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Hess (00:00):
Hey, welcome.
This is Hess and welcome to, letme tell you this about that.
Delbert (00:07):
Good morning.
I'm again live from the greencouch.
It's Delbert and it's daylightsavings time.
I'm actually.
up to a gloomy sky, but thesun's starting to come out.
The sky is starting to turn abeautiful shade of grayish
purple with some pink clouds.
So you go.
There's your description for themor.
(00:29):
I'll be the color commentarythis morning.
Hess (00:34):
Yeah.
And Delbert, I keep seeing more,more green hues out there.
More green in the grass.
It's we're moving on.
Delbert (00:42):
It's almost St.
Patrick's Day.
It's Lent, was just telling HessI didn't give anything up for
Lent.
I'm just gonna try to be better.
So I added some workout days tomy hot works and the Highlands
and I'm trying to be good,trying
Hess (00:58):
So you gave up.
You gave up.
Worry for Lent.
Huh?
Delbert (01:02):
Yeah, the Pope always
says to give up worry and fear
and hatred.
Anything that's bad for theuniverse.
Give Forget about chocolate,give that up.
And I've
Hess (01:14):
Right.
Delbert (01:15):
tried to do that.
I think fear's a basic humanthing, but I try to.
Worry as little as possible andjust look for the good.
And I thought be a better personand add something.
So I'm trying to do a little bitmore hot yoga
Hess (01:33):
You did hot yoga three
times this week.
Did I hear that?
Delbert (01:35):
Actually there's all
these different it's like cross
training, it's not likeCrossFit, but it you I did the
hot blast three times and then Idid yoga.
Hess (01:45):
Sweet.
Sweet.
Last night we sprang forward.
So I was I got home pretty latelast night.
I went to Louisville to watchSacred Heart and they won their
district, the seventh region.
Uh.
Yeah.
So now we go to the statetournament this coming week, and
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so I have my, I had my phonenext to the bed and when I when
I woke up this morning, justnaturally, I reached my left
hand over and I grabbed thephone to see what time it was.
'cause usually I wake up prettyearly and it was like seven 15.
'cause my phone sprang forward.
I thought, okay, rise and shine.
Delbert (02:25):
I know it's, I was
like.
Oh my gosh.
I know you got home late lastnight from the game and I was
like, wonder she's, I wasn'tgonna text you until you, you
texted me this morning.
'cause that I know you probablysleep in just a little bit.
Hess (02:40):
And it.
Delbert (02:40):
game, Manuel Against
Sacred Heart for the seventh
Region Championship.
Hess (02:47):
Yeah, Manuel was a pretty
fun team to play, but Sacred
Heart, all the girls showedtheir talents and stayed with it
and we won, and it's just.
Just such a good team.
The re Sacred Heart Valkries.
In 1976, this is all part of our60 year history, Delbert and I,
is that we went to the samegrade school and high school.
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So we went to Sacred Heart andAll Girl Parochial High school
in Louisville, and one of ourplayers that was a freshman on
our basketball team DonnaBender.
Donna Moyer now, she became thecoach and she's won that state
tournament a lot.
So we're going again this comingweek.
Delbert (03:27):
Going to the state
championship.
If they win this year, it'll befive in a row, which breaks a
record for any school, boys orgirls school in Kentucky.
never even won four in a row.
Last year was historic.
We were there in Lexington forthat game, sitting with all the
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1976 people.
So fun.
And I'm not gonna get to go tothe championship game this year,
Hess.
I'm not come up and stay withyou for the, for Friday night.
Hess (03:59):
Okay.
Okay.
Delbert (04:00):
If I'm invited, I just
invited myself, ladies and
gentlemen, to stay on the farmnext weekend.
Hess (04:08):
Yeah, so I live in
Lexington and that's 60 miles
east of where Delbert is inLouisville.
We get to play in Ru Arena.
Delbert (04:17):
Yeah, it's so fun and
exciting and they play all the
music.
It's, yeah, it's super fun theway they put it on.
They do a great job.
They do a great job putting iton, but we were talking about it
being international women's.
was yesterday and month I thinkis March.
