March 30, 2025 • 27 mins
Join Hess and Delbert in an engaging episode of “Let Me Tell You This, About That," where they discuss the power of showing up despite life's challenges. From weathering storms or head colds to advocating for clients and family members, they share heartfelt stories and anecdotes. Delving into historical reflections, such as Delbert’s grandfather’s WWII experiences in the 104th Timberwolf Division, and exploring mindfulness practices inspired by Goldie Hawn, the duo illuminates the importance of resilience and spreading positivity. Tune in for an episode filled with warmth, wisdom, and practical advice on making each day count.
Update on my friend José and his cancer treatments. After the first rounds of chemo, after new scans--the good news is that the tumor in the colon has shrunk, but they have increased in his liver. His oncologist has increasd the power of the chemo to help irradicate it elsewhere. Thank you so much for your support to Jose!
https://gofund.me/e6f61999
In addition to being a podcast host, Hess is also an LCSW--if you'd like to learn more about her work as a therapist, check it out at www.jessicabollinger.com
One of her mission's is for all of our lights to shine--when we see each other and allow ourself to be seen--and we can say to the person in front of us, There You Are! the world will be an amazing place!
Delbert is a realtor in Louisville, KY, and you can find her at Kentucky Select Properties
Her philanthropic work to continue her sister Carole and niece Meghan is Carole's Kitchen. Blessings in a Backpack helps feed the many hungry students in our schools. The instagram account is: https://www.instagram.com/caroleskitchen.nonprofit?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==
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Hess (00:01):
Hello everyone.
This is Hess and you have joinedus at, let me tell you this,
about that.
Delbert (00:08):
Good morning, as always, I'm Delbert on the green
couch looking out my picturewindow to tell you today in
Louisville.
it's a little gray.
We are gonna have a few stormscoming through today, but I.
One of what we're gonna talkabout, part of what we're gonna
talk about is showing up.
(00:29):
And so I'm gonna show up for myclients, even though have to
take shelter a little latertoday.
Hess (00:36):
Yeah.
More, more bad weather coming inlate afternoon or what time's it
gonna hit?
Delbert (00:40):
Late afternoon, early evening.
I'm hoping it doesn't hit untilafter six when I get home.
but
Hess (00:48):
Yeah.
Delbert (00:48):
yeah.
Hess (00:50):
Yeah.
I woke up to letting the dogsout and the concrete's wet.
So we've had some drizzle, whichis good because I told everybody
we planted our seed last nightand excuse me, last week in our
fields with the with the pasturerenovator got all that done so
we could use a little moistureso that the seeds come up.
(01:10):
And y'all can hear my voice is alittle bit hoarse and I'm just
so happy because it's a lotbetter than it was on Friday
'cause I couldn't even hardlytalk on Friday.
That was on my mind.
Albert is I gotta do thispodcast.
I gotta show up on Sunday, andI'm gonna show up.
Come heck or high water orvoice, or no voice.
Delbert (01:29):
I love it.
And you showed up for yourclients.
We just.
Had a quick talk before westarted our podcast, and Hess
was telling me all the way sheshowed up for her clients and
her friends and her family.
This week, which is, showing upis so great.
Sometimes we don't feel good.
We don't feel like showing up,and that's when you really have
to kinda kick it into overdrive,
Hess (01:52):
Lean into it.
Delbert (01:53):
In and dig deep.
Hess (01:55):
I had a scratchy throat a week ago, and, the lady Cats
were playing on Sunday.
Had to go Monday night.
Monday night.
I had my Soul Matters group.
I had pickleball.
I did play pickleball Monday,Wednesday, Friday, because I'd
rather be on that pickleballball court with my friends
versus being on my couch.
But so I had Soul Matters Mondaynight we had our friends vi
(02:19):
Vicki Wilson and her husband andher little girl from New Zealand
in for dinner on Tuesday night,Wednesday night.
My friend Melissa and Mike Reedbacked their boat up in my
driveway, the time and tide, andthey stopped through on a visit
and spent the night here ontheir boat.
Wednesday night, Thursday, I hadto take our little Boston
Terrier into the BluegrassVision Clinic in Louisville to
(02:42):
get her eyes examined for herpre-operational visit for her
for her eyes.
And then Friday I'd movedclients to Friday from Thursday.
And I didn't have much voice,but I felt fine.
Like my wife Kathy was saying,oh honey, I'm so sorry that you
feel so bad.
She was telling me that onFriday, I go, Uhuh, I feel great
(03:04):
today.
You should have been feelingtired for me a few days ago.
Delbert (03:07):
You're late.
Hess (03:09):
You're late.
Delbert (03:09):
you're feeling bad for me.
As long as it came, right?
Hess (03:13):
And folks like, yeah, if my voice had been the same, it
was on Friday, I'd have stillbeen here.
I'd say, okay, Delbert, you gotthe baton.
You're gonna do most of thetalking.
Delbert (03:23):
Which I'm quite chatty.
I would've been fine with.
I didn't feel like you had ahead cold last weekend.
'cause I figured you, your voicewas due to all the NCAA
tournament games that you werecheering for.
I Voice.
