June 5, 2025 • 38 mins
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Learning to feed ourselves properly as adults isn't something to be embarrassed about—it's a necessary skill in our modern food environment. Wellness must evolve through life's changes, from hormonal shifts to new parenthood to temporary disruptions.
• Understanding how food works in our bodies is essential because our food landscape has changed dramatically with processing and additives
• Female bodies experience continuous hormonal shifts requiring different wellness approaches throughout life
• Permanent changes like parenthood, grief, and aging demand reimagining our wellness strategies
• Temporary disruptions (injury, relocation, caregiving) require flexibility rather than abandonment of wellness
• Collecting data about your body's responses helps create personalized approaches for each life season
• Building a "wellness toolbox" with multiple strategies allows adaptation when circumstances change
• Real wellness evolution takes time—my perimenopause adjustment took nearly two years of consistent effort
• Having support from someone who understands both science and practical application makes transitions easier
I'm currently enrolling new one-on-one clients for three months of coaching, a total of 12 calls. My three-month coaching package offer is open until July 20th. If you've been wondering what's wrong with you and thinking it's silly to learn how to eat, DM me, email me, or book a free consultation call. I have five slots open.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey friends, welcome back to Wealthy Generation
Podcast.
That's W-E-L-L-T-H-Y.
Wealthy.
So, if you haven't heard or arenot aware, I am currently
enrolling new one-on-one clientsfor three months of coaching, a
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total of 12 calls and I'm hereto talk about that, but not and
it's part of the story, right.
So I've been havingconversations with women who are
interested in joining me forone-on-one coaching.
They are kind of new to mycommunity, but kind of not.
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They've been following me onInstagram or listening to this
podcast for a while now andwe've recently connected on
consultation calls, which hasbeen amazing.
And something that I keephearing, or has been a common
thread, not just with these newwomen that I've connected with,
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but throughout my coachingcareer, is that there is
embarrassment around the factthat we need to learn how to eat
, and it's this kind ofconfusing moment where you're
like, wait, I've been eating allmy life.
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Moment where you're like, wait,I've been eating all my life.
If I were not eating, then itwould be a problem.
But to actually understand howto feed oneself is kind of a
different process, and if youhaven't listened to my episode
with Carla she is a formerclient my episode with Carla she
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is a former client.
This is one of the things thatshe mentions on the podcast
episode and I can link it in theshow notes, where she says and
I'm not going to quote becauseI'm not directly reading, but
she says something to the effectof it took me 31 years to learn
how to feed myself.
So it is this common thread ofhow do we feed ourselves to feel
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well in our bodies, to feelenergized, to promote our
wellness, to be at a weightthat's healthy for us.
And I say it that way becausethere's one thought of the
weight we think we should be andthere's another weight where
our body is at its most optimalright, and that number might not
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be the same, or if you want toachieve weight loss or something
like that right.
So to learn how to feedourselves is like this concept.
That shouldn't be a concept, atleast we think, and it's with
all due right.
It is a new concept.
It is a new thing that we haveto do for ourselves.
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The same way we learn aboutmoney and we learn about I don't
know stranger danger, and welearn about music and our
culture and things like that, wealso need to now, in this
modern world, learn how to feedourselves, because things have
changed so so much when it comesto food.
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And something I also want to tiethis back to is the ever
changing wellness and howsometimes we have to learn how
to feed ourselves.
More or less, depending on whatour goals are, depending on the
season that we are in life,depending on how we're feeling,
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we might have to make certainadjustments to how we eat.
So it's not even like you learnone way of eating and then
that's it.
We don't learn anything else.
True, wellness is really everevolving.
There are circumstances in ourlives that for well, if we're
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not aware of it, we don't know,but that really shaped the way
that we feed ourselves, the waythat we need to feed ourselves
or should feed ourselves.
It just changes.
And I think that in wellnessculture there's this rigidity to
wellness where you follow onething and usually we're
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following one thing withinanother, which is trends.
So we follow one diet or oneway of eating and we do that,
but it's not sustainable becauseit's so rigid or it doesn't fit
our lifestyle and it makes usmore stressed out.
Then it is helpful, and then wecontinue to hop around doing
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the same thing, depending on thetrend that's happening, like
right now.
It's I don't know.
It's like Pilates and we'rerunning marathons and it's clean
eating and mindful eating andorganic and raw, and there's all
of these little buzzwords thathappen.
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Oh, and not to mention thepharmaceutical industry with
weight loss injections orsurgeries, things like that.
So there's so much to navigatein wellness, things like that.
So there's so much to navigatein wellness that we're like,
okay, let's try this, let's trythat, and then it kind of goes
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out the window until this newtrend catches your eye and you
go ahead and re-engage.
Right, but what about if wewould always be engaged to a
certain extent?
What about if we were acceptingof the fact that the way we eat
does need to evolve?
We need to first learn thefoundation and the basics of how
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food works in our body, whatdifferent categories food fall
under, how eating certain kindsof foods affect us on the inside
and affect us personally.
Right, there's a general way ofhow food responds to the human
body, but then there's the more100% nuanced way as to how it
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affects you specifically, whichis a whole, nother different
story that no one talks about.
It's just really general.
So, when we're discussing this,I just want to share a little
bit about how, what I want tohighlight certain parts of
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general life that might I don'twant to say might that will
cause a change in how you eatand your wellness, whether it's
voluntary or involuntary, whereyou're making actual mindful
choices in changes or you're notnoticing that this is happening
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because the outsidecircumstance of your life is
pushing you in that directionand you're not kind of aware
that eating is a thing yet orthat it changes.
So you're just going along withthe flow and temporary
circumstances where thesechanges might happen and things
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that we don't have control over.
And I'll give personal examples.
I've been on my wellnessjourney now for almost nine
years, so I've been through alot of different I don't know
life circumstances where I'vehad to adjust my wellness.