Hess (04:35):
Yes.
This is women's History Month isMarch.
Delbert (04:40):
And we were talking
about the women we admire.
One of'em is Donna, the coachesSacred Heart.
My favorite teacher at SacredHeart with Sister Rosemary and
she introduced me to the love ofgovernment.
I took government senior yearand she.
your 18th birthday, she'd giveyou a cupcake and a voter's
registration card and she'd fileit for you.
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So all you had to do is fill itout and she'd sing to you with
your holding your little cupcakewith a candle while you filled
it out.
And we had all thesesubscriptions to Newsweek and
time, and a lot of times we'djust sit in class and read
magazines and discuss thearticles.
It was like the best class.
And I, I just loved her passionfor, the United States and for
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government how much she lovedthis country.
And so that's a, she's one ofthe people that I really admire.
Hess (05:32):
Did she really just give
you an, did she really give you
an automatic A, if youregistered Democrat?
Delbert (05:37):
She, I felt like she
did,'cause I wasn't a great
student and I did registerDemocrat and I did get an a.
Hess (05:45):
Maybe you got an A.
'cause you loved the class somuch, you did well.
Delbert (05:49):
I don't know.
That's the legend.
There were a few people, she wasjust, Kentucky's a red state
now, but back in the day it wasa blue state.
And as Catholics we.
We were raised as one person putit to me to be good Southern
Kennedy Catholic Democrats.
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And that is the way sisterRosemary admired JFK so much uh,
that's where she was, where shewas heading us to just be good
Democrats who loved our country,good
Hess (06:23):
Right,
Delbert (06:24):
but you don't have to
be a Democrat to love your
country, but she just, sheadmired JFK so much that it
tickled her when we wouldregister Democrat for sure.
Anyway.
Who and the year that we wereseniors Helen Reddy, I Am Woman,
was the song.
And it just seemed like the nunsjust encouraged us to they were
seeing it happen, that womenwere starting to go further and
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we, you could go to college tostudy more than being a teacher
or a nurse, you or a secretary.
It used to be your topics, itused to be your career path and.
A lot of people in our classbecame doctors.
I mean,
Hess (06:59):
Lawyers.
Delbert (07:00):
how much they
encouraged us.
Yes.
And judges.
There are more judges inJefferson County from Heart than
any other school.
I.
Hess (07:10):
I felt like the atmosphere
of an all girl high school that
there was no competition aboutwho was gonna be the leader.
There was no gender bias towardsthat.
So you were the head of HundredClub or student council and.
They really did instill that youcould do anything that you
wanted to do and you could be aleader.
Delbert (07:33):
Yes.
Yes.
I think they.
It was the time and it was alsothe place, and it was just the
teachers that were there and,just the whole vibe.
Like I say, I love a vibe.
The vibe at Sacred Heart thenwas just so beautiful.
And I feel like our class wasgreat at encouraging each other.
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And then the nuns were, theUrsuline sisters were
encouraging us, and they couldjust see it was a moment in
time.
Hess (08:02):
Even though we wore
uniforms, we wore navy skirts
and a bluest, which was a vest.
We could also individuate, Iwear, I'd wear construction
boots or you could weardifferent color socks and you
would put buttons on yourwesketts or different color
ribbons in your hair, blah,blah, blah.
Delbert (08:24):
You really could.
We were allowed to expressourselves.
I don't think they're as free todo that anymore.
I think you have to wear theplain Navy and they don't have
the wescott anymore.
But, I had a pocket that I sewedinside my wescott for my
cigarettes, if you can believeit.
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I took sewing class and that'swhat I did with my learned
skills.
I made a pocket inside myWescott for my SIGs and,
Hess (08:53):
that's funny.
That's funny.
Springing forward, it'sbreathing in new life too.
We're closer to springtime.
And it's 29 degrees here on thefarm.
A little bit of frost tinge onthe grass, but it's green, but
we're pretty close to springspringing forward.
Delbert (09:13):
I have got three clumps
of daffodils that are coming up
now.
