The Problem With Nostalgia...

Nostalgia has a sneaky way of convincing us that our past was somehow more magical, more meaningful, and more carefree than our present. But this rose-colored remembrance is playing tricks on your happiness and stealing joy from today.

During this heartfelt exploration of memory's selective filtering, I share personal stories about how nostalgia has occasionally clouded my own perspective.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to Let it Be Easy with Susie Moore.
Do you ever feel nostalgic byfriends Looking back at old
photos, seeing memories on yourphone or even just remembering
parts of your life maybe it wasyour first love or your college

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days or a vacation or a coolwork experience and, as a result
, you can't help but think whenyou look back at your life that
maybe they were the good olddays or the good old times or
that season was amazing comparedto the season you're in now,
and that nostalgia clouds howyou feel about your life today

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in the worst way possible.
I've got to tell you this.
When I met up with a couple ofcolleagues this was years ago
people I used to work with oneof the guys said oh yeah,
remember that they were the goodold days and I remember
thinking everyone was reallystressed out at that time.
I'm pretty sure that's notquite true.
We didn't think they were thegood old days while we were in

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them.
Or maybe someone sends you aphoto.
In fact, my mother-in-law sentme a photo of when we first
moved to New York in 2009.
And there's a picture of me onmy Ikea sofa in my like H&M
t-shirt, and I remember firstmoving to New York.
Living in America was always mydream, and I had this really

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strong ping of nostalgia like,oh, that time I was 25, it was
winter, I was getting to knowthe coolest city in the whole
world.
This nostalgia arose within meand I wanted to let you know
today why.
Nostalgia is tricky and it's abit of a liar.
When we look back on anysituation in our life with

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hindsight, we remember the goodparts.
We remember the perks, thehappiness, the love, the glamour
, the opportunity, the sense ofpossibility, and we're looking
at it now with a lens of thingsprobably worked out, am I right?
Right, you're looking at itfrom a different lens.
Now You're looking back,knowing you're alive, you're

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healthy, maybe you have moremoney now, maybe you married
that person.
Whatever it is At the time,though, if you were to rewind
and teleport yourself back there, put yourself back there.
You had anxiety in that period,just like you do now.
Nostalgia removes that.
We see it from the benefit ofus today, and we forget all the

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worries that we had, all thethings that used to scare us.
For example, when I first movedto New York, I had no job, no
friends, no connections, nocollege degree and I had to find
a job.
Right, my husband wasn'tearning enough for both of us.
So I remember just beingwrought with anxiety every
single day, pounding thepavement in my high heels in the
blizzard many blizzards, may Isay, in New York in the winter,

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freaking out.
Is this going to work out?
Am I going to be okay?
Will I find something?
My friends, don't let nostalgiafool you into thinking the old
days or the good old days wereany better than today.
I assure you, at some point inthe future you will be looking
at this season in your life witha similar sense of oh, remember

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that.
Remember when A friend of minejoked too.
She, she's like I love lookingat old photos of um, of my
daughter, like, oh my god, lookat her.
And I was like, don't youremember she was keeping you
awake.
You were worried about this,you were worried about that.
The reason nostalgia to me isdangerous isn't because there's
anything inherently bad about it, but it discounts where we are

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today.
We think that another period inour life was sweeter, was
better, was more calm, was moresoothing, was more beautiful,
and it robs us of the reality ofhow safe we are now and of how
good things are now.
Instead, can we enjoy andmaximize and focus on everything

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that is good in the presentmoment and allow our past
anxieties and fears to inform usthat perhaps we are safer and
more secure and more blessed andallowed to experience more
peace than we currently believetoday.
Until tomorrow, my friends, somuch love and ease.

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