January 23, 2025 • 20 mins
50 Submissive Journal Prompts
Discover the transformative potential of submission through journaling in our latest episode. Unpack the intriguing "50 Submissive Journal Prompts" from Listallium, which guide you towards profound self-introspection. What if embracing vulnerability could be the key to enhanced communication and healthier relationships? Join us as we explore the nuances of conscious surrender, asserting your needs, and how setting intentions can lead to personal growth and fulfillment. We promise that by the end of this episode, you'll have the tools to redefine boundaries, prevent burnout, and nurture more meaningful connections.
Embark on a journey of reflection and self-care, where submission becomes a stepping stone for development rather than a roadblock. We delve into the vital role of boundaries in building trust and reframing self-care as a strategic act that empowers you to support others better. Through thought-provoking insights, we reveal how unexpected revelations can challenge personal assumptions and ignite inner growth. This episode empowers you to use journaling as a compass for aligning your actions with your values, inviting you to harness these insights to craft a life that is both authentic and deeply satisfying. Let these reflections be your guide to a more fulfilling journey.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
All right, so are you ready to dive into some pretty
unexpected territory with metoday?
Speaker 2 (00:05):
Always up for an adventure, lay it on me.
Speaker 1 (00:07):
Okay, cool.
So today we're looking at thisblog post.
It's called 50 SubmissiveJournal Prompts and it's from a
website called Listallium.
Speaker 2 (00:16):
Interesting.
I'm intrigued already.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
Right, I know the title might sound a little niche
, maybe even a bit intimidating,but trust me, these props, they
go way deeper than you mightthink.
We're talking aboutvulnerability, communication,
like even setting boundaries.
Speaker 2 (00:32):
it's deep stuff yeah, I've got to say the concept of
submission as a framework forself-discovery.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
That's pretty fascinating right, and you know,
from what I've seen, listAllian seems to be all about
journaling, like as a tool forself-reflection and personal
growth, and these prompts,they're just like they're using
this unique lens of submissionto get those wheels turning, you
know.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
Yeah, totally, and I think what's really cool is that
it's less about any specificlifestyle or anything and way
more about creating space forsome serious introspection.
Speaker 1 (01:01):
Totally so.
The blog post.
It breaks these prompts downinto five categories.
We've got exploringvulnerability, strengthening
communication, oh, and there'scelebrating your role,
navigating challenges andsetting intentions, and growth.
Ten prompts for each, and someof them well, let's just say
they really made me stop andthink.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
I bet it's really interesting how they've managed
to take this you know seeminglyniche concept and use it to
explore these like reallyuniversal human experiences,
right.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
It's pretty clever Like.
Take this one, for example.
This is from the exploringvulnerability section.
Reflect on what vulnerabilitymeans to you within the context
of submission.
How does it strengthen yourrelationships?
Speaker 2 (01:43):
Whoa.
Speaker 1 (01:44):
Yeah, that's a powerful one.
It really challenges you torethink vulnerability right Like
we often associate it withweakness, but this prompt flips
that script completely.
Speaker 2 (01:52):
Totally.
It's like how can openingyourself up, even when you're
not in control, actually lead tostronger connections?
Because that's something thatapplies to any relationship
right, whether it's with apartner or friend or even just
with yourself.
Absolutely, it's aboutrecognizing that true intimacy
in any form requires thatcourage to be seen, flaws and
all.
And what's really cool here isthat Lestallion really stresses
(02:14):
this idea of emotional safety.
They're not talking about blindobedience or anything like that
.
Speaker 1 (02:20):
Oh, thank goodness.
So we're not talking aboutbeing a doormat, got it?
Speaker 2 (02:22):
Exactly.
It's more about this idea offinding empowerment through,
like a conscious surrender, avery different concept.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
Okay, I'm starting to see the nuance here, but I'm
still kind of curious about howthis submission angle plays out.
You know, practically in theprompts.
Can you give me another example?
Speaker 2 (02:38):
Sure, let's look at one from the strengthening
communication section.
It asks write about a time whenyou found it difficult to
communicate your feelings.
What could have made it easier?
Pretty straightforward, right.
We've all been there.
Speaker 1 (02:51):
Yeah, totally Bottling things up, avoiding
tough conversations, the wholedeal.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
Exactly.
But when you look at it throughthis lens of submission, clear
communication, it becomes evenmore crucial, you know, because
you're not just expressing yourneeds, you're actively shaping
the dynamic, setting boundaries,advocating for yourself.
Speaker 1 (03:10):
It's like whoa it's a masterclass in assertive
communication disguised as ajournal.
Prompt, sneaky but brilliant.
Speaker 2 (03:18):
Right.
It's like they're using thisunexpected angle to teach you
these really valuable lifeskills, skills that you can
apply anywhere.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
Okay, I'm officially intrigued, but before we get too
deep into the positive stuff,let's talk about the navigating
challenges section.
This is where things get realright.
Speaker 2 (03:35):
Oh, absolutely this category.
It's all about dealing withthose inevitable bumps in the
road, and this one prompt well,it really got me thinking.
Reflect on the importance ofbalancing.
Yeah, that's huge.
Speaker 1 (03:51):
It's so easy to get caught up in taking care of
everyone else family, friends,work that we completely forget
about ourselves.
Speaker 2 (03:57):
Right, it's classic burnout territory, but what I
find fascinating here is howLestallion connects us back to
the concept of submission.
What I find fascinating here ishow Lestallion connects us back
to the concept of submission.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
They make this really compelling argument that by
truly understanding your ownneeds and setting those healthy
boundaries, you're actuallybetter equipped to serve others
in the long run.
Hmm, so it's not aboutself-sacrifice.
It's almost like strategicself-preservation, so you can
show up as your best self nomatter what role you're playing.
And show up as your best selfno matter what role you're
playing.
Speaker 2 (04:22):
Exactly.
It's like they say you can'tpour from an empty cup, and this
prompt it forces you to stopand think about how you refill
your cup, even when life getscrazy.