I've been covering'em everynight because as they poke their
little heads out of the ground,all cute and yellow, uh, it's
been freezing, so I hope I'vesaved them.
I hope I've kept the breath oflife in'em.
But you're right.
(09:33):
I texted Hess earlier this weekand I, there's so many
fear-based headlines in thenewspaper, I guess always, but
seems like there's a lot rightnow.
People are worried prices are upand the war in the Ukraine.
I just About breath?
How about let's just breathe,let's just take a breath and
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springtime is a great time toget outside and take lots of
deep breaths.
Hess (10:03):
So you've been covering up
those daffodils every night and
then you uncover'em in themorning
Delbert (10:07):
Yeah.
Hess (10:08):
Wow.
Delbert (10:09):
Because I'm crazy like
that.
I could tell you a story about aPointsettia my Aunt Katie gave
me, but we don't have
Hess (10:17):
Here's.
Here's a shout out.
Shout.
Here's a shout out to Aunt Katieall.
She listens to all of ourpodcasts, and early on we did a
podcast.
'cause Aunt Katie that'sDelberts spirit sister.
Really?
She was your aunt but not toomuch older than you.
And Aunt Katie played basketballback early on in the parochial
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schools, and she talks aboutwhat it was like then.
Delbert (10:42):
Yes, she Academy, which
is closed now, but that's where
my mom and her sisters went toschool.
Was downtown and aunt Katie, Iremember for whatever reason, I
have memories really early in mychildhood, and I remember I have
a memory of sitting in that gymwatching her play.
I felt like both my parents tookme, but I guess it was just my
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mom because, Katie told us thatmen weren't allowed in the gym.
So her daddy, my papa, to standin the doorway.
And
Hess (11:16):
That's wild.
That's wild.
Delbert (11:19):
Yeah, because you were
talking about Valley High School
last night was packed.
Hess (11:24):
Yeah.
Okay.
So breath, you all Breath is soimportant.
It's and when we take a deepbreath, it activates our vagus
nerve.
And Delbert, I'm gonna educateyou about the vagus nerve right
now.
Okay?
Delbert (11:39):
I am ready.
I'm ready to
Hess (11:41):
So it's from the word
vagabond.
And vagabond, means kinda long.
It's the longest nerve of ourbody.
The vagus nerve is, it wrapsaround our stomach it goes up
around our throat.
It wraps around our heart.
It goes up to our brain, and wehave an autonomic nervous
system, and the parasympathetichelps us.
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The parasympathetic part ofthat, you have the sympathetic
and the parasympathetic.
The parasympathetic helps uscalm and relax.
Slow our heart rate.
And when we take a deep breathin, I'm doing that right now.
Take a deep breath in throughyour nose, exhale through your
mouth.
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You activate your vagus nerveand your body can relax.
So it's very helpful to, to, ifyou're starting to feel anxious
or get that fear that Delbertsays is in the headlines.
It's very helpful to calm yourbody by breathing, taking those
deep breaths in and releasing
Delbert (12:49):
And if you think
Hess (12:50):
I
Delbert (12:50):
all the places that it
connects, it really is a bridge
to your mind and your body,right?
Hess (12:58):
Oh, for sure.
Delbert (12:59):
awakens everything
inside of you, and kind.
It's like a reset button, right?
If you're feeling or stressedout.
I always tell my kids, take adeep breath.
I don't know if that's asouthern saying or if that's
just a saying, but I always say,take a deep breath now, and
really you take three though,and it really does reset your
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mind Body at the same time.
So it's that beautiful,wonderful bridge and also just
centers us and gives us a new,fresh, calm.
Hess (13:36):
For sure all that.
Delbert, I've got this boat.
It's a trailerable trawler, soit's a big piece of boat to haul
up the road.
One of the reasons I got thisboat.
Is I grew up on the Ohio River.
That's a crisscross in Delbertand I's life.
Both of our dads had boats onthe Ohio River on LO in
Louisville.
And I'm pulling this boat.
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I can drive this boat.
I can pull this boat.
'cause we have the trucks fromthe farm.
I can pull the boat anywhere Iwanna go.