Yeah.
Hess (03:36):
I had March Madness voice.
I.
Delbert (03:38):
Yeah.
Yeah.
Hess (03:40):
Yeah.
Yeah.
Bert, tell me again say, tell meagain because I want our
listeners to know what is a daylike for a realtor
Delbert (03:49):
Oh my goodness.
Hess (03:50):
You had, you, you put this property on you, you listed the
property on Thursday and youweren't gonna show it at all
until Saturday.
'cause the people were gonna beout of town visiting somebody
yesterday.
So go ahead.
Delbert (04:07):
In Louisville, Kentucky, we're super fortunate.
Our market is very brisk rightnow.
I think I said that earlier inthe year.
And, I talk to friends in realestate around the country and
the markets in Florida, forexample, just aren't as good as
they are here.
They're very slow and very soft.
A lot of inventory similar toour market in 2009.
But here, if a house is inreally nice condition and it's
(04:31):
priced right, those two thingsare very important.
Pricing it right and getting itready to go.
They sell really quickly.
So I worked with my buyers or mysellers on their house all week
last week.
We, we shined up the hardwoodfloors, we washed windows, we
just got sparkling clean, andthen I brought some extra things
(04:55):
in.
I borrowed a big king comforterand, made their bed with some,
pillows and.
Put some throws and pillows outand we just got it all sparkled
up and shined up.
And I had my handy person fixsome places in their ceiling
tiles in the basement.
And last minute I noticed therewere a few little nicks in the
basement.
I.
Ceiling going down the steps.
(05:16):
So I ended up going to HomeDepot and getting some paint and
like rolling the ceiling, realquick before people came to look
at it.
I'm like, real estate is notglamorous by any means, but the
time I, I got everything set andthe brochures out.
I had 25 showings yesterday onthat cute little house.
And so we're getting multipleoffers.
(05:37):
We're gonna review this evening.
So just a really busy, tiringday yesterday, and then today in
my life it's Sunday.
So I'll have an open house, I'llreview offers, and I've also got
some people I'm trying to getout to look at some property
before the storm hits.
So just the spring is superbusy.
(05:59):
I like it.
I was thinking about ourconversation last week about,
spiraling and getting drilleddown into the ground and how,
you've gotta get that motiongoing to come out of that hole.
And I'm like, oh my gosh.
I was I had back to backshowings.
Which means, three groups ofbuyers.
(06:19):
And I just had'em scheduled outall, throughout the day.
And I was just so happy.
And I was driving to my car,listening to music, and I'm
like, oh, this is why Hess andCathy are so happy.
They're constantly moving,they're constantly doing things
and that's so important.
And I'm like, I really am sohappy when I'm out.
With people showing houses.
(06:41):
So anyway, that's my littlehappy spot.
I, and I do love to get housesready.
It's a lot of work, but I havejoy in putting the flowers out
and fluffing the pillows andjust getting it sparkling, so
anyway, a lot of little thingsin my job that bring me joy
probably is in everybody's cupof tea.
But that's me.
(07:02):
And that's my day.
And.
Hess (07:04):
I love it.
I love it.
That's kinda you talking aboutlast week you have all these
plates, different servingplates, that if you entertain,
and so that kind of aestheticsthat you do for these houses
that you're, that you put on themarket it really makes such a
difference.
The mums that you put out andthe fresh cut flowers.
(07:24):
When you go to Trader Joe's andyou buy all their flowers.
Delbert (07:30):
And the people behind me are like, are you like.
Planning a wedding or and I'mlike, I'm just selling a house,
but it does make such adifference and and my clients
are like, gosh, we reallythought you were pushing us.
But they'll go into a house thathasn't been cleaned, it's been
on the market for a while.
It's smelly.
There's no love, and they'relike, oh man, we get it.
(07:52):
We get the difference that itmakes and it just doesn't take
that much to make a hugedifference in life and real
estate and friendship and justgoing that little extra step
makes all the difference in theworld.
Hess (08:06):
Cool.
Cool.
All right, so we left you alllast week with talking about
Papaw because he would alwayswant to spiral up.
He had been in World War II inthe hundred and fourth division.
Of the Army and saw andwitnessed so many hard things
(08:27):
and presented to you Delbert asoh when your dog passed away,
he's oh no, your dog went andgot married.
I would always try to flip itinto telling you something
positive
Delbert (08:39):
Yeah.
He always pivoted towards joyand taught me how to do that
even though he saw so manyterrible things.
And Hess sent me we were talkingabout him last week and I
couldn't remember the name ofthe concentration camp, so a
little bit of housekeeping.
The name of that concentrationcamp in Germany that he helped
liberate was called DoraMittelbau.
(09:01):
I hope I'm saying that it'sM-I-T-T-E-L.
BAU Dormital.
And and so Hess was so diligentabout looking things up about
his infantry.
She sent me this encyclopedialink about, what were the things
that qualified you to be put inthe Holocaust Museum as a
(09:25):
liberator.
And there are only 36, militarydivisions that have that
distinction.
And my papa's a hundred fourth,the Timberwolves were one was
because they were there within48 hours of the first soldier
arriving.