And I just want to normalizethis because I think there's a
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lot of shame and guilt thathappen when you can't stick to
the one plan that you havedecided on or chosen or have
been doing for a while and thenit no longer works or fits and
you make it mean that yourwellness is over or that you
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can't continue on your wellnessand it's kind of like hands up
in the air surrender.
I can't do anything about it,but I want you to know that you
can do more about it.
You can do things about it.
You can always pivot, you canalways take a more like a pause
and see what your actualresources are at the time or
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what can you do right, sometimesI'm not going to lie it's
annoying to do that, I am ahabit of creature.
And once I find a specific waythat works for me and that I get
comfortable in, when that timechange, that time comes, when my
life is like all right, this nolonger a good fit, then it's
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kind of annoying to go back tothe drawing board and, you know,
do research and find what'sgoing to work and that
transition period that needs tohappen.
But it doesn't mean that itcan't be done.
And the more that we go throughlife experiences, we can kind
of get a little bit more of ahandle on what the changes looks
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like and have a little bit moregrace for ourselves when these
moments do come up.
So number one, as the basicfoundation umbrella of
everything, is we.
Yes, we need to learn how toeat at this big age, at whatever
age we are in, and we haven'tlearned we need to, and the
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reason why is because it's notas innate as before, where we
just ate from the earth, right,there were home cooked meals
being made.
Everything was minimallyprocessed.
Foods were not being made atfactories, they were being made
by local shops or at home, youknow, and there was not much to
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think about.
Like we, we like, those werethe foods that we were eating.
But as we have evolved intomodern society, where there's
like monocropping, where there'sbig farming, right, there's no
longer small farms, there's likefarmland upon farmland, where
there's just one crop beinggrown, like corn or soy or
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something like that, where nowthere's major major food
companies, where a lot of foodis being made in factories with
ingredients that are subpar andmodified chemicals, where
there's less home cooking goingon, there's less nutritious food
available, there's food desertsand all these other things,
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then it means that now we needto sift through all this
information, let alone the waythat society is set up, where
how we work is kind of different, how we show up in our lives is
a little bit different, it'svery capitalistic, where
everything revolves around money, not necessarily the wellbeing
of our communities.
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So we need to sift through allof this information to be able
to understand technically what'sactually food that nourishes us
and that supports our wellness,and what is food that does not
and it's just created for bigprofit for these companies.
Okay, so there's a differencethere.
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So that's the reason why weactually need to pay attention
and learn how to eat because ourlifestyles have shifted, the
food has shifted and it'sgreatly impacting our health,
and not everything that you seeor that you can put in your
mouth is food right.
Food nourishes us, it supportsour health, and a lot of the
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times that's not happening.
So to sift again through thisinformation to know what is in
the supermarkets or whatever isactually a really big feat, and
not a lot of people know likethis is not what doctors are
being trained on.
This is not what our parentsare learning.
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Right, they come from veryunique backgrounds where most
likely they were.
Maybe they fall in that firstbucket where food was radically
different and lifestyle wasradically different, even in
just the past 50, 60, 70 years.
Okay, so that's the main reasonto learn about food and having
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no shame to learn about food.
So now I want to go into some,like the evolution of wellness,
like how it just evolves withoutit being your fault at all, and
how to ride that wave so thatwe're not pigeonholing ourselves
into wellness, looking just oneway and then thinking that it's
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hopeless and that you knowthere's no solution or there's
nothing that you can do whereyou currently are, in the season
that you're in.
So I kind of categorize this asforever changes, as things that
happen in your life that kindof stick forever.
And then in between that thereare temporary changes that
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happen, and I'm going to gothrough a few of those that
cause us to have to shift ourwellness strategy, whether it's
movement, food, all those kindsof things.
So the very first one I feellike it's a forever change is
being born female, point blank.
Like if you are born female,you your body is ruled by
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estrogen and you have a vulva.
Like your life is an evolvingwellness period.
Why?
Because as we age, we gothrough so many hormonal changes
that are involuntary to us.
We are, you know, as soon aswe're maybe a preteen to an
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early teen, we start tomenstruate and then we're in our
childbearing years and then wego into perimenopause and then
we hit menopause and we'repost-menopausal.
So just those hormonal shiftsthat are involuntary to the
female body requires ourwellness to flow with that, and
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what usually happens is that wethis teen, early twenties, maybe
early thirties era, where wewere able to make fast changes
with our bodies without puttingin much effort whether that was
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weight loss, mostly weight loss,right, um, and it was really
kind of it felt easy and mostpeople feel like they looked
their best right.
But as we start getting olderand our hormones start to shift,
so does our wellness strategy,and that is never taken into
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consideration.
A lot of the research that'sout here is based on men, and
the women's body is rarelystudied, and part of the reason
why is because they say, it'sbeen said, that we're too
complicated.
Duh, we are complicated.
We go through so many hormonalshifts, not just throughout our
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lives, but on a month to monthbasis, so to me, our needs
becomes really intricate andvery delicate, and we're not
taught these things.
We avoid these kinds ofconversations.
Shame is brought on to us aboutthese conversations.
So if our moms are not learning, if our grandmas are not
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learning, if this stuff is notbeing taught in school, our
doctors are not sharing with us,then where do we get the
information and a lot of it isstereotypes, a lot of it is you
know, if it worked for oneperson, maybe it works for me,
but I think it creates this verytoxic environment where we
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don't actually know and then weget blamed for not knowing or
for not being at our best or fornot feeling well, and I think
it's super unfair.
So I think that that's aforever change right there.
Now, if we want to add to thisforever change is becoming a
parent.
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Pregnancy is a whole notheranimal, because it's another
huge hormonal shift, physicallyand mentally.
And becoming a parent is aforever thing, right.
Whether, no matter what, like,if you're pregnant, you have a
child, if you're raising thischild, if not, it's part of your
lived experiences, it's part ofyour body changing in different
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ways and it not quite being thesame ever again.