So I know the boat's not sinkingbecause it's out in my driveway.
But anyway, when I'm pullingthis boat down the road, it's 24
feet.
It's got living quarters and allthat in it.
Twin engines, when I'm pullingthe boat down the road, it's
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pretty big to pull and I'll lookin my side mirror and I'll see
these big semis'cause I don'tever go over 60 miles an hour
pulling this boat.
Don't need to, don't want to.
I'll look in my left mirror,I'll see some semis getting
ready to pass me and I'll startto feel a little bit anxious.
And I just take a deep breath inand release it out, and then the
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truck just goes right past andit's just, it just really helps
me so much when I'm in that spotof anxiety pulling that boat
down the road.
Delbert (14:52):
Because we're going to
the water, because we love the
feeling the, of how fresh theair is around the water.
To breathe right.
Hess (15:04):
Yeah, tell me more about
it's easier to breathe when
there's, when you're at thewater.
Delbert (15:08):
There's increased ions
is the science I guess of it.
but also the water, the moisturein the air is it helps relax
your lungs.
It makes it easier to breathe.
And it being, and that's whybeing at the beach or being at
the lake or the wherever it is,the body of water, it naturally
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relaxes you.
And I was just saying to Hess, Ithink, we're attracted to that
feeling, right?
That peacefulness of being nearthe water, having, unconsciously
we're breathing easier.
We have that relaxed breathingwhere the water's helping us
breathe almost, right?
Just like the way when you jumpin and you float and you're
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weightless and it's just, forme, that's like a, I tell my
kids when summer comes, I keep araft and a bag in my car, and if
I have a bad day, I'll go toLakeside and just lay on a raft
for even 45 minutes.
And just feel weightless andjust breathe, and people think
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that's so funny.
I'll go in the bathroom andchange back into my work clothes
and dry my hair, and fix mymakeup back and go back to work.
But that is, that's just thebreak that I need.
And, on that list of things to,of self care, things that you
always see one, one of the firstones is, take a shower or a
bath.
Because even in the shower wehave that relaxed breathing, but
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it is the ions.
And I think too, it's the, justthe invigoration of that water
and that air just, it justrevives us.
It's like being baptized.
Hess (16:49):
Your mom used to say, take
a deep breath and shake it off.
Delbert (16:51):
Doty used to say, yeah,
shake it off.
Take a deep breath.
Now I don't tell my kids toshake it off because annoyed me
as a child.
Say take a deep breath'cause Iwant'em to relax.
But I also feel like, back thenI.
You, you weren't allowed to haveyour feelings, they just wanted
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you to brush it off, shake itoff and now I'm like maybe I
wanna feel that way for a littlebit.
It's like that line from Tootsiewhen Sandy says, am gonna feel
this way as long as I wanna feelthis way.
And it's yeah, you just wannafeel this way.
Until you don't feel this wayand you wanna let you know, be
able to live in it for a minute.
You don't wanna hang on to ittoo long.
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But yeah, I don't tell my kidsto shake it off
Hess (17:36):
Our emotions are the
language of our body.
We gotta listen to them and thenwe can use it to guide us to do
whatever we need to do next.
Delbert (17:43):
Yeah, if I feel like
they're holding on too long, I
will say, let go.
Try to let go.
Hess (17:50):
Exhale it.
Exhale it.
Delbert (17:52):
let it go out into the
universe.
It's not serving you any longer.
and that's a swimming lessontoo, right?
When my dad grew up, people justthrew their kids into the water.
And my dad, even though he wasvery gruff, he loved the water
and he wanted us to all be goodswimmers.
So he'd say, I'm not gonna letgo.
I'm not gonna let go.
And I remember that, that he waslike, I'm here.
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letting go until you're ready.
And then, you'd get your, you'dget your confidence up and you'd
let go and swim to the edge, uh.
Hess (18:23):
I heard a, Hey folks, we
jump around a lot.
I jump around a lot.
I heard this really cool analogyyesterday about letting go.
Where when we start to ride ourbike, we want that arm around
our waist, right?
And hold and holding thehandlebars The handlebars.
