There's No Award In Heaven For That...

Have you ever felt guilty about taking the easy route, as if there's some hidden virtue in making life harder for yourself? That's exactly what I explore in this candid, perspective-shifting episode.

The revelation came during a FaceTime call with my friend Elizabeth. Feeling sheepish about my hair extensions, I made a self-deprecating comment. Her response? "Susie, there's no award in heaven for just living with your natural hair." This simple statement unlocked a profound truth that extends far beyond hairstyling choices.

We've been conditioned to believe that suffering unnecessarily somehow makes us more worthy or virtuous. We pride ourselves on never asking for help, being instantly available, hiding our needs, tolerating bad jobs, and shrinking ourselves to keep peace. But here's the liberating truth: there's no cosmic scorekeeper tallying your suffering. No medal awaits those who denied themselves comfort, support, or authenticity.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to Let it Be Easy with Susie Moore.
Okay, how good is the name oftoday's podcast episode?
There's no one.
I can't even say it.
I love it so much.
There's no award in heaven forthat.

(00:22):
Oh, there's no award in heavenfor that.
Oh, there's no award in heavenfor that.
I got this from my gorgeousfriend, elizabeth when I think
we were FaceTiming, and she hasthis gorgeous, thick natural
hair, something I've alwaysenvied in people when I've seen
it.
And I have my friend hairextensions that I've had for

(00:43):
years.
I also love them, but look, Ipay for them.
It's not my hair, and I thinkthat part of me always feels
slightly sheepish about it.
Like, oh, you know, I have hairextensions.
I have, you know, anotherwoman's hair on my head.
I have to invest this time andmoney every few weeks to my
extensions.
And so she messaged me oh, thisis what happened.

(01:06):
I sent her a photo and she waslike, oh, your hair looks great.
And I was like, yeah, wink,wink, all mine, as you know.
And she said, susie, there's noaward in heaven for just living
with your natural hair.
It made me laugh and I thoughtyou know what?
This is a bigger point.

(01:27):
This isn't just about hairextensions.
This can apply to many things,things that perhaps we suffer
through, things that we take asense of virtue out of, from not
doing things that we go.
Oh, let me just struggle, youknow, struggle through this, or
let me just push through thatalone, thinking that there is

(01:49):
some type of medal or trophy oraward.
There isn't, and I was thinkingabout this.
You know, what else is there noaward in heaven for?
And a few things came to mind.
There's no award, my friend,for never asking for help.
There is no spiritualachievement through going it

(02:13):
alone when other people can andwant to help you.
There's no award in heaven forresponding to texts or emails.
The fastest right there isn't.
You don't have to just beavailable when other people want
you or are asking you something.
There's no award for being themost low-maintenance friend.

(02:34):
You know, I often joke in mycommunities.
There's, you know, on yourgravestone.
One day you're not going to sayyou know, here lies Mary, here
lies, you know, samantha, shenever bothered anyone.
No, you are not a better orsuperior person for pretending
to not have needs.
There's no award in heaven forstaying in a job you hate,

(02:57):
because you just should begrateful that you have a job
okay.
Gratitude is not animprisonment in anything.
There's no award for shrinkingfor others, for tolerating bad
behavior to keep the peace, forbeing the most chill person, for
surviving no, can you allowsome help in think about it?

(03:21):
There's no award in heaven forall of these things I think we
deny ourselves for sorry, denyourselves from thinking there's
a benefit from.
There's a benefit somehow forus, but there is an award, a
life on earth that feels really,really good when we show up as

(03:43):
we are, with our needs, doingwhat pleases us, so long as
we're not hurting other peopleintentionally.
When you stop trying to win anaward that you are never going
to receive, you get to live yourlife fully and completely and
with abandon.
Can you take a breath, can youlay it down, can you put your

(04:05):
phone away, can you book a trip,can you get those hair
extensions if you're anythinglike me with very fine hair Can
you let someone else in, can yousplurge, can you enjoy the
things.
My friends, this is your life.
This is your life Untiltomorrow.
So much love and ease.

(04:27):
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(04:48):
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