Speaker 1 (04:32):
Okay, I'm seeing how this all connects.
Now, last but not least, wehave setting intentions and
growth.
These prompts they seem to beabout like looking ahead and
consciously creating the future.
You want Very powerful stuff.
Speaker 2 (04:43):
Yeah, and there's this one that really grabbed my
attention.
Write about a new skill orpractice you'd like to explore.
How will it enhance yourdynamic?
Now, on the surface, you mightthink this has nothing to do
with submission.
Speaker 1 (04:56):
Yeah, I can see that, but if you dig a little deeper,
Right.
Speaker 2 (04:58):
When you push yourself to grow, you're
essentially choosing to submitto the process of learning, of
expanding your horizons.
Speaker 1 (05:06):
Whoa, that's deep.
It's like saying, OK, I'mwilling to be a student in this
area of my life so I can becomea more well-rounded person.
And that's a mindset thatapplies to literally everything
Relationships, career goals,personal development, you name
it.
Speaker 2 (05:21):
Exactly.
It's about taking ownership ofyour growth and recognizing that
, even in situations where youmight not feel totally in
control, you still have thepower to choose how you respond
and how you evolve.
Speaker 1 (05:32):
Wow, okay, we've covered a lot of ground here and
I'm really starting to see whythese prompts are so much more
than just a niche exercise.
You know, they're like theselittle windows into these really
big questions about how werelate to ourselves and to the
world around us.
Speaker 2 (05:45):
It's so true and, honestly, we've only scratched
the surface.
There's like a whole universeof wisdom packed into these 50
prompts.
I'm already itching to grab myjournal and start exploring some
of these ideas myself.
Speaker 1 (05:56):
Me too.
But before we get too carriedaway, let's take a moment to
just like absorb everythingwe've talked about so far.
When we come back, we'll diveeven deeper and see what other
gems we can unearth from thistotally unexpected source.
All right, so we're back andready for more of these journal
prompts.
You know, I'm really startingto see these prompts in a whole
new light.
Speaker 2 (06:17):
Yeah, it's amazing how much depth they managed to
pack into a seemingly simpleformat.
Speaker 1 (06:22):
It really is Okay.
So this one from the ExploringVulnerability section really
jumped out at me.
It says write about yourbiggest fear in submission.
How can you work towardovercoming it with trust and
courage Like whoa?
We are getting deep here.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
Right, we're talking about some serious psychological
territory.
Now it's tapping into somethingso fundamental to the human
experience confronting fear.
But what I love is how thisprompt it reframes fear, not as
something to avoid, but as thispotential catalyst for growth.
Speaker 1 (06:50):
Yeah, like, OK, you're scared, Now what are you
going to do about it?
And it ties that right intobuilding trust and courage.
I mean those are essentialingredients for any healthy
relationship, romantic,professional, even just the
relationship you have withyourself.
Speaker 2 (07:04):
Absolutely, and I think what's really insightful
here is how Lestallionemphasizes the importance of
self-awareness in this wholeprocess.
They talk about, likeidentifying your triggers,
understanding your limits andcommunicating them clearly.
It's not about suppressing yourfear.
It's about developing healthyways to cope and building
resilience.
Speaker 1 (07:24):
So it's not just about journaling your feelings,
it's about using that journalingto actually create positive
change in your life, right?
Speaker 2 (07:30):
Exactly.
It's about moving fromself-reflection to self-action.
And speaking of action, there'sthis great prompt in the
strengthening communicationsection that I wanted to touch
on.
It says reflect on how you canuse journaling to clarify your
thoughts before having adifficult conversation.
This is a technique thattherapists and communication
experts use all the time.
Speaker 1 (07:50):
Oh yeah, I've heard of this.
It's like a mental rehearsalright when you write out what
you want to say, kind ofanticipate how the other person
might respond, and basicallywork through the whole scenario
on paper before you actuallyhave the conversation.
Speaker 2 (08:03):
Exactly, and what makes it so helpful is that it
gives you that space to processyour emotions, get clear on your
intentions before you'reactually in the heat of the
moment.
It's like having a script, butnot in a manipulative way, more
like to ensure you'recommunicating authentically from
a place of clarity.
Speaker 1 (08:21):
That makes so much sense, and I love how they
connect this back to the idea ofsubmission.
It's like even when you're notthe one in the dominant role,
you can still have agency andinfluence the dynamic through
communication that is clear andthoughtful.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
Exactly Recognizing that power dynamics exist in
every relationship andcommunication.
Well, it's the key tonavigating them effectively.
Speaker 1 (08:41):
Okay, let's shift gears a little bit and talk
about gratitude.
There's this prompt in thecelebrating your role section
that asks how do you expressgratitude and appreciation for
your partner's role?
How does it strengthen yourconnection?
Seems pretty straightforward,but I think there's a lot more
to unpack here.
Speaker 2 (08:59):
Oh for sure.
On the surface, it's aboutexpressing appreciation, which
we know is important in anyrelationship.
But when you look at it throughthe lens of submission, it
takes on a whole new meaning.
It becomes about recognizingand acknowledging the value that
the other person brings to thedynamic.
Speaker 1 (09:15):
So it's about seeing their strengths, their
contributions, even the thingsthat might challenge you, and
choosing to appreciate thosethings.
Speaker 2 (09:22):
Exactly.
It's a powerful shift inperspective.
It moves you from this place ofexpectation or entitlement to a
place of genuine appreciationand respect.
Speaker 1 (09:30):
And that in turn strengthens the bond between you
.
Speaker 2 (09:32):
Precisely.
It fosters the sense of mutualappreciation and interdependence
which is so essential for ahealthy relationship.
Speaker 1 (09:39):
Okay, time to get real for a second and talk about
boundaries.
We all know how important theyare, but actually setting them
and sticking to them, well, thatcan be tough.