You're not the same ever again,right?
So this is another foreverchange where things shift so
violently and there's littlesupport on here and now you're
also raising other humans thatbring in a lot of the temporary
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changes that happens to us.
And it's all the phases of thekid, right.
The kid is a newborn, then is ababy, then it's come school,
they get sick, right.
So there's a lot of uncertaintythat comes with becoming a
parent because all of a sudden,your schedule and your timeline
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is not really yours anymore.
For as much as you think it willbe, it will not be, because you
don't have control over certainthings.
You don't have control overyour kid catching a cold and
having to stay home and changingyour plans.
For example, my kid broke hisarm and elbow and that
completely changed how wellnesslooked for me, because he needed
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a lot of care and attention.
He was five years old.
A lot of care and attention.
He was five years old, so a lotof things that he would do on
his own.
Now he needed support in.
So not only was the time of hishim being in a cast and having
so many doctor's appointments,but also physical therapy,
occupational therapy, so that hecan regain movement, correct
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movement in his arm.
And that was another ninemonths, right.
So I don't have control overthose things.
What happens to my wellness isthat it needs to shift, it needs
to pivot, okay.
So I want you to think of thisalmost like the Russian dolls I
don't know if you guys have everseen them where there's one
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doll inside of another andthere's a bunch of different
sizes and they go all into oneone another.
So this is like the biggerdolls, like the forever changes,
and then the ones inside arelike the little temporary
changes that we need to adjustto.
Another thing that happenedwith my wellness and how it's
had to shift is when they wentto school.
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Right, when they went to school, my schedule revolved around
their school schedule and that'show I've had to run my business
, run my wellness.
All of that because there'sjust, there's just that's my
responsibility and my wellnessneeds to adjust with that.
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Another big example of foreverchanges is grief and trauma.
Right, they forever change youand it brings up a lot of
emotions and it brings up a lotof that has to be done, right.
So this also impacts yourwellness and because it impacts
your motivation, it impacts yourself-confidence, it impacts how
you feel.
So sometimes we're not up fordoing our full wellness how we
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expect it to, because we're sador because we need a break, or
because we need other types ofsupport, or because we have
traumatic stress in our bodieswhere doing certain things
really triggers us, right.
So I want you to see how theselived experiences that you kind
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of don't have any control over,really affects our wellness and
we try to separate those twothings and it becomes this toxic
cycle of thinking that we'renot good enough, that we're not
disciplined enough and thatwe're never going to get it.
And this doesn't work for meand that is simply not true.
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This is why I really support myclients in building a toolbox
for flexibility, for optionsthat we have as things shift and
change in our lives.
Things shift and change in ourlives.
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I want to bring up othertemporary changes, like moving
from one place to another rightLike that takes up a lot of time
and energy.
The school season, the regularseasons, if you go on vacation,
if you get hurt I know that Isprained my ankle really bad at
one point and I had tocompletely change my wellness
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routine because I couldn't be onmy ankle.
I had to give it time to heal.
If family members get sick andyou need to show up for them.
If you're having a medicalprocedure done and you need to
rest for four to six weeks.
If you become a caretaker for afamily member, if you're
getting ready for somethingright Like a big test or a
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promotion or something like thatand these are just like quick
examples that came to me off thetop of my head, where I we
assume that because we have tochange how we're eating or how
we're moving, that we broke it.
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We broke our wellness, we brokeour progress, we broke our
commitment to ourselves, and Ihope that it gives you some, I
guess, relief to understand thatif we do not learn how to
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navigate our wellness throughthese life changes and
understand that we need to findnew ways of adjusting, then
we're going to feel like wenever get it and it's not meant
for us.
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Another time where I've had tochange my wellness within these
nine years has been as I'vegotten older, as I mentioned,
with aging.
When I started my wellnessjourney, I was 30.
And when I turned 37, and I hadbeen able to maintain
everything for about six years,like my weight, the clothes I
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wore, my energy, how I looked,like everything was stable for
six years and then it was not.
I gained about 30 pounds inthree to four months.
I gained a lot of belly fat, Iwas tired, I was frustrated, I
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felt like everything was fallingapart, and what I do know is
that perimenopause starts or youcan start feeling symptoms
around age 35.
So I was like, oh, is this thestart of perimenopause for me?
Or more obvious symptoms?
Is it because I was onantidepressants?
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Is it because I was on thyroidmedication?
Is it because I experimentedwith testosterone hormone
therapy?
All of these things were goingaround around that time.
But I knew what the changes Ineeded to make for a
perimenopausal woman.
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I knew what those things were,so I was taking it very relaxed
before then because it wasworking for me.
But because I started toexperience all these changes in
such a small amount of time, Istarted to adopt more of a
perimenopausal lifestyle and ittook me a while, a lot of
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consistency, but it took me, Ithink, almost two years of
consistent work and tweaking andadjustment to be able to get
back to feeling how I was before.
And I don't want to shy awayfrom how long this took in the
timelines, because it's veryreal.
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And one thing that we are inour wellness journeys a lot of
time is very impatient becausewe live in the microwave
wellness culture, society right,and sometimes I'm navigating
and trying to implement thesechanges with everything else
going on in my life.
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So even if I wanted to go at100, life has me at 75.
And other things popping in andout of my life that are
unexpected, that kind of slowsdown the whatever progress I
want to make.
I know in the last two months inApril and May was one of those
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slow down times for me.
In April I sprained my ankleagain and I caught COVID and it
took me like I don't know twoplus weeks to recover.
And then in May schoolactivities started to ramp up
for my kids as the end of theschool year and I also got a
yeast infection that knocked meout.
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So these are moments where Ijust have to adjust my wellness.
I switched my eating to help mybody heal from the yeast
infection.
I had to switch my movementbecause I really did not have
energy and I felt like my bodyjust needed rest to focus on
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healing.
