

Speaker 2 (07:41):
Exactly so.
A shared relationship journalthat can become this really
intentional space for couples toreconnect, emotionally connect.

Speaker 1 (07:50):
Yeah, I like that idea.
Shared space it's like aprivate forum, isn't it?
Yeah, where you can actuallywrite down your appreciation for
each other.

Speaker 2 (07:56):
Yeah, Express love gratitude.

Speaker 1 (07:58):
Set goals together, maybe reflect on big moments
good or bad that you'venavigated as a team.

Speaker 2 (08:05):
And even deal with those little misunderstandings
thoughtfully in writing beforethey blow up.

Speaker 1 (08:10):
Oh, that's a good point.

Speaker 2 (08:11):
Nipip it in the bud in this idea of partner
journaling, where both peoplewrite in the same journal.
That can be incrediblyenriching how so?
Well, it creates this ongoingwritten conversation, a tangible
record of your journey together.

Speaker 1 (08:26):
You can literally look back and see how you deal
with things before exactly seehow you navigated stuff.

Speaker 2 (08:32):
Witness how your bond has evolved.
It really reinforces that needfor consistent communication,
for expressing emotions to eachother.

Speaker 1 (08:41):
That makes a lot of sense.

Speaker 2 (08:42):
And features in notebooks like listallions.
You know the numbered pages,the table of contents.

Speaker 1 (08:47):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (08:48):
They seem small, but for a couple, using a shared
journal, super practical, makesit easy to organize things, find
old entries, track your growthtogether.

Speaker 1 (08:57):
It just supports the whole process.
Makes it easier to stick with.

Speaker 2 (09:00):
Precisely.

Speaker 1 (09:00):
It really hammers home the point, doesn't it?
Strong relationships don't justhappen, they need work,
intentional effort.

Speaker 2 (09:07):
Thoughtful reflection .

Speaker 1 (09:09):
And a commitment to growing individually and
together.
And, like we've explored today,journaling, especially with a
quality notebook that invitesyou to use it, like those from
Lestallion, can be a seriouslyeffective tool in that ongoing
work.

Speaker 2 (09:22):
So maybe as you go about your day to day, just you
know, think about how addingsome journaling, even just a
little bit, might help you getthose deeper connections you're
looking for.
It doesn't have to be this huge, daunting thing.
A few minutes can make a realdifference.
Unlock some insights.

Speaker 1 (09:37):
Definitely.
And maybe a final thought toleave you with Think about one
relationship in your life you'dlike to nurture more
intentionally right now.
What's just one small thing youcould maybe jot down and
reflect on in a journal today,something that might open the
door even just a crack to moreunderstanding, a deeper
connection.