Speaker 2 (09:48):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (09:48):
And there's this prompt in the navigating
challenges section thataddresses this head-on Write
about a boundary that was tested.
How did you reaffirm yourlimits and maintain trust?
Speaker 2 (09:58):
This one is gold.
It really encourages you totake a look at your own
experiences with boundarysetting, Like did you
communicate your boundariesclearly?
Did you stand your ground?
Was there compromise involved?
Speaker 1 (10:09):
It's like a post-game analysis for your boundaries.
Speaker 2 (10:12):
Totally, and what I find really interesting is how
Listallion connects this totrust.
They argue that settingboundaries it's actually a way
of building trust, because itshows the other person that
you're reliable and consistent.
Speaker 1 (10:24):
It's like saying these are my limits.
You can trust me to hold them.
Speaker 2 (10:26):
Exactly and that consistency.
Well, it creates this sense ofsafety and predictability in the
relationship, which is crucialfor intimacy to grow.
Speaker 1 (10:35):
OK, before we move on to that last category, I want
to circle back to something wetalked about earlier Self-care.
This is a theme that keepspopping up, but it's really
explicitly addressed in thenavigating challenges section,
right.
Speaker 2 (10:47):
For sure, and this one prompt just sums it up so
perfectly.
Reflect on the importance ofbalancing self-care and service.
How do you nurture yourself inyour role?
Speaker 1 (10:58):
Okay, let's break this down a little.
How does this whole idea ofbalancing self-care and service
connect back to this biggertheme of submission?
Speaker 2 (11:04):
That's a great question.
I think what Lestallion isgetting at is that true
submission, like the healthykind.
It's not about neglectingyourself.
It's about recognizing that youknow you can't pour from an
empty cup.
You have to prioritize your ownwell-being so you can truly
show up for the other person.
Speaker 1 (11:22):
Yeah, it's like saying taking care of myself
isn't selfish, it's strategic.
Speaker 2 (11:26):
Exactly, and I think that's such a powerful message,
especially in a context wheresubmission might be, I don't
know, associated withself-sacrifice.
It's about recognizing you haveneeds too and meeting those
needs well.
It actually makes you betterequipped to serve others.
It's not about martyrdom.
It's about being a mindful andresponsible participant in the
dynamic.
Speaker 1 (11:46):
I love that and you know this whole conversation
about self-care.
It reminds me of something elseLestallion emphasizes
throughout the blog post.
Speaker 2 (11:53):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (11:53):
The importance of communication.
It's like the foundation foreverything.
Speaker 2 (11:57):
Right.
They keep coming back to itagain and again, and it's not
just about communicating yourown needs.
It's about actively listeningto the other person, being open
to feedback.
Speaker 1 (12:06):
So it's about creating this dialogue, this
back and forth, where everyonefeels heard and respected, and
that's a really beautiful way toapproach any relationship,
right, romantic, platonic,professional.
Speaker 2 (12:17):
Absolutely.
It's like recognizing thatevery relationship is this dance
, this delicate balance of giveand take, and communication is
the music that guides the steps.
I love that metaphor.
Speaker 1 (12:27):
Okay, I'm with you, but let's move on to that final
category setting intentions andgrowth.
This is where things get reallyinteresting, because it's about
using what you've learned toactually create the future that
you want.
Speaker 2 (12:40):
Yeah, these prompts are all about conscious creation
, like using the power ofintention to shape your reality,
and this one really cut my eyeReflect on how submission
inspires you to pursue personalgrowth and self-improvement.
Now, that might sound a littlecounterintuitive at first.
Speaker 1 (12:58):
I was just thinking that how does submission lead to
growth?
It seems like a contradiction.
Speaker 2 (13:03):
Right, but if you think about it, anytime you
consciously step into a role,even one that seems
unconventional, you're openingyourself up to these new
experiences, new perspectives.
Speaker 1 (13:13):
It's like saying I'm willing to surrender to this
process, to learn from it andlet it transform me.
Speaker 2 (13:17):
Exactly, and that willingness to surrender, to let
go of control and embrace theunknown, it can be incredibly
empowering.
Speaker 1 (13:24):
So it's about recognizing that true growth
often happens outside of ourcomfort zones.
Speaker 2 (13:28):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (13:29):
And that sometimes those are the greatest lessons.
Speaker 2 (13:31):
And sometimes, yeah, the greatest lessons come from
the experiences we mightinitially resist.
Speaker 1 (13:37):
Okay, I see how it all ties together, but how can
someone actually use theseprompts to like create positive
change in their life?
Speaker 2 (13:45):
That's the million-dollar question, right,
and I think the key isapproaching them with a spirit
of curiosity and self-compassion.
Don't be afraid to really digdeep, to challenge those
assumptions and explore maybesome uncomfortable truths that
might be lurking beneath thesurface.
Speaker 1 (14:01):
It's about using journaling as a tool for
self-discovery, notself-judgment.
Speaker 2 (14:05):
Exactly, and there's no right or wrong way to do this
.
It's your personal journey andthose insights you gain.
They'll be unique to you.
Speaker 1 (14:12):
OK, I love that.
It's about embracing theindividuality of the process.
Speaker 2 (14:16):
And it's about trusting that the answers you
seek, they're already within you, just waiting to be discovered.
Speaker 1 (14:21):
All right, I am feeling inspired, but before we
wrap things up, I want tomention one more prompt that
really resonated with me.
It's from Setting Intentionsand Growth and it asks reflect
on how journaling helps you stayaligned with your intentions
and values.
As a submissive, Now this one.
Speaker 2 (14:41):
It might seem a little specific, but I think
there's a universal messagethere.
Totally.
It's about using journaling asa tool for accountability, for
checking in with yourself andasking am I living in alignment
with my values?
Am I making choices thatsupport my goals?
Speaker 1 (14:53):
It's like having a personal compass that guides you
back to True North rightWhenever you start to.
Speaker 2 (14:56):
True.