And I know, because I've doneit time and time again, that
I'll go back to what I was doingbefore.
Another switch I had to do wasI had to switch gyms and I had
to do research and I wanted tofind a personal trainer to
support me with the changes thatwas happening with my body and
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how I was feeling.
So what I want for you toremain consistent in your
wellness journey is knowing thatyou will always figure it out.
I don't want to say that you'llalways have the answers,
because you won't, but you willalways figure it out.
You would always give it achance.
When I was feeling prettydefeated in these two years
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where I tried to figure outmyself again, something I
continuously told myself wasthat I believed in the science,
I believed in the result.
I believed in the doctor'sresearch and the science that I
was following, who had studiedthis at length and who had
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taught me these strategies Right.
And I knew that part of thepackage was remaining consistent
on even if no matter how longit took and collecting data.
Okay, collecting data, I wouldtrack what I ate to a certain
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extent not not all the time,right, but I just wanted to see
what was happening.
I switched my food around Um.
I implemented again certainaspects of perimenopausal
lifestyle a lot of them and Igot a body composition exams
done to see how I was doing.
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I was not just monitoring myweight number as a whole.
I even got a DEXA scan, which Ihave an episode about on the
podcast as well.
I got blood work done just tomake sure I had data to continue
to make decisions for mylifestyle changes.
And if you're so overwhelmedright now by what I'm telling
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you, I'm so sorry.
That is not the point of this Ireally want the point is for
you to know that wellnessevolves and that there's always
something that you can do.
Whether you know what that isor not.
At the moment that's adifferent story, but what I do
encourage you to do is to staycurious, stay asking questions
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and not to give up on yourself,because there are so many
factors that affects ourwellness and it just keeps
evolving.
And that is something that Ispeak with and I process with my
clients at length, because thebeauty of working together for
three months or six months at atime is that kind of a lot of
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life happens, right, especiallyin six months.
A lot of life happens, a fewseasons change and we get to
together, work through thewellness evolution and flow and
find how we're going to continuehonoring their wellness while
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the outside circumstances changethat they don't have much
control over, and how do theystay committed and on track with
their goals?
And, trust me, it's happenedtime and time again.
So if you find yourself, let'ssay, you're a new mom and you're
trying to go back to theroutine you had before you had a
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baby and you're finding thatit's difficult to do that
because you don't have the sameamount of time.
You don't have the same amountof time, you don't have the same
energy as before.
Your priorities have 100%shifted.
Because now you have a littlehuman to take care of, then your
wellness is not lost, it justneeds to be re-imagined.
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And sometimes it's hard to seewhat that can look like.
If you are a new parent, if youI don't know if you are kind of
at a loss at what other choicesyou have, right, I think that
that's a big deal.
Or if you moved somewhere new.
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I know that one of my clientsmoved from California to the
East Coast and they were at atotal loss with their cross
country drive Sorry, there'scars outside making a lot of
noise.
Here we go.
Okay, there were a lot ofchanges happening for her and
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then she had to kind of read,not kind of.
She had to rebuild her wellnessin a new city.
She had to find new restaurantsand new places to work out and
do yoga and cafes.
So again, it's not lost, itjust has to be re-imagined with
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the understanding that wellnessis shifting.
With the understanding thatwellness is shifting, I for
myself have like, if I need tomake changes, taking my age into
consideration and where I am inmy hormonal journey as a female
, I kind of have an idea as towhat my next steps are to make
changes and to try out to see ifit works for me.
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Right, and that's just becausethis is what I study, this is
what I help women with, this iswhat I focus on.
However, in other areas of mylife, I also have that one
person who I'm like.
If I have to ask a question, ifit comes to money or career or
whatever, I can reach out to XYZhuman to support me with that.
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Okay, so that's a lot of what Ido with my clients not only
teaching them the science behindthings, teaching them the
foundation about food andwellness and hormones and stress
and how it all works, but alsohow do you apply it, because we
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can know a lot of information,but if it's not being applied
appropriately, then it'sprobably not going to work in
the way that you expect it to.
There's a lot of right thingsout here in the internet and
wherever you find yourinformation internet and
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wherever you find yourinformation.
There's a lot of right things,but are they right together?
Are they right for you?
Are they right for you in thisseason?
Those are all question marks.
Okay, that kind of disappointus or discourages us when it
doesn't work as well.
So another thing I help myclients do is kind of put the
puzzle pieces together of whatworks for them in this season.
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I debunk a lot of wellnessthings that are set out there
that might not apply for them orwe have different lived
experiences and cultures, soit's seen different and it is
super, super helpful and a lotmore peaceful and relaxing and
loving and graceful andaccepting when we start to see
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wellness from this angle.
All right, all right.
I hope this was helpful.
I do want to invite you, if thishas hit home for you, if you've
never considered wellness as anever-evolving thing and you're
stuck in your 20s and early 30sand just wishing and hoping for
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these moments, or you havesomething going on like a
wellness concern or your numberson your blood work is not so
good and you know that you wantto work on your stress and your
hormones and you want to learnhow to eat at this big age, or
you know that stuff but youdon't know how to apply it and
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pivot it into this new season ofyour life, whether it's a
forever change for you or atemporary change for you, or
circumstances that fluctuate ona pretty regular basis and you
don't know how to switch it up,then I really, really do invite
you to reach out to me.
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Let's chat.
You can DM me, email me, book afree consultation call where we
can discuss all of this.
My three month coaching packageoffer is open until July 20th.
After that I'm going to retireit for a little bit, so I invite
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you to go ahead and, if you'recurious at all, contact me to
learn more about it.
And if you're curious at all,contact me to learn more about
it.
I have five slots open.
I had a total of six.
One is officially taken.
There are a few that I'mwaiting on confirmation on, but
officially I still have fivespots open until July 20th.
