A Sneaky Way To Get More Of What You Want

Have you ever felt stuck waiting for others to make the first move in your relationships? The "Give What You Want to Get" principle might be the missing piece in your pursuit of deeper connections, greater opportunities, and more fulfilling interactions.

This powerful yet often overlooked concept transforms how we approach everything from friendships to career advancement. Rather than sitting in our corner hoping others will show up for us, check in on us, or recognize our value, we can initiate these exact behaviors and create a ripple effect. One coaching client discovered this when complaining about difficulty making friends - she hadn't considered that she wasn't doing for others what she hoped they would do for her.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to Let it Be Easy with Susie Moore.
I'd like to share with youtoday a principle that is really
powerful.
It's often overlooked.
I think that so many of ussuffer because we overlook this

(00:20):
and we wait when we couldinstead be taking action and
feeling good and feeling full ofjoy as a result.
Here's what it is, my friends.
It's the give what you want toget principle.
Now I write about this in thebook Let it Be Easy, and if
you'd like the Let it Be Easypodcast, you might just love
having Let it Be Easy book onyour nightstand, because they're

(00:40):
all just short one pagechapters flip to any page.
You don't have to read the bookin a linear way, and I do break
this down a little more in thebook.
So if you don't already have acopy, grab yourself one and one
for a friend, why not?
But think about it.
The give what you want to getprinciple.
In the book I tell a story abouta woman who I coached, who kept

(01:01):
saying you know it's reallyhard to make friends.
She was saying that you knowthe people that she meets.
They don't really make planswith her, they don't check in on
her, and even if she said thatyou know she's got something
important or big coming up andthe first thing I asked her was
are you doing that?
Are you showing up for otherpeople in the way you'd love

(01:21):
them to show up for you?
Are you making plans with them?
If you know they have a big orimportant day, are you checking
in to wish them luck?
If you know they're going tothe doctor, are you asking them?
You know how did it go.
Hope they're okay.
Can you help in any way?
It's really easy to sit in ourcorner waiting for things to
happen right, hoping that otherpeople show up for us, hoping

(01:43):
that we get love, hoping that weget opportunities, hoping that
we get X, y, z.
Are you giving what you want toget?
I think to myself.
If I want my husband to be moreaffectionate, I'll be more
affectionate.
If I want my friends to open upto me about their struggles, I
will open up about my struggles.
What is it that you want to get?

(02:07):
If you want other people toknow about you and talk about
you positively?
Are you sharing the work ofothers and talking about them
positively?
This is sometimes called thedivine law of compensation.
Right, we give and we receive.
It's actually the same exchangeGiving energy is receiving

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energy.
It's like this dynamic law ofnature.
Deepak Chopra writes about thisin the seven spiritual laws of
success.
If you'd love someone to shoutout your work on social media,
are you shouting out otherpeople's work on social media?
If there's anything I knowpeople's work on social media.
If there's anything I know,it's this People love to help.
People love to help.

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People love to give.
But we have to start the chainright.
The momentum kicks off with us.
We are the first domino.
Maybe it feels like oh, but Ialready do it.
Oh, but I already did that, domore, do it again.
When is there a point wherewe're like, okay, that was
generous enough, we've given toomuch.
Now, well, no, because we feeldepleted and because we feel

(03:09):
resentful and in some cases look, that actually is the reality
we do give too much.
But I'm guessing, if there'smore that you want to receive,
there's more that we could allnaturally dial up a bit.
Think about it even this way.
There's more that we could allnaturally dial up a bit.
Think about it even this way.
If you want the world to be kindto you and cheerful around you,
be the first person to smile,be the first person to ask a

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question.
I have this automaticallytrained in my body now.
If I even just see a strangerin the street or in the elevator
, my immediate response is tosmile.
And what do you think a smileis met with?
I don't wait for someone tosmile.
I don't go well.
I smiled enough yesterday orI've smiled enough in my life.
It's just my instinct.
I'll just smile, no matter howI'm feeling.

(03:52):
Often, but not always.
But often it's met with a smileright as within.
So, without the world respondsto us in kind.
Are you giving what you want toget today?
And, if you even think about it, what would you love to receive

(04:13):
today?
Why not give it?
Why not make a game of this?
Why not let it be easy and funUntil tomorrow?

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