Speaker 1 (14:56):
North, right, right, whenever you start to stray off
course.
Speaker 2 (14:58):
Exactly, and that's something we can all benefit
from, regardless of our roles orrelationships.
Speaker 1 (15:02):
Okay, I think we've officially come full circle here
.
We started this deep dive alittle skeptical, but I'm
walking away with a newappreciation for these prompts
and for the unexpected wisdomthey offer.
Speaker 2 (15:14):
Me too.
It's incredible how much we canlearn from the most unexpected
sources.
It's a good reminder to staycurious, to challenge our
assumptions and just be open tonew perspectives.
Speaker 1 (15:25):
I couldn't agree more , and that's a message I can
definitely get behind.
So to our listeners, Iencourage you to embrace the
unexpected, challenge yourassumptions and never stop
exploring that inner world ofyours.
You never know what you mightfind.
Speaker 2 (15:38):
And remember, the most valuable knowledge is the
knowledge we put into practice.
So take these insights, thesereflections and use them to
create a life that is authentic,meaningful and fulfilling.
Speaker 1 (15:49):
That's a perfect note to end on.
Thanks for joining us and untilnext time, keep exploring, keep
growing and keep diving deep.
Speaker 2 (15:57):
All right.
So we're back and I think it'stime to wrap up this deep dive
into these submissive journalprompts.
And you know what, when wefirst started talking about this
, I'll be honest, I was a littleskeptical, but I got to say I
am blown away by how much depthand wisdom we found here.
Speaker 1 (16:12):
Yeah, it's really remarkable.
It's like a testament to thepower of journaling.
Even prompts designed for avery specific niche can spark
some really universal insightsfor sure.
Okay, so let's jump back inwith a prompt that really got me
thinking.
It's from the Celebrating yourRole section and it says reflect
on how submission has helpedyou grow as a person.
What lessons have you learned?
(16:33):
Now, this might seem a littlecounterintuitive, but I think
it's such a brilliant way toreframe this whole concept of
submission.
Speaker 2 (16:40):
It really does challenge that typical
assumption, right?
That submission is passive ordisempowering.
Instead, it asks you to thinkabout how consciously and
deliberately choosing tosurrender can actually lead to
personal growth.
Speaker 1 (16:53):
It's like saying, okay, I'm not in control here.
Lead to personal growth.
It's like saying, ok, I'm notin control here, but what can I
learn from this?
How can I use this to becomestronger, wiser, more resilient?
Speaker 2 (17:02):
Exactly, and what I find really interesting is that
Lestallion connects this tohumility.
They say that by letting go ofcontrol, you actually open
yourself up to new perspectives,new experiences that you might
have missed otherwise.
Speaker 1 (17:14):
It's like acknowledging that you don't
have all the answers, andsometimes the greatest lessons
come from letting go of the egoand embracing the unknown.
Speaker 2 (17:23):
So true, and that's a powerful lesson, no matter
where you apply it in life,relationships, work, personal
growth, you name it.
Speaker 1 (17:30):
Totally Okay.
Here's another one that caughtmy eye.
It's from the NavigatingChallenges section.
It's a good one.
It says reflect on a time whenyour expectations didn't align
with reality.
How did you find understandingin that moment?
We've all been there, right oh?
Speaker 2 (17:45):
absolutely.
Life rarely goes exactlyaccording to plan and those
moments of like dissonance, theycan be really tough to deal
with.
Speaker 1 (17:53):
Especially when you're someone who likes to be
in control.
I know I've struggled with thatin the past.
Speaker 2 (17:57):
Yeah, that's a really common struggle and this prompt
it encourages you to approachthose moments of disappointment
not with judgment but withcuriosity.
Speaker 1 (18:06):
So it's about asking what can I learn from this?
How can I use this experienceto become more adaptable, more
resilient?
Speaker 2 (18:17):
Exactly to become more accepting of the things
that you just can't control, andyou know Lestallion has this
really interesting perspectiveon this.
They say that by surrenderingto the present moment, even when
it's not what you expected, youopen yourself up to new
possibilities, new solutionsthat you might not have seen
before.
Speaker 1 (18:33):
Oh, it's like when one door closes, another one
opens solutions that you mightnot have seen before.
Speaker 2 (18:36):
Oh, it's like when one door closes, another one
opens.
Yeah, exactly, but we often getso focused on that closed door
that we miss the open one that'sright there in front of us.
Speaker 1 (18:43):
Okay, one last prompt before we wrap things up.
This one is from SettingIntentions and Growth, and it's
a bit of a head-scratcher.
It says reflect on howjournaling helps you stay
aligned with your intentions andvalues as a submissive.
Speaker 2 (18:56):
This prompt.
I think it really highlightsthe power of journaling as a
tool for self-awareness andaccountability.
It's about using the writtenword to clarify your values, set
your intentions, track yourprogress.
Speaker 1 (19:07):
Like having a personal coach in your back
pocket.
Speaker 2 (19:09):
Right, and what I find interesting is how
Lestallion connects this back tosurrender.
They argue that by surrenderingto that process of journaling,
by being really honest andvulnerable on the page, you gain
a much deeper understanding ofyourself and your motivations.
Speaker 1 (19:24):
So it's about using journaling to strip away all the
masks, all the pretenses, andreally get to the core of who
you are.
Speaker 2 (19:31):
Exactly.
And that level ofself-awareness?
Well, it's essential for livinga life that is truly aligned
with your values and intentions.
Speaker 1 (19:37):
All right.
So I think we've come fullcircle here.
We started this deep dive a bitskeptical, but honestly I'm
walking away with this whole newappreciation for these prompts
and for the unexpected wisdomthey offer.
Speaker 2 (19:50):
Yeah, it's been quite a journey, and I think it's
such a beautiful reminder thatgrowth can happen anywhere,
anytime, as long as we're opento it.
Speaker 1 (19:58):
I love that and that's definitely a message I
can get behind.