And and when I was little, hedid not talk about the war.
He was always pivoting towardsjoy and trying to entertain us
(09:47):
and bring joy into the lives ofhis whole family.
And so he showed up for us inthat way big time.
But he showed up for thosepeople in that concentration
camp.
When I was older, he told usstories about, how horrible it
smelled when they started walike they could smell it miles
(10:08):
out, they could smell theconcentration camp.
And they got up to it, a lot ofthe people in his division, they
threw up, they got really sick.
They were having huge bouts oftrauma, breakdowns, all sorts of
things that go on along with allof this.
The rescuing and and so they,their infantry is really
(10:31):
credited with coming in, I thinksecond and providing food
medical attention, clothing,blankets.
These poor people were starving.
They were naked or half naked.
And they had'em working in thesetunnels.
And they also organized thetown, surrounding that camp to,
(10:52):
to bury, properly bury the deadover 3000 bodies there.
He carried that with him hiswhole life, but he always showed
We didn't know what to call it.
Hess (11:02):
Yeah.
Flashbacks and so forth.
Delbert (11:05):
Yeah.
Hess (11:06):
Wow.
Wow.
Delbert (11:09):
So showing up Papa Charlie is a plus for showing up
and just.
Getting it done, and and insmall ways you and I do that for
our clients and our friends andour family every day.
Hess (11:28):
Telling the papa story just makes me having a head cold
and still seeing clients, likesmall stuff.
But, you Papaw taking care ofhimself however he could, and
that's before they had reallygood mental health services for
the veterans.
Delbert (11:42):
I am right.
Hess (11:43):
They were just supposed to just like for, forget it.
But they go back to their house.
Yeah.
And he had four kids and he isover there and thinking about
his four kids that he's tryingto get back to.
Wow.
Wow.
Yeah.
So me showing up and having asore throat.
That's icing.
That's nothing.
Delbert (12:05):
It's still showing up, so don't shortchange it.
I'll tell you that we all dowhat we need to do in our lives
and that's what our destiny islike.
Has you helped so many people?
You're such a leader ourfriends.
Take the lead in our retreats.
You help so many people.
That's so important.
(12:26):
health is so important.
I know that firsthand, and I,it's so important how you show
up for people, so don'tshortchange that at all.
Hess (12:37):
For sure.
I have a friend that whosefather was in Vietnam and she
experienced Vietnam through him.
That, he brought back a lot ofdemons that stayed in his head
from Vietnam.
He knew who he really was,which, you knew your papa, the
(12:58):
core of the person and the waythat they ever tried to protect
themselves.
The have all or the Bloody Maryin the morning or something,
those are all just adaptationsto, to try to survive.
Yeah.
Yeah.
It's hard.
It's hard.
Yeah.
Delbert (13:18):
my kids were little and they'd have a stomach ache,
they'd say, I have a PapaCharlie belly.
Hess (13:23):
Oh.
Delbert (13:24):
had a stomachache.
His stomach hurt a lot, a lot ofissues and or they'd get a
nervous stomach.
They'd say, oh, I got a PapawCharlie Belly.
Hess (13:33):
Wow.
Wow.
So tell me more, you also didmore research on the Goldie Hawn
work.
Delbert (13:40):
Right.
Talk about showing up.
Here's a shout out to GoldieHawn.
I love her so much.
I love all of her movies.
And she's also a writer, which Idon't think I've read any of her
books, or at least not lately.
And she says, I.
part of being blessed.
If you have money, that is ablessing, but it's also a
(14:00):
responsibility to show up forpeople who have than you.
So she I.
Has this video and it's part ofher Mind Up.
That's the name of the program.
So that's the other part ofhousekeeping.
I couldn't think of the name ofit last week, but it's called
Mind Up and it's a program forchildren to help them succeed
(14:20):
through mental health, exercisesand, that's scientific
scientifically based.
She is a promoter of that mindup and her wake up is part of
that that program that she has.
And it's just, you can Google itand watch it.
She takes deep breaths beforeshe opens her eyes and then she
stretches and then she thinks ofthree things she's grateful for
(14:43):
and before she gets out of bed,she says It's gonna be a great
day.
And I just love that.
Hess (14:49):
Yeah.
So that's how you wake up everymorning?
Delbert (14:52):
Yes.
If I don't forget, sometimes Iwake up and I go, oh shoot, I
forgot the Goldie.
Ha, dang it.
Hess (14:57):
Yeah.
Delbert (14:57):
then I'll, before I start my prayers I'll do my
gratitude, my three gratitudes.
But I think I just wake upthinking it's gonna be a great
day.
I'm always anxious.
I.
the day to start.
I get excited like a little, Isay that like I'm like a little
kid, I'm just like, oh, let melook outside.
What's it gonna be like today?
I'm excited for this day, andthen I start planning around the
(15:19):
weather.
I'm To take an umbrella tonightto those showings, right?
Hess (15:26):
That we might have just gotten squirrely there because
we got, I got rain on mystarlink satellite dish right
then.
Delbert (15:31):
Oh.
Hess (15:33):
But yeah, that's just so optimistic to think about.
