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Speaker 1 (00:00):
All right, everyone
ready to dive deep?
Today we're tackling somethingthat could be well kind of tough
for a lot of us Self-love.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
Yeah, and we're not
just talking about bubble baths
and face masks here.
We're going deep.
Speaker 1 (00:10):
Exactly.
We're dissecting 50 self-lovejournaling prompts from Clara
Penrose.
You can find her work onlistallioncom.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
Now you might be
thinking journaling that's a bit
fluffy, isn't it?
Thinking journaling, that's abit fluffy, isn't it?
Well, think again.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
Seriously, I'm a
psychologist and I use
journaling with my clients allthe time.
Speaker 2 (00:30):
Really, what for?
Oh, tons of stuff.
It helps process emotions, getthose thoughts untangled and
even handle stress better.
And you know what else is supercool about these prompts.
Speaker 1 (00:38):
What's that?
Speaker 2 (00:38):
They're not just
random.
Claire has organized them intothese awesome categories like
embracing your uniqueness,cultivating self-compassion,
even healing from past hurts.
Speaker 1 (00:48):
It's like a roadmap
for your emotions.
Speaker 2 (00:49):
Exactly so.
No more wandering aimlessly inthe land of self-improvement.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
Love that.
Ok, so let's start with thatfirst category embracing your
uniqueness.
I got to be honest, sometimesthat whole concept feels a bit
eye-rolly to me.
Speaker 2 (01:03):
I get it.
Speaker 1 (01:04):
But then I saw this
prompt If you could only
celebrate one quality aboutyourself for a whole day, what
would it be that one got methinking?
Speaker 2 (01:14):
Right, it forces you
to really narrow it down.
Speaker 1 (01:16):
Yeah, no more vague.
Oh, I'm pretty good at this.
It's like this this is what Irock at.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
It's like a
supercharged self-affirmation.
Speaker 1 (01:24):
Totally, you know.
It reminds me of when I used tocompare my writing to like
famous authors all the time.
Speaker 2 (01:30):
Oof been there.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
It was paralyzing,
yeah, but then a journaling
prompt kind of like this onemade me realize, wait a minute,
I'm actually pretty darn good atwriting dialogue.
There you go.
It was a game changer.
Suddenly, it wasn't about beingthe next Hemingway, it was
about honing my own strength.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
And that's the beauty
of it.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
It shifts us from
these big, often unhelpful
comparisons to a focusedappreciation of what we're good
at.
It makes those cheesyaffirmations actually seem kind
of useful.
All right, let's move on tocultivating self-compassion.
Honestly, this is a tough onefor me.
Yeah, it's a practice.
This prompt how do you showyourself kindness on tough days?
Get me right where it hurts.
Some days, kindness is justhiding under the covers with a
bag of chips.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
And you know what,
sometimes that I-S kindness.
But the important thing here isawareness.
The prompt isn't saying don'teat chips under the covers.
It's saying hey, notice whatyou're doing.
Speaker 1 (02:26):
So are we actually
taking care of ourselves or just
numbing the pain?
Speaker 2 (02:29):
Exactly.
It's a nudge toward being kindto ourselves on purpose.
Maybe journaling is yourversion of chips and blankets,
but done mindfully.
Speaker 1 (02:38):
Okay, I'm kind of
liking this reframing of my
snack attacks.
But what about those nastynegative thoughts that just
won't quit?
I know?
Speaker 2 (02:50):
logically.
Some are ridiculous, but theystill pop up.
Oh, I hear you and Clara's gota prompt for that, Identifying
your most frequent negativethought.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
Feels like we're
poking a hornet's nest.
Speaker 2 (02:55):
It can feel that way,
but it's like exposure therapy,
you know.
You face those fears little bylittle and they lose their power
.
Writing those thoughts downit's not agreeing with them,
it's observing them, and that'senough to help.
Studies actually show that,just putting it into words can
loosen its grip on you.
Speaker 1 (03:11):
So it's not about
suddenly becoming a positivity
guru.
It's about taking tiny stepsaway from that negativity.
Okay, I'm feeling a littlebraver now to face whatever's
next.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
Before we do that,
let's take a breath.
I want you listening to thinkabout something for a moment.
Speaker 1 (03:27):
All right, everyone
take a deep breath.
Speaker 2 (03:30):
Which of these first
two categories speaks to you
most right now?
Is it about owning yourstrengths or maybe being a
better friend to yourself onthose tough days?
Really sit with that for aminute.
Speaker 1 (03:42):
Yeah, let it sink in,
and when you're ready, we'll be
back to explore even more ofClaire's awesome prompts.
Speaker 2 (03:47):
Okay, ready to hit
the self-love gym again?
This next set of prompts is allabout embracing your body.