So, to our listeners, Iencourage you, embrace the
unexpected, challenge yourassumptions and don't ever stop
exploring that amazing innerworld of yours.
You just never know what gemsyou might find.
Speaker 2 (20:11):
And don't forget, the most valuable knowledge is the
knowledge that we actually putinto practice.
So take these insights, thesereflections and use them to
create a life that is trulyauthentic, meaningful and
fulfilling.
Speaker 1 (20:23):
That's a perfect way to end our deep dive.
Thanks for joining us and untilnext time, keep exploring, keep
growing and keep diving deep.
All right, so are you ready to dive into some pretty
unexpected territory with metoday?
Speaker 2 (00:05):
Always up for an adventure, lay it on me.
Speaker 1 (00:07):
Okay, cool.
So today we're looking at thisblog post.
It's called 50 SubmissiveJournal Prompts and it's from a
website called Listallium.
Speaker 2 (00:16):
Interesting.
I'm intrigued already.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
Right, I know the title might sound a little niche
, maybe even a bit intimidating,but trust me, these props, they
go way deeper than you mightthink.
We're talking aboutvulnerability, communication,
like even setting boundaries.
Speaker 2 (00:32):
it's deep stuff yeah, I've got to say the concept of
submission as a framework forself-discovery.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
That's pretty fascinating right, and you know,
from what I've seen, listAllian seems to be all about
journaling, like as a tool forself-reflection and personal
growth, and these prompts,they're just like they're using
this unique lens of submissionto get those wheels turning, you
know.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
Yeah, totally, and I think what's really cool is that
it's less about any specificlifestyle or anything and way
more about creating space forsome serious introspection.
Speaker 1 (01:01):
Totally so.
The blog post.
It breaks these prompts downinto five categories.
We've got exploringvulnerability, strengthening
communication, oh, and there'scelebrating your role,
navigating challenges andsetting intentions, and growth.
Ten prompts for each, and someof them well, let's just say
they really made me stop andthink.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
I bet it's really interesting how they've managed
to take this you know seeminglyniche concept and use it to
explore these like reallyuniversal human experiences,
right.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
It's pretty clever Like.
Take this one, for example.
This is from the exploringvulnerability section.
Reflect on what vulnerabilitymeans to you within the context
of submission.
How does it strengthen yourrelationships?
Speaker 2 (01:43):
Whoa.
Speaker 1 (01:44):
Yeah, that's a powerful one.
It really challenges you torethink vulnerability right Like
we often associate it withweakness, but this prompt flips
that script completely.
Speaker 2 (01:52):
Totally.
It's like how can openingyourself up, even when you're
not in control, actually lead tostronger connections?
Because that's something thatapplies to any relationship
right, whether it's with apartner or friend or even just
with yourself.
Absolutely, it's aboutrecognizing that true intimacy
in any form requires thatcourage to be seen, flaws and
all.
And what's really cool here isthat Lestallion really stresses
(02:14):
this idea of emotional safety.
They're not talking about blindobedience or anything like that
.
Speaker 1 (02:20):
Oh, thank goodness.
So we're not talking aboutbeing a doormat, got it?
Speaker 2 (02:22):
Exactly.
It's more about this idea offinding empowerment through,
like a conscious surrender, avery different concept.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
Okay, I'm starting to see the nuance here, but I'm
still kind of curious about howthis submission angle plays out.
You know, practically in theprompts.
Can you give me another example?
Speaker 2 (02:38):
Sure, let's look at one from the strengthening
communication section.
It asks write about a time whenyou found it difficult to
communicate your feelings.
What could have made it easier?
Pretty straightforward, right.
We've all been there.
Speaker 1 (02:51):
Yeah, totally Bottling things up, avoiding
tough conversations, the wholedeal.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
Exactly.
But when you look at it throughthis lens of submission, clear
communication, it becomes evenmore crucial, you know, because
you're not just expressing yourneeds, you're actively shaping
the dynamic, setting boundaries,advocating for yourself.
Speaker 1 (03:10):
It's like whoa it's a masterclass in assertive
communication disguised as ajournal.
Prompt, sneaky but brilliant.
Speaker 2 (03:18):
Right.
It's like they're using thisunexpected angle to teach you
these really valuable lifeskills, skills that you can
apply anywhere.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
Okay, I'm officially intrigued, but before we get too
deep into the positive stuff,let's talk about the navigating
challenges section.
This is where things get realright.
Speaker 2 (03:35):
Oh, absolutely this category.
It's all about dealing withthose inevitable bumps in the
road, and this one prompt well,it really got me thinking.
Reflect on the importance ofbalancing.
Yeah, that's huge.
Speaker 1 (03:51):
It's so easy to get caught up in taking care of
everyone else family, friends,work that we completely forget
about ourselves.
Speaker 2 (03:57):
Right, it's classic burnout territory, but what I
find fascinating here is howLestallion connects us back to
the concept of submission.
What I find fascinating here ishow Lestallion connects us back
to the concept of submission.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
They make this really compelling argument that by
truly understanding your ownneeds and setting those healthy
boundaries, you're actuallybetter equipped to serve others
in the long run.
Hmm, so it's not aboutself-sacrifice.
It's almost like strategicself-preservation, so you can
show up as your best self nomatter what role you're playing.
And show up as your best selfno matter what role you're
playing.
Speaker 2 (04:22):
Exactly.
It's like they say you can'tpour from an empty cup, and this
prompt it forces you to stopand think about how you refill
your cup, even when life getscrazy.
Speaker 1 (04:32):
Okay, I'm seeing how this all connects.
Now, last but not least, wehave setting intentions and
growth.
These prompts they seem to beabout like looking ahead and
consciously creating the future.
You want Very powerful stuff.
Speaker 2 (04:43):
Yeah, and there's this one that really grabbed my
attention.
Write about a new skill orpractice you'd like to explore.
How will it enhance yourdynamic?
Now, on the surface, you mightthink this has nothing to do
with submission.