It's gonna be a great day.
And then you look for, Hey,what's gonna be great?
And things that are great versusbeing like an Eyore, waking up
and saying, oh, it's gonna be abad day.
And then it just seems like itkeeps getting bad and I can
remember.
Delbert, this is a Sacred Heartthing.
(15:53):
We went to the same gradeschool, high school Mother of
good counsel and Sacred Heartis, it was Sister Patrick in
biology class, or it might havebeen Ms.
Herp.
And Ms.
Herp was really sweet.
She always had a little she worered lipstick and she always had
a little red lipstick on herteeth tooth.
You remember that?
Delbert (16:09):
Yes, I love Ms.
Herp.
Hess (16:12):
Yeah.
If we start to have a bad day,then we slump our shoulders.
And then when we have ourshoulders slumped, we'd be more
apt to trip and stuff like that.
And to be more awkward and thenit can multiply where we have
more of a bad day.
Delbert (16:29):
Exactly.
And the Ursuline sisters and Ms.
Herp, they were really big onposture.
Sit up straight.
And I'm really grateful for allthat.
I know it didn't work foreverybody, but the discipline
really worked for me.
And I'm super grateful for it.
'cause I was such a wild kid.
(16:50):
If I hadn't had that I don'tknow what would've happened to
me.
Hess (16:57):
You did have the the place for your cigarettes sewn into
your, so it would've been.
Delbert (17:02):
Some stuff was stressing me out.
I could always go have a smokeby the St.
Jude statue.
Yeah, I had that going for me.
and then they had a smokinglounge, I think junior year we
got a smoking lounge.
So I could always just go in mysmoking lounge with my.
Cigarettes in my Wescot pocket.
my God, the stitching on thatwas just atrocious.
Hess (17:24):
That's funny.
Is it raining there outside yourpicture window?
Delbert (17:28):
not raining.
It's just a little gray.
One of the other things that I,you always see, people say is,
oh, I have to go to work.
And you know what?
If you have a job that is ablessing, you get to go to work.
Hess (17:42):
Just resay saying
Delbert (17:43):
Resetting it just pivoting towards joy like I was
saying about Papa Charlie.
So yeah, today I get to showhouses and if it rains, I have
the cutest umbrella with yellowdaisies on it that I'll get to
take with me.
Hess (17:58):
Yeah, I was working with a couple the other day and it was
like, Hey, I get to, and I getto, and I get to, instead of, I
have to,
Delbert (18:05):
Right.
Hess (18:06):
Uhhuh.
Yeah.
It's just a little switch andmoving from that limbic part of
your brain up to your prefrontalcortex, getting that that limbic
amygdala, that amygdala partlike it's turnstile to get it to
go up to a positive thought orwhat, so that you can spiral
(18:26):
back up.
Yeah.
Delbert (18:29):
out of the ground, move around in whatever the day
brings you sunshine or rain andget going.
Life is short.
It's sweet.
Get in there and get all thegoodness out.
Hess (18:42):
And a lot of people are being affected by what's
happening in the world rightnow.
What's happening with ourcountry, and I have something on
the bottom of every email I sendout that is this when a student
asks Butler what the answer isto ending the suffering in the
world, she replies, there's nosingle answer that will solve
(19:04):
all of our future problems.
There's no magic bullet.
Instead, there are thousands ofanswers at least, and you can be
one of them if you choose to be.
Delbert (19:17):
I love that.
Let's all try to be the answer.
One of a thousand.
Hess (19:23):
Yeah.
Just 1, 1, 1 positive thing thatyou can do to make a change.
Delbert (19:30):
exactly.
Whether it's just smiling atsomebody in line or, telling
somebody you like their hat, youcan change somebody's day.
I keep seeing these sweatshirtsthat say, dear person behind me,
the world's a better placebecause you're in it.
Hess (19:49):
Wow.
Delbert (19:50):
Love the person in front of you, and then they turn
around and the sweatshirt on thefront says, you're enough.
And I'm like, oh my gosh.
I want one of those.
Hess (20:01):
That's great.
Delbert (20:02):
Even though I don't wear sweatshirts that often
Hess (20:04):
yeah.
You are enough.
You are enough.
Delbert (20:08):
or if you don't have one, you can just tell people
that.
Hess (20:12):
And it's tough and hard sometimes.
I'm just picturing Papaw's troopgoing into this, to this
concentration camp, smelling itmiles away, going in there.
Some people are half alive.
There's 3000 people that aredead.
Bone, just bones half dressed ifthey are alive, it's just, and
(20:37):
they had to really, they had toreally bring those people back
slowly.
You had to be careful with howyou nurtured them back from that
Delbert (20:48):
Even how much you fed,
Hess (20:50):
yeah.
Yeah.
Wow.
I'm listening to, I'm listeningto a good book right now, James,
and it's Jim from it's Jim'sperspective from Huckleberry
Finn, and that's written fromhis point of view and oh gosh
(21:11):
what me with white privilegedoesn't know about what happened
to blacks.
Just not even being able totrace their heritage because
they weren't in any, theyweren't on any, any censor list
and families being removed ortaken, or people being used as a
breeder and so forth.
