It's Not You, It's Me

It's Not You, It's Me

Lots of people go through the motions of life. They follow the herd because they don’t know what else to do. It’s Not You, It’s Me is a weekly podcast that helps you to get in the driver’s seat of life by highlighting problems and solutions to live a meaningful, authentic, conscious life. Discover practical tips, actionable strategies, and valuable insights that will expand your relationship to yourself, others, and All-That-Is. The show airs every Monday morning at 10:00 am EDT. Host Laura Giles is a trauma therapist, shadow work coach, and retreat facilitator who has practiced spiritual and holistic arts for over twenty years. She believes that "He who saves one life saves the world entire" and that that effort is best spent healing yourself. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Episodes

August 8, 2025 26 mins

What Drives a Man to Trade His Soul for Power?


In this compelling conversation, Laura Giles takes a deep dive into the rise and unraveling of Jordan Belfort, the infamous anti-hero of The Wolf of Wall Street. What turns a clean-cut dreamer into a chaotic king of excess? Giles unpacks the hidden forces—early childhood experiences, the intoxicating pull of money, and the invisible grip of social circles—that shaped his descent. Al...

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Step into the world of The Godfather and uncover the psychological depths of Vito and Michael Corleone. This conversation invites you to explore how power, trauma, and unshakable family loyalty shape their identities and drive their choices. What lies beneath their calm, commanding surfaces? How do their pasts influence the way they lead, love, and retaliate? Through the lens of personality disorders, generational wounds, and the h...

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What drives Ashley Wilkes, Scarlett O'Hara, and Rhett Butler in Gone with the Wind? In this video, we break down the psychological makeup of each iconic character — exploring Ashley's idealism and inner conflict, Scarlett's ambition and survival instinct, and Rhett's complex dance between cynicism and vulnerability. Discover how their personalities shape their choices, relationships, and ultimate fates in Margaret Mitchell's classi...

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July 15, 2024 36 mins

Have you ever thoughts about life after manslaughter? How does a person get to that point? How do they live with themselves afterwards? How do the family and community deal with it?


Today we explore what that's like from the perspective of someone who has lived it. Be prepared to be deeply touched. It's an amazing story.



Guest Bio: Wayne Boatwright


Introducing Wayne Boatwright: An Archetypal Hero's Journey in the Moder...

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July 8, 2024 34 mins

Did you know that the average person dies not long after retiring? What? Yes! But what would it look like if your life begins at retirement? Adaptability, open mindedness, and curiosity are the keys to a vibrant retirement life, as my guest today, Alistair Henry will attest.


Alistair shares his wild post-retirement adventures. I think you will find yourself inspired and perhaps changing the way you look at retirement.


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July 1, 2024 22 mins

Heading through music is available to everyone. We all have a song in our hearts, if we allow it to blossom. Music is a part of us. In today's podcast, Emma G shares how music saved her life and continues to be the way that she expresses herself.


Guest Bio: Emma G


Author, two-time TEDx Speaker, Singer/songwriter, and Empowerment Coach, Emma G uses the magic of music to empower, uplift, and motivate audiences worldwide.


Bor...

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Everyone has something to teach. Andre Paradis' calling is to help people realize that it's all about relationships. Tune in and see his perspective. It may not be what you think!


About Andre Paradis

I have come a long way from my tough childhood days and former life as a professional dancer; I am now an inspirational relationship coach. Teaching has been one of my passions throughout my life, from teaching in Japan to Bangkok an...

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Think you've got healthy boundaries? Do you do everything right? Are you clear? Nobody ever gets over on you? There might be something you're overlooking. Tune in and see what it is.


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June 10, 2024 32 mins

It's a great time to talk about fatherhood and healthy masculinity as Father's Day is coming up. Are you making the grade? What are the challenges to being a good dad? Why is this important? How do women contribute to the creation of healthy masculinity?


Jai Singh and Laura Giles talk about this and more in this video.


Guest Bio:

Jai Singh is a men's coach dedicated to supporting fathers in improving their relationship with t...

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June 3, 2024 16 mins

In 1992, Gary Chapman's 5 Love Languages made a huge splash, but what if I told you that love is not about the love language? In today's episode, Laura Giles explains that by trying to love by this script, you may be missing the point. Tune in and see why.


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May 27, 2024 29 mins

Healing doesn't have to happen in traditional ways. Carmen Theobold says horses saved her life. Tune in and see how horses make the best therapists! Nature heals!


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Guest Bio: Carmen Theobald


Carmen’s coaching, facilitation and speaking combine her experience working with thousands of horses, her own Post Traumatic Growth, and a determination to make a difference in this fractured world. She has worked with h...

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Everybody is talking about boundaries. But do you know where to draw the line? What's reasonable? In today's podcast, I share 30 boundary violations you may not know you're making along with a strategy to help you figure out others.


Podcast Highlights

  • Being aggressive with service workers
  • Stalking
  • Doing what you please rather than risking a "no"
  • Urging children to kiss or hug adults
  • Sharing someone's information without their con...
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Want to know how to break the toxic positivity habit? In this podcast, Laura Giles talks about:


1:00 what's toxic positivity

3:55 signs of toxic positivity

15:00 why toxic positivity is harmful

18:00 how to break the toxic positivity habit


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There are things you need to know about being a mother that can help you have a better relationship with your mother and be a better mother. Curious? Take a listen.


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The tests say there is nothing wrong with you, but you know you aren't feeling well. What do you do? Instead of giving up or going to a therapist, there is another solution. In today's podcast, Dr. Neil Nathan will help you see what's going on and help you to know what to do about it.


Guest Bio:


Contact Dr. Neil Nathan here: https://neilnathanmd.com/


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We are all born to be ourselves. Hiding, play small, taking on too much control, lying, and blaming can lead to a life that feels unlived because we may die unseen. Want a game changer? It's radical responsibility. Not sure what that is or how it helps? Tune in and see!


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We live in an extrovert dominated world. It can be hard for introverts to be seen and accepted for who they are. If you want to connect with the introvert in your life, you may benefit from some insights. Here are 30 things introverts want extroverts to know about them.


highlights:

Introversion is not a problem that needs to be solved

All introverts are not the same

Introverts are often slow processors.

Silence is okay.

Social hangov...

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The Hero's Journey has been used as a template through life because it works so well across cultures and lifespans. One of the stops along life's journey is the Meeting With the Mentor.


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0:51 Who is the mentor?

9:00 observe and self-reflection

10:30 homework

10:50 if you're stuck, say you're stuck

12:10 walk beside them

13:50 ask what you want to know

14:30 don't take yourself too seriously

15:50 ask for clarification

16:3...

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April 1, 2024 28 mins

How often do we ask ourselves, "Are you the one for me?" Want some help deciding if someone is your person? Tune in. Laura Giles talks about:


highlights:

2:38 Pick the person you can live with, not the one you love

2:59 Be yourself

4:36 Don't settle for "good enough for now"

5:26 If your relationships suck, work on you

6:56 Accept your person with their flaws

7:41 Love them for who they are, not for how they love or how they make you ...

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Lots of people have mysterious, hidden health issues that doctor's can't fix. What could be going on? Tune in today and see what Linn Rivers has to say about gut health. It may surprise you.


Guest Bio:

Linn is a graduate of the renowned, Pacific College of Oriental Medicine. Her journey with holistic medicine and spiritual counseling however, started way before this time. Linn’s educational background includes; Holistic/Function...

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