Speaker 1 (04:56):
Yeah, I can see that, but if you dig a little deeper,
Right.
Speaker 2 (04:58):
When you push yourself to grow, you're
essentially choosing to submitto the process of learning, of
expanding your horizons.
Speaker 1 (05:06):
Whoa, that's deep.
It's like saying, OK, I'mwilling to be a student in this
area of my life so I can becomea more well-rounded person.
And that's a mindset thatapplies to literally everything
Relationships, career goals,personal development, you name
it.
Speaker 2 (05:21):
Exactly.
It's about taking ownership ofyour growth and recognizing that
, even in situations where youmight not feel totally in
control, you still have thepower to choose how you respond
and how you evolve.
Speaker 1 (05:32):
Wow, okay, we've covered a lot of ground here and
I'm really starting to see whythese prompts are so much more
than just a niche exercise.
You know, they're like theselittle windows into these really
big questions about how werelate to ourselves and to the
world around us.
Speaker 2 (05:45):
It's so true and, honestly, we've only scratched
the surface.
There's like a whole universeof wisdom packed into these 50
prompts.
I'm already itching to grab myjournal and start exploring some
of these ideas myself.
Speaker 1 (05:56):
Me too.
But before we get too carriedaway, let's take a moment to
just like absorb everythingwe've talked about so far.
When we come back, we'll diveeven deeper and see what other
gems we can unearth from thistotally unexpected source.
All right, so we're back andready for more of these journal
prompts.
You know, I'm really startingto see these prompts in a whole
new light.
Speaker 2 (06:17):
Yeah, it's amazing how much depth they managed to
pack into a seemingly simpleformat.
Speaker 1 (06:22):
It really is Okay.
So this one from the ExploringVulnerability section really
jumped out at me.
It says write about yourbiggest fear in submission.
How can you work towardovercoming it with trust and
courage Like whoa?
We are getting deep here.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
Right, we're talking about some serious psychological
territory.
Now it's tapping into somethingso fundamental to the human
experience confronting fear.
But what I love is how thisprompt it reframes fear, not as
something to avoid, but as thispotential catalyst for growth.
Speaker 1 (06:50):
Yeah, like, OK, you're scared, Now what are you
going to do about it?
And it ties that right intobuilding trust and courage.
I mean those are essentialingredients for any healthy
relationship, romantic,professional, even just the
relationship you have withyourself.
Speaker 2 (07:04):
Absolutely, and I think what's really insightful
here is how Lestallionemphasizes the importance of
self-awareness in this wholeprocess.
They talk about, likeidentifying your triggers,
understanding your limits andcommunicating them clearly.
It's not about suppressing yourfear.
It's about developing healthyways to cope and building
resilience.
Speaker 1 (07:24):
So it's not just about journaling your feelings,
it's about using that journalingto actually create positive
change in your life, right?
Speaker 2 (07:30):
Exactly.
It's about moving fromself-reflection to self-action.
And speaking of action, there'sthis great prompt in the
strengthening communicationsection that I wanted to touch
on.
It says reflect on how you canuse journaling to clarify your
thoughts before having adifficult conversation.
This is a technique thattherapists and communication
experts use all the time.
Speaker 1 (07:50):
Oh yeah, I've heard of this.
It's like a mental rehearsalright when you write out what
you want to say, kind ofanticipate how the other person
might respond, and basicallywork through the whole scenario
on paper before you actuallyhave the conversation.
Speaker 2 (08:03):
Exactly, and what makes it so helpful is that it
gives you that space to processyour emotions, get clear on your
intentions before you'reactually in the heat of the
moment.
It's like having a script, butnot in a manipulative way, more
like to ensure you'recommunicating authentically from
a place of clarity.
Speaker 1 (08:21):
That makes so much sense, and I love how they
connect this back to the idea ofsubmission.
It's like even when you're notthe one in the dominant role,
you can still have agency andinfluence the dynamic through
communication that is clear andthoughtful.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
Exactly Recognizing that power dynamics exist in
every relationship andcommunication.
Well, it's the key tonavigating them effectively.
Speaker 1 (08:41):
Okay, let's shift gears a little bit and talk
about gratitude.
There's this prompt in thecelebrating your role section
that asks how do you expressgratitude and appreciation for
your partner's role?
How does it strengthen yourconnection?
Seems pretty straightforward,but I think there's a lot more
to unpack here.
Speaker 2 (08:59):
Oh for sure.
On the surface, it's aboutexpressing appreciation, which
we know is important in anyrelationship.
But when you look at it throughthe lens of submission, it
takes on a whole new meaning.
It becomes about recognizingand acknowledging the value that
the other person brings to thedynamic.
Speaker 1 (09:15):
So it's about seeing their strengths, their
contributions, even the thingsthat might challenge you, and
choosing to appreciate thosethings.
Speaker 2 (09:22):
Exactly.
It's a powerful shift inperspective.
It moves you from this place ofexpectation or entitlement to a
place of genuine appreciationand respect.
Speaker 1 (09:30):
And that in turn strengthens the bond between you
.
Speaker 2 (09:32):
Precisely.
It fosters the sense of mutualappreciation and interdependence
which is so essential for ahealthy relationship.
Speaker 1 (09:39):
Okay, time to get real for a second and talk about
boundaries.
We all know how important theyare, but actually setting them
and sticking to them, well, thatcan be tough.
Speaker 2 (09:48):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (09:48):
And there's this prompt in the navigating
challenges section thataddresses this head-on Write
about a boundary that was tested.
How did you reaffirm yourlimits and maintain trust?
Speaker 2 (09:58):
This one is gold.
It really encourages you totake a look at your own
experiences with boundarysetting, Like did you
communicate your boundariesclearly?
Did you stand your ground?
Was there compromise involved?
Speaker 1 (10:09):
It's like a post-game analysis for your boundaries.
Speaker 2 (10:12):
Totally, and what I find really interesting is how
Listallion connects this totrust.