It's just crazy to think that'show we were that can bring me
(21:35):
down.
But then I gotta okay, thisknowledge is good.
How can I move forward in a morepositive way?
I gotta know about these hardthings that happened.
Delbert (21:46):
Exactly and spread the light,
Hess (21:49):
yeah.
How can I spread the light?
Yeah.
Delbert (21:54):
Pods.
We hope you can spread the lighttoday and we hope you have great
Goldie Hawn Day
Hess (22:03):
even though it might be raining where you are, what
sunshine can you bring in aroundyou?
We love you.
Thank you so much for listening.
Be sure to subscribe and toshare.
Give us a little comment orreview.
You all take care.
Delbert (22:23):
Peace and love.
Friends, we love you.
Hello everyone.
This is Hess and you have joinedus at, let me tell you this,
about that.
Delbert (00:08):
Good morning, as always, I'm Delbert on the green
couch looking out my picturewindow to tell you today in
Louisville.
it's a little gray.
We are gonna have a few stormscoming through today, but I.
One of what we're gonna talkabout, part of what we're gonna
talk about is showing up.
(00:29):
And so I'm gonna show up for myclients, even though have to
take shelter a little latertoday.
Hess (00:36):
Yeah.
More, more bad weather coming inlate afternoon or what time's it
gonna hit?
Delbert (00:40):
Late afternoon, early evening.
I'm hoping it doesn't hit untilafter six when I get home.
but
Hess (00:48):
Yeah.
Delbert (00:48):
yeah.
Hess (00:50):
Yeah.
I woke up to letting the dogsout and the concrete's wet.
So we've had some drizzle, whichis good because I told everybody
we planted our seed last nightand excuse me, last week in our
fields with the with the pasturerenovator got all that done so
we could use a little moistureso that the seeds come up.
(01:10):
And y'all can hear my voice is alittle bit hoarse and I'm just
so happy because it's a lotbetter than it was on Friday
'cause I couldn't even hardlytalk on Friday.
That was on my mind.
Albert is I gotta do thispodcast.
I gotta show up on Sunday, andI'm gonna show up.
Come heck or high water orvoice, or no voice.
Delbert (01:29):
I love it.
And you showed up for yourclients.
We just.
Had a quick talk before westarted our podcast, and Hess
was telling me all the way sheshowed up for her clients and
her friends and her family.
This week, which is, showing upis so great.
Sometimes we don't feel good.
We don't feel like showing up,and that's when you really have
to kinda kick it into overdrive,
Hess (01:52):
Lean into it.
Delbert (01:53):
In and dig deep.
Hess (01:55):
I had a scratchy throat a week ago, and, the lady Cats
were playing on Sunday.
Had to go Monday night.
Monday night.
I had my Soul Matters group.
I had pickleball.
I did play pickleball Monday,Wednesday, Friday, because I'd
rather be on that pickleballball court with my friends
versus being on my couch.
But so I had Soul Matters Mondaynight we had our friends vi
(02:19):
Vicki Wilson and her husband andher little girl from New Zealand
in for dinner on Tuesday night,Wednesday night.
My friend Melissa and Mike Reedbacked their boat up in my
driveway, the time and tide, andthey stopped through on a visit
and spent the night here ontheir boat.
Wednesday night, Thursday, I hadto take our little Boston
Terrier into the BluegrassVision Clinic in Louisville to
(02:42):
get her eyes examined for herpre-operational visit for her
for her eyes.
And then Friday I'd movedclients to Friday from Thursday.
And I didn't have much voice,but I felt fine.
Like my wife Kathy was saying,oh honey, I'm so sorry that you
feel so bad.
She was telling me that onFriday, I go, Uhuh, I feel great
(03:04):
today.
You should have been feelingtired for me a few days ago.
Delbert (03:07):
You're late.
Hess (03:09):
You're late.
Delbert (03:09):
you're feeling bad for me.
As long as it came, right?
Hess (03:13):
And folks like, yeah, if my voice had been the same, it
was on Friday, I'd have stillbeen here.
I'd say, okay, Delbert, you gotthe baton.
You're gonna do most of thetalking.
Delbert (03:23):
Which I'm quite chatty.
I would've been fine with.
I didn't feel like you had ahead cold last weekend.
'cause I figured you, your voicewas due to all the NCAA
tournament games that you werecheering for.
I Voice.
Yeah.
Hess (03:36):
I had March Madness voice.
I.
Delbert (03:38):
Yeah.
Yeah.
Hess (03:40):
Yeah.
Yeah.
Bert, tell me again say, tell meagain because I want our
listeners to know what is a daylike for a realtor
Delbert (03:49):
Oh my goodness.
Hess (03:50):
You had, you, you put this property on you, you listed the
property on Thursday and youweren't gonna show it at all
until Saturday.
'cause the people were gonna beout of town visiting somebody
yesterday.
So go ahead.
Delbert (04:07):
In Louisville, Kentucky, we're super fortunate.
Our market is very brisk rightnow.
I think I said that earlier inthe year.
And, I talk to friends in realestate around the country and
the markets in Florida, forexample, just aren't as good as
they are here.