And then maybe it can go toholding our shoulders, and then
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it can go to maybe just holdingthe back of the seat and then
all of a sudden we're, andriding the, the the two wheeled
bike by ourselves.
Delbert (18:56):
And what a metaphor for
life.
Yeah.
What a metaphor for life.
All of that is, just holding onjust the right amount and
knowing when to let go.
Always get it right, but we try.
Hess (19:10):
The feeling before you
jump in the water.
What's the water gonna be?
What's the temperature?
And then letting go and goingahead and jumping.
Delbert (19:18):
And then you got old
enough that you were like, Hey,
you know what, I'm gonna stickmy toe in there and see.
So I'm not so shocked, that myheart beats faster when I'm
around water.
And I didn't discover that untilI was an adult that I get so
excited about the water, justthat I'm gonna get to look at
it.
When I drive along River Roadhere in Louisville, Kentucky my
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heart gets happy and I it beatsa little bit faster and I'm
like, oh my gosh, am soconnected to that water.
Hess (19:52):
That's wild.
That's wild.
So you're feeling it you'represent what your body feels.
Delbert (19:58):
and I know I'll not
even be conscious of it.
I'll just be on my way somewhereand if I can go down River Road,
I do just'cause I love that.
I love the scenery and yeah
Hess (20:09):
maybe just having the swim
bag in the back of your car
makes you feel better justhaving it there.
Delbert (20:14):
It does, and it lets me
know I can take a break if I
need to.
Yeah.
And that's why I love Summer somuch.
And I get excited when mymemberships come in my email.
I'm like, oh, it's almost thattime, it's time to
Hess (20:28):
Yeah.
Love that.
I love that.
I love that.
I just took a deep breath,folks.
You might hear me take a deepbreath Quite often during our
podcast it's always good torealign yourself.
Delbert (20:43):
Absolutely.
And I was telling Hess before westarted, I was just reading a
little bit about breathing andI'm like, I know she knows the
science of it, but I was justtrying to.
Read about it so I could utilizeit more.
I did not realize that it helpedwith mental health issues.
I didn't realize it helped withstress, anxiety and OCD, I
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didn't realize that those weretools, but I guess, I don't
know, has, in your practice
Hess (21:12):
that vagus nerve
Delbert (21:14):
you
Hess (21:14):
activating it.
Delbert (21:15):
activate that vagus
nerve.
Hess (21:17):
Because like I say, it
wraps around your stomach, your
heart, your throat.
And that's why if we're talkingabout something difficult, when
I'm talking about somethingthat's hard for me my throat,
my, my voice will get scratchy.
My words kinda get a little bithoarse.
That's'cause the vagus nerveswrapped around my throat.
Delbert (21:36):
Oh wow.
Okay.
Hess (21:38):
That's why it helps with
all that stuff that you just
talked about,
Delbert (21:43):
And when?
When you're stressed, sometimesyou hold your breath a little
bit.
I don't know what the natural,why we do that'cause it's not
good.
Hess (21:52):
Not good to hyperventilate
or hypoventilate.
They both cause a stressreaction in your body.
Delbert (21:59):
So now I'm gonna, I'm
gonna tell people this about
eighth grade.
When we were in eighth grade, wewere doing these breathing
things where we would pass outfor a minute.
I don't know what it did.
It gave you like a little bit ofa high.
And we would get, we'd go downin the valley'cause our school
was.
Up on this hill, but you had togo down a hill and up the hill
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and we, and there was a littlecreek with a weeping willow, and
we'd say, let's go down in thevalley.
We'd go down there and we'd getin a big circle and we'd do this
breathing game.
And then we got in trouble, likeon the third day that we were
doing it, sister Maria noticedthat we were doing it and she
stopped it.
Hess (22:39):
Yeah.
It was just a short phase of ourtime.
Delbert (22:42):
Yes, we're hoping we
didn't do any permanent brain
damage, but it was an eighthgrade thing.
But how powerful your breathingis that slow you down.
It can speed you up.
It can calm stress.
It can calm your anxiety, andthere's so many different
breath.
Remember when we went on theboat and we did that whole
breathing exercise?