They argue that settingboundaries it's actually a way
of building trust, because itshows the other person that
you're reliable and consistent.
Speaker 1 (10:24):
It's like saying these are my limits.
You can trust me to hold them.
Speaker 2 (10:26):
Exactly and that consistency.
Well, it creates this sense ofsafety and predictability in the
relationship, which is crucialfor intimacy to grow.
Speaker 1 (10:35):
OK, before we move on to that last category, I want
to circle back to something wetalked about earlier Self-care.
This is a theme that keepspopping up, but it's really
explicitly addressed in thenavigating challenges section,
right.
Speaker 2 (10:47):
For sure, and this one prompt just sums it up so
perfectly.
Reflect on the importance ofbalancing self-care and service.
How do you nurture yourself inyour role?
Speaker 1 (10:58):
Okay, let's break this down a little.
How does this whole idea ofbalancing self-care and service
connect back to this biggertheme of submission?
Speaker 2 (11:04):
That's a great question.
I think what Lestallion isgetting at is that true
submission, like the healthykind.
It's not about neglectingyourself.
It's about recognizing that youknow you can't pour from an
empty cup.
You have to prioritize your ownwell-being so you can truly
show up for the other person.
Speaker 1 (11:22):
Yeah, it's like saying taking care of myself
isn't selfish, it's strategic.
Speaker 2 (11:26):
Exactly, and I think that's such a powerful message,
especially in a context wheresubmission might be, I don't
know, associated withself-sacrifice.
It's about recognizing you haveneeds too and meeting those
needs well.
It actually makes you betterequipped to serve others.
It's not about martyrdom.
It's about being a mindful andresponsible participant in the
dynamic.
Speaker 1 (11:46):
I love that and you know this whole conversation
about self-care.
It reminds me of something elseLestallion emphasizes
throughout the blog post.
Speaker 2 (11:53):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (11:53):
The importance of communication.
It's like the foundation foreverything.
Speaker 2 (11:57):
Right.
They keep coming back to itagain and again, and it's not
just about communicating yourown needs.
It's about actively listeningto the other person, being open
to feedback.
Speaker 1 (12:06):
So it's about creating this dialogue, this
back and forth, where everyonefeels heard and respected, and
that's a really beautiful way toapproach any relationship,
right, romantic, platonic,professional.
Speaker 2 (12:17):
Absolutely.
It's like recognizing thatevery relationship is this dance
, this delicate balance of giveand take, and communication is
the music that guides the steps.
I love that metaphor.
Speaker 1 (12:27):
Okay, I'm with you, but let's move on to that final
category setting intentions andgrowth.
This is where things get reallyinteresting, because it's about
using what you've learned toactually create the future that
you want.
Speaker 2 (12:40):
Yeah, these prompts are all about conscious creation
, like using the power ofintention to shape your reality,
and this one really cut my eyeReflect on how submission
inspires you to pursue personalgrowth and self-improvement.
Now, that might sound a littlecounterintuitive at first.
Speaker 1 (12:58):
I was just thinking that how does submission lead to
growth?
It seems like a contradiction.
Speaker 2 (13:03):
Right, but if you think about it, anytime you
consciously step into a role,even one that seems
unconventional, you're openingyourself up to these new
experiences, new perspectives.
Speaker 1 (13:13):
It's like saying I'm willing to surrender to this
process, to learn from it andlet it transform me.
Speaker 2 (13:17):
Exactly, and that willingness to surrender, to let
go of control and embrace theunknown, it can be incredibly
empowering.
Speaker 1 (13:24):
So it's about recognizing that true growth
often happens outside of ourcomfort zones.
Speaker 2 (13:28):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (13:29):
And that sometimes those are the greatest lessons.
Speaker 2 (13:31):
And sometimes, yeah, the greatest lessons come from
the experiences we mightinitially resist.
Speaker 1 (13:37):
Okay, I see how it all ties together, but how can
someone actually use theseprompts to like create positive
change in their life?
Speaker 2 (13:45):
That's the million-dollar question, right,
and I think the key isapproaching them with a spirit
of curiosity and self-compassion.
Don't be afraid to really digdeep, to challenge those
assumptions and explore maybesome uncomfortable truths that
might be lurking beneath thesurface.
Speaker 1 (14:01):
It's about using journaling as a tool for
self-discovery, notself-judgment.
Speaker 2 (14:05):
Exactly, and there's no right or wrong way to do this
.
It's your personal journey andthose insights you gain.
They'll be unique to you.
Speaker 1 (14:12):
OK, I love that.
It's about embracing theindividuality of the process.
Speaker 2 (14:16):
And it's about trusting that the answers you
seek, they're already within you, just waiting to be discovered.
Speaker 1 (14:21):
All right, I am feeling inspired, but before we
wrap things up, I want tomention one more prompt that
really resonated with me.
It's from Setting Intentionsand Growth and it asks reflect
on how journaling helps you stayaligned with your intentions
and values.
As a submissive, Now this one.
Speaker 2 (14:41):
It might seem a little specific, but I think
there's a universal messagethere.
Totally.
It's about using journaling asa tool for accountability, for
checking in with yourself andasking am I living in alignment
with my values?
Am I making choices thatsupport my goals?
Speaker 1 (14:53):
It's like having a personal compass that guides you
back to True North rightWhenever you start to.
Speaker 2 (14:56):
True.
Speaker 1 (14:56):
North, right, right, whenever you start to stray off
course.
Speaker 2 (14:58):
Exactly, and that's something we can all benefit
from, regardless of our roles orrelationships.
Speaker 1 (15:02):
Okay, I think we've officially come full circle here
.
We started this deep dive alittle skeptical, but I'm
walking away with a newappreciation for these prompts
and for the unexpected wisdomthey offer.
Speaker 2 (15:14):
Me too.
It's incredible how much we canlearn from the most unexpected
sources.
It's a good reminder to staycurious, to challenge our
assumptions and just be open tonew perspectives.