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So I invite you, if this has hithome for you, if you've been
wondering for so long what'swrong with you and thinking that
it's silly about learning howto eat, and why do you always
fall off the wagon.
These are just some of thereasons why it is.
It's not on you, it's justlearning the skill of flowing,
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pivoting and being flexible withyour wellness journey as life
is happening.
All right, my love.
Thank you so much for beinghere for listening.
I appreciate you.
Remember to subscribe and torate and leave a comment if you
are enjoying this episode orshare it with a friend.
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I cannot wait to see you nextweek.
Talk to you later.
Bye.
Hey friends, welcome back to Wealthy Generation
Podcast.
That's W-E-L-L-T-H-Y.
Wealthy.
So, if you haven't heard or arenot aware, I am currently
enrolling new one-on-one clientsfor three months of coaching, a
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total of 12 calls and I'm hereto talk about that, but not and
it's part of the story, right.
So I've been havingconversations with women who are
interested in joining me forone-on-one coaching.
They are kind of new to mycommunity, but kind of not.
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They've been following me onInstagram or listening to this
podcast for a while now andwe've recently connected on
consultation calls, which hasbeen amazing.
And something that I keephearing, or has been a common
thread, not just with these newwomen that I've connected with,
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but throughout my coachingcareer, is that there is
embarrassment around the factthat we need to learn how to eat
, and it's this kind ofconfusing moment where you're
like, wait, I've been eating allmy life.
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Moment where you're like, wait,I've been eating all my life.
If I were not eating, then itwould be a problem.
But to actually understand howto feed oneself is kind of a
different process, and if youhaven't listened to my episode
with Carla she is a formerclient my episode with Carla she
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is a former client.
This is one of the things thatshe mentions on the podcast
episode and I can link it in theshow notes, where she says and
I'm not going to quote becauseI'm not directly reading, but
she says something to the effectof it took me 31 years to learn
how to feed myself.
So it is this common thread ofhow do we feed ourselves to feel
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well in our bodies, to feelenergized, to promote our
wellness, to be at a weightthat's healthy for us.
And I say it that way becausethere's one thought of the
weight we think we should be andthere's another weight where
our body is at its most optimalright, and that number might not
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be the same, or if you want toachieve weight loss or something
like that right.
So to learn how to feedourselves is like this concept.
That shouldn't be a concept, atleast we think, and it's with
all due right.
It is a new concept.
It is a new thing that we haveto do for ourselves.
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The same way we learn aboutmoney and we learn about I don't
know stranger danger, and welearn about music and our
culture and things like that, wealso need to now, in this
modern world, learn how to feedourselves, because things have
changed so so much when it comesto food.
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And something I also want to tiethis back to is the ever
changing wellness and howsometimes we have to learn how
to feed ourselves.
More or less, depending on whatour goals are, depending on the
season that we are in life,depending on how we're feeling,
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we might have to make certainadjustments to how we eat.
So it's not even like you learnone way of eating and then
that's it.
We don't learn anything else.
True, wellness is really everevolving.
There are circumstances in ourlives that for well, if we're
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not aware of it, we don't know,but that really shaped the way
that we feed ourselves, the waythat we need to feed ourselves
or should feed ourselves.
It just changes.
And I think that in wellnessculture there's this rigidity to
wellness where you follow onething and usually we're
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following one thing withinanother, which is trends.
So we follow one diet or oneway of eating and we do that,
but it's not sustainable becauseit's so rigid or it doesn't fit
our lifestyle and it makes usmore stressed out.
Then it is helpful, and then wecontinue to hop around doing
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the same thing, depending on thetrend that's happening, like
right now.
It's I don't know.
It's like Pilates and we'rerunning marathons and it's clean
eating and mindful eating andorganic and raw, and there's all
of these little buzzwords thathappen.
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Oh, and not to mention thepharmaceutical industry with
weight loss injections orsurgeries, things like that.
So there's so much to navigatein wellness, things like that.
So there's so much to navigatein wellness that we're like,
okay, let's try this, let's trythat, and then it kind of goes
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out the window until this newtrend catches your eye and you
go ahead and re-engage.
Right, but what about if wewould always be engaged to a
certain extent?
What about if we were acceptingof the fact that the way we eat
does need to evolve?
We need to first learn thefoundation and the basics of how
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food works in our body, whatdifferent categories food fall
under, how eating certain kindsof foods affect us on the inside
and affect us personally.
Right, there's a general way ofhow food responds to the human
body, but then there's the more100% nuanced way as to how it
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affects you specifically, whichis a whole, nother different
story that no one talks about.
It's just really general.
So, when we're discussing this,I just want to share a little
bit about how, what I want tohighlight certain parts of
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general life that might I don'twant to say might that will
cause a change in how you eatand your wellness, whether it's
voluntary or involuntary, whereyou're making actual mindful
choices in changes or you're notnoticing that this is happening
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because the outsidecircumstance of your life is
pushing you in that directionand you're not kind of aware
that eating is a thing yet orthat it changes.
So you're just going along withthe flow and temporary
circumstances where thesechanges might happen and things
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that we don't have control over.
And I'll give personal examples.
I've been on my wellnessjourney now for almost nine
years, so I've been through alot of different I don't know
life circumstances where I'vehad to adjust my wellness.
And I just want to normalizethis because I think there's a
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lot of shame and guilt thathappen when you can't stick to
the one plan that you havedecided on or chosen or have
been doing for a while and thenit no longer works or fits and
you make it mean that yourwellness is over or that you
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can't continue on your wellnessand it's kind of like hands up
in the air surrender.
I can't do anything about it,but I want you to know that you
can do more about it.
You can do things about it.
You can always pivot, you canalways take a more like a pause
and see what your actualresources are at the time or
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what can you do right, sometimesI'm not going to lie it's
annoying to do that, I am ahabit of creature.