Speaker 1 (03:53):
Ooh, that one always
makes me think of that saying
your body is not a temple, it'sa vehicle.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
Love that analogy.
Way less pressure than strivingfor perfection.
Speaker 1 (04:01):
Right, but sometimes
my vehicle feels more like a
beat-up old.
Speaker 2 (04:08):
That's where these
prompts can really help, Instead
of focusing on how we look.
Clara asks this what's onething your body allows you to do
that you take for granted?
Huh?
Speaker 1 (04:20):
Sneaky but smart Like
, instead of worrying about my
non-existent abs, I could begrateful for, say, my strong
legs that let me go hiking withmy dog.
Speaker 2 (04:29):
Exactly, it's like a
gratitude practice, but
specifically for your body andwhat it can do.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
And gratitude is
definitely a good thing, right.
Speaker 2 (04:36):
Oh, absolutely.
It's like an instant antidoteto those negative body image
thoughts.
It's hard to stay stuck in thatnegativity when you're actively
appreciating what your bodydoes for you.
Speaker 1 (04:47):
Okay, I'm starting to
see how powerful these prompts
can be.
But what about those reallydeep-rooted body image issues
those feel tougher to tacklewith just a few journal entries.
Speaker 2 (04:57):
They can be tough,
for sure, but journaling can be
a great starting point, even forthose Like.
Check out this prompt Describeyour body in purely factual
terms, without any judgment.
Speaker 1 (05:06):
Sounds almost like
clinical, doesn't it?
Speaker 2 (05:09):
It does, but there is
a reason for that.
It's about taking the emotionout of it.
Speaker 1 (05:12):
Instead of my thighs
are huge, it's my thighs are
strong, and help me walk and run.
Speaker 2 (05:16):
Exactly.
You're stripping away thenegativity and just seeing the
reality, and that shift inperspective is key.
Speaker 1 (05:23):
So it's like rewiring
our brains to see our bodies
differently.
Speaker 2 (05:26):
You got it.
It's actually a foundation ofcognitive behavioral therapy or
CBT.
You repeatedly focus on factsand you can actually retrain
your brain to see your body in amore neutral way, less
emotionally charged.
Speaker 1 (05:41):
Okay, that's
impressive.
Speaker 2 (05:42):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (05:43):
So we've embraced our
uniqueness.
We're working onself-compassion.
Now we're heading into somepotentially heavy stuff.
Healing from past hurts.
Speaker 2 (05:52):
Yeah, this is where
things can get a bit more
sensitive.
Speaker 1 (05:55):
I'm already feeling a
little nervous.
Speaker 2 (05:56):
It's understandable,
but often the most profound
growth comes from facing thosetough emotions.
Speaker 1 (06:02):
I guess that makes
sense.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
And Clara's prompts
in this section are designed to
help you do just that, withcompassion, not judgment.
Speaker 1 (06:09):
Okay, that makes me
feel a little better, because
sometimes those old wounds feelso raw it's like just thinking
about them is going to reopenthe scars.
Speaker 2 (06:17):
I hear you.
Speaker 1 (06:18):
But then I see this
prompt Write a letter to your
younger self offering advice andsupport based on what you know.
Now that feels less aboutwallowing and more about wisdom.
Speaker 2 (06:29):
Exactly.
It's about turning thoseexperiences into something
positive, something that canhelp heal that younger version
of yourself, and often, in doingso, you're healing a part of
yourself that still carriesthose hurts.
Speaker 1 (06:43):
Whoa, I never thought
of it that way.
Speaker 2 (06:44):
It's powerful stuff.
It's like you can't change thepast, but you can use your
current wisdom to offer comfortand perspective to that younger
you who went through it.
Speaker 1 (06:53):
It's like reframing
the pain into something positive
.
Speaker 2 (06:55):
Beautifully put, and
that's the heart of this whole
category.
It's not about erasing the past, but about transforming how we
relate to it, acknowledging thehurt but also recognizing our
resilience.
Speaker 1 (07:06):
Okay, I'm feeling a
little more ready to face this
section now, but there's anotherprompt here that's got me
stumped.
What is one forgiveness you'vebeen withholding from yourself,
and why?
Oof, that's going to take someserious soul searching.
Speaker 2 (07:18):
It will, and that's
the point.
We're often much harder onourselves than we'd ever be on
anyone else.
This prompt forces you toconfront that inner critic, to
look at those grudges you'vebeen holding onto and consider
letting go.
Speaker 1 (07:31):
That's where the real
healing happens, isn't it?
Speaker 2 (07:34):
Exactly Not by
pretending the hurt didn't
happen, but by choosing toforgive ourselves.