Speaker 1 (15:25):
I couldn't agree more , and that's a message I can
definitely get behind.
So to our listeners, Iencourage you to embrace the
unexpected, challenge yourassumptions and never stop
exploring that inner world ofyours.
You never know what you mightfind.
Speaker 2 (15:38):
And remember, the most valuable knowledge is the
knowledge we put into practice.
So take these insights, thesereflections and use them to
create a life that is authentic,meaningful and fulfilling.
Speaker 1 (15:49):
That's a perfect note to end on.
Thanks for joining us and untilnext time, keep exploring, keep
growing and keep diving deep.
Speaker 2 (15:57):
All right.
So we're back and I think it'stime to wrap up this deep dive
into these submissive journalprompts.
And you know what, when wefirst started talking about this
, I'll be honest, I was a littleskeptical, but I got to say I
am blown away by how much depthand wisdom we found here.
Speaker 1 (16:12):
Yeah, it's really remarkable.
It's like a testament to thepower of journaling.
Even prompts designed for avery specific niche can spark
some really universal insightsfor sure.
Okay, so let's jump back inwith a prompt that really got me
thinking.
It's from the Celebrating yourRole section and it says reflect
on how submission has helpedyou grow as a person.
What lessons have you learned?
(16:33):
Now, this might seem a littlecounterintuitive, but I think
it's such a brilliant way toreframe this whole concept of
submission.
Speaker 2 (16:40):
It really does challenge that typical
assumption, right?
That submission is passive ordisempowering.
Instead, it asks you to thinkabout how consciously and
deliberately choosing tosurrender can actually lead to
personal growth.
Speaker 1 (16:53):
It's like saying, okay, I'm not in control here.
Lead to personal growth.
It's like saying, ok, I'm notin control here, but what can I
learn from this?
How can I use this to becomestronger, wiser, more resilient?
Speaker 2 (17:02):
Exactly, and what I find really interesting is that
Lestallion connects this tohumility.
They say that by letting go ofcontrol, you actually open
yourself up to new perspectives,new experiences that you might
have missed otherwise.
Speaker 1 (17:14):
It's like acknowledging that you don't
have all the answers, andsometimes the greatest lessons
come from letting go of the egoand embracing the unknown.
Speaker 2 (17:23):
So true, and that's a powerful lesson, no matter
where you apply it in life,relationships, work, personal
growth, you name it.
Speaker 1 (17:30):
Totally Okay.
Here's another one that caughtmy eye.
It's from the NavigatingChallenges section.
It's a good one.
It says reflect on a time whenyour expectations didn't align
with reality.
How did you find understandingin that moment?
We've all been there, right oh?
Speaker 2 (17:45):
absolutely.
Life rarely goes exactlyaccording to plan and those
moments of like dissonance, theycan be really tough to deal
with.
Speaker 1 (17:53):
Especially when you're someone who likes to be
in control.
I know I've struggled with thatin the past.
Speaker 2 (17:57):
Yeah, that's a really common struggle and this prompt
it encourages you to approachthose moments of disappointment
not with judgment but withcuriosity.
Speaker 1 (18:06):
So it's about asking what can I learn from this?
How can I use this experienceto become more adaptable, more
resilient?
Speaker 2 (18:17):
Exactly to become more accepting of the things
that you just can't control, andyou know Lestallion has this
really interesting perspectiveon this.
They say that by surrenderingto the present moment, even when
it's not what you expected, youopen yourself up to new
possibilities, new solutionsthat you might not have seen
before.
Speaker 1 (18:33):
Oh, it's like when one door closes, another one
opens solutions that you mightnot have seen before.
Speaker 2 (18:36):
Oh, it's like when one door closes, another one
opens.
Yeah, exactly, but we often getso focused on that closed door
that we miss the open one that'sright there in front of us.
Speaker 1 (18:43):
Okay, one last prompt before we wrap things up.
This one is from SettingIntentions and Growth, and it's
a bit of a head-scratcher.
It says reflect on howjournaling helps you stay
aligned with your intentions andvalues as a submissive.
Speaker 2 (18:56):
This prompt.
I think it really highlightsthe power of journaling as a
tool for self-awareness andaccountability.
It's about using the writtenword to clarify your values, set
your intentions, track yourprogress.
Speaker 1 (19:07):
Like having a personal coach in your back
pocket.
Speaker 2 (19:09):
Right, and what I find interesting is how
Lestallion connects this back tosurrender.
They argue that by surrenderingto that process of journaling,
by being really honest andvulnerable on the page, you gain
a much deeper understanding ofyourself and your motivations.
Speaker 1 (19:24):
So it's about using journaling to strip away all the
masks, all the pretenses, andreally get to the core of who
you are.
Speaker 2 (19:31):
Exactly.
And that level ofself-awareness?
Well, it's essential for livinga life that is truly aligned
with your values and intentions.
Speaker 1 (19:37):
All right.
So I think we've come fullcircle here.
We started this deep dive a bitskeptical, but honestly I'm
walking away with this whole newappreciation for these prompts
and for the unexpected wisdomthey offer.
Speaker 2 (19:50):
Yeah, it's been quite a journey, and I think it's
such a beautiful reminder thatgrowth can happen anywhere,
anytime, as long as we're opento it.
Speaker 1 (19:58):
I love that and that's definitely a message I
can get behind.
So, to our listeners, Iencourage you, embrace the
unexpected, challenge yourassumptions and don't ever stop
exploring that amazing innerworld of yours.
You just never know what gemsyou might find.
Speaker 2 (20:11):
And don't forget, the most valuable knowledge is the
knowledge that we actually putinto practice.
So take these insights, thesereflections and use them to
create a life that is trulyauthentic, meaningful and
fulfilling.
Speaker 1 (20:23):
That's a perfect way to end our deep dive.
Thanks for joining us and untilnext time, keep exploring, keep
growing and keep diving deep.
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