They're very slow and very soft.
A lot of inventory similar toour market in 2009.
But here, if a house is inreally nice condition and it's
(04:31):
priced right, those two thingsare very important.
Pricing it right and getting itready to go.
They sell really quickly.
So I worked with my buyers or mysellers on their house all week
last week.
We, we shined up the hardwoodfloors, we washed windows, we
just got sparkling clean, andthen I brought some extra things
(04:55):
in.
I borrowed a big king comforterand, made their bed with some,
pillows and.
Put some throws and pillows outand we just got it all sparkled
up and shined up.
And I had my handy person fixsome places in their ceiling
tiles in the basement.
And last minute I noticed therewere a few little nicks in the
basement.
I.
Ceiling going down the steps.
(05:16):
So I ended up going to HomeDepot and getting some paint and
like rolling the ceiling, realquick before people came to look
at it.
I'm like, real estate is notglamorous by any means, but the
time I, I got everything set andthe brochures out.
I had 25 showings yesterday onthat cute little house.
And so we're getting multipleoffers.
(05:37):
We're gonna review this evening.
So just a really busy, tiringday yesterday, and then today in
my life it's Sunday.
So I'll have an open house, I'llreview offers, and I've also got
some people I'm trying to getout to look at some property
before the storm hits.
So just the spring is superbusy.
(05:59):
I like it.
I was thinking about ourconversation last week about,
spiraling and getting drilleddown into the ground and how,
you've gotta get that motiongoing to come out of that hole.
And I'm like, oh my gosh.
I was I had back to backshowings.
Which means, three groups ofbuyers.
(06:19):
And I just had'em scheduled outall, throughout the day.
And I was just so happy.
And I was driving to my car,listening to music, and I'm
like, oh, this is why Hess andCathy are so happy.
They're constantly moving,they're constantly doing things
and that's so important.
And I'm like, I really am sohappy when I'm out.
With people showing houses.
(06:41):
So anyway, that's my littlehappy spot.
I, and I do love to get housesready.
It's a lot of work, but I havejoy in putting the flowers out
and fluffing the pillows andjust getting it sparkling, so
anyway, a lot of little thingsin my job that bring me joy
probably is in everybody's cupof tea.
But that's me.
(07:02):
And that's my day.
And.
Hess (07:04):
I love it.
I love it.
That's kinda you talking aboutlast week you have all these
plates, different servingplates, that if you entertain,
and so that kind of aestheticsthat you do for these houses
that you're, that you put on themarket it really makes such a
difference.
The mums that you put out andthe fresh cut flowers.
(07:24):
When you go to Trader Joe's andyou buy all their flowers.
Delbert (07:30):
And the people behind me are like, are you like.
Planning a wedding or and I'mlike, I'm just selling a house,
but it does make such adifference and and my clients
are like, gosh, we reallythought you were pushing us.
But they'll go into a house thathasn't been cleaned, it's been
on the market for a while.
It's smelly.
There's no love, and they'relike, oh man, we get it.
(07:52):
We get the difference that itmakes and it just doesn't take
that much to make a hugedifference in life and real
estate and friendship and justgoing that little extra step
makes all the difference in theworld.
Hess (08:06):
Cool.
Cool.
All right, so we left you alllast week with talking about
Papaw because he would alwayswant to spiral up.
He had been in World War II inthe hundred and fourth division.
Of the Army and saw andwitnessed so many hard things
(08:27):
and presented to you Delbert asoh when your dog passed away,
he's oh no, your dog went andgot married.
I would always try to flip itinto telling you something
positive
Delbert (08:39):
Yeah.
He always pivoted towards joyand taught me how to do that
even though he saw so manyterrible things.
And Hess sent me we were talkingabout him last week and I
couldn't remember the name ofthe concentration camp, so a
little bit of housekeeping.
The name of that concentrationcamp in Germany that he helped
liberate was called DoraMittelbau.
(09:01):
I hope I'm saying that it'sM-I-T-T-E-L.
BAU Dormital.
And and so Hess was so diligentabout looking things up about
his infantry.
She sent me this encyclopedialink about, what were the things
that qualified you to be put inthe Holocaust Museum as a
(09:25):
liberator.
And there are only 36, militarydivisions that have that
distinction.
And my papa's a hundred fourth,the Timberwolves were one was
because they were there within48 hours of the first soldier
arriving.
And and when I was little, hedid not talk about the war.
He was always pivoting towardsjoy and trying to entertain us
(09:47):
and bring joy into the lives ofhis whole family.
And so he showed up for us inthat way big time.
But he showed up for thosepeople in that concentration
camp.
When I was older, he told usstories about, how horrible it
smelled when they started walike they could smell it miles
(10:08):
out, they could smell theconcentration camp.
And they got up to it, a lot ofthe people in his division, they
threw up, they got really sick.
They were having huge bouts oftrauma, breakdowns, all sorts of
things that go on along with allof this.
The rescuing and and so they,their infantry is really
(10:31):
credited with coming in, I thinksecond and providing food
medical attention, clothing,blankets.
These poor people were starving.
They were naked or half naked.