And once I find a specific waythat works for me and that I get
comfortable in, when that timechange, that time comes, when my
life is like all right, this nolonger a good fit, then it's
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kind of annoying to go back tothe drawing board and, you know,
do research and find what'sgoing to work and that
transition period that needs tohappen.
But it doesn't mean that itcan't be done.
And the more that we go throughlife experiences, we can kind
of get a little bit more of ahandle on what the changes looks
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like and have a little bit moregrace for ourselves when these
moments do come up.
So number one, as the basicfoundation umbrella of
everything, is we.
Yes, we need to learn how toeat at this big age, at whatever
age we are in, and we haven'tlearned we need to, and the
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reason why is because it's notas innate as before, where we
just ate from the earth, right,there were home cooked meals
being made.
Everything was minimallyprocessed.
Foods were not being made atfactories, they were being made
by local shops or at home, youknow, and there was not much to
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think about.
Like we, we like, those werethe foods that we were eating.
But as we have evolved intomodern society, where there's
like monocropping, where there'sbig farming, right, there's no
longer small farms, there's likefarmland upon farmland, where
there's just one crop beinggrown, like corn or soy or
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something like that, where nowthere's major major food
companies, where a lot of foodis being made in factories with
ingredients that are subpar andmodified chemicals, where
there's less home cooking goingon, there's less nutritious food
available, there's food desertsand all these other things,
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then it means that now we needto sift through all this
information, let alone the waythat society is set up, where
how we work is kind of different, how we show up in our lives is
a little bit different, it'svery capitalistic, where
everything revolves around money, not necessarily the wellbeing
of our communities.
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So we need to sift through allof this information to be able
to understand technically what'sactually food that nourishes us
and that supports our wellness,and what is food that does not
and it's just created for bigprofit for these companies.
Okay, so there's a differencethere.
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So that's the reason why weactually need to pay attention
and learn how to eat because ourlifestyles have shifted, the
food has shifted and it'sgreatly impacting our health,
and not everything that you seeor that you can put in your
mouth is food right.
Food nourishes us, it supportsour health, and a lot of the
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times that's not happening.
So to sift again through thisinformation to know what is in
the supermarkets or whatever isactually a really big feat, and
not a lot of people know likethis is not what doctors are
being trained on.
This is not what our parentsare learning.
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Right, they come from veryunique backgrounds where most
likely they were.
Maybe they fall in that firstbucket where food was radically
different and lifestyle wasradically different, even in
just the past 50, 60, 70 years.
Okay, so that's the main reasonto learn about food and having
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no shame to learn about food.
So now I want to go into some,like the evolution of wellness,
like how it just evolves withoutit being your fault at all, and
how to ride that wave so thatwe're not pigeonholing ourselves
into wellness, looking just oneway and then thinking that it's
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hopeless and that you knowthere's no solution or there's
nothing that you can do whereyou currently are, in the season
that you're in.
So I kind of categorize this asforever changes, as things that
happen in your life that kindof stick forever.
And then in between that thereare temporary changes that
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happen, and I'm going to gothrough a few of those that
cause us to have to shift ourwellness strategy, whether it's
movement, food, all those kindsof things.
So the very first one I feellike it's a forever change is
being born female, point blank.
Like if you are born female,you your body is ruled by
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estrogen and you have a vulva.
Like your life is an evolvingwellness period.
Why?
Because as we age, we gothrough so many hormonal changes
that are involuntary to us.
We are, you know, as soon aswe're maybe a preteen to an
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early teen, we start tomenstruate and then we're in our
childbearing years and then wego into perimenopause and then
we hit menopause and we'repost-menopausal.
So just those hormonal shiftsthat are involuntary to the
female body requires ourwellness to flow with that, and
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what usually happens is that wethis teen, early twenties, maybe
early thirties era, where wewere able to make fast changes
with our bodies without puttingin much effort whether that was
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weight loss, mostly weight loss,right, um, and it was really
kind of it felt easy and mostpeople feel like they looked
their best right.
But as we start getting olderand our hormones start to shift,
so does our wellness strategy,and that is never taken into
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consideration.
A lot of the research that'sout here is based on men, and
the women's body is rarelystudied, and part of the reason
why is because they say, it'sbeen said, that we're too
complicated.
Duh, we are complicated.
We go through so many hormonalshifts, not just throughout our
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lives, but on a month to monthbasis, so to me, our needs
becomes really intricate andvery delicate, and we're not
taught these things.
We avoid these kinds ofconversations.
Shame is brought on to us aboutthese conversations.
So if our moms are not learning, if our grandmas are not
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learning, if this stuff is notbeing taught in school, our
doctors are not sharing with us,then where do we get the
information and a lot of it isstereotypes, a lot of it is you
know, if it worked for oneperson, maybe it works for me,
but I think it creates this verytoxic environment where we
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don't actually know and then weget blamed for not knowing or
for not being at our best or fornot feeling well, and I think
it's super unfair.
So I think that that's aforever change right there.
Now, if we want to add to thisforever change is becoming a
parent.
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Pregnancy is a whole notheranimal, because it's another
huge hormonal shift, physicallyand mentally.
And becoming a parent is aforever thing, right.
Whether, no matter what, like,if you're pregnant, you have a
child, if you're raising thischild, if not, it's part of your
lived experiences, it's part ofyour body changing in different
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ways and it not quite being thesame ever again.
You're not the same ever again,right?
So this is another foreverchange where things shift so
violently and there's littlesupport on here and now you're
also raising other humans thatbring in a lot of the temporary
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changes that happens to us.
And it's all the phases of thekid, right.
The kid is a newborn, then is ababy, then it's come school,
they get sick, right.
So there's a lot of uncertaintythat comes with becoming a
parent because all of a sudden,your schedule and your timeline
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is not really yours anymore.
For as much as you think it willbe, it will not be, because you
don't have control over certainthings.