Hess (23:03):
Oh yeah,
Delbert (23:04):
was a.
Hess (23:04):
that, yeah.
Yeah.
This doing that for about 30minutes.
Delbert (23:10):
Woo.
Hess (23:11):
message.
Your breath the number ofbreaths you take a minute.
A minute, Delbert, that's one ofour vital signs for life.
So just breathing, it's such adang miracle because you're
breathing in oxygenated air andit's going down to those little,
all the way down into yourlungs, to those alveoli.
That's a word I like to say,alveoli.
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And then in exchanges withcarbon dioxide, and then we
exhale the carbon dioxide, andthere's a balance between the
oxygen and the carbon dioxide inour body.
It's all this homeostasis stuffthat's just a miracle going on
in every split microsecond ofour being.
Right now, as you're listeningto this, that's happening right
now in your body, it's amiracle.
Delbert (23:54):
That
Hess (23:55):
All kinds of miracles.
Delbert (23:58):
So lucky to be on this
earth in this moment, in this
universe being alive.
Hess (24:06):
Yeah.
Use your breath to balanceyourself, use your breath to
like I'm at the basketball gameright now, last night.
And what happens if the game'sgoing too fast or outta control?
They take a time out and theteam comes back together and
people can catch the breath andthen they can refocus.
So taking the time.
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Thinking about your breath.
Delbert (24:30):
You know what this
podcast is
Hess (24:33):
What's this podcast,
Delbert?
Lemme tell you this about that.
Delbert (24:36):
A spring salad.
It's a spring salad.
We're just have a lot of topics'cause so much is going on.
It's the end of basketballseason and March Madness and
it's lt and it's how
Hess (24:50):
Women's History Month.
Delbert (24:51):
History Month It's just
for me when everything starts
blooming and we feel so alive,it's a rebirth.
And it's time to
Hess (25:04):
All of those hard
headlines.
That could be like the winter.
And now we're gonna go intospring into aliveness, because
we're not gonna be dormant.
We're gonna speak up, we'regonna say what we don't like.
We're gonna make phone calls.
We're going to show up withsigns.
If we need to show up with signsand go into our groups and use
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our voice.
Use our breath.
Use our voice.
So spring, let's spring into it.
Delbert, let's go.
Delbert (25:31):
Let's go.
Let's go everybody.
time.
It's time to wake up and feelalive and.
Breathe in
Hess (25:40):
Yeah.
Delbert (25:40):
spring air go out and
make it an awesome week.
Take that deep breath in andfeel the fullness of your
existence
Hess (25:50):
Yeah.
Delbert (25:51):
Yeah.
Hess (25:53):
Hey, do you have a, you've
been doing little poems at the
end.
Did you find one?
Delbert (25:57):
Oh, a quote.
You know what?
I don't think I have a quote fortoday.
I am just gonna say it's aspring salad kind of day.
Hess (26:08):
I got a poem I can read.
Delbert (26:10):
Do you have a poem all.
Hess (26:13):
All right.
This is a poem by Dr.
Mark ROWE.
This is called titled Soul.
Oh, so breath.
So breath.
Okay, Soul breath.
May the breath of your soul beyour wisdom guide.
May the beacon of your soulbring respite inside.
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May you bring presence to allthat you do may care and
compassion be that which is you.
May you have the gift of wisdomin staying awake.
May each dawn bring new promisenot to forsake.
Dusk, find you grateful for thehelter skelter.
May night bring serenity andsecurity of shelter as day turns
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to night and months turn toyear.
May this passing of time bringyou no fear.
Each day you toil as life'sdepth.
Take their toll, may love andlight bring breath to your soul.
So let's keep breathing.
Let's go.
Delbert (27:15):
That's a
Hess (27:15):
and love.
Delbert (27:16):
that has, that's a good
one.
Peace and love everybody.
We hope that you enjoyed ourspring salad.
Hess (27:26):
Yes.
Yes.
Peace and love.
Make it a good day.
Go out and be breathe and bringjoy to everybody around you.
Delbert (27:36):
We love you friends.