Speaker 1 (07:40):
You know, as we're
talking about all this heavy
stuff, I'm realizing we haven'treally laughed yet in this deep
dive.
Maybe it's a sign we need tomove on to the last section,
celebrating who you are today.
Time for some lightness and joy, Rae.
Speaker 2 (07:53):
Absolutely.
After all that emotionalweightlifting, a little
celebration is definitely inorder, and this last set of
prompts from Clara is perfectfor that.
Speaker 1 (08:00):
All right, bring on
the confetti.
What's got you excited in thisfinal section?
Speaker 2 (08:04):
Well, before we jump
into specifics, let's pause for
a second.
I want you to think about thiswhat's one thing you've
accomplished, big or small, thatmakes you feel proud?
No need to share, just let thatfeeling sink in.
Speaker 1 (08:17):
Everyone.
Take a moment.
Soak that in no-transcript.
All right, we've made it thegrand finale of our self-love
journaling.
Deep dive, celebrating who youare today Kind of feels like
we've earned a party after allthat emotional heavy lifting,
right Del.
Speaker 2 (08:35):
Totally agree.
But before we break out theparty hats, let's see what Clara
has in store for us in thislast set of prompts.
I swear this woman knows how tosneak in some serious wisdom
even when we're supposed to becelebrating.
Speaker 1 (08:47):
No kidding, all right
, hit me with some of that
wisdom.
What's got you so intrigued?
Speaker 2 (08:51):
Well, this prompt
really stood out to me.
What are three things, nomatter how small, that brought
you joy this week.
It's like a classic gratitudeexercise, but with a twist.
Speaker 1 (09:01):
I love a good twist.
What's the twist?
Speaker 2 (09:02):
By focusing on the
small things, it helps you
notice all the good happeningaround you, even when things are
crazy.
Speaker 1 (09:08):
Oh, I'm all about
celebrating those tiny joys.
It's so easy to get bogged downby stress and forget to
appreciate those little momentsthat make you happy, like this
morning.
I found a perfectly ripeavocado at the store, honestly
made my day, and that's exactlyit.
Cultivating that gratitude foreveryday wins can seriously
boost your happiness.
Speaker 2 (09:21):
It's like a happiness
booster shot, available
whenever you need it.
Cultivating that gratitude foreveryday wins can seriously
boost your happiness.
It's like a happiness boostershot, available whenever you
need it.
Speaker 1 (09:31):
Sign me up for that.
Okay, what other goodies do wehave in this final set of tromps
?
Speaker 2 (09:35):
This one's a little
more introspective, but still
celebratory.
What is one thing you'velearned about yourself this year
that you're proud of?
It's all about recognizinggrowth, even if it seems small.
Speaker 1 (09:45):
I love that it's so
easy to fall into that trap of
not enough you know.
Speaker 2 (09:50):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (09:51):
Focusing on what we
haven't done yet, but pausing to
appreciate those personal wins,those little bits of progress.
That's powerful.
Speaker 2 (09:58):
It really is.
It's about shifting thenarrative from what's wrong with
me to what's awesome about me.
And you never know, those smalldiscoveries can lead to bigger
breakthroughs later on.
Speaker 1 (10:09):
You know, thinking
back on everything we've talked
about today, we've covered a lot, from embracing our quirks to
facing our fears, body image,gratitude, the whole shebang.
It's like we took a crashcourse in Self-Love 101.
Speaker 2 (10:20):
We did.
And that's the thing aboutself-love, isn't it?
It's not a finish line youcross.
It's this ongoing journey, ajourney of exploring, growing
and definitely celebrating alongthe way.
Speaker 1 (10:31):
And these 50 prompts
from Clara.
They're like those little trailmarkers on the path guiding us
toward really understanding andaccepting ourselves.
Speaker 2 (10:40):
Love that analogy.
They're tools to help usnavigate those tricky emotional
spots, celebrate those wins andbuild a better relationship with
ourselves, a more loving andcompassionate one.
Speaker 1 (10:48):
So, as we wrap up
this deep dive, I want to leave
our listeners with this what'sone tiny act of self-love you
can do today, right now,inspired by everything we've
talked about.
Speaker 2 (10:58):
It could be anything
A five-minute meditation, a walk
outside, a delicious meal youreally savor, even just a nice
compliment to yourself in themirror.
What feels good to your soul?
Speaker 1 (11:13):
Choose that and go,
do it.
And don't forget self-loveisn't selfish, it's essential.
It's the foundation foreverything else Our
relationships, our work, evenjust our overall well-being.
Speaker 2 (11:19):
So keep exploring,
keep journaling, keep
celebrating and keep diving deep.
Speaker 1 (11:23):
Thank you all so much
for joining us on this
self-love adventure.
Until next time, take care ofyourselves and keep those
journals handy.