You don't have control overyour kid catching a cold and
having to stay home and changingyour plans.
For example, my kid broke hisarm and elbow and that
completely changed how wellnesslooked for me, because he needed
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a lot of care and attention.
He was five years old.
A lot of care and attention.
He was five years old, so a lotof things that he would do on
his own.
Now he needed support in.
So not only was the time of hishim being in a cast and having
so many doctor's appointments,but also physical therapy,
occupational therapy, so that hecan regain movement, correct
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movement in his arm.
And that was another ninemonths, right.
So I don't have control overthose things.
What happens to my wellness isthat it needs to shift, it needs
to pivot, okay.
So I want you to think of thisalmost like the Russian dolls I
don't know if you guys have everseen them where there's one
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doll inside of another andthere's a bunch of different
sizes and they go all into oneone another.
So this is like the biggerdolls, like the forever changes,
and then the ones inside arelike the little temporary
changes that we need to adjustto.
Another thing that happenedwith my wellness and how it's
had to shift is when they wentto school.
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Right, when they went to school, my schedule revolved around
their school schedule and that'show I've had to run my business
, run my wellness.
All of that because there'sjust, there's just that's my
responsibility and my wellnessneeds to adjust with that.
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Another big example of foreverchanges is grief and trauma.
Right, they forever change youand it brings up a lot of
emotions and it brings up a lotof that has to be done, right.
So this also impacts yourwellness and because it impacts
your motivation, it impacts yourself-confidence, it impacts how
you feel.
So sometimes we're not up fordoing our full wellness how we
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expect it to, because we're sador because we need a break, or
because we need other types ofsupport, or because we have
traumatic stress in our bodieswhere doing certain things
really triggers us, right.
So I want you to see how theselived experiences that you kind
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of don't have any control over,really affects our wellness and
we try to separate those twothings and it becomes this toxic
cycle of thinking that we'renot good enough, that we're not
disciplined enough and thatwe're never going to get it.
And this doesn't work for meand that is simply not true.
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This is why I really support myclients in building a toolbox
for flexibility, for optionsthat we have as things shift and
change in our lives.
Things shift and change in ourlives.
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I want to bring up othertemporary changes, like moving
from one place to another rightLike that takes up a lot of time
and energy.
The school season, the regularseasons, if you go on vacation,
if you get hurt I know that Isprained my ankle really bad at
one point and I had tocompletely change my wellness
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routine because I couldn't be onmy ankle.
I had to give it time to heal.
If family members get sick andyou need to show up for them.
If you're having a medicalprocedure done and you need to
rest for four to six weeks.
If you become a caretaker for afamily member, if you're
getting ready for somethingright Like a big test or a
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promotion or something like thatand these are just like quick
examples that came to me off thetop of my head, where I we
assume that because we have tochange how we're eating or how
we're moving, that we broke it.
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We broke our wellness, we brokeour progress, we broke our
commitment to ourselves, and Ihope that it gives you some, I
guess, relief to understand thatif we do not learn how to
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navigate our wellness throughthese life changes and
understand that we need to findnew ways of adjusting, then
we're going to feel like wenever get it and it's not meant
for us.
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Another time where I've had tochange my wellness within these
nine years has been as I'vegotten older, as I mentioned,
with aging.
When I started my wellnessjourney, I was 30.
And when I turned 37, and I hadbeen able to maintain
everything for about six years,like my weight, the clothes I
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wore, my energy, how I looked,like everything was stable for
six years and then it was not.
I gained about 30 pounds inthree to four months.
I gained a lot of belly fat, Iwas tired, I was frustrated, I
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felt like everything was fallingapart, and what I do know is
that perimenopause starts or youcan start feeling symptoms
around age 35.
So I was like, oh, is this thestart of perimenopause for me?
Or more obvious symptoms?
Is it because I was onantidepressants?
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Is it because I was on thyroidmedication?
Is it because I experimentedwith testosterone hormone
therapy?
All of these things were goingaround around that time.
But I knew what the changes Ineeded to make for a
perimenopausal woman.
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I knew what those things were,so I was taking it very relaxed
before then because it wasworking for me.
But because I started toexperience all these changes in
such a small amount of time, Istarted to adopt more of a
perimenopausal lifestyle and ittook me a while, a lot of
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consistency, but it took me, Ithink, almost two years of
consistent work and tweaking andadjustment to be able to get
back to feeling how I was before.
And I don't want to shy awayfrom how long this took in the
timelines, because it's veryreal.
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And one thing that we are inour wellness journeys a lot of
time is very impatient becausewe live in the microwave
wellness culture, society right,and sometimes I'm navigating
and trying to implement thesechanges with everything else
going on in my life.
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So even if I wanted to go at100, life has me at 75.
And other things popping in andout of my life that are
unexpected, that kind of slowsdown the whatever progress I
want to make.
I know in the last two months inApril and May was one of those
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slow down times for me.
In April I sprained my ankleagain and I caught COVID and it
took me like I don't know twoplus weeks to recover.
And then in May schoolactivities started to ramp up
for my kids as the end of theschool year and I also got a
yeast infection that knocked meout.
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So these are moments where Ijust have to adjust my wellness.
I switched my eating to help mybody heal from the yeast
infection.
I had to switch my movementbecause I really did not have
energy and I felt like my bodyjust needed rest to focus on
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healing.
And I know, because I've doneit time and time again, that
I'll go back to what I was doingbefore.
Another switch I had to do wasI had to switch gyms and I had
to do research and I wanted tofind a personal trainer to
support me with the changes thatwas happening with my body and
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how I was feeling.
So what I want for you toremain consistent in your
wellness journey is knowing thatyou will always figure it out.
I don't want to say that you'llalways have the answers,
because you won't, but you willalways figure it out.
You would always give it achance.
When I was feeling prettydefeated in these two years
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where I tried to figure outmyself again, something I
continuously told myself wasthat I believed in the science,
I believed in the result.