And they had'em working in thesetunnels.
And they also organized thetown, surrounding that camp to,
(10:52):
to bury, properly bury the deadover 3000 bodies there.
He carried that with him hiswhole life, but he always showed
We didn't know what to call it.
Hess (11:02):
Yeah.
Flashbacks and so forth.
Delbert (11:05):
Yeah.
Hess (11:06):
Wow.
Wow.
Delbert (11:09):
So showing up Papa Charlie is a plus for showing up
and just.
Getting it done, and and insmall ways you and I do that for
our clients and our friends andour family every day.
Hess (11:28):
Telling the papa story just makes me having a head cold
and still seeing clients, likesmall stuff.
But, you Papaw taking care ofhimself however he could, and
that's before they had reallygood mental health services for
the veterans.
Delbert (11:42):
I am right.
Hess (11:43):
They were just supposed to just like for, forget it.
But they go back to their house.
Yeah.
And he had four kids and he isover there and thinking about
his four kids that he's tryingto get back to.
Wow.
Wow.
Yeah.
So me showing up and having asore throat.
That's icing.
That's nothing.
Delbert (12:05):
It's still showing up, so don't shortchange it.
I'll tell you that we all dowhat we need to do in our lives
and that's what our destiny islike.
Has you helped so many people?
You're such a leader ourfriends.
Take the lead in our retreats.
You help so many people.
That's so important.
(12:26):
health is so important.
I know that firsthand, and I,it's so important how you show
up for people, so don'tshortchange that at all.
Hess (12:37):
For sure.
I have a friend that whosefather was in Vietnam and she
experienced Vietnam through him.
That, he brought back a lot ofdemons that stayed in his head
from Vietnam.
He knew who he really was,which, you knew your papa, the
(12:58):
core of the person and the waythat they ever tried to protect
themselves.
The have all or the Bloody Maryin the morning or something,
those are all just adaptationsto, to try to survive.
Yeah.
Yeah.
It's hard.
It's hard.
Yeah.
Delbert (13:18):
my kids were little and they'd have a stomach ache,
they'd say, I have a PapaCharlie belly.
Hess (13:23):
Oh.
Delbert (13:24):
had a stomachache.
His stomach hurt a lot, a lot ofissues and or they'd get a
nervous stomach.
They'd say, oh, I got a PapawCharlie Belly.
Hess (13:33):
Wow.
Wow.
So tell me more, you also didmore research on the Goldie Hawn
work.
Delbert (13:40):
Right.
Talk about showing up.
Here's a shout out to GoldieHawn.
I love her so much.
I love all of her movies.
And she's also a writer, which Idon't think I've read any of her
books, or at least not lately.
And she says, I.
part of being blessed.
If you have money, that is ablessing, but it's also a
(14:00):
responsibility to show up forpeople who have than you.
So she I.
Has this video and it's part ofher Mind Up.
That's the name of the program.
So that's the other part ofhousekeeping.
I couldn't think of the name ofit last week, but it's called
Mind Up and it's a program forchildren to help them succeed
(14:20):
through mental health, exercisesand, that's scientific
scientifically based.
She is a promoter of that mindup and her wake up is part of
that that program that she has.
And it's just, you can Google itand watch it.
She takes deep breaths beforeshe opens her eyes and then she
stretches and then she thinks ofthree things she's grateful for
(14:43):
and before she gets out of bed,she says It's gonna be a great
day.
And I just love that.
Hess (14:49):
Yeah.
So that's how you wake up everymorning?
Delbert (14:52):
Yes.
If I don't forget, sometimes Iwake up and I go, oh shoot, I
forgot the Goldie.
Ha, dang it.
Hess (14:57):
Yeah.
Delbert (14:57):
then I'll, before I start my prayers I'll do my
gratitude, my three gratitudes.
But I think I just wake upthinking it's gonna be a great
day.
I'm always anxious.
I.
the day to start.
I get excited like a little, Isay that like I'm like a little
kid, I'm just like, oh, let melook outside.
What's it gonna be like today?
I'm excited for this day, andthen I start planning around the
(15:19):
weather.
I'm To take an umbrella tonightto those showings, right?
Hess (15:26):
That we might have just gotten squirrely there because
we got, I got rain on mystarlink satellite dish right
then.
Delbert (15:31):
Oh.
Hess (15:33):
But yeah, that's just so optimistic to think about.
It's gonna be a great day.
And then you look for, Hey,what's gonna be great?
And things that are great versusbeing like an Eyore, waking up
and saying, oh, it's gonna be abad day.
And then it just seems like itkeeps getting bad and I can
remember.
Delbert, this is a Sacred Heartthing.
(15:53):
We went to the same gradeschool, high school Mother of
good counsel and Sacred Heartis, it was Sister Patrick in
biology class, or it might havebeen Ms.
Herp.
And Ms.
Herp was really sweet.
She always had a little she worered lipstick and she always had
a little red lipstick on herteeth tooth.
You remember that?
Delbert (16:09):
Yes, I love Ms.
Herp.
Hess (16:12):
Yeah.
If we start to have a bad day,then we slump our shoulders.
And then when we have ourshoulders slumped, we'd be more
apt to trip and stuff like that.
And to be more awkward and thenit can multiply where we have
more of a bad day.
Delbert (16:29):
Exactly.
And the Ursuline sisters and Ms.
Herp, they were really big onposture.
Sit up straight.
And I'm really grateful for allthat.
I know it didn't work foreverybody, but the discipline
really worked for me.
And I'm super grateful for it.
'cause I was such a wild kid.
(16:50):
If I hadn't had that I don'tknow what would've happened to
me.
Hess (16:57):
You did have the the place for your cigarettes sewn into
your, so it would've been.
Delbert (17:02):
Some stuff was stressing me out.
I could always go have a smokeby the St.
Jude statue.
Yeah, I had that going for me.
and then they had a smokinglounge, I think junior year we
got a smoking lounge.
So I could always just go in mysmoking lounge with my.
Cigarettes in my Wescot pocket.
my God, the stitching on thatwas just atrocious.
Hess (17:24):
That's funny.
Is it raining there outside yourpicture window?
Delbert (17:28):
not raining.
It's just a little gray.
One of the other things that I,you always see, people say is,
oh, I have to go to work.
And you know what?
If you have a job that is ablessing, you get to go to work.
Hess (17:42):
Just resay saying
Delbert (17:43):
Resetting it just pivoting towards joy like I was
saying about Papa Charlie.
So yeah, today I get to showhouses and if it rains, I have
the cutest umbrella with yellowdaisies on it that I'll get to
take with me.
Hess (17:58):
Yeah, I was working with a couple the other day and it was
like, Hey, I get to, and I getto, and I get to, instead of, I
have to,
Delbert (18:05):
Right.
Hess (18:06):
Uhhuh.
Yeah.
It's just a little switch andmoving from that limbic part of
your brain up to your prefrontalcortex, getting that that limbic
amygdala, that amygdala partlike it's turnstile to get it to
go up to a positive thought orwhat, so that you can spiral
(18:26):
back up.
Yeah.
Delbert (18:29):
out of the ground, move around in whatever the day
brings you sunshine or rain andget going.
Life is short.
It's sweet.
Get in there and get all thegoodness out.
Hess (18:42):
And a lot of people are being affected by what's
happening in the world rightnow.
What's happening with ourcountry, and I have something on
the bottom of every email I sendout that is this when a student
asks Butler what the answer isto ending the suffering in the
world, she replies, there's nosingle answer that will solve
(19:04):
all of our future problems.
There's no magic bullet.
Instead, there are thousands ofanswers at least, and you can be
one of them if you choose to be.
Delbert (19:17):
I love that.
Let's all try to be the answer.
One of a thousand.
Hess (19:23):
Yeah.
Just 1, 1, 1 positive thing thatyou can do to make a change.
Delbert (19:30):
exactly.
Whether it's just smiling atsomebody in line or, telling
somebody you like their hat, youcan change somebody's day.
I keep seeing these sweatshirtsthat say, dear person behind me,
the world's a better placebecause you're in it.
Hess (19:49):
Wow.
Delbert (19:50):
Love the person in front of you, and then they turn
around and the sweatshirt on thefront says, you're enough.
And I'm like, oh my gosh.
I want one of those.
Hess (20:01):
That's great.
Delbert (20:02):
Even though I don't wear sweatshirts that often
Hess (20:04):
yeah.
You are enough.
You are enough.
Delbert (20:08):
or if you don't have one, you can just tell people
that.
Hess (20:12):
And it's tough and hard sometimes.
I'm just picturing Papaw's troopgoing into this, to this
concentration camp, smelling itmiles away, going in there.
Some people are half alive.
There's 3000 people that aredead.
Bone, just bones half dressed ifthey are alive, it's just, and
(20:37):
they had to really, they had toreally bring those people back
slowly.
You had to be careful with howyou nurtured them back from that
Delbert (20:48):
Even how much you fed,
Hess (20:50):
yeah.
Yeah.
Wow.
I'm listening to, I'm listeningto a good book right now, James,
and it's Jim from it's Jim'sperspective from Huckleberry
Finn, and that's written fromhis point of view and oh gosh
(21:11):
what me with white privilegedoesn't know about what happened
to blacks.
Just not even being able totrace their heritage because
they weren't in any, theyweren't on any, any censor list
and families being removed ortaken, or people being used as a
breeder and so forth.
It's just crazy to think that'show we were that can bring me
(21:35):
down.
But then I gotta okay, thisknowledge is good.
How can I move forward in a morepositive way?
I gotta know about these hardthings that happened.
Delbert (21:46):
Exactly and spread the light,
Hess (21:49):
yeah.
How can I spread the light?
Yeah.
Delbert (21:54):
Pods.
We hope you can spread the lighttoday and we hope you have great
Goldie Hawn Day
Hess (22:03):
even though it might be raining where you are, what
sunshine can you bring in aroundyou?
We love you.
Thank you so much for listening.
Be sure to subscribe and toshare.
Give us a little comment orreview.
You all take care.
Delbert (22:23):
Peace and love.
Friends, we love you.
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