I believed in the doctor'sresearch and the science that I
was following, who had studiedthis at length and who had
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taught me these strategies Right.
And I knew that part of thepackage was remaining consistent
on even if no matter how longit took and collecting data.
Okay, collecting data, I wouldtrack what I ate to a certain
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extent not not all the time,right, but I just wanted to see
what was happening.
I switched my food around Um.
I implemented again certainaspects of perimenopausal
lifestyle a lot of them and Igot a body composition exams
done to see how I was doing.
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I was not just monitoring myweight number as a whole.
I even got a DEXA scan, which Ihave an episode about on the
podcast as well.
I got blood work done just tomake sure I had data to continue
to make decisions for mylifestyle changes.
And if you're so overwhelmedright now by what I'm telling
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you, I'm so sorry.
That is not the point of this Ireally want the point is for
you to know that wellnessevolves and that there's always
something that you can do.
Whether you know what that isor not.
At the moment that's adifferent story, but what I do
encourage you to do is to staycurious, stay asking questions
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and not to give up on yourself,because there are so many
factors that affects ourwellness and it just keeps
evolving.
And that is something that Ispeak with and I process with my
clients at length, because thebeauty of working together for
three months or six months at atime is that kind of a lot of
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life happens, right, especiallyin six months.
A lot of life happens, a fewseasons change and we get to
together, work through thewellness evolution and flow and
find how we're going to continuehonoring their wellness while
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the outside circumstances changethat they don't have much
control over, and how do theystay committed and on track with
their goals?
And, trust me, it's happenedtime and time again.
So if you find yourself, let'ssay, you're a new mom and you're
trying to go back to theroutine you had before you had a
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baby and you're finding thatit's difficult to do that
because you don't have the sameamount of time.
You don't have the same amountof time, you don't have the same
energy as before.
Your priorities have 100%shifted.
Because now you have a littlehuman to take care of, then your
wellness is not lost, it justneeds to be re-imagined.
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And sometimes it's hard to seewhat that can look like.
If you are a new parent, if youI don't know if you are kind of
at a loss at what other choicesyou have, right, I think that
that's a big deal.
Or if you moved somewhere new.
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I know that one of my clientsmoved from California to the
East Coast and they were at atotal loss with their cross
country drive Sorry, there'scars outside making a lot of
noise.
Here we go.
Okay, there were a lot ofchanges happening for her and
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then she had to kind of read,not kind of.
She had to rebuild her wellnessin a new city.
She had to find new restaurantsand new places to work out and
do yoga and cafes.
So again, it's not lost, itjust has to be re-imagined with
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the understanding that wellnessis shifting.
With the understanding thatwellness is shifting, I for
myself have like, if I need tomake changes, taking my age into
consideration and where I am inmy hormonal journey as a female
, I kind of have an idea as towhat my next steps are to make
changes and to try out to see ifit works for me.
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Right, and that's just becausethis is what I study, this is
what I help women with, this iswhat I focus on.
However, in other areas of mylife, I also have that one
person who I'm like.
If I have to ask a question, ifit comes to money or career or
whatever, I can reach out to XYZhuman to support me with that.
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Okay, so that's a lot of what Ido with my clients not only
teaching them the science behindthings, teaching them the
foundation about food andwellness and hormones and stress
and how it all works, but alsohow do you apply it, because we
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can know a lot of information,but if it's not being applied
appropriately, then it'sprobably not going to work in
the way that you expect it to.
There's a lot of right thingsout here in the internet and
wherever you find yourinformation internet and
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wherever you find yourinformation.
There's a lot of right things,but are they right together?
Are they right for you?
Are they right for you in thisseason?
Those are all question marks.
Okay, that kind of disappointus or discourages us when it
doesn't work as well.
So another thing I help myclients do is kind of put the
puzzle pieces together of whatworks for them in this season.
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I debunk a lot of wellnessthings that are set out there
that might not apply for them orwe have different lived
experiences and cultures, soit's seen different and it is
super, super helpful and a lotmore peaceful and relaxing and
loving and graceful andaccepting when we start to see
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wellness from this angle.
All right, all right.
I hope this was helpful.
I do want to invite you, if thishas hit home for you, if you've
never considered wellness as anever-evolving thing and you're
stuck in your 20s and early 30sand just wishing and hoping for
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these moments, or you havesomething going on like a
wellness concern or your numberson your blood work is not so
good and you know that you wantto work on your stress and your
hormones and you want to learnhow to eat at this big age, or
you know that stuff but youdon't know how to apply it and
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pivot it into this new season ofyour life, whether it's a
forever change for you or atemporary change for you, or
circumstances that fluctuate ona pretty regular basis and you
don't know how to switch it up,then I really, really do invite
you to reach out to me.
(35:17):
Let's chat.
You can DM me, email me, book afree consultation call where we
can discuss all of this.
My three month coaching packageoffer is open until July 20th.
After that I'm going to retireit for a little bit, so I invite
(35:37):
you to go ahead and, if you'recurious at all, contact me to
learn more about it.
And if you're curious at all,contact me to learn more about
it.
I have five slots open.
I had a total of six.
One is officially taken.
There are a few that I'mwaiting on confirmation on, but
officially I still have fivespots open until July 20th.
(35:58):
So I invite you, if this has hithome for you, if you've been
wondering for so long what'swrong with you and thinking that
it's silly about learning howto eat, and why do you always
fall off the wagon.
These are just some of thereasons why it is.
It's not on you, it's justlearning the skill of flowing,
(36:19):
pivoting and being flexible withyour wellness journey as life
is happening.
All right, my love.
Thank you so much for beinghere for listening.
I appreciate you.
Remember to subscribe and torate and leave a comment if you
are enjoying this episode orshare it with a friend.
(36:39):
I cannot wait to see you nextweek.
Talk to you later.
Bye.
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